FIRST 24 HOURS OF SLEEP TRAINING | FERBER METHOD | KAYLA BUELL
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- Here we go! It's finally time to sleep train Jackson! Here's what the first 24 hours of sleep training looked like for him! Part 2 will be up soon! Love you guys! xoxox, Kayla
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Here rewatching this while doing this with my 10 month old tonight. I’m late to the game. I tried at 6 months and then gave up. It took 30 minutes but he is currently asleep in his crib. Hoping he stays down cause my nerves are shot!
How did it work for you? My 9 month old needs to be sleep trained too.
@@kristin382 it worked in the sense that he will now go down to bed in his crib. But he doesn’t sleep through the night. He will stay in his crib until 1-2 am. Then I end up just bringing him in bed with me cause I need sleep!!
@@aprilsummers9930 So you keep rewarding the behavior that you want to stop. Why should he ever change? Good luck with that!
@@lessehead luckily I don’t need your validation that I am doing what is right for myself and my son.
@@aprilsummers9930 Happy sleeping!
Idk why anyone would give you hate, your kids cannot sleep in your bed forever. That's not healthy for you, your husband, or the child. My niece slept in her parents' bed until she was six and then they finally tried making her sleep in her own bed. I can't even imagine not having that alone time with my husband for 6 years.
You're doing the right thing for your kids and your family :)
I totally agree my oldest sister had all four kids sleep with her. The youngest was in her bed until he was 13 years old. Ugh I could not go that long.
How can you compare a 6 yo with a 6 mo? A baby needs his mother's warmth at night. It is a western thing to want a baby to sleep in their own room, it is not natural and goes against the baby's instincts.
Was it after Dad's check in that he fell asleep? I'm curious, because, once I passed on sleep duty and checking in to my husband my daughter started falling asleep quicker... Once she saw I wasn't the one responding to her cries she surrendered to sleep...
On a lighter note from sleep training... can we take a minute to appreciate how super cute Jackson's Star Wars crib sheets are everyone? 😍 They're so cool!
Seriously though, thank you for posting this Kyla. We're in the same situation, so it's reassuring to see your videos and read the comments from other mums 👍
Thank you so much for posting this. It is really helpful to inspire me in sleep training my little one. It feels really scary to take this on, but you're making it feel manageable and it's a really helpful step-by-step guide
Thank you for sharing your first-hand experience with sleep training! I’ve read the books and all but it’s so much easier seeing it IRL. Always appreciate how genuine and authentic you are about sharing your life, hard to come by these days on TH-cam.
It means the world to me that you shared this. Doing all the research was giving me analysis paralysis, but watching you just do it gave me the push to just do it too. I was so afraid to sleep train and upset my baby, but it turns out that she was crying WAY MORE when I was intervening than when she started sleep training. Thank you!
Hey babe! I just wanted to thank you, like whole heartedly! After watching this video and the following one I started sleep training that night. With in three nights we didn’t have to do any check ins for any sleeps! Thanks to you I knew exactly what to expect and felt like I knew what I was doing for once! This will be night 7 but we haven’t even had to follow the schedule as bub falls asleep with in 5 minutes anyway. You’re a godsend, so grateful. I’ll save this video for all my friends and my future babes! Sending love xx
My daughter would cry until she throws up and that even when I nurse her to sleep and she sleeps in bed with me. That's why I haven't been able to do any sleep training.
Crying rn as I’m sleep training and watching this video for support.
Here for the same reason. Putting on a happy and confident face for my 2y and 5m old as we do both at the same time.
Note: earlier in life is WAY easier. For everyone.
I’m crying thinking of having to hear my bby cry when I do this🥺
You don't have to do it, there are other methods or you can continue co-sleeping, what ever makes you and baby happy
You ABSOLUTELY DO NOT have to sleep train. I personally would never and I do not! My baby and I cosleep 🤍
On our first born we bought a bigger crib and decorated his room and everything but on our second baby we have a smaller crib inside our bedroom that way when he wakes up we can hear him.
It’s ok to not sleep train. You can keep your baby happy and comfortable at night instead, that will bring baby confidence in your love and a sense of safety that will lead to more confidence and true independence that is based on love, not separation or stress. Check out “breastsleeping” by Dr. McKenna.
