The Key To Understanding Men's Needs In Relationships | Past Present Future Podcast

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  • @user-kr2pv2mn1s
    @user-kr2pv2mn1s 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2034

    There are men at 27 and boys at 67….Thank you for sharing.

    • @lyneadetyfitness
      @lyneadetyfitness 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      💯

    • @Portia620
      @Portia620 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Dating help! I agree!

    • @niamhfranklin9261
      @niamhfranklin9261 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Stop giving males an out. Minimum 1/6 are peds. This is according to an Aussie survey.

    • @Honeymaalox
      @Honeymaalox 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Soo true💯

    • @ceciliauribe812
      @ceciliauribe812 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Yesssss, it all depends on their course of life, integrity, morals and values!

  • @TheAttractionTriggers
    @TheAttractionTriggers 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1745

    *When you take care of yourself, you’re a better person for others. When you feel good about yourself, you treat others better.*

    • @heltristan
      @heltristan 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      AMEN !

    • @OrchidTingz
      @OrchidTingz 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Absolute Truth!!

    • @Portia620
      @Portia620 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      ❤ truths!

    • @ktaite.
      @ktaite. 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Amene 💯🎯

    • @Leahmoonbeamflower
      @Leahmoonbeamflower 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Projection at its finest. ❤

  • @Maryam_bashir
    @Maryam_bashir 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1522

    I love how he says is not a woman’s job to tame the beast in a man. learn to control yourselves and show her you are their to protect and not to eat her up 😂

    • @angiesnipes7443
      @angiesnipes7443 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +50

      I love this. this is everything. i was mom and wife and caregiver and financial advisor and bill payer and household juggler. tired depressed and not valued.

  • @Dimondz1
    @Dimondz1 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +740

    Damn, he’s right, I told my husband how much I was proud of him and how I admired how hard he’s working to support our family and he lit up and wanted to work harder

    • @prettypuffprincess
      @prettypuffprincess 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Yes🙏🏼❤️

    • @brielax4441
      @brielax4441 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Aww that’s so cute ❤

    • @Shortie8
      @Shortie8 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

      This is so true, my boyfriend feeds off that energy like crazy. Things like 'Im proud of you', 'Wow, you are working so hard', 'You are amazing' gets his energy up in a way that nothing can pull him down. Many times before we go to bed he then says, ' I love how you believe in me, it's like I have my own cheerleader' 😊

    • @Thilosophocl3s
      @Thilosophocl3s 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Weird…. Lol

    • @empresskae1980
      @empresskae1980 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      My boyfriend changed my car battery for me after my car had been down for like a week. When the engine started that first time, I jumped out of the car, hugged him and told him he was my hero ☺️ He had the biggest kool-aid smile I'd ever seen on him lol, it was so cute

  • @edwardclarkson-ph1kl
    @edwardclarkson-ph1kl 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +449

    Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her

    • @Zacharychampion-yy3nt
      @Zacharychampion-yy3nt 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

      its always difficult to let go of you love, i was in a similar situation my wife for 12 years left me.i couldnt just let her go, so i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back

    • @edwardclarkson-ph1kl
      @edwardclarkson-ph1kl 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

      wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?

    • @Zacharychampion-yy3nt
      @Zacharychampion-yy3nt 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

    • @edwardclarkson-ph1kl
      @edwardclarkson-ph1kl 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.

    • @salmighazali917
      @salmighazali917 16 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      You might want to grow and improve yourself.. be a real man and win her heart again.. this time, treat her the correct way

  • @Casanevel
    @Casanevel 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +771

    "You fail one time thats fine, but again? No."
    I love it.

    • @JessMariaDwyer
      @JessMariaDwyer 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      Yes…it would be amazing to have a man with this mindset. My ex constantly made the same mistakes over and over and never learnt. I made him aware of this and he didn’t care.

  • @milliexxx6390
    @milliexxx6390 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +772

    As a woman , everything this man saying is 100% on point, this interview was extremely refreshing im so impressed because finally a man who gets it ...and a man with a healthy mindset , who is reflective and he makes the change he wants to see , this is what you call a leader and a man who knows who he is....we need more men like him who are responsible and stepped into manhood and not boyhood like he explained God bless him😊

    • @saifalyasiofficial
      @saifalyasiofficial 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      thank you for your words 👋

    • @timmytee734
      @timmytee734 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      What the ef? This dude trains his daughter to become and entitled spoiled brat. He picks up his daughter and kisses her instead of teaching her how to behave, then he thinks the woman needs to be treated the exact way as the little girl? This dude is not right in the head.
      Also women are a million times more logical than men! That is why they can never win any arguments. Women figure them out with logic and men don't get it. They call it emotion but it's hard facts! And the woman doesn't have to respect the man! He needs to respect her so the woman can reflect it back! That's the only way it works. This man talks down at women and you don't see it. Shame on you as a woman.

