WHY I DON’T FOLLOW THE CURLY GIRL METHOD: Sulfates, Silicones, and Other CGM Rules I Break and WHY!
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 9 เม.ย. 2020
- HAPPY FRODAY, Curl Friends!! Today I’m addressing a highly controversial topic: why I DO NOT follow the Curly Girl Method. I’m spilling the tea on all my rule-breaking ways, so stay tuned to the end and feel free to comment below with your thoughts!
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The CGM is 25 years out of date, cosmetic science has moved on light years from that and so should we. Thanks for this 🙌🏻
PREACH!! 🙌🏻🙌🏻 Do what works for your curls, not what someone else has decreed! xx
@spirals 73
Omg! Someone w my hair!!
I have low porosity coarse hair. Seems everyone has fine hair..
I just wanted to have healthier hair. But it wasn’t bad to start. It sure looks like it now. I’m going back to my silicones ASAP.
I would like more info. on this statement.
I just stopped doing CGM after a year of fighting with my hair and spending hundreds and hundreds of dollars and ALOT of time with little to *no results.* It started to affect my mental health, everytime I walked by the mirror I would feel a sense of self hatred for how awful my hair was.
My hair is high porosity and can't hold moisture if my life depended on it. My curls are also delicate so I have to be careful how many moisturizing agents I put in. The CGM products that I found *did* keep my hair frizz free and moisturized weighed it down - and even then the results were sub par.
I've added silicones and holy moly my curls look and feel incredible! My curls have bounced back and my hair feels and looks so healthy. The silicones have effectively sealed my hair shaft to hold moisture in and prevent frizz. My hair is no longer rough, dry, frizzy, and tangly. I feel free now, I do what my hair likes, and for the first time in my life I feel good about my hair. I just use a sulfate on wash day and deep condition afterwards 👌
YES YES YES - it’s not about following rules, it’s about listening to your curls and finding what works best for YOU! Thank you for sharing 💛 xx
Hi, what products with silicones are working well for you? I have superfine high porosity hair. Thanks.
I think I needed this comment- Every post in the CGM facebook group I'm in talks about patience, and I can't have much more patience left after 7 months and just seeing my hair getting worse, always saturated in buildup, spending lots of money trying "clean stuff" that doesn't work for me, missing out on awesome hair products feeling sad not being able to try them, stressing over every product I put on my hair, and my hair falling off more than ever. Woo, i guess I just needed to vent, and find someone who understands lol. If you say 1 year and no results, I better believe you and right now i'm going to try going CGM-free to see if my hair comes back to life. I miss that frizz-free shiny look in my old photos. Thanks.
i started following cgm 3 years ago with my heat damaged hair (some strands were just plain straight and wouldn't curl no matter what). discovering cgm was life changing and my hair was fully curly around 6 months in, and it only got healthier and curlier during the following year or so. however, for the past year it has felt dry and straw-like no matter what i did. i could achieve some acceptable results on wash days, but on day two, even though it looked okay, it always fellt like a crispy tangled mess. for a whole year i kept telling myself to power through and keep looking for cgm approved products, because, after all, it was cgm that changed my hair from limp frizzy waves with straight pieces to voluminous curls i had never even dreamed i could have. but around a month ago i had the epiphany that it wasn't cutting out silicones that saved my hair, it was the proper care (no real heat styling, scrunching techniques, understanding protein and moisture balance, sleeping on a silk pillowcase, using hair gel, etc.).
so, i bought an ogx conditioner with silicones in it, and it took 3 washes for my hair to finally not feel straw like. i'm on day two after washing now, and i cannot believe that my hair is not tangled and feels soft to the touch.
cgm is amazing for learning how to care about your hair, but at the end of the day, if certain rules that come with it are actually preventing your very own unique hair from looking its best, then what is the point?
YES YES YES 🙌🏻 The concepts are wonderful, but there’s no need to restrict ourselves with so many rules! Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us! xx
My curl pattern looks like a grown out 80s perm. I color it, I wash it daily, I diffuse it. I do whatever makes my life with this hair easiest. I look like a CGM before picture.
