We would like to do a Q&A on this channel soon, so please leave your questions in the comments! We will also be asking on Instagram so please follow us over there too if you can. instagram.com/ketotwinsofficial - Have a great holiday weekend! -Em
Lost my dad a few years ago, but I don't pretend to know your grief. It's been wonderful to watch your channels grow and I always appreciate your honesty and brevity. Thank you for making keto approachable for so many. Maybe your next video for this channel will be patching your living room wall. 😂
Q.)would you consider getting a place with a MIL Suite/Apartment/Studio that your mom would want to eventually downsize into? Could be turned into a studio now or rental/AB&B Later? Q.) This is extremely personal and you can feel free to a.) ingore it b.) just say that you are comfortable answering such deeply personal question c.) answer vaguely d.) answer only for yourself{not speaking for your husband or sister} so the question is Do you plan on having kids or want kids? [ i did not have my kids till 37&40 because I chose to not marry till 36 ] Q.) how far in advance do you plan or get ready for various holidays/birthdays/ anniversaries? or NOT who is the one that either remembers or forgets, you , spouse, sibling etc...😁😁😂😂🤣🤣
@technicallyketo I can't express how wonderful it is to hear two young ladies who are as open and honest as you always are. I'm sure both your Mom and Dad so appreciated what a true blessing you both are. Thank you for letting us all know how you're going through. I promise you both my prayers as you go forward. MUCH love to you. 🩵🙏🩵
This isn't really for your Q&A but I thought your video when you were going to Trader Joe's to get flowers was fun. Maybe do some more "out and about" vids. Thanks for everything you do! You are a real support!
I lost my father in October 2022. He was 85 and suffered from Alzheimer’s as well as other numerous ailments. It’s still not easy dealing with the loss, especially for my mom, but to help cope we always try to focus on the positive memories we have of him. Continued blessings to both of you lovely ladies and have a safe & happy 4th of July Holiday 😊
grief NEVER goes away, it just visits less and less often. please don't try not to FEEL it. let us all acknowledge that anytime we "push feelings away" those feelings are just WAITING to be felt. years from now, there will be a smell, or a song, or a joke that will hit you like a Mack Truck... i can't wait until you find your garden (with a house hahahaha) and your garage (with house, hahahaha.) this will make hilarious vids
@@gategirl66 don't be afraid to mourn him. and don't be afraid to mourn YOUR loss. Grief is different from depression. even elephants, whales, parrots, dolphins, crows, grieve the loss of their loved ones. we have created theatre, books, movies to "help us cry"; because we need help in FEELING. my hope for you is that when you tell funny stories about him, you can enjoy all the complicated feelings of having loved. YOU are important (and still here). none of us is promised tomorrow, let us do good while we can. 🌻🌻🌻
I was my Daddy's girl. I'm 69 years old and my dad passed when I was 27. The grief is still there!! Give yourselves grace. I see my dad randomly walking around everywhere I go. At first, it freaked me out. Now, I view it as my dad watching over me. You will always miss him. I always miss my did!
When you talked about your daily lives being centered on caring for you Dad and supporting your Mom during a long terminal illness, it took me back to the same circumstances. I remember thinking, “I had a life but I don’t remember where I left off”. It was like losing my place in a book. I didn’t know where and how to restart my life. Over time, the pieces came together.
@LambHasaLittle_Marie. What a perfect way to describe the aftermath of caregiving. I that way after my husband passed away but hadn't thought of it that way. Not only do you lose your place in the book, but it turns out it has a drastically different ending than you ever imagined.
Your daddy is looking down so proud of you!! Grief sucks! I lost my youngest son and it never goes away, you learn to cope. Some days are better and some harder. Love you guys ❤️
I relate to all of this so much. Our local hospital thought I too was an employee ( offered me an employee discount on something at the time) All of your insights on grief, perceptions…everything you said…are so poignant. Most of us struggle privately while grieving yet you two were brave enough to post and share. That’s doubly hard. Please be kind to yourselves. You are both lovely, inside and out. I appreciate every single thing you do. You will never be judged by me🥰 .
When my dear friend passed away over ten years ago he was in hospice for the last month of his life. I visited him every day while he was there. The night he died I left his room and sat in my car weeping, also thinking "now what?" I'm so sorry for your loss. Grief is such a strange thing. Ten years later and I still get sad when I think about that time. But it's not as crippling. You don't really move "on" but forward. The hole in your heart is still there, just not as big. Time does heal. Thinking of you!
Those of us who have had good men as fathers are truly blessed! My sweet dad would have turned 99 years old today, born 7-30-1925! He’s been gone 9 years and I feel very blessed to have had him that long, though I miss him immeasurably! I was definitely Daddy’s girl and he was my rock. There is no one left in my life who I truly matter much to, but I believe we will meet again! 🥰 Grief is simply love sent, with nowhere to land. P.S. Came back to add that …Yeah, I’d love to see y’all house hunting! It’s very interesting to see what houses, land, etc. looks like and is selling for in different places. Good luck in your hunt and thank God AND your sister, that you didn’t move into a construction nightmare! Besides noise, it’s not nice to see what tearing up the natural habitat of wildlife causes. And don’t forget the endless dust created by such endeavors. 😊
Losing a parent when you are young is so hard. My mom died at 58. That first year was so hard. Everything I was driving in my car alone I would start crying. My father died two years ago but we had the long goodbye of Alzheimer's and there was more a sense of relief.
