In my opinion, op got one of the worst parts in this story. Not only did she gain some trauma, she had to make emotional attachments twice, and then just let them go. She also got injured. She also is trying to find new work, while taking care of a traumatized kid, and not hearing or seeing the kids she took care of ever, because she is reminding them of trauma. I’m not blaming anyone for what happened (besides parents/grandparents) but this wasn’t right.
Yeah I really feel for OP because of that. She did everything she could for those children, but she is the one being pushed out of their lives for being a reminder of their trauma. I just hope those kids grow up to be happy and they reach out to OP to thank her for everything and build a relationship.
I know right? And then theres a lot of self blame even though everything she did is to save her niece and nephew and she didnt get any benefit from it instead she got a lot of trauma and injury :( what a saint
This story broke my heart, but I am amazed by her strength and empathy. OP is a beautiful human being, and I genuinely wish nothing but the best for her.
OP said they live in a third world country, but I have to say the police and social services feel like they handled this awful situation with more grace and care by far than the First World groups I've seen in action
I live in South Africa and I have witnessed Social Services work in such a good and gracious manner when I see American CPS I am often proud of our Social Services as compared to the American CPS
@@tlhompokhanye8208 I'm from the US and when i was a kid i was part of an abusive daycare. Eventually my mom found out i was being abused there and reported it to CPS. CPS did literally nothing despite SEVERAL other parents reporting these people for beating children, and in fact they threated MY MOM that i would be taken away if she ever took me there again.
I live in America and my mother was absued, and is now disabled from her ex-boyfriend that I testified against abused her, nothing happened, my half-brother is with the abuser, and my mother is mentally disabled and I haven’t seen her in two years. The police, and SS here are absolutely disgusting.
She cried because they took away her toy. Parents like this dont love their children, not even the golden child. Both of the kids are play things for them.
@realglutenfree Then they should've played Who's Your Daddy then why would they do this to living beings that made Who's Your Daddy is a old but fun game by the way
@realglutenfree I think the sister in law was too scared to speak up against the husband. She still had some fault, but I do think she was genuinely scared of that psyco... and rightfully so. If he ever sees the light of the sun again I hope pepole know he's a steaming pile of dogshit.
She did not sacrificed anything since innocent beings are NOT a burden. The boy is a lost cause, he will never understand, He tried to murder his sister.
@@cosmicreef5858 I did not say the children were a burden. Don't put words in my mouth. She sacrificed some of her health for them from the attack by their father.
@@cosmicreef5858 We don't know how old he is, but my brother has done some pretty mean shit to me when we were little, but now he's a respectable human. Evil is taught, and if caught early, can be untaught.
@@cosmicreef5858No child is a lost cause, friend. His environment taught him to be that way. Remove him from said environment, give him room to breath, and you'll find that the boy was never evil. Just misguided.
OP could be a guy tho (I don't recall any part of the story where their gender is specified). For a while I also thought OP is female, but some parts of the story lead me to believe OP might be male.
as a trained child therapist (now disabled) i'm aghast that the child therapist would want OP's role minimized in niece and nephew's lives once they moved out. that is exactly the opposite of what they need for their mental health in this transition. OP should have been included in some family visits w/a family therapist who had a history of treating children. this is just such a travesty for those kids and OP. so traumatizing.
Thank god, I'm not from the field, but it sounds clear to me that the therapist and ss screwed the op over some shitty trauma theory (like the child is stupid and cannot do the difference between a loving parent and an abusing one).
I’m only a psych student but this sounds like such a terrible way for Lou and Josh’s therapists to handle the situation. OP represents stability, emotional validation, and safety from the abuse of their parents and they want op to NEVER see them again??! That’s insane and will reinforce the idea of abandonment by adults who they are attached to
@@nickreynoso1329 I mean, to be fair, Lou's facetiming did get less....I don't think it'll affect the kids as much as OP though....I feel so bad for her throughout this entire video. Like, the video is talking about her saving Lou and Josh, but she has the worst deal in this. Yet she doesn't complain about it at all in her posts about the kids. Like, she's a grown woman, she knowingly created bonds with the kids, who will probably forget her as time passes as they get older, but she won't be able to forget the kids....
I think the point is for the kids to grow and decide if they can handle being around op. I don't know if it said 'never' and looking again isn't the most productive thing I can do at the moment. The most important thing is a fresh start for them. Even with how much op told, we don't know everything or how the kids view the situation. I haven't had the same situation, nor have I had therapy, but I never want to around anyone relating to my trauma, even if they were good. So I sympathise with the choice made more than the idea of keeping them around each other. It's different for everyone.
How can a parent laugh as their daughter has just been pushed down the stairs and got her arm broken and then scream at her for crying...? How can people treat their family so horribly...? That's just horrible...
Ive been in that kind of a "family" (they arent my actual family) they abdudcted me from my real parents and when they found out they told everyone how i was crazy.
Because it's a fake story that's why You can always tell when it's a fake story when it goes on and on and gets worse and worse and the characters act like a cartoon villain There are also displays of power and evil laughs and clapping
This was because of their upbringing. The grandparents are misogynistic and spoiled the brother rotten. Then he spoiled his own son rotten. It's misogyny that inspired all this. My mom's dad was also misogynistic and spoiled his son rotten. Now the son (my maternal uncle) in jail as a junkie.
Jesus this was the most bittersweet Reddit story I’ve heard , but I’m fucking depressed for OP. Such a strong, protective person that honestly gets a sad ending.
poor OP. She went through so much. She took care of two traumatized children and even grew attached them over time. Knowing that you remind someone of their own past and trauma really does hurt, but good to know you indeed helped play a huge role in having them sent to safer and loving homes. I hope Lou and Josh reach out to OP in the future and think of OP fondly for helping both of them
Yea, and poor OP is unfairly blaming themselves for things. They're assuming Lou is getting distant due to OPs presence being a reminiscent of her trauma, when its also likely that the kid is just busy enjoying herself and her new life. OP should reach out, and shouldn't assume that Lou doesn't want a relationship.
