@@unstoppablegirl8girl dont regret it you cant do anything about it anymore its done thats it, youre just hurting yourself by regretting, youre going to live with it and it wont matter that much in months, present is painful
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the “get a life” part really gave me a reality check. it’s such a simple piece of advice but it is so true, sometimes when we get attached we open up so much space in our day to day lives to constantly talk to them. and then when they arent constantly talking like before, youre left with all this space you made in your day to day routine. never let someone change the original life/routine you had before you met them!!
This is true. I used to be obssesed with one person that im not even close with anymore and now that i started working on myself i dont think about them at all
I have noticed a toxic pattern I had, always getting attached to people I talked to or dated. I felt so anxious everytime they did not respond and I felt like I was literally dying when I knew they are going to end it with me. I gave a boy a second chance cause he apologized for his mistake and treated me so much better than before but guess what, he ended up hurting me again the same way like the first time. I got super attached to him since I had this boy back and now when I lost him the second time it felt like my world was ending. I cried nonstop and even told my parents about it. I don’t have any close friends that‘s why I felt super alone and I was wondering whether I can make it alive or not. Guys this is completely ridiculous, we all know it, but in that time, as a anxious attached person, it really does feel like that. I listened to several videos about it but always end up here. It feels amazing hearing your words Liz. I love that you humble me so much and thanks to you I feel so much better. I am aware of my feelings and that it has nothing to do with that one person who made me feel like that. At the end it is always you against you. Never stop respecting yourself, loving yourself, taking care of your body and mind. Everyone deserves a second chance in life but not in my life. That was my lesson. And I will make sure to become the highest version of myself and everything will start to work in my favor. The biggest revenge is no revenge. Have a good day and thank you for reading
You are very pretty.i Just saw your channel ❤.. don't worry everything will be fine ❤. You deserve all the happiness of the world ❤.I wish your life will be as pretty as your face 💕
I feel the same way and I just got hurted by a guy I so much invested to...and I am glad I found someone finally who is relatable to what I feel or what I do 😭 ( coz 10 min ago I was crying so much)
@@harshitasingh8944 it is okay to feel sad for a while but I can assure you it gets better with time!! Something that really helped me was a little note I wrote for myself to read when I got upset. After a week you‘ll start to feel a little better. There will still be days where you might get a little upset again but time heals every wound trust me!! Do something you loved doing before you met that guy.. a book you loved .. read it again.. draw something.. and exercise!! get back into ur routine and you will see it works!! ❤️
@@harshitasingh8944 I‘m so sorry honey :( 🩷 but I can really assure you that this phase will end some day. It‘s been 3 weeks since my ex broke up with me and I cried nonstop for 2 weeks and did not do anything since I constantly felt bad. I had this victim mindset. Asked myself questions like “How could someone do this to me? Where did everything go wrong? Why was I so stupid and naive?“.. and it really hurts going through this phase of constant sadness and regret. Now this 3rd week has been different. I am regularly going out, studying and changing my mindset. If it was true love would it hurt so much? Ask yourself this question. I‘m sure that you‘re a really sweet girl and you should know that it is his loss. Like literally who is this guy even? who is he to hurt you? It‘s his loss. Something is wrong with him for upsetting you like this. Start thinking that way and slowly the sadness will fade trust me. And after a few week you will start to feel the way you felt before you met that boy!!! I have experienced this so many times and I can‘t wait for feeling nothing at all anymore for a person who does not respect my feelings. ❤️
the 'stop creating fantasies' part had me reflecting all of my relations and friendships. the way I had created fantasies about everyone and when they didn't meet the expectations, I got hurt and it was difficult to see that it was me who gave them that false image and not them who hurt me
"When you're not controlled by your ego, then you attract everything. You would not get attached to someone or something because you know you have abundance in your life." Thank you so much. I needed to hear it.
1. if it leaves, i’m comfortable by thinking something better will ( _always_ ) come. because if i give this thing the power of making me happy or unhappy, i’m so powerless. it’s just an extra, because i don’t need anything or anybody to make me complete ! 3. we’re constantly being guided in our life, everything is meant to make us _wiser_ in some aspects. -> not “why is this happening to me?”, no. but “what is that _teaching_ me” is the mindset. once you realize that. you will begin to see the values in all of this 4. stop creating fantasies. just live in the present moment. 5. it will never be good enough. NEVER! so start appreciating EVERYTHING 6. don’t pass all the time in your head. don’t be too focused on being focused. 7. don’t have FOMO. = fear of missing out. if you don’t know what you’re missing out, you’re not missing out at all. that comes from no-comparison mindset, firsty. 8. “if i have this thing, i will be happy” FALSE. this is an attachment mentality. completely false! you have already your happiness within yourself. realise: you will never leave you. instead you wont have this specific thing forever. so it doesn’t come from that to have happiness. fuck, everything, i have me!!’ go to therapist, meditate, heal those things 9. “if god would been done with you, you won’t even be alive anymore”. you don’t need anyone, any situation to say : “oh hey, i got this thing now i’m valuable”. no. it is just because you’re alive, you’re breathing . you have everything you need within you and the faster you realize, the happier you’ll be. because all the people attached too much to something or someone will never be happy. you have to be happy and comfortable and confident and proud with your true self in order to get your dreams. even if someone appears to be literally perfect, they will NEVER be anything without this mentality. so be fucking proud of who you are, who you are becoming and who you could be. being happy with ourselves unconditionally is ALWAYS A WIN.
To anybody who's reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt , exit your mind. May clarity replace confusion. May peace and calmness fill your life ❤
I have a really bad habit of romanticizing everything and everyone. Then get disappointed when they do not meet my standards. This is something that I just realized. This year, I plan on operating from an abundant mindset and stop selling myself so short! I always shortchange myself for others and always get the bad end of the deal. This year will be a whole 180! Thanks Liz!
Same for me. I don't agree with Liz saying that people who get attached easily have no life, it's not that easy to explain. I do have a life, I constantly meet up with friends, go to events, restaurants, try out something new and I do have things I'm passionate about. I can be on my own and never get bored because I always find stuff to do. But I just tend to romanticize a lot. Especially because I've never been in a relationship, I just get excited when I like someone, wonder if they like me back, daydream about them and then get disappointed when they're not reciprocating my feelings the same way. I need to learn to not depend my emotional state so much on how that person is feeling about me.
Felt this I dilute myself into thinking that one day they will change and I romanticize them to the point where I actually think it is them so when I find out that they aren’t going to change and that the person inside of my head isnt them I get disappointed and upset, but I’m already attached so it’s hard to detach from the person that created in my mind. Because I want it to be them .
After a break up, I have watched dozens of videos on how to get through this and this is the only video that literally made me snap out of it with CLARITY and confidence. You really opened my eyes to a whole new way of thinking. Thank you
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when u really get into these two mindsets "it is what it is" & "there is always someone or something better for me when it comes about ending things",your life really gets better. Edited: I didnt know that this has so many likes and some people are telling me that this is narcissistic but the truth is u have to work thru some things with ur someone but when they do hurt u intentionally you dont have to hold onto them anymore.I am not narcissistic I just got broken up by someone and im hurt rn as i should be but you have to let go of things which are not meant to be with you & there really are good people that u havent even met on this earth 🤍
@@rando7290like, life goes on regardless! Anything can happen, anything can make you happy when it comes to things ending. Detaching yourself, will help you believe that and it will do good for you! Never depend on someone for your own happiness
Liz kick started my self improvement journey. I’ll never be able to explain how much I respect you in words. I’ve changed my mindset because of you. Let’s go and get that knowledge and level up girls!
I legit love her so much . I had been facing attachment issues in my friendships and relationships which was really unhealthy, I had lost all my apetitie , happiness and self respect but after watching this video , I got this sudden spark and now I've been the healthiest version of me recently
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I finally understood. I became sick because I was way too attached to a fantasy I created in my head about who he should have been, what we should have become. It made me truly ill, physically, mentally, emotionally. And I can finally let go. I can go no contact. I can heal. This video was a happy slap on my face to know that I am not special, many people go through this, and I can change my situation.
@@samanwaya6388I went through that as well , ik how hard it actually is . I really do wish you the best , if i can advice u : do every single thing that you know you have to do for your own good , no matter how hard it looks /is. At the end you will always have to think and act for yourself cause your own happiness is your duty . Here's a quote that i really do appreciate ( hope it can help you even if you don't believe in God ... ) : " When a thing disturbs the peace of your heart , give it up " - the prophet ( ص ) . Hope my comment can help u in any kind of way :) .
i dont think its coming from her, its look very scripted ! she look like she just want attention because these people are fake and do everything for catching attention and stoling normal people idea and make like its their idea ! look her she is full of surgery she look so insecure about her look and she dosnt look confident and confortable ! she just repeat word who she hear on someone in irl
I have a problem of getting attached and obsess over people that do not give me proper atention. And it sucks bc i know that it's wrong but it's so hard to stop this patern. This video is like receiving advice from a friend who knows how to comfort and care for me. Be blessed.
