When I found out that I had HSV2, it took a while, but eventually I took it as this message saying, "You cannot afford to give yourself to men who do not truly care for you, so now you can only let in the ones who would truly love you, even in the face of risk." And that message was specific to me and what I was going through and choosing and wanting to learn for myself at the time. But that is how I transmuted the situation. Big blessings to you, Love.
thank you and blessings to ya. To take it even further, it was ultimately a lesson in self-love... I have to value myself enough to really value what I'm taking into my being, because that's what I'm choosing to become me.
So the problem is men not loving you, and not the fact that you are carrying a fucking disease? So it's THEIR fault they dont want to deal with herpes?
Why not use condoms? To go through depression or feeling insecure should motivate you to do something better with yourself not sleep with random men. The guilt after you have sleeping with random men is not worth it but I'm glad your bettering yourself.
I called in sick to work today for the first time in 20 years. I haven't slept in two nights. I'm beside myself now. Dating is already so hard for me with my anxiety and now I'm extremely discouraged. I removed my dating profile and am now contemplating just giving up, or a lot worse than that.
Braddock E. Hutton honestly it’s nothing bad herpes is just a thing that makes cells create faster and just forms bumps think of it as annoying pimples ! Don’t get discouraged okay 👌
Thank you so much for telling your story. I truly believe you are a blessing to so many people by allowing them to relate to your pain and the fact that you found somebody that loves you regardless of this infection. You're truly an inspiration. Be blessed
I’ve recently found out that the man I’m falling in love with has birth acquired herpes and these videos are so helpful to me , I was scared and almost ghosted him , but I think we’re gonna be in this for the long haul and you’re videos have really helped me ease my fears , thank you for spreading the awareness miss Alexandra
Girl he got that shit from Samantha V. Don't let that man lie to you, because I got shit from Samantha too, that man lying like a fuh and yes I know who y'all are 😂
Its been couple weeks since my diagnosis, got the call from my doc while i was driving , had to pull over and take it in. When i first started feeling symptoms i was worried and i panicked when i went to urgent care to get looked at … spent all weekend torturing myself with thoughts.. just trying to accept the fact i will have this for the rest of my life .. thx for this video it has given me hope for a brighter day.
TheDanfromdallas the problem is, the partner you’re with might not even tell you and then wait for you to get it and turn right around and accuse you. :(
Im currently waiting for my results and these videos are helping me, but it is still scary and so sad and im not even sure yet. Your very brave to do this for people like me and I thank you
Thank you so much for sharing this, you are so strong for sharing your story. I know saying this sounds like it's supporting the fact that it's stigmatized. I'm just thankful you're helping fight the stigma. Sending you lots of love!
Amen. DITTO. LAST MONTH got my diagnosis. I appreciate you sharing your story. I am 68 yrs old. Never thought I would be ever at my age to get any STD. I was in major shock. I am still dealing with my person after diagnosis. I did research and found out many older people have STDs. Some know, and most don't have a clue. It is your immune health, which determines breakouts. My past, with an auto immune disease 😪. My partner has an excellent immune system. I have accepted my responsibility with herpes. We are committed to learn and grow. Best wishes ❤️ take care of yourself.
kaylene crane I must have found out the same day you did, I found out two weeks ago on a Monday September 16th. I’m pretty confident I got it from my ex boyfriend of 4 years. We broke up that same day.. he never checked up on me to see if I was okay and that was that.
I found out in august. My husband had a cold sore, I feel really stupid about how I got it but hes been very understanding. I was crying thinking that he was for sure divorce. me
After you posting this video 6 years ago, today you continue to help many people with your story. I found out that I contracted herpes when I was 17, today I am 31. I can say that I am having a normal life but I still struggle with my self-esteem. Thank you so much and God bless you Alexandra❤
I have been dealing with this since July/august and I have to say I am so glad I have found this channel. I used to think so much negative thoughts when it came to this. My story is almost exactly the same. I want to learn more in order to educate and make my life sssooooo much easier! so thank you!
you are so strong 🥺 and you’re beautiful inside and out! this is your story, your testimony that shines a light on others. be blessed and embrace you!💕🙏🏾
Thanks to all of you who tell your potential partner about this before anything happens. I don't have it but as we get older things like that don't seem matter as much. We all just want to be with somebody who is on our same level and it becomes so rare that when you find that person, hopefully neither of you ever lets go. Good luck everybody
Help a lot of young women . What about young guys . 😝😝 .. girls its easy for them to find partner even what virus they have .. but men noo ... 😝😝 so find a women for me right now
Wow, similar scenario for me. Thank You So So much!! I was infected by a High School sweetheart when I was 36. I am now 56 still not married. But listening to you was like that hug I needed when I got my call from the doctor telling me I have herpes.
