You just need somebody you can interact with and get one of them automatic beepers I felt like I can't get up that's all you need is a lot better than having a woman up your ass all the time
Here's a tip to keep the dishes from piling up. Just have one or two dinner plates, forks, spoons, knives, etc. Put the rest away. Whenever you eat, wash your one dish and knife, fork and spoon as soon as you finish eating. Takes about 30 seconds, your dishes never pile up, and they are always clean.
I bought one of those small dishwashers that sits on your counter and drains into the sink. Works great, wish I'd done it years ago. Still have to handwash large pans, but I don't really use them much these days so it's fine (and Dawn Powerwash helps a lot there...)
@@thirdsamuel6643living alone doesn't mean not having any social interactions- how do you serve food to others ferchrissakes? rather than living the lonely one plate life you're suggesting, how about just recommitting to not being a lazy slob?
@@Gramp-lx7er 94? Wow..and you live alone in a house or? Well, I hope you have somebody checking in on you in case you fall. Do you have any remaining family probably not. When you’re 94 there’s not too many people left. Where do you live? How do you get around? I would think you’re not driving.
@@jamesmack3314 I'm 68 male and live alone. I’m working on actually getting help when I need it. About 15 years ago, my former landlord’s wife passed away while he was out of town, and no one found her body until a few days later. So, I’m really aware of that risk, and I’ll have someone checking in on me regularly. I also decided a long time ago never to buy a two-story house-it’s gotta be one level to make things easier as I get older.
Me too. And I like it so much, I've grown to tolerate less and less ill-intent from people. I'm nice and approachable and generous when I meet them, but if I walk into a restaurant and they immediately interrupt or shout at me, just for example, I just say, "oh well!," and walk out. 😁👍 Lololol!
Any man with a decent house, who looks half respectable and seems to have his life together will attract parasites like flies. did you ever meet the son of a wealthy man who didn't have a pregnant live-in girlfriend?.
I guess the bottom line is some folks do well being alone and some don't, you can never say all people. I'm in my 60's and with my grand pianos and pets, reasonably content. I see folks a couple of times a month but that is generally enough.
Same here. In my 60's. living alone up in the mountains and loving it. No mortgage, no debt, and no credit card payments. Able to live on a low income because there is no partner demanding high cost cars, clothing, or vacations. I have a life alert for emergencies and have all my legal papers are completed and my funeral services are prepaid.
I am right there with you buddy. I've been living alone since I was in my forties and life has been good. All my married buddies do is complain about being married.
Great advice. My wife passed almost 2 years ago. Being by myself is not something I enjoy. Some say they like the peace they have. I had an opposite situation several days ago. I got a call from my 11 years old granddaughter's school. They couldn't reach her Mom so they called me. I was having a bad day dealing with my loneliness and cancer situation. My granddaughter was screaming her teeth hurt and was at the nurses office. I rushed to the school and took her to the dentist for a loose tooth. Thus my day was turned upside down. Yet it was great to spend the afternoon with my granddaughter and have lunch with her. It made me feel I was useful and can help when needed.
Clearly you are not doing the right things for your health. Where do you think cancer comes from? It comes mainly from your diet (except certain types of cancer such as lung cancer). This means they are mostly due to people's own lifestyle choices. Loneliness is also a choice, an emotional addiction to people that you refuse to see for what it is and dump it. Try developing a life philosophy like stoicism. You can't control everything. The things you can't control you must discard because they waste your energy. Focus only on the things you can control, your diet, exercise, etc. This approach can only improve your experience to some degree.
no children, widowed 6 years ago after 29 years. she wanted a dog 6 months before she died in her sleep. the dog is the best thing ever. i am a happy hermit by nature, but the dog drags me out for 4-6 walks a day. have met all the neighbors for blocks around, bring in the trash cans, tuck amazon packages closer to the house, shovel snow in the winter. ''it made me feel useful and can help when needed.'' i hear ya.
@@sciencedaemon You know nothing of my situation, thus I advise, "It is better to remain quiet and be thought a fool, than to speak up and remove all doubt."
People often confuse being alone ( not a problem ) , with being lonely ( a problem ) . They do not necessarily go hand in hand . Great video , Great advice . 👍👍
After two divorces due to ex wives cheating on me ....20 yrs. Of single living ...is a calm,quiet, peaceful experience. No drama . No lies...no deception ...Just my own space ..! Awesome ...
If you call being lonely all the time awesome, then so be it. I had 2 divorces, one long term and one short. I am 62 well off and would love to have someone in my life. After being single for 11 years now it's one of the worst things in life being lonely all the time.
I hear you Randy, and you too Arliss. I lived and worked from home alone for a few years in my late 30's - it drove me bananas and I couldn't stay sober. Truly, if there was a switch you could flip and turn off the sex-drive, I'd easily be a millionaire by now. I wound up marrying the most beautiful woman I'd ever seen and now I'm constantly screwed up thinking she might be cheating on me.
Make peace with your past... like an emotional de-cluttering... travel lighter and have no regrets or unsaid things... Don't try to win old arguments with ex-wives or ungrateful children... just forgive them (even in their absences) and move on... forgive yourself and accept you did the best you could at the time... basically, don't live with the ghosts of the past...
I resolved this problem. I have no family,they’ve all passed away. I certainly don’t care to remarry. I moved to a poorer country so I could afford to live off my social security. After a few years of getting to know the locals I made a deal with a young man and his wife, that I get to live with them until I die. They take care of me and when I’m dead, they inherit what I have, which is considerable in their country. Any day now we will have a new baby in the house. Never had children, so I’m really looking forward to being “a grandmother” and teaching the baby English. I feel like I’ve got new purpose in life.
Good advice! I am 71. My dog and I start our day with a two mile walk before sunrise. That serves as the inspiration to stay active during the day. I push mow instead of using my riding mower. As a veteran, I stay active in the American Legion as the Finance Officer. There are so many activities out there for seniors. I do not drink alcohol or sugary drinks. I make my own healthy meals. It's easy to do if you make your healthy practices routine. Make your bed everyday. Simple things like that. Thank you for your video and your concern. Rob in N.C.
I'm 70 years old and I'm one of the lucky ones. Both daughters & their families live less than 10 minutes from me. We help each other. It's a great support system. I know how fortunate I am.
To paraphrase a saying from Robin Williams - Being alone is not a problem. Having people around you that make you feel alone is the problem. Great topic. Best wish to you, Jen, and Rogan.
Any man with a decent house, who looks half respectable and seems to have his life together will attract parasites like flies. did you ever meet the son of a wealthy man who didn't have a pregnant live-in girlfriend?.
One final thing, sir, I wanted to thank you for your time and your wisdom I you and your courage to get online and share yourlife’s experiences and lifestyle. Can’t say I would go to the Philippines except for the pretty girls, but they will just use you better off being alone here in the states.
I'm similar age (a little older) and in great shape physically. But I'm already planning for when my health and physical capabilities decline. I'll be looking to move to a town/city with at least one really good hospital where I can walk to get what I need, like to the supermarket, instead of driving everywhere. And have pets, of course. I don't want to be in a situation where I need help (through no fault of my own) and can't get it.
I'm an ex military and keep a spotless house and often thin out stuff i collected over the years. I work 60 hours per week ,do home projects and play at the guitar. Life alone is great as long as you move it move it baby.
@@goofyjohn6191 Yeah that's right if you've got interests and hobbies Then being alone isn't really a big deal having friends is good And I find I socialise more when I'm out and about at the shopping centres I'm more talkative And I get to express myself and have conversation in ways like that
@@sagora3114Well hobbies and interests should be a given. And I think the problem with a lot of older women is that they don’t have any hobbies or interests, and just want a man to fill the void.
I turn 60 in December of this year. Was married for 22. Divorced 12 years ago. Initially was lonely. Dated for a couple of years just after the divorce. Most of the women I dated wanted a checkbook, a safety net, or were controlling or damaged. While I would still enjoy having someone to be with, it’s simply not worth going through the process. I work, go to the gym, and have family nearby. The only worry I have is being injured at my home. The upside is that I can do whatever I want and my whole house is my “man cave”. The downside is that I don’t have someone with which to share new experiences. We’ll see how I feel in another ten years.
Feel exactly the same as you I'm 62. Just not worth it. So funny, the whole house is a man cave, so is mine! I will say I have three rescue dogs around me at all time and that really really helps. They are such great friends and companions.
Unless those "new experiences" are something the woman is 100% interested in (ie what she and only she wants to do) she's just going to ruin it for you. Be careful of what you wish for.
Living alone has its pro's and cons. The one thing that I think that is important is to have the proper mindset. Accept your life for what it is. Find your strengths and know your weaknesses. Do the things that make you happy.
As a cancer survivor at 62, I can tell you a big downside to not having a good woman. You need an advocate at the hospital, she noticed things before anyone else , she was there early until late in my room, and took care of me when I got to go home after months in the hospital. She even gave me the medications though my Central Line which could of killed me if not done correctly. I can never repay her for her dedication to me, except to love her unconditionally. I am now 69.
@@sweetbeep Wrong assumption. You seem to think “the others” are God’s gift or whatever. Often when someone complains about their spouse or ex, they’re not asking themselves what their part or responsibility is or was, regarding issues. Maybe their ex was wonderful but those men drove the nice ladies up a wall. Then claimed the women were the problem. Get it ?
