My father brought me up as a gentleman here in the UK, then I spent 20 years rebelling, only to find myself again. A lot of things he told me you mention in this video. Not using superlatives, correct pronunciation, not interrupting, speaking clearly. He only bought his clothes from Oxford St in London. He would have enjoyed this channel.
@@andrewmccloud8581 shut the up man know one cares why would you have to say that 🙄 there’s allways that one person aka you that has had (all the experiences and is so wise about everything)
The rules according to me (psychiatric nurse): 1) Eliminate profanity from your vocabulary, even in the company of other men. 2) Look at the person you are speaking to -- don't look down or away. 3) Use good diction. Speak clearly without slurring. 4) Suit your tone to the environment. When upset, concentrate to stay calm and use a normal or even a gentle tone of voice. 5) Do not invade people's personal space, or touch them without permission -- just ask if you can give a hug. The advice here is also good.
The subject ego is displaced to permit one to talk about oneself in the third person. It is very humbling in a shame-based culture. Western societies are usually guilt-based.
I never once heard someone simply say "no" when asked for a favour, unless its a child talking to their parents, people usually say sorry then briefly explain why they can't.
Hmmm, well I understand, within the context of culture, however I personally think to view this as polite and diplomatic is itself a western-centric p.o.v. because surely if you are Japanese, and you know it just means 'no', then it would be no more or less polite. ( An example being the English ' sorry'. We say it, when we hardly ever mean it). Secondly, isn't it more congruent and straightforward to say what you mean? Again, this is my English p.o.v.
I like to believe that my articulation is well enough, but I always try to educate myself and you have taught me a good deal. A young gentleman in the making.
The “don’t flex on your new vocabulary too soon” part is perfectly spot on. Not only for the risk that you might get it wrong, but also knowing direct translation from the dictionary without in-depth understanding of the cultural context can turn things sour in some cases. One time we were talking in German about our summer camp experience and someone use the word Lager, I was horrified and had to explain what the word really meant
You and Tracy Hensel are literally my weekly re-education on what are classy men and women from top to bottom and I so appreciate it. I cannot stop watching your videos, Sven! Even though I am a woman I feel that it is just as important to know many of these things as men do. When I was young, nobody taught me these things. So I had no understanding on what is a lady, or what is a gentleman. It's always refreshing to my mind to learn about these topics especially if I can pass them on to younger generations. Unfortunately your description of the 3 yr old boy saying the F-word because of his parents influence is all too true, and I don't want to be one of those parents. I want to raise a respectable boy, and a ladylike daughter, and I like to think that is what I am striving to help achieve today with my children.
Yes. Excessive swearing makes it lose its luster. I typically only do it when I’m disappointed, or angry, or sometimes to make a point. The point gets lost if I’m constantly dropping the f bomb.
@@johnprovince5304 for me it is a sign of frustrated mind trying to get across an idea to a feeble minded people who take too long to comprehend your words.
Nowadays swearing seems to be trendy especially amongst younger people and in arguments it proves and shows extreme inferiority in formulating phrases during civilised debated.
About vocabulary: the very best thing is to not oly have a large vocabulary but to have it in multiple languages. English speakers are most often monolingual and if that is you I urge you: learn another language. It will change your life. No kidding, a new language is not a list of alternative words, it's a different world view. Learning languages can be done at any age, I learned a new language in my fifties. I now speak four at a fluent or near fluent level. Again: it will change your life.
Man...I watched some videos from some other channels and wow! You put them all to shame in every category: style, class, and polished, edited videos. Thank you for your attention to detail!
Some one once described the over use of swear or curse words as adult stuttering. At the time, I thought that was an interesting and rather apt observation. Thank you for touching on that subject.
I’ve always really admired is people that have a big vocabulary and just know how to spice up certain words to make conversations more interesting. I have a small European auto shop that I own with my business partner. Quite a blue-collar environment. But my clients range from real estate professionals to lawyers and doctors and dentists to local college students and everyone in between. So naturally I get to converse with people of all backgrounds. Also people from each of those groups I considered to be my really good clients and it’s always refreshing to hear higher intellectual vocabulary out of people my age, in early 20s mid 20s etc. The subject matter is of course always about cars but it’s nice when I get to know a thing or two about the personal lives of the people whose cars I repair.
Love this video. You make it very clear that it isn't just about using fancy words in order to be a gentlemen. I must say at 1:40 I laughed immediately when you raised your voice.
People screaming in restaurants gets me. So rude. Even my Philippino priest screams during his homily. It turns parishioners off. It's like he's yelling at us.
