THERE'S NO INTIMACY WITH THE NARCISSISTIC LOVER : Relationship advice

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    When you first got together, your partner might’ve seemed considerate, wildly devoted, and very interested in making sure you had a good time in bed. Yet as time went on, you began to notice some persistent red flags in their behavior. They no longer seem to consider what you enjoy in bed but instead they seem entirely focused on their desires.

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  • @Jolei33
    @Jolei33 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    One night I fell asleep with the narcissist in my bed in our second year together. I had a dream that demons surrounded me and the light blasted through the roof into me and it spoke from me. “You cannot have her. She is a child of God!!!” I immediately woke up and the narcissist was already awake and jumped out of the bed seeming nervous. He said that I spoke in another voice and said that very statement out loud. He was so afraid. You are right about the evil spirit.

    • @user-wk3ls7vt9m
      @user-wk3ls7vt9m ปีที่แล้ว +3

      whoa!

    • @noellemartahp2838
      @noellemartahp2838 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I dated a narcissist and would often have very graphic demonic Dreams many of them had him in it. And ONLY when I slept next to him

  • @PeggysCorner
    @PeggysCorner ปีที่แล้ว +158

    You are so right. Having my own house and money gave me the upper hand when I found out he was a narcissis, restraining order and he's gone. 2 weeks and 3 days free.... Good morning miss Faye. Thank you so much.

    • @strongwoman2668
      @strongwoman2668 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      He ain't been gone long enough!!!! Don't get too comfortable cuz he'll be back that's guaranteed facts!!!! Be safe !!!✌️

    • @user-vj2sn7vv5s
      @user-vj2sn7vv5s ปีที่แล้ว +16

      @@strongwoman2668 Those are facts . Stay strong @Peggy's corner , it feels great for the first few weeks, but once your deep in 6 months and cold nights and the holidays passing it makes lief challenging , Stay Strong do NOT Give in , I also am out a 25 year relationship , I have also had to go on contact with a restraining order, I am forcing his ass to get it together , I refuse to take him back , and this is my sons father , It's hard , But its time for a change . 2023 Here we come Narc Free . Stay Strong , it's hard .

    • @strongwoman2668
      @strongwoman2668 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@user-vj2sn7vv5s Thank you so very much!!!! You're right we're going into a new year and I don't want to do this anymore and I am not going to do this anymore and I'm going to stay strong my sanity!!!!! I will not be going back I am so tired and drained I'm done!!!!! God bless you and have a Happy New Year stay safe!!!🙏🙏 Once again thanks for the encouragement it helps. 😊

    • @janecampbell5021
      @janecampbell5021 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Haha give him 3 months

    • @lindalewis8001
      @lindalewis8001 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hey pretty lady how are y'all doing I am well watching replay love your channel and spirit let God use you stay safe and strong blessings 🙏❤️

  • @Regina.Michelle
    @Regina.Michelle ปีที่แล้ว +69

    A demon is best way to describe a narcissist

    • @Sally-ni4ms
      @Sally-ni4ms ปีที่แล้ว +1

      CAUSE i DIDN'T follow a narcissist they been getting there flying 🙊 To stare at me, I'm cheerful and I'm going to shine more &More,,,and😁 Smile 🤣🤣🤣

  • @saraliburd7752
    @saraliburd7752 ปีที่แล้ว +136

    A narcissist is a narcissist and they generally sleep with whoever because they don’t have an identity and supply is supply to them

    • @girl-gx2ls
      @girl-gx2ls ปีที่แล้ว

      The ones I know literally have sex as much as possible and tend to be good in bed. It’s how they hook you and it tends to feel even better because this is one of the only times they treat you nicely.

    • @girl-gx2ls
      @girl-gx2ls ปีที่แล้ว +10

      And will sleep with anyone

    • @bee12355
      @bee12355 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Exactly

    • @Tyndalic
      @Tyndalic ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@girl-gx2ls 💯

    • @user-eb3ty9dp8n
      @user-eb3ty9dp8n 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes 💯💯💯

  • @whygohome172
    @whygohome172 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    You will NEVER love them into Wellness! They cannot bond, cannot give OR receive LOVE, NOT EVEN FROM/FOR THEIR CHILDREN! They are also abusive and mean to animals! These men are sicko, sadistic children with mommies issues!

    • @GoogleUser-wy2vv
      @GoogleUser-wy2vv 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      They just hurt their children and lots of different ways I know...... my father is a narcissist

  • @DrJones-lt7tn
    @DrJones-lt7tn ปีที่แล้ว +23

    Watch out ladies the Black church is full of them from the pulpit to the door!

  • @Jenjenn1111
    @Jenjenn1111 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    I think a lot of these men sleeping with each other and that’s why don’t value women cause their getting the sexual needs met somewhere else!

  • @mojavewolf1
    @mojavewolf1 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    No foreplay hardly and right to business . I never complain , even those I was used for him to feel good .
    Never again ! I wasted 7 precious years of a love , hate deal .
    Thank you for expressing yourself and helping women , like myself .

    • @kvega3112
      @kvega3112 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      The no foreplay is hitting too close to home

    • @deborahday1786
      @deborahday1786 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      And jump his azz up right after it’s over!

    • @lisbethtuckayo314
      @lisbethtuckayo314 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      No lovemaking, just sex!

