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- Women are sharing their perspective on why some men are so upset with women wanting to live a single and childfree life. Some women have experienced harsh criticism from men for simply being happy single and childfree, with men shaming them for their lifestyle. While it's true that men and women both judge single and childfree women, TikTok users reveal the majority of the hate comments are coming from men. What do you think?
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Those men are also the first ones to drop their partner once they’ve given birth to move on to a child-free woman . 😑
Exactly!!!
And the child free woman happily takes him on. That's why these men disrespect us so much. We're always willing to let them use us to avoid experiencing the consequences of their own actions.
Men are so narcissistic 😵💫😵💫😖
Speak for yourself. Men with baby-mommas are an automatic no for me.
@@KFrost-fx7dt I think you got me wrong. I agree 💯 with you. I meant that some men will "baby trap" women just to leave them in pursuit of a woman without kids.
I think men also use these questions as a baseline to see if they can dangle marriage or babies in front of women as manipulation tactics. If the woman is not seeking to get married nor have children, that’s one less tool in their bag of tricks.
Thats why men are mad, they cant do that no more because women dont even wannem 😂
Yup. They weaponize marriage and children to exploit a woman’s desperation. When she’s in a state of desperation men benefit from it. 😕
That’s true. Most of them don’t actually want marriage even though it benefits them the most.
This the one!
Right on 👍🏽
Harder to control and tie down a woman with no children. That's why they are threatened.
True!! Been with my partner 15 years, not married (my choice) and no kids (my choice also). My partner treats me with respect and knows that I'm not tied down to him so can exit the relationship at any point. My sister on the other hand (married with two kids) is stuck in a marriage with a man who has become a verbally abusive absent father who spends all his time at work flirting with women. She tolerates it because she sees no other way.
@@SatsusssDoes your sister have sons or daughters?
@@KhadidjaKhadouj-ur4ke one of each
@@Satsussswhat about the married men that post content of them being a gym rat
These are the same men who call women spoiled goods once they do have kids
For real ! 💀 These men are crazy
Exactly 😅 and they think they’re above single moms as single dads 😮
@@MelaniaRose More like missing in action dads.
Those are the same men who say our only reason for existing is to bear children. So which is it? Used goods or fulfilling purpose? Those types are truly the worst.
Exactly!!! Like all this venom is put on the mother who stayed vs the father who left
Moms: "I can't go out tonight. I have to care for my kid."
Dads: "I can't go out tonight. I have to BABYSIT my kid."
Women: Hubby doesn't HELP at home.
We need to change that to: hubby doesn't do HIS PART at home.
No, I don't say that. I tell my colleagues that I want to go home to be with my baby daughter 👶🏻.
I occasionally said it like that with my first daughter 20 years ago, but only to complain to my wife that I could not be fully present at my demanding job due to constant "babysitting". I was too stressed back then. I enjoy it more as an older dad.
Yes, that language says it all. What’s something that women don’t think about though. These same man will claim the child is theirs. Why? When all they contributed was sperm. For some of these men that’s all they did. They had an orgasm. The woman literally did everything else so tell me again how this child is yours. I’ll wait…. (Of course I’m not talking about the involved fathers out here.)
I'm taking back the cat lady stereotype. Cat's are delightful 😊 I 1000% would take Cat's over kids any and every day.
Same!
I got a dog but I want a cat 🙀 2
I’m a single 50-year-old woman living alone with my cat and I absolutely love it, I will never allow a man to live in my home ever again. Ever
I love my nieces, they're great ,but I don't have any desire to be responsible and deal with a kid 24/7. For this, I 100% rather have cats or dogs.
I have two cats and they are lovely distinguished ladies
I'm glad women are waking tf up
Same!
Hence them coming up with this project 2025 nonsense.
I agree, I think we should let the people that want to work on being better in relationships and work out their differences stay together and let the complainers on both sides stay single and miserable 🤷🏾. You literally can’t be in a healthy relationship if your head is filled with all this social media B.S. Just date the ppl that value you and none of this will be a problem.
I’m glad they are too.
Waking up alone, with 20 cats.
I am a mother. Agreeing to have children these days is basically signing up to be a single mom don’t do it. I’m married and I’m still gonna say don’t do it! 😂 he could leave at anytime. Been a single mom before him no thx
I agree, sorry to say. It's better to be safe and not have kids because it's too risky.
I appreciate your honesty. My Mom basically told me the same thing and fully supports my choice (I came out at 27 as staunchly childfree. 34 now).
Teen/young wife/motherhood is a generational curse in my family that stopped with me.
I have one child. It took me 7 years to be able to afford it on my own. In the middle I was basically at the mercy of my family and my ex-do not have kids. It makes you stuck with whoever is helping you afford rent.
@@cosmicbrownie333 When you’re a child, you think that whatever your parents do you have to follow. I remember telling myself at a young age that I don’t want kids. Now in my late 20s I’m trying to become staunch about it (privately) and I’m considering getting my tubes tied.
"Agreeing to have children these days is basically signing up to be a single mom don’t do it"
Only if you let the wrong man impregnate you before marriage
I wanted children but I gave up that dream because I’ve realized this about myself in the last few months. I couldn’t bring myself to trust a man enough to have a child with him. Men are so fake and switch up on you.
Same here.
Same
I think this is my issue, too, especially when you already came from a fatherless home. Don't need to repeat that reality.
@@TH-camTeasipper7856 This! All of this! Thank you and say it again!
There’s a lot of good men out there. It sounds like you’re picking chad and Tyrone instead.
I am 50... I have NEVER wanted kids and I don't regret a thing. I've spent the last 25 years traveling all over the world.
Good for you 😊
Same at 44
Same at 52....!😍💞
I am in my early 20s and this is my dream😊
In turning 30 in 3 weeks and I’ve already been to 26 states and 1 other country. I just got my passport and im looking to explore the world 😊
I don't give a crap about men's opinion of me - or anyone's for that matter
Comment of the day.👏
My motto is:
If you don't pay my bills or cook my food at home, I won't need your opinion on any matter
That's Right👏👏👏
Period!
