How to be IRRESISTIBLE over Text | 6 Strategies That Work Every Time!

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  • @Mat_Shaffer
    @Mat_Shaffer  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    QUESTION OF THE DAY - what texts have YOU used with men that they have loved? ;)
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    • @denisewilliams454
      @denisewilliams454 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Hi Mat ,
      I find your video’s to be a magic way of learning to communicate with our male friends. Especially as I am 70 + years, and possibly the oldest female in our Bible study group held here locally in Whangarei NZ . It is very difficult to reinvent yourself . So to speak. Especially having been Married for 52 years. After our separation in December 2022. I found it very difficult to socialise at all in mixed company . Until a wonderful couple we had known many years ago . Invited me to join them for a Christmas get together on the 23rd of December 2023. My second Christmas to be separated from our family. Due to the nature of our separation.
      I wasn’t aware that it was going to be a large gathering of about 50 + people. Otherwise I would never have gone for sure. Far to humble and shy to attend a Bible study group end of year celebration. On arriving. I was terrified at how many vehicles, and what was more daunting the number of people gathered around the table .starting off with a beautiful shared lunch and then a Christmas sing along, as well as gospel songs. Then a beautiful church service taken by Ted Pryce.
      After a beautiful meal this lady had prepared for all their guests.
      As cell phones seem to be the only form of communication for most households these days I found it very difficult to know what to say in a text As I hadn’t been in touch with this beautiful couple since 2005. We had spent Christmas Day together. Then we lost touch as Ted and Noy moved away from the church I attended back then,
      To make things a little more complicated. Ted is a Jamician man, and Noy comes from the Phillipines . With limited English speaking experience. I decided to phone them back my response to say I would love to come. Thinking it was just going to be them and myself. Now that I was separated
      Ted didn’t let on that it was a large group of friends gathering together to share in their end of year worship together. I arrived a little later than the arranged meeting time . Due to heavy traffic volumes that day. But I was soon made very welcome by the whole group, and quickly made some wonderful new friends. Friends are Family we choose for ourselves.
      I am now part of this wonderful group of Christians enjoying their fellowship ,and Bible studies.
      But we do have to communicate with each other mainly through text messages.
      There is as many males in the group as females . Most of our communication wit each other is done by texting. Eg if there is a change of time or venue for our study night.
      The men would range in age from early 60’s down to the younger members in their early twenties .
      So this was a huge step for me to communicate with the men folk. Especially the more mature ones.
      How to send them a message or scriptures sharing in an appropriate manner. Was a huge challenge for me at first. It was not until I stumbled on your video that I was able to reply back to the men folk of our group so thank you for your help. It has made me feel like I am part Of the group without the embarrassment of not knowing what was appropriate to share with a group of Christian men. Being a more mature lady. On her own. So thank you for sharing your experience with us. On texting men folk . Has made my life a whole bunch easier with regards to texting these men in our group 🙏👍
      It certainly made it a whole lot easier for me to communicate with the whole group as a family in Jesus Christ. Without feeling overwhelmed by everything that you wanted to communicate. But not over step the order in which we live as Christians. By that I mean God in the head of the church then comes Jesus. Then our men folk and us ladies are under our husbands or the men of our church.
      So Thank you for your brilliant service of how to message male. members of our group l 😇🙏👍

    • @THCKawaii
      @THCKawaii 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Your energy throughout this entire launch has been so magnetic, it is truly amazing how you can serve that energy for 4-5 hours straight. I don't understand why you would compare the past version of yourself to who you are now. There is no comparison. Forty two after all is the meaning of life the universe and everything. Self care is an investment. Seems like you could use a little magic back in your life. The wand chooses the wizard Mr.✨🧙‍♂️

    • @MysticRevolation
      @MysticRevolation 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Matt - Olivias so jealous of you and your wife, that she used sex magic to end your relationships. You and cal were together how long? All you do is praise each other and talk with love in regards to each other. You were just talking about having children together, and all the sudden barely a month later you break up after how long and with so much love left.... then victor and his wife, arguing, struggling, fighting, he recently announced their hard times and said they wondered why they were still married. Olivia! Olivia used sex magic to destroy everyone's connections and true love relationships. She breaking everyone apart because she's jealous. Olivia was the only one close enough to do it. She turned everyone against everyone.