    • @prashant381
      @prashant381 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      ...and we have to go through a major heartbreak to learn that. I wish more men teach other men even when we are teenagers. I immediately got his being nice to daughter. I wouldn't have cared about using the same reasoning with older woman --- long time back !

    • @Roller324
      @Roller324 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      He’s not American!!

    • @timmytee734
      @timmytee734 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      He's a misogynist who doesn't know anything about women. How can you allow this kind of brainwashing enter your mind? He thinks that women need to be treated like spoiled little girls? W the f?! He's raising a spoiled brat! Picks the girl up and fixes the issue with a hug and kiss when she's having a tantrum?
      This is a narcissistic male, not a man. Also, the woman don't need to respect the man! The man needs to respect the woman and that she will mirror back, he needs to prove himself to he a decent man first. That's the only way it works. What the eff is wrong with society these days!

  • @coachtshah6270
    @coachtshah6270 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +891

    Exactly, adult women are like little girls when they are upset or around their men. They want to feel love, respect, kindness, communication, and appreciation, and to be allowed to be in their feminine energy without fear or be judged. Always with awareness and healthy boundaries.

    • @tanusreedbnt6710
      @tanusreedbnt6710 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      Yet that's what they r made to feel ashamed of

    • @SmartestDumbGuy
      @SmartestDumbGuy 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      Do you want adult men to act like little boys when they are upset? No?
      See the disconnect here?
      Adult women aren't supposed to act like little girls.

    • @geraldinesookorukoff7712
      @geraldinesookorukoff7712 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      As a woman, you got it right! I treat my husband great, keep my house clean, he gets fed good, love, hug & kiss him, always say thankyou for the little chores he does in the home, tell him I love him everyday.I respect his decisions as well. I pull my weight too, but I want to know he will take good care of me as well in return.❤

    • @VS-xz1yv
      @VS-xz1yv 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      ​@@geraldinesookorukoff7712Hey sister, loved to read your comment, May God bless your family and the mutual love and respect keeps on growing. ❤❤❤❤😊😊

    • @ceciliauribe812
      @ceciliauribe812 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Amen we love to see a love led by God and genuine! May God protect your family and union between the TWO!!!!!

  • @kumral76
    @kumral76 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2013

    He's so right!!!!!! My ex husband chose to listen to his MOM instead of working out our issues between us....i said " GOODBYE! go be w ur mommy!!!

    • @dante19890
      @dante19890 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +24

      family before everything

    • @angelicalee6
      @angelicalee6 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      He was always a boy. You overlooked it the whole time.

    • @SkExplore-it2cc
      @SkExplore-it2cc 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      Really sad.we give free therapy to help people

    • @soleil7259
      @soleil7259 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​​​@@dante19890You can be a loving family member, a partner and one that creates their own family all at once, i know mind blowing. At one point in our life, we have to make our own decisions. We for sure can ask for advice but only doing what his mom says, is not equally to always making the right decisions you know.

    • @namyalojoychristine7905
      @namyalojoychristine7905 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ❤❤❤

  • @Lacanadiense27
    @Lacanadiense27 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +288

    I want to add that this works for secure attachment men. If a man is emotionally unavailable, appreciation and respect will never be good enough.

    • @lolitazavala1879
      @lolitazavala1879 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      I was thinking the same 😢

    • @TNT_dynamight
      @TNT_dynamight 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      This is SO IMPORTANT

    • @shahbee7255
      @shahbee7255 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      I was going to say the same!

    • @krysaustinmusic
      @krysaustinmusic 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Preach. Some of his comments don't sound like they are based in secure attachment styles.

    • @melw3313
      @melw3313 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      Precisely. Or abusive men. You can speak kindly to them and be present but they will never appreciate you and just continue to beat you into the ground mentally, physically, emotionally ally, financially, spiritually. I understand it works both ways. Women can do the same. It just typically seems to be more heavy handed with men being the abusers.

  • @millie.k
    @millie.k 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +389

