Can You Pass Herpes When You Don’t Have an Outbreak ? - Life With Herpes - Episode 06
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 5 ส.ค. 2017
- In this video, Alexandra Harbushka from Life With Herpes shares how herpes can be transmitted even without an outbreak.
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About this video:
An old rumor was that herpes can only be transmitted when an outbreak is present. Unfortunately, that's 100% false! There's this thing called viral shedding where a person infected with herpes can unknowingly transmit it to and an uninfected person.
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bottom line... one is most contagious when having an outbreak.... and way less contagious when NOT having an outbreak (keep your immune system up at all times as much as possible and this will increase not being contagious when not having an outbreak) as well as keeping body-hygiene the focus this will also increase less shedding when not having an outbreak..... too add to that, viral shedding decreases over time
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I love what you're doing, You'll help many...Lucky Deluxe
The problem is i never had sores.just mild headaches and muscle pain.will i still be infecting my partner if i dont have skin breakouts?im about more than 10 years with it,im really scared of commitments bec of this.
thanks alexandra you so smart and educating us on hsv-1, hsv-2. no one told me anything about this i am 60plus year old male, found out about hsv-1, millions of us have tested positive for this herpes hsv-1, it can become genital herpes. i was shocked about this fact. Found you on you tube. You are very brave and doing a great service by educating we common folk. thanks a million, keep up the good work.
Hi! I’m not finding that google form you mentioned in the beginning of the video.
Is it strictly skin to skin?
What do you do if your exposed to it?
I will say this. I usually have an outbreak about once a year and I was married for several years. She was aware of it and she never got it. I was actually in a relationship when I got it. It's a pretty messed-up thing because I wasn't sleeping around or anything. If you tell someone you have it nine times out of ten they won't even date you. So I am ashamed to also say I have been with people I didn't tell when I did not have an outbreak and I know them and I've never got a message from any of them telling me that they came down with it. So I'm thinking it's not as easily pass on if you do not have an outbreak
Do u have type 2 and didn’t give it to your partner? What are the chances for the other person to have it?
@@ilegallaws3741 I don't know type I just know I was with several that are still my friends one was a wife for 2 years. None got it and I'm sure they would say if they did
I disagree, that has not been proven, u r speculating.
@andrewbrann6231 bottom line... one is most contagious when having an outbreak.... and way less contagious when NOT having an outbreak (keep your immune system up at all times as much as possible and this will increase not being contagious when not having an outbreak) as well as keeping body-hygiene the focus this will also increase less shedding when not having an outbreak..... too add to that, viral shedding decreases over time
My ex told me he has it and I’m lookin into the videos we used to date 20 yrs ago and we haven’t had any contact yet he saw me on fb and I wanna know about this these things I’m very open minded I wanted to give him a chance cus he was good boyfriend to me we lost contact outta of no where cus back then there was no cellphone no cams no nothing 😂 but yeah I want to know how risky it is his a really good guy he told me he take medz everyday
Also people who transmit herpes asymptomatically, never have outbreaks. They have other symptoms that flare, fatigue, fever.
How can I gain access to the Ebook?
Been w my partner for 5 years and never had it. He has hsv1
How did you prepare yourself mentally for dating your partner and having sex with your partner? So my situation is I dated this person back in elementary, middle school, and some of high school we broke up (no bad blood on either end life happens) long story short I have 3 kids now and the person I am interested in has herpes when they told me they have it I was hurt because I really like that person we are in the talking stage now but I am doing my research just in case but I’m kind of nervous too. how were you able to handle your situation? And became so accepting of your partner’s situation?
I'm a class A truck driver my childhood crush/gf is an Officer in the Navy. I just straight up told her and she was okay with it. I just told her 3 hours ago and I'm still suffering inside because I felt I needed to tell her I have HSV1.
@@blucollar3003 well there's no adverse effects to contracting the virus. Just make sure your crush is on antivirals or at at least lysine. And honestly I would treat your situation like the herpes is a wedding ring.
How do you prevent it from giving it your partner ?
How did u prevent contracting it
I have HSV-1 IgG test which came positive (22.5 index) but I never had any outbreaks or symptoms yet ever. Can this result be false positive? What should I do now? Any if i never had any symptoms, doctor told me to not take any anti viral medication? I am worried it to transmit to my gf even if I don't have symptoms in future.
You can get antivirals prescribed by Herpalert, if your doctor won't.
www.lifewithherpes.com/diagnosis
But, most of all is important to communicate with your gf and see what works for you both.
