as a i gut functioning 36 year old adult autistic women no this isn’t normal my mother raised me as a normal functioning child in most respects but modified things a bit this storie is blantant favortisun hands down and far from normal
@rebeccamcguire2798 I’m glad you turned out alright, your mother sounds like a smart person. I’m 27, so maybe it’s a generational thing, but I know more parents like the ones in the story than like your mother.
same here only my mother and father expected me to act "normal" and punished me for not understanding social ques. this story is far from the right way to raise autistic children... the "they are special" approach- it takes the turn of modifying things so it's easier to understand for autistic kids to manage their emotions and understand the neurotypical world and turns it into immense baby-ing that ruins the life of the autistic child in ways you'd never expect. also autistic traits can and are found in family's from one or both parents so he's no more special than the mom or dad was as a child... honestly the self harming from the mother reminds me of my own habits when stressed that was a learned behavior from being hit when i did wrong as a child (i no longer do so- i just thought logically that shame and pain/regret should be meant my physical pain soon after due to being slapped up side the head... and i may be projecting onto the mother right now) i hope that family is happy and healthy eventually.... @@rebeccamcguire2798
It's also guilt too especially if the parents are older when they had the child they feel guilty like they caused the autism but also too lazy to parent properly/want to act like the child is normal like the other siblings that they didn't have to spend much effort on so they throw money on the kid to keep them quiet and it makes them feel better because it covers up the fact they weren't as good as parents as they thought they were. Many parents give themselves far to much credit for their kids turning out "good" so when they're confronted with a child that their low energy efforts don't work on it kills their ego and they throw money at the problem to put a bandage over the issue and not confront the fact that their parenting skills were actually always subpar.
Hello. I am high functioning autistic and I am here to say that the things the parents did was completely unacceptable and unnecessary because people with HFA (high functioning autism) can function like any other human if raised properly such as me. Spoiling a child just because they have HFA is unacceptable and just causes problems as the child will not be able to tell what is right from wrong.
Me too I don’t want anybody to think from just watching that all autistic people are like this like oh autistic people are weird. They are spoiled you you know I don’t want people to think that about us.
Exactly I may not have autism but my sibling today shows almost no signs of autism because he was raised right and was also shown to actually be a good person
Unfortunately, "high functioning autistic" is an EXTREMELY broadly applied term. My brother and my step-son are both "High functioning autistic" but one is capable of having a job and spending his money however he wants, which only includes necessities when our family (Who he lives with) remind him that he /has/ to pay those things /first/. The other says "Go to work daddy" instead of "I love you" and gets a sticker celebration for remembering to check the board and do his own laundry. I wish we had some more info on exactly where OP's brother was here, but I guess it doesn't really matter lol.
@CherryGryffon Yeah I can kind of relate, honestly most of the time it feels I’m inbetween or flip flops around. I did have a job for a year and I’m in college for my associates but I also keep forgetting things or doing basic tasks or physically taking care of myself at times and made quite a few epic blunders in the past. ‘High functioning’ is as you put it a very broad term.
This brother is such a good brother. He didn’t have to be. He could have grown up with resentment and rage but he treated his brother with so much compassion. His brother might have been a lost cause without him because of the way that his parents raised him.
even when the parents realised and overcorrected, that could have also ruined the child's life in the other direction but OP pulled through in those times
I think the brother is obviously never going to be completely normal but I think with enough help he could definitely become a semi normal human being.
I also have high-functioning autism, and I am disappointed that people like younger child are that spoiled. Edit 1: I am pretty sure ever since I turned 9, I have never had a tantrum.
The brother isn't how he is with tantrums and such because he's autistic. It's because the parents raised him horribly, spoiled him, and enabled horrible habits like these.
I had the double wammy of possible spoiled child syndrome, high functioning and being an only child. I'm glad my parents raised me the way they did and didn't coddle me or let me get away with stupid crap.
Hey I was the same way I’m not high functioning but I was spoiled and only child but never did I think or believed the world revolves around me. Like I used to be offended when people compared me to Angelica from rugrats 😂😂😂
Did no one get even slightly annoyed when the parents kinda blamed the kid for everything and basically forced him to play on a really old console even though they were the ones who raised him and made him so spoiled in the first place and just sold everything but a folding chair and a bed or AM I THE JERK
@@user-wb4it6ct2w honestly if it was to prove a point as long as he’s not being denied needs like water food housing living situation education socialization. Idc. Video games are a want not a need
@@maxstelzer1165it could be me being really stupid or like whatever idk what’s wrong with me I’m already getting to the stage of having resentment of being alive as I feel as I’m a burden to my family and every to even go as far as trying to ya’know but I don’t wanna talk about it. I was spoiled for a bit but realized that it doesn’t work like that quicker than most children but I hated getting punished and it is clear my defense to sneaking in a room: not even for money but for something to watch or play on is to have some sort of entertainment throughout the day. I have ADHD and I feel as when I have those hyper moments and left home alone with ABSOLUTELY nothing to do I will look for something to do. I always feel like my heart will explode if I can’t keep myself occupied or I feel like I have to do something. Probably impulses. This is still going on and I don’t even know if I’m on the spectrum of autism or something all I know is that I have ADHD and mood disorder and I sometimes feel like I gotta do it for the sake of me. Probably gonna grow up to be a narcissist and stuff even I realize my faults and it sometimes feels like the way I need to comfort myself is something to do. It could be me being dumb or stuff or whatever someone would call me. But me personally I DON’T believe in MENTAL ILLNESSES. Too many people have told me that I can control my decisions, thoughts, etc. but why do you have to also tell me that a mental illness is making me do it? Is there something I’m not getting or what? Either way I hate myself and how I act and I sometimes to not care about making myself better because at the end of the way my family is poor and I’m just one more family to feed and I cause a ton of problems. I wish to be gone forever and I will probably try to get rid of myself again. Me a 14 year old teen wishing death upon themselves because of themselves is fucking dumb and I’m saying this about myself from a 3rd person pov. I hate how I’m treated like I have explain every damn thing I say so I had to here. I don’t know if people can assume or something because of online friends which was the worse thing that happened to me in my life currently. It’s whatever because the person I liked the most online was a fucking retarded ass bitch who “pretended” (quotes because I don’t know if he was or actually is autistic) to be autistic to manipulate me or just have someone to yell at 24/7. He made me tougher and soft at the same time. It changes people I kinda wish I could’ve changed it. But either way I’m done speaking. Thanks for reading through. TL;DR (just in case) man going through early teens wishes to die because of themselves
The "your brother has special needs" excuse gets thrown out the window the instant the brother does something that inconveniences the parents. How interesting.
I'm autistic...my family had 11 children and teens in it. We had a weird little tradition where the youngest three got to blow the candles out on each others cakes AFTER the birthday child blew them out. So they were blown out, relit and blown out again. We also got ONE present each until we were between 7-9 years old. It was a small thing like a stuffed animal or a bracelet.
These are the definition of horrible parents. Even if the mom had a mental breakdown it is kinda her own fault. She raised a spoiled child, this is how the child ends up.
That ending was just so sad. The entire family is broken, each of them being mentally worn out. And what's there to show for it? A mother hospitalized/institutionalized, one son that (reasonably speaking) resents his parents actions, another son who is now scared of his dad and having to unlearn all his bad behavior, and a dad who has to manage being a proper parent to his youngest AND take care of everything regarding his wife's condition.
There was a very similar story but exchange the autistic brother with an extremely spoiled “miracle child” of a sister. SOME PEOPLE SHOULDN’T REPRODUCE 👏👏
@@Manhandle730 I can’t say that. There are some people who came from toxic families that are absolutely amazing human beings. For those people who came out right, the world needs them
@@TheGreyParse I don’t remember too well but I think it was at Chuck E. Cheese and she threw a fit when she wasn’t able to blow out the candles. Eventually she got thrown into a mental hospital (I think) by her parents because they raised her to be a monster. Something along those lines
@@saraashley464ahhh yes I was wondering too “hmmm this story seems so familiar for some reason 🤔” and THANK YOUU for reminding me which story it was. It was in fact Chuck-E-Cheese Tantrum girl story.
