My take home lesson is "If someone rejects you, believe them. Do not force yourself on anyone. There's someone that will love you for you." You guys are amazing 👏 👏
You will. I joined Alexandra’s support group and it’s been really helpful. Did you know statistically more people have herpes than people who don’t? It’s kinda crazy. We all go on to get married, have kids and a normal life like everyone else. When you boil down to it, herpes is just a skin condition. Alexandra’s group has helped me a ton. :) Hang in there.
Just found an amazing man that has herpes and I’m here educating myself. I’m such a picky person but damn he’s amazing. And this just relieved so much stress for me!
God is Love well just a little update. This man is my soulmate. We both fell in love with each other and each other’s kids. Herpes didn’t play a role at all in our relationship at all!! We have fun, exciting sex and we’re very much in love!! It’s possible!
I just posted a very similar comment, I'm scared of this potential health risk but i also haven't met someone that makes me so happy in a long time. I'm so confused.
I LOVE THIS! My husband agreed with everything your husband said. Since day 1 my husband has been so accepting of me and has never made me feel like lesser than. I love that you're educating people and trying to break the horrifying stigmas attached this herpes.
Has your husband contracted hsv from you? I’m starting a new relationship and I’ll be devastated to give it to my partner just hoping to hear some happy ending stories
Of course you will find him honey. No matter what , you will be always worthy . Never lose your hope. I still believe and dream about the love. I am waiting, staying strong because I know it will be worthed in the end. We deserve to love and to be loved. We will Break the stigma!You know it has been almostly a year and it feels really good to say no to people who stigmatize. Nevermind all assholes that tell you cant be loved. Love can exist under every circumstances. Love you girl, stay 💪 ❤️
There are a lot of men out there who are accepting. I just started dating on Positive Singles, and even though I haven't had much luck yet, there are TONS of women and men with herpes on there. It's the vast majority, at least.
Your videos are really helping me get educated on this subject, and learn about this topic. I found myself really falling for a woman who opened up and told me she had herpes, and I don't find myself bothered by it.
Thank you so much for this video. I jus started seeing a woman that's hsv2 positive. She encouraged me to get educated and she herself told me her whole story and seemed very educated . She sounded like you telling me about it and I very much reacted like him! Yall are so cute together!!
I know this was posted a year ago... but, I think it's incredibly supportive and compassionate that you are on here trying to educate yourself. And you came from a place of no judgment. 💓
Bill is as sweet as my husband is... He said when I told him that even if it was HIV I had he would still be fine.... I'm currently on antiviral cos I don't want him to contact it but he doesn't even mind... He loves and accepts me just like that... Just like Bill he feels we have been together for a long time even before we met... Indeed there are sweet men out there.. Bill and my husband are two of them..
I just got diagnosed and my partner gave it to me. Sadly, they were not well informed about how it was transmitted. Rather than fall into a deep depression, the best thing I can do is get educated and prevent myself from passing it on. It’s just part of my story now 🤷🏻♀️
First, you and your husband are amazing and so honest and admirable. I wish I had this channel when I got the news. It was 2005 and I was 55 and had gone through a terrible 10 year breakup after a previous divorce. Had finally started dating someone and did have fun but after a year got the shocking diagnosis after a biopsy of a nasty open sore on my thigh. He had a hard time admitting he had herpes.. what's the big deal, everyone has it.. we went our separate ways, and I met the LOML :) who I am still with to this day at 72. Like you, I was honest with him up front, and he proved his worth. Unfortunately, the guy who infected me is still serial dating and probably not admitting anything. Thankfully over the years my outbreaks are infrequent, maybe once per year following a proper diet and supplement routine, keeping stress low and getting the rest I need. Thank you for all you do and helping to try and alleviate the stigma of herpes.
You can tell just how much you guys love each other ❤️ He adores you and believes in you, which is so cool. And you can tell you’re smitten with him. You guys are terrific. 😃
Thats just it. You can get a test show negative and still have it. You could never have symptoms and still be contagious. Personaly I dont want to be alone. More importantly when you find someone you want to love. Thats love.
I just started dating someone I really like, she has herpes and I was in the exact position Bill was in. I didn't know a whole lot about it, but I want to know more, that's what brought me to this video. Even just doing a bit of research made me understand it in a way that got rid of the stigma for me. I really appreciate this video and the perspective it provides, it truly brought me all the comfort I was looking for, thank you both so much! You both are adorable by the way, cheers!
I REALLY want to thank you for sharing this video. I was diagnosed recently and had to end a relationship with someone who couldn't handle it. It was hard for the both of us but best to separate before things got toxic. Anyways, thank you for sharing.