And we don't give a crap about _your_ opinion either.
I'm a gay man but I wanted to say that I fully support women. It's really curious to see men getting all triggered when a woman chooses her selfstandinghood over marriage and childrearing. It's like their egos are being threatened and so they shame women as a way to shield themselves. The ironic thing here is that men are all about the "traditional" wife who is submissive, and even when they get a good wife there's a high chance they will end up cheating at work and thus, destroying their families. The man can freely walk away, but the mother has to bear the physical responsabilities of her children like making food, feeding them, sending them to school, helping them with homework, and looking after her kids when they get sick. So I think it's a good thing that women are standing up for themselves and shining with their own light.
You are spot on my friend.
You are so real for speaking this truth. 💯
True, and R’s want to end no fault divorce to eliminate their wife’s ability to leave while they don’t participate, abuse or step out.
I couldn't agree more with you, thank you for your opinion on this.
I'd like to add that those men that want traditional wives are those, who wouldn't take a single mom with child(ren) from another man as partner.
Thank you! 😊
They try to use fear because there is nothing that they have to offer that would be persuasive enough to encourage women to have kids outside of fear. 🤷🏾♀️
Facts 😅
Doesn't work on us when their fear is so obviously a projection of their own fears. But I don't disagree.
It's disgusting
I have met very few men who actually want children. It's more of asset collection to them, another check mark, rather than wanting to raise a good human and be present.
exactly
Yes yes
Yup.
They don't have to do any of the work so of course they want kids.
@@ElizabethGeiger-ye1sf Yup.
Any man who complians about what women do with their bodies, is an automatic no for me. I'd rather be single than deal with an entitled jerk.
Exactly!!! What is their obsession with women they have no intentions of loving or respecting
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Yes. And obsessed about women who don’t have children for father’s to abandon?
You're the entitled ones though phahahahahahahahaha
@@kittykatz4001 But they as hate on obsessed singles mom that they create walk out on. Ladies it doesn't matter what you do women haters are going to hate on you. So don't listen to these men they will attack you either why. Chose based on what you want whether its raising children or not.
my dad told me at 12 I was a mistake (like I asked to be here in the first place) and badmouthed my mom every chance he got whenever I saw him. My mom didn’t say anything about him only to use her and her relationship as an example. Now at 34 he wonders why I don’t call him for his birthday or see him during the holidays.
I’m so sorry to hear that, nobody deserves to be called a ‘mistake’, while accidents do happen, ‘mistake’ is the most derogatory and distasteful way to be told so, you should remind him of what a ‘mistake’ you are to him every time he tries to contact you, if I were you, I’d go no contact with such an awful man.
You’re worth it, people in your life love and care about you ❤
Maybe to him. You are not a mistake to God, the creator. He was irresponsible and careless to have spoken those words to you. Hugs ❤
@@GenChanger 💯💯🔥
THIS!!! You are not alone! 🙏🏽
Yeah, my dad told me he still paying the hospital bill for when I was born and it was a waste of money to send me to college. Even he didn't pay shit.
I think it also has a lot to do with the fact that single, childfree women are not 'rule followers'. Many men are intimidated/threatened by women who think for themselves and live their best lives. Largely because they often believe they will NOT be sufficient for such women. It will be harder to FORCE yourself on a woman who is less inclined to submit to social norms.
Well said!
Nice cope
Word!!
@@adammonks591You're the one trying to cope here. Otherwise, what would you do on a video about childfree and single women? Too much free time to decide to openly hate on happy people?
@@novastarburst3939 wrong on both counts. 1. It was recommended on my feed.
2. I have a girlfriend and will have children.
This post was cope...
So let me get this straight….When she is a “baby mama” and struggling, they talk bad about you and say you should have chosen better. And when you don’t have kids they are still mad????? Ladies, it turns out some men don’t know what they want, and just like to sit around and complain about everything women do or don’t do.
Exactly.
They are pathetic in every way!!
That's what 80 percent are good for...audacity and nothing else.
Yup..there you go. I've been in a few long term relationships and seen what some are like. Men are just so dumb 😂
Walking contradicitons is what I call them.
Single moms or childless women. Men can't choose who they hate more.
They hate all women, except for conventionally attractive 18-year-old virgins.
@krissy_elle exactly they create the problems and turn around later to blame
@@krissy_elleas a teenage virgin they hate us too. They just like the virginity part.
@@chrzig554 you're absolutely right. Because if one of these creeps gains access to a teenage virgin, he will @buse her in the most horrible ways.
Exactly.
I’ve already told my girls that if they decide to have children, all the child rearing is going to fall on them. The man can walk away Scott free and the mother has all the responsibilities. They know what’s up. PS. I’m married, but my son was from a previous relationship where his dad walked away and never even gave a shit if he was alive or dead. Just saying. My husband and I have been married 27 years. We have daughters. I still did all the child rearing even while working a full time job. When my youngest daughter was 8 she looked at me and said, “ Why do you have to do everything for us?” Even then she could see it.
I don’t understand why so many men feel like raising their own children is not their responsibility. Especially when both parents are working. Luckily I have seen some fathers take good care of their children. But my mother also told me, only have children if you are ready to raise them on your own because you can’t count on the man staying around for them. She knows because her first husband didn’t care much about his children after the divorce he caused himself by having an affair. And he was a man working a respectable job. He regrets it today now that he is a grandfather, but it doesn’t change the past. I don’t know if I should have children or not, some men say how much they want children, but how do I know how he would behave if he really had them? Maybe some men like the fantasy image of having children but not the reality of it, and they can run away easily as nobody really judges them for being a bad father.