As an autistic person, this isn't about the kid's autism, he's just spoiled. Like I would never try to make someone's day all about me and then get upset when I don't get my way
@@rondocomedy yes, like people blaming it on drinking, or temporary insanity, PTSD, all kind of mental conditions to explain their behavior. It wasn't me, it was the booze!
That poor monster… he was taught to be placed first and knows nothing else. All the correcting is just seen as hate… he needs to know he is loved AND needs to do better
It did say that the little brother hit her. And then she hit him back hard. So she probably finally lost it because she had to end up hurting her "precious angel."
@southernflight5078 The fact the mom even admitted she spoils him not because of his autism, but because she deludes herself he'll never have to grow up and he'll be her precious baby really adds more into how sad this is.
The mother could have and possibly did have a complete mental breakdown please don't automatically assume that the son did this, when you reach breaking point and snap you can and not always but some do turn on themselves, yes she phoned her husband but that was only a small part of her that was still incontrol but the op is only repeating what he was told, I've seen my autistic brother turn on themselves
The mother could have and possibly did have a complete mental breakdown please don't automatically assume that the son did this, when you reach breaking point and snap you can and not always but some do turn on themselves, yes she phoned her husband but that was only a small part of her that was still incontrol but the op is only repeating what he was told, I've seen my autistic brother turn on themselves
The mother could have and possibly did have a complete mental breakdown please don't automatically assume that the son did this, when you reach breaking point and snap you can and not always but some do turn on themselves, yes she phoned her husband but that was only a small part of her that was still incontrol but the op is only repeating what he was told, I've seen my autistic brother turn on themselves
this is why character development is needed for a person/character to exist (the little brother was really good in the end, I finally had sympathy for him)
W aunt man, all I could say. Only she stood up and let me tell you it hurts a lot when your own parents don't support you like every parent is expected to do so. Hopefully the autistic brother and OP both are okay.
Your brother was the victim here and the perpetrator at the same time. The problem lies with your parents but not in the way you would think: I had parents not too dissimilar from your own, OP, and they're just flat out evil. I knew what that was like: they try to crush you and your spirit. Don't let them buy at the same time, your aunt knows that your parents had the same dynamic with their siblings growing up, that's why she knew to come to your rescue.
@bonjouritsready Kinda really. Now yes, the older he got the less it's the parents to blame. But the parents needed to show discipline, and giving him the consequences of their actions. My mom whooped my ass when I was doing bad things and that sure ass hell made me not to be a brat and that I can't just get things my way. Hell, even if you aren't doing physical punishment, at least make them lose privileges, ground them, take away stuff and not letting them do things. Kids will start exploiting your soft side to get things or do what they want, if older, they will think that that's how the world works.
One of the MOST important things to establish within a child early on is empathy. It’s one of those things that just gets harder to learn as you go on. These parents failed.
Empathy WITH setting boundaries. I was raised expected to have strong empathy super early but also discouraged from setting any boundaries at all, with my parents being invasive and (ironically and hypocritically) not having much empathy. It really screwed me up growing up because people would weaponize my empathy against me all the way into adulthood.
He has potential given how horrified he was when he saw his own mom brutalize herself. i kind of feel that he really isn't an inherently bad person, he just didn't have basic fundamental things really explained to him early on so he grew up living life ignorant about said things. I'm also autistic and for me, I have a habit of casually missing the point for basic social things, so I can see how another autistic person can not learn certain social behaviors unless they are *forced* to learn them.
"We don't have a favorite kid, we love you both equally" Everyone who has had a younger brother knows this is bs, every parent has a favorite kid, even if they love it a little little too much than the other
Im the younger! And [insert r/notliketheothersibling], i actually felt very bad for my beloved sister But a brat is still a brat, i often shove my blame onto my sister but apologize and done something to compensate But the point is; 𝙁𝘼𝙑𝙊𝙍𝙄𝙏𝙄𝙎𝙈 𝙄𝙎 𝙏𝙃𝙀 𝙈𝙊𝙎𝙏 𝘿𝙊𝙂𝙎𝙃𝙄𝙏 𝙏𝙃𝙄𝙉𝙂 𝙏𝙊 𝙀𝙑𝙀𝙍 𝙀𝙓𝙄𝙎𝙏
I was the opposite of coddled, my parents, mostly my dad, never believed in mental illness or conditions. My ticks and things i couldn't help were just seen as deliberate attacks against my dad. We never got along, my mom at least had the compassion to have patience with me. My dad didn't want me to have anything fun since it wasn't productive. This is just a bit of what happened
Most coddling I get for my mental stuff is a firm reminder that I'll always have the choice to move home if the outside world becomes more than I can handle and I need to start over or just hit pause.
i actually feel so bad for the young brother because his parents basically wasted his beginning life because they coddled him and made him the most important person in the room always
Stuff like that is gonna take time to unlearn, as there could be a risk of relapsed behavior, considering he'd been coddled into his teenage years. These won't be easy habits to break, and the mom relapsing back into coddling him is proof of that, also the brother confessing that he wishes things could go back to the way they were, which he was probably trying to be honest about to get it off his chest, which would be understandable, especially if hes feeling intense amount of guilt for what transpired as a result of his behavior, and probably feels even more guilty that he misses how things used to be, considering for the longest time, that was all he knew. While it's good that he's getting better now, it shouldn't have had to get to this point for the parents to realize what damage this could do in the long run, and I wish there was a better outcome. (Sorry if I made no sense. I'm sleep deprived)
Ending might be stressful, but I'm really glad people are learning in the story. Found myself hoping the older bro would get his lil bro a bike and have more heart to hearts, cause he seems ready to listen.
I love that the parent's reaction to their son throwing tantrums and breaking dishes is not to discipline him so he doesn't do it again but to just buy more dishes.
I wasn’t diagnosed with autism until I was in my twenties. My parents had always suspected that I might have it but were hesitant to have me diagnosed as a child. I asked them last year why and their response was… interesting to say the least. One, they didn’t want it to change how others treated me. When I was young, being autistic was seen as also being “special needs”. And my parents were worried about me being infantilized and placed in special education which they thought might ruin my education in general. And two, they didn’t want it to change how THEY treated me. They, but my mom especially, were concerned that the knowledge would make them more compliant with my demands. Yeah it upset me when others had things and I didn’t. But despite my begging they never gave in, unless it was Christmas or my birthday. I was about seven when I stopped believing them when they said “We can’t afford that thing”. But it didn’t matter. I learned very quickly that if I wanted something I would either have to wait for my birthday or Christmas or just buy it myself. Granted the latter caused some problems later on but the lesson was a good one to learn.
If you don't mind, how did 'buying it yourself' bring you trouble? Is it a part of ASD? I just wonder, because when I was a kid I started to like... steal money from dads wallet. not much, just some coins to get a lolipop or chocolate, but I'm sure they knew (they approached me that if I need money for something, I just have to ask, I never did because it was embarassing I'm just buying sweets all the time ._.), but never did anything about it, really. Maybe it wasn't harmful enough but I do feel bad now, even if I still have trouble with regulating how much sweets I do buy, and well, how did I even get the idea it was fine to do it back then ^^"
@@ritaerror7829 I overdrew my checking account. Multiple times. And ended up with a lot of debt. Plus my mom is an accountant and has ADHD. So whenever it happened she went a bit crazy and ended up making me not really like money.
Late diagnosis at 30 here. My father merely said "you were passing your classes and you didn't need a helmet so we thought you were fine, just weird." Back in the 80s and 90s, it was a lot harder to get a diagnosis than it is now. Hope you are well
I am the youngest of 5 kids and also autistic but I was never treated with this blatant favoritism the most I got was being able to be more picky with dinner.