I am scared to pass it to my four year old baby please let me know I am crying and sad 😞 I have a baby and I’m scared he will get it in his eyes
Hi
good evening can u send me the lick please I need the book
Sorry, I don't understand
@@lifewithherpes link
Oh, yes. Thank you www.lifewithherpes.com/outbreaktoolkit
Hi I know this is an old video, but I am a person with health anxiety and I just smoked with my friend who said he has had a cold sore before, but it’s been years for him, but I felt his saliva on the end of the cigar and now I’m freaking out and will probably have extreme anxiety for the next 12 days. Is this justified or should I not be worried?
Since 80% of the population has HSV1, usually in a form of cold sores, you've probably come in contact with it many times before, you just don't know. It's very unlikely you got it, unless he had an outbreak. So, we would advise against worrying :).
@@lifewithherpes thank you!! I actually found out a lot of my friends have it
I’m so confused. Today my doctor told me that my partner wouldn’t catch it by kissing if I don’t have a cold sore. He said that he can only catch it if I have a active outbreak on my lips
Yes, that is what it was used to believe and sadly, many doctors still claiming that. The truth is, there is asymptomatic shedding that can occur with every virus, and most commonly, then is when we transmit.
However, that doesn't mean you need to stop kissing or having sex. It just means to communicate and your partner will have to accept that there's a small chance for that happening. Part of the relationship, part of accepting things about our partners.
@@lifewithherpes how small is the chance? It's kind of hard to date when I'm always worried about contracting oral herpes
Ya when I tell people I got it and they freak the f out. Maybe cuz I live in smell A. Thinking about living In the woods alone somewhere. Nothing works by the way. Eat right , vitamins don't work Ether.
@@gyroxaver6897 bottom line... one is most contagious when having an outbreak.... and way less contagious when NOT having an outbreak (keep your immune system up at all times as much as possible and this will increase not being contagious when not having an outbreak) as well as keeping body-hygiene the focus this will also increase less shedding when not having an outbreak..... too add to that, viral shedding decreases over time
Very rare it's like a 4% chance in your life time to pass it on without an open sore
Mam I mean do we pass the infection normally through physical contact?😭 see iam staying in a family and sometimes how many time you will be aware of this things but.. sometimes daily routine sometimes can get worse too and sometimes and in the. Night my younger bruh sleep in my arms and he hug me so even that can lead to pass? The infection???
It has to be skin to skin contact - it is not that easily that you come into contact with it just by living in the same house, especially if you have genital herpes.
@@lifewithherpeswhat if my gf has genitsl herpes and i use a condom while not on an outbreak.
How long for the blister to pop up?
Mostly after 2-12 days of the exposure. But most of people that have herpes are asymptomatic that is why it is important to get tested. I knew one of my friend that told me about having an unprotected sex with someone and unfortunately the outbreak started in one year later so he got tested and got HSV1 positive.
But how suppose to know when the doctor can’t even test you if you don’t have no out break
Don't ask the clinic. The clinic won't do it unless u gave an outbreak. Ask your general care physician to check your blood.
Did you give it to your husband now?
I really want to get educated about this but it takes so long for you to get to the point. My attention span isn’t long enough even I just need 1 answer.
🤣🤣🤣🤣I'm right there with you on this. But it's ok
The secret to life is never a simple answer 😂
Hi I'm jithu I got herepes and can we live Normal and can we get married ???
valluri jithu I’m happily married myself, just found out I have it.
I just found out
So does skin to skin mean any type of skin to skin. Via hug, kiss, handshake, back rub? Or just strictly secual contact?
Depends where you have it. If it's on your lips, then whoever you kiss or touches your lips. It could be your grandma's kissing you goodbye when you were a kid.