@@angelwings7930 you think guys like above who are good, nice men don't get treated like crap, too? I always expect a woman to concoct hypothetical scenarios where the men are bad. Fact is every day of the week there's countless guys getting their lives turned upside down by a woman they loved. Some of them were not great, some of them were the best men you could find. There's no shortage of trash women in this world. You just do a much better job of hiding it.
I'm 64, best friend 70, we realized about 4 years ago that it wasn't so great financially to be on our own when we crunched numbers, we now share a 2/2 condo, enough room to have privacy, we have helped with medical appointments and other issues that have come up. If you find someone that's really a good match, you don't have to live alone in silence and you get human interaction which is invaluable. We also maintain our own interests, some friends in common, we are in a senior community, but this works in any community.
... so have the best answer best of both worlds without commitment or the feeling you have too ... or the someone is judging you every day feeling good lusk to you
Just found your channel today. I’m 66 ,wife divorced me, took half my money and then died a month later. No kids, no GF, no close friends. Dog and cat keep me sane for now. Good channel 🙂 thank you.
73 here & somewhat the same shape. The big problem comes with the need for medical backup when needed & keeping things organized in the home. Live in the Florida Keys so life isn't really so bad. Faith in Christ give great hope for the future, no matter what comes. Best wishes for your future!
The one simple thing as a whistle can be life saving in any situation at any age. I’ve been touting this for years. It’s louder and carries farther than your voice and doesn’t require a lot of effort to signal someone. I use one set of dishes and clean them after eating. When I’m lazy, I use paper plates and plastic utensils. Use once and done. My neighbor has a key to get into my house in an emergency. Great advice that a lot of seniors never think about until it’s too late.
I’m in my mid 70s, found a great part-time job two days a week. It’s an opportunity to meet with people, feel purposeful and continue my retired life five days a week.
Yes!! This is what I’m seeing with retired family members. They are alone but I believe they need a partime job. Somewhere where they can interact with people other than me or themselves. They been in the workforce and very productive and I think they miss that. Idle minds are the devils playground.
Same. I'm in my mid 60s and all my friends retired. I am working part time for the social interaction because all my family are dead. It is also great as an inflation hedge and it keeps my mind sharp. I notice how people decline rapidly as soon as they stop work (both physically and cognitively).. I still have plenty of time for non-work pursuits.
Congrats on getting a good situation worked out. I retired 4-5 years ago. Loafed for 9 months and got a job. It only lasted about 4 months, then Covid laid me low for a while. Never went back to work, and now I physically would be very questionable. I've cut and sold a little firewood, and enjoyed meeting new people. It's a mixed bag, to be sure. I hope you have a long and joyful reetirement!
William Holden was 63 when he died. He was at home having a drink alone, he fell or tripped, he hit his head on the coffee table, he managed to sit in a chair next to the phone and bled to death there. These things can happen to anyone at any time, is all about taking PRECAUTIONS. I am sixty now and I have a routine, one of the really BIG things I know was hurting me, was DRINKING. It messed with my cognitive health. Not to mention, damage to my liver, the danger of falling. It was KILLING me very slowly. I stopped drinking twelve years ago and I'm healthier now than I was in my forties. If I had to advise anyone anything is to STOP DRINKING. Believe me is not part of your personality is just a crutch we use to deal with other feelings and if you think about it we had to learn that as well.
Couldn’t agree more. I have been without so much as a drop going on three years. Quitting was easier than I thought it would be, and don’t miss it one bit
Been a widower for 6 years. Miss her every day but I’m doing ok. Been working part time 25 hrs/wk for 2 years and love it. Has helped alot for my mental acuity and pt. Have my builds, a wood and metal shop, I play a baby grand, I cook, clean but am messy. Mow my own yards. Hang out with my son and his family once a week. Shoot two 2gun matches a month and reload. When you stop moving you start dying. That recliner WILL KILL YOU.
I agree that it's good to have a friend or friends to check on you. You have to learn how to manage your life whether you're alone or not. Life wasn't meant to be perfect. I was in an unhappy marriage for over 25 years, and am totally happy now. I make sure that I have a certain amount of social contact with people. I make time for moderate exercise, reading, as well other activities to keep my mind sharp. Whatever your situation, you have to make a plan that fits you and establish a routine so you can have structure. And make a conscious decision to be happy no matter what your situation. One thing I have definitely decided not to do is move to a foreign country like the Philippines or any other country as at my senior age. I allowed myself to have that fantasy for awhile but after watching expat videos, I have decided it is just not a sound idea for me. Thanks for sharing this valuable advise Mark.
Dear Sir, all that you shared in your video is true and you are doing a great service to all seniors who are living alone by themselves. God bless you.
@@everymanhasastory Alot of the issues with aging and mobility can be mitigated with the carnivore diet. You'll feel so amazing you'll never want to sit around. The number one comment from all carnivores? I wish I had started this sooner!
@@thehoteldeveloper yes I've heard good things off a customer I met that's on the carnivore diet but it just seems a bit boring and repetitive that's all I love my variety of food options I like my cooking
Beef heart cooked w/🥓 bacon. Local grocery prepares the beef heart in nice little portions very clean and neat cooks quick. Very lean I can eat it almost everyday, but got to leave room in the schedule for fried chicken. Fried eggs 🥚 , . . I just don't know which to eat first@
@@sagora3114 It is the best because today's American food is poisonous. All of your cereals, breads, pastries, canned goods, etc. are loaded with poisonous chemicals. No European country, even Canada will carry US products unless they eliminate the poison. Ketchup in the US has poisonous high fructose corn syrup, the same brand in Canada has sugar instead. I love the Keto diet.
I'm alone living here in the Philippines. I do like it. I have many friends I go with to do things and my neighbors all know I am in my mid 60's and check with me every day or so. I am in great shape for my age, but anything can happen at any time.
I'm a better cook than any woman I've ever known and I keep a much tie to your house . Never being married or having kids has left me with disposable income I have a cleaning woman and that frees up time for me to do the things that I like .
🙂 i prefer cooking for myself, its actually Therapuetic, i make a big pot which lasts a whole week. Cleaning i do myself too, when ur alone its a bit easier.
@@ElmwoodParkHulk I had no choice but to learn how to take care of myself from an early age my mother mentally checked out when I was around six or seven I've basically been taking care of myself ever since .
I live alone in metro Atlanta. Big house, lots of land, meant for a big family, but they have all gone. Even my Russian Blue cat died. I have subscribed to your channel due to this video. You have good advice and insights which will benefit me. Thank you!
Just found your channel, and glad for it. I've taken care of my mother for about 25 years, and am now a lone bachelor at home after she moved into a nursing home It's a big change.
Every time I need that obscure tool that I haven't used for years, or a piece of material among my saved stuff, I feel rewarded for not having fallen for the "decluttering" craze.
There was once a man that won a lottery and came home to tell his housemate. "Honey, I just won the lottery pack your bags". The woman states, "should I take my summer clothes or winter clothes"? The man states, "I don't care, just be out of the house by 2:00 PM tomorrow"!!
My mother had an arrangement with another widow, who lived across the street: if one of them didn't have their curtains open by 10 a.m., the other would phone to check if everything was okay.
I remember seeing a bunch of older men and women in the morning at McDonalds. Didn't really think too much of it. Then I realized that not only were they socializing and getting out for coffee and breakfast but it was a way of knowing who wasn't there. If someone didn't show up, they would know right away.
I am new to Marks channel, but he truly is exceptional, wizened, honest, kind, not cruel, and covers a whole landscape of topics rather than the shape of one tree within it.
Unless you don't want to be saved. I live a full-time RV van life traveling as a nomad and enjoying the outdoors, fishing, hunting, and hiking. I will go till I drop. When I die they may not find me for months. As a nomad, you live a minimalist life, so the only thing my kids need to decide is when to sell my RV van.
@@BlacFireSan The trauma was long ago when my wife left, costing me a business, home, cars, trucks, and assets, along with the pressure of raising four kids on my own. It can pull a person down but the van life has been the best decision for me.
@@Go4Corvette man I’m so sorry this happened to you. It’s definitely rough out here. Knowing this, do you think a prenup would’ve saved you before you ever married her?
I’m a 62-yo woman and happily single. I’m so blessed though that my brother lives 3 doors down. We eat dinner together and watch a couple of episodes of whatever we’re binging, every night. We have some good neighbor friends too. God bless you all🤍
Your right on with this video. I'm 64 now and retired at 62. Big change for sure! Unfortunately i live in a part of America that has brutal winters. Talk about tough times! Can't even get out of the house for days.
Skydance I leave Wisconsin for the winters. Come to the Philippines, spend your winters in tropical beauty. I skip the big cities, live in Santander area.
64 years old and learned to love to being alone. Maybe taking a big chance but willing to live with it. ALWAYS BEST TO BE ALONE FOR THE RIGHT REASONS THAN BEING WITH SOMEONE FOR THE WRONG ONES.
This is really helpful and really good of you. I traveled far and wide (as a "traveler" and not "tourist") throughout my thirties and forties but never wished to settle anywhere as an expat. Eventually ended back home permanently and never looked back except for my fond memories of having been a "traveler" for many years. To each their own, as they say.
