I’ve been obsessed with this idea ever since I started reading 'The Irresistible Seduction Formula.' Like, why don’t we talk about this stuff more? Girls, you NEED to check it out!
Yes…it would be amazing to have a man with this mindset. My ex constantly made the same mistakes over and over and never learnt. I made him aware of this and he didn’t care.
Damn, he’s right, I told my husband how much I was proud of him and how I admired how hard he’s working to support our family and he lit up and wanted to work harder
This is so true, my boyfriend feeds off that energy like crazy. Things like 'Im proud of you', 'Wow, you are working so hard', 'You are amazing' gets his energy up in a way that nothing can pull him down. Many times before we go to bed he then says, ' I love how you believe in me, it's like I have my own cheerleader' 😊
My boyfriend changed my car battery for me after my car had been down for like a week. When the engine started that first time, I jumped out of the car, hugged him and told him he was my hero ☺️ He had the biggest kool-aid smile I'd ever seen on him lol, it was so cute
I love how he says is not a woman’s job to tame the beast in a man. learn to control yourselves and show her you are their to protect and not to eat her up 😂
As a woman , everything this man saying is 100% on point, this interview was extremely refreshing im so impressed because finally a man who gets it ...and a man with a healthy mindset , who is reflective and he makes the change he wants to see , this is what you call a leader and a man who knows who he is....we need more men like him who are responsible and stepped into manhood and not boyhood like he explained God bless him😊
What the ef? This dude trains his daughter to become and entitled spoiled brat. He picks up his daughter and kisses her instead of teaching her how to behave, then he thinks the woman needs to be treated the exact way as the little girl? This dude is not right in the head. Also women are a million times more logical than men! That is why they can never win any arguments. Women figure them out with logic and men don't get it. They call it emotion but it's hard facts! And the woman doesn't have to respect the man! He needs to respect her so the woman can reflect it back! That's the only way it works. This man talks down at women and you don't see it. Shame on you as a woman.
...and we have to go through a major heartbreak to learn that. I wish more men teach other men even when we are teenagers. I immediately got his being nice to daughter. I wouldn't have cared about using the same reasoning with older woman --- long time back !
He's a misogynist who doesn't know anything about women. How can you allow this kind of brainwashing enter your mind? He thinks that women need to be treated like spoiled little girls? W the f?! He's raising a spoiled brat! Picks the girl up and fixes the issue with a hug and kiss when she's having a tantrum? This is a narcissistic male, not a man. Also, the woman don't need to respect the man! The man needs to respect the woman and that she will mirror back, he needs to prove himself to he a decent man first. That's the only way it works. What the eff is wrong with society these days!
Thanks for sharing. Just wondering because this book & author is very difficult to find. I only find one website that doesn’t quite look like the real deal. Do you know why it can’t be found on Amazon or in bookstores?
Exactly, adult women are like little girls when they are upset or around their men. They want to feel love, respect, kindness, communication, and appreciation, and to be allowed to be in their feminine energy without fear or be judged. Always with awareness and healthy boundaries.
As a woman, you got it right! I treat my husband great, keep my house clean, he gets fed good, love, hug & kiss him, always say thankyou for the little chores he does in the home, tell him I love him everyday.I respect his decisions as well. I pull my weight too, but I want to know he will take good care of me as well in return.❤
Precisely. Or abusive men. You can speak kindly to them and be present but they will never appreciate you and just continue to beat you into the ground mentally, physically, emotionally ally, financially, spiritually. I understand it works both ways. Women can do the same. It just typically seems to be more heavy handed with men being the abusers.
My grandfather told me in his last days he placed too much emphasis on providing financially for the family and only realized late in life that he was the protector and tender warrior. That should be a mans legacy, we all feel safer when the man is in the room even in the midst of a storm.
Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldnt say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have her back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain brother, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thouht it was, but it worked wonders for me.
This is so true. Women, even as children, really need emotional connection. And men, even as children, need to know that thier effort is appreciated. This way in adulthood, she will seek men who won't abandon her when she's emotional and confused, and men will seek women who are openly grateful for his help/authority. I'd go shopping with my friend, and her 4 year old son would leave and walk around the grocery store aimlessly and bump into people. Everyone looked at him like he was a nuisance, but I knew he was actually a brilliant little boy. So, I did an expiriment and asked him to help me shop for a minute. He'd feel the tomatoes and tell me if they were ripe or not. We did the same with other veggies and fruits. I let him know that he was needed. The rest of that day, he stayed with us, carefully observing our surroundings. He "tamed his beast" and channelled all that energy into his discernment and awareness. His impulsiveness had completely vaporized in one instant of geuine recognition. His true nature could finally be expressed and seen. Another time, me and my (then) boyfriend went to a pub, and there were all these gregarious men around. One of them started flirting with me even with my bf right there, but he felt very secure with me. I just patiently listened to the playfully flirtatious man. When he paused, I smiled and asked him if he had a family. He said he has a little girl with his ex gf. I told him that he is a King in his little girl's eyes. In that moment, his back straightened up, there was a ssudden stoicism in his candor and he shed a tear as he listened to me explain how invaluable and privileged it is to be a father. He told his boys he wanted to go home, and he told me thank you. Men need to take their value seriously, and we can help ensure this as women, simply with a little acknowledgement.
@@dante19890You can be a loving family member, a partner and one that creates their own family all at once, i know mind blowing. At one point in our life, we have to make our own decisions. We for sure can ask for advice but only doing what his mom says, is not equally to always making the right decisions you know.
I tried to share that with my last relationship, when I am upset, I need comfort, but instead he would get mad. And that is how a woman falls in love, this build trust and you feel heard.
He yelled, cursed. Get angry, rage and expect me to be loving because he going from 0-100 anger and then 100-loving almost immediately. He made changes he progressed, we worked as a team, everyone and again this beastt will come out couldn't take it anymore...my desire for sex became less and less and I would tell him I don't like the way he speaks to me and he acts as if I needed to change inprder for him to speak to me with respect
Me too! My ex husband complained so much that o don't respect him when I don't do what he wants me to do ! Sorry sir! Women don't need just hugs and tapping on the shoulders! Respect and appreciation work both ways
This guy is so smart and brave to know he has to put his pride aside in front of a woman in order to learn how to be a better man for himself and for his partner. It also shows he chose love above hatrus, not ego, not a negative path. He learned from his mistakes and he chose to upgrade himself. This is inspiring. If only all men knew what he knows.
You can give all the respect and appreciation, if he’s not invested, it won’t work. And maybe that’s for the best - such a man could never appreciate a golden woman.