  • @jeanettegarrod-williams9150
    @jeanettegarrod-williams9150 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    My ex-husband is a narcissist. Over thirty years ago when I was with him I thought I was losing my mind because of his change in behavior and abuse that started happening to me. I did see that he seemed to be a sociopath because of the pleasure he took from mentally physically and sexually abusing me. Only years later did I find out that he was a true narcissist who perhaps is also a sociopath. I also believe he has down low tendencies and so does his second ex-wife. Narcissistic men who want to give their advice on how to get and treat a woman are using these men to feed their ego which is insatiable. They want to be worshipped by everyone.

  • @kathyjenkins4067
    @kathyjenkins4067 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    An old tin can would have been more exciting then that narc demon! It was like sleeping with a mummy!The absolutely worst lover ever!

  • @maristahuddleston6213
    @maristahuddleston6213 ปีที่แล้ว +71

    I once heard a man screaming he's the prize. I said a prize in a crackerjack box. Great content as always Miss Faye ❤

    • @strongwoman2668
      @strongwoman2668 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      😭😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣✌️

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Oh no he dint'!

    • @gerahuey3706
      @gerahuey3706 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Lol-- gotta use your comments
      😂 😂 😂

    • @RK-su4hs
      @RK-su4hs ปีที่แล้ว +3

      😂😂😂

    • @debbieskitchen2
      @debbieskitchen2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      😂🤣

  • @PM-gp3oy
    @PM-gp3oy ปีที่แล้ว +38

    I recently ended a long term relationship with a narc. I think the reason i was an easy target was because my mother is a narc and I have never recovered from the neglect and abuse that I suffered at her hands. This lack of motherly love has caused me to be co-dependant and I have continued to fall into the hands of narc men. This video has helped me understand why I have continued to repeat this harmful cycle. I've been single for just over 4 months and I am healing. Ms Faye I just want to say thank you for this message it has really helped me.

    • @p_tiffanii
      @p_tiffanii ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Please read the book, 'Co-dependent No More' by Melody Beattie. It'll definitely set you on the path to healing. Also, follow Lisa A Romano, here on TH-cam. She's an excellent healing resource for codependency.

    • @michelleelfazzate178
      @michelleelfazzate178 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Same

  • @carolynmurphy3697
    @carolynmurphy3697 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    A man has never taken me out shopping and spoilt me. Most have just taken

    • @NikkiM928
      @NikkiM928 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same here sis. It's okay! God has not forgotten about us! ❤❤❤

    • @jacquelynsharp9354
      @jacquelynsharp9354 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Im55 female and don't feel alone I've never had no man spoil me,take me to no vacation no birthday party,event,no valentine gifts,trips,restaurants,nothing,😢😢😢😢😢😢im not ugly or too big or small

    • @zanav138
      @zanav138 11 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Spoil yourself,take you on vacation!​@@jacquelynsharp9354

  • @Zarasha1
    @Zarasha1 ปีที่แล้ว +53

    My mother that's a narcissist never even once gave me a hug, or a kiss, or even a happy birthday. How much more dating a narcissist.

    • @InHisService772
      @InHisService772 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      OMG. Me too! The birthday thing is especially devaluing. Every kid deserves to be acknowledged on their birthday!!!

    • @Zarasha1
      @Zarasha1 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@InHisService772 Yes they love to devalue us, and also compare us to our siblings. She use to buy things for my younger sibling, and not me. Now I know it was all intentionally being done to hurt me.

    • @EN-ne3hu
      @EN-ne3hu ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I pray that your heart will heal one day...

    • @RK-su4hs
      @RK-su4hs ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Different people have different capacities for affection & expression of care for another
      We are all different & unique

    • @LOVETHYSELFDAILY
      @LOVETHYSELFDAILY ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I never even got a hello when I met a narc. He would glare at me, waiting for me to greet him all the time. I was nice and didn't want to cause a scene in front of other people. He would literally watch me and make me feel uncomfortable, like I owed him something. Next time, I would completely ignore this kind of person because they're looking for attention - good or bad.

  • @lisagross8557
    @lisagross8557 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    I've been celibate for more than 13 years and I don't regret a moment of it. Your words ring of truths. Thank you dearly.

    • @GoogleUser-wy2vv
      @GoogleUser-wy2vv 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Me neither it's great to have peace of mind

  • @sherimascote7495
    @sherimascote7495 ปีที่แล้ว +49

    Women's you have to learn to be dependent on yourself. Ms Faye your right

    • @pamelawess-fz7cb
      @pamelawess-fz7cb ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank You Miss Faye I have to leave the man I was supposidly to have been married to but I've learned a very tough lesson I'm at the point where I have to get help for my mental health its sad but its the truth its time to move on he needs help from past trauma until he recognizes this he will always have problems thank you Miss Faye

  • @BrendaBaBoom
    @BrendaBaBoom ปีที่แล้ว +33

    Intimacy to the Narc is totally a foreign concept. 🧐 Hey Auntie, get those batts changed out in your smoke alarm …. we want you safe 😘

  • @hidefinishon12
    @hidefinishon12 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Notice they become boring because if you study their behavior, you will notice repeated pattern’s. Ms. Faye is amazing

  • @latashavanish6570
    @latashavanish6570 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    I’m not sure how I found her but she speaks with pure truth. She has great insight on today’s men in today’s society.

  • @ChiefCreativee
    @ChiefCreativee ปีที่แล้ว +11

    I just left my narc, a whole family full of them, and a mother included.. I can't believe how long it took me to get out of it. I feel such peace. I pray he stops texting/ calling, soon.

