@J LH She sounds pretty mean and nasty to say that. To admit she's doing the wrong thing and always has a way out rather than actually repent and change. The sins of people are forgiven by God, but they are damaging themselves as a consquence I think.
@J LH exactly. The dropping off a gift for you sounded like love bombing. Then expecting you to side with her because of it and if you don't, she accuses you of being harsh. Totally sounds like the MO of a narc. I take great comfort in following Jesus' example and wish you the same.
@@dnk4559 all the narc experts dr Carter dr Ramani Melanie Tonia evans and from a Christian perspective Kevin from the royal we all say that - wish I had known sooner!
You know what I think the nerve narcissistics and other toxic got to tryna act nice and caring when they feel so we will just forget and forgive easily and wanna hang out with them sometimes well I no thanks, not interested or maybe some other when I’m not still mad at you for your narcissistic personality
Thank you I am so tired of people acting like Jesus was such a nice guy he came with the fire of God he came to bring the wrath of God to the Romans he was a revolutionary he was building an army indirectly building an army but building God's Army
You're totally right! Jesus also had the capacity for losing his temper as well, but nobody wants to see that about him even though he didn't lose his temper often. everybody wants to talk about how loving and merciful and forgiving Jesus is, but nobody ever wants to talk about his other attributes, like his anger, ability to dish out justice when needed, discipline, other stuff. it's also very easy to gloss over his humanity as well. he probably got depressed, he probably had times of laughter and tears, he probably got into the habit of doing lots of things that we wouldn't consider very holy about him. this doesn't mean he lives a simple life. This doesn't mean he was even sinful, he was born sinless. but obviously his existence as a human being as well as being God was marred with human problems and some good and some bad circumstances some of which he could control and some of which he probably allowed to just happen the way they did.
At last, some good teaching on how to cope with narcs from a Christian point-of-view. Most of the churches don't touch on this and usually trot out their usual "turn the other cheek", "forgive" and "pray". I've always ended up feeling like a door-mat, until now!
Exactly, because it is rather a political strategy to keep people under their control and not a religious or spiritual initiation to free human soul from its fears
Yes, doormats are very useful for all kinds of institutions but Jesus came and risen from dead and taught us a lot not to be doormats or slaughtered by the wicked. His witty comebacks on bousty people are logical, intelligent and on point, sometimes even a bit sarcastic to show them how stupid and hurtful their arguments are, but He's always fair.
I ignored a narcissist for years, hoping he would mature and act like an adult. He never did so one day, I gave him some of his own treatment, I humiliated him in front of others, he immediately went red, shut his mouth and stayed far away from afterwards. Turning the other cheek never got me anywhere, it was only when I took action that the situation improved. You just have to stand up to a bully.
Not turning the other cheek is discarding the words of Jesus Christ and thus disobedience to God the Father....because ONLY The words of Jesus Christ are the words we are being saved by obedience to or judged by disobedience to the words of Jesus
I agree with this. You have to stand up to bullies. I think about the story of David and Goliath. David fought back and killed Goliath. He didn’t just ignore him. David later became king 🤴.
One thing I noticed that narcissists do not like is the truth. I think that’s what scares them most, they are far from perfection and deep down inside that scares the hell out of them
Yeah, they don’t like the truth or taking accountability. Be careful they always drawn blood. Anytime I’ve done that to them anytime I called out a narcissist that was close to me they end up breaking stuff and harming me physically. I pray that I never end up under another narcissist control ever again. God bless.
I disagree- it’s wrong to label people “narcissists” believing that will ever help them or the people they abuse. Kindness, patience and compassion are what Jesus taught. I find it strange how you Christians want to believe Jesus was a superhero sent to earth to exterminate “evil” however you choose to define it. Evil is simply ignorance and the only cure is not in killing it or avoiding it but confronting it head on in a loving way. A narcissistic person may not always want to hear hard truths, but if it is presented in a compassionate way, it may take time, but that is actually what that person deep inside wants to hear. That can transform a person. Condemning them will serve no purpose but to make the judge feel superior, the same as a narcissistic person feels already. Most people are too lazy to commit to actually helping people with narcissism because it can be very challenging.
@@quasimodo614 If a mother is forcing their child to worship and serve them (thus leading the child away from God), then that mother is forcing the child into idolatry, which is a sin (1st commandment). This is what narcissistic people do, they turn away from God because they see themselves as a god....and then they force others into sin because they bully them into maintaining their false persona. Facade maintenance is imperative for a narcissist because they fear exposure. So a narcissist's victim is usually put in a position where they're forced to lie out of fear of how the narcissist will react. So if a person is abusive, manipulative, deceitful, insincere, cruel, callous, uncaring, overly boastful etc, you can either stay, but you'll potentially be pulled into sinning and dragged away from God. Or you can disconnect from this person, keep a safe distance, pray for them, get closer to Jesus and lift the person up to the almighty Father. Read 2 Timothy 3 :) it clearly says we are to stay away from these types of people. God bless.
@@nonyabusiness2510i believe what he said to be applicable regardless. The word is truth. The word is life. Jesus never used to waste much time entertaining the scribes and Pharisees in their nonsense. He refused to cast His pearls before such swine 🤷🏽♀️
It brings tears to my eyes when I think of all the things Jesus had to put up with. He was/is only good and yet he gets done that way. Thank you, Lord, for what you did/do for us.
Been struggling in my marriage of 36 years to a narcissistic spouse. Was so confused for years until 5+ years ago what it was. Counselor enlightened me about the emotional and narcissistic abuse from my husband. It is absolutely life sucking, praying everyday, trying to be faithful to my marriage vows and having to call out my husband when needed is truly exhausting! I pray too for all those who are struggling in their marriages with a narcissistic spouse. God help us all! Thank you for the video!
I was in my marriage for 18 years. He was narcissist, after he hit me after all those years of emotional abuse, financial abuse. That was it for me. I'm free now. So much healthier and happier.
I've been married to an abusive narcissist for 40 years. I realized I was dealing with mental and emotional abuse at about the 25 year mark. Several years later I came to the realization that he isn't just abusive, he's a narcissistic abuser. I disagree with the "calling them out" part. Your spouse is not going to listen to you. They probably won't listen to anyone that corrects them, never mind someone that reveals them as a narcissist. The best thing to do is just don't engage. Ever. It will drive your spouse crazy when they realize they can no longer control and manipulate but that's just too bad. I will not engage anymore when my husband starts with his manipulative tactics. It is stressful still because, at least for me, I have my guard up 24/7. The only relief I get is when I go out if town without him. Sweet relief. Update: I got free. Divorced. Sold the house. Moving on. Thank the Lord!
@@annebodee why do you stay? i know the shoulds, but the word trabsalated as adultery is porneia. it includes abuse. dont wait to be cheated on or hit . you are free to leave. the "he who marries a divorced woman" is also inaccurate. its "he who lives with a thrown out woman who's husband has abandoned, but not freed her with a certificate of divorce, gets the stigma of adultery. .." NOT "commits adultery". you can be free if you want to.
That is most definitely NOT TRUE! Jesus would never shun or condemn a person with a narcissistic personality. He would show empathy, kindness, patience and compassion to help that person understand why they have problems or issues with others, or understand why they are often blamed, criticized and conflicted. He would, by giving true attention to them, assist them in understanding there are many better ways to engage with others and communicate, especially by example. Labeling, condemning and avoiding HUMAN BEINGS, who are not “narcissists”, but human beings with narcissistic personality disorder, will take time- but so it would with anyone with mental health problems or even physical disabilities or birth defects. People don’t choose to act in narcissistic ways for no reason- often the characteristics stem from their early conditioning and/or even unresolved trauma or low self esteem due to an inability to understand the importance of accepting responsibility for one’s actions.
@@questionsonchristianity8204 Thanks for sharing that. As I focused on not being my dad, I started acting like him. When I acknowledged abuse, sought healing and counseling, forgiveness and was finally taught about boundaries, everything changed. I could focus on Jesus, then set strong boundaries and be okay. 👍 Definitely a process.
“…He didn’t take the bait …they were trying to create a smear campaign but.. 2:25 Jesus chose to ignore them, instead he focused on his mission.” Powerful! Words of wisdom, my new mantra every day! Thank you Kris!
That seems to be true, it is in my case as well, but let’s ask God to help us focus on Christ so we too can ignore them in His strength and not ours. God bless each and everyone of us who come to Him for help.🙏🏼
@@redefinedliving5974 That's why you rely of the peace of CHRIST. These days it's not just ignoring narcissists that are in someway unavoidable, but just this entire world crashing and burning to the ground. But with the peace of CHRIST, nothing can shake you. He is The Rock!
Sandra: Sadly, this is rare; however, when the Holy Spirit is allowed to work (and both parties choose to grow in His Grace and Truth), positive restoration will happen and God then gets the glory. I can attest of this in my own marriage. Sadly, many homes and lives are negatively impacted by abuse and narcissism. It's, ultimately, a spiritual condition -- and one that only the Holy Spirit can convict and address. Praise the Lord for His Goodness and the Hope we have of eternal life beyond this realm, as Believers in Jesus Christ -- our Savior!! Our temporary situations/circumstances have no bearing on the Love of Christ, who desires our fellowship and childlike FAITH (which IS NOT blind, as the mocking world tries to make their truth). 💙 John 3:16-17, et al. Grace & Peace, Beloved of God. Roxanne
I have to disagree with #2, at least if you're talking about within marriage. A narcissistic spouse will NOT receive being told they're a narcissist and will simply increase the abuse. The best thing to do is just don't engage. Ever. In other words, what she first said: ignore them. Granted it will drive them crazy when they realize you will no longer be controlled by them. Tough luck. Narcissists make themselves into gods. My husband talks the talk, but is a complete hypocrite. Just like the Pharisees. Judging me, accusing me, beating me down emotionally. I did everything I could to be the good Christian wife and mother. Read all the books. And I managed to raise 4 amazing children practically on my own because my husband was hardly ever around. Now, I refuse to take his abuse. Sometimes I frankly hate my life because the person who was supposed to love and cherish me 'til death do us part has spent decades trying to make feel like a failure. But I'm not a failure. And funny thing is, not only do I like who I am, but a lot of other people do too. When I get down I think about my kids and grandkids and what a blessing they are. 💓 P.S. I finally divorced him after 40 years. I'm free!
well WHAT are you doing still with this person? take all your stuff and LEAVE! go live with a friend or a room mate (ads in paper or online) THEN go get a job, DONT take his phone calls or texts and avoid his family OR ANYONE that will betray where you are or where your new job is. go NO CONTACT, then u wont hate your life; eventually he will commit "that" sin then u can divorce him.
Wow u are strong women. After all u manage to be with person like him. Sometimes i think that its really sad when you understand that they are in darkness even tho they understand or not. People and parents create them because there was no love. But im sad im so sad about them 😢 but even they deserve to have someone around but the thing is do you deserve person like him? If you have so much love for yourself that is enought and after all he gave you children. Everything bad have good part too it’s depends how you look at things. I wish you to be happy for yourself. ❤ god bless you❤
As Christians we can feel so much pressure to be the "perfect' Christian. There are also manipulative people who claim to be Christian but pick and choose the message. Be aware of those types! One of the "best" examples from the bible that gets misused is Ephesians 5:22-25 and those who misuse it don't also make it is not just about the husband. God does not want us to be abused or martyrs. There is a balance!
I'm so sorry you're going through this love, you don't deserve this. We only have one life and like one person already said, God doesn't want us to be abused, it's against his righteousness. Life is precious and God wants us to make the very best of it. I know cause I've been in abusive situations, not marriage though, and was trying to find the biblical answer.
I think she meant call out the behaviour. They hate being called out. Not calling them a narc as that won't work and they'll weaponise it and even label you one.
Best way to avoid narcissist is to ingnore them n pray that they find their way back from evil doing to others. Even if it's your own family members. In God we trust.
My mother is one and I believe demons are controlling her because she cries while throwing or breaking things just how the man who had an demon in bible he was crying and cutting himself. So do you think God should have mercy
@@user-uu9lm3fc8jmy mother too. I know she is controlled by other entities, but won’t tolerate being confronted .. she claims to be a Christian, but her actions consistently prove otherwise.she betrays, creates smear campaigns, has stolen what my late father left for sister & I without remorse. It’s a terrible thing to be born having a narcissist for a mother. 🌸
I have a friend that does each of those steps to me. I keep letting her back into my life after the hoovering stage. But at least I’m aware of who she is.
@@latoriarichardson6754 I know, she is sadly really messed up. I blocked her once on my phone and two years later she contacted me through a different number. She claims I’m her only friend. But I think it’s because I’m the only one with any sort of patience to deal with her. I want to help, but I don’t think that she can be helped.
It was wild, but God naturally lead me to open my eyes at the “future faking” and i observed until the “devaluing” started kicking in. And the moment that happened, God told me to cut it off ! So I never got to #4 . But since I was the one that made the exit, there seems to be a lot of #5 happening, but slowly its fading away and that is giving me a lot of peace for both sides
If you want to confront a narcissist be prepared. Narcissistic rage occurs when a narcissist's beliefs about their perceived importance or grandiosity are confronted. In turn, they respond with extreme anger toward the perceived threat.
It’s dangerous to confront a narc in some cases like mine, who pours nail polish remover in my desert while smiling to see my reaction. I don’t engage or respond and I keep a safe distance
Just make sure the narcissist is outnumbered when you do confront them. In my family I had the assistance of the other abused siblings and we ganged up on the narcissist.
I once wasn't either but have 'tasted and seen that the Lord is good' as the Bible advises us to do! Once you find Him and His wonderful love and mercy, available to all human beings in need, your life will be forever changed and blessed - and you will have even greater access to His wisdom, which is the only wisdom worth knowing about! May God bless and guide you!
The wisdom of the Bible tells us that we are all sinners, that God sent His One and Only Son so that through accepting Him as Lord and Savior, you can be saved.
Just cus you're a Christian doesn't mean you have to be a pushover. Even Jesus whipped the merchants out of the 2nd Temple, sometimes conflict is necessary to attain peace on Earth
We aren't Jesus. No, you don't have to be a pushover but you don't necessarily have the right to push, either. You walk away, refuse to cast your pearls before swine, shake the dust off your feet.
