Not me over here crying my eyes out. My son is 11 and nonverbal autistic with horrible self injuring behavior. It’s awful but stories like these make me feel not so alone. More of these beautiful people would be wonderful to see on this channel.
I care for a 33 year old man with autism and severe panic attacks. He is extremely difficult to handle and every day I have to talk myself into going to work. I don’t know how much longer I can do it. He has bowel movements and urinates in his clothing, in the bathtub and on the floors. Other coworkers say he is quite aware of what he’s doing because it mainly happens in the house. He is extremely messy with food and all bodily fluids. He spits inside his shirts and in the kitchen sink! It honestly makes me feel ill as I have to clean it up. How do people deal with this for many years!? One of my colleagues has been with him for years! I feel bad that I can’t handle it.
My mantra (and I have 12 grandkids) is That's why young people have children. Us "old" folks raised ours and were happy to leave the baby making to them. 😅
Hi. RJ's Mom here. Thank you for your kind words and positive comments. And also for the negative ones. I also want to give proper credit to the individual that wrote "There is No Cure", John Roedel. I had run across it on social media and thought it to be quite potent. But not for the reason that has been debated here in the comments. I do understand that debate...and we are all entitled to our own opinion on it. For me, the most potent part of that essay was the very last word. "Ignorance." Ignorance meaning not educated on something or having knowledge of something. It means being unaware. By gaining awareness, we can hopefully improve things. Anyway, that's why I shared that. Thanks again, and best wishes to all! W
Hi Wendy, I just watched this yesterday but I just wanted to tell you how wonderful you and RJ are. I’m the sister of an autistic brother who is a lot like RJ. So many of the things you described about him remind me of my brother Derek. He’s 34 now and I have always felt like his second mom. I still try to help with him as much as I can even tho I have two little ones of my own because in my eyes, he’s like my third child and always will be. You also remind me so much of my mom with your patience and strength. And believe me, I know this road is not easy. We have hard moments but also beautiful ones as well. Im so glad I stumbled across this video and I just want to wish many blessings to you both. You’re one hell of a mom!
I personally know RJ and his mother Wendy. She is a super person and so is RJ. RJ is also very artistic and gives the best hugs ever! Since they have moved, I don't see them as often unfortunately. The last time I ran into them I got a very big hug from RJ. I have a small store in Nothern Wisconsin and I told RJ to come and visit me at my new location. His first question was if I had any ceiling fans at my new location! Mark you did an absolutely great job with this interview!
As a single mom of a 28 year old autistic son, the poem hit on so many levels. I would never want to change my son. He wouldn't be the same if autism was "cured". He's wonderful just the way he is. ❤
R.J. and his Mum is one of the most heartwarming interviews I’ve seen. A Mothers unconditional love and her sons love for his Mother is a beautiful thing,
The poem at the opening was beautiful I can totally relate to this lad Life. I am a single father of a 20-year-old autistic child and I have to say it's one of the hardest things I've ever done in my life, but I would not change it for the world. I could sit on here and talk for hours about the pros the cons, the do's the don'ts but all I can say is my son. John is my best friend in the whole world and I wouldn't change it for anything
My son has non verbal autism. The hardest, most stressful, the most loving, the most rewarding part of my life. He has the biggest personality, despite not being able to talk. He also has ADHD so teaching him things is hard, but when he loves something, he really loves it. He stims with over excitement. It's beautiful. I'm his comfort, he takes my dresses and my tops and takes them everywhere with him to smell and feel. Hes truly beautiful and my everything ❤️
@@davepowell7168 no It took years and years for me to conceive my son. It was all natural. Autism stems from genetics. Alot of people are undiagnosed and there's different levels on a spectrum. I suspect my dad has autism, he's very reserved and is a maths whizz and extremely smart. My brother was supposed to have tests for autism as an adult but decided not to. I've always struggled socially so I suspect I probably have it on some level. But my son is the only one in the family who has it as severe and non verbal.
As a mom of an autistic son, I cannot tell you how moving and life changing this was. She articulated and exemplified the patience, the struggle, the beauty, the good, the bad. She put to words, things I could not. I felt this with all of my heart. I feel heard without ever having to speak.
I don't typically comment on SWU, but I'm in tears. I'm the mother of an 11-year-old with autism and when RJ talked about knowing how he made people feel with his meltdowns, I thought about my baby and how he has the same reactions to loud noises. Thunderstorms and kids crying are two things he has a very hard time with. My son started therapy when he was 3, and it has helped tremendously. He is a joy to everyone who knows him. Please post more videos like this.
Yes, I'm on the spectrum and suffer from PTSD from childhood related trauma, but also being generally misunderstood by my family and in trying to express myself. We feel very intensely and get frustrated, overwhelmed by loud noises, sharp lights, etc. And when feeling things very intensely we explode from the inside out, especially when not feeling heard (understood) being a child / non verbal must make that even more difficult as even with full use of words it's not always easy for me to communicate what I'm trying to say (what I actually mean, not just the words that come out while trying to form thought externally). I also feel very bad when having a meltdown and care more for animals and people, the planet, etc than people might realize. Especially if they had to hear / see me during such a time. For many it just leads to withdrawal socially / depression and self medication eventually as it's discouraging and already difficult to get through a day and be productive with neuro diverse challenges, people relationships feel like an additional burden due to the complications / misunderstandings that's involved, but it doesn't mean we don't need comforting / love / touch / hugs, etc. The space is just rarely there for some of us due to social challenges to be on the receiving end of it.
My son is 7. One day I told his dad that it made me sad that he didn't spend more time with our son...he responded, "I can't help that something is wrong with him." I separated from his dad about a year ago. My son has loved: tornado sirens, train gates, air duct cleaning, water towers, hand dryers, etc. He has been fascinated by things that I have not given a second thought as to how they work all my life. I now can name different models of tornado sirens. Two summers ago I took him to a convention (it's in Rhinelander, WI the first weekend in June) just for tornado sirens. He is smart, funny, unique, and loving. I am proud to be his mom. He has helped me grow. Truly.
My son is autistic as well. I divorced as well. I felt all of this. The unmatchable passion! Being in the presence of someone who loves and is fascinated by particular things with all of themself is so inspiring. His interests and his passion for them are a gift to everyone around him.
Good for You Sweetheart. The lady who said that she would change her son if she could made me sad ! People who have special needs people in their life have a whole different world open up to them IF they ARE Willing to buck convention. These children ARE often special in ways that not all can see or appreciate. They ARE the one's that I truly feel Sorry for ! To be So Ignorant to another humans plight that they can't see the Forrest for the trees, is MISSING so Much from their lives and it goes to their very core as to how Ignorant they really are. It takes a very Special parent to raise a very special person, so until You yourself have walked in these people's shoes or walked their life's path then in ALL actuality YOU DON'T KNOW SQUAT and it truly makes YOU look Ignorant, insensitive and morally Bankrupt. So maybe don't post your Ignorant responses here because it let's the rest of us KNOW what a shallow, ugly empty Soul YOU ARE !!!
