NEVER GO BACK TO THE NARCISSIST : Relationship advice
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Narcissists are also very resistant to making behavior changes, even if they're experiencing problems. They usually prefer to blame others. Even worse, they are very sensitive, reacting badly to even slight disagreements, criticisms and perceived slights that they view as a personal attack.
She ain't lying. The narc feels that if you take them back, after EVERYTHING THEY DID, then you're stupid and deserve their terrible treatment, which gets worse. This is a great opportunity to heal the trauma that bonded you to this in the 1st place. The discard is a gift and the experience is a blessing in disguise. 🌞
Yes, they use that kind of reasoning. They will say anything to justify the abuse, won't they?
@@CynthiaSchoenbauer yes because like Ms Faue said, and speaking from my own experience, their goal is to steal, kill and destroy you/ us; to take all they can then leave you with nothing, leaving a visible fraction of who you once was. The goal is to rebuild a much better version of yourself with The Creator as the architect.
Amen 💯 percent using u
After 15 years yet. I didn't fall too smart, all lust but they get you emotionally, tap into what makes you, it's a game to them, never ever love but the opposite. And it is pure evil and a demon. Yup, a vampire feeds off who ever let's him. Then brags he has thousands of women cause he wakens there lust which they think is love. Nope, in for the kill.
Thank you honey for liking my comment! I’d really like to punch him in the FACE!!! This man is REALLY. CRAZY and his mother had put him on a pedestal and NEVER CORRECTED HIM and GAVE HIM ALOT of things. HE’S A STUPID TWISTED “RETART” 4 sure! God bless you and be SAFE! Jackie from Philly
She’s right in every area of conversation. I stayed 23yrs. I divorced him & bought myself a house & brand new car - everything in it is new. I took nothing ( material ) with me & started over with our son . I left with one paycheck. I’m happy 😊 yes he has tried to come back. Yes I got the text messages - I ignored them. They never change . Remember that 🤔
I admire your courage. I'm going through the same. We are now at the breaking point. I'm trying to love myself and move on
I'm fighting it I have trapped trauma from the verbal abuse I can't wait until I'm set free I wish my mother was alive to stand with me through this.....sorry this happened 2u2
Same here, learn my lesson
"He [the demon] didn't come back to change, he came back to change YOU."
- Miss Faye
Don't take a man back once he has been with another woman. If it had worked out with her, you wouldn't have heard from him again. Stop competing with other women, thanking you're the better woman, you're winning. You're the path of least resistance.
Whenever you involved with these narcs lots of weird and strange things start to happen in you're life. Sickness, things taring up around the house, car, etc. They are demonic spirits and bring bad luck all around you.
100 percent...had that happen..thanks for reminding me!
Yes because you are unknowingly interrupting their karma. I found this out afterwards and then demons then start to cause chaos and havoc in our lives.
If it wasn't because of him it sure felt like it!!! Everything bad that happened in my life always felt like it was because of him. If the toilet stopped up I would say it's because I'm dealing with him.
Exactly
It's definitely demonic, because the devil sent him. But it's also because you stop taking care of yourself and your business. He makes sure you are distracted by him and his happenings.
If you suspect he is - he is!
Cycle of abuse is all about behavioural pattern recognition - don’t overlook their bad behaviour. Honour YOUR intuition 💙
In the bible it says when a demon leaves and comes back he will come back with more. When you leave, don't come back. When you do it will be even worse than before. Been thru that hell and almost died, he still to this day tries to contact me. Thank God I left, wish I would have sooner. God saved me and I learned my lesson.
I have trusted the Narc completely. He was my hero. 25 years later I found out he has numerous affairs going on. It almost broke me. I'm not divorced yet but had no contact for 7 months. Much more peaceful although the divorce is a horror.
I am going through the same
I made a promise to myself never look back at people 💯 😌 who hurt me 2023
Same🙏🏽
Good morning, I took the Narc back because of the crying and begging and pleading. He also started bread-crumbing me with money. As soon as I agreed to try to have a “normal” existence 🙄 he intentionally stood me up. That was that. No contact and change pad my number. I’m so thankful for your channel. You brought awareness of the DL correlation, the momma abuse and the narc. The narc I dealt with is a Cancer ♋️ with a very strange relationship with his mother. Im almost certain he was abused of as a child. I wish I knew this sooner but I saw the red flags. My total experience was approximately 9 months and I was out. Im thankful it wasn’t longer. The damage lingers.
Mine’s mom abused him too I could tell. He did weird bread crumb shit too.