    This is so true. Women, even as children, really need emotional connection. And men, even as children, need to know that thier effort is appreciated. This way in adulthood, she will seek men who won't abandon her when she's emotional and confused, and men will seek women who are openly grateful for his help/authority.
    I'd go shopping with my friend, and her 4 year old son would leave and walk around the grocery store aimlessly and bump into people. Everyone looked at him like he was a nuisance, but I knew he was actually a brilliant little boy.
    So, I did an expiriment and asked him to help me shop for a minute. He'd feel the tomatoes and tell me if they were ripe or not. We did the same with other veggies and fruits. I let him know that he was needed.
    The rest of that day, he stayed with us, carefully observing our surroundings. He "tamed his beast" and channelled all that energy into his discernment and awareness. His impulsiveness had completely vaporized in one instant of geuine recognition. His true nature could finally be expressed and seen.
    Another time, me and my (then) boyfriend went to a pub, and there were all these gregarious men around.
    One of them started flirting with me even with my bf right there, but he felt very secure with me. I just patiently listened to the playfully flirtatious man.
    When he paused, I smiled and asked him if he had a family. He said he has a little girl with his ex gf. I told him that he is a King in his little girl's eyes.
    In that moment, his back straightened up, there was a ssudden stoicism in his candor and he shed a tear as he listened to me explain how invaluable and privileged it is to be a father. He told his boys he wanted to go home, and he told me thank you. Men need to take their value seriously, and we can help ensure this as women, simply with a little acknowledgement.

    • @nd3409
      @nd3409 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      ❤ Thank you, for doing that. And thank you for sharing this.

    • @millie.k
      @millie.k 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@nd3409 You're welcome, very glad to share.

    • @theNikkiDash
      @theNikkiDash 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

      You're an incredible person.😊

    • @millie.k
      @millie.k 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@theNikkiDash Thank you!

    • @keineahnung472
      @keineahnung472 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@millie.kwhy would you be nice to a disgusting man who flirts with you in your bf’s presence?

  • @traceyduxbury4289
    @traceyduxbury4289 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +404

    Respect works both ways and so does appreciation.

    • @abbynmj
      @abbynmj 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

      Me too! My ex husband complained so much that o don't respect him when I don't do what he wants me to do ! Sorry sir! Women don't need just hugs and tapping on the shoulders! Respect and appreciation work both ways

    • @mahnoorkhan581
      @mahnoorkhan581 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      The two things are most misused by toxic men.

    • @viktoriavass
      @viktoriavass 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      yeah everybody longs to be cherished

    • @abigailgray8279
      @abigailgray8279 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      He said men need those two things only. Women need more than two things.

    • @coachnursececille
      @coachnursececille 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Totally agree @tracey

  • @ACohen-mj6kr
    @ACohen-mj6kr 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +163

    This ladies and gentlemen is the rise of a beautiful Divine Masculine.

  • @miaaa24
    @miaaa24 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +134

    You can give all the respect and appreciation, if he’s not invested, it won’t work. And maybe that’s for the best - such a man could never appreciate a golden woman.

  • @juliewilliams9897
    @juliewilliams9897 10 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Now this is what you call a REAL MAN! Thank you 🙏🏼 ❤

  • @kaurilley
    @kaurilley 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +196

    The 5yr old little girl me when ever she threw an emotional tantrum was actually just looking for validation and acceptance ... It's something Im still learning to offer myself

    • @SmartestDumbGuy
      @SmartestDumbGuy 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Maturity is for both men and women to pursue.

    • @nicolelouis8968
      @nicolelouis8968 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@SmartestDumbGuy Agree, however my father use to cry sometimes when he was really upset and yet he was a macho type man. Even as a young girl I felt it very balanced and human. and that I could reach out to him more. What was scary and wasn't balanced was when he would burst out into a rage, shut us down, hurl insults, blaming and projecting his stress and inability to communicate, onto my mother or his girls. He is of Mediterranean culture. It is not considered immature in our culture to cry.

  • @Katie-ck6yp
    @Katie-ck6yp 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +116

    I tried to share that with my last relationship, when I am upset, I need comfort, but instead he would get mad. And that is how a woman falls in love, this build trust and you feel heard.

  • @user-br3gh4xy2d
    @user-br3gh4xy2d 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    My grandfather told me in his last days he placed too much emphasis on providing financially for the family and only realized late in life that he was the protector and tender warrior. That should be a mans legacy, we all feel safer when the man is in the room even in the midst of a storm.

  • @Pinkflo363
    @Pinkflo363 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +256

    Spoken like a true King!! I loved what he said. Empathy is EVERYTHING!’ It sounded a thousand percent like a man in his FULL masculine. We need more men just like this!!!!!!!!!

  • @b.unicornette7734
    @b.unicornette7734 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +152

    This guy is so smart and brave to know he has to put his pride aside in front of a woman in order to learn how to be a better man for himself and for his partner. It also shows he chose love above hatrus, not ego, not a negative path. He learned from his mistakes and he chose to upgrade himself. This is inspiring. If only all men knew what he knows.

    • @saifalyasiofficial
      @saifalyasiofficial 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      😇

    • @b.unicornette7734
      @b.unicornette7734 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@saifalyasiofficial thank you so much. Your wisdom is helpful to so many women 🙏

  • @ivonnegaxiola7459
    @ivonnegaxiola7459 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +117

    ..wow men listen to this man he talks like a real man. A lion. A king .

