1. Become obsessed with yourself. 2. Be youthful/playful/light-hearted. 3. Egocentric women win. Invest in yourself. 4. Have self-confidence. 5. Embrace femine movement. 6. Flirt with him / eye contact, etc , show hints. 7. Let him see you from afar; let him see you from across the room, or doing hobbies in front of him, etc 8. Ask him for his help, or his advice, make him feel needed /useful. 9. Show excitement & joy when he does something for you. 10. If you have a passive man , do not push or be aggressive, become more passive like him. 11. Be mysterious. 12. If you just met, do not think he is looking for a wife right away. All explained in the video, thank you so much Margarita! 🥰
Totally agree with a lot of these as long as they're genuine and not just being done superficially to bag a guy. Just don't play games and be manipulative. Some of these pointers could encourage someone to cross that line. Become your best self and you'll attract someone awesome. Most guys won't say anything at the time, but we can see way past the bs. Don't try too hard. Nothing really fools us.
As a guy I will say good points, but don´t overthink this, be yourself. Also British women need to switch out their wardrobe, often it is just too slutty. It is better too look refined and feminine. Also, be careful sending out the "princes vibe", he may interpret that as you being high maintenance or difficult. Bossy feminists are a no go. Confidence in women is not really that important for a man, as long as you are able to send him a sign you are interested. Prince charming is not going to show up at your door, so go to places where you think those guys hang out, shooting ranges, pub, diners, supermarkets, specialized shops that sell things like fishing gear or tools etc. The good news is he does not care about your employment or education, so don´t let that stop you. And there is never any good reason you should be sitting on a toilet in his presence!
No Off ence but to everyone who’s on this particular video I’m just here to tell this after watching the video (just to not have Judged it via the title) That NO person, who’s in a “sane mind” would want anyone to be obsessed with them. If you’re a woman who wants this or a man either? Ask yourself why do you want this? Didn’t u receive love in your childhood? This is a desire arising out of wounding and NOT your heart, stop this B S And just focus on yourself !
This is 100% toxic, selfish, and the signs of a societal collapse. Rome went thorough the same sh*t. I guess history does rhyme, and we're doomed to repeat it for not ACCEPTING our past mistakes. This toxic “advice” is what further separates the genders.
I stopped listening to other relationship gurus as they make me feel hateful and controlling towards men. You teach me femininity and the power that comes from that. Thank you!
No Off ence but to everyone who’s on this particular video I’m just here to tell this after watching the video (just to not have Judged it via the title) That NO person, who’s in a “sane mind” would want anyone to be obsessed with them. If you’re a woman who wants this or a man either? Ask yourself why do you want this? Didn’t u receive love in your childhood? This is a desire arising out of wounding and NOT your heart, stop this B S And just focus on yourself !
Exactly, do you know that men listen to that and even they play games and manipulations because they learn from these gurus. So go figure it out, when you see your man is playing hand with you ,
I tested this and it works! The more I am busy with my hobbies, friends, trips etc, the more men are into me. I think they are more fascinated with my enthusiasm and passion than with me 😂😂 There is something magnetic about people who enjoy living and I think they just find this spark in me and cannot leave me alone 😅
No Off ence but to everyone who’s on this particular video I’m just here to tell this after watching the video (just to not have Judged it via the title) That NO person, who’s in a “sane mind” would want anyone to be obsessed with them. If you’re a woman who wants this or a man either? Ask yourself why do you want this? Didn’t u receive love in your childhood? This is a desire arising out of wounding and NOT your heart, stop this B S And just focus on yourself !
What I love most about this is it truly is just about, “love and respect yourself and have fun in your life without his validation. If you don’t love and respect yourself, mind f** yourself until you do.”
I just love how she is. She’s authentic. I’m a body language expert. Her pontification, overall body language, look in her eyes, etc exudes no nonsense, hard facts, truth.
@@siriusliliyou can tell when idiots google words. Pontificate can be an exaggerated way of expression that connotes certain behavior but does not MEAN same. It is often used to talk about one’s way of expressing through body language. Please go back to school. Your comprehension and contextual analysis skills are lacking.
You are what a friends girl should be, but never showed up- it seems like females are so busy traumatising each other toward lack of good judgment. Your type is giving hope. Recieving it feel like listening to a seashell found at the beach! I appreciate you.
Im only 17 and have been with my boyfriend for over a year and i can 10000% say that these work thanks margarita.Honestly haven't found anyone else who gives better advice for being in your feminine energy.
As a man I love these videos. I would suggest for women watching this to be aware that, for some men such as myself, coming off as too independent is a major turn off. As someone looking for a working professional, if you come off as so independent that you aren’t looking for companionship and I’m a secondary item in your life, then it can easily come off as emotionally unavailable. I want emotional availability. Vulnerability and trust. Being independent but willing and wanting to spend time with a new partner given a level of earned trust is very attractive. Too hard to get is exhausting. For what it’s worth.
They are mainly targetting rich and extremely attractive guys so it doesn't matter what the general male population thinks. If a woman wants real love she shouldn't pretend being playful or lighten the load when she herself has a lot going on. Those advices are for women who want to use the man for benefits not for those that are looking for real love. If a man really loves the core of you he wouldn't care how much hobbies you have or if you are too anxiously attached, he will love you. Unfortunately most men love with their eyes so it doesn't really matter as long as you are unbelievably hot, they will love you even with the worst character. The author is suggesting an unending game of pretend so you can keep your partner on the edge so he knows he can always lose you if he shows disrespect and that for me it too exhasting
It goes both ways.. an highly independent man that is too busy and emotionally unavailable is also a turn off for a non gold-digger woman. I’m looking for a companion not bread crumbs of a man and affection!