This verse makes me think of a narcissist: Proverbs 9:8 NKJV Do not correct a scoffer, lest he hate you; Rebuke a wise man, and he will love you. Whenever telling a narcissist that they have hurt you, offended you or you Correct them, he will hate you and tell you how wrong you are. A truly sincere person will apologize and admit their wrong
I have a narcissistic mother. I’m 57 and she’s always been abusive. To this day. I keep contact limited for the most part. It’s text messages to check on her. I made the mistake of changing my New Year’s Day plans to go to her house. She wore me down until I did it. It was horrible. Her flying monkeys were there and after dinner I started helping her clean up. In came the “have you gained weight”? back handed compliments, smirking.. absolutely a nightmare. One of her flying monkeys tried to start an argument with my husband. I won’t be making that mistake again. The same thing happens when I call, so no more phone calls. She has let me know that her friends that have children that don’t go visit them well, they don’t get an inheritance. Fine with me. My joy and my peace are not for sale. I think Jesus is ok with that. It’s not His will that we be habitually abused in any shape form or fashion.
"My joy and peace are not for sale." Exactly! Great comment! My inheritance has also been threatened. I remind myself that my inheritance comes from the Lord. I'll take eternal life in heaven and what God has waiting for me over money and stuff any day! :)
I don't agree with her interpretation of the sin that leads to death. There's only one sin that leads to death that l can discern from the Gospel. And that's the lack of faith in the eternal power and authority of the blood of the living God over death, hell, and all sin of all time, Or wilful rejection of Grace Jesus offers through the new covenant. All sin is committed willingly, otherwise it wouldn't be sin at all. And if a man fall 70 times, he gets back up again. Repeatedly. Faithfully. Thankfully. Remorsefully. But never guiltily, because guilt violates the terms of agreement. And voids the contract. Pharisaical Christians can't seem to except the agape gift of grace that makes sinning impossible when covered by the blood covenant with God. It robs them of their pleasure to judge from on high.
Calling it out does more harm than good when dealing with a true narcissist and if your parent, spouse, child, co worker, etc is one, it’s almost impossible to get away from it. Good video but I did feel like it minimized an extremely complex topic. Unless you walk a mile you really can’t know how destructive and diabolical these people are. They literally try to destroy others. Praise God for HIS mercy and grace.
I agree. Jesus had the authority to call out the Pharisees because he can read hearts and And they were directly misleading people that they had the responsibility of. it’s not really our place to call out someone a narcissist because we would be judging and we don’t know personally if someone will change. this is applies to Christians and non Christians (Matthew 7:1-5) Some hurt people will take this message and run with it causing divisions and tensions. A lot of hurt people don’t correct people from a place of love. Look at the narcissist trend now. Yes you can loving try in correct but people have free will if they resist, you can set boundaries and pray for them. You have to use discernment with this because you can find narcissist traits in anyone and even more so on people who have been around other narcissist people who broke them. time limits and boundaries is good enough. The Bible also says be peaceable not confrontational (romans 12:18)
You're right. You cannot call out someone you're in close relationship with, especially a spouse. It just makes things worse. Best thing to do is don't engage. When they start with their abuse (and I've been married 40 years to a covert narcissist so I know the signals) refuse to engage. Let them talk, but don't respond. NEVER explain or defend. Love yourself and find a good friend that will listen without judging or giving advice.
@@annebodeeI would call them out, tell them everything I have ever thought about them, and how vile they are and that no-one likes them, and then tell them to never contact me again, because they are dead to me. Thankfully, I have a loving family, and despite my parents not agreeing with me on my Christian walk (they think bejng good people is enough to get to heaven, not salvation), they have always been there for me, We fight, but we never hold a grudge for too long. My dad and I fought a bit. We didn't agree on a lot, but he was hard-working, good to us and my mother, and would always help if you needed it. If my car broke down in the middle of the night, he would be there, and never complain. We didn't always see eye to eye, but my family are good people, and would do anything for anybody. Some of the problems admittedly is that I am stubborn and don't take criticism well.
Thank you Kris for your message. I was naive to what my ex was, married 40 plus years to someone who usually only thought of himself, it became worse after having my daughters, he felt jealous over my attention to them!! As a young Christian wife I tried sooo hard to follow the Bible in being submissive, putting him first, giving more to my husband in love, always giving him final say over most things. I feel the church has NO idea on this subject of narcissism & mine was a covert so he presented soo well. I’ve been divorced 1 1/2 years now & it’s really hard to start over @ 68. He had someone in the wings for years & when I said things need to change, he said no & in his words moved on to plan B. He’s doing everything he told our daughters not to do in relationships. I feel so duped, I believed his whole line of being a Christian etc. my daughters have very little to do with him. The churches need to learn about these people, my pastor & his wife had no clue & I looked like the rebellious wife!!
Carla, I truly understand. I never knew what I was dealing with at all. We stay because we were not taught. The Church has caused a lot of pain for especially women. We submitted to these people without truly knowing what we were doing. I prayed, fasted, cried. He never changed. Wasted a lot of time. Now I am in peace. I am truly saddened by the loss of my daughters relationship. I truly never knew.
You poor love, to suffer so much and then come out looking like the bad guy. My friend just went through this and you have my deepest sympathy. I will pray God will shine a light on the truth for you and that your best years will be ahead of you.
Boy, I have been there! Married 18 years to an overt narc. Mean, nasty…everybody was scared of him. Looked for help in churches and constantly told I might be the only Bible he reads, need to forgive, submit, must stay, etc. called “needy, by one. Darn tootin’! I was falling down a cylinder in my mind’s eye. They looked incredulous as I’d tell them what was going on. Sometimes I’d mention at work what happened over the weekend..I mean, it was just how things went. The gals would sit there stone quiet with their mouths open. Nobody had a clue. Nobody could relate. Absolutely wonderful these videos are now available. Every counselor anywhere, church or not, needs to be very well informed about narcissism as there are SO many people with it these days!
Carla, there's similarities, as I endured 34 of violence thinking she was Bi-polar, and as a Church going couple, I always hoped for healing! Near the end demons would wake me up howling, and knowing where I stand with Christ, I'd lay a hand on her and Pray, and they'd go silent! Leaving in 2010 and only learning of these Narcissist traits about 5 years ago it sure opened my eye's to her infidelities fueling her rages! I'm 70 now and it can be lonely, and it's great to have a help mate, but as a caution, I'm fortunate that some people of interest were at a great distance, allowing only dialog by Phone and TeXt! One stated she would like to try me out seXually first and another maybe so steeped in New Age underground spirituality, I Pray for repentance and restoration for her! As for my X, she aligned herself with complicit black robed bandits, and it's deeply troubling that we're in a Country under Rule of Liars! Our children were alienated from childhood, so it progressed to being alienated from my grandchildren, but there's been some reconciliation! I'm sadly witnessing some generational curses being carried forward, but finally seeing some acknowledgement of an understanding that it was inherited, and they ended up in the same Trap with a Narcissist spouse! All I can say is to be patient and not get anxious about becoming engaged again! Narcs excel at being conns and I got duped and went through Round 2, with whom I thought was the one! We're being refined, and I often Reference, MATTHEW 10:32-42 as an explanation of the purification by fire that we may have to endure for a time! Stand strong and lean unto God for comfort and provision for you're shelter and sustenance!
@@WayWalker3 Yes God creates all things. It clearly states in Isaiah 45:7 "I form the light and create darkness. I make peace and create evil. I the Lord do all these things."
Understand that narcissists require conflict. When confronted, they gaslight. Mark them, distance from them and uplift those that demonstrate healthy qualities including empathy, kindness and ethical behaviors.
We are in the last days, when mem are lovers of pleasure, money and THEMSELVES rather than lovers of God. Paul commanded us to AVOID SUCH PEOPLE (2 Timothy 3:1-5).
I always struggled with the 'turn the other cheeke' when I was with a narcissist. It didn't felt right, cause the narc would not learn from it. At the time nobody could explain how to deal with this. I'd wish I had seen this video at that time, it is really refreshing.
I heard that at the time, turning the other cheek was actually a challenge to follow through with their insult and enter into a formal duel. I don't know how accurate that is, but it makes sense to view customs within the context of the time, and it never sat right with me to just be a pushover. That's not loving.
Turn the other cheek just means don’t revile back. In Jesus time it was a demeaning insult to slap someone across the cheek. So Jesus is just saying don’t stoop to their level. Turn the other cheek, and move on. Moving on can mean cutting them off, or putting up very strong boundaries! Just don’t take the bait, because that’s what they want you to do. If you give them an emotional response, they’ve won.
When the serpent (aka narcissist) purposely pushes your buttons, what are they after? YOUR REACTION. What do they do when they get your REACTION? They use it AGAINST YOU. This is what Jesus is referrring to when He says to "turn the other cheek"....it doesn't mean be a door mat or a punching bag. It means to DENY THEM OF THE REACTION THEY ARE AFTER. A form of "grey rock" if you will.
Jesus is xposing them all over the place _ if u don't see a Jesus stamp on ur tv programs_ u get to see a bunch of narcs and u observe that all the stories are the same narky plots.its the trumen show_ and Satan has total control of his IA actors ( warriors of Satan) signing off as Mickey mouse your leader of the minions of Alice in Wonderlands with their Barbie's in hand at the smashing baby concert _ you only need to watch once _ takes about a bucket of popcorn to learn the play book_simple _ but looks complicated _ but easy _ there's no context to the Satan 12 commandments _ it's just a plot of _ I win you loose_when u see this _ I win you loose_its the honey pot of Satan and they getting ready to use u as a 'spice'
My sister is a classic manipulative narcissist. All my life I have had to put up with her underhanded remarks and her manipulations. Every time I am around her, I feel absolutely unhinged with her superior like personality. 7 trips to visit me up North, and I paid for them all. I just absolutely had to distance myself from her, and she still harresses me in text messages. She draws me in and I will feel guilty. She is a pastor and chaplain. I could write an entire book on her alone.
It sucks when people say, "You're my best friend." It always ends up they put you into danger and become really mean. I don't believe you have to call them out, especially when they claim to be Christian or any other faith. Their only faith is that they themselves are God. There's no saving someone who likes the demon that they invited in. When the Holy Spirit dwells within you, ya can't slip in a demon.
@@bonnsterthemonster These offspring of vipers (see Genesis 3:15 for their true origin) will flatter you in order to take advantage of you. Also see Psalm 58:3-5 for God's perfect description of these SNAKES. (Cain's progeny).
Can someone please pray for me? Im disabled and stuck in a highly narcissistic abuse situation. Leaving isnt an option for me. Mentally im at a breaking point. Its really awful how they constantly create drama.
In the past few years, I am just realizing both of my (Christian) parents have some narcissistic behaviours. Your videos have really helped me overcome some difficult situations. I have gained self confidence and have learned my true identity doesn't come from what they think of me - it comes from Christ alone!! I have tried hard to people please for so long (and thought it was the right thing because of our call as Christians to be servants), but I've realized my focus and purpose was wrong! I was actually doing things to make my parents proud of me and maybe see me as the (almost 30) year old that I am. I am SO grateful God has opened my eyes so that I can be a better woman of God, break the cycle, and keep my joy! My husband has been so supportive and has also helped me keep a positive perspective on things. I know from the pain I've gone through of how I now can learn and make a difference for my future and leave a legacy! It is honestly all by God's amazing grace that I am who I am today, and He has protected my heart. I am forever grateful for my parents for the sacrifices they've made for me and I continue to pray for them. I have to prepare my mind and heart everytime I'm around them, but I know that God has a plan and purpose for everything. Thank you for your wise words!
Thank the good Lord you have a loving spouse. Because my parents were so abusive & dangerous, I married a very cruel man. A sick man. A sociopath. He left me. I'm hoping to marry a believer this year. Someone I love deeply. I''ve been divorced 14 years. It's been hard. Pray for me.
Im struggling with narcissist person ..Im totally destroyed with her accusations and even telling all my issues to people around her and worst is she even involved my love ones ..Please Lord help me and rescue me. I pray in the name of JESUS to silent the enemy. No weapon perform against me shall prosper , And every tongue that rises against me in judgement shall condemn, For this is the heritage of the servant of Lord.. 🙏🙏🙏❤
So so grateful for all these videos. For 30yrs I thought I maybe losing my mind. My marriage just kept getting worse and I tried to stay in my lovewalk everyday. I have many faults but knew it wasn't me....thank you. I now have hope and cried when I realized I wasn't alone..forever grateful my brothers and sisters in Christ. As Kings kid I knew God would make a way. Hallelujah
I too thought I was losing my mind. 29 years married. I just walked out with nothing. Once I got cancer he was done and made my life worse. Nightmare and evil. Trying to rebuild and find a place to rent.