I dated someone who gave me herpes. I was furious. Cus I feel like no girl will want nothing to do with me when I tell her. Like how. Why me. I’m a fireman, I took care of my parents. I like helping others. But it was my downfall. I helped too much and left myself for last. Trying to get a new home in this shitty market, so I can start over mentally. I stay fit, take my job seriously, and I’m done messing around with meaningless flings. I need a wife. Someone that gets it. But I’ve closed my heart to any woman. And been working on myself. I have a dog and my boy keeps me company. But a man needs more than a dog. And I’m sick and tired of these times. No one has the honor and loyalty to put in a family anymore. That’s worth more than anything. Broken families aren’t fun. And I promised myself to break the chain of broken families in my family tree. That’s if I ever have one. Evil ass world these days. That’s all I can say. One day at a time I guess …
Hi, sorry to hear. A person who loves you will love you with herpes or not. In life, there are far greater things to worry than herpes - and it goes both ways. The way you have to accept your partner, the way she will have to accept things about you - and it will not be just herpes. There are plenty people who value traditional values, just need to get out and find them. Take time to heal from those views on life you have. It takes some swlf-work, but it's worth it
I feel similar to you. The ex who gave me herpes left me for someone else. I'm sure you will find someone. I am a single mom with herpes. No one wants me. I've been called names and ghosted. This virus is so bad. I know it is a consequence of your actions, but the stigma is what hurts our chances at relationships. I am hoping for the best one day!
My girlfriend has this i love her and accepted it. Unfortunately I've just been diagnosed with herpes type 2. I knew the risk and obviously im a bit gutted but I knew the risks and would never blame her. Going through my first outbreak right now. I feel unwell my genitals feel like they've been stomped on and it hurts too pee.
Nah once he get it he might regret it !!! He talks like that because he is her husband but if they end up braking up he might not be so lucky to find a a woman as fool as him ; willing to risk their health
3 years later and your video is still changing lives, girl don’t watch the views and likes, what you do for people worldwide can never be repaid. I wish you all the best that life has to offer🙏🏾
Alot of ppl think that once u got it u can't have anyone. My friends always told me to stay away from her because she got it. Yes it's easier for woman to get some one compare a man but someone who have herpes dosnt mean they deserve to be alone. The woman im with today im glad I made the choice to be with her. She has been my best friend for 9 years and with her condition we just have to be careful and learn more
The guy that gave it to me didn't even give me chance to see if I was gonna deal with him after. He didn't say anything and now I'm suffering I miss being healthy I've definitely learned my lesson😢
Some of us aren’t that lucky, telling ppl who you like and would like to be in a relationship with turn you down and constantly happens makes me feel like I have no reason to even try anymore
So i just went on my 2nd date with a guy i really like and he disclosed to me last night. I'm nervous i don't want to stop seeing him but i feel like i need educate myself as much as possible before i make a decision on what to do. I really don't want to stop seeing him but it also changes my preperceived notion on a typical time line for when sex is to become part of our relationship. The other thing making it harder on me is that he keeps telling me he's used to being alone and that i don't have to stay. I almost feel like he's trying to push me away and then i think maybe he's used to people he's disclosed to before just running away as fast as possible and he doesn't want to take the chance on us getting close and then i leave. Any thoughts on that theory? Long story short, it wasn't a deal breaker per se i just feel i need to do some research to be able to make the best decision for me stayed healthy and him being comfortable that i like him enough to take the chance . Any help or encouragement is welcome, in actually really struggling here between my feelings for him but also that he poses a threat to my health.
Literally me. Literally. He told me our second date and now I'm trying to educate myself before I reach out to him. I really like him. Being with him is so comfortable but I don't know how to do this. What did you end up doing?
This is me too. I feel like I'm rejecting him. He has hsv2. I can feel he's pushing me away not to be rejected yet again. I like him and I'm trying to educate myself. It still scares me because I want to stay healthy.
There are worse things for the health. It varies between people how bad it is. It doesn't kill or injure, but it can lead to complications like a hard time emptying bladder because of inflammation. These complications are rare. So how bad does it really get? And how rare are the results? I hope you consider the whole picture of who he is and not let fear and weakness have the final say.
I just became girlfriend to a man with herpes, he found it really hard to tell me but i don't blame him. I accepted him but honestly he's as lost as i am on information about how to treat himself and isn't even sure if he does have it. His doctors neglected him and didn't prioritize telling him of his condition or explaining to him what herpes was or how to not spread it or even telling him its a lifelong thing. But seeing this video really calms me down so much, he was scared and kind of hopeless, but in reality we just need to educate ourselves a bit more and I believe we will be very happy together God willing ❤🥰
How soon do you think a person should share the info that they have herpes? What if they weren't into you like that...what if they end up feeling like you waited to long to tell?
I think as soon as you can tell them. Even if you’re scared, or think they will shame you or reject you. Aside from telling them, you have to be real with yourself and know it’s gunna be okay because it will be okay.
Yes Bill is correct, the fact that he received the breast milk from his mother at birth, gave him the antibodies, with a foundation for a strong immune system to fight off infections.
I kind of feel hopeless that a girl won’t except me for it, I know it’s going to be very hard but I just need to find the right girl. I know it’s possible to everyone who has it don’t give up you’ll find your person.😇
I told my partner that I have herpes on Saturday. It was embarrassing. I couldn’t stop crying . Part of me wants him to go away . I’m a good person . But I feel like having this isn’t ok :( :( :(
sweet heart of course your a good person. having it isnt even a big deal. people dont make a big deal with cold soars on the lips! its just cold sores in different place that probably doesnt even show up very often. so many people have it that don't even know it. I hope you feel better and always know your self worth.
Dee donutz thank you for your kind words . We broke up today . He says he wasn’t ready for a relationship :( and I feel horrible. Is it bad that I want a family and to be married or am I asking too much :(
Kayla Ray Alexandra actually has a great support group online. I’ve gotten to know her and she is terrific. Herpes is just an annoying skin condition and shouldn’t take away anything else in life. So many of us go on to get married, have kids and have normal lives like everyone else. Also, statistically more people have herpes than people who don’t.