  • @beautyinthedark7406
    @beautyinthedark7406 ปีที่แล้ว +95

    Ms Faye, the accuracy in your message is chilling. I too confuse the “once in a while sex” as intimacy with a grandiose covert narcissist spouse. No kissing for years, only touching me for sex. Love bombing was always two days back to back. 1st day it was over the top, next day it was me just having a pulse, jump on top hit it and got off😕. Then in recent yrs he was always pushing for anal sex to the point it felt like harassment because I always said NO which should’ve been enough and respected. I have had enough of toxic entanglement. No sex and no contact being used now which is awkward due to living in the same house. Prayer to be out of this soon. I don’t wish him on anyone other than another narcissist which he deserves 🤡🗑🤬

    • @strongwoman2668
      @strongwoman2668 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Lol 🤣🤣🤣

    • @kimberlyalexander8689
      @kimberlyalexander8689 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Praying for your strength
      Long as you know what your dealing with
      God will protect you lead you and guide you in the way you should go
      God I pray that you give this person what there heart desires tonight
      Amen

    • @kathyjenkins4067
      @kathyjenkins4067 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I'm praying for your safety!

    • @janecampbell5021
      @janecampbell5021 ปีที่แล้ว

      If he wanted anal he was on the DL

    • @donnaking8056
      @donnaking8056 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ms.Faye you are so right about a narcissist. The narcissist I was with never kiss me The only interest for him was sex. He was happy when I would go to his home and later turned into Dr.Jegal and Mr.Hyde. . All he wanted was to drink Brandy and have you over for sex. He never showed any emotions like hugging and kissing. He was also selfish acting when over his house. If we watched TV it was what he wanted to watch. I finally after many years of being with him broke away from this man. He wanted to get back with me. I told him I did not want to entertain any men. I told him I do not want sex anymore. Well he is still doing what he was doing before we started seeing each other. There are women who are going to his home and staying over night. I thank God that I finally saw thru this man. I can go over and over about the relationship I had with this man. Ms.Faye is a very wise lady.Please take in what information she is giving us.

  • @1991windsor
    @1991windsor ปีที่แล้ว +28

    You are exactly right about no intimacy. I remember after sex my narc would literally just roll over and go to sleep. Looking back, I seriously don't know why I tolerated it. I think you're right when you say we are put through this for a lesson of some kind. Of course, in the beginning, I didn't know what I was dealing with, as most others didn't either.

    • @DaveMasters1121
      @DaveMasters1121 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Isn't it awful. It's a way of devaluing you in the worst way.
      The ones I was with (over decade ago now as I have knowledge)
      One would just walk out the room and another would jump straight in the shower.
      It was awful

  • @Ck-pj3vu
    @Ck-pj3vu ปีที่แล้ว +34

    Yes I had one try to get me to sell my house. I thought about it and almost did. I found out later the woman before me sold her house and moved in with him. She spent her money on fixing up his house and when all her money was gone he left her. Also I was laying on him and his phone rung. He answered it and I heard a man on the end say hello wife. They had a conversation and he got off the phone. I said did he call you his wife? He said yes that’s my boy we play like that 🚩🚩🚩🚩

    • @EN-ne3hu
      @EN-ne3hu ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I'm so sorry you had to deal with this BS...

    • @BlackHairandSkinCare
      @BlackHairandSkinCare ปีที่แล้ว +2

      🙉 oh no!

    • @sashaclarke2749
      @sashaclarke2749 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😳

    • @bee12355
      @bee12355 ปีที่แล้ว

      Good for you you didn’t sell your house

    • @Lala89856
      @Lala89856 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Omg😂. I heard my ex narc talking to his male friend and calling him "babe." 😂. Then he said I was imagining things😂

  • @ndobbins58
    @ndobbins58 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I was with one for 42 years!! When we got married he told me that he was never wrong and if I ever found him to be wrong I needed to mark it on the calendar!! He got to where when we went out he’d walk in front of me, not beside me and there was no intimate kissing when we made love. I have a lot of suspicions after watching you that he isn’t what I ever thought he was. I can’t give intimate details but it wasn’t right. Then he tried to say that he thought I was enjoying it. BS!! I’m glad I left but hate the pain my sons felt when I did. They’re grown men and I can never tell them all the details but I had to leave for my own sanity. Very selfish and self-centered but he made me look like it when I left. I’m healing and have God in my life. Thanks for sharing your stories and wisdom. You’re helping me heal too!! ❤

  • @dawnia4291
    @dawnia4291 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    Hi Miss Faye, this is what I also experienced with my ex narcs. Very odd sex from them, they didn’t seem to enjoy it even half as much as I did.
    Also, thank you for saying “Don’t look for a man, the man should look for you.” That’s good advice .

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      The bible says that a man who finds a wife, finds a treasure & obtains favor from the Lord. I'd advise you to give your romantic desires to God and let Him guide you. Your heart & body is precious. God doesn't want you harmed.