It’s hard mama but I promise it is worth it! It only takes a week if you do it right
I’m a first time mom and my babygirl is a horrible sleeper...seriously finding your channel has been the best thing ever!!!!!🥰❣️
Same her girl
Same here my baby boy is 5 month thinking of starting sleep training after his 6 month check up
Amaris Luengas I was in the same boat as you guys! I decided to sleep train and it was the BEST DECISION EVER! She is now sleeping through the night and barely cries when I put her down. I’m still doing it but I highly recommend
Iska just posted a video talking about that! If yours is a newborn I highly suggest you watching it, she got help from a professional and her baby boy started sleeping through the night immediately!
I know how you feel. My daughter was a terrible sleeper! We tried sleep training her many times. At 11 months she finally would give it up and would fall asleep on her own! And now she's a amazing sleeper! So it will get easier! You got this mama 💪
Such a good video! Started the ferber method a week ago and we finally have our evenings and bedroom back. So thankful!! And the baby is much much much more happier and rested!
This method was actually proven to be emotionally damaging to the baby as an adult
@@nazekb3756 no it hasn’t
@@nazekb3756 mmm yeah that’s inaccurate
Mothers and babies are designed to be a mutually responsive dyad. Babies express their needs to the mother (or caregiver) through crying.
Letting babies "cry it out" is a form of need-neglect that leads to many long-term effects.
Consequences of the "cry it out" method include: It releases stress hormones, impairs self-regulation, and undermines trust.
Yes the method will work but at what cost?
Ever heard of GENTLE SLEEP COACHING, same results but without the tears.
How is the naps now a day?
Everyone talks crap until they’re only sleeping 3 hours a night. I can’t do the Ferber method since both my kids scream until they choke and I just can’t do it. My 9 month old is waking up like a newborn all night long she only sleeps for an hour or two. I literally have no patience for anyone who gets to sleep lol
This is exactly what I needed to see! We are going through the same thing right now and this was so informative!
I know you want the best for your baby, but I have to warn you. The Ferber Methode isn't good for your baby. There will be a huge trauma and he learns that he can't trust you. He learns that his crying has no meaning. In Germany is a lot of science data that sleep training is a horrible thing you can do to your baby. Let me told you that I'm in therapy because of anxiety. My parents do sleep training to.
Per a program I used and worked in 2 nights. feed before and after naps, every 2 hrs all day so they have all their calories by night. Feed before bath time, so their food won’t come up right before bed. Once they’re asleep, dream feed at 10:30 and then 3 am. Feeding them before they wake rather than waiting for them to cry is the trick. Then you wean off night feed but feeding a minute less everyday. *also* notice how your baby likes to sleep, on their belly? Side? Put them down that way*:( good luck mommies! 🙏🏽 they say the second is easiest and I just wonderrr lol
I really would use a sleepsack and a breathable cloth. It gives them a lot of comfort.
Hahaha when you said he doesn’t get tired of crying and he’s stubborn, you literally described my Benny 😂 I used these exact words talking to my husband about him yesterday.
I would suggest a sleep sack or wearable blanket! Like Zipadee-Zip. On their website it says that babies like it because they feel comfort when they feel can feel the edges. Idk I guess it imitates the womb but okay for older babies that can roll over. Worth a shot! My almost 4 month old wears the Love to Dream "Swaddle Up" since she didnt like being swaddled with her hands down anymore. She cries when I put her down but once i zip her up (and I do use pacifier) she goes right to sleep. She knows when she's wearing it that its time for sleep! I will transition her soon to the Zipadee-zip when she can roll over. Just a thought! It might help.. Love keeping up with you and your family!
I would add a mobile or something on his crib so he had something to concentrate on other then your absence. I would also look into the wub inub (spelling), even though he may not have liked a pacifier in the past. It gives weight and something for his hands to hold as well. Just thinking out loud
I can’t relate with the night time sleep since my son is a great sleeper at night. But oh my gosh he does not nap. I feel your pain about not being able to get anything done!
Thank you, thank you. I just start sleep training my 10 month even though it broke my heart but I definitely need to sleep to survive and to be a better mother.
wonder whos heart broke more. your childs.
Hey how did it go? My baby is 8 months and imma start soon!