@lifewithherpes Well, in my case, I happen to have a different form of hsv-1 that's identified as Mat herpes. Which is very common amonst wrestlers. I've never had a cold sore or a genital wart. But I happen to get a circle-patch of warts on either the right side of my forehead or right side behind my neck, right where it connects to my shoulder whenever ever it's an active outbreak. However, when I was infected, it was on my left middle finger from the opening wound of the cuticle of my finger. So essentially, the rule has been , as it's been taught or suggested to me. Is to make no contact when active, making sure the outbroke area isn't making contact with anyone else , with the exception of being on Anti-virals for 3 days that would allow me participate on a wrestling mat or otherwise spread by the cross of my sweat. Personally, I just take the week off it's not a grand event. But back in my high school days, it was " Take your medicine and get back to work."" Now, as far as my sex life , I've never given it to anyone "that I know of, " both protected and unprotected sex . I've never had sex with an outbreak, but I've exchanged sexual fluids on maybe more half of my affairs, but no passing of any infections "that I know of." With those results , I simply got into the habit of never disclosing that information cause it looked like I couldn't pass it genitaly or by lip let alone any skin part as long as I just wasn't active in general. Via. Up until now, a previous partner who also had Hsv-1 on the lips and wasn't broken out when we were making sexual contact. Except until one night, she was freshly shaven and woke up with an outbreak on the right side of the vaginal labia the next morning. And test positive for hsv-2 about a week later. I do have a consideration that she may have gotten that from someone else because that first outbreak didn't come until a month after we started making sexual contact . But then again, it may have just not been ready to break out, yet since she was mentioning other symptoms, she also proclaimed about the history of sensitivity down there. So, at this point, I could have very well given to her. It could have passed from her Hsv-1, but both of us were never active in hsv-1 " that i know of." I have still yet to not have a lip or genital breakout since her breakout, and I remember I hadn't even taken a shower until the end of that day since we were trying to schedule a check up all day since her breakout. Either way, I know that was a lot - it may be possible - but also with my ever lack of any outbreak , my last one being waaaaay prior to her, and still no present to future outbreak now. Do all those contradicting factors justify or explain or rather Heavily Infer that she may have done very well indeed contract Hsv-2 from me "even though I didnt or don't have it" . Especially since with no outbreak following hers, the doctor told me the hsv-2 test would require an outbreak to be happening in order to confirm the results or otherwise the test will always come out a " False-positive " if an active outbreak wasn't present. And her doctor still explained that my (Hsv-1 /mat herpes ) couldn't spread unless broke out 🤷🏽♂️
Im new to herpes and I was just diagnosed I've been on medication but im afraid because my daughter kissed me on the cheek and im afraid any contact with her is gonna pass it to her .....she's 4 PLEASE HELP
Do you have genital or oral herpes?
@@lifewithherpes both
Hi, you have to live life and kissing and loving your daughter is a part of life! I truly believe you would do more harm if you'd be avoiding her and not showing love to her, than she potentially getting herpes somewhere along the way. I know it sounds scary, but herpes is sooo common and many children got it, especially in the past, when herpes wasn't such a stigma and people didn't think much about it. Please see this video I made recently. th-cam.com/video/VXm2JliJTb0/w-d-xo.html
@@lifewithherpes shame on you why would you encourage your mother to expose her child to herpes what if that child grows up in the future and wants to marry someone or relationship gets called off because of her herpes infection add advice shame on you
Please don’t normalize herpes. Statistics may tell it is common but it does not mean we should be spreading it.
What happens if u don’t take medicine
Nothing wrong if you don't want to take the medicine. The outbreak will clear on its own, it just needs a bit more time to do that.
Can i go down on a girl if i have hsv2? Or can she catch herpes?
If you have oral herpes, she can get it by you performing oral sex on her. If you have genital herpes, she won't get it like that. The most important thing is to discuss what works for you as a couple.
What if the person lied about taking antiviral medicine follow by denying they have it to you
Leave
@@ajnazatahm I did and I'm taking them 2 court for lying
Yes u can. 😭 Ex bf didn't even know he had it thus, 🤢💩
People dont care to be honest. They are ok to pass it cuz they want ppl to feel how they feel.
I just want it all to end. I didn’t know I could pass it without sores present. I feel extremely guilty and I’ll never feel good about myself again. This sucks
@@jbeezy126 don’t feel bad you didn’t know. But now you’re educated so just live your life more carefully now moving forward. You still have a beautiful long life to live
100% true. At least they are having S E X , while being honest gets us a PC Screen.
And that’s an evil person.
How long after your exposed from the partner that has it after sex how long does it take for the first breakout ?
It can be 2 days, but it can also be years, or even decades.
@@lifewithherpes I had unprotected sex with my partner we've been dating for 5 months and had sex once with no symptoms, what's the chances of him catching it??
@@tryit_bruh4057 What ended up happening with your partner? Did he end up catching it? I just found myself in the same situation and am curious as to what happened. Thanks for sharing!
So if you have oral with someone who has it can you not get it? If they are not active
YOu can still pass it, even without an outbreak. Herpes is transmitted with skin to skin contact, wherever the person has herpes, that's where they're contagious. If they have it orally, they can transmit it through oral sёx, or by kissing.
