6 Signs He's Emotionally Investing in You (in order!)
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QUESTION OF THE DAY - What have been your biggest signs that a man is falling for you?
No man ever has
Well Mat, it has been awhile since I have been in the dating environment, but when I was, it was men’s eyes that spoke volumes as I remember. Body language and the shy nature of men when they are with someone they desire and find attractive. Its man’s shyness that speaks to me. Geraldine
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For this one it's important that you (as the masculine's partner) be secure in yourself & level headed. One of my biggest signs (and this only comes when youre more committed, not just flirting or first dating) but he'll hand his phone to you if you ask to see it....not because you're actually going to look at everything or search for things to fight about (bc that's really an invasion of privacy) but because he doesn't have anything to hide & is already communicating with you about important issues 🙂
@@helensanderson7092 up until now my dear! New possibilities are always available!
1. Courts you from the very beginning
2. Plans ahead like a boss
3. He's responsive to your needs and desires
4. He plays with you (teasing, challenging, laughing)
5. He treats you like his partner in shine
6. He wants to share you with his world
YESS EXACTLY!!!
Unfortunately, the players, users & sex pigs know these aspects which they work on faking it to perfections. There are even guys who have mase a career out of teaching other guys how to fake it.
Thank you
..then he asks you to shack up? 🤷🏾♀️
Well, eff me to tears! 😂😂😂
Omg!!! I’ve hit the jackpot. I am a widow and he is a widower. We found each other and sparks flew!! After three months he shows all these signs. We’re a lucky couple with another chance for love
That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear! Love lots💕
Never dated a guy that ticked all of these until now. We haven't been together super long but we are so well suited to each other ❤️
Yay! You deserve a great guy🙂
🥺🥺🥺 this video just saved me. I thought my boyfriend wasn't emotionally invested in me but after i watched it. My new statement is " my boyfriend is emotionally invested, I just didn't know how men show it. He checked all the boxes expect shine i need more clarity. I have an amazing partner. Not understanding how men are, almost cost me a great relationship. I thought me and him weren't connecting
I'm glad to hear that the video you watched helped bring you some clarity and a new perspective on your relationship❤️
Amazing!
I'm in my second year of uni and I see a lot of my classmates rushing to get into a relationship. I currently don't want to go through a relationship because of trauma I'm healing from and the guys I see around me are just not it. After seeing this video, I realized I am right for waiting for a man that would treat me right and that I'm willing to give that love and respect back. Thank you so much
This is an inspiring story! And you're very much welcome!
You will be waiting a long time. Being single is a gift of time to heal, work on yourself, enjoy life, become comfortable with the gift of enjoying your own company.
Too many people get into relationships out of the fear of being alone, fear of not fitting in as it seems that everyone around them is coupling up. The world is mostly designed around couples. It's a lot of pressure, causing so many people to settle in place of being in a relationship of mutual respect.
@@FreeSpirit47
Truth you speak dear one, I appreciate your being beautifully, Queen Brenda
Your advice on surrendering to his plan for us was so life changing for me. Thank you
Your kind words touch my heart ♥ Happy I could be of help. :)
Partner in shine - this is so beautiful, Mat.
Many thanks, Nomvulo ❤️
Such a refreshing take. You’re awesome Matt!
Glad you enjoyed it!
I think this video is super helpful, both for realizing that "he's just not that into you", but also for realizing that he IS, particularly when you're dating one of the no-emotion-talk specimens. When my bf and I started dating, I used to wonder why I felt so secure and sure that he liked me and was all in even though he never said it and wasn't doing any of the "romcom courting behaviors" like buying flowers or sweet talking or singing underneath my window at night. :D Turns out he ticked all the boxes on this list and I must have subconsciously felt it.
Amazing! love hearing that!
When you said you take your blender outside to the garage I thought awwwwwwww
Thanks so much for your feedback!
This is so wholesome and pure! I’ve just subscribed. Thank you so much for this beautiful, positive, optimistic content 🥹🙏✨
Happy to help and thanks for subbing!
@@Mat_Shaffer you’re welcome 😊
My now fiance said that after each of our dates in the beginning of our relationship his face hurt from laughing so much. I am so proud of that ❤
I'm not exceptionally funny, he actually is, but we had FUN ❤🥰
You’re the best! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and lighting up the comments. 💖
Brilliantly helpful video.. I’ve bern badly hurt in the past and tend to be insecure, but by watching Matt’s videos this has helped me to understand myself better, and thereby I’m more able to understand relations more. My boyfriend is not a romantic person (just occasionally!) but he’s ticked all the boxes in your video and this has really encouraged me as it’s helped me to see and understand the love my boyfriend has for me, and I for him! Thanks Matt.
aww love it my dear! So glad my content supports you❤️
Very helpful video. Thanks, Mat! 😊
Glad it was helpful!!