I am autistic, and I can relate to this, maybe in the future I would like to get my story out there. I love you mark, your videos keep me inspired, even shows there are different people out there.
As a mother of a 4 year old, the poem touched my soul. My son is so bright and amazing even as an autistic little boy 🩵 Beautiful poem. Keep doing what you do Mark!
Just wait. It gets better. It seems like they develop amazing skills and abilities in subjects that they are drawn to. Encourage and nurture. We were chosen to do a special job and I'm glad to have been chosen 💙💙💙
Ladies my son is now 5 years old nonverbal and is Level 3 autistic. We just have to join them in their world and everything opens up. 🎉 Stay strong and enjoy the melody ❤
I think one of the hardest things about being the parent of a disabled child is having to worry about what happens after the parent dies or becomes disabled.
My grandson has lived with me for 19 years. He is 19 years old and has a form of autism. Good or bad I wouldn't swap a day. His achievements are amazing and have brought me great pride . On bad days we just get through them and hope the next day will be better . He has moments that would amaze anyone. He makes me so proud. Bless this lady for being so understanding to her son.
I worked in special ed as a paraeducator in our high school and middle school. In our high school we had a program called occupational development program. This program helps students do the best they can with their challenges. I would say at least 90% of the people who worked in this program really cared about the students. I worked in this program for 20 years and loved it. They all were treated well and cared for. As I was working there, I just thought of them as any student. I really did.
My son is 5 with severe autism and non verbal. He LOVES Occupational therapy. He can say a couple things like dada, mama, and yeah. When we pull in the parking lot for OT he yells T! Teeee! He loves his teacher, too. She is so patient and kind.
Wow does this hit home! Single mom of an ASD boy and ADHD/ASD girl in south central Wisconsin. My son was in Birth - 3 then transitioned to ABA via WEAP. I recently left my career of 10 years to be more available and present for their needs but dealing with social security is a horror and barely enough to live on. I’m constantly dealing with IEPs. My son luckily is high functioning but we still deal with things like eloping and AFRID. Oh gosh and don’t let him catch the dog chewing her bone, the noise sets him through the roof! Autism testing for children in our area is a year and a half waitlist. By this time, many kiddos will miss the early intervention stage. We were lucky and diagnosed right before his second birthday. My boy is the sweetest little guy with a hyper-fixation for numbers (and also loves music!). My girl, it comes out more as behavioral issues but that’s a lot more of the ADHD. Thanks for sharing another ASD story!
I just love how RJ hugs his mom. 💗💗 My three-year-old nephew is on the spectrum, and he shows love by resting his head on me, and sometimes he pats me in a way like he's reassuring me. It's the sweetest.
As the brother of two autistic men, I appreciate your support of such people. Autism has been stereotyped by many forms of media, but the interview is real.
I loved the part when you asked what she learned from her experience with her son. He kinda leans in to listen to what she says. As she says love he has that really sweet reaction. We can never judge a book by it's cover. No matter how it looks on the outside, until we read it we'll never fully understand it and appreciate it. RJ is a good dude with an amazing mom. I wish you 2 nothing but the best moments in yours lives.
I'm a dad and have been an Autism support worker for 8 years, you're a superstar Wendy and you should be proud of yourself. I love to take the boys i work with fishing, its so good for relaxation and bonding and forming memories.
During my career as an elementary teacher, one of the mantras in the special ed world was, "when the going gets tough, daddy gets going." It's very rare for a seriously special ed kid to have an engaged father. Dealing with severely disabled children gets exponentially more difficult as they grow bigger and more powerful, and as they go through puberty with all the accompanying behaviors without cognitive control. This mother is exceptional. She is very grounded and realistic, having worked out the bureaucracy as well as how to deal with her son in the "real world." The agony for these parents is how to ensure care for their children when they can no longer provide this, or after they die. What a boss: this is a woman I would love to know.
So sad about the fathers. Maybe their absence (and the absence of disputes over care) makes it easier in the end. I've always been grateful that we don't have to share my son with *them* ...💜
I have personally known two families where the MOTHER left. IDK what happened with one of them, but in the other, when I said I was sorry to hear that she rarely saw the kids, I was told, "Don't be; she's a really, really bad alcoholic." I've actually seen plenty of THAT kind of thing in families with NORMAL kids.
This is my constant worry about my son, who is very similar to RJ and has almost identical diagnoses. What will his life look like when his dad and I aren't here to protect him? Unlike most people, my child will always be a child and every bit as vulnerable.
Oh my God, this video is a mirror of my wife and my special needs Autistic son with mental issues almost like RJ. Wendy said it right that he's a gift from God to awaken you on how life is so special. What a great video. Please show more like this.
I'm a special education teacher, and on the autism spectrum myself. Thank you, Mark, for doing this video. It is one of my favorites. And RJ, you are awesome. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. And Wendy, you are a great mom.
My son has non verbal autism and ADHD. I don't understand parents who think there's nothing to cure etc. Why would you want your child to experience the difficulties and hardships that they go through every day??? If I could take all the pain and all the anxieties and struggles my son has, I'd take them away from him in a heartbeat. You can love your child with all your heart for who they are, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't want to change what they have if you could
No, it’s not! No one wants to be autistic, and no one hopes that their child is born with autism. Do they? This “nothing to cure”idea, is taking away the incentive to find the cause and cure of this epidemic.
@@stephx8811it’s the most ridiculous thing. You can love your child and also recognize the truth. This isn’t a better existence for RJ than being “typical”
@potatofanatic28 Thanks so much for your kind words about RJ, and his artwork. It's been a really rough year but he wants to get back to doing crafting events this year. He absolutely loves doing them. All the best to you and yours! Wendy
This kid got the perfect mother. And he is VERY SPECIAL in a good way. My mother was a special education teacher. One of the things I think she did right in raising me was exposing me to neurodivergent people in the third grade. She was so passionate about what she did that I sometimes felt a little angry because she had no energy left for me at the end of her days. I promised myself and declared to God I'd never become a teacher. They say "If you want to hear God laugh, tell him what you won't do." Today I teach 4 year olds many of whom are neuro divergent. My boss gave me a gentle nudge into the position and it's been the most fulfilling assignment of my career. I honestly believe that the answers to many of the world's problems are trapped somewhere tin the minds of people on the spectrum. I'm so grateful to have been given the opportunity to nurture that greatness. Thank you Mark, Wendy, and RJ for this beautiful reminder that what I do matters.
