Don't Argue with a Narcissist - God Says Do This Instead!

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  • @Kris_Reece
    @Kris_Reece  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +71

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    • @giselamovilla8978
      @giselamovilla8978 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Kris_Reece Thank you 🙏🏻

    • @rebeccareed667
      @rebeccareed667 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@Kris_Reece Thank you for this Godly advise!

    • @seaglasscolor
      @seaglasscolor 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Just laugh!

    • @mrslavanderblu
      @mrslavanderblu 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Are narcissists raised and trained by other narcissists? I think my husband’s father taught him to be this way.

    • @mrslavanderblu
      @mrslavanderblu 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      As far as working through issues, what to do when they won’t work through issues with you. How do you do this?

  • @knightlight2627
    @knightlight2627 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +435

    Narcissists rewrite history to escape accountability.

    • @elizabethbarefoot1111
      @elizabethbarefoot1111 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      This!!!! My ex thinks we got divorced bc I stopped loving him. Has nothing to do with him breaking my arms and ribs and putting me and my 4 kids in financial ruin. Nothing to do with him going to prison for theft bc he can’t provide. They are monsters.

    • @berenc7619
      @berenc7619 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@knightlight2627 they only rewrite history that will hold them accountable.

    • @berenc7619
      @berenc7619 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@knightlight2627 and that still backfires on them - in the worst way .😎✌️

    • @zepgirl6495
      @zepgirl6495 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@knightlight2627 That is so, so true!!

    • @katturner1
      @katturner1 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      BEAUTIFUL QUOTE! May I repeat it? I'll give you credit, of course.

  • @GS-qd1lt
    @GS-qd1lt 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +964

    FYI, I am divorced and still sad for 50 years, but I HAD to share....... the last thing he said to me was, " the reason this marriage failed, is because YOU stopped trying"..... but my experience only drew me closer and closer to my Lord, Amen......

    • @Bila-hu4qw
      @Bila-hu4qw 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +52

      Praying for your complete healing.

    • @GS-qd1lt
      @GS-qd1lt 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +49

      @@Bila-hu4qw thank you! I actually feel healed and now I can pray for others to get out now!🥰😇

    • @rosannearcher6706
      @rosannearcher6706 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +46

      45 years for me, yes it's exhausting. Praise God I have support and a daily peace with my heavenly Father.... healing will take time for as long as we need.

    • @BigRebel0802
      @BigRebel0802 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      😜🤮🤪🙏

    • @SweepTheLeg2023
      @SweepTheLeg2023 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +55

      ❤✝ “When darkness overtakes the righteous, light will come bursting in.” Psalm 112:4

  • @saturdayschild8535
    @saturdayschild8535 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +608

    Narcissists will claim you are accusing them when you confront them with the truth of their actions. Don’t ever argue with them. They just want your energy and to wreck you emotionally.
    Let them believe what they want. They will do that anyway. Disengaging will save your sanity.

    • @Kris_Reece
      @Kris_Reece  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

      Exactly!

    • @FrankBizon
      @FrankBizon 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      I agree and I went from a Borderline to a Narcissist and I am such a mess. It became almost the same dynamic but just different enough to throw me off and delude myself from believing I was with a Narc.

    • @thinkitnotstrange
      @thinkitnotstrange 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Narcissist are trolls and once you find that out they don’t have to wreck your emotions. Now I agree every conversation you have with them you don’t need to feed into but I look at how Jesus handled His trolls the Scribes and the Pharisees in John 8 and each time He told them the truth and let them make of it what they will. In that chapter alone He addressed lies, accusations and told them who their father was- the devil and all of that was done in truth. Now yes, I believe we are not to start any arguments, Jesus never did, but are to speak as the Holy Spirit leads us and how He leads us to speak, not to convince or make anybody do or believe anything but to present the truth and if they don’t want to accept it, then knock the dust off your shoes and keep moving as Jesus said to do.

    • @truthorconsequences5470
      @truthorconsequences5470 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      ​@@Kris_ReeceKim, you should clean up your channel. Above this comment is one of those scammers trying to get money out of your viewers -- why don't you delete and block these ppl???

    • @endtimesarehere1322
      @endtimesarehere1322 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      A narcissist will never want to get help because only you need help.

  • @marionclark
    @marionclark 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +193

    A Narcissist cannot experience joy and he makes sure that those closest to him don’t experience joy.

    • @eg4151
      @eg4151 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@marionclark
      👍

    • @jinaking3376
      @jinaking3376 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      That's so true! You'll end up joyless and depressed. Then you will look around and say, what just happened here! SMH

    • @marionclark
      @marionclark หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@jinaking3376
      Exactly!

    • @janiceteasley732
      @janiceteasley732 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      True

    • @madamany888
      @madamany888 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      They’ll sell their soul to make sure you experience pure HELL!!!

  • @leonapietsch4367
    @leonapietsch4367 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +244

    Don’t ever trust them. Go no contact. Trust God. Live your best life living like Jesus. ✝️

    • @billstewart1747
      @billstewart1747 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      One year no contact with mom. It’s been amazing 🎉

    • @smile-tweetybird1151
      @smile-tweetybird1151 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      this does not sound healthy

    • @ClaireGraceMarshall-jr5mm
      @ClaireGraceMarshall-jr5mm 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      There is absolutely nothing healthy about narcissism or narcissists, I learned never to get into an argument with my mother, it's just pointless

    • @jinaking3376
      @jinaking3376 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Amen and Amen!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • @trishbartlett2569
      @trishbartlett2569 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      14 months now No Contact at all with ex husband. Peace at last….

  • @Summ3r010
    @Summ3r010 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +381

    Narcissists actually Never win, they just remain "Lost".

    • @mistiquefire3462
      @mistiquefire3462 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Oh they win alright but are sickos

    • @kre8504
      @kre8504 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Summ3r010 They are perpetual cheaters, & only in their twisted mind are the winners. They view everyone as their slaves: & finding an example of it online, revealed it to me. Their heads are screwed on backwards. Unfortunately, they are deceptive in their dealings with people & their sources of supply are blinded to the image they project onto their targets, which is their actual image of themselves.

    • @Summ3r010
      @Summ3r010 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      @@mistiquefire3462 What exactly do they win? When ultimately they never gain a driplet of peace.

    • @44ARISEandSHINE44
      @44ARISEandSHINE44 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

      @@Summ3r010 What they win is temporary. They win support, sometimes money, other things they want etc... but it won't last forever and God will make sure it doesn't.

    • @EricK-nm2gg
      @EricK-nm2gg 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

      @@Summ3r010they don’t want peace, they want chaos. Although their soul desperately wants peace, they have no relationship with their soul. So they are lost souls, and everyone in their path will suffer from their lack of humanity.

  • @DYoung2112
    @DYoung2112 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +233

    Sometimes its better to say nothing rather than say something that an adversary could later use against you.

    • @FrankBizon
      @FrankBizon 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      True but then they will bate you with something like your being an avoidant but you claim you are not. Or then if you don't have anything to say then they assume you are guilty of what they accuse you of.

    • @DYoung2112
      @DYoung2112 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@FrankBizon //they assume you are guilty of what they accuse you of.//let them assume what they want.Its not possible to control what what other people think so better not try in the first place,with any luck they will go away.But I realize its not that easy for someone who is living with a bully who maybe their spouse/sibling/parent etc.If you are then maybe moving out/throwing them out is the best thing to do

    • @lorrainemagarian2677
      @lorrainemagarian2677 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Which narcissists do all the time. They collect fodder to wage their warfare.

    • @Deborah-uw5ip
      @Deborah-uw5ip 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@FrankBizon I confess: I'm totally avoidant when it comes to them! They don't realize they repel people away from them with their behaviors. Or maybe they do realize & do it on purpose? IDK but remind myself that what they think and say belongs to THEM. It's their stuff. I now choose to leave others' stuff on their shoulders. Give it to God and let it go. Continue to be civil and as kind as I can muster bc that's what's in my control.

    • @christy1768
      @christy1768 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yeah and some will nit pick you for not saying anything. Have had it happen. I just say ok now bc it's not agreeing. It's simply acknowledging.

