11 Things I Wish I Had Known in My Teens - Adult Tips for My Younger Self
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I've compiled my own list of a few things I wish I had known when I was that age. Without any further ado, let's jump right
in!
Tip number one is to start saving money now while you still have a safety net. Instead of trying to save a few dollars or cents here and there with each purchase you're making, it's important to set aside money for savings at the outset that you won't be tempted to use when making purchases.
Number two is another financial tip, quality is a better long-term investment than quantity. As a teen, and like we said it's probable that you don't have many expenses but at the same time, you might not yet have a full-time job or any job at all and therefore, not have a great steady source of income, whatever the case, if your income is limited, not only should you be saving money but you should also be wise when you do choose to spend it.
Next up, tip number three is that a conventional high school education is probably missing a great deal of information that you'll actually need to be an adult in the real world.
Number four is a social tip almost everyone is probably just as insecure as you are, if not more so. While it may be tough to remember sometimes, if you are feeling insecure about your personality or your social standing, many of your peers are probably feeling the same things.
Number five, you're not going to be able to please everyone and you shouldn't try to. In the same way that your peers might have certain expectations for you about how to fit into a social group, your elders such as parents, teachers, coaches, and so on might also have communicated to you some expectations for ways your life could turn out. Remember though, the one person with ultimate control over your future should be you.
Tip number six also relates to the point about social insecurity, you don't have to hang around with a group of people you don't like just out of a desire to fit in. Having a group to which you feel you belong is a natural human desire. If you find yourself hanging around with people who don't support your choices, your identity, or your future plans and they're just taking advantage of your desire to fit into some group, you would do well to move on.
On the subject of social dynamics in school, you've probably heard the old line at some point, high school doesn't last forever. While I do agree with this sentiment, in so far as the hierarchies and drama of high school stop mattering once you're an adult, there is also a flipside to this because we now live in the age of social media; your teenage choices can follow you around for much longer.
Number eight is another quick tip on social media, while everyone is trying to present their best selves on social platforms, remember that everyone does have their own insecurities and their own challenges and you shouldn't judge yourself by the standards of other people's social media profiles. Remember that by and large, you're only seeing what other people want you to see on social media and that nobody truly lives a perfect life.
For tip number nine, let's jump back to my earlier point about making decisions for your future as there's an important distinction to be made here. While you aren't too young to have any idea what you want, you are still allowed to not know what you want. Remember here that life is a journey and everybody figures out their own personal path at a different time.
Tip number ten is that making mistakes is a natural part of life and not attempting things just because you fear failure will only leave you stuck where you are.
Tip number eleven and our final tip for today is one of the biggest, speaking from my own personal experience, it's always important to set aside your pride or your fears about other's perceptions of you and to ask for help when you need it. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness, it can actually be a sign of strength. In summary, it's okay to need help because those who care about you will want to provide it.
0:15 even as a kid his jawline was sharp enough to cut diamonds. xd
I'm sure you don't even have a chin.
Liam S edgy boi
Looks straight from The Matrix in that photo
Im 16, and I'm glad to know you guys acknowledge your younger viewers. You guys have really helped me as a person and i really love your content. Thank You Preston and Sven :) it means so much
Mh Hm I happen to have discord.
@@crazymangoz9583 can i get your discord tag?
Mangoz#4277
I have one major tip: work out! I was always a bit of a nerd and liked reading etc. but I didn't take care of my body. But working out does so many things. First, it improves your body strength, obviously. This also means better health. Secondly, a healthy body and a healthy mind go hand in hand. Studies show that it can have positive effects on your mental health and also on your memory. So take care of yourself! It will improve your life quality and may extend your life span.
One word
Time
Depending on the school you might have no time to actually work out properly, or at least not without lacking sleep.
Some studies suggest that even 10-15 minutes of intense workout (plus some warming up before) every day can have positive effects on your metabolism and heart. I know it's not easy to find spare time, also later in life when you work. But when you spend a lot of a time at a desk, all the more your body needs activity. If you can arrange 20 minutes, that could be enough to pay off.
