It means the world to me that you shared this. Doing all the research was giving me analysis paralysis, but watching you just do it gave me the push to just do it too. I was so afraid to sleep train and upset my baby, but it turns out that she was crying WAY MORE when I was intervening than when she started sleep training. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing your first-hand experience with sleep training! I’ve read the books and all but it’s so much easier seeing it IRL. Always appreciate how genuine and authentic you are about sharing your life, hard to come by these days on TH-cam.
Hey babe! I just wanted to thank you, like whole heartedly! After watching this video and the following one I started sleep training that night. With in three nights we didn’t have to do any check ins for any sleeps! Thanks to you I knew exactly what to expect and felt like I knew what I was doing for once! This will be night 7 but we haven’t even had to follow the schedule as bub falls asleep with in 5 minutes anyway. You’re a godsend, so grateful. I’ll save this video for all my friends and my future babes! Sending love xx
Here for the same reason. Putting on a happy and confident face for my 2y and 5m old as we do both at the same time. Note: earlier in life is WAY easier. For everyone.
Thank you for this video. We just started ST our third child and let me tell you, the anxiety and guilt we parents experience each time we go through this doesn’t get easier! Despite refreshing my memory with research, watching your video answered so many other questions and gave me the validation that I’m doing what I believe is right and helping my child in the long run. You reminded me that each child is different and it will get worse before it gets better. I especially appreciated that you walked through the naps as that is something that I didn’t see much info on. You gave me the confidence and validation that I was desperately seeking at 2:30am last night. 😅 so grateful to have come across your channel. Thanks again and wish me luck! 🤞🏼
Amaris Luengas I was in the same boat as you guys! I decided to sleep train and it was the BEST DECISION EVER! She is now sleeping through the night and barely cries when I put her down. I’m still doing it but I highly recommend
Iska just posted a video talking about that! If yours is a newborn I highly suggest you watching it, she got help from a professional and her baby boy started sleeping through the night immediately!
I know how you feel. My daughter was a terrible sleeper! We tried sleep training her many times. At 11 months she finally would give it up and would fall asleep on her own! And now she's a amazing sleeper! So it will get easier! You got this mama 💪
Tonight was the first night I let my girl cry it out for 30 min she finally fell asleep. She just wouldn’t stay asleep in her crib when I put her down and I was so frustrated! Shes 6 months and I decided to try Ferber method tomorrow and this was the first video I watched. Thank you for the encouragement!
2 years on and still so relevant! My wife and I are just sleep training our 6 month old and this video has been such a comfort for us both, as well as informative!
Here rewatching this while doing this with my 10 month old tonight. I’m late to the game. I tried at 6 months and then gave up. It took 30 minutes but he is currently asleep in his crib. Hoping he stays down cause my nerves are shot!
@@kristin382 it worked in the sense that he will now go down to bed in his crib. But he doesn’t sleep through the night. He will stay in his crib until 1-2 am. Then I end up just bringing him in bed with me cause I need sleep!!
On a lighter note from sleep training... can we take a minute to appreciate how super cute Jackson's Star Wars crib sheets are everyone? 😍 They're so cool! Seriously though, thank you for posting this Kyla. We're in the same situation, so it's reassuring to see your videos and read the comments from other mums 👍
Thank you so much for posting this. It is really helpful to inspire me in sleep training my little one. It feels really scary to take this on, but you're making it feel manageable and it's a really helpful step-by-step guide
I'm doing sleep training with my 5 and a half month old daughter right now, by you doing this vlog at this specific time is perfect. I'm a first-time mama and this is definitely not the easiest but it is definitely the most rewarding keep being a great Mama Kayla ♥️ thank you again for this video! Continued luck with your sleep training 🙏💤
When your voice broke, I started crying 😭 I am with you girl! When I did this with my daughter it was so hard, but now she's sleeping through the night. Love you and your sweet family ❤️ hope y'all are doing well
Such a good video! Started the ferber method a week ago and we finally have our evenings and bedroom back. So thankful!! And the baby is much much much more happier and rested!
Mothers and babies are designed to be a mutually responsive dyad. Babies express their needs to the mother (or caregiver) through crying. Letting babies "cry it out" is a form of need-neglect that leads to many long-term effects. Consequences of the "cry it out" method include: It releases stress hormones, impairs self-regulation, and undermines trust. Yes the method will work but at what cost? Ever heard of GENTLE SLEEP COACHING, same results but without the tears.
Hey Kayla I'm a first time mom and i started watching your videos basically the second I found out I was pregnant. You have provided so much great insight on this whole mom thing and I really appreciate it, you've truly been a blessing. I've since given birth to a beautiful baby boy and you've inspired me to start my own TH-cam journey. Hopefully i can be a blessing for other people the way you have for me.
Your video gave me such comfort and confidence! After 3 days of this method, my 8 month old slept 7 hours straight!! I was so scared to try it at first and had so many questions. Your video was so helpful! Thank you so much❤️
You’re doing a great job! I work as a nanny for an almost 3 month old. I have done the Ferber method in the past and one thing that definitely helped was not allowing baby to get so frustrated that he isn’t able to settle down. After the first few minutes, I go in and place my hand on their chest and once I see that they are calm, I leave the room. I know it’s hard to hear your baby cry, this will allow them to learn how to self soothe, before you know it.. they’re sleeping without assistance! Another tip would be to start sleep training during the day - first nap Use a sleep sack-, zen sleep sack is great!
You’re a great mom girl!! Everyone needs that separation from their children at night! My daughter is six and a half months old and we started sleep training her after watching your videos about sleep training Riley 😁 good luck with Jackson and I’m looking forward to more of your videos!! ♥️
Idk why anyone would give you hate, your kids cannot sleep in your bed forever. That's not healthy for you, your husband, or the child. My niece slept in her parents' bed until she was six and then they finally tried making her sleep in her own bed. I can't even imagine not having that alone time with my husband for 6 years. You're doing the right thing for your kids and your family :)
I totally agree my oldest sister had all four kids sleep with her. The youngest was in her bed until he was 13 years old. Ugh I could not go that long.
How can you compare a 6 yo with a 6 mo? A baby needs his mother's warmth at night. It is a western thing to want a baby to sleep in their own room, it is not natural and goes against the baby's instincts.
