50 years ago when I was a teen, an older person told me, “the less people know about you, the better off you are “. I have lived by that and tried to teach my kids that. This is important at any age.
There's another saying, "The less people know about you, the more they want to know " Or how about this from the writer Herman Wouk, "No adult is without problems except a happy imbecile " 14:16
1. age 2. money 3. family secrets 4. medications/health 5. sexuality 6. charitable giving 7. honor - protecting your reputation (no bragging about accomplishments) 8. insults - letting go of past hurts 9. montra - personal beliefs
@@daisyle1203 I am on lock down at the moment , { My daughter doesn't want me talking to any of my siblings } I heard about that Covid thing , what's that about ? It seems to be mentioned a lot ?
I made the mistake of sharing too much about my finances with a distant relative a few years ago. Before I knew it, they were asking for loans and even trying to give me advice on how to manage my money. It caused a lot of stress and tension. Now, I keep those details private, and I’ve learned the hard way that some things are better left unsaid, even with family.
I've made the same mistake with my boyfriend, now he's always asking for money loans he never pays back! Huge mistake! Learned not to flaunt, be modest & keep ur privacy. Thx for the video...
@@robertgibson1036 Perhaps, but any conversation should go both ways! Not one person divulging personal info while the other does not, unless one person is an attention hound and prefer to only talk about themselves.
This was a very good Video for me to watch . Out of the 9 things to share. Still share 6 or 7 of these principles. Iam going to be 70 & this video was great for to sink in these beliefs . One thing that’s true . Is I have a lot to learn . & even though I shared a lot of this about myself Relationships were very difficult because women always told me that I didn’t share enough about myself . Iam still learning. & will be until the day I die .
Everyone over 60 should see this excellent presentation! It’s ironic that you can be hugely successful financially in your business, but you can’t really share it with friends and family. They WILL look at you differently and EXPECT you to spread some of that money around esp to older and younger members who may not have as much.
Wow, what a complicated life we must navigate through! I mean my nieces and nephews,(in their 40s), all talk openly about their salaries and financial situations and don't understand why I keep my finances so private. But that just wasn't done when I grew up, being born 70+ years ago.
For Dignity, autonomy and peace of mind do not share: 1. Age 2. Money 3. Family matters 4. Medication 5. Sexuality 6. Charity 7. Honor: be humble 8. Insults 9. Personal beliefs
When you keep your information they call you snobby unfriendly....just can't win. NARCISSISTS use it against you meanwhile tell no one their information.
I feel the foundation of these points is simplicity. It’s less about what you think and more about the impact of the thoughts and opinions of others about your personal matters. Life is simpler if one maintains discretion Personally, while I’m not focused on anyone’s perceptions about me, I want to determine with whom I want things shared. When you tell people things it’s easy to become a topic of their conversations with others. People don’t have boundaries anymore. They think nothing of passing along your information. I will tell my story if/when I want - it’s mine to share. You focus on yours.
As I age i realized how many FAKE friends I had who only called me when they had needs but when I needed their help they were NO where to be found! Wouldn’t even return my phone calls with friends like that who needs enemies I currently have NO friends!
There are few things worse than having a narcissist mother I had one and I know how you feel it's a lot to overcome and a lot to accept forgive and let go
My father always told me to keep matters of sex, religion and politics private. This advice is especially true with the hostility over different opinions today.
I’m one of those who shared my life story, and now it’s affecting my life. I’m in my 60’s and people are just taking advantage or just jealous. Hope I have not opened my life to other people
I have neighbors and friends that know I’m in the stock market and we have good discussions about it without giving out exact amounts,I share my sports teams and people know I go to the games and I don’t mind sharing information about it.Dont need to live in a bubble and I’m not scared of living life
Excellent advice: it is something that I have finally come to understand. I used to share a lot of my thoughts with family and friends, only to have people mock or criticise me as I didn’t measure up to their standards.
I’m the same way, I was an open book but not anymore. I just stopped chatting about everything. Sometimes when you share information with others they use it against you. I recently shared a conversation about loaning someone money and my friend not only decided to chastise me but made terrible insulting comments about the person who I loaned the money to. Now I know. 🤷🏽♀️
Possibly (probably) one of the nicest 15 minutes I have spent on YT, not to mention the affirmation of feelings and beliefs so well elucidated they seem like news rather than reminders. Thanks.
If young people live long enough that old saying what Goes around comes around Will be visited upon them. The best thing is don’t care what others think! And don’t take it personally.