First of all, let me say how proud of y'all for taking such loving care of your family. Time with them, even though painful is still a time~shared and a memory.( love IS love no matter how it looks to outsiders, only you determine it for yourself) Please take comfort & peace in the knowledge that you did your best in very difficult circumstances. As a follower/viewer I am so honored that you shared such vulnerable thoughts with us. I would like to encourage you with this: The Bible says there is " the first commandment with a promise" and that is- of the 10 commandments, the 5th commandment is "Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God commanded you, that your days may be long, and that it may go well with you in the land that the Lord your God is giving you." I do agree and believe you will LIVE LONG& PROSPER! Enjoy your mini-retreats. Luv💖 & 🙏🏼prayers, GG from Mpls, MN💌
Good to hear from you 2. We lost my husband’s brother and his mother within 5 days of each other, January of this year. In one of the cards someone sent us , they wrote Grief is love. And I agree. Take care ❤️
I love to watch your videos. I’m so sorry about your father. I lost my father when I was 29yrs old, btw I’m 76 yrs old. It’s still makes me cry when I think about him. But I have a lot of wonderful memories about him . I wish I had a sister to share memories with. Love your channel . I am on Keto and it’s been good. But have around the same weight for several months now. But if I don’t lose anymore that’s ok
I would be interested in your property search. The peace I receive by being completely alone in my gardens is priceless and I will pray for that for you.
My mother passed away from breast cancer and I felt the same way y’all do. My mother’s life was ruled by her chemo calendar. It was a relief when she passed, but even felt guilty feeling that. I just put one foot in front of the other for the longest. She passed away 20+ years ago but it still just kills me even though I know she is in a better place. Sending prayers during this difficult time🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼 Loved your update!! Hope you both find a home that you love!
Hugs to you both. I completely understand. My dad had Alzheimer's and when he passed, I had a sense of relief for him but also profound grief for me. I miss him every day. He's the first man I fell in love with.
Sorry for losing your dad. You had a close relationship and sound like great daughters. Your grief will last and will take as much time as it needs to. There is no timeline. You are passing through a difficult chapter in your lives but the business of life will start taking up your time. Thank you for sharing your journey and helping so many of us.
I would love to see some clips of your garden/vegetables/blossoms from time to time. I also love seeing clips of your animals and even your husbands now and then. You girls are awesome. Things will get better. Focus on your blessings.❤
We moved (pretty much the same reason) in a boom for sellers and the one I wanted (middle of nowhere/15 acres, big two story~downstairs off to the side for my folks to live in-massive garages) fell out of contract and we had a deadline to move, the only place available in our range was where we live now. The only saving grace for me is there is an acre lot on three sides and the house across the street is down a hill and I can see only the roof. We managed to get the acre to the west side. The acre up hill is owned by someone that is keeping it wild for the view. This spring a house up one and two over is building. It will take a year or so to finish. Saving up to get the acre to the east side. I totally feel the not wanting to see anyone 🤣. The freedom to garden is just so great! Keep looking, I would watch those videos :D
A year and a half is a LONG time you two. I worked with hospice for 16 years. So glad you had time with him but you both GAVE a LOT. I am 68 and lost my mom when I was 16 to type 1 diabetes when she was 38... it STILL hits me hard sometimes after all these years! Go easy on yourself. Have FUN at the convention! You already do GREAT content! Your humor and sincerity keep me coming back.
Isn’t it something? I lost my dad way back in October of 2010 and seriously, just a few days ago, for just a literal split second, I thought to call him. I miss him still. I love him but I know evench I will see him again. God bless you ladies!
I am that way about my privacy and neighbors, fortunately my small postage stamp size yard is mostly surrounded by privacy fence which is a must. I so enjoy going out in the summer mornings to water my plants in my jammies with my coffee, I water plants then spend a little time in the chairs by the firepit watching my pups wonder around the yard. Season is just too short in Ohio though lol. I love your channel and am so sorry for your loss - you two bring me to tears when you talk so lovingly about your father and share your relationship with you mother. Good luck on the house hunt!
I think you guys look great! No longer obese! That’s so great. Losing weight slowly is good to keep your body from reacting and slowing down your metabolism. I admire you guys so much!
My Mom passed away 8 months ago and her sister my favorite Aunt and I had lots of Aunts but she passed last night. I’m so heartbroken. So you talking about your experience is helping me. God bless you both.
I lost both of my parents in 2016...grief still gets the best of me sometimes....at your own pace...as you create your new normal the focus will return and you'll be back on track❤
Hi Em and Sarah. I am so sorry for your loss. I am a 67 yr old female. Went thru all of that several times in my life. My husband, my sister in law and my mom. Two out of these people had cancer. It’s not easy and I just want to extend my heartfelt condolences! God be with you both and your mom and I will be praying for you all!! God bless!!❤
I can totally relate. I was helping for three years take care of my dad with dementia. When he passed it was a mixed feeling event, relief, and with the relief a mix of guilt. He has been gone for almost four years but it’s like it was yesterday.
Even when it is your "normal," serious illness in a loved one is always chronically stressful. Relief is normal. It's healthy. So is the confusion that comes after. The sense of, "what now?" I'm a believer in wallowing in it, if you can manage that. It gets resolved faster, imo. As other people have said, it doesn't go away. But it gets manageable.
I lost my older sister after a prolonged illness and then our mom six months later just over a year ago. It's been rough couple of years. It was sweet that your dad understood the content you are creating before he transitioned. I would love to see you both house hunt.
Love hearing what's going on with both of you. Can totally relate to the loss, we lost my dad before Christmas. Having a place to garden will help mentally. Thanks for the update and yes he would be happy ❤
In all the years I had my dad, I never saw him angry. I saw him grow flowers and tomatoes and fill our house with beauty. I saw him raise baby birds and squirrels that lost their moms, we all loved him for who he was. Now 30 years later, as I water my flowers and pet my dogs, it is a comfort to know this is a part of him. I find joy in sharing what made him special to me and my sisters. The grief is gone, the joy remains. I hope the same is for you.
My parents have been dead for over 20 years. I still miss them. It's a big deal to lose your parents. You are doing fine. I'm glad you have your family to support you.
I heard somewhere that grief is like having a hole blasted into your soul. Over time, the edges become less jagged, but there's still a vacant space. Sending you all so much love. ❤
There are so many steps to grief and each one of us goes through them differently and in your own way! There are great grief groups that can help you two on your healing journey! I lost my mom suddenly two years ago and we are all still grieving in our own ways! Thank you for sharing. And I pray blessings upon all of you and your families! ❤😊
I can fully understand all that you say! It's so normal to feel at loose ends now that your dad had passed on. Now what?? You spent so much time caring for him and going to the hospital for such a long time. Now what will you do with all the time you have now? Of course you're comforting your mom, and that is good for you all. Grief goes on, but does change as time passes. I say a prayer for you both. You'll be fine. BTW, it is soooo understandable why you would like to move! We feel the same way about our front garden. We would move because of it, not because of the house itself.