My baby girl is 7 weeks old. I want to start sleep training so bad but she is still in our room. Thank you for being super honest about parenting. Love your channel.
My daughter does good with sleeping but she hates sleeping on her back all of a sudden. She now is a side and tummy sleeper. She tends to be more comfortable on her stomach and she sleeps longer on her tummy. She just turned 6 months. Good luck momma. You got this! ♥️
Thank you so much for sharing, I was watching your video while my baby cried for a whole hour until she fell asleep. Your video helped me not give up as I did yesterday when I heard her cry so bad my heart broke and I weakened and gave up. Today my baby and I did it, I got the first 3 and 5 then 4 more 5's and then 10 and 3 more 10's... She passed out after it. Thank youuuuuu
Was it after Dad's check in that he fell asleep? I'm curious, because, once I passed on sleep duty and checking in to my husband my daughter started falling asleep quicker... Once she saw I wasn't the one responding to her cries she surrendered to sleep...
I would suggest a sleep sack or wearable blanket! Like Zipadee-Zip. On their website it says that babies like it because they feel comfort when they feel can feel the edges. Idk I guess it imitates the womb but okay for older babies that can roll over. Worth a shot! My almost 4 month old wears the Love to Dream "Swaddle Up" since she didnt like being swaddled with her hands down anymore. She cries when I put her down but once i zip her up (and I do use pacifier) she goes right to sleep. She knows when she's wearing it that its time for sleep! I will transition her soon to the Zipadee-zip when she can roll over. Just a thought! It might help.. Love keeping up with you and your family!
Per a program I used and worked in 2 nights. feed before and after naps, every 2 hrs all day so they have all their calories by night. Feed before bath time, so their food won’t come up right before bed. Once they’re asleep, dream feed at 10:30 and then 3 am. Feeding them before they wake rather than waiting for them to cry is the trick. Then you wean off night feed but feeding a minute less everyday. *also* notice how your baby likes to sleep, on their belly? Side? Put them down that way*:( good luck mommies! 🙏🏽 they say the second is easiest and I just wonderrr lol
Hahaha when you said he doesn’t get tired of crying and he’s stubborn, you literally described my Benny 😂 I used these exact words talking to my husband about him yesterday.
Thank you for being so honest and transparent! this is going to be super useful for us. My babi just turn one and she sleeps so bad, she still wakes up every 2-3 hours
THANK YOU so much for making all these update videos/sleep training/ milestone updates. They're so helpful to me who has an almost 3month (on the 21st) and 2 yr old! Thank you for keeping it real about the struggles & tiredness so I dont feel alone & like I'm failing. This is life & it's real. It's hard but we love our babies & try our hardest. Your the best, hope your day goes great!!!
Thank you, thank you. I just start sleep training my 10 month even though it broke my heart but I definitely need to sleep to survive and to be a better mother.
I can’t relate with the night time sleep since my son is a great sleeper at night. But oh my gosh he does not nap. I feel your pain about not being able to get anything done!
Just want to mention that sometimes with full extinction, they stop way faster overall. I tried ferber at first, and she could go for literally hours because she was just reinvigorated every time I went in. When we tried full extinction, 20 minutes flat. Also worth mentioning that my baby would cry while being rocked to sleep as well, so we really weren't getting her to sleep cry free at any point in her life past newborn. But now that she's sleep trained, she only cries when she's overtired and only for a few minutes.
My two are adults, and I truly don’t remember how we got through sleep issues. I think those times were a fog of exhaustion! Take care of yourself, you’re an amazing mama.
Something that has helped us beat the early morning wake ups is to choose daily wake time and continue Ferber until that time comes. Ours is 7:00 and so if she wakes up before (which she doesn’t anymore) we would continue pop ins until 7:00 and then once it hits 7:00 we go in happy and ready to start the day. Also we do a dream feed at like 10:30 and it helps a lot.
Wow you are doing great...sleep is so important for your baby, and you. My son's pediatrician told me to give him a pacifier and small blanket so he knows it's bed time. Worked GREAT!
Lillian Epperson it’s crazy how they won’t sleep on their own flat lol. Like my baby haatesss that. But he loves to sleep like a little human with a blanket and a pillow. I’m like are you serious lol he likes to be so comfy. He can take hour naps that way. But only naps so I can watch him.. I know they aren’t supposed to sleep like that so I’m in the same room with him doing work. But just the blanket there he likes to mess with it until he falls asleep.
Whew, yeah I could NEVER do this with my daughter. I just could never listen to that devastating cry, ugh breaks my heart. You’re SUPER strong for being able to do this I would never and could never. Not for me, nope. Thankfully I LOVEEE bed sharing with my girl, she JUST turned 7 months old and I still nurse and I know they should be able and can go without nursing in the night but idk for me personally I love when she comfort nurses and snuggles next to me. I just genuinely enjoy her being right next to me💜
I co-sleep with my 5 month old at the moment and really love having her near me. Out of interest where does your baby nap in the day? I would like to put baby down for naps and co-sleep at night just wondering if this is possible. All naps in sling atm. Thanks!
H S hi there! :) I get what you mean completely!! For me what I did was for naps I slowly coordinated her eating schedule with naps. For example.. I would nurse her from 12:15-12:30pm and then in my bed I’d lay right next to her until she was sound out and then SLOWLY get off the bed. Of course I make sure there’s no way she can fall off the bed etc and then she naps there. It works well because she’s familiar with the bed and feeding her right before helps A TON!! I hope this helps a bit to get an idea of something to possibly try out! Good luck 💟
This video came in just in time. I have a 14 month soon to be 15 months and she's been in our bed since she was 9 or 11th months old. She doesn't sleep through the night she gets up to nurse but I know it's comfort nursing. When she was 5 months she was a great sleeper, she was in her own room sleeping through the night. When she hit 9 month she also hit regression and I'm not sure what happened. Well next week we are going to put her back in her room. I need sleep. I started to tear up when you put Jackson down for his nap. I know that cry and it pulls on the mommy's heart. Thanks again for the video. And best of luck. ❤❤❤
Thank you. So much. For making this video. My 5-month-old Jack sounds exactly like Jackson when it comes to sleeping. We're going to try sleep training and your detailed description of the whole process is going to help so much.