@@samanthadawson1490 do you have experience about your baby cry 10000times a night , and you and your baby can Not have a good sleep every night?
Absolutely! You need to take care of yourself to best take care of your baby
I legit checked three times this morning for this video, was so excited
I'm doing sleep training with my 5 and a half month old daughter right now, by you doing this vlog at this specific time is perfect. I'm a first-time mama and this is definitely not the easiest but it is definitely the most rewarding keep being a great Mama Kayla ♥️ thank you again for this video! Continued luck with your sleep training 🙏💤
this is DISGUSTING.
When it feels like you will loose your mind if you don’t get a nights sleep THEN you are ready for sleeptraining:) WELL DONE, Kayla👍🏻
I wish i could do it but I just can’t. I’m weak😭
It’s not for everyone mama! Don’t feel bad at all! ❤️
Be proud of yourself for not sleeptraining. It is abuse.
Judith-D well with my baby he really angry cries so it really does feel like abuse. If it was just a little bit of fussing I would. But whenever he angry cries it’s like non stop, tears, red face, he can even bust the little blood vessels in his eyes.. it’s happen before.. I just don’t see any possible way or doing it. We’re taking slow steps he always had to be in my arms but then he was in my arms in the bed. So he’s used to that now he will fall asleep on his own if I’m by him. Not with a bottle or me holding him. So next step is putting him in his cribs for naps asleep but drowsy to see if he will start falling asleep on his own. My baby needs those small steps lol
Judith-D it is NOT abuse. It’s actually good to teach your kid to sleep on their own without any props. Worry about your own kid
@@littlegirl1989 😂
2 years on and still so relevant! My wife and I are just sleep training our 6 month old and this video has been such a comfort for us both, as well as informative!
Never ever start the co sleeping, then neither of you will have to experience this horrible transformation. So uncalled for. Cribs were made for babies, king size beds were not made for families sorry mothers and fathers.
My daughter did not sleep through the night until she was 2. I tried everything. She was exclusively breastfed for a year , never took a bottle or pacifier. Would always fall asleep on me and use me as a pacifier to sooth. I was miserable. Not until she was 2 she only started to sleep through the night..
I feel for you.
You’re doing a great job!
I work as a nanny for an almost 3 month old. I have done the Ferber method in the past and one thing that definitely helped was not allowing baby to get so frustrated that he isn’t able to settle down. After the first few minutes, I go in and place my hand on their chest and once I see that they are calm, I leave the room. I know it’s hard to hear your baby cry, this will allow them to learn how to self soothe, before you know it.. they’re sleeping without assistance!
Another tip would be to start sleep training during the day - first nap
Use a sleep sack-, zen sleep sack is great!
Would you train them if they are swaddled??
@@cuteloverlol568 you can definitely train them if they are swaddled but I think it’s easier to transition to a sleep sack and train at the same time
I’ve been very lucky none of my 10 babies have had to do sleep training by 6 weeks mine sleep through the night
No one talks about how uncomfortable the crib mattress is. Baby goes from warm embracing mommy arms to a flat border line cement like mattress. I would personally cry too lol
I would put a mattress pad and use one of my shirt as a fitted sheet.
Hope that helps any young moms here
Just want to mention that sometimes with full extinction, they stop way faster overall. I tried ferber at first, and she could go for literally hours because she was just reinvigorated every time I went in. When we tried full extinction, 20 minutes flat. Also worth mentioning that my baby would cry while being rocked to sleep as well, so we really weren't getting her to sleep cry free at any point in her life past newborn. But now that she's sleep trained, she only cries when she's overtired and only for a few minutes.
This method is very bad for baby, baby needs your touch and warmth and scent, they are growing so fast, you won’t carry him forever, just hold him, cooslepping and carrying has much more benefits for baby’s mental development than this kind of terrible methods.. you should bond with your baby every minute of the day, not rejecting him... wishing you the best :)
This is me at them moment. Pack n play, CO sleep, 30 min naps , up all night for feedings. I tried but I start bawling as aoon as he gets into second gear cries.
Sleep training for the first time (day 2) with my 5-month old. I cant stop crying...it feels like he is gettng worse and worse...he's only had one 30-min nap today. I just feel like im torturing him but I dont wanna mess up the process. Ugh....event he "gentle" sleep training approaches make your baby cry.
