How to Make Friends as an Adult: A Guide to Socializing & Meeting New People
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What are some effective ways to make friends as an adult?
First, try leveraging your existing network. Even if you don't have many or any friends whom you regularly talk to these days, chances are you still have a number of old connections that you haven't talked to in some time. So don't be afraid to reach out, give them a call or send a message through text or social media. If they don't answer you, you're no worse off than you were before trying to reach out and if they do, you've got a whole new opportunity to connect. Along these same lines, if you do have a spouse or a significant other, ask if they have any old friends that you could reach out to together.
Next up, consider trying something more structured in nature. In a recent study, sociologists collected data from 91 countries representing 2/3 of the world's population, they concluded that Denmark is home to the happiest people in the world. Why is this? It might have something to do with the fact that 92% of Danes are members of some sort of group ranging from sports to cultural interests. To avoid loneliness, we have to seek active social lives, maintain friendships, and enjoy stable relationships. With this in mind then, you could participate in adult classes to try to learn something that you've never had time to before.
Along these lines, if you've got kids, coming up with structured activities for them and their friends will allow you to meet some of their friends' parents. You might even find a few that you would like to talk with further.
Some final other options here would be taking an opportunity to travel, volunteering, or using a service like the app and website, Meetup. Yes, many of these suggestions do seem like a considerable amount of work, and they are, but here's the thing, having a large and robust network of good friends makes the work and the occasional awkwardness of meeting new people worth it.
So there are some ideas on how to grow your real-life social network and make new friends but once you've done this, the question then becomes how do you keep them?
First off is a point that seems obvious but it is worth mentioning, be kind.
Nobody likes a person who's mean-spirited. Resonating with other people is less about you and more about focusing on them. In other words, don't try to be interesting, try to be interested. Being likeable can be as easy as listening to people and asking them to tell you more.
Also, consider giving meaningful gifts to those people you care about and performing random acts of kindness to show that you're thoughtful. Be selfless in trying to give more than you receive without, of course, burning yourself out.
Next up is to be vulnerable without going overboard and sharing your entire
life story all at once. Do try to open up to other people, no strong friendship was ever founded on just talking about the weather.
So be yourself, be honest about who you are, be vulnerable with your emotions without being dramatic, and don't be ashamed of your own interests. You must like yourself and be confident in yourself first or you'll project negative energy to other people.
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You guys rock. I just moved somewhere new for school and as a very introverted married guy I have a hard time making friends. This video came out just as I am about to make new friends. Bravo
If I may ask how old are you if you are married but going to school? Are you there for college maybe?
Haha I'm 32. I'm switching careers and need more education.
@@Goblin_Tank Oh O.K. Now it makes more sense. Good luck, all the best in your life.
“ Sarcasm is not a personality trait”
I have never been so offended by something so true
I learned I don't have a personality via a TH-cam video.
Probably the best thing nobody teaches you.
@@arthurpownceby5115 we should go bowling lol
I consider myself fortunate that I had a best friend. He was the Wilson to my House. From 10 yrs old until 23 he was like my brother. (Even now his sister and I call each other adopted siblings.) He lost his battle with brain cancer. I've never had a friend like that since, but perhaps I'll know that level of friendship again!
While I'm sorry for your loss, I'm glad you had someone amazing in your life for so long.
6:30 he starts to tell how to make friends
I know this is unrelated, but I feel this is the channel to comment this on. I’m 14, and my Dad, as a family tradition, bought me my first suit in London a couple days ago, it’s a double breasted dark blue suit with two vents and flap pockets, which I picked myself. He also bought me four Charles Tyrwhitt dress shirts, one of which I’m wearing now. Just wanted to say that.
Congratulations on the new additions to your wardrobe! That sounds like a lovely family tradition! If your school is anything like mine was, you will probably be required to give lots of presentations, and be expected to wear something nice while doing it. A well-fitting blue suit sounds perfect for that!