Do you still do the Thrift Shopping? I know here in Australia that has really changed, it used to be a place where fabulous finds could be made but these days they are way clued into prices etc. I lost my brother 50+ years ago and to this day I still have times when I think about him and miss him. Be kind to yourself and know that your Dad will always be with you because you carry him in your heart.
I'm so sorry about your dad and i understand, I just lost my mother in law on the 27th. She was bedridden with advanced dementia and couldn't do anything for herself. I lived with her/took care of her since 2019. I am having a hard time trying to figure out what to do with myself. She was my main focus for so long that i lost myself. Prayers for you two and keep up the good work. I love watching your videos. ❤
I can totally relate to all of it, even the brain cells! 24/7 for several years is a lot. Only those who have gone through it really knows, and others can empathize as much as they can. But it is a real journey with a lot of rest and distractions that can help.
Marriage and remodeling certainly does have its challenges. My hubby (who is very handy) was convinced he could do a bath remodel in a timely manner. HA! I lived with a porcelain bathtub in my entryway for 3 years until he got to the point where it was ready to be installed. NEVER AGAIN! Sometimes it's easier to just write the check and let the pros handle it than it is to do it yourself!
You ladies are the best. Your honesty about keto and family is so heartwarming. It's good to have something not "real life" going on while real life is going on. Do whatever you need to do to grieve, we all will be here when you're ready.
Yep, like others have said, grief just changes shape. Let’s face it, a part of us dies when someone we love dies. Both of my parents are now gone. A part of me is gone, too. That’s not to say that we don’t continue to build and be built in our grief..but it never really disappears. Sometimes grief will jump up and hit you out of nowhere. I call this getting sucker-punched. Out of the blue. Time does help you process your loss, too. Take care of each other and thank you for sharing so much with us. God bless you both, your families, too.
I am sorry about your loss, he is no longer in pain but as far as you getting back on track, I just wanna let you know that I was 522 pounds and I decided to try keto you completely inspired me. I am now down 22 pounds and 11 and only a month, thank you for inspiring me to better my life
It's been 51 years since I lost my dad to lung cancer. I was 20 years old. I still miss him. I was the only girl and the youngest with 3 older brothers so I was daddy's little girl. 😘 Grief is a strange thing. It eases but never goes away. You girls are doing a great job. I do woodworking in my retirement and watch a lot of TH-cam on woodworking. But your videos are the highlight of my day. Keep it up!!! 👍
So sorry for your loss. When you talk about your father, it sounds like he was a great man, husband and father. Your channel is excellent. I love your content. Whatever you present is always very interesting and helpful.
Bless you and your family, it is not easy but there is a peace in knowing they aren't suffering. In approximately 5 years, I survived cancer, took care of my mom until she died, my husband died unexpectedly, my dad passed away last September and have lost 3 pets in 4 months. Love every moment that you have and cherish it. I am blessed to still have 2 wonderful children, my in-laws, and my friends who have been a great support. I also watched a lot of your videos which brought a smile to my face and experimentation in the kitchen. Thank you because although you are dealing with your grief your videos helped to ease mine a little.
So sorry for the loss of your father. I can relate because my sister and I also helped take care of our father in Feb 2021 when he had brain cancer until he passed in Jan of 2022. We had lost our mother in 2013 so we were his caretakers and also taking him to appts. etc. Our younger brother lived with him but my sister and I did the bulk of the care along with hospice that came in 1 hour a day 5 days a week. I don't regret one moment in that year and wouldn't change a thing, but I know your pain and it still hurts because we were close to my dad, which makes it harder. Be proud that you were able to help him in his time of need and stay strong. Love both your channels.🙏
You're doing well. Life is life. I'm glad his pain is over. I'm sure that's a good relief. I'm glad you have each other. You'll make it. Here's a hug. 🙇♀️🙇♀️
I feel you girls so much…i lost my step dad to cancer…..4 months later i lost my real dad….6 months after that i lost my mum (my best friend in the whole wide world)….and 3 months after that i lost my best friend from school to suicide…..2022 was absolutely savage, but I’m getting there…I’m 51 and have felt loss so many times….loosing my first born son at 5 weeks old was a killer…..to this day i have no idea how we all cope….but we do…your dads soul we be floating about up there….be reasured xxx
Going from 1/8th to 1 acre Is a huge leap. I went from your size to almost a half acre. I love gardening and grow many, many cut flowers. Add in shrubs, some grass & trees and it creates an unbelievable amount of work (in addition to a full time job). Gardens won’t wait for you…things grow wild and /or croak without you. So you have to do it no matter how tired you are after a big day at work. Would you consider less than an acre? It might be more affordable and closer into where you are now. Plant hedges or install fences if needed for privacy.
Yes keep us posted with house hunt, gardening and the convention that you are going to. You two were born to be a creators. I love your contents because it is so real and not rehearsed. I have lots of cooking ideas for you . I just don't know how to get a hold of you in an easy maner.
This video hit home and gave me some understanding i lost my dad just over a week ago now. I was in the same situation every Sunday went to see him in a home and did everything i could to make him happy for the last 2 years. It is a hard road thank you for sharing
Grief sucks. So very sorry for your loss. But thank goodness grief changes, the loss never disappears but the pain does. Hang in there and adjust to yet again a new normal. The only constant in life is change; and when things are awful change is a welcome salve. Hugs
Checking on y’all to make sure whole family safe after tornados ripped through your area. My town was devastated by tornado end of May. I was not there at that time. Praying God/Universe protected y’all, your Mama, fur kiddos and your homes. Sending prayers and positive thoughts your way. You ladies are amazing. Enjoy your content so much. Please give us update. Take Care. 🥰
Your story is my story. It’s hard to start trying to live a new normal. And, being with your mom. The pain will hit you when you’re not expecting it as you have encountered. Sending lots of support to both of you.
