Solitude is ADDICTIVE. The peace, quiet, freedom, self growth productivity and complete anonymity that you will experience are very hard to let go of once you’ve known them. It makes you see everything else differently. I could spend weeks without seeing or talking to another human being and be completely content. Love the vid.
I went from the life of the party for all my adult life. At 57 I retired and have been in solitude since. I am very comfortable without others. Just my dog and I ❤
Hey Travis. Great video. I’m 57, ER doctor, married, and this video really resonated with me. I have a good marriage of 22 yrs, but I absolutely love my alone time, or alone time with my dog. Alone time is what energizes me. I too have no problem sitting at a restaurant by myself when my wife is working. And I actually love going to movies by myself. I couldn’t care less what other people think about it. As the years pass, I just have less tolerance for people in general. When I am alone, I have space. I can breathe. I can decompress. Thanks for this video.
I thought it was just me who craves alone time, and have for years. Because I could not satisfy this primal need, I started feeling trapped - for the longest time.
Deep down I think I was always happiest being alone, but when I was younger getting with someone was what you did. After 40 years of marriage, my wife divorced me (long story) and have now been on my own for 3 years. No kids, no real friends. But, I have never been happier. There is something about self reliance, building confidence, learning how to look after one's self alone which has been something of a pleasant surprise. Freedom to do as I wish...when, where, how...and have only my self to answer to. I love my life now and living in the present. Thanks for your thoughts my friend.
Now I'm old. When I was younger from time to time I would feel lonely. And oddly those times didn't coincide with actually being alone. But as I got older I felt no longer invested in friendship. I don't have anything against it it's just a general lack of interest. I don't get lonely. Other people are annoying. Why are they always talking about nothing? And at the same time they have no listening skills. Give up on saying anything beyond two sentences they'll interrupt because it's a verbal competition. Loud mouths win. On the other hand there's my cats. They're the best. They're all fluffy and cute n stuff.
Your video just popped up in my TH-cam feed. Thanks for relating your experiences and perspectives. I am reminded of this quote: "All men's miseries derive from not being able to sit in a quiet room alone." - Blaise Pascal
I get Sooo much done, being on my own! I have restored 2 motorcycles, a car and my pickup to like new condition. Now working on the boat, that I used to race, but haven't run for years. Getting ready for next race season!!! Can't wait!!!
My fear of being alone led me to make choices that at times compromised my integrity. This inevitably led to resentment towards the very people and activities I engaged in to avoid loneliness in the first place. Now, at 46, I’m empty nesting and beginning to experience the vastness and wealth of solitude 😊. A new found freedom, joy and peace 🕊️ - a treasure found on the other side of the illusory curtain of fear of loneliness. A profound transformation that I’m grateful to be able to experience in this lifetime! Most of my friends and family don’t get this state of mind. They are still clinging and not realizing that it is this “clinging” to people places and things, that’s causing their suffering.
I married when I was 40. Before that I was alone a lot...travelled alone and livrd alone...you are right. I often miss driving through my sub continent of Southern Africa...by bike or by truck...all alone....meeting new people...finding new things...out there but also in one self
That sounds like a beautiful life! But there’s a lot to be said for sharing it with a partner. And you can always take a weekend for that treasured alone time. Thanks from watching and responding! I appreciate you.
Your titles attracted my attention, so I subscribed. I am 52 and love my alone time when I can get it. I am a introvert. And no animals don't count, animals are our best freinds, unconditionally. I reside in Texas and drive to Colorado once per year to camp for two weeks and trout fish in the mountains. Gives me alone time. I am a Merchant Marine and don't get much alone time on a ship, so I cherish it when I get it.
I have given up on people. I don't have the energy to filter through people to decide who I can trust. Most people want too much and give back nothing. Most people can not be trusted. I love being alone for a while, but i enjoy my husbands company because it's comfortable. It's not a lot of work and because i just generally like him.
Strangely it seems society projects this idea that if you are alone. Enjoy being alone. A loner. Then you’re stigmatized as being odd or not normal. I love my solitude. I find true peace in it.
Good point on the topic. Some personalities require (must have) silence, solitude, isolation who are strong introverts etc; of which brings much needed peace.