My daughter Jessica is 31. She was born with an extra chromosome 22 Mosaic Trisomy syndrome. Very rare, not many cases throughout the United States. I surely seen a lot of doctors and nurses Pt, OT, vision specialist, Speech Therapist etc. She’s been in and out of the hospitals many many times she is 31 years old and developmentally like a three-year-old. She does not speak and needs help with all skills, but she is love. She has a smile from ear to ear, she can walk thank God and she’s very well taken care of and love. What could I ask for but God’s guidance.
This was very touching. My son is 9 and he has autism too. He is also very fascinated with fans, air conditioners, and other things with motors. Thank you for sharing RJ and his Moms story.
I am a grandma to Matthew, an autistic child who is now 11 and now high functioning who would have melt downs to noises, especially Happy Birthday when he was very young. When he would melt down in school situations he would run out. He would have huge remorse and be very hard on himself afterward. My son is so good with him and such a great parent, but the stress is so intense at times. I could only wish there were more support groups and connections!
For the past 25 years, I’ve had the incredible privilege of working with mentally impaired adults. Words can hardly capture how inspiring and awesome they are. Each day, they teach me about resilience, joy, and the power of human connection. Their unique perspectives and unyielding spirit remind me of the beauty in diversity and the strength found in overcoming challenges. I am truly honored to be part of their journey, and they have enriched my life in countless ways.
I grew up with my dads youngest brother Ralph, my uncle.. he had Down syndrome, high functioning though, when I had my own kids I realized he had the mentality of about a three year old.. he worked at a coffee shop for 25 years! But growing up, my grandmother would do respite for parents of other kids with disabilities, she’d have parties for them in her basement. I remember being little and walking around in the middle of these parties filled with kids of all different mental and physical disabilities. Some of them scared me, but my uncle was such an angel I always had fun there. My dad said my grandma even took in foster kids with disabilities when he was growing up, even though she had five kids of her own! I feel blessed beyond measure to have grown up accepting of these types of kids.. I had friends growing up who were intimidated by my angel of an uncle and didn’t know how to act around him.. he always wanted to hug everyone and a few times people took that bad somehow! Someone even called the cops on him once after my grandma had dropped him off for work early, he was stretching outside getting ready for the store to open and some ignorant fool called the cops to report him! I remember how bad he felt after that.. I love these kids and I should have gotten into working with them as well
These people are not " mentally impaired". They can't control their bodies or what they say, but Inside they are fully aware, knowledgeable and intelligent.
Wendy, you brought tears to my eyes. I have a 12 year old micro preemie who was 1 pound at birth and is profoundly deaf, listens with bilateral Cochlear implants, mild cerebral palsy, mild microcephely (small head small brain) This was by far my favorite interview on your channel Mark. Wendy taught me so much in this 30 minute interview. She is definitely a light in this dark world. Thank you for enlightening people with disabilities. I too would never change the way my son was born. He brings me so much happiness in my life. 💛
I am so impressed with this woman. My heart is filled with love for her because of how she's handled what her life's given her. I have a nephew with autism and I struggle with how to connect with him. It's heartbreaking to not "know" him or understand what upsets him, etc.
For so, so many of the sad stories of addiction here on SWU, those stories would be so few if there were parents like Wendy out there for those folks during their childhood. This is an interview with a positive impact.❤
I just found some info online about the reason of Williams syndrome. That’s what it says: A rare genetic disorder caused by a deletion of a region containing approximately 26 genes and located on the long arm of chromosome 7. It occurs in approximately 1 in 20,000 live births. A definitive diagnosis can be made by FISH (fluorescence in situ hybridization) or DNA microarray, which show the absence of this region of the chromosome. So it’s a lack of a few genes in one of the chromosomes.
This was nice to watch this morning! I don't know how Wendy's demeanor was 28 years ago but she is a very pleasant person and you can tell that she has a lot of patience. Something tells me that the experience of RJ as a whole, probably strengthened these assets quite a bit. Their interactions with one another are sweet!
ME TOO!!! I cannot live w/o my fan-i have 2 portable fans that I take with me when I leave the house-they go around your neck with a propeller aiming at the right side & ine on the left side of your face😂😊They have saved my life, lol. They are rechargeable & u get them from Amazon
Thank you so much Wendy and RJ, you guys rock!!!! Last year I got my autism diagnosis and all my life have struggled with meltdowns/shutdowns. They make me feel extremely powerless and ashamed to be in social environments when it happens, because it feels like nobody nor yourself can be of any help, so pain can feel like the only logical solution sometimes. It feels nice to know that someone else shares this experience
Thank you thank you thank you. The amount of times my unofficial foster sister would point at the fans and we would sit down and discuss it, or cut the conversation short, because you can only explain it so many times... I miss you pen
This video shows variety and cruelty and beauty of the world. When woman like this got a child with special needs and dedicates whole life to him on one side, and when woman with no love and care for others gets healthy child who suppose to start normal life and become healthy mature human being. First mom makes the best of a human being that is possible and by that makes a world a better place and second mum ruines life of her healthy child, makes a sick person out of it and consequently makes a world a shitty place for that particular person, to all around that person and to herself. We can see that on this channel every day. Wendy, you are really special, thank you for the video, RJ is the best that he could be and I wish you all the best
What a wonderful and caring lady unconditional love. I know first-hand I had a special needs Nephew So many people Treated him Horrible... I miss him terribly. And he taught me to be a better person. God love you when it comes down to it. We're all we've been.
⭐️This is my Favorite interview. Please more of these two ! Wendy you are incredible and your an angel RJ thank you for your words. god bless you both 🎉
My brother has 2 sons who are both autistic. They are such beautiful souls. Funny, kind and very thoughtful. My brother is amazing in managing their varying behaviours and they love eachother SO much . 😊❤ I love Wendy's honesty and RJ is a ray of sunshine ! Blessings from England💕
This is so relatable. It took until my son was almost 4 to get specialist referrals where we learned he had an in utero brain injury and a tethered spinal cord. Once he started school, he was evaluated for special ed services and was found to have developmental and speech delays. It feels never ending at times. Through all of this, he shines in the world. He was reading at 1.5, telling time on analog clocks at 2, and it doing basic multiplication at 5. He has the biggest heart and is constantly making cards and pictures for the people he loves. Like RJ, he has special interests in power lines and fire alarm systems. He was obsessed with clocks of all kinds for some time. I wouldn't change him for anything. Since the day he was born, he's been my perfect, special boy - well before I knew how special he was.