  • @di4085
    @di4085 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +138

    Save your breath. They will always have the last say. Don't take the bait when they provoke you. They truly wear you out. It's not worth it. Let God deal with them.

    • @tonyingram4568
      @tonyingram4568 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@di4085 exactly

    • @TrackLives_Matter
      @TrackLives_Matter หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Agree!

    • @louborlagdan140
      @louborlagdan140 14 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      🙏🙏🙏

    • @di4085
      @di4085 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@louborlagdan140 No matter how much pain they gave you. Because there's an evil operating in them.

  • @lilhoss1
    @lilhoss1 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +148

    After years of abuse, I won't tolerate a narcissist. I close the door never to return.

    • @celestial_s
      @celestial_s 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Yeah i'm done with them no more bs.

    • @mamajan99
      @mamajan99 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Trying to "fix" a narc is a symptom of one's own issues, from what I have seen. Likely a bit of co-dependency.

  • @laurelletieman4943
    @laurelletieman4943 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +503

    There are many narc-knowledgable people on youtube, but I need this Christian perspective! Thank you, Chris!

    • @angelaharris1112
      @angelaharris1112 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      Yesss. This is
      what I needed
      most. ❤

    • @stevev2292
      @stevev2292 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +46

      Yes, she is the best source of information about narcissism from a Christian perspective that I have found. Yes, others may profess to be Christians (and probably many actually are) but she is the only one I've found who actually addresses it as foundationally being a spiritual issue and she uses many scripture verses to explain her point from the Word of God. Most other sources feel more like self-help with a splash of Christian-ese sprinkled on top (which sometimes feels more like just taking advantage of marketing to a larger Christian audience). But I'd rather take advice from God's Word and she helps me see what God has to say about these issues and then she gives me explanations of how to apply this wisdom (from God) to my life. So thankful for her Spirit-led ministry!

    • @Kris_Reece
      @Kris_Reece  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      Thank you!

    • @Kris_Reece
      @Kris_Reece  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      @@stevev2292 I'm so glad you're being blessed by the content :)

    • @Groundwater24
      @Groundwater24 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Kris_Reece your video about ‘8 demonic signs’ is currently showing 1-2-3-4-5-6-6-6. Rather than 1-8 if that makes sense?

  • @gregtheresadahl
    @gregtheresadahl 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +113

    I was a narcissist but then I got saved and now 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 is my litmus test. I have memorized and play this verse in my mind often. Being a servant brakes the sin of narcissisms. I don't have to win anymore. Thank you Jesus!

    • @cindyhuerta6877
      @cindyhuerta6877 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@gregtheresadahl that makes total sense to me, thanks for sharing. What has come to my mind to respond to my husband is when the Lord says in Scripture the one that serves others is the greatest. Of course I'm not planning to say that in a discussion.

    • @gregtheresadahl
      @gregtheresadahl หลายเดือนก่อน

      @cindyhuerta6877 my book is coming out soon for purchase but if your husband would read it I can email you a copy for free. It is entitled "In search of reality". Just need you email.

    • @charitymokeira
      @charitymokeira หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@gregtheresadahl ameeen

    • @TrackLives_Matter
      @TrackLives_Matter หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Amen 🙏

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      @judielise หลายเดือนก่อน

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  • @cherylvanesch3086
    @cherylvanesch3086 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +196

    “Fighting a Fight that doesn’t exist” well put

  • @Emily_Paris
    @Emily_Paris 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +282

    Because I left my ex husband due to emotional/mental/physical abuse(he caused acid reflux and vomiting) he said I abandoned him. Truth is, he emotionally abandoned me way before I left. I was just a doormat and a trash can to him. Freedom is good.

    • @JimboBaker
      @JimboBaker 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      Amen! Only in reverse! You just described my ex-wife other than the physical abuse. I’ve had numerous surgeries on my GI tract, including the Lap Niessen for excessive acid reflux. Also, as a typical Type A personality and exuding confidence when I met her in 1994, I dealt with severe depression in 2006 and again from 2012-2021. Even though I loathe divorce, in general, and made my ex promise me that she would never seek a divorce before I’d even propose to her, I am SO thankful that God allowed me to be removed from my marriage.

    • @carolcollins6243
      @carolcollins6243 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      I needed this today. First my daughter earlier today, then someone this evening who I knew was a problem. I should never have told the 2nd person about the issue I had with my daughter earlier because then the 2nd person used that to prove that I have the problem with communication, not him.

    • @yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753
      @yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      You understand! God bless you

    • @mamajan99
      @mamajan99 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      I am so sorry. My wife had that for a father. A person would be in prison today if that were done to a child. Humans are a mess. We need Christ's hope of salvation. He understands. He was severely abused by the Narcs in His day.

    • @docdr6781
      @docdr6781 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @emily_paris part of my story verbatim. I do not like it at all; we left 1 month ago. Lord please comfort

  • @EC-yd9yv
    @EC-yd9yv 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +45

    “Do not answer a fool according to his folly, or you yourself will be just like him” (Proverbs 26:4). How Does ...

  • @missAKfam
    @missAKfam 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +76

    They love to attack the things that you hold true about yourself. Integrity, respect, dignity etc. That’s why you find yourself arguing because at least for me I feel like I need to defend the values I hold dear about myself which is why the longer you remain in a narcissistic relationship you will begin to lose the best of who you are. Get out. It’s not worth it.

    • @Vgaf99
      @Vgaf99 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thank you, this is true!

    • @livingforChrist
      @livingforChrist หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Ain’t this true!!!?
      He would always try to put me down saying this Cristin life wasn’t helping me, that I was still the same person, that I wasn’t a good Cristian, when in reality he was just projecting himself. After 3 years he finally confessed he’s always been a fake Christian in front of my eyes, I was like you think I didn’t know that? 🤦🏻‍♀️

    • @janiecepoush1904
      @janiecepoush1904 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Yes, BUT…
      When you have REALLY FIGURED it OUT, it is EASY to NOT ENGAGE!
      My EX NARC’s complete Face Fell when I told him, “I AM NOT COMMENTING: Not because I Agree - No; Not Because I Disagree - No; Not because I’m Complacent & Don’t Care - No! I Am not responding to your HOUR LONG dissertation on Finances because I KNOW that it’s a Set-Up for you to Do Exactly Opposite of ALL that you just Said, & what might be good! I simply Don’t Care to waste my Time!” (This was his 3rd time at the Say & Promise One Thing Game & Then DO THE EXACT OPPOSITE!)
      That was the Last time he played the Psycho-Flip Opposite Game on Me! And THEN HE KNEW that I KNEW! There was MORE that I had figured out, in a Short RUSH if REALIZATION!
      The END!
      Yes, The GAMES had no Power any More & it was… THE BEGINNING of the END! I even asked him 3 Times, if he’d like a No-Contest Amiable Divorce! NO - He wanted to Spend Lots of Money for Nothing!
      🙏🏻🌸☀️🕊🍃

  • @sharondoan1447
    @sharondoan1447 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +112

    After 44 years of my husband’s toxic behavior, I have come to dislike even the sound of his voice. He is a narcissist. In our younger years, he cussed constantly about every small incident. His glasses fell off the desk as he was reaching for them. He regaled the whole house with his profanity. Has always prided himself on never raising a hand to me, feels like a saint in that regard. According to him the fits of instant anger were always due to job pressures, people cutting him off in traffic, failure of equipment to function properly, long list of “ justifications”. None of those were anything but a failure of his self control and respect for anyone within hearing distance. I gave up on having the happy marriage we might have had long ago. Now I am keeping to myself as much as possible. He says, “ I love you” at least 20 times a day. It’s a bargaining tool the narcissist uses.

    • @usernameanonymous158
      @usernameanonymous158 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      @@sharondoan1447 😢 I am so sorry you have had to go through this...

    • @sharondoan1447
      @sharondoan1447 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      @@usernameanonymous158 Thank you for your kind words.

    • @kareninman2865
      @kareninman2865 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Thank you Thank you thank you!

    • @ARKH76
      @ARKH76 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      48 years yesterday! No 'I LOVE YOU' in 15 years!

