You just need somebody you can interact with and get one of them automatic beepers I felt like I can't get up that's all you need is a lot better than having a woman up your ass all the time
I guess the bottom line is some folks do well being alone and some don't, you can never say all people. I'm in my 60's and with my grand pianos and pets, reasonably content. I see folks a couple of times a month but that is generally enough.
Same here. In my 60's. living alone up in the mountains and loving it. No mortgage, no debt, and no credit card payments. Able to live on a low income because there is no partner demanding high cost cars, clothing, or vacations. I have a life alert for emergencies and have all my legal papers are completed and my funeral services are prepaid.
I am right there with you buddy. I've been living alone since I was in my forties and life has been good. All my married buddies do is complain about being married.
Here's a tip to keep the dishes from piling up. Just have one or two dinner plates, forks, spoons, knives, etc. Put the rest away. Whenever you eat, wash your one dish and knife, fork and spoon as soon as you finish eating. Takes about 30 seconds, your dishes never pile up, and they are always clean.
I bought one of those small dishwashers that sits on your counter and drains into the sink. Works great, wish I'd done it years ago. Still have to handwash large pans, but I don't really use them much these days so it's fine (and Dawn Powerwash helps a lot there...)
@@thirdsamuel6643living alone doesn't mean not having any social interactions- how do you serve food to others ferchrissakes? rather than living the lonely one plate life you're suggesting, how about just recommitting to not being a lazy slob?
Me too. And I like it so much, I've grown to tolerate less and less ill-intent from people. I'm nice and approachable and generous when I meet them, but if I walk into a restaurant and they immediately interrupt or shout at me, just for example, I just say, "oh well!," and walk out. 😁👍 Lololol!
Any man with a decent house, who looks half respectable and seems to have his life together will attract parasites like flies. did you ever meet the son of a wealthy man who didn't have a pregnant live-in girlfriend?.
Great advice. My wife passed almost 2 years ago. Being by myself is not something I enjoy. Some say they like the peace they have. I had an opposite situation several days ago. I got a call from my 11 years old granddaughter's school. They couldn't reach her Mom so they called me. I was having a bad day dealing with my loneliness and cancer situation. My granddaughter was screaming her teeth hurt and was at the nurses office. I rushed to the school and took her to the dentist for a loose tooth. Thus my day was turned upside down. Yet it was great to spend the afternoon with my granddaughter and have lunch with her. It made me feel I was useful and can help when needed.
Clearly you are not doing the right things for your health. Where do you think cancer comes from? It comes mainly from your diet (except certain types of cancer such as lung cancer). This means they are mostly due to people's own lifestyle choices. Loneliness is also a choice, an emotional addiction to people that you refuse to see for what it is and dump it. Try developing a life philosophy like stoicism. You can't control everything. The things you can't control you must discard because they waste your energy. Focus only on the things you can control, your diet, exercise, etc. This approach can only improve your experience to some degree.
no children, widowed 6 years ago after 29 years. she wanted a dog 6 months before she died in her sleep. the dog is the best thing ever. i am a happy hermit by nature, but the dog drags me out for 4-6 walks a day. have met all the neighbors for blocks around, bring in the trash cans, tuck amazon packages closer to the house, shovel snow in the winter. ''it made me feel useful and can help when needed.'' i hear ya.
@@sciencedaemon You know nothing of my situation, thus I advise, "It is better to remain quiet and be thought a fool, than to speak up and remove all doubt."
@@Gramp-lx7er 94? Wow..and you live alone in a house or? Well, I hope you have somebody checking in on you in case you fall. Do you have any remaining family probably not. When you’re 94 there’s not too many people left. Where do you live? How do you get around? I would think you’re not driving.
@@jamesmack3314 I'm 68 male and live alone. I’m working on actually getting help when I need it. About 15 years ago, my former landlord’s wife passed away while he was out of town, and no one found her body until a few days later. So, I’m really aware of that risk, and I’ll have someone checking in on me regularly. I also decided a long time ago never to buy a two-story house-it’s gotta be one level to make things easier as I get older.
People often confuse being alone ( not a problem ) , with being lonely ( a problem ) . They do not necessarily go hand in hand . Great video , Great advice . 👍👍
After two divorces due to ex wives cheating on me ....20 yrs. Of single living ...is a calm,quiet, peaceful experience. No drama . No lies...no deception ...Just my own space ..! Awesome ...
If you call being lonely all the time awesome, then so be it. I had 2 divorces, one long term and one short. I am 62 well off and would love to have someone in my life. After being single for 11 years now it's one of the worst things in life being lonely all the time.
I hear you Randy, and you too Arliss. I lived and worked from home alone for a few years in my late 30's - it drove me bananas and I couldn't stay sober. Truly, if there was a switch you could flip and turn off the sex-drive, I'd easily be a millionaire by now. I wound up marrying the most beautiful woman I'd ever seen and now I'm constantly screwed up thinking she might be cheating on me.
To paraphrase a saying from Robin Williams - Being alone is not a problem. Having people around you that make you feel alone is the problem. Great topic. Best wish to you, Jen, and Rogan.
Any man with a decent house, who looks half respectable and seems to have his life together will attract parasites like flies. did you ever meet the son of a wealthy man who didn't have a pregnant live-in girlfriend?.
One final thing, sir, I wanted to thank you for your time and your wisdom I you and your courage to get online and share yourlife’s experiences and lifestyle. Can’t say I would go to the Philippines except for the pretty girls, but they will just use you better off being alone here in the states.
Make peace with your past... like an emotional de-cluttering... travel lighter and have no regrets or unsaid things... Don't try to win old arguments with ex-wives or ungrateful children... just forgive them (even in their absences) and move on... forgive yourself and accept you did the best you could at the time... basically, don't live with the ghosts of the past...
Living alone has its pro's and cons. The one thing that I think that is important is to have the proper mindset. Accept your life for what it is. Find your strengths and know your weaknesses. Do the things that make you happy.
I'm an ex military and keep a spotless house and often thin out stuff i collected over the years. I work 60 hours per week ,do home projects and play at the guitar. Life alone is great as long as you move it move it baby.
@@goofyjohn6191 Yeah that's right if you've got interests and hobbies Then being alone isn't really a big deal having friends is good And I find I socialise more when I'm out and about at the shopping centres I'm more talkative And I get to express myself and have conversation in ways like that
@@sagora3114Well hobbies and interests should be a given. And I think the problem with a lot of older women is that they don’t have any hobbies or interests, and just want a man to fill the void.
As a cancer survivor at 62, I can tell you a big downside to not having a good woman. You need an advocate at the hospital, she noticed things before anyone else , she was there early until late in my room, and took care of me when I got to go home after months in the hospital. She even gave me the medications though my Central Line which could of killed me if not done correctly. I can never repay her for her dedication to me, except to love her unconditionally. I am now 69.
@@sweetbeep Wrong assumption. You seem to think “the others” are God’s gift or whatever. Often when someone complains about their spouse or ex, they’re not asking themselves what their part or responsibility is or was, regarding issues. Maybe their ex was wonderful but those men drove the nice ladies up a wall. Then claimed the women were the problem. Get it ?
@@angelwings7930 you think guys like above who are good, nice men don't get treated like crap, too? I always expect a woman to concoct hypothetical scenarios where the men are bad. Fact is every day of the week there's countless guys getting their lives turned upside down by a woman they loved. Some of them were not great, some of them were the best men you could find. There's no shortage of trash women in this world. You just do a much better job of hiding it.
Just found your channel today. I’m 66 ,wife divorced me, took half my money and then died a month later. No kids, no GF, no close friends. Dog and cat keep me sane for now. Good channel 🙂 thank you.
73 here & somewhat the same shape. The big problem comes with the need for medical backup when needed & keeping things organized in the home. Live in the Florida Keys so life isn't really so bad. Faith in Christ give great hope for the future, no matter what comes. Best wishes for your future!
I'm similar age (a little older) and in great shape physically. But I'm already planning for when my health and physical capabilities decline. I'll be looking to move to a town/city with at least one really good hospital where I can walk to get what I need, like to the supermarket, instead of driving everywhere. And have pets, of course. I don't want to be in a situation where I need help (through no fault of my own) and can't get it.