What I don’t understand is if it isn’t that bad why do people look at those people who have like they are monsters ? My ex look at like I was disgusting :(
Kayla Ray it’s solely because of the stigma. Statistically more people have herpes than people who don’t. I’m part of Alexandra’s support group and it’s awesome. Also there is a TedTalk by Ella Dawson on the subject too. Hang in there! Lots of us have normal lives and get married and have kids etc.
I found the women of my dreams and she has hvs1 and this gives me hope that things can work with her, like your husband i was thinking if this will shorten my life and all, but im glad theres things i can do!
HI! love this video,,,you guys are so funny! My 18 year old step daughter was just diagnosed and she is having a very hard time. Can you recommend any support groups for younger people like her?
She can come to our group if she wants to. We have lots of young people in there. She can also stay totally anonymous. we'd love to have her. We also have weekly Monday calls she can join. They're really helpful and everybody can ask and share. It's usually a smaller group of people. www.lifewithherpes.com/secretsociety
Your channel is awesome ultimately I feel so much better knowing I’m gonna be okay and that I won’t die from herpes more than likely if this something like hiv or cancer then yeah I’d be sweating bullets just think how many things happen to people everyday that are so much worse lije cancer lukemia even diabetes and being overweight is worse than herpes and like heart diesease. I’m 28 and this is the first time in my life I’ve ever been diagnosed with any kinda condition. I’m just thankful all my blood levels were normal
Im sitting here waiting for results and extremely nervous. My ex has hsv2 and failed to tell me. He's still never admitted it. And I myself dont believe he's ever been tested nor treated. But the sores I noticed were undeniable. And that was my very last time with him. Makes me angry because I am now on the brink of a brand new relationship and I really like this person. But I cant bring myself to continue pursuing it if I do end up positive.
I wish you would’ve went into more details about unprotected sex. How after all this time Bill has not caught hsv. All you seem to say is to communicate, but viral shedding is something out of our control. I’m still very confused on how not to transmit it to my monogamous partner.
My boyfriend lied to me about getting tested for herpes after I was adamant about not having sex with him until he got his results back. Instead of getting tested he had his friend leave him a message and lie that all results came back negative portraying as a doctor. I fell for it and ended up with hsv 2 from him, should I press charges.
Hi, please check our Secret Society. You'll find a lot of nice people to talk to and you can join our Monday calls, where we discuss herpes related questions. We'd love to have you! www.lifewithherpes.com/secretsociety
Man, I hope one day I find a woman similar to her. I have hsv-2 and rejection has been a sharp double-edged sword. I have thought about killing myself over just the fact that I would never find love as a man with this virus. I guess I'm so focused on the intimacy part. I'm just so afraid of the rejection part that it discourages me from pursuing any woman.
You will find love and acceptance when you find a way to accept this yourself. Trust me. Beating yourself up, emotionally, wears you down and does absolutely no good in the long term. It changes nothing for the positive, in fact, it just trashes your self esteem, your confidence and, ultimately, your outlook on life. There is rejection in every walk of life, from girls, to jobs to friendships…..the list goes on and on. Take some time to focus on all the good things about you. They are still there. Build these qualities up and just let them SHINE. This is how you will, ultimately, attract a girl that will stay. Please. Don’t be your own worst enemy cause you’re breaking my heart. Peace my brother 💕💕💕
I was tested for a lesion back in 2015 because I was concerned about having herpes. The test came back negative. Fast forward to today, after being married for five years I find out being 33 weeks pregnant in the hospital that I actually do have herpes. I was told I have HSV 1 but because I’m asymptomatic I didn’t know then or now. Because of a complication with the pregnancy I had to have a C section so thankfully he doesn’t have the virus.
If you and your doctor feel it's safer to do a c-sec, then go for it. However, many women give birth naturally. Doctor will usually prescribe you an antiviral and if you don't have an outbreak during delivery, the chances of passing it to your child are very low. But, good luck in any way!
I'm in a long distance relationship. We have never seen in person. We are both women and she has herpes. I really have many doubts because I wanna be with her and she is coming to my country next year, we had these plans before she told me (and I still want to stick to those plans) I love her and I wanna be informed because I am somewhat concerned of course and scared but I wanna actually share a life with her. Thanks
You guys are genuinely met for each other ❤️ I wish everyone was more educated about hsv so we didn't have to be rejected by the society or the person who we pick to date. So sad.