@@profile1936 i’m so sorry for your loss Gunter.. life is not fair sometimes.. It’s okay to be angry.. and I hope you can find some peace with what you’re dealing with & see brighter days ahead 🙏🏼
@@profile1936 i'm a complete and total stranger but i hope the lessons you learned from your friendship and the experiences you had leave a positive impact on you and help you become a better person. i'm not just gonna lie and say i pity you or i'm so sorry for you, because pity never helped anyone, but i'm praying you find a healthy way to not only cope with your grief but to live your life to the fullest and most fulfilling it can be :). (i hope i don't sound insensitive, if i do just ignore this x_x)
"you are put in This world to test again and again not to be blessed because this world is gona end one day and the world afterwords it gona last forever so be aware of what u do here cuz you gona answer each and everything there and that life is gona last forever forever where no death no fear in short heaven or hell .
It's insane how much anxiety she takes away and how good I feel everytime after I watched a video of hers, she just speaks such blunt facts so accurate and so much on point it's insane
Literally. This is the first video I watched of hers because of a Situation I’m currently in. The amount of anxiety and stress and sadness she just lifted feels like taking a bag of weights off. I’m really great full I found this video
Preach sister!!! Here’s my biggest takeaways: 1. Get a life!!! Replace all the time you’re thinking of them with a passion, hobby, or goal. 2. If it’s not out of love it’s ego!! I was friends with this girl for over a year, then become real close friends, then started talking and being intimate. But she was never interested in taking it further, just wanted to be friends with benefits. I set a boundary so no initimacy, just friends, but weirdly enough, started finding myself being jealous of her, because I am popular at my university. But she is more popular because she is foreign, beautiful, travels all around the world, is super well known, comes from a family with money, dances sings and presents all the time. Being jealous is not love. I have no self love if I’m being jealous. I’ve put her on a pedestal, but I need to remember that we are all equal.
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This video helped me a lot. I was going through so much pain of overthinking, now i feel like i dont need anyone else but myself. Thank you so much for making my day better and showing me my own worth. 💗
"If God was done with you, you would not be alive." The power that this one line holds. I promise to work on myself from this very moment and not cry for worthless people anymore. I am going to be a better, happier and healed version of myself.
I wouldn't say that I am happy as much as I want to be but I definitely feel better than what I used to be like and am still a work in progress but also proud of myself for not giving up.@@ayamekkaoui2779 😇
Timestamps 👀: 1:32 - Realise you are operating from your ego 5:55 - Everyone in your life has a purpose 8:58 - Stop creating fantasies 9:33 - Have an "It is what it is." mindset 10:57 - Get a life 12:23 - Realise that you're operating from a lack mindset 14:07 - What is FOMO? 16:04 - You will never arrive to happiness 17:54 - Realise you will never leave you
I’m going through my first real extremely painful heartbreak :( First break-up, first ex etc.. but this video literally made me feel a 100 times better.
“get a life” “you have you” made me really realize how good it is to know ur worth. My ex broke up with me last night and i was in pieces. She really helped me realize whats reality like and that my last relationship wasnt like roses, only the good moments were and i dont actually miss him, i just miss our good moments together.
Everyone here who's on your healing journey, remember what Liz said about fantasies. It applies to your healing as well. Do not fall into the trap of believing that you must heal by this certain time or in this certain way, so that you can do all the things you're "meant" to do and "be happy." If you're struggling right now, give yourself some love. Sit with yourself and ask yourself, "what's wrong?" You will get through this, and you are oh so beautiful.
as an overly emotional person and as a person who literally loves people unconditionally this was so important because I am completely sick and tired of people constantly taking advantage of my loyalty and love, thank you liz you literally are an angel edit: WHEN DID THIS GET SO MANY LIKES LMAOO but anyways to all the beautiful angels and amazing human beings who related to this, I just want to say that I'm so proud of you I'm so happy you came this far and did not decide to give up, and it shows that you are trying to do smth better for yourself (as you're watching the queen liz), so don't give up beautiful you got this and all of you strong and amazing individuals have my prayers
Wow. The universe definitely works in mysterious ways. I just ended a 9 year relationship, and I’ve been so tempted to text her. I can definitely identify with everything this video mentioned. As difficult as it is, we need to realize that life is always teaching and guiding us. Everything really does happen for a reason.
The love you are searching is already within you. When the fantasies are not m eet your mind feels sad. And also there always something better coming to you. You are complelte by your self . Great thoughts Liz
Attachment usually occurs due to a limited mindset of a "limited" ambition or "limited" options. Have hobbies, goals, plan a daily routine for yourself, keep yourself busy, shower, workout, eat healthy, affirm, walk your daily steps, soak the sun for 10 minutes daily. And most importantly, KNOW YOUR WORTH. Like Liz said, anyone in your life is there to TEACH you. It's done by them either staying or by leaving so know that they can go and there are a ton of other people :)
@@chillpill2098 sure! We all serve a purpose in each other's lives. Think logically : love is just a hormone. A certain chemical which we crave, oxytocin. No one owes anything to anyone.
Exactly! You have not seen the world yet and are unaware of all the goodness waiting for you in abundance ! Don't despair. Everything happens for a reason and everyone enters your life to teach you. Have ambitions for yourself. Have daily must-do's like getting 10 min sun, walking 5000 steps, eating fruits once and showering. Other than that, invest in yourself. Expand your horizons. Learn a new word or language. Try reading or writing. Maybe dance on your fav song. Call a family member or friend to catch up with. Draw and paint like you did when you were a child. YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE PERFECT. Stop looking at the details. We are literally living on a petite planet earth. There is no such thing as "time" or past in the higher dimensions. What is time anyway ? When the earth rotates and revolves you call it seasons and time lol. Stop stressing over the small stuff. Come on, live a little. Cook yourself a nice healthy meal and watch a funny movie. Do a DIY facial, take 5 extra mins in the shower, moisturize your body and sleep like a God/goddess. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND I AM SO PROUD OF YOU ❤
@honey-lk4lj I remember I was in a Hospital, one doctor( that doctor was woman) told me to come to the restraining room where she and 8 male doctors will pummel me if I didn't come to the restraining room. She was a narcissistic doctor that just doesn't respect me nor my rights. And when they locked me in the restraining room, all the doctors told me that I was a jack@$$( They got triggered just because I was thinking different than them
this video is saving me at this very moment, your advice on how its truly our ego attached altered something in my brain chemistry fr, i cant stay here and ruminate on everyone else in my situation right now, im detaching and letting the best play out, i have me and im learning either way. choose peace. thanks for this
Liz this came up on my feed at the right moment. I’m so emotionally weak at time when it comes to relationship because I love people so much. I seem to make time for them and get discouraged then they can’t make time for me. I am so ready to take back my power. Thank you.
1:32 - Realise you are operating from your ego 5:55 - Everyone in your life has a purpose 8:58 - Stop creating fantasies 9:33 - Have an "It is what it is." mindset 10:57 - Get a life 12:23 - Realise that you're operating from a lack of mindset 14:07 - What is FOMO? 16:04 - You will never arrive at happiness 17:54 - Realise you will never leave you
Today I have learned 8 things. Detachment saves you from heartbreak and betrayal with yourself. It saves you from Fantasies and give happiness in your reality. Detachment is so important because you should have your own power instead of relying on someone to make you feel good about yourself. I need to stop generating from my ego and whatever my ego tells me is not true and I deserve everything best and I am blessed. I don't care what leaves I care what is the more great thing has entered in my life. I don't care about the lives that I see on social media because I am creater of my own happiness. I go my own hobbies that define me as me.everyone has their purpose and I learn everything everyday life is so beautiful and I am blessed alhamdillah.
Everything that comes out of Liz's mouth is pure gold. These are the things we all need to hear but we don't want to hear because its painful or because its too difficult to act on it. We are all meant for so much more. Radiate positivity, be kind, your turn is coming. We are all deserving.
Talking to others make you realize so much more about yourself . This is SO TRUE. I talk with my friends and through what they said about me I realize so much more of my character and personality that I would never thought of and that make me even more confident❤
I really try to get a new life by watching Liz because since I have had that boy in my head for six months I kind of lost it. I’ve lost my passion for music, for walks, for romanticizing life. She inspires me to get that back again and no matter how dumb I think I am after these videos I always know that Liz also talks about her own experience on that so I know that even this is meant to be. I am meant to be watching her right now!
