Merry Christmas, Dr.Carter. At age 71, nobody in our family wants anything to do with a narcissistic relative. I’m just grateful I can now see through her act.
I heard this quip long ago about megalomaniac know-it-alls: They have all the answers, but no one asked the questions. Merry Christmas 🎅 and Happy New Year!
@@ND-or5so I'm not sure as I'm still learning about narcissism. He was very intimidating, critical, and angry at home, but had a completely different public persona. Everyone thought he was charming. He wasn't.
That's how I was describing my narcissist ex wife: Like the Mississippi River. If it goes in her direction, everything is amazing. If something goes against the grain, you are gonna suffer like you are on a kayak in the middle of the Mississippi River.
Why does the NPD steal my food, damage it, and he poked a hole in my water bottle. He said I'm smarter than you! He lied about his son coming over. Then he went alone to his house for Christmas! Merry Christmas and Happy New Year's!
Thus dangerous scary stuff & you need to get distance between you. This situation isn’t solvable. Sounds like a trauma bond 💔❤️🩹♥️ it takes a year of no contact as you work on codependency to save yourself from certain toxicity
Boom. Honesty Anger Emotional incompetent Basically, everything you say in this video!!! I am SO glad to he away from my husband 💔while I also am heartbroken
Toddler issues! He’s not your son & needs to return to his other mother. Enabling narcissism is such a waste & someday even the thought of him will disgust you! Forgive & love yourself now 💔❤️🩹♥️
@danemartin5674 Do you mean their victim? If that's what you mean, that's not right to say and it's not true. Apparently, you haven't been in a relationship with a narcissist. Their victim has been abused and needs to heal after they can leave and move on and get back with life.
@@JohnnyMason-p7u Ok, so? Then what? Try it out for yourself with a narcissist and see how you deal with it. You won't make a cold remark when you fall victim or after, if there is an after.
Lots of PEACE 🕊🕊🕊 and GRACE 🙏🙏🙏to all of us during these Christmas days 🌲. Be kind to yourself by taking good boundaries around you and by giving yourself what you deserve to be given 💝 LOVE 💗💗💗 is inside of you and a star has been rising 💫⭐. Heavenly blessings to all of you 💕 🙏💛💛💛🙏
I'm so GLAD,your videos, are NOT the way you look.🤗.You have a Mr. Roger's friendly neighborhood look but your videos are 👌👊,to the point, keeping it real,which is really what people NEED to hear. Narcissism to the naive is treacherous,something they've never seen before.
Well seeing it’s Christmas. Feels bit hard to get it together as not sleeping nor waking well. I though perhaps once the grind of me being together, to head to family. That perhaps at a still time in the evening. I’d hoped my Spouce would find a way to give a small gesture of gratitude. to be together. Of course I’d want a hug embrace, Merry Christmas wished . I decided not to make the move for it. And need to ask. As he’d will not look or any eye contact my way, while in the home preparing to leave. Now I must except it was there for Christmas 🎄 Feel totally alone. I keep thinking I’m in a dissociative behavior type with frustrations. It doesn’t feel right, have I underestimated this relation. Can’t shake the sadness.
Uuuug….and soooo true… thank you dear Gus and Dr. C. Merry Christmas to you and your family and I pray for you all. There’s no weapons formed against you will prosper, and every fiery dart from the enemies camp will return to the enemies camp in Jesus mighty name! Also, nothing you eat drink touched a cord that is in your body will harm you and your loved ones in Jesus mighty name!!!! Lord God Almighty is going to do a big huge flip here soon and there will be glory days coming, but not to the deep state. Thank you Lord God Almighty, that you love them more than we love them. Lord God, Almighty, please open their eyes so that they see you Jesus and that they have a transformed heart of you, Lord God. Nothing is impossible to you, Lord God, and you have asked us to intercede and pray for them, because you love them more than we do.  We have children and parents, and loved ones that we care about and we do not want to see them parish Lord. Hugs from Cynthia Ann in JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA
What are you going to do no matter how much you try to make them see reason the only thing they are going to see is what they want to see and the only thing they are going to hear is what they want to hear and that’s just ridiculous and illogical they can’t force wrong actions to become right just because they are delusional and they believe that they are right and everybody is wrong if something didn’t work out the first ten thousand times why insist on repeating the same mistakes over and over again like I said ridiculous and illogical 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
If only this information had been around decades ago-it would have made explaining the narcissists in my life growing up so much easier. Back then, the only term that seemed to fit was *'Drama Queen/King'!* 😅
Once you realize who you are dealing with it's useless to give them any answer. Let them have all the answers in the universe. Their "false self" it's still the master af all knowledge.
