She Keeps Flaking and Cancelling Dates | How to Break the Flake

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  • @PrimalKingTV
    @PrimalKingTV 3 ปีที่แล้ว +162

    Flaking is usually a sign of a deeper problem. I would personally move on if a girl canceled the second date.

    • @jamilmcclelland8304
      @jamilmcclelland8304 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Yep

    • @Ejub.m
      @Ejub.m 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @Ankit Rana you ignore her

    • @elmo319
      @elmo319 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Three strikes and you’re out?
      Sometimes there’s a legitimate reason….

    • @yardknight4953
      @yardknight4953 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@elmo319 they can say what it is or get lost.

    • @td811
      @td811 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The problem is low interest and attraction on her part

  • @LivingALifeOfAbundance
    @LivingALifeOfAbundance 3 ปีที่แล้ว +167

    Never chase after getting rejected or dumped. Understand your self worth & value your attention. Don’t give it to someone who does not deserve it. Never let a woman TOY with you & waste your time & energy!

    • @ianerickson2210
      @ianerickson2210 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Absolute facts, thanks for the wisdom brother

    • @lielie5091
      @lielie5091 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I agree with you...
      For me flaking rejecting ignoring cheating means low interest so better move on find another girl...

  • @moviefan8533
    @moviefan8533 3 ปีที่แล้ว +77

    There is someone out there who would be mortified to flake on you, who’s cuter than this girl, and who has a better personality. Hold out for her.

  • @noseefood1943
    @noseefood1943 3 ปีที่แล้ว +109

    She’s not really into you, just keeping you around as a beta orbiter

  • @elvinsormalihan4063
    @elvinsormalihan4063 3 ปีที่แล้ว +89

    If she flakes you, just simple. Mirror her behavior

    • @Tom-ts5qd
      @Tom-ts5qd 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      But isn't this immature, butthurt, going down to her level?

    • @dkt2365
      @dkt2365 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@Tom-ts5qd gotta speak their language to get through to them unfortunately

    • @rymanshroomzorz
      @rymanshroomzorz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@Tom-ts5qd sometimes I think the same thing, but ignoring somebody who is already ignoring you, morally speaking, should not bother them, if it does then it simply indicates a lack of self awareness on their part, if they don't like to be treated the same way they treat others then maybe they should change how they treat others.

  • @paulthomas2178
    @paulthomas2178 3 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    The medium is the message, if she had Genuine Desire she wouldn't flake on dates

  • @LivingALifeOfAbundance
    @LivingALifeOfAbundance 3 ปีที่แล้ว +88

    A woman's attraction for a man grows when she feels that the man is better than her. She has to work for your attention and approval then her attraction will grow

  • @wongel3950
    @wongel3950 3 ปีที่แล้ว +73

    🎯 nailed it “COVID is not a time for dating but instead a time to focus on leveling up, finding hobbies, finding a new discipline or skill all the above”

    • @ianerickson2210
      @ianerickson2210 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Amen amen amen

    • @daryl9799
      @daryl9799 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      100% dating apps are such a waste of time the amount of hungry men out there is just a never ending buffet for these women.

  • @simonscowled9925
    @simonscowled9925 3 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    People still hookup and meet up during covid-19. If she was interested she'd meet you

  • @rx11s718
    @rx11s718 3 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    Been following Chris's advice for 2 years. After that my life has changed unimaginably. I have transformed from a nice, shy person to a person who now controls his life according to his will.
    All thanks to this man!

    • @afonsodeportugal
      @afonsodeportugal 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Remarkable.

    • @ianerickson2210
      @ianerickson2210 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I’m sure you put a hell of a lot of time behind the scenes. Good stuff brother, we so high up and we only goin higher 💯

    • @rx11s718
      @rx11s718 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@ianerickson2210 Exactly bro. Universe tests you before giving the gift. It is a gradual process and requires patience

  • @karlopeternel7685
    @karlopeternel7685 3 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    If she flakes cut her off and move on
    You wonna deal only with high intrest women trust me who makes it everything easy for you
    Cheers

  • @blastoise01
    @blastoise01 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Just apply the B.I.G strategy. Block, Ignore, Ghost. Finish it at your own terms.