Liz could you please make a video on how to set boundaries with people? I struggle with this so much as a people-pleaser because I always think that if I set clear boundaries, I will hurt the other person's feelings, so I end up prioritizing their comfort over mine. Thanks and ily!
You need to understand that telling those people your BOUNDARIES will not going to hurt them because you are telling them about your comfort zone and What triggers you or what not and if they really care about you they'll understand your BOUNDARIES and they'll not getting hurt by showing some Respect to your BOUNDARIES. At the end of they day You are showing respect to their comfort zone over yours. That's why YOU ARE ONLY HURTING YOUR OWN FEELINGS OVER THEM. THINK ABOUT IT☺️ ( STOP THINKING THAT YOU'LL GONNA HURT THEIR FEELINGS YOU ARE LITERALLY HURTING YOUR OWN FEELINGS HAVE MERCY ON YOURSELF.) (WHATEVER YOU ARE THINKING RELATING TO HURT SOMEONE FEELINGS OVER YOUR COMFORT ZONE IS JUST IN YOUR HEAD *THIS IS NOT HAPPENING*
Yess I'm not attached. I'm my own supply. I understand that most people are just lessons in my life for a chapter. The next chapter will come with different lessons. I'm ready to let go of the past, people and memories that no longer serve me. I'm a new person with a new time. I evolved. I'm a new person, a new version of me to face different situations and different time. God bless me with all the great things that should be mine when the time comes and i pray that the great things stay for a long time, a long chapters, it's not just a lesson. I trust God and myself. I trust him. I trust that I'll have the healthy compatible family when the right time comes. Glory to God!
“When you say “nobody was there for me.” You were there the whole time! Give yourself some credit!” Well I’m crying. Thank you for posting this video. ❤
16:36 “The happiness that you are searching for outside is already within you. The love that you are searching for outside is already within you.” WOW. Just the way she verbalized all of this clicked for me. Love you Liz ❤
i love how calm you are and not be like “oh get your ass up, yes you can, stop sitting around, walk into the room like you own it blah blah”. we need some understanding and calming ourselves. we need to know it’s okay. we shouldn’t feel the need of glowing up just to show the partner we used to have should feel regret. we must accept our feelings and not feel guilty about it and then deal with it in our terms. thank you so much for this video.
Liz we need a video called "social media" I feel like that's such an integral part of society today... You're the perfect person to simplify this in the best possible way and you're good with words I'm sure you can come up with relatable content on it... 🥰
I greatly appreciate this so much. It's been 2 years since i hit rock bottom from Narcissistic Abuse and having lost physical custody of my kids. It still hurts but now I understand why I'm struggling to detach. You've explained it so well. Now I can work on this understanding and wisdom. My ego is stuck with people who hurt me. I'm constantly having to "proof" myself. I don't need to do anything for them or with them.
This vid hits home for me. As someone who struggles with maintaining friendships, I realized a lot of the problems I had with them was because I was creating these unrealistic expectations in my head, and like Liz says it ends up never almost playing out how you want them to because its all just a fantasy.
Omg 😮you just put my thoughts in writing 😢I also struggle with it .Hope we find our dream freindship with ourselves and love ourselves first then other people ❤❤Good luck ❤
I was so attached and clinged onto a man i knew for a few years. He absolutely drianed me. Disrespected me in every way, played with my head, drained my energy, broke my heart many times. However I was still so caught up with him. When I found your videos I realized and learned to let go of him and focus on me instead of him. My whole life and understanding of myself was based around him. It took me awhile and I am still learning more to be my own girl. Your videos have helped me so much in that realm and other realms of my life as well.
@@Ihavemadeit999 you go girls yes....being heterosexual and straight men and attracted towards women is a curse now for men.....Men do not want to date or marry women anymore because women would be the problem but play the victim card and blame men....It has a talent of women now....Men are slowing becoming mgtow as women bring sadness and suffering in men lives and there is no point in dating women......
Hey, just wanna say Thank you so much for this beautiful message... its really open my eyes, i'm literally crying right now because i don't understand why people that i care are leaving me behind, i always think and try to evaluate myself, and think that i'm the problem... But, after hearing this, i feel all of my burden just gone, just like that... I forgot to enjoy my own company and God that always be beside me, whenever i'm alone... I feel so bad that i forgot i could be happy even by my own, i wish from now own i can recover and try to find myself again, once again thank you for this message... I'll keep in mind to not get attached to something that are temporary ❤❤❤
Omg she’s so wise! She tells me everything I already know but it’s nice to watch her videos cuz she reminds me of these values when I’m in a dark space 💖 this girl is amazing!
Liz, today I relapsed into depression. After watching this video, you INSTANTLY snapped me out of it. I just worked out, took an ice bath and now I am going to meditate I FEEL GREAT. You saved my life Liz, thank you.
She has literally helped me get over a highly toxic, one-sided friendship which I was NEVER able to get out of. I tried so much for 2 years but couldn't get out of the trap and toxicity. She told me what I needed to hear. This. My best friend who recommended this channel to me really meant it when she said "it will change your life" and "she will heal you".
Funny how when you get rid of 1 toxic person, many more are revealed. It started with a best friend since childhood, then it was my dad, an aunt, and now the older brother. I'm just letting them all out.
It wasn't toxic for me but in our friendship we weren't the same, she always had the higher priority in our friendship and then she started treating me like shit and I had to get over it because she apologized and then we had to break apart and a couple of weeks after that she came to my college and had an argument with me infront of my classmates and I felt so vunerable. I depended on her at my lows and so I thought it was okay to have be on the giving end of the friendship. It hurts but it is for the best, really happy that it helped you. hope I look back at this and it doesn't hurt me anymore.
Liz, this is the first time i am watching your video and i wish i have watched your videos sooner. Your words was excatly what i was looking for and from now on i will learn to how to embrace my soul and enjoy my solitude. Thank you so much for helping us through this journey ❤
Sis, this video is EVERYTHING. Liz, you are wise beyond belief, and your words are true like nothing else. I will be watching and re-watching this video religiously from now on. I needed these words... thank you so much. Truly.
Trust me, Liz, I’ve been abiding by these rules of detachment for the past 3 years and my life’s been drama free and stress free ever since. No one or situation controls me and nothing scares me anymore. I feel more independent and confident now 🖤
@@Daryana_lilith Ig when you’ve been hurt by multiple ppl in different situations, you toughen up and understand exactly why you should be self reliant when it comes to company and distant yourself from ppl. Talking to humans sometimes is nice but I’ve always been the type of person who loves being alone and these days, I rarely interact with ppl. The more I tried connecting with others, the more I realized I feel more comfortable and at peace when I’m alone. Not like I’m completely antisocial but I do love enjoying myself alone and ppl these days just tire me out. They come and go, nobody really stays but I’ll always have myself so that’s why i just don’t seek other ppl at all these days and I’ve been better than ever with myself. Plus, makes shit so much easier for an introvert like me 🖤
This is absolutely INSANE, I have been consistently telling God and trying to detach. I have been really starting to learn about the Law of Detachment the past 2-3 weeks and Liz comes out w this video...she's intuitive, empathic like me, and knows what we need. Kudos to you sister, thank you so much for helping me in my healing journey!
As a psycholigist, I'd only say that the ego part is not named correctly but everything else is so clearly and truthfully put. I wonder whats her source of inspiration and knowledge but either way I'm so happy that there are people like her putting such helpfup content for others. We have created such a lonely world, and we need more humans, more real talk, and more authenticity
She says "our ego makes us put others on a pedeastal and makes us obsess over them cos it makes us feel like we're not good enough". This description is rather of a low-self esteem. And indeed then this person would need others validation more and consequetly seek higer attachment as they don't feel enough on their own. When we manage to stop being obsessed with our ego, we actually accept ourselves more, and we are capable of accepting others too. Anyway, I didn't mean to go after a few of her sentences just wanted to respond to you :) Overall she is a nice fresh air on the internet and she seems to mean well
@@Evieran Actually I would say that she's right, with your ego and romanticising a person who is not good for you, it will definitely make you think better of them and unknowingly obsess over them, and then because of your growing obsession when the person isnt who you romanticize them to be and actually treats you like trash, you will begin to think your in the wrong. Its not neccessarily because you originally had low self esteem but because you put them on a pedestal on which they definitely dont belong on. sorry if this doesnt make sense.
