Making Friends: Introvert Edition
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 26 พ.ค. 2024
- Making friends can feel like a complex puzzle in the gay world - and when you're an introvert, the pieces fit differently.
In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, Michael DiIorio and friendship coach, Zayne Khan explore the distinctive hurdles faced by introverts in their quest for companionship.
We’ll cover topics such as:
🌈 The unique challenges introverts face in making friends
🌈 How being gay impacts our ability to make friends
🌈 The impact of apps and social media in seeking connection
🌈 Practical tips for introverts who want to make meaningful friendships
If you're an introvert searching for camaraderie, understanding, and connection, this episode is a must-listen. Making friends can be a beautiful, transformative experience, and we're here to help you every step of the way. 👇🏼
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0:00 Introduction
4:37 The unique challenges introverts face in making friends
6:42 How being gay impacts our ability to make friends
13:22 How do you define introvert?
21:05 The impact of apps and social media in seeking connection
32:07 What are the common introvert challenges?
34:13 Practical tips for introverts who want to make meaningful friendships
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Awee this helps so much, as a 27 year old it’s hard to make new friends being an introvert. And being out of school I agree, it’s so much harder to connect being an introvert and gay. I always liked being alone but I really want to have a deep connection. It’s just so difficult when you get older. Thank you zayne and Michael, always stay true. You help me accept myself everyday!
Thank you for sharing! You're not alone. We're here to support you on this journey. Stay true to yourself! 🌈✨
Hello I'll be your friend 👍
I guess I'm definitely among the introverts when it comes to making friends. Maybe things turn out like your guest mentions, that if one winds up with the "correct" person (i.e., another introvert) they become more extroverted. I can remember growing up with few friends, but the ones I did have were very good, best friends. When it comes to social media apps, our personal (high) expectations can limit or even prevent us from gaining true satisfaction when it comes to looking for friends, IMHO. Your guest's mention of hobbies as a bridge to forming friendships also makes sense to me. One final comment from your guest about us only being responsible for developing one-half of a friendship pursuit is also a very hopeful notion for me. Great episode!
I'm so glad you found Zayne's tips helpful. He's an expert in these matters and has plenty of lived experience to draw from as well. Thank you for watching the episode ❤
Men! Thank you. What a great episode. Authentic, practical, healing. Made me feel calm and spirited listening to this. The commonality. The shared histories, but also the good suggestion to not keep poking the embers around of our painful history. Real positivity in this episode. Thank you Zayne and Michael. “We are all still permanent works in progress.”
Thanks so much for your comment. Appreciate you! 💗
As a 60 year old introvert who survived an extrovert career before retiring discovered that through powerful questioning could be a chameleon in conversations. Thanks for the strategies.
Thanks for joining us. Great point!
I want to comment on the "seeking friends when you're lonely" part. In 2023, in an attempt to make new friends, I saw myself "lowering my standards" and putting myself through things I don't identify with, or bending myself backwards and trying again and again to make it work with people who weren't for me. That was not a great approach, and it resulted in superficial relationships, most of which I stopped pursuing.
Thank you for this podcast, I'm enjoying discovering who I am at a later time in my life, because I've found resources like this specific to gay men. This world is new to me, so Thank you.
However I wish you had stuck with the scientific definition of introvert. And not made statements that imply that being introverted is somehow a problem to be.
I know I'm an introvert because even when I'm around people who are my people and let me be myself, I still need alone time to recharge my energy. I can be quite energetic in appearance, but that doesn't make me not an extrovert.
I do have social anxiety as well, and have suffered from social fatigue, and that's what it seems like you are talking about.
Thanks for sharing this! Yes, it makes sense to me as well. I enjoy social situations and may appear outgoing on the outside, but I am usually excited (and relieved) to get back home and enjoy some quiet alone time. My social battery runs out of juice faster than most I think.
Interesting and insightful - thanks.
Thank you for watching with us
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To give a chance to myself on hanging out with different guys could be a challenge, since I have had stayed at home for most of my time in a long journey after work times and as Micheal said those people with an established group could show their non-interested reaction to me or something like that. I think the reason of that is I am afraid of rejection, awkwardness, uncomfortableness and misunderstanding.
Thanks for your work, I think I should take a nap on things I was focused on and give it a shot to let me spend my time on my journey with allowance, patience. The fact is I'm worthy to being gay and it's ok to feel nervous because that's what I truly am. If I really don't enjoy spending time with people which I couldn't share my anxious and vulnerable feelings after several dates, it's fine to let it go and reclaim my energy back to myself and give another chance to myself on this journey.
I also wrote down these phrases and put it beside my bed to remind me constantly:
You Are Worthy.
You CAN Lose Your Relationships Behind After Because You Are On The Journey To Your Truly Self.
You CAN Build Another Relationship As Long As You Proceed.
Be patient, and allow yourself to be vulnerable.
It's OK to Stay At Home And It Could Be Fun To Practice Making A New Friend.
You Will Become Better and Better.
I'm Always With You No Matter What You Are!😊😊😊
That's a wonderful realization! Taking things at your own pace and being patient with yourself is key. Your self-affirmations are powerful reminders. Remember, you are indeed worthy, and it's perfectly okay to embrace your journey. Sending positive vibes your way! 😊💖
I could relate to this!
So glad you can relate! Thanks for watching
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Great tips, even for extroverts!
Very true! Thanks Gabe
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