I got my herpes from my Dentist, he had a big sore on his bottom lip and he wasn't wearing gloves and i got a sore on my lip a month later , im devastated 😭
I have a friend who might have it. She went to the doctor and they gave her conflicting diagnosis. I've been scouring the internet for information on it to help her out and I'm glad I found your Channel. I'll forward her to your channel so she can get more information on it. Thank you for all you do and I hope your Channel grows exponentially
I don't have it, but I think the world needs more people like you in it.I think ur a good honest person and brave for coming out telling your sorry and Any MF talks shit to you on here or anywhere is a low life ps
I have symptoms but I have not been diagnosed yet. But I believe I do have herpes. Thank you so much, I am going through a tough time right now and hearing you makes me feel not alone. Thank you so much, Alexandra.
I started to date a long time friend and I trusted her and we kissed, 2 weeks later I have this horrible cold sore. She didn't bother to tell me that she had that . I didn't want to hide my first ever cold sore, and have avoided most women throughout my life out of phobia of catching herpes, but nyc will constantly point you out and make audible comments like ew gross he hass herpes... And it goes on all day long to the point where it drives you to want to jump in front of a train. Now I tried to hide it and of course all the same people that were commenting the first day are now commenting about how you were trying to hide it. People have absolutely no compassion. People don't realize that the person that was so unlucky to receive it already has to deal with the mental torture of an already limited dating pool being shrunken down into a microscopic pinpoint and knowing that they have to spend the rest of their lives being shamed publicly all day every time a cold sore appears, so next time you see someone that has a cold sore just shut up and leave them alone. Just keep your mouth shut and leave them be or you may be the reason why they end their life.
Hi.I have a question. So if the person has non visible cold sore, you can still get it? Is that what happened to you? Sorry, my English is not perfect. I mean I have a girlfriend, she lives in other country, we haven't seen each other in person but she has herpes. I just have many doubts.
You have absolutely no idea what this means to me to hear this today. You are an angel. 27 year old female who got back into the dating world after recovering from an abusive relationship 7 months ago. It’s so hard to wrap my mind and heart around and to hear your story makes all the difference in the world.
There's so much ignorance about this topic and males always think they have nothing. Thank u for sharing your story.🙏 and so happy you got blessed with true love❤
My baby daddy just transmitted HV2 to me and lied and told me that the circle rash that he had on his face was a bee sting 🤦🏽♀️ and when I started to get symptoms he acted like he didn’t care and then when I got the results back and told him he said I got it from someone else and not from him and he never tested positive for it and kicked me out of his house
i get tested every year and never ever have I ever had an std and now in the last 4 months I trusted someone and I asked him twice before sex and he said negative on stuff but as I find myself with this std now and he just uuggg... yes I am shame right now I knew better and yes I do feel like I will never be able to date again I feel like I am gonna be alone forever cuz who would want to be with me
Wow Alexandra what a Beautiful Responsible and Bravely Honest person you are to get on the internet and tell your story to basically the world ! Any man too have you in his life is extremely lucky. I'm so extremely touched by your fourth right personality and your positivity in moving forward in your life, and caring enough to try and help educate people about this virus, and the personal nature of it it, just really gives me the warm and fuzzy chills in the best possible way ! Just knowing your story and knowing you, even though the internet ! God bless you dear and your strength and thank you for taking the time to make this incredible video Your Beautiful wonderful and you matter 🌹
Life With Herpes with Alexandra Harbushka I was forced to keep a secret by my ex girlfriend many years back, when her younger sister was diagnosed with herpes, and the things my ex said about her own sister made me feel so bad inside, and with the younger sister since she did not confide in me I could not tell her I knew about her situation, and had to act like I didn't know anything about her condition, it was so easy because she is a nice sweet person. I've been out of touch with them since I split with the mean ex. But remain very sympathetic, so glad your in this world you and others who share and educate make a difference too be sure 🌹
Jimmys Jamin yep keeping secrets can eat us up. And it’s so surprising how people react to herpes, it’s just a skin disease. Thanks for your support! 💜
Thank you!!!! Yes things only get better. Thanks for reaching out and mostly thank you for being a part of this community. Let me know if there is anything I can create to help you.
In 2008 I moved out of state for 5 months for a short work stint. My girlfriend at the time went to Vegas with some of her friends during this time. Late summer i was thrilled to see her (5 months) you get it. She cried saying "i have to tell you something.....". THANK GOD I ended it right then and there. Its a dangerous game to play.
I got herpes from a guy when I was 18. Only the second guy I had ever slept with. I thought my life was over. I wish I had done my research. I thought I was damaged goods. 3months after being diagnosed I got into a relationship with the first guy who liked me and accepted my diagnosis. He said not everyone would have me considering I had herpes. Which is true I know. Anyway 9yrs later and we are married with two kids. I have a comfortable and safe home and things could be way worse. But I rushed. I panicked that no one would love me and I was broken and would never get that white picket fence and I settled. It worked out great. In hindsight I wonder why the adults in my life didn't pull me to one side and say hey slow down, stop rushing, everything is going to be okay. What I mean is, you have time and even though it may feel like the end of the world it isn't. Give yourself time to process before making decisions.
You’re 9 years in and you say it’s worked out but you believe you settled. That’s a very manipulative thing to say: “not everyone would have you.” I hope you see a counselor because what you have doesn’t seem healthy.