Very beautiful family, and story. My oldest son is 15, and has 39 different diagnosis, Autism being one, and also Chromosome abnormalities that ao far in 15yrs Genetics has not been able to compare to anyone else, so there's still no name for it as of yet. He wasn't supposed to walk, talk, etc... however he does those things and more! As what's usual for children like him he excels in some things and is very behind on others, there's even times that my 6yr old son seems like he's the big brother. We all love him more then anything and would never change him for the world, but I wish I could change the world for him! He's lucky he has his parents, and his 3 siblings to help him with things. As RJ is so very lucky to have a mother who cares so much for him! She's very right it's not easy, but it's worth it. You can learn so much from these children if you just open your minds and especially your heart!
I identified so much with Wendy. My son is 36. It can sometimes be very difficult and overwhelming but the unconditional love and the things my son has taught me far outweighs all of the hard days. I too would do it all over again if given the choice. Thank you for introducing us to Wendy and RJ I enjoyed their interview!
I remember a 10 year old autistic boy who memorized the whole map of Chicago and replicated it on paper - I kept just adding paper for him to complete it - he remembered all the roads -intersections as a passenger in the car his mom drove
I have a daughter . She is on the autism scale. She is 45 years old. I can attest to the Nightmare and Purgatory of paperwork . Not only is she autistic but she has a chromosome disorder called neurofibromatosis which causes thousands of tumors to grow in her body. She is a cancer survivor of bone cancer, osteosarcoma in her left leg. Every year we have to recertify her as disabled. It's just she and I as my oldest daughter passed away at age 15 from brain cancer and was diagnosed at autopsy with fibromatosis also. I think the paperwork is done on purpose to discourage and cut back. There's times I've almost given up. I love this mom and I love RJ. I love my daughter more than I can say. Thank you shedding light on this❤❤❤❤ She is me❤
As a mother of a 5 year old with awesomeness, this brought me to tears. You really do find the meaning of unconditional love. And I hope I can be as patient as Wendy as my son grows.. I felt every word she shared with us, I appreciate her story and her story really inspired me to be the best mom I can be to my little guy ❤ Thank you
You can be & probably already are so much more wonderful than you think! I'm 56 & have a 33 yo son like RJ. If I hadn't gotten ill - well, we had grand plans. But don't worry - it's hard sometimes but because you *want* to be the best for him, you *will* be! Blessings to you both!💜
My 19 year old (10 year old mentally) son is severely autistic and he is the most innocent, beautiful soul. I wouldn't change him for anything. He has been the light of my husband and my lives. He's just so smart and talented. I'm a proud momma 💙💙💙
I share your sentiment. My son is 23 with the soul of a little boy. I knew his dad and i were chosen by the universe to be his parents. I wouldn't change him for a 'normal" son. I love him exactly the way he is.
@DonnellOkafor-pd7ynI am in my sixties and still caring for my autistic son. My love for him gets stronger and so does my gratitude for being his mom.
@DonnellOkafor-pd7yn My husband and I already know he'll be with us forever. We've had time to get used to it. He's set up with a trust (like his older sisters) for his future needs. He will never be institutionalized. You make it sound like a burden and he's not. I want him to be with us, even when we are 60. It's what a parent does.
Children living with autism are angels on earth to teach us to think outside of the box .. best teachers on the planet .. I worked with nonverbal severely aggressive pre school children for years .. my motto was try and try and try and right again and when you think they can’t learn something try again ..
Imagine if everyone had a mother so loving.
Then Mark wouldn't have a channel. hehe JK of course! ...But... 😂💜🙏
This mum is strong beyond comprehension.
Wendy’s voice is so soothing, I aspire to be a patient mom like Wendy.
Maybe for the camera.
@truesavings1988 Thank you.
The love she has for her son absolutely radiates from her. And I love how RJ ‘hugs’ her so often, what a sweet family.
The way she talks about RJ and interacts with him just melts my heart. This woman is amazing and her son is a doll. The way he hugs her 🥹
Not me over here crying my eyes out. My son is 11 and nonverbal autistic with horrible self injuring behavior. It’s awful but stories like these make me feel not so alone. More of these beautiful people would be wonderful to see on this channel.
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I'm sending you as much hope and love as I can. I may not remember your name on her, but I will remember you both.
Your not alone❤️🩷💙🧡
My grandson is nonverbal with horrible outbursts of SIB. So very tough and hurts my heart. Sending love your way. ❤💙
I care for a 33 year old man with autism and severe panic attacks. He is extremely difficult to handle and every day I have to talk myself into going to work. I don’t know how much longer I can do it. He has bowel movements and urinates in his clothing, in the bathtub and on the floors. Other coworkers say he is quite aware of what he’s doing because it mainly happens in the house. He is extremely messy with food and all bodily fluids. He spits inside his shirts and in the kitchen sink! It honestly makes me feel ill as I have to clean it up. How do people deal with this for many years!? One of my colleagues has been with him for years! I feel bad that I can’t handle it.
What a well spoken, calm mom. RJ is one fortunate son.
My grandmother always told me be patient before you become a patient.
People can learn from this wonderful mother.
Your Gran sounds like my Mom. So funny & wise! 💜
I know, she has the patience of a saint!
My mantra (and I have 12 grandkids) is
That's why young people have children.
Us "old" folks raised ours and were happy to leave the baby making to them. 😅
Hi. RJ's Mom here. Thank you for your kind words and positive comments. And also for the negative ones. I also want to give proper credit to the individual that wrote "There is No Cure", John Roedel. I had run across it on social media and thought it to be quite potent. But not for the reason that has been debated here in the comments. I do understand that debate...and we are all entitled to our own opinion on it. For me, the most potent part of that essay was the very last word. "Ignorance." Ignorance meaning not educated on something or having knowledge of something. It means being unaware. By gaining awareness, we can hopefully improve things. Anyway, that's why I shared that. Thanks again, and best wishes to all! W
You’re doing a great job Mom! God Bless you and RJ! ❤❤
@@kristis4571 Thank you! Many blessings to you and yours also.
Hi Wendy, I just watched this yesterday but I just wanted to tell you how wonderful you and RJ are. I’m the sister of an autistic brother who is a lot like RJ. So many of the things you described about him remind me of my brother Derek. He’s 34 now and I have always felt like his second mom. I still try to help with him as much as I can even tho I have two little ones of my own because in my eyes, he’s like my third child and always will be. You also remind me so much of my mom with your patience and strength. And believe me, I know this road is not easy. We have hard moments but also beautiful ones as well. Im so glad I stumbled across this video and I just want to wish many blessings to you both. You’re one hell of a mom!
Your an Angel ❤
Bless your heart Wendy; thank you for being who you are. Much love to you and RJ.