It's because of Jesus, we have narcissists in the first place it's all the people who can't come out of the closet about their sexuality. So they find a straight person and then torture them until the straight person can't take it anymore. Good luck everybody
What amazing timing for me to see this video. Our Savior is so Faithful. I’ve been seeking the Lord fervently on how to protect myself from my very abusive and toxic children. After 20 years of extreme narcissist torment from my ex.. the abuse and rejection only increased greatly from all sides for the following 30 years from my ‘flying monkey’ children. Parental alienation abuse from a world class narcissist ‘father.’ Now my children are all grown with families of their own.. my precious and loving grandchildren. I’ve always endured the torturous attacks to be close to the littles. I love them more than life itself… but just like their father they have learned to use my amazing and uplifting relationship with them as a weapon against me.Because of this I became so overwhelmed with PTSD, anxiety and depression I nearly ended my life. I certainly had no desire to live another day..But God.. I’ve recently realized that they will never change towards me.. they do not really know me. They’ve only seen me through their evil father’s eyes for a very long time. The hardest thing I’ve ever had to do is purpose in my heart to completely distance myself from them. I will probably never see my children or grands again in this life… if it wasn’t for my Lord’s compassion and Grace and the unconditional love and the welcoming and encouraging care of my church family I would have no anchor.. no Hope. Thank you again for sharing the confirmation and clear wisdom spoken by our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. He will uphold me in the final great loss and rejection. Blessings to all that have day by day endured the attempt to murder your Spirit, soul and body. I truly sorrow for you..🙏🏼
I, too, am dealing with such betrayal from my own children. It's not easy ! If I don't take the abuse and lies they tell then I'm the "narcissistic" one. They've given me many "labels" (shrink type labels plus the racists, ignorant and redneck ones) over the past 7 years and I've tried to talk, listen and agreed with "their terms" to see the grandchildren. I had to stop that and protect myself from the many lies. They even started saying I was the reason for the divorce and I was the cheating partner. I pray for your peace.
your story is mine... and the testimony God gives us through the fiery trials is precious... this caused me to lean on Him, after He literally saved my life I told Father God (finally!) that my life was His now. There are still triggers everywhere that remind me of the good days when the kids were little, but I learned to thank God for the good, and let go of the rest... I forgive them, and I ask God to break the stockholm syndrome and lies that they felt forced to choose their narc dad as the 'good parent' and they had to agree with him to survive. So, in that they are innocent of this evil that was put onto them, and I have repented of my lack in ability to shield them from such demonic things. I had not been a Christian very long and didn't know Word well, so I had zero idea what I was dealing with myself, I was thrown for a loop daily while trying to raise godly girls. Oh, and their dad was a youth and children's pastor for a few years when we were married. Church people WORSHIP anyone who calls themself a PASTOR, its realllly sick. Anyways, just felt compelled to reply to your post, thank you for sharing, I havent found a lot of situations that mirror mine so well, and it encourages me to see that God also has helped and is healing you! God bless you!
sorry, PS, just wanted to add that now that my kids are adults and they had many opportunities to talk about everything (I had been a home schooling mom too, we had done do much together when they were little - I could not grasp that they would not talk with me even about their pain, etc.,) And yes, they didn't deserve a dad who has demons in him, but now they need to seek The Lord and find their healing. And I am done being treated like an ax murderer due to their father's slander of me. My oldest is pregnant and I wrote her and said that her innocent child will not be exposed to her apparent shame of me, and her sister's total lack of any contact with me. The little one would pick up on that, you know? Plus, if my daughter doesn't heal from her narcissism, her child will be affected. My kids dont know me either, no wedding or graduation invitations. My oldest and I were only emailing here and there, so now no contact whatever. God healed me and showed me how she had already used her unborn children as weapons, but I was hoping she would want to reconcile before she got pregnant. Just felt it was loving to remove myself so that no one has to feel uncomfortable with me, so the little one wont see her mother be nasty to me, etc. God has blessed me in caring for other people's children, and I have many 'adpoted families'. Young parents seem to always appreciate extra help. I hope I can bless as many as possible. Sorry that my own kids are missing out. They are in His hands, I pray all our children will one day Jeremiah 33:3.
if it is not okay that I post these book titles, please remove this post, ty! You may be able to find these at the library. I wanted to share 2 books that helped me The First Will Be Last: A Biblical Perspective on Narcissism by DC Robertsson and also Done With the Crying by Sheri McGreggor her site is rejectedparent support group for parents of estranged adult children you dont have to buy these or anything I pray this helps, I am sure I saw this post for a reason, I hope you see it!
Thank you for this video, I have Christian parents who r narcissist. It has been a journey to have peace with them. I’ve learned u can’t have peace with anyone who just wants to fight! They thrive off of it! God has been there for me every step of the way! Thank you Lord Jesus! 🙏
Yes please pray for me been in narcissist relationship since it began 30 years ago!!! Lord JESUS PLEASE INTERCEDE.....I petition you again and ask and knock and knock louder....I need an open door open windows Lord Jesus you are with me make a way where seems to be no way!!!
There is always a way. What you need is courage . Courage to protect the God spirit within you. Courage to leave and get on with the life you were gifted. Do not stand for abuse but do not attempt to fight it either. What you resist persists. Walk away and don't look back. It will take phenomenal courage but then you will have a lot to be proud of.
The Bible is crystal clear in Mark 9:23 "All things are possible to him that believe." It is your faith that brings the desired outcome. Prayer is thanksgiving, it's not a begging or pleading. It is giving thanks for the desired outcome, with full faith it has occurred. That is what God blesses.
All the churches I’ve been to since being attacked, have believed the evil narc, not asked for my point of view, but instead have turned on me…..betrayal at the deepest level
I am nearly destroyed by 2 years with a predator I met online. I’m 61 and was so naïve. I was healing after my husband died, the worst grief I’ve ever known, but this man has harmed me in a way I never dreamed possible. I don’t feel I can overcome this extent of abuse at my age. Please pray for me. I’m isolated now. No money, no vehicle and too humiliated to let anyone I know, know. Im extremely affected. I’m nervous and scared and anxious and so alone. And having a hard time recovering from a severe concussion of over a year ago. I’m glad I found you and thank you for addressing the issue so articulately from a Christian perspective.
Ugh. Thank you! I REALLY needed to hear this! My entire family scapegoats me. My mother is so toxic and she's elderly which makes it worse because it allows her to act like a complete victim. And all of 'my siblings buy into it and encourage her. She has told me to my face, "you should take care of me. you owe me. i raised you." Yet she has never said that to my other siblings. I'm struggling financially so she and the rest of my siblings use that as a means to control me.. I'm so emotionally sick and tired of feeling confused about being a faithful loving servant of God's and having to "honor a mother like this because of the ten commandments. It's all so confusing. I try to be good person but my patience has worn thin. I can't deal with this anymore.
Tell your financially stable brothers (if you have them) that biblically it is their job to take care of their mother. If you’re the only brother and not financially stable tell the financially stable siblings that until such time as you become financially stable, they will have to step up. If you’re so financially unstable you’re living with your mother, strive to get out or she will use that as a club. Boundaries are ok to have. Abuse is not ok. Don’t be an abuser and don’t accept abuse.
@@fancimcguffin2227 Oh I have 5 siblings, all of whom are financially stable. One of them is a millionaire who lives in the same neighborhood as several movie producers and a retired pro baseball player. And they DO help her out. However, miss millionaire lives across the country in california so she only "helps" by sending carepackages (pretty easy when money grows on trees as it's her husband who makes the money she doesn't) and calling her every single day. The others who live closer, about an hour away from mom help her all of the time! She has everyone in the family helping her yet nothing is ever enough. My handicapped brother even makes the woman breakfast when he stays over on weekends even though she is perfectly capable! It's unreal! And she still complains! She picks on me. She feels she is entitled to everyone doing everything for her. She has never told the others that it is their job to take care of her. Perhaps it's because they all do it. She's using my poverty to bully and take advantage of me. You have no idea. My car is falling apart. She has two cars. Never once did it cross her mind to let me borrow...not keep...but borrow it when my battery died and I had to find a ride to work. She refused. She wants to keep me there so that she can pick on me and also for her own needs...in case there is an emergency or she needs me as backup. You don't know what she put me through after my celiac diagnosis 5 years ago. It was heartbreaking. I am too drained to divulge but God knows what I've been trhough. I"ve tried so hard to become financially stable enough to get out once and for all. I need to find a stable living arrangement and a better-paying job. Can't go on like this much more. Entire family bullies me.
We honor our parents by not enabling their bad behavior, or allowing them to continue their abusive ways with us, or others under our own protection. We honor them by giving them clear boundaries and consequences, if they are not remorseful, repentant or willing to work towards ending their abusive ways. Focus on you right now & get stronger each day!
It sounds like you really need some space. Can you get any help to get out? It sounds like she has plenty of available help. Could you take some other kind of live in job?
Nice to see the bible applied to this topic. I was married to a covert narcassist. I found out that he had indeed murdered his wife in the early 1970's. She was only 16. He spent 12 years in prison but convinces as many as possible that he was exonerated. Reality is that he was let out on a technicality that had nothing to do with him & his trial. He was to be retried but finding all the witnesses against him again was not possible so he walked. Ann Rule, an author of true crime wrote about him. He the one who told me about it & he hadn't read it but actually thought she'd write good things about him. After i left him I read it & it perfectly filled in the blanks. I walked away leaving almost everything i owned behind. I didn't even go to the divorce hearing with my lawyer. Years later he sent a couple of nasty emails to me but in such a way that though the email had his name as sender it was unable to go back to him. I ignored him. Seven years later I saw him in passing but that's it. Definitely have looked over my shoulder knowing how he is. God very recently dealt with me on the whole issue of him. Loving a narcassist can leave such scars & confusion. Letting go is very difficult as you are letting go of something that never was yet was. God finally showed me where my ex husband had shattered, where he became the narcassist he is. I don't know how to explain it, but God has finally healed my heart & I can finally move on. He belongs to a religion where he has rejected the work that Jesus did on the cross. Says Jesus messed it up & a certain human had to be used to fix the mess. He's bought into the same lies Eve did without a doubt. I do pray for him & will continue to until the Lord tells me to stop. His time on earth is almost up & though I'd still like to see him saved, i realize that we have a God who gave us free will & honors our choice. Im thankful to God for making a way for me to escape him & now for giving me the understanding & healing ive needed & wanted so much. Narcassists are very broken people who have never emotionally matured & some throw physical temper tantrums on the innocent ones & some hide it more & are more cunning in their quiet devastation they do. Walk away because only God can change them.
I hope this blows up for you Dr. Reece, helping me (26 year old male) very much so in my walk with Christ and realized some enemies I didn't know I had, my mother who I suspect has one of the most severe cases of Narcissistic Personality Disorder I think I've seen in any human which breaks my heart and has been breaking my fathers heart their whole marriage, he finally understands what is going on because of your biblical explanations and mentioned he felt a large burden lifted. God bless you and everyone else here, keep standing firm and prioritize JESUS!
Blessings to you X! In so glad you shared with your Father. We're finally getting the understanding and help we need. I was in my forties when God began to show me things and come across literature and videos. My Mother had Narcissistic personality disorder. So I was born into this dysfunction, and now I had to separate from my siblings. This video is so good, and I'm grateful that someone has allowed God to reveal scripture to them concerning this topic. Praise God!! May God continue to Bless you on this journey to be totally healed and free, to help others.
@@onemteinamadi950 Jesus' power is greater than ALL maladies and problems, and His is the ONLY power that can rebuke and cast out demons, as many times described in scripture - and He only had to do this once in each instance. Faith in His power to rebuke and destroy the powers of evil, is imperative - it means praying in faith for Him to do so and not sort of 'half-believing and half-doubting' as many Christian prayers become, simply because of our lack of faith. Satan is ultimately already a defeated foe, as are his demons, but we must exercise faith against them as these sorts of problems are going to come more and more on the earth, as prophecy predicts for our time. Praying for Jesus to first forgive us our own sins and then asking Him to give us His Holy Spirit to strengthen and protect us, as well as helping those afflicted with these demons, is essential for our victory in this battle, especially if we have to meet and deal with narcissism every day.
@@onemteinamadi950Hell means the pit or grave. Look it up in the Concordance. An eternal place of torture and burning is a lie of the devil. There is a lake of fire 🔥 that Devours the wicked, and the fallen angels. Revelation 20. They become ashes under the feet of the saints on the earth made new again. Malachi 4. Let the Bible speak truth. Most religions are confused (Babylon) with lies and doctrines of devils.
My husband has a lot of narcissistic traits. In the beginning of our relationship he drove me crazy with the word salad and always trying to turn things around on me. I didn't realize I was dealing with a highly narcissistic person. Once I realized, I learned how to place boundaries and how to respond to his behavior instead of getting caught up in his crazy making. It's made a world of difference for us both. He's grown quite a bit and has learned to honestly communicate instead of taking offense and lashing out over every little thing. On occasion, he reverts to old behaviors and I still refuse to get caught up in the crazy making and I simply say I'm not doing this, please answer the question that I asked, etc. Never allow a narcissist to control your emotions or reactions. Once you master this with healthy boundaries they fail to hold power over you.
This is great teaching. Many have believed that Believers are just supposed to be walked all over and just say, "It's alright, God will take care of it". Yes, he will, but we have a part from time to time the Bible says we have to play and many of the scriptures you brought out, plus others is our part. Thank you for sharing.
Jesus had the authority to call out the Pharisees because he can read hearts and And they were directly misleading people that they had the responsibility of. it’s not really our place to call out someone a narcissist because we would be judging and we don’t know personally if someone will change. this is applies to Christians and non Christians (Matthew 7:1-5) Some hurt people will take this message and run with it causing divisions and tensions. A lot of hurt people don’t correct people from a place of love. Look at the narcissist trend now. Yes you can loving try in correct but people have free will if they resist, you can set boundaries and pray for them. You have to use discernment with this because you can find narcissist traits in anyone and even more so on people who have been around other narcissist people who broke them. time limits and boundaries is good enough. The Bible also says be peaceable not confrontational (romans 12:18)
What many don't realise is that by NOT standing against wrong, the wrong is empowered and strengthened to continue, and it will do so. It also only causes us greater weakness in not standing in faith against it. David didn't defeat Goliath by lying down and 'loving' him - he stood in the power of God and trusted Him to deliver him - but he had to first take the first step of acting in faith as God impressed him to do - just as when also Moses told the children of Israel to take the first step of faith into the water when God indicated they were to cross the Red Sea - they had to take that first step before God provided the miracle He did.
You dont have to give pearls to the pigs. But if its about husband or wife its other story. Its a honoured calling for a true humbling school and people to survive that and grow in faith are chosen. When a true change happens in both its a trury amazing. Both have a lot to be healed in their heart and soul Narc and the other part.
