I will no longer tolerate doing relationship things with a man without commitment, which includes simple things such as spending the night. I’m 29 and I realize how much time I’ve wasted throughout my 20s.
@@mademoiselleannarose9623 You’ll know when you feel emotionally, physically, mentally safe enough. With my ex, he invested in me and we slept together after 1.5 months. I felt safe with him and we ended up dating for 6 years. It’s not about when you have sex, it’s about how much he shows you he cares, his consistency, and how much his actions match his words. If he is inconsistent and isn’t putting time, energy, effort, money, into you over a long period of time then do not sleep with him.
Sees title of video...takes a deep breath(bc I know he played me) and smashes the like button!!🤣 wish I didn’t have to watch these vids..when a man REALLY likes you..you won’t have to watch these videos
What he gets when he commits that he's not getting right now is.....my LOYALTY TO HIM!!! If he doesn't commit...I will date other men! PERIOD...if that happens he may loose out to another man.....🤷♀️
This is excellent advice!!! Feel guilty when dating other guys but if he's not stepping up to claim me then what are we doing acting exclusive to a man that's unsure
Women, you are giving too much power to men. You are the prize. All of this is too difficult, and it's too much thinking. Follow your intuition. Nowadays, it's almost like begging a man to want to be with you. Flip that. If he wants you he will commit. If you want him you may want to commit. Men have become the women and women the men. Women just love yourselves and stay in your femine energy, and your King will find his Queen (You). If not, take a damn vacation and love on you and your family. Blessings!!!!
Damn. Never thought I would have to take college-level classes just to find a partner. Good information, though. I just feel that so many men want to keep their options open. They are going to end up alone forever.
@@factswise-psychologicalfac84 At least pets are loyal. Plus, I see alot of bachelors with cats so the cat lady stereotype is outdated. What's the point of having a relationship if there is no love, loyalty and trust?
The key take away is to stop wasting time with men who don't want a relationship or is unsure. I personally know this guy who loves doing the relationship stuff like meeting the family, building a business together, spending the night together, doing lots of stuff together, etc. but he's not actually interested in marriage. He did this with an ex for nearly 10 years without any plans to ever marry her because he claims that he never really loved her in that way. To be fair, she is not in his league BUT it only goes to show that men are totally capable of having this kind of long-term relationship with a woman they're not in love with.
It's scary that Elliot is right... But it is what it is. Sometimes you just have to walk away from people who don't serve you well in the end. No matter how much you want them. 😞
He begs me to drop others and he does the same, but he still don't want to commit until he's financially stable, he asked me until this Oct. What should I do? 🤔
This is all so true. Problem is I see a quality guy for a month, several months, then they lose interest and go back on the dating app looking for another option. It's exhausting. I wish dating apps were never invented. It's ruined dating and relationships. I wish things were as they used to be before all the dating apps because too many people are going through these problems of not getting any commitment anymore. Men say they want relationships and women are guilty of this too, but people are setting the standards too high and people are constantly looking for someone new.
Not the apps fault! Sounds like you have a dopamine deficiency to be honest and crave that rush of chemicals. Me too. I get it. I take adderral but still love meeting new people and trying ehem new things. I look at it this way - It’s scaffolding - we see what we don’t like and then go find what we do like. It’s this or better most of the time. BUT, maybe you just need a guy who is more open, who travels, who is exciting? Have you checked out seeking? An affluent guy may be more your type to keep you on your toes. Don’t ever feel bad about leveling up!!
Just realized I sound like an ad. 🤣 My point is level up - and keep going. Men with $$$$ can offer more possibilities and a more dynamic life - go to places they are - you’ll see what I mean. Usually more intelligent, older, confident and have the money to have actual fun!
Perfect analysis, thank you! I just went thru this, I did not stick around. I think he was surprised I ended it. Once the context was created, I was realizing I didnt want what was being created bc it was inconsistent.
witholding sex is dumb! it won't make a guy like you more, i've dated a guy for three months and he spent resources on me, had sex and he bounced! If you want to do it do it. the guy will like you regardless if you have sex early on or not.