Awesome video and tips Sven Raphael! Thank you so much. Most of your points were very familiar but it sure helps to hear them again and with other words. Thanks again!
My old Headmaster used to say open up the dictionary at a random page, pick a word with your eyes shut and if it isn't one you know learn what it means and how to pronounce it. Then use it 5 times during that day. Do the same thing every day over the course of a year and you will have expanded your vocabulary by 365 words.
g13flat - Excellent advice! May I assume that you were at school in Britain? If you wouldn’t mind my asking, how long ago was that? Also, approximately how old would your headmaster have been at the time? Apologies for the flurry of questions - I’m not inquiring out of bland curiosity; as an educator, I just wanted to put the paedagogical method into chronological context.
@@Kuro-ef8kn to support minority Muslim in America if you say merry Christmas liberals Wil say you as racist like in India if you say happy Diwali you're racist
Don't turn the words of other people around. If I'm talking to my German teacher, she always answers to something very different than my question. Then she just keeps on talking. That's why I don't like talking to her anymore.
I was just challenging myself, “How could a Brazilian man ever speak or behave as a gentleman?” and then I hear in this video about your [partially] Brazilian upbringing... Just to make myself clear, I’m from Brazil and the most formal (ah the superlative) environment I have had contact in my life is a Board of executives.Well, every journey starts with the first step! Thanks for your videos!
I am 16 and growing up in a age where people spend 1000 USD on a box logo shirt after watching your video I would rather spend that money on a nice pair of Italian leather shoes and maybe more. Thank you for making a statement for all gentlemen across the world coming from Atlanta Georgia USA.
And reading your comments people are so stereotypical "Americans always do this, all Americans do that" not all of us are some trump voting loud speaking in proper country people but that is my opinion others have theirs I'm sure.
thanks to your videos, I am fine tuning my gentlemen qualities and learning to dress, act and behave like a complete gentlemen. I learned early in life that when you talk to anyone, talk straight into their faces- and if you don't like looking at faces, just talk to their nose- it still looks like you are looking at their entire mug. Also, don't swear or cuss, I never swear or cuss and folks do notice that....even when you are with close friends.
Here in the US we do LOVE to exaggerate. It is very common here. I never thought it would be annoying to anyone listening. I myself can't help it. Good tips in this video!
Well, today is a first for me. A German says listening to Americans speak is “menacing.” Menacing. Meanwhile, ordering flowers for your wife in german sounds like you’re ordering an air strike.
Uhm, have you listened to a regular non-WWII-SS-Gestapo-German recently? I think not. But to explain: in Germany anyone speaking above a certain volume without need (like when you're in a noisy environment) appears to be aggressive in one way or another. It's not that Americans do sound "menacing" because they're Americans or because of the language, but solely because, for our ears and custom, they are often waaay too loud. Same goes for arabic people. Although here the language itself probably contributes to the feeling of being threatened.
It's enjoyable watch a video about good speaking habits in a positive manor.Your channel has excellent and useful content for the modern gentleman.Best wishes!
I was born in Scotland and now live in Australia. One of the first things I noticed when I moved was everyone said like, all the time. E.g. 'So like I was going down to the shops and like there was my friend there and we were like OMG i like haven't seen you in like for ever.'
I like the point on pronunciation. It doesn't even need to concern complicated or rarely used words - but properly pronouncing everyday words actually gives me a better impression of others. The most widely mispronounced words I've heard in English tend to be 'February', 'sixth' and, in the south of the US, 'ask'. Pronouncing these words correctly always gives me a more positive impression of someone.
I believe that being a gentleman is more in your actions than words. I was never raised to speak propper, and I feel insincere when I force myself to speak that way. I won't drop F bombs in casual conversation, but I will speak my mind, and clearly. If that means I cuss now and then, I will.
doing wrong is part of evolving and learning, you can not get better and become a better person if you don't do anything wrong. also a person who never done anything wrong (or think he / she dont) has an Ego bigger then the universe which is also not something to aim for
Actions speak much louder than words.. vocabulary is key.. half of the converse if the words are chosen selectivly.and always put the other person first. .a firm handshake is paramount too.
The Japanese sure knows how to become gentleman with their speech.but really the way we speak speaks loudly about what we are.i really appreciate the above advice and I will use it to my betterment.the narrator is really capable.
When I speak in a public forum, I tend to address an item in threes, similar to Dr. King, but my cadence and inflection is that of Ralston Hill, playing Charles Thompson in "1776". In private, I can be too boisterous out of passion for my subject, but when I speak calmly, I tend to a more ... hmmm ... British movie villain? ... approach. Otherwise, I simply speak perky, and happily to everyone, and try to communicate a few words in whatever language is their mother tongue, if I can. It appears to put older folk at ease, that you might know something of their culture. But that's just me.