Great positive video Mat - thanks 😀
Love that shirt on you!!!
Thank you too!
Thank you very much…. You do such a great job on the videos. Much appreciated. ❤
Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you, Rosy ❤️
Taking a blender out into the garage in the morning 😭 That says a lot 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
It does!
I needed this intel on pretty much right on signs a guy is invested in us ladies. We don't want to be a secret or a side piece. Awesome video. Thank you!!
Perfect!
I love the office , so funny Mat. Ps. You look so happy ☺
aw thanks Sue!! I am happy!
Everything u mentioned here is happening for me right now, thanku for the confirmation.
However ,as for the #1: sign we both don't believe in sharing everything on social media..
It's better 2 keep some things private.
thats a great balance!
I’ve been following your channel because I enjoy your content and delivery. Thank you for that. Now to hear your an Austinite too, makes me an even bigger fan!
Awesome! Thank you! 🥰
Great video and this is a very helpful overall Matt
Happy to help! Thank you, Jasmine ❤️
Thank you for sharing this and i love your hair!!! Looks so soft and smooth. Perhaps you could share hair tips next time 😄
That was so sweet of you!
This was a GREAT VIDEO
YAS appreciate that!!
ONE OF YOUR BEST VIDEOS! LOVE YOUR VIDEOS ❤️THANK YOU
SO glad you enjoyed it hon!!! so so welcome!!
Thank you for sharing these tips. It really helps to see things from a guys perspective instead of what we (women) always think snd want.
You're welcome, Danielle 😉. Happy I could be of help.
This is helpful. The man I am seeing isn't giving the emotional " feed" that I need but does plan ahead for us...is looking forward but not " lovey dovey "about it.
Thanks Mat I tend to watch these now for the flood of old happy memories but turned sad for awhile but you say so many old funny memories for me and well if it wasnt for you I wouldnt of meet that diamond and helped me to create those funny moments.especially when I get the uh ha moments and the ooops is that how that happened and I start laughing about it and then it hits the realisation how I ended up with the first moC kids ooops haha. That part about the blender I could help but burst out laughing it made me think of something that David used to do before he passed but the silly thing forgot to shut the door and woke me anyway haha. Thanks I needed these. Mat whats with men doing the whole 10 year plan half way through a first date all about? you tell us not to do it but the guy I'm now with and yes I am 5 weeks away from being his wife and couldn't be happier dispite this little flaw because I over looked it because I found the splitting resemblance in personality like I adored with my first diamond and well he was also like a little school boy when I first met him like my first diamond but I agreed to a first date because I loved it and it made me smile but when I first meet him the first date was going well then half way through he started the whole 5 and 10 year plan and started to ask me mine but like I told him I don't plan ahead I take a second by second and not day by day. Well 3 years later and well I still get the butterflies like I used to get with the first but what's with the 5 and 20 year life plan or the resume as you called it on a first date. Would you call it a red flag or keep over looking it
You’re a good egg, Charlie Brown. Pray my daughter finds a a keeper like you! 💙
Aw thanks you’re making me blush ;)
This makes me full great. He’s already shared things about me with his boss, co worker, sister, kids… everyone in his world knows about me.
Thanks for sharing!
You look great Mat!!!❤️
aww thanks, I FEEL great!!
What a helpful vídeo! Thank you SO much Mat 🌼!
So glad you enjoyed it milena!
Love this video Mat❤
Thanks so much!
This video is amazing
so glad you enjoyed it!! :)
OMG I have really hit the jackpot with my man. He is great. I love him very much❤❤❤❤
I’m so happy for you my dear!
YOU!!! Such a sweetheart! Tajw the blender in the garage! Awe...I'm melting right now. 😊
Aw thanks you’re making me blush;)
@Mat_Shaffer ooo...you are good at what you do!! You know just what to say to make a girl smile.
You should do a video on how to drop into your feminine. I mean....what does rhat mean anyway??
Great videos always enjoy listening to you and learn
Just wanted to shoot a compliment for your hair I have not seen your videos for a while and the long hair really suits you ❣️
Thanks for the compliment Eden!
Thanks so much Eden that means a lot to me :) I love it too!