"My mom just cried and made excuses about my brother being special." she needed to get her head out of her ass and learn that in his case, the "special" was only as in Olympics.
That's a weird thing to say because if he was actually special in that way, their treatment of him would make a lot more sense. This is a story about "high functioning" autism lol.
My little brother is autistic. Yet instead of spoiling him, my parents loved him the same as me and my other brothers, yet did understand his, for lack of a better word eccentric pursuits. (He studies dates and times constantly and will look up weather reports frequently.) Yet they did have a way to show that although we are different, we are brothers and friends.
As someone who’s also autistic, I’ve seen this from the outside. My cousin just so happens to be autistic as well, she’s treated like a princess while the rest of us are treated like strangers
Oooohhh boy... HIGH FUNCTIONING AUTISTIC DOESN'T MAKE IT RIGHT TO CODDLE A KID!!! i have ADHD Autism, and my mom kinda coddled me (& my old b1tc# sister) for my younger years... Im 20 now, and struggling to find work because my mom has to intervene on every interview and try to coddle me into jobs that i won't have the time nor energy for. My older sister, well...she has no job, and mom pays for her apartment. That idiot... I've been coddled enough, so i moved in with my grandma and pay $100 per month to help with grandma's rent and i buy my own groceries as agreed upon between me and my grandma when i moved in. 😒 I now hate my sister (she's a psychopath, a stupid one at that), and have gone low to no contact with her unless my grandma asks me to come with her to deliver food to sis or something like that.
Not to mention... Having autism of any kind means that you HAVE to be hard on a kid because I know from experience that Autism makes kids VERY smart and Artistic, but they need to know discipline if they're ever going to make their way in life.
I never really wanted to play newer games I like mostly the Gameboy games Online game I personally think are kinds bad so I made my mom buy a Gameboy games like pokemon or some ds games never really wanted those expensive online games and pc
I’m grateful for not being coddled like that. I wasn’t exactly diagnosed at a young age either. I was raised normally, well as normal as only being diagnosed with ADHD goes. I’m sure I had my moments because I fucking hated school but overall I treated others with kindness and we were fairly poor, I only got game systems sparingly until I was old enough and on my own at 18 to get my own systems. Sounds like he actually needed a good beating lol. Maybe he will shape up. He needs some intensive therapy and maybe a life skills counselor.
Im proud of the parents for finally realizing what they've done but I don't think i could ever forgive them. Im also proud of the younger brother for trying to be a better person but I hate how arrogant and self-centered he was. But im most proud of the older brother for standing up to his family but i hate how he'll soften up and forgive them so easily
I think it's really important in stories like this to point out his brother having autism is not why he turned into such a spoiled kid. His parents being awful parents is why he turned out like that, and honestly from the story it sounds like the parents just shouldnt have ever had kids. Boot camps, mental break downs, and spankings out of anger etc like in the end will not solve the core problems. He needs intense therapy and honestly to be removed from his parents. (I don't think OP was saying that about autistics, I'm just putting it out bcs some people take stories like these as proof autistic people are just bad people bcs of autism and not how they are raised and handled)
The issue is because parents can't handle the meltdown so they give the child whatever they want. My son is autistic and 4 years old. His teacher told me he hit her and bit her during a meltdown. While walking him home i told him we were NOT getting ice cream from the truck that parks next to his school and why. When we got home I told him NO tabby(tablet) for 2 hours and why. I told his grandpa (he lives with us) NO candy or treats for the day. I was accused of depriving the boy of food. I wasn't depriving him of food, just treats. The next day he had to apologize to his teacher for what he did. THAT IS PARENTING! "BuT hE's SpEcIaL" is not an excuse. It means take your damn time and work with the child! Talk to them, calm them down, show right from wrong.....
I think any progress OP’s brother made can be attributed to OP directly tbh. OP cared more about his future than his own parents did, on top of having the spine to put his foot down about his _own_ qualms.
Op likely did not include that as a lash against autistic people, although it was technically a second hand piece of the puzzle that lead to the brother being so spoiled due to him being autistic causing his mom to coddle him as much as she did, although she probably would have still coddled him without it.
@@freeeeeeeez Honestly, It's the mismanagement of the condition that has given it such a bad rep. There are many parents that will either coddle or give up whenever their child has a meltdown. This only re-enforces the negative behavior because the child believes it's an acceptable method getting their way. The bad behavior yielded positive results from the child's perspective, so they will continue to behave that way. A kid screaming in a restaurant gets a phone/tablet handed to them. Then every time you go out the child will act out to get the phone/tablet.
The more you F around, the worse you'll find out. It literally had to take the mother snapping and harming herself just to finally get that section of the family (sans OP) to accept the consequences of their actions.
I have to congrat the parents, they really made a 180° turn about their parenting mode, not easy at all. Even tough, they will not really accomplish anything good.
I’m thankful I wasn’t coddled due to being deaf. I was coddled a little bit due to cancer, which is understandable. I did stand on Death’s doorstep at one point. Just because the kid is autistic doesn’t mean they can’t learn right from wrong. While I grew up during a time when spanking was the norm, and while I feel I turned out alright, I do frown on the practice.
I feel this. Way too close to home. My mother was abusive mentally, emotionally and financially to me. I was the only girl out of three kids, and am autistic. My brother, who is two years older than me (Freddy) is also autistic, but he's worse at masking than I am. My twin brother, Cas, is the only sibling who isn't autistic. My mother favored Freddy, my dad favored Cas, and I was left in the nowhere zone. The only attention I got was negative attention or my mom trying to dress me up, even when it made me uncomfortable. I felt like I couldn't even enjoy the few benefits there were to being _neglected_ (like them not paying attention to where I go/what I do), because I was overprotected simultaneously. Freddy was a master at weaponizing feigned ignorance. He would conveniently "forget" how to do his chores, and since I was the only girl in this sexist household, I would get stuck with all the extra chores. Didn't help that I was a bit of a doormat, since I would push myself well beyond my limits to "be a good daughter", and desperately did everything I could in hopes it would make them love me. Ha. For Freddy, his autism was a card he could pull out whenever he wanted. A "get out of ANYTHING free" card. But for me, my autism was just an excuse my mother would use to invalidate my opinions ("You just think differently, sweetheart. You don't understand this." was an infuriatingly common phrase.) I didn't know a damn thing about my disabilities, or how to manage my symptoms, until well after my mother kicked me out for the last and billionth time. She just convinced me it was Bad Opinions and Overreactions Disorder, so once I was thrown out, I wasn't able to get the help I needed. Not only had THEY worked me far past my limits every day for years, but I was now overworking myself just trying to survive. I struggled to survive for 8 long, torturous years. I was forced to throw myself at the mercy of others, and they almost all were awful people. With few exceptions, they all took me in to make themselves look good. I warned each and every one of them what taking me in would mean, and what my limits were. That I tended to shut down for days, unable to take care of myself. None of them fully grasped it, and all of them acted like they did. I bounced from couch to couch, never knowing how long I'd have a roof over my head or if I'd have one at all, working myself to the point of attempting suicide over and over again. Each hospitalization cost me my job, and if I was particularly unlucky, it also cost me my housing. I got very lucky, and survived long enough to meet my current partner. She's also autistic, and makes me question why I never tried dating another autistic person before. My autistic burnout has gotten so horrible that I can't even leave the house, and am basically bedridden. I feared getting to this point for all those years, because I felt that nobody would take care of me when I got to that point, and that I would die out on the streets. But... She _gets_ me. She understands that when I say I can't, I mean _I CAN'T,_ she doesn't force me to do more than I'm able. She doesn't do the passive aggressive hinting that she wants me to do more, like my parents and previous roommates did. She actually respects my boundaries. Both my twin brother and I have cut our parents off like the tumors they are, and I finally have enough time and help to begin healing from all the trauma I suffered-- both from my family, and from my past roommates. My gf and I are both applying for disability, since neither of us can work the hours we'd need to survive. Here's hoping that works out for us, and soon!