So true, love bombing at the start and lots of big gifts because he saw you might like the thing is horrible as there's no true connection, small things he sees because he thinks of you even if he's seeing other people but is consistent over time until you make it official and he drops everyone else is much much better to show he likes you most.
He's so right in the consistency. Teenage version; he doesn't know what to do. Out of school, he's acting weird, staring. Okay, yes, he so was staring at you; he accidentally threw his skateboard into the pool and got in trouble for it. In school, doesn't even pay attention, checking out all the girls. Normal for the age. The girl; should she go out of her way for him? No. He knows where you live, he doesn't go out of his way for you. But, you run into him all the time. You live in the same neighborhood. I call this, just too little or too much going on. If he wants to date you, he needs to stake a claim. He's just playing games because again, he's so young. So until he makes a move, you two are just friends. or even just acquaintances.
Why don't men want to be in a relationship if he doesn't "need" to be? Do women always trap a man in a relationship by manipulation or threats? What is bad for the man when he is in a relationship? Why do women want it and men don't? Please explain the peeks a woman has in a relationship and the downsides to a man being in a relationship. Thanks.
Most men want a relationship and chaise women and offer them to be in a relationship, the problem is, usually these particular women they chaise don't want these particular men lol
A women mostly will have a gd monthly salary without doing anything in the form of alimony, starting from any day she wants …. Even if she has gd education and job … So , this is the park women has been in a relationship. U can argue , what if she earns more. In 99% cases women always date men who earns more than them…. So thats why marriage is only beneficial to women. In past men used to provide for women , they dont have to do anything But also that don’t cost 1/2 of earning if he is a high earner …. , divorce was very rare and it was almost unthinkable that a wife will leave her husband took his money and then start living with another man… But for a man with his 1/2 salary he is not getting any new girls anymore… Thats why men are not willing to not get married easily , they r scared 😅
I’m such a visual learner so this was great. Sometimes we realize we already know most of these things but we slip up on having boundaries and following our intuition within ourselves. Thanks Elliot!
Dating men advice all from the drivers seat on a chalk board bigger than Einsteins and yet the most accurate information on how NOT to give it up. Thanks Elliot.
Well, he should not be dating if he does not want a relationship.. That's where the whole problem lies, a dating app is not a free escort service. Hopefully there will be an app soon where these sleezy guys pretending to be dating for real when they are not gets reported and banned..
I agree with this 100%. I feel disgusted how guys treat dating as a free escort service knowing they go into it knowing all they want is sex and give you zero. It sickens me. Times like this I understand why the escorts are charging and at least they get paid and compensated to be treated in such a way.
That's some excellent coaching! You may think it's crazy, I run my relationships like an airlines. My flight has a designated time to take off. The passenger (my date) reserves a seat and knows about the date. The day wheh he commits, that's like the passengers are checking in his luggage, ready for departure. (A relationship is formed). But, if he's hesitant and being very ambivalent. My flight will take off withoit him, hopefully, with another better and more willing passenger. The trick here is not to delay and hold your "Flight" for someone who's indecisive. Having high values and sticking to them is very important. It will attract the right man and drive away all the wrong ones.
I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone. Women tend to be more emotional, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more understanding, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind hearted, more peaceful, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, more intuitive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way. Women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men. Most women like to do affectionate things with their female friends like cuddling with them and holding their hands and be touchy-feely towards each other, while most men would never do affectionate things with their male friends (especially not cuddling with them or holding their hands or be touchy-feely towards each other). Men are usually much lonelier than women are. Men don't often talk about their personal problems with their male friends like how women do with their female friends. Females produce a lot more oxytocin than males do. And that's a reason why women tend to hug a lot more and be a lot more physically affectionate than men do.
Why should I trust that he will not use early sex against me, if I don`t know him well? It drives me nuts when a guy expects sex on a 3rd date, like I owe him... and if I am not for it, I am withholding sex? WTF! for me, emotional intimacy should preceed physical
If a guy wants a relationship and is truly ready for one, and if he likes you enough to not be able to handle the thought of other men having access to you, he will take you off the market quickly. If he doesn’t, then you’re just nice to have around but not good enough for him to commit to. It’s really that simple. Spend some time getting to know him, see if you like him or not to begin with, then watch his cues. If he is content with having something casual, and not actually locking you down, then decide if that’s something that you wanna be part of…if it’s not, then remove yourself from the situation. Simple.