@@Marivi247 Exactly. My husband is a good man, he’s an excellent provider, has never missed a day of work and is an excellent employee. He’s not a bad person. He just wasn’t involved in the day to day childrearing. I went to every appointment, every field trip, did Girl Scouts, robot club, kids allergy shots 3x a week, parent teacher conferences, took the kids to Disneyland with another mom twice. Went to kids movies because he doesn’t care for cartoons. I used my PTO for all those things. He planned all the rare big stuff- the out of country trips. We took the girls to New York, England, Africa. He’s actually great compared to other men. ❤️But I still did all the daily stuff.
@@Marivi247 They don't feel that raising their own children is their responsibility. They don't feel that cleaning their own house is their responsibility. In fact they want to be served in their own home as if they're a guest. They don't concerns themselves with knowing where anything stays in the house. They're always asking the wife where things stay as if they don't live in that house.
@@omphilemoerane2569this is so frighteningly spot on
As the one woman pointed out, men are willing to play the role that patriarchy sets up for them. But, modern patriarchy does not penalize child free men. Ultimately, men have the freedom to do what they want in a patriarchy. They can choose how attentive of a husband or father they want to be.
If you live in the west then there is no patriarchy
@@herkloadThe west is the patriarchy what are you on? Yall are obsessed with bringing up “the west“ while truly knowing nothing about the west lol.
@@corimoon3360 Could you please elaborate on how women are oppressed or at a disadvantage in western countries?
By western countries I'm referring to the U.S, Canada, EU, etc
@@herkloadHow are women oppressed in the USA? Do you go outside?
@@rarejewel9678 You might want to read my question again
Shoot my dad didn't even know how to spell my name.
And he wonders why I won't be a hospice care kid now.
I feel that >.>
Many of them only have kids to have someone who will change his old age diapers and support him financially, like "investment" except woman is doing most of job and he will be there after kids turn 18 to harvest benefits.
Damn..
That must've hurt...
Neither did my father... In his native country, I is pronouned as E, so I never gave it much thought.
The dad not knowing the color of her eyes made me a little sad for her smdh
"I do have a brown eyed daughter though". He couldn't stand to take accountability for hurting his own child's feelings.
@@omphilemoerane2569 Shows you how self-centred that man is. His daughter is standing right next to him but he still has to make it about himself.
That’s why baby trapping women is a thing.
Yep but men prject and say women baby trap them, as if women get themselves pregnant
And so is child support and alimony. They're 'a thing' too.
@@estebansteverincon7117 yeah and just like u have problem with child support and alimony, just as some women have problem with "baby trapping" , why don't u become a man who says "i want to be single and child free" , u won't be doing child support and alimony and trust me since u r a man nobody would hate u for being "child free" , coz society finds it easier to hate on women by their personal choices rather than men for their personal choices, become a man with no wife and kids and save money to travel , no worries of child support and alimony in your life
Isn’t it interesting how xys are obsessed with hating on single, childfree women but they won’t say boo about a single, childless xy.
Yet they also hate on moms especially single moms! They hate 304s yet are angry when we say we are no longer giving our wombs to them….
He gets clapped on the back for "living the life".
He gets praised for being childless 😵💫
He gets bachelor love from his bros.
Because women were the ones that broke the game. Lol
Why would we admonish men when they haven't done anything wrong.
We don't hate childless women. Not sure where you get that BS...
See, here's the thing: if you don't have kids, then tell men you want have kids, they'll dangle kids over your face, like a carrot you will not get. Or if you do have their child they will make sure you are miserable the entire time. Taunting you, by saying hey, I gave you the kid you wanted. Or the men will leave and say you are just another baby mother, single mom with baggage, or used up.
If they are going to try to lock us down with children “own us” they should be jailed for cheating or trying to leave us 😂
Right 😂like come on now you can’t have it your way lol
@@eveelee4152Men have always thought this way. That's why we should want nothing to do with them.
@Ladybug2461Well, for women it has always been...
Marriage benefits men more. Period. They want a loyal wife at home and the freedom to hook up with any other woman they want, but they don't want to work and pay all the bills like a traditional man.
Exactly. They should worry about deadbeat husbands and father's instead of women who don't want kids.
One of the main reasons why I don't want kids is because I'm TERRIFIED of ending up as a single mother
Married with a man and one child, people still complain how come you only have one child even do they know I have a lot health issues.
I also, work as a caregiver and a school volunteer. The woman may be alone, but not lonely, they have friends and get visits from their friends children.
At the school, 95% of the volunteers are mom and the few dads that volunteer are always the same ones.
I wasn't even married but I had one and a few people asked if I was going to have another!
My friend has one child, had cervical cancer and people still have the audacity to ask when she's gonna have more kids 🤦♀️
i'm 71. didn't want children and didn't have them and don't regret my choice.
I wanna be you when I'm your age 😊😁💯🐾 with some fur babies 💖🐾
My grand aunt in law is a 97 years old child free widow who NEVER regretted not having kids and lived the best life I aspire to live
Childfree and 52. I'm neither alone nor unhappy.
I just turned 40. At 14 I decided I never wanted to be married or have kids. Everyone told me I'd regret it, I'll be lonely, when I'm in my 30s my biological clock will start ticking and I'll be desperate for a baby blah blah blah. Yeah. None of that happened and I'm so glad I ignored everyone. I have tons of hobbies, great family and friends, I'm fulfilled and happy. On the other hand, most of the women I know with kids are miserable! Haggered, bored, taken for granted by their partners and kids and my god in so glad that's not my life 😊 actually the healthiest, happiest family I know is a family friend's lesbian daughter and her wife and their two kids. They evenly share responsibility and genuinely love being mums together, they're sweet. Maybe there's something about the dynamic of it being two women, they put in equal effort rather than one being the main caregiver.
50 and same. I’ve had a wonderful life so far and I expect a full fully enjoy the rest of it as well.
I’m childfree, 53, stress free and happy.