    • @koz449
      @koz449 ปีที่แล้ว

      Love Miss Faye lol

  • @amberparedes875
    @amberparedes875 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Kevin would tear up women. Telling these same men who create single mothers to stay away from single mothers and then shame the mothers, saying they made the "wrong choice of men" or "why did you not marry the father of your children"? He also made content to toss aside women over a certain age to get the younger women who can't see their games. Miss Faye is calling out KS as a demon with accuracy 💯

  • @shirleymadiva6886
    @shirleymadiva6886 ปีที่แล้ว +67

    You telling the 100% true🙌🏽🙌🏽 lm so glad and at peace by myself and free of ALL of the mind games and manipulation!!! Didn’t know how broken l was until l got free….Thank you so much Ms. Faye🙏🏽

    • @mistyjordan7147
      @mistyjordan7147 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I know right. "The Mind Phucary" is real out here. 🤷‍♀️

    • @Empress711
      @Empress711 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      🙏✨🦋✨🙏

    • @wildhorses6817
      @wildhorses6817 ปีที่แล้ว

      The narcissist lies, cheats, steals and is abusive. They only get Worse over time. So True, his purpose is to destroy you financially, spiritually, your career, etc. Get away ASAP.

  • @dorothywalker5411
    @dorothywalker5411 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    Ms Faye is awesome. Listen she is experience and is helping others to save and improves lives. There is a lot of addictions. Sex can be one of them causing disease and destroying families. I taught fitness classes for nurses. Talk about them running into Narcs was unbelievable. A lot of the nurses had to leave their jobs after putting so much into there jobs and being treated horribly by the Narcs. Protect yourself and stay strong!

    • @Empress711
      @Empress711 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      🙏✨🦋✨🙏

  • @margaretcollins3539
    @margaretcollins3539 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    Good morning miss Faye, great advice, had my own house, own money, so once I found out what I was up against i left, and never looked back. I thank God for stay blessed .

  • @protectedbyyah3902
    @protectedbyyah3902 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    I can relate with you Ms. Faye I dated a covert down low narssist! God rescued me from that foul spirit! They don't have intimacy and they are not satisfied sexually they are satisfied only when they succed in tearing you down, praise God ! He didn't get the chance to do it!

  • @beverlygenyard3648
    @beverlygenyard3648 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Best way to get out of those relationships. Become less available. Use work. Don't date anyone else. Be prepared to seem to relocate for work. You may need to put distance between you and he. This is to allow him to leave you. If you try to leave him it might become an issue. But be careful some guys can be dangerous.

  • @angellee9307
    @angellee9307 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    You are not ever going to get real intimacy because they want things you are not capable of doing to yourself . It’s why they step out and think they have a right to misbehave. Don’t call them out in public. IT WILL GET YOU HURT.

    • @kvega3112
      @kvega3112 ปีที่แล้ว

      What typa stuff?

  • @shadowrebels1623
    @shadowrebels1623 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    He talks about his dream and his future plans like buying a house when I know he can’t even afford a nice studio pushing his dream in my head because he knows I enjoy being with him so I started having the same dream and sometimes I imagined the life we could have had if only I bought that house dream of his that’s how sick These kind of people they are, they are manipulative and sick 😂

    • @deniseallen-kq7fq
      @deniseallen-kq7fq ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Right!!! I have one of those push their dream goal in my head so I can work on it and achieve his goals not mine. Twisted thinker. They are not the prize

  • @JusticeWarriorTV
    @JusticeWarriorTV ปีที่แล้ว +39

    Kevin Samuels had a Freudian slip and said he advocates for men being with other men. And how he understands why men do it. His fans said he just made a mistake but I believe it was intentional.

  • @tynaangelici3023
    @tynaangelici3023 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    These narcs do nice things for you from time to time to keep you hooked.

  • @proverbs31teacher7
    @proverbs31teacher7 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Wow! So if it quacks like a duck, walks like a duck…ladies it’s a duck! I know we want Eagles! I do too! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽 Thanks Ms Faye for sharing this Valuable Wisdom!❤

  • @hidefinishon12
    @hidefinishon12 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Over three years Since that experience I’ve accomplished GOALS, wardrobe increased, car note no more, promotion at work, money in pocket, sleep on fleek, drug free, and closer to god. That experience lasted almost 1 year, but it was over in 4 to 6 months in. When gain awareness, you see them as unattractive and dark. Thank God I snapped out of that crap as soon as I did. I’m slow in dating and my discernment is higher than ever. This is interesting, even though I’m no longer with that person, but those muter fluckas at the work place so I keep abreast on narc contents to stay two steps ahead of them jokers. Thank you for this awareness

  • @madamcreolethehighpriestes7401
    @madamcreolethehighpriestes7401 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Miss Faye keeps dropping jewels for us. I give gratitude to you 🙏 I'm a newbie to this single life due to my husband dying of cancer. He left me financial stabled. Healing is the focus for me. I listen to your lectures and it works. I love you Miss Faye ❤️ ❤❤❤❤

  • @NalaMahal
    @NalaMahal ปีที่แล้ว +17

    My covert narcissistic ex told me other men were hitting on him but “he’s not gay.” He one day after that asked me to try the back door. I had asked him who he tried that with and he said he did it with some girl a few years ago 😏 I didn’t trust it. He was also changing his appearance. I told him “for someone who isn’t gay, you are sure looking like them.” He dyed his hair from black to blonde 👱🏿‍♂️ and got a nose ring.

    • @janecampbell5021
      @janecampbell5021 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      Red flag sis

    • @EN-ne3hu
      @EN-ne3hu ปีที่แล้ว +10

      He was screaming it from the mountain top.

    • @deniseallen-kq7fq
      @deniseallen-kq7fq ปีที่แล้ว

      They were hiring on him bcos he was eye fuxking them. That is only why the approach him. Red flags

    • @livefromtheground7274
      @livefromtheground7274 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      gaf backwards.