Every time I watch your videos you’re words move me so much, and it almost always relates to my current situation. Thank you for sharing such impactful information and words you truly have made me realize so much more about life ❤
Damn, you hit the spot. I feel so low today because the person I care about was talking with random girls online despite us being in a "relationship", which triggered my trauma of not being good enough to any men I was romantically involved with - both IRL and online. Then it hit me, I was attached to the idea of what they are in my head. Thank you so much for helping me realize this, even though I randomly found your video here. Romanticizing people and situations has been my problem (because they make me feel "secure" in some way, but it's not when reality strikes). Your video is like a slap from the Universe/God to me lol and I'm thankful for that.
Going through this exact same situation rn I cannot believe. And I do the same thing as you too. I romanticize everyone and everything so much. Well anyways you've got this! Love will find you 💕
Crying while listening to this. I always end up attaching myself to people that come in my life and end up heartbroken. Edit: listened to this the night before and im completely detached. Thank you god and thank you Liz. (:
OMG HOWBDID MT COMMENT GET SO MANY LIKES 😭😭😭😭😭 also update, im still struggling with attachment but it’s gotten much better 🫶🏻 to all those who’ve commented here, i hope you guys are doing well
I had a crush for about 5 years and he was my first love. I always tried to get close to him and I even confessed my feelings to him but he just ignored me and never accepted them. After a while, I started to hate him because he did not like me at all. Just now I realized that all this time I've been creating false fantasies about him in my head where he was a good and kind person but he never was, to me. He never had such a personality after all. He always treated me like shit and just took advantage of me but I turned those shitty moments into my own fantasies where he was a good person. I dont hate him anymore because he was what he was and nothing can change that. Thank you Liz for maling me realize this!❤️
This is a video I didn’t know I needed until it popped up… I’ve been out of high school for 7 years and haven’t done anything because o have spent all of that time attaching to people that already served their purpose and it has driven me to a point of depression so deep that I have been having passive suicidal thoughts in recent weeks. Thank you for this.
The universe is really funny. Liz casually came out of the shower and decided to make a video that I've listened to like 1 million times. It saved my life, literally 😂. Every word came out from her is gold for me.
I swear, this video fell from heaven. I have had this problem for years and yesterday a big thing happened in my life that made me realize that owe much more to myself than to other people. I have been feeling down and this videos feels like it was sent to me because the timing is just so divine I can't explain it otherwise. Her videos seem to come into someones life when they are meant to be. I love her so much
for months I've been struggling to detach from a person, and her words are exactly what I needed to hear. id never seen her before and she popped up on my recommendations, this video definitely feels like it fell from heaven to help us
Yes I absolutely felt the difference in my own mindset, reality getting closer to the best version of myself. It’s a process that gets better over time and has to get at least 1% better everyday. I also just found your channel, I love the energy and information you provide. Definitely subscribed already.
"you will never leave you you were there for you" it almost made me cry that hitted so hard and your right ppl should appriciate themself more i am gonna work on it!
i am an empath and being empath is both a strength and weakness but i also figured out that detachment is the key to fell less pain or be less emotional or less affected. Being strong mentally and emotionally is very difficult thing to do for an empath because as much as possible we want to be gentle and soft and give it all out but we also know giving it all away wont make us get what we deserve…. We can do this 💪🏻
Empaths don't exist...it's not even a true medical term. It comes from Star Trek. You're just emotionally in tune. And can read body language. Therapists aren't even allowed to use the word because it's seen as super unprofessional
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someone's son got me watching this.
Girl that’s so true
Same 😢
Us girlyy
Crazy how we're all here for the same reason. You girls deserve better istg
So real
"YOU GET ATTACHED TO A FALSE REALITY OF HAPPINESS."
this hits me very hard.
this was me today I got attached to a false reality and now it hurts and I regret it.
@@unstoppablegirl8 don't regret it girl Learn from it :)
@@unstoppablegirl8girl dont regret it you cant do anything about it anymore its done thats it, youre just hurting yourself by regretting, youre going to live with it and it wont matter that much in months, present is painful
@@unstoppablegirl8you’re going to be okay - you are okay. You’ve got this, love ❤
😭
"The love that you're searching for outside is already within you"
I will never forget this
reminder
Yess it's and always within me.
Hi. How are you doing. I am a certified relationship coach who is trying to help people to take out the best out of themselves and to achieve relationship goals. Would you like a small session with me free of cost?
was about to comment this
❤
“YOU THINK YOU CANNOT HAVE MORE, THAT IS THE ISSUE” that seriously hurt in the chest
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the “get a life” part really gave me a reality check. it’s such a simple piece of advice but it is so true, sometimes when we get attached we open up so much space in our day to day lives to constantly talk to them. and then when they arent constantly talking like before, youre left with all this space you made in your day to day routine. never let someone change the original life/routine you had before you met them!!
so true, I used to believe “the more you give, the more you receive” but I completely lose myself thinking people would do the same for me.
This is true. I used to be obssesed with one person that im not even close with anymore and now that i started working on myself i dont think about them at all
@@tayzzle omg yes. Yes. Yes. Yes.
same here. hits home, even my ex told me that ;/
That’s so true!!
I feel like I’m at the point that I need to watch this everyday to remind myself
Let's all make a better version of ourselves!!
Same :)
I have noticed a toxic pattern I had, always getting attached to people I talked to or dated. I felt so anxious everytime they did not respond and I felt like I was literally dying when I knew they are going to end it with me. I gave a boy a second chance cause he apologized for his mistake and treated me so much better than before but guess what, he ended up hurting me again the same way like the first time. I got super attached to him since I had this boy back and now when I lost him the second time it felt like my world was ending. I cried nonstop and even told my parents about it. I don’t have any close friends that‘s why I felt super alone and I was wondering whether I can make it alive or not. Guys this is completely ridiculous, we all know it, but in that time, as a anxious attached person, it really does feel like that. I listened to several videos about it but always end up here. It feels amazing hearing your words Liz. I love that you humble me so much and thanks to you I feel so much better. I am aware of my feelings and that it has nothing to do with that one person who made me feel like that. At the end it is always you against you. Never stop respecting yourself, loving yourself, taking care of your body and mind. Everyone deserves a second chance in life but not in my life. That was my lesson. And I will make sure to become the highest version of myself and everything will start to work in my favor. The biggest revenge is no revenge. Have a good day and thank you for reading
You are very pretty.i Just saw your channel ❤.. don't worry everything will be fine ❤. You deserve all the happiness of the world ❤.I wish your life will be as pretty as your face 💕
@@HemayalAmin thank you so much for your kind words !! you made my day ❤️
I feel the same way and I just got hurted by a guy I so much invested to...and I am glad I found someone finally who is relatable to what I feel or what I do 😭 ( coz 10 min ago I was crying so much)
@@harshitasingh8944 it is okay to feel sad for a while but I can assure you it gets better with time!! Something that really helped me was a little note I wrote for myself to read when I got upset. After a week you‘ll start to feel a little better. There will still be days where you might get a little upset again but time heals every wound trust me!! Do something you loved doing before you met that guy.. a book you loved .. read it again.. draw something.. and exercise!! get back into ur routine and you will see it works!! ❤️
@@harshitasingh8944 I‘m so sorry honey :( 🩷 but I can really assure you that this phase will end some day. It‘s been 3 weeks since my ex broke up with me and I cried nonstop for 2 weeks and did not do anything since I constantly felt bad. I had this victim mindset. Asked myself questions like “How could someone do this to me? Where did everything go wrong? Why was I so stupid and naive?“.. and it really hurts going through this phase of constant sadness and regret. Now this 3rd week has been different. I am regularly going out, studying and changing my mindset. If it was true love would it hurt so much? Ask yourself this question. I‘m sure that you‘re a really sweet girl and you should know that it is his loss. Like literally who is this guy even? who is he to hurt you? It‘s his loss. Something is wrong with him for upsetting you like this. Start thinking that way and slowly the sadness will fade trust me. And after a few week you will start to feel the way you felt before you met that boy!!! I have experienced this so many times and I can‘t wait for feeling nothing at all anymore for a person who does not respect my feelings. ❤️
That line '' If God was done with you, you would not be alive'' 🥺🧿
🙏🌙❤
God is great all the time and all the time God is great AMEN
@@darkpersona962 💀
❤🌿🌈
i literally cried after hearing that line 😭😭
the 'stop creating fantasies' part had me reflecting all of my relations and friendships. the way I had created fantasies about everyone and when they didn't meet the expectations, I got hurt and it was difficult to see that it was me who gave them that false image and not them who hurt me
This is literally me🥲.
Me too.
That’s so relatable
Same
Me too....
"When you're not controlled by your ego, then you attract everything. You would not get attached to someone or something because you know you have abundance in your life."
Thank you so much. I needed to hear it.
Except when you don’t have abundance
@jewelsessences what type of abundances do you believe you are lacking
1. if it leaves, i’m comfortable by thinking something better will ( _always_ ) come. because if i give this thing the power of making me happy or unhappy, i’m so powerless. it’s just an extra, because i don’t need anything or anybody to make me complete !