Can i ask if you don't mind how do you plan your old age with having disease and age in mind.Actually turning 30 soon cannot think getting married and children so want to have an advice from a senior woman of same choice
@@detraxop6680 this is a fair question. I am married someone who practices family medicine .
I eat a vegan diet. I am very active physically. I limit my alcohol consumption to about One to two servings of alcohol a month.
I have strong social and emotional connections and am involved with my community. While this is not a promise that I will not develop a terminal or chronic disease as I age, but creates conditions for health and vitality . Vitality .
I have been planning to my retirement since I was able to. I hope that my behavioral practices and financial decisions now will afford me good healthcare in my later years.
I don't think it is wise to assume that there will be any nationalized healthcare for seniors in the next 10 years. It looks like the healthcare industry will begin to collapse within that time. Here's hoping that The nation will be indecent enough political health to make some better, long-term decisions about healthcare in the United States. But I'm hoping that I will be able to afford my healthcare and will be able to enjoy relatively good health as I age.
I used to work for the govt and when I’d ask them authentication questions.. fathers didn’t know DOB, full names etc about their children. It was gross and they could tell I was judging them.
I'm glad they knew they were being judged
So sad😅
@@Egh0127bet it still didn’t make them care smh
They should be judged!
I dated a wealthy man for several months... he was 43 with one older daughter. He could not confirm if she was 22/23 years old or what her birth year is but claimed he wanted 4-6 more kids... Yeah I dumped him like a bad habit.
Men hate woman for being child free but also hate us just as much for being single moms when they bail out. Pretty much for doing anything they'll hate us 🤷♀️
Yup.
Exactly!
Even when women are in a happy marriage with a guy that treats them right the guy gets shamed for communicating with and respecting the women and is called a "cuck" they just hate independence and happiness especially in women and men that support women.
Yesss
Psst, they still h8 us when we marry them too… men h8 their wives and kids, not all, but too many. Russian roulette…
A single, childfree woman enjoying life: *existing and thriving*
Men: UGH!!! I WANTED TO MARRY HER SO I COULD HAVE A COOK, A CLEANER, A SEXUAL RECEPTACLE AND I COULD BE A DAD! *big mad that women aren't falling into this trap*
The chick in the gray sweatshirt said it best!
when a man doesn’t want kids everyone completely gets it.
I love women waking up from their crap.
Their jealous....I know for a fact they don't want you to have freedom....
Men can't live alone and now they can't just grab any woman to take care of them look at a man married 40 years whose wife dies. He's remarried in less than 6 months. A woman whose husband dies lives the rest of her life peacefully alone surrounded by good friends.
Speak sis!! They want to slow women down and keep us barefoot and pregnant.
They tell women to have kids then shame women with kids and expect women to do all the raising of these same children
Yup.
No, you are wrong. They don't shame women with kids only single mothers. Single mothers are burning on both ends type of personality. You don't want to be near it.
Men feel frustrated that they can't guilt women into having kids so they can't trap them and force them to be linked to that man through the child. Because if you don't have a child with that man and you don't like him, you can block him and even get a restraining order if he pesters you to much. Some men can't imagine a scenario where they desire a woman but she can deny him access to herself. 15:18 "Biggest tool of oppression" you hit the nail on the head.
LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!!!!! More and More women (and sadly, girls because they are preyed upon too) have to be told this so they can make informed decisions. People are always judging women and girls for their decisions when most of them aren’t informed on these things to watch for and know about. People have different lives and are raised differently. Also men/society benefits from keeping women/girls in the dark.
and no one shows them any grace when something happens. They just judge and tell them to take accountability for their choices when women and girls are ALWAYS held accountable for EVERYTHING, even the things men do women are blamed for. Women and girls are held accountable and held to wayyy higher standards always. It’s Bullsh!t
the illusions are disappearing by day
The man at 2:34 said it all so perfectly. I have been saying for years that women who get married and change their name and wear a ring is just a sign you are owned by a man. I am surprised and glad to hear a man say this.
Yep.
It's slavery for women.
This. This is how I've always seen marriage and that's why I decided at 14 I didn't believe in marriage and would never do so. I'm 40 now and I've never regretted it 😊
I’ve been wearing a wedding ring for months even though I am a single woman because I got tired of them hitting on me in public. I am 50 years old and I still get approached in public and it’s disgusting. Leave me alone. I don’t want you hitting on me if I’m pumping gas, I don’t want you hitting on me while I’m sitting on a bench waiting for someone.
It’s been wonderful, nobody has approached me since I put the ring on. And older ladies are nicer to me now too. It’s kind of weird but I’m going to keep wearing it because then I can do my errands without being harassed by men.
@@MeowNow494the fact this worked so effectively is so fucking sad
Marriage is legalized slavery
They act like we're gonna be alone. No bro, there's so many single ladies that we can keep each other company. 😂
I am building a communtiy of childfree women right now
I work in hospice, men are the ones who die alone. Years with no calls or visitors.
I could care leas what these men have to say about it, being child free.
True. You're right. We shouldn't care. Their opinions absolutely don't matter.
@@fruitypopwhickle6806
That's the biggest problem we face getting stuck in other people narratives who really hold no power in the grand scheme of things. Especially your life.
I once saw a video on my home page, which was an unhappily single man doing a "reaction" to a childfree woman's viral video.
His biggest complaint was that, "her acting that way wasn't attractive to him, and so she's throwing her future away because a 'successful' man (like himself) would never want to 'put up with that behavior'". He then talked about how successful he was because he was a college professor (Geography/Earth Sciences), and how by women taking this mindset, they are throwing away all their opportunities (to be with him) and making themselves disgusting to guys like him.
MY MAN, this is her ENTIRE POINT. YOU JUST MADE HER POINT, SIR.