Do other men hate him for putting this info to us women lol Remember him caveman. We should know this. If he likes you he likes you no matter what you do. Then I think to myself why do I feel the need to acquire a PhD to get a guy and keep him lol wtf
I like listening to Elliot because I think he really does explain how some men think and their logic process. However I would like to see how his teachings develop as he grows in consciousness.
I am always happy when I see you up by the blackboard 😆 I like that you map it out like a relationship science. I’ve been watching your videos for months and am now in a relationship that is fitting the steps you lay out so... so far so good 😊 thanks for your tips and intelligence! It’s helped big time!
hi you are the best dating coach out there, thank you for not only listing out 1 2 3 4 5 signs but actually explaining them - IT REALLY HELPS KEEP UP THE WORK PLEASE
I have to say, seeing your graphs at the end, they are completely accurate. I am Surprised how accurate they are. Men used to act properly like they used to. These days it's like you need a degree to get a man to commit. Fml
@@kathylopez6767 Real men who are secure in their masculinity won’t get intimidated of a successful woman. They will put the work to earn your trust and make you happy regardless. The ones who have an issue with it want to do bare minimum and act like the prize and keep you codependent. Never let a man treat you with inferiority.
@@kathylopez6767 Yess 👏 it’s important to stay single and have self love and be independent first before committing or never change for a man you will only be depressed and miserable.
Da fuq? You better believe my sex is fucking special!!!!! Anywhoo Elliot, love the edumacation, however ima need you to step it up and apply the attachment styles because there will be different outcomes based off of their style.
It's a standards thing you're letting slip bc you like him. I'd tell him to back up and to stop bringing up his ex bc it bothers you. Those are conditions. If he can't follow them, he needs to go.
What happens if you are friends and he acts like an elastic band. For example, you meet up then between meet ups he goes silent. Our friend group regularly meets so I need to be careful how I react
That’s a very useful video. I love the way you explain things, show us the red flags but most importantly I love your spontaneity and straightforwardness! Thanks!!
I'm in a non sexual situationship with a guy who says he doesn't want to date, but acts like a boyfriend. So what's up with that? He's not having sex with anyone either and only talks to me 🤔
Lol I gave my fwb all those assets. But also , I fucked it up several times. I have done a lot of work on my emotional health...but I get it I fucked it up
You say he’s divorced or been cheated on.. what if he divorced a long time ago? Or he was cheated on years ago? Does that count as emotionally unavailable?
Ok someone answer this….when should you have the move in together talk? On average. I know there will be lots of options but I think 6 months is too soon ! 1 year at least even 2
7:55 - That's actually really good news! So the crucial part is finding a guy who wants a relationship before even meeting me? Is this how it works? I thought that men do not look for committed relationships.
I guess they don't need a relationship if they can get relationship benefits for free without a commitment, which is why its womans responsibility to enforce boundaries and standards or most men will take advantage. Do not give any intimacy without commitment and love first.
Thanks so much Elliot!!! Funny enough I’ve been dating a guy for a few weeks. He’s said the same thing. It doesn’t matter when we have sex. I thought he was lying but hearing you say it’s about trust. That now makes sense. I realize my comfort is super important to him. You’re right he’s an attractive man with options so he could easily go elsewhere.
Had a fwb situation. He didn't want a relationship. Neither did I when we met. When I felt more I tried moving on and he became obsessive, text or calls even if I block him. Eventually, I stopped being intimate with him (almost a year now) & he still won't go away. And now claims to want to get to know me, expressing emotions & be a part of my life blah blah, but his actions don't match. Long story short, now I'm changing my number a truly moving on. 🤷♀️ Elliott? What do you think about changing my number after he claims to want to "get to know me and "care for me"?
Girl don't do it. I've been in a fwb for 3 years now and its going no where. You deserve better❤ im only with mine because I dont have time for a man right now
@@Vanessa257888 Thanks Vanessa. But I've already ended things. Haven't had sex with him in almost a year. HE won't let go. The question was should I change my phone number BECAUSE he won't stop contacting me even if I block him.