3. we’re constantly being guided in our life, everything is meant to make us _wiser_ in some aspects.
-> not “why is this happening to me?”, no. but “what is that _teaching_ me” is the mindset.
once you realize that. you will begin to see the values in all of this
4. stop creating fantasies. just live in the present moment.
5. it will never be good enough. NEVER! so start appreciating EVERYTHING
6. don’t pass all the time in your head. don’t be too focused on being focused.
7. don’t have FOMO. = fear of missing out. if you don’t know what you’re missing out, you’re not missing out at all. that comes from no-comparison mindset, firsty.
8. “if i have this thing, i will be happy” FALSE. this is an attachment mentality. completely false! you have already your happiness within yourself.
realise: you will never leave you. instead you wont have this specific thing forever. so it doesn’t come from that to have happiness.
fuck, everything, i have me!!’
go to therapist, meditate, heal those things
9. “if god would been done with you, you won’t even be alive anymore”.
you don’t need anyone, any situation to say : “oh hey, i got this thing now i’m valuable”. no. it is just because you’re alive, you’re breathing . you have everything you need within you and the faster you realize, the happier you’ll be. because all the people attached too much to something or someone will never be happy. you have to be happy and comfortable and confident and proud with your true self in order to get your dreams. even if someone appears to be literally perfect, they will NEVER be anything without this mentality. so be fucking proud of who you are, who you are becoming and who you could be. being happy with ourselves unconditionally is ALWAYS A WIN.
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I'm going to listen to this everyday until it's engraved in my mind fr
frrr, just what i thought
Lol girl I feel you.
Did it work 😂
Sameee 😂I need to hear this
Doing the same
Liz sure is an intelligent woman with high moral standards. Each advice she gives is noteworthy.
Facts
frr
I'm literally taking notes during her videos, because every word she says is so meaningful.
she saved my freaking life
@@alexrenko can you actually drop out at 14? and why would you just to help other ppl?
"YOU will NEVER leave you. " Such true words, and this video is really what I needed in my life. Thanks for giving this perspective!
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In Tears when you mentioned "You have you and if you believe in God, you have him as well". Needed this reminder today! God bless you, beautiful
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To anybody who's reading this, I pray that whatever is hurting you or whatever you are constantly stressing about gets better. May the dark thoughts, the overthinking, and the doubt , exit your mind. May clarity replace confusion. May peace and calmness fill your life ❤
thank you.
so needy words❤
Thank you so much. 💖
thankyouuu smm
thank you ♡
I have a really bad habit of romanticizing everything and everyone. Then get disappointed when they do not meet my standards. This is something that I just realized. This year, I plan on operating from an abundant mindset and stop selling myself so short! I always shortchange myself for others and always get the bad end of the deal. This year will be a whole 180! Thanks Liz!
why does this hit home.. i like romanticising places, experiences and music. people disappoint.
Same for me. I don't agree with Liz saying that people who get attached easily have no life, it's not that easy to explain. I do have a life, I constantly meet up with friends, go to events, restaurants, try out something new and I do have things I'm passionate about. I can be on my own and never get bored because I always find stuff to do. But I just tend to romanticize a lot. Especially because I've never been in a relationship, I just get excited when I like someone, wonder if they like me back, daydream about them and then get disappointed when they're not reciprocating my feelings the same way. I need to learn to not depend my emotional state so much on how that person is feeling about me.
Felt this I dilute myself into thinking that one day they will change and I romanticize them to the point where I actually think it is them so when I find out that they aren’t going to change and that the person inside of my head isnt them I get disappointed and upset, but I’m already attached so it’s hard to detach from the person that created in my mind. Because I want it to be them .
same i like to be delusional smh
@@saffy771 same but it’s so hard.. like i try not to have expectations or daydream avout someone i just met but i just cant help it
After a break up, I have watched dozens of videos on how to get through this and this is the only video that literally made me snap out of it with CLARITY and confidence. You really opened my eyes to a whole new way of thinking. Thank you
no fr she called my ass out LOL
"We were put on this earth to work on our traumas " This quote changed my whole mindset.
Hi it is true we need to work on our traumas. But it is best to work with people who already gone through this. I am a certified relationship coach who is trying to bring best out of people and to set healthy goals for themselves. Would you like a small session with me free of cost?
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when u really get into these two mindsets "it is what it is" & "there is always someone or something better for me when it comes about ending things",your life really gets better.
Edited: I didnt know that this has so many likes and some people are telling me that this is narcissistic but the truth is u have to work thru some things with ur someone but when they do hurt u intentionally you dont have to hold onto them anymore.I am not narcissistic I just got broken up by someone and im hurt rn as i should be but you have to let go of things which are not meant to be with you & there really are good people that u havent even met on this earth 🤍
What
@@rando7290like, life goes on regardless! Anything can happen, anything can make you happy when it comes to things ending. Detaching yourself, will help you believe that and it will do good for you! Never depend on someone for your own happiness
@Rando it's really simple buddy! ❤
You don't have to feel bad about ending things! There's always something better for us no matter what.
yeah i’m still trying to get through this my head rn
@@lynnsusulynn peak narc statement
Liz kick started my self improvement journey. I’ll never be able to explain how much I respect you in words. I’ve changed my mindset because of you. Let’s go and get that knowledge and level up girls!
Sooo true🙏✨️✨️✨️
YESS ME TOO!!!!
It's crazy right? She is just amazing, I am so grateful to her
100%
Same, in liz we trust
Give this woman an award for saving us and for making us loving ourselves ❤️
You saved yourself
Thank you for guiding us and putting out this invaluable content FOR FREAKIN FREE !!!!
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Right, she's amazing and so straightforward
this woman is fixing something she didn't break!!! i'm glad that people like you exists who unconditionally supports people and helps people like us!
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I legit love her so much . I had been facing attachment issues in my friendships and relationships which was really unhealthy, I had lost all my apetitie , happiness and self respect but after watching this video , I got this sudden spark and now I've been the healthiest version of me recently
Love that for you
How do u deal with the loss of appetite
Hi. Sorry to hear you are dealing with these issues. I am a certified relationship coach and I am helping people to set healthy goals and to bring best out of themselves. Would you like a small session free of cost with me?
I finally understood. I became sick because I was way too attached to a fantasy I created in my head about who he should have been, what we should have become. It made me truly ill, physically, mentally, emotionally. And I can finally let go. I can go no contact. I can heal. This video was a happy slap on my face to know that I am not special, many people go through this, and I can change my situation.
startded the 0 contact today. It hurts but i'm glad to know we're not alone. Twins haha
@@asldfiwrn when i become independent he started contacting me
Remember you were doing just fine before you met him
@@samanwaya6388I went through that as well , ik how hard it actually is . I really do wish you the best , if i can advice u : do every single thing that you know you have to do for your own good , no matter how hard it looks /is. At the end you will always have to think and act for yourself cause your own happiness is your duty .
Here's a quote that i really do appreciate ( hope it can help you even if you don't believe in God ... ) : " When a thing disturbs the peace of your heart , give it up " - the prophet ( ص ) .
Hope my comment can help u in any kind of way :) .
Thank God your eyes are open. I am incredibly happy for you. Live your best life.
I'm honestly shocked because of how good this video is and how much it's taught me. Thank you.
💯
Same
i dont think its coming from her, its look very scripted ! she look like she just want attention because these people are fake and do everything for catching attention and stoling normal people idea and make like its their idea ! look her she is full of surgery she look so insecure about her look and she dosnt look confident and confortable ! she just repeat word who she hear on someone in irl
FR location didn’t change, nothing. she just spoke straight FACTS
She's a fugazi young man. A maneating gold digger. Watch yourself and don't thank a gold digging snake, run
Detachment is important in order to move on from the past and not let things or people control your emotions.
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I have a problem of getting attached and obsess over people that do not give me proper atention. And it sucks bc i know that it's wrong but it's so hard to stop this patern. This video is like receiving advice from a friend who knows how to comfort and care for me. Be blessed.
“if you are still alive, then God is not done with you” WOW! this was the EXACT message my preacher preached today 🙏🏼❤️
@@profile1936 i’m so sorry for your loss Gunter.. life is not fair sometimes.. It’s okay to be angry.. and I hope you can find some peace with what you’re dealing with & see brighter days ahead 🙏🏼
muslims believe this, its a very core value in islam its an absolutely beautiful concept
@@profile1936 head up man, god has a plan everything might seem unclear at the moment but just know you have an angel by your side.