I had the worst experience last night when I express someone I care about, about what I have He went crazy like I’ve never seen it before then he stated that I was trying to kill him that it was a disease so he picked up his stuff and he left I don’t think I have ever seen as dirty as how I feel last night I pretty much Role myself up Into a ball and car all night. I am a great woman and he says that to me every time he’s around me and one time I told him about me he run off saying he is going to die.I come across your video just looking to TH-cam any kind of made me feel better about myself because I took a shower I could not stop Scrubbing my skin asking god why me. So it is nice to see a man like your husband have your back Because there’s a stigma so bad that from the moment to open your mouth they are gone
I am so sorry you feel so sad. Honestly, this doesn't define you! Weed out the bad, hold on to the good. Protect your heart. Stay strong. I'm praying for your comfort. You are a beautifully human. No one's perfect. You have this hardship that could honestly be worse. Easy to say right. But it honestly could be worse. You have a long life to still yet to live. A full life with many wonderful accepting people out there. Please keep researching. There are support groups and plenty of resources to meet some in the same situation as yourself or at least have learned about the stigma and knows the truth of it all. Find your tribe, stay strong, keep finding the silver lining, you are worthy, you matter, you are most definitely here for a reason. You have a purpose. Maybe you'll eventually be a voice for someone whom feels too weak to speak up and have a voice just as you feel right now. I'm sending you so much love tonight and every night here out. Believe that. I hope you find peace. I pray you find happiness and unconditional love. You are beautiful. We are all here for a reason. Please trust in this, you are ok, you'll be ok, everything will eventually be ok. This to shall pass. He did you a favor and picked himself out of your garden. Thank him and the universe for his release. That's ugly, you are better than that. You deserve so much more! Don't stand for ugly and cold hearted people in your life. Find your self love and respect, find your voice. Find and work on your strength. You are going to be ok. God bless you❤️ Xoxo I wish I could do more for others that i see hurt bad, I wish I had a way of reaching you. Take care and have faith. Xoxo
❤ I feel your hurt and I'm here sending you much love and light. ❤ Stay strong know that you are not alone. My husband's went through same situation like yours before he meet me. This year we are celebrating our 9 years wedding anniversary. I absolutely am in love with my husband's for who he is. ❤
My take home lesson is "If someone rejects you, believe them. Do not force yourself on anyone. There's someone that will love you for you."
You guys are amazing 👏 👏
You have a great husband, i hope i meet someone that accepts me like that.
You will. I joined Alexandra’s support group and it’s been really helpful. Did you know statistically more people have herpes than people who don’t? It’s kinda crazy. We all go on to get married, have kids and a normal life like everyone else. When you boil down to it, herpes is just a skin condition. Alexandra’s group has helped me a ton. :) Hang in there.
Me too i have hsv1
@jessica powers i make small holes men
@jessica powers in condoms
Dezeri Smith I think you are beautiful. I wish to know you.
Just found an amazing man that has herpes and I’m here educating myself. I’m such a picky person but damn he’s amazing. And this just relieved so much stress for me!
If he use Condoms and be on supressive therapy
I feel sad that I may never meet anyone because of this virus
God is Love well just a little update. This man is my soulmate. We both fell in love with each other and each other’s kids. Herpes didn’t play a role at all in our relationship at all!! We have fun, exciting sex and we’re very much in love!! It’s possible!
I just posted a very similar comment, I'm scared of this potential health risk but i also haven't met someone that makes me so happy in a long time. I'm so confused.
Me too girl! He seems so great and I want to educate myself...
I LOVE THIS! My husband agreed with everything your husband said. Since day 1 my husband has been so accepting of me and has never made me feel like lesser than. I love that you're educating people and trying to break the horrifying stigmas attached this herpes.
the girl i was seeing for months ghosted me lol..men are much more accepting than women of this thing
Has your husband contracted hsv from you? I’m starting a new relationship and I’ll be devastated to give it to my partner just hoping to hear some happy ending stories
Yes
Has your husband contracted it from you yet.
I am the -ve fiance
Partnership and communication between these two are great.
Ok they always say that herpes is not curable.
Thank you for this. I’m in tears. I hope I can find a man like Bill one day. I feel so hopeless right. God bless you.
Of course you will find him honey. No matter what , you will be always worthy . Never lose your hope. I still believe and dream about the love. I am waiting, staying strong because I know it will be worthed in the end. We deserve to love and to be loved. We will Break the stigma!You know it has been almostly a year and it feels really good to say no to people who stigmatize. Nevermind all assholes that tell you cant be loved. Love can exist under every circumstances. Love you girl, stay 💪 ❤️
@@secilakbas5840 Thank you for the encouragement! It means a lot to me. Sending my love to you too!
I feel the same. The communication and respect between the two are great examples of how couples should be. I hope to find a man like him too.
There are a lot of men out there who are accepting. I just started dating on Positive Singles, and even though I haven't had much luck yet, there are TONS of women and men with herpes on there. It's the vast majority, at least.
Me too I feel the same like I may be single forever it’s always that possibly it’s not given
Your videos are really helping me get educated on this subject, and learn about this topic. I found myself really falling for a woman who opened up and told me she had herpes, and I don't find myself bothered by it.
You help me realize...there is life outside the stigma. Thank You!
There is. I literally just found out like 3 weeks ago that I have it, but I have it all over. I'm still learning.
Bill is so sincerely kind, nice and sweet! You two are so adorable!
Thank you so much for this video. I jus started seeing a woman that's hsv2 positive. She encouraged me to get educated and she herself told me her whole story and seemed very educated . She sounded like you telling me about it and I very much reacted like him! Yall are so cute together!!
I know this was posted a year ago... but, I think it's incredibly supportive and compassionate that you are on here trying to educate yourself. And you came from a place of no judgment. 💓
Bill is as sweet as my husband is... He said when I told him that even if it was HIV I had he would still be fine.... I'm currently on antiviral cos I don't want him to contact it but he doesn't even mind... He loves and accepts me just like that... Just like Bill he feels we have been together for a long time even before we met...