Well said
very true, my skin got much better once I started exercising more regularly. eating healthy is important too: after I cut out sweets from my diet, my skin also improved
EMber With 24 hours in a day, I would be willing to bet only a very tiny portion of the population would not be able to set an hour out of their day to workout.
His teenage years, back in lothlorien, alongside Galadriel.
And remember, style and smarts mean nothing unless you back them up with decency, generosity, courtesy, and honesty. And that means to EVERYONE, not just the people you like.
Along with a large dose of status.
Play sports or start a rock and roll band . It helps with getting friends and meeting females . Work the digits .!
And cash 💵 .’
@@saintshamrock6935 LOL, sad.
@@Serai3 that’s the double truth Ruth .
As a 40-something, I envy the teens today who can learn from this channel all the things it took me 30-ish years to acquire on my own. I can't imagine all the money I would have saved.
Thanks so much sir for the great video. I'm 65 and still learning. :-)
I find it very wise and practical that GG is investing time on their younger audience, as well. Good habits, if learnt from a younger age, can become powerful tools, and bad habits can be purged much easier in the days of youth, as opposed to the later stages of life.
As always, great job Preston!
Teenagers are probably their second largest audience, just look at the comments on their videos.
Millionaires and successful people are not people who never fail, but people who never quit. If you want to be a millionaire, then think like one, act like one, and live like one. Maybe you guys might have seen me on other videos but anytime I write a comment, I always tell my story with it so people know why I am saying what I am saying :) - also to keep inspiring other people because for me, reading other people's success journey is so motivating. :) We own a cookie shop business in our college town. When we first started it, we just graduated college and were living in our car with very little direction, just a huge passion to be successful. I started it out of a local bagel shop in their off hours at night with my boyfriend, Bran. It was a crazy experience but it worked! We became a success! And how we have our first storefront location in New Jersey and the second one in Florida! We started it to fund a year long backpacking trip around the world and to be successful while living the life of our dreams.
Bran? From the Goonies? Always wondered where he'd end up...
Thanks, as a 16 year old starting A levels ,this is really helpful
Oof good luck
As a 35 year old, I endorse this advice 👍
I'm 18 and I wear clothes from the 50s and I love that,I started at 17. This video really helped me gain the confidence knowing that there are people like me as well. And the channel in general helped me gain the knowledge I needed to perfect my style. Thanks you so much
OMG. I'm an 18yo girl regularly viewing this channel for quite a while even though I know I'm not really the target audience (gotta keep coming back for all the amazing outfits and color combos 😍) this video was SO AMAZING. Especially the last tip resonates with me so much! Preston, I'm also the similar way! Always got away without studying much if I just attended my classes but the problem aroused when I started suffering from depression and anxiety and often skipped classes because sometimes even walking to class felt like walking through fire... That completely ruined my confidence. I never flunked so badly in life and I'm still struggling to get out of it but I'm literally feeling like there is no way out. I didn't realize how impatient and hopeless I am with studies nowadays.
Im 14 and I love watching your vids.Keep doing your great work.
Same. I won't show up to class in a 3-piece suit, but I'm still learning.
same
Same here
@@jacrispy3275 I am planning that for the future 😂😂
@@ryandinh6065 - hope you're too big to fit in lockers. 😂
Being the son of Soviet immigrants, my parents came here 30 years ago, I was a child of 4 years.
From the age of 13 my family instilled hard work and dedication as an indispensable attribute for attaining the American dream.
I have followed through with my desire to become an Oculist (Eye Doctor), and have been practicing Ocular medicine for 8 years.
As far back as I can remember, not one summer went by where I was not working. By the time I reached 20 I had almost $40,000 saved up,
and was able to buy my first car, and invest the rest into the Stock Market. My advice for any teens reading this would be to stay focused and find
something that you are passionate about. I can honestly say I haven't worked a day in my life because I love what I do, and you can do the same!
blazinmark1 русский язык помнишь?
Nikolaus Otto Я не только помню русский язык, У меня дома детки мои только говорят на русском!
Родной язык никогда не забывается!