I would add a mobile or something on his crib so he had something to concentrate on other then your absence. I would also look into the wub inub (spelling), even though he may not have liked a pacifier in the past. It gives weight and something for his hands to hold as well. Just thinking out loud
With my daughter we didn’t sleep train until 14 months and it was the best decision we ever made and I wish we did it sooner!! Up until that point she was still nursing through the night and waking up multiple times 😴 Best of luck with Jackson’s sleep journey, seems like he’s off to a great start!
My daughter is 14 months old also and sleep training starts this week. I've had her with me 24/7 even all her naps are with me the past few months. So that hasn't given my husband and I alone time. He says we may need to renew our vows 😂
ashley Noff Sleep training definitely helped out marriage so much! Good luck with the sleep training. It’ll be hard at first but I promise it gets easier. You got this momma 💪🏻
Lord I’m dreading this!!! My baby calls for me in her own little way! When she sees me she smiles! I can’t imagine hearing her call me and not going in! I’m exhausted but I’m her mommy and I just can’t bring myself to leave her all alone to cry. I want to sleep train her when she’s 4 1/2 months old but I don’t think I can! 😭
Don't be embarrassed about the nursery mess.... That's real life, Mama... I've watched so many videos where nurseries looked perfect, but wished they would have showed more of the process to share how real and acceptable it is to just get done what you can as you... It's a wonderful room!
I'm so grateful to you...when I was pregnant with my baby I was watching your videos saw how hard it is with Jackson..my son is 4 and half months old...he uses to a decent sleeper until he was 2 and half months old and I had to nurse him to sleep..every time he wakes up until couple of days ago I started gentle sleep training 🙏 we're still not there but we're making progress thank you so much for these detailed videos...😘😘😘 I learned so much from you..
On our first born we bought a bigger crib and decorated his room and everything but on our second baby we have a smaller crib inside our bedroom that way when he wakes up we can hear him.
It’s ok to not sleep train. You can keep your baby happy and comfortable at night instead, that will bring baby confidence in your love and a sense of safety that will lead to more confidence and true independence that is based on love, not separation or stress. Check out “breastsleeping” by Dr. McKenna.
My daughter is exactly like Jackson and we are just starting to sleep train her. So I love watching these videos at this time because I relate to it so much.
This is me at them moment. Pack n play, CO sleep, 30 min naps , up all night for feedings. I tried but I start bawling as aoon as he gets into second gear cries.
My daughter would cry until she throws up and that even when I nurse her to sleep and she sleeps in bed with me. That's why I haven't been able to do any sleep training.
You're doing great! I'm patiently impatiently waiting to start this with my son. Also. How fking rude of some of these people to make it seem like your a bad mom for wanting your privacy. There's NOTHING wrong with that. Love these videos. All videos!
Our girl didn't take a pacifier for her first 5 months, we tried again with sleep training and it's been a lifesaver especially when eliminating comfort nursing.
My heart goes out to you💔 I'll be keeping your family and other families struggling with this in prayer. 🙏 By all accounts, I've had an excellent 1st baby, and still I am completely amazed by all parents having more than one and have so much more respect for them now.❤
I just started this with my son tonight! He’s almost 10 months old and hasn’t went to sleep on his own at all or slept all night. However, he cried and I went in at 3 minutes, cried and I went back in at 5 minutes.....I DIDN’T HAVE TO GO IN ANYMORE AFTER THAT! He went to sleep on his own before the 10 minutes. We’ll see how it goes throughout the night!
Hey! I am new here , but i love your video, is so realistic . All the video i see on yt about sleep training is sf, the child on the second night is sleeping all night🤨 no struggling , nothing! But i love how u show us everything , how hard is for u , for baby , and how u admit that de baby dont sleep yet all night but its ok. Good job! I follow your video for sleep training for my baby ! 😘🤗
I haven’t started sleep training my little guy yet very close to it but I remember seeing another video where she suggested that you have a family member or friend or partner someone you can rely on at anytime during the night cause basically if you’re really struggling sleep training you ring up the person and they can help you through it or even come over or stay with you while you do it as it is incredibly hard by yourself so having someone you can talk to can help a huge amount
Hi Kayla plz answer as soon as u can. Is that a jumperoo jackson is in or an activity center. Plz list the one u have. I want to see if I need both ( the skip hop activity center & fisher price jumperoo).thanks alot ur amazing. When u delivered b4 me I thought I wld be left behind but ur taking me right along with u & helping me. 💕💕💕Am a first time mom😂😂
Watching as I do some sleep training as well. Love every single video of yours Kayla 💕 whether they are 10 minutes long or almost an hour long, I’m watching it all 🤣
Tonight is going to be my first night doing this with my 5 month old. Your videos have being so helpful! My baby boy doesn’t even co sleep well and wakes up every 30 minutes so he desperately needs to learn how to sleep. I’m so anxious but I know this is going to be right for him
Have you thought about getting him a slumberkin? I have been following your journey since our boys are 2 months apart. We had similiar sleep issues at first. Mine did amazing in his dock a tot and his slumberkin.
We sleep trained my daughter at 4 months old. We started with the Ferber method but ended up using extinction because she would just cry harder and harder after check-ins. Took about 3 nights (and I cried almost the whole time she cried!), but it was so worth it in the end. We did also get her a lovey because she wouldn't take a pacifier either, but she is also a thumb sucker which helped immensely.
Yea Jackson won’t suck his thumb so I’m thinking of introducing a lovey here soon. But I’m glad your little one finally slept! It’s so amazing once they do 🙌🏼💕
Thank you so much for posting this! I have been doing a lot of research on sleep training (because it has been over 6 years since I have had to sleep train!) Know that you are helping so many mothers by posting this (even though it is hard!)
Your videos are extremely helpful! I’m a stay at home dad and I’m sleep training our 5 month old. I have a question though… we also use the Huckleberry app for tracking sleep. Our boy wakes up in the middle of the night a few times still. Do I stop the sleep and then start a new one when he falls back asleep or just keep it going? He’s up for about 20 minutes each time. Thanks!