SO many excellent points in those podcast all in one place. Concise and spot on. I will listen to it again and again. Thank you Dr and Merry Christmas. Today is Christmas 🎄🎅🏼
Perfectly said years ago after 23 years with my ex thought it was me. Read a book Walking On Egg Shells,had an ephinany,and left with my daughter. Clothes l photo albums. He is still the same, but see it now
The judicial system is not your friend. I personally wouldn't use it unless I had irrefutable proof, a great lawyer etc. Narcissists LOVE and THRIVE in court rooms. They lie like the Nile river, deflect like nobody's business and charm the judge and everyone in the courtroom. Unless, going to court is vital to you, i suggest you leave in silence
Everything pisses them off. Even saying goodnight
I could listen to this man all day
You are right!
Me too
Same his words have helped me greatly
Merry Christmas, Dr.Carter. At age 71, nobody in our family wants anything to do with a narcissistic relative. I’m just grateful I can now see through her act.
I know he a Doctor, but his knowledge of Narcissism is astounding!
I heard this quip long ago about megalomaniac know-it-alls: They have all the answers, but no one asked the questions.
Merry Christmas 🎅 and Happy New Year!
Thank you Dr. Carter.
The narcissist I knew was very impatient and always tense.
🎄🎄Merry Christmas Dr. C and Everyone!🎄🎄
Thanks, Hatbox. 🤗
Same to you 💕
@Hatbox948
Was he/she a covert narcissist?
@@ND-or5so I'm not sure as I'm still learning about narcissism. He was very intimidating, critical, and angry at home, but had a completely different public persona. Everyone thought he was charming. He wasn't.
@Hatbox948 Merry Christmas 🕯✨️
"Knew" is the best term when it relates to a narcissist.
Excellent summary. The narc in a nutshell.
That's how I was describing my narcissist ex wife:
Like the Mississippi River.
If it goes in her direction, everything is amazing.
If something goes against the grain, you are gonna suffer like you are on a kayak in the middle of the Mississippi River.
Why does the NPD steal my food, damage it, and he poked a hole in my water bottle. He said I'm smarter than you! He lied about his son coming over. Then he went alone to his house for Christmas! Merry Christmas and Happy New Year's!
Thus dangerous scary stuff & you need to get distance between you. This situation isn’t solvable. Sounds like a trauma bond 💔❤️🩹♥️ it takes a year of no contact as you work on codependency to save yourself from certain toxicity
you are insanely wise & valued Dr. C, thank you always! happy holidays!
Thank you kindly. Happy holidays to you as well.
It should be embarrassing to them how unqualified they really are as someone you've known and not all together
Boom.
Honesty
Anger
Emotional incompetent
Basically, everything you say in this video!!!
I am SO glad to he away from my husband 💔while I also am heartbroken
Toddler issues! He’s not your son & needs to return to his other mother. Enabling narcissism is such a waste & someday even the thought of him will disgust you! Forgive & love yourself now 💔❤️🩹♥️
I’m gaining courage to leave. My heart goes out to you. 💔…❤️🩹🌷…..🌺❤️❤️
Look, Chief, THEY work for Chaos 💥 WE have Control 🎛️. Of ourselves, our reactions, our choices.
As for me and my house 🏡, WE...
Stay Healthy!!
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I've noticed the ones who have prolonged influence by the narcissist, do not do that well in life. It's sad to see.
They are used up financially emotionally and physically
@danemartin5674
Do you mean their victim?
If that's what you mean, that's not right to say and it's not true. Apparently, you haven't been in a relationship with a narcissist. Their victim has been abused and needs to heal after they can leave and move on and get back with life.
@@JohnnyMason-p7u
Ok, so? Then what? Try it out for yourself with a narcissist and see how you deal with it. You won't make a cold remark when you fall victim or after, if there is an after.
How many do you know? How many victims do you know to notice that?
@@ND-or5so definitely
Merry Christmas 🎄🥂🤶
You said it Dr. Carter...i love your reasoning so much.
Happy Holidays Everyone 🎁💚 Be well
Thank u again, Dr C. Wisdom as usual. Happy Holidays
Lots of PEACE 🕊🕊🕊 and GRACE 🙏🙏🙏to all of us during these Christmas days 🌲.
Be kind to yourself by taking good boundaries around you and by giving yourself what you deserve to be given 💝
LOVE 💗💗💗 is inside of you and a star has been rising 💫⭐.