I am so glad TH-cam recommended this video. There it was and your words rang so true. These are the issues I have been dealing with since retiring two years ago. Just turned 70. Hearing you put my thoughts into words.are a sign. I need to stay on track, be aware and be smart about decisions about aging. Thank you very much
I think people are having a blast being alone. Myself, I never knew how much I craved time alone and how awful it was to never have silence when I was married to the extrovert covert narcissist who loved to provoke me. Now I spend my days in the company of 3 dogs, 9 cats, and have my garden. I never knew how good I sleep by not having anyone on my bed. Been celibate and hermit for 7 years. This lifestyle fits me. I do things at my own pace, and the quiet and peaceful days have restored my nervous system. If I die alone, no problem. No one dies alone. You will see how this is true. Don't worry, relax, enjoy life. Pursue hobbies. DO take care of yourself, cook at home, be clean. You deserve it.
Agreed. I've been divorced since 2011. Being divorced is something I had to get used to in the beginning. I doubt i will ever remarry. I enjoy my life being single. If it weren't for work, I could go awhile without communicating with anyone outside of family.
I live in a senior veterans housing building… we all have our personal problems - we know that - this podcast is right on, as we look after one another… stay in a life of gratitude. Saying hello to a stranger may save their life…. Thank you
I agree with what you’re saying. I’m new to this part of life. After taking care of my mom. Last 6 yrs, 24/7. I’m now alone. And never go anywhere. Having a hard time getting back into the workforce. I can go days without talking to anyone. Other than texting my siblings. I have no desire to do anything most days. I need to get back into life. Thanks for the information.
Lotta truth here. Especially about emergencies and nobody else around. I “do” keep my phone with me at all times while in my home. Another thing is having to be in the hospital for something, and not having anyone around. I know for a fact I was treated differently, because no one was there to fight for me, or know how I’m being treated. My lesson there was to tell someone I’m in the hospital, and get them to visit. I don’t like asking people for help, but sometimes I have to like it or not.
Just want to tell you when I was around 50 to 60 , I was doing good and got around good, felt good but when I reached about 62 , life and body starts taking a toll on you and thinking starts changing. Things that were important are not important. Goodluck !!!!
Take up a sport as a hobby to stay fit, join a club , I cycle to stay fit and meet people..im 56 and in my best shape, and giving up drinking helped me alot..good luck!
I live in a remote areal alone and missed the conversations that I would have with people so I looked into ham radio. I took tests to get my licenses for ham radio and now I use it daily to have conversations with people from all over the world. There are lots of very interesting people from all over. It was a great idea to keep human interaction in my day to day routine. It is a great hobby for those who live alone.
Though I do not live alone, I am on the air every week with my friends in neighboring states using CW for an hour on Thursdays. Ham radio keeps us connected! 73 OM
Drop the carbs and drop off the pounds. Stop all forms of sugar....bread... potato, cereals, fruit... The pain stiffness will go away and mind will clear
Though the older men have most to immediately benefit from this video, I believe everyone has something to learn from watching. Thank you for your words and wisdom.
Living alone is not isolation. The goal is to keep pesky women out of your residence, out of your wallet and out of your peace. Everything else can be arranged for. Do you think an older female companion is actually going to do anything for a man other than collect life insurance premiums.
Do you think an older female companion is actually going to do anything for a man other than collect life insurance premiums. Yes, there is a good chance she will turn you into a care giver.
I agree with you...been alone for 10 years now...quite content with my life...I'm 78 and still work part time...mostly because it gives me something to look forward to...have a great dog and wonderful neighbors...life is good and time flies by...looking forward to the next 10 years!!!
I've lived alone most of my life, but I'm very comfortable with it. 2 years ago, I was off of work for 7 weeks to recover from a hip replacement. I felt without purpose not having a work routine for about two weeks. Afte that, I began to organically develop new routines to make my days fulfilling. I have a ton of hobbies and interests that had fallen by the wayside and my interests in them returned. It was more of an adjustment going back to work and to a routine that I have to endure for the next year and a half. I saw that time off as a taste of my soon to be retiurment and I relish the day when I can return to that organic schedule and live my best life.
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I never find solitude wears on me, it's people that wear on me. You made some good points in this video. Thanks.
You know, I came across your reply and I so much agree ! Today many crazy people out there. Whenever I am out , always talking to people starting conversations and so many got many problems and issues. Never see hardly anyone smile anymore and most talk about problems or issues either what they are experiencing or someone else. It's a screwed up world today for sure. A different generation and people out there no common sense or wisdom is lacking. I am internally lonely, but I keep pushing and going each day !!
Greetings! I might add: 1) make younger friends. Try to keep up with them. Be curious about them. Assume the role of 'senior advisor' as necessary. 2) be sure to ask someone you trust to take care of your pets - just in case soomething happens to you - preferably someone your pet is already familiar and comfortable with. In fact, everyone who lives alone with their pets regardless of age should do this - accidents can happen to anyone.
Thanks for telling the truth and providing guidance. Many of us reach the same conclusions but we must take action as early as possible. Very grateful for your time to help others.
Thank you for this video! I'm 47, and for now my mother stays with me but I know that won't be forever. So I often think about when I'll be alone, so the information you provided is really helpful!
I know. I've been there used to hate Christmas. Now I love it. New wife baby boy and lots of joy in my life. Come to the Philippines and start a new life
i laughed throughout this video because it felt like you were talking about me. Thanks for the heads up and yes, I will try to avoid the silver from oxidizing together.
The things you shared with me on this subject will change my life. I have never had information like this available to me, nor did I even know I needed it. And you answered many questions, before I even knew what to ask
That's one thing that concerns me as a guy living alone in my early 50's -- getting tripping hazards out of the way. I'm always stepping over stuff to avoid tripping. I've got a lot of stuff crammed into my small bungalow, and I need to downsize on my possessions big-time.
Finally someone in Dumaguete producing sensible informative videos, thanks. The other thing is a will, everyone should have a will here its a night mare for your loved ones if you don't !
I always watch out for my older neighbor. He's a paraplegic and we are in communication at least once a week. I help him with stuff that is difficult but I let him do things on his own. It gives him some form of activity. Some days he goes outside when the weather is good and a couple neighbors come over to conversate. This is a really good video. Thank you.
I once ran a program called “R U OK?” A senior can sign up when volunteers can call him, morning, midday or night to check on him. A volunteer group like that where you are would help.
@lzu2860 My mother volunteered for a group that made check in calls like that to senior citizens about 25 years ago, when she herself was a senior (a very active senior). 😊
@@everymanhasastory Do you know of some guys there that really do not want to marry now but has a clean-up/ cook maid service that comes weekly or couple times a week ? Cause I do not like cooking at all & would be ideal for me, if I was staying there.
I can go either way with this one...Right now i'm 66 and live alone and it's great that I can do my own thing...But if a Love comes into my life...I can see where it may go..But i'm fine with my life right now..
I've lived by myself ALL my life. Never considered it living alone. Never married or had kids. Life for the last 50 years has been AMAZING. The key is that I worked 60 to 80 hours a week for 40 years. You dont have time to get lonely and you make a ton of money. No drama queen ex wives, stupid kids, or grand kids and no animals, to create problems. Life everyday is SO -O-O-O easy. Retired at 62 and am really enjoying life, liberty and the pursuit of MY own happiness, not your happiness or anybody's happiness. Had and still have a great life and not afraid or concerned about dying tomorrow. Life is so simple!!
Respectfully suggest at some point you will retire and the crash of NOT working 40-80 hours will set in. Consider anything, anything, that helps you slowly off-ramp from such a high level of activity towards a retired status. If your body allows, walk a couple miles a day. I found: People look suspiciously at me (I look younger than I am) if I walked the streets, always walking new streets because I am curious how "normies" live. I got a dog. This dog is a pain but also, showed me they are semi-sentient (aussies anyway) and astonishingly intuitive. Sure, picking up the dog doo blows, but an unending opportunity to chat, interface, and NEVER see them again, almost always. Other thing. If you, like me, despise working out, it turns out merely bending over a few times a day to the ground (picking up the poo, brush dog, whatever) really helps well beyond merely walking or getting some cardio. I think, pre-civilization, people either bent down or were burdensome (scavenging or whatnot) so the spinal cord has no pump, but if you bend in your later years amidst exercise, this duplicates the motion, and mixes the brain-spinal (CSF) fluid and for me, I predictably, repeatedly, sleep better that night. YMMV of course. Wish you well.
@@MindFusion-ij1xl I turned 50 this year and came across a video on "Asian squats". Been doing them for over a month now when I walk, hike, and randomly at home. The change and feeling in my hips, legs, knees, and ankles is incredible. I'm bouncing up stairs again. I highly recommend giving them a try and seeing how you feel after 1-2 weeks. There are many vids on getting into them. You give good insight.
@@8whynotcoconut8 Thank you. I will do so, having found the wisdom of trying every new thing that could help but does no harm. Frankly, am going through a sudden stiffening of spine, legs, and I gots to do somethin'!
These are all great tips for seniors, not just men. I'm in my 40s and work a desk job. My physical condition has definitely deteriorated in the last few years and I'm making an effort to get more active. I also have a grandmother who now lives in a home with dementia. She shouldn't have lived alone as long as she did. Mental deterioration may hamper it, but seniors should be honest with themselves about when they should be moving to a facility with oversight. I come from a family of deeply independent people, but there comes a point when you just can't take care of yourself. Also can't stress the point about de-cluttering. It took months to clear out the house and we found items from as far back as the 60s that clearly hadn't been used in decades. Most of it was useless and thrown out.