Spoken like a true King!! I loved what he said. Empathy is EVERYTHING!’ It sounded a thousand percent like a man in his FULL masculine. We need more men just like this!!!!!!!!!
Sanpaku eyes shows fear. He keeps displaying them. That’s not calmness. I think u have trouble reading people. You can also tell by his strained breathing control
Exactly. He had no example. Because there was embarrassment more than guilt, fear more than empathy. Sometimes people are the friendliest and calmest outside the house but arent the same or even close to showing empathy with their partner
@@niamhfranklin9261 Maybe what you see is fear that he will make the same mistake as before. He clearly is a man of conscience and his heartbreak led him to care at not making the same or similar mistakes. He is still in the process of navigating his behaviour, and trying to juggle it all so I wouldn't put it against him. I am not dismissing what you see however it seems more judgemental and therefore unable to see anything slightly positive of a man who is reflective and attempting to work out better and more improved behaviours when dealing with men socially and dealing with women intimately. It's all become a very messy and complicated world. Being another culture myself, rather than just anglo there is another depth or level to what you appear to see. and understand.
He’s definitely not calm his body language is slightly stand offish, he’s shutting us out with his left arm… this is not the body language of a calm person ( my opinion)
Thank you!! Women need men to understand this. The world is not easy for women on their own, we need a partner to go through it safely. In my opinion men and women are not made to be separate but instead need to form healthy partnerships where they can bring their strenghts and compliment each other. This way we can build stronger families, children and consequently societies. Society is dying of loneliness, let's bring families back together and for this we need strong mature men.
Wow, I adored my father, and just realised the reason most was that he was the gentlest soul ever, leaving the beast outside the door. I love that ❤ if all men would just understand that.
The 5yr old little girl me when ever she threw an emotional tantrum was actually just looking for validation and acceptance ... It's something Im still learning to offer myself
@@SmartestDumbGuy Agree, however my father use to cry sometimes when he was really upset and yet he was a macho type man. Even as a young girl I felt it very balanced and human. and that I could reach out to him more. What was scary and wasn't balanced was when he would burst out into a rage, shut us down, hurl insults, blaming and projecting his stress and inability to communicate, onto my mother or his girls. He is of Mediterranean culture. It is not considered immature in our culture to cry.
Cant respect a man that starts not showering or brushing for weeks when home.. only if he goes out or to his two week on shift. Cant respect a drunk.. cant respect a man that gets lap dances while his woman is clean, beautiful, starving for affection at home. You have to be worthy of respect.
Yes. A man who cheats on a beautiful, available wife is exactly like a rat. Rats perked up for anything new after about two weeks with something superior, based only on the fact that they live for anything new, lol.
I love the way this man matured. He did his homework hard way loosing his family and made statement of not failing again but working on himself. His understanding of man- woman polarity is beautiful. Pleasure to listen to his words. Thank you!!!
This man is intelligent. If I fail once fine but if I fail twice surely I need to do something different. Insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results. The concept is so simple but unfortunately the majority of people never come to this conclusion.
We want to be loved and cherished. For men the respect is something they want and need more than love. They do not need to be on a pedestal. Do not marry a man you do not respect how he thinks and his decision making a man with self control
@@andreatorluemke4982As a woman I would choose respect any day over “love.” What the heck is love anyways? How come women’s decision making is not respected and valued? To say only a man should lead is abuse of the woman’s mind. We are mind as much as we are heart.
I understand what he said about his daughter's emotions. Most fathers would do something or say something loving or become more tender to get her to feel better. So, a man can do the same for his woman. If there was an argument, and you know she's hurt, come back in a tender, more gentle, loving way. In moments that you can.
I agree I’ve had men understand this and men that don’t. Men that don’t just don’t want to feel like their being manipulated which I understand maybe it’s a trust thing
So I pointed this out to my ex with his daughter he told me I was jealous of her and also she listens to him, I don't. He also categorized women and children as the sane and said I need to listen and be submissive according to the bible
I think this is the perfect perspective. It actually helped me understand why my current husband is much better at understanding me and being attentive to emotions and feelings, he has raised 2 daughters. He provides me with exactly everything I need on an emotional level and beyond. It’s been night and day with other relationships.
This is a basic tenent of Catholic marriage...husbands, love your wives, wives, respect your husbands. Much easiier said than done though. Thank you Saif.
I always heard my ex husband say that I needed to respect him but he did not love or respect me. Respect goes both ways. You can’t cheat on your wife who has been kind, loyal, and someone who worked hard to keep the marriage together. At the end of the day, I was married to a narcissist and even two marriage therapist said they couldn’t help us since my husband (at the time) wouldn’t admit that there was anything wrong with him. He said it was all my fault.
It's so true. Women always wanna stay safe in a marriage. Like when we are faced with work, family and other stress it's good if our husband is caring and comforting towards us saying it's okay or give some advices to us.. it's not that we are empty headed and cant do anything but it just comforts us and wants to be in the safe arms of our husbands. A man really need to have good decision making abilities to distinguish what is right and wrong
This is true. However, as far as respect, because of their pride as men, they do have a deeper need for respect. It doesn't mean that we don't need to be respected, though. It just shows one of the differences between men and women.
@brigittecourson That's what I said. Because of their pride/ego, they have a deeper need for respect. Of course, too much pride is not good, but at the same time, a man without pride/ego isn't a man. Even a little boy has his character and his little ego. They were born that way. The more we try to understand it, the better we'll get along with them.
The best thing he said : most of the divorces are men s responsability 😊 waw the acknowledgment I never thought I would hear from a man ! Finally someone with some self awareness ❤
I’ve never seen this channel or heard of anyone here before, but how honest & insightful. Many women know and feel this, but for a big strong handsome man to talk this way is extremely attractive & helpful to ripple through humanity
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her
its always difficult to let go of you love, i was in a similar situation my wife for 12 years left me.i couldnt just let her go, so i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back
I love this. As a wife of 11 years with my husband, I can tell you there is a lot of wisdom here. Men and women do NOT experience things the same. We have very different needs and ways to get them. Understanding and respecting this is paramount. We had to learn a lot of this together. My husband appears to be soft, but he is such a hard worker and he provides for us like a master ❤ it's so important to give him praise, respect his thoughts and choices, raise concerns tactfully. It's so strange to me that others think he's intimidating. I've never experienced that, but he's exactly what I consider to be the ideal father and husband.
Sadly many men are small little puppies outside the Home, and at home they show the ,,other guy, hulk situation,, just because there are no imediate consequences .