@@aliciamoon9816 yes but also, unfortunately for op, one of the therapists advised op to lessen contact with the kids so that they can heal, so I dont think op will really reach out first much
true. He did horrible things and he would have done even worse if he wasn't taken away from them. With narcisistic parents, the scapegoat deal with a lot of trauma but if they manage to get away, they can start improving. They know that what happened was bad and will seek for help. But the golden child is usually ruined because they never cut contact with the family and they become awful humans. I'm happy he's safe too now and hope that after a LOT of therapy he can build a relationship with his sister because it sounds like deep down they love and care about each other
@@hilla3353 he learned that bullying have consequences, probably got in trouble cuz of bad rep, so he tried to change his image, nothing new to see here, predators adapt, it is what they do, he would still be mean to you if lige didnt get to him by some form
OP self blamed a lot... like blackmail. But its not blackmail when she just wanted to save her cousin and she's just... way too kind. To care for a child and then accept it when the child gets taken away from her again and... yeah... man I feel so bad for OP
i feel so sad for op because she tried her best to make everyone happy but it all ended up with her being the most miserable in all of this, i just hope she can get past her trauma and sadness and start enjoying her life to the fullest without any more problems
This one just made me sad. No good deed goes unpunished, as they say. OP did the right thing and lost everything because of it. She had a sh-tty family but that’s who she had. I hope she finds love and has a family of her own. She sounds so lonely.
Op got the worst end of the whole deal in my opinion.. walked out with fresh trauma, injuries, heartbreak from losing emotional connections... i feel so bad for her. i hope she gets some good karma for this.
The nephew has been under too much stress, and so has the niece. her brother and sil are pieces of garbage for this. they brought those two only to have them suffering at the end. I place most blame on the grandparents here. The grandparents allowed all of this to happen, it was them who enabled their son and let their granddaughter suffer, then in a twist they blamed the grandson for the aftermath of this whole ordeal. And throughout the entire story they only called to spew obscenities and crap at their own daughter for trying to make happier home for their own granddaughter. Shameless and ignorant, they care more about their own reputation rather than regret the suffering they caused. Op was number one victim in all this, suffering through emotional abuse from parents and having her own brother beat her up. then being accused of sa by her own nephew, then having to endure the trauma for the kids. truly resilient and rough player.
'Reputation,' how ironic. If those poor excuses of grandparents that are OP's mom and dad allowed their daughter and grandaughter to be killed at the hands of a spoiled-ass excuse of a son/father/brother, there is no salvaging their so-called 'reputation.' They would forever be known as the family of psychopaths that swept their son's abuse under the rug to save face. I hope they never have to lay an eye or hand on those kids or OP ever again.
I feel so bad for OP - OP is assuming that Lou is avoiding them because they remimd her of her trauma. This is but an assumption. Lou might just be enjoying her new life with her new family so much that she's forgetting to call, or only calls when she remembers to. She's a small child still and can't be expected to be the one responsibile for keeping in touch. OP should only worry about this as a possible problem if Lou were to show signs of regression or unhappiness when OP and her talk. I feel that its more likely that OP is trying to move on and heal and distance themselves rather than the other way around. OP sounds like an amazing person, and its especially sad is that OP blames themself for things they shouldn't. They did an amazing job doing everything they could do. OP saved their niece and nephew.
There is definitely some generational trauma going on because OP says her parents always yell at her and she had a dark childhood, get angry when she calls out her brother etc and now the same thing is happening with their niece and nephew where the girl is a scapegoat and the boy is a golden child. OP can probably personally relate to Lou which is why she’s so deeply and passionately furious, I would be too tbh If Josh is is a bully it’s cause his parents (especially his dad) are bullies and if his parents are bullies it’s because OP and Josh’s dad’s parents are. Lou and Josh’s grandparents sound equally narcissistic and OP was likely a scapegoat child while her brother was favoured and so this bully/victim dynamic is normalised for them. Whatever the case it’s definitely generational by the sound of it.
Think about what OP when through to get her niece and nephew out of people who should not have children. She is a true hero. She may not think right now but she is. She saved their lives.
One day your niece and nephew are going to look back and know how you save their lives they might even get in contact but just remember you did a wonderful thing
Classic case of golden child for 2 generations. The brother in both cases is the Golden child that can do no wrong meanwhile Op and Lu are the scapegoats. It's sickening.
Classic misogyny. Most likely the kind where sons are treated like princes, while daughters are treated as nothing more than an incubator to provide grandsons.
OP is a hero; truly someone to look up to. I know and completely understand her guilt, but at the very least I hope she knows she did amazing in this situation. She saw evil and didn't stop until it was gone, it was like she went on a freaking crusade, and that's fucking awesome. It sucks that this situation happened at all, but I'm so happy it ended in probably the best way it could. Not only will Josh and Lou grow up in a safe household, but they'll also remember OP as nothing but a shining light that protected them from, at least at the time, their worst fears. That sticks with not only someone, but especially a child. I hope OP knows that as well. She truly, truly is as heroric as one can be.
This one actually made me teary. All the other ones are "favoritism" "cheating " "neglect" etc. This one went from this woman having to be a mother whilst also getting assaulted because of her *######* I can't say this word. The "brother" and wife are horrible. I'm mad.
I grew up as the scapegoat. I had 1 aunt (out of 3) that didn't partake in abusing me, and she did everything she could to help me. She's been gone a long time, but I miss her dearly. She was much more careful than OP in how she did it though, so as to not ruffle feathers too much, and she was limited in her ability because she lived 400+ miles away. But every summer, she asked to have me sent to live with her while school was out, from when I was 11 until I was kicked out at 17. I didn't realize it at the time, but if I'd asked, she'd have probably taken me in then too. My sisters still hold grudges against her today because they didn't get the special treatment they always got from everyone else, and she'd call them out for their BS. I love you Aunt Deb. And thank you.
Sounds like this is a generational thing, the brother and op were likely Josh and Lu and possibly further down the line. The parents and brother are monsters and Josh needs a lot of help before it destroys his mind.
her, its a she, which is also true with josh and lu so yeah even if gender doesnt matter the parallels are there.... Im glad they were able to break the cycle and now josh wont grow up to be a horrible person and lu might recover and actually be happy
this whole story is just heart breaking, the kids, OP, just everything. it seems so real that I am at the point of hoping it's fake. nobody deserves to go through that
i feel awful for the OP. she gained so much trauma and probably went through so much even after this. she deserves the world after everything she went through, i hope lou is happy and josh is in a safe place.