Great points and well presented Mark. As you said when you live alone you’re your own emergency back up. The freedom of living alone can be a good feeling. However as we get older and that one time emergency and not having someone around can be the difference in life & death. Thanks for sharing a great conversation 👍🏾👏🏾!
If you lived with somebody, they could kill you in your sleep. And, not report your death to keep collecting your SS checks. Is that what you would rather have?
What is the difference between life and death ? Is one good and the other bad ? I don't understand why I should fear one and not the other. I've been resting in peace all my life and don't see any reason why that will change.
Best thing about living alone is not being in a hospital w IV tubes, nosy nurses, useless doctors, 3 AM blood tests, neglected by family/"friends" unwilling to lift a finger to ease your pain ~ live alone die alone no problem medical profession be damned! ~
That last line… Amen! I am in the community care program through the VA “health care” system. I can’t seem to get referrals to specialists. It takes over a year to get approval - 14 months to see a podiatrist. I gave up on seeing a neurologist back in May after trying since January. Back in August I tried to get approval to see a cardiologist. I just received a denial letter at the end of September. At least the illegal aliens and non-veterans are cared for. A number of years ago, a spine doctor asked me how I was feeling at my follow-up appointment. I told him I hadn’t been approved for physical therapy (it had been 7 weeks since my first appointment). He told me, “You get what you pay for.” 😐
@@user-mx3kh8rj1t You get what you pay for. If you are enrolled in the VA, you already paid with your service! I used to go to the VA occasionally, found the same attitude, haven't been to see those jerks for many years.
When I was diagnosed with cancer the doctor immediately started talking about chemo and radiation treatments. My mother had passed away after five years of suffering with such poison. I told the doctor you can cut out whatever is cancerous, but I will not undergo chemo nor radiation nor run up useless hospital bills. I have been cancer free for nine years and have no medical bills.
@@really2345 Well Really, I have had both heavy radiation in 1991 and chemo in 2013, both from life threatening cancers and these treatments did reduce the tumors w immediate reduction of symptoms threatening my life BUT doctors gave me zero, nothing to improve my health to keep them away, no diet changes stress reduction nada! I am 80 now and have decided if re-diagnosed I will refuse treatment and let god/my body decide, the aftereffects of these treatments are horrendous and at my age, very afraid of being confined to a hospital bed too weak to leave or even get out of bed, fate way worse than death!!
Very true what you say. I can highly reccomend getting rid of clutter! Know to many people who just stash whatever, because may they'll need it in the future. And it really pulls them down. So get rid of clutter, ALL of it. And you will never look back.
You have to take care of your physical well being as you get older. Continue to work out with weights and do stretches regularly for quality of life! And nutrition is key also!
At 54, I lifted weights for 36 years. Recently put them down. Now it’s resistance bands, body weight lunges and a morning meditation of lymphatic drainage, basic yoga poses & Tai Chi.
What lifting weights does for you physically.. Bible study class does for you spiritually. Peace negates loneliness. Thanks Lord for your peace. Peace in Christ surpasses all understanding
If you are a senior living alone and considering remarriage, do not do so for the wrong reason, that is in the lingo of women, looking for a nurse or a purse. You should only remarry for true mutual love. If that blessing eludes you, then the next best thing is to live alone and follow the wise advice given in this video.
"A nurse or a purse ONLY" would be an unethical arrangement maybe, but a relationship usually involves a lot of give and take, so it's antagonistic hyperbole for women to claim that this is the only objective of older men. Women need men too, but they're good at being in denial of this fact. So I agree with you! Don't pass up a good opportunity.
Excellent points With back pain I ended up on the floor unable to find a way to get up. Luckily family members were there but still had to call the emergency services for a paramedic. They gave me laughing gas and the pain went away and I was able to get myself onto the gurney, I had an x-ray and was cleared of any severe back problem. Lesson learned, if back pain returns, set up precautions, take strong pain killer if needed before bed. Keep pain killers, water, walking canes, phones near bed just in case. If I had been alone that morning, I would have laid on the floor for many hours unable to get up.
Great Video ... ALL TRUE, I would also add that listening to the radio for company has a major flaw ... most stations just push out negative news which just leads to overall depression. You need to socialise to bring joy and humour into your life
What great advice at a time in my life i needed to hear! Ill be watching this channel regular thanks for your practical wisdom
Macaroni and cheese and get your ass in the day room and watch T.V.
Regularly!
My wife ran off with my fishing buddy and I miss him a lot.
Hilarious 😂
😂
Well...I'm sure he doesn't miss you😂😂😂
@@VickiBrowne-yk4cooh, his Buddy will be back in a few months.😂
And the fish miss you.
What is worse than living alone? Wishing you were living alone. Truth.
Damn. That's the truth.
😂
Living alone in a house surrounded by people. 😮
Most men die before their wives do because they want to.
MAN ain't that the truth.
Downside- You don’t have backup and may die alone.
Upside- While dying alone, I won’t be told how I’m doing it wrong.
Ha ha ha!!! Amazing! Thanks!
Like JOBS WIFE!😆
Everyone dies alone.
Haha yes, brilliant. Let me die in my own way.
You just need somebody you can interact with and get one of them automatic beepers I felt like I can't get up that's all you need is a lot better than having a woman up your ass all the time
Here's a tip to keep the dishes from piling up. Just have one or two dinner plates, forks, spoons, knives, etc. Put the rest away. Whenever you eat, wash your one dish and knife, fork and spoon as soon as you finish eating. Takes about 30 seconds, your dishes never pile up, and they are always clean.
I use paper plates
Don't put the rest away, don't even own the rest they become to big of a temptation to skip the wash job and grab one of the rest.
Two dish washers solve this.......then store the dishes in one, and alternate each day. The built in types are not that expensive.
I bought one of those small dishwashers that sits on your counter and drains into the sink. Works great, wish I'd done it years ago. Still have to handwash large pans, but I don't really use them much these days so it's fine (and Dawn Powerwash helps a lot there...)
@@thirdsamuel6643living alone doesn't mean not having any social interactions- how do you serve food to others ferchrissakes?
rather than living the lonely one plate life you're suggesting, how about just recommitting to not being a lazy slob?
Thanks for the pep talk. I'm 94 and live alone, Doing OK most days. Cooking as a hobby helps a lot.
@@Gramp-lx7er 94? Wow..and you live alone in a house or? Well, I hope you have somebody checking in on you in case you fall. Do you have any remaining family probably not. When you’re 94 there’s not too many people left. Where do you live? How do you get around? I would think you’re not driving.
@@jamesmack3314 I'm 68 male and live alone. I’m working on actually getting help when I need it. About 15 years ago, my former landlord’s wife passed away while he was out of town, and no one found her body until a few days later. So, I’m really aware of that risk, and I’ll have someone checking in on me regularly. I also decided a long time ago never to buy a two-story house-it’s gotta be one level to make things easier as I get older.
@@jamesmack3314 if he is on a PC typing, i am pretty sure he is doing just fine :)
@@StanleyMidling maybe hopefully
I'm not 94 but but I like eating as a hobby, can I come over?
I’m old , live in a big house alone and like it. Life can be heaven when you have gotten rid of toxic people
Well said
Me too. And I like it so much, I've grown to tolerate less and less ill-intent from people.
I'm nice and approachable and generous when I meet them, but if I walk into a restaurant and they immediately interrupt or shout at me, just for example, I just say, "oh well!," and walk out. 😁👍 Lololol!
@@bentonrp
You need to choose better.
Any man with a decent house, who looks half respectable and seems to have his life together will attract parasites like flies. did you ever meet the son of a wealthy man who didn't have a pregnant live-in girlfriend?.
@@stevemann1299 You need to inspect and adjust your personality.
75 and alone.....no debts and good income. Just loving every day. No bullshit from people. Really living the best years.😊😊
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I guess the bottom line is some folks do well being alone and some don't, you can never say all people. I'm in my 60's and with my grand pianos and pets, reasonably content. I see folks a couple of times a month but that is generally enough.
This is the dream!
Same here. In my 60's. living alone up in the mountains and loving it. No mortgage, no debt, and no credit card payments. Able to live on a low income because there is no partner demanding high cost cars, clothing, or vacations.
I have a life alert for emergencies and have all my legal papers are completed and my funeral services are prepaid.
I am right there with you buddy.
I've been living alone since I was in my forties and life has been good.
All my married buddies do is complain about being married.
Great advice. My wife passed almost 2 years ago. Being by myself is not something I enjoy. Some say they like the peace they have. I had an opposite situation several days ago. I got a call from my 11 years old granddaughter's school. They couldn't reach her Mom so they called me. I was having a bad day dealing with my loneliness and cancer situation. My granddaughter was screaming her teeth hurt and was at the nurses office. I rushed to the school and took her to the dentist for a loose tooth. Thus my day was turned upside down. Yet it was great to spend the afternoon with my granddaughter and have lunch with her. It made me feel I was useful and can help when needed.
Peace in Christ surpasses all understanding. Bible study class gives you peace. Thanks Lord for your peace and salvation. Peace negates loneliness
Clearly you are not doing the right things for your health. Where do you think cancer comes from? It comes mainly from your diet (except certain types of cancer such as lung cancer). This means they are mostly due to people's own lifestyle choices. Loneliness is also a choice, an emotional addiction to people that you refuse to see for what it is and dump it. Try developing a life philosophy like stoicism. You can't control everything. The things you can't control you must discard because they waste your energy. Focus only on the things you can control, your diet, exercise, etc. This approach can only improve your experience to some degree.
no children, widowed 6 years ago after 29 years. she wanted a dog 6 months before she died in her sleep. the dog is the best thing ever. i am a happy hermit by nature, but the dog drags me out for 4-6 walks a day. have met all the neighbors for blocks around, bring in the trash cans, tuck amazon packages closer to the house, shovel snow in the winter. ''it made me feel useful and can help when needed.'' i hear ya.