Love this lady keeping me wanting to stay strong if the bastard Hoovers. I have a song coming Superstar, aimed at mine. Hehe Jackmcars12 follow and I hope she shares me. Left his label and got a Sony CEO helping me now.
U lucky 9 months is a blessing u woke up
Sounds like my ex, but he's a Libra. My mom was the one to mention the weird dynamic with his mother. I couldn't unsee it after she told me. I dealt with the BS for 3.5 years. It was pure hell.
I will tell you one thing, not only do they not change they get worse as they get older. Normal people get better with age, but they get worse. I had a friend that was narcissist. He kept discarding me, and the discard got shorter and shorter.
So true.
Girly if your not speaking the truth,I just told this 2 my friend that his getting worse...she's so tired of my story being in this nightmare she doesn't understand the abuse I went through and developed ptsd I'm trying 2 have women that can walk with me throughout this journey to help us heal one another
So True. It happen to me .
"What is therapy going to do for a demon?" You better preach Miss Faye😂😂😂
A narcissist or any other type of controlling/abusing person will always treat you worse if you take them back. The abuse will escalate. Even when you stay with someone as time goes on it gets worse; it’s best to leave as soon as possible.
Demons aren’t afraid to go to church!
Baby when you said he'll come back talking about the church I hollered!!!! This man said he wants to do right by me and Jesus!!! He is the devil. I don't think he even believes in Jesus.
This is absolutely true! I went back & ended up in the hospital. 1year NO CONTACT 💪 THANK YOU for this video! They use you for THEIR GAIN! NOTHING will be left once they are done w/you! You MUST HEAL & get your strength & power back! It takes WORK! You can DO IT 💯 especially if I did! 😊
MiIss Fay you are so right. I lived with one for almost ten years. and he had sucked me dry. No matter where I went, he followed, I didn't even know how he was finding me until one day my phone book fail from his pocket. He would beg to come back and it was only a matter of time that same cycle began over and over again. You become so stressed out. To get away from this person. That blood sucker, I joined the military, while he was away from the house. I told the military who he was because he was still trying to follow me. They told me not to worry about him any more, I have a new life and new career. He found me by telling them I was his wife. They said let him come down here and we are going to lock him up. It took me years to get over the emotional and mental abuse. I had no idea what the attachedment was. Miss Fay, I had stop dating all together out of fear. Havent dated anyone in years, avoiding other people problems, because I have my own. Everything you are saying Ms. Fay happen. People what she is saying is so true. I found I was sick all the time What's even worse, he was trying to voodoo me. My faith in God is and was strong and he guided me right out of that mess. I thank God to this day and I thank the military that the Lord put me into to get away from that evil person. Believe it or not, years later, he found me again, calling me wanting to talk to me. Don't talk to him. Don't let him know your location, and for God sake please don't sleep with him. His mother said I was the one that got away. I reported him to the police. The police said if he come down here, we will lock him up. Don't have children by him, I didn't He was trying t make me feel sorry for him and take him back once again. God how I thank you for getting me out that mess and moved me own to another life
Facts all day! 💯❤🔥 it means a lot to hear this from an elder. From someone who has been through it and lived it. Thank you so much for sharing, you are spot on. I am 9 months into the healing process and not looking back. that will come back. This is definitely spiritual warfare and they are 100% demons.
When the narcissist/toxic person comes to hoover you just remember why you discarded him/her. or they discarded you in the first place. Seriously ask yourself do you want to go through that folly again? If your answer is no then stay away and continue your healing (bearing in mind that some supply may want to believe the narcissist/toxic person and try a trial basis, although they may push for more e.g. live with you, don't give it to them and watch their true colors show, move on and start your healing).
Having a narcissist for dad caused me to grow up quick my mom couldn’t be there for me like I needed her!! She was mentally beat to the point that she got brain cancer in 2018 and passed in December of 2019 and the doctors couldn’t figure out why she had brain cancer I told the doctor my mom died from a broken heart
Ms Faye thank you so much. You right the narcissist never changed ‼️ they repeat the cycho
You were right the first time go with your gut and she is right he will be worse. The things that come out of his mouth will be more shocking and more insulting. This man is never going to grow up and he is never going to stop being evil. Move on. I went back 5 times. I can't believe how stupid I was.
Very true. The more I went back the less he bit his tongue. His words got worse each time.
I went back after 7 years . My eyes are so opened because of the damaged I survived. I survived and now when I was abused ...I stood up. I realized he can't lose . He will do whatever to break me.