Hi from the uk, love getting to know you both in real life, similar situation for me too, it went on way longer and both parents passed within 6 months of each other, it takes some adjusting when you put your life on hold for a long period, finding myself again slowly, it takes time. You are, if not intentionally, funny on keto twins, so do keep it up, but I do like this deeper dive into reality, and yes neighbours aren’t fun ( from a couple who purposely lives in the back of beyond), 1/3 acre but no neighbours, heaven!
I really enjoy listening to you both. I've been following you both forever. Liked when you would go thrifting. I got a kick out of that. I moved to the mountains from the city 6 years ago & love the peace & quiet & privacy so I get your wishes. I'm so proud of how far you have come & please don't stop.
My dear sweet Emily and Sarah.....God works in mysterious ways and that baby boy is his way of healing your pain from the loss and converting that towards the new life.....celebrating in him what you celebrated in your father and he in you both God Bless your family Julianna NC
I’ve recently been through a similar experience taking care of my mother til she passed away and also gaining about 15 lbs. Thank you for sharing your experiences and feelings. It has helped me realize my feelings are normal. Proud of you both. ❤️🌹
I was the same way about going to the hospital/medical center my doctor was in after my husband passed away at that hospital. Even driving past it brought back so many heavy feelings. I used to set a place at the table for him, realizing seconds later he had passed. Grieving is a very trying time that takes a long time to feel some peace about. Just know you have support from your followers.
That "what now?" feeling is not unusual after an intense care-taking experience. The feeling is profound. "Zombie mode" is a good description. I am an experienced Hospice Nurse. Even I am not immune. It is as if you are speeding down the interstate and suddenly the engine falls out of your vehicle. The world is speeding past, and you are... stuck. Be gentle with yourself. Your dad is always with you. Just listen with your heart.
I’m in a very similar situation, my Mom, business partner, and best friend passed about 6 weeks ago. With so much care you do wonder what you should do with yourself now. It’s going to be a process, day by day, keep moving forward the best you can.
Loss is forever..... grief doesn't have to be. It does get easier, if you allow it. ❤ My father has been gone for 32 years. He had dementia for the final 3 years of his life so we lost him repeatedly and it was not easy. My mother passed away in 2019 .....a month short of 99, she had a good long life but was ready to go (her words). A song, a sight, a smell will illicit a memory.... sometimes a quick pleasant memory, sometimes an overwhelming feeling of joy or sadness. Sometimes when I see something that makes me think of them I say, "hey, how ya doing", sometimes I just say "Hi" because I feel that they are with me in that moment. On a brighter note.... life does go on and your Dad is watching and cheering you on from the bleachers (so to speak) Keep putting one foot in front of the other, keep smiling and breathe.... just breathe! Make a vision board for what you want in a house. Even if you don't believe it will help... put it out to the universe, what's the worst that can come from it? I for one would love to hear about your house hunting adventures. My son and his wife are trying to buy their 1st home and it has been difficult.... he's not terribly handy either but we know a lot of very handy people so they'll be ok with a fixer upper. I love your videos! Keep themcoming and keep up the great work ❤🇨🇦
Girls, I'm a 65 year old retired teacher. And love you channel. Recently, I sold my home to buy the home I grew up in. Even though it was very small there is over an acte of land. My son and his family also sold their home and lived in an rv on the property while we endured seven grueling months of construction. Now all seven of live in a multi-generational home and we are doing okay. I would live to hear about your house hunt in the Chicago area and how other people your age are dealing with the housing market. Call the Property Brothers, they live in Las Vegas now, and do a crossover video, that would be fun! 😂😂
I'm so sorry for your loss. He will be so proud of you both. Thoughts and prayers to you and your family. You both are a gift to us all. Thank you. 🌺🌺🌺🌺
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We would like to do a Q&A on this channel soon, so please leave your questions in the comments! We will also be asking on Instagram so please follow us over there too if you can. instagram.com/ketotwinsofficial - Have a great holiday weekend! -Em
Lost my dad a few years ago, but I don't pretend to know your grief. It's been wonderful to watch your channels grow and I always appreciate your honesty and brevity. Thank you for making keto approachable for so many.
Maybe your next video for this channel will be patching your living room wall. 😂
Q.)would you consider getting a place with a MIL Suite/Apartment/Studio that your mom would want to eventually downsize into? Could be turned into a studio now or rental/AB&B Later?
Q.) This is extremely personal and you can feel free to a.) ingore it b.) just say that you are comfortable answering such deeply personal question c.) answer vaguely d.) answer only for yourself{not speaking for your husband or sister} so the question is Do you plan on having kids or want kids?
[ i did not have my kids till 37&40 because I chose to not marry till 36 ]
Q.) how far in advance do you plan or get ready for various holidays/birthdays/ anniversaries? or NOT who is the one that either remembers or forgets, you , spouse, sibling etc...😁😁😂😂🤣🤣
@technicallyketo I can't express how wonderful it is to hear two young ladies who are as open and honest as you always are. I'm sure both your Mom and Dad so appreciated what a true blessing you both are. Thank you for letting us all know how you're going through. I promise you both my prayers as you go forward. MUCH love to you. 🩵🙏🩵
This isn't really for your Q&A but I thought your video when you were going to Trader Joe's to get flowers was fun. Maybe do some more "out and about" vids. Thanks for everything you do! You are a real support!
I lost my father in October 2022. He was 85 and suffered from Alzheimer’s as well as other numerous ailments. It’s still not easy dealing with the loss, especially for my mom, but to help cope we always try to focus on the positive memories we have of him. Continued blessings to both of you lovely ladies and have a safe & happy 4th of July Holiday 😊
grief NEVER goes away, it just visits less and less often. please don't try not to FEEL it. let us all acknowledge that anytime we "push feelings away" those feelings are just WAITING to be felt. years from now, there will be a smell, or a song, or a joke that will hit you like a Mack Truck... i can't wait until you find your garden (with a house hahahaha) and your garage (with house, hahahaha.) this will make hilarious vids
Exactly.