@@sciencedaemon You know nothing about my cancer, diet, exercise program, lifestyle choices. So shut the F up.
@@sciencedaemon You know nothing of my situation, thus I advise, "It is better to remain quiet and be thought a fool, than to speak up and remove all doubt."
People often confuse being alone ( not a problem ) , with being lonely ( a problem ) . They do not necessarily go hand in hand . Great video , Great advice . 👍👍
Some people think that but people can be smarter than you think and actually do know the difference.
@dt8787 True .
Point well made. Never felt more alone than in a crowded elevator. Ironically though, hand in hand would mean you were not alone.
@@dt8787 ?
@hitest8925 True , but what is the sound of one hand clapping 🤚👏✌️
After two divorces due to ex wives cheating on me ....20 yrs. Of single living ...is a calm,quiet, peaceful experience. No drama . No lies...no deception ...Just my own space ..! Awesome ...
If you call being lonely all the time awesome, then so be it. I had 2 divorces, one long term and one short. I am 62 well off and would love to have someone in my life. After being single for 11 years now it's one of the worst things in life being lonely all the time.
@@arlissyoung8899
Hmm... quite an effective personal ad here. I wonder if you've had any takers by now...😉😅
were these arranged marriages?
I hear you Randy, and you too Arliss. I lived and worked from home alone for a few years in my late 30's - it drove me bananas and I couldn't stay sober. Truly, if there was a switch you could flip and turn off the sex-drive, I'd easily be a millionaire by now. I wound up marrying the most beautiful woman I'd ever seen and now I'm constantly screwed up thinking she might be cheating on me.
Why they cheat on you?
Better to live alone than with a miserable woman who's out to steal your money..or nagging you all day.
I agree with you.
@@markjg2275So does the Bible.
the most alone i ever felt was right next to my ex wife--been divorced 29 years
Or a raging alcoholic
don't talk about my wife like that
Make peace with your past... like an emotional de-cluttering... travel lighter and have no regrets or unsaid things... Don't try to win old arguments with ex-wives or ungrateful children... just forgive them (even in their absences) and move on... forgive yourself and accept you did the best you could at the time... basically, don't live with the ghosts of the past...
This is great advice…
Thanks for your wise words sir, I needed to hear them this morning.
Don't let a piece of the past, take away the peace of your present.
"dont live with the ghosts of the past"
I don’t hear this anywhere near enough. Thank you.
I resolved this problem. I have no family,they’ve all passed away. I certainly don’t care to remarry. I moved to a poorer country so I could afford to live off my social security. After a few years of getting to know the locals I made a deal with a young man and his wife, that I get to live with them until I die. They take care of me and when I’m dead, they inherit what I have, which is considerable in their country. Any day now we will have a new baby in the house. Never had children, so I’m really looking forward to being “a grandmother” and teaching the baby English. I feel like I’ve got new purpose in life.
Even elderly women have more social options than men
What country?
@@Sammiejomitchell no idea why my comment was deleted
Aren't you afraid that they will bump you off when things get difficult?
@@marmaly no. Not at all. Never felt safer.
Good advice! I am 71. My dog and I start our day with a two mile walk before sunrise. That serves as the inspiration to stay active during the day. I push mow instead of using my riding mower. As a veteran, I stay active in the American Legion as the Finance Officer. There are so many activities out there for seniors. I do not drink alcohol or sugary drinks. I make my own healthy meals. It's easy to do if you make your healthy practices routine. Make your bed everyday. Simple things like that. Thank you for your video and your concern. Rob in N.C.
I'm 70 years old and I'm one of the lucky ones. Both daughters & their families live less than 10 minutes from me. We help each other. It's a great support system. I know how fortunate I am.
To paraphrase a saying from Robin Williams - Being alone is not a problem. Having people around you that make you feel alone is the problem. Great topic. Best wish to you, Jen, and Rogan.
Agreed
VERY WELL SAID MR WILLIAMS!!!!!😎😎😎😎😎
Any man with a decent house, who looks half respectable and seems to have his life together will attract parasites like flies. did you ever meet the son of a wealthy man who didn't have a pregnant live-in girlfriend?.
One final thing, sir, I wanted to thank you for your time and your wisdom I you and your courage to get online and share yourlife’s experiences and lifestyle. Can’t say I would go to the Philippines except for the pretty girls, but they will just use you better off being alone here in the states.
Dude offed himself
I'm 57 and live happily alone with 2 cats and an unruly lab pup. We're way out in the boondocks a mile from the nearest neighbors. I love it.
Me too. It’s PARADISE.
Del: maybe you best go down to a town, get outta these mountains.
Jeremiah Johnson: I've been to a town Del.
I'm similar age (a little older) and in great shape physically. But I'm already planning for when my health and physical capabilities decline. I'll be looking to move to a town/city with at least one really good hospital where I can walk to get what I need, like to the supermarket, instead of driving everywhere. And have pets, of course. I don't want to be in a situation where I need help (through no fault of my own) and can't get it.
@@fifteen8 Very important! Best wishes on your journey. 73 here.
Until you reach a point that you can't drive
I'm an ex military and keep a spotless house and often thin out stuff i collected over the years. I work 60 hours per week ,do home projects and play at the guitar. Life alone is great as long as you move it move it baby.
@@goofyjohn6191 Yeah that's right if you've got interests and hobbies Then being alone isn't really a big deal having friends is good And I find I socialise more when I'm out and about at the shopping centres I'm more talkative And I get to express myself and have conversation in ways like that
@@sagora3114Well hobbies and interests should be a given. And I think the problem with a lot of older women is that they don’t have any hobbies or interests, and just want a man to fill the void.
@@1SevenFive yes quite possibly
That's my goal
@@1SevenFive That is it.
I turn 60 in December of this year. Was married for 22. Divorced 12 years ago. Initially was lonely. Dated for a couple of years just after the divorce. Most of the women I dated wanted a checkbook, a safety net, or were controlling or damaged. While I would still enjoy having someone to be with, it’s simply not worth going through the process. I work, go to the gym, and have family nearby. The only worry I have is being injured at my home. The upside is that I can do whatever I want and my whole house is my “man cave”. The downside is that I don’t have someone with which to share new experiences. We’ll see how I feel in another ten years.
Feel exactly the same as you I'm 62. Just not worth it. So funny, the whole house is a man cave, so is mine! I will say I have three rescue dogs around me at all time and that really really helps. They are such great friends and companions.
Unless those "new experiences" are something the woman is 100% interested in (ie what she and only she wants to do) she's just going to ruin it for you. Be careful of what you wish for.
Living alone has its pro's and cons. The one thing that I think that is important is to have the proper mindset. Accept your life for what it is. Find your strengths and know your weaknesses. Do the things that make you happy.
exactly, its all relative.
Being on your own is the biggest pleasure in life. No old women.
I agree
Hahahaha😂😂
Haha 😂
@@bitteroldman701 same here
I used to think that until I went overseas (at age 40) and married my Filipina Wife. True, marriage isn’t for everyone but that woman saved my life
As a cancer survivor at 62, I can tell you a big downside to not having a good woman. You need an advocate at the hospital, she noticed things before anyone else , she was there early until late in my room, and took care of me when I got to go home after months in the hospital. She even gave me the medications though my Central Line which could of killed me if not done correctly. I can never repay her for her dedication to me, except to love her unconditionally. I am now 69.
You sound like a mature, kind, appreciative person instead of pure cynicism like most who comment here. Thats how you got your wonderful mate. 👍
@@angelwings7930but also he has the good woman. I guess the others didn't have good women
@@sweetbeep
Wrong assumption. You seem to think “the others” are God’s gift or whatever. Often when someone complains about their spouse or ex, they’re not asking themselves what their part or responsibility is or was, regarding issues. Maybe their ex was wonderful but those men drove the nice ladies up a wall. Then claimed the women were the problem. Get it ?
@@angelwings7930 you think guys like above who are good, nice men don't get treated like crap, too? I always expect a woman to concoct hypothetical scenarios where the men are bad. Fact is every day of the week there's countless guys getting their lives turned upside down by a woman they loved. Some of them were not great, some of them were the best men you could find. There's no shortage of trash women in this world. You just do a much better job of hiding it.
@@OhHenGee1796 Adam was the first to discover the pure evil of Woman. Nothing has changed.
I'm 64, best friend 70, we realized about 4 years ago that it wasn't so great financially to be on our own when we crunched numbers, we now share a 2/2 condo, enough room to have privacy, we have helped with medical appointments and other issues that have come up. If you find someone that's really a good match, you don't have to live alone in silence and you get human interaction which is invaluable. We also maintain our own interests, some friends in common, we are in a senior community, but this works in any community.
... so have the best answer best of both worlds without commitment or the feeling you have too ... or the someone is judging you every day feeling good lusk to you
Just found your channel today. I’m 66 ,wife divorced me, took half my money and then died a month later.
No kids, no GF, no close friends. Dog and cat keep me sane for now.
Good channel 🙂 thank you.
Congratulations!