He didn’t bring that money back because he felt bad for YOU. Whatever the reason was, it was all about HIM. Maybe someone told him you could take him to small claims court, or maybe he just wanted to get laid. Whatever it was, it wasn’t because he felt guilt or anything like that. I’ve come to the conclusion that narcs actually have a part of their brain that just doesn’t work. And all counseling is going to do is show him how to ACT (which makes them even more deceptive).
Oooowwweeeee!!! Deeeaaammnn I obviously needed to read this comment tonight! And you’re right! Counseling is just gonna give them the inside scoop on how to fake it better! Eye opening!
She already learned/knows this.
When me and my ex got together, I casually mentioned that I had no real relationship with my father. He utilized this to lock me in. He gave me the attention, affection, and “love” that he knows my father never gave me. When he slowly took those things away, he knew it would break me. It almost did but I turned that pain into power. Even in my moments of weakness when I entertain him, I still remain in my power because he can’t finish the destruction that he started.
You ain’t never lied Miss Faye!! I taught my daughter when she was small “never change yourself to fit in w/ anyone else or group”. I am grateful to god to have found your channel. I didn’t feel that way w/my ex husband or my daughter’s dad but that narcissist had a hold on me. It’s almost 2 yrs that I walked out for the last time. He’s back through pictures & texts. He has money & would never take money or make me pay. His ego is too big. But that is part of his bag of tricks. I won’t talk to him or meet him. I should stop answering his texts I know. Thank you ✨💚✨
Great advice. I have dealt with these demons and they are no good. They do not care about you in the least. I do think they get pleasure from hurting you. Run from them and don't look back.
U have it correct 💯
Don't go back ya'll
Been there done that 13 yrs
Don't go back PERIOD!!!!!!
Never 😅😅😅 will I take that problem back I got peace ✌️✌️ amen
Bless you Ms. Faye for helping others who have been with these viscous demons. All they do is destroy peoples lives. I’ve been there and You explain this perfectly. I’ve seen them ruin so many lives.
“How does therapy help a demon?” It doesn’t….but it can help you! For 20 years I suspected that things were ‘not quite right “, but stayed anyway in absolute misery. I have since learned the necessary lessons, put my life in God’s hands and am now done with the total craziness . I’m thankful for the life lessons and am preparing for the true love of my life. Thank you Heavenly Father for your protection!!❤
Thank you miss fye . Your rite never ever go back to a narcissistic man 💯 💯 💯
I grew up with a narc, I thought that's how men are!!!
You talk to us ladies in the way of passing on women's wisdom. Of course it is good for the men too, but it is women's wisdom that is passed down about us and to those of us who are trying to find love as the most important thing in our lives so we can grow into strong people. I lay in bed to relax and listen to you to have someone teach me the wonderful lessons about how to have successful relationships and be well aware of the pitfalls and pain. I want to be a STRONG WOMAN and find a real and positive identity with other people who are as helpful to me as I am to them with a mutual kindness, acceptance, and bonding hearts.
Ms. Faye, I want to thank you for all that you do! I should write a book about my experience. I grew up with a Narcissistic father and drew a Covert thinking his kindness was the opposite of my father. Never will I show vulnerability again. I have fears of his contact with my grandchildren, because they ask about him and he makes them laugh. They are too young to understand that everything about him is not real. I may have to see him, but I will smile, wave and keep moving, but things will change if he hurts my babies.
I did the same thing. I decided to never show vulnerability again. It seems to give people the red light 🚦 to hurt me! Words and games can hurt a lot and I rather go inside and deny my need to connect than let them repeatedly hurt me and tear me down. They hurt and tore me down anyway!
Thank you so much. He will never get back in my life. I know his game know. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
Everything you described is true I didn’t realize my dad was narcissist until a few years ago when I was dating a man who I realized was a narcissist then when I started thinking back on pass relationships they all were narcissists!! But the last narcissist was the one who broke me but because I was use to leaving pass relationships I left him and it hurt so bad the he would Hoover me and show up at places I would be!! I still catch him riding by my house!! These people are the worst type of people and very immature 💯
Every word spoken here is true. Once educated on the patterns of narcissist, my spouse love bombed, devalued and discarded me within 7 days. I learn the longer you’re with them the shorter the duration. It’s mind boggling to see what you now know unfold before you. he will never ever change. Too toxic, it’s beyond time to leave🤦🏾♀️
Love your videos, your wise words finally gave me the strength to leave my toxic situation for good
Miss Faye, you told it like it was supposed to be said on this video about the monster narcissist.