I lost my job this past April; so i decided to go spend time in Florida visiting my siblings and all their children. I went alone, no wife, no kids (they are grown but live with us). Something very scary happened: all my siblings were busy going about their lives, so I was basically alone for the vast majority of my trip.. here’s the scary part; I enjoyed that week more than any other week in my life (and we’ve traveled to many places as a family). But I enjoyed just being alone so much that it scared me to death. I find myself longing for more alone time, and not a day or two
I am inspired to take a weekend trip by myself after watching this. I am a 49 yr old divorcee with a married daughter. Went through a lot of trauma in my life
Being alone is awesome! I can go for workouts on my own, do things I like without explaining why, go see things I want to see, etc. While I am alone, I am not lonely. There is a big difference. I was married, yet I was lonely as she did not want to do anything. Road trip by myself next summer is on my agenda....
I agree 100%. I'm married with two kids but every Sunday morning, I spend 2-3 hours alone just walking around the neighborhood or just have breakfast by myself. And whenever we go on a vacation, I always wake up early and walk around the hotel by myself before everyone else wake up.
As an introvert, solitude is part of my craving. I get it. I feel guilty sometimes in not spending enough time with my kids. All of my past sexual partners, including the mother of my kids drove me nuts wanting me in their space 24/7.
I am 30 years old, I bought a house and I live alone. You are right, I have never experienced such productive self-understanding and spiritual growth in my life before. I feel harmony and satisfaction now. And most importantly, I began to choose more carefully who I could let into my life.
Your are never alone you have your friends and family always there for you. Just cause you don’t wake up to woman laying next you doesn’t mean your alone. I go where I want when I want, not being forced to got to parties I don’t want to attend and you can’t put a price tag on peace. I left a narc after 13 years 8 weeks ago and it was by far the best thing ever.
I've been exploring spending most of my time alone for sometime. Gonna enjoy the journey of treating myself, cutting off technology and enjoying the environment I'm in for sometime. Travel, Plan or learn things I want to learn.
True. All it takes is a very short period of time around people and I want to be alone again. Having a dog around isn't really being alone. They pay a ridiculous amount of attention to you.
@@TravisDoingLife My neighbor's dog comes by all the time. He definitely wants something when he shows up. Attention. I have a good amount to give, for a while. Then it would be nice to be alone. I can't send him away though because I care about how he feels. Same issue as with humans, heh, heh. If you don't already meditate I'm pretty sure you would benefit from the practice.
I live a short drive from a national park and it's nice to go hike the trails alone and as a railfan filming trains have met some people that have become good friends along the way
I found this it spoke to me. I have had problems of wanting to be alone but feeling guilty. I come from a big family, no kids never been married. My favorite hobby is reading not a group activity. I have always loved traveling alone. In 2017 I walked the Camino De Campestella had a great time met lots of people.
This was an interestingly timed video to pop up in my algorithm… I’m 46 and a new grandfather. Married since 19. I’m going through thinking about this kind of stuff pretty hard lately. I’m not old but I’m in the life position that most people experience when they’re older than I am. But, what does life look like for me now? I’m coming to the conclusion that I’m going to have to be my own best friend. And maybe that’s not such a bad thing if I embrace it.
It's important to be comfortable with being alone. We are social beings too. I find myself alone atm and it's nice to be distraction/obligation free to focus on the (me) things I haven't had time to address or have been avoiding.
I've needed and gotten tons of alone and quiet time my whole life. It's awesome. Preaching to the choir lol. Single woman. I'm more afraid of being with other humans even though I'm very friendly and personable. However, I'm now tired of being alone but it has to be someone I totally connect with. That's hard to find, but otherwise I'm not giving up my alone time. I'm 60. Likely will never happen lol. And that's ok. I'm wonderful and happy alone.
@@TravisDoingLifeThank you for the encouragement Travis. I'm a young 60. I have very long pretty hair and I always thought if I met someone he'd love my hair, but it's all getting whacked off the end of this month lol 😂 So I'm kind of getting into deeper resignation to the thought of the possibility, and sorta not. I know I need alone time in a relationship. I may be too far gone already haha!!! Nice channel. Thank you for what you do!
The older I get, the more alone time I need. I don’t mind a short chat with people in passing, but it’s mentally and emotionally draining most of the time. I think it’s good to have a few close friends, but even then we don’t talk or hang out real often. I crave being out in nature with just my dog.
Lived alone for 31years and mark it as probably the happiest I've ever been. Look back on marriage of the last 7years now as 'complicated' where my sanity is concerned at the moment. All sense of direction has gone.