Blyat
@@Danyal_ lol
This is a great story. Wish I had more people like you around as a younger man.
Great video Preston! As a 75 year old woman (mother of a 40-something son) who loves the "tea" scene and vintage women's clothing, I am thoroughly enjoying the Gentleman's Gazette postings and the comments, especially by your younger viewers. What a wonderful resource you are providing!!
That last bit directed towards the "smart kids," a groups of which I once considered myself a member in high school, is especially true. In my experience, I was not "smart," but unchallenged. It wasn't until college that I met the truly intelligent, and most of them were professors. Talk to them. Develop a relationship with them. Ask them for HELP (even your fellow students). They are more than happy to oblige, most of the time. If there is ANYTHING you do not understand, whether in school or in life, ask someone who has experience for help. It has saved my GPA more than once, and it is becoming a valuable asset in my career as well. Be as successful (however you define that) as you can be, both despite and thanks to, your environment.
Your eyes dude.... they pierced through my soul.. and burned my house down.... I'm now a homeless dead body just walking through endless abbyss....
This video is gold. I'm 36 years old right now, lived in Venezuela almost all of my life then moved to Chile almost three years ago, I'm an MD with a major in radiology, it was a challenge because I had to take several test to prove that I had the knowledge to be a doctor and after that other tests to revalidate my major here. I set some goals like I had to study at least 3 hours every single day, also asked for help from some fellow radiologists I met here by being polite and they did help me, and well i made it. If you can dream it, if you set your mind into something, if you have the tenacity and the dedication to stick to your plans, there's no goal you can't achieve. Sorry for my bad English. Great video with great advices.
Thanks for being inclusive and teach the younger ones :)
I'm 14, and you guys have really helped me learn so much about myself and taught me so many valuable things. thank you :)
I love that jacket and tie combination Preston nicely done
Thank you!
I wasn't expect this video to be so good. Really, those tips are amazing!! I'm 20 years.
Great video Preston!!! I agree high school teaches kids nothing about home economics!! So important! The Strong Campbell test is a great one to help someone figure out what they’re good at and not good at 👍
Preston, these are wise words for any age! But it is good to hear common sense and sincere advice to young people who often don't hear it as much as they would like. The younger generation is our future!
Great video as always! Could you guys make a video on ball (dancing) etiquette and maybe one on writting letters? Greetings from Germany/Taiwan
Good ideas! BTW are you a german living in Taiwan?
@@jaojao1768 thank you! yes i am :)
Well done, Preston. This is some the best advice for teens and adults I have seen in a long time.
I'm in my mid 20's and I'd like to offer some points as well.
first off, be honest and open about how you feel with friends and partners. It's scary to tell people how you really feel, but it's literally the only way people will understand what you want and need in a relationship. I'm now a very open, honest and direct person about how I feel emotionally and physically, and it has provided more respect from others, and helped my friendships and relationship with my girlfriend.
Next, a related point: be cautious of people who are TOO open about feeling unhappy, stressed, etc. I want to be clear that being honest about struggles and needing help are good things, but I'm referring more to people who are always telling you bad news and why their day sucks. If you constantly hear someone complaining about issues, feeling stressed, etc. it's very likely that they have a very pessimistic outlook and aren't trying to find solutions to their issues. They will weigh you down, and you'll feel worse for not being able to help. I've been on both ends of this type of behavior.
Lastly, make a priority out of learning rather than being right. Discussions about information and perspectives are often quite exciting and allow you to take in new ideas. Strive to "pick people's brains" and understand how they think and approach problems, rather than debating things like politics, details of a hobby, the "proper" style of suit to wear for an event, etc. Openness to different ideas and new perspectives actually shows confidence and stability, whereas heated arguments can often make you look insecure and unappealing to talk with.
Following the channel for 4/5 days. Moved from Switzerland to the USA 4 years ago and did everything wrong. Starting a few months ago to get my life back on track, those are great advices. And got my first nice pair of shoes this morning! (After one of your video). Lot to learn. Thank you for the great content.