Raising Boys to be men! Thanks God that this purpose is recognized, because it is needed in this world to have mature man and mature women in the furture ❤️ Good luck and thank you, dear soul! Harmed teacher who has healed himself is the best teacher! May God help you on your journey.
do you know what's heartbreaking? it took another woman for him to see what's wrong and needed to be fixed in his behaviour instead of realizing and working it early on with the first woman and possibly all the things the first woman was asking for this man was ignored and was given fully and voluntarily to the next woman.
But some men never get it. This man was wise enough to see the similarities in his daughter and ex wife. Their need for emotional connection. He is conscious and present. My heart swells with Hope. We need the more now then ever.
That’s communication, though. We can’t speak on what their relationship was like or the way they interacted. He learned his lesson BUT we don’t even know of it could have been “fixed.”
That is true-if you are with a very beast-like man, and you don’t get that treatment, it can feel like safety…bc the soft side is reserved for you, and it’s peaceful feeling. Safe. Fun can happen. But when they begin to talk to you, treat you, react to you just like they do the boys or the other ones on the outside, you begin to loathe them….bc it feels so unloving and unprotective, and just plain ugly. You end up on edge all the time, even when they are acting nice, bc you know they could turn on a dime. Even if you are non-confrontational, you end up bucking against the beast stuff bc you hate the feeling of walking on eggshells. You start to resent that feeling. It starts to feel pointless to share anything intimate or real, you stop wanting to talk then, and then you stop wanting to even be around them at all. Maybe bc for many of us the home feels like it should be the safe space, the place you get to be at rest and be soft, and be fun too. Playful. The world is tough. Home is a refuge. But when you know there’s a beast in the house, it’s hard to not be on edge, irritable, frustrated with the snapping all the time, idk. Starts to feel so icky you want out, even if you love them.
How long have you been married? I’ve been married for 12 years and reading your post has been my experience with my partner. Were you and your partner able to sort through this dilemma? He left over 2 weeks ago after a huge argument. It’s been much more peaceful but I think my reaction to his behavior was my shortcoming. I became consumed by him vs maintaining my own autonomy. I allowed my thoughts and emotions to wander freely about him while he was gone out and while home I’d watch his every move. This resulted in me being hyper sensitive. I have begun consciously changing my thinking patterns and reframing my projections bc many of them were based on expectations. I’ve been managing my emotional responses and I notice a difference now when we speak on the phone and when he comes by to do things with the kids. I miss him dearly and his absence has made me realize how much I stopped appreciating him and myself. I have decided that as long as I manage myself much better by not giving anyone outside of me that much power through my attention, I will have a more positive experience. I wasn’t prepared for properly understanding the true nature of men. I’m talking deep psychological, financial, sexual and emotional workings. It has been a huge wake up call bc after 12 years of marriage I don’t want to start over with someone else, I’ve put everything into building my family as a homemaker. If you’ve read through, thank you. I’m open to any insight you’ve gained in your experience.
He is so right. Give a man respect, talk to him if you disagree, don't fight, and give him appreciation and there will be less arguments, less fighting, less conflicts.
I appreciate people who can acknowledge their mistakes weaknesses and work on them and then willing to give that knowledge to others to make their life better. This is the duty of every humen to give society whatever good knowledge they have to make others lives better! Its one of the preachings of Budha 🙏
Right. Some men want disrespect and demand it but don’t respect a good woman in return 😢 Narcissist And they want you to shut up and listen to them but have zero input. That’s toxic it goes both ways
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
It makes me feel so at peace to hear that, I feel so gaslighted in my daily life when a man behaves weirdly with me. My ex never called me back because I kindly suggested that we should spend more quality time together, he said that I was trying to control him I felt really as a bad person even if I know it wasn’t at all like this and the more I worked on myself the more I feel like I have to accept any bad behaviour from men otherwise I will be the bad woman, very refreshing to hear that
Yes, yes and yes. But it takes a lot of therapy and emotional maturity, but it's the best relationship you can ever have. Honor past relationships as teachers! We take care of each other! I'm proud of my man! And our relationship! Society oppose roles, but this is the key to a happy relationship.
Awesome interview! I have often tried to explain to men that I’m a woman and don’t know how to be a man so don’t treat me like one. Be gentle with me.🙂
Hats off to the gentleman 🙏 NOT EASY for a MAN to 1) ACCEPT his faults in public 2) Be So Honest Huge Respect to you Sir 🙏 Your daughter shud be proud of you and your wife a lucky queen 😊
I am an American woman married to a man from Iraq. Everything he is saying here is 100% true. My husband is an amazing man and so loving to me and out son. But he does have the same behaviors that this man is talking about. I know he feels he needs to be "the man" all the time. And it took a while for him to let go of those feelings and be the way he is now with me in the home. Bit I am still working on trying to get him to understand that his Ego gets him no where with me. And that I see him as more of a man when he can show me that sensitive side of himself than when he feels he always needs to be strong and tough. On the outside...I want that strong tough man to be my protector. Or the inside...I need him to be that caring and loving man I know he is.
People miss the point that men need to be the protector towards the outside dangers and tender when dealing with their wife. The aggressive and controlling side should not be acted out towards the wife but towards the outside dangers. Nor should men indebt their wives to obedience for providing and protecting them since women also care for the man’s physical needs by managing the house and caring for him and their children. I grew up hearing that since the man is providing income he is owed leadership, but the truth is that the wife is entitled to half his income for the work and services she does in the home, she has earned it and it’s not free like men would like to manipulate women into thinking it is.
@@sophiaad7486 well I think that i, being American, already felt this way. I grew up being shown that a husband and wife should work together. No one is "the boss". I love doing things for my husband. I love taking care of him. But I also like to have the same in reverse. He knew when he married me he wasn't marrying someone who was going to be submissive to him. And I'm not. I stand my ground and I can take care of myself. I need my husband because I love him. I dont love him because i need him. And yes...my husband IS very masculine and tough. I DO like that feeling of knowing he wont ever let anything happen to me or our son. I feel extremely safe with him. I also love that he knows he can let his guard down with me and not always have to be that person. I hope you have a good man too.
@@julieannalbuzbeba253that's cuz you are a masculine woman . u want him to be more feminine for the energies to balance out If u instead worked on being more feminine and submissive it would be even better.
Men: respect and appreciation. Women: Women need actions that show affection. Be it hugs, helping with the dishes, going on dates, whatever. Give us your time and show us you make an effort and we will love you to the moon and back.
He's not saying anything new, but using the "beast" metaphor to explain a person's anger issues is highly relatable and probably more readily understood by both men and women than using the jargon of "anger management" techniques. So much more helpful.