OP is so kind and strong. like a saviour that jumped out of a fantasy. i wish for her to be happy, healthy and heal from all that haunts her. i pray she finds a good job and gets immensely rich. may she live the rest of her days overcoming all future hurdles.
OP is an angel from heaven. She's so kind, caring, gentle and spiritually healing 😇. I could never be that strong during such tough times. I hope that all her wishes should be fulfilled and live a life without any regrets.❤
That is some crazy sh*t there. To have to go through all this, get assaulted by your own brother, to try and take care of traumatized kids, have all the blame placed on you for the family reputation being ruined, that's a heavy load, I feel bad for op, since this woman stayed strong throughout all of this and made sure the best came for her niece and nephew. Wow. We need more people like this in today's society.
Damn not only did OP get all the excess abuse from their family. They also lost everyone they tried to save too & got told they had to cease contact because they’re a reminder of trauma, no help for them, just alone. That wasn’t deserved, they were the hero & they’ve been abandoned by their system.
I hope that someday these kids will reconcile, without the influence of their awful parents or grandparents. Because it does sound like they were both abused.
The father clearly doesn't want the daughter, why would he go through the effort of trying to get her back? "You destroyed your borthers family because you couldn't leave well enough alone!" Wtf? Oh well, he deserves the shit he gets for the abuse he put that girl through.
he does want the daughter. He hates her but she's nothing more than a toy to torture to him. He wants to have her so that he can crush her to feel strong. That's how horrible that man is
I don’t know why, but even before it was confirmed this was a story from a family living in a third world country, I knew that it was. Just, the way things are handled, the grandparents, the brother’s actions. Especially the part where brother pulled put breaker and proceeded to beat the sister. It felt too close to home, and maybe it really was. What a bittersweet story. Aunt is hero to those kids. I hope she heals in time too and gets to a place where she can happily visit her nephew and niece without sadness.
One of the worst parts on the side of the abusive parents and the son is, I can’t even blame the kid. I don’t consider it to be his fault that he was spoiled and his horrible behaviors were not only left undisciplined but also condoned by the father. The son should’ve been taken from the parents as well in my opinion, because they clearly don’t know how to raise good kids.
OP is a real hero. This story is the definition of “no good deed goes unpunished”. A very pure powerful human being. I would love to meet this person someday.
Kinda sounds like Josh might have had a situation similar to the kids of Daddt’o’five, where every one of the kids are being abused but as long as they are willing to abuse their younger siblings, they don’t get as harsh a treatment as their siblings does. Also can you imagine the kind of messed up person you have to be to watch your little girl fall down a staircase and then laugh at her and scream at her to stop crying when she keeps crying? I’d have him undergo a psych evaluation, I’m not convinced he doesn’t have some degree of sociopathy.
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If that was my brother i would have been arrested... Honestly she is such an amazing person, we need to be more like her, almost cried while listening to this 😭
Im so sad for OP she didnt get the kids to which she was carring for deeply because of they're parents/grandparents traumatizing them atleast give him some time to catch up on the kids 😢
Father is literally a criminal, mother has zero attachment to her own blood, grandparents are complicit because they're more worried about the scandal. I feel bad for the niece as well as OP.
OP is so amazing..really devoted herself for those kids even when it ment she got hurt in the process...truly made me tear up and i wish all the best for her..what a hero..truly❤❤❤
In the word of Superman, all it would have taken is one person to care. Not all heroes wear cape's, and not all of them get away with just small sacrifices. OP is a hero of the highest regard.
I suspect Lou's family had a narcissist family dynamic. When she left, the parents and Josh didn't have a scapegoat for their frustrations. OP is an angel. He saved these children and yet is a painful reminder of their past. He lost both children and has trauma.
"I have apparently ruined their reputation" No, they have done it all by themselves, you were just a whistle blower Also when OP said Josh was bullying her sister and OP's brother laughed I knew they were dealing with a psychopath that needs to be in prison instead of a high position job. That explains his burglar-like endeavors and beating or at least trying to beat up family members. He should of never gotten out of jail, because he belongs there.
OP took the brunt of everything, she's like-no she IS a hero. Those kids may not understand it while they're young, but once they grow up they'll know how blessed they are to have OP and the people who helped and reached out to her
Everyone is rightfully laying into the parents, but something I’m not seeing getting nearly enough attention is how fucking cruel those phychiaratrists are. They took away Lou from her living aunt who sacrificed everything for her because she might be a ‘rEmIndEr’ and wouldn’t even let them see each other despite the fact that Lou was ringing her every day, crying and begging to go back. It’s disgraceful. I fucking hate psychiatrists, they’re supposed to be all about feelings but they’ve taken a child’s emotions and made them bureaucratic. They stuck Lou with the cousin simply because he was wealthier, and while it just so happens that they turned out to be loving and caring and good for Lou, as someone who has had experience with psychiatrists myself, I am 100% confident that they would have put her there even if they were horrible simply because they had more money. I fucking hate bureaucracy, it had absolutely no fucking place in mental health or child safety, it’s so painfully obvious to anyone with a shred of heart that Lou and OP had a beautiful relationship and she would have been a great mom, but I guess that doesn’t matter to these overpaid, bureaucratic assholes. I’m literally about to cry, I’ve never been so angry and emotional while writing a YT comment before. It was so clear that OP was meant to be Lou’s mom, so clear! Pieces of paper have their place, but this was just one of those things where you have to go with your heart. Okay rant’s over, I’m gonna go cry
@@lizzyisbored9882I know. Probably some piece of paper somewhere that says it worked for other kids, or they just made it up because no one would check anyway. I hate bureaucracy, it has it’s place, but mental health is not that place.
@@ladyalicent705 Like I get moving Lou to her cousin's place because aunt was financially struggling. But it just seems sick to encourage no contact on the family member who was her advocate.