@@profile1936 i'm a complete and total stranger but i hope the lessons you learned from your friendship and the experiences you had leave a positive impact on you and help you become a better person. i'm not just gonna lie and say i pity you or i'm so sorry for you, because pity never helped anyone, but i'm praying you find a healthy way to not only cope with your grief but to live your life to the fullest and most fulfilling it can be :). (i hope i don't sound insensitive, if i do just ignore this x_x)
yess I heard Steve Harvey say this a lot too ❤
"You are put on this Earth to be blessed." What a powerful statement.
"you are put in This world to test again and again not to be blessed because this world is gona end one day and the world afterwords it gona last forever so be aware of what u do here cuz you gona answer each and everything there and that life is gona last forever forever where no death no fear in short heaven or hell .
This woman giving better advice than most parents
My mom would slap me instead
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" If god was done with you ,you wouldn't have been alive " that line hitted hard ,thank you sooo much liz for that
"im not looking for someone to complete me because i complete myself" SHE'S SO REALL
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It's insane how much anxiety she takes away and how good I feel everytime after I watched a video of hers, she just speaks such blunt facts so accurate and so much on point it's insane
it's my first time watching hee and I feel exactly as you describe :)
@@froufou100 same dudeee:") thanksss Liz
Anxiety is a gift
Literally. This is the first video I watched of hers because of a Situation I’m currently in. The amount of anxiety and stress and sadness she just lifted feels like taking a bag of weights off. I’m really great full I found this video
so true
Preach sister!!! Here’s my biggest takeaways:
1. Get a life!!! Replace all the time you’re thinking of them with a passion, hobby, or goal.
2. If it’s not out of love it’s ego!! I was friends with this girl for over a year, then become real close friends, then started talking and being intimate. But she was never interested in taking it further, just wanted to be friends with benefits. I set a boundary so no initimacy, just friends, but weirdly enough, started finding myself being jealous of her, because I am popular at my university. But she is more popular because she is foreign, beautiful, travels all around the world, is super well known, comes from a family with money, dances sings and presents all the time. Being jealous is not love. I have no self love if I’m being jealous. I’ve put her on a pedestal, but I need to remember that we are all equal.
Hi hope you are doing well. I am a certified relationship coach who is helping people to set healthy goals and to bring out best of themselves. Would you like to have a small session with me free of cost?
This video helped me a lot. I was going through so much pain of overthinking, now i feel like i dont need anyone else but myself. Thank you so much for making my day better and showing me my own worth. 💗
"If God was done with you, you would not be alive."
The power that this one line holds. I promise to work on myself from this very moment and not cry for worthless people anymore. I am going to be a better, happier and healed version of myself.
Amen suloka
How are you now you have started to ne happy
The “cry for worthless people” got me
amen to that
I wouldn't say that I am happy as much as I want to be but I definitely feel better than what I used to be like and am still a work in progress but also proud of myself for not giving up.@@ayamekkaoui2779 😇
Timestamps 👀:
1:32 - Realise you are operating from your ego
5:55 - Everyone in your life has a purpose
8:58 - Stop creating fantasies
9:33 - Have an "It is what it is." mindset
10:57 - Get a life
12:23 - Realise that you're operating from a lack mindset
14:07 - What is FOMO?
16:04 - You will never arrive to happiness
17:54 - Realise you will never leave you
thank you ✨
I LOVE it when people do this! THANK YOU!
What's the name of the book she mentioned ?
@@jeevithar8918 It is "Spirit Junkie by Gabrielle Bernstein" .
Thanks
I’m going through my first real extremely painful heartbreak :(
First break-up, first ex etc.. but this video literally made me feel a 100 times better.
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“get a life” “you have you” made me really realize how good it is to know ur worth. My ex broke up with me last night and i was in pieces. She really helped me realize whats reality like and that my last relationship wasnt like roses, only the good moments were and i dont actually miss him, i just miss our good moments together.
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Everyone here who's on your healing journey, remember what Liz said about fantasies. It applies to your healing as well. Do not fall into the trap of believing that you must heal by this certain time or in this certain way, so that you can do all the things you're "meant" to do and "be happy." If you're struggling right now, give yourself some love. Sit with yourself and ask yourself, "what's wrong?" You will get through this, and you are oh so beautiful.
this comment hit home. thank you ♥️
ty luv 🤍
Thank you for your beautiful comment! You are beautiful too. 💞✨
When i ask myself "what's wrong" suddenly- formation of river takes places from my eyes 😚
Thank you❤️
as an overly emotional person and as a person who literally loves people unconditionally this was so important because I am completely sick and tired of people constantly taking advantage of my loyalty and love, thank you liz you literally are an angel
edit: WHEN DID THIS GET SO MANY LIKES LMAOO but anyways to all the beautiful angels and amazing human beings who related to this, I just want to say that I'm so proud of you I'm so happy you came this far and did not decide to give up, and it shows that you are trying to do smth better for yourself (as you're watching the queen liz), so don't give up beautiful you got this and all of you strong and amazing individuals have my prayers
I can relate to this! Completely agree with you! xx
Same ❤
real
i relate to this so bad
Im with you all ❤ we gotta give ourselves some credit though, we have the most beautiful heart and souls ✨ Sending love to you all
Wow. The universe definitely works in mysterious ways. I just ended a 9 year relationship, and I’ve been so tempted to text her. I can definitely identify with everything this video mentioned. As difficult as it is, we need to realize that life is always teaching and guiding us. Everything really does happen for a reason.
The love you are searching is already within you.
When the fantasies are not m eet your mind feels sad.
And also there always something better coming to you. You are complelte by your self . Great thoughts Liz
Attachment usually occurs due to a limited mindset of a "limited" ambition or "limited" options. Have hobbies, goals, plan a daily routine for yourself, keep yourself busy, shower, workout, eat healthy, affirm, walk your daily steps, soak the sun for 10 minutes daily. And most importantly, KNOW YOUR WORTH. Like Liz said, anyone in your life is there to TEACH you. It's done by them either staying or by leaving so know that they can go and there are a ton of other people :)
Thank you for this comment reading this gave me a new perspective
@@chillpill2098 sure! We all serve a purpose in each other's lives. Think logically : love is just a hormone. A certain chemical which we crave, oxytocin. No one owes anything to anyone.
Nice one! Thank you for this.
Exactly! You have not seen the world yet and are unaware of all the goodness waiting for you in abundance ! Don't despair. Everything happens for a reason and everyone enters your life to teach you. Have ambitions for yourself. Have daily must-do's like getting 10 min sun, walking 5000 steps, eating fruits once and showering. Other than that, invest in yourself. Expand your horizons. Learn a new word or language. Try reading or writing. Maybe dance on your fav song. Call a family member or friend to catch up with. Draw and paint like you did when you were a child. YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE PERFECT. Stop looking at the details. We are literally living on a petite planet earth. There is no such thing as "time" or past in the higher dimensions. What is time anyway ? When the earth rotates and revolves you call it seasons and time lol. Stop stressing over the small stuff. Come on, live a little. Cook yourself a nice healthy meal and watch a funny movie. Do a DIY facial, take 5 extra mins in the shower, moisturize your body and sleep like a God/goddess. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AND I AM SO PROUD OF YOU ❤
@@darkspice6339Very true💯. Thank you for the kind words❤
"you think that you cannot have more and that's the issue"
This hit home so hard to a point where I remained in my own thoughts for a while
Same I literally paused the video nd was like damn
I stop for a whole hour to reflect . . .
@honey-lk4lj I remember I was in a Hospital, one doctor( that doctor was woman) told me to come to the restraining room where she and 8 male doctors will pummel me if I didn't come to the restraining room. She was a narcissistic doctor that just doesn't respect me nor my rights. And when they locked me in the restraining room, all the doctors told me that I was a jack@$$( They got triggered just because I was thinking different than them
this video is saving me at this very moment, your advice on how its truly our ego attached altered something in my brain chemistry fr, i cant stay here and ruminate on everyone else in my situation right now, im detaching and letting the best play out, i have me and im learning either way. choose peace. thanks for this
Liz this came up on my feed at the right moment. I’m so emotionally weak at time when it comes to relationship because I love people so much. I seem to make time for them and get discouraged then they can’t make time for me. I am so ready to take back my power. Thank you.
As a boy it’s good to know even tho I’m single there’s single girls out there who actually do love hard and want some serious
1:32 - Realise you are operating from your ego
5:55 - Everyone in your life has a purpose
8:58 - Stop creating fantasies
9:33 - Have an "It is what it is." mindset
10:57 - Get a life
12:23 - Realise that you're operating from a lack of mindset
14:07 - What is FOMO?
16:04 - You will never arrive at happiness
17:54 - Realise you will never leave you
Thank u!!
how do I get a life 😭
This is so very helpful 👍! Thank you so much.