Tonight was the first night I let my girl cry it out for 30 min she finally fell asleep. She just wouldn’t stay asleep in her crib when I put her down and I was so frustrated! Shes 6 months and I decided to try Ferber method tomorrow and this was the first video I watched. Thank you for the encouragement!
Why is sleep training a thing?
Because it’s safer than sleeping with your baby and it’s effective. Please done shame moms for doing what’s best for their family when it’s safe
@@89therrera “safer” is to follow your baby’s biological needs. And she didn’t shame anyone.
Because some babies don't sleep longer then 2 hour stretches and then need you carrying them to sleep EVERY SINGLE TIME THEY WAKE UP. Regardless of where they sleep and with whom. And some of us can't handle that amount of sleep deprivation, it affects your health, your relationship with your partner, with your baby, even baby's healthy development because nobody is sleeping well. That's why.
@@skrai1903 right. But the fact that training your baby affects their mental health is like whatever? You can’t just choose to be a parent during the day and respond to your baby’s cries, but at night decide to completely ignore him/her. If anything, ST doesn’t teach a baby any valuable lesson besides to just stop signaling their needs to a parent because no one will come. Sorry, but that is the sad truth. Biologically to not have sleep deprivation a baby should sleep next to his mother and then you won’t have to even get up at night because he will just feed and sleep. And also as an adult human if you decide to have a baby you obviously know that it won’t be easy in the beginning and sleep deprivation is def better than your baby having a ptsd later in life after being left to cry for hours on his own... no judgement to anyone whatsoever. Just my opinion.
@@skrai1903 and yes babies NEED you to put them to sleep, and they don’t HAVE TO sleep more that 2 hours?? Even 2 hours is a lot and some babies never sleep more than 30 minutes. That’s a biological norm and means you’re having a healthy baby who is naturally attached to his primary caregiver. You are raising a human, not a machine who is supposed to do everything like you wish or like someone said they should be doing.
You're doing great!
I'm patiently impatiently waiting to start this with my son.
Also. How fking rude of some of these people to make it seem like your a bad mom for wanting your privacy. There's NOTHING wrong with that. Love these videos. All videos!
First time mom with a 1 year old. She has co-slept with me 95% of the time with the exception of spending the night with grandma and naps in her crib. Her separation anxiety has PEAKED ...not sure what sleep train method will work . I feel like I am late to the party on this one 😮💨 I work from home so I understand babygirl's fear. At this point I'm wondering if I should try to move her crib to my room, or try to wait until her SA subsides...I just dont want to flip flop methods
Don’t let your baby. Crying. What you. Mommy
I just dont understand why is sooo hard for babies to sleep.i always thought babies love to sleep...guess what THEY DONT.my son is 5.5 months old and still didnt mqmage to sleep for more than 3 hrs (if am lucky enough) straigth.i have tried everything EXCEPT sleep training which i think i will.Let the fact that i have to rock him like 30 minutes sometimes more to get him to sleep like 20 minutes.i just really want to sleep.I havent slept for half a year.it just getting worse.good luck with little Jackson u also deserve some good sleep😊
In my opinion this is a very harsh method . it might work as the baby will fall asleep eventually due to the exhaustion of crying and then will develop a pattern and fall asleep ,but you must be a very strong mother to do it ( the method being thought by a man who does not have the same connection with the baby that a mother has ) and make sure also that your baby is not chocking himself with the compulsive crying , mine if starts crying because i put him down when almost asleep or even asleep and then wakes up because of the crying, will end up almost stop breathing so i am not going to put him through this. and also i fear he will feel abandoned . But for who decides to do it , best of luck and stay strong .
It actually allows you to monitor your child as they learn to independently focus on their sleep. It may seem harsh but it’s teaching them you are there for them as they learn on their own. A valuable lesson. So many methods out there, hope you find yours!
Would you consider a swaddle they have them for babies his size... & what about a projector on the ceiling for him to look at? Be strong Mama you got it you did it once and this time will be easier. &😘
Hi Kayla plz answer as soon as u can. Is that a jumperoo jackson is in or an activity center. Plz list the one u have. I want to see if I need both ( the skip hop activity center & fisher price jumperoo).thanks alot ur amazing. When u delivered b4 me I thought I wld be left behind but ur taking me right along with u & helping me. 💕💕💕Am a first time mom😂😂
Thanks for keeping it real about how hard this can be.