@@dagnolia6004 I love how you described this. “It just visits less and less.” Such a perfect statement to explain it.
Next week my husband will have been gone one year. Your words give me hope. Thank you ❤
@@gategirl66 don't be afraid to mourn him. and don't be afraid to mourn YOUR loss. Grief is different from depression. even elephants, whales, parrots, dolphins, crows, grieve the loss of their loved ones. we have created theatre, books, movies to "help us cry"; because we need help in FEELING. my hope for you is that when you tell funny stories about him, you can enjoy all the complicated feelings of having loved. YOU are important (and still here). none of us is promised tomorrow, let us do good while we can. 🌻🌻🌻
@@dagnolia6004 Thank you so much for your helpful insight. I'm going to screenshot it and refer to it often!!! 💜
I was my Daddy's girl. I'm 69 years old and my dad passed when I was 27. The grief is still there!! Give yourselves grace. I see my dad randomly walking around everywhere I go. At first, it freaked me out. Now, I view it as my dad watching over me. You will always miss him. I always miss my did!
Wow, that’s amazing! We’ve had some interesting experiences too since he died.
When you talked about your daily lives being centered on caring for you Dad and supporting your Mom during a long terminal illness, it took me back to the same circumstances. I remember thinking, “I had a life but I don’t remember where I left off”. It was like losing my place in a book. I didn’t know where and how to restart my life. Over time, the pieces came together.
@@gr8gardn I'm so happy those pieces came together for you ❤️. I hope you continue to add many many wonderful more 😊
@LambHasaLittle_Marie. What a perfect way to describe the aftermath of caregiving. I that way after my husband passed away but hadn't thought of it that way. Not only do you lose your place in the book, but it turns out it has a drastically different ending than you ever imagined.
Exactly this.
@@shw_1957 OP really described it perfectly comparing it to a book. I just commented back using their analogy 😊
Your daddy is looking down so proud of you!! Grief sucks! I lost my youngest son and it never goes away, you learn to cope. Some days are better and some harder. Love you guys ❤️
God bless you!
I’m SO sorry for your loss. Losing a child is incomprehensible!?❤😢
@@LilCraftyNook thank you ❤️
@@lesliebooth2833 thank you ❤️
I relate to all of this so much. Our local hospital thought I too was an employee ( offered me an employee discount on something at the time) All of your insights on grief, perceptions…everything you said…are so poignant. Most of us struggle privately while grieving yet you two were brave enough to post and share. That’s doubly hard. Please be kind to yourselves. You are both lovely, inside and out. I appreciate every single thing you do. You will never be judged by me🥰 .
Your dad would be so proud to see you both continuing to make content and sharing your journey.
❤️ thank you Amy!
@@technicallyketo you’re welcome!!! 💕
Grief/loss is forever. You just have to become accustomed to your new normal.
When my dear friend passed away over ten years ago he was in hospice for the last month of his life. I visited him every day while he was there. The night he died I left his room and sat in my car weeping, also thinking "now what?" I'm so sorry for your loss. Grief is such a strange thing. Ten years later and I still get sad when I think about that time. But it's not as crippling. You don't really move "on" but forward. The hole in your heart is still there, just not as big. Time does heal. Thinking of you!
Those of us who have had good men as fathers are truly blessed! My sweet dad would have turned 99 years old today, born 7-30-1925! He’s been gone 9 years and I feel very blessed to have had him that long, though I miss him immeasurably! I was definitely Daddy’s girl and he was my rock. There is no one left in my life who I truly matter much to, but I believe we will meet again! 🥰 Grief is simply love sent, with nowhere to land. P.S. Came back to add that …Yeah, I’d love to see y’all house hunting! It’s very interesting to see what houses, land, etc. looks like and is selling for in different places. Good luck in your hunt and thank God AND your sister, that you didn’t move into a construction nightmare! Besides noise, it’s not nice to see what tearing up the natural habitat of wildlife causes. And don’t forget the endless dust created by such endeavors. 😊
I'm so sorry for your loss. We appreciate you being so honest about how you both are doing. Congratulations on the new nephew.
Losing a parent when you are young is so hard. My mom died at 58. That first year was so hard. Everything I was driving in my car alone I would start crying. My father died two years ago but we had the long goodbye of Alzheimer's and there was more a sense of relief.
First of all, let me say how proud of y'all for taking such loving care of your family. Time with them, even though painful is still a time~shared and a memory.( love IS love no matter how it looks to outsiders, only you determine it for yourself) Please take comfort & peace in the knowledge that you did your best in very difficult circumstances. As a follower/viewer I am so honored that you shared such vulnerable thoughts with us. I would like to encourage you with this: The Bible says there is " the first commandment with a promise" and that is- of the 10 commandments, the 5th commandment is "Honor your father and your mother, as the Lord your God commanded you, that your days may be long, and that it may go well with you in the land that the Lord your God is giving you." I do agree and believe you will LIVE LONG& PROSPER! Enjoy your mini-retreats. Luv💖 & 🙏🏼prayers, GG from Mpls, MN💌
You both are so beautiful, inside and out! Your father is still so proud, I'm sure, and you provide us all with such inspiration!💖
I am a Garden Nut and am here for any kind of garden content you would wanna put out!
Good to hear from you 2. We lost my husband’s brother and his mother within 5 days of each other, January of this year. In one of the cards someone sent us , they wrote Grief is love. And I agree. Take care ❤️
I love to watch your videos. I’m so sorry about your father. I lost my father when I was 29yrs old, btw I’m 76 yrs old. It’s still makes me cry when I think about him. But I have a lot of wonderful memories about him . I wish I had a sister to share memories with. Love your channel . I am on Keto and it’s been good. But have around the same weight for several months now. But if I don’t lose anymore that’s ok
I would be interested in your property search. The peace I receive by being completely alone in my gardens is priceless and I will pray for that for you.
I'm LOVING the conversation regarding home buying! Don't buy until the crash hits- like Sept.
Same!
And funny enough my parents are looking into land too- I sure hope the market throws them a bone because JFC these prices are criminal.