As a once toxic person and senior class empathic narcissist, I 💯 percent agree with all you have said. Jesus did all these very things to me. I fought Him brutally because my narcissist personality would not allow me to see myself as in need of His grace and " to have ears to listen" my ego was so big, yet weak that I admittedly was an antiChrist. I believed in His name but not having the humility necessary to be of His Spirit. It wasn't until 2020, just before the pandemic became a concern here in The USA that I had enough of my own toxins to get down on bended knee and ask Him to divorce me from me, to take my toxicity away from me. I did relapse here and there but lately I have been humbled so much that all I want in life is Him. I just want to serve Him and others, so yes, narcissistic behavior can be corrected but only once the narcissist gets sick of the suffering they face from the suffering they cause and give it over to Our King, the only who deserves a crown.❤
Kris Reece: This is an encouragement to continue to ignore all evil, ignorant, unaware and unbiblical comments. I hope you're very good at it by now. Never let any of them get under your skin. You know what you're talking about, you're gifted and you are greatly helping those of us who are living what you're talking about. We thank you.
Just started the video, I'm the narcissist fresh out of denial. Pray for me for my path to be straightened my heart and mind to be cleansed and my spirit renewed.
This I just what I needed. There's allot of clinical advice online on how to handle a Narc but this is the first time I'm hearing Biblical councel on the same topic.
you won't start to really heal deeply in your soul unless you leave and don't go back. ever. if they wouldn't change while losing you, he sure wouldn't change TRUTHFULLY if you went back for more b.s. ..tough love works great here.
Thank you for the Biblical based video. In the past, I have suffered dealing with multiple narcissists. The ones I have confronted in a loving way have shown toxic behavior such as rage fit, gaslighting, blame shifting, smear campaign, controlling, manipulation, etc. Ignoring and blocking the narcissist works for me.
‘For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.’ Ephesians 6:12 Amen 🙏✨🕊📿❤️
The only issue I had with no contact was that I struggled with the commandment to honor my mother. She passed last year. I had a long and combative relationship with her as the scapegoat. But I did take to heart that one of the 10 Commandments is to honor parents. I knew she would never change and I knew the contact wore on my soul. Leaving her in her aged condition was not an option for me. I know many victims do ... We have to choose what we believe is best for us. I did know how to draw boundaries with her, but I will admit that until she passed, I was in constant emotional turmoil over our relationship. Still working through all of it now that she is gone.
Maybe God wanted you in this situation to give you a purpose like learning to do the exact opposite of whatever she did that was hurtful. You can overcome the sin that she couldn't . You are not a victim ,this is not what God wants you to believe for yourself. The desire for things to be different hurts. So, acceptance .It was something else inside of her that hurted you not her. Her real essence was God. As in everyone. You can honor her by honouring yourself cause she gave birth to you, it's enough sometimes . Looking into our own sins makes us understand others better. Also,often the resentment is towards ourselves so forgive yourself first.
I thought I was a failure in life especially in marriage cos of the abuse my narc husband and absent father kept pushing down my throat. It's 32 long years that I've endured. Now our 4 wonderful daughters,that I raised, are grown. I can sure have my life back. It's only about 5 years ago that I learnt about narcissism from my psychologist. All along I believed the lies of my narc hubby. I lost myself in that process but now I'm recovering myself and allow myself be real to me!
I prayed harder than ever before throughout the relationship (I didn’t know it was a narcissistic abuse I was going through) and I have had my faith truly shaken, I’ve prayed a lot after but nothing. I’m just living best I can with what I got.
Thank you. I so needed this christian perspective on the wicked snd cruel narcissists. Sadly i have 2 sons that are malignant narcissists. Only God can save them. So, so sad.
I was dealing with a narcissist and for the longest I wanted to build a family with this individual. I am thankful I didn’t have children with him. I removed myself and that was the blessing.
My spouse knows the bible and uses it to get his supply . Once he learned Christains were trusting people he started targeting . Everyone believes he is the most wonderful person . Should i say Wolf in Sheeps Clothing .
Covert narcissist. Yep, everyone thinks my husband is wonderful. Loving, caring, such a fine Christian man. They don't know he's spent 40 years mentally and emotionally abusing me, the person he promised to love and cherish. There are times I want to call him out for the hypocrite he is, but I don't. I have a dear friend who lends an ear when I need it. I refuse to engage with him anymore, which drives him crazy, but I refuse to be his supply. I refuse to be beat up emotionally and mentally.
The devil also knows the Bible. You have to study to show yourself approved to God and learn to rightly divide His Word, so that when the devil (narc) cherry picks Scripture such as "honor thy father and mother" (when they are abusive), you can counter with Jesus said" "Whoever loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me".....or "Give honor to whom honor is due"....(honor is not due abusers!) etc.
@@annebodee I agree, everyone thinks they are so wonderful, fun, charismatic,,,,,and yet, behind closed doors, there’s another side to them. May I ask, are you still with him? Breaking away is so difficult.
I've noticed in my life, I did cut ties with my mother. I moved away, out of the area. However, she tried contacting me through either my sister or my uncle. My mother passed away in 2016 from cancer. I'm trying to heal from all her abuse.
I couldn't care less about narcs. I've eliminated all the narcs that I could from my life. The only ones remaining being my boss and a couple of coworkers that I cannot get rid of. I avoid the coworkers and as for my boss, I had a meeting in the presence of my union rep, to tell him to never talk to me about anything, not even to say hi. Just the stuff that is work related and needs to be done. I also tend to attract narcissistic women in my romantic relationships, so while am working out the why do I attract the same type of women, I put a stop to romantic relationships. Being single is a good thing.
Amen. 🌸..I've ignored, I've called them out ....but it didn't change...in fact it became an ugly war...until I had to once again find the strength to call them out and cut them off. This person's words have no weight with me anymore. I am so grateful to God for bringing me out of that situation so safely. I always say God is sensitive about me
GOD MAKES NO MISTAKES ❤ I FOUND THIS CHANNEL yesterday during very dark times! The breakup is still fresh but narcissism has not stopped even after breaking up 😢I’m cut em off completely now
Wow that was exactly what I needed to hear thank you so much . I am dealing with a narcissistic mother , really terrible and has caused me so much pain and misery and to my 2 sisters . She plays one sister off against the other by spreading lies and then places herself as the innocent victim in the middle of the storm …..I called on the Lord in desperation and His mighty wisdom pointed me to this passage in Proverbs ……when the whisperer is silenced all contentions cease ……my , by distancing myself and cutting her off ….no more arguments….she was literally tearing my family apart …..now peace and quiet ….
I think my adult daughter is demonized with multiple spirits of narcissism from her deceased biological father. She consistently causes arguments and ruthless smear campaigns against anyone who won't go along with her manipulation, lies and abuse. She's cruel, vindictive, slanderous, and will make up outrageous & horrible lies - especially towards me, my husband, her brother, and those who love her the most, but who resist her manipulation tactics. However, she's covert about her narcissism, and most don't see the Jekyll & Hyde personality because she hides it from the unsuspecting. She needs deliverance but she's too blinded by pride and rebellion to seek help.
Omg my daughter acts this same way, the world really not good at all people have ruined God world he had for us and joining with spirits instead of Father God. Evil is like boiling water smh I’m sorry keep praying for her
Pray she doesn't commit the unpardonable sin by continually blaspheming Christ's holy spirit as He draws her to seek God.🙏 Fast and pray for she has had these spirits a long time. Rebuke her spirits in the name of Jesus. Remember, Jesus set the demoniacs free from the legion of devils.
Thankyou this really helped me. As I have been desperatly holding onto my narcisstic husband and believing I must pray for him. But he and his narcisstic parents have bullied me, threatened me and abused me for 3 years and my husband was getting more controlling, nasty and violent till he broke 4 of my ribs. I still feel devistated the marriage is over but my husband has shown no care, no remorse despite claiming to be Christian which is a lie. His actions show his not a Christian. A man is known by his fruits. Gods people are known by their love. No love for me. I have been completely discarded like trash. My hearts still healing and divorce is finalised in a few months😢💔
I feel very sorry for my wife. She became a narc and chose the evil path. I feel that she sold her soul to the devil, she was never the same when we met and got married, she always had a difficult character but she was kind and caring. I recently caught her having an affair and we are now divorcing. She is showing no repentance or empathy towards me. We have a 6 year old kid together. I am faithful man and I have always believed in Jesus Christ, but earlier this year, I became even more attached to my religion, that is how God opened my eyes and I saw the light. At first, after I confronted her, I prayed for her and I really wanted her to change, I was not aware that she is a narcissist. Now I am praying only for my child and for myself
Great tips! I think both ignoring or calling out can be difficult for many people. On one hand, we want to defend ourselves and on the other hand, people falsely believe that we shouldn't call out others as Christians. I appreciate the way you broke this down.
I have a narcissist attached that feeds on my soul, how low can one go! I loosen myself of anyone to break in in my body, soul or spirit, in agreement with this whole message and matthew 9:10-12, matthew 23:29-30, matthew 10:12-16, 1 john 5:16 in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!
I'm trying to reconcile cutting someone out of my life who wants me to be their best friend While being really nasty and horrible with their behaviour, along with realising that I have to keep that person out of my life so that they don't endanger my well-being or physical safety. i'm so glad that Jesus lets us love and forgive people from a distance if we can't keep the door open for them because of safety reasons. i'm all about shaking the dust off my feet and moving on instead of putting up with manipulation and other horrible things.
There are so many flavors of narcs in the world, in the church and at work it seems the only way to not be entangled with narcissists these days is identify and avoid. Good information.
I looked at my narcissistic sister and said these words to her. “ God see’s all, and he will decide what to do with you, so I don’t need too”
Beautiful
@J LH She sounds pretty mean and nasty to say that. To admit she's doing the wrong thing and always has a way out rather than actually repent and change.
The sins of people are forgiven by God, but they are damaging themselves as a consquence I think.
God is not Evil !!!
@J LH God forgives when the person has repented. He can't be fooled, especially if that person is using God's teaching for evil purposes.
@J LH exactly. The dropping off a gift for you sounded like love bombing. Then expecting you to side with her because of it and if you don't, she accuses you of being harsh. Totally sounds like the MO of a narc. I take great comfort in following Jesus' example and wish you the same.
1. Ignore them 2. Confront them 3. Separate from them
Thanks 🙏🏽
Yay
Thanks. From experience I would say avoid number two - in my case it was pointless. Agree with one and three
@@MJ-qb5ph same here!
@@dnk4559 all the narc experts dr Carter dr Ramani Melanie Tonia evans and from a Christian perspective Kevin from the royal we all say that - wish I had known sooner!
Jesus wasn't as passive as people think. He just knew how to pick his battles.
BINGO! He was far from being a pushover.
You know what I think the nerve narcissistics and other toxic got to tryna act nice and caring when they feel so we will just forget and forgive easily and wanna hang out with them sometimes well I no thanks, not interested or maybe some other when I’m not still mad at you for your narcissistic personality
Thank you I am so tired of people acting like Jesus was such a nice guy he came with the fire of God he came to bring the wrath of God to the Romans he was a revolutionary he was building an army indirectly building an army but building God's Army
You're totally right! Jesus also had the capacity for losing his temper as well, but nobody wants to see that about him even though he didn't lose his temper often. everybody wants to talk about how loving and merciful and forgiving Jesus is, but nobody ever wants to talk about his other attributes, like his anger, ability to dish out justice when needed, discipline, other stuff. it's also very easy to gloss over his humanity as well. he probably got depressed, he probably had times of laughter and tears, he probably got into the habit of doing lots of things that we wouldn't consider very holy about him. this doesn't mean he lives a simple life. This doesn't mean he was even sinful, he was born sinless. but obviously his existence as a human being as well as being God was marred with human problems and some good and some bad circumstances some of which he could control and some of which he probably allowed to just happen the way they did.
@@stephenjackson1602Your description sounds like my other half
At last, some good teaching on how to cope with narcs from a Christian point-of-view. Most of the churches don't touch on this and usually trot out their usual "turn the other cheek", "forgive" and "pray". I've always ended up feeling like a door-mat, until now!
I'm glad it was helpful. Thanks for watching.
Exactly, because it is rather a political strategy to keep people under their control and not a religious or spiritual initiation to free human soul from its fears
Forgiving and praying doesn't mean being under their feet and letting them wipe their feet on us.
or hiave the narcs as pastors
Yes, doormats are very useful for all kinds of institutions but Jesus came and risen from dead and taught us a lot not to be doormats or slaughtered by the wicked. His witty comebacks on bousty people are logical, intelligent and on point, sometimes even a bit sarcastic to show them how stupid and hurtful their arguments are, but He's always fair.
I ignored a narcissist for years, hoping he would mature and act like an adult. He never did so one day, I gave him some of his own treatment, I humiliated him in front of others, he immediately went red, shut his mouth and stayed far away from afterwards. Turning the other cheek never got me anywhere, it was only when I took action that the situation improved. You just have to stand up to a bully.
Not turning the other cheek is discarding the words of Jesus Christ and thus disobedience to God the Father....because ONLY The words of Jesus Christ are the words we are being saved by obedience to or judged by disobedience to the words of Jesus
@@achmed2pac They were never physically struck and that scripture specifically says if you are struck on the cheek so in this case it does not apply.
I agree with this. You have to stand up to bullies. I think about the story of David and Goliath. David fought back and killed Goliath. He didn’t just ignore him. David later became king 🤴.
A narcissist is pretty lost Denise that's why they will never act like an adult.
@@fightthegoodfightoffaithmi8676 That's true, I guess, but as long as he doesn't find himself in my house, I'll be happy.
One thing I noticed that narcissists do not like is the truth. I think that’s what scares them most, they are far from perfection and deep down inside that scares the hell out of them
Correct is right …
Imo, they don't like love and they abuse the action of Agape.
Yeah, they don’t like the truth or taking accountability. Be careful they always drawn blood. Anytime I’ve done that to them anytime I called out a narcissist that was close to me they end up breaking stuff and harming me physically. I pray that I never end up under another narcissist control ever again. God bless.
That’s where narcissism is rooted. The inability to deal with reality/truth and the trauma response; creating a fantasy world in hopes to cope.
I disagree- it’s wrong to label people “narcissists” believing that will ever help them or the people they abuse. Kindness, patience and compassion are what Jesus taught. I find it strange how you Christians want to believe Jesus was a superhero sent to earth to exterminate “evil” however you choose to define it. Evil is simply ignorance and the only cure is not in killing it or avoiding it but confronting it head on in a loving way. A narcissistic person may not always want to hear hard truths, but if it is presented in a compassionate way, it may take time, but that is actually what that person deep inside wants to hear. That can transform a person. Condemning them will serve no purpose but to make the judge feel superior, the same as a narcissistic person feels already. Most people are too lazy to commit to actually helping people with narcissism because it can be very challenging.