Sleep training for the first time (day 2) with my 5-month old. I cant stop crying...it feels like he is gettng worse and worse...he's only had one 30-min nap today. I just feel like im torturing him but I dont wanna mess up the process. Ugh....event he "gentle" sleep training approaches make your baby cry.
Thank you for this honest video. I have tried to sleep train my 4-month-old last week and gave up after 5 minutes, I was ready to cry with her. But you gave me the support I needed. Thank you, thank you!! Wish me luck
Thank you for your vid I'm just researching about the furber method just done the first night with our 6 month old boy, not gonna lie it's super hard to hear your little one crying so much, but good to know it's not just us going through the hardship
I kind of did a modified version of Ferber with my daughter. Going by what you did with Riley. The first 3 days or so, I'd do the check ins like I was supposed to but like you said, the check ins just pissed her off even more, so from that point on, we did complete extinction and only ever go in if she was ever crying to the point where she sounded like she couldn't catch her breath or if she was standing in her crib, we'd go and lay her back down. And it worked by night 5! And she has slept through the night since! And I totally agree with you. Complete extinction is HARD. You guys got this! Hang in there, mama! 💗
Looking to try the Ferber method soon because I'm in the same boat! He always comes into our bed at some point in the night because he won't sleep for long on his own in the bassinet. He will wake up screaming bloody murder sometimes so I don't know how it's going to go.... 😬 Not sure if he's started teething so that doesn't help but we ALL need sleep! This is very encouraging.
I did CIO with my LO at 6 months and she has slept 11 1/2 hours at night since then and she is now 2. The best thing I ever did for all of us. Pregnant with number 2 and I will not hesitate to do it again if I need to. Don’t listen to the negative comments, do what you want/feel what’s right for your family. I don’t judge anyone that doesn’t sleep train so I don’t except being judged for my decisions. ❤️❤️❤️
Great video! We co sleep with our 18 month old. He sleeps in his crib for his naps, he puts himself to sleep. However night time is much different lol We've tried to sleep train at night but it breaks my heart to hear him cry 😔 Hes also teething right now, the last molars are coming in. So we are going to commit to sleep training once hes done teething. When hes not teething hes a great sleeper but I know it's time for him to sleep in his room. My husband & I need our room back 😔
Thank you for posting! Yes sleep training can be very emotional for parents to go through. I had a hard time imagining not co sleeping with my 1st baby. But sleep training really helped her sleeping and gave some great sleeping skills.
Stay strong mumma!! My twin boys gave me absolute hell when it came to sleep. My baby girl is 3 months and she already has a bedtime routine. Hopefully I can stay strong too!
Have you considered giving him a lovey? My baby boy won’t take a pacifier either but we give his one of the Aden and Anais security blankets and that seems to comfort him and they’re thin and small enough that I feel safe. Just an idea! Go Jackson, good job buddy
I’m watching this and just start balling my eyes out at 6:30 ….. thank you I hope this helps me tonight I’m loosing my mind, my son just turned 1 and we are on the same page as this. ❤
No hate momma, I’m doing this myself, I tried making the nursery the comfiest I possibly could for the lo. Even putting similar things or smells from my room in there too. I feel for you. My lo does this exactly! 😭
I’m starting to sleep train my 9 month old, he’s never slept in his crib/cot since birth after suffering with reflux and finding it uncomfortable on his back. I’m so worried the bond with him and trust he has in me will affect him. Did you have any long term effects? If they wet their nappy I change and then start the process again from the start? Thank you for this video ❤
I am a first time mom and my son is 4.5 months old and sleeping in our room. We will be starting sleep training in a month. Excited and nervous! Thanks for sharing! I feel like he will be terrible at it lol. He is still being swaddled and I am so scared to not swaddle him, it’s been a life saver so far!
It means the world to me that you shared this. Doing all the research was giving me analysis paralysis, but watching you just do it gave me the push to just do it too. I was so afraid to sleep train and upset my baby, but it turns out that she was crying WAY MORE when I was intervening than when she started sleep training. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing your first-hand experience with sleep training! I’ve read the books and all but it’s so much easier seeing it IRL. Always appreciate how genuine and authentic you are about sharing your life, hard to come by these days on TH-cam.
Hey babe! I just wanted to thank you, like whole heartedly! After watching this video and the following one I started sleep training that night. With in three nights we didn’t have to do any check ins for any sleeps! Thanks to you I knew exactly what to expect and felt like I knew what I was doing for once! This will be night 7 but we haven’t even had to follow the schedule as bub falls asleep with in 5 minutes anyway. You’re a godsend, so grateful. I’ll save this video for all my friends and my future babes! Sending love xx
Crying rn as I’m sleep training and watching this video for support.
Here for the same reason. Putting on a happy and confident face for my 2y and 5m old as we do both at the same time.
Note: earlier in life is WAY easier. For everyone.
Thank you for this video. We just started ST our third child and let me tell you, the anxiety and guilt we parents experience each time we go through this doesn’t get easier!
Despite refreshing my memory with research, watching your video answered so many other questions and gave me the validation that I’m doing what I believe is right and helping my child in the long run. You reminded me that each child is different and it will get worse before it gets better.
I especially appreciated that you walked through the naps as that is something that I didn’t see much info on. You gave me the confidence and validation that I was desperately seeking at 2:30am last night. 😅 so grateful to have come across your channel. Thanks again and wish me luck! 🤞🏼
I’m a first time mom and my babygirl is a horrible sleeper...seriously finding your channel has been the best thing ever!!!!!🥰❣️
Same her girl
Same here my baby boy is 5 month thinking of starting sleep training after his 6 month check up
Amaris Luengas I was in the same boat as you guys! I decided to sleep train and it was the BEST DECISION EVER! She is now sleeping through the night and barely cries when I put her down. I’m still doing it but I highly recommend
Iska just posted a video talking about that! If yours is a newborn I highly suggest you watching it, she got help from a professional and her baby boy started sleeping through the night immediately!
I know how you feel. My daughter was a terrible sleeper! We tried sleep training her many times. At 11 months she finally would give it up and would fall asleep on her own! And now she's a amazing sleeper! So it will get easier! You got this mama 💪
Tonight was the first night I let my girl cry it out for 30 min she finally fell asleep. She just wouldn’t stay asleep in her crib when I put her down and I was so frustrated! Shes 6 months and I decided to try Ferber method tomorrow and this was the first video I watched. Thank you for the encouragement!