  • @ihaurimadariaga
    @ihaurimadariaga 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +331

    Your wife is also someone’s daughter. Keep that is mind.

    • @brigittecourson
      @brigittecourson 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      Your wife is her own person.

    • @keylanoslokj1806
      @keylanoslokj1806 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Is that why they twerk on tiktok, and thirstpost on Instagram? Why they cheat on their men? Because they respect being someone's daughter?😂

    • @Jo_Cruz
      @Jo_Cruz 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      God's daugther. That's serious stuff.

    • @TNT_dynamight
      @TNT_dynamight 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Treat her like you want her daughter to be treated!!!!

    • @laurenw2446
      @laurenw2446 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      I asked my soon-to-be ex husband if he would want a daughter treated the same way in her marriage that he treats me. He said no. 🙄

  • @Curiousmind1998
    @Curiousmind1998 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +141

    Thank you!! Women need men to understand this. The world is not easy for women on their own, we need a partner to go through it safely. In my opinion men and women are not made to be separate but instead need to form healthy partnerships where they can bring their strenghts and compliment each other. This way we can build stronger families, children and consequently societies. Society is dying of loneliness, let's bring families back together and for this we need strong mature men.

    • @brunoqnzbk7891
      @brunoqnzbk7891 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      No, MEN are dying of loneliness. Single women live the longest.

  • @ruthrose1000
    @ruthrose1000 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +473

    Cant respect a man that starts not showering or brushing for weeks when home.. only if he goes out or to his two week on shift. Cant respect a drunk.. cant respect a man that gets lap dances while his woman is clean, beautiful, starving for affection at home. You have to be worthy of respect.

    • @elgrs5756
      @elgrs5756 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +55

      You chose him !!! Start respecting your self so others can respect you

    • @Portia620
      @Portia620 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Truths!

    • @brandic89
      @brandic89 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yes. A man who cheats on a beautiful, available wife is exactly like a rat. Rats perked up for anything new after about two weeks with something superior, based only on the fact that they live for anything new, lol.

    • @nobslifestyle
      @nobslifestyle 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      Every day you stay you choose him. So do something different.

    • @ceciliauribe812
      @ceciliauribe812 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      🎯🎯sadly world is full of them! Covert toxic narcissists!!! Just seeing whom they can suck the life and happiness out of due to their internal issues!

  • @guavagirl8344
    @guavagirl8344 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

    And women need to feel their man's attraction and affection.

  • @SSW_888
    @SSW_888 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +131

    Saif's voice is so relaxing, I could listen to him all day. 👌

  • @aryamahima3
    @aryamahima3 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +170

    The most calm and composed man I have ever seen on TH-cam when I am going through a bad marriage for last 3 years and exhausted.

    • @niamhfranklin9261
      @niamhfranklin9261 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Sanpaku eyes shows fear. He keeps displaying them. That’s not calmness. I think u have trouble reading people. You can also tell by his strained breathing control

    • @jenster29
      @jenster29 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@niamhfranklin9261that actually IS calmness.
      He's feeling all kinds of negative emotions and is still able to remain composed.

    • @mahnoorkhan581
      @mahnoorkhan581 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Exactly. He had no example. Because there was embarrassment more than guilt, fear more than empathy. Sometimes people are the friendliest and calmest outside the house but arent the same or even close to showing empathy with their partner

    • @nicolelouis8968
      @nicolelouis8968 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@niamhfranklin9261 Maybe what you see is fear that he will make the same mistake as before. He clearly is a man of conscience and his heartbreak led him to care at not making the same or similar mistakes. He is still in the process of navigating his behaviour, and trying to juggle it all so I wouldn't put it against him. I am not dismissing what you see however it seems more judgemental and therefore unable to see anything slightly positive of a man who is reflective and attempting to work out better and more improved behaviours when dealing with men socially and dealing with women intimately. It's all become a very messy and complicated world. Being another culture myself, rather than just anglo there is another depth or level to what you appear to see. and understand.

    • @journeywithjasmin4089
      @journeywithjasmin4089 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      He’s definitely not calm his body language is slightly stand offish, he’s shutting us out with his left arm… this is not the body language of a calm person ( my opinion)

  • @highershelf
    @highershelf 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I love this. Men integrating their "pet beast", women integrating their inner child.

  • @chantelmanning184
    @chantelmanning184 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +61

    He gets it! It took him losing one marriage, but he got it right!

  • @maii87
    @maii87 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +101

    He is humble and the things he say not many men can say it! respect.

    • @saifalyasiofficial
      @saifalyasiofficial 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      It was my honor to be a guest in this podcast ✌

  • @SA-lz1vx
    @SA-lz1vx 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +103

    This guy is so self aware

  • @marcellawall8827
    @marcellawall8827 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

    This is a basic tenent of Catholic marriage...husbands, love your wives, wives, respect your husbands.
    Much easiier said than done though.
    Thank you Saif.