It is enough to go to the gym, do your kegels, follow a skincare routine. Floss your teeth, take your pills, clean your make-up brushes. On top of a family, house, job. The last thing I need is to become an adherent to yet another set of rules meant to optimize my life. I have hair that looks like I'm in an 80s hairband video. So what.
I get compliments regularly. It looks like Stevie Knicks in 1979. Fluffy. Big. And my own. Sans rules
You are way ahead of me! I gave up trying to keep make up brushes clean.😮
Fantastic commom sense! Well done!
Your so honest thank you so much I do lighten my hair and I think the products you use helps. Trying cake tomorrow!! Excited
Yayyyyy let me know how it goes! They’re still my holy grails 🙌🏻
omg I about jumped when you mentioned Michelle's in the NY area. I had JUST been thinking about how I haven't been able to find anyone that can highlight my dark blonde/light brown hair gently (well, as gently as possible). Thank you!
Thank you so much for this video! I follow most of the rules of the CGM, and today I said "my hair looked healthier and more beautiful before I started the method". TH-cam search and I found your video.
So thank you so much! Kisses from Portugal!
Glad I could help!! xxx
I've been struggling with the cgm as my hair takes an age to dry. I have learned so much from watching your videos and have taken on board all you say...thank you for keeping it real xx
Thank you so much!! I hope your journey starts to feel much easier xxx
@@TheFitCurls thank you, it really has and my 55 year old over straightened hair has started responding. You are changing curly lives across the planet 😊 much love from England xxx
I realized I couldn't do CGM when I learned I couldn't use a hair dryer w/ a diffuser to dry my hair. My hair takes a full 12 hours to air dry WITHOUT product in. With a diffuser I can dry my hair in an hour.
PREACH SISTA!!!!
Could you please do a full apple cider rinse video? Like how u make it,do you shampoo before and/or after. Do you use a conditioner after etc.
I like the way you explain things. Do you think you could do a video educating on how to safely use sulfates and silicones? Im slowly venturing away from the cgm but that aspect still overwhelms me a bit.
I’ll see what I can do!
Thank you! Thank you! I also have thing loose spiral curls. My friend recently told me about curly girl and I've been trying it and my hair looks like CRAP!!! At the end of the day my hair isn't damaged or unhealthy, so I'm gonna keep diffusing my hair and using my styling products.
Amen, girl!! Do what works for YOUR hair 💕
I don't follow the exact CG method because there is no way I could only ever just cowash. My hair is fine and oily. It needs a good cleanse every now and then, and I've found I actually prefer shampoos to cowashes because I like the lather. I recently stopped trying to avoid silicones because after nearly 3 years of doing just that, I was tired of avoiding products I wanted to try for no other reason than they had silicones in them. That decision means I finally get to try Cake Beauty, which I've been wanting to since seeing you use them on your channel all the time.
I love this and I relate soooo much
Thank you! You have a beautiful cut, it is not easy to find someone who can cut curly hair.
I enjoy your channel. Informative and validating. My silver curls are doing better and better. I live in California where we can’t run the shower extra to steam our hair. LOL! Manes by Mel recommended a facial steamer and has a coupon code with it. I bought one. My skin loves it, my lungs and it’s a game changer for refreshing my curls!
I actually just grabbed a handheld steamer today! Conserving water is always the right answer and the direct steam is a total game changer! Thank you so much for your kind words xxx
Steaming hair for a refresher is something I never thought of...less drenching than a spray bottle?
@@Cbozflorida Definitely.
I do not follow the CGM either, I just won't give up brushing my hair and cleansing with sulfates.
AMEN!! Whatever works for your hair - you do you! xx
Finally i found someone like me , your reasons are like mine, I discovered that my hair loves sulfates because my scalp is oily, so that’s why I just moisturize the ends of my hair with conditioner and deep conditioning.
It’s all about doing what works best for your hair, not someone else’s! Glad you’ve found what your curls love :)
I also have an oily scalp and I get along really well by the Bounce Curl Clarifying Shampoo and the As I Am Cowash, which are both CG approved. So I think you just haven't tried the right products.