Our first commandment from the LORD is to stay away from evil, all forms of evil. Don't walk, run from evil
Amen
The first commandment is you shall have no other gods before Me .
This is what I find hard when it’s your mother, we are told to respect them. So do we do that from a distance, like not gossiping about them etc? 🙏
@@quasimodo614 If a mother is forcing their child to worship and serve them (thus leading the child away from God), then that mother is forcing the child into idolatry, which is a sin (1st commandment). This is what narcissistic people do, they turn away from God because they see themselves as a god....and then they force others into sin because they bully them into maintaining their false persona. Facade maintenance is imperative for a narcissist because they fear exposure. So a narcissist's victim is usually put in a position where they're forced to lie out of fear of how the narcissist will react. So if a person is abusive, manipulative, deceitful, insincere, cruel, callous, uncaring, overly boastful etc, you can either stay, but you'll potentially be pulled into sinning and dragged away from God. Or you can disconnect from this person, keep a safe distance, pray for them, get closer to Jesus and lift the person up to the almighty Father. Read 2 Timothy 3 :) it clearly says we are to stay away from these types of people. God bless.
I can't physically run but know what you mean
When Jesus said "Don't cast your pearls before swine", narcissists are probably among the category of people he was referring to.
he was referring to not wasting your time trying to teach to people who are rejecting the word. Has nothing to do with anything in this video.
@@nonyabusiness2510 You or I have no idea for sure what he was referring to. My comment is certainly possible.
Correct is right …
@@nonyabusiness2510i believe what he said to be applicable regardless. The word is truth. The word is life. Jesus never used to waste much time entertaining the scribes and Pharisees in their nonsense. He refused to cast His pearls before such swine 🤷🏽♀️
@@johns7530yes, it is.
It brings tears to my eyes when I think of all the things Jesus had to put up with. He was/is only good and yet he gets done that way. Thank you, Lord, for what you did/do for us.
Jesus is always with you
Amen🙌🏾
We are all facing obstacles which in the end are tests like In the Book of Job.
Amen!
❤😢
Been struggling in my marriage of 36 years to a narcissistic spouse. Was so confused for years until 5+ years ago what it was. Counselor enlightened me about the emotional and narcissistic abuse from my husband. It is absolutely life sucking, praying everyday, trying to be faithful to my marriage vows and having to call out my husband when needed is truly exhausting! I pray too for all those who are struggling in their marriages with a narcissistic spouse. God help us all! Thank you for the video!
I was in my marriage for 18 years. He was narcissist, after he hit me after all those years of emotional abuse, financial abuse. That was it for me. I'm free now. So much healthier and happier.
God bless you and those in abusive relationship. Only way out is being independent.
I've been married to an abusive narcissist for 40 years. I realized I was dealing with mental and emotional abuse at about the 25 year mark. Several years later I came to the realization that he isn't just abusive, he's a narcissistic abuser. I disagree with the "calling them out" part. Your spouse is not going to listen to you. They probably won't listen to anyone that corrects them, never mind someone that reveals them as a narcissist. The best thing to do is just don't engage. Ever. It will drive your spouse crazy when they realize they can no longer control and manipulate but that's just too bad. I will not engage anymore when my husband starts with his manipulative tactics. It is stressful still because, at least for me, I have my guard up 24/7. The only relief I get is when I go out if town without him. Sweet relief.
Update: I got free. Divorced. Sold the house. Moving on. Thank the Lord!
@@annebodee why do you stay?
i know the shoulds, but the word trabsalated as adultery is porneia. it includes abuse. dont wait to be cheated on or hit . you are free to leave.
the "he who marries a divorced woman" is also inaccurate. its "he who lives with a thrown out woman who's husband has abandoned, but not freed her with a certificate of divorce, gets the stigma of adultery. .."
NOT "commits adultery".
you can be free if you want to.
@@barbaradejaynes7612 dont wait to be hit.
Being kind and loving to the wicked only perpetuates the evil, that is a fact.
That is most definitely NOT TRUE! Jesus would never shun or condemn a person with a narcissistic personality. He would show empathy, kindness, patience and compassion to help that person understand why they have problems or issues with others, or understand why they are often blamed, criticized and conflicted. He would, by giving true attention to them, assist them in understanding there are many better ways to engage with others and communicate, especially by example. Labeling, condemning and avoiding HUMAN BEINGS, who are not “narcissists”, but human beings with narcissistic personality disorder, will take time- but so it would with anyone with mental health problems or even physical disabilities or birth defects. People don’t choose to act in narcissistic ways for no reason- often the characteristics stem from their early conditioning and/or even unresolved trauma or low self esteem due to an inability to understand the importance of accepting responsibility for one’s actions.
Yes, I am dealing with a narcissist. He's running my country 🇨🇦
I live in Canada also
@@JanHagen-rt6qi Same thing in America, a narcissist godless commie
Mine too.😮
Cody
I feel for you guys. Trudeau is the worst.
The key to overcoming Narcissists is to focus 100% on Jesus.
Amen!! Thank you!
Yes! Jesus is enough! He is my only source..and He Is Enough!!🙏🏼🍞🍷
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
@@questionsonchristianity8204 Thanks for sharing that. As I focused on not being my dad, I started acting like him. When I acknowledged abuse, sought healing and counseling, forgiveness and was finally taught about boundaries, everything changed. I could focus on Jesus, then set strong boundaries and be okay. 👍 Definitely a process.
“…He didn’t take the bait …they were trying to create a smear campaign but.. 2:25 Jesus chose to ignore them, instead he focused on his mission.” Powerful! Words of wisdom, my new mantra every day! Thank you Kris!
Ignoring is easy if they arent in your family and neighborhood or workplace
That seems to be true, it is in my case as well, but let’s ask God to help us focus on Christ so we too can ignore them in His strength and not ours.
God bless each and everyone of us who come to Him for help.🙏🏼
@@redefinedliving5974 That's why you rely of the peace of CHRIST. These days it's not just ignoring narcissists that are in someway unavoidable, but just this entire world crashing and burning to the ground. But with the peace of CHRIST, nothing can shake you. He is The Rock!
@@naoedouard4422 Not true. But good for you
@@naoedouard4422 Amen❤🙏 beautifully said! NOTHING LIKE THE PEACE OF CHRIST❤❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏
This is why I do not go to family reunions anymore. I have a lot of narcissists in my family.
Amen!!! I better not comment on that one....🙃
God delivered my narcissist. I'm still married to him. Thank you Jesus.
That's awesome, I would love to hear that testimony
That is really rare but i would like to believe! Please share how it went. Thabk u very much!
Sandra: Sadly, this is rare; however, when the Holy Spirit is allowed to work (and both parties choose to grow in His Grace and Truth), positive restoration will happen and God then gets the glory. I can attest of this in my own marriage. Sadly, many homes and lives are negatively impacted by abuse and narcissism. It's, ultimately, a spiritual condition -- and one that only the Holy Spirit can convict and address. Praise the Lord for His Goodness and the Hope we have of eternal life beyond this realm, as Believers in Jesus Christ -- our Savior!! Our temporary situations/circumstances have no bearing on the Love of Christ, who desires our fellowship and childlike FAITH (which IS NOT blind, as the mocking world tries to make their truth). 💙 John 3:16-17, et al.
Grace & Peace, Beloved of God. Roxanne
@@TenderHearted3 thank u for ur honest reply. Truly only a miracle divine intervention can solve this.
💁♀️Sandra…
Well🤔 how’d it play out?
We’d love to know😊
I have to disagree with #2, at least if you're talking about within marriage. A narcissistic spouse will NOT receive being told they're a narcissist and will simply increase the abuse. The best thing to do is just don't engage. Ever. In other words, what she first said: ignore them. Granted it will drive them crazy when they realize you will no longer be controlled by them. Tough luck. Narcissists make themselves into gods. My husband talks the talk, but is a complete hypocrite. Just like the Pharisees. Judging me, accusing me, beating me down emotionally. I did everything I could to be the good Christian wife and mother. Read all the books. And I managed to raise 4 amazing children practically on my own because my husband was hardly ever around. Now, I refuse to take his abuse. Sometimes I frankly hate my life because the person who was supposed to love and cherish me 'til death do us part has spent decades trying to make feel like a failure. But I'm not a failure. And funny thing is, not only do I like who I am, but a lot of other people do too. When I get down I think about my kids and grandkids and what a blessing they are. 💓
P.S. I finally divorced him after 40 years. I'm free!
well WHAT are you doing still with this person? take all your stuff and LEAVE! go live with a friend or a room mate (ads in paper or online) THEN go get a job, DONT take his phone calls or texts and avoid his family OR ANYONE that will betray where you are or where your new job is. go NO CONTACT, then u wont hate your life; eventually he will commit "that" sin then u can divorce him.
Wow u are strong women. After all u manage to be with person like him. Sometimes i think that its really sad when you understand that they are in darkness even tho they understand or not. People and parents create them because there was no love. But im sad im so sad about them 😢 but even they deserve to have someone around but the thing is do you deserve person like him? If you have so much love for yourself that is enought and after all he gave you children. Everything bad have good part too it’s depends how you look at things. I wish you to be happy for yourself. ❤ god bless you❤
As Christians we can feel so much pressure to be the "perfect' Christian. There are also manipulative people who claim to be Christian but pick and choose the message. Be aware of those types! One of the "best" examples from the bible that gets misused is Ephesians 5:22-25 and those who misuse it don't also make it is not just about the husband. God does not want us to be abused or martyrs. There is a balance!
I'm so sorry you're going through this love, you don't deserve this. We only have one life and like one person already said, God doesn't want us to be abused, it's against his righteousness. Life is precious and God wants us to make the very best of it. I know cause I've been in abusive situations, not marriage though, and was trying to find the biblical answer.
I think she meant call out the behaviour. They hate being called out. Not calling them a narc as that won't work and they'll weaponise it and even label you one.
Best way to avoid narcissist is to ingnore them n pray that they find their way back from evil doing to others. Even if it's your own family members. In God we trust.
Amen
Hard when its your spouse
@@laurahassevoort4339very
My mother is one and I believe demons are controlling her because she cries while throwing or breaking things just how the man who had an demon in bible he was crying and cutting himself. So do you think God should have mercy
@@user-uu9lm3fc8jmy mother too. I know she is controlled by other entities, but won’t tolerate being confronted .. she claims to be a Christian, but her actions consistently prove otherwise.she betrays, creates smear campaigns, has stolen what my late father left for sister & I without remorse. It’s a terrible thing to be born having a narcissist for a mother. 🌸
(Very helpful to learn this!)
The Stages of Narcissistic Abuse
1. Lovebombing
2. Future Faking
3. Devaluing
4. Discard
5. Hoovering
The F is wrong with these people , they need help and regular people need to get away and stay away . Pray for them from afar.
I have a friend that does each of those steps to me. I keep letting her back into my life after the hoovering stage. But at least I’m aware of who she is.
@@TK.000 It's best for you to disconnect in every way from a person like that. They will claim change but they will never actually get better.
@@latoriarichardson6754 I know, she is sadly really messed up. I blocked her once on my phone and two years later she contacted me through a different number. She claims I’m her only friend. But I think it’s because I’m the only one with any sort of patience to deal with her. I want to help, but I don’t think that she can be helped.
It was wild, but God naturally lead me to open my eyes at the “future faking” and i observed until the “devaluing” started kicking in. And the moment that happened, God told me to cut it off ! So I never got to #4 . But since I was the one that made the exit, there seems to be a lot of #5 happening, but slowly its fading away and that is giving me a lot of peace for both sides
If you want to confront a narcissist be prepared.
Narcissistic rage occurs when a narcissist's beliefs about their perceived importance or grandiosity are confronted. In turn, they respond with extreme anger toward the perceived threat.
It’s dangerous to confront a narc in some cases like mine, who pours nail polish remover in my desert while smiling to see my reaction. I don’t engage or respond and I keep a safe distance
Just make sure the narcissist is outnumbered when you do confront them. In my family I had the assistance of the other abused siblings and we ganged up on the narcissist.
Mine reacted in extreme pettiness like super extreme
I'm not a Christian, however always grateful for the wisdom in the Bible. Thank you.
You are a wise person!
Wisdom comes from Gods word. You are closer to becoming a Christian than you think! God bless!!!
I once wasn't either but have 'tasted and seen that the Lord is good' as the Bible advises us to do! Once you find Him and His wonderful love and mercy, available to all human beings in need, your life will be forever changed and blessed - and you will have even greater access to His wisdom, which is the only wisdom worth knowing about! May God bless and guide you!
The wisdom of the Bible tells us that we are all sinners, that God sent His One and Only Son so that through accepting Him as Lord and Savior, you can be saved.
Thank you
Someone told me recently that when someone makes you angry they own you. Respond in a healthy mindful way to being abused 🙏
Anger is the part of you that loves you the most. It's a healthy emotion, it's how it's presented that can be unhealthy
True..We give someone power to control our emotions when we allow them to upset us...
Just cus you're a Christian doesn't mean you have to be a pushover. Even Jesus whipped the merchants out of the 2nd Temple, sometimes conflict is necessary to attain peace on Earth
We aren't Jesus. No, you don't have to be a pushover but you don't necessarily have the right to push, either. You walk away, refuse to cast your pearls before swine, shake the dust off your feet.
@@user-wh5ir4fo4r Even Paul himself said Christ lives within us.
This verse makes me think of a narcissist: Proverbs 9:8 NKJV
Do not correct a scoffer, lest he hate you; Rebuke a wise man, and he will love you.
Whenever telling a narcissist that they have hurt you, offended you or you
Correct them, he will hate you and tell you how wrong you are. A truly sincere person will apologize and admit their wrong
Exactly.
A person that is a narcissist usally has a Jezebel spirit ! I hav seen this more than ever !!!!