I will no longer tolerate doing relationship things with a man without commitment, which includes simple things such as spending the night. I’m 29 and I realize how much time I’ve wasted throughout my 20s.
I won’t. I’m a virgin at 29 and while it sucks sometimes I do realize I’m making the right choices.
@@j-tenn226 what type of commitment shall we wait for? Becoming his gf, or a bigger commitment?
@@FM-zg5hz in order to protect ourselves, should we wait for marriage or simply wait til he asks us to be his girlfriend?
@@mademoiselleannarose9623 You’ll know when you feel emotionally, physically, mentally safe enough. With my ex, he invested in me and we slept together after 1.5 months. I felt safe with him and we ended up dating for 6 years. It’s not about when you have sex, it’s about how much he shows you he cares, his consistency, and how much his actions match his words. If he is inconsistent and isn’t putting time, energy, effort, money, into you over a long period of time then do not sleep with him.
@@FM-zg5hz thank you ❤
Sees title of video...takes a deep breath(bc I know he played me)
and smashes the like button!!🤣 wish I didn’t have to watch these vids..when a man REALLY likes you..you won’t have to watch these videos
I hate it here lol 😫🤣
So true!
You’re beautiful. Cry, punch, do whatever you have to do to stay strong.
💞💞💞 you got this!
I watch to stay married....the love affair is truly with ourselves to attract and keep em! 🥰
Same 😭🤣
"Seek first his kingdom and his righteousness and all these things will be given to you as well." -Matthew 6:33
Amen
What he gets when he commits that he's not getting right now is.....my LOYALTY TO HIM!!! If he doesn't commit...I will date other men! PERIOD...if that happens he may loose out to another man.....🤷♀️
This is excellent advice!!! Feel guilty when dating other guys but if he's not stepping up to claim me then what are we doing acting exclusive to a man that's unsure
1. Transitions into move (he wants more). He won't put himself in a position to lose you.
2. Invests heavily over time.
3. Threads lives
Thank youuuu. He takes so long to get to the point with these NFL John Madden maps. Get to the point, damn.
Thank you. This guy talked WAY too long. I got halfway through and started scrolling for a comment just like this one.
Threads lives?
Women, you are giving too much power to men. You are the prize. All of this is too difficult, and it's too much thinking. Follow your intuition. Nowadays, it's almost like begging a man to want to be with you. Flip that. If he wants you he will commit. If you want him you may want to commit. Men have become the women and women the men. Women just love yourselves and stay in your femine energy, and your King will find his Queen (You). If not, take a damn vacation and love on you and your family. Blessings!!!!
Absolutely. The notion that most guys can have sex with "many many women" is nonsense.
Damn. Never thought I would have to take college-level classes just to find a partner. Good information, though. I just feel that so many men want to keep their options open. They are going to end up alone forever.
😂 really??? And who's gonna be the Cat ladies.
They want all the girls on their FB 😆
@@factswise-psychologicalfac84 At least pets are loyal. Plus, I see alot of bachelors with cats so the cat lady stereotype is outdated. What's the point of having a relationship if there is no love, loyalty and trust?
@@DallasJayCook I've noticed the girl collectors on FB. That's why I only accept close friends and family on FB. It's all an ego boost for men.
@@MC-rw2bk Pets are not only loyal but also Easy to control.... And that's what women want to do...
The key take away is to stop wasting time with men who don't want a relationship or is unsure. I personally know this guy who loves doing the relationship stuff like meeting the family, building a business together, spending the night together, doing lots of stuff together, etc. but he's not actually interested in marriage. He did this with an ex for nearly 10 years without any plans to ever marry her because he claims that he never really loved her in that way. To be fair, she is not in his league BUT it only goes to show that men are totally capable of having this kind of long-term relationship with a woman they're not in love with.
It's scary that Elliot is right...
But it is what it is.
Sometimes you just have to walk away from people who don't serve you well in the end.