I resolved this problem. I have no family,they’ve all passed away. I certainly don’t care to remarry. I moved to a poorer country so I could afford to live off my social security. After a few years of getting to know the locals I made a deal with a young man and his wife, that I get to live with them until I die. They take care of me and when I’m dead, they inherit what I have, which is considerable in their country. Any day now we will have a new baby in the house. Never had children, so I’m really looking forward to being “a grandmother” and teaching the baby English. I feel like I’ve got new purpose in life.
I'm 64, best friend 70, we realized about 4 years ago that it wasn't so great financially to be on our own when we crunched numbers, we now share a 2/2 condo, enough room to have privacy, we have helped with medical appointments and other issues that have come up. If you find someone that's really a good match, you don't have to live alone in silence and you get human interaction which is invaluable. We also maintain our own interests, some friends in common, we are in a senior community, but this works in any community.
A nurse at a large Australian hospital commented no one over 60 should be allowed up a ladder or to stand on a chair. Wise words. The wards were full of older people who had fallen.
Dear Sir, all that you shared in your video is true and you are doing a great service to all seniors who are living alone by themselves. God bless you.
@@everymanhasastory Alot of the issues with aging and mobility can be mitigated with the carnivore diet. You'll feel so amazing you'll never want to sit around. The number one comment from all carnivores? I wish I had started this sooner!
@@thehoteldeveloper yes I've heard good things off a customer I met that's on the carnivore diet but it just seems a bit boring and repetitive that's all I love my variety of food options I like my cooking
Beef heart cooked w/🥓 bacon. Local grocery prepares the beef heart in nice little portions very clean and neat cooks quick. Very lean I can eat it almost everyday, but got to leave room in the schedule for fried chicken. Fried eggs 🥚 , . . I just don't know which to eat first@
@@sagora3114 It is the best because today's American food is poisonous. All of your cereals, breads, pastries, canned goods, etc. are loaded with poisonous chemicals. No European country, even Canada will carry US products unless they eliminate the poison. Ketchup in the US has poisonous high fructose corn syrup, the same brand in Canada has sugar instead. I love the Keto diet.
I'm 70 years old and I'm one of the lucky ones. Both daughters & their families live less than 10 minutes from me. We help each other. It's a great support system. I know how fortunate I am.
The one simple thing as a whistle can be life saving in any situation at any age. I’ve been touting this for years. It’s louder and carries farther than your voice and doesn’t require a lot of effort to signal someone. I use one set of dishes and clean them after eating. When I’m lazy, I use paper plates and plastic utensils. Use once and done. My neighbor has a key to get into my house in an emergency. Great advice that a lot of seniors never think about until it’s too late.
I’m a 62-yo woman and happily single. I’m so blessed though that my brother lives 3 doors down. We eat dinner together and watch a couple of episodes of whatever we’re binging, every night. We have some good neighbor friends too. God bless you all🤍
My mother had an arrangement with another widow, who lived across the street: if one of them didn't have their curtains open by 10 a.m., the other would phone to check if everything was okay.
I remember seeing a bunch of older men and women in the morning at McDonalds. Didn't really think too much of it. Then I realized that not only were they socializing and getting out for coffee and breakfast but it was a way of knowing who wasn't there. If someone didn't show up, they would know right away.
William Holden was 63 when he died. He was at home having a drink alone, he fell or tripped, he hit his head on the coffee table, he managed to sit in a chair next to the phone and bled to death there. These things can happen to anyone at any time, is all about taking PRECAUTIONS. I am sixty now and I have a routine, one of the really BIG things I know was hurting me, was DRINKING. It messed with my cognitive health. Not to mention, damage to my liver, the danger of falling. It was KILLING me very slowly. I stopped drinking twelve years ago and I'm healthier now than I was in my forties. If I had to advise anyone anything is to STOP DRINKING. Believe me is not part of your personality is just a crutch we use to deal with other feelings and if you think about it we had to learn that as well.
Couldn’t agree more. I have been without so much as a drop going on three years. Quitting was easier than I thought it would be, and don’t miss it one bit
I’m in my mid 70s, found a great part-time job two days a week. It’s an opportunity to meet with people, feel purposeful and continue my retired life five days a week.
Yes!! This is what I’m seeing with retired family members. They are alone but I believe they need a partime job. Somewhere where they can interact with people other than me or themselves. They been in the workforce and very productive and I think they miss that. Idle minds are the devils playground.
Same. I'm in my mid 60s and all my friends retired. I am working part time for the social interaction because all my family are dead. It is also great as an inflation hedge and it keeps my mind sharp. I notice how people decline rapidly as soon as they stop work (both physically and cognitively).. I still have plenty of time for non-work pursuits.
I'm alone living here in the Philippines. I do like it. I have many friends I go with to do things and my neighbors all know I am in my mid 60's and check with me every day or so. I am in great shape for my age, but anything can happen at any time.
I live alone in metro Atlanta. Big house, lots of land, meant for a big family, but they have all gone. Even my Russian Blue cat died. I have subscribed to your channel due to this video. You have good advice and insights which will benefit me. Thank you!
I am new to Marks channel, but he truly is exceptional, wizened, honest, kind, not cruel, and covers a whole landscape of topics rather than the shape of one tree within it.
I know. I've been there used to hate Christmas. Now I love it. New wife baby boy and lots of joy in my life. Come to the Philippines and start a new life
I'm a better cook than any woman I've ever known and I keep a much tie to your house . Never being married or having kids has left me with disposable income I have a cleaning woman and that frees up time for me to do the things that I like .
🙂 i prefer cooking for myself, its actually Therapuetic, i make a big pot which lasts a whole week. Cleaning i do myself too, when ur alone its a bit easier.
@@ElmwoodParkHulk I had no choice but to learn how to take care of myself from an early age my mother mentally checked out when I was around six or seven I've basically been taking care of myself ever since .
One way to stop time feeing like it moves too quickly is to do different things. Falling into a very strict routine for the sake of 'efficiency' really makes time feel like it speeds up. Do things out of the ordinary. Going somewhere you've never been to makes the journey feel long, whereas the way back seems shorter and if you start do it several times (like a commute) the route becomes over-familiar and so 'short'.
Every time I need that obscure tool that I haven't used for years, or a piece of material among my saved stuff, I feel rewarded for not having fallen for the "decluttering" craze.
Been a widower for 6 years. Miss her every day but I’m doing ok. Been working part time 25 hrs/wk for 2 years and love it. Has helped alot for my mental acuity and pt. Have my builds, a wood and metal shop, I play a baby grand, I cook, clean but am messy. Mow my own yards. Hang out with my son and his family once a week. Shoot two 2gun matches a month and reload. When you stop moving you start dying. That recliner WILL KILL YOU.
Drop the carbs and drop off the pounds. Stop all forms of sugar....bread... potato, cereals, fruit... The pain stiffness will go away and mind will clear
If you have any medical procedure where you are anesthetized, it can be challenging to get a ride home if you are a loner. I was in the hospital once in a remote area where Uber was not really an option and the hospital had no way of getting me back to my hotel. Someone who worked in a different department in the hospital gave me a ride.
I think staying positive and fighting against the demons that want you to be miserable helps. Laugh and stuff. I ride my bicycle a lot but it's winter now. In door sit down bicycle my friend has good idea. Peace out
Greetings! I might add: 1) make younger friends. Try to keep up with them. Be curious about them. Assume the role of 'senior advisor' as necessary. 2) be sure to ask someone you trust to take care of your pets - just in case soomething happens to you - preferably someone your pet is already familiar and comfortable with. In fact, everyone who lives alone with their pets regardless of age should do this - accidents can happen to anyone.
I'll be 56 next July and I've been living alone for the last 21 years after me and my wife divorced. I dated here and there for 5 or so years then started a business that had me working 6 and 7 days a week. As of now I have some front yard chickens that keep me eating healthy with daily eggs, rarely ever eat out. But yeah way too much stuff! Gets any worse you may see me on an episode of Hoarders. But hey a good video definitely gives me some stuff to think about. Actually hoping and looking forward to meeting a nice lady that could put up with me. Good luck guys.