In my opinion, saying this is designed for users is a cynical take. Being your best self means you are growing as a person. That includes learning about your attachment styles and, if they’re not as healthy, working on them so you can have healthier relationships. It means that you take the time to develop all parts of who you are, including the hobbies that fulfill you. It is recognizing that your life shouldn’t be centered around another person, as a co-dependent relationship would be; nor being completely independent, which isn’t healthy, either; but having a healthy sense of interdependence with your partner. Both having your own hobbies, passions, and things that fulfill you so that you bring more passion and fulfillment to the relationship. All these concepts are supported by psych and relationship experts. There are many women who become whatever they think a man wants them to be, and many marriages see the desire wane in a couple years. This advice is encouraging women to be more of themselves instead, so that they can have a more fulfilling and healthy relationship while keeping the attraction alive long term.
She addresses if a woman is too attached to attached too easily too. She also gives different situations and examples and states “if that’s what you’re looking for” to keep an open discussion. Cues and reminders, besides the general‘don’t nag’ but also why, and how to avoid it when you really might feel alone and ignored in the housework etc.
I learned these lessons on my own. I became co-dependent and l knew I had to detach. Started focusing on myself, mirroring his energy, etc. The more independent I became, the more he started to fall in love again. Its crazy how love works.
@@sabrinalittle7914depends on the guy and his specific desires/aspirations. A pretty easy method of deciphering how he wants to be perceived is by considering what fictional characters he idolises, eg. a man who loves Batman/Superman most likely fantasises of being perceived by people as a hero. Make him feel like a hero and you’re on the right track!
@@sabrinalittle7914 if you spend time with him you will notice the things that are important to him. Men loved to be praised for the things that they put their energy into. Use your words of encouragement and acknowledge the ways that he’s amazing!
@@sabrinalittle7914 by making yourself interesting and easy to talk with and being willing to listen. Then he will want to share with you his hopes and dreams and what he is interested in. But when he does this- take advantage of the opportunity and show you want to be part of it in an authentic way (of course if you're not interested don't pretend to be but when something is interesting let him know you want to hear more and he is going to want to know what you think too).
Salaams. Blessings to you all. Seek refuge in God from the need of having anyone obsessed with you. There is no god but God. Obsession is a form of worship. We have all been warned time and time again about a people that were destroyed for idol worship, not worshipping the 1 God, creator of all. This is surely a reminder to myself.
I love how you're constantly reminding women how to love themselves, how to put themselves first before any other because there are so many women including me who puts ourselves last. May God bless you Margarita. You're amazing ❤
Love this, Margarita! Your baby girl is so fortunate to have you as a mom. I love my mom but I was never given this kind of advice, I learned by trial and error. This is gold, here’s to us savvy ladies 🥂
The ancestors thing helps so much for self love. My family didn’t fight wars and immigrate for me to be down on myself. And I love looking like my mom and grandma. Why should I change? Brilliant.
I'm new to your channel and I am enjoying it so far. When you mentioned how our features are a reflection of our ancestors, I nearly burst out crying. The trials and tribulations and joys they faced is unfathomable.. Wow! Thank you.
Could you please make a video on how to get rid of men giving unsolicited/unwanted attention? Without inviting uncalled for wrath. Thanks, I truly appreciate your wisdom. Will await the said video.
I love the idea of #10 - basically mirroring. Trying to make someone be something they are not by "setting an example" - that never works. But creating a lack that they have to step up and fill, much more effective. Love everything you do, M!
I became so confident and content with myself that I feel no fear to remain forever alone. Rather that than sharing my time with someone who doesn't value me enough.
Your advice and knowledge is so valuable! I’m in my 40’s era and just getting out there again after divorce. I just hope you know what an absolute queen you are and I want to emulate you!
Re: being inconsistent I once saw a video saying you should make the man stressed😅 and I think the inconsistency really does help with adding that bit of stress. I have seen it work!
They are mainly targetting rich and extremely attractive guys so it doesn't matter what the general male population thinks. If a woman wants real love she shouldn't pretend being playful or lighten the load when she herself has a lot going on. This advices are for women who want to use the man for benefits, not for those who are looking for real love. If a man really loves the core of you he wouldn't care how many hobbies you have or if you are too anxiously attached, he will love you. Unfortunately, most men love with their eyes so it doesn't really matter as long as you are unbelievably hot, they will love you even with the worst character. The author is suggesting an unending game of pretend so you can keep your partner on the edge so he knows he can always lose you if he shows disrespect and that for me is too exhausting. Отговор
Point eight was just pure magic. Very well worded. There’s a lot of information about the hero instinct but this was by far the most practical advice. Thank you!
Great video! My five year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, but I really miss him.
It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him.
I was thinking the entire time that you look absolutely radiant, that you have a magical glow and then you said you're 8 months pregnant. Pregnancy looks amazing on you. 😊
First time I listen to a video like this. The title was not really something I would go for but her content is amazing! No manipulation all about being yourself ❤
I absolutely love your advices and I realised I did and I am doing all of them, and my man treats me like a queen.And of course,it started after I saw myself as one and always pushing him away juuuust a bit,to make him want more.I would also add to never be afraid you might push him away by making more time for yourself.He will love that❤
No.4 is so so true. I lately just overcome a struggle with showing up for myself. I wasn't sure if I could do something but I try just to see if I can. It turns out to win myself back in confidence
I love you. I went from AP to SA. I learned to love myself first because of you and Thias Gibson. You two ladies are a god send to women. Thank you love!!!