Taken from the website: Well, as you know it is hard enough to talk about Herpes let alone look at a blister. There was zero % chance there was going to be some horrible Googled picture of an outbreak as the logo. So, Alexandra and the team decided to get creative and look towards nature and come up with something that is aesthetically pleasing. And we came across the pomegranate! Think about it...don't the seeds kind of look like blisters? And what is also pretty cool is the pomegranate has been used through history by Kings and Queens as a holy symbolism. In general, the pomegranate represents fruitfulness, knowledge, learning, and wisdom so we think pomegranates are the perfect symbol for the Life With Herpes Community. Don't you?
I just found out on Wednesday and I’ve been In pain since Sunday , how can I ease the pain from the sores there are a bunch I can barely walk and I got prescribed acyclovir , and ibuprofen
Fill the bath up and add some salt, or Epson salt. Make sure that the bath is not hot but warm. You can take a cool flannel or tea bag and gently put it onto the area to ease the pain. The salt will help to heal the blisters and the coolness from the cold flannel and tea bags will help with the pain and itching. Make sure that you get plenty of rest. The first year is the worst, but as time goes by, you will get less outbreaks. Research it on line for more ways of coping. Hope this helps!
Thank you so much I been living with this for many years my ex husband gave it to me and I was 3 monts pregnant so at was very devastated for me I hope and pray for all the people that are so innocent that will be a cure soon for all of us Amen 🙏
What a story that happened to me in the same fashion I thought I was alone, but I know now that I am not and you are a beautiful young lady you will find love the same way. I will if they do not accept you for you they do not deserve you. Be strong and just know that we will be healed from this virus very soon.
Thank you so much for your boldness and vulnerability!! I just discovered this channel and it’s been such a blessing!!! No longer allowing the enemy to fill my head with shameful thoughts, I am free in Christ!! I am loved, chosen and worthy!! God bless you! And God bless this channel, it is so needed!! Keep shining your light!! 🙏🏽💛
Literally cried at the guy that said "I don't have it I don't sleep with dirty people". I literally had a guy basically say the same thing to me. His response was "well that sucks for you I know I don't have it. Sucks you do though"
I just found out that I have herpes , and I’m 7 months pregnant .... I feel alone ... more so angry cause Idk who to trust , I’m depressed I feel so detached .... please help
Hi Kyanna, so sorry to hear that! Please come to our group and join our Monday calls. You will get the support and information you need! www.lifewithherpes.com/secretsociety Hugs
Congratulations on your baby. I hope you're doing better. Don't worry. There are people out there who don't care if you have it. It's just a skin disorder. Like eczema. It doesn't change you as a person. Much 💘 and peace
Judging by the story he definitely knew and was deflecting it on to you(even If he didnt know he's a jerk and still deflected as if he had an idea).Im glad you stayed strong.
I applaud you! I will join the Facebook group! I was going through your emotions with you as you told your story! I really needed to hear your story! I felt like it was a curse on my life when I found out and is still struggling with it! After hearing your story I feel a little better about it but still have my fears to date!
Thanks for this message when I found out I was so depressed but told me my self not end of the world u can still live life I hope I can find someone love me still
I got infected 4 years ago. Now I have the feeling that my body and my brain are affected. I am struggling every day with suicidal thoughts. My life feels over.
@@blaeck_kitty8149 when having these things u have to build up ur immune system u can't have these things in ur body n not fight them off it's all ur fault I n i would really recommend u go to a doctor caz u might have HIV OR AIDS ALSO BEACUSE HERPES LEADS TO HIV AND U COULD HAVE HAD IT HERPES DOESN'T SHUT DOWN THE BRAIN BUT HIV DOES.....DO IT AND UPDATE US
@@thatgirlmoe9010 i immediately went to different doctors. They Tested me negative for HIV, of course I am Happy about this! Since one week I take Aciclovir 400 every day two times. I hope this will reduce the outbreaks...🙏
@@blaeck_kitty8149 smile okay n if u wanna go for a more natural way take olive leaf extract it stops viral shedding n it's hard to pass it onto ur partner I also heard that James destroy herpes regiments cure herpes look it up on TH-cam
My ex got HSV2 recently and I know that even with condoms she can still transmit it to me. I ain’t gonna lie I don’t want to catch it but I do love her and it’s hard not to feel disappointed. I was hoping we could work things out and I don’t mean to be judgmental but it’s hard not to feel heartbroken for her and our situation. Dealing with this is hard and im not the one who’s dealin with this personally.
Usher didn't disclose to alot of women that he had herpes and didn't use protection. That's why usher was sued and outed. Usher knew he had herpes and didn't disclose.
