uniquedevelopm... Learning how to deal with aggressive behavior in your team members, your peers or even your manager will contribute to a healthier organization.
Very true. Having experienced certain people on this journey of life you realise that not everyone will be nice to you when they don't know you. Being direct and calm shows them it is not worth their time trying to be aggressive. Calmly disagreeing with them with facts or valid reasons shows them you have a strong mind and that you don't need to be rude/loud to get your point across. Their demeanour changes instantly as they realise who you are. Jocko Willink said it best 'be prepared to show your fangs'. There is always some idiot trying to prove something by putting others down....become the one who shuts them down first.
So use a poker face😐, use monotonic voice, and don't let them interrupt you by stopping in the middle of your centance, be direct and clear got it....😉
@phill3371 You're not alone in this brother. I know how hard it is to deal with a woman who is emotionally aggressive especially in a society that doesn't offer any support and only derision for men who are sensitive to the feelings of people around them and who choose not to resort to verbal or physical violence to solve their problems. It's a shifty situation to be stuck in. There are people out there who will listen and be supportive to you. Do yourself a huge favor now and look up support groups and therapists in your area or online before it gets to the point where the relationship is unrecoverable. If it already is, then getting the support you need will help you move out of unhealthy relationship cycles and learn how to establish healthier ones in the future.
I think these will work as long as the person isn't the type to become physically aggressive, but in my experience most verbally aggressive people become physically aggressive if they don't get given what they want.
I’m not sure if I’m aggressive, I approach strangers, including homeless people, ask for their contacts in the name of making friends, giving around a hundred new acquaintances every month from different walks of life, so far no one has accused me of sexual harassment, I wonder when they’ll begin to. (Out of the hundred people I made 1 good friend)
If you are dealing with an aggressive person or a persoj who literally hits you or pushes u for fun and stuff like that, then, come back even harder and do it back, most of the time theyll get hurt and try get u back and becomes a fight but thats the only way out. Gonna be a day of bruises or a life of hatred. U choose 🤷♂️.
Unfortunately that doesn't work when you're a man and it's your wife beating the ever loving shit out of you over a petty disagreement. I've been asked to leave by police after I called them on her. Had roles been reversed my career would've been over.
As others in the comments have mentioned, I have often found aggressive people to not like direct responses and it in fact makes them angrier or more frustrated. They may also not care to work with you and respect boundaries. What then? Maybe you can make another video on these kinds of people.
I think I’m doing ok when it comes to confrontations with an aggressive person that I can see coming and can mentally prepare myself for. But when someone comes at me out of nowhere I just freeze.
You aren't alone Mila! That is a common response to have when you are faced with aggressive confrontation. Practice being direct and creating boundaries. By freezing, you are reinforcing an aggressive person's perception that they can speak and behave in that manner because you haven't made it known that it is not acceptable. The more you practice, the more comfortable you will be. We do offer an On-Demand program and have options that focus on confrontation and behaviors. You can find that here uniquedevelopment.com/store/ Wishing you all the best!
It is about developing a balanced mindset. Being nice to those who are nice to you and being immediately direct with those who are not. You can get caught off guard and by developing strategies for those moments it will make life easier.
"You do realize that it'll be difficult to walk without knees. Right?" Or, "I would like nothing more than to discuss this with you off the clock and off the premises." That usually stops the conversation right then and there.
That can happen and is a very tricky situation. Aggressive people usually respect 2 things above all else: 1. Directness; it is important to plainly state what is observed and what needs to change 2. Data; Aggressive people normally respect undeniable facts. Dealing with these situations is never easy.
I grew up living FEAR of a violent angry aggressive male father figure! The saddest part is that this individual wasn't my biological dad as my bio dad was a kind hearted loving man who wuddnt hurt a fly! This atrocious bully of an adoptive "dad" was phisically and emotionally abusive and is in good part as to now at 48 years old I'm a self proclaimed man hating misandrist! Mysogany breeds misandry!
I would say first do a very comprehensive assessment of what sort of aggressive bully this is. Some bullies in positions of power will destroy you if you dare to be direct or challenge them, that requires different tactics. It’s very important to assess your own position of power or powerlessness in the hierarchy and relative to this person.
Very true. Having experienced certain people on this journey of life you realise that not everyone will be nice to you when they don't know you. Being direct and calm shows them it is not worth their time trying to be aggressive. Calmly disagreeing with them with facts or valid reasons shows them you have a strong mind and that you don't need to be rude/loud to get your point across. Their demeanour changes instantly as they realise who you are. Jocko Willink said it best 'be prepared to show your fangs'. There is always some idiot trying to prove something by putting others down....become the one who shuts them down first.