73 here & somewhat the same shape. The big problem comes with the need for medical backup when needed & keeping things organized in the home. Live in the Florida Keys so life isn't really so bad. Faith in Christ give great hope for the future, no matter what comes. Best wishes for your future!
Karma
@@uncleremus5046 No, just good luck.
@@winterwolf2012love the keys but it can be a bit isolating.
The one simple thing as a whistle can be life saving in any situation at any age. I’ve been touting this for years. It’s louder and carries farther than your voice and doesn’t require a lot of effort to signal someone. I use one set of dishes and clean them after eating. When I’m lazy, I use paper plates and plastic utensils. Use once and done. My neighbor has a key to get into my house in an emergency. Great advice that a lot of seniors never think about until it’s too late.
I’ve lived alone since 2001 and love the peace and quiet especially when I’m debt free and retired at 56
I’m in my mid 70s, found a great part-time job two days a week. It’s an opportunity to meet with people, feel purposeful and continue my retired life five days a week.
Good for you 👍
Yes!! This is what I’m seeing with retired family members. They are alone but I believe they need a partime job. Somewhere where they can interact with people other than me or themselves. They been in the workforce and very productive and I think they miss that. Idle minds are the devils playground.
Same. I'm in my mid 60s and all my friends retired. I am working part time for the social interaction because all my family are dead. It is also great as an inflation hedge and it keeps my mind sharp. I notice how people decline rapidly as soon as they stop work (both physically and cognitively).. I still have plenty of time for non-work pursuits.
Thanks Lord for bible study class
Congrats on getting a good situation worked out. I retired 4-5 years ago. Loafed for 9 months and got a job. It only lasted about 4 months, then Covid laid me low for a while. Never went back to work, and now I physically would be very questionable. I've cut and sold a little firewood, and enjoyed meeting new people. It's a mixed bag, to be sure. I hope you have a long and joyful reetirement!
William Holden was 63 when he died. He was at home having a drink alone, he fell or tripped, he hit his head on the coffee table, he managed to sit in a chair next to the phone and bled to death there. These things can happen to anyone at any time, is all about taking PRECAUTIONS. I am sixty now and I have a routine, one of the really BIG things I know was hurting me, was DRINKING. It messed with my cognitive health. Not to mention, damage to my liver, the danger of falling. It was KILLING me very slowly. I stopped drinking twelve years ago and I'm healthier now than I was in my forties.
If I had to advise anyone anything is to STOP DRINKING. Believe me is not part of your personality is just a crutch we use to deal with other feelings and if you think about it we had to learn that as well.
Solid advice.
Couldn’t agree more. I have been without so much as a drop going on three years. Quitting was easier than I thought it would be, and don’t miss it one bit
Agreed! I'm coming up on 6 years without a drink or a drug. It's poison! I'm a much healthier and happier person without it!
Holden .
Glad I wasn't asking for your advice. Where's my tall can😆. Thanks Lord for bible study class. Thanks Lord for your peace
Been a widower for 6 years. Miss her every day but I’m doing ok. Been working part time 25 hrs/wk for 2 years and love it. Has helped alot for my mental acuity and pt. Have my builds, a wood and metal shop, I play a baby grand, I cook, clean but am messy. Mow my own yards. Hang out with my son and his family once a week. Shoot two 2gun matches a month and reload. When you stop moving you start dying. That recliner WILL KILL YOU.
That's real. 👍🏾
I agree that it's good to have a friend or friends to check on you. You have to learn how to manage your life whether you're alone or not. Life wasn't meant to be perfect. I was in an unhappy marriage for over 25 years, and am totally happy now. I make sure that I have a certain amount of social contact with people. I make time for moderate exercise, reading, as well other activities to keep my mind sharp. Whatever your situation, you have to make a plan that fits you and establish a routine so you can have structure. And make a conscious decision to be happy no matter what your situation.
One thing I have definitely decided not to do is move to a foreign country like the Philippines or any other country as at my senior age. I allowed myself to have that fantasy for awhile but after watching expat videos, I have decided it is just not a sound idea for me. Thanks for sharing this valuable advise Mark.
Dear Sir, all that you shared in your video is true and you are doing a great service to all seniors who are living alone by themselves. God bless you.
Thank you 😊 I am ao glad you enjoyed it
@@everymanhasastory Alot of the issues with aging and mobility can be mitigated with the carnivore diet. You'll feel so amazing you'll never want to sit around. The number one comment from all carnivores? I wish I had started this sooner!
@@thehoteldeveloper yes I've heard good things off a customer I met that's on the carnivore diet but it just seems a bit boring and repetitive that's all I love my variety of food options I like my cooking
Beef heart cooked w/🥓 bacon. Local grocery prepares the beef heart in nice little portions very clean and neat cooks quick. Very lean
I can eat it almost everyday, but got to leave room in the schedule for fried chicken.
Fried eggs 🥚 , . . I just don't know which to eat first@
@@sagora3114 It is the best because today's American food is poisonous. All of your cereals, breads, pastries, canned goods, etc. are loaded with poisonous chemicals. No European country, even Canada will carry US products unless they eliminate the poison. Ketchup in the US has poisonous high fructose corn syrup, the same brand in Canada has sugar instead. I love the Keto diet.
I'm alone living here in the Philippines. I do like it. I have many friends I go with to do things and my neighbors all know I am in my mid 60's and check with me every day or so. I am in great shape for my age, but anything can happen at any time.
My plan is to emulate your lifestyle 🍻
I'm trying to sell my so i can retire in Thailand.Im curious as to why you chose the Philippines, thanks
yes, and LBFMs are easy to get in your 80s
@CaptainFritz LBFMs , Thailand is Philippines with better food and legal weed.
@@koikoivison4753Had to look LBFM up…Little Brown F’king Machines, referring to prostitutes or available girls, back in Viet Nam war days.
Awesome information as always . I’ve been MGTow for 19 years and really love it . Hiring someone to cook and clean is the solution .
I'm a better cook than any woman I've ever known and I keep a much tie to your house . Never being married or having kids has left me with disposable income I have a cleaning woman and that frees up time for me to do the things that I like .
🙂 i prefer cooking for myself, its actually Therapuetic, i make a big pot which lasts a whole week. Cleaning i do myself too, when ur alone its a bit easier.
@@sirclarkmarz can I hire you , I just know how to make eggs . I would have to watch utube videos on how to clean
@@MrSamadolfo can I hire you ? I made eggs once .
@@ElmwoodParkHulk I had no choice but to learn how to take care of myself from an early age my mother mentally checked out when I was around six or seven I've basically been taking care of myself ever since .
I live alone in metro Atlanta. Big house, lots of land, meant for a big family, but they have all gone. Even my Russian Blue cat died. I have subscribed to your channel due to this video. You have good advice and insights which will benefit me. Thank you!
I'm so glad you found it useful. Thank you for watching ☺️
Just found your channel, and glad for it. I've taken care of my mother for about 25 years, and am now a lone bachelor at home after she moved into a nursing home
It's a big change.
Every time I need that obscure tool that I haven't used for years, or a piece of material among my saved stuff, I feel rewarded for not having fallen for the "decluttering" craze.
I lost my wife almost 3 years ago now. You are spot on. When alone decline can be a stealthy, slippery slope.
Peace in Christ surpasses all understanding. Bible study class gives you peace. Peace negates loneliness. Thanks Lord for your salvation and peace
I'm 50 and live alone. I always have my phone with me for an emergency. This is good advice for any age.
There was once a man that won a lottery and came home to tell his housemate. "Honey, I just won the lottery pack your bags". The woman states, "should I take my summer clothes or winter clothes"? The man states, "I don't care, just be out of the house by 2:00 PM tomorrow"!!
My mother had an arrangement with another widow, who lived across the street: if one of them didn't have their curtains open by 10 a.m., the other would phone to check if everything was okay.
Your mother was smart
@@erik7386 Thank you! Usually people on the internet do not say such kind things about my mother ... !
What if Chucky is the who's opening curtains. 😳
I remember seeing a bunch of older men and women in the morning at McDonalds. Didn't really think too much of it. Then I realized that not only were they socializing and getting out for coffee and breakfast but it was a way of knowing who wasn't there. If someone didn't show up, they would know right away.
My folks had the same system. My dad was a truck driver and was on the road a lot, left my mom home alone.
Hi Mark, you should do these reminders on a monthly basis.
That was incredible advice so important thank you
I am new to Marks channel, but he truly is exceptional, wizened, honest, kind, not cruel, and covers a whole landscape of topics rather than the shape of one tree within it.
Unless you don't want to be saved. I live a full-time RV van life traveling as a nomad and enjoying the outdoors, fishing, hunting, and hiking. I will go till I drop. When I die they may not find me for months. As a nomad, you live a minimalist life, so the only thing my kids need to decide is when to sell my RV van.
I think you’re suffering from some sort of trauma.
You're living life to fullest instead of like most people just waiting to die
@@BlacFireSan The trauma was long ago when my wife left, costing me a business, home, cars, trucks, and assets, along with the pressure of raising four kids on my own. It can pull a person down but the van life has been the best decision for me.
@@Go4Corvette man I’m so sorry this happened to you. It’s definitely rough out here. Knowing this, do you think a prenup would’ve saved you before you ever married her?
@@BlacFireSan Only an attorney could tell you for sure. With women, there are no guarantees.
Hire a maid or a nurse to check up on you. It is 1% of the cost of a wife.