As a Japanese, I somehow hesitate to say something like "I love ice cream" even when speaking English. I'm glad to hear that typical gentlemen have the same sense with mine.
I’m a teacher. I found this video perfect to share with my students. To the boys, gentleman, I model how to treat the girls, ladies. It brings me joy when a little gentleman runs up to me to share how he was a gentleman to a lady. Also, I share the tone of a word will change the message’s meaning. Alas, I was going to share the video, with my students’ parents, but there is a swear word in this video. Overall, well done. (When I travel abroad, we, Americans, stick out like a sore thumb. 😆 Except for me, because I like to watch people make fools of themselves, with loud shirts to match their loud voices.)
Excellent talk. It is very important to keep ones mouth clean. I believe ones talk reflects his spirit. It is also important for the environment as the vapor coming out of ones mourth when he speaks should be clean.
You should make a video on what you would do if you went to get a bespoke suit. Basically how YOU would interact with the tailor, for example: What questions you would ask? How you would explain the type of style, fabric, color, fit, etc? Basically after watching your video, I can go to a tailor tomorrow and get a bespoke suit done with confidence. THANK YOU! You know so much and I really believe this can help a lot of people.
1- I am American and the talking loud is offensive to me. I hate hearing other people's conversations. 2-I was always taught never be sarcastic with others unless you know them extremely well. 3-A man who curses excessively is not one you admire.
Upon this grand film i now comprehend the great infinites, I am now a humble poet, you have forever changed the universe in its greatness with this simple video. Humbly, it is great. Now shalst i conquer this galaxy, with your help, I thank. Anyway nice video
My grandfather carried himself as a gentleman. My father a Vet, carried himself as a gentleman. His friends carried themselves as gentlemen. I have aspired to be a gentleman my whole life because that’s what I’ve been exposed to by the men in my life that I hold in high regard.
One thing that gets me today is the casual “you guys” when addressing a group, especially mixed company. No women are ladies and men are gentlemen (or at least they should be). How we speak to one another reflects on how we will treat one another. No wonder people have gender identity issues. Alternatives to “you guys” when addressing mixed company can include “you folks”, “you all” or “y’all” I’m a Southerner so I often use the later, but all work.
One of the reasons I follow your videos is because you do not use crutch words, e.g. you know, err, like. I have ended subscriptions to other videos because of the bad English. Speech is as important as dress style. Keep up the good work.
Besides the quality and pertinence of the video (spot on), the outfit is beautiful. I love the effect of matching trousers and vest and an odd jacket, too few other people do that - most commonly they match the tops and wear odd trousers.
For once I agree with you completely. All true and well observed and worthy of being followed. One little suggestion though: a more even flow of articulation might be experienced as more pleasant than speaking fast for a few words, then making a break, then proceding fast again followed by yet another pause, as if you were in a stop-and-go traffic jam. However, that might be what you usually do since you mentioned you would speak faster on TH-cam than in normal life.
I would like to add one point here. Sometimes people want to use new words which they have heard somewhere. But they start using the words without having proper knowledge. They either fail to get the get the exact meaning of the word or may not know the grammatical rules for that word. Sometimes I have seen people using words where they shouldn't be or sometimes with objects which do not relate to the word. So ultimately your listner doesn't understand what you are saying. I would recommend that you first go through the dictionary, learn proper meaning, rules and dos and don'ts associated with the word and then put it in use. What is your view on this
There is so much more to being a gentleman than how one looks, sounds and presents oneself. How about a clip about how to conduct yourself towards others, which is far more important than how many buttons you need on a cuff.
One of this issues here is difference in culture. You may perceive Americans to be too loud and obnoxious but Americans may perceive someone from Germany or Finland as timid, cold, or unfriendly. These are only negative due to a difference in cultural context, not because any of them are the innately correct way of communicating (as no such way can even exist).
A true gentleman would know that the definition isn't nearly entirely defined by how one verbally expresses one self...which was the most harped upon thing in this video. Gentleman is a man who acts with courtesy and honor. It means acting with polite deference, manners and with consideration of those around you. Being firm without being judgmental (something this man seems to have missed in his gentleman training) and never resorting to profanity. Use of grammar and proper pronunciation is a product of your education and cultural upbringing. Just because someone pronounces a word differently than you does not elevate you to "gentleman" while they get demoted to "cad" or "un-gentlemanly". This man has much more to learn about being a gentleman before he anoints himself as such.