I have a narcissistic mother. I’m 57 and she’s always been abusive. To this day. I keep contact limited for the most part. It’s text messages to check on her. I made the mistake of changing my New Year’s Day plans to go to her house. She wore me down until I did it. It was horrible. Her flying monkeys were there and after dinner I started helping her clean up. In came the “have you gained weight”? back handed compliments, smirking.. absolutely a nightmare. One of her flying monkeys tried to start an argument with my husband. I won’t be making that mistake again. The same thing happens when I call, so no more phone calls. She has let me know that her friends that have children that don’t go visit them well, they don’t get an inheritance. Fine with me. My joy and my peace are not for sale. I think Jesus is ok with that. It’s not His will that we be habitually abused in any shape form or fashion.
Amen, sister!
@@revslife😢
"My joy and peace are not for sale." Exactly! Great comment! My inheritance has also been threatened. I remind myself that my inheritance comes from the Lord. I'll take eternal life in heaven and what God has waiting for me over money and stuff any day! :)
@@diranu605🙏🏽😓
Mine ruined my life. Filing erroneous and false reports for last 25 years
This lady nailed it... She quoted the scriptures accurately...
I don't agree with her interpretation of the sin that leads to death.
There's only one sin that leads to death that l can discern from the Gospel.
And that's the lack of faith in the eternal power and authority of the blood of the living God over death, hell, and all sin of all time,
Or wilful rejection of Grace Jesus offers through the new covenant.
All sin is committed willingly, otherwise it wouldn't be sin at all.
And if a man fall 70 times, he gets back up again.
Repeatedly.
Faithfully.
Thankfully.
Remorsefully.
But never guiltily,
because guilt violates the terms of agreement.
And voids the contract.
Pharisaical Christians can't seem to except the agape gift of grace that makes sinning impossible when covered by the blood covenant with God.
It robs them of their pleasure to judge from on high.
Calling it out does more harm than good when dealing with a true narcissist and if your parent, spouse, child, co worker, etc is one, it’s almost impossible to get away from it. Good video but I did feel like it minimized an extremely complex topic. Unless you walk a mile you really can’t know how destructive and diabolical these people are. They literally try to destroy others. Praise God for HIS mercy and grace.
I agree. Jesus had the authority to call out the Pharisees because he can read hearts and And they were directly misleading people that they had the responsibility of. it’s not really our place to call out someone a narcissist because we would be judging and we don’t know personally if someone will change. this is applies to Christians and non Christians (Matthew 7:1-5) Some hurt people will take this message and run with it causing divisions and tensions. A lot of hurt people don’t correct people from a place of love. Look at the narcissist trend now. Yes you can loving try in correct but people have free will if they resist, you can set boundaries and pray for them. You have to use discernment with this because you can find narcissist traits in anyone and even more so on people who have been around other narcissist people who broke them. time limits and boundaries is good enough. The Bible also says be peaceable not confrontational (romans 12:18)
You're right. You cannot call out someone you're in close relationship with, especially a spouse. It just makes things worse. Best thing to do is don't engage. When they start with their abuse (and I've been married 40 years to a covert narcissist so I know the signals) refuse to engage. Let them talk, but don't respond. NEVER explain or defend. Love yourself and find a good friend that will listen without judging or giving advice.
P.S. Diabolical- what a perfect word to describe it.
@@annebodeeI would call them out, tell them everything I have ever thought about them, and how vile they are and that no-one likes them, and then tell them to never contact me again, because they are dead to me.
Thankfully, I have a loving family, and despite my parents not agreeing with me on my Christian walk (they think bejng good people is enough to get to heaven, not salvation), they have always been there for me, We fight, but we never hold a grudge for too long.
My dad and I fought a bit. We didn't agree on a lot, but he was hard-working, good to us and my mother, and would always help if you needed it. If my car broke down in the middle of the night, he would be there, and never complain.
We didn't always see eye to eye, but my family are good people, and would do anything for anybody.
Some of the problems admittedly is that I am stubborn and don't take criticism well.
And when it's your adult daughter. You can't just stop loving your child. How do you deal with the pain of their smear campaigns?
Thank you Kris for your message. I was naive to what my ex was, married 40 plus years to someone who usually only thought of himself, it became worse after having my daughters, he felt jealous over my attention to them!! As a young Christian wife I tried sooo hard to follow the Bible in being submissive, putting him first, giving more to my husband in love, always giving him final say over most things. I feel the church has NO idea on this subject of narcissism & mine was a covert so he presented soo well. I’ve been divorced 1 1/2 years now & it’s really hard to start over @ 68. He had someone in the wings for years & when I said things need to change, he said no & in his words moved on to plan B. He’s doing everything he told our daughters not to do in relationships. I feel so duped, I believed his whole line of being a Christian etc. my daughters have very little to do with him. The churches need to learn about these people, my pastor & his wife had no clue & I looked like the rebellious wife!!
Carla, I truly understand. I never knew what I was dealing with at all. We stay because we were not taught. The Church has caused a lot of pain for especially women. We submitted to these people without truly knowing what we were doing. I prayed, fasted, cried. He never changed. Wasted a lot of time. Now I am in peace. I am truly saddened by the loss of my daughters relationship. I truly never knew.
You poor love, to suffer so much and then come out looking like the bad guy. My friend just went through this and you have my deepest sympathy. I will pray God will shine a light on the truth for you and that your best years will be ahead of you.
Boy, I have been there! Married 18 years to an overt narc. Mean, nasty…everybody was scared of him. Looked for help in churches and constantly told I might be the only Bible he reads, need to forgive, submit, must stay, etc. called “needy, by one. Darn tootin’! I was falling down a cylinder in my mind’s eye. They looked incredulous as I’d tell them what was going on. Sometimes I’d mention at work what happened over the weekend..I mean, it was just how things went. The gals would sit there stone quiet with their mouths open. Nobody had a clue. Nobody could relate. Absolutely wonderful these videos are now available. Every counselor anywhere, church or not, needs to be very well informed about narcissism as there are SO many people with it these days!
In Christianity this narcissism is called the jezebel spirit. Strange how it is rarely discussed in Churches !
Carla, there's similarities, as I endured 34 of violence thinking she was Bi-polar, and as a Church going couple, I always hoped for healing! Near the end demons would wake me up howling, and knowing where I stand with Christ, I'd lay a hand on her and Pray, and they'd go silent!
Leaving in 2010 and only learning of these Narcissist traits about 5 years ago it sure opened my eye's to her infidelities fueling her rages! I'm 70 now and it can be lonely, and it's great to have a help mate, but as a caution, I'm fortunate that some people of interest were at a great distance, allowing only dialog by Phone and TeXt! One stated she would like to try me out seXually first and another maybe so steeped in New Age underground spirituality, I Pray for repentance and restoration for her!
As for my X, she aligned herself with complicit black robed bandits, and it's deeply troubling that we're in a Country under Rule of Liars!
Our children were alienated from childhood, so it progressed to being alienated from my grandchildren, but there's been some reconciliation! I'm sadly witnessing some generational curses being carried forward, but finally seeing some acknowledgement of an understanding that it was inherited, and they ended up in the same Trap with a Narcissist spouse!
All I can say is to be patient and not get anxious about becoming engaged again! Narcs excel at being conns and I got duped and went through Round 2, with whom I thought was the one! We're being refined, and I often Reference, MATTHEW 10:32-42 as an explanation of the purification by fire that we may have to endure for a time! Stand strong and lean unto God for comfort and provision for you're shelter and sustenance!
Jesus is the best example of a Noble man in the world। Salute you Jesus sir for coming to this world full of negativity।
It's his reaction, to the ongoing negativity.
With God all things are possible. Amen and let it be done in Jesus name.
Surely evil things are not possible with God?
God weakens the hardness of hearts… remember that!
Amen
@@WayWalker3 Yes God creates all things. It clearly states in Isaiah 45:7 "I form the light and create darkness. I make peace and create evil. I the Lord do all these things."
Amen ✝💪
Understand that narcissists require conflict. When confronted, they gaslight. Mark them, distance from them and uplift those that demonstrate healthy qualities including empathy, kindness and ethical behaviors.
We are in the last days, when mem are lovers of pleasure, money and THEMSELVES rather than lovers of God. Paul commanded us to AVOID SUCH PEOPLE (2 Timothy 3:1-5).
I told my narc the other day that she will have a conversation with God at the appointed hour.
I always struggled with the 'turn the other cheeke' when I was with a narcissist. It didn't felt right, cause the narc would not learn from it. At the time nobody could explain how to deal with this. I'd wish I had seen this video at that time, it is really refreshing.
I heard that at the time, turning the other cheek was actually a challenge to follow through with their insult and enter into a formal duel. I don't know how accurate that is, but it makes sense to view customs within the context of the time, and it never sat right with me to just be a pushover. That's not loving.
Turn the other cheek just means don’t revile back. In Jesus time it was a demeaning insult to slap someone across the cheek. So Jesus is just saying don’t stoop to their level. Turn the other cheek, and move on. Moving on can mean cutting them off, or putting up very strong boundaries! Just don’t take the bait, because that’s what they want you to do. If you give them an emotional response, they’ve won.
When the serpent (aka narcissist) purposely pushes your buttons, what are they after? YOUR REACTION. What do they do when they get your REACTION? They use it AGAINST YOU. This is what Jesus is referrring to when He says to "turn the other cheek"....it doesn't mean be a door mat or a punching bag. It means to DENY THEM OF THE REACTION THEY ARE AFTER. A form of "grey rock" if you will.
Enlightening & refreshing, but being with a narcissist is still very debilitating. I had to recently quit mine after 37y ! 🤪
@@SweetChicagoGator Was he a democrat ? the leftists are usualy liars .
Jesus is getting ready to expose them all! Hallelujah!
Amen! I believe these are the end times now. Walk in the light [1 John 1:6-7]. God bless you.
Jesus is xposing them all over the place _ if u don't see a Jesus stamp on ur tv programs_ u get to see a bunch of narcs and u observe that all the stories are the same narky plots.its the trumen show_ and Satan has total control of his IA actors ( warriors of Satan) signing off as Mickey mouse your leader of the minions of Alice in Wonderlands with their Barbie's in hand at the smashing baby concert _ you only need to watch once _ takes about a bucket of popcorn to learn the play book_simple _ but looks complicated _ but easy _ there's no context to the Satan 12 commandments _ it's just a plot of _ I win you loose_when u see this _ I win you loose_its the honey pot of Satan and they getting ready to use u as a 'spice'
❤
I hope I'm alive to see it.
My sister is a classic manipulative narcissist. All my life I have had to put up with her underhanded remarks and her manipulations. Every time I am around her, I feel absolutely unhinged with her superior like personality. 7 trips to visit me up North, and I paid for them all. I just absolutely had to distance myself from her, and she still harresses me in text messages. She draws me in and I will feel guilty. She is a pastor and chaplain. I could write an entire book on her alone.
Girl, this is good stuff. Minimum psychbabble, maximum efficacy.
I'm finding out more and more that I'm surrounded by nothing but narcissistic friends.
It sucks when people say, "You're my best friend." It always ends up they put you into danger and become really mean. I don't believe you have to call them out, especially when they claim to be Christian or any other faith. Their only faith is that they themselves are God. There's no saving someone who likes the demon that they invited in. When the Holy Spirit dwells within you, ya can't slip in a demon.
Me too. I have many acquaintances but very few friends.
@@bonnsterthemonster These offspring of vipers (see Genesis 3:15 for their true origin) will flatter you in order to take advantage of you. Also see Psalm 58:3-5 for God's perfect description of these SNAKES. (Cain's progeny).
Me too, and I've shed them all. I have 1 person left, so I'm working on getting new friends. Goodluck
Can someone please pray for me? Im disabled and stuck in a highly narcissistic abuse situation. Leaving isnt an option for me. Mentally im at a breaking point. Its really awful how they constantly create drama.
I understand I'm trapped too
Prayers❤💪🙏
In the past few years, I am just realizing both of my (Christian) parents have some narcissistic behaviours. Your videos have really helped me overcome some difficult situations. I have gained self confidence and have learned my true identity doesn't come from what they think of me - it comes from Christ alone!! I have tried hard to people please for so long (and thought it was the right thing because of our call as Christians to be servants), but I've realized my focus and purpose was wrong! I was actually doing things to make my parents proud of me and maybe see me as the (almost 30) year old that I am. I am SO grateful God has opened my eyes so that I can be a better woman of God, break the cycle, and keep my joy! My husband has been so supportive and has also helped me keep a positive perspective on things. I know from the pain I've gone through of how I now can learn and make a difference for my future and leave a legacy! It is honestly all by God's amazing grace that I am who I am today, and He has protected my heart. I am forever grateful for my parents for the sacrifices they've made for me and I continue to pray for them. I have to prepare my mind and heart everytime I'm around them, but I know that God has a plan and purpose for everything. Thank you for your wise words!
I’m so glad it’s been helpful for you. God bless you on your journey. Thank you for sharing.
Amen.
Your post is exactly something I could write to the letter!
We all have some narrcistic tendencies. Don't despise the person.
Despise the disease.
Thank the good Lord you have a loving spouse. Because my parents were so abusive & dangerous, I married a very cruel man. A sick man. A sociopath. He left me. I'm hoping to marry a believer this year. Someone I love deeply. I''ve been divorced 14 years. It's been hard. Pray for me.
Im struggling with narcissist person ..Im totally destroyed with her accusations and even telling all my issues to people around her and worst is she even involved my love ones ..Please Lord help me and rescue me. I pray in the name of JESUS to silent the enemy. No weapon perform against me shall prosper , And every tongue that rises against me in judgement shall condemn, For this is the heritage of the servant of Lord.. 🙏🙏🙏❤
Yes I told my narcissist that God is the only one that sit high and look low and he see All. God is 🙏🏽
So so grateful for all these videos. For 30yrs I thought I maybe losing my mind. My marriage just kept getting worse and I tried to stay in my lovewalk everyday. I have many faults but knew it wasn't me....thank you. I now have hope and cried when I realized I wasn't alone..forever grateful my brothers and sisters in Christ. As Kings kid I knew God would make a way. Hallelujah
Love!