Good on Op, the relatives and aunt to set up an intervention, both parents and Ops brother need to be aware that their actions will not be ignored and enabling their son would have strict consequences in the long run. As he’ll grow up to have no skills to survive the real world.
And this is why my grandma who raised her great granddaughter with autism treated her like a normal kid with normal boundaries. Yes, some things were changed to fit her needs. But for the majority, she was treated like a normal kid. And while some things were excused, god help that kid if she tried to use autism as an excuse for a temper tantrum when it 'very' obviously had nothing to do with it.
I’m autistic. If I was younger and my parents learned I had autism, they would’ve never done this. I have a brother and we were treated the same through our entire childhoods.
As an autistic person who wasn't diagnosed until about a year ago, no one should raise their autistic child like that. especially if they're that high functioning.
Damn these parents are aweful. What infuriates me the most is not their favoritism or spoiling their child so horrible but the fact that they resort to violence and abuse when they run out excuses or can't silence the younger child by buying him stuff.
@@PungiFungiit turned for the better because his mother was institutionalized he his moron brother was shaken to his core because of this the beating really were only extra unnecessary steps that happened but it's understandable that they happened
I’m autistic, and I’m the opposite of that brother, I hated having birthday parties because everyone was focused on me. There’s no way in hell that everything he did was because of his autism.
As a 14 year old, I have something to say. First of all, I am a Nigerian And I still live in Nigeria. And to be honest, I used to be like the younger brother because when My Mum and Dad got married in 2005, They had a fight about the things that they needed to do and got divorced in 2012. However, My Mum gave Birth To my Elder Sister (Born in March 13, 2006) and then me (Born in April 20, 2009.) My sister is often more well-behaved than me because I used to stay with my Mum when I was 3, and stopped when I was 6. And In those times, I didn't learn how to behaive my self because my Mum usually wasn't hard on me. So When My Dad found out about this, He had to take me with him so that I can start behaving well. One of the best methods he did was dealing with me (Which Is usually allowed in my country) which is the reason why 'till this day, I have been behaving much, much better and better than before, But not completely. And Like I said, My sister is still more well-behaved than me. So I have to say something: People in the United States/United Kingdom Are not meant to deal with their child(ren), lest they get arrested, Because they have insane parents who kill their child(ren) for their wrongdoing. But that's the reason why kids do a lot of stupid things, Like shooting people in school, et cetera. But I might sound stupid saying this: The government should adjust situation that's happening, Because they can't allow parents to kill their child(ren) or allow the parents child(ren) to do various types of embarrassingly stupid things. So what I suggest is that the government *_SHOULD_* allow the parents to deal with their child(ren) carefully for their wrongdoing or any type of worse punishment that teaches the child(ren) a lesson, never to attempt the action again, So that they won't have the urge to commit crimes when they get older. However, that's what I think is important for the Parental Child Control to change. If anyone has anything to say, Please go ahead. ^^
I feel bad for the parents, OP, and the brother. There were mistakes made but none were out of malice. It seems the parents just did not know how to manage him, and gave into all his whims, leading to his behavior worsening.
When he jolt when the author touched him, and when he said sorry like that, i could definitely agree he almost touched the spectrum of ASD. I CAN'T CONFIRM
I have autism, and I'm a twin and my mum would try her best to make things equal, so what your parents are doing is wrong, and your parents have done no favours to your brother
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The aunt is the real hero of this story.
Not only she was the real parent here, but also the mvp
W aunt
@@BeautifulBelladonnaMVA -- Most Valuable Aunt
W aunt
W aunt
This seems like a really unhealthy way to raise a child with autism, but from what I’ve seen with my own relatives, it’s the most common way.
as a i gut functioning 36 year old adult autistic women no this isn’t normal my mother raised me as a normal functioning child in most respects but modified things a bit this storie is blantant favortisun hands down and far from normal
@rebeccamcguire2798 I’m glad you turned out alright, your mother sounds like a smart person. I’m 27, so maybe it’s a generational thing, but I know more parents like the ones in the story than like your mother.
@@rebeccamcguire2798it's just most parents can't handle child tantrum and just give whatever the kids want
same here only my mother and father expected me to act "normal" and punished me for not understanding social ques. this story is far from the right way to raise autistic children...
the "they are special" approach- it takes the turn of modifying things so it's easier to understand for autistic kids to manage their emotions and understand the neurotypical world and turns it into immense baby-ing that ruins the life of the autistic child in ways you'd never expect.
also autistic traits can and are found in family's from one or both parents so he's no more special than the mom or dad was as a child...
honestly the self harming from the mother reminds me of my own habits when stressed that was a learned behavior from being hit when i did wrong as a child (i no longer do so- i just thought logically that shame and pain/regret should be meant my physical pain soon after due to being slapped up side the head... and i may be projecting onto the mother right now)
i hope that family is happy and healthy eventually....
@@rebeccamcguire2798
It's also guilt too especially if the parents are older when they had the child they feel guilty like they caused the autism but also too lazy to parent properly/want to act like the child is normal like the other siblings that they didn't have to spend much effort on so they throw money on the kid to keep them quiet and it makes them feel better because it covers up the fact they weren't as good as parents as they thought they were. Many parents give themselves far to much credit for their kids turning out "good" so when they're confronted with a child that their low energy efforts don't work on it kills their ego and they throw money at the problem to put a bandage over the issue and not confront the fact that their parenting skills were actually always subpar.
Hello. I am high functioning autistic and I am here to say that the things the parents did was completely unacceptable and unnecessary because people with HFA (high functioning autism) can function like any other human if raised properly such as me. Spoiling a child just because they have HFA is unacceptable and just causes problems as the child will not be able to tell what is right from wrong.
As a fellow HFA I agree 110%
Me too I don’t want anybody to think from just watching that all autistic people are like this like oh autistic people are weird. They are spoiled you you know I don’t want people to think that about us.
As a fellow HFA this brother is just wrong.
Exactly I may not have autism but my sibling today shows almost no signs of autism because he was raised right and was also shown to actually be a good person
Me too
The mom had the craziest character development I've ever seen 🔥🔥
Literally crazy 🔥🔥
As someone who is also high functioning autistic, being this entitled is complete bs.
Unfortunately, "high functioning autistic" is an EXTREMELY broadly applied term. My brother and my step-son are both "High functioning autistic" but one is capable of having a job and spending his money however he wants, which only includes necessities when our family (Who he lives with) remind him that he /has/ to pay those things /first/.
The other says "Go to work daddy" instead of "I love you" and gets a sticker celebration for remembering to check the board and do his own laundry. I wish we had some more info on exactly where OP's brother was here, but I guess it doesn't really matter lol.
as a autistics women this isn’t normal this is just aprently blantant favorit um hands down
@CherryGryffon Yeah I can kind of relate, honestly most of the time it feels I’m inbetween or flip flops around. I did have a job for a year and I’m in college for my associates but I also keep forgetting things or doing basic tasks or physically taking care of myself at times and made quite a few epic blunders in the past. ‘High functioning’ is as you put it a very broad term.
i'm autistic and being such is not an excuse to be a brat.
Ikr the little brother is just a bratty little shit
This brother is such a good brother. He didn’t have to be. He could have grown up with resentment and rage but he treated his brother with so much compassion. His brother might have been a lost cause without him because of the way that his parents raised him.
even when the parents realised and overcorrected, that could have also ruined the child's life in the other direction but OP pulled through in those times
I think the brother is obviously never going to be completely normal but I think with enough help he could definitely become a semi normal human being.
I also have high-functioning autism, and I am disappointed that people like younger child are that spoiled.
Edit 1: I am pretty sure ever since I turned 9, I have never had a tantrum.