I have this question which troubles me a lot.. If, may i? Situation : When someone does you a favor going the extra mile Approach 1 : Thank you for your time and generosity for doing this for me. Approach 2: Sorry for the trouble and thank you for your time and generosity. (please do feel free to rephrase my sentence)
For some of us, speaking too loudly is because we're losing our hearing (grinders, trucks, hammers, and power tools are not kind in that respect.) And on the other side of the coin, may speak too quietly because it's quite annoying when people yell. To quote John Wayne, "talk low, talk slow, and don't talk too much."
Hi can you please make a video on proper etiquette during business meetings when you are being introduced to people you do not know in relation to sales? This will be helpful because i have a strong accent and people always judge me on my NYC accet when i am not in NYC. I dont want it to hinder my closing. And i feel it does at times.
If so I hope it will take modern practice into account rather than simply being what was traditional a hundred years ago - good modern hat etiquette is very different to what a lot of certain hat enthusiasts promote.
My father brought me up as a gentleman here in the UK, then I spent 20 years rebelling, only to find myself again. A lot of things he told me you mention in this video. Not using superlatives, correct pronunciation, not interrupting, speaking clearly. He only bought his clothes from Oxford St in London. He would have enjoyed this channel.
i wanna like this comment but its at 69 likes
Arib rather simple a joke wasn't it?
You are so lucky you had a dad like that
@@akuaku3496 In my experience, there's no shut thing as 'luck'.
@@andrewmccloud8581
shut the up man know one cares why would you have to say that 🙄 there’s allways that one person aka you that has had (all the experiences and is so wise about everything)
The rules according to me (psychiatric nurse): 1) Eliminate profanity from your vocabulary, even in the company of other men. 2) Look at the person you are speaking to -- don't look down or away. 3) Use good diction. Speak clearly without slurring. 4) Suit your tone to the environment. When upset, concentrate to stay calm and use a normal or even a gentle tone of voice. 5) Do not invade people's personal space, or touch them without permission -- just ask if you can give a hug. The advice here is also good.
Mary Cahill ‘Eliminate’ profanity?
@@salazam Please don’t be sexist here. Try yelling and swearing in your boss’s face and good luck with that 😂
But punching your mate in the shoulder is fine right?
@@prapanthebachelorette6803me n my boss yell n swear at each other so wut now?
When in doubt, say nothing.
This tip about superlatives was the best thing I ever heard ever! The most amazing conversation tip in the whole world!!!
Ha LOL
This is the best comment I’ve ever seen!
Best comment in the world!
The Japanese decline a request by saying "that would be difficult", instead of saying "no"; very diplomatic and polite.
The subject ego is displaced to permit one to talk about oneself in the third person. It is very humbling in a shame-based culture. Western societies are usually guilt-based.
I never once heard someone simply say "no" when asked for a favour, unless its a child talking to their parents, people usually say sorry then briefly explain why they can't.
Hmmm, well I understand, within the context of culture, however I personally think to view this as polite and diplomatic is itself a western-centric p.o.v. because surely if you are Japanese, and you know it just means 'no', then it would be no more or less polite. ( An example being the English ' sorry'. We say it, when we hardly ever mean it). Secondly, isn't it more congruent and straightforward to say what you mean? Again, this is my English p.o.v.
UltimateBargains the Japanese are a pack of sandal wearing goldfish tenders
"No worries bro! I can make it easier for you by...."
What a display of self-awareness with the "dapper" reference. You do a great job, Raphael.
TAAAALKING AND LAUGHING TOO LOUDLY IS JUST OBNOXIOUS AND YOU SHOULD NOT DO IT
Tommy Noble Quite so, rather like using all capital letters😋
I'll go and fetch My sewing kit. 😂
Mostly if i get loud its not intetionally. I only get carried away.
Swedes should be safe here😂 south europeans have said to me that it sounds like i’m whispering.... when i think i speak loud...
I do all of this things
I like to believe that my articulation is well enough, but I always try to educate myself and you have taught me a good deal. A young gentleman in the making.
The “don’t flex on your new vocabulary too soon” part is perfectly spot on. Not only for the risk that you might get it wrong, but also knowing direct translation from the dictionary without in-depth understanding of the cultural context can turn things sour in some cases. One time we were talking in German about our summer camp experience and someone use the word Lager, I was horrified and had to explain what the word really meant
What does it mean?
I always had a problem using love or hate with ordinary things. These are powerful words, Thank you for explaining it.