  • @valeriagopaul
    @valeriagopaul 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +101

    Very well articulated, thank you. Most men do blame their wives for their own shortcomings, never admit that the men’s anger cause lies within them - no one outside of them makes them angry. It may also have to do with a cultural norm of entitlement to always be right and not to see their partner as equal.
    Thank you for speaking your mind - not a lot of men do that.

  • @Tinayoga777
    @Tinayoga777 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    Swallowing your pride and ego!!! - that’s masculinity ❤

    • @naturelle1097
      @naturelle1097 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Wonder how that tastes😂

    • @Tinayoga777
      @Tinayoga777 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@naturelle1097 HEAL AND YOU WILL KNOW😎

  • @janasiguenza1545
    @janasiguenza1545 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +255

    The same with women we want respect and appreciation

    • @ptyh27
      @ptyh27 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Exactly 💯

    • @andreatorluemke4982
      @andreatorluemke4982 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

      We want to be loved and cherished. For men the respect is something they want and need more than love. They do not need to be on a pedestal. Do not marry a man you do not respect how he thinks and his decision making a man with self control

    • @milliexxx6390
      @milliexxx6390 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Agreed❤

    • @tinalove8197
      @tinalove8197 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@andreatorluemke4982We want BOTH not either or.

    • @sophiaad7486
      @sophiaad7486 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@andreatorluemke4982As a woman I would choose respect any day over “love.” What the heck is love anyways? How come women’s decision making is not respected and valued? To say only a man should lead is abuse of the woman’s mind. We are mind as much as we are heart.

  • @CityCinderella
    @CityCinderella หลายเดือนก่อน +19

    Women want to feel safe. You take that away or constantly threaten it when having an argument or disagreement and they’re gone.

  • @PJay6799
    @PJay6799 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

    Yes when your dealing with women, your dealing with emotions.💯

  • @Musicismylove888
    @Musicismylove888 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    It's soooo refreshing to see a man use self introspection instead of the blame game to have a happy and peaceful life. #mirrors.

  • @susyvallejo217
    @susyvallejo217 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +114

    Respect and appreciation go both ways. Especially respect

    • @missvegan1967
      @missvegan1967 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Period! 👏🏽👏🏽 Girl, mem are confused. Lol. You can appreciate them but then, their Ego's get in the way and now they don't have to try as hard.

    • @Sapere_aude_Trottel
      @Sapere_aude_Trottel 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@missvegan1967nah, you just met the wrong men haha, just no

  • @purplegirl8036
    @purplegirl8036 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    This man is intelligent. If I fail once fine but if I fail twice surely I need to do something different. Insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results. The concept is so simple but unfortunately the majority of people never come to this conclusion.

  • @redeemed3856
    @redeemed3856 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    This is a healthy man speaking. For women with unhealthy men they will not respond this way they will never do anything more than necessary to keep you from leaving but nothing bad enough to give you the ability to give yourself permission to leave. 😕

  • @carolinedarocha9994
    @carolinedarocha9994 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Wow, I adored my father, and just realised the reason most was that he was the gentlest soul ever, leaving the beast outside the door. I love that ❤ if all men would just understand that.

  • @leahspringer7706
    @leahspringer7706 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    I understand what he said about his daughter's emotions. Most fathers would do something or say something loving or become more tender to get her to feel better. So, a man can do the same for his woman. If there was an argument, and you know she's hurt, come back in a tender, more gentle, loving way. In moments that you can.

    • @PowerGurhl
      @PowerGurhl 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I agree I’ve had men understand this and men that don’t. Men that don’t just don’t want to feel like their being manipulated which I understand maybe it’s a trust thing

  • @naturelovelove1522
    @naturelovelove1522 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    He reminds me on Antonio Banderas.Specially the eyes, the calm warm way of speaking

  • @teamaden2185
    @teamaden2185 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    What a beautiful conversation: Master the beast to rise up; show your true nature to your partner so that relationship can become a companionship.

  • @dana58882
    @dana58882 17 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    He is so right. Give a man respect, talk to him if you disagree, don't fight, and give him appreciation and there will be less arguments, less fighting, less conflicts.

  • @plushannah
    @plushannah 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    I love the way this man matured. He did his homework hard way loosing his family and made statement of not failing again but working on himself. His understanding of man- woman polarity is beautiful. Pleasure to listen to his words. Thank you!!!

  • @xhivagua
    @xhivagua 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +68

    Bravo 👏🏽 healthy masculinity is possible to achieve..! This is so needed ! More in this times when the masculinity is disappearing.