ADD: I forgot. He was reacting to the woman who taught herself to make that cultural food dish (I can't remember what it's called or how to spell it), and he FREAKED OUT because "that's a dish to be enjoyed with a group of people, and if she's refusing to start a family then what makes her think it's a good idea to learn to cook a "family" dish"?
SIR, FRIENDS. FRIENDS also enjoy food. Also, LEFTOVERS. Maybe she WANTED it all for herself. Good thing you're an Earth Sciences professor, and not a Humanities, Ethics, Philosophy, Sociology, Psychology, Behaviorism, or maybe any other social scientific field. Tell me things about rocks and minerals, Geo Boy 😂
Love your comment! 😂👏👏👏
I always fast forward when the men talk. I don’t even want to hear their opinions anymore. They will never truly understand us and even if they’re trying to be sympathetic I don’t care.
They genuinely don't want to understand us. They've been programmed/taught that a woman's words, thoughts, life etc. just isn't important enough to give real effort to. We don't matter if we're not dedicated to the cause of men. I stopped drinking that Kool-aid years ago. Taste terrible.
Same I refuse to even listen to them talk on TH-cam videos
Same but the guy in this video spoke facts and I only watched cause someone in the comments said it's safe to😂
yep but sadly men will only listen to other men so
32. Single. No kids (by choice) And loving it! 🤗❤️
Same👏🤗living our best lives🥰🥳
Yesss 💯🙌
What is so bad about having a cat at 50 lol. At least it is surely not gonna treat you wrong.
Fun fact. Men own more cats than women
Exactly! I am 52 have 2 cats and chose to be single a long time ago. I have peace, no drama, enjoy my life and love my furry companions who are always on my side and don't play emotional and power tripping controlling games. I have had enough of the patriarchal BS. It takes a while and we have to detox all of the Hallmark movies we saw out of our systems. But once you do and choose to see the truth there is no going back. That is why men feel threatened. They can tell they've lost one and they are all wishing they could be the men in the Stepford Wives movie.
@@chrzig554sounds like you made that up lol
I'm not dating you, I'm not sleeping with you, as a matter of fact, I don't know you and you don't know me - BUT IT BOTHERS YOU THAT I DON'T HAVE KIDS!!!! Jesus - make it make sense😢
Right.
And to add more craziness, some of these dudes are already family men! They are mentally children, I tell you.
Some are married, have multiple kids with different women, broke men etc weird asf 😂🤣😂🤣
They know they can't manipulate a woman who doesnt want marriage or kids or even both. They are losing it and I'm loving every moment of it.😂😂
And the funniest part is that childfree women can actually go their own way and form a com munity with other women. Men can't.
I am attempting to build one right now
Children are expensive, and in the US where there’s barely any maternity leave and support I understand why people aren’t having kids. There’s also so many people who were abused by their parents and don’t want to risk becoming like them so they don’t have children. There’s plenty of older folks who question why their children never talk to them, because they’re tired of the abuse they suffer. There is nothing wrong with being childfree or having children, live how you want.
Exactly.
Hm exactly though
Last guy to ask me if I had kids, I said no, he said why not? I said I don’t like them. End of conversation 😁
After having 3 daughters… I don’t like kids either
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@shaunajones3244 smdh I'm sure they dislike yo as 2😅old shameful f00l
I hate that it's OK to ask people why they don't have kids but not OK to ask why on earth someone decided to procreate. Especially to people who are already struggling to look after themselves or the kids they've already got. Like you see a woman with 4 kids she can't control, she looks miserable and haggered, the das is useless and they're expecting their 5th! Just WHY!?
I don’t dislike kids I just don’t ever want to live with them, and I don’t want to have to spend more than a couple hours at a time with them ever.
But when people ask me questions like that I like to ask them why I would want kids? You usually hear the most selfish stuff come out of their mouth.
A lot of men think our main purpose is to give our bodies and time to them, procreate with them, take care of them, and help them carry on "their" legacy by having a child. A lot do NOT see us as equals nor do they want to build with us or stay monogamous to us as we age, yet want to keep us around for their use. So when women decide not to step into wife and mother roles, men see this as ultimately taking away from THEM. They wouldnt receive all the mentioned benefits from us. Our attention and desire is elsewhere. This is why they are mad at single childless women.
You summed it up perfectly 👏
Freedom from the whole system and carrying the seeds of knowledge, building off of that.... is my idea of LEGACY... children in this system keeps you enslaved while you raise your own REPLACEMENT in such matrix. Women are enough to satisfy my needs. I don't need no damn kids.
Exactly 💯
I was married. I have a wonderful son. I have amazing grandchildren who I'm watching grow and learn about the world. I divorced and have no plans to remarry or even live with a man ever again. I'm now debt free, financially comfortable, and my life is peaceful, joy-filled, and full. I vacation with friends or on my own when I want. My income is mine to do with as I see fit. I date a nice man when I want to and don't when I don't want to. He gets me and I appreciate that about him. I'm successful, living my best life, and I'm in my 50s. Life is truly good. I wish you all the life YOU want for YOU! ☮🤟💕
Oh that sounds beautiful ☺️ It reminds me of my grandmother who got divorced when my mother was quite young, and she never remarried. I asked her once why she never married again, she said she doesn’t want to be anyone’s maid, men her generation would expect her to iron their clothes and cool for them and she doesn‘t want all these duties. Apparently she had a boyfriend sometimes but she never told anyone about it 😅 She really tried to protect herself from being used as a maid… I understand her much better now
@@Marivi247your grandma is me... Love it for her.
Sounds like heaven! :)
Dating is dangerous please be careful if you’ve never accepted Jesus as your lord and savior please do so ask him to fill you with the Holy Spirit he loves you. I encourage you to spend time with him and pray for your family
Because they are no longer putting up with their BS .. good for them!!!❤❤❤❤
Ladies, just dumped the kids with the dad and if the dad refuses, just take them to foster care or Safehaven (if he’s mad that you took his kids elsewhere other than you being the default parent, that is proof that he doesn’t care about the kids he’s just using you as an anchor). They want the title being a father just not the responsibility of raising their own children that they claim they want.