Just want to tell you when I was around 50 to 60 , I was doing good and got around good, felt good but when I reached about 62 , life and body starts taking a toll on you and thinking starts changing. Things that were important are not important. Goodluck !!!!
Take up a sport as a hobby to stay fit, join a club , I cycle to stay fit and meet people..im 56 and in my best shape, and giving up drinking helped me alot..good luck!
Unless you don't want to be saved. I live a full-time RV van life traveling as a nomad and enjoying the outdoors, fishing, hunting, and hiking. I will go till I drop. When I die they may not find me for months. As a nomad, you live a minimalist life, so the only thing my kids need to decide is when to sell my RV van.
@@BlacFireSan The trauma was long ago when my wife left, costing me a business, home, cars, trucks, and assets, along with the pressure of raising four kids on my own. It can pull a person down but the van life has been the best decision for me.
@@Go4Corvette man I’m so sorry this happened to you. It’s definitely rough out here. Knowing this, do you think a prenup would’ve saved you before you ever married her?
You can get an iPhone and say “hey, Siri, call 911”. Or maybe Alexa can do that too. You could also wear an Apple Watch. We have so much technology nowadays that can prevent people from dying.
Best thing about living alone is not being in a hospital w IV tubes, nosy nurses, useless doctors, 3 AM blood tests, neglected by family/"friends" unwilling to lift a finger to ease your pain ~ live alone die alone no problem medical profession be damned! ~
That last line… Amen! I am in the community care program through the VA “health care” system. I can’t seem to get referrals to specialists. It takes over a year to get approval - 14 months to see a podiatrist. I gave up on seeing a neurologist back in May after trying since January. Back in August I tried to get approval to see a cardiologist. I just received a denial letter at the end of September. At least the illegal aliens and non-veterans are cared for. A number of years ago, a spine doctor asked me how I was feeling at my follow-up appointment. I told him I hadn’t been approved for physical therapy (it had been 7 weeks since my first appointment). He told me, “You get what you pay for.” 😐
@@user-mx3kh8rj1t You get what you pay for. If you are enrolled in the VA, you already paid with your service! I used to go to the VA occasionally, found the same attitude, haven't been to see those jerks for many years.
When I was diagnosed with cancer the doctor immediately started talking about chemo and radiation treatments. My mother had passed away after five years of suffering with such poison. I told the doctor you can cut out whatever is cancerous, but I will not undergo chemo nor radiation nor run up useless hospital bills. I have been cancer free for nine years and have no medical bills.
@@really2345 Well Really, I have had both heavy radiation in 1991 and chemo in 2013, both from life threatening cancers and these treatments did reduce the tumors w immediate reduction of symptoms threatening my life BUT doctors gave me zero, nothing to improve my health to keep them away, no diet changes stress reduction nada! I am 80 now and have decided if re-diagnosed I will refuse treatment and let god/my body decide, the aftereffects of these treatments are horrendous and at my age, very afraid of being confined to a hospital bed too weak to leave or even get out of bed, fate way worse than death!!
Thank you for this video! I'm 47, and for now my mother stays with me but I know that won't be forever. So I often think about when I'll be alone, so the information you provided is really helpful!
i have lived on my own for the most part since 1994 and totally on my own since 2008. never had children and never been married. i go for walks for 2 hours almost every day. i have seen and continue to see the way people treat each other and that is not for me. i keep my place pretty clean. i have plenty of hobbies. i keep GOD #1 in my life and i will not live any other way unless GOD tells me other wise but this video is pretty good advice and good tips. thank you and GOD bless you.
You know, I came across your reply and I so much agree ! Today many crazy people out there. Whenever I am out , always talking to people starting conversations and so many got many problems and issues. Never see hardly anyone smile anymore and most talk about problems or issues either what they are experiencing or someone else. It's a screwed up world today for sure. A different generation and people out there no common sense or wisdom is lacking. I am internally lonely, but I keep pushing and going each day !!
That's one thing that concerns me as a guy living alone in my early 50's -- getting tripping hazards out of the way. I'm always stepping over stuff to avoid tripping. I've got a lot of stuff crammed into my small bungalow, and I need to downsize on my possessions big-time.
That's what happened to Scott Hall, "Razor Ramon" Fell in his mansion, was down for 2-3 days DDP checked on him and found him, but he never recovered. Died days later
I'm 74 and have a cherished wife a couple years younger. We'll see. I'm in Utah as well. I have no fears of how she'd get by if I die first. But the idea of being a widower needs thinking about. I did live 5 years remote from my wife in Kentucky and did great, as she did too. I have two options: Get back closer to my kids farther away, or hope my wife's kids, geographically close might care about me a bit.
I agree with you...been alone for 10 years now...quite content with my life...I'm 78 and still work part time...mostly because it gives me something to look forward to...have a great dog and wonderful neighbors...life is good and time flies by...looking forward to the next 10 years!!!
You have to take care of your physical well being as you get older. Continue to work out with weights and do stretches regularly for quality of life! And nutrition is key also!
At 54, I lifted weights for 36 years. Recently put them down. Now it’s resistance bands, body weight lunges and a morning meditation of lymphatic drainage, basic yoga poses & Tai Chi.
What lifting weights does for you physically.. Bible study class does for you spiritually. Peace negates loneliness. Thanks Lord for your peace. Peace in Christ surpasses all understanding
64 years old and learned to love to being alone. Maybe taking a big chance but willing to live with it. ALWAYS BEST TO BE ALONE FOR THE RIGHT REASONS THAN BEING WITH SOMEONE FOR THE WRONG ONES.
I'm 75 and retired. But I do have a much younger GF who is a career woman. I am buying my own home as is she. I live with my dog and cat. My GF and I spend an average of 3 weekends a month together. I owned my own businesses for over 35 years and understand what she is going through. I'm supportive and never critical of her. We both enjoy our time together and have long phone conversations probably 2-3 nights a week. Neither makes demands of the other. It's comfortable for both of us. No reason to be lonely unless you want to be. Just be realistic on the woman you choose to spend time with.
Lotta truth here. Especially about emergencies and nobody else around. I “do” keep my phone with me at all times while in my home. Another thing is having to be in the hospital for something, and not having anyone around. I know for a fact I was treated differently, because no one was there to fight for me, or know how I’m being treated. My lesson there was to tell someone I’m in the hospital, and get them to visit. I don’t like asking people for help, but sometimes I have to like it or not.
Living alone is not isolation. The goal is to keep pesky women out of your residence, out of your wallet and out of your peace. Everything else can be arranged for. Do you think an older female companion is actually going to do anything for a man other than collect life insurance premiums.
Do you think an older female companion is actually going to do anything for a man other than collect life insurance premiums. Yes, there is a good chance she will turn you into a care giver.
Good advice! I am 71. My dog and I start our day with a two mile walk before sunrise. That serves as the inspiration to stay active during the day. I push mow instead of using my riding mower. As a veteran, I stay active in the American Legion as the Finance Officer. There are so many activities out there for seniors. I do not drink alcohol or sugary drinks. I make my own healthy meals. It's easy to do if you make your healthy practices routine. Make your bed everyday. Simple things like that. Thank you for your video and your concern. Rob in N.C.
I once ran a program called “R U OK?” A senior can sign up when volunteers can call him, morning, midday or night to check on him. A volunteer group like that where you are would help.
@lzu2860 My mother volunteered for a group that made check in calls like that to senior citizens about 25 years ago, when she herself was a senior (a very active senior). 😊
@@everymanhasastory Do you know of some guys there that really do not want to marry now but has a clean-up/ cook maid service that comes weekly or couple times a week ? Cause I do not like cooking at all & would be ideal for me, if I was staying there.
Great points and well presented Mark. As you said when you live alone you’re your own emergency back up. The freedom of living alone can be a good feeling. However as we get older and that one time emergency and not having someone around can be the difference in life & death. Thanks for sharing a great conversation 👍🏾👏🏾!
If you lived with somebody, they could kill you in your sleep. And, not report your death to keep collecting your SS checks. Is that what you would rather have?