You are missing something, try being more open minded than negative. Not giving certain information will make it harder for someone to scam or defraud you and health insurance is a huge scam. Wake up
As a 75 years old Hindu the part about charity is so good. I have been made to feel guilty about giving money. My own family members have made me feel guilty. So never ever reveal any charitable acts. I have found this to be a valuable Hindu teaching about Charity. Never reveal details to anyone else.
In Thailand, the aged people are more revered than they were young. The retirees by age have been treated with honor and respect, and people are likely to render a hepling hand in public need, such as public bus. However, as Thailand is not a rich country, most of the the aged are still financially struggling.
Well, if the KING shared some of the wealth the aged would have no struggle at all! Thailand is a very wealthy country, it a problem when you have so many corrupt and greedy turds in power. But yes, the elder do get a lot of respect.
A Wonderful video. I am struggling to accept my aging, now 81 years, and trying to care for a disabled wife. This message is a blessed way to arrange our lives . Thank you
Revealing my true age isn’t a problem. I don’t really care what others will think! So , there’s the 1st rule about me: I don’t give a flying f ….k what you think ! Good or bad , it makes no difference. Why is that ? Because I don’t want or need anything from you or anyone.
I am torn between absolutely hating this advice, and agreeing with it. In a perfect community, we help each other. You can do things that I cannot, and I can do things that you cannot. So, we work together. But, how can I help you if I don't even know you. Unfortunately, we don't live in a perfect community. It is a land filled with very selfish people who will step on your back to elevate themselves. In the recent past, I have tried being more open with people, offering them what I have in exchange for what they can offer. But, it did not work at all. My needs were of no interest to them, and they would walk away after bleeding me dry. That isn't the way it's supposed to be. Now, I live with the absolute belief that nobody will ever know the real me again.
@WearyBear, I'm sorry that happened to you. I also agree and disagree with the advice on this video. I guess it comes down to taking the time to know who can be trusted with your sensitive information. If a person would follow this advice completely, any time spent with another would be so stilted as to prevent a friendship from starting. I knew such a completely shut down person, about 40 years old. I liked her, but......no chance of a friendship ever happening there. Too bad; she seemed like a good person, but very isolated and alone. She told me it was SO hard for her to make friends. For you, WearyBear, I hope that you'll know the difference if a truly good and trustworthy person crosses your path. Maybe in time you'll feel comfortable again to let another person know the real you.🙂 Also, some people are selfish because they think everybody is that way, and they've never been taught any differently. With these types, we have to have side stepping methods in place ahead of time. Sashay away!
We can avoid many problems by sharing as little important information about ourselves as possible. It is also a huge mistake to share pictures and confidential information on the Internet.
So complete!! Thank you for such a calm, wise, advice. It ALL makes so much sense. I encourage all persons of age 55 and older to embrace this information.
You're absolutely right. Unfortunately, some things should NOT be shared. I taught my children (now in their forties) not to reveal their financial situation even to their closest friends (we have no relatives, alas). When they were very young they sometimes bristled at my advice but they soon realized that I have taught them well.
Your advice tells so much about your picture of the world. What a lone, distrustful, world! Not to share with other people these most important aspects of your life - who wants such life?! In case you think i don't understand - I'm in my mid sixties
I am now 68 and have learned, one thing you never discuss regardless with relatives, sometimes spouse or partner and close friends, is your financial situation. In other words, keep your mouth shut about things mentioned here and you will be happier. If someone asks or pries, change the subject or leave. Anyone that wants to pry into your business is up to no good, remove them from your life.
A few good rules: 1) never lend money. Ever. 2) stay away from envious, jealous and any other people who give you a bad vibe. 3) friends can choose to unfriend at anytime. Confide in your spouse and children only.
@@bettymermaid8346I was facing something similar. When my BFF of 40+ years was diagnosed with a terminal illness, I realized that someday I would be going on without her. While spending as much time with my BFF as possible, I made a conscious decision to seek out new friends. I took continuing education classes and at a high school reunion I reconnected with folks I’d lost touch with. I don’t have my BFF anymore, but I’m working on being a trusted companion to the people in my life now. I still “talk” to my BFF and miss her every day. My “new” friends understand my grief and have given me comfort and support. I’m truly blessed. But none of this would have happened if I hadn’t pushed myself to get out and make an effort. That first step is the hardest.
One surprising omission : seldom, and preferably never, tell anyone that you have or have not left them a bequest in your will. I purposely left out spouses because they are generally treated far differently than others for a variety of reasons.