Indeed there are sweet men out there.. Bill and my husband are two of them..
Have you had normal sex pls share after hsv positive
I just got diagnosed and my partner gave it to me. Sadly, they were not well informed about how it was transmitted. Rather than fall into a deep depression, the best thing I can do is get educated and prevent myself from passing it on. It’s just part of my story now 🤷🏻♀️
First, you and your husband are amazing and so honest and admirable. I wish I had this channel when I got the news. It was 2005 and I was 55 and had gone through a terrible 10 year breakup after a previous divorce. Had finally started dating someone and did have fun but after a year got the shocking diagnosis after a biopsy of a nasty open sore on my thigh. He had a hard time admitting he had herpes.. what's the big deal, everyone has it.. we went our separate ways, and I met the LOML :) who I am still with to this day at 72. Like you, I was honest with him up front, and he proved his worth. Unfortunately, the guy who infected me is still serial dating and probably not admitting anything. Thankfully over the years my outbreaks are infrequent, maybe once per year following a proper diet and supplement routine, keeping stress low and getting the rest I need. Thank you for all you do and helping to try and alleviate the stigma of herpes.
You can tell just how much you guys love each other ❤️ He adores you and believes in you, which is so cool. And you can tell you’re smitten with him. You guys are terrific. 😃
marry me , i promise i will treat you with love and support always
I just met someone with H1, and H2. This helped me calm down...and educate me on my options. Thanks!
Karina P this is só serem,i hope one day find someone who really respect me and love me
@@belvinsmith1891 ok "virus curer," cure HPV, COVID-1, MERS, SARS with that. LMK how it goes.
@@luanastar4971 Hi, where do you live luana
Bill is such a sweetheart, and he is a true testament of true love withstands all. I love the honesty of the both of you.
Thats just it. You can get a test show negative and still have it. You could never have symptoms and still be contagious. Personaly I dont want to be alone. More importantly when you find someone you want to love. Thats love.
I just started dating someone I really like, she has herpes and I was in the exact position Bill was in. I didn't know a whole lot about it, but I want to know more, that's what brought me to this video. Even just doing a bit of research made me understand it in a way that got rid of the stigma for me. I really appreciate this video and the perspective it provides, it truly brought me all the comfort I was looking for, thank you both so much! You both are adorable by the way, cheers!
I hope I meet someone like Bill.
How old are you?
I hope I can find my man one day. This made me feel so much better and I will always reflect back to this if I ever get rejected. Thank you! ❤
You will find your man are you ok ?
Did you ever find anyone?
I REALLY want to thank you for sharing this video. I was diagnosed recently and had to end a relationship with someone who couldn't handle it. It was hard for the both of us but best to separate before things got toxic. Anyways, thank you for sharing.
So happy that you got blessed with a great partner who loves you and cares about you no matter what!❤🙏
I want to help break the stigma too. I contracted HSV1 when I was 18. I’m 31 now and finally unashamed.
Hsv1 oral or genital? Do you disclose it even though is not hsv2?
I want that 😢 I want someone to love me :( I miss having a partner :( and I’m tired of being alone :(
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I dated someone who gave me herpes. I was furious. Cus I feel like no girl will want nothing to do with me when I tell her. Like how. Why me. I’m a fireman, I took care of my parents. I like helping others. But it was my downfall. I helped too much and left myself for last. Trying to get a new home in this shitty market, so I can start over mentally. I stay fit, take my job seriously, and I’m done messing around with meaningless flings. I need a wife. Someone that gets it. But I’ve closed my heart to any woman. And been working on myself. I have a dog and my boy keeps me company. But a man needs more than a dog. And I’m sick and tired of these times. No one has the honor and loyalty to put in a family anymore. That’s worth more than anything. Broken families aren’t fun. And I promised myself to break the chain of broken families in my family tree. That’s if I ever have one. Evil ass world these days. That’s all I can say. One day at a time I guess …
Hi, sorry to hear. A person who loves you will love you with herpes or not. In life, there are far greater things to worry than herpes - and it goes both ways. The way you have to accept your partner, the way she will have to accept things about you - and it will not be just herpes.
There are plenty people who value traditional values, just need to get out and find them.
Take time to heal from those views on life you have. It takes some swlf-work, but it's worth it
Try maybe dating older women. Sometimes older people are more open minded and understanding
Now i feel the aame thing
Hey there are also dating sites for this kind of stuff, like positive singles. Maybe take a look at that.
I feel similar to you. The ex who gave me herpes left me for someone else. I'm sure you will find someone. I am a single mom with herpes. No one wants me. I've been called names and ghosted. This virus is so bad. I know it is a consequence of your actions, but the stigma is what hurts our chances at relationships. I am hoping for the best one day!
My girlfriend has this i love her and accepted it. Unfortunately I've just been diagnosed with herpes type 2. I knew the risk and obviously im a bit gutted but I knew the risks and would never blame her. Going through my first outbreak right now. I feel unwell my genitals feel like they've been stomped on and it hurts too pee.
Seriously?
Man I feel for you
Can you update us? How do you feel now?
did you tie the knot or nah
Wow man you got guts
Dude is like a superhero. Attitude positive as hell and super immunity to diseases.