What is the difference between life and death ? Is one good and the other bad ? I don't understand why I should fear one and not the other. I've been resting in peace all my life and don't see any reason why that will change.
This is a serious topic. I'm 66. I buried my mother almost 4 years ago. She lived alone until her health started failing. Due to my own situation going south, I was able to move in and take care of her. The last year, she could do nothing for herself. Six months before she passed she fell and hit her head. I'm pretty sure if I hadn't been there, it would have been the end for her. Watching what she went through, well let's just say, I don't want to go through that alone, but alone I am. I work, and I have a few friends, but I live alone. Which in itself is not a problem. But I do worry about what happens when I reach the point I can't do anything. That usually happens before the end comes and that's what concerns me.
Very true what you say. I can highly reccomend getting rid of clutter! Know to many people who just stash whatever, because may they'll need it in the future. And it really pulls them down. So get rid of clutter, ALL of it. And you will never look back.
I enjoyed your video. Can you please do another one where you elaborate more on the issue. I did 36.1/2 years in the service. Always in a group. I am bored now.
I listened to the first minute. If you are worried go to assisted living or get one of those medical alert things.. life is always a trade off, in this case for me it is a lot more freedom for assuming a little more risk. We must each make our own call. I’m only 70, maybe I’ll feel different at 80, doubt it.. Also, keep yourself physically fit functionally, strength train, stretch, do some cardio.. If you are stronger and practice balance you won’t worry so much about falling.. Cheers!
I think people are having a blast being alone. Myself, I never knew how much I craved time alone and how awful it was to never have silence when I was married to the extrovert covert narcissist who loved to provoke me. Now I spend my days in the company of 3 dogs, 9 cats, and have my garden. I never knew how good I sleep by not having anyone on my bed. Been celibate and hermit for 7 years. This lifestyle fits me. I do things at my own pace, and the quiet and peaceful days have restored my nervous system. If I die alone, no problem. No one dies alone. You will see how this is true. Don't worry, relax, enjoy life. Pursue hobbies. DO take care of yourself, cook at home, be clean. You deserve it.
I m 63, was married for 22 years, divorced 14 years ago.. But your right. Even when I was married I lived in very rural Ky and fell from my garage at 12 feet and no one was coming but maybe the neighbor who lived 500 yards away as wife worked in town 45 min away.. No cell service..If have a heart attack or a stroke as far out as I was in the Ky Boone forest! Your done! The nearest hospital was a 45 min drive... Good advice..Thx!
A lot of what he said is true especially the dangers of living alone. I live in the boonies with 3 dogs 4 horses and at the moment 20 pigs. All by myself and it's sweet. The one thing he had me pegged on is housework. I'm really bad about that
At 55 YOA I have never been healthier, wealthier, happier or more content with my life. My friends live across the road, my mother lives around the corner and my family are all reasonably close. Stay single men, you will be wealthy, healthy and you will have zero stress in your life and believe me I look forward to each and every day and I am truly disappointed when I have to go to bed.
I can go either way with this one...Right now i'm 66 and live alone and it's great that I can do my own thing...But if a Love comes into my life...I can see where it may go..But i'm fine with my life right now..
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What great advice at a time in my life i needed to hear! Ill be watching this channel regular thanks for your practical wisdom
My wife ran off with my fishing buddy and I miss him a lot.
Hilarious 😂
😂
Well...I'm sure he doesn't miss you😂😂😂
@@VickiBrowne-yk4cooh, his Buddy will be back in a few months.😂
And the fish miss you.
What is worse than living alone? Wishing you were living alone. Truth.
Damn. That's the truth.
😂
Living alone in a house surrounded by people. 😮
Most men die before their wives do because they want to.
MAN ain't that the truth.
Downside- You don’t have backup and may die alone.
Upside- While dying alone, I won’t be told how I’m doing it wrong.
Ha ha ha!!! Amazing! Thanks!
Like JOBS WIFE!😆
Everyone dies alone.
Haha yes, brilliant. Let me die in my own way.
You just need somebody you can interact with and get one of them automatic beepers I felt like I can't get up that's all you need is a lot better than having a woman up your ass all the time
75 and alone.....no debts and good income. Just loving every day. No bullshit from people. Really living the best years.😊😊
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I guess the bottom line is some folks do well being alone and some don't, you can never say all people. I'm in my 60's and with my grand pianos and pets, reasonably content. I see folks a couple of times a month but that is generally enough.
This is the dream!
Same here. In my 60's. living alone up in the mountains and loving it. No mortgage, no debt, and no credit card payments. Able to live on a low income because there is no partner demanding high cost cars, clothing, or vacations.
I have a life alert for emergencies and have all my legal papers are completed and my funeral services are prepaid.
I am right there with you buddy.
I've been living alone since I was in my forties and life has been good.
All my married buddies do is complain about being married.
Here's a tip to keep the dishes from piling up. Just have one or two dinner plates, forks, spoons, knives, etc. Put the rest away. Whenever you eat, wash your one dish and knife, fork and spoon as soon as you finish eating. Takes about 30 seconds, your dishes never pile up, and they are always clean.
I use paper plates
Don't put the rest away, don't even own the rest they become to big of a temptation to skip the wash job and grab one of the rest.
Two dish washers solve this.......then store the dishes in one, and alternate each day. The built in types are not that expensive.
I bought one of those small dishwashers that sits on your counter and drains into the sink. Works great, wish I'd done it years ago. Still have to handwash large pans, but I don't really use them much these days so it's fine (and Dawn Powerwash helps a lot there...)
@@thirdsamuel6643living alone doesn't mean not having any social interactions- how do you serve food to others ferchrissakes?
rather than living the lonely one plate life you're suggesting, how about just recommitting to not being a lazy slob?
I’m old , live in a big house alone and like it. Life can be heaven when you have gotten rid of toxic people
Well said
Me too. And I like it so much, I've grown to tolerate less and less ill-intent from people.
I'm nice and approachable and generous when I meet them, but if I walk into a restaurant and they immediately interrupt or shout at me, just for example, I just say, "oh well!," and walk out. 😁👍 Lololol!
@@bentonrp
You need to choose better.
Any man with a decent house, who looks half respectable and seems to have his life together will attract parasites like flies. did you ever meet the son of a wealthy man who didn't have a pregnant live-in girlfriend?.
@@stevemann1299 You need to inspect and adjust your personality.
Great advice. My wife passed almost 2 years ago. Being by myself is not something I enjoy. Some say they like the peace they have. I had an opposite situation several days ago. I got a call from my 11 years old granddaughter's school. They couldn't reach her Mom so they called me. I was having a bad day dealing with my loneliness and cancer situation. My granddaughter was screaming her teeth hurt and was at the nurses office. I rushed to the school and took her to the dentist for a loose tooth. Thus my day was turned upside down. Yet it was great to spend the afternoon with my granddaughter and have lunch with her. It made me feel I was useful and can help when needed.
Peace in Christ surpasses all understanding. Bible study class gives you peace. Thanks Lord for your peace and salvation. Peace negates loneliness
Clearly you are not doing the right things for your health. Where do you think cancer comes from? It comes mainly from your diet (except certain types of cancer such as lung cancer). This means they are mostly due to people's own lifestyle choices. Loneliness is also a choice, an emotional addiction to people that you refuse to see for what it is and dump it. Try developing a life philosophy like stoicism. You can't control everything. The things you can't control you must discard because they waste your energy. Focus only on the things you can control, your diet, exercise, etc. This approach can only improve your experience to some degree.
no children, widowed 6 years ago after 29 years. she wanted a dog 6 months before she died in her sleep. the dog is the best thing ever. i am a happy hermit by nature, but the dog drags me out for 4-6 walks a day. have met all the neighbors for blocks around, bring in the trash cans, tuck amazon packages closer to the house, shovel snow in the winter. ''it made me feel useful and can help when needed.'' i hear ya.
@@sciencedaemon You know nothing about my cancer, diet, exercise program, lifestyle choices. So shut the F up.
@@sciencedaemon You know nothing of my situation, thus I advise, "It is better to remain quiet and be thought a fool, than to speak up and remove all doubt."