    • @LisaMQuinn
      @LisaMQuinn 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      42 years in, hiding in Italy..
      By myself...🎉

  • @anitarose7915
    @anitarose7915 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +108

    And as a Christian, we are told to forgive, and yes, he pulled this guilt trip with me. So, I told him, "Yes, I do forgive you! That is not the issue. It is a matter of the 'Content of Your Character' that is the issue!"

    • @rosannearcher6706
      @rosannearcher6706 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Yes we work on forgiveness but we DO NOT have to stay and remember it's not your fault or responsibility on how they chose to live

    • @anacardinale5769
      @anacardinale5769 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Forgiveness sets us free to let God handle the justice His way. But no way does forgiveness mean reconciliation. Walk away.

    • @Lauren-vd4qe
      @Lauren-vd4qe 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      i forgive you, now im going to totally avoid you

    • @farmland-life
      @farmland-life 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      @@anitarose7915 Not even God forgives a person who never repents.

    • @SierraNovemberKilo
      @SierraNovemberKilo 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@anitarose7915 Please stop thinking you have to "forgive" someone else. Forgiveness is something that you apply to yourself. That is, forgive yourself for being deceived. Walk away from the lying, abusing individual and let God judge - as it is only God that judges. Repent your "gullibility" or what ever word you want to call it, promise God you are going to take your lesson and be a better person.

  • @danielbridgewater3444
    @danielbridgewater3444 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +159

    I have found in my own experience that it's way more productive to argue with a fence post.

    • @Coolingfin
      @Coolingfin 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      @@danielbridgewater3444 herding cats😁

    • @ewilson1392
      @ewilson1392 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      😂😂😅

    • @toninevitt8860
      @toninevitt8860 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      😂

    • @yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753
      @yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      There's really not a lot of upside to arguing in the first place

    • @Coolingfin
      @Coolingfin 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753 You are correct. I see Daniel finding humor in the situation, which can be healthy. Trying to reason with the unreasonable, if you can't laugh you can go insane.

  • @Ann-vp6cq
    @Ann-vp6cq 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +170

    And it all boils down to control with a narcissist.

    • @tmking7483
      @tmking7483 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      "Boil" is the key word
      "Anger" disguised as "Compassion"

    • @FrankBizon
      @FrankBizon 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Yup they are very controlling and they will also accuse you of being controlling. I have been accused of all the things the narc I just left did to me. Now she is hoovering me bad and I am going to have to cut ties soon for my own sanity and so I can heal once again. I already spent many years with a Borderline and was already damaged enough.

    • @mamajan99
      @mamajan99 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Narcissist most extreme control is murder. The second is not telling the family were the body is.

  • @paulapatino4834
    @paulapatino4834 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

    The best we can do with a Narcissist is AVOID THEM FOREVER!!!!! No matter who they are (family, friends, etc).

    • @janiecepoush1904
      @janiecepoush1904 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Sometimes… Strong Boundaries is Sufficient & More Merciful, allowing them to Grow with Healthy Example! (Sometimes!)
      🙏🏻🌸☀️🕊🍃

  • @amypemberton528
    @amypemberton528 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +102

    I found the result of arguing with a narcissist to be less successful than trying to nail applesauce to a wall.

    • @amypemberton528
      @amypemberton528 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@jasonm4927, you’re very welcome! Supporting each other, we can take a victory away from the enemy and give it to God.
      I was married to a narcissist for 25 years. Unfortunately, I didn’t learn about narcissism until just before I started my divorce. For all those years, I had the misguided notion I was responsible for making him happy and thought he would be-if I just worked increasingly harder. I also refused to give up because I believed God would change him. And then one morning, I heard God say, “You cannot do what I sent you to do if you stay where you are.”
      Being completely transparent with you, I admit I still have times I believe I should have tried harder, but there was truly nothing left for me to try. And you’re correct! There’s SO MUCH to learn from our experiences! My relationship with God has grown enormously and I have grown in necessary and beneficial ways as well.
      I have found happiness in a quiet life. And today I found happiness in comments from a fellow survivor. Life IS good.❤️

    • @vikkiflaig4735
      @vikkiflaig4735 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Ha. I'm going to use that one. They argue for fun for sport. That's the really sick part of it all.

  • @ChineseChicken1
    @ChineseChicken1 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    "Don't Join them on that playground", because that's what they are, grown up children.

    • @hollikrebs
      @hollikrebs 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I think they can inherit it and learn it from how they were raised being abused but excusing them and smoothing things over for them doesn’t help them

  • @wisemanadvices9541
    @wisemanadvices9541 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +168

    I don't know why I am watching this? 🤣🤣I have kicked the narcissists out of my life.. And they also discarded me.. And Now I am dancing💃🕺🕺👯👯👯👯👯💃💃💃

    • @Coolingfin
      @Coolingfin 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Because you are a demon possedsed closet case stalker perhaps? Need a ride to McLean? Call Uber.

    • @arlenepallett7146
      @arlenepallett7146 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      @wisemanadvices9541 don't worry, you'll keep running into them! In new forms of course, be it neighbors, co-workers, family, bosses so on and so on!😏🫡best wishes!

    • @wisemanadvices9541
      @wisemanadvices9541 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@arlenepallett7146 why should I ? when I know I am healed or healing and know about narc abuse.

    • @soniaflores1046
      @soniaflores1046 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@wisemanadvices9541 yes be careful u might attract them. It took me some year to realize I had second narcissist in my life. The more you learn the more you can protect your mental

    • @bettydoughtery3920
      @bettydoughtery3920 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Bravo, but keep an eye out...

  • @thewhatsup
    @thewhatsup 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +140

    The hard part for me is the irrational arguments that catch me off guard. When it isn’t even an arguing issue.

    • @kennybrooks8374
      @kennybrooks8374 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Same

    • @SherryG370
      @SherryG370 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      That's why I won"t respond back till I take a step back....then I give a one text response...and let it go.

    • @thewhatsup
      @thewhatsup 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@SherryG370 I wish our correspondence was limited to text. In person harassment can happen all throughout the day just as they walk through a room.

    • @SherryG370
      @SherryG370 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@thewhatsup This is a co worker you are dealing with?

    • @thewhatsup
      @thewhatsup 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@SherryG370 no, family.

  • @angietorok8389
    @angietorok8389 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +101

    After 54 years, I'm finally at a place with my Mom where I accept that she will never change. I've just decided to take this relationship for what it is. I want to follow the Biblical command to respect her, so I make a point of helping her when it is reasonable to do so. I also make an effort not to complain to others about her, especially our mutual acquaintances. They'd never understand it anyway. At this point, since my enabling father has passed and I'm the only child still speaking to her, she's lost a lot of her sting. For the first time in my life, through the grace of Christ, I actually feel compassion for her. After all, who knows what happened to make her such a mess? I pray for her Salvation. Its in God's hands.

    • @bellabarro6881
      @bellabarro6881 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      @@angietorok8389 well said, and a good place to be. I am in a similar situation with my husband. 48 years, and finally, not angry at him, but, I try to help him when I can and do for myself what I need. God bless you, sister, keep running the race, and eyes fixed on Jesus, is my heart

    • @hollikrebs
      @hollikrebs 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      You’ve come over the hill and you’ve got peace.

    • @kmbpookyify
      @kmbpookyify 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@angietorok8389 Glad you took the high road…..it is what God loves about you. Just knowing you are doing Gods will should calm and keep you. God Bless You 🙏🏼

    • @angietorok8389
      @angietorok8389 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@bellabarro6881 You are obviously strong in your faith. The Lord will bless you for it.

    • @angelabritten48
      @angelabritten48 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Well done, that is love in action. You may well lead her to Jesus. ❤

  • @carriemartin3542
    @carriemartin3542 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I've gotten so much from this channel. One thing is that forgiveness must be given to honor God, but forgiveness doesn't equal trust. Nowhere in scripture does it say "trust thy neighbor". Trust must be earned. Very liberating truths!

  • @imago9059
    @imago9059 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +88

    I no longer argue. I just say "let's agree to disagree". Period. And if it continues I walk away.

    • @mamajan99
      @mamajan99 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      YES! The "NEED" to find agreement is often very toxic, for both parties.