I was diagnosed in 2014. I had not had sex in 6 years prior to dating a person that I knew from my hometown. We spent 4 days together and I started to be very painful right after I returned home. I remember how my world felt like it was crashing around me. I was also diagnosed with a yeast infection AND chlamydia. When I told the guy I was seeing, he told me that I had it before and that I didn't get it from him. We got into a huge argument over it and it took him 3 months to finally test himself before he called to apologize to me. It's still a hard conversation to have with potential partners. The only people that don't know I have it is my parents, otherwise I'm pretty open with friends, other family, and coworkers. I had one coworker call me after I had talked about it one evening to confide in me that she was diagnosed and how scared she was. It made me feel good that I was able to help comfort somebody newly diagnosed because it isn't something that I had when I was diagnosed.
so yall can meet a guy whose sexual history you don't know and go raw. i hate to be that person but you set yourself up for failure and the consequences are for life. help people and teach them never to make the irresponsible choices you made
They can appear simultaneously, but they are different. If you have a faul smell, it sounds more like a BV than herpes. However, always discuss with your doctor. He can diagnose you - we can't.
i found out just over a week ago in the middle of a shift and i work in hospitality so i work like 12 hour shifts in jeans with the worst ulcers😭 it really was not the most comfortable experience at all but still no one knows other than my two closest friends and i really don’t know what to do with myself still🤣 if anyone has any advice for someone with hsv-1 but the genital version please let me know :)
When I found out that I had HSV2, it took a while, but eventually I took it as this message saying, "You cannot afford to give yourself to men who do not truly care for you, so now you can only let in the ones who would truly love you, even in the face of risk." And that message was specific to me and what I was going through and choosing and wanting to learn for myself at the time. But that is how I transmuted the situation. Big blessings to you, Love.
The Intention Adventure that’s an amazing way to think of it. Love only those who’ll love you 🖤
thank you and blessings to ya. To take it even further, it was ultimately a lesson in self-love... I have to value myself enough to really value what I'm taking into my being, because that's what I'm choosing to become me.
So the problem is men not loving you, and not the fact that you are carrying a fucking disease? So it's THEIR fault they dont want to deal with herpes?
The Intention Adventure soooooo soooooo true
Why not use condoms? To go through depression or feeling insecure should motivate you to do something better with yourself not sleep with random men. The guilt after you have sleeping with random men is not worth it but I'm glad your bettering yourself.
Ive been crying in bed for the past hour, thank you for posting this.
Zoey Martinez how are you doing ?
Zoey Martinez I hope you’re doing well ☹️
I called in sick to work today for the first time in 20 years. I haven't slept in two nights. I'm beside myself now.
Dating is already so hard for me with my anxiety and now I'm extremely discouraged. I removed my dating profile and am now contemplating just giving up, or a lot worse than that.
Braddock E. Hutton honestly it’s nothing bad herpes is just a thing that makes cells create faster and just forms bumps think of it as annoying pimples ! Don’t get discouraged okay 👌
Braddock E. Hutton if you want to talk I’m here don’t think of doing anything dumb okay
Thank you for this , I've been crying all day.
I feel your pain.💔
How are you doing now? 😔
I appreciate your channel. I still cry even two years later from finding out
Thank you so much for telling your story. I truly believe you are a blessing to so many people by allowing them to relate to your pain and the fact that you found somebody that loves you regardless of this infection. You're truly an inspiration. Be blessed
You have a lot of character. Most people hide and have sex without telling people that they do have it. You are very honorable and full of character
That's what happened to me lmao
I’ve recently found out that the man I’m falling in love with has birth acquired herpes and these videos are so helpful to me , I was scared and almost ghosted him , but I think we’re gonna be in this for the long haul and you’re videos have really helped me ease my fears , thank you for spreading the awareness miss Alexandra
Wonderful!
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girl if you need someone to talk, you can talk to me !
Girl he got that shit from Samantha V. Don't let that man lie to you, because I got shit from Samantha too, that man lying like a fuh and yes I know who y'all are 😂
You still in it for the long haul?
I'm so happy you're making these videos and spreading awareness. This is awesome.
Your a good girl and a brave girl! And now your an Earth Angel helping thousands. Abundant blessings be with you!
Its been couple weeks since my diagnosis, got the call from my doc while i was driving , had to pull over and take it in. When i first started feeling symptoms i was worried and i panicked when i went to urgent care to get looked at … spent all weekend torturing myself with thoughts.. just trying to accept the fact i will have this for the rest of my life .. thx for this video it has given me hope for a brighter day.
Sounds like he probably knew he had it based on his response. A lot of toxic and dishonest people respond in that way.
TO ANYONE WHO READS THIS, DONT WASTE YOUR MONEY ON ANY OF THESE SCAMMERS PLANTS WON'T GET RID OF HERPES.
Definetly sounds angry then wanted to get you something to eat? Sounds very narcissistic to me
This helped me so much, thank you so much. I do feel like i'll never be loved, but this makes me have hope
Lindz M same i just found out and i feel like my life is changed forever for the worse, it sucks
TheDanfromdallas the problem is, the partner you’re with might not even tell you and then wait for you to get it and turn right around and accuse you. :(
Omg ur such a brave person. You have such a good attitude and I'm so inspired by ur words. For being honest and true about your story .
Im currently waiting for my results and these videos are helping me, but it is still scary and so sad and im not even sure yet. Your very brave to do this for people like me and I thank you
What were your results, if you don’t mind me asking?