Better to live alone than with a miserable woman who's out to steal your money..or nagging you all day.
I agree with you.
@@markjg2275So does the Bible.
the most alone i ever felt was right next to my ex wife--been divorced 29 years
Or a raging alcoholic
don't talk about my wife like that
Thanks for the pep talk. I'm 94 and live alone, Doing OK most days. Cooking as a hobby helps a lot.
@@Gramp-lx7er 94? Wow..and you live alone in a house or? Well, I hope you have somebody checking in on you in case you fall. Do you have any remaining family probably not. When you’re 94 there’s not too many people left. Where do you live? How do you get around? I would think you’re not driving.
@@jamesmack3314 I'm 68 male and live alone. I’m working on actually getting help when I need it. About 15 years ago, my former landlord’s wife passed away while he was out of town, and no one found her body until a few days later. So, I’m really aware of that risk, and I’ll have someone checking in on me regularly. I also decided a long time ago never to buy a two-story house-it’s gotta be one level to make things easier as I get older.
@@jamesmack3314 if he is on a PC typing, i am pretty sure he is doing just fine :)
@@StanleyMidling maybe hopefully
I'm not 94 but but I like eating as a hobby, can I come over?
People often confuse being alone ( not a problem ) , with being lonely ( a problem ) . They do not necessarily go hand in hand . Great video , Great advice . 👍👍
Some people think that but people can be smarter than you think and actually do know the difference.
@dt8787 True .
After two divorces due to ex wives cheating on me ....20 yrs. Of single living ...is a calm,quiet, peaceful experience. No drama . No lies...no deception ...Just my own space ..! Awesome ...
If you call being lonely all the time awesome, then so be it. I had 2 divorces, one long term and one short. I am 62 well off and would love to have someone in my life. After being single for 11 years now it's one of the worst things in life being lonely all the time.
@@arlissyoung8899
Hmm... quite an effective personal ad here. I wonder if you've had any takers by now...😉😅
were these arranged marriages?
I hear you Randy, and you too Arliss. I lived and worked from home alone for a few years in my late 30's - it drove me bananas and I couldn't stay sober. Truly, if there was a switch you could flip and turn off the sex-drive, I'd easily be a millionaire by now. I wound up marrying the most beautiful woman I'd ever seen and now I'm constantly screwed up thinking she might be cheating on me.
Why they cheat on you?
To paraphrase a saying from Robin Williams - Being alone is not a problem. Having people around you that make you feel alone is the problem. Great topic. Best wish to you, Jen, and Rogan.
Agreed
VERY WELL SAID MR WILLIAMS!!!!!😎😎😎😎😎
Any man with a decent house, who looks half respectable and seems to have his life together will attract parasites like flies. did you ever meet the son of a wealthy man who didn't have a pregnant live-in girlfriend?.
One final thing, sir, I wanted to thank you for your time and your wisdom I you and your courage to get online and share yourlife’s experiences and lifestyle. Can’t say I would go to the Philippines except for the pretty girls, but they will just use you better off being alone here in the states.
Dude offed himself
Make peace with your past... like an emotional de-cluttering... travel lighter and have no regrets or unsaid things... Don't try to win old arguments with ex-wives or ungrateful children... just forgive them (even in their absences) and move on... forgive yourself and accept you did the best you could at the time... basically, don't live with the ghosts of the past...
This is great advice…
Thanks for your wise words sir, I needed to hear them this morning.
Don't let a piece of the past, take away the peace of your present.
"dont live with the ghosts of the past"
I don’t hear this anywhere near enough. Thank you.
Living alone has its pro's and cons. The one thing that I think that is important is to have the proper mindset. Accept your life for what it is. Find your strengths and know your weaknesses. Do the things that make you happy.
I'm 50 and live alone. I always have my phone with me for an emergency. This is good advice for any age.
I'm an ex military and keep a spotless house and often thin out stuff i collected over the years. I work 60 hours per week ,do home projects and play at the guitar. Life alone is great as long as you move it move it baby.
@@goofyjohn6191 Yeah that's right if you've got interests and hobbies Then being alone isn't really a big deal having friends is good And I find I socialise more when I'm out and about at the shopping centres I'm more talkative And I get to express myself and have conversation in ways like that
@@sagora3114Well hobbies and interests should be a given. And I think the problem with a lot of older women is that they don’t have any hobbies or interests, and just want a man to fill the void.
@@1SevenFive yes quite possibly
That's my goal
@@1SevenFive That is it.
As a cancer survivor at 62, I can tell you a big downside to not having a good woman. You need an advocate at the hospital, she noticed things before anyone else , she was there early until late in my room, and took care of me when I got to go home after months in the hospital. She even gave me the medications though my Central Line which could of killed me if not done correctly. I can never repay her for her dedication to me, except to love her unconditionally. I am now 69.
You sound like a mature, kind, appreciative person instead of pure cynicism like most who comment here. Thats how you got your wonderful mate. 👍
@@angelwings7930but also he has the good woman. I guess the others didn't have good women
@@sweetbeep
Wrong assumption. You seem to think “the others” are God’s gift or whatever. Often when someone complains about their spouse or ex, they’re not asking themselves what their part or responsibility is or was, regarding issues. Maybe their ex was wonderful but those men drove the nice ladies up a wall. Then claimed the women were the problem. Get it ?
@@angelwings7930 you think guys like above who are good, nice men don't get treated like crap, too? I always expect a woman to concoct hypothetical scenarios where the men are bad. Fact is every day of the week there's countless guys getting their lives turned upside down by a woman they loved. Some of them were not great, some of them were the best men you could find. There's no shortage of trash women in this world. You just do a much better job of hiding it.
@@funloverdavis1796 Adam was the first to discover the pure evil of Woman. Nothing has changed.
Just found your channel today. I’m 66 ,wife divorced me, took half my money and then died a month later.
No kids, no GF, no close friends. Dog and cat keep me sane for now.
Good channel 🙂 thank you.
Congratulations!
73 here & somewhat the same shape. The big problem comes with the need for medical backup when needed & keeping things organized in the home. Live in the Florida Keys so life isn't really so bad. Faith in Christ give great hope for the future, no matter what comes. Best wishes for your future!
Karma
@@uncleremus5046 No, just good luck.
@@winterwolf2012love the keys but it can be a bit isolating.
I'm 57 and live happily alone with 2 cats and an unruly lab pup. We're way out in the boondocks a mile from the nearest neighbors. I love it.
Me too. It’s PARADISE.
Del: maybe you best go down to a town, get outta these mountains.
Jeremiah Johnson: I've been to a town Del.
I'm similar age (a little older) and in great shape physically. But I'm already planning for when my health and physical capabilities decline. I'll be looking to move to a town/city with at least one really good hospital where I can walk to get what I need, like to the supermarket, instead of driving everywhere. And have pets, of course. I don't want to be in a situation where I need help (through no fault of my own) and can't get it.
@@fifteen8 Very important! Best wishes on your journey. 73 here.
Until you reach a point that you can't drive
Life is what you make it.
I resolved this problem. I have no family,they’ve all passed away. I certainly don’t care to remarry. I moved to a poorer country so I could afford to live off my social security. After a few years of getting to know the locals I made a deal with a young man and his wife, that I get to live with them until I die. They take care of me and when I’m dead, they inherit what I have, which is considerable in their country. Any day now we will have a new baby in the house. Never had children, so I’m really looking forward to being “a grandmother” and teaching the baby English. I feel like I’ve got new purpose in life.
Even elderly women have more social options than men
What country?
@@Sammiejomitchell no idea why my comment was deleted
Aren't you afraid that they will bump you off when things get difficult?
@@marmaly no. Not at all. Never felt safer.
Being on your own is the biggest pleasure in life. No old women.
I agree
Hahahaha😂😂
Haha 😂
@@bitteroldman701 same here
I used to think that until I went overseas (at age 40) and married my Filipina Wife. True, marriage isn’t for everyone but that woman saved my life
I'm 64, best friend 70, we realized about 4 years ago that it wasn't so great financially to be on our own when we crunched numbers, we now share a 2/2 condo, enough room to have privacy, we have helped with medical appointments and other issues that have come up. If you find someone that's really a good match, you don't have to live alone in silence and you get human interaction which is invaluable. We also maintain our own interests, some friends in common, we are in a senior community, but this works in any community.