  • @bonfacemacharia8712
    @bonfacemacharia8712 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    A person's actions show how they feel about you if she flakes continuously it means two things she is dealing with another guy or an ex has come back into the picture

  • @HassanPoyo
    @HassanPoyo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    If she flakes and doesn't attempt to make up with another day then move on. Simple.

  • @HassanPoyo
    @HassanPoyo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    Any man on dating apps in a pandemic is just shooting themselves in the foot.

  • @Da_Big_G
    @Da_Big_G 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Simple. If a woman flakes a first time, just don't contact her and move on. If she comes to you asking what has happened, explain the situation and give her one more chance. If she flakes a second time, cut off all contact with her and ignore everything she says.

  • @mayorofthenonsense
    @mayorofthenonsense 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    It's very simple - if she flakes or tries to reschedule, let her know that she won't be getting a second chance. Many women pull this card as a test to see how desperate you are. If she sees that you will easily reschedule for her, she will interpret it as weakness and desperation. But if she sees that you are willing to walk away, there is a good chance she will rethink her position and start pursuing you. Never settle for less than 100% enthusiasm, and you will attract the right kind of women into your life.

    • @nickkaol
      @nickkaol 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Happened to me she asked for a reschedule I said yes but did not pursue her, on the day of the meet up she never reached out and neither did I.

    • @1bosstv
      @1bosstv 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@nickkaol She got with a man who was better than you anyway. Just be glad you didn't buy her onlyfans or simp for her. She couldn't control you either...damn she only saw you as a beta.

    • @blair5475
      @blair5475 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@nickkaol Any update?

  • @numba1jebac
    @numba1jebac 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Ever since I developed a 0 flake tolerance policy I've been getting so much more done n feelin better in the head. None of that feeling sorry for myself crap mentality anymore where I'm still chasing n persuing despite seeing red flags of her flaking. Cut em outta ur life n watch em chase n still don't take em back until they really work hard for u n even then u don't have to. Ull see how powerful that behavior makes u over time

  • @MMA-CLIPS2
    @MMA-CLIPS2 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Chris, you've contributed towards me changing my life these last 12 months. I'm better in almost every single way, thank you.

  • @stefanross8129
    @stefanross8129 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Yes! With flakes CUT & RUN! On to the next one! Bravo.

  • @BangMaster96
    @BangMaster96 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Remember Gents, the more you chase after her, the more she runs away from you.
    Chasing after a single girl is like running up those endless flight of stairs in Super Mario 64. You can keep running, but you can't reach the top unless you level up first.
    So, if she is running away from you, stop chasing her, and level up first.

  • @kiuk_kiks
    @kiuk_kiks 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    I broke up with my girlfriend on New Years. I already knew not to get on dating apps because I’ll just waste time with women who aren’t willing to meet up with me during a pandemic and total lockdown here in Britain. What’s the point of trying to see women when they have the perfect excuse to never show up?

  • @NibberKSmooth
    @NibberKSmooth 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Text her the words ‘Ok bye’ and forget her.

  • @southwestxnorthwest
    @southwestxnorthwest 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I simply cant understand why dudes will sit there and text girls all fucking day; dont you guys have lives or anything to do? If a woman keeps texting me like that, I just quit responding.

  • @dnatividad2
    @dnatividad2 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you Chris!
    1. Great advice regarding the pandemic.
    2. This is is some of the best dating advice around. Thanks for the great content.

  • @Noxious200
    @Noxious200 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Hey Chris, thanks for the videos over the years. Any chance you could up the volume in this new format of video?
    Cheers

  • @Champ1988
    @Champ1988 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Binging these vids today. I actually had no issues getting dates during this time. I was still getting kisses as well. I still used the principal of interest level and it held up. In fact, I was the one that was more hesitant after having already lost a loved one a week before lockdowns. Interest level cuts through everything.