2 years on and still so relevant! My wife and I are just sleep training our 6 month old and this video has been such a comfort for us both, as well as informative!
Here rewatching this while doing this with my 10 month old tonight. I’m late to the game. I tried at 6 months and then gave up. It took 30 minutes but he is currently asleep in his crib. Hoping he stays down cause my nerves are shot!
How did it work for you? My 9 month old needs to be sleep trained too.
@@kristin382 it worked in the sense that he will now go down to bed in his crib. But he doesn’t sleep through the night. He will stay in his crib until 1-2 am. Then I end up just bringing him in bed with me cause I need sleep!!
@@aprilsummers9930 So you keep rewarding the behavior that you want to stop. Why should he ever change? Good luck with that!
@@lessehead luckily I don’t need your validation that I am doing what is right for myself and my son.
@@aprilsummers9930 Happy sleeping!
On a lighter note from sleep training... can we take a minute to appreciate how super cute Jackson's Star Wars crib sheets are everyone? 😍 They're so cool!
Seriously though, thank you for posting this Kyla. We're in the same situation, so it's reassuring to see your videos and read the comments from other mums 👍
Thank you so much for posting this. It is really helpful to inspire me in sleep training my little one. It feels really scary to take this on, but you're making it feel manageable and it's a really helpful step-by-step guide
I'm doing sleep training with my 5 and a half month old daughter right now, by you doing this vlog at this specific time is perfect. I'm a first-time mama and this is definitely not the easiest but it is definitely the most rewarding keep being a great Mama Kayla ♥️ thank you again for this video! Continued luck with your sleep training 🙏💤
When your voice broke, I started crying 😭 I am with you girl! When I did this with my daughter it was so hard, but now she's sleeping through the night. Love you and your sweet family ❤️ hope y'all are doing well
Such a good video! Started the ferber method a week ago and we finally have our evenings and bedroom back. So thankful!! And the baby is much much much more happier and rested!
This method was actually proven to be emotionally damaging to the baby as an adult
@@nazekb3756 no it hasn’t
@@nazekb3756 mmm yeah that’s inaccurate
Mothers and babies are designed to be a mutually responsive dyad. Babies express their needs to the mother (or caregiver) through crying.
Letting babies "cry it out" is a form of need-neglect that leads to many long-term effects.
Consequences of the "cry it out" method include: It releases stress hormones, impairs self-regulation, and undermines trust.
Yes the method will work but at what cost?
Ever heard of GENTLE SLEEP COACHING, same results but without the tears.
How is the naps now a day?
Hey Kayla I'm a first time mom and i started watching your videos basically the second I found out I was pregnant. You have provided so much great insight on this whole mom thing and I really appreciate it, you've truly been a blessing. I've since given birth to a beautiful baby boy and you've inspired me to start my own TH-cam journey. Hopefully i can be a blessing for other people the way you have for me.
blessings to you and your child
Your video gave me such comfort and confidence! After 3 days of this method, my 8 month old slept 7 hours straight!! I was so scared to try it at first and had so many questions. Your video was so helpful! Thank you so much❤️
You’re doing a great job!
I work as a nanny for an almost 3 month old. I have done the Ferber method in the past and one thing that definitely helped was not allowing baby to get so frustrated that he isn’t able to settle down. After the first few minutes, I go in and place my hand on their chest and once I see that they are calm, I leave the room. I know it’s hard to hear your baby cry, this will allow them to learn how to self soothe, before you know it.. they’re sleeping without assistance!
Another tip would be to start sleep training during the day - first nap
Use a sleep sack-, zen sleep sack is great!
Would you train them if they are swaddled??
@@cuteloverlol568 you can definitely train them if they are swaddled but I think it’s easier to transition to a sleep sack and train at the same time
You’re a great mom girl!! Everyone needs that separation from their children at night! My daughter is six and a half months old and we started sleep training her after watching your videos about sleep training Riley 😁 good luck with Jackson and I’m looking forward to more of your videos!! ♥️
Idk why anyone would give you hate, your kids cannot sleep in your bed forever. That's not healthy for you, your husband, or the child. My niece slept in her parents' bed until she was six and then they finally tried making her sleep in her own bed. I can't even imagine not having that alone time with my husband for 6 years.
You're doing the right thing for your kids and your family :)
I totally agree my oldest sister had all four kids sleep with her. The youngest was in her bed until he was 13 years old. Ugh I could not go that long.
How can you compare a 6 yo with a 6 mo? A baby needs his mother's warmth at night. It is a western thing to want a baby to sleep in their own room, it is not natural and goes against the baby's instincts.
Yes my 2nd son was very stubborn! Separation anxiety was his issue but as soon as I put music on...it was lights out!
My baby girl is 7 weeks old. I want to start sleep training so bad but she is still in our room. Thank you for being super honest about parenting. Love your channel.
I hope u didn’t try to sleep train that poor child at 7 weeks omg???
My daughter does good with sleeping but she hates sleeping on her back all of a sudden. She now is a side and tummy sleeper. She tends to be more comfortable on her stomach and she sleeps longer on her tummy. She just turned 6 months. Good luck momma. You got this! ♥️
Thank you so much for sharing, I was watching your video while my baby cried for a whole hour until she fell asleep. Your video helped me not give up as I did yesterday when I heard her cry so bad my heart broke and I weakened and gave up. Today my baby and I did it, I got the first 3 and 5 then 4 more 5's and then 10 and 3 more 10's... She passed out after it. Thank youuuuuu
Was it after Dad's check in that he fell asleep? I'm curious, because, once I passed on sleep duty and checking in to my husband my daughter started falling asleep quicker... Once she saw I wasn't the one responding to her cries she surrendered to sleep...
I would suggest a sleep sack or wearable blanket! Like Zipadee-Zip. On their website it says that babies like it because they feel comfort when they feel can feel the edges. Idk I guess it imitates the womb but okay for older babies that can roll over. Worth a shot! My almost 4 month old wears the Love to Dream "Swaddle Up" since she didnt like being swaddled with her hands down anymore. She cries when I put her down but once i zip her up (and I do use pacifier) she goes right to sleep. She knows when she's wearing it that its time for sleep! I will transition her soon to the Zipadee-zip when she can roll over. Just a thought! It might help.. Love keeping up with you and your family!