The father can be the default primary caregiver, and let the mother provide financial support, since men claim that Family Court is unfair( in most cases), and also claim that single Father‘s are the better parent compared to single moms.
Edit 1: thank you everyone for telling there different viewpoints, but I also wanted to say yes to the people who saying it’s wrong to spite the other parent, which I agree that’s why I said that “CHILDREN AREN’T PAWNS” to hurt the other parent, for the others saying “just get an abortion”, that’s also valid, but you also have to take in the account it doesn’t matter where you are in the world, (talk about the U.S specifically) abortion is becoming illegal in most places here and there, so it’s difficult to obtain and for those were saying just don’t have children, use protection and just remain celibate, you’re also right But also just be very careful and cautious because a lot of sinister people will try to play game on you or trying to shame you for stuck up. Y’all need to women up and Protect yourselves at all cost no matter what, there are laws getting changed or overturned because of this foolishness because most men( not all, but the vast majority) think that it’s OK for them abandon the children that they create, but so quick to dictate what women can/ can’t do with their own bodies and livelihoods.
What I’ve been saying.
Right in some cases I think full custody should actually be forced on them if they were pushing her to make a baby he shouldn't be allowed to take off.
The reason the family courts usually favor women is because there severly underpaid and if she's under paid like that, or a stripper, music performer or any role were the women is selling sex to men it's not a healthy situation for a child to grow up in so what I would do is offer him full custody and if he didn't want it I'd give the child up for adoption. They know why women get angry here too child free women see them do that to single mothers all the time and when they walk out on their families like that they can't be trusted. Because a situation like this is what provokes a woman to have an abortion in the first place.
@@unicorn73212 and because men know men they know many men don't want their kids
I’ve told friends this, drop off the kids at his mother’s house.
@@unicorn73212 you’re right, this also reminds me of that story that happened on Reddit, where a “guy got his girlfriend pregnant, and tried to use the pregnancy as a way to get her to change her mind into keeping the baby, but she refused and still ended up giving the guy full custody. That story alone really pissed me off because it really goes to show that he really didn’t cared about his child (though he claimed he does) he just wanted to use the child as a way to maintain a “ lifelong connection” and now he got played because now he’s a bitter single father, and has the audacity to call her a deadbeat mother when clearly she pays twice the amount of child support that was court ordered.
I swear it’s like the countries that are complaining about low birth rates are going to have a rude awakening because I can see women getting fed up and just dumping the kids off with the dad, or elsewhere, children should not have to be used as pawns to hurt the other parent but when the other parent fails to step up to the mantle of parenthood to raise the children that they wanted, these are the results you’re going to get:
Neglect, Child abuse, Poverty and parents unaliving their own children.
Guys acting like having a cat isn't a win
right cats have proven to be calming for women
@@ashy7230 And are overall more pleasant to be around most of the time
Right!!
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Lol, wait. I thought men hated single moms with young children?!
I also thought men hated marriage, commitment and always had that fear in the back of their mind of getting a woman pregnant...so now that they got their wish, what's changed??? Like I always tell the young ladies...cuz I'm 54. Men are chaotic and feral and that's all you need to know ladies...nothing else needs to be said.
No, they hate women. Full stop. Everything else they say after that is the cowardly smoke screen they put up.
They do! 🤦🏼♀️
Exactly. They don't know what they want. They don't want you to be single and child free and on the other hand they don't want you to have a kid either.
I coulda sworn they told us to do better and choose better! They told us we aren’t fit to raise sons and Lord forbid we end up a single mom, we have no value!
They told us we need to stop being 304s…. Uumm… This is what it looks like sir! We ARE choosing better!
It is 100% ok with me if these guys don’t like me because I am childfree. Good. It weeds out the losers.
Exactly lol. ❤
They also wouldn't like you if you had a kid. They need to just go ahead and admit they hate women in general.
Because Misery Loves Company 😖. In 2023 my brother that has 5 Ks by 4W asked me,” If I can have kids 🤨😂?? Me: Idk 🤷🏽♀️ never cared either way.”. You should be focused on not cheating on your wife/BM4 with BM3 who has been wanting another kid by you, for 10 years, until you got engaged and her mental health issues kicked in “. But thank you for Advertising how miserable you are “.
Yes the main reason why I think that society pressures women into having children is because becoming a mother generally holds women back from achieving their educational and career goals. Even after they finished completing their education and established their careers they often fall behind in their careers once they have children and often sacrifice their career goals because of children. By pressuring women into having children is society’s way of oppressing women. Men get judged by society too for not wanting children but women get judged and criticized for it way more than men do. Married childfree women will say that they are the ones people mostly question and judge for being childfree not their husbands that much. And because choosing not to have children increases a woman’s chances of completing their education and succeeding in their professional careers men see it as a threat and hate it even more when a woman says she don’t want neither marriage or children. Not marrying and having children also gives women more of a chance to work in the highest paid jobs such as top level executives, CEOs, entrepreneurs, investment bankers, heirs to fortune, and venture capitalists which is all mostly dominated by men. Women who are single and childless on average have the highest incomes and are the ones most likely to become rich by their incomes. I am a 40 year old male and I believe that it should be a woman’s choice whether she wants children or not and if a woman chooses not to get married or have children that is her choice and nobody should get mad or judge her for it. I have autism, work part time at Walmart, don’t drive, and still live with my parents. I would like to live on my own and get married one day but don’t want any children. Part of the reason why I don’t want any children is because raising children will be a lot for me with my autism.
Thank you for this comment.
I’m 36 and I’ve had so many men ask me if I want kids and I say no when they say that they DO want kids STILL pursued me!!! Like bro that’s the end of the interaction. They think they can trick you into eventually having kids and it’s gross!