    • @FrankBizon
      @FrankBizon 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      How do you handle false accusations?

    • @sparkle6258
      @sparkle6258 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@FrankBizon Yes, I was told by the narcissist, "Let's agree to disagree." But, what that meant to the narcissist was that I should be agreeing with her false accusations against me, i.e., her smear campaign. Nope, couldn't let that one go. It defied logic and reasoning and sparked my dying relative to spend precious time trying to "make peace." But, of course, logic, reason, and "making peace" mean nothing to a narcissist.

    • @OfftoShambala
      @OfftoShambala 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ⁠I’ve said, if you don’t believe me, there’s nothing I can do about it.

    • @debras3806
      @debras3806 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Things like this sound brilliant but don’t work in real life…where you NEED him to give you the credit card for groceries, etc. So we agree to disagree that the kids need to eat?!?

  • @juanderuano8969
    @juanderuano8969 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +407

    A captivating video summary, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

    • @elladonaldson-lh6nc
      @elladonaldson-lh6nc 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back

    • @juanderuano8969
      @juanderuano8969 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

    • @elladonaldson-lh6nc
      @elladonaldson-lh6nc 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

    • @juanderuano8969
      @juanderuano8969 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

    • @Booboonancy
      @Booboonancy 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      LOL

  • @christy1768
    @christy1768 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Silence can also make it worse. A simple "ok" is sometimes best. Also, a blank stair while blinking a few times and not saying anything might make them reconsider. I don't know why, but it does work.

  • @hanichay1163
    @hanichay1163 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +93

    I don’t even want my opinions valued. I just want them to quit attacking and shaming me for my beliefs and forcing their all new ideologies on me.

    • @angelaharris1112
      @angelaharris1112 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Right. Wouldn't that be great!

    • @Lauren-vd4qe
      @Lauren-vd4qe 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      then avoid them

    • @SharonKrause-ls3lw
      @SharonKrause-ls3lw 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Difficult if married to them.

    • @milycortes-ruiz3536
      @milycortes-ruiz3536 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      They won’t. Bottom line the narcissist, will weaponize our needs and out points of view against us…

    • @hanichay1163
      @hanichay1163 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Or if they are your own child

  • @granth9352
    @granth9352 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I can tell that This Woman has been through a Lot, and I Know shes 100% correct on every single point that shes made on this video.

    • @charitymokeira
      @charitymokeira หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I completely agree with you.

    • @janiecepoush1904
      @janiecepoush1904 4 วันที่ผ่านมา

      🙏🏻🕊🍃

  • @earthangel8875
    @earthangel8875 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +71

    Thank you, ladies, great video. I started using boundaries and speaking them to my mother. It doesn't work, but at that moment when I say, If you continue to make derogatory remarks about my wife, I will leave. My mother dismisses what I said, so I walk out the door. I do the same thing when we talk on the phone. I hang up.
    She twists everything around and says I am treating her like a child. Then she mocks me in a weird voice and says she's not a child, "If I don't do this I will do that" She says that in a weird, taunting voice as if she was a 12-year-old child on a playground. Well, I am not. I am a grown man now and I don't play those games anymore.
    It has taken me a few years to make my boundaries and Stick to them. She raised me (only child) to not be disrespectful. She says I was being disrespectful and I felt guilty at first....but not anymore. She is the one that is disRespecting me.
    Our relationship has diminished but I now have Peace of Mind knowing what I am dealing with. I don't know what happened to my mother. She is not the same. I suspect her Narc ways mixed with some type of brain disease dementia or Alzheimer's is a very bad combination.
    It has taken me a while to learn how to stop defending myself, but now that my eyes are open and with prayer for protection before I talk to her on the phone. I no longer take the bait, like I used to. She can no longer steal my energy away from me and it feels good to say that.
    Big thanks to Jesus and the therapist I have been talking to regarding my narc mother for 2 yrs. I am living my best life now. Thank you for sharing this video. It gives me confirmation that I am handling myself properly. MountainAngel

    • @usernameanonymous158
      @usernameanonymous158 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@earthangel8875 thank you for your openness!! 🙏🏻

    • @sandrathomas2893
      @sandrathomas2893 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I have the same Mom. It's the Jezebel spirit. I've learned how to shut it right down. They always generalize. Like my Mom will say, you've always been disrespectful to me. So I'll say please name exactly what I said or did specifically that was disrespectful. Then she'll spin it or go off topic....
      And I'll say, when you can stick to the topic at hand and answer the question I'll continue the conversation but until then I'm ending it.
      Then she'll dial all my siblings and smear me and say she's worried I have mental issues.
      I respond to my siblings, she's entitled to her own opinion, but I don't allow her to gossip about you to me for the record.
      The goal is to pull you into their black hole and keep you in the fight! 🙄

    • @user-yn7on7ou8n
      @user-yn7on7ou8n 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@earthangel8875 So happy for you. 🙂

    • @earthangel8875
      @earthangel8875 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I would also like to add that my mother used to make me feel very "guilty" saying we are the only family we have here. So I never left the Bay Area because I didn't want to leave her alone.
      That has changed. After a few years of weighing out the Pros & Cons and reaching out to various programs the Silicon Valley has to offer to Seniors and Independent living, example: IHSS (In Home Support Services)
      My wife of 26 yrs and I bought some rural mountain property (3 acres) I did my in-depth research. We are only 2.5 hrs away from my mother and a 1-hour flight should I need to get to her quickly should I "need" too.
      I tried to tell my mother we were interested in a property months ago (4 months from today 07-22-24) I tried to show her photos of the property on my laptop so she could see it, thinking she would be happy for us?
      She wanted NOTHING to do with looking at the photos I was so excited to share. She became upset, so she didn't hear a thing I said.
      I will admit it was not a good feeling for me. What was "I" thinking? Did I really think she would express any type of happiness and pride knowing we were going to buy a nice property?
      I never got to explain in detail. Instead I closed my laptop and left with my tail between my legs, but she didn't know it. I didn't show any type of emotion.
      She would have known how I felt if she would have looked at me, but she didn't. She gave me her back instead.
      I tried many times to interest her in a safe Senior Independent living situation but it fell on deaf ears.
      So I continued to do what I set my mind out to do. Contact Movers and make arrangements to move my wife and I to a more peaceful town with a population of 1,000 and the rest is history as of June 04, 2024
      We couldn't be happier. I couldn't be happier. Now, when I speak to my mother I keep it short. She has no idea I don't live 8 minutes away anymore.
      I don't want to tell her yet, not yet.
      I do keep an eye on things from afar through her doctors and the internet. I make sure she pays her bills with casual gentle reminders.
      I also pray a lot. She has always been an Independent woman. It's "Her" way or NO way, so be it. As long as she is content and not hurting herself or anyone else.
      Let me tell you I have not slept better in ALL my life. I have Peace, Peace of Mind, and Tranquility here in this small, slow, rural mountain area on 3 beautiful acres that resemble some of the parks in the Bay Area.
      I never thought I could leave the same city my mother lived in, but I did because "I" put Me first. "I" did what I thought was best for my wife and I.
      ......All the glory goes to God for giving me the strength and opportunity to buy this home.
      *Guilt Free MountainAngel formally Angel from The Bay

    • @sandrathomas2893
      @sandrathomas2893 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@earthangel8875 F.O.G.
      fear obligation and guilt

  • @rebeccacraig1038
    @rebeccacraig1038 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    They never want to discuss the past and how they hurt you ever but they will always and forever hold anything you did in the past against you. Mine did it to me. Told his fan club one reason he wanted divorce was because of something I did 6 yrs prior to us getting married. But now I see whatever his reason, this was God’s rescuing for me and I am so grateful. This relationship was killing me!!

    • @hollikrebs
      @hollikrebs 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      They have a double standard but if you point it out they deny and twist the conversation

    • @Marshmellow-u9h
      @Marshmellow-u9h 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      So why did he marry you if the thing you supposed did 6 years prior to him is a concerns... they are sooo messed up! The earth needs ourgung of these kinds they are next level earth devils

    • @justjulie43
      @justjulie43 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@hollikrebs Yep and you get a free lecture

  • @sayno2672
    @sayno2672 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +48

    My sister in law is a covert narcissist. I overheard when she was talking to my husband how she crush the people she doesn't like. She said that she would observe the person to find out the weakness in the person and strike that when the person is the most vulnerable. That's how I found out who I have been dealing with.