How come did you decide to leave Switzerland? I'm just asking because I always though Switzerland has a lot of opportunity and I have actually dreamt of living there!
@@joangog the grass is always greener elsewhere. Switzerland is an amazing country, small, everything nearby and yea lot of opportunities but wanted to try something else. Since two years (when I wrote the previous post) life has been better and I’m making the right changes. Don’t plan to live here forever (retiring probably in Asia). Good luck and if you want to move to Switzerland, go find a way and do it. Enjoy!
@@AlexandreCMATTI Thank you for the insight! I didn't realise the comment was 2 years old! I applied for a masters program. Lets hope I get accepted...
This video really helped me to be sure why I shouldn't join a group because they are popular.
Many thanks from a 14 year old from the Netherlands.
Nice tie and pocket square.
I loved this! What thoughtful encouragement for young gentlemen
Thank you for this video!
I am a freshman in university, global age 18
This will hopefully be helpful to me!
I am 19 years old and the last Personal tip you gave especially hit the nail on me. However, in my case I hit the wall academically just now in College, I got grades and test scores so low I can't believe it myself. I know that mistakes are fine as long as you don't make it again so evey time a test is given back I did my best to avoid repeating my shortcomings. There is progress that's for sure but it is too slow for me. Now that you mentioned it, I do have pride especially in academics, I don't appreciate the progress I made because I can't set aside my pride. Thank you for such a good advice, I do apologize for my English for it is not my first language.
Thank you, I'm 17 and found this quite helpful
Im a 16 year old girl and i love the content you guys put out.
Great advice. Preston is a perfect addition to the Gazette! Well done.
I am English, so I am not so sure that these pieces of advice are so relevant to myself, however the overall tips cater to almost every situation. Thank you for your wisdom.
Preston, what a great vídeo! I'm 46 and still learned with It. Hey teenagers on The comments! Pay close atention!
Hello Mario. Where do you reside. With a name like that you must be from Spain
Ok boomer
Another tip . Wash . Keep clean . Don’t have to be dressed to the nines everyday but don’t look like a slob either . Wear decent clothes that don’t look like your homeless and slept in them .!
I’ve currently saved $4000 and I’m 14. When I move out, that’s gonna help a lot.
I don't think it's gonna help that much, as a 16 year old that also tends to save up a lot. Money loses value the older you get, 5$ seems like a lot to a child and 4000$ seems like a lot to a teen, but that 4000$ goes awfully fast when you have rent, bills and basic needs. I don't mean any disrespect mind you, just trying to give you some perspective.
You are doing a great job saving! Keep up the good work and when you are old enough to move out, you will have a tidy sum that will help a great deal!
@@kentuckyfriedchildren5385 yes it goes awfully fast but 4000 $ can give you a used car.and that's way better than spending it on some pair of expensive hypebeast shoes and i know too many people who do
Preston, when are you going to start singing for us man? Raphael says you sing blues/jazz/big band stuff. When are we going to see some video?
Theres a video of one of his concerts on TH-cam, just search his name in the bar and there's at least one or two I've personally seen.
All I can say for now is: stay tuned! :)
- Preston
I'm an aspiring 12 year old jazz musician and first tuned into this channel for vintage/classy clothing.
Thanks for the great advice! Your content is awesome.
I say, a fair amount of sixteen year olds have watched this video. I must confess that I too am sixteen. I have been wearing 'dressier' clothing than my peers for quite some time now, however the Gentleman's Gazette has certainly helped me improve my sense of style, and my ability to create an outfit. I stand out a fair amount in Canada (a combination of my accent, and my clothing choices), but I can say that I now do so with a greater degree of style.
This man is a super-human! Well educated, Wise! Dress well, look good, and very humble and gentle! Amazing!
I’m a High School teacher and this is a great video! Keep up the good work!
Very well said. I really enjoyed this video I am 56 years old and still learned a couple of good points
Great advice and you have such beautiful annunciation. Such clarity and precision of speech.