    • @BennificialFactor
      @BennificialFactor 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Mystic Revolation Theres an army rising up, to bring miah justice and bring judgement to the situation. - we're conspiring to find the first post, and comment on the first video post of the account. Joining forces as a collective. -
      I agree let's talk about your friend Aaron Doughty For A Minute. Do you know what I've seen him doing to Miah in tarot readings? Do you know how toxic and abusive your friend is to women? He is a player/womanizer? He lead miah on for months, Played miah who is his devine counterpart by the way. He bullied her. He harassed her. He even slapped her around in the This may have been the result of a spell, but how are you going to be seen with that? Support that behavior? After promising Miah the world, he convinces her to leave everyone she knows, she Flys 3,000 miles from home. (This story would make a great book one day) she almost gets sex trafficked and killed due to Olivia's spells. Olivia the prostitute who doesn't want her clients recognizing her. The harlot who is afraid her customers might speak up and ruin her reputation. The hooker Aaron cheated on miah with, and ended up nearly (that's another story) he was protected for miah but olivia has hiv.... getting aids from her, and trapped into a marriage, & being the father of a child that wasn't even his anyways. Just to keep the twinflames apart. Because miah is so beautiful, olivias hateful and jealous. Aaron needs to be a man, step up and take action and kick that bird out the nest. Olivias a Robin! Robin everyone of love joy and peace. Kick olivia out the nest. You need to check out Miahs Facebook look long and hard at all the stuff. Miah put a death spell on olivia not knowing if it would work, not knowing if she was doing a real spell. scared to death if it did that it would backfire and kill her, but was willing to do it because olivia can't cancel the spell. (We all know she can she's pretending it was an accident and she doesn't know how to break the spell) so to save Aaron she took a risk, sacrificed herself, chancing her karma would be dying too if it meant she could save Aaron and he could have a good life she was willing. Aaron hasn't learned anything from his first relationship. He's still choosing people who don't choose him. Repeating cycles. He choose olivia whose not choosing him, choose choose to control him. She choose to manipulate him and she choose his money. That's not love. She's emotionally unavailable. When you love someone you let them go. Miah let go. She let Aaron go because he made his choice. But I'll be dammed if I sit by and let the witch that cursed the prince and turned him into a stone cold beast win. The enemy should never win. Olivia is a clear enemy. The enemy should never win! She is a terrorist and no one should negotiate with terrorist. She doesn't get the prize. Aarons needs to cut his losses and cut her loose. Weather he wants miah or not, divorce that witch.Miahs spell did backfire btw. She started to die, but her higherself had a plan.... Her soul walked out to answer karmically, and another soul walked in. Miah did die in a since. A esoteric principle most people won't understand.

    • @BennificialFactor
      @BennificialFactor 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@MysticRevolation
      I agree let's talk about your friend Aaron Doughty For A Minute. Do you know what I've seen him doing to Miah in tarot readings? Do you know how toxic and abusive your friend is to women? How is a father, and husband, friends with a player/womanizer? He lead miah on for months, Played miah who is his devine counterpart by the way. He bullied her. He harassed her. He even slapped her around. This may have been the result of a spell, but how are you going to be seen with that? Support that behavior? After promising Miah the world, he convinces her to leave everyone she knows, she Flys 3,000 miles from home. (This story would make a great book one day) she almost gets sex trafficked and killed due to Olivia's spells. Olivia the prostitute who doesn't want her clients recognizing her. The harlot who is afraid her customers might speak up and ruin her reputation. The hooker Aaron cheated on miah with, and ended up nearly (that's another story) he was protected for miah but olivia has hiv.... getting aids from her, and trapped into a marriage, & being the father of a child that wasn't even his anyways. Just to keep the twinflames apart. Because miah is so beautiful, she's hateful and jealous. Aaron needs to be a man, step up and take action and kick that bird out the nest. She's a Robin! Robin everyone of love joy and peace. Kick olivia out the nest. You need to check out Miahs Facebook look long and hard at all the stuff. She put a death spell on olivia not knowing if it would work, scared to death if it did that it would backfire and kill her, but was willing to do it because olivia can't cancel the spell. (We all know she can she's pretending it was an accident and she doesn't know how to break the spell) so to save Aaron she took a risk, sacrificed herself, chancing her karma would be dying too if it meant she could save Aaron and he could have a good life she was willing. Aaron hasn't learned anything from his first relationship. He's still choosing people who don't choose him. Repeating cycles. He choose olivia whose not choosing him, choose choose to control him. She choose to manipulate him and she choose his money. That's not love. She's emotionally unavailable. When you love someone you let them go. Miah let go. She let Aaron go because he made his choice. But I'll be dammed if I sit by and let the witch that cursed the prince and turned him into a stone cold beast win. The enemy should never win. Olivia is a clear enemy. The enemy should never win! She is a terrorist and no one should negotiate with terrorist. She doesn't get the prize. Aarons needs to cut his losses and cut her loose. Weather he wants miah or not, divorce that witch.