This is why men Love Russian women. Because they take care of themselves, they are confident, they have high standards, while most women are basic and try to please men. Margarita gets it!! 🙌
Omg this video came to me at the right time and your advice is SPOT ON. I'm so happy to have watched this today! This just gave me a mood and confidence boost to keep myself as the priority but also play the game correctly. Thank you girl!!
I'm finally up to date with all your podcasts. this is the video I started this whole journey with! Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and helping us out! I realize now I lost my feminine energy during my marriage (been married for 5 years now) no thanks to COVID. Been working from home since the lockdowns etc... thank you for making me realize how just getting ready in the morning can change your whole mood. I started the journey of 'getting the old me back' 1 week ago and I already changed it's name to 'be your /better/ self' I feel thriving, confident, pretty and capable. I feel like nothing can stop me. So thank you for doing this. ✨Sending you good vibes, a safe delivery and lots of love✨🥰
Thank you for the wisdom you share, Margarita! I have been loving your videos lately. 💕 On this video I have two comments: 1. I liked how you mentioned flirting. I have been married for 6 years and feel like I may have lost my ability to do that a little bit, so if you’re looking for video ideas, one on flirting would be really fun to watch. 😃 2. I also liked how you said to stop planning everything. One trick I’ve started to use is to plan things with my friends instead. That way I still feel fulfilled and am able to get out of the house and have a good time doing exactly what I want. My husband and I still do fun things together, but this way if he wants a weekend where we just stay home, I already feel fulfilled by something I have done, or am about to do, with friends. Love you lots ❤
I love you, thank you for all you do ❤ My life has gone downhill a bit and my friends are very taxing and take advantage - so I’ve realised I’ve become bitter, but I also become heavy on my partner so I need to work on that! Pulling my energy back to me, as I feel drained, so I need to stop giving so much to friends and become happy with my life again! My partner likes to provide and protect me. He said to me that he respected me as I didn’t change my schedule around, and didn’t kiss him on the first date and made my own way home. I wouldn’t let him take me all the way home for 6 dates. And we didn’t sleep together for 3 months. I know it’s not about the segs - it was about me keeping my boundaries, and taking charge of what I wanted in a relationship
I've been in a similar situation with friends so if you don't mind, I'm going to give you some advice. It is OKAY for you to tell a friend, especially if they call you, that you can't really talk right now because you're a bit spent. From what you've described about your life situation, this isn't untrue. Even if you aren't tired in THAT moment, it's about giving that time to *yourself* instead of to a friend, especially if it's one who doesn't return the favor. Then the next time you speak to them, notice whether or not they checked in on *you*. Did they ask you if you're feeling better or what was going on? You need to realize that you are worth your own energy and dedication too. ❤
@@AspasiaB ah, I love this. Thank you so much for taking the time to read my comment and respond! I do need to remember that even if I’m not tired in that moment, I’m allowed to keep that peace for myself. I find they tend to ask how I am - only as a way in to lump their problems onto me. Even just one message where they lump their stuff has started to drain me so I do need to set some boundaries! Thank you again 🩷
Gotta say, this does work. I tell this all the time to myself, I say it in front of my husband, friends, in laws, etc. I don’t care if it sounds weird for some people,…is my life. The ones that I like the most are: I’m beautiful and I’m GORGEOUS! 😁💖
When you mentioned your ancestors being related to uour ancestors, my eyes are watery because rhats the reason why I'm so grateful to be so beautiful because I'm so Thankful that I made it into life because of them. This chanel is good for my soul.
Omg with the affirmations thing I would tell myself im beautiful and compliment myself and my ex hated it and would try to bring me down and compared himself to me as well. Left him because I don't need that negativity.
Love these tips. When you're in your feminine, these things come naturally, people! Former stripper here ✋️ I know some people look down on being an adult entertainer but I never have felt so charged with feminine energy as I did as a stripper. It was a constant practice of feminine principles. Now I'm in a long term relationship with kids and the dynamic is different. I would love to see a video on keeping that obsession going throughout a relationship.
Hi! 👋 just had an idea for you. Are you able to have an intimate space with a pole, where you can perform for your significant other? I feel like that would really be an awesome way to keep things spicy 😉 maybe some role playing as well. But there's much more needed to maintain a happy, playful, long term relationship. I am 24 and have been w my hubby since 13, have a toddler. Doing small sweet gestures on the regular, still trying to impress/show appreciation for eachother, trying new experiences together, continue persuing your hobbies- are all key I think to keeping that passion. Continue to give praise and communicate. My husband is still obsessed with me 100%. He tells me all the time and shows it. Idk if any of that was helpful, maybe you already knew those things. But that is what I thought I would share after reading your comment. :) wish you the best!
Where have you been all my life ! I wasted so much time listening to other relationship coaches who made me feel angry and vulnerable towards men ! U speak gold girl ! Every sentence make sense thank you so much 💝
I recently went through a tough breakup. My 5-year relationship ended a month ago, and it's been really hard for me. I still love my ex-girlfriend so much and can't stop thinking about her. I've tried everything to win her back, but nothing has worked. It's frustrating, and I can't imagine being with anyone else. I've been trying to move on, but I can't seem to get her out of my mind. I know it might sound strange to share this here, but I miss her a lot and just can't stop thinking about her.
I understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar situation when my 12-year relationship ended. I couldn't just let her go, so I did everything I could to win her back. I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, and their guidance ultimately helped me to bring her back into my life.