No method in this world can not convice me that this is a better way. Im tired and I get up at nights..its a period and wont last for 20 years for God sake… but I can not leave my child to cry on its own.
Thank you so much for sharing, I was watching your video while my baby cried for a whole hour until she fell asleep. Your video helped me not give up as I did yesterday when I heard her cry so bad my heart broke and I weakened and gave up. Today my baby and I did it, I got the first 3 and 5 then 4 more 5's and then 10 and 3 more 10's... She passed out after it. Thank youuuuuu
I’ve been doing my training for 10 days, and he’s still crying and not getting used to it…does it not work for some children?
I could never sleep train my daughter. I thought I would be a sleep training parent before I had my daughter but I could never, it just doesn’t feel right for me. Even on the nights that I’ve only gotten maybe an hour of sleep during her sleep regression (and just bad nights) I still would rather her know mama will always be there to comfort her. Sleep is 100% developmental, it’s not something you can teach. Each parent will parent however they feel they need to though. 💕 sleep well mama!
Miranda McConnell I 100% agree with everything you said. My 4th baby is currently 8mths old still dosnt sleep through the night this is normal and I know it will not last. I comfort her or feed her and she settles straight away happily knowing her needs have been met. You do not have to do anything, no “training, “ no stressful screaming, no watching them cry, nothing! babies will sleep through when they are ready. There are many ways to parent. 👍🏻
This is so me did your baby grow out of it? Idk if I can go through with sleep training
areil westby of course! They all do in there own time when they’re ready... or you can try to force them. ❤️
areil westby my baby is now 8 months and still doesn’t sleep through the night. Some nights she only wakes 3 times sometimes it’s every hour. But I know she really needs something because she goes right back to sleep once she’s fed and comforted! She also trusts that we’re going to respond to her everytime she cries!
Miranda McConnell my daughter’s now 9mths and still wakes every 2-4 hours. I feed or comfort her and she straight bk to sleep. Night Waking Is Normal! They all grow out of it naturally without any stressing needed. ❤️
I used your videos to help with baby #1 getting ready to Ferber baby #2… thank you for the videos
Can I do this process for a 1 year old girl?
yes you can!!
Thank you for this video. We just started ST our third child and let me tell you, the anxiety and guilt we parents experience each time we go through this doesn’t get easier!
Despite refreshing my memory with research, watching your video answered so many other questions and gave me the validation that I’m doing what I believe is right and helping my child in the long run. You reminded me that each child is different and it will get worse before it gets better.
I especially appreciated that you walked through the naps as that is something that I didn’t see much info on. You gave me the confidence and validation that I was desperately seeking at 2:30am last night. 😅 so grateful to have come across your channel. Thanks again and wish me luck! 🤞🏼
I did the same for my son he cried for 1 hour and 15 minutes he almost died I rushed to him and he fell asleep straight away when I picked him up.
Have you thought about getting him a slumberkin? I have been following your journey since our boys are 2 months apart. We had similiar sleep issues at first. Mine did amazing in his dock a tot and his slumberkin.
The dock atot is amazing but god help you when you take it away, my LO wouldn’t sleep without it
Did you pump in the night to keep the supply normal?
Been watching your channel for 5 months and I’m currently in labor with my baby girl! Her name is Riley as well💝
Oh my goodness!!! Congrats mama!!!! Wishing you an awesome labor + delivery! You got this! Beautiful name too 😍❤️
My daughter does good with sleeping but she hates sleeping on her back all of a sudden. She now is a side and tummy sleeper. She tends to be more comfortable on her stomach and she sleeps longer on her tummy. She just turned 6 months. Good luck momma. You got this! ♥️
Your video gave me such comfort and confidence! After 3 days of this method, my 8 month old slept 7 hours straight!! I was so scared to try it at first and had so many questions. Your video was so helpful! Thank you so much❤️
This is absolutely horrible....
Our girl didn't take a pacifier for her first 5 months, we tried again with sleep training and it's been a lifesaver especially when eliminating comfort nursing.