I hope you can take the time and find yourself again, I think the balance between marriage and independence can be found. Thank you for watching, I hope to see you here again.
I go hill walking , mountain walking really as I have been to the top of 2000 foot mountains. The peace on top of a mountain, I could live there forever. You realise that madness exists on ground level.
There is being alone away from other humans but still having a dog friend and your earbuds in, and then there is alone with nothing but the screaming silence of nature where you can hear your own heart beating and breaths taken which to me is truly alone ;)
My only wife ran off with a friend 30 years ago.. I pumped and dumped manySince but never remarried thank goodness.. NEVER even came close to it... Best times of my life... I go where I want,when I want, do what I want, etc..... Its great...
Im 59 and after a 23yr span of 2 marriages and manyrelationships that were the same, dogs are best! If i found a woman that could monogamously be happy with herself and enjoy life together im 7:00 in but i believe that is just a dream at this point.
I have a service industry job I work 4 days a week and I play ball once a week. That's enough interaction for me. Other than that I keep to myself. I find peace in my solitude.
I live in the mountains of Montana and really enjoy it. And because I love looking at nature the trees the animals and everything none human. I am never alone. If I want to hike for many miles any time of the day or go out hiking around at night with a flashlight. Or do nothing at all I have nobody bothering me adking me to go to some place I do not want to go. Go visit people I could care less of seeing but acting like I am having a good time. It is not for everyone which is good because then if it was I would have neighbors all around me. And could not be alone even living in the mountains. 😊
@TravisDoingLife I have been to many places on this planet. Many different states and countries. But living in the mountains of Montana for me is the best. Not physically easy if the weather goes bad sometimes in the winter. But still would be rather trapped on a mountain with a nice wood stove going watching the deer and other animals that come and sit by my home out the window. Then shovel out a driveway in a city anytime with the lovely snowplow trucks giving that extra snow at the end of it. And watch and hearing all the cars. And definitely not a life to be with a wife complaining about every little thing driving me nuts and wishing she would shut up and go away and leave me alone.😱😊
I love being alone and do whatever I want with my time, without compromises. I'm never bored. People are disappointing and usually bring problems and drain energy. Animals/pets are much better company.
So true, getting older n older, I just feel that I need my me time on my own away from any crowds. I'm not married and will not get married. I just knew from the very beginning that I'm good at sharing with anybody. Maybe it's time that I set out my journey in alone time now.
@TravisDoingLife Yes, couldn't agree more. Being alone is ok, but feeling lonely is terrible. Yes I have several friends even though they live far away.
I notice that people who have access to others appreciate being alone. A question: What if you have no one? No family, no friends? Would you still feel the same way?
@@SighDown I was just thinking about this and maybe going on camera to talk about it. It’s a really thought provoking question. I think a circle of close friends is pretty important.
I almost was ready to move in with a girl over the summer and was bummed when it ended. Looking back i really dodged a bullet. I'm a diy speaker builder and have all my stereo equipment and speakers and I would have had to get rid of them because there was no room. Also I love to eat healthy and workout and she said why do you have to look perfect your not single and she eats like shit has no healthy food in her fridge. I would be so miserable giving up my own place after the honeymoon was over
This is coo! My dad is a stereo guy. My mom puts up with it 😆 Here’s video that was made about his collection: th-cam.com/video/7RcMTbNO2Ls/w-d-xo.html
@TravisDoingLife thanks man. I think she would have dealt with it eventually when we got a bigger place. But she was going through a divorce and there was a lot of red flags that I ignored at first
@TravisDoingLife I have friends from my sobriety group, and I have other friends spread out across the U.S.. There is no true love or emotion in my heart, so marriage won't be happening.
I’ve always needed to be alone-even when I was married and with a young family. Now I live alone and it feels completely natural. Of course I wish my landlords would permit cats, but other than an animal companion, it’s totally fine.
I guess we all have different versions of what alone is. There cool! And yeah, I definitely make silly videos sometimes. But they’re always from the heart. Always working on improving!
One thing i know is that I'm alone but sure don't feel alone i felt alone when i had girlfriend and her kid and then my freinds always giving my time to others no one was ever happy made me miserable.
That’s such a good point… being surrounded by the wrong people can be more alienating than being by yourself. Thanks the insight and for watching, I hope to see you back here!
Solitude is ADDICTIVE.