@@salazamthat escalated quickly
Hello my fine gentleman I'm very pleased to be watching this .
Just end all of your sentences with "old sport" 😉
I'll say.
Oh but mr Gatsby... 🤣
love that movie
Dave?
@@calintoma5472 you'll be there one day old sport 😉
You and Tracy Hensel are literally my weekly re-education on what are classy men and women from top to bottom and I so appreciate it. I cannot stop watching your videos, Sven! Even though I am a woman I feel that it is just as important to know many of these things as men do. When I was young, nobody taught me these things. So I had no understanding on what is a lady, or what is a gentleman. It's always refreshing to my mind to learn about these topics especially if I can pass them on to younger generations. Unfortunately your description of the 3 yr old boy saying the F-word because of his parents influence is all too true, and I don't want to be one of those parents. I want to raise a respectable boy, and a ladylike daughter, and I like to think that is what I am striving to help achieve today with my children.
It is interesting how no two videos of yours are ever the same. Every one teaches me something different!
Yes. Excessive swearing makes it lose its luster. I typically only do it when I’m disappointed, or angry, or sometimes to make a point. The point gets lost if I’m constantly dropping the f bomb.
Cursing is the hallmark of a weak mind attempting to express itself powerfuly.
@@johnprovince5304 for me it is a sign of frustrated mind trying to get across an idea to a feeble minded people who take too long to comprehend your words.
I mean, what the (expletive) am I gonna do with these (expletive) cuss words if I can't (expletive) use them every five (expletive) seconds?
Depends on culture and context as well
Nowadays swearing seems to be trendy especially amongst younger people and in arguments it proves and shows extreme inferiority in formulating phrases during civilised debated.
How to steal like a gentleman: Be a politician.
The most veracious statement nowadays.
Good sarcasm :)
хахаха. Я даже знаю кто самый главный "джентльмен" в России
Haha funi
Boom 🤯🤣
About vocabulary: the very best thing is to not oly have a large vocabulary but to have it in multiple languages. English speakers are most often monolingual and if that is you I urge you: learn another language. It will change your life. No kidding, a new language is not a list of alternative words, it's a different world view. Learning languages can be done at any age, I learned a new language in my fifties. I now speak four at a fluent or near fluent level. Again: it will change your life.
I agree! I speak 7 languages and counting 😊
I already speak 2, I want to learn Spanish, Italian and French
Man...I watched some videos from some other channels and wow! You put them all to shame in every category: style, class, and polished, edited videos. Thank you for your attention to detail!
Some one once described the over use of swear or curse words as adult stuttering. At the
time, I thought that was an interesting and rather apt observation. Thank you for touching on that subject.
Reviewbrah and your fine self are the most gentlemanly youtubers I am aware of. A splendid example to us all.
Sven and Reviewbrah are awesome
Great topic. Style is more than clothing and shoes, and I appreciate you for fresh topics that help us to better present ourselves.
Background sound was so pleasant it blends so flawlessly. And yes video was to the point as always
Well that F-bomb was unexpected.
I burst out laughing.
He must have heard me talking
@@Karen-gh8gv Likewise
Well, I guess it proves his point that it ruins your image
Haha
I’ve always really admired is people that have a big vocabulary and just know how to spice up certain words to make conversations more interesting. I have a small European auto shop that I own with my business partner. Quite a blue-collar environment. But my clients range from real estate professionals to lawyers and doctors and dentists to local college students and everyone in between. So naturally I get to converse with people of all backgrounds. Also people from each of those groups I considered to be my really good clients and it’s always refreshing to hear higher intellectual vocabulary out of people my age, in early 20s mid 20s etc. The subject matter is of course always about cars but it’s nice when I get to know a thing or two about the personal lives of the people whose cars I repair.
If gentleman’s gazette had an app, I would download it.
S Tra Yes
@S Tra why would you even think this way?
That is a great idea!
Love this video. You make it very clear that it isn't just about using fancy words in order to be a gentlemen. I must say at 1:40 I laughed immediately when you raised your voice.
People screaming in restaurants gets me. So rude. Even my Philippino priest screams during his homily. It turns parishioners off. It's like he's yelling at us.
I’m so glad I started watching your videos - it’s been of great help to run my business. Thank You 🙏
Awesome video and tips Sven Raphael! Thank you so much. Most of your points were very familiar but it sure helps to hear them again and with other words. Thanks again!
You should create an instagram with just your looks for inspiration!
True, we could add that to our existing one
What your Instagram?
I prefer metalhead or both. 😎⚰
He doesn’t have good looks so that wouldn’t work.