M. M.I. Thanks! Yeah I’m really excited about wearing it more often; I dress up for flying and theatrical productions, and just about anything I can get away with I guess 👌🏻.
Congrats. You are learning to always present the very best version of yourself. Much props to your Dad for showing you the way.
Be glad your father taught you how to dress like a gentleman. Mine taught me the ways of the Swiss-german tourist lol.
I have autism and your Videos always helping me a lot expressing myself better and understanding certain behaviours of Others.
Thanks a lot for your Great Videos!
I really appriciate the rundown of relationships through the ages. People need to know that vunrability and love is not unmanly.
Love from Denmark, land of bridges
*Introverts and the socially anxious have entered the chat*
Yeah thank you for accepting me
Shaira Sultana I’m an extrovert but I was your first like
@Seaworth I have huge social anxiety despite being an extrovert and it is a legitimate thing that some people can struggle with if they had issues with being bullied and what not. It's a legit nightmare, and it's not that easy to socialize for people like us.
That's why I mentioned socially anxious, I know it's not introverts only who have this struggle. Heck, some introverts have really good sociability.
Do watch Alex Costa and Teachingmensfashion and alpha m .......???
@@yashvashisht1805 I watch a bit of Alpha M but not the other two. I'm only subscribed to GG and RMRS.
Sven, Kyle, and Preston in one video, this made my day... for real.
I’ve realized that all it takes to get a friendship going is one topic just one topic that both you and the person like. A certain sport, a favorite team, a movie, a song, an activity.
That’s enough to break down the walls and you both look forward to talking about it with each other. After a while of that you’ll naturally start to talk about other things. And boom you’ve got a friend.
"So you are telling me the industrial revolution is the reason I can't hold my homies hands? The industrial revolution and it's consequences have been a disaster for mankind!"
- some guy in a cabin
The Magnavox odyssey destroyed social capital. It must've been the static overlays.
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Okay Ted.
😂😂😂
Solitude is my best friend..
If you enjoy solitude, I think it makes it even sweeter when you build a small but loyal crew of low maintenance freinds. The kinds of freinds that you can trust will remain fond of you, and who can trust that you will remain fond of them, without requiring frequent personal contact. :-)
Hmm. Interesting question. I interpret solitude to mean time spent quietly by yourself, without the company of other people or pets. Some people find that peaceful or comforting, and I see how it could be for periods of time, however I do think it's still very important to have people in your life that you can honestly call freinds, and who can call you a friend, even if you spend much of your time alone. :-)
@@ErwinBlonk for me solitude is less about a length of time, but the art of being alone without being lonely. Unfortunately ,as an INTJ personality I find most social interactions to be vapid , draining and largely an excuse to numb oneself with alcohol.
My God, this is finally real advice that doesn't treat friend making like a competition that must be won at all others costs to be the best. Its exactly what I always wished to confirm the world was, I had phases of realizing things after being unsuccessful and too radical from being insecure, this advice however, is timeless and will always work out well. Thank you for educating me and many others on the way it was, is, and can always be if you realize there's certain subtleties that make it a time no one minds to be intertwined with from everybody's piece of participation and contribution. The adult advice we all needed to hear.
This is a great video. As an adult I'm not quite sure how to make new friends.
The history part in the beginning was an eye opener.
Great advice! Especially the bit about random acts of kindness! I think the feeling you get when you truly make a friend smile is one of the best feelings out there! Also, I must say that Preston's modeling skills at the ends of his videos just keep getting more and more polished!
Thank you for this video. I suffer from pretty bad anxiety and i have a very hard time talking to people and making friends. This video helps give me some ideas of things to do to get me out of my comfort zone and try and do something new and different.
This was wonderful. I have shared this with my students, as well as a few of my friends. You are changing lives!
I really like the recommendation to not try to be interesting, but try to be interested, focus on listening. Good video and great tips!