If you can escape the tenacles of the narcissist on the first break- up, count yourself lucky. When they circle-back for "the kill", it might literally be that. For some it is not enough to wound you deeply and destroy everything that is dear to you in this life, this may actually be life-threatening. Some may take it a step further. If they can't own or control you, then they don't want anyone else to either. Danger! 😮
Can get dangerous if you give back. Dangerous for your life
Miss Faye, that was so deep what you mentioned about the therapy... You validated a decision that I made of not going to therapy with a narcissist... Therapy makes them worse if you ask me... I intuitively knew not to go! Thank you 'Beautiful Lady'! You have an amazing good soul!!! I love watching your videos!
My demon once said he will have the therapist sitting in the chair while he evaluate them.
Therapy just makes the narcissist stronger in their abusive ways, since phsicology is made to strengthen the ego of people
@@naturalhealingmexico Thank you so much! Great Quote! I appreciate you!
They manipulate the therapists or they play the game and buy some time. I’ve done it twice with two different ones- bad decision!!
@@maristahuddleston6213 Hahaha, the audacity! In a way, he is not wrong...they are good at observing & evaluating people because they survive from interactions with people and needing a host body to host their parasite personality/spirit.
They are very fragile psychologically & very negatively dependent on people (supply) even if they have a lot of bravado & arrogance.
They need to quickly discern who is an easy target who will give & give & delay receiving with a misplaced trust.
- from Judith Herman's book Trauma & Recovery
Pure wisdom dear...! The Bible says in the end-times there will be more numbers of 'lovers of self' - lots of narcs/abusers are proliferating! Book of Jude verses 16,17,18,19
Jude? He was a f** ING narcissist demon whom betray Jesus, may he burn in hell forever. Narcissists are little Judes
Miss Faye - your messages are FIRE. Thanks for letting us know what the deal is. Life is too short to be used and abused.
Wow. I need to hear this. I want to get away from this man. Never have I encountered such a demon. Thank you so much for your knowledge and your support and your efforts to share to help other women in crisis. God bless you.
God bless you Ms Fay. You are an inspired teacher. Thank you for all you are do to help the victims who are mostly women. Lots of love to you.
Glad you explained how you get tied to them when you know better.
I went back. 2 weeks later all hell broke lose again . And it was worse than ever. Never again . I will not go back .
We stay because its a familiar spirit
The narc I dealt with hovered for years and I ignored him. I made the mistake my answering his Hoover after 18 years. Big mistake. His life left him and he went on and on about she used him and cheated on him. I don’t know if any of that is true. I told me he changed and have a personal relationship with God. After a month I realized he had issues. He would get into a rage and rant about nonsense. He was double minded. It was a roller coaster that lasted 3 months. I was so happy when he said he didn’t want to be with me anymore. I was like thank you. I wanted to end of after a month, but I couldn’t. He came back after 2 weeks like nothing happened. I said we’re not together anymore. I tried to gaslight me and said he never ended it. I pulled out the text and read it to him. He got upset. The fool ended it by text and I kept it. I blocked him and haven’t heard from him since 2021. Im sure he will Hoover again.
Amen. It’s amazing how the mind smoothed thing over better than things REALLY ARE???? Amazes me!! Over and over and over…….I guess because We NEED it to be better!!! It’s what we WANT him to be like, the way you WISH he was, but that isn’t the REAL HIM????
It happened to me and I had to run for my life and I never looked back.
❤TY WARRIOR ANGEL 😇 MS FAYE for inspiring & preparing the community to handle these ppl with confidence & self worth! The devil is a liar!! Just expose them with the truth I’m only allowing conversation at a therapist session ONLY to help with his treatment & the counselor can tell him that I’m not coming back !!! 😊❤
When you love someone you trust them. When you do not trust a person the bond of love is already destroyed. Take time to heal with much fasting and prayer. Meditate all you want. I suggest you call on Doctor Jesus❤
Love your videos, Ms Feye...I wish I could of listened to you before, but I have made most of the mistakes you have spoken about, but I'm out now for 11 months now, close to a year, it was terribly hard at first..this is the longest I've been away from him...I will not go back to a man who hurt me... and didn't care, or love me..he's on a mission to destroy...me, my beautiful ❤️ life and freedom...not gonna happen...he'll find another victim..and do the same abuse, love bomb, devalue, discard, hoover.. and yes, every trip I took with him, I had to pay my own way... Terrible man.. Thank you my girl..I've been through it all..love ya, and big 🫂 🤗 hugs..😍
He is back lurking after 2years. Much needed !! Thank you .