I bought boots worth of 700 dollars, its been 9 years now and they have no scratch. This was wild life boots made for Winter and wildlife enviorment. One of my best purches so far. Best of all the money i used were not from my own wallet but from actually cooking so good food people Hired me for a few bucks on the weekends in the school for making there food for them. Which means they paid me 5-10 bucks and i made them 8 difrent meals from friday to sunday. Money i earned from cooking 4-5 star Restaurang food at there rooms. i did it for between 7-9 people evry weekend. this was back in my teenager years befor i become a Young adult
Excellent advice for anyone (of any age.)
This is an excellent video, and I will be sharing it with my teenaged nephews. Thank you for creating and posting it!
You can't please everyone, and no one can please you completely.
I wished I learned these when I was still in my teens as well. Cool video.
Always great to find the new Gentleman’s gazette video! Great work as always. Keep up with these great videos!
I'm probably the youngest gentleman here. (12)
Jeans, blazer, flat cap. That's my style.
But it's not just the style! No! No! No!
I always hold the door open and make sure to say please and thank you.
I want to thank you guys for making these videos. I understand I am still going through phases, but I feel like this phase might be permanent. I'm not ashamed!
Thank you as a 19 year old this was helpful.
Great tips! Nice life lessons to learn and so eloquently presented!
1. Do not date needy or selfish partners
2. Develop a skill that will pay you 10k a month
3. Work out daily and do not put poison in your body
4. Learn to accept yourself for whom you are and do not expect others to conform to that
These are my wide brush strokes to live a generally happy life, these will solve 90% of your problems.
"Develop a skill that will pay you 10k a month"
I don't know in what world you live in but most of the times only kids from rich parents can come to ear this much because they give them lots of investement
Phenomenal video as always. I'm currently in my teens and I can already tell these are some extremely useful tips. Preston presents them so clearly. Thank you.
As a 17 year old these tips where extremely useful
Thanks! Very helpful
I personally can't imagine better advice than learning good manners, how to comport oneself, and what is meant by the term, "a servant's heart." Knowing one fork from the other is a sign of respect for those with whom you are dining. And in this time of rebellious "individuality," many people just figure "she can open the door for herself," or "if I hurry, I can beat this old guy into line," is actually a sign of self-importance not yet deserved. Who would it really hurt to get that first place in line, then offer it to the elderly gentleman or young mother with a handful of kids behind you? Do you think that will make you look weak? Or wouldn't it make you look confident and composed enough to show you are in control of a situation and you choose to be generous?
As for a servant's heart, you might hear that expression around churches and evangelicals, but I don't think they have cornered the market on thinking of others. Every day, ask yourself how you may be of service to others, and at the end of the day, think back to see if there is something you could have handled better. By being conscious of other people and their needs, you'll also gain respect, a certain kind of dignity from having others only speak well of you, and the knowledge that YOU were able to make someone's day better.
Any schmuck can make people feel worse or angry. It takes a person of real stature and self-confidence to make them feel better. You might ask yourself if you have what it takes to be that strong. Otherwise, you are weak and easily controlled by something as trivial as not getting a parking place. Aren't you better than that?
if i had a time machine that video would be very helpfull
Excellent video and advice - well done
Don't take for granted what he said, it is all true. Every single point.
Point 11 I'm nearly in tears !
Im 13 and thanks for the advise, keep up the good videos
Thanks for the great video!
btw at 08:06 it kinda looks like Squidward is standing next to him🧐
Dang thanks. Been wanting to become a more cultured person in general. This really helped.
Great video! 16 here.
Oh my God, yes, yes, yes! I was that kid who coasted through high school, got decent if not spectacular grades basically without studying, got admitted to one of the Ivies... and yes, that lack of study habits absolutely DID come back to bite me. I am probably the poster child for that kind of situation. You are so right to include this in your video!
Gentlemen, there’s a man of steel behind dem glasses!
As a 89yo living with my parents I find this advice insightful.
😂
You guys have made videos on suspenderes, but can you make one on styling suspenders, maybe a “top x suspenders you should invest in”, like you did with ties? Commentary on good brands or quality marks would be amazing as well! Thanks for all your work through the years
My dad always used to tell me "if it's cheap, you'll end up paying for it later"
THANK YOU FOR THIS.... will be giving this one to my son to view as well!