Nah once he get it he might regret it !!! He talks like that because he is her husband but if they end up braking up he might not be so lucky to find a a woman as fool as him ; willing to risk their health
3 years later and your video is still changing lives, girl don’t watch the views and likes, what you do for people worldwide can never be repaid. I wish you all the best that life has to offer🙏🏾
Thank you for your kinds words
Alot of ppl think that once u got it u can't have anyone. My friends always told me to stay away from her because she got it. Yes it's easier for woman to get some one compare a man but someone who have herpes dosnt mean they deserve to be alone. The woman im with today im glad I made the choice to be with her. She has been my best friend for 9 years and with her condition we just have to be careful and learn more
Bill - she raises her hands I’d love that, looking forward to the retreat - yes coach call!
The guy that gave it to me didn't even give me chance to see if I was gonna deal with him after. He didn't say anything and now I'm suffering I miss being healthy I've definitely learned my lesson😢
You guys add hope to my life❤
This is obviously a healthy relationship...regardless of the herpes
I love you Alexandra! You are a sun light!!! THANK GOD YOU ARE HERE!
Your a good man. You two are a great couple. I think that you two are so open about the topic is amazing .
So happy for you guys, idk what my future holds but it’s nice to see others with this that are happy
Hope you get through bro. The research unfortunately shows that men are more accepting of a partner wt hsv for long term than women are of men wt hsv.
You guys are SO ADORABLE and so INSPIRING!!
Thank you for sharing Bill! This is very helpful information!
I wish I would met y'all 8 years ago. Thank you. Esp. Your Husband Attitude
He is lovely. God bless him.
You are encouragement thank you one day I pray I will have Love again.
Some of us aren’t that lucky, telling ppl who you like and would like to be in a relationship with turn you down and constantly happens makes me feel like I have no reason to even try anymore
So i just went on my 2nd date with a guy i really like and he disclosed to me last night. I'm nervous i don't want to stop seeing him but i feel like i need educate myself as much as possible before i make a decision on what to do. I really don't want to stop seeing him but it also changes my preperceived notion on a typical time line for when sex is to become part of our relationship. The other thing making it harder on me is that he keeps telling me he's used to being alone and that i don't have to stay. I almost feel like he's trying to push me away and then i think maybe he's used to people he's disclosed to before just running away as fast as possible and he doesn't want to take the chance on us getting close and then i leave. Any thoughts on that theory? Long story short, it wasn't a deal breaker per se i just feel i need to do some research to be able to make the best decision for me stayed healthy and him being comfortable that i like him enough to take the chance . Any help or encouragement is welcome, in actually really struggling here between my feelings for him but also that he poses a threat to my health.
What did you do ? And what type does he have
Literally me. Literally. He told me our second date and now I'm trying to educate myself before I reach out to him. I really like him. Being with him is so comfortable but I don't know how to do this.
What did you end up doing?
This is me too. I feel like I'm rejecting him. He has hsv2. I can feel he's pushing me away not to be rejected yet again. I like him and I'm trying to educate myself. It still scares me because I want to stay healthy.
There are worse things for the health. It varies between people how bad it is. It doesn't kill or injure, but it can lead to complications like a hard time emptying bladder because of inflammation. These complications are rare. So how bad does it really get? And how rare are the results?
I hope you consider the whole picture of who he is and not let fear and weakness have the final say.
Thank you for this. It took me 10years to get diagnosed and accept this about me. I feel better after watching this video. ❤
Great Video!!! Love your sweater where did you purchase it from?
How old were you when you met him? How old was he? How old are you now ?
I love watching you two and am happy for the new addition that will be here soon.
I feel peace after watching this video, thanks so much.
True love !! I 'm from Brazil , i dont speak english but i translate your vídeos , help me a lot
I just became girlfriend to a man with herpes, he found it really hard to tell me but i don't blame him. I accepted him but honestly he's as lost as i am on information about how to treat himself and isn't even sure if he does have it. His doctors neglected him and didn't prioritize telling him of his condition or explaining to him what herpes was or how to not spread it or even telling him its a lifelong thing. But seeing this video really calms me down so much, he was scared and kind of hopeless, but in reality we just need to educate ourselves a bit more and I believe we will be very happy together God willing ❤🥰
Education is the key! Happy to have you here!
This was a nice video, unfortunately, for so many people will not be this loving or accepting. Also, it's a crying shame there's no cure for this yet.
Bill is an understanding and amazing man
😭 thank you so much for bieng there ♥️
How soon do you think a person should share the info that they have herpes? What if they weren't into you like that...what if they end up feeling like you waited to long to tell?
Good question.
I think as soon as you can tell them. Even if you’re scared, or think they will shame you or reject you. Aside from telling them, you have to be real with yourself and know it’s gunna be okay because it will be okay.
I absolutely love you two and how connected you are to one another! So happy I found you Alexandria❤
He so sweet
Yes Bill is correct, the fact that he received the breast milk from his mother at birth, gave him the antibodies, with a foundation for a strong immune system to fight off infections.
Are you serious ?
@@kenneyp.9456 Yes, research colostrum.