The peace, quiet, freedom, self growth productivity and complete anonymity that you will experience are very hard to let go of once you’ve known them.
It makes you see everything else differently.
I could spend weeks without seeing or talking to another human being and be completely content.
Love the vid.
I hear that! Thanks for watching and for taking the time to comment. Truly means a lot!
Agreed!
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As I grow older I have no interest in being around other people. Other people are toxic and bring their drama
Alone definitely has its perks!
Especially women
@EricDraven-qd9pu omg yes! It's hard to have women friends and I'm a woman.
I'm the same way now people drain me, and after work or weekends, It's my time no one else's.
Being alone for a while is dangerous. It’s addicting. Once you see how peaceful it is, you don’t want to deal with people anymore.”
- Tom hardy
@@zoraster3749 truth, my friend. Truth.
I went from the life of the party for all my adult life. At 57 I retired and have been in solitude since. I am very comfortable without others. Just my dog and I ❤
Not a bad life, my friend :)
My time alone in peace is priceless.
🙌🏼🙌🏼 yes!
Hey Travis. Great video. I’m 57, ER doctor, married, and this video really resonated with me. I have a good marriage of 22 yrs, but I absolutely love my alone time, or alone time with my dog. Alone time is what energizes me. I too have no problem sitting at a restaurant by myself when my wife is working. And I actually love going to movies by myself. I couldn’t care less what other people think about it. As the years pass, I just have less tolerance for people in general. When I am alone, I have space. I can breathe. I can decompress. Thanks for this video.
Thanks so much for watching it and taking the time to respond. I’m happy to hear you’ve found a good balance to take care of yourself. So important!
I responded to this with the wrong account. Oops! Thanks for watching, I appreciate you!
I agree have always felt guilty.
My best time is up in the mountains by myself or with my dog
Pure heaven
My best time is on my land, that is in the woods, or on the lake fishing, alone with my dog, so I understand exactly what you are saying
@ right on Brother
I thought it was just me who craves alone time, and have for years. Because I could not satisfy this primal need, I started feeling trapped - for the longest time.
I sure resonate with that! Glad to hear you’ve found time for yourself.
I responded with the wrong account. Oops! Thanks for watching.
Deep down I think I was always happiest being alone, but when I was younger getting with someone was what you did. After 40 years of marriage, my wife divorced me (long story) and have now been on my own for 3 years. No kids, no real friends. But, I have never been happier. There is something about self reliance, building confidence, learning how to look after one's self alone which has been something of a pleasant surprise. Freedom to do as I wish...when, where, how...and have only my self to answer to. I love my life now and living in the present. Thanks for your thoughts my friend.
@@jeff8ball so well said. Thanks for watching and for taking the time to tell part of your story. Grateful to “TH-cam meet” you 🙏🏼
Now I'm old. When I was younger from time to time I would feel lonely. And oddly those times didn't coincide with actually being alone. But as I got older I felt no longer invested in friendship. I don't have anything against it it's just a general lack of interest. I don't get lonely. Other people are annoying. Why are they always talking about nothing? And at the same time they have no listening skills. Give up on saying anything beyond two sentences they'll interrupt because it's a verbal competition. Loud mouths win. On the other hand there's my cats. They're the best. They're all fluffy and cute n stuff.
The difference between loneliness and being alone. Well said. 🙌🏼
Your video just popped up in my TH-cam feed. Thanks for relating your experiences and perspectives.
I am reminded of this quote: "All men's miseries derive from not being able to sit in a quiet room alone." - Blaise Pascal
So much truth to that! Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment, it means a lot.
I get Sooo much done, being on my own!
I have restored 2 motorcycles, a car and my pickup to like new condition.
Now working on the boat, that I used to race, but haven't run for years.
Getting ready for next race season!!!
Can't wait!!!
Wheeew! 🙌🏼🙌🏼
Thank you for this video! I LOVE being alone, I have learned to love my own company, my hobbies and creativity. ❤ I just subscribed
Thank you! You made my day ❤️
My fear of being alone led me to make choices that at times compromised my integrity. This inevitably led to resentment towards the very people and activities I engaged in to avoid loneliness in the first place.
Now, at 46, I’m empty nesting and beginning to experience the vastness and wealth of solitude 😊. A new found freedom, joy and peace 🕊️ - a treasure found on the other side of the illusory curtain of fear of loneliness. A profound transformation that I’m grateful to be able to experience in this lifetime!