He’s got more humanity and empathy than most people
My son does, too. Most are real angels! 👼
people with Down syndrome are the real sweethearts
Ain’t that the truth
No he doesn’t
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I personally know RJ and his mother Wendy. She is a super person and so is RJ. RJ is also very artistic and gives the best hugs ever! Since they have moved, I don't see them as often unfortunately. The last time I ran into them I got a very big hug from RJ. I have a small store in Nothern Wisconsin and I told RJ to come and visit me at my new location. His first question was if I had any ceiling fans at my new location! Mark you did an absolutely great job with this interview!
😊Thanks, Jean. We'll get up that way one of these days. I know he'll have plenty of big hugs for ya!!!
The poem at the start has me crying ❤️ from a mama to a beautiful autistic 4 year old this really touched my heart! Thank you for this!
As a single mom of a 28 year old autistic son, the poem hit on so many levels. I would never want to change my son. He wouldn't be the same if autism was "cured". He's wonderful just the way he is. ❤
R.J. and his Mum is one of the most heartwarming interviews I’ve seen. A Mothers unconditional love and her sons love for his Mother is a beautiful thing,
The story about RJ saving saving that woman’s life gave me goosebumps! He’s a superhero! ❤️🥹
“We both teach each other. I’m honored that I was chosen to be his mom” same! Same.
The poem at the opening was beautiful I can totally relate to this lad Life. I am a single father of a 20-year-old autistic child and I have to say it's one of the hardest things I've ever done in my life, but I would not change it for the world. I could sit on here and talk for hours about the pros the cons, the do's the don'ts but all I can say is my son. John is my best friend in the whole world and I wouldn't change it for anything
Well said! Amen! & Ditto, Dad! 🤗💜
My son has non verbal autism. The hardest, most stressful, the most loving, the most rewarding part of my life. He has the biggest personality, despite not being able to talk. He also has ADHD so teaching him things is hard, but when he loves something, he really loves it. He stims with over excitement. It's beautiful. I'm his comfort, he takes my dresses and my tops and takes them everywhere with him to smell and feel. Hes truly beautiful and my everything ❤️
You are blessed with an innocent. May l respectfully ask if you used oral contraception?
My closest friend has a non verbal too.
@@davepowell7168 no It took years and years for me to conceive my son. It was all natural. Autism stems from genetics. Alot of people are undiagnosed and there's different levels on a spectrum. I suspect my dad has autism, he's very reserved and is a maths whizz and extremely smart. My brother was supposed to have tests for autism as an adult but decided not to. I've always struggled socially so I suspect I probably have it on some level. But my son is the only one in the family who has it as severe and non verbal.
Dont know if it might be helpful, or if u hv found it already…fathering autism is a great channel
@@Truecrimewatcher no I haven't come across them. Thank you so much! It's really kind of you. I'm going to search them now.
❤️ How Wonderful! The love is beautiful!
The unconditional love of a mother and of a son is a beautiful sight to behold.
As a mom of an autistic son, I cannot tell you how moving and life changing this was. She articulated and exemplified the patience, the struggle, the beauty, the good, the bad. She put to words, things I could not. I felt this with all of my heart. I feel heard without ever having to speak.
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I don't typically comment on SWU, but I'm in tears. I'm the mother of an 11-year-old with autism and when RJ talked about knowing how he made people feel with his meltdowns, I thought about my baby and how he has the same reactions to loud noises. Thunderstorms and kids crying are two things he has a very hard time with. My son started therapy when he was 3, and it has helped tremendously. He is a joy to everyone who knows him. Please post more videos like this.
My son is 33 now; he had the same reactions but manages them quite well now. Wish you the BEST! Yes, hope SWU does more like this!💜
Cheese 🧀
Yes, I'm on the spectrum and suffer from PTSD from childhood related trauma, but also being generally misunderstood by my family and in trying to express myself. We feel very intensely and get frustrated, overwhelmed by loud noises, sharp lights, etc. And when feeling things very intensely we explode from the inside out, especially when not feeling heard (understood) being a child / non verbal must make that even more difficult as even with full use of words it's not always easy for me to communicate what I'm trying to say (what I actually mean, not just the words that come out while trying to form thought externally). I also feel very bad when having a meltdown and care more for animals and people, the planet, etc than people might realize. Especially if they had to hear / see me during such a time. For many it just leads to withdrawal socially / depression and self medication eventually as it's discouraging and already difficult to get through a day and be productive with neuro diverse challenges, people relationships feel like an additional burden due to the complications / misunderstandings that's involved, but it doesn't mean we don't need comforting / love / touch / hugs, etc. The space is just rarely there for some of us due to social challenges to be on the receiving end of it.
Yes I hope they post the high functioning autistic people too
@@francoisnel5253 Thank you for sharing.
My son is 7. One day I told his dad that it made me sad that he didn't spend more time with our son...he responded, "I can't help that something is wrong with him."
I separated from his dad about a year ago.
My son has loved: tornado sirens, train gates, air duct cleaning, water towers, hand dryers, etc. He has been fascinated by things that I have not given a second thought as to how they work all my life. I now can name different models of tornado sirens. Two summers ago I took him to a convention (it's in Rhinelander, WI the first weekend in June) just for tornado sirens.
He is smart, funny, unique, and loving. I am proud to be his mom. He has helped me grow. Truly.
My son is autistic as well. I divorced as well. I felt all of this. The unmatchable passion! Being in the presence of someone who loves and is fascinated by particular things with all of themself is so inspiring. His interests and his passion for them are a gift to everyone around him.
Good for You Sweetheart. The lady who said that she would change her son if she could made me sad ! People who have special needs people in their life have a whole different world open up to them IF they ARE Willing to buck convention. These children ARE often special in ways that not all can see or appreciate. They ARE the one's that I truly feel Sorry for ! To be So Ignorant to another humans plight that they can't see the Forrest for the trees, is MISSING so Much from their lives and it goes to their very core as to how Ignorant they really are. It takes a very Special parent to raise a very special person, so until You yourself have walked in these people's shoes or walked their life's path then in ALL actuality YOU DON'T KNOW SQUAT and it truly makes YOU look Ignorant, insensitive and morally Bankrupt. So maybe don't post your Ignorant responses here because it let's the rest of us KNOW what a shallow, ugly empty Soul YOU ARE !!!
I just think: well, *they* sure are missing out! 🥰
Sending love ❤️
This is so sweet, thank you for sharing !
MAJOR respect for this mom and all parents who struggle and love this way.
I am autistic, and I can relate to this, maybe in the future I would like to get my story out there. I love you mark, your videos keep me inspired, even shows there are different people out there.
She says her life is like being in purgatory. Shes so strong.
As a mother of a 4 year old, the poem touched my soul. My son is so bright and amazing even as an autistic little boy 🩵 Beautiful poem. Keep doing what you do Mark!
Just wait. It gets better. It seems like they develop amazing skills and abilities in subjects that they are drawn to. Encourage and nurture. We were chosen to do a special job and I'm glad to have been chosen 💙💙💙
Great interview, mom Wendy and her handsome son RJ are the best. Seems like people I would love to hang around with.