So very true...we need to have connections who might miss us if we are not heard from in a day or two
A nurse at a large Australian hospital commented no one over 60 should be allowed up a ladder or to stand on a chair. Wise words. The wards were full of older people who had fallen.
Dear Sir, all that you shared in your video is true and you are doing a great service to all seniors who are living alone by themselves. God bless you.
Thank you 😊 I am ao glad you enjoyed it
@@everymanhasastory Alot of the issues with aging and mobility can be mitigated with the carnivore diet. You'll feel so amazing you'll never want to sit around. The number one comment from all carnivores? I wish I had started this sooner!
@@thehoteldeveloper yes I've heard good things off a customer I met that's on the carnivore diet but it just seems a bit boring and repetitive that's all I love my variety of food options I like my cooking
Beef heart cooked w/🥓 bacon. Local grocery prepares the beef heart in nice little portions very clean and neat cooks quick. Very lean
I can eat it almost everyday, but got to leave room in the schedule for fried chicken.
Fried eggs 🥚 , . . I just don't know which to eat first@
@@sagora3114 It is the best because today's American food is poisonous. All of your cereals, breads, pastries, canned goods, etc. are loaded with poisonous chemicals. No European country, even Canada will carry US products unless they eliminate the poison. Ketchup in the US has poisonous high fructose corn syrup, the same brand in Canada has sugar instead. I love the Keto diet.
I'm 70 years old and I'm one of the lucky ones. Both daughters & their families live less than 10 minutes from me. We help each other. It's a great support system. I know how fortunate I am.
The one simple thing as a whistle can be life saving in any situation at any age. I’ve been touting this for years. It’s louder and carries farther than your voice and doesn’t require a lot of effort to signal someone. I use one set of dishes and clean them after eating. When I’m lazy, I use paper plates and plastic utensils. Use once and done. My neighbor has a key to get into my house in an emergency. Great advice that a lot of seniors never think about until it’s too late.
Great advice here…even for those who are not expats.
I’m a 62-yo woman and happily single. I’m so blessed though that my brother lives 3 doors down. We eat dinner together and watch a couple of episodes of whatever we’re binging, every night. We have some good neighbor friends too. God bless you all🤍
My mother had an arrangement with another widow, who lived across the street: if one of them didn't have their curtains open by 10 a.m., the other would phone to check if everything was okay.
Your mother was smart
@@erik7386 Thank you! Usually people on the internet do not say such kind things about my mother ... !
What if Chucky is the who's opening curtains. 😳
I remember seeing a bunch of older men and women in the morning at McDonalds. Didn't really think too much of it. Then I realized that not only were they socializing and getting out for coffee and breakfast but it was a way of knowing who wasn't there. If someone didn't show up, they would know right away.
My folks had the same system. My dad was a truck driver and was on the road a lot, left my mom home alone.
William Holden was 63 when he died. He was at home having a drink alone, he fell or tripped, he hit his head on the coffee table, he managed to sit in a chair next to the phone and bled to death there. These things can happen to anyone at any time, is all about taking PRECAUTIONS. I am sixty now and I have a routine, one of the really BIG things I know was hurting me, was DRINKING. It messed with my cognitive health. Not to mention, damage to my liver, the danger of falling. It was KILLING me very slowly. I stopped drinking twelve years ago and I'm healthier now than I was in my forties.
If I had to advise anyone anything is to STOP DRINKING. Believe me is not part of your personality is just a crutch we use to deal with other feelings and if you think about it we had to learn that as well.
Solid advice.
Couldn’t agree more. I have been without so much as a drop going on three years. Quitting was easier than I thought it would be, and don’t miss it one bit
Agreed! I'm coming up on 6 years without a drink or a drug. It's poison! I'm a much healthier and happier person without it!
Holden .
Glad I wasn't asking for your advice. Where's my tall can😆. Thanks Lord for bible study class. Thanks Lord for your peace
I’m in my mid 70s, found a great part-time job two days a week. It’s an opportunity to meet with people, feel purposeful and continue my retired life five days a week.
Good for you 👍
Yes!! This is what I’m seeing with retired family members. They are alone but I believe they need a partime job. Somewhere where they can interact with people other than me or themselves. They been in the workforce and very productive and I think they miss that. Idle minds are the devils playground.
Same. I'm in my mid 60s and all my friends retired. I am working part time for the social interaction because all my family are dead. It is also great as an inflation hedge and it keeps my mind sharp. I notice how people decline rapidly as soon as they stop work (both physically and cognitively).. I still have plenty of time for non-work pursuits.
Thanks Lord for bible study class
If you have medical coverage, don't forget professional mental health support is frequently covered as well.
Great advice and also very helpful! Thanks 👍
I'm alone living here in the Philippines. I do like it. I have many friends I go with to do things and my neighbors all know I am in my mid 60's and check with me every day or so. I am in great shape for my age, but anything can happen at any time.
My plan is to emulate your lifestyle 🍻
I'm trying to sell my so i can retire in Thailand.Im curious as to why you chose the Philippines, thanks
yes, and LBFMs are easy to get in your 80s
@CaptainFritz LBFMs , Thailand is Philippines with better food and legal weed.
@@koikoivison4753Had to look LBFM up…Little Brown F’king Machines, referring to prostitutes or available girls, back in Viet Nam war days.
I’ve lived alone since 2001 and love the peace and quiet especially when I’m debt free and retired at 56
I live alone in metro Atlanta. Big house, lots of land, meant for a big family, but they have all gone. Even my Russian Blue cat died. I have subscribed to your channel due to this video. You have good advice and insights which will benefit me. Thank you!
I'm so glad you found it useful. Thank you for watching ☺️
Been living by myself since 1988. It has its difficulties, and its rewards. I don't consider it being alone, I see it as being just me.
Thank you. I'm not in my 80's yet like you, and I appreciate the tips.
Hi Mark, you should do these reminders on a monthly basis.
That was incredible advice so important thank you
I am new to Marks channel, but he truly is exceptional, wizened, honest, kind, not cruel, and covers a whole landscape of topics rather than the shape of one tree within it.
I go long weekends without speaking a word. Christmas is the worst when you have no-one.
I know. I've been there used to hate Christmas. Now I love it.
New wife baby boy and lots of joy in my life.
Come to the Philippines and start a new life
Awesome information as always . I’ve been MGTow for 19 years and really love it . Hiring someone to cook and clean is the solution .
I'm a better cook than any woman I've ever known and I keep a much tie to your house . Never being married or having kids has left me with disposable income I have a cleaning woman and that frees up time for me to do the things that I like .
🙂 i prefer cooking for myself, its actually Therapuetic, i make a big pot which lasts a whole week. Cleaning i do myself too, when ur alone its a bit easier.
@@sirclarkmarz can I hire you , I just know how to make eggs . I would have to watch utube videos on how to clean
@@MrSamadolfo can I hire you ? I made eggs once .
@@ElmwoodParkHulk I had no choice but to learn how to take care of myself from an early age my mother mentally checked out when I was around six or seven I've basically been taking care of myself ever since .
One way to stop time feeing like it moves too quickly is to do different things. Falling into a very strict routine for the sake of 'efficiency' really makes time feel like it speeds up. Do things out of the ordinary. Going somewhere you've never been to makes the journey feel long, whereas the way back seems shorter and if you start do it several times (like a commute) the route becomes over-familiar and so 'short'.
It’s always lonely at the top, but after all isn’t that the whole point. Embrace your uniqueness and accept your unimportance in the universe.
Well said. Thank you for watching and for taking the time to comment 😀
Every time I need that obscure tool that I haven't used for years, or a piece of material among my saved stuff, I feel rewarded for not having fallen for the "decluttering" craze.
Been a widower for 6 years. Miss her every day but I’m doing ok. Been working part time 25 hrs/wk for 2 years and love it. Has helped alot for my mental acuity and pt. Have my builds, a wood and metal shop, I play a baby grand, I cook, clean but am messy. Mow my own yards. Hang out with my son and his family once a week. Shoot two 2gun matches a month and reload. When you stop moving you start dying. That recliner WILL KILL YOU.