The OP parents kept running to the brothers side, sounds like he was the golden child. He in turn favors his son over his daughter. The trickle down effect? OP i wish only good for her and her life. I was taken by the state as a child and the feeling is overwhelming. She saved two children! Literally! The nephew can learn how to be a proper person and precious Lou is safe ❤. They are in better places now and since family has them OP in the future can be part of their lives isn't that wonderful ❤.
OP is a very strong woman 🥹 She deserves everything good in life and I hope she gets what she wants. She's done such difficult work and has sacrificed so much! This is why I scoff when people say "You'll never know real love until you have your own kid's". There are WAY too many scumbags like OPs brother, SIL, and parents in this world. But there are also a lot of beautiful people like OP willing to make sacrifices for children and do what's right on their behalf. I'm proud of OP and Lou and hope Josh grows into the opposite of his father. A wonderful young man. I hope the three of them recover from their trauma and wish them the best. Went through a roller coaster of emotions listening to this. Mostly anger at OPs brother, SIL, and parents. Especially whe he broke in and assaulted OP. Made me wish I were there to step in. Sadness at the false accusations. And hope when the cousins talked about bringing the kids into their homes. I hope the cousins are doing well and are happy with Lou and Josh. ❤
The only videos that have been able to move me to tears are this guys videos I know it’s just an Ai talking but the way he formats these videos make you feel the emotion as if your there just a watcher idk just thanks for doing so good man
I’m forever grateful to my aunt because she took me in when my dysfunctional family existed up until its breaking point. It’s extremely upsetting how the two people whom I thought wouldn’t hurt me were those that did the most damage on me as a person.
The op sounds like a lovely person. I wish the op could have had Lou and Josh obviously not at the same time. This was a bad story to start with but this turned very sad
Op is such a good person. Since I get attached easily and want to be a mother badly, I couldn't have lose these two. I mean, it's better for them I guess, but it would really hurt to have two children and help them through everything and then they get adopted by other people. Heartbreaking.
Child abuse is so hard to deal with. I have a niece and nephew who hate their mother. They cry and scream anytime they have to go home because she is abusive. They have done this since infancy. CPS doesn't do anything, and it was an uphill battle for my brother to get joint custody. This woman is such a piece of work, but the system is broken. It lets her get away with dressing her daughter in dirty clothes and stealing presents. It lets her lock her daughter in her room all day while forcing her to wear a diaper so there's no mess. It lets her yell and belittle them. All the court and CPS say is that reconciliation is still possible. It BS.
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I feel extremely bad for the OP to lose both her niece and nephew but i am also slightly proud of her to take her niece and nephew away from an abusive family rather than leaving them there and providing them with a much better family and a safer environment. If she had not taken her stand, the girl may have not survived and the boy might have grown to be extremely entitled to things. I feel bad OP, but remember OP, you changed the lives of those two little kids.
In my opinion, op got one of the worst parts in this story. Not only did she gain some trauma, she had to make emotional attachments twice, and then just let them go. She also got injured. She also is trying to find new work, while taking care of a traumatized kid, and not hearing or seeing the kids she took care of ever, because she is reminding them of trauma. I’m not blaming anyone for what happened (besides parents/grandparents) but this wasn’t right.
Yeah I really feel for OP because of that. She did everything she could for those children, but she is the one being pushed out of their lives for being a reminder of their trauma. I just hope those kids grow up to be happy and they reach out to OP to thank her for everything and build a relationship.
I know right? And then theres a lot of self blame even though everything she did is to save her niece and nephew and she didnt get any benefit from it instead she got a lot of trauma and injury :( what a saint
@@Wumbology378 I hope so too, but because they’re still young there’s a chance that they’ll try to block out all memories of what happened…
@@kittenmimi5326 exactly. Guilt for trauma u didn’t cause isn’t right
This story broke my heart, but I am amazed by her strength and empathy. OP is a beautiful human being, and I genuinely wish nothing but the best for her.
OP said they live in a third world country, but I have to say the police and social services feel like they handled this awful situation with more grace and care by far than the First World groups I've seen in action
I live in South Africa and I have witnessed Social Services work in such a good and gracious manner when I see American CPS I am often proud of our Social Services as compared to the American CPS
@@tlhompokhanye8208 I'm from the US and when i was a kid i was part of an abusive daycare. Eventually my mom found out i was being abused there and reported it to CPS. CPS did literally nothing despite SEVERAL other parents reporting these people for beating children, and in fact they threated MY MOM that i would be taken away if she ever took me there again.
They’re lucky and I’m happy for them. I live in Russia and police and other gov agencies work terribly in here. They barely do their work
Probably South Africa. The scheduled lights goings off is a dead giveaway. Mandatory earth hour 😂
I live in America and my mother was absued, and is now disabled from her ex-boyfriend that I testified against abused her, nothing happened, my half-brother is with the abuser, and my mother is mentally disabled and I haven’t seen her in two years. The police, and SS here are absolutely disgusting.
4:30 You don't get to cry about "taking your child away from you" when you hate her and willingly participate in the abuse.
She cried because they took away her toy. Parents like this dont love their children, not even the golden child. Both of the kids are play things for them.
@realglutenfree Then they should've played Who's Your Daddy then why would they do this to living beings that made Who's Your Daddy is a old but fun game by the way
@@realglutenfree man...that just made me stop and think for a moment about my possible situation...wow
@@octaviunhall2566 that doesnt make sense
@realglutenfree I think the sister in law was too scared to speak up against the husband. She still had some fault, but I do think she was genuinely scared of that psyco... and rightfully so. If he ever sees the light of the sun again I hope pepole know he's a steaming pile of dogshit.
I hope when both those children are grown up, they fully understand what their loving aunt did and sacrificed for them
She did not sacrificed anything since innocent beings are NOT a burden.
The boy is a lost cause, he will never understand, He tried to murder his sister.
@@cosmicreef5858 I did not say the children were a burden. Don't put words in my mouth. She sacrificed some of her health for them from the attack by their father.
@@cosmicreef5858you should have watch to the end because he changed after living with op
@@cosmicreef5858 We don't know how old he is, but my brother has done some pretty mean shit to me when we were little, but now he's a respectable human. Evil is taught, and if caught early, can be untaught.
@@cosmicreef5858No child is a lost cause, friend. His environment taught him to be that way. Remove him from said environment, give him room to breath, and you'll find that the boy was never evil. Just misguided.