Thank you so much for sharing this, you are so strong for sharing your story. I know saying this sounds like it's supporting the fact that it's stigmatized. I'm just thankful you're helping fight the stigma. Sending you lots of love!
Amen. DITTO. LAST MONTH got my diagnosis. I appreciate you sharing your story. I am 68 yrs old. Never thought I would be ever at my age to get any STD. I was in major shock. I am still dealing with my person after diagnosis. I did research and found out many older people have STDs. Some know, and most don't have a clue. It is your immune health, which determines breakouts. My past, with an auto immune disease 😪. My partner has an excellent immune system. I have accepted my responsibility with herpes. We are committed to learn and grow. Best wishes ❤️ take care of yourself.
I've heard someone say this statement "your procasination is preventing someone's break through" your honesty is freeing people from this stigma
I like that you are rewriting your experience to be something good. You’re helping a lot of people. I needed this. Thank you❤️
I found out last Monday, it’s been a week today, I’m still shocked.
I got it from someone I knew for a few years.
kaylene crane I must have found out the same day you did, I found out two weeks ago on a Monday September 16th. I’m pretty confident I got it from my ex boyfriend of 4 years. We broke up that same day.. he never checked up on me to see if I was okay and that was that.
I found out in august. My husband had a cold sore, I feel really stupid about how I got it but hes been very understanding. I was crying thinking that he was for sure divorce. me
@@fredleah8767 really wow god is good how that works
Dont waste your money on these scams
Hi 🔥🔥
After you posting this video 6 years ago, today you continue to help many people with your story. I found out that I contracted herpes when I was 17, today I am 31. I can say that I am having a normal life but I still struggle with my self-esteem. Thank you so much and God bless you Alexandra❤
Hi, please join our group if you're struggling.
www.lifewithherpes.com/secretsociety
Madem it’s too expensive your joining fees u help some one or earn money with herpes plz drop your price so a poor peoples also join your group dear
I needed to hear this. I found out today, and your story is super similar to mine. Thank you.
I have been dealing with this since July/august and I have to say I am so glad I have found this channel. I used to think so much negative thoughts when it came to this. My story is almost exactly the same. I want to learn more in order to educate and make my life sssooooo much easier! so thank you!
How is your journey coming along?
you are so strong 🥺 and you’re beautiful inside and out! this is your story, your testimony that shines a light on others. be blessed and embrace you!💕🙏🏾
Thank you so much!!
Thank you for your story Alexandra...you are a good human and let no one tell you different!
Thanks to all of you who tell your potential partner about this before anything happens. I don't have it but as we get older things like that don't seem matter as much. We all just want to be with somebody who is on our same level and it becomes so rare that when you find that person, hopefully neither of you ever lets go. Good luck everybody
Its more women that do than men and im a guy. I dunno why these dudes dont tell these women there status and ruin there lives.
Telling your story is very brave. It will help a lot of young women in more ways than one. I always knew you would do great things.
Thank You Shawn! I am doing what I can to get the right information out there. Thank You for your support!!!!
Help a lot of young women . What about young guys . 😝😝 .. girls its easy for them to find partner even what virus they have .. but men noo ... 😝😝 so find a women for me right now
You're a brave person. Don't listen to the people who stigmatize. You're beautiful the way you are. Having herpes doesn't reflect on you.
Wow, similar scenario for me. Thank You So So much!! I was infected by a High School sweetheart when I was 36. I am now 56 still not married. But listening to you was like that hug I needed when I got my call from the doctor telling me I have herpes.
When I first got it 11 years ago I still remember being on my couch for a week naked I was burning inside I hate it
I got my herpes from my Dentist, he had a big sore on his bottom lip and he wasn't wearing gloves and i got a sore on my lip a month later , im devastated 😭
And I got HPV when I was raped back in the 70s , I have cervical cancer I just found out ,why me God .😭
@@lumity238 Lies.
I have a friend who might have it. She went to the doctor and they gave her conflicting diagnosis. I've been scouring the internet for information on it to help her out and I'm glad I found your Channel. I'll forward her to your channel so she can get more information on it. Thank you for all you do and I hope your Channel grows exponentially
I don't have it, but I think the world needs more people like you in it.I think ur a good honest person and brave for coming out telling your sorry and Any MF talks shit to you on here or anywhere is a low life ps
Thank you. Ive been in an abusive marriage as im scared no one will love me knowing I have herpes
Hello
I have symptoms but I have not been diagnosed yet. But I believe I do have herpes. Thank you so much, I am going through a tough time right now and hearing you makes me feel not alone. Thank you so much, Alexandra.
Kevin Farias my guy, would you like to converse? I just recently came out positive and would like to talk to other ppl that have it
Randy Flores we can talk about it !
Shaserae Basuil is snap chat or KIK fine?
Get tested you need to know so you can help yourself
@@shaseraebasuil2044 can we talk pls
What a strong, confident women
Beautiful brave girl. Thank you so much.