If I tell people my age, they're shocked. They think I'm 10 to 15 years younger than I actually am. A neighbor is 10 years older than I am, you would never guess that if you saw her. We both have had horses since we were children and are both in great shape.
1. Very nice. I go to a garden for excercises in the morning and when people know that I'm 85 they appreciate my efforts. I don't say on my own but if someone asks me the age I give it. Financial matters I keep private. In India there are many cases found where children after taking advantage of parents' money kick them out.
Unlike North America in UK and Europe it is just not done...actually rude... to inquire about someones age or financial position unless you are really close buddies/confidents.
Thank you. It is a balance. I think you have to show some of the cards life has dealt you as these probably define you in later years. Too much silence and secrecy on everything, people will end up not really knowing you. Also, sometimes a trouble shared is a trouble halved, the receiver can actually help you rather than bottling things up by getting concerns off your chest. There’s weight that lifts from the shoulders sometimes when you hear a voice that agrees with you. We are all wired differently. Yes, I also dislike “braggers”, certain things don’t become relevant in later years as we are all back to equal.
A young person in store wanted all kinds of information....for a rewards card. Called the manager at a latter date. He said no thats for a store credit card. I said No it was for a rewards card. Had to repeat a few times and told him he better check because she may br collecting customers info and selling it.
I've noticed over the years that some people want to know Everything about you! But those same people will disclose virtually Nothing about themselves!
Thank you for sharing your perspective and for your service, LCDR Sullivan. Your agreement with these principles speaks volumes. Wishing you continued wisdom and happiness. 🙏
Great. And in my opinion, important future intent should not be shared either. Because revealing plans prematurely can expose you to unnecessary risks, manipulation, or interference from others.
Absolutely true, especially in the current divisive climate. Whenever someone tries to steer a conversation to politics I have on a couple of occasions had to be very firm and say that I am not interested in getting into a political discussion. Sadly, it has ended a few friendships.
SO TRUE. There's no advantage to talking politics. Only brings trouble. Most people will not listen. There's no use in trying to appeal to others that they're candidate is a boob.😅
#10, Never reveal what preps you have stored away, for that can get you many unwanted visitors when a crisis happens, thus your personal safety can be at risk also...
I agree ith keeping quiet about 1) age, 2) finances and 3) whether you've ever had a child out of wedlock. Even if everyone else was doing it and worrying along with you monthly, you'll be loved for 5 minutes until you give up your child and then hated for the rest of your life. No one will ever think they would do the same. I don't agree with not sharing about your family dynamics. I never shared about my abusive, neglectful parents, even though no one evr asked me to cover it up. I just did because I was ashamed of my parents and knew something wasn't right. I'll never do that agin. Now I tell everyone if someone is a gossip, or or is abusive. I'll never keep that secret again. If you're nasty I'll tell on you. I won't protect you.
There is nothing wrong in revealing one's age. There is nothing to be ashamed of in revealing one's age if one wants to. One doesn't "have to" but it's fine to do so. It's a matter of one's own own internal confidence and sense of sovereignty. Who cares about what others think about your age?
When anyone asks my age, I reply, "I am old enough to remember when there were patriotic Democrats, and young enough to wear cloth underwear". When asked about my sexuality, I respond with, "You aren't my type." When asked about family secrets, I say, "You are looking at it." When asked if I take any medications, my response is, "I take a special substance that makes my nostrils immune to your breath." People leave me alone.
Thanks for Your advice. I'm 64yo. I recognized myself done in some aspects - doing wrong assumptions of outside world and not so well for me - and it has irritated myself. You learned me why and that's OK. In my opinion it's never too late take a good lesson every time and time, to think about things over. If there's some wisdom in it, it may become to be a habit to look and find a new look of the surrounding world and persons You meet everyday.
I'm 58 years old still walk alot to take city bus and lightrail to work and back home and my job is 23 miles away from were I live I can't drive because I'm Leagley blind and a single father with kids 2 of them still raising at home teens.
If I took this advice, I'd fell like hiding under the bed. I'm in my sevenities and free of others opinions. They are fully entitled to form wrong ideas and jump to all kinds of unwise conclusions. If we are secure with ourselves, no self-defense is necessary. If we are insecure, then I guess we have to over-protect. That's sad.
A lot of good advice but I have to say that now I am older the opinions of others has less and less meaning, I simply no longer care. I’m friendly but I let very few in. My circle of friends is quite small since they have an apparently incurable habit of passing on. I instinctively keep my personal information private, period. I mostly want to be left alone to live my life out in a quiet peaceful way, which seems to be an increasingly difficult reality to attain.