My mother passed away from breast cancer and I felt the same way y’all do. My mother’s life was ruled by her chemo calendar. It was a relief when she passed, but even felt guilty feeling that. I just put one foot in front of the other for the longest. She passed away 20+ years ago but it still just kills me even though I know she is in a better place. Sending prayers during this difficult time🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼 Loved your update!! Hope you both find a home that you love!
Hugs to you both. I completely understand. My dad had Alzheimer's and when he passed, I had a sense of relief for him but also profound grief for me. I miss him every day. He's the first man I fell in love with.
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Sorry for losing your dad. You had a close relationship and sound like great daughters. Your grief will last and will take as much time as it needs to. There is no timeline. You are passing through a difficult chapter in your lives but the business of life will start taking up your time. Thank you for sharing your journey and helping so many of us.
I would love to see some clips of your garden/vegetables/blossoms from time to time. I also love seeing clips of your animals and even your husbands now and then. You girls are awesome. Things will get better. Focus on your blessings.❤
We moved (pretty much the same reason) in a boom for sellers and the one I wanted (middle of nowhere/15 acres, big two story~downstairs off to the side for my folks to live in-massive garages) fell out of contract and we had a deadline to move, the only place available in our range was where we live now. The only saving grace for me is there is an acre lot on three sides and the house across the street is down a hill and I can see only the roof. We managed to get the acre to the west side. The acre up hill is owned by someone that is keeping it wild for the view. This spring a house up one and two over is building. It will take a year or so to finish. Saving up to get the acre to the east side. I totally feel the not wanting to see anyone 🤣. The freedom to garden is just so great! Keep looking, I would watch those videos :D
A year and a half is a LONG time you two. I worked with hospice for 16 years. So glad you had time with him but you both GAVE a LOT. I am 68 and lost my mom when I was 16 to type 1 diabetes when she was 38... it STILL hits me hard sometimes after all these years! Go easy on yourself. Have FUN at the convention! You already do GREAT content! Your humor and sincerity keep me coming back.
You both look great and are handling everything as well as you can. Good luck on house hunting❤
Thank you for sharing. I'd love to see the house hunting updates/open house visits, etc. Wishing you both the best😊
Isn’t it something? I lost my dad way back in October of 2010 and seriously, just a few days ago, for just a literal split second, I thought to call him. I miss him still. I love him but I know evench I will see him again. God bless you ladies!
I am that way about my privacy and neighbors, fortunately my small postage stamp size yard is mostly surrounded by privacy fence which is a must. I so enjoy going out in the summer mornings to water my plants in my jammies with my coffee, I water plants then spend a little time in the chairs by the firepit watching my pups wonder around the yard. Season is just too short in Ohio though lol. I love your channel and am so sorry for your loss - you two bring me to tears when you talk so lovingly about your father and share your relationship with you mother. Good luck on the house hunt!
I love how you let us into your personal life ups & downs. Keep up your videos ❤❤
I really enjoyed this conversation. Thanks for sharing what's going on in your lives and I love the idea of taking us along on the house hunt!
I think you guys look great! No longer obese! That’s so great. Losing weight slowly is good to keep your body from reacting and slowing down your metabolism. I admire you guys so much!
My Mom passed away 8 months ago and her sister my favorite Aunt and I had lots of Aunts but she passed last night. I’m so heartbroken. So you talking about your experience is helping me. God bless you both.
You are both so brave in sharing this with your community ~ you have no idea how many people you are helping.
Thanks for the update. ❤ Its always awesome to hear how you guys are doing.
I lost both of my parents in 2016...grief still gets the best of me sometimes....at your own pace...as you create your new normal the focus will return and you'll be back on track❤
Yes! Show us house hunting!
I love everything you post. XO ❤
Hi Em and Sarah. I am so sorry for your loss. I am a 67 yr old female. Went thru all of that several times in my life. My husband, my sister in law and my mom. Two out of these people had cancer. It’s not easy and I just want to extend my heartfelt condolences! God be with you both and your mom and I will be praying for you all!! God bless!!❤
I can totally relate. I was helping for three years take care of my dad with dementia. When he passed it was a mixed feeling event, relief, and with the relief a mix of guilt. He has been gone for almost four years but it’s like it was yesterday.
Dads are irreplaceable! Mine's been gone for 30 years and it seems like yesterday!
Even when it is your "normal," serious illness in a loved one is always chronically stressful. Relief is normal. It's healthy.
So is the confusion that comes after. The sense of, "what now?"
I'm a believer in wallowing in it, if you can manage that.
It gets resolved faster, imo. As other people have said, it doesn't go away. But it gets manageable.
I lost my older sister after a prolonged illness and then our mom six months later just over a year ago. It's been rough couple of years. It was sweet that your dad understood the content you are creating before he transitioned. I would love to see you both house hunt.
Love hearing what's going on with both of you. Can totally relate to the loss, we lost my dad before Christmas. Having a place to garden will help mentally. Thanks for the update and yes he would be happy ❤
Loved this casual conversation! Feel like a know you a bit better now. Thanks for another great video. ❤
In all the years I had my dad, I never saw him angry. I saw him grow flowers and tomatoes and fill our house with beauty. I saw him raise baby birds and squirrels that lost their moms, we all loved him for who he was. Now 30 years later, as I water my flowers and pet my dogs, it is a comfort to know this is a part of him. I find joy in sharing what made him special to me and my sisters. The grief is gone, the joy remains. I hope the same is for you.
Grief is so hard. Give yourself lots of time. Hugs.
My parents have been dead for over 20 years. I still miss them. It's a big deal to lose your parents. You are doing fine. I'm glad you have your family to support you.
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I heard somewhere that grief is like having a hole blasted into your soul. Over time, the edges become less jagged, but there's still a vacant space.