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Thank you love ❤
Chilling in a hot bathtub on a Sunday, with candles and self care while listening to liz is what I call a perfect end of a week.
That sounds so cozy and nice.
sameeee
He came inside my life, to guide me to my peace. I left to help myself, create a new mindset and finally find my peace not in anyone but myself.
"They were never fantasy people, you created that by yourself out of your attachment". This line crawled down to my spine and will never forget ever.
girl you were meant to come in my life at this moment. thank you for creating this soul contract
TeXTMe_📩,,
It's a video relax mate, imagine a girl actually talked to you lol
@@panospanayo-enfp-1658 i don't think they meant it in the way you're interpreting.
Watching this video again, I am crying at this part, that “ you were always there for you, please acknowledge that, that was such a powerful thing . “
I cried too girl!
I appreciate someone who can tell it like it is and that’s you. So thank you.
Today I have learned 8 things. Detachment saves you from heartbreak and betrayal with yourself. It saves you from Fantasies and give happiness in your reality. Detachment is so important because you should have your own power instead of relying on someone to make you feel good about yourself. I need to stop generating from my ego and whatever my ego tells me is not true and I deserve everything best and I am blessed. I don't care what leaves I care what is the more great thing has entered in my life. I don't care about the lives that I see on social media because I am creater of my own happiness. I go my own hobbies that define me as me.everyone has their purpose and I learn everything everyday life is so beautiful and I am blessed alhamdillah.
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Everything that comes out of Liz's mouth is pure gold. These are the things we all need to hear but we don't want to hear because its painful or because its too difficult to act on it. We are all meant for so much more. Radiate positivity, be kind, your turn is coming. We are all deserving.
This is so insightful. I'm a grandmother, and I'm still learning. I'm going to send this to my teen granddaughter. I hope she watches it. Thank you.
that's sweet
you’re a nice grandma for this
you’re a wonderful human
W grandma
that is so adorable
Talking to others make you realize so much more about yourself . This is SO TRUE. I talk with my friends and through what they said about me I realize so much more of my character and personality that I would never thought of and that make me even more confident❤
I really try to get a new life by watching Liz because since I have had that boy in my head for six months I kind of lost it. I’ve lost my passion for music, for walks, for romanticizing life. She inspires me to get that back again and no matter how dumb I think I am after these videos I always know that Liz also talks about her own experience on that so I know that even this is meant to be. I am meant to be watching her right now!
Liz could you please make a video on how to set boundaries with people? I struggle with this so much as a people-pleaser because I always think that if I set clear boundaries, I will hurt the other person's feelings, so I end up prioritizing their comfort over mine. Thanks and ily!
Yes please liz!
I have exactly the same problem.. I'm always scared to hurt other person's
Yess i agree
You need to understand that telling those people your BOUNDARIES will not going to hurt them because you are telling them about your comfort zone and What triggers you or what not and if they really care about you they'll understand your BOUNDARIES and they'll not getting hurt by showing some Respect to your BOUNDARIES. At the end of they day You are showing respect to their comfort zone over yours. That's why YOU ARE ONLY HURTING YOUR OWN FEELINGS OVER THEM. THINK ABOUT IT☺️ ( STOP THINKING THAT YOU'LL GONNA HURT THEIR FEELINGS YOU ARE LITERALLY HURTING YOUR OWN FEELINGS HAVE MERCY ON YOURSELF.) (WHATEVER YOU ARE THINKING RELATING TO HURT SOMEONE FEELINGS OVER YOUR COMFORT ZONE IS JUST IN YOUR HEAD *THIS IS NOT HAPPENING*
I struggle with that too
she's really out here making us our best versions with those powerful words
So true !!
Yess I'm not attached. I'm my own supply. I understand that most people are just lessons in my life for a chapter. The next chapter will come with different lessons. I'm ready to let go of the past, people and memories that no longer serve me. I'm a new person with a new time. I evolved. I'm a new person, a new version of me to face different situations and different time. God bless me with all the great things that should be mine when the time comes and i pray that the great things stay for a long time, a long chapters, it's not just a lesson. I trust God and myself. I trust him. I trust that I'll have the healthy compatible family when the right time comes. Glory to God!
You just save me 😭😭😭😭
Alhamdulillah
Allah will give you more good things
“When you say “nobody was there for me.” You were there the whole time! Give yourself some credit!”
Well I’m crying.
Thank you for posting this video. ❤
Same here, absolute tears because we dont give ourselves credit; we’re there for us
16:36 “The happiness that you are searching for outside is already within you. The love that you are searching for outside is already within you.” WOW. Just the way she verbalized all of this clicked for me. Love you Liz ❤
We love a man that watches liz, respect 👏
@@cupcake7217Thank you 🥹 men and women, we all can learn from one another. 💜
You have no idea how much lives you're saving rn. God bless you! ❤
i love how calm you are and not be like “oh get your ass up, yes you can, stop sitting around, walk into the room like you own it blah blah”. we need some understanding and calming ourselves. we need to know it’s okay. we shouldn’t feel the need of glowing up just to show the partner we used to have should feel regret. we must accept our feelings and not feel guilty about it and then deal with it in our terms. thank you so much for this video.
Liz we need a video called "social media" I feel like that's such an integral part of society today... You're the perfect person to simplify this in the best possible way and you're good with words I'm sure you can come up with relatable content on it... 🥰
👌 I second this. A video on social media would be great!! 🙂💜🙏
Yes!! I haven’t thought of this but this is the perfect idea! She always mentions social media but it would be great if she went into depth about it.
THIS
Right! I totally agree
We really need this video
i’m crying rn and was feeling very worthless and vulnerable and you just pulled me out of that. thank you you’re amazing
you're not worthless bby ❤
I greatly appreciate this so much. It's been 2 years since i hit rock bottom from Narcissistic Abuse and having lost physical custody of my kids. It still hurts but now I understand why I'm struggling to detach. You've explained it so well. Now I can work on this understanding and wisdom. My ego is stuck with people who hurt me. I'm constantly having to "proof" myself. I don't need to do anything for them or with them.
100% no capping , no gate keeping wisdom and truth. preach! queen.
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This vid hits home for me. As someone who struggles with maintaining friendships, I realized a lot of the problems I had with them was because I was creating these unrealistic expectations in my head, and like Liz says it ends up never almost playing out how you want them to because its all just a fantasy.
Omg 😮you just put my thoughts in writing 😢I also struggle with it .Hope we find our dream freindship with ourselves and love ourselves first then other people ❤❤Good luck ❤
I was so attached and clinged onto a man i knew for a few years. He absolutely drianed me. Disrespected me in every way, played with my head, drained my energy, broke my heart many times. However I was still so caught up with him. When I found your videos I realized and learned to let go of him and focus on me instead of him. My whole life and understanding of myself was based around him. It took me awhile and I am still learning more to be my own girl. Your videos have helped me so much in that realm and other realms of my life as well.
You go girl ❤️🩹
YOU GO GIRLL🤍
You got this girl. You are not alone, same thing happened to me too. But we will detach & we will move on 🙏🏽❤️✨
There might be fault in you and not in men.i have seen many times girls would be the toxic ones but blame men for everything....
@@Ihavemadeit999 you go girls yes....being heterosexual and straight men and attracted towards women is a curse now for men.....Men do not want to date or marry women anymore because women would be the problem but play the victim card and blame men....It has a talent of women now....Men are slowing becoming mgtow as women bring sadness and suffering in men lives and there is no point in dating women......
Hey, just wanna say Thank you so much for this beautiful message... its really open my eyes, i'm literally crying right now because i don't understand why people that i care are leaving me behind, i always think and try to evaluate myself, and think that i'm the problem...
But, after hearing this, i feel all of my burden just gone, just like that...
I forgot to enjoy my own company and God that always be beside me, whenever i'm alone...
I feel so bad that i forgot i could be happy even by my own, i wish from now own i can recover and try to find myself again, once again thank you for this message...
I'll keep in mind to not get attached to something that are temporary
❤❤❤
Omg she’s so wise! She tells me everything I already know but it’s nice to watch her videos cuz she reminds me of these values when I’m in a dark space 💖 this girl is amazing!
Liz, today I relapsed into depression. After watching this video, you INSTANTLY snapped me out of it. I just worked out, took an ice bath and now I am going to meditate I FEEL GREAT. You saved my life Liz, thank you.
i hope u are doing well now
You got this!! Stay strong it’s gonna be okay
you got this baby! glad to read this... i hope u get better.
im so proud of you queen!!
give yourself credit, you did it all by yourself !! 🤍🤍 stay stronggg
She has literally helped me get over a highly toxic, one-sided friendship which I was NEVER able to get out of. I tried so much for 2 years but couldn't get out of the trap and toxicity. She told me what I needed to hear. This. My best friend who recommended this channel to me really meant it when she said "it will change your life" and "she will heal you".