Number 8 : My oldest brother ( a Preacher ) called me the other day . He's worried about my spiritual health, after half an hour I asked him if he had had this conversation with his sister , and he said no , well maybe you should ! I haven't heard back from him ! She wants to buy a piece of the old farm for .10 cents on the dollar ! Any advice on how to proceed ?
They are looking for your farm. I guess you are the eldest. Never reveal anything that may occur re illness etc. to them. They will take advantage. You gave a great reply to your brother re the sister. A nursing home hopefully would not be in his thoughts. Take care
At age 60, 2 things I've learned...1. Help is NOT on the way, you are on your own and 2. No one really cares, everyone will do what is in their own self interest. Sound depressing? Actually, it's empowering...bonus 3. Your kids don't want your stuff!
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50 years ago when I was a teen, an older person told me, “the less people know about you, the better off you are “. I have lived by that and tried to teach my kids that. This is important at any age.
Thank you for your kind wishes
It's hard when a spouse shares way to much on FB
@@davidhoye6863no kidding
There's another saying, "The less people know about you, the more they want to know "
Or how about this from the writer Herman Wouk, "No adult is without problems except a happy imbecile " 14:16
Truth social media has truly been a downside for many. Ageism is more prevalent in U.S. wise advice.
1. age
2. money
3. family secrets
4. medications/health
5. sexuality
6. charitable giving
7. honor - protecting your reputation (no bragging about accomplishments)
8. insults - letting go of past hurts
9. montra - personal beliefs
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
Never let anybody know about your future plans as they may sabatoge them and never tell anybody your views on things
Agree fully, especially money, and especially includes someone your seeing. 10.-refrain from pillow talk
@@daisyle1203 I am on lock down at the moment , { My daughter doesn't want me talking to any of my siblings } I heard about that Covid thing , what's that about ? It seems to be mentioned a lot ?
Thank you for summary, I can’t listen to the AI voice and repeatative word padding.
I made the mistake of sharing too much about my finances with a distant relative a few years ago. Before I knew it, they were asking for loans and even trying to give me advice on how to manage my money. It caused a lot of stress and tension. Now, I keep those details private, and I’ve learned the hard way that some things are better left unsaid, even with family.
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
I've made the same mistake with my boyfriend, now he's always asking for money loans he never pays back! Huge mistake! Learned not to flaunt, be modest & keep ur privacy. Thx for the video...
@@Anjelica-th1xb Absolutely, that's one of the key ways to prevent losing a relationship.
In my experience, family are the worst offenders.
@@carlosanzola2938I completely agree!
"Even at the age of 76, I am continuously learning. I appreciate you sharing your thoughtful insights."
Thank you very much
I am too brother and at 76 also.
I hear ya
H of blarney
What a bunch of blarney
The more people know about you the more they can control you
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
Not unless you allow it to happen
@@robertgibson1036
Perhaps, but any conversation should go both ways! Not one person divulging personal info while the other does not, unless one person is an attention hound and prefer to only talk about themselves.
You are so right! I learned that the hard way.
I'm 71. Know this: familiarity breeds contempt. Period.
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
True, which tells you who,to stay distant from!
Facts!!!
Bingo
My Dad always said that
I only tell my age if it gives me a discount! 😊
Thank you for your kind wishes
It’s too bad this only applies to 55 to 75 years of age. I wish I did this when I was 20!!! I would have saved much grief!
This was a very good Video for me to watch . Out of the 9 things to share. Still share 6 or 7 of these principles. Iam going to be 70 & this video was great for to sink in these beliefs . One thing that’s true . Is I have a lot to learn . & even though I shared a lot of this about myself Relationships were very difficult because women always told me that I didn’t share enough about myself . Iam still learning. & will be until the day I die .
😂😂❤
Me too !
To everyone here, may your life be filled with love, laughter, and success. Sending you blessings of peace and fulfillment.
Everyone over 60 should see this excellent presentation!
It’s ironic that you can be hugely successful financially in your business, but you can’t really share it with friends and family. They WILL look at you differently and EXPECT you to spread some of that money around esp to older and younger members who may not have as much.
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
Hilarious. My experience with sharing money. It's promptly pissed away.
But then again, it's not a comforting thought to be viewed as a selfish cheapskate.