The brother isn't how he is with tantrums and such because he's autistic. It's because the parents raised him horribly, spoiled him, and enabled horrible habits like these.
I had the double wammy of possible spoiled child syndrome, high functioning and being an only child. I'm glad my parents raised me the way they did and didn't coddle me or let me get away with stupid crap.
Hey I was the same way I’m not high functioning but I was spoiled and only child but never did I think or believed the world revolves around me. Like I used to be offended when people compared me to Angelica from rugrats 😂😂😂
Did no one get even slightly annoyed when the parents kinda blamed the kid for everything and basically forced him to play on a really old console even though they were the ones who raised him and made him so spoiled in the first place and just sold everything but a folding chair and a bed
or AM I THE JERK
@@user-wb4it6ct2w honestly if it was to prove a point as long as he’s not being denied needs like water food housing living situation education socialization. Idc. Video games are a want not a need
@@maxstelzer1165it could be me being really stupid or like whatever idk what’s wrong with me I’m already getting to the stage of having resentment of being alive as I feel as I’m a burden to my family and every to even go as far as trying to ya’know but I don’t wanna talk about it. I was spoiled for a bit but realized that it doesn’t work like that quicker than most children but I hated getting punished and it is clear my defense to sneaking in a room: not even for money but for something to watch or play on is to have some sort of entertainment throughout the day. I have ADHD and I feel as when I have those hyper moments and left home alone with ABSOLUTELY nothing to do I will look for something to do. I always feel like my heart will explode if I can’t keep myself occupied or I feel like I have to do something. Probably impulses. This is still going on and I don’t even know if I’m on the spectrum of autism or something all I know is that I have ADHD and mood disorder and I sometimes feel like I gotta do it for the sake of me. Probably gonna grow up to be a narcissist and stuff even I realize my faults and it sometimes feels like the way I need to comfort myself is something to do. It could be me being dumb or stuff or whatever someone would call me. But me personally I DON’T believe in MENTAL ILLNESSES. Too many people have told me that I can control my decisions, thoughts, etc. but why do you have to also tell me that a mental illness is making me do it? Is there something I’m not getting or what? Either way I hate myself and how I act and I sometimes to not care about making myself better because at the end of the way my family is poor and I’m just one more family to feed and I cause a ton of problems. I wish to be gone forever and I will probably try to get rid of myself again. Me a 14 year old teen wishing death upon themselves because of themselves is fucking dumb and I’m saying this about myself from a 3rd person pov. I hate how I’m treated like I have explain every damn thing I say so I had to here. I don’t know if people can assume or something because of online friends which was the worse thing that happened to me in my life currently. It’s whatever because the person I liked the most online was a fucking retarded ass bitch who “pretended” (quotes because I don’t know if he was or actually is autistic) to be autistic to manipulate me or just have someone to yell at 24/7. He made me tougher and soft at the same time. It changes people I kinda wish I could’ve changed it. But either way I’m done speaking. Thanks for reading through.
TL;DR (just in case) man going through early teens wishes to die because of themselves
Me too
The "your brother has special needs" excuse gets thrown out the window the instant the brother does something that inconveniences the parents. How interesting.
I'm autistic...my family had 11 children and teens in it. We had a weird little tradition where the youngest three got to blow the candles out on each others cakes AFTER the birthday child blew them out. So they were blown out, relit and blown out again. We also got ONE present each until we were between 7-9 years old. It was a small thing like a stuffed animal or a bracelet.
@@HollyGaming994I’m one of 7 and my mom shut down any idea of making someone else’s birthday about everyone long before I was born.
This 👆👆👆
Well it doesn’t make them feel much better to gaslight themselves as being “selfish”.
@@HollyGaming99411!
These are the definition of horrible parents. Even if the mom had a mental breakdown it is kinda her own fault. She raised a spoiled child, this is how the child ends up.
Parenting 101: you must teach your child to tolerate disappointments. Simple as that.
20 Meters tall is crazy....
It's probably written by an A.I or the guy is a dumbass at spelling.
😂😂😂
Lmao
Wait till you hear the rest of the story
Who’s 20 meters?
That ending was just so sad. The entire family is broken, each of them being mentally worn out. And what's there to show for it? A mother hospitalized/institutionalized, one son that (reasonably speaking) resents his parents actions, another son who is now scared of his dad and having to unlearn all his bad behavior, and a dad who has to manage being a proper parent to his youngest AND take care of everything regarding his wife's condition.
It was just dark man
I feel bad for all of them.
@@Only1BigFanOfO1GnHypeMyke
I don't...
They made their beds, now they can sleep in them.
The only victims here are the children.
As an autistic kid, I am so grateful that my parents set boundaries for me party wise
I work in group homes and deal with individuals like this all the time, all have been spoiled and coddled and then we have to deal with them
There was a very similar story but exchange the autistic brother with an extremely spoiled “miracle child” of a sister. SOME PEOPLE SHOULDN’T REPRODUCE 👏👏
Many if not most shouldn’t.
@@Manhandle730 I can’t say that. There are some people who came from toxic families that are absolutely amazing human beings. For those people who came out right, the world needs them
The one with the sister and the apocalyptic Chuckie Cheese family shark attack?
@@TheGreyParse I don’t remember too well but I think it was at Chuck E. Cheese and she threw a fit when she wasn’t able to blow out the candles. Eventually she got thrown into a mental hospital (I think) by her parents because they raised her to be a monster. Something along those lines
@@saraashley464ahhh yes I was wondering too “hmmm this story seems so familiar for some reason 🤔” and THANK YOUU for reminding me which story it was. It was in fact Chuck-E-Cheese Tantrum girl story.
Redemption is never given, it's earned, and based on the ending your family still has a ways to go.
Im a high functioning autistic, wtf is wrong with those parents!?! They should be ashamed pf themselves
Sounds like a more extreme version of Young Sheldon
I respect your thoughts and I 100 percent agree with you
As an autistic person, this isn't about the kid's autism, he's just spoiled. Like I would never try to make someone's day all about me and then get upset when I don't get my way
FR!Dude I have autism(was diagnosed)and like I would NOT make someone’s birthday all about me,throw a cake at the birthday boy and ruin it all.
its just an excuse that means literally nothing (also im also autistic!!!!!!!!1)
@@rondocomedy yes, like people blaming it on drinking, or temporary insanity, PTSD, all kind of mental conditions to explain their behavior. It wasn't me, it was the booze!
Im autistic and i agree
Thank God I wasn't coddled because of my own Autism.
Same 😭
Dude same 😂
Bro, same here 💀
Same shame these parent's were shitty parent's
I got the opposite
I hope the lil bro gets humbled hard when hes adult
Me too😂😂
That poor monster… he was taught to be placed first and knows nothing else. All the correcting is just seen as hate… he needs to know he is loved AND needs to do better
you know its bad when your aunt is parenting your parents
You also know it's bad when your child is telling you how to parent
Real
You also also know it’s bad when someone in your family is “special needs”
The moms self harm story and the little brothers reaction sure makes it seem like little brother did the beating and mom was covering.
It did say that the little brother hit her. And then she hit him back hard. So she probably finally lost it because she had to end up hurting her "precious angel."
@southernflight5078 The fact the mom even admitted she spoils him not because of his autism, but because she deludes herself he'll never have to grow up and he'll be her precious baby really adds more into how sad this is.