This woman crusade to get her nephews to safety is a breath of fresh air on today's society.
Seriously this lady is a hero.
we truly live in a society
@@prometheus6835we need more people like her
Yeah, and got nothing but suffering for it
OP could be a guy tho (I don't recall any part of the story where their gender is specified). For a while I also thought OP is female, but some parts of the story lead me to believe OP might be male.
as a trained child therapist (now disabled) i'm aghast that the child therapist would want OP's role minimized in niece and nephew's lives once they moved out. that is exactly the opposite of what they need for their mental health in this transition. OP should have been included in some family visits w/a family therapist who had a history of treating children. this is just such a travesty for those kids and OP. so traumatizing.
Thank god, I'm not from the field, but it sounds clear to me that the therapist and ss screwed the op over some shitty trauma theory (like the child is stupid and cannot do the difference between a loving parent and an abusing one).
I’m only a psych student but this sounds like such a terrible way for Lou and Josh’s therapists to handle the situation. OP represents stability, emotional validation, and safety from the abuse of their parents and they want op to NEVER see them again??! That’s insane and will reinforce the idea of abandonment by adults who they are attached to
@@nickreynoso1329 I mean, to be fair, Lou's facetiming did get less....I don't think it'll affect the kids as much as OP though....I feel so bad for her throughout this entire video. Like, the video is talking about her saving Lou and Josh, but she has the worst deal in this. Yet she doesn't complain about it at all in her posts about the kids. Like, she's a grown woman, she knowingly created bonds with the kids, who will probably forget her as time passes as they get older, but she won't be able to forget the kids....
I think the point is for the kids to grow and decide if they can handle being around op. I don't know if it said 'never' and looking again isn't the most productive thing I can do at the moment. The most important thing is a fresh start for them. Even with how much op told, we don't know everything or how the kids view the situation. I haven't had the same situation, nor have I had therapy, but I never want to around anyone relating to my trauma, even if they were good. So I sympathise with the choice made more than the idea of keeping them around each other. It's different for everyone.
It felt like borderline cruelty at that point
How can a parent laugh as their daughter has just been pushed down the stairs and got her arm broken and then scream at her for crying...? How can people treat their family so horribly...? That's just horrible...
Lou could have died, a broken arm is a small injury for what could have happened.
Ive been in that kind of a "family" (they arent my actual family) they abdudcted me from my real parents and when they found out they told everyone how i was crazy.
They are sadits and cults, no normal person will treat their children that way.
Because it's a fake story that's why
You can always tell when it's a fake story when it goes on and on and gets worse and worse and the characters act like a cartoon villain
There are also displays of power and evil laughs and clapping
@@acacacacacacaccaca7666 Uhm that still happens irl yknow
I feel so bad for Lou, Josh, and the OP. The parents are such horrible people and they don't deserve to have kids
This was because of their upbringing. The grandparents are misogynistic and spoiled the brother rotten. Then he spoiled his own son rotten. It's misogyny that inspired all this. My mom's dad was also misogynistic and spoiled his son rotten. Now the son (my maternal uncle) in jail as a junkie.
I missed who josh was, was the brother and SIL son?
@@Tunneltavyeah, josh was Lou's brother
yeah, favoritism doesn’t only affect one child, it affects both. the parents really are at fault here
"every child deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a child"
Jesus this was the most bittersweet Reddit story I’ve heard , but I’m fucking depressed for OP. Such a strong, protective person that honestly gets a sad ending.
Same bro, it hurts so damn much 😢😭
Some people don’t deserve to be parents.
…Screw that, some people don’t deserve to _live._
do not deserve to exist
I will never wish someone dead, but I'll be extremely happy to read some people's obituaries. - some old guy who was a bamf.
@@aftersexhighfives I normally do not agree with death/abuse threats but those two I would gleefully watch with 0 remorse
poor OP. She went through so much. She took care of two traumatized children and even grew attached them over time. Knowing that you remind someone of their own past and trauma really does hurt, but good to know you indeed helped play a huge role in having them sent to safer and loving homes. I hope Lou and Josh reach out to OP in the future and think of OP fondly for helping both of them
I really hope the OP still visits Lou and Josh every so often, since it sounds like their connection with Lou is getting less and less in a good sense
Yea, and poor OP is unfairly blaming themselves for things. They're assuming Lou is getting distant due to OPs presence being a reminiscent of her trauma, when its also likely that the kid is just busy enjoying herself and her new life. OP should reach out, and shouldn't assume that Lou doesn't want a relationship.
@@aliciamoon9816 yes but also, unfortunately for op, one of the therapists advised op to lessen contact with the kids so that they can heal, so I dont think op will really reach out first much
@@aliciamoon9816 It did also sound weird to me, and the fact that every professionals around said she has to be necessary ptsd inducing...
@@melchiordelaunay2539
Honestly
I think the story is fake
But i don't have any evidence
@@aliciamoon9816 Another possibility is that Lou feels like she's disturbing OP.
I’m really proud of Lou’s brother. He actually called her and talked instead of being mean again and felt genuinely bad, there is hope.
true. He did horrible things and he would have done even worse if he wasn't taken away from them. With narcisistic parents, the scapegoat deal with a lot of trauma but if they manage to get away, they can start improving. They know that what happened was bad and will seek for help. But the golden child is usually ruined because they never cut contact with the family and they become awful humans. I'm happy he's safe too now and hope that after a LOT of therapy he can build a relationship with his sister because it sounds like deep down they love and care about each other
nah, he is a bully still, just learned he have to hide it better, bullies never really change
@@hilla3353 you are naive of you think ge changed
@@hilla3353 he learned that bullying have consequences, probably got in trouble cuz of bad rep, so he tried to change his image, nothing new to see here, predators adapt, it is what they do, he would still be mean to you if lige didnt get to him by some form
@@hilla3353 a trained dog is mot the same as a good dog
OP self blamed a lot... like blackmail. But its not blackmail when she just wanted to save her cousin and she's just... way too kind. To care for a child and then accept it when the child gets taken away from her again and... yeah... man I feel so bad for OP
i feel so sad for op because she tried her best to make everyone happy but it all ended up with her being the most miserable in all of this, i just hope she can get past her trauma and sadness and start enjoying her life to the fullest without any more problems
This one just made me sad. No good deed goes unpunished, as they say. OP did the right thing and lost everything because of it. She had a sh-tty family but that’s who she had. I hope she finds love and has a family of her own. She sounds so lonely.