Ladies my son is now 5 years old nonverbal and is Level 3 autistic. We just have to join them in their world and everything opens up. 🎉 Stay strong and enjoy the melody ❤
Stay strong. My autistic son was diagnosed as non verbal. Wasn't talking at 5, but has started now at 6. Be hopeful. I'm hopeful.
No levels....
level 3 already, man hes been grinding
if I get diagnosed im going to speedrun to level 100
I think one of the hardest things about being the parent of a disabled child is having to worry about what happens after the parent dies or becomes disabled.
I loved and even laughed out loud when RJ said "Nice!" after his mom read the poem. She seems like a very patient, loving, educated mother
My grandson has lived with me for 19 years. He is 19 years old and has a form of autism. Good or bad I wouldn't swap a day. His achievements are amazing and have brought me great pride . On bad days we just get through them and hope the next day will be better . He has moments that would amaze anyone. He makes me so proud. Bless this lady for being so understanding to her son.
This woman is the epitome of strength and calm all in one. ❤
RJ and his mom ❤️
I worked in special ed as a paraeducator in our high school and middle school. In our high school we had a program called occupational development program. This program helps students do the best they can with their challenges. I would say at least 90% of the people who worked in this program really cared about the students. I worked in this program for 20 years and loved it. They all were treated well and cared for. As I was working there, I just thought of them as any student. I really did.
Thank you for being a wonderful human being.
Thank you, Mary! My son went to a *great* high school. Y'all are today's unsung heroes & true angels on earth! 💜
Thanks Mary. You are an Angel ❤️🙏
My son is 5 with severe autism and non verbal. He LOVES Occupational therapy. He can say a couple things like dada, mama, and yeah. When we pull in the parking lot for OT he yells T! Teeee! He loves his teacher, too. She is so patient and kind.
Wow does this hit home! Single mom of an ASD boy and ADHD/ASD girl in south central Wisconsin. My son was in Birth - 3 then transitioned to ABA via WEAP. I recently left my career of 10 years to be more available and present for their needs but dealing with social security is a horror and barely enough to live on. I’m constantly dealing with IEPs. My son luckily is high functioning but we still deal with things like eloping and AFRID. Oh gosh and don’t let him catch the dog chewing her bone, the noise sets him through the roof! Autism testing for children in our area is a year and a half waitlist. By this time, many kiddos will miss the early intervention stage. We were lucky and diagnosed right before his second birthday. My boy is the sweetest little guy with a hyper-fixation for numbers (and also loves music!). My girl, it comes out more as behavioral issues but that’s a lot more of the ADHD. Thanks for sharing another ASD story!
What a lovely woman. Mark always talks about unconditional love. This is it.
This mama and RJ have me smiling through the whole video. He's very blessed to have such a loving and patient mama
I grew up with an uncle that had Down syndrome and he was my favourite ! That opening poem made me cry!
I just love how RJ hugs his mom. 💗💗 My three-year-old nephew is on the spectrum, and he shows love by resting his head on me, and sometimes he pats me in a way like he's reassuring me. It's the sweetest.
As the brother of two autistic men, I appreciate your support of such people. Autism has been stereotyped by many forms of media, but the interview is real.
I loved the part when you asked what she learned from her experience with her son. He kinda leans in to listen to what she says. As she says love he has that really sweet reaction. We can never judge a book by it's cover. No matter how it looks on the outside, until we read it we'll never fully understand it and appreciate it. RJ is a good dude with an amazing mom. I wish you 2 nothing but the best moments in yours lives.
I'm a dad and have been an Autism support worker for 8 years, you're a superstar Wendy and you should be proud of yourself. I love to take the boys i work with fishing, its so good for relaxation and bonding and forming memories.
During my career as an elementary teacher, one of the mantras in the special ed world was, "when the going gets tough, daddy gets going." It's very rare for a seriously special ed kid to have an engaged father. Dealing with severely disabled children gets exponentially more difficult as they grow bigger and more powerful, and as they go through puberty with all the accompanying behaviors without cognitive control.
This mother is exceptional. She is very grounded and realistic, having worked out the bureaucracy as well as how to deal with her son in the "real world." The agony for these parents is how to ensure care for their children when they can no longer provide this, or after they die.
What a boss: this is a woman I would love to know.
So sad about the fathers. Maybe their absence (and the absence of disputes over care) makes it easier in the end. I've always been grateful that we don't have to share my son with *them* ...💜
I have personally known two families where the MOTHER left. IDK what happened with one of them, but in the other, when I said I was sorry to hear that she rarely saw the kids, I was told, "Don't be; she's a really, really bad alcoholic."
I've actually seen plenty of THAT kind of thing in families with NORMAL kids.
You have hit the nail on the head.
This is my constant worry about my son, who is very similar to RJ and has almost identical diagnoses. What will his life look like when his dad and I aren't here to protect him? Unlike most people, my child will always be a child and every bit as vulnerable.
Happened to a dear and amazing friend of mine ❤️
Oh my God, this video is a mirror of my wife and my special needs Autistic son with mental issues almost like RJ. Wendy said it right that he's a gift from God to awaken you on how life is so special. What a great video. Please show more like this.
I'm a special education teacher, and on the autism spectrum myself. Thank you, Mark, for doing this video. It is one of my favorites.
And RJ, you are awesome. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. And Wendy, you are a great mom.
Pls bring them back. I can sit and listen forever to the 2 incredible souls
“Nothing to Cure” is absolutely beautiful and perfect!
No, it's absolutely ridiculous.
My son has non verbal autism and ADHD. I don't understand parents who think there's nothing to cure etc. Why would you want your child to experience the difficulties and hardships that they go through every day??? If I could take all the pain and all the anxieties and struggles my son has, I'd take them away from him in a heartbeat. You can love your child with all your heart for who they are, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't want to change what they have if you could
No, it’s not! No one wants to be autistic, and no one hopes that their child is born with autism. Do they? This “nothing to cure”idea, is taking away the incentive to find the cause and cure of this epidemic.
@@stephx8811unfortunately we can’t cure everything and understanding suffering is a mystery.
@@stephx8811it’s the most ridiculous thing. You can love your child and also recognize the truth. This isn’t a better existence for RJ than being “typical”
RJ is a sweet, friendly young man. He is a talented artist, too. I love interacting with RJ at craft fairs.
@potatofanatic28 Thanks so much for your kind words about RJ, and his artwork. It's been a really rough year but he wants to get back to doing crafting events this year. He absolutely loves doing them. All the best to you and yours! Wendy
That poem was perfect!