Most of my friends and family don’t get this state of mind. They are still clinging and not realizing that it is this “clinging” to people places and things, that’s causing their suffering.
❤
So well said! Thank you for watching and for saying this.
I married when I was 40. Before that I was alone a lot...travelled alone and livrd alone...you are right. I often miss driving through my sub continent of Southern Africa...by bike or by truck...all alone....meeting new people...finding new things...out there but also in one self
That sounds like a beautiful life! But there’s a lot to be said for sharing it with a partner. And you can always take a weekend for that treasured alone time. Thanks from watching and responding! I appreciate you.
I am here in Jozi, southern africa is so gorgeous.
Your titles attracted my attention, so I subscribed. I am 52 and love my alone time when I can get it. I am a introvert. And no animals don't count, animals are our best freinds, unconditionally. I reside in Texas and drive to Colorado once per year to camp for two weeks and trout fish in the mountains. Gives me alone time. I am a Merchant Marine and don't get much alone time on a ship, so I cherish it when I get it.
This is great! Thank you for sharing 🙌🏼
I responded with the wrong account originally. Oops! Thanks for being here and for watching.
I have given up on people. I don't have the energy to filter through people to decide who I can trust. Most people want too much and give back nothing. Most people can not be trusted. I love being alone for a while, but i enjoy my husbands company because it's comfortable. It's not a lot of work and because i just generally like him.
Well, it’s definitely good to hear that you have a spouse you can trust and enjoy ❤️
Strangely it seems society projects this idea that if you are alone. Enjoy being alone. A loner. Then you’re stigmatized as being odd or not normal. I love my solitude. I find true peace in it.
@@McCarthy5054 happy to hear it. Me too! 🙌🏼
Good point on the topic. Some personalities require
(must have) silence, solitude, isolation who are strong introverts etc; of which brings much needed peace.
It does make me wonder how alone time feels for strong extroverts. Still beneficial I’d think. Thanks for watching and good insights 🙌🏼
I lost my job this past April; so i decided to go spend time in Florida visiting my siblings and all their children.
I went alone, no wife, no kids (they are grown but live with us). Something very scary happened: all my siblings were busy going about their lives, so I was basically alone for the vast majority of my trip.. here’s the scary part; I enjoyed that week more than any other week in my life (and we’ve traveled to many places as a family). But I enjoyed just being alone so much that it scared me to death. I find myself longing for more alone time, and not a day or two
Oh man… yeah that’s a profound experience. Profound. Thanks for sharing and I hope you’ll keep in touch.
I am inspired to take a weekend trip by myself after watching this. I am a 49 yr old divorcee with a married daughter. Went through a lot of trauma in my life
Take that trip, and let me know how it goes. Thanks for watching, I hope to see you here again.
I’ve always found people , especially being in a relationship very draining
Hoping you find some peace while alone! Sure feels good.
Being alone is awesome! I can go for workouts on my own, do things I like without explaining why, go see things I want to see, etc.
While I am alone, I am not lonely. There is a big difference. I was married, yet I was lonely as she did not want to do anything.
Road trip by myself next summer is on my agenda....
Yes! To go anywhere without explanation or guilt. That’s huge. Enjoy that road trip!
I agree with you, I had the same thing, we are not together anymore, thank god😂
I agree 100%. I'm married with two kids but every Sunday morning, I spend 2-3 hours alone just walking around the neighborhood or just have breakfast by myself. And whenever we go on a vacation, I always wake up early and walk around the hotel by myself before everyone else wake up.
That’s great. Sounds like a balance that’s working. Thank you for watching and I hope to see you here again!
As an introvert, solitude is part of my craving. I get it. I feel guilty sometimes in not spending enough time with my kids.
All of my past sexual partners, including the mother of my kids drove me nuts wanting me in their space 24/7.
Thanks for watching man, I appreciate it! Hope you’re able to find that balance and get the solitude occasionally.
This really resonated with me.
Thanks for sharing!
Thanks for taking the time to watch and comment! I appreciate you.
Great video. Solitude is bliss.
Thank you for watching! Hope to see you back :)
I am 30 years old, I bought a house and I live alone. You are right, I have never experienced such productive self-understanding and spiritual growth in my life before. I feel harmony and satisfaction now. And most importantly, I began to choose more carefully who I could let into my life.