Op got the worst end of the whole deal in my opinion.. walked out with fresh trauma, injuries, heartbreak from losing emotional connections... i feel so bad for her. i hope she gets some good karma for this.
The nephew has been under too much stress, and so has the niece. her brother and sil are pieces of garbage for this. they brought those two only to have them suffering at the end. I place most blame on the grandparents here. The grandparents allowed all of this to happen, it was them who enabled their son and let their granddaughter suffer, then in a twist they blamed the grandson for the aftermath of this whole ordeal. And throughout the entire story they only called to spew obscenities and crap at their own daughter for trying to make happier home for their own granddaughter. Shameless and ignorant, they care more about their own reputation rather than regret the suffering they caused. Op was number one victim in all this, suffering through emotional abuse from parents and having her own brother beat her up. then being accused of sa by her own nephew, then having to endure the trauma for the kids. truly resilient and rough player.
'Reputation,' how ironic. If those poor excuses of grandparents that are OP's mom and dad allowed their daughter and grandaughter to be killed at the hands of a spoiled-ass excuse of a son/father/brother, there is no salvaging their so-called 'reputation.' They would forever be known as the family of psychopaths that swept their son's abuse under the rug to save face. I hope they never have to lay an eye or hand on those kids or OP ever again.
It sucks what op and his niece and nephew went through and I’m glad that they are having the chance to heal
Btw the OP is a girl :)
I feel so bad for OP - OP is assuming that Lou is avoiding them because they remimd her of her trauma. This is but an assumption. Lou might just be enjoying her new life with her new family so much that she's forgetting to call, or only calls when she remembers to. She's a small child still and can't be expected to be the one responsibile for keeping in touch.
OP should only worry about this as a possible problem if Lou were to show signs of regression or unhappiness when OP and her talk.
I feel that its more likely that OP is trying to move on and heal and distance themselves rather than the other way around.
OP sounds like an amazing person, and its especially sad is that OP blames themself for things they shouldn't. They did an amazing job doing everything they could do. OP saved their niece and nephew.
There is definitely some generational trauma going on because OP says her parents always yell at her and she had a dark childhood, get angry when she calls out her brother etc and now the same thing is happening with their niece and nephew where the girl is a scapegoat and the boy is a golden child. OP can probably personally relate to Lou which is why she’s so deeply and passionately furious, I would be too tbh
If Josh is is a bully it’s cause his parents (especially his dad) are bullies and if his parents are bullies it’s because OP and Josh’s dad’s parents are. Lou and Josh’s grandparents sound equally narcissistic and OP was likely a scapegoat child while her brother was favoured and so this bully/victim dynamic is normalised for them. Whatever the case it’s definitely generational by the sound of it.
Think about what OP when through to get her niece and nephew out of people who should not have children. She is a true hero. She may not think right now but she is. She saved their lives.
One day your niece and nephew are going to look back and know how you save their lives they might even get in contact but just remember you did a wonderful thing
The best line "my cat thinks she owns me" lol
Classic case of golden child for 2 generations. The brother in both cases is the Golden child that can do no wrong meanwhile Op and Lu are the scapegoats. It's sickening.
Classic misogyny. Most likely the kind where sons are treated like princes, while daughters are treated as nothing more than an incubator to provide grandsons.
This is just sad, my heart aches for the OP, I just hope OP is living a good life as well as their niece and nephew
OP is a hero; truly someone to look up to. I know and completely understand her guilt, but at the very least I hope she knows she did amazing in this situation. She saw evil and didn't stop until it was gone, it was like she went on a freaking crusade, and that's fucking awesome. It sucks that this situation happened at all, but I'm so happy it ended in probably the best way it could. Not only will Josh and Lou grow up in a safe household, but they'll also remember OP as nothing but a shining light that protected them from, at least at the time, their worst fears. That sticks with not only someone, but especially a child. I hope OP knows that as well. She truly, truly is as heroric as one can be.
This one actually made me teary. All the other ones are "favoritism" "cheating " "neglect" etc. This one went from this woman having to be a mother whilst also getting assaulted because of her *######* I can't say this word. The "brother" and wife are horrible. I'm mad.
I grew up as the scapegoat. I had 1 aunt (out of 3) that didn't partake in abusing me, and she did everything she could to help me. She's been gone a long time, but I miss her dearly. She was much more careful than OP in how she did it though, so as to not ruffle feathers too much, and she was limited in her ability because she lived 400+ miles away. But every summer, she asked to have me sent to live with her while school was out, from when I was 11 until I was kicked out at 17. I didn't realize it at the time, but if I'd asked, she'd have probably taken me in then too. My sisters still hold grudges against her today because they didn't get the special treatment they always got from everyone else, and she'd call them out for their BS.
I love you Aunt Deb. And thank you.
Sounds like this is a generational thing, the brother and op were likely Josh and Lu and possibly further down the line. The parents and brother are monsters and Josh needs a lot of help before it destroys his mind.
her, its a she, which is also true with josh and lu so yeah even if gender doesnt matter the parallels are there.... Im glad they were able to break the cycle and now josh wont grow up to be a horrible person and lu might recover and actually be happy
this whole story is just heart breaking, the kids, OP, just everything. it seems so real that I am at the point of hoping it's fake. nobody deserves to go through that
i feel awful for the OP. she gained so much trauma and probably went through so much even after this. she deserves the world after everything she went through, i hope lou is happy and josh is in a safe place.
She fought for the happiness of these children at the expense of herself. She lost her family and the people close to her. What an amazing woman.
I wish the best to her. She fought like a bear mother, ready to do anything to save her little ones, even if it wasn't hers sons.
OP is so kind and strong. like a saviour that jumped out of a fantasy. i wish for her to be happy, healthy and heal from all that haunts her. i pray she finds a good job and gets immensely rich. may she live the rest of her days overcoming all future hurdles.