@@gizellapopescu3355 I tried the as I am cowash and I got a flare of seb derm. I’ve also tried about 20 different sulfate fee shampoos over the past three years and each time my seb derm flares. I’m glad you found sulfate fee works for you, but that doesn’t mean it works for all oily scalps. We’re all different and have to find what works for us as individuals!
@@sabr4174 I was merely saying that I found products that work well for me and that it is all about experimenting. You just have to find what works
i never subscribed to cowashing. massaging the scalp with just water would probably be better than that. your point on trying to remove oil with lotion is so on point.. i'm sure the CGM is exactly what some curls need, but i don't believe it's for all curly types. i'm a wavy-curly & i got into the coconut oil craze & just bits of the CGM (never the full method) & over time, i could tell my hair didn't like certain products that others loved. occasional sulfate to clease is the only way for me to get rid of product build up..
loving the LUS styler so far, especially since it's fragrance free.. all these curly companies promote "natural ingredients" but douse their stylers with so much damn perfume, that can't be healthy! & they trigger my migraines 😢
I actually "wash" my hair between wash days (every 2-3 days) with just water and my fingers. If I'm oily I'll use dry shampoo
I've noticed that I get more spirals in my hair when I use a conditioner that's high in oil. I think silicones would probably have a similar effect so I'm considering going back to my favourite Aveda products!
Aveda is such a wonderful brand!!! It really bothers me that one uninformed rule can eliminate some truly excellent products from people’s arsenals!
I’m really glad I found you!!! I started my curly journey back in June of this year and it’s been a STRUGGLE.... I had such curly hair growing up that I hated I destroyed it by straightening it every other day.... because I have naturally curly hair my scalp would get oily super fast when straightening so I would have to wash it way more often and strip more oils out which was a vicious cycle. I have so much frizz now that I’m trying to embrace, but it’s super hard because it always feels super knotted.
Girl I feel you!! If your hair is super tangled and frizzy, you’re probably dealing with a whole lot of damage. Check out my Dealing with Damage and Protein vs Moisture videos - hopefully they will help! xx
@@TheFitCurls thank you so much!!!! I hope one day I can fix my curls and have them be as soft and pretty as yours!
I just stopped doing it after a year. Because my har was always knotty,dry,and frizzy. I just dont use sulfates and parabens,and always crueltyfree products. My hair really likes some
silicones, but not to much of them. So its build up. There are plenty of mild surfactants,that remove non watersoluble silikons. my hair was even more buildup with all the heavy oils in
the cgm method.Leaving it dry and kind like fluffy,stringy feeling.
can u tell me where u get the eva nye detox salt scrub shampoo? i cant find it on amazon
Hello. I am quite confused about my hair. I had always hated my hair as a child coz they are not straight ofcourse. Now after losing a lot of hair n still losing on everyday basis I just discovered that i have curly hair and it needs to be take care of . I have just started taking care of my curls but the thing i noticed that my hair only gets in their curly pattern after the wash. And the next day they lose their shape. Flatten out and as i have such a less amount of hair left on my head they luk so bad.(curls make them luk healthier but thay dont stay longer as well)
Thanks for this video!! What are some of your favorite products?
Oooh man, I have so many 🤣 feel free to check out my styling tutorials for a sampling and stay tuned for more!
@@TheFitCurls ok sure thing!! Thanks!
And according to Manes by Mells experiment, sulfates aren’t the only way to remove silicones.
I know, I loved watching that experiment!! So informative! xx
which other ways we can do to remove silikons build up
I needed this! I’m trying to follow this method to the t and my scalp is itchy then I clarify with sulfates and feel guilty but you know what... apparently I need it! Haha
Exactly!! Everyone’s hair and scalp need slightly different things, so it’s about loving your hair as it is and giving it what it needs! xx
I have dermatitis and it requires some really harsh stuff for my scalp to be clean. If I don't it's itchy the whole time
After about 3-4 years I've re-introduced silicone...been low-pooing but I've never felt like CG did anything spectacular for my medium wavy hair, if anything, letting my highlights grow out and putting down the bleach seems to help most in terms of hair health. Just sick of being limited to what I can do frankly and I'm not near as curly as I was 10-15 years ago anyway. Would you say it's safe to blow dry "straight" with a nozzle on low/cool heat?