Yall are a blessing to others going through this
I kind of feel hopeless that a girl won’t except me for it, I know it’s going to be very hard but I just need to find the right girl. I know it’s possible to everyone who has it don’t give up you’ll find your person.😇
Thank you for sharing that information
Thanks Bill For Being Amazing to Her Everyone deserve a partner like u ❤ wish you guys the best
Bill is the greatest,I love you 😘 bill u are a king a great man am proud of you 🙏 sir u give me hope 🙏
@@lanarey4944 thank u baby apreciate it🤩😍
This is very sweet
😊😊😊
I told my partner that I have herpes on Saturday. It was embarrassing. I couldn’t stop crying . Part of me wants him to go away . I’m a good person . But I feel like having this isn’t ok :( :( :(
sweet heart of course your a good person. having it isnt even a big deal. people dont make a big deal with cold soars on the lips! its just cold sores in different place that probably doesnt even show up very often. so many people have it that don't even know it. I hope you feel better and always know your self worth.
How did he react?
I know how you feel . You feel like a burden cause I do
Dee donutz thank you for your kind words . We broke up today . He says he wasn’t ready for a relationship :( and I feel horrible. Is it bad that I want a family and to be married or am I asking too much :(
Kayla Ray Alexandra actually has a great support group online. I’ve gotten to know her and she is terrific. Herpes is just an annoying skin condition and shouldn’t take away anything else in life. So many of us go on to get married, have kids and have normal lives like everyone else. Also, statistically more people have herpes than people who don’t.
And u guys having a child congratulations ❤️ am very proud of you 🙏 dam proud I 💯 wanna be like u guys in my relationship 💯💯❤️❤️💙❤️💯❤️❤️💙😍
This is a beautiful video and you guys are amazing human beings. Beautiful couple
Thank you so much for this, this video means the whole world to me.
Thank you for making this video. If someone doesn’t want me because of this I don’t want them either.
You two are so sweet with one another! Love to see it! ☺
You two are. A great couple ty for sharing
I’m glad you share your story ❤
Thank you so much for this video. Truly inspiring and hopeful for the future to have a love relationship and marriage.
What I don’t understand is if it isn’t that bad why do people look at those people who have like they are monsters ? My ex look at like I was disgusting :(
Kayla Ray it’s solely because of the stigma. Statistically more people have herpes than people who don’t. I’m part of Alexandra’s support group and it’s awesome. Also there is a TedTalk by Ella Dawson on the subject too. Hang in there! Lots of us have normal lives and get married and have kids etc.
i don't have it, but thank you for the message.
That was so beautiful. Thank you so much. ❤
I found the women of my dreams and she has hvs1 and this gives me hope that things can work with her, like your husband i was thinking if this will shorten my life and all, but im glad theres things i can do!
HI! love this video,,,you guys are so funny! My 18 year old step daughter was just diagnosed and she is having a very hard time. Can you recommend any support groups for younger people like her?
She can come to our group if she wants to. We have lots of young people in there. She can also stay totally anonymous. we'd love to have her. We also have weekly Monday calls she can join. They're really helpful and everybody can ask and share. It's usually a smaller group of people.
www.lifewithherpes.com/secretsociety
@@lifewithherpes Thanks!
You and your husband are freaking awesome man wow. Beautiful.
i met a very nice man,who told me yesterday he's got herpès,thats why here coz i want a relationship with him,thanks for sharing
It is really my business but I just have to ask did u pursue a relationship with him?
You are soo butiful Alexandra
Your channel is awesome ultimately I feel so much better knowing I’m gonna be okay and that I won’t die from herpes more than likely if this something like hiv or cancer then yeah I’d be sweating bullets just think how many things happen to people everyday that are so much worse lije cancer lukemia even diabetes and being overweight is worse than herpes and like heart diesease. I’m 28 and this is the first time in my life I’ve ever been diagnosed with any kinda condition. I’m just thankful all my blood levels were normal
Having cancer or diabetes is not worse than herpes. The things you all tell yourselves lol
Thank you for this God Bless
Im sitting here waiting for results and extremely nervous. My ex has hsv2 and failed to tell me. He's still never admitted it. And I myself dont believe he's ever been tested nor treated. But the sores I noticed were undeniable. And that was my very last time with him.
Makes me angry because I am now on the brink of a brand new relationship and I really like this person. But I cant bring myself to continue pursuing it if I do end up positive.
How are You?
I’m so sorry that happened to you! 🥺 It’s definitely scary but I hope everything went well!
I wish you would’ve went into more details about unprotected sex. How after all this time Bill has not caught hsv. All you seem to say is to communicate, but viral shedding is something out of our control. I’m still very confused on how not to transmit it to my monogamous partner.
That's a question that can't be answered because science and real life situations are totally different...
I completely agree.
Just started dating someone with h1 and wanted to do some research myself. I do feel more calmer about it
My boyfriend lied to me about getting tested for herpes after I was adamant about not having sex with him until he got his results back. Instead of getting tested he had his friend leave him a message and lie that all results came back negative portraying as a doctor. I fell for it and ended up with hsv 2 from him, should I press charges.
That’s horrible. It sucks that happened since you were being precautious. Sending you peace!
Yes
Hell yes I'd press charges
YES
I am on the same boat. Looked it up and yes you can.
Hope I can have friends again or somebody to talk to like you ❤️love y’all so much
Hi, please check our Secret Society. You'll find a lot of nice people to talk to and you can join our Monday calls, where we discuss herpes related questions. We'd love to have you! www.lifewithherpes.com/secretsociety
This helps a lot
Congrats ❗👍✌️
this is proof that there is hope for all of us who thought we were doomed 🥹
I luv the dynamics betwn u guys (u've conquered a real challenge), God bless.