Wow, what a complicated life we must navigate through! I mean my nieces and nephews,(in their 40s), all talk openly about their salaries and financial situations and don't understand why I keep my finances so private. But that just wasn't done when I grew up, being born 70+ years ago.
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
For Dignity, autonomy and peace of mind do not share:
1. Age
2. Money
3. Family matters
4. Medication
5. Sexuality
6. Charity
7. Honor: be humble
8. Insults
9. Personal beliefs
Thank you very much
Thank you!!!
🙏🏻❤️
When you keep your information they call you snobby unfriendly....just can't win. NARCISSISTS use it against you meanwhile tell no one their information.
Thank you
I feel the foundation of these points is simplicity. It’s less about what you think and more about the impact of the thoughts and opinions of others about your personal matters. Life is simpler if one maintains discretion
Personally, while I’m not focused on anyone’s perceptions about me, I want to determine with whom I want things shared. When you tell people things it’s easy to become a topic of their conversations with others. People don’t have boundaries anymore. They think nothing of passing along your information.
I will tell my story if/when I want - it’s mine to share. You focus on yours.
You are so welcome
As I age i realized how many FAKE friends I had who only called me when they had needs but when I needed their help they were NO where to be found! Wouldn’t even return my phone calls with friends like that who needs enemies I currently have NO friends!
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No friends is better than false ones.
I understand
I tell everyone I'm 72. Proud of it, proud of my accomplishments, and proud to say...."I don't give a shit what anyone thinks."
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DAY-UM Captain!
10: Stay clear of narcissists, and that includes your mother.
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
That works for every age
There are few things worse than having a narcissist mother I had one and I know how you feel it's a lot to overcome and a lot to accept forgive and let go
Stay clear of toxic people, especially family and people you thought were friends.
Or your son’s wife !!!!!!!
My father always told me to keep matters of sex, religion and politics private. This advice is especially true with the hostility over different opinions today.
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
Basically keep your mouth shut even about your private life.
I agree with your opinion, thank you very much
So true. Agreed.
Except when you go to the dentist. Open wide....
Thats why its called a private life.
I’m one of those who shared my life story, and now it’s affecting my life. I’m in my 60’s and people are just taking advantage or just jealous. Hope I have not opened my life to other people
I agree with you 100%. I get really annoyed when people ask me my age. When I was growing up, we were told that was a rude question.
Thank you very much
Age is personal after 16 years old.
Yes, striking a balance between what you share and what you keep to yourself is a great thing to learn and apply. Paul,69, retired teacher.
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
At the age of....here is what I have learnt.....ALWAYS keep your OWN counsel. Nuff said.
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
Proud of my age,most people say how young I look for my age
I have neighbors and friends that know I’m in the stock market and we have good discussions about it without giving out exact amounts,I share my sports teams and people know I go to the games and I don’t mind sharing information about it.Dont need to live in a bubble and I’m not scared of living life
@@michaeldalsky1209 Translation: you're a blabbermouth and nobody actually gives a shit what you have to say. LMFAO!
@@michaeldalsky1209 Unlike many other people, you are unusually lucky to have such good neighbors and friends.
I say don't worry about it. Just remember the Lord when you rise up and when you lie down, and when you walk by the way at noon day.
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
Truer words have never been spoken. Thank you for this summary.
Thanks for listening
Love the life you live
Live the life you love.
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
Excellent advice: it is something that I have finally come to understand. I used to share a lot of my thoughts with family and friends, only to have people mock or criticise me as I didn’t measure up to their standards.
Thanks for sharing!
I’m the same way, I was an open book but not anymore. I just stopped chatting about everything. Sometimes when you share information with others they use it against you. I recently shared a conversation about loaning someone money and my friend not only decided to chastise me but made terrible insulting comments about the person who I loaned the money to.
Now I know. 🤷🏽♀️
Great advise to people like me who a little too open
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
Possibly (probably) one of the nicest 15 minutes I have spent on YT, not to mention the affirmation of feelings and beliefs so well elucidated they seem like news rather than reminders. Thanks.
Thank you for your kind words! It’s amazing to hear it resonated with you. 😊
If young people live long enough that old saying what
Goes around comes around
Will be visited upon them.
The best thing is don’t care what others think! And don’t take it personally.
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
You are missing something, try being more open minded than negative. Not giving certain information will make it harder for someone to scam or defraud you and health insurance is a huge scam. Wake up
All young people are not bad people. There are plenty of bad old people, so it's not age that makes the person.
I am 78, i learn a lot from this video. thank you so much
That's great!