  • @kingdavid772
    @kingdavid772 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    The girl I’m dealing with is the one that initiates most of the time and keeps arranging to hang out then flakes. Makes no sense

    • @markusaurelius777
      @markusaurelius777 ปีที่แล้ว

      Women are weird. PERIOD.

    • @brasileiroloko5375
      @brasileiroloko5375 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      exacly like my situation

    • @lovehealth-je6co
      @lovehealth-je6co 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Don’t give them free attention.

    • @lovehealth-je6co
      @lovehealth-je6co 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@kingdavid772 you need to understand- LESS IS MORE. Stop texting them first

    • @Rob-nl5ge
      @Rob-nl5ge 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@lovehealth-je6co He’s not texting her first. She’s the one initiating.

  • @ValNanovsky
    @ValNanovsky 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Solid advice. Gotta be able to move on.

  • @despachantecentral3841
    @despachantecentral3841 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    2 flakes mean u out...

  • @Metalheadaches
    @Metalheadaches 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Damn I didn't expect the first part, totally true. As always thank you for the amazing content Chris.

  • @gregmoverley7525
    @gregmoverley7525 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank Chris. Right on point with YourcExperienced Advice !

  • @dylan1159
    @dylan1159 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    It's going to happen regardless, it's not a big deal if she flakes especially first dates, the amount of options she has is ridiculous, she doesn't need to prioritise you unless you're time and attention is scarce. Women flake because guys come on too strong and don't behave like a real man. If you guys need any help, just ask.

    • @szarekhostwind
      @szarekhostwind 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      so no texting everyday? but she said she like men who are consistent.. is this a shit test?

    • @StonecutterSC
      @StonecutterSC 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Dude if she comes up with any excuse when you're trying to set up a first date, and youre giving her a couple days notice, she has no desire for you. Consider anything but an enthusiastic "Yes!" as a rejection and move on to another woman. Have some self respect.

    • @szarekhostwind
      @szarekhostwind 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@StonecutterSC I followed the no communication thing and after 2 weeks she texted me back..and now she's asking me for a date..its unusually rare in my country to be chased back by a woman though

    • @StonecutterSC
      @StonecutterSC 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@szarekhostwind good job you showed her you are not a needy simp like the other guys and she is probably attracted. Give her the honor of going out with you, set something up. Remember you are the prize. If she waffles follow what I said above.

    • @theglobalistchannel1471
      @theglobalistchannel1471 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey bro, so what about when theyre your gf already? She flaked on me once. I told her she had to plan the next date, she hasnt, its been 2 weeks no dates, I havent planned anything neither taken her anywhere. She flaked again last nigth. I just havent texted. Shes on seen.

  • @kazesensei4840
    @kazesensei4840 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    when she says "I'm busy" don't freak out just say it's okay and move on then she'll realize she made a mistake girls are emotional beings once you tick her emotions she'll start to get stressed and feel anxiety then she'll feel sorry for this behavior

  • @goodgel5024
    @goodgel5024 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Abundance Mindset we need, And It's frustrated being alpha cause many of girl just one night stand or not long relationship we have, that's Action Is better than worlds

  • @robertmoore294
    @robertmoore294 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    It's a test and the man don't know she is testing him the whole time. He just got to be man enough to know her as a human being period. But its not worth the time thinking its going to work and deep down it's not. Just move on and find someone who wont flake u, it's not the time.

  • @myetoob23
    @myetoob23 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Cut contact with a woman who flaked on me multiple times. After a couple of weeks she reached out asking how I'm doing and I replied "good to hear from you, when can we meet up." Finally got her to give me her availability after some initial beating around the bush, told her a day and that I'd wait for her at my place. Since she's flaked more than once without notice I figure she has to come to me now until she's earned my effort. She has replied that she wants to meet halfway because she's moved an hour away since we last saw each other. I feel like I shouldn't agree to that and tell her to let me know when she can come all the way, and to not reply until she does knowing she's going to complain and say that it's too far. Is that the best way to handle the situation?