Please pray And keep petitioning! God make a way 30 years of hell GOD YOU ARE ABLE GOD YOU ARE FAITHFUL!!!! NEED THIS WAY TO BE OPEN WIDE!!!
I too thought I was losing my mind. 29 years married. I just walked out with nothing. Once I got cancer he was done and made my life worse. Nightmare and evil. Trying to rebuild and find a place to rent.
@Terri K, how are you doing now?
I feel like I am losing my mind because of trauma from toxic people who raised me up
You have no idea how perfectly timed this is, thank you!
ALL I'VE GOT TO SAY: "HALLELUJAH AMEN"!
It's because of Jesus, we have narcissists in the first place it's all the people who can't come out of the closet about their sexuality. So they find a straight person and then torture them until the straight person can't take it anymore. Good luck everybody
What amazing timing for me to see this video. Our Savior is so Faithful. I’ve been seeking the Lord fervently on how to protect myself from my very abusive and toxic children. After 20 years of extreme narcissist torment from my ex.. the abuse and rejection only increased greatly from all sides for the following 30 years from my ‘flying monkey’ children. Parental alienation abuse from a world class narcissist ‘father.’ Now my children are all grown with families of their own.. my precious and loving grandchildren. I’ve always endured the torturous attacks to be close to the littles. I love them more than life itself… but just like their father they have learned to use my amazing and uplifting relationship with them as a weapon against me.Because of this I became so overwhelmed with PTSD, anxiety and depression I nearly ended my life. I certainly had no desire to live another day..But God.. I’ve recently realized that they will never change towards me.. they do not really know me. They’ve only seen me through their evil father’s eyes for a very long time. The hardest thing I’ve ever had to do is purpose in my heart to completely distance myself from them. I will probably never see my children or grands again in this life… if it wasn’t for my Lord’s compassion and Grace and the unconditional love and the welcoming and encouraging care of my church family I would have no anchor.. no Hope. Thank you again for sharing the confirmation and clear wisdom spoken by our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. He will uphold me in the final great loss and rejection. Blessings to all that have day by day endured the attempt to murder your Spirit, soul and body. I truly sorrow for you..🙏🏼
I, too, am dealing with such betrayal from my own children. It's not easy ! If I don't take the abuse and lies they tell then I'm the "narcissistic" one.
They've given me many "labels" (shrink type labels plus the racists, ignorant and redneck ones) over the past 7 years and I've tried to talk, listen and agreed with "their terms" to see the grandchildren. I had to stop that and protect myself from the many lies. They even started saying I was the reason for the divorce and I was the cheating partner. I pray for your peace.
your story is mine... and the testimony God gives us through the fiery trials is precious... this caused me to lean on Him, after He literally saved my life I told Father God (finally!) that my life was His now. There are still triggers everywhere that remind me of the good days when the kids were little, but I learned to thank God for the good, and let go of the rest... I forgive them, and I ask God to break the stockholm syndrome and lies that they felt forced to choose their narc dad as the 'good parent' and they had to agree with him to survive. So, in that they are innocent of this evil that was put onto them, and I have repented of my lack in ability to shield them from such demonic things. I had not been a Christian very long and didn't know Word well, so I had zero idea what I was dealing with myself, I was thrown for a loop daily while trying to raise godly girls. Oh, and their dad was a youth and children's pastor for a few years when we were married. Church people WORSHIP anyone who calls themself a PASTOR, its realllly sick. Anyways, just felt compelled to reply to your post, thank you for sharing, I havent found a lot of situations that mirror mine so well, and it encourages me to see that God also has helped and is healing you! God bless you!
sorry, PS, just wanted to add that now that my kids are adults and they had many opportunities to talk about everything (I had been a home schooling mom too, we had done do much together when they were little - I could not grasp that they would not talk with me even about their pain, etc.,) And yes, they didn't deserve a dad who has demons in him, but now they need to seek The Lord and find their healing. And I am done being treated like an ax murderer due to their father's slander of me. My oldest is pregnant and I wrote her and said that her innocent child will not be exposed to her apparent shame of me, and her sister's total lack of any contact with me. The little one would pick up on that, you know? Plus, if my daughter doesn't heal from her narcissism, her child will be affected. My kids dont know me either, no wedding or graduation invitations. My oldest and I were only emailing here and there, so now no contact whatever. God healed me and showed me how she had already used her unborn children as weapons, but I was hoping she would want to reconcile before she got pregnant. Just felt it was loving to remove myself so that no one has to feel uncomfortable with me, so the little one wont see her mother be nasty to me, etc. God has blessed me in caring for other people's children, and I have many 'adpoted families'. Young parents seem to always appreciate extra help. I hope I can bless as many as possible. Sorry that my own kids are missing out. They are in His hands, I pray all our children will one day Jeremiah 33:3.
if it is not okay that I post these book titles, please remove this post, ty! You may be able to find these at the library. I wanted to share 2 books that helped me The First Will Be Last: A Biblical Perspective on Narcissism by DC Robertsson and also Done With the Crying by Sheri McGreggor her site is rejectedparent support group for parents of estranged adult children you dont have to buy these or anything I pray this helps, I am sure I saw this post for a reason, I hope you see it!
@@user-ol3dy9rg7y It's truly horrible to see These comments. I'm sorry the two of you are going through this . Same here.
Thank you for this video, I have Christian parents who r narcissist. It has been a journey to have peace with them. I’ve learned u can’t have peace with anyone who just wants to fight! They thrive off of it! God has been there for me every step of the way! Thank you Lord Jesus! 🙏
Some one or perhaps all 3 are being unchristian here???
Blessed is the man who walks not in the council of the ungodly psalm 1
Calling out the demons can result in them raging against the person
Yes please pray for me been in narcissist relationship since it began 30 years ago!!! Lord JESUS PLEASE INTERCEDE.....I petition you again and ask and knock and knock louder....I need an open door open windows Lord Jesus you are with me make a way where seems to be no way!!!
There is always a way. What you need is courage . Courage to protect the God spirit within you. Courage to leave and get on with the life you were gifted. Do not stand for abuse but do not attempt to fight it either. What you resist persists. Walk away and don't look back. It will take phenomenal courage but then you will have a lot to be proud of.
It’s hard when it’s your 1 and only child. This is helpful. Thank you and please pray for my family
Am praying for the Lord to intervene and help. God bless you.❤
Amen God Help and haleluyah
It's my son as well.. Not sure how to handle it..
The Bible is crystal clear in Mark 9:23 "All things are possible to him that believe." It is your faith that brings the desired outcome. Prayer is thanksgiving, it's not a begging or pleading. It is giving thanks for the desired outcome, with full faith it has occurred. That is what God blesses.
All the churches I’ve been to since being attacked, have believed the evil narc, not asked for my point of view, but instead have turned on me…..betrayal at the deepest level
I am nearly destroyed by 2 years with a predator I met online. I’m 61 and was so naïve. I was healing after my husband died, the worst grief I’ve ever known, but this man has harmed me in
a way I never dreamed possible.
I don’t feel I can overcome this extent of abuse at my age.
Please pray for me. I’m isolated now. No money, no vehicle and too humiliated to let anyone I know, know. Im extremely affected. I’m nervous and scared and anxious and so alone. And having a hard time recovering from a severe concussion of over a year ago.
I’m glad I found you and thank you for addressing the issue so articulately from a Christian perspective.
How are you doing? 💐
Oh hunny! I'm so very sorry that happened to you. I am praying that God give you peace and strength. He sees all and knows what you need.
Ugh. Thank you! I REALLY needed to hear this! My entire family scapegoats me. My mother is so toxic and she's elderly which makes it worse because it allows her to act like a complete victim. And all of 'my siblings buy into it and encourage her. She has told me to my face, "you should take care of me. you owe me. i raised you." Yet she has never said that to my other siblings. I'm struggling financially so she and the rest of my siblings use that as a means to control me.. I'm so emotionally sick and tired of feeling confused about being a faithful loving servant of God's and having to "honor a mother like this because of the ten commandments. It's all so confusing. I try to be good person but my patience has worn thin. I can't deal with this anymore.
Tell your financially stable brothers (if you have them) that biblically it is their job to take care of their mother.
If you’re the only brother and not financially stable tell the financially stable siblings that until such time as you become financially stable, they will have to step up.
If you’re so financially unstable you’re living with your mother, strive to get out or she will use that as a club.
Boundaries are ok to have. Abuse is not ok.
Don’t be an abuser and don’t accept abuse.
@@fancimcguffin2227 Oh I have 5 siblings, all of whom are financially stable. One of them is a millionaire who lives in the same neighborhood as several movie producers and a retired pro baseball player. And they DO help her out. However, miss millionaire lives across the country in california so she only "helps" by sending carepackages (pretty easy when money grows on trees as it's her husband who makes the money she doesn't) and calling her every single day. The others who live closer, about an hour away from mom help her all of the time! She has everyone in the family helping her yet nothing is ever enough. My handicapped brother even makes the woman breakfast when he stays over on weekends even though she is perfectly capable! It's unreal! And she still complains! She picks on me. She feels she is entitled to everyone doing everything for her. She has never told the others that it is their job to take care of her. Perhaps it's because they all do it. She's using my poverty to bully and take advantage of me. You have no idea. My car is falling apart. She has two cars. Never once did it cross her mind to let me borrow...not keep...but borrow it when my battery died and I had to find a ride to work. She refused. She wants to keep me there so that she can pick on me and also for her own needs...in case there is an emergency or she needs me as backup. You don't know what she put me through after my celiac diagnosis 5 years ago. It was heartbreaking. I am too drained to divulge but God knows what I've been trhough. I"ve tried so hard to become financially stable enough to get out once and for all. I need to find a stable living arrangement and a better-paying job. Can't go on like this much more. Entire family bullies me.
We honor our parents by not enabling their bad behavior, or allowing them to continue their abusive ways with us, or others under our own protection. We honor them by giving them clear boundaries and consequences, if they are not remorseful, repentant or willing to work towards ending their abusive ways. Focus on you right now & get stronger each day!
@@terrydelman8210 thank you! I need this is a reminder of why I’ve backed away from my Narc father.
It sounds like you really need some space. Can you get any help to get out? It sounds like she has plenty of available help. Could you take some other kind of live in job?
Nice to see the bible applied to this topic. I was married to a covert narcassist. I found out that he had indeed murdered his wife in the early 1970's. She was only 16. He spent 12 years in prison but convinces as many as possible that he was exonerated. Reality is that he was let out on a technicality that had nothing to do with him & his trial. He was to be retried but finding all the witnesses against him again was not possible so he walked. Ann Rule, an author of true crime wrote about him. He the one who told me about it & he hadn't read it but actually thought she'd write good things about him. After i left him I read it & it perfectly filled in the blanks. I walked away leaving almost everything i owned behind. I didn't even go to the divorce hearing with my lawyer. Years later he sent a couple of nasty emails to me but in such a way that though the email had his name as sender it was unable to go back to him. I ignored him. Seven years later I saw him in passing but that's it. Definitely have looked over my shoulder knowing how he is.
God very recently dealt with me on the whole issue of him. Loving a narcassist can leave such scars & confusion. Letting go is very difficult as you are letting go of something that never was yet was. God finally showed me where my ex husband had shattered, where he became the narcassist he is. I don't know how to explain it, but God has finally healed my heart & I can finally move on.
He belongs to a religion where he has rejected the work that Jesus did on the cross. Says Jesus messed it up & a certain human had to be used to fix the mess. He's bought into the same lies Eve did without a doubt. I do pray for him & will continue to until the Lord tells me to stop. His time on earth is almost up & though I'd still like to see him saved, i realize that we have a God who gave us free will & honors our choice. Im thankful to God for making a way for me to escape him & now for giving me the understanding & healing ive needed & wanted so much.
Narcassists are very broken people who have never emotionally matured & some throw physical temper tantrums on the innocent ones & some hide it more & are more cunning in their quiet devastation they do. Walk away because only God can change them.
Turning the other cheek works perfectly for the narcissist - grey rocking them
I hope this blows up for you Dr. Reece, helping me (26 year old male) very much so in my walk with Christ and realized some enemies I didn't know I had, my mother who I suspect has one of the most severe cases of Narcissistic Personality Disorder I think I've seen in any human which breaks my heart and has been breaking my fathers heart their whole marriage, he finally understands what is going on because of your biblical explanations and mentioned he felt a large burden lifted. God bless you and everyone else here, keep standing firm and prioritize JESUS!
I’m so glad this content has helped you. Thank you for sharing and that you for watching. Blessings!
Really blessed.This is an eye opener.are all narcissists going to hell.How can they be delivered
Blessings to you X! In so glad you shared with your Father. We're finally getting the understanding and help we need. I was in my forties when God began to show me things and come across literature and videos. My Mother had Narcissistic personality disorder. So I was born into this dysfunction, and now I had to separate from my siblings. This video is so good, and I'm grateful that someone has allowed God to reveal scripture to them concerning this topic. Praise God!! May God continue to Bless you on this journey to be totally healed and free, to help others.
@@onemteinamadi950 Jesus' power is greater than ALL maladies and problems, and His is the ONLY power that can rebuke and cast out demons, as many times described in scripture - and He only had to do this once in each instance. Faith in His power to rebuke and destroy the powers of evil, is imperative - it means praying in faith for Him to do so and not sort of 'half-believing and half-doubting' as many Christian prayers become, simply because of our lack of faith. Satan is ultimately already a defeated foe, as are his demons, but we must exercise faith against them as these sorts of problems are going to come more and more on the earth, as prophecy predicts for our time. Praying for Jesus to first forgive us our own sins and then asking Him to give us His Holy Spirit to strengthen and protect us, as well as helping those afflicted with these demons, is essential for our victory in this battle, especially if we have to meet and deal with narcissism every day.
@@onemteinamadi950Hell means the pit or grave. Look it up in the Concordance. An eternal place of torture and burning is a lie of the devil. There is a lake of fire 🔥 that Devours the wicked, and the fallen angels. Revelation 20. They become ashes under the feet of the saints on the earth made new again. Malachi 4. Let the Bible speak truth. Most religions are confused (Babylon) with lies and doctrines of devils.