Hey Mrs. Faye LoVe you dearly and thank you for what you’re doing 🙏🏾
Thank you for your wise words and for sharing your experience! All that you say is right! I know because I am experiencing this and I did make the mistake of going back. I was able to leave my narcissist husband again and now he wants me back. I have vowed to never return regardless of what he gives me or says. It took me 20 years to find out who he really was. Today, women have the possibility to go online and listen to other people’s stories and trained Doctors who can help you detect those demons. I wish no one to ever be in contact with those people( demons)! Too many women get fooled into these relationships and have no idea what they are getting into!! I pray that Videos like yours go viral so that women can wake up and not fall for the oki dok!!
Your wisdom is so on point, going through exactly what you are saying right now. I just got out and taking it day by day after 37yrs. Its frightening to know there are people out here like that.
100% facts. Miss Faye, everything you said in this video is on point. They have a pattern, and they play victim once you give them a dose of their own medicine.
Thank u for sharing ur
E experience!!very valuable
Lessons to be Ware & stay
Far away!!
Love urself!!
Follow ur path for ur own
Good!!
❤😊
You're so funny and sweet😄. Don't take him back ever!!! Hahahahahaha
Chain of fools, you are never the only one ☝️ Aretha Franklin said it best,
Hello Ms Faye!!!! You Are Exactly Right!!! My Father Was A Narcissis Too!!! Beware Of The Smile!!!! They Have Beautiful Smiles!!!! You Have To Look In Their Eyes And You Will See The Demon While They Are Smiling!!!! # She Who Knows Something!!!!!
I remember telling my dad I wanted to marry him at 5 years old. My dad was not a good father. He never said he loved me. My mom was a great mom but I blamed her when he left. My mom said she loved me and I pushed her away. Not until her and talked when I was in my 40's did she tell me about how they met and how it was toxic did I understand the way things really were..
😢😢😢❤❤you have really spoken to my soul. It’s time to go.
Thank you so much
Thank you!!!❤
Thank you love you are truly a blessing ❤❤❤
Love your messages
Thanks I needed that.
Thanks for your life experience, experience to learn from!! 😢
This is so truthful! Thank you for your wisdom ❤
Thank you 🙏🏾 miss Faye
Love your videos! So true and inspiring! ❤
Thanks so much Sis. You just saved me.
Narcissistic mothers affect their kids the same way.
Yes my mom did
1 believe!!
All true!!
Bless u !!
Thank you for sharing and being so honest about what happened to you
Spot on Miss Faye ❤❤❤
Everything you said is true Everything!
Thank You Ms Faye for Sharing and Confirming What I Know and this Knowledge. Very Much Appreciated
This advice is so true
I just want to thank you so much for all that you do! I feel like you answer so many questions for me . I feel like I don't get any closer from him at all. Honestly I'm devastated, drained, Tired and Crazy Cryed out.
Ms. Faye is the truth! So helpful ❤
I appreciate your wisdom nuggets! I discovered why I been with broken narcissistic guys because my father wound. I'm celebent after 7 years unequally yoked marriage l'am woke I told myself . I forgive myself unapologetically I deserve better.. You in The house keep coming back love bombing an I be like my momma didn't raise a fool . Yesssss I agree heart over head💜💯👏👏👏
Hey Miss Faye!!! Good morning! I'm here and ready to learn.
Love this gracious lady ❤️❤️❤️❤️💕💕💕💕❤️💕💕💕❤️💕❤️💞💞💞💞👍👍👍
Thank you for sharing this video 👍⭐
Oh my GOODNESS!!!!This is truth, and so valuable!❤️Thank you Miss Faye
Real talk so true
LOVE your show, I learned a lot from your show. All my life I looking for true love. but no luck.
Praise the Lord God Almighty that I have seen the LIGHT! I'LL never trust again and never go back to him.
G-R-E-A-T Ms. Faye! U R so CLEAR honey! I Thank U much!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Ms. Jackie from Philadelphia
So right, so true
Good morning my fellow Aquarian Queen 👸 ❤️
You have changed my life for the better! God bless you to continue to help us as black women!
You are doing the "good work". Thank you. My narcissist father ate away at my family of origin.
Yes MISS FAYE real talk so true bless
Yes because this time they are aiming for the kill shot
Female supply is what I my father wanted from me... How humiliating!