    • @sharonf3321
      @sharonf3321 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      She may be beyond a covert narcissist... maybe a psychopath? That is predatory behavior.

    • @sayno2672
      @sayno2672 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@sharonf3321 that was also what cross my mind at first, but I can’t tell if she has that personality. She is very smart academically which makes her pretty successful for what she does. She can be very sweet to people she likes to hang out. She loves own children and nieces and nephews. Unfortunately I am who she doesn’t like.

    • @sharonf3321
      @sharonf3321 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@sayno2672 I'm sorry you are going through this. It's strange she told your husband that... not very covert of her. They usually want to appear nice, and lie even to themselves that they are good. Psychopaths truly believe themselves to be superior, so can actually be quite open (bragging) about their psycho behavior. I hope you can stay out of her path as much as possible. 🙏💌

    • @Lauren-vd4qe
      @Lauren-vd4qe 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      thats literally witch craft, use 2 Tim 3 and AVOID her totally, going forward.

    • @sayno2672
      @sayno2672 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@sharonf3321 thank you so much for kind words. I paid the price for setting the boundary to her, but now I finally able to take care of myself.

  • @peggywheeler5118
    @peggywheeler5118 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +50

    After leaving a narcissist husband after 25 years, the pastor said, ‘it’s about holiness not happiness’. At that point, I didn’t say anything. The pastor had no idea what was going on behind closed doors. I saw the toll his controlling, emotional abuse took on me and the kids. Of course, he was the victim since I was the one who left. Classic!

    • @lcook3528
      @lcook3528 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I'm sorry for you...but good you are free. Most pastors don't have a clue how to handle these types. Best to seek out advice from a well informed Christian counselor....like Kris.

    • @sharondoan1447
      @sharondoan1447 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I commend you for your courage. The millions of women who are told and have been told that it is their fault if a man is a narcissist , a cheater, a gambler, a pornography addict , a drunk, a liar, you name it. Christian counseling will inevitably place heavy burdens on the woman who is the abused. The Bible seems to support this.

    • @maryohare4141
      @maryohare4141 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@peggywheeler5118 I saw that nuns and priests often came from a home with a very domineering parent...and entered into catholic training in their teens. So no dating years, no realistic romantic relationships within their own life. I have met those who have psychology degrees DO recognize abusive or domineering personalities...but have also been indocrinated to "encourage marriages are lifetime commitments...no divorces. " BUT GOD CREATED YOU, HAS PLANS FOR YOUR LIFE...AND WOULD NEVER WANT YOU TO BE ABUSED, MENTALLY OR EMOTIONALLY BATTERED...SO LOVE GOD AND LOVE AND PROTECT YOURSELF...RESPECT LIFE...INCLUDES YOUR OWN LIFE, TOO!

    • @RhythmAndRibs
      @RhythmAndRibs 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

      That's how I feel with my narc wife and at a point of no return in deciding to leave.

    • @sharondoan1447
      @sharondoan1447 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@peggywheeler5118 Why does organized Christian religion teach that a woman is not worthy of good treatment by her husband ? Women cannot allow themselves to be the lesser of the two people in a marriage. Human nature is warped and steeped in sin. Men who don’t lead their family sacrificially as Jesus led the Church and sacrificed himself for it are not worthy. They are not holy.

  • @Kimm_Berlyn
    @Kimm_Berlyn 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    This 20 minute video has to be one of your best most precise and concise plans on how to not argue with a narcissist. Thank you so very very much.

  • @endtimesarehere1322
    @endtimesarehere1322 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    This woman has nailed every aspect of a narcissist. Thank God I needed to hear this.

  • @IZJUSBB
    @IZJUSBB หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I honestly am so battered and bruised in my heart and mind because I met my own narcissist. And he actually called himself a demon. And because I recently found faith, and I also prayed to God in my worst time to meet him again (it's a long story he ghosted me for 2years.) The devil answered instead. And now I've finally with the grace and love and strength of God blocked him for good, told him what he is, and sent my blessings and love and said goodbye. I can't stop the tears, I can't stop the pain, but I will continue to pray for him, for us all, for my loved ones, for the world. Thank jesus for coming to me and always loving me. God is so mighty. 🙌🏼 ❤ the point of my comment is a little bit because I am still hurting but also to share my story and let others know you aren't alone in this pain, God is with you and so many go through this. You can be healed.❤

    • @devoniaearnest3791
      @devoniaearnest3791 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      I stand with you 34yrs not going to bless that mess!!!

    • @IZJUSBB
      @IZJUSBB 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@devoniaearnest3791 incredible you are ❤️

  • @ritataggart8153
    @ritataggart8153 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Sadly this is all very true, married to a narcissist for 45 years..as long as you go along with their way of thinking, it’s doable but once you question them & stand up for yourself, be prepared for confrontation! Stressful & exhausting!

    • @LisaMQuinn
      @LisaMQuinn 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      As long as you are a slave to their version of the future, all is well. As soon as you want something to move you forward spiritually or personally, and it uses time, that he wants all of, he will begin the passive aggressive guilting...mine said he wanted a divorce if I didn't get the jxb. Living the sweet life in Italy now with all the blood oranges...

    • @yolandabarnum4036
      @yolandabarnum4036 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😂🎉yesyesyes

  • @felizflores3977
    @felizflores3977 11 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    It’s best to walk away while you still can. Sometimes silence is key. And it speaks volumes.

  • @PamillaYoung-Dookie
    @PamillaYoung-Dookie 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +72

    I am labelled HYPERTENSIVE because of this demon I am living with!! My pressure plummeted in just two years!! It's so difficult living with this TOXIC DEMON

    • @gwdavey
      @gwdavey 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@PamillaYoung-Dookie why do you stay?

    • @laura3458
      @laura3458 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      ..I understand you.. I was there… but I got closer and closer to my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and I have peace, joy, happiness in Him. He really gives my strength and inner peace.. and I’m winning!!😊🙏👍❤️

    • @kareninman2865
      @kareninman2865 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes it is.

    • @courtneyshephard5875
      @courtneyshephard5875 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Yes I totally understand mine is a very toxic demon who is mentally abusing. I’m trying to find a way to escape I no longer have any love for him. He is draining the life out of me!

    • @endtimesarehere1322
      @endtimesarehere1322 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Demon is what I have my ex-wife programmed in my phone as.

  • @cherylvanesch3086
    @cherylvanesch3086 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    It escalated into physical intimidation, cornering, and bullying. And when I said I had to leave the room because he was bullying, cornering, and yelling at me, he wouldn’t let me leave. Then I had to make plans for a physical separation, I let him know I wanted to reconcile, but, only if he went to. Counseling, and showed real signs of true repentance. But he quit counseling and filed for divorce instead.

    • @katherineirvin7464
      @katherineirvin7464 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yes. Boundaries. You let him know you ain’t tolerating that evil behavior. Bound people hate boundaries.

    • @Lauren-vd4qe
      @Lauren-vd4qe 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      WHY would you want to reconcile with a person that bullies/threatens you???? READ 2 Tim 3, and AVOID HIM!!! STOP being a doormat!!!

    • @AlisonCampbell-is3sy
      @AlisonCampbell-is3sy หลายเดือนก่อน

      Textbook Predictable reaction & response from them...

  • @cherylvanesch3086
    @cherylvanesch3086 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    When I finally got it, and “opened not my mouth” my Narc spouse was totally done with me. Not responding took me out of his control and manipulation, and he did not like that

    • @reddawn8230
      @reddawn8230 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      They need a sparring partner sooooo desperately.

    • @livingforChrist
      @livingforChrist หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I started recording him and that was it for him. After that he said he never wanted to be with me.

    • @charitymokeira
      @charitymokeira หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@livingforChristworks all the time

  • @miownleyhope2473
    @miownleyhope2473 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

    Nailed it. I forgive, pray, and release him to God. Trust is NEVER coming back, never ever. 5 years in from setting boundaries and he hasn't tried to fix anything, so boundaries stay in place. And waaay too much time has passrd now for even repentence to undo some of the damage. Breaks my heart and soul, so I can image what it's doing to God's. God have mercy.