  • @IM-uh5tk
    @IM-uh5tk 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    1:41 be unpredictably predictable
    3:35 use emojis
    4:53 share the little things
    6:11 cultivate curiosity
    7:33 positivity is key
    8:55 genuine compliments

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thanks so much

    • @karadiberlino
      @karadiberlino 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yeah from my experience most men can‘t handle it in a good way, they over-interpret and want to rush into things.
      I like to take it slowly, so I avoid texting and prefer a phone call.

  • @danieladiaz2680
    @danieladiaz2680 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    After not having any contact over the weekend, I sent him a text Monday morning asking him what was one thing that made him smile over the weekend. He said that was a beautiful question ❤

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      so sweet thanks for sharing! it's a great connection:)

  • @denisewilliams454
    @denisewilliams454 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    Receiving a lovely compliment from one of the younger men in our church service held out doors on Sunday. About how sensible , and amazing I looked in my clothes I was wearing . On that hot summer’s afternoon I felt like ,a million dollars like I was the Queen, and he was complimenting her on her outfit.. not to make you feel uncomfortable. Or not sure how to respond or receive that compliment. It wasn’t supposed to be taken in a flirtatious manner. It was delivered brilliantly by this young man . Almost like he was complimenting his mother on her outfit. Mum had chosen for her Sunday best . Thank you Tony you are a very special young man

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      AMAZING love that share!!:)

    • @MiahJacobs777
      @MiahJacobs777 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks❤

    • @denisewilliams454
      @denisewilliams454 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Mat_Shaffer Thank you you are welcome 🙏😆

  • @galitf100
    @galitf100 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Hi Matt. Thank u so much for this wonderful video. I find your videos very informative and fun. I would love to hear more examples of what to say to a guy in a text. Like for point number 1 I felt I needed an example to understand how to communicate what u mentioned.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      So glad you enjoyed it!:) Many more to come!

  • @MaitshotloMotshabi
    @MaitshotloMotshabi 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I'm happy for this video woooow sometimes I'm clueless and don't know what to do tank you so much for this mat❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Happy I could be of help.

  • @legaleagle4947
    @legaleagle4947 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks Mat… needed this advice ❤

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You're very welcome.

  • @anabeatriz_24
    @anabeatriz_24 หลายเดือนก่อน

    your videos and content is SO good! thanks so much for that, never saw this theme so well explained in a video!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      So happy to hear you enjoyed it! 😊 It means a lot to know the content resonated with you-here’s to mastering the art of irresistible texting! 😉🔥

  • @secretshaman189
    @secretshaman189 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Some great reminders, thank-you for your masculine viewpoint!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Your kind words touch my heart

  • @carolinew9964
    @carolinew9964 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    OMG fancied someone for a while took us a long time to get dating it was a mutual attraction but went out like a fizzle I walked away.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  หลายเดือนก่อน

      good for you walking away!

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thank you for sharing your journey with us. If you're contemplating whether it's the right time to date again, our 'Are You Ready to Date Again?' quiz might provide some helpful insights. 💖 mat-nlcmdzyq.scoreapp.com/

  • @BlessedUno
    @BlessedUno 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you, Mat! 💖

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Your comment is much appreciated! If you're thinking about dating again, our 'Are You Ready to Date Again?' quiz can help you figure out if you're ready. 🌸 mat-nlcmdzyq.scoreapp.com/

  • @OwesomePrincess
    @OwesomePrincess 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I want to wish you IRRESISTIBLE happy birthday Mat! You ended your 7 year cycle with a bang! Wishing you for the rest of this decade and next cycle to only get happier, better, healthier and of course even more IRRESISTIBLE 😂❤🎉🥳🎂✨🎊🎉

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You’re making me blush! Thanks for the lovely comment. 💕

    • @OwesomePrincess
      @OwesomePrincess 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@Mat_Shaffer glad you like them! ❤

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Great to hear from you! If you're unsure about dating again, our 'Are You Ready to Date Again?' quiz might help you decide. Check it out! 🌟 mat-nlcmdzyq.scoreapp.com/

  • @catherineottilio3273
    @catherineottilio3273 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    exceptional

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks so much my dear!