Heavenly blessings to all of you 💕
🙏💛💛💛🙏
Amen 🙏
Same to you 💗
@roxymovie3938 Happy Holidays 🕯✨️
I'm so GLAD,your videos, are NOT the way you look.🤗.You have a Mr. Roger's friendly neighborhood look but your videos are 👌👊,to the point, keeping it real,which is really what people NEED to hear.
Narcissism to the naive is treacherous,something they've never seen before.
Absolutely true, Sir!
Well seeing it’s Christmas. Feels bit hard to get it together as not sleeping nor waking well.
I though perhaps once the grind of me being together, to head to family. That perhaps at a still time in the evening. I’d hoped my Spouce would find a way to give a small gesture of gratitude. to be together. Of course I’d want a hug embrace, Merry Christmas wished . I decided not to make the move for it. And need to ask. As he’d will not look or any eye contact my way, while in the home preparing to leave.
Now I must except it was there for Christmas 🎄 Feel totally alone.
I keep thinking I’m in a dissociative behavior type with frustrations.
It doesn’t feel right, have I underestimated this relation.
Can’t shake the sadness.
Uuuug….and soooo true… thank you dear Gus and Dr. C.
Merry Christmas to you and your family and I pray for you all.
There’s no weapons formed against you will prosper, and every fiery dart from the enemies camp will return to the enemies camp in Jesus mighty name! Also, nothing you eat drink touched a cord that is in your body will harm you and your loved ones in Jesus mighty name!!!!
Lord God Almighty is going to do a big huge flip here soon and there will be glory days coming, but not to the deep state.
Thank you Lord God Almighty, that you love them more than we love them.
Lord God, Almighty, please open their eyes so that they see you Jesus and that they have a transformed heart of you, Lord God. Nothing is impossible to you, Lord God, and you have asked us to intercede and pray for them, because you love them more than we do. 
We have children and parents, and loved ones that we care about and we do not want to see them parish Lord.
Hugs from Cynthia Ann in JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA
Thank you so much, Cynthia. I wish God's peace for you this season.
What are you going to do no matter how much you try to make them see reason the only thing they are going to see is what they want to see and the only thing they are going to hear is what they want to hear and that’s just ridiculous and illogical they can’t force wrong actions to become right just because they are delusional and they believe that they are right and everybody is wrong if something didn’t work out the first ten thousand times why insist on repeating the same mistakes over and over again like I said ridiculous and illogical
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Merry Christmas to you and yours. Scritch Gus for me and hug the family. Peace 8- )
Thank you 🙏❤️🙏❤️
If only this information had been around decades ago-it would have made explaining the narcissists in my life growing up so much easier. Back then, the only term that seemed to fit was *'Drama Queen/King'!* 😅
“Whats that all about?” Lmao 😂😂😂
Spot on!
I've seen "together " narcs fold like a piece of paper at stresses that are minor. I was shocked to say the least.
Once you realize who you are dealing with it's useless to give them any answer. Let them have all the answers in the universe. Their "false self" it's still the master af all knowledge.
A real humans mistake was feeling any sympathy for them.
What are you saying?
SO many excellent points in those podcast all in one place. Concise and spot on. I will listen to it again and again. Thank you Dr and Merry Christmas. Today is Christmas 🎄🎅🏼
Can I add Covert narcissists
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Ty Ik that I have experienced a marriage who was one. God do I get this. Ty
He learned how to steal
For some of them it comes naturally and didn't need to be learned.
Perfectly said years ago after 23 years with my ex thought it was me. Read a book Walking On Egg Shells,had an ephinany,and left with my daughter. Clothes l photo albums. He is still the same, but see it now
Very brave! Your daughter has a chance now & so do you 💔❤️🩹♥️
That book is the gold standard.
@@caroleminke6116 yes she was 13 when We left still same town . No problem I set the rules. No or min. Contact, will not engage.
@@SurvivingNarcissism thought at time was written for me,how could someone know saved my life ha maybe his also. 😂
I work with that person
Yep 💯
Does it make me a narcissist if I get angry that my husband keeps threatening to quit his job to stay home and drink all day?
It would make no sense if you DIDN'T feel some anger.
I’ve noticed a high percentage of women in the comments and genuinely curious about this.
Who are this PEOPLE AROUND other PEOPLE mind
Dr Carter, if you could stop the narcissist from attacking you by taking them to court should you do it?
The judicial system is not your friend. I personally wouldn't use it unless I had irrefutable proof, a great lawyer etc. Narcissists LOVE and THRIVE in court rooms. They lie like the Nile river, deflect like nobody's business and charm the judge and everyone in the courtroom.
Unless, going to court is vital to you, i suggest you leave in silence
Wow.
whats a reliable way to test if you are one of these?
Then tack on ADHD?
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This doesn't make any sense
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