The mother could have and possibly did have a complete mental breakdown please don't automatically assume that the son did this, when you reach breaking point and snap you can and not always but some do turn on themselves, yes she phoned her husband but that was only a small part of her that was still incontrol but the op is only repeating what he was told, I've seen my autistic brother turn on themselves
The mother could have and possibly did have a complete mental breakdown please don't automatically assume that the son did this, when you reach breaking point and snap you can and not always but some do turn on themselves, yes she phoned her husband but that was only a small part of her that was still incontrol but the op is only repeating what he was told, I've seen my autistic brother turn on themselves
The mother could have and possibly did have a complete mental breakdown please don't automatically assume that the son did this, when you reach breaking point and snap you can and not always but some do turn on themselves, yes she phoned her husband but that was only a small part of her that was still incontrol but the op is only repeating what he was told, I've seen my autistic brother turn on themselves
this is why character development is needed for a person/character to exist (the little brother was really good in the end, I finally had sympathy for him)
W aunt man, all I could say. Only she stood up and let me tell you it hurts a lot when your own parents don't support you like every parent is expected to do so. Hopefully the autistic brother and OP both are okay.
Your brother was the victim here and the perpetrator at the same time. The problem lies with your parents but not in the way you would think: I had parents not too dissimilar from your own, OP, and they're just flat out evil. I knew what that was like: they try to crush you and your spirit. Don't let them buy at the same time, your aunt knows that your parents had the same dynamic with their siblings growing up, that's why she knew to come to your rescue.
The brother wasn’t a victim 🙄
@bonjouritsready Kinda really. Now yes, the older he got the less it's the parents to blame. But the parents needed to show discipline, and giving him the consequences of their actions. My mom whooped my ass when I was doing bad things and that sure ass hell made me not to be a brat and that I can't just get things my way. Hell, even if you aren't doing physical punishment, at least make them lose privileges, ground them, take away stuff and not letting them do things. Kids will start exploiting your soft side to get things or do what they want, if older, they will think that that's how the world works.
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No he not
I admit..I know parents can relapse when it comes to spoiling their ‘favoured’ children..But I wasn’t expecting THAT outcome with the mother.
Thecnically that PS4 Is your parents property (According to USA law) And taking it is the same as stealing
@@Randomsasswho ask you bum🤡
I’ve seen it too. It’s just easier to give into the negative behaviors by rewarding it in order to prevent them from having a meltdown.
Someone give this aunt a award
That aunt is a legend
Yall get birthday parties and present?
@@Randomsass I get presents. But like last time I had a party was when I was like… 5
One of the MOST important things to establish within a child early on is empathy. It’s one of those things that just gets harder to learn as you go on. These parents failed.
Ace bestieeee
@@arianaluvsu210poop
Empathy WITH setting boundaries.
I was raised expected to have strong empathy super early but also discouraged from setting any boundaries at all, with my parents being invasive and (ironically and hypocritically) not having much empathy.
It really screwed me up growing up because people would weaponize my empathy against me all the way into adulthood.
He has potential given how horrified he was when he saw his own mom brutalize herself. i kind of feel that he really isn't an inherently bad person, he just didn't have basic fundamental things really explained to him early on so he grew up living life ignorant about said things. I'm also autistic and for me, I have a habit of casually missing the point for basic social things, so I can see how another autistic person can not learn certain social behaviors unless they are *forced* to learn them.
Aunt is the MVP!! Clearly the best aunt dealing with the spoiled child, she's like a MVP and a hero!
"We don't have a favorite kid, we love you both equally"
Everyone who has had a younger brother knows this is bs, every parent has a favorite kid, even if they love it a little little too much than the other
Im the younger!
And [insert r/notliketheothersibling], i actually felt very bad for my beloved sister
But a brat is still a brat, i often shove my blame onto my sister but apologize and done something to compensate
But the point is; 𝙁𝘼𝙑𝙊𝙍𝙄𝙏𝙄𝙎𝙈 𝙄𝙎 𝙏𝙃𝙀 𝙈𝙊𝙎𝙏 𝘿𝙊𝙂𝙎𝙃𝙄𝙏 𝙏𝙃𝙄𝙉𝙂 𝙏𝙊 𝙀𝙑𝙀𝙍 𝙀𝙓𝙄𝙎𝙏
I was the opposite of coddled, my parents, mostly my dad, never believed in mental illness or conditions. My ticks and things i couldn't help were just seen as deliberate attacks against my dad. We never got along, my mom at least had the compassion to have patience with me. My dad didn't want me to have anything fun since it wasn't productive. This is just a bit of what happened
Damn that’s rough. I hope you’re in a better place now.
Sorry your parents were assholes hope you are doing better now
@@Twilight24682 its been better, sadly took two incidents for them to change for the better. Its a work in process
@@f687sNFM What were those incidents IF you don't mind me asking?
Same i was beaten
When dad whips out the n64 + multiple games, I wouldn't have been like "Boring!"
Hell no, I'd be like "YOO WICKED DK64!"
14 year old me would’ve been wilding with an etch a sketch
Yeah the N64 may be an old console but it still has good games.
Honestly yeah, you know how expensive that shiz is these days?
Give 8 y/o me a stick and I would have the time of my life
Dude, I’d be hyped for a damn Pokémon DS game
20 meters?? Op is a freaking giant
I love text to speech Reddit stories, the never get it right and it’s fantastic
First: WHAT HORRIBLE PARENTS!
end:Oh.....WHAT COOL PARENTS!
Most coddling I get for my mental stuff is a firm reminder that I'll always have the choice to move home if the outside world becomes more than I can handle and I need to start over or just hit pause.
If some kid pushed my birthday cake off a table we gotta fight.
nah you'd lose cause he finna pull out his special attacks on you 😂
@@h4xp thats just *MEAN*
Same
@@h4xplittle brother used thunderbolt
@@Egguyt birthday kid used restraining order
THIS IS SO SATISFYING OML
when my mom pushed me away after my dad died and her boyfriend tormented me for 5 years i labeled her a traitor, but i NEVER wanted her to suffer
i actually feel so bad for the young brother because his parents basically wasted his beginning life because they coddled him and made him the most important person in the room always
I don't feel bad for him
@@BlackPanther00930 yea i dont like him but also hes too young for it to be his fault hes like that
The brother was horribly spoiled but at least he got a bit better after the favouritism stopped
Stuff like that is gonna take time to unlearn, as there could be a risk of relapsed behavior, considering he'd been coddled into his teenage years. These won't be easy habits to break, and the mom relapsing back into coddling him is proof of that, also the brother confessing that he wishes things could go back to the way they were, which he was probably trying to be honest about to get it off his chest, which would be understandable, especially if hes feeling intense amount of guilt for what transpired as a result of his behavior, and probably feels even more guilty that he misses how things used to be, considering for the longest time, that was all he knew.
While it's good that he's getting better now, it shouldn't have had to get to this point for the parents to realize what damage this could do in the long run, and I wish there was a better outcome.
(Sorry if I made no sense. I'm sleep deprived)
Little bro thinks autism is a free ticket to being the main character💀
The aunt should have adopted him
Ending might be stressful, but I'm really glad people are learning in the story. Found myself hoping the older bro would get his lil bro a bike and have more heart to hearts, cause he seems ready to listen.
I love that the parent's reaction to their son throwing tantrums and breaking dishes is not to discipline him so he doesn't do it again but to just buy more dishes.
Fr there is autistic people who can read Chinese backwards ffs. He can be a good adult if not for the parents
20 METERS!?!?
I am so thankful as someone with autism my parents treat me like a human but fulfill some needs I have like having time alone.
I wasn’t diagnosed with autism until I was in my twenties. My parents had always suspected that I might have it but were hesitant to have me diagnosed as a child. I asked them last year why and their response was… interesting to say the least. One, they didn’t want it to change how others treated me. When I was young, being autistic was seen as also being “special needs”. And my parents were worried about me being infantilized and placed in special education which they thought might ruin my education in general. And two, they didn’t want it to change how THEY treated me. They, but my mom especially, were concerned that the knowledge would make them more compliant with my demands. Yeah it upset me when others had things and I didn’t. But despite my begging they never gave in, unless it was Christmas or my birthday. I was about seven when I stopped believing them when they said “We can’t afford that thing”. But it didn’t matter. I learned very quickly that if I wanted something I would either have to wait for my birthday or Christmas or just buy it myself. Granted the latter caused some problems later on but the lesson was a good one to learn.