Drop the carbs and drop off the pounds.
Stop all forms of sugar....bread... potato, cereals, fruit...
The pain stiffness will go away and mind will clear
yep did this recently and my inflammation dropped off a cliff
Been carnivore for about a year now lost 80 lbs psoriasis cleared up joint pain back pain knee pain went away everything has improved.
Certain fruit is good.
I started eating Mediterranean style a while back and gave me a new life . A1C went from 8.9 to 6.4
This is essentially a Keto diet. Carbs are literally poison.
If you have any medical procedure where you are anesthetized, it can be challenging to get a ride home if you are a loner. I was in the hospital once in a remote area where Uber was not really an option and the hospital had no way of getting me back to my hotel. Someone who worked in a different department in the hospital gave me a ride.
I think staying positive and fighting against the demons that want you to be miserable helps. Laugh and stuff. I ride my bicycle a lot but it's winter now. In door sit down bicycle my friend has good idea. Peace out
Well said. And all of this is true for women too. I can go a couple of weeks without communicating with anyone.
Hire a maid or a nurse to check up on you. It is 1% of the cost of a wife.
You don’t even need to go to that extreme just get a cleaner that comes in twice a week.
True! LOL
How about making an effort to be more healthy through diet, exercise, better life choices rather than resorting to other people.
Peace in Christ surpasses all understanding. Peace negates loneliness. Bible study class gives you peace. Thanks Lord for your peace
Dollars and sense! ;)
Greetings! I might add: 1) make younger friends. Try to keep up with them. Be curious about them. Assume the role of 'senior advisor' as necessary. 2) be sure to ask someone you trust to take care of your pets - just in case soomething happens to you - preferably someone your pet is already familiar and comfortable with. In fact, everyone who lives alone with their pets regardless of age should do this - accidents can happen to anyone.
Excellent advice. Thank you for watching ☺️
I'll be 56 next July and I've been living alone for the last 21 years after me and my wife divorced. I dated here and there for 5 or so years then started a business that had me working 6 and 7 days a week. As of now I have some front yard chickens that keep me eating healthy with daily eggs, rarely ever eat out. But yeah way too much stuff! Gets any worse you may see me on an episode of Hoarders. But hey a good video definitely gives me some stuff to think about. Actually hoping and looking forward to meeting a nice lady that could put up with me. Good luck guys.
Living alone, keep strong for yourself. I'm living alone, too. I am strong and healthy.
Im turning 50 next year, and I really needed to hear this, I never thought about these things.
Just want to tell you when I was around 50 to 60 , I was doing good and got around good, felt good but when I reached about 62 , life and body starts taking a toll on you and thinking starts changing. Things that were important are not important. Goodluck !!!!
Take up a sport as a hobby to stay fit, join a club , I cycle to stay fit and meet people..im 56 and in my best shape, and giving up drinking helped me alot..good luck!
Unless you don't want to be saved. I live a full-time RV van life traveling as a nomad and enjoying the outdoors, fishing, hunting, and hiking. I will go till I drop. When I die they may not find me for months. As a nomad, you live a minimalist life, so the only thing my kids need to decide is when to sell my RV van.
I think you’re suffering from some sort of trauma.
You're living life to fullest instead of like most people just waiting to die
@@BlacFireSan The trauma was long ago when my wife left, costing me a business, home, cars, trucks, and assets, along with the pressure of raising four kids on my own. It can pull a person down but the van life has been the best decision for me.
@@Go4Corvette man I’m so sorry this happened to you. It’s definitely rough out here. Knowing this, do you think a prenup would’ve saved you before you ever married her?
@@BlacFireSan Only an attorney could tell you for sure. With women, there are no guarantees.
WISE advice here !
You can get an iPhone and say “hey, Siri, call 911”. Or maybe Alexa can do that too. You could also wear an Apple Watch. We have so much technology nowadays that can prevent people from dying.
Peace and quiet, priceless.
Great video. I like reading everyone's comments. It alone shows we aren't alone.
Best thing about living alone is not being in a hospital w IV tubes, nosy nurses, useless doctors, 3 AM blood tests, neglected by family/"friends" unwilling to lift a finger to ease your pain ~ live alone die alone no problem medical profession be damned! ~
That last line…
Amen!
I am in the community care program through the VA “health care” system. I can’t seem to get referrals to specialists. It takes over a year to get approval - 14 months to see a podiatrist.
I gave up on seeing a neurologist back in May after trying since January.
Back in August I tried to get approval to see a cardiologist. I just received a denial letter at the end of September.
At least the illegal aliens and non-veterans are cared for.
A number of years ago, a spine doctor asked me how I was feeling at my follow-up appointment. I told him I hadn’t been approved for physical therapy (it had been 7 weeks since my first appointment). He told me, “You get what you pay for.”
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@@user-mx3kh8rj1t
You get what you pay for.
If you are enrolled in the VA, you already paid with your service! I used to go to the VA occasionally, found the same attitude, haven't been to see those jerks for many years.
When I was diagnosed with cancer the doctor immediately started talking about chemo and radiation treatments. My mother had passed away after five years of suffering with such poison. I told the doctor you can cut out whatever is cancerous, but I will not undergo chemo nor radiation nor run up useless hospital bills. I have been cancer free for nine years and have no medical bills.
@@really2345 Well Really, I have had both heavy radiation in 1991 and chemo in 2013, both from life threatening cancers and these treatments did reduce the tumors w immediate reduction of symptoms threatening my life BUT doctors gave me zero, nothing to improve my health to keep them away, no diet changes stress reduction nada! I am 80 now and have decided if re-diagnosed I will refuse treatment and let god/my body decide, the aftereffects of these treatments are horrendous and at my age, very afraid of being confined to a hospital bed too weak to leave or even get out of bed, fate way worse than death!!
@@sbsman4998indeed
Stopped dating 4 years ago because, understandbly, people want to live together and I just don't. I love living alone, always have.
Family close by. We chat daily. Keep watch on to monitor falls. I’m lucky. 😀
Very true for all seniors, male and female.
This is one of the best videos I have ever seen. Really great advice. Thank you.
Thank you for this video!
I'm 47, and for now my mother stays with me but I know that won't be forever. So I often think about when I'll be alone, so the information you provided is really helpful!
i have lived on my own for the most part since 1994 and totally on my own since 2008. never had children and never been married. i go for walks for 2 hours almost every day. i have seen and continue to see the way people treat each other and that is not for me. i keep my place pretty clean. i have plenty of hobbies. i keep GOD #1 in my life and i will not live any other way unless GOD tells me other wise but this video is pretty good advice and good tips. thank you and GOD bless you.
I don’t want know button or whistle. It’s time its time. Living alone happy not lonely ❤
I never find solitude wears on me, it's people that wear on me. You made some good points in this video. Thanks.
You know, I came across your reply and I so much agree ! Today many crazy people out there. Whenever I am out , always talking to people starting conversations and so many got many problems and issues. Never see hardly anyone smile anymore and most talk about problems or issues either what they are experiencing or someone else. It's a screwed up world today for sure.
A different generation and people out there no common sense or wisdom is lacking. I am internally lonely, but I keep pushing and going each day !!
Ha Ha. I just climbed my roof to clean my gutters.
Made it down ok
this time...
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Burger powered 😄
good time to relax with a Beer, or anything you want.
@@ronaldmcdonald3965 Are you 21?
That's one thing that concerns me as a guy living alone in my early 50's -- getting tripping hazards out of the way. I'm always stepping over stuff to avoid tripping. I've got a lot of stuff crammed into my small bungalow, and I need to downsize on my possessions big-time.
That's what happened to Scott Hall, "Razor Ramon"
Fell in his mansion, was down for 2-3 days
DDP checked on him and found him, but he never recovered.
Died days later
I'm 74 and have a cherished wife a couple years younger. We'll see. I'm in Utah as well. I have no fears of how she'd get by if I die first. But the idea of being a widower needs thinking about. I did live 5 years remote from my wife in Kentucky and did great, as she did too. I have two options: Get back closer to my kids farther away, or hope my wife's kids, geographically close might care about me a bit.