My husband has a lot of narcissistic traits. In the beginning of our relationship he drove me crazy with the word salad and always trying to turn things around on me. I didn't realize I was dealing with a highly narcissistic person. Once I realized, I learned how to place boundaries and how to respond to his behavior instead of getting caught up in his crazy making. It's made a world of difference for us both. He's grown quite a bit and has learned to honestly communicate instead of taking offense and lashing out over every little thing. On occasion, he reverts to old behaviors and I still refuse to get caught up in the crazy making and I simply say I'm not doing this, please answer the question that I asked, etc. Never allow a narcissist to control your emotions or reactions. Once you master this with healthy boundaries they fail to hold power over you.
The same to me
This is great teaching. Many have believed that Believers are just supposed to be walked all over and just say, "It's alright, God will take care of it". Yes, he will, but we have a part from time to time the Bible says we have to play and many of the scriptures you brought out, plus others is our part. Thank you for sharing.
Jesus had the authority to call out the Pharisees because he can read hearts and And they were directly misleading people that they had the responsibility of. it’s not really our place to call out someone a narcissist because we would be judging and we don’t know personally if someone will change. this is applies to Christians and non Christians (Matthew 7:1-5) Some hurt people will take this message and run with it causing divisions and tensions. A lot of hurt people don’t correct people from a place of love. Look at the narcissist trend now. Yes you can loving try in correct but people have free will if they resist, you can set boundaries and pray for them. You have to use discernment with this because you can find narcissist traits in anyone and even more so on people who have been around other narcissist people who broke them. time limits and boundaries is good enough. The Bible also says be peaceable not confrontational (romans 12:18)
Be as cunning as serpents and gentle as doves. That's another Scripture it just might work.
What many don't realise is that by NOT standing against wrong, the wrong is empowered and strengthened to continue, and it will do so. It also only causes us greater weakness in not standing in faith against it. David didn't defeat Goliath by lying down and 'loving' him - he stood in the power of God and trusted Him to deliver him - but he had to first take the first step of acting in faith as God impressed him to do - just as when also Moses told the children of Israel to take the first step of faith into the water when God indicated they were to cross the Red Sea - they had to take that first step before God provided the miracle He did.
You dont have to give pearls to the pigs. But if its about husband or wife its other story. Its a honoured calling for a true humbling school and people to survive that and grow in faith are chosen. When a true change happens in both its a trury amazing. Both have a lot to be healed in their heart and soul Narc and the other part.
I constantly pray for how to deal with a narcissist.
Yet no answers, because there are non flee away from them and pray for them at a distance, that’s all
I should have watched this video before moving in to a narcissistic landlord family, and also at work, but you can’t ignore people at work.
As a once toxic person and senior class empathic narcissist, I 💯 percent agree with all you have said. Jesus did all these very things to me. I fought Him brutally because my narcissist personality would not allow me to see myself as in need of His grace and " to have ears to listen" my ego was so big, yet weak that I admittedly was an antiChrist. I believed in His name but not having the humility necessary to be of His Spirit. It wasn't until 2020, just before the pandemic became a concern here in The USA that I had enough of my own toxins to get down on bended knee and ask Him to divorce me from me, to take my toxicity away from me. I did relapse here and there but lately I have been humbled so much that all I want in life is Him. I just want to serve Him and others, so yes, narcissistic behavior can be corrected but only once the narcissist gets sick of the suffering they face from the suffering they cause and give it over to Our King, the only who deserves a crown.❤
Kris Reece: This is an encouragement to continue to ignore all evil, ignorant, unaware and unbiblical comments. I hope you're very good at it by now. Never let any of them get under your skin. You know what you're talking about, you're gifted and you are greatly helping those of us who are living what you're talking about. We thank you.
My husband must be one . Hes has so many triggers or twist conversations until you feel crazy. He wont ever say hes sorry
Run!
They never go away
One word in dealing with narcissists: “Run!
Just started the video, I'm the narcissist fresh out of denial. Pray for me for my path to be straightened my heart and mind to be cleansed and my spirit renewed.
Most churches are not with any current issues.
I love this lady. She is so compassionate and wise. Listen and hear....bro's and sisters!
This I just what I needed. There's allot of clinical advice online on how to handle a Narc but this is the first time I'm hearing Biblical councel on the same topic.
you won't start to really heal deeply in your soul unless you leave and don't go back. ever. if they wouldn't change while losing you, he sure wouldn't change TRUTHFULLY if you went back for more b.s. ..tough love works great here.
Thank you for the Biblical based video. In the past, I have suffered dealing with multiple narcissists. The ones I have confronted in a loving way have shown toxic behavior such as rage fit, gaslighting, blame shifting, smear campaign, controlling, manipulation, etc. Ignoring and blocking the narcissist works for me.
Sometimes you Don't have a choice and can't get away from them.
There is a difference in difficult, toxic and evil people......
‘For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the cosmic powers over this present darkness, against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly places.’
Ephesians 6:12
Amen 🙏✨🕊📿❤️
The only issue I had with no contact was that I struggled with the commandment to honor my mother. She passed last year. I had a long and combative relationship with her as the scapegoat. But I did take to heart that one of the 10 Commandments is to honor parents. I knew she would never change and I knew the contact wore on my soul. Leaving her in her aged condition was not an option for me. I know many victims do ... We have to choose what we believe is best for us. I did know how to draw boundaries with her, but I will admit that until she passed, I was in constant emotional turmoil over our relationship. Still working through all of it now that she is gone.
Maybe God wanted you in this situation to give you a purpose like learning to do the exact opposite of whatever she did that was hurtful. You can overcome the sin that she couldn't . You are not a victim ,this is not what God wants you to believe for yourself. The desire for things to be different hurts. So, acceptance .It was something else inside of her that hurted you not her. Her real essence was God. As in everyone. You can honor her by honouring yourself cause she gave birth to you, it's enough sometimes . Looking into our own sins makes us understand others better. Also,often the resentment is towards ourselves so forgive yourself first.
I thought I was a failure in life especially in marriage cos of the abuse my narc husband and absent father kept pushing down my throat. It's 32 long years that I've endured. Now our 4 wonderful daughters,that I raised, are grown. I can sure have my life back. It's only about 5 years ago that I learnt about narcissism from my psychologist. All along I believed the lies of my narc hubby. I lost myself in that process but now I'm recovering myself and allow myself be real to me!
Stand hp to the hypocrisy and abuse 1John 5:16 cut off the relationship when necessary. Thanks for this amazing video
~Ignore them and focus on your mission~ ❤️
I prayed harder than ever before throughout the relationship (I didn’t know it was a narcissistic abuse I was going through) and I have had my faith truly shaken, I’ve prayed a lot after but nothing. I’m just living best I can with what I got.
Living the best I can , same here.
We need to pray for protection from our narcissistic daughter and her husband
Thank you. I so needed this christian perspective on the wicked snd cruel narcissists. Sadly i have 2 sons that are malignant narcissists. Only God can save them. So, so sad.
I was dealing with a narcissist and for the longest I wanted to build a family with this individual. I am thankful I didn’t have children with him. I removed myself and that was the blessing.
My spouse knows the bible and uses it to get his supply . Once he learned Christains were trusting people he started targeting . Everyone believes he is the most wonderful person . Should i say Wolf in Sheeps Clothing .
Covert narcissist. Yep, everyone thinks my husband is wonderful. Loving, caring, such a fine Christian man. They don't know he's spent 40 years mentally and emotionally abusing me, the person he promised to love and cherish. There are times I want to call him out for the hypocrite he is, but I don't. I have a dear friend who lends an ear when I need it. I refuse to engage with him anymore, which drives him crazy, but I refuse to be his supply. I refuse to be beat up emotionally and mentally.
The devil also knows the Bible. You have to study to show yourself approved to God and learn to rightly divide His Word, so that when the devil (narc) cherry picks Scripture such as "honor thy father and mother" (when they are abusive), you can counter with Jesus said" "Whoever loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me".....or "Give honor to whom honor is due"....(honor is not due abusers!) etc.
@@annebodee I agree, everyone thinks they are so wonderful, fun, charismatic,,,,,and yet, behind closed doors, there’s another side to them. May I ask, are you still with him? Breaking away is so difficult.
I've noticed in my life, I did cut ties with my mother. I moved away, out of the area. However, she tried contacting me through either my sister or my uncle. My mother passed away in 2016 from cancer. I'm trying to heal from all her abuse.
I couldn't care less about narcs. I've eliminated all the narcs that I could from my life. The only ones remaining being my boss and a couple of coworkers that I cannot get rid of. I avoid the coworkers and as for my boss, I had a meeting in the presence of my union rep, to tell him to never talk to me about anything, not even to say hi. Just the stuff that is work related and needs to be done. I also tend to attract narcissistic women in my romantic relationships, so while am working out the why do I attract the same type of women, I put a stop to romantic relationships. Being single is a good thing.
Amen. 🌸..I've ignored, I've called them out ....but it didn't change...in fact it became an ugly war...until I had to once again find the strength to call them out and cut them off.
This person's words have no weight with me anymore.
I am so grateful to God for bringing me out of that situation so safely. I always say God is sensitive about me
GOD MAKES NO MISTAKES ❤ I FOUND THIS CHANNEL yesterday during very dark times! The breakup is still fresh but narcissism has not stopped even after breaking up 😢I’m cut em off completely now
My alcoholic son is a narcissist. It’s horrible
Wow that was exactly what I needed to hear thank you so much . I am dealing with a narcissistic mother , really terrible and has caused me so much pain and misery and to my 2 sisters . She plays one sister off against the other by spreading lies and then places herself as the innocent victim in the middle of the storm …..I called on the Lord in desperation and His mighty wisdom pointed me to this passage in Proverbs ……when the whisperer is silenced all contentions cease ……my , by distancing myself and cutting her off ….no more arguments….she was literally tearing my family apart …..now peace and quiet ….
But when we ignore them they have another excuse to blame us. I get your point though Kris. Ignoring them gives us strength in Christ. 😁🙏
I think my adult daughter is demonized with multiple spirits of narcissism from her deceased biological father. She consistently causes arguments and ruthless smear campaigns against anyone who won't go along with her manipulation, lies and abuse. She's cruel, vindictive, slanderous, and will make up outrageous & horrible lies - especially towards me, my husband, her brother, and those who love her the most, but who resist her manipulation tactics. However, she's covert about her narcissism, and most don't see the Jekyll & Hyde personality because she hides it from the unsuspecting. She needs deliverance but she's too blinded by pride and rebellion to seek help.
Omg my daughter acts this same way, the world really not good at all people have ruined God world he had for us and joining with spirits instead of Father God. Evil is like boiling water smh I’m sorry keep praying for her
Pray she doesn't commit the unpardonable sin by continually blaspheming Christ's holy spirit as He draws her to seek God.🙏 Fast and pray for she has had these spirits a long time. Rebuke her spirits in the name of Jesus. Remember, Jesus set the demoniacs free from the legion of devils.
Thankyou this really helped me. As I have been desperatly holding onto my narcisstic husband and believing I must pray for him. But he and his narcisstic parents have bullied me, threatened me and abused me for 3 years and my husband was getting more controlling, nasty and violent till he broke 4 of my ribs.
I still feel devistated the marriage is over but my husband has shown no care, no remorse despite claiming to be Christian which is a lie. His actions show his not a Christian. A man is known by his fruits. Gods people are known by their love. No love for me. I have been completely discarded like trash.
My hearts still healing and divorce is finalised in a few months😢💔
We live in a fallen world.. i suggest dont get married and have a relationship with Jesus.. He will be with you and provide for you..
You’ll find that this separation is one of the best things God has done for you. I pray for peace to envelope your mind and heart until you see it!
I feel very sorry for my wife. She became a narc and chose the evil path. I feel that she sold her soul to the devil, she was never the same when we met and got married, she always had a difficult character but she was kind and caring. I recently caught her having an affair and we are now divorcing. She is showing no repentance or empathy towards me. We have a 6 year old kid together. I am faithful man and I have always believed in Jesus Christ, but earlier this year, I became even more attached to my religion, that is how God opened my eyes and I saw the light. At first, after I confronted her, I prayed for her and I really wanted her to change, I was not aware that she is a narcissist. Now I am praying only for my child and for myself
Jesus is a specialist for hopeless cases. Pray for your wife, ex-wife. Satan and his demons love to influence people.
No! Do not continue to pray for any narc in your life as the above commenter stated!! All that does is keep you connected to the demon they are. Run!
Great tips! I think both ignoring or calling out can be difficult for many people. On one hand, we want to defend ourselves and on the other hand, people falsely believe that we shouldn't call out others as Christians. I appreciate the way you broke this down.
Thank you for sharing!
WOW!!! I needed this. I have believed all these points even before I heard this post. I feel confirmed and supported now. 👏😊❤️👊👍!!!
God just delivered me from the my manipulative person in my life. Praise the Lord Jesus my savior.
Please pray for my household. The narcissist is my father. My mom, sister and I, are struggling.
Same 🥺
I have a narcissist attached that feeds on my soul, how low can one go! I loosen myself of anyone to break in in my body, soul or spirit, in agreement with this whole message and matthew 9:10-12, matthew 23:29-30, matthew 10:12-16, 1 john 5:16 in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!
amen.
well i hope u broke that attachment and no longer have any contact with that person.
Fast be celebate & get away
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I'm trying to reconcile cutting someone out of my life who wants me to be their best friend While being really nasty and horrible with their behaviour, along with realising that I have to keep that person out of my life so that they don't endanger my well-being or physical safety. i'm so glad that Jesus lets us love and forgive people from a distance if we can't keep the door open for them because of safety reasons. i'm all about shaking the dust off my feet and moving on instead of putting up with manipulation and other horrible things.
There are so many flavors of narcs in the world, in the church and at work it seems the only way to not be entangled with narcissists these days is identify and avoid. Good information.
You pretty much have to become a hermit in order to avoid them nowadays.