    • @donramon2501
      @donramon2501 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Did you meet her

    • @myetoob23
      @myetoob23 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@donramon2501 a couple of weeks went by before she eventually agreed to meet. Since I started a new job near the halfway point she originally wanted to meet at I told her we could meet after I got off at a park near the job. She complained saying she had to get up early, blah blah blah, if I could drive closer to her. Told her no, I was already halfway between my place and hers. She did come but didn't call when she headed out like I had asked her too so I could clock out, she just texted. Called when she was already nearby so I made her wait until I finished, clocked out, went to the gas station, then drove to the park. Since she was making things difficult I returned the favor.

  • @ravichandra1914
    @ravichandra1914 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    We want animation videos.....sir

  • @itsik777
    @itsik777 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This one should have Many milions views:)

  • @ryuhayabusa5
    @ryuhayabusa5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Bruh, I had a girl flake on me even when she set up the date, imagine that haha.

    • @K9amilo90
      @K9amilo90 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yeah, me too. I was ghosted in the end

  • @amanahmad1391
    @amanahmad1391 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Heyy Chris, do we have to Mirror her actions and emotions in this..... Or just simply have to go No Contact till She Comes back. Please telllll

  • @mariontiberion6722
    @mariontiberion6722 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Tell her she's not worth it and block her!

  • @FAITHandLOGIC
    @FAITHandLOGIC 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Never put up with this crap. If she flakes or ghosts, she's discourteous and should not be given attention.

  • @jans3333
    @jans3333 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    4:53 very good advice

  • @SanaxUltd
    @SanaxUltd 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    please fix your microphone

  • @jilokizito1705
    @jilokizito1705 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    She flaked, I dumped her.

    • @1bosstv
      @1bosstv 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      No, she dumped you first. You're just reactively moving on because you couldn't do anything else. I just hope you blocked her.

    • @thetuffament
      @thetuffament 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Don't block her show her how great of a life you have without her. With career Hobbies and better looking women

    • @lovehealth-je6co
      @lovehealth-je6co 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Guys give the benefit of the doubt. Give her 3 chances only

  • @danialmr5960
    @danialmr5960 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love you man

  • @iJuceYou
    @iJuceYou 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    If they are flaking, tell them to use dandruff shampoo.

  • @luthotshemese6807
    @luthotshemese6807 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Is this a re-upload?

  • @JK-np8dr
    @JK-np8dr 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    my problem is the girl notices I'm ignoring her so her first msg is "What's wrong?" "Something I did?".. do I even respond to that ? Usually ignoring that question usually ends up killing teh friendship too

  • @NoName-zb1gm
    @NoName-zb1gm 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    A lot of women like the thrill of the chase. They like guys talking to them and messaging them and checking them out. They don't want a relationship. They want the validation. I've gone through this 3-4 times just in the past 8 months,

  • @dinok.3809
    @dinok.3809 ปีที่แล้ว

    Gotta understand that even some of the most average lookin ladies are getting bombarded online with matches. We're talking anywhere from 50+ at any given time. Out of those, she's actively chatting with half, and then actively pursuing half of those, for an actual meet.
    So yes, you will get flaked on. ALOT.
    Learn to distinguish those you put on the slow track (check on every few weeks), with those you forget entirely.
    Usually I forget about her entirely, after the first, or second flake for sure.

  • @DoneManyThings
    @DoneManyThings 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Why do they say "are you just here for sex?"

  • @tommydawson7147
    @tommydawson7147 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Why you mean by "flake" when you meet a girl from cold approach and texting and she lets on read is not flake, its just that a test many times.

  • @_noname2032
    @_noname2032 ปีที่แล้ว

    Judt6god flaked on. Would have the 3rd Date, cooking at my crib. Fuck it, I'm not answering.

  • @inserter400
    @inserter400 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi Chris
    No contact isn't working for me, I have tried everything to work on myself but I just cant get over my wife breaking up with me.
    She is trying to serve divorce papers on me.
    I thought she would of had second thought by now.
    Any advice on why she hasn't reached out or how I can stop loving her and getting past this ?

    • @daryl9799
      @daryl9799 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Go to therapy man you need help ive been there.