If you don't mind, how did 'buying it yourself' bring you trouble? Is it a part of ASD?
I just wonder, because when I was a kid I started to like... steal money from dads wallet. not much, just some coins to get a lolipop or chocolate, but I'm sure they knew (they approached me that if I need money for something, I just have to ask, I never did because it was embarassing I'm just buying sweets all the time ._.), but never did anything about it, really. Maybe it wasn't harmful enough but I do feel bad now, even if I still have trouble with regulating how much sweets I do buy, and well, how did I even get the idea it was fine to do it back then ^^"
@@ritaerror7829 I overdrew my checking account. Multiple times. And ended up with a lot of debt. Plus my mom is an accountant and has ADHD. So whenever it happened she went a bit crazy and ended up making me not really like money.
@@Fuzz32 well... at least you learned your lesson? Are you good now, or still in debt?
@@ritaerror7829 still in debt, but for a whole different reason.
Late diagnosis at 30 here. My father merely said "you were passing your classes and you didn't need a helmet so we thought you were fine, just weird." Back in the 80s and 90s, it was a lot harder to get a diagnosis than it is now. Hope you are well
They're extremely lucky that their oldest son didn't cut contact with them.
I am the youngest of 5 kids and also autistic but I was never treated with this blatant favoritism the most I got was being able to be more picky with dinner.
This has to be some of the greatest character development I've ever seen.
Notice how his brother’s behavior changed for the better once he got his ass whooped by the dad?
What a belt does to a kid fr
i guess sometimes it's the last option and it will work
yeah because he was terrified
thats what it does
Yeah don’t act like bearings work, all they do is traumatize and scare, not correct.
@@ramenbomberdeluxe4958 Not Always
"My mom just cried and made excuses about my brother being special." she needed to get her head out of her ass and learn that in his case, the "special" was only as in Olympics.
That's a weird thing to say because if he was actually special in that way, their treatment of him would make a lot more sense. This is a story about "high functioning" autism lol.
@@Zellonousthere’s no situation where their treatment of him would make sense
Borderline ableist
oh,hes special? send him to the youth paralympics (if thats true)
@@Zellonouswho ask you bum 🤡
"its not the same look he would give our parents like they ruined his life" bro was not lying when he gave a look like that. 24:51
My little brother is autistic. Yet instead of spoiling him, my parents loved him the same as me and my other brothers, yet did understand his, for lack of a better word eccentric pursuits. (He studies dates and times constantly and will look up weather reports frequently.) Yet they did have a way to show that although we are different, we are brothers and friends.
As someone who’s also autistic, I’ve seen this from the outside. My cousin just so happens to be autistic as well, she’s treated like a princess while the rest of us are treated like strangers
Oooohhh boy... HIGH FUNCTIONING AUTISTIC DOESN'T MAKE IT RIGHT TO CODDLE A KID!!! i have ADHD Autism, and my mom kinda coddled me (& my old b1tc# sister) for my younger years... Im 20 now, and struggling to find work because my mom has to intervene on every interview and try to coddle me into jobs that i won't have the time nor energy for. My older sister, well...she has no job, and mom pays for her apartment. That idiot... I've been coddled enough, so i moved in with my grandma and pay $100 per month to help with grandma's rent and i buy my own groceries as agreed upon between me and my grandma when i moved in. 😒 I now hate my sister (she's a psychopath, a stupid one at that), and have gone low to no contact with her unless my grandma asks me to come with her to deliver food to sis or something like that.
Not to mention... Having autism of any kind means that you HAVE to be hard on a kid because I know from experience that Autism makes kids VERY smart and Artistic, but they need to know discipline if they're ever going to make their way in life.
There's no such thing. It's only a way for people to feel like they are important
@@Themrine2013L pfp + L opinions = uneducated comment discarded
Bro just cuz a kid is autistic doesn’t mean they can get ANYTHING and EVERYTHING they ask for
I am so glad that the narrator brother,mom and dad learn their lesson
"Upgrade him to a Gameboy advanced" LEANED me
The game boy advance was awesome. Some of my favorite games are on that system.
@@eaglewarrior7979first handheld with mario kart gotta be a classic
DS solos
I never really wanted to play newer games I like mostly the Gameboy games
Online game I personally think are kinds bad so I made my mom buy a Gameboy games like pokemon or some ds games never really wanted those expensive online games and pc
Brethren of culture, we meet. 😂
I’m grateful for not being coddled like that. I wasn’t exactly diagnosed at a young age either. I was raised normally, well as normal as only being diagnosed with ADHD goes. I’m sure I had my moments because I fucking hated school but overall I treated others with kindness and we were fairly poor, I only got game systems sparingly until I was old enough and on my own at 18 to get my own systems.
Sounds like he actually needed a good beating lol. Maybe he will shape up. He needs some intensive therapy and maybe a life skills counselor.
Kinda Sounds like how I was raised.
Bro this would be an amazing book/show/movie
We need to give a huge W for the aunt who helped with literally everything
Im proud of the parents for finally realizing what they've done but I don't think i could ever forgive them. Im also proud of the younger brother for trying to be a better person but I hate how arrogant and self-centered he was. But im most proud of the older brother for standing up to his family but i hate how he'll soften up and forgive them so easily
I think it's really important in stories like this to point out his brother having autism is not why he turned into such a spoiled kid. His parents being awful parents is why he turned out like that, and honestly from the story it sounds like the parents just shouldnt have ever had kids.
Boot camps, mental break downs, and spankings out of anger etc like in the end will not solve the core problems. He needs intense therapy and honestly to be removed from his parents.
(I don't think OP was saying that about autistics, I'm just putting it out bcs some people take stories like these as proof autistic people are just bad people bcs of autism and not how they are raised and handled)
The issue is because parents can't handle the meltdown so they give the child whatever they want.
My son is autistic and 4 years old. His teacher told me he hit her and bit her during a meltdown. While walking him home i told him we were NOT getting ice cream from the truck that parks next to his school and why. When we got home I told him NO tabby(tablet) for 2 hours and why. I told his grandpa (he lives with us) NO candy or treats for the day. I was accused of depriving the boy of food. I wasn't depriving him of food, just treats. The next day he had to apologize to his teacher for what he did.
THAT IS PARENTING!
"BuT hE's SpEcIaL" is not an excuse. It means take your damn time and work with the child! Talk to them, calm them down, show right from wrong.....
I think any progress OP’s brother made can be attributed to OP directly tbh. OP cared more about his future than his own parents did, on top of having the spine to put his foot down about his _own_ qualms.
Op likely did not include that as a lash against autistic people, although it was technically a second hand piece of the puzzle that lead to the brother being so spoiled due to him being autistic causing his mom to coddle him as much as she did, although she probably would have still coddled him without it.
the fact that theres ppl out there who genuinely associate autism with agressivity can be only described as gross
@@freeeeeeeez
Honestly,
It's the mismanagement of the condition that has given it such a bad rep. There are many parents that will either coddle or give up whenever their child has a meltdown. This only re-enforces the negative behavior because the child believes it's an acceptable method getting their way. The bad behavior yielded positive results from the child's perspective, so they will continue to behave that way.
A kid screaming in a restaurant gets a phone/tablet handed to them. Then every time you go out the child will act out to get the phone/tablet.
As a child with autism, I would never want to have these parents and I am thankful for my parents
As a high functioning autistic person, I’m so thankful I’ve never been coddled like thag😊
The more you F around, the worse you'll find out. It literally had to take the mother snapping and harming herself just to finally get that section of the family (sans OP) to accept the consequences of their actions.
This really make me feel grateful for my parents. I have autism but my parents didn't tell me till I was 20, autism doesn't defy me.