Excellent reply!!!!
As a 75 years old Hindu the part about charity is so good. I have been made to feel guilty about giving money. My own family members have made me feel guilty.
So never ever reveal any charitable acts.
I have found this to be a valuable Hindu teaching about Charity. Never reveal details to anyone else.
Your sharing is wonderful!
Thank you very much ❤❤❤
In Thailand, the aged people are more revered than they were young. The retirees by age have been treated with honor and respect, and people are likely to render a hepling hand in public need, such as public bus. However, as Thailand is not a rich country, most of the the aged are still financially struggling.
I agree with your opinion, thank you very much
I agree, wisdom is a special gift. I miss my grand parents. They used to tell me stories about where I was born. I miss that very much today ❤❤
Very true.
Well, if the KING shared some of the wealth the aged would have no struggle at all! Thailand is a very wealthy country, it a problem when you have so
many corrupt and greedy turds in power. But yes, the elder do get a lot of respect.
A Wonderful video. I am struggling to accept my aging, now 81 years, and trying to care for a disabled wife. This message is a blessed way to arrange our lives . Thank you
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
Those were all helpful reminders and I can see where I need to improve and be more diligent.
Revealing my true age isn’t a problem. I don’t really care what others will think! So , there’s the 1st rule about me: I don’t give a flying f ….k what you think ! Good or bad , it makes no difference. Why is that ? Because I don’t want or need anything from you or anyone.
Your sharing is wonderful, have a blessed day. Thank you very much
Well said, I love the attitude, same here
My exact feelings about those topics !! Widowed & had a great life w her for 58’yrs On to the next chapter 😊
Yeaaaa ok sure whatever!
So true. 👍
What great advice, tactfully and positively shared!
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I am torn between absolutely hating this advice, and agreeing with it. In a perfect community, we help each other. You can do things that I cannot, and I can do things that you cannot. So, we work together. But, how can I help you if I don't even know you. Unfortunately, we don't live in a perfect community. It is a land filled with very selfish people who will step on your back to elevate themselves. In the recent past, I have tried being more open with people, offering them what I have in exchange for what they can offer. But, it did not work at all. My needs were of no interest to them, and they would walk away after bleeding me dry. That isn't the way it's supposed to be. Now, I live with the absolute belief that nobody will ever know the real me again.
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
Far not everyone deserves you sharing personal information. It should take years to know a person and decide on what to share with them.
@WearyBear, I'm sorry that happened to you. I also agree and disagree with the advice on this video. I guess it comes down to taking the time to know who can be trusted with your sensitive information. If a person would follow this advice completely, any time spent with another would be so stilted as to prevent a friendship from starting. I knew such a completely shut down person, about 40 years old. I liked her, but......no chance of a friendship ever happening there. Too bad; she seemed like a good person, but very isolated and alone. She told me it was SO hard for her to make friends. For you, WearyBear, I hope that you'll know the difference if a truly good and trustworthy person crosses your path. Maybe in time you'll feel comfortable again to let another person know the real you.🙂 Also, some people are selfish because they think everybody is that way, and they've never been taught any differently. With these types, we have to have side stepping methods in place ahead of time. Sashay away!
Thank you. Great principles to follow.
Thank you very much
Thank you! Very informative.
Glad you enjoyed it!
We can avoid many problems by sharing as little important information about ourselves as possible. It is also a huge mistake to share pictures and confidential information on the Internet.
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
So complete!! Thank you for such a calm, wise, advice. It ALL makes so much sense. I encourage all persons of age 55 and older to embrace this information.
Reasonable and helpful! Thank you so much!
Glad it was helpful!
Dead right. In old age I've realised a few things. Youth is wasted on the young.
Your sharing is wonderful, thank you very much
Why didn't my elders tell me all this when i was younger? Oh, wait,,,they did! LOL! Serves me right for ignoring them.
If i only knew then what i know now so many things i would change but there are no do overs.
Your wrong youth is our future
You're absolutely right. Unfortunately, some things should NOT be shared. I taught my children (now in their forties) not to reveal their financial situation even to their closest friends (we have no relatives, alas). When they were very young they sometimes bristled at my advice but they soon realized that I have taught them well.
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So brilliant. How to live a life of integrity in our later years…
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Who is the author of this book?