That’s exactly right! How cool that you figured it out early in life too. Thanks for watching! 🙌🏼
Your are never alone you have your friends and family always there for you. Just cause you don’t wake up to woman laying next you doesn’t mean your alone. I go where I want when I want, not being forced to got to parties I don’t want to attend and you can’t put a price tag on peace. I left a narc after 13 years 8 weeks ago and it was by far the best thing ever.
So glad you found some peace! Thank you for watching 🙏🏼
I've been exploring spending most of my time alone for sometime. Gonna enjoy the journey of treating myself, cutting off technology and enjoying the environment I'm in for sometime. Travel, Plan or learn things I want to learn.
This is the way! 🙌🏼
This was a very helpful video, thank you very much for this new perspective.
I really appreciate you watching, thank you!
Ditto !
True. All it takes is a very short period of time around people and I want to be alone again. Having a dog around isn't really being alone. They pay a ridiculous amount of attention to you.
Agreed. It’s nice to get out without the dog for sure.
@@TravisDoingLife My neighbor's dog comes by all the time. He definitely wants something when he shows up. Attention. I have a good amount to give, for a while. Then it would be nice to be alone. I can't send him away though because I care about how he feels. Same issue as with humans, heh, heh.
If you don't already meditate I'm pretty sure you would benefit from the practice.
@ I need to be more consistent for sure in meditation.
"I get to be me" I was just thinking the exact same thing. Good luck. Enjoy your ME time. I'm enjoying mine for sure.👍
What a gift to ourselves when we figure that out. Have fun! 🙌🏼
I like your personality and point- new sub
Thanks for being part of this tribe, I’m really glad you’re here. 🙌🏼
I live a short drive from a national park and it's nice to go hike the trails alone and as a railfan filming trains have met some people that have become good friends along the way
I love to hear that! Thanks for watching and for sharing this. Have fun out there!
I'm 66 years old and divorced twice, being alone for a man is great, no angry women and enjoying nature , no drama !!!! 5:26
Yeah, I know what you mean, I hate female drama.
I’m a female that hates drama! lol! Alone is great!
Ha!
Great video! Thank you!
Thanks for watching! 🙌🏼
I'm alone whilst watching this video ..and I love it 😁
Yes! Thanks for watching, hope to see you again!
I love...love...love being with just ME...❤🥰❤
Yes! That’s a great place to be :)
Thanks for watching and I hope to see you here again!
I totally relate to your relationship woes, I’m three times divorced. Now I treasure my solitude over most other things. New subscriber. ❤
Thank you! I really appreciate you being here.
Thanks so much!
I found this it spoke to me. I have had problems of wanting to be alone but feeling guilty. I come from a big family, no kids never been married. My favorite hobby is reading not a group activity. I have always loved traveling alone. In 2017 I walked the Camino De Campestella had a great time met lots of people.
I hope you can get past the guilt, take alone time, and still meet family responsibilities. The constant balance! Thank you for watching 🙏🏼
This was an interestingly timed video to pop up in my algorithm… I’m 46 and a new grandfather. Married since 19. I’m going through thinking about this kind of stuff pretty hard lately. I’m not old but I’m in the life position that most people experience when they’re older than I am. But, what does life look like for me now? I’m coming to the conclusion that I’m going to have to be my own best friend. And maybe that’s not such a bad thing if I embrace it.
This is amazing. Thanks so much for watching. Always here to chat if needed! You’re embarking on an amazing part of life
I'm 61 alone, living in Australia, I plan to move to mexico. Alone. New life to explore things
This is amazing. Please provide updates!
That sounds like a great plan! A new chapter, a new adventure looms ahead for you. Jump in with both feet. Good luck!
It's important to be comfortable with being alone. We are social beings too. I find myself alone atm and it's nice to be distraction/obligation free to focus on the (me) things I haven't had time to address or have been avoiding.
So much truth in that statement. Wishing you all the best and thank you for watching
Subbed too! @@TravisDoingLife
@ thank you!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼 it really means a lot.
I've needed and gotten tons of alone and quiet time my whole life. It's awesome. Preaching to the choir lol. Single woman. I'm more afraid of being with other humans even though I'm very friendly and personable. However, I'm now tired of being alone but it has to be someone I totally connect with. That's hard to find, but otherwise I'm not giving up my alone time. I'm 60. Likely will never happen lol. And that's ok. I'm wonderful and happy alone.