No matter how much you want them. 😞
yeah
As a visual type learner I really appreciate these graphs! Makes it easier to understand
@driftingofftosleep what he said
💯💯💯 agree with you!! Elliot’s videos & ways of teaching is AMAZING!!! Clear, to the point, but very well explained. TY ELLIOT!!!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻👏🏻🙌🏻🔥❤️😎
Agree!
lol women should take and keep options, until he begs to drop others and he does the same!!
He begs me to drop others and he does the same, but he still don't want to commit until he's financially stable, he asked me until this Oct. What should I do? 🤔
This is all so true. Problem is I see a quality guy for a month, several months, then they lose interest and go back on the dating app looking for another option. It's exhausting. I wish dating apps were never invented. It's ruined dating and relationships. I wish things were as they used to be before all the dating apps because too many people are going through these problems of not getting any commitment anymore. Men say they want relationships and women are guilty of this too, but people are setting the standards too high and people are constantly looking for someone new.
Not the apps fault!
Sounds like you have a dopamine deficiency to be honest and crave that rush of chemicals. Me too. I get it. I take adderral but still love meeting new people and trying ehem new things. I look at it this way -
It’s scaffolding - we see what we don’t like and then go find what we do like.
It’s this or better most of the time.
BUT, maybe you just need a guy who is more open, who travels, who is exciting?
Have you checked out seeking? An affluent guy may be more your type to keep you on your toes.
Don’t ever feel bad about leveling up!!
Just realized I sound like an ad. 🤣 My point is level up - and keep going. Men with $$$$ can offer more possibilities and a more dynamic life - go to places they are - you’ll see what I mean. Usually more intelligent, older, confident and have the money to have actual fun!
Or they say women's standards are high bc they want easy access to her.
Perfect analysis, thank you! I just went thru this, I did not stick around. I think he was surprised I ended it. Once the context was created, I was realizing I didnt want what was being created bc it was inconsistent.
THIS!!!!!
I always thought the guy pulled away because I've shown my feelings. But it probably was context... Every guy I chose was/is emotionally unavailable 😳
The blackboard with red, and blue and lines all over is how he makes my brain feel with all of his game playing. NO.
witholding sex is dumb! it won't make a guy like you more, i've dated a guy for three months and he spent resources on me, had sex and he bounced! If you want to do it do it. the guy will like you regardless if you have sex early on or not.
I usually dont want any TH-cam videos anything more than 20 minutes! But I have to say I absolutely LOVED this video! Thank you Elliot!
Wow, thank you!
So true, love bombing at the start and lots of big gifts because he saw you might like the thing is horrible as there's no true connection, small things he sees because he thinks of you even if he's seeing other people but is consistent over time until you make it official and he drops everyone else is much much better to show he likes you most.
Can you make a video about how men transition to wanting a relationship after being emotionally unavailable. Specially if he's been divorce?
What happens when I am emotional unavailable but want to become available. And then find the same in men 🤣🚩
He's so right in the consistency. Teenage version; he doesn't know what to do. Out of school, he's acting weird, staring. Okay, yes, he so was staring at you; he accidentally threw his skateboard into the pool and got in trouble for it. In school, doesn't even pay attention, checking out all the girls. Normal for the age. The girl; should she go out of her way for him? No. He knows where you live, he doesn't go out of his way for you. But, you run into him all the time. You live in the same neighborhood. I call this, just too little or too much going on. If he wants to date you, he needs to stake a claim. He's just playing games because again, he's so young. So until he makes a move, you two are just friends. or even just acquaintances.
Why don't men want to be in a relationship if he doesn't "need" to be? Do women always trap a man in a relationship by manipulation or threats? What is bad for the man when he is in a relationship? Why do women want it and men don't? Please explain the peeks a woman has in a relationship and the downsides to a man being in a relationship. Thanks.
Most men want a relationship and chaise women and offer them to be in a relationship, the problem is, usually these particular women they chaise don't want these particular men lol
A women mostly will have a gd monthly salary without doing anything in the form of alimony, starting from any day she wants ….
Even if she has gd education and job …
So , this is the park women has been in a relationship.
U can argue , what if she earns more.
In 99% cases women always date men who earns more than them….