Per a program I used and worked in 2 nights. feed before and after naps, every 2 hrs all day so they have all their calories by night. Feed before bath time, so their food won’t come up right before bed. Once they’re asleep, dream feed at 10:30 and then 3 am. Feeding them before they wake rather than waiting for them to cry is the trick. Then you wean off night feed but feeding a minute less everyday. *also* notice how your baby likes to sleep, on their belly? Side? Put them down that way*:( good luck mommies! 🙏🏽 they say the second is easiest and I just wonderrr lol
Jackson looks so cute staring at the camera after his first nap. You are absolutely right it’s not their fault, it’s a learning process for them.
I legit checked three times this morning for this video, was so excited
Hahaha when you said he doesn’t get tired of crying and he’s stubborn, you literally described my Benny 😂 I used these exact words talking to my husband about him yesterday.
Thank you for being so honest and transparent! this is going to be super useful for us. My babi just turn one and she sleeps so bad, she still wakes up every 2-3 hours
When it feels like you will loose your mind if you don’t get a nights sleep THEN you are ready for sleeptraining:) WELL DONE, Kayla👍🏻
Thanks for keeping it real about how hard this can be.
THANK YOU so much for making all these update videos/sleep training/ milestone updates. They're so helpful to me who has an almost 3month (on the 21st) and 2 yr old! Thank you for keeping it real about the struggles & tiredness so I dont feel alone & like I'm failing. This is life & it's real. It's hard but we love our babies & try our hardest. Your the best, hope your day goes great!!!
Ok but on a side note even Jacksons cry is adorable !! This baby melts me 💞
Thank you, thank you. I just start sleep training my 10 month even though it broke my heart but I definitely need to sleep to survive and to be a better mother.
wonder whos heart broke more. your childs.
Hey how did it go? My baby is 8 months and imma start soon!
@@samanthadawson1490 do you have experience about your baby cry 10000times a night , and you and your baby can Not have a good sleep every night?
Absolutely! You need to take care of yourself to best take care of your baby
I can’t relate with the night time sleep since my son is a great sleeper at night. But oh my gosh he does not nap. I feel your pain about not being able to get anything done!
Just want to mention that sometimes with full extinction, they stop way faster overall. I tried ferber at first, and she could go for literally hours because she was just reinvigorated every time I went in. When we tried full extinction, 20 minutes flat. Also worth mentioning that my baby would cry while being rocked to sleep as well, so we really weren't getting her to sleep cry free at any point in her life past newborn. But now that she's sleep trained, she only cries when she's overtired and only for a few minutes.
Girl your hair looks so good in a bun! You pull off the 'no sleep' look astonishingly well! Gorgeous
Hahaha thank you! You made my day ❤️
My two are adults, and I truly don’t remember how we got through sleep issues. I think those times were a fog of exhaustion! Take care of yourself, you’re an amazing mama.
Thank you so much Terri! I really appreciate it! Of the fog of exhaustion is real lol we won’t remember any of this in a few years lol
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Something that has helped us beat the early morning wake ups is to choose daily wake time and continue Ferber until that time comes. Ours is 7:00 and so if she wakes up before (which she doesn’t anymore) we would continue pop ins until 7:00 and then once it hits 7:00 we go in happy and ready to start the day. Also we do a dream feed at like 10:30 and it helps a lot.
This is exactly what I needed to see! We are going through the same thing right now and this was so informative!
Wow you are doing great...sleep is so important for your baby, and you. My son's pediatrician told me to give him a pacifier and small blanket so he knows it's bed time. Worked GREAT!
Lillian Epperson it’s crazy how they won’t sleep on their own flat lol. Like my baby haatesss that. But he loves to sleep like a little human with a blanket and a pillow. I’m like are you serious lol he likes to be so comfy. He can take hour naps that way. But only naps so I can watch him.. I know they aren’t supposed to sleep like that so I’m in the same room with him doing work. But just the blanket there he likes to mess with it until he falls asleep.
😁exactly!!!
Having cherish cry herself to sleep is the most painfullest thing I've ever had to do. I'm crying my eyes out as I watch this
This was really helpful and encouraging, since we are starting to sleep train our 5 month old!
Whew, yeah I could NEVER do this with my daughter. I just could never listen to that devastating cry, ugh breaks my heart. You’re SUPER strong for being able to do this I would never and could never. Not for me, nope. Thankfully I LOVEEE bed sharing with my girl, she JUST turned 7 months old and I still nurse and I know they should be able and can go without nursing in the night but idk for me personally I love when she comfort nurses and snuggles next to me. I just genuinely enjoy her being right next to me💜
I co-sleep with my 5 month old at the moment and really love having her near me. Out of interest where does your baby nap in the day? I would like to put baby down for naps and co-sleep at night just wondering if this is possible. All naps in sling atm. Thanks!
H S hi there! :) I get what you mean completely!! For me what I did was for naps I slowly coordinated her eating schedule with naps. For example.. I would nurse her from 12:15-12:30pm and then in my bed I’d lay right next to her until she was sound out and then SLOWLY get off the bed. Of course I make sure there’s no way she can fall off the bed etc and then she naps there. It works well because she’s familiar with the bed and feeding her right before helps A TON!! I hope this helps a bit to get an idea of something to possibly try out! Good luck 💟
Its not being strong, its being lazy
This video came in just in time. I have a 14 month soon to be 15 months and she's been in our bed since she was 9 or 11th months old. She doesn't sleep through the night she gets up to nurse but I know it's comfort nursing. When she was 5 months she was a great sleeper, she was in her own room sleeping through the night. When she hit 9 month she also hit regression and I'm not sure what happened. Well next week we are going to put her back in her room. I need sleep. I started to tear up when you put Jackson down for his nap. I know that cry and it pulls on the mommy's heart. Thanks again for the video. And best of luck. ❤❤❤
Thank you. So much. For making this video. My 5-month-old Jack sounds exactly like Jackson when it comes to sleeping. We're going to try sleep training and your detailed description of the whole process is going to help so much.