Sending you all so much love. ❤
There are so many steps to grief and each one of us goes through them differently and in your own way! There are great grief groups that can help you two on your healing journey! I lost my mom suddenly two years ago and we are all still grieving in our own ways! Thank you for sharing. And I pray blessings upon all of you and your families! ❤😊
I can fully understand all that you say! It's so normal to feel at loose ends now that your dad had passed on. Now what?? You spent so much time caring for him and going to the hospital for such a long time. Now what will you do with all the time you have now? Of course you're comforting your mom, and that is good for you all. Grief goes on, but does change as time passes. I say a prayer for you both. You'll be fine. BTW, it is soooo understandable why you would like to move! We feel the same way about our front garden. We would move because of it, not because of the house itself.
Do you still do the Thrift Shopping? I know here in Australia that has really changed, it used to be a place where fabulous finds could be made but these days they are way clued into prices etc. I lost my brother 50+ years ago and to this day I still have times when I think about him and miss him. Be kind to yourself and know that your Dad will always be with you because you carry him in your heart.
We haven’t been thrifting in a long time! May have to go again soon, the last couple times I went I didn’t find much and it was kind of disappointing
Pausing, taking a breath & moving through the grief in the same way we successfully diet - personalised to our needs & circumstances - is 👌
I'm so sorry about your dad and i understand, I just lost my mother in law on the 27th. She was bedridden with advanced dementia and couldn't do anything for herself. I lived with her/took care of her since 2019. I am having a hard time trying to figure out what to do with myself. She was my main focus for so long that i lost myself. Prayers for you two and keep up the good work. I love watching your videos. ❤
I can totally relate to all of it, even the brain cells! 24/7 for several years is a lot. Only those who have gone through it really knows, and others can empathize as much as they can. But it is a real journey with a lot of rest and distractions that can help.
It is SO hard adjusting to all the differences.... but worst, missing a GOOD father.
Marriage and remodeling certainly does have its challenges. My hubby (who is very handy) was convinced he could do a bath remodel in a timely manner. HA! I lived with a porcelain bathtub in my entryway for 3 years until he got to the point where it was ready to be installed. NEVER AGAIN! Sometimes it's easier to just write the check and let the pros handle it than it is to do it yourself!
You ladies are the best. Your honesty about keto and family is so heartwarming. It's good to have something not "real life" going on while real life is going on. Do whatever you need to do to grieve, we all will be here when you're ready.
I would love to see you house hunt. I think it would be fun. So question, what happened to the bumblebee that you ladies were taking care of?
After day 5 we let Burt go in a flowering bush in front of Sarah’s house, he was not happy in captivity 😂
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yes... i would like to see you two shop for houses... that would be fun
So glad you two had a good relationship with your dad. Be glad you had him while you did. Some of us have a dad that was never there.
God bless y'all.
Yep, like others have said, grief just changes shape. Let’s face it, a part of us dies when someone we love dies. Both of my parents are now gone. A part of me is gone, too. That’s not to say that we don’t continue to build and be built in our grief..but it never really disappears. Sometimes grief will jump up and hit you out of nowhere. I call this getting sucker-punched. Out of the blue. Time does help you process your loss, too. Take care of each other and thank you for sharing so much with us. God bless you both, your families, too.
I am sorry about your loss, he is no longer in pain but as far as you getting back on track, I just wanna let you know that I was 522 pounds and I decided to try keto you completely inspired me. I am now down 22 pounds and 11 and only a month, thank you for inspiring me to better my life
Congratulations Heidi! Yay!
It's been 51 years since I lost my dad to lung cancer. I was 20 years old. I still miss him. I was the only girl and the youngest with 3 older brothers so I was daddy's little girl. 😘 Grief is a strange thing. It eases but never goes away. You girls are doing a great job. I do woodworking in my retirement and watch a lot of TH-cam on woodworking. But your videos are the highlight of my day. Keep it up!!! 👍
So sorry for your loss. When you talk about your father, it sounds like he was a great man, husband and father. Your channel is excellent. I love your content. Whatever you present is always very interesting and helpful.
You are doing fine, just keep on living.
Bless you and your family, it is not easy but there is a peace in knowing they aren't suffering. In approximately 5 years, I survived cancer, took care of my mom until she died, my husband died unexpectedly, my dad passed away last September and have lost 3 pets in 4 months. Love every moment that you have and cherish it. I am blessed to still have 2 wonderful children, my in-laws, and my friends who have been a great support. I also watched a lot of your videos which brought a smile to my face and experimentation in the kitchen. Thank you because although you are dealing with your grief your videos helped to ease mine a little.
So sorry for the loss of your father. I can relate because my sister and I also helped take care of our father in Feb 2021 when he had brain cancer until he passed in Jan of 2022. We had lost our mother in 2013 so we were his caretakers and also taking him to appts. etc. Our younger brother lived with him but my sister and I did the bulk of the care along with hospice that came in 1 hour a day 5 days a week. I don't regret one moment in that year and wouldn't change a thing, but I know your pain and it still hurts because we were close to my dad, which makes it harder. Be proud that you were able to help him in his time of need and stay strong. Love both your channels.🙏
We’ve read so many similar stories to ours, it seems like we all go through it at some point. ❤️
You're doing well. Life is life. I'm glad his pain is over. I'm sure that's a good relief. I'm glad you have each other. You'll make it. Here's a hug. 🙇♀️🙇♀️
I feel you girls so much…i lost my step dad to cancer…..4 months later i lost my real dad….6 months after that i lost my mum (my best friend in the whole wide world)….and 3 months after that i lost my best friend from school to suicide…..2022 was absolutely savage, but I’m getting there…I’m 51 and have felt loss so many times….loosing my first born son at 5 weeks old was a killer…..to this day i have no idea how we all cope….but we do…your dads soul we be floating about up there….be reasured xxx
Big old hug, girls!
Bless you both. Your honesty meant a lot. So many people know your pain, thanks for verbalizing your vulnerabilities.
So sorry for your loss! Grief does lessen eventually or change to something you can handle. Trust in God and keep praying for His Grace!
Going from 1/8th to 1 acre Is a huge leap. I went from your size to almost a half acre. I love gardening and grow many, many cut flowers. Add in shrubs, some grass & trees and it creates an unbelievable amount of work (in addition to a full time job). Gardens won’t wait for you…things grow wild and /or croak without you. So you have to do it no matter how tired you are after a big day at work. Would you consider less than an acre? It might be more affordable and closer into where you are now. Plant hedges or install fences if needed for privacy.