Loving the long hair 😍
I so appreciate you saying that - that was so sweet of you! ❤️
I have enjoyed you. I guess I was too busy at work to notice your hair. Wow! Two thumbs way up!!!!!
You're the best!
Thank you so much sir for this Vdo. Except the last point almost everything matched. So I think and hope he is feeling the same way as I am feeling for him. Got hurt before so I am scared now.
Don’t give up on love sister!
Yes the Backstreet Boys are touring this year 😊
GOOD TO KNOW hope they're coming through Austin... im gonna be there!!
I always love 💘 your videos. I always watch till the end even though you number them. You are the best. You don't make me wait to know and I watch till the end.
Wow, thank you Tamiko❤️
Thanks Matt.
so glad you enjoyed it!!
I'm invested in your hair.
That's very sweet. 🤭
@@Mat_Shaffer any time.
Wow....well that was really interesting.... Nice. Job.
Glad you enjoyed it!
~Nice list!!!~
Thanks! 😄
Mat that hair…Goodness 😍
Never cut that hair! Great video Mat!
Thanks! 😃
4:40 + love this!
Thank you!
Those are very interesting signs.
I was so guarded from being hurt in past relationships that in my last relationship I missed those signs. We dated for roughly a year. Just as I felt myself opening up and letting myself trust him, he did an about face. He said he wanted to date other women. He was already on dating sites. I really liked him.
Don’t give up on love sister!
@@Mat_Shaffer Thank you, Mat. 🙏
My mother, bless her departed soul, used to tell me that a relationship built on need would never survive. She also had another saying, "The love I give to you is secondhand, for I have felt first."
I am a hopeless romantic. There is absolutely nothing more splendid or grand than being in love. I'm just in the process of fine tuning my radar love.
I deeply appreciate your wisdom and if I wasn't busy traveling for work, I would join your seminar on 10/10. Maybe I'll be able to catch the next one.
U good good advise
Many thanks!! ❤️
Thank you!
You're welcome!
How sweet, making sure there's no noise in the morning to allow her to sleep.
I've been married for 35 years, my husband makes so much noise in the morning, sometimes I have to get up and growl at him and even then he'll continue to be loud and annoying.
haha tell him he can make his breakfast in the garage... or SLEEP in teh garage! ;)
@@Mat_Shaffer we don't have a garage, nor a car port, the wood shed will do 🤭
Please make more.
Sure thing!
Matt I used to do that too. Garage blender when my then, husband was sleeping in
love it!!
Thank you so much for the truth
Many thanks!
Everything except #3 and that's what led to the breakup.....still hurts because he was great otherwise...he just attended to his friend's emotional needs that he didn't have any room for mine.
Don’t give up on love sister!
Great video, thank you! Unfortunately, none of these lol
Thanks for watching! Don’t give up on love sister!
We've got most of the signs. ❤❤
Wow! I’m so happy for you my dear!
Thanks. You are cool
You're welcome!
Thank you
You are so welcome! ❤️
Well, we knew about
one another in high jr. & sr high school a long time ago, exchanging glances. Asked for my number at class reunion. I took his, waiting 10 days. Yes. Been seeing each other a few months. Now he’s invited me to Super Bowl Sunday party at a close friends couple’s home w/30 people to meet. I’m very deeply touched & excited.
We are in 60’s, but life does not end there. He is Avoidance type, me a bit anxious. This will be fun!
so sweet thanks for sharing! it's a great connection:)
Don't cut your hair I love it just be you 🥰❤️
aww thanks yeah I love my hair!
All these happened in my last relationship of 10 months and then out of no where broke things off saying he wasn’t in it
that's ok! what a blessing he removed himself from your life so you can find someone who truly appreciates you in an authentic place :)
You look very nice with the long hair 👍
Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you.
Shit, these are good and it looks like my partner isn’t doing anything on the list, and we’ve been together for 2 years. But seeing this all on someone else though. Yay confusion
100% ..😂😂😂...Thank You
You’re welcome 😊
I had this at the start but we had three breaks last one after my birthday we broke up now I am healing
It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new❤️
The man I have been seeing for 6 weeks now has done all but #1. Although it has been a short time and we may be older than some others on here. We are both 54. We both have 2 grown daughters and it has been 2 years since his divorce after 26yrs of marriage and it has been 2 years since my last relationship of 6 years. We have agreed that we are only going to date each other and are going to take it slow. Neither of us want to marry again at this point. GOOD? 😇
AMAZING love blossoms at all ages! This is an inspiring story!