Your advice tells so much about your picture of the world. What a lone, distrustful, world! Not to share with other people these most important aspects of your life - who wants such life?! In case you think i don't understand - I'm in my mid sixties
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Great wisdom for us aging
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I am now 68 and have learned, one thing you never discuss regardless with relatives, sometimes spouse or partner and close friends, is your financial situation. In other words, keep your mouth shut about things mentioned here and you will be happier. If someone asks or pries, change the subject or leave. Anyone that wants to pry into your business is up to no good, remove them from your life.
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Maybe family members ask, because they care if you are doing alright.
A few good rules:
1) never lend money. Ever.
2) stay away from envious, jealous and any other people who give you a bad vibe.
3) friends can choose to unfriend at anytime. Confide in your spouse and children only.
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What if you have no family and your best friends passed early? This is not a life.
@@bettymermaid8346I was facing something similar. When my BFF of 40+ years was diagnosed with a terminal illness, I realized that someday I would be going on without her. While spending as much time with my BFF as possible, I made a conscious decision to seek out new friends. I took continuing education classes and at a high school reunion I reconnected with folks I’d lost touch with. I don’t have my BFF anymore, but I’m working on being a trusted companion to the people in my life now. I still “talk” to my BFF and miss her every day. My “new” friends understand my grief and have given me comfort and support. I’m truly blessed. But none of this would have happened if I hadn’t pushed myself to get out and make an effort. That first step is the hardest.
One surprising omission : seldom, and preferably never, tell anyone that you have or have not left them a bequest in your will. I purposely left out spouses because they are generally treated far differently than others for a variety of reasons.
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Inspirational advice; thank you
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Never share:
1) Age
2) Money
3) Family secrets
4) Medications
5) Sexuality
6) Charity
7) Honor
8) Insults
9) Mantra
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Just found this channel a couple of days ago and I've already watched about four videos. I thank the creator for his wisdom and for sharing it
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I'm 68. Great suggestions. Very reaffirming. Thanks.
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Personally im not worried about telling people my age. So what !. We all age and can't stop the aging process.
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Same. Any who knew me 40 years ago would be utterly shocked to learn that I am still alive. In the spirit of not sharing I will not elaborate :)
Young ladies I meet when I honestly share my age, say age is just a number. I say that age may just be a number, aging is not. They don’t get it!
@@jamestyrrell5315 Yes
If I tell people my age, they're shocked. They think I'm 10 to 15 years younger than I actually am. A neighbor is 10 years older than I am, you would never guess that if you saw her. We both have had horses since we were children and are both in great shape.
I live in the Philippines. Your video holds no water here.
1. Very nice. I go to a garden for excercises in the morning and when people know that I'm 85 they appreciate my efforts. I don't say on my own but if someone asks me the age I give it.
Financial matters I keep private. In India there are many cases found where children after taking advantage of parents' money kick them out.
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Unlike North America in UK and Europe it is just not done...actually rude... to inquire about someones age or financial position unless you are really close buddies/confidents.
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Financial always causes problems.
Absolutely I was always taught it was extremely rude to ask someone their age
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Thank you. It is a balance. I think you have to show some of the cards life has dealt you as these probably define you in later years. Too much silence and secrecy on everything, people will end up not really knowing you. Also, sometimes a trouble shared is a trouble halved, the receiver can actually help you rather than bottling things up by getting concerns off your chest. There’s weight that lifts from the shoulders sometimes when you hear a voice that agrees with you. We are all wired differently. Yes, I also dislike “braggers”, certain things don’t become relevant in later years as we are all back to equal.
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A young person in store wanted all kinds of information....for a rewards card. Called the manager at a latter date. He said no thats for a store credit card. I said No it was for a rewards card. Had to repeat a few times and told him he better check because she may br collecting customers info and selling it.
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I've noticed over the years that some people want to know Everything about you! But those same people will disclose virtually Nothing about themselves!
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Excellent Presentation. I'm nearly 72, and I'm in agreement with these 9 principles for guidance. Well Done! Former LCDR John Sullivan, USNR
Thank you for sharing your perspective and for your service, LCDR Sullivan. Your agreement with these principles speaks volumes. Wishing you continued wisdom and happiness. 🙏
Great. And in my opinion, important future intent should not be shared either. Because revealing plans prematurely can expose you to unnecessary risks, manipulation, or interference from others.
Shocking how many creeps are out there.
Terrific advice at any age. Please, keep sharing.
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I would add to your list: keep your political beliefs secret.
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Absolutely true, especially in the current divisive climate.
Whenever someone tries to steer a conversation to politics I have on a couple of occasions had to be very firm and say that I am not interested in getting into a political discussion. Sadly, it has ended a few friendships.