The way he spelled everything out , so simple, calm, and straightforward. The way a man treats his daughter, his wife/partner needs that as well (emotional support, gentle treatment) and what a man needs, appreciation and respect. The part about when a woman shows appreciation also shows him what she would like more of.. that’s a great way to explain that. Thank you, we listen more when the message is delivered in a calm, non-accusatory, non-demeaning way.
I agree w what he says a man needs ie respect and appreciation BUT this is only when you’re dealing w a man who is emotionally mature. I’ve always shown respect and appreciation to a man bc I value receiving that myself but I’ve found none of that matters when a man is immature or his ego is too much or if he is afraid to be vulnerable. No matter what you do as a woman or partner you’ll get nowhere if he isn’t mature enough to see you, communicate and open his heart.
This has been life-changing for me. I mean, I've already known most of this, but he kinda said it differently, more precisely and more concretely. And at this moment in my life, I really, really needed to hear this. Thank you immensely! From the bottom of my heart.
He has my respect! It takes a real man to swallow his ego and pride. And he is very well ballanced, in my opinion, with his masculine and feminine energy.
My husband and I struggle from time to time.. I told him; I do want you to lead, but in order for me to want to follow your lead you need to also respect my needs. It helped alot, he behaves more considered and I follow his lead more 👍
Yeah, I don't get it when men say they want respect . Do they think women don't? Everyone wants to be respected. As a woman, I clean house, organize, try to make things pleasant, and try to make yard nice as well. What my husband does is runs over my plants, brings junk to my house and hoards, and does not try to keep processes I have set up to make things run smoothly. And I am suppose to respect him? He doesn't respect me and what I do. Give me an answer for that.
I think that men who are blessed to have a daughter really do grow a whole new appreciation for the beautiful delicate essence and understanding for their children’s mother or women in general. It is like a window or empathetic glimpse into what it means to love and care for a female.
Both men and women want and need to feel appreciated in the relationship. There should be no score keeping such as "I will respect and appreciate them if they do that first for me". The older I get the more I realize that taking the initiative to give to the other person first rather than waiting to receive, is more attractive because it is courageous and kind. Unfortunately, many men have a false notion that giving first will hurt their ego and make them less manly. A mature confident and loving man isn't afraid to give of himself.
As a daughter I needed my dad to just give me hug and hold me Especially after I got into trouble He was a kind but fair man In relationships I have always had men then can’t communicate and leave -so many are weak as ego runs their life . This is so good and true 🥳 And women should let men be men- it’s an instinct to south and protect 🥰🥰
*When you take care of yourself, you’re a better person for others. When you feel good about yourself, you treat others better.*
AMEN !
Absolute Truth!!
❤ truths!
Amene 💯🎯
Projection at its finest. ❤
There are men at 27 and boys at 67….Thank you for sharing.
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Dating help! I agree!
Stop giving males an out. Minimum 1/6 are peds. This is according to an Aussie survey.
Soo true💯
Yesssss, it all depends on their course of life, integrity, morals and values!
I’ve been obsessed with this idea ever since I started reading 'The Irresistible Seduction Formula.' Like, why don’t we talk about this stuff more? Girls, you NEED to check it out!
I got it, truly a good book
Can you send me the pdf! It's not available in India
Bots people 😅
@@Peaeareally? That’s so sad I was going to look for this book 😢
"You fail one time thats fine, but again? No."
I love it.
Yes…it would be amazing to have a man with this mindset. My ex constantly made the same mistakes over and over and never learnt. I made him aware of this and he didn’t care.
Damn, he’s right, I told my husband how much I was proud of him and how I admired how hard he’s working to support our family and he lit up and wanted to work harder
Yes🙏🏼❤️
Aww that’s so cute ❤
This is so true, my boyfriend feeds off that energy like crazy. Things like 'Im proud of you', 'Wow, you are working so hard', 'You are amazing' gets his energy up in a way that nothing can pull him down. Many times before we go to bed he then says, ' I love how you believe in me, it's like I have my own cheerleader' 😊
Weird…. Lol
My boyfriend changed my car battery for me after my car had been down for like a week. When the engine started that first time, I jumped out of the car, hugged him and told him he was my hero ☺️ He had the biggest kool-aid smile I'd ever seen on him lol, it was so cute
I love how he says is not a woman’s job to tame the beast in a man. learn to control yourselves and show her you are their to protect and not to eat her up 😂
Learn to protect yourself, strong independent women😂
@@79Dnivara you really thought you did something huh
@@79Dnivara Always. But when you're around your men, let him do it!
@@79Dnivara they do protect themselves by staying away from men like you 😂
It’s been a long time I’d quite like to be eaten up now and then 😂😂
As a woman , everything this man saying is 100% on point, this interview was extremely refreshing im so impressed because finally a man who gets it ...and a man with a healthy mindset , who is reflective and he makes the change he wants to see , this is what you call a leader and a man who knows who he is....we need more men like him who are responsible and stepped into manhood and not boyhood like he explained God bless him😊
thank you for your words 👋
What the ef? This dude trains his daughter to become and entitled spoiled brat. He picks up his daughter and kisses her instead of teaching her how to behave, then he thinks the woman needs to be treated the exact way as the little girl? This dude is not right in the head.
Also women are a million times more logical than men! That is why they can never win any arguments. Women figure them out with logic and men don't get it. They call it emotion but it's hard facts! And the woman doesn't have to respect the man! He needs to respect her so the woman can reflect it back! That's the only way it works. This man talks down at women and you don't see it. Shame on you as a woman.
...and we have to go through a major heartbreak to learn that. I wish more men teach other men even when we are teenagers. I immediately got his being nice to daughter. I wouldn't have cared about using the same reasoning with older woman --- long time back !
He’s not American!!
He's a misogynist who doesn't know anything about women. How can you allow this kind of brainwashing enter your mind? He thinks that women need to be treated like spoiled little girls? W the f?! He's raising a spoiled brat! Picks the girl up and fixes the issue with a hug and kiss when she's having a tantrum?
This is a narcissistic male, not a man. Also, the woman don't need to respect the man! The man needs to respect the woman and that she will mirror back, he needs to prove himself to he a decent man first. That's the only way it works. What the eff is wrong with society these days!
This just reminded me of something! This book called “The Art of Seductive Power by Juliet Arden”. My confidence shifted in a whole new way.
Thanks for sharing. Just wondering because this book & author is very difficult to find. I only find one website that doesn’t quite look like the real deal.
Do you know why it can’t be found on Amazon or in bookstores?
@@hillaryvadhera9456 it’s a scam
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Exactly, adult women are like little girls when they are upset or around their men. They want to feel love, respect, kindness, communication, and appreciation, and to be allowed to be in their feminine energy without fear or be judged. Always with awareness and healthy boundaries.