Absolutely great video. This is a topic that is almost never talked about, and as an extremely introverted person that is friendly andenjoys talking with others, but is also very private, this was very informative. I would like to see more of these "Lifestyle" type videos in the future.
Well, they do know their target audience lol
Are they making fun of their own audience?
Nice
@@occhiellidirinfronzo8859 nothing wrong with having a sense of humour
@@abysss91 "no front"
The history is fascinating. I only studied female relationships in the 19th-early 20th centuries, so it's satisfying to glimpse the other side of things.
Unrelatedly, Preston, your voice is so soothing and your presentation engaging. Thanks for your work!
Making friends as an adult is indeed a challenging task, but is a social skill and a form of art that we can (re)learn. Thank you for making a vid on this important topic. I’m going to follow your tips
Like fine wine, The Gentleman’s Gazette is getting better and better as time goes by.
louder for the folks in the back
SARCASM AND NEGATIVITY ARE NOT PERSONALITY TRAITS.
Aaron Snyder Thank the lord someone said it.
Great video! I have met most of my close friends through Kendo and Iaido (martial arts which I practice), granted we don’t have a lot of opportunities to chat about unrelated thing in the dojo, however we have conversations about almost anything while changing clothes and at the parking lot next to the dojo. We all help each other on our martial arts journey, to mould our techniques, cultivate the spirit, and grow as people through difficult training is a great way to form bonds. Also travelling together to seminars and tournaments is great because you have more time and opportunities to talk about other things.
Thank you for sharing! :)
Preston has turned into my life coach! Also, anyone what to get together for a lunch or dinner club in Central London? Or, if one exists, let me know! Thanks!
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Something I didn't know I needed to watch. Thanks for the video!
Incredible content and exceptional quality! As always, respect and love from China.
To be honest most "friendships" are overrated. In slavic languages ( like in my mother tounge, croatian ) we say "prijatelj". It comes from the verb "prijati" and that means to fit in, to be just the right thing or person who is close to someone because of shared interests and true friendship can be accomplished with one maybe two people at the most. Be careful not to mix up acquaintances and friends.
That is the pessimistic view. Prijati also mean to enjoy someones company.
Learned that from a Russian guy I met on a party once. Could not have agreed more with him.
The Polish version is przyjaciel
@@jeremias-serus Niech żyje Polska. Greetings from Croatia.
Krunoslav Kovacec Is that Tito in your PP ?
Yes as a Young not yet fully adult i need this!
Great video much needed topic!!
Excellent video! Well done! 👏
"School is an ideal environment for making friends."
I respectfully beg to differ, and I have the scars to prove it.
I like your more casual look today, Preston. You look like a fine father just waiting to happen in that outfit. I actually bought a shawl-collar cardigan this winter at a nice price. I don't know how stylish something like that is, but it's incredibly warm and comfortable, and I've gotten a lot of mileage out of it already.
Ummmm, at 3:36, you see a time traveler. He's using a smart phone on the battlefield. lol
Thank you very much for this video.
and charming - which I would expect from GG:)
Great video. Ty
That’s great content for people of any gender!
Could you guys make a tutorial on how to open carry like a gentleman? How to pair holsters with suits, where to put your CCW etc?
Which is it? Open carry or concealed which you mention a sentence later. A gentleman never causes undue duress to others and in today's climate concealed might be the only way to "gentlemanly" carry. I don't have a problem with either, but as a gentleman you take other's feelings into account, and you can get into many more places concealed than open anyway. Also they live in Minnesota, highly doubt there's carrying of anything in that state.
@@WMFerguson Well I believe my wording was off as I meant concealed for both, however I'd like to see a stance on open carry too as you mention it. Thank you pointing out my mistake.
Cheers Preston 👍
I don't recall giving you permission to ready my diary, GG. I tease, but in all seriousness I have had this conversation quite a few times with my father. In college, it's easy to spy a group of people playing video games at a table and say "Well I bet I'd fit in there". The next four years of my life were filled with revelry and rebellion to the nth degree. But real life is not as easily delineated into easily joined social cliques as college and high school. So thank you from the bottom of my heart for this, as this very topic is something I've wondered about recently. How DO you make friends as adults?