Love the 'question dad' segments on Kimmel's show! Look it up, there's about 2 or 3 he's done. There's one where they brought the mom in afterwards and she knew all the answers.
There's even one where the dad didn't know the son had a penicillin allergy. That's something a parent should definitely know!
They HATE them? So many men hate us! Why? My father hated me, my step father hates me, boyfriend's have hated me, beaten and stolen from. I don't get it
They hate women they’re jealous
I'm a single child free gal. I've been wearing a false wedding band for many years so I don't have to have needy/awful men trying to chat me up.
I tried that...I got a real-looking engagement ring. I still got hit on...at church! I now wear glasses, keep my hair pulled back and don't wear any make up just to be left alone. It works for the most part
Oh my goodness I do this and for the same reason to be left alone with my cat 😂 and still here they come saying what’s u being married has to do with US 😳🤷🏽♀️
RBF works :) needs to be very strong though lol
Men are projecting their own fears when they tell single childless by choice women they will die alone. The truth is it is the MEN who say that that are truly the ones afraid of dying alone. It used to be not that long ago that women had no other way to survive but to sell themselves and their wombs in exchange for a ring and a roof over their head. Now that women have access to equal education and opportunities to make their own money and discover their true passions and joy in life men can no longer use single hood as a threat or dangle marriage and babies over womens heads as it is no longer the ONLY way for a woman to be allowed to exist or accepted within society. Truth is statistically speaking single women are living longer lives, reporting higher rates of happiness and lower rates of stress and mental illness than their married counterparts. This is because although feminism has given women back the god given rights patriarchy stole from them male society is struggling to adjust to a modern society where women no longer see/ are taught that birthing
So things could change with financial crisis. Or any other crisis. Imagine being single woman in war.
@@mirianakovachevic748 yeah world wide tragic events happen wouldnt being in a relationship with a man who stresses you out and uses you make you feel better about going to a war?
@@IHEARTCOQUETTECLOTHES.777 Girls can avoid draft by getting pregnant. ( in case government decides to draft women )
@@mirianakovachevic748 either way the mother would have to be forced i to risking her life so I don't really think either are the most ideal no hate to women who did do that but its not the neither of the choices are ideal being forced to give birth or going to war.
@@mirianakovachevic748 neither of those choices are ideal being forced to be pregnant and give birth and also going to war. The woman will still end up having to risk her life either way.
It's definitely a " I feel threatened" "you're challenging me by challenging the status quo" type of thing, because it makes absolutely no sense to care about what a woman does or doesn't do with her body when she's not your wife and is not producing your children and doesn't even know you. So in conclusion, what are you getting out of her having or not having a child. Absolutely nothing. Nothing is being added to you. Nothing is being taken from you. You feel entitled and threatened if you care.
Didn’t they tell us to do/choose better?
Didn’t they tell us we needed to stop being 304s?
Didn’t they tell us to stop having kids with Pookie and RayRay?
Didn’t they tell us we aren’t fit to raise sons especially as single mothers?
Didn’t they tell us we have no value once we have kids and that no man will ever love a woman with kids?
I coulda sworn they told us all these things and now they’re mad that these are the results!
We are CHOOSING better sir, just like you told us!!!!
Yup.
Disruption of the power structure, i.e. Patriarchy.
I hate how people get feminist and misandrist mixed up. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being a feminist. It means you support women’s rights. Men have given a whole new definition to the word feminist to scare women from labeling themselves as so.
OMG!! Right on!! They try to shame women in to believing that we should have rights. It’s 🤪 crazy!!
Yup, absolutely.
It’s not feminism unless it’s directly connected to liberating female people from sex-based oppression. Literally everything else is window-dressing for the patriarchy with the word “feminist” slapped on.
Yes. Especially in yhe black community. My homegirls stay saying yheyre not feminist and Im like sis yes tf you are. Tf if you wasnt i wouldnt be here trust lmao. They just refuse to call ut that sinply because yhey know men dont like it. Annoying af
We are child free, mostly by choice. Men try to weaponize children and berate us for not wanting to be single moms.
Amen 😂 I am so sick of the men ranting at me "you're going to die alone with your cats."
Dude. My cats are awesome. I'm happy with them, and I'd rather live with them & die 'alone' than spend a life being miserable with someone like you.
My late grandma's late neighbor was a single lady with cats 🐈 she lived a happy life
I will never understand how men can be upset about single mothers AND childfree women at the same time.
So you cry when women have kids, and you cry when women don't have kids. Got it.
THIS IS WHY WOMEN ARE BACKING OUT OF HAVING KIDS!!!!! WHY AM I DOING ALL THE PARENTING STUFF IF SOMEONE ASKED WHAT THEIR CHILD'S MIDDLE NAME IS HE HAS NO CLUE!!!
To me....the craziest part of these men getting triggered is the fact that they don't realize how THREATENED they sound, by hearing women wanting to be childless. It's so TRANSPARENT.
Facts!! Society hates childfree women💯💯💯
When women says that, men hear it as women don't want them which triggers them to lash out. They are offended seeing women living good and stress-free without them. They're offended bc they can't make a woman's life a living hell. Keep living ladies! ❤
How dare I choose my freedom and peace 😂
A lot of men hate women but love couchie
Courtesy of The Take's episode on the femme fatale trope: Virginia M. Ellen (in her essay "The Femme Fatale: Erotic Icon") writes that a woman not bearing a man's child is "an extreme form of destruction of the male ... deprivation of his posterity, his immortality" and that the image of the femme fatale herself grew out of the "fear and desire experienced by men confronted with women who deny the right of men to control female sexuality".
Love that video as you can tell by name...
Single childless women are statistically the happiest among all of us. They live longer.
Second group who lives the longest? Married men. Hm.
The desire to have kids is usually wrapped up in romanticizing parenthood when we were young 😢
Men are jealous of women. They all fruity!😊
9:41 I found this bit ironic.