I started to date a long time friend and I trusted her and we kissed, 2 weeks later I have this horrible cold sore. She didn't bother to tell me that she had that . I didn't want to hide my first ever cold sore, and have avoided most women throughout my life out of phobia of catching herpes, but nyc will constantly point you out and make audible comments like ew gross he hass herpes... And it goes on all day long to the point where it drives you to want to jump in front of a train. Now I tried to hide it and of course all the same people that were commenting the first day are now commenting about how you were trying to hide it. People have absolutely no compassion. People don't realize that the person that was so unlucky to receive it already has to deal with the mental torture of an already limited dating pool being shrunken down into a microscopic pinpoint and knowing that they have to spend the rest of their lives being shamed publicly all day every time a cold sore appears, so next time you see someone that has a cold sore just shut up and leave them alone. Just keep your mouth shut and leave them be or you may be the reason why they end their life.
Hi.I have a question. So if the person has non visible cold sore, you can still get it? Is that what happened to you? Sorry, my English is not perfect. I mean I have a girlfriend, she lives in other country, we haven't seen each other in person but she has herpes. I just have many doubts.
You have absolutely no idea what this means to me to hear this today. You are an angel. 27 year old female who got back into the dating world after recovering from an abusive relationship 7 months ago. It’s so hard to wrap my mind and heart around and to hear your story makes all the difference in the world.
There's so much ignorance about this topic and males always think they have nothing. Thank u for sharing your story.🙏 and so happy you got blessed with true love❤
Thank you for sharing your story. It was very brave of you. I am happy you found love.
Thank you! I called two counselors / therapist and made appointments. Untouchable just ONE of the emotions.
He probably knew he had it but put on a show to pretend like he didnt.
can lo It’s hard to tell. The large majority of people who have it do not have symptoms.
That crossed my mind. I think he ignored his symptoms.
I just found out and I'm heartbroken!!
You have a smile that could stop a war
I don’t got it but bless you all were all the same don’t matter if u got a skin condition or not. I’m here for you all!! God bless!!!
My baby daddy just transmitted HV2 to me and lied and told me that the circle rash that he had on his face was a bee sting 🤦🏽♀️ and when I started to get symptoms he acted like he didn’t care and then when I got the results back and told him he said I got it from someone else and not from him and he never tested positive for it and kicked me out of his house
Yep sounds about right.
I’m sorry
Bruh
Im a guy and it sounds like he gave you it.
You was sleeping around.
I'm so scared to tell my mom I think I have herpes, I don't want her to find out that iv been sexually assaulted, iv been crying for the past 2 days
Oh, so sorry to hear that! Please write to us on email, if you want to talk.
i get tested every year and never ever have I ever had an std and now in the last 4 months I trusted someone and I asked him twice before sex and he said negative on stuff but as I find myself with this std now and he just uuggg... yes I am shame right now I knew better and yes I do feel like I will never be able to date again I feel like I am gonna be alone forever cuz who would want to be with me
Hello
He has changed your life irreversibly forever. There should be consequences for that
Men like him are the reason why we are not giving a choice weather or not to take that risk ourselves and do it safer
Omg I think I get from my husband so much years has pass and I still can't come to yet
Wow Alexandra what a Beautiful Responsible and Bravely Honest person you are to get on the internet and tell your story to basically the world ! Any man too have you in his life is extremely lucky. I'm so extremely touched by your fourth right personality and your positivity in moving forward in your life, and caring enough to try and help educate people about this virus, and the personal nature of it it, just really gives me the warm and fuzzy chills in the best possible way ! Just knowing your story and knowing you, even though the internet ! God bless you dear and your strength and thank you for taking the time to make this incredible video Your Beautiful wonderful and you matter 🌹
Jimmys Jamin thanks 🙏 I’m glad you were touched by the message. Thank you for your kind words. Let me know if our community can support you. 💗
Life With Herpes with Alexandra Harbushka I was forced to keep a secret by my ex girlfriend many years back, when her younger sister was diagnosed with herpes, and the things my ex said about her own sister made me feel so bad inside, and with the younger sister since she did not confide in me I could not tell her I knew about her situation, and had to act like I didn't know anything about her condition, it was so easy because she is a nice sweet person. I've been out of touch with them since I split with the mean ex. But remain very sympathetic, so glad your in this world you and others who share and educate make a difference too be sure 🌹
Jimmys Jamin yep keeping secrets can eat us up. And it’s so surprising how people react to herpes, it’s just a skin disease. Thanks for your support! 💜
very sweet to try and help others. Thank you
Chica, you're beautiful and things will get better as you already know and thank you for your story. Good bless you.
Thank you!!!! Yes things only get better. Thanks for reaching out and mostly thank you for being a part of this community. Let me know if there is anything I can create to help you.
In 2008 I moved out of state for 5 months for a short work stint. My girlfriend at the time went to Vegas with some of her friends during this time. Late summer i was thrilled to see her (5 months) you get it. She cried saying "i have to tell you something.....". THANK GOD I ended it right then and there. Its a dangerous game to play.
Man.. sorry to hear that. Maybe she wasn't educated enough..?!