My girl is a HUGE comfort nurser. She refuses a pacifier it makes her mad 😭 shes 2 months
Also all the momma's are doing a great job, every babe is different and parents are too! Keep it up, you got this.
@@alexislankford3422 be happy. That’s called a healthy baby and a healthy attachment.
Watching as I do some sleep training as well. Love every single video of yours Kayla 💕 whether they are 10 minutes long or almost an hour long, I’m watching it all 🤣
Self soothing does not happen developmentally this young naturally. A mother is there to sooth and nurture. A baby will nsturally.gain independence and wean themselves from their mother just like any mammal. That's when the process or self.soothing happens. Parents want to justify doing this to a baby out if the pure selfishness of wanting a good nights sleep and to have the bed bedroom/ to themselves. So. Incredibly. Selfish. They have proven that the rush of cortisol to the brain from extreme distress like this actually damages the frontal cortex in developmentally forming. It also increases the risk of ADHD. In fact, some studies suggest that the overall "abandonment" culture that we do to our babies now by putting them in daycare super young or letting them "cry it out" is the reason for so many learning disabilities. I wouldnt be surprised if this child ends up with a mild case of ADHD, dyslexia or something of that nature. But hey, at least the parents get to sleep at night.
Desperately sleep deprived with my 4 month old. Thank you
Oh lord am watching this almost on mute cuz my baby girl is here sleeping in my arms like a queen & unbothered while am here sitting up wondering how am going to even move 😭🤣. Not only is she sleeping in my bed but she have to be in my arms or on my chest🙄 to get a good nap. Also, my husband is so good getting her to sleep on her own even if it's not for long but when I have her i cant stand seeing her cry & it goes bk to square one. I will attempt sleep training once & for all. I admire ur strength & courage Kayla.💕❤
Hey Kim - I started sleeping training last Friday. The first night wasn’t so great but better than we expected. The following day we continued with the FB method for naps but it was really hard. We eventually had to revert to having him in our arms (like you described). The second night was really good he feel asleep with in 10mins and only woke up for two feeds. His day started at 7am the following day. However, the naps are still a challenge. I know it’s only early days but the cries for the naps are worse than the night. It’s definitely worth doing it not only for you but but for your LO. I hope the nap situation I’ve described doesn’t put you off. I’m glad we have the night time almost sorted.
Nessa Gerritsen my daughter was like this, and then I tried blackout curtains in her room and it was a game changer! If you don’t have that it’s worth a shot!
Carrie Requejo Hi Carrie we have blackout blinds but still no luck. I think we just have to keep going. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🤪 tough love
Don't be embarrassed about the nursery mess.... That's real life, Mama... I've watched so many videos where nurseries looked perfect, but wished they would have showed more of the process to share how real and acceptable it is to just get done what you can as you... It's a wonderful room!
Something that has helped us beat the early morning wake ups is to choose daily wake time and continue Ferber until that time comes. Ours is 7:00 and so if she wakes up before (which she doesn’t anymore) we would continue pop ins until 7:00 and then once it hits 7:00 we go in happy and ready to start the day. Also we do a dream feed at like 10:30 and it helps a lot.
My baby girl is 6 months old she sleeps good but in my bed 🤪 I always thought I wouldn't do that but it was the only way she would ever sleep she didn't like the bassinet but it will be nice to get her tk sleep in her crib so we can have our bed back lol
Lol samee
Omg i cried when you cried. Thank you for the video ❤️ you have a new subscriber now
Lord I’m dreading this!!! My baby calls for me in her own little way! When she sees me she smiles! I can’t imagine hearing her call me and not going in! I’m exhausted but I’m her mommy and I just can’t bring myself to leave her all alone to cry. I want to sleep train her when she’s 4 1/2 months old but I don’t think I can! 😭
Give him a lovey or a small blanket that basically he can rub his face into (babies love doing that). My baby has been sleep trained since 4.5 months. When she would wake up in the middle of the night, I could see her in the monitor searching around for her elephant. Sometimes I would go in there just to hand her her elly :-). Now 10 months and she still needs her Elly!