Single Julia seems a thousand times happier, healthier and more fulfilled than Married Beyonce, whose concert she attended.
Conclusion: Don't "put a ring on it".
Beyonce's beautiful self is married to an unattractive unfaithful manchild.
My ex used the "being in a relationship is owning a woman and nobody owns women" as a threat to end the relationship. Whatevs, idgaf and left his sorry arse. My life is 1000% better without him. That's like wildlife thriving in Chernobyl after all the people left.
Matt Walsh has no idea what that woman’s life revolves around. All he knows is the little slice of her life that she shared. 🙄 she wasn’t talking about her values or what drives her. She was sharing “here’s what im doing today.” There’s a difference
Some of us don't need or want to get married or having kids end of story
Yup me, been with my partner 16 years, never want to get married or have kids.
Exactly this! Some of us knew from a very young age that we do not want to be anyone’s property and have zero interest in raising children. Some of us also have been in relationships and have realised that unless a woman is really lucky and meets a good man, relationships with men can be a cause of constant stress, hassle and unhappiness. It is bizarre how people nowadays still find it weird that a woman might want to spend her life enjoying her job, bulding a career, maintaining close relationships with friends and family but not wanting a relationship with a man.
Thaaaaats craaaazzzzyy.. My late husband used to make "jokes" about him owning me. He would lift up my hand and say look bought and paid for.
I am a widow and i am happy
They get triggered because they will be sad if they was 80 with no one 😂😂😂 men don’t do good alone 😂😂😂 it’s even in the Bible
I knew i didn't want kids since i was around 4-5 years old an HO BOY! the social ostracisation you receive when you're vocal about not following the life script is INSANE, even as a kid.
Same here. The reactions are that you're selfish, you'll change your mind, wait until you find the right one, etc. My response is I am selfish because it's MY LIFE, I haven't changed my mind at almost 50, and I don't want marriage because most men are trash.😂
So true! When I told someone I did not want to have children, they looked at me in disbelief and said "that's really sad"...um sad for who lol
I am 51 years old, not married, no children, and have a dog. I am extremely happy. I've been married before, and it was the worst mistake I've ever made. I've tried having children, but I've had 2 miscarriages and a stillborn. I was told, by some men and some women, that I was less than a woman because I don't have any of these. Why????? I can do want, say what I want, no headaches!!!! Hell, I've even been told by a lot of women that they wish that they could be me because I smile, laugh, and travel all of the time and I don't have to report to anyone but me.
Good for you. A woman from West Africa, could not carry the baby each time she became pregnant. The man's family ridiculed her and recommended that he find someone else (either divorce and remarry or take a second wife). It was so much pressure for her. Now that women are claiming their right to just be, society (patriarch) is still up to its old tricks.
what advice would you give your younger self who wanted marriage? how to tell if a man is good?
Don't get government married and excel independently finance wise FIRST.@@Girlwithopinion-j6t
@@Girlwithopinion-j6t In regard to marriage, make sure to watch out for all of the red flags, even if I was with my ex for 6 years before I married him. When I look back, there were so many flags there that it was ridiculous. They were literally screaming at me but I chose to ignore them. I have totally taken responsibility for that and have learned my lesson.
I would have told my younger self to just be happy with myself and to not worry about criticism. Finding the right man is the hardest thing to do. If you find the man that you feel that you want to be with, watch out for red flags before you get married. Please don't overlook them like I did.
I don't know why men think the cat lady thing is such a threat to women. Cat's and dogs are 10000% times better than people anyways and being an old cat/dog lady is not at all terrifying to me.
Child free and 44… made the decision a long time ago and have no regrets 🤷🏾♀️ I have the freedom to move… it feels wonderful
„You will end up with cats.“ Great! Cats are amazing❤️ My boyfriend loves them too😉
I feel like they just wanna fuss in one breathe u can’t stand single moms but turn around an get upset when a woman don’t want kids I will NEVER listen to a man ever the way they think an always a victim but a king all at the same time is crazy leading the crazy
Literally the definition of double-minded. Most of them are Hypocrites and think they're better people than they actually are.
exactly. Most of them are perpetual privileged narcissist man-children.
Women that are mothers are also tend to feel threaten by child-free women because they fear their boyfriend or husband would desire the free and happy child-free women out there.
I have three children, their father was abusive, and now I'm a single mother. When I see women going child free, I want them to be celebrated and proud of their empowered choices. I say, don't end up like I did. Learn from me and don't do what I did. Bless all of you single, child free women.
@@JenniferJohnson-ub3gtthank you for your honesty. I hope you have help from family and friends and can also have you time because being a mother doesn't mean you have to give up you !!
I don’t really want kids, I’ll be the fun aunt to my friends kids
I'M A MARRIED MOM OF 4 IF YOU DON'T FEEL THE DRIVE TO BE A MOM DON'T FORCE YOURSELF DON'T LET ANYONE TALK YOU INTO IT PRAY ASK GOD YAH TO GUIDE YOU OK 💕💕💕✌🏿👋🏿✈️💃🏿LOVE YALL CHILDFREE SISTERS
That's exactly the point. It's a control thing for them. Remove that "power" that comes with being a free, unbound woman. They know that this woman can go places, achieve greater heights than them, so they want her shackled with children immediately so that the threat is no longer there.
I am married, but neither my husband or I wanted children. I'm 39, we did not have and are not having children. We have 3 cats. We are happy with this arrangement. We both would be living these same lives if we were single - cats > kids.
There's so many videos (some are fake) of men making compilations of women struggling in the dating world. Just for lonely men to get off. It's disturbing.
It doesn't matter if youre single or married having children is no benefit and I say this as a mom to 3 -I wanted kids because I wanted kids and aee men as nothing, but sperm donors because you'll be taking care of the kids solo
Then they hate single women too