  • @created4passion442
    @created4passion442 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +185

    The church world has been duped into thinking that toxic forgiveness and toxic trust should be allowed. They kind of have a be a doormat theology

    • @KRzzzzzzzz
      @KRzzzzzzzz 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      I had a lay counselor at church and she absolutely did not comprehend that my spouse is a narcissist AND she made me feel guilty for no longer wanting to put up with it

    • @cherylvanesch3086
      @cherylvanesch3086 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

      Some in the church also allow toxic, Lording-over, worldly, carnal, wicked “Leadership”, instead of biblical humble, servant, Christlike leadership by men.

    • @lizabuckingham9586
      @lizabuckingham9586 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      Not all. We had a situation in our church where the leaders took the Biblical approach and confronted the perpetrator as directed, starting with Mathew 18:15. Other local church leaders did the same. The perpetrator did not repent, so we are now working on nurturing the victims and maintaining boundaries that the perpetrator earned.

    • @RonitPirtle
      @RonitPirtle 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Yup

    • @RonitPirtle
      @RonitPirtle 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      ​@@lizabuckingham9586 you go girl!

  • @melissadykstra5921
    @melissadykstra5921 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

    You just described my entire marriage!!! If only I had understood many years ago what was going on…. I had no clue.
    Nearly two decades later I’m starting to get the memo: he doesn’t care about you, is incapable of love, and it’s not my fault that EVERYTHING is turned into an argument 😢😢😢
    If only I knew that I was not crazy…

  • @sandralogue1774
    @sandralogue1774 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Narcissists don't misinterpret or misunderstand anything.
    They will twist words,events, etc until the original meaning is lost,so when they present "evidence" of wrongdoing and if you can't remember what happened detail for detail, an event that never happened,you're guilty.

  • @AletaBoyette
    @AletaBoyette 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    Narcs will literally follow to keep the argument / fight going so walking away is not always an option

    • @926paaja
      @926paaja 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Or walk away and then you follow bc it’s just rude
      Ugggg it’s so sick

    • @Marshmellow-u9h
      @Marshmellow-u9h 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I use head phonrs or turn up the tv or radio really loud if i camt leave the house with some keys... or call the po lice stating causing disturbance ... where possible record them in the midst of it without them knowing

  • @trishg8852
    @trishg8852 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    Its true they love to bait you and provoke you & misinterpret what you are saying. 💯

  • @giselamovilla8978
    @giselamovilla8978 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    God bless you for helping us to understand and deal with a narcissistic, specially when is a parent, Christian. For many years I been provoked and thrown guilt as the bad daughter, actually the one that is taking care of one of them.

    • @Kris_Reece
      @Kris_Reece  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I'm so sorry.

    • @giselamovilla8978
      @giselamovilla8978 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@Kris_Reece many of your instructions I have been doing before I found your channel, now I feel more relieved. Yes I am working with prayer and moving away from situations where I can be punched with sarcasm

  • @johnj.flanagan-songsoffaith
    @johnj.flanagan-songsoffaith 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    The Russian author Chekov noted, “Why do people treat one another so badly?” There is a reason, it is the fallen nature, which is only fixed when one comes to faith in Christ, and then a new spirit guides your life, and the capacity to have peace of mind in a world gone awry, with broken relationships and instability. God bless each of you today.

  • @giselamovilla8978
    @giselamovilla8978 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +31

    Yeap “I’m always at fault “. I learned to avoid a too long conversation, I keep it short, firm, and not let manipulation, that’s why I’m called from this parent as “The Sargent”.

    • @sarahevanson-isaac7237
      @sarahevanson-isaac7237 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      @@giselamovilla8978 Good job not getting pulled into a pointless conflict that never ends! Keep it simple. Keep your center strong. Your relationship with God gives you integrity.

    • @kimmieM0927
      @kimmieM0927 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      To funny, I’m called the Warden when God himself knows I’m not allowed to make even one decision in this marriage. 😅

  • @anitarose7915
    @anitarose7915 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I have an X who is the poster-creep, for exactly what you've said here. We've been divorced for over 20 yrs, and he is still running me in the ground to anyone who will listen.
    Totally crazy!!

  • @peacefulone4461
    @peacefulone4461 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    "What have I done?! I didn't do anything wrong. If I did tell me! Just tell me!! I never hurt you! I give you whatever you want! Are you forgetting?What's wrong with you?" This is all done in total rage. Rage is throughout the day @ various times. Even my dog is affected ...etc etc 😢

    • @winterrose9070
      @winterrose9070 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Mine says exactly the same thing!

    • @shaunduffy861
      @shaunduffy861 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      May sound candid as you're not bought into this subject, and that's not you're fault. You sound like a rational loving person. You were targeted by someone who has no grace, integrity or foresight. You deserve better. It's initially hard, difficult and really cruel,to understand. Believe this, stop, take a breath and reflect on what you've been through. Take this time to slow down, breath and inhale some positivity, Godbless. It's not your fault, things will fall in place take care and hoping you're doing okay. We all have our own way off returning to the person that the predator latched on to. Hope you find your way. 🙏

    • @Lauren-vd4qe
      @Lauren-vd4qe 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      leave, get a divorce before you lose your sanity

    • @shellybarnes2450
      @shellybarnes2450 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      This is my husband to the T you try to walk away from an argument and he continues yelling and screaming and reading the whole day it has affected my cat our home our dog I have tried many times to escape it's like there's a chain around me that I can't cut it's miserable and I do turn it over to God it's so strange even reading all this and hearing this makes me shake inside the same way I shake when he's raging thank you for the info and sharing I don't feel quite so alone

    • @Lauren-vd4qe
      @Lauren-vd4qe หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@shellybarnes2450 contact a divorce lawyer, contact the womens shelter immediately. covertly pack a bag, put it in the trunk of your car, when hes sleeping at 3am, get up very quietly and drive away very quietly. thats what i did. i left plenty of my things in plain sight so he wd think i was coming back soon and not look for me. its how i got a divorce, lived with a family member a hundred miles away, did not go see my parents bc he stalked them, i called them but never went to see them for months. thats how i got away.

  • @carolhill8917
    @carolhill8917 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    A "friend" comes to mind during this video. With the twisting of words, accusing me of being rude when I'm healthily interrupting for clarity, also being accused of wanting to argue and humiliated me with others of telling them that we argue a lot.....we don't, well, a few times in beginning until I realized a deja vù in a significant relationship.
    I'm practicing a healthy boundary approach. I'm too old (66) for this. "Been there, NOT going back"
    Too exhausting. I don't want health problems, or increase, with dealing with narcisstic persons.
    Too exhausting. Waste of precious time.

    • @Lauren-vd4qe
      @Lauren-vd4qe 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      2 Tim 3: AVOID THEM

  • @nicolebenson4517
    @nicolebenson4517 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +90

    Narcissists do not get therapy or repent!

    • @rosannearcher6706
      @rosannearcher6706 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Truth, same film strip in their head. No accountability and brings you into their inflicting pain on you and others as if we were responsible for what they chose to do

    • @nicolebenson4517
      @nicolebenson4517 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@rosannearcher6706 So true. An awful and painful experience.

    • @mamajan99
      @mamajan99 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      They don't need therapy. It's all your falt every time.

    • @margaretcolegrove5122
      @margaretcolegrove5122 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Not necessarily. I had found myself at 40 years of age, realizing that I am my narcissist mom. I am traumatizing my child, hurting those I love the most. God showed me what I had become and he saved me and rescued me from my bondage. He healed the broken parts of me so I could break this generational curse and live a righteous life. Praise Jesus, he has changed my life in every single way.

    • @nicolebenson4517
      @nicolebenson4517 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@margaretcolegrove5122 Praise Jesus for your healing! You are not a narcissist if you are able to self reflect. Narcissists don’t change and are never sorry.