Wow. Your content, Margarita is so valuable. I've listened to countless podcasts/interviews with all sorts of experts. But your advice just makes sense to me instinctively. I now understand that I just need to tap into my own feminine energy (which I already HAVE but have been afraid to fully explore). You have decreased my anxiety about the whole love/dating thing just by helping me understand myself as a woman. I don't have to force myself to believe in me, like I was told previously. I now see my value, and so it feels so much more effortless. Many other people's advice just made me more confused or anxious, but your content literally does the opposite. And with concrete examples & not beating around the bush either. Thanks so much!
I have just discovered your channel and it's such a breath of fresh air. You say same things as shera seven but way more healthily. She has some solid advice but if you want a husband to love for life, that's not gonna play out. Also, being dishonest weigh on your conscience too and is tiring. Thank you so much for this, margarita. Much love❤
How sorry I am that I didn't discover you earlier.. Thank you for all the advice and wisdom you share with us all. I look forward to every new video and wish you all the best!
I wish I had a women like you speaking to me in my early 20s. I’ve spent my entire life hating myself and being so “independent” that I pushed away the person I really wanted. My attitude towards myself impacted my ability to connect with him. Now I’m all alone.
I like the egocentric comment because initially it seems guys are attracted to the female narcissist. Not because they really want a narcissist but because of what she is showing in the beginning before they see all the other sides of narcissistic behavior. I mention this because there is something that can be learned from this. We can take part of this and use it in this process in changing our thinking 🤔
I feel like I'm turning into Being Her more and more each day!! So exceptionally grateful for M! She's the female rolemodel I needed. xoxo @@aestheticallydd252
I know I can take a lot of this advice even though I've been in a relationship for 15 years. But I would love a video that specifically talks about how to deploy these types of tips in a long-term relationship. Especially one with kids!
Married for 20 years. I am a stubborn, honest, authentic woman who isn’t afraid to complain and have no issues keeping or attracting dudes in my life. Not sure about the overly easy tactic. Men actually love someone with passion, depth, and a bit of a challenge is always good. 😊
Thank you greatly for this "pooping thing" in front of our loved one.exactly like you said. I said myself million times this is not intimacy people think this is intimacy but is not intimacy. Period.
Me, sitting here like a lump of coal; "ah, I see, I see.." Haha, you're great and every point is so well analyzed and discussed with clarity. Thank you for your content and effort Margarita.
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1. Become obsessed with yourself.
2. Be youthful/playful/light-hearted.
3. Egocentric women win. Invest in yourself.
4. Have self-confidence.
5. Embrace femine movement.
6. Flirt with him / eye contact, etc , show hints.
7. Let him see you from afar; let him see you from across the room, or doing hobbies in front of him, etc
8. Ask him for his help, or his advice, make him feel needed /useful.
9. Show excitement & joy when he does something for you.
10. If you have a passive man , do not push or be aggressive, become more passive like him.
11. Be mysterious.
12. If you just met, do not think he is looking for a wife right away.
All explained in the video, thank you so much Margarita! 🥰
thank you for this. Heart to remind me if these 💗🎀
@@happyheart8888 You are very welcome, I wish you the best in your heartfelt journey!
Totally agree with a lot of these as long as they're genuine and not just being done superficially to bag a guy. Just don't play games and be manipulative. Some of these pointers could encourage someone to cross that line. Become your best self and you'll attract someone awesome. Most guys won't say anything at the time, but we can see way past the bs. Don't try too hard. Nothing really fools us.
As a guy I will say good points, but don´t overthink this, be yourself. Also British women need to switch out their wardrobe, often it is just too slutty. It is better too look refined and feminine. Also, be careful sending out the "princes vibe", he may interpret that as you being high maintenance or difficult. Bossy feminists are a no go. Confidence in women is not really that important for a man, as long as you are able to send him a sign you are interested. Prince charming is not going to show up at your door, so go to places where you think those guys hang out, shooting ranges, pub, diners, supermarkets, specialized shops that sell things like fishing gear or tools etc. The good news is he does not care about your employment or education, so don´t let that stop you. And there is never any good reason you should be sitting on a toilet in his presence!
Be your best self...have your own interests. How much pretending can you do. Be you. But your best you.
Focus on you and the focus becomes you.💗
100 agree
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Very profound
I am a man and I agree 💯. I teach my clients both men and women this.
Amen girl
Becoming obsessed with yourself works 100%
However, never think more of yourself than is needed, then it turns lemony. 😉
@@IB4UUB4MElemony🤣🤣🤣🤣
No Off ence but to everyone who’s on this particular video I’m just here to tell this after watching the video (just to not have Judged it via the title)
That NO person, who’s in a “sane mind” would want anyone to be obsessed with them.
If you’re a woman who wants this or a man either?
Ask yourself why do you want this?
Didn’t u receive love in your childhood? This is a desire arising out of wounding and NOT your heart, stop this B S
And just focus on yourself !
This is 100% toxic, selfish, and the signs of a societal collapse. Rome went thorough the same sh*t. I guess history does rhyme, and we're doomed to repeat it for not ACCEPTING our past mistakes. This toxic “advice” is what further separates the genders.
I stopped listening to other relationship gurus as they make me feel hateful and controlling towards men. You teach me femininity and the power that comes from that. Thank you!
Men are wonderful. ❤️🙌🏼
That’s not femininity. That’s manipulation.
@@Margarita.NazarenkoAre they? Or are you just a shill for patriarchy?
No Off ence but to everyone who’s on this particular video I’m just here to tell this after watching the video (just to not have Judged it via the title)
That NO person, who’s in a “sane mind” would want anyone to be obsessed with them.