You’re a great mom girl!! Everyone needs that separation from their children at night! My daughter is six and a half months old and we started sleep training her after watching your videos about sleep training Riley 😁 good luck with Jackson and I’m looking forward to more of your videos!! ♥️
Hey Kayla I'm a first time mom and i started watching your videos basically the second I found out I was pregnant. You have provided so much great insight on this whole mom thing and I really appreciate it, you've truly been a blessing. I've since given birth to a beautiful baby boy and you've inspired me to start my own TH-cam journey. Hopefully i can be a blessing for other people the way you have for me.
blessings to you and your child
Wow you are doing great...sleep is so important for your baby, and you. My son's pediatrician told me to give him a pacifier and small blanket so he knows it's bed time. Worked GREAT!
Lillian Epperson it’s crazy how they won’t sleep on their own flat lol. Like my baby haatesss that. But he loves to sleep like a little human with a blanket and a pillow. I’m like are you serious lol he likes to be so comfy. He can take hour naps that way. But only naps so I can watch him.. I know they aren’t supposed to sleep like that so I’m in the same room with him doing work. But just the blanket there he likes to mess with it until he falls asleep.
😁exactly!!!
Hi he might need only 2 naps a day? My baby from 7 months was refusing naps so he took only 2 and then from 9 months 1 nap and was much easier when we didn’t push him to sleep 😊
Whew, yeah I could NEVER do this with my daughter. I just could never listen to that devastating cry, ugh breaks my heart. You’re SUPER strong for being able to do this I would never and could never. Not for me, nope. Thankfully I LOVEEE bed sharing with my girl, she JUST turned 7 months old and I still nurse and I know they should be able and can go without nursing in the night but idk for me personally I love when she comfort nurses and snuggles next to me. I just genuinely enjoy her being right next to me💜
I co-sleep with my 5 month old at the moment and really love having her near me. Out of interest where does your baby nap in the day? I would like to put baby down for naps and co-sleep at night just wondering if this is possible. All naps in sling atm. Thanks!
H S hi there! :) I get what you mean completely!! For me what I did was for naps I slowly coordinated her eating schedule with naps. For example.. I would nurse her from 12:15-12:30pm and then in my bed I’d lay right next to her until she was sound out and then SLOWLY get off the bed. Of course I make sure there’s no way she can fall off the bed etc and then she naps there. It works well because she’s familiar with the bed and feeding her right before helps A TON!! I hope this helps a bit to get an idea of something to possibly try out! Good luck 💟
Its not being strong, its being lazy
Hi. I just saw your video and I would like to follow this one. Quick question. If baby stops crying in the middle of the 10 minute wait, should I restart the timer? Thank you.
Yep
Ok but on a side note even Jacksons cry is adorable !! This baby melts me 💞
Do you use black out curtains or something to darken the room during the day for his naps? I'm a first time mom and expecting a little one in November. I know they say it's important for them to distinguish between day and night and was wondering if that would be too confusing
Yes! We have Velcro blackout shades in his room so that it’s super dark in there even for naps. I find that’s always helped him sleep a little better.
This was really helpful and encouraging, since we are starting to sleep train our 5 month old!
*boing* *boing* *boing* “...sorry.” That was hilarious.
I’m starting to sleep train my 9 month old, he’s never slept in his crib/cot since birth after suffering with reflux and finding it uncomfortable on his back. I’m so worried the bond with him and trust he has in me will affect him. Did you have any long term effects? If they wet their nappy I change and then start the process again from the start? Thank you for this video ❤
My baby wouldn't take a pacifier either until she turned 7 months She only likes the tommee tippee (breast like shape) it really helped her soothe and be less fussy during the day too . So maybe if you keep trying he might like it one day lol
With his age, he should be able to sleep more than 30mins at a time. 2hrs before first nap is too short for his age and is probably undertired even though he is showing sleep cues. Push through a longer wake window. That will also be a reason why he takes forever to go to sleep is because he is tired but not tired enough to sleep.
Check out Respectful Sleep Training/Learning on Facebook. They have tons of helpful files you can find and they are all supportive with whatever sleep training method you are doing. Sending you lots of love and Jackson will do good!
Ooo thank you for this! Working on those wake windows for sure!!
@@KaylaBuell At this age try 3-3-4 for 2 naps. This is almost certainly a schedule issue since he was doing better before with naps.
Why there is so much light when you enter into his room... suppose to be dark...
Yes my 2nd son was very stubborn! Separation anxiety was his issue but as soon as I put music on...it was lights out!