As my father says regarding friends: "You become the image of those with whom you associate"
Im 17 and thank you
Real high quality channle
Life style manship
Just in case im from iran and beside others that dont know most of these tips im getting a lots of compliments thanks to you
I love the top 7. Relevant to us all x
Go Preston! Great advice. Wishing you continued success and happiness.
Excellent video!
I wish I was as wise and stylish as Preston at his age. I think he's truly a role model for young man.
1) 0:56
Save money now, while you have a safety net.
2) 2:22
Quality over quantity.
3) 3:57
High school is important. but it won't teach you everything you need to know.
4) 4:57
You're not alone, everyone's insecure.
5) 6:20
Don't try to please everyone.
6) 7:25
Don't hang around with people just to fit in.
7) 9:22
Be thoughtful about what you post on social media.
8) 10:32
Don't compare yourself to everyone else's social media feed.
9) 11:11
It's ok if you don't know what you want to do in the future.
10) 12:33
Don't let the fear of making a mistake hold you back.
11) 13:20
Don't be too prideful to ask for help.
Thanks for your advice💚
I am getting tired of these bad and weak-humored comments about Preston. He is perfectly capable and knowledgeable about being a gentleman. I find his delivery in these videos to be excellent. Keep up the good work Preston!
Im 16, and i always got criticiized by peers when i would save up for quality, instead of spending for spendings sake
Such great advice!
I will be 20 next year, and I'll feel very grown up.
@b phillip As a 31yo I feel the same way.
Nor do I have any kind of idea, what I would like to do with my life. Well, could be worse. I'm healthy and have lots of interesting stuff to do.
@b phillip I have talked to people who say that they don't feel their age. For example, I had a school driver who was turning 50 and she said she doesn't feel any older than before. Also, I meant feeling grown up at by 20 in a more psychological way. Like, "Wow I cant believe i'm going to be 20 next year". When you're younger its a bigger slice, or %, of your life so it feels like a big step.
@b phillip Is that the same man who said "keep your stick on the ice"? Mr. Red Green? It sounds very much like something he would say. "If the women don't find you handsome, they should at least they can find you handy." Pretty sure that's how he said it! LOL
@@Jesus_is_King505 LOL! I'm 69 and feel as I did in my early late teens! I enjoy so many of the same things such as music, books, gardening, and my moral sensibilities have not changed much (at least I think so!) either.
It is all so subjective and , how is being 20, 40, or 69 "supposed" to feel, when you really think about it?? You can be an ancient 20 year old or a very young 69 year old!
Good stuff as always, Preston! I'm going to have to show my 12 year old this video.
Thanks for the great content
I m 17yo and in the 12th grade of an Austrian (EU) HTBLA and I have per week 2h national economy 2h business administration 2h economy&law 1h accountancy
It s one of the best schools here in Austria
HTBLA Hallstatt is an higher technical collage for architecture, furniture- and interior design😅
Greetings🇦🇹
Love this channel btw😁
I am 11 years old (and an subscriber) And i think this video has been a very very good example that i can take to help If i need to. Like i went to someones house for Dinner
I appreciate the lessons. Honest & smart advices are priceless :)
As a thirty five year old, This is some great advice that I wish I had heard. You rock preston
Hi Preston, my only qualm with your quality over quantity position is that we are talking about a group of people who are still changing in size consistently. For that reason, I would caution a teenager from purchasing an expensive "investment" suit.
"Compound interest is the most powerful force in the universe" - Albert Einstein
"It gets better".
30 here, still good points to consider & implement. 30's the new 20! haha
Preston's doing quite good, especially with his enunciation.
Great tips! Just love them
Fantastic unique content... thumbs up 👍
For young people. Live life like the confident, successful person you will be in the future. Life is hard for everyone, limit your phone time, exercise and eat right. Some of the popular kids will be divorced and working as a waitress in their 30s. Have a goals, hobbies and foster close relationships. Remember most friends now are not the friends you will have later.