If you’re a woman who wants this or a man either?
Ask yourself why do you want this?
Didn’t u receive love in your childhood? This is a desire arising out of wounding and NOT your heart, stop this B S
And just focus on yourself !
Exactly, do you know that men listen to that and even they play games and manipulations because they learn from these gurus. So go figure it out, when you see your man is playing hand with you ,
I am 49 and still learning to have a positive long term relationship
I tested this and it works! The more I am busy with my hobbies, friends, trips etc, the more men are into me. I think they are more fascinated with my enthusiasm and passion than with me 😂😂 There is something magnetic about people who enjoy living and I think they just find this spark in me and cannot leave me alone 😅
I’m so happy you found found 😅the the 😊way too 😊 7:52 am in my office is not
100%!!
No Off ence but to everyone who’s on this particular video I’m just here to tell this after watching the video (just to not have Judged it via the title)
That NO person, who’s in a “sane mind” would want anyone to be obsessed with them.
If you’re a woman who wants this or a man either?
Ask yourself why do you want this?
Didn’t u receive love in your childhood? This is a desire arising out of wounding and NOT your heart, stop this B S
And just focus on yourself !
Yesss
What I love most about this is it truly is just about, “love and respect yourself and have fun in your life without his validation. If you don’t love and respect yourself, mind f** yourself until you do.”
I just love how she is. She’s authentic. I’m a body language expert. Her pontification, overall body language, look in her eyes, etc exudes no nonsense, hard facts, truth.
Pontification? LMAO!!! You should look the word up, dear.
@@siriusliliyou can tell when idiots google words. Pontificate can be an exaggerated way of expression that connotes certain behavior but does not MEAN same. It is often used to talk about one’s way of expressing through body language. Please go back to school. Your comprehension and contextual analysis skills are lacking.
I never knew how cute I was till I had my son 😊
You are what a friends girl should be, but never showed up- it seems like females are so busy traumatising each other toward lack of good judgment. Your type is giving hope. Recieving it feel like listening to a seashell found at the beach! I appreciate you.
Im only 17 and have been with my boyfriend for over a year and i can 10000% say that these work thanks margarita.Honestly haven't found anyone else who gives better advice for being in your feminine energy.
I'm really glad you're finding this info young. A lot of us are learning these things later in life.
Best of luck in your relationship! 💝
As a man I love these videos. I would suggest for women watching this to be aware that, for some men such as myself, coming off as too independent is a major turn off. As someone looking for a working professional, if you come off as so independent that you aren’t looking for companionship and I’m a secondary item in your life, then it can easily come off as emotionally unavailable. I want emotional availability. Vulnerability and trust. Being independent but willing and wanting to spend time with a new partner given a level of earned trust is very attractive. Too hard to get is exhausting. For what it’s worth.
They are mainly targetting rich and extremely attractive guys so it doesn't matter what the general male population thinks. If a woman wants real love she shouldn't pretend being playful or lighten the load when she herself has a lot going on. Those advices are for women who want to use the man for benefits not for those that are looking for real love. If a man really loves the core of you he wouldn't care how much hobbies you have or if you are too anxiously attached, he will love you. Unfortunately most men love with their eyes so it doesn't really matter as long as you are unbelievably hot, they will love you even with the worst character. The author is suggesting an unending game of pretend so you can keep your partner on the edge so he knows he can always lose you if he shows disrespect and that for me it too exhasting
It goes both ways.. an highly independent man that is too busy and emotionally unavailable is also a turn off for a non gold-digger woman. I’m looking for a companion not bread crumbs of a man and affection!
@@penka2954I disagree. A man of character isn’t going to deal with trash treatment just because she’s hot. There are millions of hot women..
In my opinion, saying this is designed for users is a cynical take. Being your best self means you are growing as a person. That includes learning about your attachment styles and, if they’re not as healthy, working on them so you can have healthier relationships. It means that you take the time to develop all parts of who you are, including the hobbies that fulfill you.
It is recognizing that your life shouldn’t be centered around another person, as a co-dependent relationship would be; nor being completely independent, which isn’t healthy, either; but having a healthy sense of interdependence with your partner. Both having your own hobbies, passions, and things that fulfill you so that you bring more passion and fulfillment to the relationship. All these concepts are supported by psych and relationship experts.
There are many women who become whatever they think a man wants them to be, and many marriages see the desire wane in a couple years. This advice is encouraging women to be more of themselves instead, so that they can have a more fulfilling and healthy relationship while keeping the attraction alive long term.
She addresses if a woman is too attached to attached too easily too. She also gives different situations and examples and states “if that’s what you’re looking for” to keep an open discussion. Cues and reminders, besides the general‘don’t nag’ but also why, and how to avoid it when you really might feel alone and ignored in the housework etc.
I learned these lessons on my own. I became co-dependent and l knew I had to detach. Started focusing on myself, mirroring his energy, etc. The more independent I became, the more he started to fall in love again. Its crazy how love works.
Make him feel however he desires to show up in this world and you will be irreplaceable 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
How would one go about finding out this?
@@sabrinalittle7914depends on the guy and his specific desires/aspirations. A pretty easy method of deciphering how he wants to be perceived is by considering what fictional characters he idolises, eg. a man who loves Batman/Superman most likely fantasises of being perceived by people as a hero. Make him feel like a hero and you’re on the right track!
@@sabrinalittle7914 if you spend time with him you will notice the things that are important to him. Men loved to be praised for the things that they put their energy into. Use your words of encouragement and acknowledge the ways that he’s amazing!