You don’t even need to go to that extreme just get a cleaner that comes in twice a week.
True! LOL
How about making an effort to be more healthy through diet, exercise, better life choices rather than resorting to other people.
Peace in Christ surpasses all understanding. Peace negates loneliness. Bible study class gives you peace. Thanks Lord for your peace
Dollars and sense! ;)
I’m only 38 but have been completely alone in this world for over a decade. This man is speaking the truth.
Thank you for watching ☺️
I’m a 62-yo woman and happily single. I’m so blessed though that my brother lives 3 doors down. We eat dinner together and watch a couple of episodes of whatever we’re binging, every night. We have some good neighbor friends too. God bless you all🤍
Great video. I like reading everyone's comments. It alone shows we aren't alone.
Your right on with this video. I'm 64 now and retired at 62. Big change for sure! Unfortunately i live in a part of America that has brutal winters. Talk about tough times! Can't even get out of the house for days.
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I leave Wisconsin for the winters. Come to the Philippines, spend your winters in tropical beauty. I skip the big cities, live in Santander area.
64 years old and learned to love to being alone. Maybe taking a big chance but willing to live with it. ALWAYS BEST TO BE ALONE FOR THE RIGHT REASONS THAN BEING WITH SOMEONE FOR THE WRONG ONES.
This is really helpful and really good of you. I traveled far and wide (as a "traveler" and not "tourist") throughout my thirties and forties but never wished to settle anywhere as an expat. Eventually ended back home permanently and never looked back except for my fond memories of having been a "traveler" for many years. To each their own, as they say.
I am so glad TH-cam recommended this video. There it was and your words rang so true. These are the issues I have been dealing with since retiring two years ago. Just turned 70. Hearing you put my thoughts into words.are a sign. I need to stay on track, be aware and be smart about decisions about aging. Thank you very much
I think people are having a blast being alone. Myself, I never knew how much I craved time alone and how awful it was to never have silence when I was married to the extrovert covert narcissist who loved to provoke me. Now I spend my days in the company of 3 dogs, 9 cats, and have my garden. I never knew how good I sleep by not having anyone on my bed. Been celibate and hermit for 7 years. This lifestyle fits me. I do things at my own pace, and the quiet and peaceful days have restored my nervous system. If I die alone, no problem. No one dies alone. You will see how this is true. Don't worry, relax, enjoy life. Pursue hobbies. DO take care of yourself, cook at home, be clean. You deserve it.
Well said. And all of this is true for women too. I can go a couple of weeks without communicating with anyone.
Agreed. I've been divorced since 2011. Being divorced is something I had to get used to in the beginning. I doubt i will ever remarry. I enjoy my life being single. If it weren't for work, I could go awhile without communicating with anyone outside of family.
I live in a senior veterans housing building… we all have our personal problems - we know that - this podcast is right on, as we look after one another… stay in a life of gratitude. Saying hello to a stranger may save their life…. Thank you
This guy is awesome! First time watching for me (but always been curious). I can see why he has 1000s of subscribers. I am now one of them.
I agree with what you’re saying. I’m new to this part of life. After taking care of my mom. Last 6 yrs, 24/7. I’m now alone. And never go anywhere. Having a hard time getting back into the workforce. I can go days without talking to anyone. Other than texting my siblings. I have no desire to do anything most days. I need to get back into life. Thanks for the information.
Move to the Philippines and reinvent yourself. Get a girlfriend and make new friends.
I stay as active as I can at my church…That really makes a difference. There’s always so many things to do and you make so many friends. 🙏🏼
Lotta truth here. Especially about emergencies and nobody else around. I “do” keep my phone with me at all times while in my home. Another thing is having to be in the hospital for something, and not having anyone around. I know for a fact I was treated differently, because no one was there to fight for me, or know how I’m being treated. My lesson there was to tell someone I’m in the hospital, and get them to visit. I don’t like asking people for help, but sometimes I have to like it or not.
That is an excellent point. I should have mentioned that. In the Philippines you must have someone to help you
Im turning 50 next year, and I really needed to hear this, I never thought about these things.
Just want to tell you when I was around 50 to 60 , I was doing good and got around good, felt good but when I reached about 62 , life and body starts taking a toll on you and thinking starts changing. Things that were important are not important. Goodluck !!!!
Take up a sport as a hobby to stay fit, join a club , I cycle to stay fit and meet people..im 56 and in my best shape, and giving up drinking helped me alot..good luck!
Very true for all seniors, male and female.
I live in a remote areal alone and missed the conversations that I would have with people so I looked into ham radio. I took tests to get my licenses for ham radio and now I use it daily to have conversations with people from all over the world. There are lots of very interesting people from all over. It was a great idea to keep human interaction in my day to day routine. It is a great hobby for those who live alone.
Though I do not live alone, I am on the air every week with my friends in neighboring states using CW for an hour on Thursdays. Ham radio keeps us connected! 73 OM
Just starting with HAM radio.
Always liked using a cb radio.
Can't wait to make new friends.
Hmm , that's probably a bit better then Morse code radio signal
Drop the carbs and drop off the pounds.
Stop all forms of sugar....bread... potato, cereals, fruit...
The pain stiffness will go away and mind will clear
yep did this recently and my inflammation dropped off a cliff
Been carnivore for about a year now lost 80 lbs psoriasis cleared up joint pain back pain knee pain went away everything has improved.
Certain fruit is good.
I started eating Mediterranean style a while back and gave me a new life . A1C went from 8.9 to 6.4
This is essentially a Keto diet. Carbs are literally poison.
Though the older men have most to immediately benefit from this video, I believe everyone has something to learn from watching. Thank you for your words and wisdom.
Living alone is not isolation. The goal is to keep pesky women out of your residence, out of your wallet and out of your peace. Everything else can be arranged for. Do you think an older female companion is actually going to do anything for a man other than collect life insurance premiums.
Well said! 🍻
Do you think an older female companion is actually going to do anything for a man other than collect life insurance premiums.
Yes, there is a good chance she will turn you into a care giver.
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@@rcas350pilot8 The first thought I had, even if she is years younger.
@@rcas350pilot8😂😂😂😂😂
I agree with you...been alone for 10 years now...quite content with my life...I'm 78 and still work part time...mostly because it gives me something to look forward to...have a great dog and wonderful neighbors...life is good and time flies by...looking forward to the next 10 years!!!
I've lived alone most of my life, but I'm very comfortable with it. 2 years ago, I was off of work for 7 weeks to recover from a hip replacement. I felt without purpose not having a work routine for about two weeks. Afte that, I began to organically develop new routines to make my days fulfilling. I have a ton of hobbies and interests that had fallen by the wayside and my interests in them returned. It was more of an adjustment going back to work and to a routine that I have to endure for the next year and a half. I saw that time off as a taste of my soon to be retiurment and I relish the day when I can return to that organic schedule and live my best life.
I never find solitude wears on me, it's people that wear on me. You made some good points in this video. Thanks.
You know, I came across your reply and I so much agree ! Today many crazy people out there. Whenever I am out , always talking to people starting conversations and so many got many problems and issues. Never see hardly anyone smile anymore and most talk about problems or issues either what they are experiencing or someone else. It's a screwed up world today for sure.
A different generation and people out there no common sense or wisdom is lacking. I am internally lonely, but I keep pushing and going each day !!
Greetings! I might add: 1) make younger friends. Try to keep up with them. Be curious about them. Assume the role of 'senior advisor' as necessary. 2) be sure to ask someone you trust to take care of your pets - just in case soomething happens to you - preferably someone your pet is already familiar and comfortable with. In fact, everyone who lives alone with their pets regardless of age should do this - accidents can happen to anyone.
Excellent advice. Thank you for watching ☺️
Peace and quiet, priceless.
Thanks for telling the truth and providing guidance. Many of us reach the same conclusions but we must take action as early as possible. Very grateful for your time to help others.
This is one of the best videos I have ever seen. Really great advice. Thank you.
Thank you for this video!
I'm 47, and for now my mother stays with me but I know that won't be forever. So I often think about when I'll be alone, so the information you provided is really helpful!
I go long weekends without speaking a word. Christmas is the worst when you have no-one.
I know. I've been there used to hate Christmas. Now I love it.
New wife baby boy and lots of joy in my life.
Come to the Philippines and start a new life
Go to vegas
@@everymanhasastory So why are you blogging about living alone?
i laughed throughout this video because it felt like you were talking about me. Thanks for the heads up and yes, I will try to avoid the silver from oxidizing together.
It is fundamentally Selfish to live alone when you can be helping a companion who will help you in return.
The things you shared with me on this subject will change my life. I have never had information like this available to me, nor did I even know I needed it. And you answered many questions, before I even knew what to ask
"Living alone changes your perspective of time!!!" Amen.
That's one thing that concerns me as a guy living alone in my early 50's -- getting tripping hazards out of the way. I'm always stepping over stuff to avoid tripping. I've got a lot of stuff crammed into my small bungalow, and I need to downsize on my possessions big-time.
What a great video! I know of more than one guy who’s gotten seriously injured falling off ladders. Just one of your great points
Finally someone in Dumaguete producing sensible informative videos, thanks. The other thing is a will, everyone should have a will here its a night mare for your loved ones if you don't !
I always watch out for my older neighbor. He's a paraplegic and we are in communication at least once a week. I help him with stuff that is difficult but I let him do things on his own. It gives him some form of activity. Some days he goes outside when the weather is good and a couple neighbors come over to conversate. This is a really good video. Thank you.