@@kotabathory8026 i'd like to see your face.
Thank you for this video. I appreciate your Channel.
I really love this channel because it helps me to be like a gentleman in these happy days
My old Headmaster used to say open up the dictionary at a random page, pick a word with your eyes shut and if it isn't one you know learn what it means and how to pronounce it. Then use it 5 times during that day. Do the same thing every day over the course of a year and you will have expanded your vocabulary by 365 words.
g13flat - Excellent advice! May I assume that you were at school in Britain? If you wouldn’t mind my asking, how long ago was that? Also, approximately how old would your headmaster have been at the time? Apologies for the flurry of questions - I’m not inquiring out of bland curiosity; as an educator, I just wanted to put the paedagogical method into chronological context.
It is hard to be sarcastic in America. People get offended when you say Merry Christmas
y?
@@Kuro-ef8kn to support minority Muslim in America if you say merry Christmas liberals Wil say you as racist like in India if you say happy Diwali you're racist
@@yathishb7954 That's bigotry
Unlucky, burger
@@Kuro-ef8kn liberals
You make very good points. I find that most women have trouble staying on topic and are easily distracted while engaging in conversation.
Don't turn the words of other people around. If I'm talking to my German teacher, she always answers to something very different than my question. Then she just keeps on talking. That's why I don't like talking to her anymore.
patrick henry no, but I just had a talk with her. Horrible
I was just challenging myself, “How could a Brazilian man ever speak or behave as a gentleman?” and then I hear in this video about your [partially] Brazilian upbringing... Just to make myself clear, I’m from Brazil and the most formal (ah the superlative) environment I have had contact in my life is a Board of executives.Well, every journey starts with the first step! Thanks for your videos!
I am 16 and growing up in a age where people spend 1000 USD on a box logo shirt after watching your video I would rather spend that money on a nice pair of Italian leather shoes and maybe more. Thank you for making a statement for all gentlemen across the world coming from Atlanta Georgia USA.
And reading your comments people are so stereotypical "Americans always do this, all Americans do that" not all of us are some trump voting loud speaking in proper country people but that is my opinion others have theirs I'm sure.
thanks to your videos, I am fine tuning my gentlemen qualities and learning to dress, act and behave like a complete gentlemen. I learned early in life that when you talk to anyone, talk straight into their faces- and if you don't like looking at faces, just talk to their nose- it still looks like you are looking at their entire mug. Also, don't swear or cuss, I never swear or cuss and folks do notice that....even when you are with close friends.
A style that never goes old.🙂
Here in the US we do LOVE to exaggerate. It is very common here. I never thought it would be annoying to anyone listening. I myself can't help it.
Good tips in this video!
Well, today is a first for me. A German says listening to Americans speak is “menacing.” Menacing.
Meanwhile, ordering flowers for your wife in german sounds like you’re ordering an air strike.
Uhm, have you listened to a regular non-WWII-SS-Gestapo-German recently? I think not.
But to explain: in Germany anyone speaking above a certain volume without need (like when you're in a noisy environment) appears to be aggressive in one way or another. It's not that Americans do sound "menacing" because they're Americans or because of the language, but solely because, for our ears and custom, they are often waaay too loud. Same goes for arabic people. Although here the language itself probably contributes to the feeling of being threatened.
This reminds me of those Americans who mispronounce the German "I love you" (Ich liebe dich) as "Ick libbuh dick" and then say German sounds awful.
BlackAdder665 Juuuuuust got back from a work sponsored trip to..... Germany. It’s an Internet Comment bro, don’t take it too seriously.
Jawoll , alles klar.
This is just awful. Let's keep the party polite, and the song goes. The subject is manners, not world politics.
It's enjoyable watch a video about good speaking habits in a positive manor.Your channel has excellent and useful content for the modern gentleman.Best wishes!
I was born in Scotland and now live in Australia. One of the first things I noticed when I moved was everyone said like, all the time. E.g. 'So like I was going down to the shops and like there was my friend there and we were like OMG i like haven't seen you in like for ever.'
Too many bogans
The starter pack is a soft voice and a British accent ;) 🎩👌🏻
Changing the subject abruptly is a good way to deflect from an awkward conversation .
I like the point on pronunciation. It doesn't even need to concern complicated or rarely used words - but properly pronouncing everyday words actually gives me a better impression of others.
The most widely mispronounced words I've heard in English tend to be 'February', 'sixth' and, in the south of the US, 'ask'. Pronouncing these words correctly always gives me a more positive impression of someone.
Greetings from Brazil!!! Thank you for the excellent video.