  • @lentamintal
    @lentamintal 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +113

    Sadly many men are small little puppies outside the Home, and at home they show the ,,other guy, hulk situation,, just because there are no imediate consequences .

  • @benj1827
    @benj1827 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    It's so true. Women always wanna stay safe in a marriage. Like when we are faced with work, family and other stress it's good if our husband is caring and comforting towards us saying it's okay or give some advices to us.. it's not that we are empty headed and cant do anything but it just comforts us and wants to be in the safe arms of our husbands. A man really need to have good decision making abilities to distinguish what is right and wrong

  • @mmljubinac
    @mmljubinac 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    Raising Boys to be men! Thanks God that this purpose is recognized, because it is needed in this world to have mature man and mature women in the furture ❤️ Good luck and thank you, dear soul! Harmed teacher who has healed himself is the best teacher! May God help you on your journey.

  • @PreethiRaja09
    @PreethiRaja09 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +104

    Respect & Appreciation is equally important to women as well. All human beings irrespective of age or gender thrive with respect and appreciation

    • @landajb6878
      @landajb6878 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      This is true. However, as far as respect, because of their pride as men, they do have a deeper need for respect. It doesn't mean that we don't need to be respected, though. It just shows one of the differences between men and women.

    • @brigittecourson
      @brigittecourson 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      ​@@landajb6878Their "need" for respect is just ego. It's a want, not a need. They depend on outside validation.

    • @landajb6878
      @landajb6878 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @brigittecourson That's what I said. Because of their pride/ego, they have a deeper need for respect. Of course, too much pride is not good, but at the same time, a man without pride/ego isn't a man. Even a little boy has his character and his little ego. They were born that way. The more we try to understand it, the better we'll get along with them.

    • @sarahrobertson634
      @sarahrobertson634 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      ​@@landajb6878 Pride and ego is the worst thing a man can have. Males need to be humble.

    • @sarahrobertson634
      @sarahrobertson634 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@landajb6878You're such a ditz.

  • @TheLillipuss
    @TheLillipuss 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    I’ve never seen this channel or heard of anyone here before, but how honest & insightful. Many women know and feel this, but for a big strong handsome man to talk this way is extremely attractive & helpful to ripple through humanity

  • @rikkibowman3196
    @rikkibowman3196 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    I think this is the perfect perspective. It actually helped me understand why my current husband is much better at understanding me and being attentive to emotions and feelings, he has raised 2 daughters. He provides me with exactly everything I need on an emotional level and beyond. It’s been night and day with other relationships.

    • @JennaHasm
      @JennaHasm 21 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Gjve him a son, two, three.

  • @agiegovender5666
    @agiegovender5666 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +37

    It took so many losses to become self aware. Such a great loss all around.

  • @janetc9624
    @janetc9624 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Great that he is asking men to be accountable for the failed relationships, this is great! I hope lots of men hear this advice.

  • @alexaorsi6724
    @alexaorsi6724 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

    he cracked the code!

  • @sofiya9212
    @sofiya9212 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    I'm amazed by men😮 How would you think women have the same mindset as you. We are different and that's amazing!

  • @emilijamandic1191
    @emilijamandic1191 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    This has been life-changing for me. I mean, I've already known most of this, but he kinda said it differently, more precisely and more concretely. And at this moment in my life, I really, really needed to hear this. Thank you immensely! From the bottom of my heart.

  • @yourhealingjourney9824
    @yourhealingjourney9824 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    While dealing with women, you're dealing with emotions ❤ Thank you for sharing your side of the story. You're so humble and grounded

  • @suzywilson
    @suzywilson 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    What an absolutely stunning man Saif is! The depth and maturity of his personality is beautiful ❤ He speaks absolute truth. Regardless of the man or the boy. If you show respect and appreciation, you have their heart. I learnt this a couple of years ago and have applied this to all men I have dealings with. It establishes such a fantastic bond with them. That being said, if you are a toxic type and you fake it, it will still blow up in your face. You have to be genuine, putting their needs before your own. People can smell fake even when they don't fully realise it. But they will.

  • @marielang9552
    @marielang9552 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Was it me? Brave question.

  • @toshrizzle
    @toshrizzle 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

    He is completely right

  • @tinkerbell1080
    @tinkerbell1080 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Only a real man can speak like this..

  • @user-vi2pf4zo6z
    @user-vi2pf4zo6z หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I think that men who are blessed to have a daughter really do grow a whole new appreciation for the beautiful delicate essence and understanding for their children’s mother or women in general. It is like a window or empathetic glimpse into what it means to love and care for a female.

  • @SK-1309
    @SK-1309 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Hats off to the gentleman 🙏
    NOT EASY for a MAN to 1) ACCEPT his faults in public
    2) Be So Honest
    Huge Respect to you Sir 🙏
    Your daughter shud be proud of you and your wife a lucky queen 😊

  • @satyamyogaderby
    @satyamyogaderby 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

    I want my puppy!! And know the beast is outside protecting me!