I got herpes from a guy when I was 18. Only the second guy I had ever slept with. I thought my life was over. I wish I had done my research. I thought I was damaged goods. 3months after being diagnosed I got into a relationship with the first guy who liked me and accepted my diagnosis. He said not everyone would have me considering I had herpes. Which is true I know. Anyway 9yrs later and we are married with two kids. I have a comfortable and safe home and things could be way worse. But I rushed. I panicked that no one would love me and I was broken and would never get that white picket fence and I settled. It worked out great. In hindsight I wonder why the adults in my life didn't pull me to one side and say hey slow down, stop rushing, everything is going to be okay. What I mean is, you have time and even though it may feel like the end of the world it isn't. Give yourself time to process before making decisions.
Hi, do you still have outbreaks after those 9 years? If not, when it disappeared? I`m just in the first month.
@@Gustangela it’s never going away it’s forever it’s like that saying “it’s the gift tht keeps on giving” its a very horrible thing
So basically the person you with now you don’t want them and wish you has someone else😂😂😂
You’re 9 years in and you say it’s worked out but you believe you settled. That’s a very manipulative thing to say: “not everyone would have you.” I hope you see a counselor because what you have doesn’t seem healthy.
Liar
Thank you for this video, I just found out I have herpes and I’m honestly terrified.
Kayli Galbraith How you get it
Stacy Raymond where at ?
I don't want to be alive
What is the pomegranate about?
Taken from the website: Well, as you know it is hard enough to talk about Herpes let alone look at a blister. There was zero % chance there was going to be some horrible Googled picture of an outbreak as the logo. So, Alexandra and the team decided to get creative and look towards nature and come up with something that is aesthetically pleasing. And we came across the pomegranate! Think about it...don't the seeds kind of look like blisters? And what is also pretty cool is the pomegranate has been used through history by Kings and Queens as a holy symbolism. In general, the pomegranate represents fruitfulness, knowledge, learning, and wisdom so we think pomegranates are the perfect symbol for the Life With Herpes Community. Don't you?
You are a beautiful person inside and out. My friend found out she had it from her doc as well. Her HUSBAND gave it to her. What a shocker.
Your right we have to move on I've had it since 95 my GF didn't tell me until I realized I had it
Im really glad i found you. Thank you for all your doing
Hi 🙏🙏
I just found out on Wednesday and I’ve been
In pain since Sunday , how can I ease the pain from the sores there are a bunch I can barely walk and I got prescribed acyclovir , and ibuprofen
Fill the bath up and add some salt, or Epson salt. Make sure that the bath is not hot but warm. You can take a cool flannel or tea bag and gently put it onto the area to ease the pain. The salt will help to heal the blisters and the coolness from the cold flannel and tea bags will help with the pain and itching. Make sure that you get plenty of rest. The first year is the worst, but as time goes by, you will get less outbreaks. Research it on line for more ways of coping. Hope this helps!
How are you now ??
Thank you so much I been living with this for many years my ex husband gave it to me and I was 3 monts pregnant so at was very devastated for me I hope and pray for all the people that are so innocent that will be a cure soon for all of us Amen 🙏
I hope you were able to move on and find another relationship.
What a story that happened to me in the same fashion I thought I was alone, but I know now that I am not and you are a beautiful young lady you will find love the same way. I will if they do not accept you for you they do not deserve you. Be strong and just know that we will be healed from this virus very soon.
Thank you so much for your boldness and vulnerability!! I just discovered this channel and it’s been such a blessing!!! No longer allowing the enemy to fill my head with shameful thoughts, I am free in Christ!! I am loved, chosen and worthy!! God bless you! And God bless this channel, it is so needed!! Keep shining your light!! 🙏🏽💛
Literally cried at the guy that said "I don't have it I don't sleep with dirty people". I literally had a guy basically say the same thing to me. His response was "well that sucks for you I know I don't have it. Sucks you do though"
Good
I just found out that I have herpes , and I’m 7 months pregnant .... I feel alone ... more so angry cause Idk who to trust , I’m depressed I feel so detached .... please help
Hi Kyanna, so sorry to hear that! Please come to our group and join our Monday calls. You will get the support and information you need! www.lifewithherpes.com/secretsociety
Hugs
Congratulations on your baby. I hope you're doing better. Don't worry. There are people out there who don't care if you have it. It's just a skin disorder. Like eczema. It doesn't change you as a person. Much 💘 and peace
Judging by the story he definitely knew and was deflecting it on to you(even If he didnt know he's a jerk and still deflected as if he had an idea).Im glad you stayed strong.
He knew.
Why the pomagrant fruit
I applaud you! I will join the Facebook group! I was going through your emotions with you as you told your story! I really needed to hear your story! I felt like it was a curse on my life when I found out and is still struggling with it! After hearing your story I feel a little better about it but still have my fears to date!
Hi 👍🙏🤩
Don't stress. Stress makes it worse
Amazing your brave to share that story
Too many comments with annoying ads, links. Why wouldn't block them ?
Thanks for this message when I found out I was so depressed but told me my self not end of the world u can still live life I hope I can find someone love me still
I am grateful, thankful and blessed to have found your channel
I got infected 4 years ago. Now I have the feeling that my body and my brain are affected. I am struggling every day with suicidal thoughts. My life feels over.