I believe that being a gentleman is more in your actions than words. I was never raised to speak propper, and I feel insincere when I force myself to speak that way. I won't drop F bombs in casual conversation, but I will speak my mind, and clearly. If that means I cuss now and then, I will.
I should have subscribed to this channel long back. I was doing so much wrong my whole life. Thank u sir! :)
doing wrong is part of evolving and learning, you can not get better and become a better person if you don't do anything wrong. also a person who never done anything wrong (or think he / she dont) has an Ego bigger then the universe which is also not something to aim for
Excellent job Sir. I agree with your video n think most young men would benefit from taking note of it. Some older men also.
Actions speak much louder than words.. vocabulary is key.. half of the converse if the words are chosen selectivly.and always put the other person first. .a firm handshake is paramount too.
I love your tie
The Japanese sure knows how to become gentleman with their speech.but really the way we speak speaks loudly about what we are.i really appreciate the above advice and I will use it to my betterment.the narrator is really capable.
When I speak in a public forum, I tend to address an item in threes, similar to Dr. King, but my cadence and inflection is that of Ralston Hill, playing Charles Thompson in "1776". In private, I can be too boisterous out of passion for my subject, but when I speak calmly, I tend to a more ... hmmm ... British movie villain? ... approach. Otherwise, I simply speak perky, and happily to everyone, and try to communicate a few words in whatever language is their mother tongue, if I can. It appears to put older folk at ease, that you might know something of their culture.
But that's just me.
As a Japanese, I somehow hesitate to say something like "I love ice cream" even when speaking English. I'm glad to hear that typical gentlemen have the same sense with mine.
I’m a teacher. I found this video perfect to share with my students. To the boys, gentleman, I model how to treat the girls, ladies. It brings me joy when a little gentleman runs up to me to share how he was a gentleman to a lady. Also, I share the tone of a word will change the message’s meaning. Alas, I was going to share the video, with my students’ parents, but there is a swear word in this video. Overall, well done. (When I travel abroad, we, Americans, stick out like a sore thumb. 😆 Except for me, because I like to watch people make fools of themselves, with loud shirts to match their loud voices.)
This is excactly what i've been wanting to see, something as useful as this is often not found at home, thus this helped me.
I didn't have parents either.
Reading philosophy is also great to build vocabulary.
Excellent points and well delivered. Thanks.
Excellent talk. It is very important to keep ones mouth clean. I believe ones talk reflects his spirit. It is also important for the environment as the vapor coming out of ones mourth when he speaks should be clean.
You are the best men’s style channel, IN THE WORLD
You should make a video on what you would do if you went to get a bespoke suit. Basically how YOU would interact with the tailor, for example: What questions you would ask? How you would explain the type of style, fabric, color, fit, etc? Basically after watching your video, I can go to a tailor tomorrow and get a bespoke suit done with confidence. THANK YOU! You know so much and I really believe this can help a lot of people.
Very well done Sir!
My adhd is gonna have a field day when I start trying to pay attention to conversation or attempt having one _singular_ train of thought-
Those shoes are the cat's meow! Very nice!
I also think that sarcasm is just a pleasant sin, it's interesting how you can be funny or just plain rude when using sarcasm.
Putting the Kanye "Imma let you finish" picture on "Don't interrupt" slide is a cherry on top.
This is my favourite video from this channel. I just feel it shouldn't be labeled as gentlemanly but expected or correct.
3:48- 3:42. Oh. My. . . . Spot on brother!
1- I am American and the talking loud is offensive to me. I hate hearing other people's conversations. 2-I was always taught never be sarcastic with others unless you know them extremely well. 3-A man who curses excessively is not one you admire.
Upon this grand film i now comprehend the great infinites, I am now a humble poet, you have forever changed the universe in its greatness with this simple video. Humbly, it is great. Now shalst i conquer this galaxy, with your help, I thank.
Anyway nice video
My grandfather carried himself as a gentleman. My father a Vet, carried himself as a gentleman. His friends carried themselves as gentlemen. I have aspired to be a gentleman my whole life because that’s what I’ve been exposed to by the men in my life that I hold in high regard.
One thing that gets me today is the casual “you guys” when addressing a group, especially mixed company. No women are ladies and men are gentlemen (or at least they should be). How we speak to one another reflects on how we will treat one another. No wonder people have gender identity issues. Alternatives to “you guys” when addressing mixed company can include “you folks”, “you all” or “y’all” I’m a Southerner so I often use the later, but all work.
Thanks! I don't want to hear "you guys" anymore.