Yet that's what they r made to feel ashamed of
Do you want adult men to act like little boys when they are upset? No?
See the disconnect here?
Adult women aren't supposed to act like little girls.
As a woman, you got it right! I treat my husband great, keep my house clean, he gets fed good, love, hug & kiss him, always say thankyou for the little chores he does in the home, tell him I love him everyday.I respect his decisions as well. I pull my weight too, but I want to know he will take good care of me as well in return.❤
@@geraldinesookorukoff7712Hey sister, loved to read your comment, May God bless your family and the mutual love and respect keeps on growing. ❤❤❤❤😊😊
Amen we love to see a love led by God and genuine! May God protect your family and union between the TWO!!!!!
I want to add that this works for secure attachment men. If a man is emotionally unavailable, appreciation and respect will never be good enough.
I was thinking the same 😢
This is SO IMPORTANT
I was going to say the same!
Preach. Some of his comments don't sound like they are based in secure attachment styles.
Precisely. Or abusive men. You can speak kindly to them and be present but they will never appreciate you and just continue to beat you into the ground mentally, physically, emotionally ally, financially, spiritually. I understand it works both ways. Women can do the same. It just typically seems to be more heavy handed with men being the abusers.
My grandfather told me in his last days he placed too much emphasis on providing financially for the family and only realized late in life that he was the protector and tender warrior. That should be a mans legacy, we all feel safer when the man is in the room even in the midst of a storm.
Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldnt say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other.
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have her back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain brother, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thouht it was, but it worked wonders for me.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
This is so true. Women, even as children, really need emotional connection. And men, even as children, need to know that thier effort is appreciated. This way in adulthood, she will seek men who won't abandon her when she's emotional and confused, and men will seek women who are openly grateful for his help/authority.
I'd go shopping with my friend, and her 4 year old son would leave and walk around the grocery store aimlessly and bump into people. Everyone looked at him like he was a nuisance, but I knew he was actually a brilliant little boy.
So, I did an expiriment and asked him to help me shop for a minute. He'd feel the tomatoes and tell me if they were ripe or not. We did the same with other veggies and fruits. I let him know that he was needed.
The rest of that day, he stayed with us, carefully observing our surroundings. He "tamed his beast" and channelled all that energy into his discernment and awareness. His impulsiveness had completely vaporized in one instant of geuine recognition. His true nature could finally be expressed and seen.
Another time, me and my (then) boyfriend went to a pub, and there were all these gregarious men around.
One of them started flirting with me even with my bf right there, but he felt very secure with me. I just patiently listened to the playfully flirtatious man.
When he paused, I smiled and asked him if he had a family. He said he has a little girl with his ex gf. I told him that he is a King in his little girl's eyes.
In that moment, his back straightened up, there was a ssudden stoicism in his candor and he shed a tear as he listened to me explain how invaluable and privileged it is to be a father. He told his boys he wanted to go home, and he told me thank you. Men need to take their value seriously, and we can help ensure this as women, simply with a little acknowledgement.
❤ Thank you, for doing that. And thank you for sharing this.
@@nd3409 You're welcome, very glad to share.
You're an incredible person.😊
@@theNikkiDash Thank you!
@@millie.kwhy would you be nice to a disgusting man who flirts with you in your bf’s presence?
He's so right!!!!!! My ex husband chose to listen to his MOM instead of working out our issues between us....i said " GOODBYE! go be w ur mommy!!!
family before everything
He was always a boy. You overlooked it the whole time.
Really sad.we give free therapy to help people
@@dante19890You can be a loving family member, a partner and one that creates their own family all at once, i know mind blowing. At one point in our life, we have to make our own decisions. We for sure can ask for advice but only doing what his mom says, is not equally to always making the right decisions you know.
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I tried to share that with my last relationship, when I am upset, I need comfort, but instead he would get mad. And that is how a woman falls in love, this build trust and you feel heard.
❤ spot on
Same,I tried this with my ex and he just got more distant.
He yelled, cursed. Get angry, rage and expect me to be loving because he going from 0-100 anger and then 100-loving almost immediately. He made changes he progressed, we worked as a team, everyone and again this beastt will come out couldn't take it anymore...my desire for sex became less and less and I would tell him I don't like the way he speaks to me and he acts as if I needed to change inprder for him to speak to me with respect
Respect works both ways and so does appreciation.
Me too! My ex husband complained so much that o don't respect him when I don't do what he wants me to do ! Sorry sir! Women don't need just hugs and tapping on the shoulders! Respect and appreciation work both ways
The two things are most misused by toxic men.
yeah everybody longs to be cherished
He said men need those two things only. Women need more than two things.
Totally agree @tracey
And women need to feel their man's attraction and affection.
"Feel" is key..
Not just words...
I always say, close your eyes and tell me what you" feel'
This guy is so smart and brave to know he has to put his pride aside in front of a woman in order to learn how to be a better man for himself and for his partner. It also shows he chose love above hatrus, not ego, not a negative path. He learned from his mistakes and he chose to upgrade himself. This is inspiring. If only all men knew what he knows.
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@@saifalyasiofficial thank you so much. Your wisdom is helpful to so many women 🙏
This ladies and gentlemen is the rise of a beautiful Divine Masculine.
You can give all the respect and appreciation, if he’s not invested, it won’t work. And maybe that’s for the best - such a man could never appreciate a golden woman.
Of course he can and he will with the woman he actually wants.
Let go then
Spoken like a true King!! I loved what he said. Empathy is EVERYTHING!’ It sounded a thousand percent like a man in his FULL masculine. We need more men just like this!!!!!!!!!
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The most calm and composed man I have ever seen on TH-cam when I am going through a bad marriage for last 3 years and exhausted.
Sanpaku eyes shows fear. He keeps displaying them. That’s not calmness. I think u have trouble reading people. You can also tell by his strained breathing control
@@niamhfranklin9261that actually IS calmness.
He's feeling all kinds of negative emotions and is still able to remain composed.
Exactly. He had no example. Because there was embarrassment more than guilt, fear more than empathy. Sometimes people are the friendliest and calmest outside the house but arent the same or even close to showing empathy with their partner
@@niamhfranklin9261 Maybe what you see is fear that he will make the same mistake as before. He clearly is a man of conscience and his heartbreak led him to care at not making the same or similar mistakes. He is still in the process of navigating his behaviour, and trying to juggle it all so I wouldn't put it against him. I am not dismissing what you see however it seems more judgemental and therefore unable to see anything slightly positive of a man who is reflective and attempting to work out better and more improved behaviours when dealing with men socially and dealing with women intimately. It's all become a very messy and complicated world. Being another culture myself, rather than just anglo there is another depth or level to what you appear to see. and understand.