    • @deborahday1786
      @deborahday1786 ปีที่แล้ว

      He has fully crossed over 🌈

  • @chobitsgrlx3
    @chobitsgrlx3 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    Your videos are so needed. Thank you ms Faye. You’re the mother we all need!

    • @sillybird6691
      @sillybird6691 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks Miss Faye I'm a new watcher, and yes we need the wisdom praying that more younger people are watching .Unfortunately I've run into quite a few nuts ,demons narcissistic fools!!!

    • @Empress711
      @Empress711 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      🙏✨🦋✨🙏

    • @bunMami22
      @bunMami22 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes. Thank you ❤😢

  • @caroljenny7701
    @caroljenny7701 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    One unrequited love, doesn't make a narcissist. Usually deep child pain from abuse makes a narcissist and it runs deep. They have NO self-esteem. And they are separated from their soul. And they have demons.

  • @AdoraSteps
    @AdoraSteps ปีที่แล้ว +51

    Thank you Miss Faye. Can you talk about the male narcissist who is shy and withdrawn when around the woman’s friends and family, but is loud and confident around his people? Thank you

    • @sashaclarke2749
      @sashaclarke2749 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Right! That’s why they’re always in disbelief when you explain his behavior, behind the scenes!😢

    • @LOVETHYSELFDAILY
      @LOVETHYSELFDAILY ปีที่แล้ว +13

      That's part of the game, so that if you told anybody, no one would believe you and they would think you are the crazy one. Seeing is believing in our society. Everything is evidence based. It's hard work on his part. Fooling people is a mental sickness.

    • @debbieskitchen2
      @debbieskitchen2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @Adora you just described my ex husband but he wasn't withdrawn but didn't say much around them and acted like such a good person but at home he was a monster. Some neighbors got a taste of how he really was when he got mad and showed his true colors. Police would show up and see me crying but he would act like oh it was just a little argument. A little argument? give me a break.. that is why I am crying with marks around my neck where he chocked me. He never got arrested. I was to afraid of him if I ever pressed charges. He was in the military too with lots of stripes. I told him once I was going to his Colonel about his abuse and thought he was going to kill me when he grabbed me around the neck. I was to afraid to follow through with it.

    • @courageouslybeautiful526
      @courageouslybeautiful526 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@LOVETHYSELFDAILY Absolutely!

    • @Tyndalic
      @Tyndalic ปีที่แล้ว +4

      They are real with you, but fake as hell with others. They want a good reputation so when you break the silence no one will believe you! Not to mention that they have probably started a smear campaign on you when you were together. They do this so when it’s over they can place blame on you!

  • @kimberlynichols4605
    @kimberlynichols4605 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    ONCE YOU KNOW BETTER YOU DO BETTER!!!!

  • @WipeTheLipStickOffThePig
    @WipeTheLipStickOffThePig ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Hey Miss Faye, love ur channel. 💗 Yes these Narcs like to put women on a high golden pedestal just for them to back up from us, get a running start, and *kick the pedestal from under us*

    • @EN-ne3hu
      @EN-ne3hu ปีที่แล้ว +4

      You have earned the gold medal for this anology....

    • @cccooks7407
      @cccooks7407 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm lmao because this happened to me so often and I didn't understand what it was at the time. Ms Faye imparts this wisdom and understanding to ensure we never are blindsided by the deception again. I sincerely thank you, from the depths of my soul. That pedestal was clearly a set up.

  • @robinprescod6946
    @robinprescod6946 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Your description is frighteningly accurate. It took me three years and his threatening to pay for harm on me my eyes were finally opened. I lost my mind and myself while I was there. I was delivered.

    • @amberparedes875
      @amberparedes875 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'm glad to hear you're out and free 🙏🏼💕

  • @jerrydeanrobinson7179
    @jerrydeanrobinson7179 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Also, my experience with my X was his porn addiction. Wanting to do all kinds of acrobatics!!! GOT TO GO.

  • @Ang-ie3qy
    @Ang-ie3qy ปีที่แล้ว +19

    You are absolutely right lived 4 1/2 years in narcissistic marriage.

  • @debbieskitchen2
    @debbieskitchen2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I wasn't allowed to have friends. My family wanted to come visit he put that to a halt. After we moved away from my family in VA to FL the controlling and abuse got worse. In our divorce he told me I could just go with his attorney and we could just make it a quick divorce. I went and got my own attorney which didn't take his manipulation and lies. It cost him in the end. He found out he couldn't be in control anymore with me.

  • @florencewhite7300
    @florencewhite7300 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Thanks for sharing this information, I didn't understand the person I was married to for 33yrs. I knew that something was not right. I've since divorced and am as happy and peaceful. I am learning to love myself after such an abusive marriage.

  • @AuthorLHollingsworth
    @AuthorLHollingsworth ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Narcissist do not care about anyone, and have to keep up that grandiose like way of thinking. Stay no contact 😔
    ***Narcs don't know what intimacy is, and will never truly love. Never!!!!

  • @theQueen-xb3uo
    @theQueen-xb3uo ปีที่แล้ว +27

    Yup ENERGY is REAL.. When you feel these negative vibes be mindful.... Thank you and stay Blessed

  • @danilaroche1156
    @danilaroche1156 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    This sister is very astute. Smart as a whip. Love you Miss Faye!