SO TRUE. There's no advantage to talking politics. Only brings trouble. Most people will not listen. There's no use in trying to appeal to others that they're candidate is a boob.😅
I disagree, I need to know right off the get go if you're a dumb ass Democrat so I can nip it in the bud.
@@bdflatlander These were not true friendships, do not regret them.
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Thank You. Wise words.
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These comments are so true old school hard times Mississippi truth be told
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Excellent video! Very helpful! Thanks for sharing！
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#10, Never reveal what preps you have stored away, for that can get you many unwanted visitors when a crisis happens, thus your personal safety can be at risk also...
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Good advice thank you !
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When you aged people think you are hopeless confusing person. They don’t know you are very smart and intelligent person. I keep my age for myself.
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I agree ith keeping quiet about 1) age, 2) finances and 3) whether you've ever had a child out of wedlock. Even if everyone else was doing it and worrying along with you monthly, you'll be loved for 5 minutes until you give up your child and then hated for the rest of your life. No one will ever think they would do the same.
I don't agree with not sharing about your family dynamics. I never shared about my abusive, neglectful parents, even though no one evr asked me to cover it up. I just did because I was ashamed of my parents and knew something wasn't right. I'll never do that agin. Now I tell everyone if someone is a gossip, or or is abusive. I'll never keep that secret again. If you're nasty I'll tell on you. I won't protect you.
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Unfortunately betrayal will be an awful surprise
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Only if your deceived first
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Here’s my mantra: now that I’m old, I have zero f@@ks to give. It might not work for you, but it sure works for me!
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There is nothing wrong in revealing one's age. There is nothing to be ashamed of in revealing one's age if one wants to. One doesn't "have to" but it's fine to do so. It's a matter of one's own own internal confidence and sense of sovereignty. Who cares about what others think about your age?
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Great advice, all valid and truthful
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When anyone asks my age, I reply, "I am old enough to remember when there were patriotic Democrats, and young enough to wear cloth underwear". When asked about my sexuality, I respond with, "You aren't my type." When asked about family secrets, I say, "You are looking at it." When asked if I take any medications, my response is, "I take a special substance that makes my nostrils immune to your breath." People leave me alone.
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Thanks for Your advice. I'm 64yo. I recognized myself done in some aspects - doing wrong assumptions of outside world and not so well for me - and it has irritated myself. You learned me why and that's OK. In my opinion it's never too late take a good lesson every time and time, to think about things over. If there's some wisdom in it, it may become to be a habit to look and find a new look of the surrounding world and persons You meet everyday.
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Something to be said for being discrete.
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I'm 58 years old still walk alot to take city bus and lightrail to work and back home and my job is 23 miles away from were I live I can't drive because I'm Leagley blind and a single father with kids 2 of them still raising at home teens.
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And beliefs. Prayers and hugs
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If I took this advice, I'd fell like hiding under the bed. I'm in my sevenities and free of others opinions. They are fully entitled to form wrong ideas and jump to all kinds of unwise conclusions. If we are secure with ourselves, no self-defense is necessary. If we are insecure, then I guess we have to over-protect. That's sad.
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A lot of good advice but I have to say that now I am older the opinions of others has less and less meaning, I simply no longer care. I’m friendly but I let very few in. My circle of friends is quite small since they have an apparently incurable habit of passing on. I instinctively keep my personal information private, period. I mostly want to be left alone to live my life out in a quiet peaceful way, which seems to be an increasingly difficult reality to attain.
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Number 8 : My oldest brother ( a Preacher ) called me the other day . He's worried about my spiritual health, after half an hour I asked him if he had had this conversation with his sister , and he said no , well maybe you should ! I haven't heard back from him ! She wants to buy a piece of the old farm for .10 cents on the dollar ! Any advice on how to proceed ?
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They are looking for your farm. I guess you are the eldest. Never reveal anything that may occur re illness etc. to them. They will take advantage. You gave a great reply to your brother re the sister. A nursing home hopefully would not be in his thoughts. Take care
Donate the farm to your brothers Church
Very good, I have screwed up on a few issues, but now I have a chance to change those areas
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Don't care who knows what my age is.
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1 this video I won't be keeping to myself. Thank you
At age 60, 2 things I've learned...1. Help is NOT on the way, you are on your own and 2. No one really cares, everyone will do what is in their own self interest. Sound depressing? Actually, it's empowering...bonus 3. Your kids don't want your stuff!
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Perfect advice wish l learned way earlier
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