Edit: As a highest honor Distinguished Toastmaster, thank you for mentioning us!
Good topic for a video
I was literally thinking about this a few hours ago
Now look I’m only 10 years old and I’m so obsessed with this Chanel.
I'm getting social advice from a guy who thinks that haircut is socially acceptable...
I mean, I'm not complaining. I really liked this video, thank you.
I wish i can be as classy as you guys at gentmeman's gazette
BRILLIANT
watching videos on how to socialize, something that was naturally given to us. Who knows, maybe in the future we'll be searching "How to be Human"
my gosh, there is actually videos on how to be human. We're monsters.
A person: friends.
Preston: A network of interpersonal connections
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I have found many more people with my interests and affinity groups as well on apps like Instagram. So there is hope for the digital age.
I didn't expect to like this video but I did
I give it a try.
Wow. Before seeing the thumbnail, i thought that you were a very tall gentleman.
You should do a What to buy from Hackett London.
This stuff is so important, losing these skills as a society....good job
I like everything what you just said I started watching this today after yesterday was my birthday because I have trouble with socializing with people at times because I live in Las Vegas NV and it's rough because I don't have any friends it's hard because I need help with social communication skills my name is Gabriel by the way Im glad I got to watch this for the first time because Im a hard working person who has confidence responsibilities loyalty discipline and very intelligent independent very stable and humble down to earth friendly and very kind to others at times with a warrior's heart like a soldier and a secret agent in las vegas nv I've been diagnosed with autism I call myself the batman robocop and 007 of las vegas nv and learning to roll with the punches and being stable of doing so at all times and walking away from pain agony and ugliness with wisdom and courage no more discourage and walking away from pain agony and ugliness not only you overcome it but you have wisdom acknowledge courage and dignity that keeps me going everyday is a mission do the needs before the wants but other than that I need help with social communicating with others Im having trouble doing that Im trying very to be kind and positive
Preston ia a good friend.
It is difficult to choose friends!This past year I had a "friend" but he was working against me the whole year.There were red flags but I wanted to stay positive!We decided not to come at a meeting...so I skipped the meeting but he attended it!And this is just the tip of the iceberg!I just wanted to know how could you stay positive with such a negative person!
Do my homies wanna hold hands?
QLove your videos, particularly this one
I stumbled upon this video because I don’t have social skills because of a seizure. I am on medication and it has helped. I have scoured the Internet looking for ways to socialize. If anyone could give me some advice that would be much appreciated. Thank you.
And yes making new friends i thought about making friends in the UK and Canada besides USA
wow. this channel has it all. is there a vid on gym clothing / exercising ? I want to look smart-casual, purposeful but still practical. you could use Jason Blaha as an example of what NOT to look like when exercising (bare feet, black soles).
Yess
Most men no longer are part of clubs or Fraternial orders. Men's activities now are more individual and other obligations greater. But too, online time bites into friend time big time. How do you make time to be a buddy and mensch?
Making friends is easy! Making friends that do not blurt "hey is it a special day?" every time I wear a suit and and a tie, that's the hard part!
0:08 -- Stop right there. *NEVER* shake hands with someone while you're looking at someone else. It transmits the message that they simply don't matter.
Freemasonry. A fantastic organisation and great nights out with new friends. So pleased I joined and I don’t know where the last 15 years have gone 👍
Can me somebody recommend one Leather dufflebag/ weekender with very good Quality which holds lifetime ?