This kid got the perfect mother. And he is VERY SPECIAL in a good way. My mother was a special education teacher. One of the things I think she did right in raising me was exposing me to neurodivergent people in the third grade. She was so passionate about what she did that I sometimes felt a little angry because she had no energy left for me at the end of her days. I promised myself and declared to God I'd never become a teacher. They say "If you want to hear God laugh, tell him what you won't do." Today I teach 4 year olds many of whom are neuro divergent. My boss gave me a gentle nudge into the position and it's been the most fulfilling assignment of my career. I honestly believe that the answers to many of the world's problems are trapped somewhere tin the minds of people on the spectrum. I'm so grateful to have been given the opportunity to nurture that greatness. Thank you Mark, Wendy, and RJ for this beautiful reminder that what I do matters.
My daughter Jessica is 31. She was born with an extra chromosome 22 Mosaic Trisomy syndrome. Very rare, not many cases throughout the United States. I surely seen a lot of doctors and nurses Pt, OT, vision specialist, Speech Therapist etc. She’s been in and out of the hospitals many many times she is 31 years old and developmentally like a three-year-old. She does not speak and needs help with all skills, but she is love. She has a smile from ear to ear, she can walk thank God and she’s very well taken care of and love. What could I ask for but God’s guidance.
This was very touching. My son is 9 and he has autism too. He is also very fascinated with fans, air conditioners, and other things with motors. Thank you for sharing RJ and his Moms story.
What an amazing woman and an incredible mum. The world needs more people like her
I am a grandma to Matthew, an autistic child who is now 11 and now high functioning who would have melt downs to noises, especially Happy Birthday when he was very young. When he would melt down in school situations he would run out. He would have huge remorse and be very hard on himself afterward. My son is so good with him and such a great parent, but the stress is so intense at times. I could only wish there were more support groups and connections!
Share this video with your son. Give him this gift. As a mom of high functioning autistic son, there was so much in this that filled my heart.
For the past 25 years, I’ve had the incredible privilege of working with mentally impaired adults. Words can hardly capture how inspiring and awesome they are. Each day, they teach me about resilience, joy, and the power of human connection. Their unique perspectives and unyielding spirit remind me of the beauty in diversity and the strength found in overcoming challenges. I am truly honored to be part of their journey, and they have enriched my life in countless ways.
I grew up with my dads youngest brother Ralph, my uncle.. he had Down syndrome, high functioning though, when I had my own kids I realized he had the mentality of about a three year old.. he worked at a coffee shop for 25 years! But growing up, my grandmother would do respite for parents of other kids with disabilities, she’d have parties for them in her basement. I remember being little and walking around in the middle of these parties filled with kids of all different mental and physical disabilities. Some of them scared me, but my uncle was such an angel I always had fun there. My dad said my grandma even took in foster kids with disabilities when he was growing up, even though she had five kids of her own! I feel blessed beyond measure to have grown up accepting of these types of kids.. I had friends growing up who were intimidated by my angel of an uncle and didn’t know how to act around him.. he always wanted to hug everyone and a few times people took that bad somehow! Someone even called the cops on him once after my grandma had dropped him off for work early, he was stretching outside getting ready for the store to open and some ignorant fool called the cops to report him! I remember how bad he felt after that.. I love these kids and I should have gotten into working with them as well
Yes they are special teachers for humanity...
These people are not " mentally impaired". They can't control their bodies or what they say, but Inside they are fully aware, knowledgeable and intelligent.
Omg the ending story about RJ saving that woman’s life just by being kind to her gave me chills
I love mom. She’s so patient and loving 🥹
What a wonderful mom. She has the most kind, soft soothing voice. ❤
A BEAUTIFUL MOTHER THAT LOVES HER CHILD. HAS BEAUTIFUL PATIENCE TO LEARN FROM, TO TEACH, AND TO PROVIDE FOR HER CHILD. THANK YOU
What a beautiful woman. RJ is very lucky to have her. Bless them both ❤
Wendy, you brought tears to my eyes. I have a 12 year old micro preemie who was 1 pound at birth and is profoundly deaf, listens with bilateral Cochlear implants, mild cerebral palsy, mild microcephely (small head small brain) This was by far my favorite interview on your channel Mark. Wendy taught me so much in this 30 minute interview. She is definitely a light in this dark world. Thank you for enlightening people with disabilities. I too would never change the way my son was born. He brings me so much happiness in my life. 💛
I am so impressed with this woman. My heart is filled with love for her because of how she's handled what her life's given her. I have a nephew with autism and I struggle with how to connect with him. It's heartbreaking to not "know" him or understand what upsets him, etc.
"Find a cure for normal"
That's the best! This was a GREAT interview, thank y'all so much, very interesting. Very heartwarming.
Beautiful mother. Her calmness is radiating.
Both beautiful people.
There isn't anything stronger than a mothers love!
Apart from a Dads
@@James-m3o5x True!
You obviously haven't been watching many SWU uploads, if you believe that.
Not in my life.
Oh that was very touching mark. What a great mother. I don't think I could ever be strong enough to do what she does. What a special person
God only gives us what we can handle❤
For so, so many of the sad stories of addiction here on SWU, those stories would be so few if there were parents like Wendy out there for those folks during their childhood. This is an interview with a positive impact.❤
She is truly an angel. And the love she has for RJ, her very own angel, is just amazing.
I just found some info online about the reason of Williams syndrome. That’s what it says:
A rare genetic disorder caused by a deletion of a region containing approximately 26 genes and located on the long arm of chromosome 7.
It occurs in approximately 1 in 20,000 live births. A definitive diagnosis can be made by FISH (fluorescence in situ hybridization) or DNA microarray, which show the absence of this region of the chromosome.
So it’s a lack of a few genes in one of the chromosomes.
This was nice to watch this morning! I don't know how Wendy's demeanor was 28 years ago but she is a very pleasant person and you can tell that she has a lot of patience. Something tells me that the experience of RJ as a whole, probably strengthened these assets quite a bit. Their interactions with one another are sweet!
I m with RJ on this one, I also need a fan running at all times.
ME TOO!!! I cannot live w/o my fan-i have 2 portable fans that I take with me when I leave the house-they go around your neck with a propeller aiming at the right side & ine on the left side of your face😂😊They have saved my life, lol. They are rechargeable & u get them from Amazon
@@danielleterese402thanks for the info 👍
I understood him when he says it gives him air, it probably has to do with being in 34:06 a claustrophobic situation
Thank you so much Wendy and RJ, you guys rock!!!!
Last year I got my autism diagnosis and all my life have struggled with meltdowns/shutdowns. They make me feel extremely powerless and ashamed to be in social environments when it happens, because it feels like nobody nor yourself can be of any help, so pain can feel like the only logical solution sometimes. It feels nice to know that someone else shares this experience
Thank you thank you thank you.