@@sabrinalittle7914 by making yourself interesting and easy to talk with and being willing to listen. Then he will want to share with you his hopes and dreams and what he is interested in. But when he does this- take advantage of the opportunity and show you want to be part of it in an authentic way (of course if you're not interested don't pretend to be but when something is interesting let him know you want to hear more and he is going to want to know what you think too).
Nothing is enough for some narcissistic arrogant toxic males
Salaams. Blessings to you all. Seek refuge in God from the need of having anyone obsessed with you. There is no god but God. Obsession is a form of worship. We have all been warned time and time again about a people that were destroyed for idol worship, not worshipping the 1 God, creator of all. This is surely a reminder to myself.
I love how you're constantly reminding women how to love themselves, how to put themselves first before any other because there are so many women including me who puts ourselves last. May God bless you Margarita. You're amazing ❤
As someone who's studying psychology and loves the topic of relationships, I find this being like textbook material. I love it. Thank you.
i love how your just simply sitting infront of the camera and just do some simple editing and get to the point right away♥️
She deserves way more audience
Girl's spitting facts. Plus i just love how mature and natural she is in the way she talks
Love this, Margarita! Your baby girl is so fortunate to have you as a mom. I love my mom but I was never given this kind of advice, I learned by trial and error. This is gold, here’s to us savvy ladies 🥂
Yup, since my self obsession journey started every guy I have gone out with has tried to make it a stable consistent thing
I went from anxious attachment to secure attachment, thank you for these videos they’re helping me become a better person❤❤❤❤.
The ancestors thing helps so much for self love. My family didn’t fight wars and immigrate for me to be down on myself. And I love looking like my mom and grandma. Why should I change? Brilliant.
I feel like I can watch your videos over and over, and still learn something new.
I'm new to your channel and I am enjoying it so far. When you mentioned how our features are a reflection of our ancestors, I nearly burst out crying. The trials and tribulations and joys they faced is unfathomable.. Wow! Thank you.
It’s interesting. I didn’t watch this to make him obsessed with me; I watched this to learn why he already was. Thank u.
Could you please make a video on how to get rid of men giving unsolicited/unwanted attention? Without inviting uncalled for wrath.
Thanks, I truly appreciate your wisdom. Will await the said video.
I love the idea of #10 - basically mirroring. Trying to make someone be something they are not by "setting an example" - that never works. But creating a lack that they have to step up and fill, much more effective.
Love everything you do, M!
Whats the difference between
I became so confident and content with myself that I feel no fear to remain forever alone. Rather that than sharing my time with someone who doesn't value me enough.
Your advice and knowledge is so valuable! I’m in my 40’s era and just getting out there again after divorce. I just hope you know what an absolute queen you are and I want to emulate you!
Re: being inconsistent I once saw a video saying you should make the man stressed😅 and I think the inconsistency really does help with adding that bit of stress. I have seen it work!
I needed this so bad. I'm such a drained mom and wife. I'm making a list right now how I'm going to take care and treasure myself. Thank you!
They are mainly targetting rich and extremely attractive guys so it doesn't matter what the general male population thinks. If a woman wants real love she shouldn't pretend being playful or lighten the load when she herself has a lot going on. This advices are for women who want to use the man for benefits, not for those who are looking for real love. If a man really loves the core of you he wouldn't care how many hobbies you have or if you are too anxiously attached, he will love you. Unfortunately, most men love with their eyes so it doesn't really matter as long as you are unbelievably hot, they will love you even with the worst character. The author is suggesting an unending game of pretend so you can keep your partner on the edge so he knows he can always lose you if he shows disrespect and that for me is too exhausting.
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Well, you have a beautiful family!! But yeah, gotta take time for yourself or you get burned out. ❤
@@penka2954Shut up
You go gorgeous!!
being playful and easy going is really the way to hook them in, and then the wifey act later on to keep them staying. you are spot on
Point eight was just pure magic. Very well worded. There’s a lot of information about the hero instinct but this was by far the most practical advice. Thank you!
Great video! My five year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, but I really miss him.
It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him.
That's incredible! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I contact one?
His name is Owen Abiola, and he’s an amazing spiritual counselor who specializes in bringing back lost loves.
Owen Abiola has incredible powers, and he can assist you.
Thank you for sharing this valuable information! I just looked him up online, and I'm impressed.
I was thinking the entire time that you look absolutely radiant, that you have a magical glow and then you said you're 8 months pregnant. Pregnancy looks amazing on you. 😊
It’s kinda crazy how nobody’s talking about the book womens magic truths on borlest
Because it’s a scam, boiii
Your delivery is amazing I know you're just talking at the camera but it's really clear and to the point and your personality and jokes are funny.
First time I listen to a video like this. The title was not really something I would go for but her content is amazing! No manipulation all about being yourself ❤
I love your content! It’s not hateful towards any gender and also very understanding towards all the roles. Thanks for your work!
You are actually incredible . Your changiny my life and helping me heal from horrific abuse . Thank you
Your videos have actually changed my life. Within a day I felt so detached (in a good way) from guys who hurt me and I feel a lot more confident.
Feminine energy is sooo important ! We love that
I absolutely love your advices and I realised I did and I am doing all of them, and my man treats me like a queen.And of course,it started after I saw myself as one and always pushing him away juuuust a bit,to make him want more.I would also add to never be afraid you might push him away by making more time for yourself.He will love that❤
No.4 is so so true. I lately just overcome a struggle with showing up for myself. I wasn't sure if I could do something but I try just to see if I can. It turns out to win myself back in confidence
Thank u for always bringing me back to my energy
I love you. I went from AP to SA. I learned to love myself first because of you and Thias Gibson. You two ladies are a god send to women. Thank you love!!!