@Noé André I have no Power and always pain down there. My brain is affected because I can't remember many things.
R u ok now?
@@blaeck_kitty8149 when having these things u have to build up ur immune system u can't have these things in ur body n not fight them off it's all ur fault I n i would really recommend u go to a doctor caz u might have HIV OR AIDS ALSO BEACUSE HERPES LEADS TO HIV AND U COULD HAVE HAD IT HERPES DOESN'T SHUT DOWN THE BRAIN BUT HIV DOES.....DO IT AND UPDATE US
@@thatgirlmoe9010 i immediately went to different doctors. They Tested me negative for HIV, of course I am Happy about this! Since one week I take Aciclovir 400 every day two times. I hope this will reduce the outbreaks...🙏
@@blaeck_kitty8149 smile okay n if u wanna go for a more natural way take olive leaf extract it stops viral shedding n it's hard to pass it onto ur partner I also heard that James destroy herpes regiments cure herpes look it up on TH-cam
My ex got HSV2 recently and I know that even with condoms she can still transmit it to me. I ain’t gonna lie I don’t want to catch it but I do love her and it’s hard not to feel disappointed. I was hoping we could work things out and I don’t mean to be judgmental but it’s hard not to feel heartbroken for her and our situation. Dealing with this is hard and im not the one who’s dealin with this personally.
I used a condom and still got it on the top and very base of my penis
Maybe I was too promiscuous.... I feel like her, how will I ever find a woman that will want to be with me?
I absolutely love her honest... Brave woman
What a horrible dickhead... You are so beautiful
Do know any single women like you?
How old were you when you found out?
Thank you for this video, it helped me a lot
Alyssa Damiano thank you Alyssa! I am here to help if you need anything. Hang in there 💗
Life With Herpes with Alexandra Harbushka can we converse? I would like to talk to someone in this rough time :(
Question. Do you ever get a blood test and see if it's postive
Thanks for telling your story! You’re beautiful 😍
It's really a shame that there's so much stigma attached. Usher has layed low since he was outted for having Herpes.
Usher didn't disclose to alot of women that he had herpes and didn't use protection. That's why usher was sued and outed. Usher knew he had herpes and didn't disclose.
That's because he was knowingly infecting other people with herpes not because people knew he had it.
I was diagnosed in 2014. I had not had sex in 6 years prior to dating a person that I knew from my hometown. We spent 4 days together and I started to be very painful right after I returned home. I remember how my world felt like it was crashing around me. I was also diagnosed with a yeast infection AND chlamydia. When I told the guy I was seeing, he told me that I had it before and that I didn't get it from him. We got into a huge argument over it and it took him 3 months to finally test himself before he called to apologize to me. It's still a hard conversation to have with potential partners. The only people that don't know I have it is my parents, otherwise I'm pretty open with friends, other family, and coworkers. I had one coworker call me after I had talked about it one evening to confide in me that she was diagnosed and how scared she was. It made me feel good that I was able to help comfort somebody newly diagnosed because it isn't something that I had when I was diagnosed.
Curious u have herpes or you just had chlymydia and a yeast infection
@@David-jx6sl I have herpes (HSV2). When I was diagnosed I also had chlamydia and a yeast infection which were treated.
so yall can meet a guy whose sexual history you don't know and go raw.
i hate to be that person but you set yourself up for failure and the consequences are for life.
help people and teach them never to make the irresponsible choices you made
Thank you so much for this.. You're amazing and beautiful.
I got diagnosed yesterday...still not sure how to process this.
Your voice will save many👍
thank you so much for this video! I know EXACTLY how you felt...
:(
I’m sorry I tried to sit thru this but you really gotta spit it out all the pauses are killing me
You can speed up the video by going into settings.
Her pauses moved me. It was postively impactful and what i needed.
I hate this comment. This is an emotional thing she’s expressing and hard to talk about in general
Thank you for being in my life
You gave me hope!
Ur an amazing person Alexander. Thank you for being you. You give me Hope. ❤
Thank you for this, you beautiful soul..♥️
Thx for sharing your story , this can happen to anyone
God bless !!🙏
I admire your courage! ❤️
Have you ever tried hydrogen peroxide?
So Herpes can look like a yeast infection? Which means you do have discharge and all? Does it smell?
They can appear simultaneously, but they are different. If you have a faul smell, it sounds more like a BV than herpes. However, always discuss with your doctor. He can diagnose you - we can't.
Do you have a patreon to help support your work?
Yes, thank you! www.patreon.com/alexandraharbushka
How u deal with nerve pain which cause by herpes
Try epsom salt baths and cbd. They usually help.
Thank you for sharing your story !!
i found out just over a week ago in the middle of a shift and i work in hospitality so i work like 12 hour shifts in jeans with the worst ulcers😭 it really was not the most comfortable experience at all but still no one knows other than my two closest friends and i really don’t know what to do with myself still🤣 if anyone has any advice for someone with hsv-1 but the genital version please let me know :)
Hey did you ever figure this out, I’m in the same boat
I appreciate this so much