I’m happy to have all of those positive signs from my man. We are engaged after only four months and are currently living together. He is 12 years younger than me and he doesn’t think about it or care. I do look young for my age but deep down I’m concerned as I’m not as firm as he is. Am I wrong to worry?
No worries! AMAZING love blossoms at all ages! Congratulations! 🙏❤️✨
Matt you look so handsome
Whatever you're doing it's working really well
I so appreciate you saying that - that was so sweet of you!
Your welcome , take care good night
I have a guy that did all of these, but has suddenly disappeared completely.
He paid attention to everything I said, he noticed the small things, he teased me all the time, shared his daughter that passed away with me, all the little things, now he’s just gone
Sad to hear. But it's possible to heal and create something new ❤
I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other.
Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone.
Women tend to be more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more understanding, more sympathetic, more kind hearted, more peaceful, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, more intuitive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way.
Women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men.
Covid 19 has stopped all of the dating in public. I am 62& he is 67. We have dinner and a movie at my house.
I’m so happy for you my dear!
I think you can go out in public. I do it everyday!
@@xenajamey5611 he's not wanting to take a chance. I think it's more intimate at home.
Thank you for your reply.
I checked all except No. 1 ... ha ha
You got this Hon!
Mat. Need advice what's with the 5 and 10 year plan half way through the first date ? Just another question are you and Cali busy on the 30th of October
red flag if they're planning that far ahead that early! :) Ha on that date I'll be in the middle of my course launch!
hmmmm ok red flag, Now you have me concerned. What if he's protective but also plays like a school boy or does the most random things at the most random of times. Like pick a flower because it reminded him of me or sees a rock in strange shapes and will bring it home and say he thought of me or he's known to send random messages or riddled or even memes at the most strangest of times doesn't matter if it's day or night and it's always even I least expect it. Well if you have a spare few hours on the 30th let me know we will be at the barr mansion there in Austin at 2 pm. I'd love to meet the one person who saved me from well to be honest more abuse and well death. But mat you're also the closest person I'll ever have to what I see as family.
Aside from the great video, it's a shame that a man should have such gorgeous curly/wavy hair; especially when I must work so hard to get the same affect. Would love to run my fingers through hair like that! 🙂
Aw thanks you’re making me blush;)
Why did you go from lawyer to love coach I think you would be great at both from oregon thanks again
Thanks for sharing!
The thingns you mentiobed are just normal things. I expect them from every mam I start dating. It is not emitional investmentt. It is just being polite, nice, interested in somebody. I think being emitionally involved means much more.
I mean they can definitely be either! These are general starting points - if he’s not showing these he’s definitely not interested :)
What if he has all the signs yet I'm still scared what would I need to work on to not be scared I really care about him and love him I have just been hurt a lot in the past relationships and I don't want to bring that into my current I think I still need time to heal because when i fall I fall hard and fast I don't think I give my heart enough time to catch up with my head
It sounds like there might be some healing to do but don't let that sabotage a potentially great connection! You should join us in our course coming up, we will be doing deep work around your love beliefs that will definitely help you
If he plans but doesn't follow through then doesn't feel safe
oh yeah thats a big red flag!
He doesn't , have a big family, his parents pass away but he wants to get to know my family. His only child, he planned everything for that I am his Queen, soulmate, his everything, & he would take bullets for me when I'm in danger. It's sweet, but at the same time, I feel like that only happens in movies. Sometime I just amazed hearing all he wants to plan for us in the future.
YES it is 100% possible my dear, and inevitable as long as you keep moving forward with a vision for the love you want to create
Thank you very much for replying, because sometimes it doesn't makes sense, to me, his my second relationship of my 48yrs. of my life, because I've been single for 28yrs. never been married, until he came along, I never thought that this kind of person it existed, he wants to marry me, have future and enjoy life with each other. Too good to be true, sometimes I feel like it's a dream, but unfortunately it's not. Thank you again.
lol...I have not watched you in a while. #MatShaffer I actually did not recognize you with the 'HAIR".
Haha welcome back!
I love your surname Mat 🥰
That's very sweet.
@@Mat_Shaffer Thank You 🙂 , I am South African , in South Africa where every white man who has a way to leave and immigrate to USA is gone or leaving South Africa , so. . . it's far more difficult for me , see-? Hope that you and Kelly are having a great weekend 🙂 Sending Love 🥰🌹🥰🌹♥️♥️♥️ Biãnca
I was with my boyfriend for two years then he became my husband August 19th
That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!