Uss same thing happened to me I moved on last year
Us same.... It took me 4 year but she did help alot..
I am.going though this situation now and I just randomly scroll I found her video and now I feel bit relax
Funny how when you get rid of 1 toxic person, many more are revealed. It started with a best friend since childhood, then it was my dad, an aunt, and now the older brother. I'm just letting them all out.
It wasn't toxic for me but in our friendship we weren't the same, she always had the higher priority in our friendship and then she started treating me like shit and I had to get over it because she apologized and then we had to break apart and a couple of weeks after that she came to my college and had an argument with me infront of my classmates and I felt so vunerable. I depended on her at my lows and so I thought it was okay to have be on the giving end of the friendship. It hurts but it is for the best, really happy that it helped you. hope I look back at this and it doesn't hurt me anymore.
Liz, this is the first time i am watching your video and i wish i have watched your videos sooner. Your words was excatly what i was looking for and from now on i will learn to how to embrace my soul and enjoy my solitude. Thank you so much for helping us through this journey ❤
Sis, this video is EVERYTHING. Liz, you are wise beyond belief, and your words are true like nothing else. I will be watching and re-watching this video religiously from now on. I needed these words... thank you so much. Truly.
Trust me, Liz, I’ve been abiding by these rules of detachment for the past 3 years and my life’s been drama free and stress free ever since. No one or situation controls me and nothing scares me anymore. I feel more independent and confident now 🖤
I'm happy for you! Glad you are doing well and I hope to achieve this level of detachment during this year
SLAY
Wow, How did you come to this?
@@maryn4150 omg thank you and I hope you get to achieve what you desire soon 🖤
@@Daryana_lilith Ig when you’ve been hurt by multiple ppl in different situations, you toughen up and understand exactly why you should be self reliant when it comes to company and distant yourself from ppl. Talking to humans sometimes is nice but I’ve always been the type of person who loves being alone and these days, I rarely interact with ppl. The more I tried connecting with others, the more I realized I feel more comfortable and at peace when I’m alone. Not like I’m completely antisocial but I do love enjoying myself alone and ppl these days just tire me out. They come and go, nobody really stays but I’ll always have myself so that’s why i just don’t seek other ppl at all these days and I’ve been better than ever with myself. Plus, makes shit so much easier for an introvert like me 🖤
Her videos always opened my eyes about the reality of the world for real. 💗😭
"get a life" was a straight slap to my face
This is absolutely INSANE, I have been consistently telling God and trying to detach. I have been really starting to learn about the Law of Detachment the past 2-3 weeks and Liz comes out w this video...she's intuitive, empathic like me, and knows what we need. Kudos to you sister, thank you so much for helping me in my healing journey!
me too, sis!
Me too
As a psycholigist, I'd only say that the ego part is not named correctly but everything else is so clearly and truthfully put. I wonder whats her source of inspiration and knowledge but either way I'm so happy that there are people like her putting such helpfup content for others. We have created such a lonely world, and we need more humans, more real talk, and more authenticity
If it's not ego, what is it? Just curious
She says "our ego makes us put others on a pedeastal and makes us obsess over them cos it makes us feel like we're not good enough". This description is rather of a low-self esteem. And indeed then this person would need others validation more and consequetly seek higer attachment as they don't feel enough on their own. When we manage to stop being obsessed with our ego, we actually accept ourselves more, and we are capable of accepting others too. Anyway, I didn't mean to go after a few of her sentences just wanted to respond to you :) Overall she is a nice fresh air on the internet and she seems to mean well
@@Evieran Actually I would say that she's right, with your ego and romanticising a person who is not good for you, it will definitely make you think better of them and unknowingly obsess over them, and then because of your growing obsession when the person isnt who you romanticize them to be and actually treats you like trash, you will begin to think your in the wrong. Its not neccessarily because you originally had low self esteem but because you put them on a pedestal on which they definitely dont belong on.
sorry if this doesnt make sense.
@@Evieran ya that makes sense so basically liz meant that you are opertaing on poor self esteem right?
@@user-du4gw to me, yes, thats what this is about
Every time I watch your videos you’re words move me so much, and it almost always relates to my current situation. Thank you for sharing such impactful information and words you truly have made me realize so much more about life ❤
as a 14 year old girl I found this really enlightening, thank you.
Damn, you hit the spot. I feel so low today because the person I care about was talking with random girls online despite us being in a "relationship", which triggered my trauma of not being good enough to any men I was romantically involved with - both IRL and online. Then it hit me, I was attached to the idea of what they are in my head. Thank you so much for helping me realize this, even though I randomly found your video here. Romanticizing people and situations has been my problem (because they make me feel "secure" in some way, but it's not when reality strikes). Your video is like a slap from the Universe/God to me lol and I'm thankful for that.
Same. Trying to detach myself from this person
Going through this exact same situation rn I cannot believe. And I do the same thing as you too. I romanticize everyone and everything so much. Well anyways you've got this! Love will find you 💕
Same! Especially a slap from the Universe/God
The same thing just happened to me 🙌we are not alone
What to do in this situation?
Crying while listening to this. I always end up attaching myself to people that come in my life and end up heartbroken.
Edit: listened to this the night before and im completely detached. Thank you god and thank you Liz. (:
We will be okie oneday ...God is here with us 🫂
Power to you girl I need to do the same.
Yupp now I feel so free
OMG HOWBDID MT COMMENT GET SO MANY LIKES 😭😭😭😭😭 also update, im still struggling with attachment but it’s gotten much better 🫶🏻 to all those who’ve commented here, i hope you guys are doing well
"That person was supposed to show you a side that you need to work on in your life" woooooow
when she said, YOU ARE PUT ON THIS EARTH TO BE BLESSED, YOUR EXISTENCE IS ENOUGH TO ATTRACT MIRACLES, THERE IS NO LACK
This girl is taking a shower and randomly decides to save us. What a queen!
I had a crush for about 5 years and he was my first love. I always tried to get close to him and I even confessed my feelings to him but he just ignored me and never accepted them. After a while, I started to hate him because he did not like me at all.
Just now I realized that all this time I've been creating false fantasies about him in my head where he was a good and kind person but he never was, to me. He never had such a personality after all. He always treated me like shit and just took advantage of me but I turned those shitty moments into my own fantasies where he was a good person.
I dont hate him anymore because he was what he was and nothing can change that. Thank you Liz for maling me realize this!❤️
It’s crazy how I relate to this, 100% Same situation
wtf same
something like that happened to me
I appreciate someone who can tell it like it is and that 's you, so thank you ❤
This is a video I didn’t know I needed until it popped up… I’ve been out of high school for 7 years and haven’t done anything because o have spent all of that time attaching to people that already served their purpose and it has driven me to a point of depression so deep that I have been having passive suicidal thoughts in recent weeks. Thank you for this.
The universe is really funny. Liz casually came out of the shower and decided to make a video that I've listened to like 1 million times. It saved my life, literally 😂. Every word came out from her is gold for me.
I'd always be thankful for her too
I swear, this video fell from heaven. I have had this problem for years and yesterday a big thing happened in my life that made me realize that owe much more to myself than to other people. I have been feeling down and this videos feels like it was sent to me because the timing is just so divine I can't explain it otherwise. Her videos seem to come into someones life when they are meant to be. I love her so much
for months I've been struggling to detach from a person, and her words are exactly what I needed to hear. id never seen her before and she popped up on my recommendations, this video definitely feels like it fell from heaven to help us
Yes I absolutely felt the difference in my own mindset, reality getting closer to the best version of myself. It’s a process that gets better over time and has to get at least 1% better everyday. I also just found your channel, I love the energy and information you provide. Definitely subscribed already.
"you will never leave you you were there for you" it almost made me cry that hitted so hard and your right ppl should appriciate themself more i am gonna work on it!
i am an empath and being empath is both a strength and weakness but i also figured out that detachment is the key to fell less pain or be less emotional or less affected. Being strong mentally and emotionally is very difficult thing to do for an empath because as much as possible we want to be gentle and soft and give it all out but we also know giving it all away wont make us get what we deserve…. We can do this 💪🏻
Sometimes the kindest thing we can do is stop ✋ offering unconditional kindness. Give it to your self ❤️
Empaths don't exist...it's not even a true medical term. It comes from Star Trek. You're just emotionally in tune. And can read body language. Therapists aren't even allowed to use the word because it's seen as super unprofessional
Right here with you
@@bostonb4kedbeans I believe an empath is an empathetic person
And naturally kind