So thats why marriage is only beneficial to women.
In past men used to provide for women , they dont have to do anything
But also that don’t cost 1/2 of earning if he is a high earner ….
, divorce was very rare and it was almost unthinkable that a wife will leave her husband took his money and then start living with another man…
But for a man with his 1/2 salary he is not getting any new girls anymore…
Thats why men are not willing to not get married easily , they r scared 😅
I’m such a visual learner so this was great. Sometimes we realize we already know most of these things but we slip up on having boundaries and following our intuition within ourselves. Thanks Elliot!
Glad it was helpful!
So many people lie, cheat, use, abuse, play with people's feelings, that it's hideous. The dating apps and sites have made it easier for them.
Dating men advice all from the drivers seat on a chalk board bigger than Einsteins and yet the most accurate information on how NOT to give it up. Thanks Elliot.
Well, he should not be dating if he does not want a relationship.. That's where the whole problem lies, a dating app is not a free escort service. Hopefully there will be an app soon where these sleezy guys pretending to be dating for real when they are not gets reported and banned..
I agree with this 100%. I feel disgusted how guys treat dating as a free escort service knowing they go into it knowing all they want is sex and give you zero. It sickens me. Times like this I understand why the escorts are charging and at least they get paid and compensated to be treated in such a way.
I love how direct u are. It makes me laugh. We women can be so complicated sometimes.
That's some excellent coaching! You may think it's crazy, I run my relationships like an airlines. My flight has a designated time to take off. The passenger (my date) reserves a seat and knows about the date. The day wheh he commits, that's like the passengers are checking in his luggage, ready for departure. (A relationship is formed). But, if he's hesitant and being very ambivalent. My flight will take off withoit him, hopefully, with another better and more willing passenger. The trick here is not to delay and hold your "Flight" for someone who's indecisive. Having high values and sticking to them is very important. It will attract the right man and drive away all the wrong ones.
I just started dating again .. But, Damn all the signs, signals , trying to figure a man out is driving me bananas! 🤷🏻♀️
I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other.
Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone.
Women tend to be more emotional, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more understanding, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind hearted, more peaceful, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, more intuitive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way.
Women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men.
Most women like to do affectionate things with their female friends like cuddling with them and holding their hands and be touchy-feely towards each other, while most men would never do affectionate things with their male friends (especially not cuddling with them or holding their hands or be touchy-feely towards each other). Men are usually much lonelier than women are. Men don't often talk about their personal problems with their male friends like how women do with their female friends.
Females produce a lot more oxytocin than males do. And that's a reason why women tend to hug a lot more and be a lot more physically affectionate than men do.
Why should I trust that he will not use early sex against me, if I don`t know him well? It drives me nuts when a guy expects sex on a 3rd date, like I owe him... and if I am not for it, I am withholding sex? WTF! for me, emotional intimacy should preceed physical
Basically a man needs a woman with wife worthy qualities like virtue, diligence in work, honesty, kindness, etc
elliott your advantages are perfect. if you are available and he sees you all the time without commitment, why would he commit?
Yes, I agree. But could we touch on what to do different if you are in this position?
I need work out how to actually find a guy first. Lockdown isn’t helping 🙄
If a guy wants a relationship and is truly ready for one, and if he likes you enough to not be able to handle the thought of other men having access to you, he will take you off the market quickly. If he doesn’t, then you’re just nice to have around but not good enough for him to commit to. It’s really that simple. Spend some time getting to know him, see if you like him or not to begin with, then watch his cues. If he is content with having something casual, and not actually locking you down, then decide if that’s something that you wanna be part of…if it’s not, then remove yourself from the situation. Simple.
When u put it this way...why do guys ever want relationship 😂
Elliot I need to get you to draw EKG Rhythms for all my medical students. 😁maybe they will learn something.
hahaha
Do other men hate him for putting this info to us women lol
Remember him caveman.
We should know this. If he likes you he likes you no matter what you do.
Then I think to myself why do I feel the need to acquire a PhD to get a guy and keep him lol wtf
I like listening to Elliot because I think he really does explain how some men think and their logic process. However I would like to see how his teachings develop as he grows in consciousness.