    • @josephlemessager4202
      @josephlemessager4202 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Start meeting new people and enjoy life with them. Stop focusing too much on her

  • @egemensuzgun4208
    @egemensuzgun4208 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    my girlfriend (wile i look after our 2 kids) flakes on me every weekend

  • @sincerelyme7423
    @sincerelyme7423 ปีที่แล้ว

    4:20

  • @gameinfoxz8213
    @gameinfoxz8213 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Chris tell us more. I need your help make alpha male videos ...

  • @efanaja1583
    @efanaja1583 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    My girlfriend been together with Mr for 1 year. At beginning our relationship, she let Me check her phone.. But now she don't allowed me to check her phone.. What should i do? I feel she's losing interest in me.. I must be the one who first initiate for sex. I feel she's being difrent.. What should i do?

    • @JohnDoe-gq3tm
      @JohnDoe-gq3tm 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Stop being possessive, paranoid, and needy. If someone wants to cheat on you then they will. And they'll probably start treating you poorly. At which point you dump them. There's no reason to check her phone. And if there is then you should've already dumped her. Have respect for yourself and her.

    • @jimbo6413
      @jimbo6413 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Why the fuck do you feel the need to check her phone? That just reeks of both emotional insecurity and weakness. Stop being a control freak. Live your life, let her live her life. If you want to feel completely in control of something then buy a dog. Seriously.

    • @efanaja1583
      @efanaja1583 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@jimbo6413 I agree, but at some point I feel like if there isn't something she hide from me. Then she must be fine with it just like before.. Now I'm feel like she's hiding something and it's drive me crazy.. But I'm still act cool meanwhile I'm really2 feeling she's change..

    • @jimbo6413
      @jimbo6413 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@efanaja1583 Just let her go. The insecurity and self-doubt you're displaying will only serve to drive her away. You need to be calm, cool and collected...in other words, be a man. Let her be the one who worries.

    • @samgraca2953
      @samgraca2953 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      She cheating homie, been there!

  • @billionjaybirds1906
    @billionjaybirds1906 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    NEXT!

  • @svenk5221
    @svenk5221 ปีที่แล้ว

    Go and see somebody else

  • @larryrubin5150
    @larryrubin5150 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    F em

  • @valdezmartinez2837
    @valdezmartinez2837 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Wholly agree with the message but I have issues with the delivery. He speaks in the same monotone throughout and doesn't seem passionate or excited about what he is saying. That can cause people to zone out. This is not someone who will inspire me to go out there and conquer the world.

  • @efanaja1583
    @efanaja1583 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    I have problem on my relationship,we been together for 1 year.. So I admit I make mistake before when she pregnant I force her to abortion. Because I was not ready.. But now I'm ready and I love her even more.. But now she loosing interest for me. I feel it, she's being pull away and I always the one who initiate sex. For my mistake, I already change and I Wana be with her for the rest of my life. But I feel she's still can't forgive me, we still together but she's change... I what should I do guys? Should I walk away or keep waiting for her.. Because she's really2 change, her behavior and her attitude toward Me, now she kinda act bitchy and disrespect me.. 😢

    • @roottargz
      @roottargz 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Breakup with her, she needs space and time for attraction to regrow. Withdraw all sorts of attention, and find some fun activities, if she is getting cold, you should get colder and more stoic. Meet other women, let her regret and attraction to regrow.

    • @efanaja1583
      @efanaja1583 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@roottargz thanks man, for ur advice

    • @Idontknowanyoda1
      @Idontknowanyoda1 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Similar thing happened to me. There was a lady I was seeing as FWB. Only had sex with her once and I withdrew.
      About a weak or 2 she called to ask if I released inside of her. I said no. She showed me her result. She was pregnant. I lied to her I was soon gonna get married. She later flushed the fetus.
      I tried to get her back but she said was very reluctant. Finally, I just have to let her go.

    • @efanaja1583
      @efanaja1583 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Idontknowanyoda1 do u love her?

  • @rufflemuffle
    @rufflemuffle 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That's a fake email. 100%