He’s definitely not calm his body language is slightly stand offish, he’s shutting us out with his left arm… this is not the body language of a calm person ( my opinion)
Thank you!! Women need men to understand this. The world is not easy for women on their own, we need a partner to go through it safely. In my opinion men and women are not made to be separate but instead need to form healthy partnerships where they can bring their strenghts and compliment each other. This way we can build stronger families, children and consequently societies. Society is dying of loneliness, let's bring families back together and for this we need strong mature men.
No, MEN are dying of loneliness. Single women live the longest.
..wow men listen to this man he talks like a real man. A lion. A king .
Wow, I adored my father, and just realised the reason most was that he was the gentlest soul ever, leaving the beast outside the door. I love that ❤ if all men would just understand that.
The 5yr old little girl me when ever she threw an emotional tantrum was actually just looking for validation and acceptance ... It's something Im still learning to offer myself
Maturity is for both men and women to pursue.
@@SmartestDumbGuy Agree, however my father use to cry sometimes when he was really upset and yet he was a macho type man. Even as a young girl I felt it very balanced and human. and that I could reach out to him more. What was scary and wasn't balanced was when he would burst out into a rage, shut us down, hurl insults, blaming and projecting his stress and inability to communicate, onto my mother or his girls. He is of Mediterranean culture. It is not considered immature in our culture to cry.
Women want to feel safe. You take that away or constantly threaten it when having an argument or disagreement and they’re gone.
100%
Yup! Sooo true
Swallowing your pride and ego!!! - that’s masculinity ❤
Wonder how that tastes😂
@@naturelle1097 HEAL AND YOU WILL KNOW😎
Cant respect a man that starts not showering or brushing for weeks when home.. only if he goes out or to his two week on shift. Cant respect a drunk.. cant respect a man that gets lap dances while his woman is clean, beautiful, starving for affection at home. You have to be worthy of respect.
You chose him !!! Start respecting your self so others can respect you
Truths!
Yes. A man who cheats on a beautiful, available wife is exactly like a rat. Rats perked up for anything new after about two weeks with something superior, based only on the fact that they live for anything new, lol.
Every day you stay you choose him. So do something different.
🎯🎯sadly world is full of them! Covert toxic narcissists!!! Just seeing whom they can suck the life and happiness out of due to their internal issues!
I love the way this man matured. He did his homework hard way loosing his family and made statement of not failing again but working on himself. His understanding of man- woman polarity is beautiful. Pleasure to listen to his words. Thank you!!!
Yes when your dealing with women, your dealing with emotions.💯
He gets it! It took him losing one marriage, but he got it right!
This guy is so self aware
This man is intelligent. If I fail once fine but if I fail twice surely I need to do something different. Insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results. The concept is so simple but unfortunately the majority of people never come to this conclusion.
Great that he is asking men to be accountable for the failed relationships, this is great! I hope lots of men hear this advice.
The same with women we want respect and appreciation
Exactly 💯
We want to be loved and cherished. For men the respect is something they want and need more than love. They do not need to be on a pedestal. Do not marry a man you do not respect how he thinks and his decision making a man with self control
Agreed❤
@@andreatorluemke4982We want BOTH not either or.
@@andreatorluemke4982As a woman I would choose respect any day over “love.” What the heck is love anyways? How come women’s decision making is not respected and valued? To say only a man should lead is abuse of the woman’s mind. We are mind as much as we are heart.
Your wife is also someone’s daughter. Keep that is mind.
Your wife is her own person.
Is that why they twerk on tiktok, and thirstpost on Instagram? Why they cheat on their men? Because they respect being someone's daughter?😂
God's daugther. That's serious stuff.
Treat her like you want her daughter to be treated!!!!
I asked my soon-to-be ex husband if he would want a daughter treated the same way in her marriage that he treats me. He said no. 🙄
I understand what he said about his daughter's emotions. Most fathers would do something or say something loving or become more tender to get her to feel better. So, a man can do the same for his woman. If there was an argument, and you know she's hurt, come back in a tender, more gentle, loving way. In moments that you can.
I agree I’ve had men understand this and men that don’t. Men that don’t just don’t want to feel like their being manipulated which I understand maybe it’s a trust thing
So I pointed this out to my ex with his daughter he told me I was jealous of her and also she listens to him, I don't. He also categorized women and children as the sane and said I need to listen and be submissive according to the bible
Saif's voice is so relaxing, I could listen to him all day. 👌
I think this is the perfect perspective. It actually helped me understand why my current husband is much better at understanding me and being attentive to emotions and feelings, he has raised 2 daughters. He provides me with exactly everything I need on an emotional level and beyond. It’s been night and day with other relationships.
Gjve him a son, two, three.
This is a basic tenent of Catholic marriage...husbands, love your wives, wives, respect your husbands.
Much easiier said than done though.
Thank you Saif.
*of Christian marriages
I always heard my ex husband say that I needed to respect him but he did not love or respect me. Respect goes both ways. You can’t cheat on your wife who has been kind, loyal, and someone who worked hard to keep the marriage together. At the end of the day, I was married to a narcissist and even two marriage therapist said they couldn’t help us since my husband (at the time) wouldn’t admit that there was anything wrong with him. He said it was all my fault.
It's so true. Women always wanna stay safe in a marriage. Like when we are faced with work, family and other stress it's good if our husband is caring and comforting towards us saying it's okay or give some advices to us.. it's not that we are empty headed and cant do anything but it just comforts us and wants to be in the safe arms of our husbands. A man really need to have good decision making abilities to distinguish what is right and wrong
Respect & Appreciation is equally important to women as well. All human beings irrespective of age or gender thrive with respect and appreciation
This is true. However, as far as respect, because of their pride as men, they do have a deeper need for respect. It doesn't mean that we don't need to be respected, though. It just shows one of the differences between men and women.
@@landajb6878Their "need" for respect is just ego. It's a want, not a need. They depend on outside validation.
@brigittecourson That's what I said. Because of their pride/ego, they have a deeper need for respect. Of course, too much pride is not good, but at the same time, a man without pride/ego isn't a man. Even a little boy has his character and his little ego. They were born that way. The more we try to understand it, the better we'll get along with them.
@@landajb6878 Pride and ego is the worst thing a man can have. Males need to be humble.
@@landajb6878You're such a ditz.
The best thing he said : most of the divorces are men s responsability 😊 waw the acknowledgment I never thought I would hear from a man ! Finally someone with some self awareness ❤
Exactly. Women respond accordingly to how you treat us.