Finished the video but what wondering... So what are the 3 signs?
Threading, context, advantages... I think
love bombers are not emotional available and this tactic can be a start of a lots of dammage, it can cost your health also
Your my favorite coach you put it out as real as it is i relate with all you say thankyou so much just makes me value myself more
You are so welcome
I am always happy when I see you up by the blackboard 😆 I like that you map it out like a relationship science. I’ve been watching your videos for months and am now in a relationship that is fitting the steps you lay out so... so far so good 😊 thanks for your tips and intelligence! It’s helped big time!
Also the new format is great! It seems quicker, less messy and your able to jump around and explain things more easily through the graphs.
Nice. I still havent found the one that wants and deserves me. I need both!! happy new year!!
Yes,Queen
You never will sweetie..
@@factswise-psychologicalfac84 Boys vs Men..some of us know our worth
Happy new year!!
Elliott your king of the coaches
Thank you that means a lot
hi you are the best dating coach out there, thank you for not only listing out 1 2 3 4 5 signs but actually explaining them - IT REALLY HELPS KEEP UP THE WORK PLEASE
Def my favorite dating coach! Thankful for your brain and perspective Elliot! Have yourself a good weekend!
You too!!
I LOVED this. you really answered a lot of my questions that I've been dealing with my crush. thank you elliot!!
I have to say, seeing your graphs at the end, they are completely accurate. I am
Surprised how accurate they are. Men used to act properly like they used to. These days it's like you need a degree to get a man to commit. Fml
Nope, I have a masters and trust me guys actually get intimidated and act like jerks because they don’t want the woman to be superior
@@kathylopez6767 Real men who are secure in their masculinity won’t get intimidated of a successful woman. They will put the work to earn your trust and make you happy regardless. The ones who have an issue with it want to do bare minimum and act like the prize and keep you codependent. Never let a man treat you with inferiority.
@@Va13chka You are absolutely right sister! Love your comment!!
@@kathylopez6767 Yess 👏 it’s important to stay single and have self love and be independent first before committing or never change for a man you will only be depressed and miserable.
You are so direct and so funny! And I find your perspective and delivery great!
Seriously! I love the way you blackboard it!! Charts and graphs... love it!!!
Da fuq? You better believe my sex is fucking special!!!!! Anywhoo Elliot, love the edumacation, however ima need you to step it up and apply the attachment styles because there will be different outcomes based off of their style.
This was the best lecture I’ve ever had . Ever. Thank you.
This is so funny but factual af 😂😂😂😂😂
That’s too much game playing .
Ok but then what do you do when he gets too clingy.... or he's perfect except he talks about his ex all the time?
It's a standards thing you're letting slip bc you like him. I'd tell him to back up and to stop bringing up his ex bc it bothers you. Those are conditions. If he can't follow them, he needs to go.
I agree with Elliot. She is a ex for a reason or let him go so he can figure out what or who is more important 🙂
If he talks about his ex all the time then he's not perfect sis
Welp, I laid it out and he said he wasn't going to change... so I let him go. I'm so sad but I know it's right.
@@MoonFoxASMR I'm VERY PROUD of you tho bc I know it's hard
You’re so funny 😂 thank you for these pearls of wisdom Elliot 🙌🏼
Are you a Virgo or any other earth sign? I love how detailed this was. Thank you 😊
Thank you Elliot! Looks like my guy is the emotionally unavailable type!! You answered a doubt I always had for almost 8 years!!
LOVIN this new technology you got Elliott!!!!! Steppin it up!!!!! MMMmm
What happens if you are friends and he acts like an elastic band. For example, you meet up then between meet ups he goes silent. Our friend group regularly meets so I need to be careful how I react
That’s a very useful video. I love the way you explain things, show us the red flags but most importantly I love your spontaneity and straightforwardness! Thanks!!
I'm in a non sexual situationship with a guy who says he doesn't want to date, but acts like a boyfriend. So what's up with that? He's not having sex with anyone either and only talks to me 🤔
He's just waiting til you give in for sex... Also he's not into you. You fulfill some kind of role though... Probably his psychologist
Any update on this?