OP is an angel from heaven. She's so kind, caring, gentle and spiritually healing 😇. I could never be that strong during such tough times. I hope that all her wishes should be fulfilled and live a life without any regrets.❤
“ Blackmail is bad “
It actually depends on the situation
As a legend once said…
You don’t own the cat
The cat owns you
"All children deserve parents, but not all parents deserve children"- some random person on the internet
That is some crazy sh*t there. To have to go through all this, get assaulted by your own brother, to try and take care of traumatized kids, have all the blame placed on you for the family reputation being ruined, that's a heavy load, I feel bad for op, since this woman stayed strong throughout all of this and made sure the best came for her niece and nephew. Wow. We need more people like this in today's society.
This person is my hero! He has all my love and support!!!
It's a she.
S H E
It's a she
@@ILTransformers Why you don't keep that energy when bozos use "they" to refer to OP.
Damn not only did OP get all the excess abuse from their family. They also lost everyone they tried to save too & got told they had to cease contact because they’re a reminder of trauma, no help for them, just alone. That wasn’t deserved, they were the hero & they’ve been abandoned by their system.
I hope that someday these kids will reconcile, without the influence of their awful parents or grandparents. Because it does sound like they were both abused.
That the person who saved them isn't even allowed in their livea anymore, thats absolute bullshit.
The father clearly doesn't want the daughter, why would he go through the effort of trying to get her back?
"You destroyed your borthers family because you couldn't leave well enough alone!"
Wtf? Oh well, he deserves the shit he gets for the abuse he put that girl through.
he does want the daughter. He hates her but she's nothing more than a toy to torture to him. He wants to have her so that he can crush her to feel strong. That's how horrible that man is
This story actually made me cry for the first time in 5 years. I really hope things are going well for all of them
These stories (real or fake) always make me wonder why we don't have licenses to be parents.
Sadly this story was confirmed to be true on reddit. It's quite an old story, I think 6 month- 1 year old.
It would get dystopian very soon :/
@fernandarubilar4596 sometimes the saftey of children is better.
@@fernandarubilar4596we're already in a dystopia, honestly I think needing a license to be a parent would make things a little better.
@@adyashanayak7958 how was it confirmed?
I don’t know why, but even before it was confirmed this was a story from a family living in a third world country, I knew that it was.
Just, the way things are handled, the grandparents, the brother’s actions. Especially the part where brother pulled put breaker and proceeded to beat the sister. It felt too close to home, and maybe it really was.
What a bittersweet story. Aunt is hero to those kids. I hope she heals in time too and gets to a place where she can happily visit her nephew and niece without sadness.
There's a special place in hell for his parents where the fire is so cold that it burns
One of the worst parts on the side of the abusive parents and the son is, I can’t even blame the kid. I don’t consider it to be his fault that he was spoiled and his horrible behaviors were not only left undisciplined but also condoned by the father. The son should’ve been taken from the parents as well in my opinion, because they clearly don’t know how to raise good kids.
OP is a real hero. This story is the definition of “no good deed goes unpunished”. A very pure powerful human being. I would love to meet this person someday.
This woman is an angel
Kinda sounds like Josh might have had a situation similar to the kids of Daddt’o’five, where every one of the kids are being abused but as long as they are willing to abuse their younger siblings, they don’t get as harsh a treatment as their siblings does.
Also can you imagine the kind of messed up person you have to be to watch your little girl fall down a staircase and then laugh at her and scream at her to stop crying when she keeps crying?
I’d have him undergo a psych evaluation, I’m not convinced he doesn’t have some degree of sociopathy.
The amount of love this op has in her heart actually brought me to tears at work
This auntie is an angel for a human! She sacrificed her safety for these kids she fought for them and made sure they’ll reach a safe home to be loved in, we all love you W auntie!, GOD BLESS YOU 💕💕💕💕💜💜💜💜💜💟💟💟🎀🎀🎀🎀💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋
If that was my brother i would have been arrested...
Honestly she is such an amazing person, we need to be more like her, almost cried while listening to this 😭
Im so sad for OP she didnt get the kids to which she was carring for deeply because of they're parents/grandparents traumatizing them atleast give him some time to catch up on the kids 😢
It's a she
sorry laps in information
Bro the community behind op is so nice, ti the fact that op cried, lou doesn't deserve that shitty household, she is more happy with op
OP sacrificed so much, ruined their own life and gave it to these two children, i hope they realize how much their aunt gave for them.
Father is literally a criminal, mother has zero attachment to her own blood, grandparents are complicit because they're more worried about the scandal.
I feel bad for the niece as well as OP.
OP is a literal angel. Actually doing something about the abuse Lou was enduring and proving over and over again how good of a person they are.
OP is so amazing..really devoted herself for those kids even when it ment she got hurt in the process...truly made me tear up and i wish all the best for her..what a hero..truly❤❤❤
I'm so disgusted by the parents of their poor child
So, am I, my friend.
I hope Lou doesnt forget how OP was the one who spear headed for her protection and betterment.
In the word of Superman, all it would have taken is one person to care.
Not all heroes wear cape's, and not all of them get away with just small sacrifices.
OP is a hero of the highest regard.
This guy is such a goat. He repainted a whole room for an abused child and even more ❤❤
That's so sweet. There's a special place in heaven for the op.
Remember kids blackmail is only bad it it happens to Good people
I’m glad you got both josh and Lou out of that household. And I do hope you have a good life
This is so fucking sad... My heart breaks for Op's suffering. I hope they'll find what they're looking for in life.
OP is an angel❤ all of us are really grateful that you took in that broken child💕 may God bless you both❤️🌟
You can tell this story is true because it doesn't have a satisfying ending 😢
I'm so glad there was a mostly happy ending in this story
I suspect Lou's family had a narcissist family dynamic. When she left, the parents and Josh didn't have a scapegoat for their frustrations.
OP is an angel. He saved these children and yet is a painful reminder of their past. He lost both children and has trauma.
It's giving Matila moving in with Miss Honey.
The parents, bro and sis in law should get one way ticket to hell.