Respect and appreciation go both ways. Especially respect
Period! 👏🏽👏🏽 Girl, mem are confused. Lol. You can appreciate them but then, their Ego's get in the way and now they don't have to try as hard.
@@missvegan1967nah, you just met the wrong men haha, just no
I’ve never seen this channel or heard of anyone here before, but how honest & insightful. Many women know and feel this, but for a big strong handsome man to talk this way is extremely attractive & helpful to ripple through humanity
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me, i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her
its always difficult to let go of you love, i was in a similar situation my wife for 12 years left me.i couldnt just let her go, so i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back
wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.
You might want to grow and improve yourself.. be a real man and win her heart again.. this time, treat her the correct way
Bravo 👏🏽 healthy masculinity is possible to achieve..! This is so needed ! More in this times when the masculinity is disappearing.
I love this. As a wife of 11 years with my husband, I can tell you there is a lot of wisdom here.
Men and women do NOT experience things the same. We have very different needs and ways to get them. Understanding and respecting this is paramount.
We had to learn a lot of this together.
My husband appears to be soft, but he is such a hard worker and he provides for us like a master ❤ it's so important to give him praise, respect his thoughts and choices, raise concerns tactfully.
It's so strange to me that others think he's intimidating. I've never experienced that, but he's exactly what I consider to be the ideal father and husband.
Sadly many men are small little puppies outside the Home, and at home they show the ,,other guy, hulk situation,, just because there are no imediate consequences .
Real men are the opposite.
I'm amazed by men😮 How would you think women have the same mindset as you. We are different and that's amazing!
he cracked the code!
Thanks for sharing your experience to help others. Wonderful insight too help with relationships. 😊
Raising Boys to be men! Thanks God that this purpose is recognized, because it is needed in this world to have mature man and mature women in the furture ❤️ Good luck and thank you, dear soul! Harmed teacher who has healed himself is the best teacher! May God help you on your journey.
It took so many losses to become self aware. Such a great loss all around.
do you know what's heartbreaking? it took another woman for him to see what's wrong and needed to be fixed in his behaviour instead of realizing and working it early on with the first woman and possibly all the things the first woman was asking for this man was ignored and was given fully and voluntarily to the next woman.
But some men never get it. This man was wise enough to see the similarities in his daughter and ex wife. Their need for emotional connection. He is conscious and present. My heart swells with Hope. We need the more now then ever.
It’s Maqtub
Totally agree!!!
That’s communication, though. We can’t speak on what their relationship was like or the way they interacted. He learned his lesson BUT we don’t even know of it could have been “fixed.”
Sometimes it takes us to fail and learn from the lesson. Some people never learn. It's beautiful to know he learned and was not willing to fail again.
That is true-if you are with a very beast-like man, and you don’t get that treatment, it can feel like safety…bc the soft side is reserved for you, and it’s peaceful feeling. Safe. Fun can happen. But when they begin to talk to you, treat you, react to you just like they do the boys or the other ones on the outside, you begin to loathe them….bc it feels so unloving and unprotective, and just plain ugly. You end up on edge all the time, even when they are acting nice, bc you know they could turn on a dime. Even if you are non-confrontational, you end up bucking against the beast stuff bc you hate the feeling of walking on eggshells. You start to resent that feeling. It starts to feel pointless to share anything intimate or real, you stop wanting to talk then, and then you stop wanting to even be around them at all. Maybe bc for many of us the home feels like it should be the safe space, the place you get to be at rest and be soft, and be fun too. Playful. The world is tough. Home is a refuge. But when you know there’s a beast in the house, it’s hard to not be on edge, irritable, frustrated with the snapping all the time, idk. Starts to feel so icky you want out, even if you love them.
How long have you been married? I’ve been married for 12 years and reading your post has been my experience with my partner. Were you and your partner able to sort through this dilemma?
He left over 2 weeks ago after a huge argument. It’s been much more peaceful but I think my reaction to his behavior was my shortcoming. I became consumed by him vs maintaining my own autonomy. I allowed my thoughts and emotions to wander freely about him while he was gone out and while home I’d watch his every move. This resulted in me being hyper sensitive. I have begun consciously changing my thinking patterns and reframing my projections bc many of them were based on expectations. I’ve been managing my emotional responses and I notice a difference now when we speak on the phone and when he comes by to do things with the kids.
I miss him dearly and his absence has made me realize how much I stopped appreciating him and myself. I have decided that as long as I manage myself much better by not giving anyone outside of me that much power through my attention, I will have a more positive experience. I wasn’t prepared for properly understanding the true nature of men. I’m talking deep psychological, financial, sexual and emotional workings. It has been a huge wake up call bc after 12 years of marriage I don’t want to start over with someone else, I’ve put everything into building my family as a homemaker. If you’ve read through, thank you. I’m open to any insight you’ve gained in your experience.
He is so right. Give a man respect, talk to him if you disagree, don't fight, and give him appreciation and there will be less arguments, less fighting, less conflicts.
I appreciate people who can acknowledge their mistakes weaknesses and work on them and then willing to give that knowledge to others to make their life better. This is the duty of every humen to give society whatever good knowledge they have to make others lives better! Its one of the preachings of Budha 🙏
Not always true. Some men don’t appreciate the woman who is respecting and appreciating them.
Boys
This video is not about them.
Right. Some men want disrespect and demand it but don’t respect a good woman in return 😢
Narcissist
And they want you to shut up and listen to them but have zero input. That’s toxic it goes both ways
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back
amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him
His name is Fatherabulu, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
He is Fatherabulu has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked he up now online. impressive
It makes sense how he explains it. He nailed it.
I didn’t expect to listen to such a divinely masculine, humble and self reflected man share his wisdom when I clocked on the video.
I love this! This was s great interview and his honesty & vulnerability doesn't take away from his masculinity but only adds to it. His wife is lucky.
I want my puppy!! And know the beast is outside protecting me!
Yes…strong but gentle at home…and a warrior outside…that makes you feel protected!
It makes me feel so at peace to hear that, I feel so gaslighted in my daily life when a man behaves weirdly with me. My ex never called me back because I kindly suggested that we should spend more quality time together, he said that I was trying to control him I felt really as a bad person even if I know it wasn’t at all like this and the more I worked on myself the more I feel like I have to accept any bad behaviour from men otherwise I will be the bad woman, very refreshing to hear that
It's soooo refreshing to see a man use self introspection instead of the blame game to have a happy and peaceful life. #mirrors.
Yes, yes and yes. But it takes a lot of therapy and emotional maturity, but it's the best relationship you can ever have. Honor past relationships as teachers! We take care of each other! I'm proud of my man! And our relationship! Society oppose roles, but this is the key to a happy relationship.