Great video! We co sleep with our 18 month old. He sleeps in his crib for his naps, he puts himself to sleep. However night time is much different lol We've tried to sleep train at night but it breaks my heart to hear him cry 😔 Hes also teething right now, the last molars are coming in. So we are going to commit to sleep training once hes done teething. When hes not teething hes a great sleeper but I know it's time for him to sleep in his room. My husband & I need our room back 😔
This is a badass video. Thank you for posting this!
How could you let your child cry and not attend to his needs? He needs you... I have a 3 months old and the nights are horrible but I never thought about abandoning him at night... He depends on me with everything, eating, feeding, of course he would not know how to fall asleep alone! I feel so bad thinking about a baby crying for this mother and not having anyone come in and hug him. I thought this would be a "gentle" sleep training video but this is just like any other "let cry" sleeping method. Disappointed. Leaving the video.
He hasn't learnt to get him self to sleep. He has learnt that no one comes if I cry 😢 so he gives up eventually.
Yes it will work though... but with GENTLE SLEEP COACHING you can avoid the crying with the same results!!
Please read "The continuum concept" by Jean Liedloff instead.
What’s that?
I just started this with my son tonight! He’s almost 10 months old and hasn’t went to sleep on his own at all or slept all night. However, he cried and I went in at 3 minutes, cried and I went back in at 5 minutes.....I DIDN’T HAVE TO GO IN ANYMORE AFTER THAT! He went to sleep on his own before the 10 minutes. We’ll see how it goes throughout the night!
I just tried to do this but my husband said no more after 3 mins..😩 my son is 11 months 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
@@chas745 ahh you gotta give it time tell him lol
Dude. The fact that he ends up being alone in there not crying but rocking back and forth is BRUTAL. How does no one see this as terrible for the baby?? I’m sorry, I’m just so sad watching it. Sleep trained babies DO NOT sleep through the night, they just don’t cry for their parents when they wake up. This is a fact… which is why sleep training is more for the parents benefit than it is for a baby.
Also, I know this sounds weird but I absolutely understand why parents sleep train and I don’t think they love their babies any less…… I just could not do that myself and I think parents who say it’s all for the babies benefit are lying. 😂 we all need sleep as mamas.
Do you have children?
I’m a sleep deprived mom for almost a year and I would never do this to my baby. I know she needs me now and eventually she will sleep through the night.
@@kateamber1082 yes, I do. And they’re not sleep trained.
Some parents need to sleep train especially if they have to factor in going back to work, children must learn how to self soothe at some point.
My two are adults, and I truly don’t remember how we got through sleep issues. I think those times were a fog of exhaustion! Take care of yourself, you’re an amazing mama.
Thank you so much Terri! I really appreciate it! Of the fog of exhaustion is real lol we won’t remember any of this in a few years lol
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Hey, people comfortable with this method, please go ahead. But I will never be able to do this. I co-sleep with my baby and I don't think I will get any sleep if baby is in another room. There are gentler methods of sleep training like following a routine and singing the same lullaby every night so babies know it is time to sleep. My baby wakes up 2-3 times in the night and I breastfeed her to sleep in about 5 mins.
Co sleeping is dangerous.
@@leximari no it’s not if you do it correctly lol
@@georgiamorris4073 no it’s not and a simple Google search would show that all reputable sources agree with me
Happy for you. But why are hot watching if it’s not for you!?
With my daughter we didn’t sleep train until 14 months and it was the best decision we ever made and I wish we did it sooner!! Up until that point she was still nursing through the night and waking up multiple times 😴 Best of luck with Jackson’s sleep journey, seems like he’s off to a great start!
My daughter is 14 months old also and sleep training starts this week. I've had her with me 24/7 even all her naps are with me the past few months. So that hasn't given my husband and I alone time. He says we may need to renew our vows 😂
ashley Noff Sleep training definitely helped out marriage so much! Good luck with the sleep training. It’ll be hard at first but I promise it gets easier. You got this momma 💪🏻
Thank you Jess
Maybe Kayla He needs more time between his naps Omg I dont know what to say
Jackson looks so cute staring at the camera after his first nap. You are absolutely right it’s not their fault, it’s a learning process for them.
What a ...... the baby is crying so bad 👎 😭 😢