  • @lizaddison5751
    @lizaddison5751 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    They are masters at accusing others of what they are actually doing. Being a christian does not mean we need to allow constant abuse and disrespect toward us. I forgive, but i will no longer allow them into my peaceful space. Can Be REALLY hard not to respond, but i know Pray before being in their company and leave it to God... Still Very VERY hard, but In God we Trust. ❤

  • @lisastewart6205
    @lisastewart6205 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    This is spot on! When I’d say, “If you speak to me that way, I’m going to take a walk around the block.” His response, “If you walk away from me, it’s over!” I eventually ended the relationship.

    • @AletaBoyette
      @AletaBoyette 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It was high time

  • @lindianfranklin8673
    @lindianfranklin8673 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Narcissists are total waste of your energy,sanity,quality time,and i hate the blame game they play,the woe is me attitude,and nasty attitudes,the silent treatments,the what about me attitudes,or all about me attitudes.

  • @fratzogmopars
    @fratzogmopars 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +62

    Wow, this description of what narcissists do perfectly fits the crew that is running our country.

    • @sarahoxen5232
      @sarahoxen5232 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I was just thinking the same thing! You are so right!

    • @Happyheretic2308
      @Happyheretic2308 หลายเดือนก่อน

      And my country, too.

    • @jerrillfoster7348
      @jerrillfoster7348 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

      YEP!!! Amen!

  • @lauras3554
    @lauras3554 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    My mother changed. Amazing relationship with her in her last decade

  • @katieparker4934
    @katieparker4934 23 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Yasssss this is awesome. To have someone who loves God and REALLY understands narcissists. THANK YOU FOR THIS

  • @tims9434
    @tims9434 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    "You have the right to remain silent". Best line I've been reminded of

  • @HolyKingJesusChrist
    @HolyKingJesusChrist หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Your are describing my mom, please pray for me and my wel being, i am tired of this relationship and am distancing myself from her. As long as God let me. AMEN

  • @michelelewis5666
    @michelelewis5666 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Don’t argue with a narcissist? You can’t even have a normal conversation with them. It’s only ever telling them your boundaries and giving only necessary information.

  • @shawnmarie1912
    @shawnmarie1912 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    Accusation = Confession

  • @cheesygal
    @cheesygal 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I did this with my narcissistic husband at the end of our relationship. I didn’t understand he was narcissistic bc I didn’t know about covert narcissism. I asserted for him to stop yelling at me. He continued. I told him I would leave the room, then I did. He banged on the door yelling. I came out and got my keys telling him I needed to leave the house. He yelled that I couldn’t bc he wasn’t allowed to leave. I told him that I wasn’t going to do the xyz things he did when he left the house. Needless to say he followed me to the door yelling. (Fortunately he didn’t abuse me.) I did end the relationship shortly after bc I found the tools to manage myself and to see what my life would continue to be. I learned my part in that dysfunctional relation and have been in a healthy relationship for over thirty years now. My how life has changed.

  • @inetpathfinder5767
    @inetpathfinder5767 13 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Who never had argued with a narcissist would never understand how confusing it is. This is a precise description.

  • @TableForOne01
    @TableForOne01 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    "All you care about is yourself" ... he said spitting crumbs on the side of my face as he was eating my only birthday cupcake I got from where I volunteered on Fridays (before he made me quit by constantly accusing me of sleeping with the very disabled 70 yr old man there everyone loved) as I was washing a weeks worth of his dishes he kept in his room because I had dirtied one cup using it to feed his chickens that he let get killed by raccoons everytime he fell asleep drunk. And I was only there on a vacation to see my Grandkids for the summer months and I paid the narc $500+ a month to stay in the attic, as I had my own place in another state. That was the breaking point. 10 yrs free. 33 yrs captive. He married and trafficked me as a teen. Jesus broke the chains in 2016.

    • @TallGlass-fh8qf
      @TallGlass-fh8qf 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      I wouldn’t even be able to eat someone’s only cupcake, but especially on their birthday. That is unspeakably childish.

    • @AlyssaLopez-n1c
      @AlyssaLopez-n1c หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      May God bless the rest of your life

    • @charitymokeira
      @charitymokeira หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      My goodness 😢. May God restore the 33 wasted years

  • @johnsmith-nw5ow
    @johnsmith-nw5ow 27 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Thank you so much for this and the support this kind of advice offers others who can feel like they are “just going crazy” at times dealing with someone like this. Praying about it randomly brought this video to me at such a perfect time, thank you and God bless you! 🙏🏼

  • @pamboire6973
    @pamboire6973 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +27

    Kris your programs have helped tremendously.. THANK YOU

    • @Kris_Reece
      @Kris_Reece  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Yay! You made my day :)

  • @janicedixon3390
    @janicedixon3390 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Awesome video! What I learned from a narcissistic relationship is that what I saw, how I felt in my ❤ & soul and my gut feelings about the many provocations I was being faced with was my truth and I could not/would not lose my truth in any situation. That is when the narc disappeared because when I explained to him calmly about the gaslighting, devaluing and continuous provocation attempts I went no contact & blocked him.

  • @joshockey7447
    @joshockey7447 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +54

    This is an end time ministry for sure.

    • @peacefulone4461
      @peacefulone4461 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @joshockey7447... you're right! I hadn't thought of that. Thank you

    • @Lauren-vd4qe
      @Lauren-vd4qe 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      yup, its 2 Tim 3 personified!!

    • @mstanley97
      @mstanley97 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Great insight! So true!

  • @laurieturner57
    @laurieturner57 9 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I so appreciate the clarity and understanding your videos have given me. What a mess I walked away from - didn't learn what it was all about until recently. Knowledge has the power to transform. Praise God!

  • @ref7249
    @ref7249 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    I have said for years that arguing with a narcissist is a “Merry-Go-Round of No Progression”.

  • @angelac5590
    @angelac5590 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    They never listen (not even listening to themselves) and never stop talking. This is one of the best videos on a frustrating topic. Thanks for sharing!

  • @CromwellSway
    @CromwellSway หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    You, Lady are speaking so much truth.
    May Almighty GOD continue to bless you

  • @healfromthegroundup
    @healfromthegroundup 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This is amazing thank you! I love the most what you said how narcissists trigger wounds within us.

  • @blueskiesforever114
    @blueskiesforever114 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Thank u Kris! And God bless you. ✝️💕 My Christian Narcissistic family ( I’m the scapegoat) has turned on me with an evil vengeance to destroy my name, spreading lies .. it has devastated me…. and I know who exactly behind it. It’s a spiritual warfare…. As my mother & sister are infected by the Jezabel spirit. And want me unalived. The hate, and persecution is off the charts. Please pray Jesus will uphold me, and justice will be done according to His will. Thank u again. 🙏✝️💕

  • @naturalist369
    @naturalist369 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Yes radical acceptance of the actual situation and that we cannot fix this ourselves ! They just won't allow resolution no matter how much you want it or try to resolve ! Thank you ! Excellent advice ! Rehearsed "broken record statements" you keep repeating to outline the boundary; no negotiation and end of conversation ! ❤❤❤🙏🏼😇🕊💫

  • @sanyakalaluka7988
    @sanyakalaluka7988 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Everything youve said is exactly what my father is likw. Always accusing, and most times accusing of things he does. Claiming no one is perfect but then he is. Using the past against you, yelling when things are not going according to his plan. Wanting to control everything and everyone. He triggers the anger in me

    • @hollikrebs
      @hollikrebs 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes anger, that’s how the demons use the narcissist to get you to sin by driving you to anger! That takes away your peace and victory and then the narcissist and the demons are happy. Resist the devil, submit to God. So that you can receive from God.

    • @hollikrebs
      @hollikrebs 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I know because it’s been my battle and I’ve had lots of failures.

  • @hannetjiebotha7521
    @hannetjiebotha7521 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Kris,your program has meant SO much to my daughter who has literally experienced most of the behaviours you talk about.She now realizes how deep the problem lies and that she is NOT the problem for everything he puts on her and no "trying harder "is going to save her marriage! What an eye opener.She was SO heart +soul FOR a happy life with someone who sees NO value in her or any relationship with her!😢

  • @margaretgrey4238
    @margaretgrey4238 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Pearls before Swine. Big Hug All...