This is a bigger problem than I would have ever assumed. I was a tour guide working in Europe and I conducted tours for groups of, mostly, Americans. I would say that the average age was around 55 years old. It was immediately obvious that the women in the group were usually much more socially adept. It was not uncommon for several of them to know something about everyone at the end of our first nights dinner. Women seem to be much less hesitant to share personal details with other women and most don’t object to the prodding questioning. Men,on the other hand, frequently give short or evasive answers to questions of a personal nature. They will talk about their schooling, employment or favorite sports teams quite easily but anything more penetrating than that and you could see them pull back from the inquisitor. One notable man, a recently retired surgeon, was clearly ill at ease mingling with other guests. His wife was a social butterfly. She asked me to please make an effort to force her husband into social situations. She told me something I will never forget. Her husband was at the top of his profession and very social with his colleagues and staff at the hospital where he worked. Many thought he was the most personable and winsome person they knew. Once the couple retired and moved to Florida he became extremely reclusive. He tried hobbies for short periods but quickly lost interest. They attended religious services regularly, as they had “up North”, but he was an abject failure at making friends. This was in stark contrast to his church life in his home state. He loved history so she took him on a tour of Central Europe and hoped he would strike up friendships with the people on the tour, many of which were equally successful. It didn’t work. It strikes me that the advice you give in this video is not only useful for those starting their adult life away from childhood friends and family but also for other stages of life. I cannot know what caused this man’s unhappy change in personality. I do know that he was miserable but didn’t know how to change his state. I thought of him as soon as I started watching this video.
Not only his identity but his desire to even socialize. He’s the most extreme case I’ve seen but his was not an uncommon plight with older men.
Sounds like the classic case of losing his identity with retirement. Once one stops doing the thing they love or even didn’t love but became accustomed to, they question their very purpose outside of the circumstances they thought were their identity. I hope him the best but I wouldn’t say it’s extreme and I see it so often now it’s the norm.
Do you got Daniel Wellington watch meet ups and talk about poorly made quartz fashion watches?
You know what would be a very good video subject? Memento Mori.
I only got into the World Domination game in order to met new henchladies for my personal security force. So far it hasn't gone to plan and I blame my cologne.
Aw, I'm already done with my teens and transitioned to young adult😅
Trickers shoes/boots video maybe?
Anybody ever watch the show get a life with Chris Elliott? The episode where he’s wondering around going “new friend” “new friend” is my approach
Minnesota?! Wow, I thought Europe. Hmm
Pls do one on how to be liked by your superiors
ajith sidhu read “how to win friends and influence people”
@@irl_mmorpg is that a good book? I keep hearing about it.
Niall Cunniffe 10/10 book. I hate reading with a passion, but I stuck through it cuz it was great haha
I just sent this to all my Aspie friends... fingers crossed.
Don't be interesting, be interested. Wow.
8:55 the thing about toastmasters that nobody wants to say is: there are a lot of special boys. Plus, the people are a little too bent towards... negative emotionality. It can be frustrating if you ACTUALLY want your club to be about speaking.
The title is a bit misleading, it says how to make friends as just an adult but the video is targeted towards men specifically. I'm not complaining it's an informative video its just an
observation.
Most of my friends are of the female persuasion.
Very good video, it's interesting to me the fact that historically 1/3 of americans were at one point members of societies like the Freemasons.
5:59 Oh. . .I'm so sorry.
In spanish plis
Stay tuned to our Spanish channel--you'll see this video there eventually!
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- Preston
Well, that's why I like Native American powwows as much as I do.
Ordinary people talk about others. Extraordinary people talk about ideas
"Adult classes" hehehe.....
The intro lost me, when does it end and the advice begin???
TH-cam in 1800s
so many weird hipster looking people in this vid. Having said that I legitimately require advice on making friends. Thanks.
Huh. Gentleman's Gazette takes on toxic masculinity. Unexpected and very cool.
Etc lectirers bosses
You can join street gangs and the mafia . But then you owe them favors :/
Oh God, aimed at the pimply teenager, GG get your &$%$ together
Wow, I couldn’t even fathom touching another man let alone putting an arm around them, make me quite uncomfortable