I really would use a sleepsack and a breathable cloth. It gives them a lot of comfort.
This was super helpful! My son is almost 3 months old and even though he naps on his own, he sleeps with us overnight.
I would add a mobile or something on his crib so he had something to concentrate on other then your absence. I would also look into the wub inub (spelling), even though he may not have liked a pacifier in the past. It gives weight and something for his hands to hold as well. Just thinking out loud
With my daughter we didn’t sleep train until 14 months and it was the best decision we ever made and I wish we did it sooner!! Up until that point she was still nursing through the night and waking up multiple times 😴 Best of luck with Jackson’s sleep journey, seems like he’s off to a great start!
My daughter is 14 months old also and sleep training starts this week. I've had her with me 24/7 even all her naps are with me the past few months. So that hasn't given my husband and I alone time. He says we may need to renew our vows 😂
ashley Noff Sleep training definitely helped out marriage so much! Good luck with the sleep training. It’ll be hard at first but I promise it gets easier. You got this momma 💪🏻
Thank you Jess
Lord I’m dreading this!!! My baby calls for me in her own little way! When she sees me she smiles! I can’t imagine hearing her call me and not going in! I’m exhausted but I’m her mommy and I just can’t bring myself to leave her all alone to cry. I want to sleep train her when she’s 4 1/2 months old but I don’t think I can! 😭
Don't be embarrassed about the nursery mess.... That's real life, Mama... I've watched so many videos where nurseries looked perfect, but wished they would have showed more of the process to share how real and acceptable it is to just get done what you can as you... It's a wonderful room!
Omg i cried when you cried. Thank you for the video ❤️ you have a new subscriber now
I'm so grateful to you...when I was pregnant with my baby I was watching your videos saw how hard it is with Jackson..my son is 4 and half months old...he uses to a decent sleeper until he was 2 and half months old and I had to nurse him to sleep..every time he wakes up until couple of days ago I started gentle sleep training 🙏 we're still not there but we're making progress thank you so much for these detailed videos...😘😘😘 I learned so much from you..
I’m crying thinking of having to hear my bby cry when I do this🥺
You don't have to do it, there are other methods or you can continue co-sleeping, what ever makes you and baby happy
You ABSOLUTELY DO NOT have to sleep train. I personally would never and I do not! My baby and I cosleep 🤍
On our first born we bought a bigger crib and decorated his room and everything but on our second baby we have a smaller crib inside our bedroom that way when he wakes up we can hear him.
It’s ok to not sleep train. You can keep your baby happy and comfortable at night instead, that will bring baby confidence in your love and a sense of safety that will lead to more confidence and true independence that is based on love, not separation or stress. Check out “breastsleeping” by Dr. McKenna.
It’s hard mama but I promise it is worth it! It only takes a week if you do it right
I used your videos to help with baby #1 getting ready to Ferber baby #2… thank you for the videos
My daughter is exactly like Jackson and we are just starting to sleep train her. So I love watching these videos at this time because I relate to it so much.
This is me at them moment. Pack n play, CO sleep, 30 min naps , up all night for feedings. I tried but I start bawling as aoon as he gets into second gear cries.
My daughter would cry until she throws up and that even when I nurse her to sleep and she sleeps in bed with me. That's why I haven't been able to do any sleep training.
Desperately sleep deprived with my 4 month old. Thank you
You're doing great!
I'm patiently impatiently waiting to start this with my son.
Also. How fking rude of some of these people to make it seem like your a bad mom for wanting your privacy. There's NOTHING wrong with that. Love these videos. All videos!
Our girl didn't take a pacifier for her first 5 months, we tried again with sleep training and it's been a lifesaver especially when eliminating comfort nursing.
My girl is a HUGE comfort nurser. She refuses a pacifier it makes her mad 😭 shes 2 months
Also all the momma's are doing a great job, every babe is different and parents are too! Keep it up, you got this.
@@alexislankford3422 be happy. That’s called a healthy baby and a healthy attachment.
My heart goes out to you💔 I'll be keeping your family and other families struggling with this in prayer. 🙏 By all accounts, I've had an excellent 1st baby, and still I am completely amazed by all parents having more than one and have so much more respect for them now.❤
I just started this with my son tonight! He’s almost 10 months old and hasn’t went to sleep on his own at all or slept all night. However, he cried and I went in at 3 minutes, cried and I went back in at 5 minutes.....I DIDN’T HAVE TO GO IN ANYMORE AFTER THAT! He went to sleep on his own before the 10 minutes. We’ll see how it goes throughout the night!
I just tried to do this but my husband said no more after 3 mins..😩 my son is 11 months 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
@@chas745 ahh you gotta give it time tell him lol
Hey! I am new here , but i love your video, is so realistic . All the video i see on yt about sleep training is sf, the child on the second night is sleeping all night🤨 no struggling , nothing! But i love how u show us everything , how hard is for u , for baby , and how u admit that de baby dont sleep yet all night but its ok. Good job! I follow your video for sleep training for my baby ! 😘🤗
I haven’t started sleep training my little guy yet very close to it but I remember seeing another video where she suggested that you have a family member or friend or partner someone you can rely on at anytime during the night cause basically if you’re really struggling sleep training you ring up the person and they can help you through it or even come over or stay with you while you do it as it is incredibly hard by yourself so having someone you can talk to can help a huge amount
Hi Kayla plz answer as soon as u can. Is that a jumperoo jackson is in or an activity center. Plz list the one u have. I want to see if I need both ( the skip hop activity center & fisher price jumperoo).thanks alot ur amazing. When u delivered b4 me I thought I wld be left behind but ur taking me right along with u & helping me. 💕💕💕Am a first time mom😂😂
Best of luck momma I did the same method with my baby and now she's an amazing sleeper..you did it before girl you can do it again GOD WILLING hunny 😘
Watching as I do some sleep training as well. Love every single video of yours Kayla 💕 whether they are 10 minutes long or almost an hour long, I’m watching it all 🤣
Been watching your channel for 5 months and I’m currently in labor with my baby girl! Her name is Riley as well💝
Oh my goodness!!! Congrats mama!!!! Wishing you an awesome labor + delivery! You got this! Beautiful name too 😍❤️
Tonight is going to be my first night doing this with my 5 month old. Your videos have being so helpful! My baby boy doesn’t even co sleep well and wakes up every 30 minutes so he desperately needs to learn how to sleep. I’m so anxious but I know this is going to be right for him
How did it go?