  • @Iam_msdeeyadig
    @Iam_msdeeyadig ปีที่แล้ว +3

    @Missfaye'sworld, hello!
    I too dealt with a covert narc. I met him when I was in my late teens and dealt with him on and off for many years (I am 49 now). Earlier on in our situationship, I had no clue about narcicissm, nor did I know how they move within the community or in life. I knew back when we met after a while that something was off with him but I could never put my fnger on what it was with him. The narc that I dealt with was mean, over-critical, uncaring, and disrespectful.
    Fast forward to these days, I started to hear more about narcissism within the last 10 years. Once I started watching content on the tube and by doing my own personal research, I said, "ahhh ha!" I knew something was off about this man, lol. I had been working as a Therapist at the time that I started realizing what his deal was and if I was still working in that capacity today, I would definitely diagnose the ex with narcissistic personality disorder, for sure.
    I had absolutely no clue why the ex was the way he was and of course, he was not as insidious earlier on as he became later in life. He was calculating, cold-hearted, cold/hot from one moment ot the next- always cheating and each time I went into investigation mode, I always found what he was up to but I was in such a trance and it took me years before I finally decided that I needed to get out. I literally started to feel that my life energy was being drained from me, think about a vampire drinking bl-od from its prey. I knew that if I did not get out, I would end up in a hottible way, to say the least.
    The person that I dealt with always had to have me as that main source of supply, and he always wanted to have s-x because, you see, his game was to make women fall deeply in with him- he was a great s-x partner. He used s-x as a weapon, and I can be honest and say that our s-xu-al chemistry was the only good thing that happened between us. Outside of the b-droom, we were never on the same wavelength. He could never get enough adornment from one women, he had to have adornment from many women, he was never satisfied- a total energy vampire, seriously.
    I have been in therapy and it helped, I am ahppy that I was finally able to leave and stay away. Oh, yes, he tried to hoove me back in but I refused, lol. Why would a person want to tie themselves to a person and such misery? No, never again, it's not worth my sanity or prescious time. I am going to live the second half of my life in peace and do the things I enjoy and love. If I never meet a guy that I can have a lifetime partnership with, oh, well, I'm good. I have felt love, and I have enjoyed wonderful s-exual times here and there, so it that is it, it is what it is, Be safe people and treat yourself well because you are the expert on you. Love yourself always and show that by treating yourself well😊🥰

  • @Patricia-qy5kb
    @Patricia-qy5kb ปีที่แล้ว +25

    You're right about everything you've said in your video today Ms Faye, but unfortunately a lot of these loose women in today's world aren't going to close their leg's to those type of convert narcissist men. Lot's of women nowadays just have to have a man all up under them 24/7 just to feel and be validated as someone that doesn't have any problems getting and keeping a man in their life. I know some female friends of mine that can't be without a man a whole month before getting involved with someone else new.

    • @joystratton4658
      @joystratton4658 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      THOSE SAME WOMEN ARE NARCISSIST! ANYBODY WHO NEEDS ANOTHER PERSON FOR VALIDATION ARE NARCISSIST!

    • @danilaroche1156
      @danilaroche1156 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I don't like u calling women loose. That's not Christ like. Back in the day..I was promiscuous. WHY? My dad molested me at 4 years old. Other sexual assaults from men in teens. I hated myself I acted out. God healed my trauma and now I'm abstinent. I have compassion for rape victims who become 'loose'.

    • @Patricia-qy5kb
      @Patricia-qy5kb ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@danilaroche1156 If a woman is loose, then she is loose. No need in sugar coating it for whatever reason or cause. It's good that you have learned from your past mistakes, and have chosen to do better. I am sorry you took offense to what I said about loose women, truth be told it's a lot of these types of women out here nowadays, which is why lot's of men take us good and non easy to lay up with female's completely for granted and try to use and misuse. I just believe in calling an apple an apple, and an orange an orange. If a woman is loose then she is what she is. No matter what the reason she is chosing to be that type of way.

    • @sexygabby30
      @sexygabby30 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@Patricia-qy5kb molestation to a child to make them near death in every aspect of life there on is not a “learn from her mistakes” issue. Definitely not when you are to be born and learn to grow from those that supposed to love you that you’re supposed to trust mold you into a good Human for society… see that why I have since a child and noticed Adults are and hav been a problem on earth. They are the contaminants and then in the same mind and breath tell all they’ve betrayed they were somehow supposed to not let it happen. Not as a defenseless child or anyone for that matter. Human are complex however it’s not complicated the Adult humans of the world make things completely complicated for no reason at all. It’s like you are in a hell plane just circling the atmosphere waiting to die. It’s almost like what’s the point of humans?! Can’t get right always blaming instead of just not doing to begin with. Everyone knows right from wrong but the cycle continues it’s a complete shii show! Super sad though every 3-4 households are sick as F hurting the little ones and making trauma to them to eventually turn them into near murderous entities. Statements like that is what keeps it going strong. I burn those like that at the stake atleast in my mom’s country you will be outta here exactly that way. TH
      All of the past adults got the future adults all F’ed up out here. It just keeps going

    • @charlenehall3525
      @charlenehall3525 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @Patricia it's demon spirits that attach themselves to you. It's true that whoever you sleep with, you're also sleeping with whoever that person has slept with. Even if you've only had 1 partner, you have actually been with whoever they were with before you. God warns about fornication and how it affects the body, like no other sin and He said to flee from it.

  • @jeannetteembry2216
    @jeannetteembry2216 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    That's why our CREATOR took him.