It just might happen! I really believe people come into our lives as we need them. You’re still young, and I hope you find what your soul needs ❤️
@@TravisDoingLifeThank you for the encouragement Travis. I'm a young 60. I have very long pretty hair and I always thought if I met someone he'd love my hair, but it's all getting whacked off the end of this month lol 😂 So I'm kind of getting into deeper resignation to the thought of the possibility, and sorta not. I know I need alone time in a relationship. I may be too far gone already haha!!! Nice channel. Thank you for what you do!
@ I really appreciate you watching and taking the time to comment. Rooting for you!
The older I get, the more alone time I need. I don’t mind a short chat with people in passing, but it’s mentally and emotionally draining most of the time. I think it’s good to have a few close friends, but even then we don’t talk or hang out real often. I crave being out in nature with just my dog.
You get it! Exactly right. Have fun out there, and thank you for watching. I appreciate you 🙌🏼
Lived alone for 31years and mark it as probably the happiest I've ever been. Look back on marriage of the last 7years now as 'complicated' where my sanity is concerned at the moment. All sense of direction has gone.
I hope you can take the time and find yourself again, I think the balance between marriage and independence can be found. Thank you for watching, I hope to see you here again.
I’m never really alone when my faithful dog is by my side. ❤
Lots of truth there!
I go hill walking , mountain walking really as I have been to the top of 2000 foot mountains.
The peace on top of a mountain, I could live there forever.
You realise that madness exists on ground level.
When the mountains call…
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There is being alone away from other humans but still having a dog friend and your earbuds in, and then there is alone with nothing but the screaming silence of nature where you can hear your own heart beating and breaths taken which to me is truly alone ;)
Yes! That’s my usual kind of alone. My fave.
❤ being alone I have something to compare it to and chose being alone
Thank you for watching, hope to see you here again!
My only wife ran off with a friend 30 years ago.. I pumped and dumped manySince but never remarried thank goodness.. NEVER even came close to it... Best times of my life... I go where I want,when I want, do what I want, etc..... Its great...
Ultimate freedom! 🙌🏼
Great video Travis 🎉
Thank you for watching!
I am married but we give each other space to be ourselves.
So important! Gives me hope to hear this.
" Eating alone Is the best revenge " - Dr Mike Savage
I used to be so afraid of eating alone!
Im 59 and after a 23yr span of 2 marriages and manyrelationships that were the same, dogs are best! If i found a woman that could monogamously be happy with herself and enjoy life together im 7:00 in but i believe that is just a dream at this point.
I hope it happens for you! Thanks for watching, I hope to see you here again.
I have a service industry job I work 4 days a week and I play ball once a week. That's enough interaction for me. Other than that I keep to myself. I find peace in my solitude.
That sounds pretty nice to me. Glad to hear you have a balance that works. Thanks for watching and I hope to see you again soon!
Being alone not bad you will discover many things and will develop resilience and thicker skin generally also it brings peace to your life
Agreed! 🙌🏼
I live in the mountains of Montana and really enjoy it. And because I love looking at nature the trees the animals and everything none human. I am never alone. If I want to hike for many miles any time of the day or go out hiking around at night with a flashlight. Or do nothing at all I have nobody bothering me adking me to go to some place I do not want to go. Go visit people I could care less of seeing but acting like I am having a good time. It is not for everyone which is good because then if it was I would have neighbors all around me. And could not be alone even living in the mountains. 😊
Can I come visit? 😆
I love Montana!
@TravisDoingLife I have been to many places on this planet. Many different states and countries. But living in the mountains of Montana for me is the best. Not physically easy if the weather goes bad sometimes in the winter. But still would be rather trapped on a mountain with a nice wood stove going watching the deer and other animals that come and sit by my home out the window. Then shovel out a driveway in a city anytime with the lovely snowplow trucks giving that extra snow at the end of it. And watch and hearing all the cars. And definitely not a life to be with a wife complaining about every little thing driving me nuts and wishing she would shut up and go away and leave me alone.😱😊
I love being alone and do whatever I want with my time, without compromises. I'm never bored.
People are disappointing and usually bring problems and drain energy. Animals/pets are much better company.
It’s such a feed feeling to have that freedom 🙌🏼
So true, getting older n older, I just feel that I need my me time on my own away from any crowds. I'm not married and will not get married. I just knew from the very beginning that I'm good at sharing with anybody. Maybe it's time that I set out my journey in alone time now.