Awesome interview! I have often tried to explain to men that I’m a woman and don’t know how to be a man so don’t treat me like one. Be gentle with me.🙂
WOW. WOW. WOW!!! There was not *one* shred of untruth to this! This is absolutely gold and I wish grownup boys would get this. ❤
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I love this. Men integrating their "pet beast", women integrating their inner child.
His advice is applicable to a too masculine man not to mumma’s boy or to guys are who not willing to come out of there comfort zone.
Hats off to the gentleman 🙏
NOT EASY for a MAN to 1) ACCEPT his faults in public
2) Be So Honest
Huge Respect to you Sir 🙏
Your daughter shud be proud of you and your wife a lucky queen 😊
I am an American woman married to a man from Iraq. Everything he is saying here is 100% true. My husband is an amazing man and so loving to me and out son. But he does have the same behaviors that this man is talking about. I know he feels he needs to be "the man" all the time. And it took a while for him to let go of those feelings and be the way he is now with me in the home. Bit I am still working on trying to get him to understand that his Ego gets him no where with me. And that I see him as more of a man when he can show me that sensitive side of himself than when he feels he always needs to be strong and tough. On the outside...I want that strong tough man to be my protector. Or the inside...I need him to be that caring and loving man I know he is.
How many years have you been together?
@@Carooo.1212 7...married for 4
People miss the point that men need to be the protector towards the outside dangers and tender when dealing with their wife. The aggressive and controlling side should not be acted out towards the wife but towards the outside dangers. Nor should men indebt their wives to obedience for providing and protecting them since women also care for the man’s physical needs by managing the house and caring for him and their children.
I grew up hearing that since the man is providing income he is owed leadership, but the truth is that the wife is entitled to half his income for the work and services she does in the home, she has earned it and it’s not free like men would like to manipulate women into thinking it is.
@@sophiaad7486 well I think that i, being American, already felt this way. I grew up being shown that a husband and wife should work together. No one is "the boss". I love doing things for my husband. I love taking care of him. But I also like to have the same in reverse. He knew when he married me he wasn't marrying someone who was going to be submissive to him. And I'm not. I stand my ground and I can take care of myself. I need my husband because I love him. I dont love him because i need him. And yes...my husband IS very masculine and tough. I DO like that feeling of knowing he wont ever let anything happen to me or our son. I feel extremely safe with him. I also love that he knows he can let his guard down with me and not always have to be that person. I hope you have a good man too.
@@julieannalbuzbeba253that's cuz you are a masculine woman .
u want him to be more feminine for the energies to balance out
If u instead worked on being more feminine and submissive it would be even better.
While dealing with women, you're dealing with emotions ❤ Thank you for sharing your side of the story. You're so humble and grounded
I'm so glad to see there are men who want to change to maturity. Well done!
Men: respect and appreciation.
Women: Women need actions that show affection. Be it hugs, helping with the dishes, going on dates, whatever. Give us your time and show us you make an effort and we will love you to the moon and back.
He's not saying anything new, but using the "beast" metaphor to explain a person's anger issues is highly relatable and probably more readily understood by both men and women than using the jargon of "anger management" techniques. So much more helpful.
Consistency breeds respect. Consistency grows appreciation!
The way he spelled everything out , so simple, calm, and straightforward. The way a man treats his daughter, his wife/partner needs that as well (emotional support, gentle treatment) and what a man needs, appreciation and respect. The part about when a woman shows appreciation also shows him what she would like more of.. that’s a great way to explain that. Thank you, we listen more when the message is delivered in a calm, non-accusatory, non-demeaning way.
I agree w what he says a man needs ie respect and appreciation BUT this is only when you’re dealing w a man who is emotionally mature. I’ve always shown respect and appreciation to a man bc I value receiving that myself but I’ve found none of that matters when a man is immature or his ego is too much or if he is afraid to be vulnerable. No matter what you do as a woman or partner you’ll get nowhere if he isn’t mature enough to see you, communicate and open his heart.
So true!
My first love was my firstborn. He showed me how to love unconditionally. I didn’t had rolemodels growing up.
This has been life-changing for me. I mean, I've already known most of this, but he kinda said it differently, more precisely and more concretely. And at this moment in my life, I really, really needed to hear this. Thank you immensely! From the bottom of my heart.
k why did i cry when he started talking about seeing his daughter sad.. "that's mine" i'm crying. beautiful done interview
Absolutely wonderful 🙏
When he realised about ego and decided to let go of the ego.
"Im ready to conquer the world..." Wow! I love this!
He has my respect! It takes a real man to swallow his ego and pride. And he is very well ballanced, in my opinion, with his masculine and feminine energy.
My husband and I struggle from time to time.. I told him; I do want you to lead, but in order for me to want to follow your lead you need to also respect my needs. It helped alot, he behaves more considered and I follow his lead more 👍
He is completely right
Love that he says he’s raising his boys to be men. Amen!
So many men grew up without emotional support and emotional validation, not knowing the skill and unable to give it to others.
What a beautiful conversation: Master the beast to rise up; show your true nature to your partner so that relationship can become a companionship.
All men want is:
1. RESPECT
2. APPRECIATION
SAME TFOR US WOMen! Thats what we want!
Yeah, I don't get it when men say they want respect . Do they think women don't? Everyone wants to be respected. As a woman, I clean house, organize, try to make things pleasant, and try to make yard nice as well. What my husband does is runs over my plants, brings junk to my house and hoards, and does not try to keep processes I have set up to make things run smoothly. And I am suppose to respect him? He doesn't respect me and what I do. Give me an answer for that.
I think that men who are blessed to have a daughter really do grow a whole new appreciation for the beautiful delicate essence and understanding for their children’s mother or women in general. It is like a window or empathetic glimpse into what it means to love and care for a female.
Finally a Man speaking!!! 👏👏👏👏 Can’t wait to see your “FACTORY OF MAN” helping the weak boys out there! They truly need you!!!
Both men and women want and need to feel appreciated in the relationship. There should be no score keeping such as "I will respect and appreciate them if they do that first for me". The older I get the more I realize that taking the initiative to give to the other person first rather than waiting to receive, is more attractive because it is courageous and kind. Unfortunately, many men have a false notion that giving first will hurt their ego and make them less manly. A mature confident and loving man isn't afraid to give of himself.
Now this is what you call a REAL MAN! Thank you 🙏🏼 ❤
As a daughter I needed my dad to just give me hug and hold me
Especially after I got into trouble
He was a kind but fair man
In relationships I have always had men then can’t communicate and leave -so many are weak as ego runs their life .
This is so good and true 🥳
And women should let men be men- it’s an instinct to south and protect 🥰🥰