So use a poker face😐, use monotonic voice, and don't let them interrupt you by stopping in the middle of your centance, be direct and clear got it....😉
Just try it and see where it gets you
It just makes them more mad....especially a skitsofrenic
My wife is very aggressive 😢and it’s killing me
@phill3371 You're not alone in this brother. I know how hard it is to deal with a woman who is emotionally aggressive especially in a society that doesn't offer any support and only derision for men who are sensitive to the feelings of people around them and who choose not to resort to verbal or physical violence to solve their problems. It's a shifty situation to be stuck in. There are people out there who will listen and be supportive to you. Do yourself a huge favor now and look up support groups and therapists in your area or online before it gets to the point where the relationship is unrecoverable. If it already is, then getting the support you need will help you move out of unhealthy relationship cycles and learn how to establish healthier ones in the future.
I deal with people like this at my hotel. Yes, having a poker face and being direct is the best.
@Lalita Das Straight face. No expression.
I really liked this. I usually allow them to vent, then I calmly answer their questions with facts. Like you said, throw facts at them.
I think these will work as long as the person isn't the type to become physically aggressive, but in my experience most verbally aggressive people become physically aggressive if they don't get given what they want.
Be direct, Be prepared, keep engaged ❤️
I’m not sure if I’m aggressive, I approach strangers, including homeless people, ask for their contacts in the name of making friends, giving around a hundred new acquaintances every month from different walks of life, so far no one has accused me of sexual harassment, I wonder when they’ll begin to. (Out of the hundred people I made 1 good friend)
Absolutely!!
If you are dealing with an aggressive person or a persoj who literally hits you or pushes u for fun and stuff like that, then, come back even harder and do it back, most of the time theyll get hurt and try get u back and becomes a fight but thats the only way out. Gonna be a day of bruises or a life of hatred. U choose 🤷♂️.
Unfortunately that doesn't work when you're a man and it's your wife beating the ever loving shit out of you over a petty disagreement. I've been asked to leave by police after I called them on her. Had roles been reversed my career would've been over.
@@joedirt9022 Divorce? Or you can one day record her doing it secretly and show it to police and get back on hrr
@@joedirt9022 it would then be classified as self defense
As others in the comments have mentioned, I have often found aggressive people to not like direct responses and it in fact makes them angrier or more frustrated. They may also not care to work with you and respect boundaries. What then? Maybe you can make another video on these kinds of people.
Thanks so much for the feedback. That's a great idea!
It always is about money indirectly in American circles
I think I’m doing ok when it comes to confrontations with an aggressive person that I can see coming and can mentally prepare myself for. But when someone comes at me out of nowhere I just freeze.
You aren't alone Mila!
That is a common response to have when you are faced with aggressive confrontation. Practice being direct and creating boundaries. By freezing, you are reinforcing an aggressive person's perception that they can speak and behave in that manner because you haven't made it known that it is not acceptable.
The more you practice, the more comfortable you will be.
We do offer an On-Demand program and have options that focus on confrontation and behaviors. You can find that here uniquedevelopment.com/store/
Wishing you all the best!
It is about developing a balanced mindset. Being nice to those who are nice to you and being immediately direct with those who are not. You can get caught off guard and by developing strategies for those moments it will make life easier.
Good advise. It makes sense, I realize how stay connected in the passed helped the problem.
"You do realize that it'll be difficult to walk without knees. Right?" Or, "I would like nothing more than to discuss this with you off the clock and off the premises." That usually stops the conversation right then and there.
Very helpful, and succinct, thank you.
Instablaster.
Third tip is gold.
Thank you!
I just keep away from them
Thanks for the video
Our pleasure!
I have 2 extremely aggressive sistsrs...they are driving me suicidal.
Wow he really changed my view.
I tried to build with an aggressive person gradually she just became more aggressive.
That can happen and is a very tricky situation.
Aggressive people usually respect 2 things above all else:
1. Directness; it is important to plainly state what is observed and what needs to change
2. Data; Aggressive people normally respect undeniable facts.
Dealing with these situations is never easy.
Wish this video was uploaded 7 yrs ago 😅
Kim Jong un : am I a joke to you??
Nice content! Keep it up!
Very nice
Nice content!
And i'm right about that. ask me please
I grew up living FEAR of a violent angry aggressive male father figure! The saddest part is that this individual wasn't my biological dad as my bio dad was a kind hearted loving man who wuddnt hurt a fly! This atrocious bully of an adoptive "dad" was phisically and emotionally abusive and is in good part as to now at 48 years old I'm a self proclaimed man hating misandrist! Mysogany breeds misandry!
My sister came from hell
That’s it
Terrible advice
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I would say first do a very comprehensive assessment of what sort of aggressive bully this is. Some bullies in positions of power will destroy you if you dare to be direct or challenge them, that requires different tactics.
It’s very important to assess your own position of power or powerlessness in the hierarchy and relative to this person.