  • @nospoon1111
    @nospoon1111 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Thanks Mat. Very helpful! I wonder if men can be a positive support system for us too? Like when we're having a bad day. Ive never had that but would like to feel supported and uplofted on my bad days too. Is it unreasonable to expect that from men? Genuine question 🙏

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Glad to help.

  • @serenitygilles7064
    @serenitygilles7064 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I feel i need this vid in my life I suck and grow impatient over text which yea....maybe some lotr stuff....🤓

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Fantastic! Thanks so much!

  • @opossumdreams
    @opossumdreams 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    My husband passed unexpectedly. I’m not interested in dating. Not now. I’m glad I found your channel. I’m scared of y’all, guy men people, yet. 😂😂😂
    Anyway, thank you for learning me better.
    I’m teasing but I do believe I’ve been a slow learner. I’m dating me right now, so I’m booked up for a while anyway…..
    Thank you for making things “real.” TY

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You are so welcome!

  • @lindadeise4575
    @lindadeise4575 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My boyfriend helps a friend of his by shovelling and cutting the grass. This person is physically unable to do that anymore. I have told him many times how kind and thoughtful he is to do that for her and he just shrugs it off.

    • @AxelLovesSomeone
      @AxelLovesSomeone 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      One of my friends doesn't really say anything when I tell him things I appreciate about him or give him compliments. I think he just doesn't feel comfortable accepting compliments.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Thanks so much for your feedback!

  • @LoriDawnThomas
    @LoriDawnThomas 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I know that the guy I am interested in is seeing other females we have not been going out long so I am not in a position of playing clingy. I just want him to notice me and want to be with me. We click and I feel there is really something to pursue but I am not sure he feels the same way

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      It's okay to want someone to notice you, but make sure you're both on the same page. Have an honest chat about your feelings and see where it leads. Your feelings matter too!

  • @zensvlognotapro
    @zensvlognotapro 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You are as healthy as a horse Mat 💪🤜🤛

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      thanks! :)

  • @kimstarlet7287
    @kimstarlet7287 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    How do i get a guy who just wants friends with benefits to want a relationship with me ?

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I promise there are good guys out there my dear!

    • @kimstarlet7287
      @kimstarlet7287 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Mat_Shaffer I just wish I could find them

    • @snowwpea
      @snowwpea 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      You can’t force anything, let it be. If you’re ok with that, go with it. However, I think you deserve better. You deserve a man who wants you, not just for his own physical benefit.

  • @MiahJacobs777
    @MiahJacobs777 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This kinda scares me but thank you. Im a weirdo. And i do all these things naturually and guys say im weird and i repel them pretty quickly. I tend not to chat much especiallt when i really like the guy. Like... Well... I wont say his name... Its like that voldimort name in harry potter... dont say his name! 😂 but you know who..... 😅 anyways seem to scare him away too I thought he would like my weirdness. Hes my king. My god. I worship him. I love him. But.... He runs. Twinflame dynamic. 😂

    • @MiahJacobs777
      @MiahJacobs777 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I can't tell you how many guys have said they don't get it. They don't understand me. And ask wth im talking about....😂❤😂

    • @MiahJacobs777
      @MiahJacobs777 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I know I am not speaking another language. Like dang did I say that in tongues? Am I speaking slitherin?😂

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Thanks so much for your feedback!

    • @MiahJacobs777
      @MiahJacobs777 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @Mat_Shaffer I have too really elaborate on how much I appreciate you mat. That you get back to everyone who comments. You are supportive of your followers and participate with them. Every time. Very professional. I do the same with My 20,000 followers... lol. I admire that trait in a page admin. Truely... It's one of the best things you do in My opinion.

  • @carolinew9964
    @carolinew9964 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I hate emojis, I prefer the chat

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  หลายเดือนก่อน

      yess me too!

  • @Mint-kj9kw
    @Mint-kj9kw 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Mat...you were hotter when you had short hair....and this from a woman who loves long hair on a guy.

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Aw thanks you’re making me blush;)

    • @jenntoro170
      @jenntoro170 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Practicing your repel text tactics? 😅

    • @janinevolpati7882
      @janinevolpati7882 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@Mat_Shaffer looks great both ways

  • @zillahmills6549
    @zillahmills6549 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    A wonderful video Matt lots of new ideas that I had never thought of!! Thank you so much for this advice 🥰🙏🏻🌤️🌤️☀️🤝

    • @Mat_Shaffer
      @Mat_Shaffer  8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Glad it was helpful!