  • @adiboshiifeomaanita7450
    @adiboshiifeomaanita7450 23 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    ❤ THANK YOU MA. THIS INTERACTION IS ENLIGHTENING

  • @aimee30425
    @aimee30425 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I so agree with Kris. I had my fair share encounters with narcissists in the church/ life groups. Most of them, God revealed to me and confirmed had Jezebel spirit and were Jezebel ambassadors, not God's. They have various strongholds e.g. pride and therefore the Jezebel gets attached to them to make them more powerful in their weaknesses.They have free will though and don't have to listen to Jezebel but often they do. Recently I was attacked with an abusive behavior from a narcissistic- jezebelic woman when I was asking for a prayer, she physically shook me and accused me of being inconsiderate and prolonging things. When I told her she hurt me and asked her to be gentle, she came with more accusations and twisted and manipulated what I said to her. I meant to respond as it really upset me but asked Jesus first what to do and He said ' don't add insult to yourself by confronting someone who refuse to take responsibility'. So yes, even though I was upset with these twisted and false accusations I didn't dare to disobey Jesus. He said that we should be like Him ' learn from me because I am gentle and humble at heart' Matt 11:29. It's clear that narcissists/ Jezebel led people are not, the ones you I encountered anyway (7 people).
    Also look for the fruits of the Spirit. These peoples often have none.

  • @christinemilham2847
    @christinemilham2847 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

    They HATE "clarification". They'll gripe: why can't you just "not question everything" and just take everything I say as it is?" Asking them to get to the point is being rude and antisocial.

    • @runningwarrior5468
      @runningwarrior5468 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      they like keeping the situation blurry to confuse you. They hide their deeds in a fog they themselves create. God sees everything, though.

    • @neneppete4737
      @neneppete4737 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Those are my husbands exact words 😮

  • @l.b.1903
    @l.b.1903 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    20:21 the thing is they forget about the boundary over time. Having to reinstate the boundary every 3 weeks is tiring.

  • @smilefaye6677
    @smilefaye6677 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Wow this is my son in a nutshell. Thank you so much for your shares. I've subscribed so that I can get more understanding to be able to relate to him and this disease

  • @cslogic8107
    @cslogic8107 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Kris is always 100 percent spot on. That kind of understanding doesn't come just from books.

  • @-xyz-012
    @-xyz-012 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    It’s hard to deal with when it’s an ungodly parent that lives with you & has destroyed everything good in your life and continues, while you have to take care of them.

  • @HannahMcnicholl
    @HannahMcnicholl 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +171

    *Larry Burkett's book on "Giving and Tithing" drew me closer to God and helped my spirituality. 2020 was a year I literally lived it. I cashed in my life savings and gave it all away. My total giving amounted to 40,000 dollars. Everyone thought I was delusional. Today, 1 receive 85,000 dollars every two months. I have a property in Calabasas, CA, and travel a lot. God has promoted me more than once and opened doors for me to live beyond my dreams. God kept to his promises to and for me*

    • @JerryAdams-fc7yv
      @JerryAdams-fc7yv 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      There's wonder working power in following Kingdom principles on giving and tithing. Hallelujah!

    • @FeriaAllenkempf
      @FeriaAllenkempf 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      But then, how do you get all that in that period of time? What is it you do please, mind sharing?

    • @benholmes-u2i
      @benholmes-u2i 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It is the digital market. That's been the secret to this wealth transfer. A lot of folks in the US and abroad are getting so much from it, God has been good to my household Thank you Jesus

    • @benholmes-u2i
      @benholmes-u2i 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Big thanks to Ms. Susan Jane Christy❤️✨💯May God bless Christy Fiore services,she have changed thousands of lives globally

    • @HarrisWay-kc7li
      @HarrisWay-kc7li 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      How can I start this digital market, any guidelines and how can I reach out to her?

  • @alanchilson4614
    @alanchilson4614 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I met my wife and she was at the time. Sienna therapist and she said that her ex-husband abused her all the ti'm. Well now that I know myself a little bit more. I guess I rescued her or tried to, but but what I have been learning ISIS that she is taking. And?
    She says setting boundaries. And then those boundaries change.
    And her and her therapist made rules for me to live by so I did. But then the rules changed every day, so it's very hard for me. To figure out what the rules are from minute to minute.So I have blown up.I have lost my temper.I have probably become abusive I don't like that part about myself. That I have been manipulated into. Anyway, I wanna thank you for taking the time to make this video. It helps me and I need to.
    Make some personal changes about how. I'm gonna deal with my wife. I'm grateful.❤

  • @CopperMoon4747
    @CopperMoon4747 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    So true and very exhausting! If you try to address it in any way you will be sorry.
    Thank you for the insight and confirmation!

  • @terrijohnson6549
    @terrijohnson6549 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The biblical solution is hopeful, essential and applicable. Thank you.

  • @anacardinale5769
    @anacardinale5769 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Thank you Kris! After being set up as the family scapegoat, invalidated my whole life, bullied, abused emotionally and made to feel like they are doing me a favor by allowing me to be a part of the family cult, I have had to draw strong boundaries which as you say are slowly being eroded by provocation. The last 10 years have literally been hell on earth. I am totally isolated from many people I cared about because my narcissistic family had to spread false rumors about me and now it seems the whole world needs to be involved in my business. I have tried unconditional forgiveness but efforts at reconciliation have failed because of their provocations. I am 67. I no longer care about the people that left. I no longer care about belonging to a family dynamic in which I never fit it. But, I do care about living my life in peace and tranquility and these people only want more trouble. At what point do people say it is time to seek legal counsel? I have become the victim of bullying, slander, stalking and all sorts of emotional PTSD trauma symptoms. When do I finally say this is emotional abuse that must end. Maybe if I am lucky I can get monetary compensation for the horrific abuse they've sent my way that they call "love"?

    • @keithstewart7514
      @keithstewart7514 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I'm 60 years old & word for word resemble your posted remark. My Sadistically CATHOLIC MoMster is way involved personally in the church.
      MONSENIOR "FROST"or is far more than a FLYN MONKEY BASS TURD... He's a Part of Satan's plan. Before Hell freezes over the "Frost" can be found in Oildale Calif 93308.

  • @renebeukes10
    @renebeukes10 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Listening to you helped a lot. Have to deal with a family member .

  • @ileanad6183
    @ileanad6183 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    This is so amazing. The only issue is when you say you're going to leave, and they follow you and get in your face even more when you do...my husband would block the door.

    • @SoundsBogus
      @SoundsBogus 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ileanad6183 That's scary! It's happened to be a few times.

    • @CC-qf6zz
      @CC-qf6zz 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Agree! The answers in this video are pretty textbook but there's a lot more people out there that are dealing with this sort of out of control abuse they won't stop. It would be very nice to be able to say if you keep talking to me that way I'm going to leave the room, they Just follow you and yell at you and give you no peace whatsoever

  • @cindyhuerta6877
    @cindyhuerta6877 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hi Kris, I'm so thankful that I found your content. You're describing my husband. Me and my son suffer his accusations, his provocations, and Ive been feeling a bit depressed lately. Every time we tried to share to him some of the encouraging words we receive from God, his call, we receive unbelief in response. Some days ago I couldn't help ir anymore and I said it's like talking to a gnostic. Then everything scalated and he started yelling at me. So this is the other thing I've been detecting, a strong unbelief. I feel it's not safe to share with him the thing that God is doing in our lives anymore. He's got problems sleeping and a lot of anxiety.

  • @Dollhousehenderson
    @Dollhousehenderson 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Yeah, that chicken analogy with chess thats exactly how they act. And thank you for that. You don’t get to decide when you have hurt me what time I get over this I don’t even get to decide that I just have to go through the emotions until my body is done dealing with the emotions that by the way you caused, but the exact same words come out of his mouth you don’t ever forgive me. You don’t let things go. I appreciate the validation on you. Don’t get to decide. I honestly think I use those words with my husband, you did your action that was your choice, I don’t even get a choice and I just have to deal with it so you don’t get to decide when I’m done dealing with it, especially when you can’t have a conversation about it and help me through it. As a Christian woman this is one of the hardest things I have ever had to deal with.