    • @JessMariaDwyer
      @JessMariaDwyer 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Yes…strong but gentle at home…and a warrior outside…that makes you feel protected!

  • @lhippocamperouge7845
    @lhippocamperouge7845 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    It makes me feel so at peace to hear that, I feel so gaslighted in my daily life when a man behaves weirdly with me. My ex never called me back because I kindly suggested that we should spend more quality time together, he said that I was trying to control him I felt really as a bad person even if I know it wasn’t at all like this and the more I worked on myself the more I feel like I have to accept any bad behaviour from men otherwise I will be the bad woman, very refreshing to hear that

  • @1980tiffani
    @1980tiffani 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The way he spelled everything out , so simple, calm, and straightforward. The way a man treats his daughter, his wife/partner needs that as well (emotional support, gentle treatment) and what a man needs, appreciation and respect. The part about when a woman shows appreciation also shows him what she would like more of.. that’s a great way to explain that. Thank you, we listen more when the message is delivered in a calm, non-accusatory, non-demeaning way.

  • @mraanj3118
    @mraanj3118 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    do you know what's heartbreaking? it took another woman for him to see what's wrong and needed to be fixed in his behaviour instead of realizing and working it early on with the first woman and possibly all the things the first woman was asking for this man was ignored and was given fully and voluntarily to the next woman.

    • @juliametzger1853
      @juliametzger1853 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      But some men never get it. This man was wise enough to see the similarities in his daughter and ex wife. Their need for emotional connection. He is conscious and present. My heart swells with Hope. We need the more now then ever.

    • @silverspring8042
      @silverspring8042 หลายเดือนก่อน

      It’s Maqtub

    • @pure-pisces9980
      @pure-pisces9980 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Totally agree!!!

  • @aryamahima3
    @aryamahima3 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    His advice is applicable to a too masculine man not to mumma’s boy or to guys are who not willing to come out of there comfort zone.

  • @sparkle1949
    @sparkle1949 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Respect ie earned ., not just given.
    Appreciation is for men who actually provide and protect. Always , we ❤ and appreciate this real men and would lay our lives for them .❤

  • @MrinalM.
    @MrinalM. 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I appreciate people who can acknowledge their mistakes weaknesses and work on them and then willing to give that knowledge to others to make their life better. This is the duty of every humen to give society whatever good knowledge they have to make others lives better! Its one of the preachings of Budha 🙏

  • @carrielynn1305
    @carrielynn1305 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    ❤THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU ❤THIS is what I've been struggling to communicate to my husband, and you just explained it so eloquently and clearly! ❤THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU! ❤

  • @AD-hh6dd
    @AD-hh6dd 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +87

    Not always true. Some men don’t appreciate the woman who is respecting and appreciating them.

    • @rainsara2795
      @rainsara2795 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Boys

    • @Rayis4444
      @Rayis4444 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      This video is not about them.

  • @danielafaus1151
    @danielafaus1151 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Yes, yes and yes. But it takes a lot of therapy and emotional maturity, but it's the best relationship you can ever have. Honor past relationships as teachers! We take care of each other! I'm proud of my man! And our relationship! Society oppose roles, but this is the key to a happy relationship.

  • @kristythompson9815
    @kristythompson9815 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    "Im ready to conquer the world..." Wow! I love this!

  • @rakshamoodley6410
    @rakshamoodley6410 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This man is speaking the truth. He is a great role model.. PRIDE IS THE BIGGEST PROBLEM. THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR WISDOM.🙏🙏💐

  • @misssolea1291
    @misssolea1291 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Loved the analogy with the Beast&Aggression ❤
    He speaks some truth here.

  • @SandipKumar-cp3xe
    @SandipKumar-cp3xe 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    6:00 gold 💎

  • @gpeguajardo359
    @gpeguajardo359 5 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    All men want is:
    1. RESPECT
    2. APPRECIATION
    SAME TFOR US WOMen! Thats what we want!

  • @bluephantss955
    @bluephantss955 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I appreciate his vulnerability ' his truthful and honest look at himself, his behavior...he was not only able to learn from his mistakes, but also to share and help other men! Great job!

  • @ravishingtwinkle3811
    @ravishingtwinkle3811 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    So many men grew up without emotional support and emotional validation, not knowing the skill and unable to give it to others.

  • @samriddhigupta7611
    @samriddhigupta7611 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    Thank you for existing ❤

  • @zenabdiakite3521
    @zenabdiakite3521 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The accuracy of this gives me shivers

  • @monicadinca2821
    @monicadinca2821 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Absolutely wonderful 🙏
    When he realised about ego and decided to let go of the ego.