I agree with you...been alone for 10 years now...quite content with my life...I'm 78 and still work part time...mostly because it gives me something to look forward to...have a great dog and wonderful neighbors...life is good and time flies by...looking forward to the next 10 years!!!
You have to take care of your physical well being as you get older. Continue to work out with weights and do stretches regularly for quality of life! And nutrition is key also!
At 54, I lifted weights for 36 years. Recently put them down. Now it’s resistance bands, body weight lunges and a morning meditation of lymphatic drainage, basic yoga poses & Tai Chi.
Thanks mom 😁
What lifting weights does for you physically.. Bible study class does for you spiritually. Peace negates loneliness. Thanks Lord for your peace. Peace in Christ surpasses all understanding
64 years old and learned to love to being alone. Maybe taking a big chance but willing to live with it. ALWAYS BEST TO BE ALONE FOR THE RIGHT REASONS THAN BEING WITH SOMEONE FOR THE WRONG ONES.
I'm 75 and retired. But I do have a much younger GF who is a career woman. I am buying my own home as is she. I live with my dog and cat. My GF and I spend an average of 3 weekends a month together. I owned my own businesses for over 35 years and understand what she is going through. I'm supportive and never critical of her. We both enjoy our time together and have long phone conversations probably 2-3 nights a week. Neither makes demands of the other. It's comfortable for both of us. No reason to be lonely unless you want to be. Just be realistic on the woman you choose to spend time with.
I’m 75 and have lived alone for 7 years and have never been happier or more relaxed. 😊😊
Lotta truth here. Especially about emergencies and nobody else around. I “do” keep my phone with me at all times while in my home. Another thing is having to be in the hospital for something, and not having anyone around. I know for a fact I was treated differently, because no one was there to fight for me, or know how I’m being treated. My lesson there was to tell someone I’m in the hospital, and get them to visit. I don’t like asking people for help, but sometimes I have to like it or not.
That is an excellent point. I should have mentioned that. In the Philippines you must have someone to help you
Living alone is not isolation. The goal is to keep pesky women out of your residence, out of your wallet and out of your peace. Everything else can be arranged for. Do you think an older female companion is actually going to do anything for a man other than collect life insurance premiums.
Well said! 🍻
Do you think an older female companion is actually going to do anything for a man other than collect life insurance premiums.
Yes, there is a good chance she will turn you into a care giver.
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@@rcas350pilot8 The first thought I had, even if she is years younger.
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I've lived alone for 40+ years and *LOVE IT!*
Good advice! I am 71. My dog and I start our day with a two mile walk before sunrise. That serves as the inspiration to stay active during the day. I push mow instead of using my riding mower. As a veteran, I stay active in the American Legion as the Finance Officer. There are so many activities out there for seniors. I do not drink alcohol or sugary drinks. I make my own healthy meals. It's easy to do if you make your healthy practices routine. Make your bed everyday. Simple things like that. Thank you for your video and your concern. Rob in N.C.
I stay as active as I can at my church…That really makes a difference. There’s always so many things to do and you make so many friends. 🙏🏼
I once ran a program called “R U OK?” A senior can sign up when volunteers can call him, morning, midday or night to check on him. A volunteer group like that where you are would help.
Excellent idea. We could use that program here
This is a great idea
@lzu2860 My mother volunteered for a group that made check in calls like that to senior citizens about 25 years ago, when she herself was a senior (a very active senior). 😊
@@everymanhasastory Do you know of some guys there that really do not want to marry now but has a clean-up/ cook maid service that comes weekly or couple times a week ? Cause I do not like cooking at all & would be ideal for me, if I was staying there.
Great points and well presented Mark. As you said when you live alone you’re your own emergency back up. The freedom of living alone can be a good feeling. However as we get older and that one time emergency and not having someone around can be the difference in life & death.
Thanks for sharing a great conversation 👍🏾👏🏾!
Why are you afraid of dying? Too many regrets for not living a life true to yourself?
If you lived with somebody, they could kill you in your sleep. And, not report your death to keep collecting your SS checks. Is that what you would rather have?
Right… like sleeping with a grenade-on-timer ⌛️and hoping it takes care of your when the poop hits the fan. 🤡
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What is the difference between life and death ? Is one good and the other bad ? I don't understand why I should fear one and not the other. I've been resting in peace all my life and don't see any reason why that will change.
This is a serious topic. I'm 66. I buried my mother almost 4 years ago. She lived alone until her health started failing. Due to my own situation going south, I was able to move in and take care of her. The last year, she could do nothing for herself. Six months before she passed she fell and hit her head. I'm pretty sure if I hadn't been there, it would have been the end for her. Watching what she went through, well let's just say, I don't want to go through that alone, but alone I am. I work, and I have a few friends, but I live alone. Which in itself is not a problem. But I do worry about what happens when I reach the point I can't do anything. That usually happens before the end comes and that's what concerns me.
That concerns all of us. Live in the moment and be prepared
GREAT advise
Everything you've mentioned is exactly right. Their are a number of activities you can do to prevent yourself from wasting away.
Very true what you say. I can highly reccomend getting rid of clutter! Know to many people who just stash whatever, because may they'll need it in the future. And it really pulls them down. So get rid of clutter, ALL of it. And you will never look back.
You met my wife it seems.
Unless you're planning a build house,car,truck,motorcycle, etc.
"Living alone changes your perspective of time!!!" Amen.
I enjoyed your video.
Can you please do another one where you elaborate more on the issue. I did 36.1/2 years in the service. Always in a group. I am bored now.
I listened to the first minute. If you are worried go to assisted living or get one of those medical alert things.. life is always a trade off, in this case for me it is a lot more freedom for assuming a little more risk. We must each make our own call. I’m only 70, maybe I’ll feel different at 80, doubt it.. Also, keep yourself physically fit functionally, strength train, stretch, do some cardio.. If you are stronger and practice balance you won’t worry so much about falling.. Cheers!
I think people are having a blast being alone. Myself, I never knew how much I craved time alone and how awful it was to never have silence when I was married to the extrovert covert narcissist who loved to provoke me. Now I spend my days in the company of 3 dogs, 9 cats, and have my garden. I never knew how good I sleep by not having anyone on my bed. Been celibate and hermit for 7 years. This lifestyle fits me. I do things at my own pace, and the quiet and peaceful days have restored my nervous system. If I die alone, no problem. No one dies alone. You will see how this is true. Don't worry, relax, enjoy life. Pursue hobbies. DO take care of yourself, cook at home, be clean. You deserve it.
I m 63, was married for 22 years, divorced 14 years ago.. But your right. Even when I was married I lived in very rural Ky and fell from my garage at 12 feet and no one was coming but maybe the neighbor who lived 500 yards away as wife worked in town 45 min away.. No cell service..If have a heart attack or a stroke as far out as I was in the Ky Boone forest! Your done! The nearest hospital was a 45 min drive... Good advice..Thx!
I lost my wife almost 3 years ago now. You are spot on. When alone decline can be a stealthy, slippery slope.
Peace in Christ surpasses all understanding. Bible study class gives you peace. Peace negates loneliness. Thanks Lord for your salvation and peace
A lot of what he said is true especially the dangers of living alone. I live in the boonies with 3 dogs 4 horses and at the moment 20 pigs. All by myself and it's sweet. The one thing he had me pegged on is housework. I'm really bad about that
At 55 YOA I have never been healthier, wealthier, happier or more content with my life. My friends live across the road, my mother lives around the corner and my family are all reasonably close. Stay single men, you will be wealthy, healthy and you will have zero stress in your life and believe me I look forward to each and every day and I am truly disappointed when I have to go to bed.
I can go either way with this one...Right now i'm 66 and live alone and it's great that I can do my own thing...But if a Love comes into my life...I can see where it may go..But i'm fine with my life right now..
Perfect approach to life rather than being needy and co-dependent
If a love comes your way. Take my advice run like hell, the other way. 😁😂😂😂
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Being happy with yourself means everything.