I’ve been single & divorced for a while now (8 years now) I dated a guy for about a year in the middle there . I want to know how to make conversation with a guy that isn’t dumb or just idle chat. Do guys like women that approach them first ??
Thanks for sharing!
Most of these signs I see in the guy I've been dating he's 65 years old and has been married three times and he is very very gun shy at this moment
Amazing!
So what happens if after you guys broke and reconnected and are wanting to reestablish this type of emotional connection?
Hi There! take time apart , before trying to reconnect, it may be helpful to take some time apart to reflect on your feelings and gain clarity. This can help you approach the situation with a clear head and a better understanding of what you want. Thanks I hope it helps :)
Question: How do go make your curls soo nice… lol… just jk :p thanks for the great video!
Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you!
We're at 2nd point... But there's so many complications... I feel confused myself. And idk what to do
Thanks for sharing!
Hi i have a question. Does this apply for men over 40? I get the impression that in most cases, men will only invest in you if they want children and you are young enough to have them. Could you talk about older people please, Im sure it must be different. Thanks.
Yes it applies to older men as well I'm dating a 42 year old and he has all the signs 🥰❤️
Men may have different goals at different ages, but it honestly doesn’t change how they act when they want a relationship. I’ve found it’s us women giving older men a pass and expecting them to have “baggage” that causes older men to try to get by with a lot of BS. My guy and I started out as friends and he openly said he was too set in his ways and too busy for a relationship. Later he asked me out on dates. Eventually the topic was revisited. But I was honest with myself and him. I cannot move forward and be intimate and everything a girlfriend is without being his girlfriend. We had not been intimate, although there was a lot of kissing. I could tell he was not sure what his answer was. We didn’t talk over the weekend, but that Monday he said he wanted to make me happy and to respect what I wanted. It’s funny how he suddenly has time and wants a relationship. I believe the biggest factors in relationships, is finding a man that truly respects you, not letting him make excuses, and standing by what really makes you happy. Too many times we give a guy the gift of being his girlfriend without ever requiring to be a boyfriend.
Ladies I can guarantee stick with Matt your life changes for the better because if it wasn't for mat I would of still been with my abusive husband but I left after speaking to mat and he made me see the truth what my ex husband was doing and well if it wasn't for mat I would be dead now. Matt saved me and I meet a new man during the very first mastery of connection and well mat knows my journey and watched the transformation. Stick with Mat you won't regret it and that's a promise
@@tanyaklawitter877 He seems ok but i dont really buy all the 'true love and youll be happy forever with a man who adores you' narrative. I need some realistc information about being single over 40yrs from someone ideally.
@@karenKristal well if it wasn't for mat I would be dead right now he saved me from 17 years of continuous abuse and my stupid self thought I could change him and being hit and abused was always nothing to worry about until mat actually took the time to talk. Mat becomes the friend everyone needs. Give him a go and you will see what I mean
I got 5/6 number 1 he doesn't want it especially social media big NO
5 out of 6 is great! some people are just sensitive around social media :)
What are the best qualities to mention on a dating app?
playfulness, spontaneity, adventurousness, passion/presence... feminine and FUN traits :)
How about if he doesn't give you money but he always said if you need anything please let me know asap. He messages every morning and after he closed at work he called but sometimes he said he's busy schedule but he makes time to see each other once in a week
that sounds healthy as long as he's being consistent :)
@@Mat_Shaffer thank you
What does it mean when my guy friend tells me: If I have to go home, you have to go home " or " Get home quickly and be safe.... He's be addment about me be safe lately.
He is concerned about your safety Kimberly as a friend or an admirer, who knows🙌❤️
Mat,what does it mean when a man I am dating says to lower my expectations?
When a man you are dating says to lower your expectations, it typically means that he wants you to have more realistic or modest expectations about the relationship. This statement suggests that he may not be able to meet certain standards or fulfill all of your desires and needs. 🙏❤
@@Mat_Shaffer ❤❤❤
You want to listen to a friendly smiling lawyer for advice 😃
I so appreciate you saying that - that was so sweet of you!
He's doing all the signs except fo the no.1. What can i do about it?
Are you embodying your feminine with him in a meaningful authentic way?
not really.
@@Mat_Shaffer what do you mean by that?
❤❤
Love it❤
How do u know if he's who he says he is and not a scammer
To be sure he's not a scammer, check his story, look at social media and suggest a video call to confirm who he is.
What if you're long distance and over 50?
all of these still apply! a good general rule for long distance - and all other relationships - is CONSISTENT behavior over time! and a desire to close the distance and meet up with you as regularly as realistically possible