  • @anilchand7369
    @anilchand7369 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Gratitude Gratitude Gratitude 2024🎉 Thank You Universe For Poping The Beautiful Vedio !

  • @jodiroberts9728
    @jodiroberts9728 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +30

    That is true-if you are with a very beast-like man, and you don’t get that treatment, it can feel like safety…bc the soft side is reserved for you, and it’s peaceful feeling. Safe. Fun can happen. But when they begin to talk to you, treat you, react to you just like they do the boys or the other ones on the outside, you begin to loathe them….bc it feels so unloving and unprotective, and just plain ugly. You end up on edge all the time, even when they are acting nice, bc you know they could turn on a dime. Even if you are non-confrontational, you end up bucking against the beast stuff bc you hate the feeling of walking on eggshells. You start to resent that feeling. It starts to feel pointless to share anything intimate or real, you stop wanting to talk then, and then you stop wanting to even be around them at all. Maybe bc for many of us the home feels like it should be the safe space, the place you get to be at rest and be soft, and be fun too. Playful. The world is tough. Home is a refuge. But when you know there’s a beast in the house, it’s hard to not be on edge, irritable, frustrated with the snapping all the time, idk. Starts to feel so icky you want out, even if you love them.

    • @ShadaeMastersAstrology
      @ShadaeMastersAstrology 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      How long have you been married? I’ve been married for 12 years and reading your post has been my experience with my partner. Were you and your partner able to sort through this dilemma?
      He left over 2 weeks ago after a huge argument. It’s been much more peaceful but I think my reaction to his behavior was my shortcoming. I became consumed by him vs maintaining my own autonomy. I allowed my thoughts and emotions to wander freely about him while he was gone out and while home I’d watch his every move. This resulted in me being hyper sensitive. I have begun consciously changing my thinking patterns and reframing my projections bc many of them were based on expectations. I’ve been managing my emotional responses and I notice a difference now when we speak on the phone and when he comes by to do things with the kids.
      I miss him dearly and his absence has made me realize how much I stopped appreciating him and myself. I have decided that as long as I manage myself much better by not giving anyone outside of me that much power through my attention, I will have a more positive experience. I wasn’t prepared for properly understanding the true nature of men. I’m talking deep psychological, financial, sexual and emotional workings. It has been a huge wake up call bc after 12 years of marriage I don’t want to start over with someone else, I’ve put everything into building my family as a homemaker. If you’ve read through, thank you. I’m open to any insight you’ve gained in your experience.

  • @OrchidTingz
    @OrchidTingz 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This man is speaking beautiful transformative truth!! I honor and appreciate it! ❤ Thank you Sir...👑

  • @marianntringale4594
    @marianntringale4594 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    And this is exactly what our society needs.

  • @southernboss-jm2kg
    @southernboss-jm2kg 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +45

    Both men and women want and need to feel appreciated in the relationship. There should be no score keeping such as "I will respect and appreciate them if they do that first for me". The older I get the more I realize that taking the initiative to give to the other person first rather than waiting to receive, is more attractive because it is courageous and kind. Unfortunately, many men have a false notion that giving first will hurt their ego and make them less manly. A mature confident and loving man isn't afraid to give of himself.

  • @andreashinsg
    @andreashinsg 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Yes, he got it right

  • @femzehn
    @femzehn 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Wow…what a beautiful video 😢 ❤thank you so much for this

  • @kirstenbrogan5958
    @kirstenbrogan5958 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    He really took the lead in a way that commands natural respect. She can lean in, trust and feel safe.

  • @amandapaigejones3659
    @amandapaigejones3659 21 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    As a daughter I needed my dad to just give me hug and hold me
    Especially after I got into trouble
    He was a kind but fair man
    In relationships I have always had men then can’t communicate and leave -so many are weak as ego runs their life .
    This is so good and true 🥳
    And women should let men be men- it’s an instinct to south and protect 🥰🥰

  • @JASMINE-LY
    @JASMINE-LY 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Finally a Man speaking!!! 👏👏👏👏 Can’t wait to see your “FACTORY OF MAN” helping the weak boys out there! They truly need you!!!

  • @belovedinthebuilding
    @belovedinthebuilding 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I really love this! Thank you

  • @andriccampero5639
    @andriccampero5639 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is soo true! Listen ladies!! I have evolve as a woman and step into my understanding of feminine and masculine energy and I have the most incredible relationship ever! My man has told me things about how he feels and experience with me that confirm that all this is so true!

  • @my5722
    @my5722 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I love this! This was s great interview and his honesty & vulnerability doesn't take away from his masculinity but only adds to it. His wife is lucky.

  • @tinafrancesse2167
    @tinafrancesse2167 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    The beast part very interesting!!!!