As a woman I really admire you and your energy thank you for this acknowledge to the feminine world❤
Thank you for being the wiser older sister who I respect!!
This is why men Love Russian women. Because they take care of themselves, they are confident, they have high standards, while most women are basic and try to please men. Margarita gets it!! 🙌
men love russian women bcs they re pretty thats it 😂
Confidence, high standards, and self-care??? Is that why violence against women is legal in Russia?
@@MultiKatieBee what are you talking about? It’s not legal, you literally just made that
I can not stop watching all of these videos ! You have to be the most incredible human I’ve ever experienced
You have brought me hope again
Omg this video came to me at the right time and your advice is SPOT ON. I'm so happy to have watched this today! This just gave me a mood and confidence boost to keep myself as the priority but also play the game correctly. Thank you girl!!
I could listen to her all day
I'm finally up to date with all your podcasts. this is the video I started this whole journey with! Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and helping us out!
I realize now I lost my feminine energy during my marriage (been married for 5 years now) no thanks to COVID. Been working from home since the lockdowns etc... thank you for making me realize how just getting ready in the morning can change your whole mood. I started the journey of 'getting the old me back' 1 week ago and I already changed it's name to 'be your /better/ self' I feel thriving, confident, pretty and capable. I feel like nothing can stop me.
So thank you for doing this.
✨Sending you good vibes, a safe delivery and lots of love✨🥰
I love your energy! The way you deliver these videos really drills these steps and practises into my head
Thank you for the wisdom you share, Margarita! I have been loving your videos lately. 💕
On this video I have two comments:
1. I liked how you mentioned flirting. I have been married for 6 years and feel like I may have lost my ability to do that a little bit, so if you’re looking for video ideas, one on flirting would be really fun to watch. 😃
2. I also liked how you said to stop planning everything. One trick I’ve started to use is to plan things with my friends instead. That way I still feel fulfilled and am able to get out of the house and have a good time doing exactly what I want. My husband and I still do fun things together, but this way if he wants a weekend where we just stay home, I already feel fulfilled by something I have done, or am about to do, with friends.
Love you lots ❤
I love you, thank you for all you do ❤
My life has gone downhill a bit and my friends are very taxing and take advantage - so I’ve realised I’ve become bitter, but I also become heavy on my partner so I need to work on that! Pulling my energy back to me, as I feel drained, so I need to stop giving so much to friends and become happy with my life again!
My partner likes to provide and protect me. He said to me that he respected me as I didn’t change my schedule around, and didn’t kiss him on the first date and made my own way home. I wouldn’t let him take me all the way home for 6 dates. And we didn’t sleep together for 3 months. I know it’s not about the segs - it was about me keeping my boundaries, and taking charge of what I wanted in a relationship
I've been in a similar situation with friends so if you don't mind, I'm going to give you some advice. It is OKAY for you to tell a friend, especially if they call you, that you can't really talk right now because you're a bit spent. From what you've described about your life situation, this isn't untrue. Even if you aren't tired in THAT moment, it's about giving that time to *yourself* instead of to a friend, especially if it's one who doesn't return the favor.
Then the next time you speak to them, notice whether or not they checked in on *you*. Did they ask you if you're feeling better or what was going on? You need to realize that you are worth your own energy and dedication too. ❤
@@AspasiaB ah, I love this. Thank you so much for taking the time to read my comment and respond! I do need to remember that even if I’m not tired in that moment, I’m allowed to keep that peace for myself.
I find they tend to ask how I am - only as a way in to lump their problems onto me.
Even just one message where they lump their stuff has started to drain me so I do need to set some boundaries!
Thank you again 🩷
This advice works .. when””” I’m in my best state I naturally do these things .. take care of yourself first ❤️
Gotta say, this does work. I tell this all the time to myself, I say it in front of my husband, friends, in laws, etc. I don’t care if it sounds weird for some people,…is my life. The ones that I like the most are: I’m beautiful and I’m GORGEOUS! 😁💖
When you mentioned your ancestors being related to uour ancestors, my eyes are watery because rhats the reason why I'm so grateful to be so beautiful because I'm so Thankful that I made it into life because of them. This chanel is good for my soul.
Omg with the affirmations thing I would tell myself im beautiful and compliment myself and my ex hated it and would try to bring me down and compared himself to me as well. Left him because I don't need that negativity.
You’re my comfort person
I love this comment. I know exactly what you mean
Love these tips. When you're in your feminine, these things come naturally, people! Former stripper here ✋️ I know some people look down on being an adult entertainer but I never have felt so charged with feminine energy as I did as a stripper. It was a constant practice of feminine principles.
Now I'm in a long term relationship with kids and the dynamic is different. I would love to see a video on keeping that obsession going throughout a relationship.
Hi! 👋 just had an idea for you. Are you able to have an intimate space with a pole, where you can perform for your significant other? I feel like that would really be an awesome way to keep things spicy 😉 maybe some role playing as well. But there's much more needed to maintain a happy, playful, long term relationship. I am 24 and have been w my hubby since 13, have a toddler. Doing small sweet gestures on the regular, still trying to impress/show appreciation for eachother, trying new experiences together, continue persuing your hobbies- are all key I think to keeping that passion. Continue to give praise and communicate. My husband is still obsessed with me 100%. He tells me all the time and shows it.
Idk if any of that was helpful, maybe you already knew those things. But that is what I thought I would share after reading your comment. :) wish you the best!