I have a 3.5 month year old baby girl and I so look forward to your videos! Your videos have helped me so much!
Have you thought about getting him a slumberkin? I have been following your journey since our boys are 2 months apart. We had similiar sleep issues at first. Mine did amazing in his dock a tot and his slumberkin.
The dock atot is amazing but god help you when you take it away, my LO wouldn’t sleep without it
We sleep trained my daughter at 4 months old. We started with the Ferber method but ended up using extinction because she would just cry harder and harder after check-ins. Took about 3 nights (and I cried almost the whole time she cried!), but it was so worth it in the end.
We did also get her a lovey because she wouldn't take a pacifier either, but she is also a thumb sucker which helped immensely.
Yea Jackson won’t suck his thumb so I’m thinking of introducing a lovey here soon. But I’m glad your little one finally slept! It’s so amazing once they do 🙌🏼💕
🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻❤️girl you had me crying. I’m so tired
Thank you so much for posting this! I have been doing a lot of research on sleep training (because it has been over 6 years since I have had to sleep train!) Know that you are helping so many mothers by posting this (even though it is hard!)
This is a badass video. Thank you for posting this!
This makes me feel so blessed that my song sleeps all night in his crib at 3 months.
Woww enjoyuy
He's like yeah lunch then a nap. Yep life is great. What cutie.
Your videos are extremely helpful! I’m a stay at home dad and I’m sleep training our 5 month old. I have a question though… we also use the Huckleberry app for tracking sleep. Our boy wakes up in the middle of the night a few times still. Do I stop the sleep and then start a new one when he falls back asleep or just keep it going? He’s up for about 20 minutes each time. Thanks!
Sleep training for the first time (day 2) with my 5-month old. I cant stop crying...it feels like he is gettng worse and worse...he's only had one 30-min nap today. I just feel like im torturing him but I dont wanna mess up the process. Ugh....event he "gentle" sleep training approaches make your baby cry.
Thank you for this honest video. I have tried to sleep train my 4-month-old last week and gave up after 5 minutes, I was ready to cry with her. But you gave me the support I needed. Thank you, thank you!! Wish me luck
Thank you for your vid I'm just researching about the furber method just done the first night with our 6 month old boy, not gonna lie it's super hard to hear your little one crying so much, but good to know it's not just us going through the hardship
I kind of did a modified version of Ferber with my daughter. Going by what you did with Riley. The first 3 days or so, I'd do the check ins like I was supposed to but like you said, the check ins just pissed her off even more, so from that point on, we did complete extinction and only ever go in if she was ever crying to the point where she sounded like she couldn't catch her breath or if she was standing in her crib, we'd go and lay her back down. And it worked by night 5! And she has slept through the night since! And I totally agree with you. Complete extinction is HARD. You guys got this! Hang in there, mama! 💗
Extinction method is child abuse
@@charlotteweston5996 uh, no it's not. But that's your opinion and I have my own. So 🤷🏻♀️
Looking to try the Ferber method soon because I'm in the same boat! He always comes into our bed at some point in the night because he won't sleep for long on his own in the bassinet. He will wake up screaming bloody murder sometimes so I don't know how it's going to go.... 😬 Not sure if he's started teething so that doesn't help but we ALL need sleep! This is very encouraging.
I did CIO with my LO at 6 months and she has slept 11 1/2 hours at night since then and she is now 2. The best thing I ever did for all of us. Pregnant with number 2 and I will not hesitate to do it again if I need to.
Don’t listen to the negative comments, do what you want/feel what’s right for your family. I don’t judge anyone that doesn’t sleep train so I don’t except being judged for my decisions.
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Great video! We co sleep with our 18 month old. He sleeps in his crib for his naps, he puts himself to sleep. However night time is much different lol We've tried to sleep train at night but it breaks my heart to hear him cry 😔 Hes also teething right now, the last molars are coming in. So we are going to commit to sleep training once hes done teething. When hes not teething hes a great sleeper but I know it's time for him to sleep in his room. My husband & I need our room back 😔
Thank you for posting!
Yes sleep training can be very emotional for parents to go through. I had a hard time imagining not co sleeping with my 1st baby. But sleep training really helped her sleeping and gave some great sleeping skills.
The Happy sleeper was the sleep method I used. Loved it!
Stay strong mumma!! My twin boys gave me absolute hell when it came to sleep. My baby girl is 3 months and she already has a bedtime routine. Hopefully I can stay strong too!
Have you considered giving him a lovey? My baby boy won’t take a pacifier either but we give his one of the Aden and Anais security blankets and that seems to comfort him and they’re thin and small enough that I feel safe. Just an idea! Go Jackson, good job buddy
I’m watching this and just start balling my eyes out at 6:30 ….. thank you I hope this helps me tonight I’m loosing my mind, my son just turned 1 and we are on the same page as this. ❤
I am doing the same training with my LG. Second night and .... it's really hard but I hope it's for the best.
I just went and watched Riley’s video-these babies look EXACTLY alike!
My LO doesn’t cry while in the room, she screammmmmmmmmmmmms like world will be ending soon
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Thank you for being so real and open. I love it.
Thank you so much for this ❤ you’re amazing
No hate momma, I’m doing this myself, I tried making the nursery the comfiest I possibly could for the lo. Even putting similar things or smells from my room in there too. I feel for you. My lo does this exactly! 😭
I’m starting to sleep train my 9 month old, he’s never slept in his crib/cot since birth after suffering with reflux and finding it uncomfortable on his back. I’m so worried the bond with him and trust he has in me will affect him. Did you have any long term effects? If they wet their nappy I change and then start the process again from the start? Thank you for this video ❤
I am a first time mom and my son is 4.5 months old and sleeping in our room. We will be starting sleep training in a month. Excited and nervous! Thanks for sharing! I feel like he will be terrible at it lol. He is still being swaddled and I am so scared to not swaddle him, it’s been a life saver so far!