I understand completely. I do hope you have a few close people in your life. Being alone is beautiful, feeling lonely not so much
@TravisDoingLife Yes, couldn't agree more. Being alone is ok, but feeling lonely is terrible. Yes I have several friends even though they live far away.
@ always here if you want/need to chat
@@TravisDoingLife Thank you, Travis. It's very kind of you. And I enjoy watching your TH-cam videos. 🙏🙏🙏
@ thanks so much! Many more to come
I notice that people who have access to others appreciate being alone. A question: What if you have no one? No family, no friends? Would you still feel the same way?
@@SighDown I was just thinking about this and maybe going on camera to talk about it. It’s a really thought provoking question. I think a circle of close friends is pretty important.
I can’t wait to get home and hang with my dogs. We hike in the desert almost everyday and never see another human and it’s glorious
That’s a beautiful life! Thanks for watching and sharing.
Every season has a lesson
Truth
I love being alone, I've spent a lifetime of being the consummate leader of the pack and party. Done with it. Life continues either way.
Enjoy your you time, sounds like you’ve earned it 🙌🏼
I have a partner and when we have the days away from each other it's heaven, quiet, peaceful and stress free.
That’s great to hear. Might be the secret to a happy relationship!
@@TravisDoingLife Sure is, plus there's no cohabitation which makes it a plus as well.
While I’m listening I realized that I want to build and live in a mountain ❤
That’s a good life!
I am my own best company.
I feel this ❤️
I almost was ready to move in with a girl over the summer and was bummed when it ended. Looking back i really dodged a bullet. I'm a diy speaker builder and have all my stereo equipment and speakers and I would have had to get rid of them because there was no room. Also I love to eat healthy and workout and she said why do you have to look perfect your not single and she eats like shit has no healthy food in her fridge. I would be so miserable giving up my own place after the honeymoon was over
This is coo! My dad is a stereo guy. My mom puts up with it 😆
Here’s video that was made about his collection:
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@TravisDoingLife thanks man. I think she would have dealt with it eventually when we got a bigger place. But she was going through a divorce and there was a lot of red flags that I ignored at first
I have nothing to do with people if I truly don't have to.
Sometimes that’s good. I hope you have at least a small circle you can lean on when needed. Thanks for stopping by, I hope to see you here again.
@TravisDoingLife
I have friends from my sobriety group, and I have other friends spread out across the U.S..
There is no true love or emotion in my heart, so marriage won't be happening.
@ that’s great. Marriage is an outdated idea I think. Lots to talk about there.
I'm not the special one that's going to dodge divorce court. That boat has sailed, struck the iceberg, and went straight to the bottom.
@@sirg-had8821 I’m with you there my friend.
Hey, how is the David Gogging inspiration going?
Thanks for checking in on this. Really good! My “second voice” is getting louder. 💪🏼
Let's see...peace of mind or a mind in pieces
I choose peace of mind these days!
I love it
Thanks for taking the time to watch!
I’ve always needed to be alone-even when I was married and with a young family. Now I live alone and it feels completely natural. Of course I wish my landlords would permit cats, but other than an animal companion, it’s totally fine.
I’m so grateful for the little cat who lets me live with her 😆
@@TravisDoingLifeshe’s a very cute little friend! I hope your dog is cool with her! 😅
@@DanielleComesBack😂😂
I subbed to your channel!
❤
If you want a friend, get a dawg
Always good advice!
Do you like being a alone? Huffa huffa huffa huffa huffa huffa huffa huffa🐶😂
@@mauricioramirez9744 I know right 😆😆
what you describe is not being alone, alone. This is a silly video
I guess we all have different versions of what alone is. There cool! And yeah, I definitely make silly videos sometimes. But they’re always from the heart. Always working on improving!
@@TravisDoingLifeI like the video
@@TravisDoingLife I thought your video was great. Beautiful scenery, and you spoke from the heart. It definitely resonated with me.
Great vid; great points.
Welcome to the world of TH-cam negativity and critics 😉
Oh good somebody showed up to validate why I prefer being alone thank you.
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One thing i know is that I'm alone but sure don't feel alone i felt alone when i had girlfriend and her kid and then my freinds always giving my time to others no one was ever happy made me miserable.
That’s such a good point… being surrounded by the wrong people can be more alienating than being by yourself. Thanks the insight and for watching, I hope to see you back here!