I think Swavy Curly Courtney and Hair Romance both have videos about how to "recover" after a straight hair day.
It's safe to do a warm or even hot blow out if you only do it 1-2 times a month. So says my stylist. BUT that's what he said about my hair. If you are concerned ask you stylist.
Have you ever used the Amika Thicc volumizing product for fine hair at the root?
I haven’t! I’ll have to look into it :) my personal favorite root volumizer atm is Wella EIMI Root Shoot!
@@TheFitCurls thank you!
I have a super oily scalp/skin. I need to shampoo!!
Heck yeah!!! Shampoo is bae 🙌🏻
In the Curly Girl she does say wavy girls can use shampoo
Hi
I tried. I tried. I tried some more.
I spend HOURS. TO LOOK LIKE GARBAGE.
My hair looks so so damaged & it’s not. I just wanted to learn to wash & go. And now I’m avoiding silicones & using sulphates again! Bc I was told I have problems bc I have “build up” form oils & butters.
Umm.. I used silicone for years & didn’t use sulfate to remove them. The c-14 whatever is proven to be strong enough to remove it.
When using silicones you use sulfates. is it any sulfate? whats the difference between cleansing and using sulfates to remove silicones?
Great questions! The only sulfate I try to limit or eliminate is SLS - Sodium Lauryl Sulfate - as it is the most stripping and can be particularly harsh on my dry scalp. However, most of the time a gentle sulfate-free shampoo will do the trick when it comes to cleansing off silicones! Cosmetic chemistry has come a long way 🙌🏻 Cleansing just refers to, well, cleansing your hair! Using products with surfactants meant to clean off whatever is clinging to your scalp and strands.
@@TheFitCurls Thank you.so never use SLS even for once a month to clarify? and -do you distinguish between sulfates and the ingredients under "caution" on this site? are they good removing ANY type of silicones? thanks!!! www.curlsbot.com/cleansers
@@hadaryepyepyep123 Never say never, my friend!! I try not to demonize ingredients - just the harsher it is, the less frequently I use it! Curlsbot is more restrictive than I am 😉 I recommend using a more clarifying shampoo every 3-5 washes to avoid buildup. In between, use a gentler cleanser like a sulfate-free or more moisturizing shampoo or even a cleansing conditioner, depending on how your hair responds! It’s all about what works best for YOU 💕
@@TheFitCurls Im still confused . when i look for a shampoo which will remove any silicone i use to avoid build up, what should i look for? is it safe using that as my only shampoo?
@@hadaryepyepyep123 To simplify: I recommend having TWO shampoos on hand. One clarifying - sulfates fine, highly cleansing, listed on the bottle as clarifying - to use periodically, and one gentle/moisturizing for regular use. I have a list of videos to make and I have a feeling that different levels of cleansers will have to make it onto the list!
Never understood why anyone would follow the CGM. I couldn't get passed the finger combing & use of Deva Curl products. Sorry y'all...Deva Curl was overrated & over priced.
The no-brushing rule would KILL ME. Stay tuned for an even deeper dive into the CGM!!
Cgm makes no sense, what about the denman brush?
Exactly!! To me, the CGM is just too restrictive!
I didn’t brush my hair for 6 months and my mother told me stop!
An aspect of CGM is using water soluble products which don’t cause build up. As a result I only have to wash my hair once a week and either leave my hair alone in between or lightly refresh. With non water soluble products which is nothing wrong with I have to wash my hair every other day because non water soluble products cause build up.
As I’ve said before and will say again, to each their own! My high porosity hair does much better with non-CGM products because they seal my cuticle better, but I still have quite a few approved products that I use and love! And I’ve never struggled with buildup from the products I use that can’t be fixed with my regular shampoo :) But if you’ve found what works for you, GOOD!! That’s the goal!!
I think everyone needs to stop and use a little common sense. Like every other "how-to?" one might Google the cgm are guidelines for the normal/average curly hair. Because everyone's hair is different every way to wash/style should be different also.