Where have you been all my life ! I wasted so much time listening to other relationship coaches who made me feel angry and vulnerable towards men ! U speak gold girl ! Every sentence make sense thank you so much 💝
I recently went through a tough breakup. My 5-year relationship ended a month ago, and it's been really hard for me. I still love my ex-girlfriend so much and can't stop thinking about her. I've tried everything to win her back, but nothing has worked. It's frustrating, and I can't imagine being with anyone else. I've been trying to move on, but I can't seem to get her out of my mind. I know it might sound strange to share this here, but I miss her a lot and just can't stop thinking about her.
I understand the pain of letting go of someone you love. I went through a similar situation when my 12-year relationship ended. I couldn't just let her go, so I did everything I could to win her back. I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, and their guidance ultimately helped me to bring her back into my life.
Amazing! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I contact them?"
His name is Fatherabulu, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can help restore your relationship with your ex.
Thanks for sharing this valuable information. I just looked him up online and I'm impressed.
@@BenjaminJones-re8re😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
I’ve been binge watching similar videos and this is the best one I’ve watched!
This is so damn spot on. I have done so many of these by accident and yes they work
Wow. Your content, Margarita is so valuable. I've listened to countless podcasts/interviews with all sorts of experts. But your advice just makes sense to me instinctively. I now understand that I just need to tap into my own feminine energy (which I already HAVE but have been afraid to fully explore). You have decreased my anxiety about the whole love/dating thing just by helping me understand myself as a woman. I don't have to force myself to believe in me, like I was told previously. I now see my value, and so it feels so much more effortless. Many other people's advice just made me more confused or anxious, but your content literally does the opposite. And with concrete examples & not beating around the bush either. Thanks so much!
I'm going to watch all your videos...Why do I discover your channel only now....???? That's tragic.
You're a true genius. Thank you so much 🙌
I agree 100% however I want to add that the right guy who’s wholly in his masculine energy makes you do these things automatically…!!!
TOTALLY AGREE APPRECIATE YOUR ANCESTORS WHO MADE YOU LOOK WHO YOU ARE!!!
I have just discovered your channel and it's such a breath of fresh air. You say same things as shera seven but way more healthily. She has some solid advice but if you want a husband to love for life, that's not gonna play out. Also, being dishonest weigh on your conscience too and is tiring. Thank you so much for this, margarita. Much love❤
You are super cool and your advices are GOLD
You are so clever, thanks for sharing your insight with us 🙌🏾👏🏾
I love watching you speaking about the feminine energy.
Halfway through the video and I had to pause to go buy your courses! Ended up getting the bundle, can't wait to learn something new!! 😁
How sorry I am that I didn't discover you earlier..
Thank you for all the advice and wisdom you share with us all.
I look forward to every new video and wish you all the best!
Although I knew that points before and read in a comment, it was worth listening because the explanation and elaboration is great.
Thank you margarita! You really help me build a healthy self love for myself that no one has taught me.
You are the best youtuber! Period!
This video is a game-changer! So much helpful information packed into one clip. I personally don't like promoting anything in comments,
I love and appreciate your vids! Daily transforming into the woman I was created to be! 💛
I wish I had a women like you speaking to me in my early 20s. I’ve spent my entire life hating myself and being so “independent” that I pushed away the person I really wanted. My attitude towards myself impacted my ability to connect with him.
Now I’m all alone.
I use all of these and they 100% work
love your videos!! everything so interesting and straight to the point !!!💕💕💕
I like the egocentric comment because initially it seems guys are attracted to the female narcissist. Not because they really want a narcissist but because of what she is showing in the beginning before they see all the other sides of narcissistic behavior. I mention this because there is something that can be learned from this. We can take part of this and use it in this process in changing our thinking 🤔
Would love to hear more episodes on dating while in your feminine energy in your 30s. career driven and no children (yet). love you M!!!!! ❤
Yes please 😊
I feel like I'm turning into Being Her more and more each day!! So exceptionally grateful for M! She's the female rolemodel I needed. xoxo @@aestheticallydd252
and how to be light and playful :)
I know I can take a lot of this advice even though I've been in a relationship for 15 years. But I would love a video that specifically talks about how to deploy these types of tips in a long-term relationship. Especially one with kids!
The way you explain is truly amezing... Thank you Margarita 😊
Married for 20 years. I am a stubborn, honest, authentic woman who isn’t afraid to complain and have no issues keeping or attracting dudes in my life. Not sure about the overly easy tactic. Men actually love someone with passion, depth, and a bit of a challenge is always good. 😊
Literally the best channel I’ve seen today ❤
Fantastic help here Margarita, been watching your videos and they are simply one of a kind. Good luck with your baby and rest often.
this is a lifesaver: 10. If you have a passive man , do not push or be aggressive, become more passive like him. Thank you, ❤you
When I heard you were a mom. Instant subscription! I never find this type of content for mothers, let alone single mommas
Thank you greatly for this "pooping thing" in front of our loved one.exactly like you said. I said myself million times this is not intimacy people think this is intimacy but is not intimacy. Period.
Me, sitting here like a lump of coal; "ah, I see, I see.."
Haha, you're great and every point is so well analyzed and discussed with clarity. Thank you for your content and effort Margarita.
That was me. She said that and I was like "oh no I'm a lump of coal"
Girl I have been going through so much shiiiii but I am soooooo glad I found your video
That's amazing! I'm super grateful for your advice! ❤
I'm low key obsessed with this woman likeeee daaaaamn how are you so PERFECT