You said that you can pass it to your partner blah blah blah but you haven't pass it to yours, I think everyone is different, I heard stories of people that never passed it even thou they don't take any voltrex or use condoms. We should studie our own bodies and find out our own answers.
You can, doesn't mean you will.
The thing is that many people are not aware they can pass it, unless they have an outbreak. Even some doctors are still saying it, but in reality, most of the times herpes is transmitted when there are no symptoms present. So, one should be aware of that.
My doctor told me its slight that I can give it to someone else and only because of my numbers I'm at a low positive so for now I just take my Lysine pills to prevent outbreaks which I really only had 1 small outbreak and that was last year
Ok so is it possible not to contract it if they don't have an outbreak? Or is it 100%
If a person does not have an outbreak at the time, there is very little chance of transmission. But, still, there is
@@lifewithherpeswhat if it’s only one sexual encounter?
What if it was a quick kiss?
@@adamjustadamyou can take antiviral herbs to help you from transmitting.
@@adamjustadamur done man
I tested positive 4 days ago for both 1&2. I've never had an outbreak, I've already had unprotected sex with my partner. How do I go about telling my partner is a possibility he may have it. I'm super scared.
Just by being honest. If you were not hiding something from him, you don't need to blame yourself. Just explain what happened. So, first thing I would point out is to get educated. When you dig in and realize it's basically an annoying skin rash and it has very little impact on your health, you will probably be able to see things differently and feel more comfortable when telling your partner. The fear about herpes mainly comes from stigma society created.
Don't make a big fuss out of it, tell the truth, offer to educate him on this matter and of course, suggest taking all the necessary precautions so the chances of transmission are lower.. The fact is, people who disclose are less likely to transmit, because they communicate about what is going on.
Update? Does he have it ??
@@lifewithherpes thank you..
@@bglus4588 I broke it off because of fear, he went and got tested, he’s negative…I
Confuse on how that’s possible
I'm broken I feel like I'm never going to find woman to create a life with
Telling A new woman is executing... Most women I've told run away
I haven't been dating in 4 or 5 years
@@tbone541 its okay, you dont need a woman
What if you don’t have an outbreak and your using a condom ?
Won’t be transmissible.
I feel so awful I didn’t tell my partner that I have herpes I regret it not telling him I was hoping you will say no 😞😭
His blood test came out negative 🙏🏽🙏🏽
All praises 💕💕
I want to have a kid with my bf and I’m not breaking out do you think I would succeed without giving him it
may I ask? did you and your partner have sex without condom and his result still came out negative?
@@stacey8175 I’m going through something similar I don’t know what to do now, did you ended up telling him? How many times were you intimate before you told him? I would appreciate your response please.
Did you eventually tell him? I’m in the same boat
now that you have herpes . Do you still have sex or not sex at all? or do you have protected sex or not protected at all.?
Yes, I still do. There are plenty videos on here with me & my husband talking about it
OMG learn to adjust your intro volume !!!! the intro to your video is WAY to LOUD!!!
Just cure it already with bioresonance.
What is that? I need to cure mine 😢
You're giving incorrect information!!
The video starts at 2:46.
You can have unprotected sex while the virus is dormant. With shedding, your husband may not feel anything, but I do, which I would assume many other people do too. I feel like I get dry, itchy skin when I'm shedding. I've had the virus for over 13 years, and in that 13 years, I was married for 5 of them. I always had unprotected sex with my now ex-wife, and other partners after my marriage. To this day I have never passed on the virus. Every day in the shower, or when I go to the toilet, I look at it and know well beforehand if I am getting a break out. As soon as I have a break out, I inform my partner, and we abstain from any sexual activity, unless my partner is feeling frisky, so then I please her orally or with my hands. You just have to be very aware that you don't touch yourself. So please, before you go spreading fear through misinformation, do some more broader research, as not everyones condition is the same as your husbands. Thanks 👍
My partner has it. He didn’t tell me until after I had a prolapse and he panicked so I got checked and was negative and assured me it wouldn’t happen to me as he wasn’t having an outbreak, I hate myself for this but I slept with him again unprotected just once and now I’ve got it and he doesn’t care 😢 I haven’t been tested again but I have blisters that are getting sore. I feel like my life is over I literally have no one to turn to 😢
@@kayleighsmith8623 its not over , they have dildo