  • @noku_nz
    @noku_nz ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I think that's Kevin Samuel

  • @EN-ne3hu
    @EN-ne3hu ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank God that ridiculous narssacist dating guru is gone. He probably ruined so many relationships and future relationships. The ansesstors removed him from the earth.

  • @tynaangelici3023
    @tynaangelici3023 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The worst mistake I ever made was marrying and have a child with a narcissist.I’m divorced now and my child is almost grown.

  • @m395williams
    @m395williams ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Should have never moved him in. Biggest mistake ever.

  • @emmaalvarez1617
    @emmaalvarez1617 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Finally someone is talking about this.

  • @jolly7728
    @jolly7728 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Still can't believe that people keep doing harmful things and expecting not to be harmed. Recreational sex leads to all manner of harm. Take your pick.

  • @celeste5534
    @celeste5534 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Yes! Great advice! Please women have your own so that if the journey gets hard , you have a way of escape from him.

  • @kimberlyalexander8689
    @kimberlyalexander8689 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I left and I’m never going back
    un godly soul ties one sided relationship
    Everything all on me at first the sex was great back when we where young
    But after he trapped me to have his baby, so I can take care of him and the baby
    The sex became weird 😢
    He told me he was on the devil side that’s when I made up my mind to stop playing with the devil
    How am I going to be serving the lord letting the devil live in my house
    I kick that narcissist man out

  • @patriciatucker5827
    @patriciatucker5827 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Look how he died on top of somebody

  • @suzettewalsh2854
    @suzettewalsh2854 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Your information is sooooo very valuable in todays society! I wish I knew this when I was much younger! Divorcing one ☝️ now! He kept that mask on for 7 years total of 25 years! Lesson learned am good on my own I don’t need anyone to complete me! About to be 60 and I ain’t gonna be a nurse with a purse for anyone!!!!!! It’s my time! And if I want to help it will be in a perfesonal manner! Ain’t gonna build a bum 😂anymore! You can see they are void and ain’t no one home! The love bomb is total optical illusion! I was 36 when we met and ready to have kids or I would have remained single! A spermicide donor can’t do the damage these people can and it affects the kids horribly! Generational trama! Let the healing ❤️‍🩹 begin! You are doing gods work mz Fay ! Saving women countless years of torture! Take heed young ladies

  • @konnieosborne3039
    @konnieosborne3039 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    You SHOW know what you're talking about! You have me over here saying Say It LOUD!

  • @demigaines5644
    @demigaines5644 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you So Very Much For Sharing This You Are Absolutely Right
    I Jus Started Watching UR Videos .I Was With An OVERT MALIGNANT NARCISSISTS This person Made A Fool Outta Me I Was Emotionally Abused For Over 8 Years.You Are So Right About The Narcissist Not Being Intimate.This Person I Was With Never Touched Me He Was Only Interested in Me Satisfying Him.He Was Arrogant Selfish Entitled A Bully. he Would Call Me Horrible Names.I Was Recently DISCARDED Like Garbage.Narcissitic ABUSE Is Very Brutal

  • @diamondgirl7997
    @diamondgirl7997 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Miss Faye, you're a life saver to me. I just said no more to the narcissist

  • @bustermarch8005
    @bustermarch8005 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I love you Miss Faye. Your words bring me tear and laughter at the same time.

  • @cathleensmith4717
    @cathleensmith4717 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    If you want children, adopt or Foster. Instead of creating more Fatherless children. Just saying 🙂

  • @Regina.Michelle
    @Regina.Michelle ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Loving your wisdom. Thank you for being so genuine with your experiences

  • @Decgyrrl
    @Decgyrrl ปีที่แล้ว +3

    That's why, he ain't here no longer. Think abt it.....

  • @AuntMarysNiece
    @AuntMarysNiece ปีที่แล้ว

    I love when you are raw. I saw a video of you telling it like it is without your glasses and loved every moment of the truth. Thank you

  • @found-it0620
    @found-it0620 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    This is so so helpful. Thank you Miss Faye!!!

  • @TheAMINAW1
    @TheAMINAW1 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I am sorry to hear that you went through a series of traumatic experiences that left you with such vivid unhappy memories. I wrote mine out in a book and forgot about and moved on with my life and success. I know what I don't want and I am in control of my environment and change. I am responsible for the decisions I make.
    I have known women who got the diamonds, minks and they all said the man made them pay dearly for it and demanded so much from them. Like in time and energy or he cheated or he was abusive. Then I have met women living with their man and not married and they are happy. Then I have met those that are married and happy of all races.
    Then there is the partnership where they share bank accounts and everything together. That is what one of my aunts friends were doing they were married 50 years up until he died, and then a year later she died. The husband was gorgeous, and the miserable one. She was an arrogant, ignorant and impossible creature.
    Then there are men who put their women up on a pedestal. My ancestors from Punt land Somalia honored their women, and children and draped us in gold and diamonds. They made pure gold statues and bust of our women to worship and for all to see; and artifacts are being dug up now in Somalia/Punt land of our great Pharaohs and our civilization to prove it, and today, the men will tell you, your women aren't better than ours.
    I have met women who live separately, and go freely over to their man's house and have sex with him and call him on the phone and say they are coming over to have sex. They are happy with the relationship and he's a nice guy. It is a practical union and they spend time together, so there is an emotional connection there.
    Then you have thousand who have had these bruised relationships with these men who don't want a relationship to begin with. You have to know what works for you and what will make you happy.
    You can't fit someone into your mold, they have to be compatible with you and have the same values. If you are a sensitive person you have to be extra careful and prudent in your selection of company.
    If you are someone who can do or be involved, and not take it seriously and walk away with no regrets explore as you wish. I watch lot of content on TH-cam If I chose, I always try to give a positive comment. Good Luck!