Man, I hope one day I find a woman similar to her. I have hsv-2 and rejection has been a sharp double-edged sword. I have thought about killing myself over just the fact that I would never find love as a man with this virus. I guess I'm so focused on the intimacy part. I'm just so afraid of the rejection part that it discourages me from pursuing any woman.
You will find love and acceptance when you find a way to accept this yourself. Trust me. Beating yourself up, emotionally, wears you down and does absolutely no good in the long term. It changes nothing for the positive, in fact, it just trashes your self esteem, your confidence and, ultimately, your outlook on life. There is rejection in every walk of life, from girls, to jobs to friendships…..the list goes on and on. Take some time to focus on all the good things about you. They are still there. Build these qualities up and just let them SHINE. This is how you will, ultimately, attract a girl that will stay. Please. Don’t be your own worst enemy cause you’re breaking my heart. Peace my brother 💕💕💕
There should be a dating website for ppl with herpes that way you can connect with people who will not other you
Do you mind me asking the age gap between you and your husband? Thank you for always being so open and sharing!
I just got infected wit hsv2 hope we get a cure but this video has given me hope
I was tested for a lesion back in 2015 because I was concerned about having herpes. The test came back negative. Fast forward to today, after being married for five years I find out being 33 weeks pregnant in the hospital that I actually do have herpes. I was told I have HSV 1 but because I’m asymptomatic I didn’t know then or now. Because of a complication with the pregnancy I had to have a C section so thankfully he doesn’t have the virus.
If you and your doctor feel it's safer to do a c-sec, then go for it. However, many women give birth naturally. Doctor will usually prescribe you an antiviral and if you don't have an outbreak during delivery, the chances of passing it to your child are very low. But, good luck in any way!
Congrats on your baby. I was fortunate enough to have 3 girls with this condition. They are grown now.
Hsv1 is basically normal dam near everyone has Herp 1 and do they test you for that when u pregnant @@lifewithherpes
I'm in a long distance relationship. We have never seen in person. We are both women and she has herpes. I really have many doubts because I wanna be with her and she is coming to my country next year, we had these plans before she told me (and I still want to stick to those plans) I love her and I wanna be informed because I am somewhat concerned of course and scared but I wanna actually share a life with her. Thanks
You guys are genuinely met for each other ❤️ I wish everyone was more educated about hsv so we didn't have to be rejected by the society or the person who we pick to date. So sad.
I had the worst experience last night when I express someone I care about, about what I have He went crazy like I’ve never seen it before then he stated that I was trying to kill him that it was a disease so he picked up his stuff and he left I don’t think I have ever seen as dirty as how I feel last night I pretty much Role myself up Into a ball and car all night. I am a great woman and he says that to me every time he’s around me and one time I told him about me he run off saying he is going to die.I come across your video just looking to TH-cam any kind of made me feel better about myself because I took a shower I could not stop Scrubbing my skin asking god why me. So it is nice to see a man like your husband have your back Because there’s a stigma so bad that from the moment to open your mouth they are gone
Let's talk how old are you?
I am so sorry you feel so sad. Honestly, this doesn't define you! Weed out the bad, hold on to the good. Protect your heart. Stay strong. I'm praying for your comfort. You are a beautifully human. No one's perfect. You have this hardship that could honestly be worse. Easy to say right. But it honestly could be worse. You have a long life to still yet to live. A full life with many wonderful accepting people out there. Please keep researching. There are support groups and plenty of resources to meet some in the same situation as yourself or at least have learned about the stigma and knows the truth of it all. Find your tribe, stay strong, keep finding the silver lining, you are worthy, you matter, you are most definitely here for a reason. You have a purpose. Maybe you'll eventually be a voice for someone whom feels too weak to speak up and have a voice just as you feel right now. I'm sending you so much love tonight and every night here out. Believe that. I hope you find peace. I pray you find happiness and unconditional love. You are beautiful. We are all here for a reason. Please trust in this, you are ok, you'll be ok, everything will eventually be ok. This to shall pass. He did you a favor and picked himself out of your garden. Thank him and the universe for his release. That's ugly, you are better than that. You deserve so much more! Don't stand for ugly and cold hearted people in your life. Find your self love and respect, find your voice. Find and work on your strength. You are going to be ok. God bless you❤️ Xoxo I wish I could do more for others that i see hurt bad, I wish I had a way of reaching you. Take care and have faith. Xoxo
❤ I feel your hurt and I'm here sending you much love and light. ❤ Stay strong know that you are not alone. My husband's went through same situation like yours before he meet me. This year we are celebrating our 9 years wedding anniversary. I absolutely am in love with my husband's for who he is. ❤
@@crystalkolb30 ❤ Thank you for sharing your kindness. ❤ Much love and light to you. ❤
This is absolutely horrible. I'm so sorry that you experienced that. You are worthy of love. There is nothing wrong with you. Love yourself, please.
You're lucky! Hard finding another half that's willing to stay
thats the problem. stop looking for one half of a person.
you are both awesome
I hope I can find somebody like bill ur so blessed be excepted for who you are
How long did you wait to disclose
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