One of the reasons I follow your videos is because you do not use crutch words, e.g. you know, err, like. I have ended subscriptions to other videos because of the bad English. Speech is as important as dress style. Keep up the good work.
True, here in Brazil we talk loud and laught a lot, it compliments our culture of being funny smartasses.
I will meet you at menfluential 2020 for sure . Thanks for inspiring me so much.
Real gentleman knows what he is talking about.
I like his advice about "word salad." This is great advice for everyone!
Besides the quality and pertinence of the video (spot on), the outfit is beautiful. I love the effect of matching trousers and vest and an odd jacket, too few other people do that - most commonly they match the tops and wear odd trousers.
Be yourself , but be straight forward and polite.
For once I agree with you completely. All true and well observed and worthy of being followed.
One little suggestion though: a more even flow of articulation might be experienced as more pleasant than speaking fast for a few words, then making a break, then proceding fast again followed by yet another pause, as if you were in a stop-and-go traffic jam. However, that might be what you usually do since you mentioned you would speak faster on TH-cam than in normal life.
I would like to add one point here. Sometimes people want to use new words which they have heard somewhere. But they start using the words without having proper knowledge. They either fail to get the get the exact meaning of the word or may not know the grammatical rules for that word. Sometimes I have seen people using words where they shouldn't be or sometimes with objects which do not relate to the word. So ultimately your listner doesn't understand what you are saying. I would recommend that you first go through the dictionary, learn proper meaning, rules and dos and don'ts associated with the word and then put it in use. What is your view on this
There is so much more to being a gentleman than how one looks, sounds and presents oneself.
How about a clip about how to conduct yourself towards others, which is far more important than how many buttons you need on a cuff.
One of this issues here is difference in culture. You may perceive Americans to be too loud and obnoxious but Americans may perceive someone from Germany or Finland as timid, cold, or unfriendly. These are only negative due to a difference in cultural context, not because any of them are the innately correct way of communicating (as no such way can even exist).
Sir the Blue Angels are world famous but of course it is an aviation thing
Excellent! Here in staten island NY----young adult men-, speak curse words +sound like they were in work release program. Seven-hour.+
I'm gonna knock this interview out the park.
Oh! Fourchette! -- My favorite, though sparingly-used expletive when one becomes absolutely required.
I love your advice about changing the subject and word salads! Very useful to remember!
Thumbs up for the "superlative" issue Rafael.
Agreed. I guess I need to work on that myself since I use superlatives myself sometimes. Great advice.
Thanks a lot Sir, this really helped me.
A true gentleman would know that the definition isn't nearly entirely defined by how one verbally expresses one self...which was the most harped upon thing in this video. Gentleman is a man who acts with courtesy and honor. It means acting with polite deference, manners and with consideration of those around you. Being firm without being judgmental (something this man seems to have missed in his gentleman training) and never resorting to profanity. Use of grammar and proper pronunciation is a product of your education and cultural upbringing. Just because someone pronounces a word differently than you does not elevate you to "gentleman" while they get demoted to "cad" or "un-gentlemanly".
This man has much more to learn about being a gentleman before he anoints himself as such.
I have this question which troubles me a lot.. If, may i?
Situation : When someone does you a favor going the extra mile
Approach 1 : Thank you for your time and generosity for doing this for me.
Approach 2: Sorry for the trouble and thank you for your time and generosity.
(please do feel free to rephrase my sentence)
For some of us, speaking too loudly is because we're losing our hearing (grinders, trucks, hammers, and power tools are not kind in that respect.) And on the other side of the coin, may speak too quietly because it's quite annoying when people yell. To quote John Wayne, "talk low, talk slow, and don't talk too much."
His way of talking.... Is addictivly HILLARIOUS...!!! 🤣🤣🤣
Hi can you please make a video on proper etiquette during business meetings when you are being introduced to people you do not know in relation to sales?
This will be helpful because i have a strong accent and people always judge me on my NYC accet when i am not in NYC.
I dont want it to hinder my closing. And i feel it does at times.
and gotta say, that painting in the background is beautiful!
Ah, you must enjoy seriously horsing around (e.g., dressage) or riding to hounds? Or perhaps you're an aspiring Mr Darcy or Mr Bingley?
You are doing a great job
Please keep on sharing more💗💗
Thanks for this Video,
i always find them to be informative and well made.
Is there any possibility to get a Video on Hat etiquette?
we'll put it on the to do list
If so I hope it will take modern practice into account rather than simply being what was traditional a hundred years ago - good modern hat etiquette is very different to what a lot of certain hat enthusiasts promote.
These advices are lifetime ones