I wish teachers in school had taught like this because it's great for us ppl with ADHD 😂🤣😂
Oh my goodness.. i loveeee youuuu when u’re outta topic ((again)) 😂😂😂😂😂💋
"You don't want any spikes rather it's up or down. You want it to be consistent."
Clean up your language!!! Show respect to Jesus you took his name in vain twice!!!!
Great video ! Thank you. I learned a few things I didn't know..
Great explanation! I appreciate you explaining context AND your visual chart explanations. Thank you.
Exactly! I only date men looking for a stay at home wife or a sugar baby! That’s my preference 😊
Lol I gave my fwb all those assets. But also , I fucked it up several times. I have done a lot of work on my emotional health...but I get it I fucked it up
This is spot on!!!! Amazing work Elliot.
You say he’s divorced or been cheated on.. what if he divorced a long time ago? Or he was cheated on years ago? Does that count as emotionally unavailable?
They should teach this in school
You're the only one who gets it
Ok someone answer this….when should you have the move in together talk? On average. I know there will be lots of options but I think 6 months is too soon ! 1 year at least even 2
I am OBSESSED with you! This is SOOO GOOD AND SOOO FUNNY! I’m DYING! 😆😂🤣😂 Elliot you are AMAZING! You made me laugh SO HARD every damn time!
Thank you! Finally broke things down & made it so simple, logical and it just makes sense!!! Finally! 🙏
Can you talk about a guy who is co par3nting with ex and they have good relationship
9:41 the burp 🤣🤣🤣
This was phenomenal thank you
7:55 - That's actually really good news! So the crucial part is finding a guy who wants a relationship before even meeting me? Is this how it works? I thought that men do not look for committed relationships.
I guess they don't need a relationship if they can get relationship benefits for free without a commitment, which is why its womans responsibility to enforce boundaries and standards or most men will take advantage. Do not give any intimacy without commitment and love first.
The graphics is halirious but its helping someone 😂😂😂
The diabetes comment was the best! 😂😂😂 I love your content however found this specific video to be a bit confusing!
Hello. Is 6 months single to recent? I’m talking to someone younger too.
How this can help me feel better? 😪
You’re funny 😍
Elliot I think you’re the guy every woman wants to date!!
My favorite part “I don’t care what those other coaches say, I’m right”
Thanks so much Elliot!!! Funny enough I’ve been dating a guy for a few weeks. He’s said the same thing. It doesn’t matter when we have sex. I thought he was lying but hearing you say it’s about trust. That now makes sense. I realize my comfort is super important to him. You’re right he’s an attractive man with options so he could easily go elsewhere.
I like how you used different colors to write with.
I love these colours! More interactive vids, please! 😍
You got it!
Elliot, you da best and i love you
I’m loving the visual models! Please do more videos like this
You are terrfic Elliot, very wise !! 👍😊 A great coach ,with lots of wisdom!! Your humor too is Awesome!! I enjoy watching your videos, ThankYou!
Still here in 2024 f*ckn luv u!❤
Had a fwb situation. He didn't want a relationship. Neither did I when we met. When I felt more I tried moving on and he became obsessive, text or calls even if I block him. Eventually, I stopped being intimate with him (almost a year now) & he still won't go away. And now claims to want to get to know me, expressing emotions & be a part of my life blah blah, but his actions don't match. Long story short, now I'm changing my number a truly moving on. 🤷♀️
Elliott? What do you think about changing my number after he claims to want to "get to know me and "care for me"?
Girl don't do it. I've been in a fwb for 3 years now and its going no where. You deserve better❤ im only with mine because I dont have time for a man right now
@@Vanessa257888 Thanks Vanessa. But I've already ended things. Haven't had sex with him in almost a year. HE won't let go. The question was should I change my phone number BECAUSE he won't stop contacting me even if I block him.
@@dw6317 girl yes. Does he give you vibes that he might physically hurt you?
@@Vanessa257888 no not at all. He just won't accept moving on.
@@dw6317 then yes ,get that new number 👏
Me want assets, me give resources! :D
I so appreciate your videos!
I love this format of presentation. You speak and present well. Keep it up. Love ur content.