The amount of times my unofficial foster sister would point at the fans and we would sit down and discuss it, or cut the conversation short, because you can only explain it so many times... I miss you pen
The mom is so patient and calm
This video shows variety and cruelty and beauty of the world. When woman like this got a child with special needs and dedicates whole life to him on one side, and when woman with no love and care for others gets healthy child who suppose to start normal life and become healthy mature human being. First mom makes the best of a human being that is possible and by that makes a world a better place and second mum ruines life of her healthy child, makes a sick person out of it and consequently makes a world a shitty place for that particular person, to all around that person and to herself. We can see that on this channel every day. Wendy, you are really special, thank you for the video, RJ is the best that he could be and I wish you all the best
What a wonderful and caring lady unconditional love. I know first-hand I had a special needs Nephew So many people Treated him Horrible... I miss him terribly.
And he taught me to be a better person. God love you
when it comes down to it. We're all we've been.
Mark i like how you talked to RJ directly.
It's very hard in this world to raise a handicap child by yourself wish people understood this more, I have hope that the world will one day
Wendy and RJ are so lovely. They’re both heroes 🎖️
I’m so glad Mark is branching out. This was fantastic!
⭐️This is my Favorite interview.
Please more of these two !
Wendy you are incredible and your an angel RJ thank you for your words.
god bless you both 🎉
Wendy and RJ are very lucky to have each other.
The hugs 🥹 so sweet he has his own way to communicate with his momma
My brother has 2 sons who are both autistic. They are such beautiful souls. Funny, kind and very thoughtful. My brother is amazing in managing their varying behaviours and they love eachother SO much . 😊❤ I love Wendy's honesty and RJ is a ray of sunshine ! Blessings from England💕
A mother's love is the greatest thing in the world.
This is so relatable. It took until my son was almost 4 to get specialist referrals where we learned he had an in utero brain injury and a tethered spinal cord. Once he started school, he was evaluated for special ed services and was found to have developmental and speech delays. It feels never ending at times. Through all of this, he shines in the world. He was reading at 1.5, telling time on analog clocks at 2, and it doing basic multiplication at 5. He has the biggest heart and is constantly making cards and pictures for the people he loves. Like RJ, he has special interests in power lines and fire alarm systems. He was obsessed with clocks of all kinds for some time. I wouldn't change him for anything. Since the day he was born, he's been my perfect, special boy - well before I knew how special he was.
Very beautiful family, and story. My oldest son is 15, and has 39 different diagnosis, Autism being one, and also Chromosome abnormalities that ao far in 15yrs Genetics has not been able to compare to anyone else, so there's still no name for it as of yet. He wasn't supposed to walk, talk, etc... however he does those things and more! As what's usual for children like him he excels in some things and is very behind on others, there's even times that my 6yr old son seems like he's the big brother. We all love him more then anything and would never change him for the world, but I wish I could change the world for him! He's lucky he has his parents, and his 3 siblings to help him with things. As RJ is so very lucky to have a mother who cares so much for him! She's very right it's not easy, but it's worth it. You can learn so much from these children if you just open your minds and especially your heart!
Mom's love knows no boundaries...most sincere interviews I have watched so far....congrats!
Duluth MN here! I bet he's the light of every place he goes!
Mum is an earth angel
She is! 🌎👼
I identified so much with Wendy. My son is 36. It can sometimes be very difficult and overwhelming but the unconditional love and the things my son has taught me far outweighs all of the hard days. I too would do it all over again if given the choice. Thank you for introducing us to Wendy and RJ I enjoyed their interview!
This women is so strong and I agree with RJ about the fans giving us air. I love fans too.
My son is 28 yrs old too.hes my greatest gift.
I remember a 10 year old autistic boy who memorized the whole map of Chicago and replicated it on paper - I kept just adding paper for him to complete it - he remembered all the roads -intersections as a passenger in the car his mom drove
@@caribcarib4337amazing
I have a daughter . She is on the autism scale. She is 45 years old. I can attest to the Nightmare and Purgatory of paperwork . Not only is she autistic but she has a chromosome disorder called neurofibromatosis which causes thousands of tumors to grow in her body. She is a cancer survivor of bone cancer, osteosarcoma in her left leg. Every year we have to recertify her as disabled. It's just she and I as my oldest daughter passed away at age 15 from brain cancer and was diagnosed at autopsy with fibromatosis also. I think the paperwork is done on purpose to discourage and cut back. There's times I've almost given up. I love this mom and I love RJ. I love my daughter more than I can say. Thank you shedding light on this❤❤❤❤ She is me❤
As a mother of a 5 year old with awesomeness, this brought me to tears. You really do find the meaning of unconditional love. And I hope I can be as patient as Wendy as my son grows.. I felt every word she shared with us, I appreciate her story and her story really inspired me to be the best mom I can be to my little guy ❤ Thank you
You can be & probably already are so much more wonderful than you think! I'm 56 & have a 33 yo son like RJ. If I hadn't gotten ill - well, we had grand plans. But don't worry - it's hard sometimes but because you *want* to be the best for him, you *will* be! Blessings to you both!💜
My 19 year old (10 year old mentally) son is severely autistic and he is the most innocent, beautiful soul. I wouldn't change him for anything. He has been the light of my husband and my lives. He's just so smart and talented. I'm a proud momma 💙💙💙
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I share your sentiment. My son is 23 with the soul of a little boy. I knew his dad and i were chosen by the universe to be his parents. I wouldn't change him for a 'normal" son. I love him exactly the way he is.
@DonnellOkafor-pd7ynI am in my sixties and still caring for my autistic son. My love for him gets stronger and so does my gratitude for being his mom.
@DonnellOkafor-pd7yn My husband and I already know he'll be with us forever. We've had time to get used to it. He's set up with a trust (like his older sisters) for his future needs. He will never be institutionalized. You make it sound like a burden and he's not. I want him to be with us, even when we are 60. It's what a parent does.
@@almafrisius7358 💙💙💙
Wow! RJ and her mom are just amazingly strong. So inspiring and makes us look pathetic hahaha.
I've watched many of these videos, but never could I relate so well to a mom and her son. Blessed be, Wendy and R. J., and you too, Mark!
I really enjoyed listening to Wendy speak. Her calm manner is so soothing. RJ is lucky to have her as his mom.
This story is so beautiful, we all just need a few seconds to know that we matter. Way to go RJ. He’s a hero!
Autism mom here this was very inspiring and gave me hope for my daughter's future 🙏❤️
Children living with autism are angels on earth to teach us to think outside of the box .. best teachers on the planet ..
I worked with nonverbal severely aggressive pre school children for years .. my motto was try and try and try and right again and when you think they can’t learn something try again ..
You sure they're angels??
Bless this womans soul