I once ran a program called “R U OK?” A senior can sign up when volunteers can call him, morning, midday or night to check on him. A volunteer group like that where you are would help.
Excellent idea. We could use that program here
This is a great idea
@lzu2860 My mother volunteered for a group that made check in calls like that to senior citizens about 25 years ago, when she herself was a senior (a very active senior). 😊
@@everymanhasastory Do you know of some guys there that really do not want to marry now but has a clean-up/ cook maid service that comes weekly or couple times a week ? Cause I do not like cooking at all & would be ideal for me, if I was staying there.
I can go either way with this one...Right now i'm 66 and live alone and it's great that I can do my own thing...But if a Love comes into my life...I can see where it may go..But i'm fine with my life right now..
Perfect approach to life rather than being needy and co-dependent
If a love comes your way. Take my advice run like hell, the other way. 😁😂😂😂
@@jeronlewis9368 LMAO
Being happy with yourself means everything.
I've lived by myself ALL my life. Never considered it living alone. Never married or had kids. Life for the last 50 years has been AMAZING. The key is that I worked 60 to 80 hours a week for 40 years. You dont have time to get lonely and you make a ton of money. No drama queen ex wives, stupid kids, or grand kids and no animals, to create problems. Life everyday is SO -O-O-O easy. Retired at 62 and am really enjoying life, liberty and the pursuit of MY own happiness, not your happiness or anybody's happiness. Had and still have a great life and not afraid or concerned about dying tomorrow. Life is so simple!!
To each his own.
Respectfully suggest at some point you will retire and the crash of NOT working 40-80 hours will set in. Consider anything, anything, that helps you slowly off-ramp from such a high level of activity towards a retired status. If your body allows, walk a couple miles a day. I found: People look suspiciously at me (I look younger than I am) if I walked the streets, always walking new streets because I am curious how "normies" live. I got a dog. This dog is a pain but also, showed me they are semi-sentient (aussies anyway) and astonishingly intuitive. Sure, picking up the dog doo blows, but an unending opportunity to chat, interface, and NEVER see them again, almost always.
Other thing. If you, like me, despise working out, it turns out merely bending over a few times a day to the ground (picking up the poo, brush dog, whatever) really helps well beyond merely walking or getting some cardio. I think, pre-civilization, people either bent down or were burdensome (scavenging or whatnot) so the spinal cord has no pump, but if you bend in your later years amidst exercise, this duplicates the motion, and mixes the brain-spinal (CSF) fluid and for me, I predictably, repeatedly, sleep better that night. YMMV of course.
Wish you well.
@@MindFusion-ij1xl I turned 50 this year and came across a video on "Asian squats". Been doing them for over a month now when I walk, hike, and randomly at home. The change and feeling in my hips, legs, knees, and ankles is incredible. I'm bouncing up stairs again. I highly recommend giving them a try and seeing how you feel after 1-2 weeks. There are many vids on getting into them. You give good insight.
@@8whynotcoconut8 Thank you. I will do so, having found the wisdom of trying every new thing that could help but does no harm.
Frankly, am going through a sudden stiffening of spine, legs, and I gots to do somethin'!
@@8whynotcoconut8 Thanks, I'm 84...almost, and I will try doing this. Have a great day.
LOVE your videos. I’m still in my mid-50s but find your videos to be so informative and insightful
Thank you for watching and for taking the time to comment 😀
These are all great tips for seniors, not just men.
I'm in my 40s and work a desk job. My physical condition has definitely deteriorated in the last few years and I'm making an effort to get more active.
I also have a grandmother who now lives in a home with dementia. She shouldn't have lived alone as long as she did. Mental deterioration may hamper it, but seniors should be honest with themselves about when they should be moving to a facility with oversight. I come from a family of deeply independent people, but there comes a point when you just can't take care of yourself.
Also can't stress the point about de-cluttering. It took months to clear out the house and we found items from as far back as the 60s that clearly hadn't been used in decades. Most of it was useless and thrown out.
Great points and well presented Mark. As you said when you live alone you’re your own emergency back up. The freedom of living alone can be a good feeling. However as we get older and that one time emergency and not having someone around can be the difference in life & death.
Thanks for sharing a great conversation 👍🏾👏🏾!
Why are you afraid of dying? Too many regrets for not living a life true to yourself?
If you lived with somebody, they could kill you in your sleep. And, not report your death to keep collecting your SS checks. Is that what you would rather have?
Right… like sleeping with a grenade-on-timer ⌛️and hoping it takes care of your when the poop hits the fan. 🤡
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What is the difference between life and death ? Is one good and the other bad ? I don't understand why I should fear one and not the other. I've been resting in peace all my life and don't see any reason why that will change.
Best thing about living alone is not being in a hospital w IV tubes, nosy nurses, useless doctors, 3 AM blood tests, neglected by family/"friends" unwilling to lift a finger to ease your pain ~ live alone die alone no problem medical profession be damned! ~
That last line…
Amen!
I am in the community care program through the VA “health care” system. I can’t seem to get referrals to specialists. It takes over a year to get approval - 14 months to see a podiatrist.
I gave up on seeing a neurologist back in May after trying since January.
Back in August I tried to get approval to see a cardiologist. I just received a denial letter at the end of September.
At least the illegal aliens and non-veterans are cared for.
A number of years ago, a spine doctor asked me how I was feeling at my follow-up appointment. I told him I hadn’t been approved for physical therapy (it had been 7 weeks since my first appointment). He told me, “You get what you pay for.”
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You get what you pay for.
If you are enrolled in the VA, you already paid with your service! I used to go to the VA occasionally, found the same attitude, haven't been to see those jerks for many years.
When I was diagnosed with cancer the doctor immediately started talking about chemo and radiation treatments. My mother had passed away after five years of suffering with such poison. I told the doctor you can cut out whatever is cancerous, but I will not undergo chemo nor radiation nor run up useless hospital bills. I have been cancer free for nine years and have no medical bills.
@@really2345 Well Really, I have had both heavy radiation in 1991 and chemo in 2013, both from life threatening cancers and these treatments did reduce the tumors w immediate reduction of symptoms threatening my life BUT doctors gave me zero, nothing to improve my health to keep them away, no diet changes stress reduction nada! I am 80 now and have decided if re-diagnosed I will refuse treatment and let god/my body decide, the aftereffects of these treatments are horrendous and at my age, very afraid of being confined to a hospital bed too weak to leave or even get out of bed, fate way worse than death!!
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Very true what you say. I can highly reccomend getting rid of clutter! Know to many people who just stash whatever, because may they'll need it in the future. And it really pulls them down. So get rid of clutter, ALL of it. And you will never look back.
You met my wife it seems.
Unless you're planning a build house,car,truck,motorcycle, etc.
Everything you've mentioned is exactly right. Their are a number of activities you can do to prevent yourself from wasting away.
This podcast is filled with lots of helpful (and potentially critical) information. Thanks for this!
Thank you for watching ☺️
You have to take care of your physical well being as you get older. Continue to work out with weights and do stretches regularly for quality of life! And nutrition is key also!
At 54, I lifted weights for 36 years. Recently put them down. Now it’s resistance bands, body weight lunges and a morning meditation of lymphatic drainage, basic yoga poses & Tai Chi.
Thanks mom 😁
What lifting weights does for you physically.. Bible study class does for you spiritually. Peace negates loneliness. Thanks Lord for your peace. Peace in Christ surpasses all understanding
I'm 56 years old, 3 years divorced, and as you say these things I look around and realize I resemble quite a few of your comments.
If you are a senior living alone and considering remarriage, do not do so for the wrong reason, that is in the lingo of women, looking for a nurse or a purse. You should only remarry for true mutual love. If that blessing eludes you, then the next best thing is to live alone and follow the wise advice given in this video.
Thank you for watching ☺️ I agree with you 💯
No. You should hire a nurse.
"A nurse or a purse ONLY" would be an unethical arrangement maybe, but a relationship usually involves a lot of give and take, so it's antagonistic hyperbole for women to claim that this is the only objective of older men. Women need men too, but they're good at being in denial of this fact. So I agree with you! Don't pass up a good opportunity.
@@sunshinecloudySingle women live longer. Why is that?
@@brunoqnzbk7891 Their caloric intake is lower than a man, so their metabolism is lower. Lower metabolism = 10% longer life.
Very well thought out! You can tell you put some time into this list. Many of these people don’t want to hear, but need to.
Good advice. Especially about the walking group. I joined a bike riding group. Met lots of nice people. Everyone’s over 60.
Excellent points
With back pain I ended up on the floor unable to find a way to get up. Luckily family members were there but still had to call the emergency services for a paramedic. They gave me laughing gas and the pain went away and I was able to get myself onto the gurney, I had an x-ray and was cleared of any severe back problem.
Lesson learned, if back pain returns, set up precautions, take strong pain killer if needed before bed. Keep pain killers, water, walking canes, phones near bed just in case.
If I had been alone that morning, I would have laid on the floor for many hours unable to get up.
I strongly recommend people read the comments. They are often just as good or even better than the video itself. The video is very good.
Agreed.
Good advice
To the point
No padding
No BS
No commercials
GOOD JOB!
Great Video ... ALL TRUE, I would also add that listening to the radio for company has a major flaw ... most stations just push out negative news which just leads to overall depression. You need to socialise to bring joy and humour into your life