Yeah it’s going to depend on the lot, wouldn’t mind half an acre.
Yes keep us posted with house hunt, gardening and the convention that you are going to. You two were born to be a creators. I love your contents because it is so real and not rehearsed. I have lots of cooking ideas for you . I just don't know how to get a hold of you in an easy maner.
I am sorry for your loss😢. Each person has their own timeline to mourn.
This video hit home and gave me some understanding i lost my dad just over a week ago now. I was in the same situation every Sunday went to see him in a home and did everything i could to make him happy for the last 2 years. It is a hard road thank you for sharing
Grief sucks. So very sorry for your loss. But thank goodness grief changes, the loss never disappears but the pain does. Hang in there and adjust to yet again a new normal. The only constant in life is change; and when things are awful change is a welcome salve. Hugs
Checking on y’all to make sure whole family safe after tornados ripped through your area. My town was devastated by tornado end of May. I was not there at that time. Praying God/Universe protected y’all, your Mama, fur kiddos and your homes. Sending prayers and positive thoughts your way. You ladies are amazing. Enjoy your content so much. Please give us update. Take Care. 🥰
Your story is my story. It’s hard to start trying to live a new normal. And, being with your mom. The pain will hit you when you’re not expecting it as you have encountered. Sending lots of support to both of you.
I would enjoy watching your acreage hunt videos. It's always fun to watch house and garden content.
Your baby nephew must be gorgeous 😘🥰❤️ He was so proud of you girls & your amazing blogs!!! 🙌🏻🤗🦋🙏🏻
Good luck on the house hunting! We are going through it too
It’s definitely not looking too promising at this point but a gal can dream 😂
Hi from the uk, love getting to know you both in real life, similar situation for me too, it went on way longer and both parents passed within 6 months of each other, it takes some adjusting when you put your life on hold for a long period, finding myself again slowly, it takes time. You are, if not intentionally, funny on keto twins, so do keep it up, but I do like this deeper dive into reality, and yes neighbours aren’t fun ( from a couple who purposely lives in the back of beyond), 1/3 acre but no neighbours, heaven!
I really enjoy listening to you both. I've been following you both forever. Liked when you would go thrifting. I got a kick out of that. I moved to the mountains from the city 6 years ago & love the peace & quiet & privacy so I get your wishes. I'm so proud of how far you have come & please don't stop.
My dear sweet Emily and Sarah.....God works in mysterious ways and that baby boy is his way of healing your pain from the loss and converting that towards the new life.....celebrating in him what you celebrated in your father and he in you both God Bless your family Julianna NC
I’ve recently been through a similar experience taking care of my mother til she passed away and also gaining about 15 lbs. Thank you for sharing your experiences and feelings. It has helped me realize my feelings are normal. Proud of you both. ❤️🌹
Just remember to give yourselves grace ❤❤❤ it’s hard but a little at a time will help 😊
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I hope you two can find homes close to each other.
I love how genuine you both are. ❤
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My dad died in November last year, 2023, I feel ya xxx
So sorry Scott!
You ladies are awesome. God bless
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Congratulations with nephew.
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Girls, allow yourselves to be happy. Your dad wants you to.❤
I was the same way about going to the hospital/medical center my doctor was in after my husband passed away at that hospital. Even driving past it brought back so many heavy feelings. I used to set a place at the table for him, realizing seconds later he had passed. Grieving is a very trying time that takes a long time to feel some peace about. Just know you have support from your followers.
Sorry for your loss
That "what now?" feeling is not unusual after an intense care-taking experience. The feeling is profound. "Zombie mode" is a good description. I am an experienced Hospice Nurse. Even I am not immune. It is as if you are speeding down the interstate and suddenly the engine falls out of your vehicle. The world is speeding past, and you are... stuck. Be gentle with yourself. Your dad is always with you. Just listen with your heart.
I’m in a very similar situation, my Mom, business partner, and best friend passed about 6 weeks ago. With so much care you do wonder what you should do with yourself now. It’s going to be a process, day by day, keep moving forward the best you can.
Loss is forever..... grief doesn't have to be. It does get easier, if you allow it. ❤ My father has been gone for 32 years. He had dementia for the final 3 years of his life so we lost him repeatedly and it was not easy. My mother passed away in 2019 .....a month short of 99, she had a good long life but was ready to go (her words). A song, a sight, a smell will illicit a memory.... sometimes a quick pleasant memory, sometimes an overwhelming feeling of joy or sadness. Sometimes when I see something that makes me think of them I say, "hey, how ya doing", sometimes I just say "Hi" because I feel that they are with me in that moment. On a brighter note.... life does go on and your Dad is watching and cheering you on from the bleachers (so to speak) Keep putting one foot in front of the other, keep smiling and breathe.... just breathe! Make a vision board for what you want in a house. Even if you don't believe it will help... put it out to the universe, what's the worst that can come from it? I for one would love to hear about your house hunting adventures. My son and his wife are trying to buy their 1st home and it has been difficult.... he's not terribly handy either but we know a lot of very handy people so they'll be ok with a fixer upper. I love your videos! Keep themcoming and keep up the great work ❤🇨🇦
Girls, I'm a 65 year old retired teacher. And love you channel. Recently, I sold my home to buy the home I grew up in. Even though it was very small there is over an acte of land. My son and his family also sold their home and lived in an rv on the property while we endured seven grueling months of construction. Now all seven of live in a multi-generational home and we are doing okay. I would live to hear about your house hunt in the Chicago area and how other people your age are dealing with the housing market. Call the Property Brothers, they live in Las Vegas now, and do a crossover video, that would be fun! 😂😂
Haha that would be a dream collaboration 😂
I'm so sorry for your loss. He will be so proud of you both. Thoughts and prayers to you and your family. You both are a gift to us all. Thank you. 🌺🌺🌺🌺
Good to see your doing well. One day at a time.❤