The parents diid so much to make it up to the writer of the stories, I feel like they should’ve atleast said thank you
I'm out here only eating a cake without my name each year. But that's cause I really just hate going out and am introverted I guess.
I have to congrat the parents, they really made a 180° turn about their parenting mode, not easy at all. Even tough, they will not really accomplish anything good.
I’m thankful I wasn’t coddled due to being deaf.
I was coddled a little bit due to cancer, which is understandable. I did stand on Death’s doorstep at one point.
Just because the kid is autistic doesn’t mean they can’t learn right from wrong.
While I grew up during a time when spanking was the norm, and while I feel I turned out alright, I do frown on the practice.
oh you are deaf, that's sad
Genuinely, I did not expect him to get that much better that fast. He's making progress definitely, that almost never happens
bro thinks he’s the main character 💀
Lol
Bro thinks hes ice boy☠️
@@Only1BigFanOfO1GnHypeMyke chill that’s just a TH-cam nickname
Dude, this sibling is the GOAT. I can’t imagine still helping your parents and brother after all this.
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I wouldn't
This story is so sad. Both children were abused (in very separate ways) and I really hope everything works out in both their lives
that aunt is the best bro
It’s always the Aunts that are awesome
I feel this. Way too close to home. My mother was abusive mentally, emotionally and financially to me. I was the only girl out of three kids, and am autistic. My brother, who is two years older than me (Freddy) is also autistic, but he's worse at masking than I am. My twin brother, Cas, is the only sibling who isn't autistic. My mother favored Freddy, my dad favored Cas, and I was left in the nowhere zone. The only attention I got was negative attention or my mom trying to dress me up, even when it made me uncomfortable. I felt like I couldn't even enjoy the few benefits there were to being _neglected_ (like them not paying attention to where I go/what I do), because I was overprotected simultaneously.
Freddy was a master at weaponizing feigned ignorance. He would conveniently "forget" how to do his chores, and since I was the only girl in this sexist household, I would get stuck with all the extra chores. Didn't help that I was a bit of a doormat, since I would push myself well beyond my limits to "be a good daughter", and desperately did everything I could in hopes it would make them love me. Ha.
For Freddy, his autism was a card he could pull out whenever he wanted. A "get out of ANYTHING free" card. But for me, my autism was just an excuse my mother would use to invalidate my opinions ("You just think differently, sweetheart. You don't understand this." was an infuriatingly common phrase.)
I didn't know a damn thing about my disabilities, or how to manage my symptoms, until well after my mother kicked me out for the last and billionth time. She just convinced me it was Bad Opinions and Overreactions Disorder, so once I was thrown out, I wasn't able to get the help I needed. Not only had THEY worked me far past my limits every day for years, but I was now overworking myself just trying to survive.
I struggled to survive for 8 long, torturous years. I was forced to throw myself at the mercy of others, and they almost all were awful people. With few exceptions, they all took me in to make themselves look good. I warned each and every one of them what taking me in would mean, and what my limits were. That I tended to shut down for days, unable to take care of myself. None of them fully grasped it, and all of them acted like they did. I bounced from couch to couch, never knowing how long I'd have a roof over my head or if I'd have one at all, working myself to the point of attempting suicide over and over again. Each hospitalization cost me my job, and if I was particularly unlucky, it also cost me my housing.
I got very lucky, and survived long enough to meet my current partner. She's also autistic, and makes me question why I never tried dating another autistic person before. My autistic burnout has gotten so horrible that I can't even leave the house, and am basically bedridden. I feared getting to this point for all those years, because I felt that nobody would take care of me when I got to that point, and that I would die out on the streets. But... She _gets_ me. She understands that when I say I can't, I mean _I CAN'T,_ she doesn't force me to do more than I'm able. She doesn't do the passive aggressive hinting that she wants me to do more, like my parents and previous roommates did. She actually respects my boundaries.
Both my twin brother and I have cut our parents off like the tumors they are, and I finally have enough time and help to begin healing from all the trauma I suffered-- both from my family, and from my past roommates. My gf and I are both applying for disability, since neither of us can work the hours we'd need to survive. Here's hoping that works out for us, and soon!
Good on Op, the relatives and aunt to set up an intervention, both parents and Ops brother need to be aware that their actions will not be ignored and enabling their son would have strict consequences in the long run. As he’ll grow up to have no skills to survive the real world.
I’m grateful my parents whooped me into shape every day I hear something like this
tbh the younger brother was a way better kid in his teenage years because now hes finally understanding how to behave and hes improved a bunch
I heard all this ops posts. He deserved so much better.
And this is why my grandma who raised her great granddaughter with autism treated her like a normal kid with normal boundaries.
Yes, some things were changed to fit her needs. But for the majority, she was treated like a normal kid. And while some things were excused, god help that kid if she tried to use autism as an excuse for a temper tantrum when it 'very' obviously had nothing to do with it.
I’m autistic.
If I was younger and my parents learned I had autism, they would’ve never done this. I have a brother and we were treated the same through our entire childhoods.
As an autistic person who wasn't diagnosed until about a year ago, no one should raise their autistic child like that. especially if they're that high functioning.
Damn these parents are aweful. What infuriates me the most is not their favoritism or spoiling their child so horrible but the fact that they resort to violence and abuse when they run out excuses or can't silence the younger child by buying him stuff.
Obviously grounding and yelling at him did not work. The brat's behavior all of a sudden turned for the better once he was physically punished.
@@PungiFungiit turned for the better because his mother was institutionalized he his moron brother was shaken to his core because of this the beating really were only extra unnecessary steps that happened but it's understandable that they happened
I’m autistic, and I’m the opposite of that brother, I hated having birthday parties because everyone was focused on me. There’s no way in hell that everything he did was because of his autism.
yeah tbh he probably realized that his parents will carry him on a chariot at all times and took insane advantage of it
As a 14 year old, I have something to say.
First of all, I am a Nigerian And I still live in Nigeria. And to be honest, I used to be like the younger brother because when My Mum and Dad got married in 2005, They had a fight about the things that they needed to do and got divorced in 2012. However, My Mum gave Birth To my Elder Sister (Born in March 13, 2006) and then me (Born in April 20, 2009.) My sister is often more well-behaved than me because I used to stay with my Mum when I was 3, and stopped when I was 6. And In those times, I didn't learn how to behaive my self because my Mum usually wasn't hard on me. So When My Dad found out about this, He had to take me with him so that I can start behaving well. One of the best methods he did was dealing with me (Which Is usually allowed in my country) which is the reason why 'till this day, I have been behaving much, much better and better than before, But not completely. And Like I said, My sister is still more well-behaved than me. So I have to say something: People in the United States/United Kingdom Are not meant to deal with their child(ren), lest they get arrested, Because they have insane parents who kill their child(ren) for their wrongdoing. But that's the reason why kids do a lot of stupid things, Like shooting people in school, et cetera. But I might sound stupid saying this: The government should adjust situation that's happening, Because they can't allow parents to kill their child(ren) or allow the parents child(ren) to do various types of embarrassingly stupid things. So what I suggest is that the government *_SHOULD_* allow the parents to deal with their child(ren) carefully for their wrongdoing or any type of worse punishment that teaches the child(ren) a lesson, never to attempt the action again, So that they won't have the urge to commit crimes when they get older.
However, that's what I think is important for the Parental Child Control to change. If anyone has anything to say, Please go ahead. ^^
I feel bad for the parents, OP, and the brother. There were mistakes made but none were out of malice. It seems the parents just did not know how to manage him, and gave into all his whims, leading to his behavior worsening.
When he jolt when the author touched him, and when he said sorry like that, i could definitely agree he almost touched the spectrum of ASD. I CAN'T CONFIRM
i heard this story splintered into different videos. i had no idea it was all the same story
You don't understand how much this made me cry
I have autism, and I'm a twin and my mum would try her best to make things equal, so what your parents are doing is wrong, and your parents have done no favours to your brother