  • @jeannecarroll9099
    @jeannecarroll9099 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I just love you! You are so real. We women need to hear the truth and not be blinded by these narcissistic men. I was married to one for 27 years. Now I’m in another relationship of almost the same kind, but I have refused to take it to the next level. After listening to just a few of your videos I understand why. I know it’s not right for me and I need to trust myself, heal myself.
    Thank you, Ms. Faye! You have a grateful subscriber!

  • @hair399
    @hair399 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I was in a relationship with a narcissistic man but I don't think he was on the DL. He had erectile dysfunction and I think this brought out his narcissist tendencies even more.

    • @moniquerichardson5844
      @moniquerichardson5844 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Yes men with sex problems can affect a man personality.

    • @sashaclarke2749
      @sashaclarke2749 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Been there! That really makes him feel less than…

    • @livefromtheground7274
      @livefromtheground7274 ปีที่แล้ว

      He has an anus could still have been dl 🤷🏾‍♀️

  • @deborahgooden7436
    @deborahgooden7436 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you Ms. Faye! Nothing new under the sun. Blessings to you!

  • @litaahye1361
    @litaahye1361 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Thank you for being a vehicle to bring these inspired messages helping others to be wise for their own good well being! Amen ❤

  • @lorrainetull397
    @lorrainetull397 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Thank you, you hit everything I wanted to know 🙏🏾

  • @barbaracurtice6002
    @barbaracurtice6002 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I'm so glad you went ahead
    You deserve happiness
    Thank for the videos this is topic
    That was never talk about
    You keep going strong
    Love what you do ❤👍

  • @missta1820
    @missta1820 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Thank you for sharing your personal stories Miss Faye. Always interesting to hear and also teaches us lessons.🌼

  • @loisbradley3080
    @loisbradley3080 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you you were very clear. I was like you I didn't want to recognize what was happening at first,then I realized that he started saying things and trying to tear me down. I am stronger now but he is still hovering, I haven't changed my number yet but I will. Thank you!!! Thank you !! So much clearer coming from someone who has experienced this behavior.😇

  • @scleo1959
    @scleo1959 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Thank you for your inspirational videos. Your personal experience within your teachings is very helpful in sorting things out. Love your spiritual approach. My ex narc also did a 180 when they moved into my home. Possessiveness, jealousy, mental abuse escalated. They also quit job after job for no good reason leaving me providing everything. And I mean everything. Don’t ignore the red flags. Trust your God-given intuition. Many thanks, Miss Faye.

  • @dgator3599
    @dgator3599 ปีที่แล้ว

    Plain talk from Miss Faye is what this world needs!! Thanks Miss Faye for going over things we should know, but either don't want to believe it or hope it's not true and live in denial....Peace to you!!

  • @jynong
    @jynong ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Miss Faye, the knowledge you are sharing is God sent. ❤

  • @PeggysCorner
    @PeggysCorner ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You are so right. Good morning miss Faye. Thank you so much.

  • @LOVETHYSELFDAILY
    @LOVETHYSELFDAILY ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Excellent video!

  • @siriluckworsfold
    @siriluckworsfold ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for sharing such a great knowledge. I feel so strong.

  • @tynaangelici3023
    @tynaangelici3023 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    That demon finally destroyed him.

  • @deborahgooden7436
    @deborahgooden7436 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Whoa! What teaching!

  • @butterfly1348
    @butterfly1348 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you. Great message

  • @l.a.7592
    @l.a.7592 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Very clear! Thank you!!!!

  • @rebel5140
    @rebel5140 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You are truly a gracious, loving and insightful soul Miss Faye. God keep you!

  • @dorisjohns9861
    @dorisjohns9861 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    i appreciate your advice, not a lot of women are as wide and mentally sound as you are, i subscribed a few days ago : )

  • @ruthiecastro9519
    @ruthiecastro9519 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love you!! Thank you for making this clear to women! Thank you

  • @rebeccanetherland1155
    @rebeccanetherland1155 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Love your message---Yep--figured it out... What you are saying---IS CORRECT... You will be helping--alot of women---if they--will only listen

  • @elaine7461
    @elaine7461 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    YOUR PRESENTATION IS VERY INFORMATIVE. THANK YOU MISS FAYE. 💐

  • @TJ-sr7dd
    @TJ-sr7dd ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for speaking Wisdom, Truth teller.
    I have subscribed 🙏💕

  • @PapayaPepper202
    @PapayaPepper202 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    A w man came into the salon for hot curls, he let us know he was meeting a man at the hotel across the street. Added a full face of makeup as he talked about his sweet wife and kids. Said he would be back in a couple to have his curls washed out and all his extras removed. He told us how important it was to hurry he only had 3 hours before his wife and kids needed to be picked up.

    • @kameshiam1674
      @kameshiam1674 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      😳 Oooowwwweeee!

    • @jillfoley6834
      @jillfoley6834 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Right!! The Downlow 😮how about LOWdown😂

    • @shirleymadiva6886
      @shirleymadiva6886 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      OMG!!!!!!😳

    • @jillfoley6834
      @jillfoley6834 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      😹

    • @sharhughes1086
      @sharhughes1086 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Wow! I hope she gets discernment from God to get out of that mess!