"I have apparently ruined their reputation"
No, they have done it all by themselves, you were just a whistle blower
Also when OP said Josh was bullying her sister and OP's brother laughed I knew they were dealing with a psychopath that needs to be in prison instead of a high position job. That explains his burglar-like endeavors and beating or at least trying to beat up family members. He should of never gotten out of jail, because he belongs there.
OP took the brunt of everything, she's like-no she IS a hero. Those kids may not understand it while they're young, but once they grow up they'll know how blessed they are to have OP and the people who helped and reached out to her
Everyone is rightfully laying into the parents, but something I’m not seeing getting nearly enough attention is how fucking cruel those phychiaratrists are. They took away Lou from her living aunt who sacrificed everything for her because she might be a ‘rEmIndEr’ and wouldn’t even let them see each other despite the fact that Lou was ringing her every day, crying and begging to go back. It’s disgraceful. I fucking hate psychiatrists, they’re supposed to be all about feelings but they’ve taken a child’s emotions and made them bureaucratic. They stuck Lou with the cousin simply because he was wealthier, and while it just so happens that they turned out to be loving and caring and good for Lou, as someone who has had experience with psychiatrists myself, I am 100% confident that they would have put her there even if they were horrible simply because they had more money. I fucking hate bureaucracy, it had absolutely no fucking place in mental health or child safety, it’s so painfully obvious to anyone with a shred of heart that Lou and OP had a beautiful relationship and she would have been a great mom, but I guess that doesn’t matter to these overpaid, bureaucratic assholes. I’m literally about to cry, I’ve never been so angry and emotional while writing a YT comment before. It was so clear that OP was meant to be Lou’s mom, so clear! Pieces of paper have their place, but this was just one of those things where you have to go with your heart. Okay rant’s over, I’m gonna go cry
It's wild that the therapist said that OP should go low contact with hwr niece ans nephew.
@@lizzyisbored9882I know. Probably some piece of paper somewhere that says it worked for other kids, or they just made it up because no one would check anyway. I hate bureaucracy, it has it’s place, but mental health is not that place.
@@ladyalicent705 Like I get moving Lou to her cousin's place because aunt was financially struggling. But it just seems sick to encourage no contact on the family member who was her advocate.
Feel so bad for OP I hope they have children themselves someday op will be a fantastic parent.
The OP parents kept running to the brothers side, sounds like he was the golden child. He in turn favors his son over his daughter. The trickle down effect? OP i wish only good for her and her life. I was taken by the state as a child and the feeling is overwhelming. She saved two children! Literally! The nephew can learn how to be a proper person and precious Lou is safe ❤. They are in better places now and since family has them OP in the future can be part of their lives isn't that wonderful ❤.
OP is a very strong woman 🥹 She deserves everything good in life and I hope she gets what she wants. She's done such difficult work and has sacrificed so much! This is why I scoff when people say "You'll never know real love until you have your own kid's". There are WAY too many scumbags like OPs brother, SIL, and parents in this world. But there are also a lot of beautiful people like OP willing to make sacrifices for children and do what's right on their behalf. I'm proud of OP and Lou and hope Josh grows into the opposite of his father. A wonderful young man. I hope the three of them recover from their trauma and wish them the best. Went through a roller coaster of emotions listening to this. Mostly anger at OPs brother, SIL, and parents. Especially whe he broke in and assaulted OP. Made me wish I were there to step in. Sadness at the false accusations. And hope when the cousins talked about bringing the kids into their homes. I hope the cousins are doing well and are happy with Lou and Josh. ❤
OP is a real life superhero lol, i feel so happy for the good ending
Honestly, these reddit stories could be a movie that Id watch.. I actually prefer the longer vids with updates
Just saying the lawyer is the goat for being this support
This aunt is so sweet and I hope she gets the job she wants
The only videos that have been able to move me to tears are this guys videos I know it’s just an Ai talking but the way he formats these videos make you feel the emotion as if your there just a watcher idk just thanks for doing so good man
That first story was the first time I heard of a happy meal making a kid ACTUALLY happy
I hope OP finds a good man and build a family, she deserves children of her own because shes a real hero.
OP's a real hero. I hope that the kids will realise and appreciate that their aunt saved their lives.
I’m forever grateful to my aunt because she took me in when my dysfunctional family existed up until its breaking point. It’s extremely upsetting how the two people whom I thought wouldn’t hurt me were those that did the most damage on me as a person.
The op sounds like a lovely person. I wish the op could have had Lou and Josh obviously not at the same time. This was a bad story to start with but this turned very sad
Op is such a good person. Since I get attached easily and want to be a mother badly, I couldn't have lose these two. I mean, it's better for them I guess, but it would really hurt to have two children and help them through everything and then they get adopted by other people. Heartbreaking.
Child abuse is so hard to deal with. I have a niece and nephew who hate their mother. They cry and scream anytime they have to go home because she is abusive. They have done this since infancy. CPS doesn't do anything, and it was an uphill battle for my brother to get joint custody. This woman is such a piece of work, but the system is broken. It lets her get away with dressing her daughter in dirty clothes and stealing presents. It lets her lock her daughter in her room all day while forcing her to wear a diaper so there's no mess. It lets her yell and belittle them. All the court and CPS say is that reconciliation is still possible. It BS.
OP doing Gods work in protecting those kids.
This is really sad I hope this aunt gets to see lou and josh again 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢❤❤❤ Love from the Philippines
Edit:thank you but I don't need this much like
*Edit:thank you but I don't need this much like*
Yes, you do. The likes are in agreement with what you said. They are not necessarily meant for you personally. Besides, even if the like are for you, you should feel good about it. Its a nice statement. :)
@@RandoWisLuL thank you bro
This almost made me cry omg. I’m glad it ended on a sweet note tho.
Best aunt ever and I’m glad Lou is getting happy she deserves the world
I feel extremely bad for the OP to lose both her niece and nephew but i am also slightly proud of her to take her niece and nephew away from an abusive family rather than leaving them there and providing them with a much better family and a safer environment. If she had not taken her stand, the girl may have not survived and the boy might have grown to be extremely entitled to things. I feel bad OP, but remember OP, you changed the lives of those two little kids.
Sounds like a case where the family doesn't care about the kids. Grandparents sometimes are only worried about drama or their favorite kid.