Japanese People Call Their Parents to Say "I Love You"
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I asked Japanese people to call someone that they love and tell them that they love them. Some of them called their mom, dad, siblings, and friends- and the reactions were incredible!
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I don’t really say “I love you” that often, but I want to start using it more often to to express love to those who support me most!
Call someone you love and comment what they say :)
In Brazil we often often say "I love you". From child to adults, to our parents, siblings, friends, pet's, we really like to express our affection using this phrase.
I want to say thank you so much for putting in Japanese subtitles below the English translations this is very helpful for learning.
just called my dad, he didn't answer unfortunately because it is 1 am
We need more parts like this
Wow I really enjoyed this video bro! Haha yes you got to express your love for those who are your family and loved ones. No one’s got your back then those closest to you.
Much love from another brown brother
@JESSEOGN
The guy saying I love you after 5 years absolutely made his wife's day.
I think for both was, because his expression change after hearing her replied too was and eye opening to him and he acknowledged it was sweet ❤ hear her happiness.
I hear a child coming that very night XD
day? might've made her week. month even
@@eldesconocidosenork5981 Jesus is Lord,He died on the Cross for our sins then rose again 3 days later repent.
It’s heartwarming they respect “I love you” it has meaningful implications for them. I live in USA where some or most throw around “I love you” giving it no meaning. I grew up not hearing it and it’s the same with my husband. But with our children we say it daily to each other. In my culture we can’t say “Goodbye” or “bye” to anyone. The only time we say “goodbye” is when they’re on their DBed or at their funeral service. When we end our conversation it is “ok, talk to you later” or “see you later” especially with our love ones. I don’t do it but some of my family members will say “goodbye” to those they don’t like. 😂😳😬🤫
the parents probably worried if they committed a crime is so funny 😭😭😭
Lmfaoo right 😂❤
it's not funny it's completely normal
@@chocoblin5887 No its not
"please don't do anything stupid" 🤣🤣
I mean ITS sad that the never Say IT but when some Family call me Just to say to me that He/ she Love me i Would be worried to. And i even have No Problem saying IT to my Family.
That sister who just hung up 💀
Real sibling moment right there
frfr
ngl that could perfectly be me with my brother lmfao 💀
My brother would probably freak out thinking I would do something stupid right after
She was so mean
Just the "bye bye" alone sent me 😂😂
the girl who called her dad at the beginning has such a lovely relationship with him
I needed to be reminded about this! But you’re so right. Appreciate the reminder!
@@smeech5177
yea in my culture we tend to show love by actions not by words
I loved when the dude called his friend and he goes "i love you too bro" thats true friendship, real bros aint afraid to say it
ikr it was so cute 😭
@@iiris4nah it wasn't cute it was MANLY
@@YSleepishthe manly kind of cute.
lmaooo and he hung up on him 😂
oh YEAH! so true, manly AND cute ^^@@YSleepish
The guy who called his wife that was so cute you can tell she loved it!! Tell your wifes you love them !!
kinda tragic that they are so formal with each other and never say basic things like i love you after 5 years of MARIAGE...
@@madamadam5951 Even in Keigo, sometimes it's just polite, especially if you're nervous.
@@madamadam5951 It seems like they're comfortable that way and already know that they love each other
@@madamadam5951 Just because love isn't verbalized doesn't mean it's not acknowledged or not there. Many times, its shown more through actions than words. When it is verbalized, it's profoundly meaningful/a big deal. While it's nice to hear "i love you" so often, on the other hand, it kind of loses its meaning. Everything has a good and bad side.
Very heart warming
4:19 she said "I love you too" and laughed because she was too shy to say it back but didn't want to miss the opportunity to have that sweet moment with her husband. That was so cute.
I’m Asian. I did that once - calling my mom and told her I love her. She yelled back at me and said…
“Do not do this ever again! I thought you’re going to die or something!”
Oh no😆💀
2:37 haha… wasn’t like this
Is it? 🤣
When my mom hugged me for the first time ever it was weird...and I was at least in my mid-20s. She hugs my son, but not any of her kids lol..which I'm okay with. And when she started saying I love you it was weird because she didn't say it for 25+ years...now she doesn't anymore.
@@makaylang1790Lol that's weird, maybe she felt guilty and decided to give back the hugs she didn't give in years.
Are you east Asian or indian? I heard it's mostly east Asian moms and indian moms who do this
00-42 28/09/2024
@@helenaborgespeixoto7598 Yes I'm Asian. I'm almost in my mid-40s and I've only gotten 1 hug from her. She hugs my son. I hug my son a lot. I'm not mad or sad or anything..I just can relate to how these people felt shy and awkward. When it comes to my parents it just feels weird when they never did that's all.
The use of keigo between the married couple was so wholesome to me idk why I just think it’s very sweet that they spoke like that to one another especially given that it was a confession. They’re adorable
I think he did it in front of interviewer.
it kind of made me sad. it feels quite distant. id be very sad in a marriage where i cant just speak casually, using inside jokes and such.
@@Cat-tg8nk It's not always about being distant, using Keigo is also a way to elevate the status of the other person, to show deep respect and gratitude, verses using common language.
Yeah, the way he attached it to a very specific statement of gratitude and appreciation seemed super thoughtful.
Anata is the exception on pronoun avoidance, here it has the sense of you, half of my soul\soulmate (Horace to Vergil in Odes) brother in arms bad boys 2
Using kenjougo for ones own Uchi
Okay, using kenjougo because you want to respect ur partner, I haven't searched this or knew it so idk. I do know using familiar speech is apt for the situation. Formal is totally for distancing each other in social status tho, polite is just being polite eg
明日
あすpolite
あしたcolloquial
みょうにちformal
Honjitsu is formal
んです polite informal\ colloquial for colloquial spoken languageんだ「話し言葉」
Forgor iirc there's a familiar word for cooked rice
3:45 was the most wholesome thing I have seen in a while. Both him and his wife exude kindness despite them obviously being very formal in their interaction. I especially liked how his wife clearly felt a bit embarrassed and giggled about it. But then in the end accepted and returned the gesture with sincerity.
As soon as I learned how to say it, I would say it to my Japanese grandma. She would always giggle. Then I would start doing hearts with my hands and saying it louder to make her laugh.
I miss her so much
What an amazing story.
This is so sweet. What a lovely memory.
had me in the first half ngl
broke down at the end
@@yoshiEgg_main stay strong.
Aw she was prob shocked from all the love
i love how at 4:06, he used the opportunity presented to turn it into a moment for them, and instead of being awkward about it, he rolled with it and said that while he was walking through the park the feeling just came to him and he wanted to call her and say it.
past not only hearing in her voice how much she enjoyed that sentiment, the guy also expressed gratefulness in pushing him and giving him that opportunity out of nowhere. he was very apparently happier after the fact
That was so nice. She was so happy.
Japanese rizz
@@knight1506 w nihon rizz
"i love you"
"Thank you" 💀
@@andreaschintu5024 she said I love you too
Dang, the guy telling his wife "I love you" and her saying it back melted my heart. That was sweet
timestamp pls
broooo she sounded so happy too haha
In formal too. Most impressive.
My mother died when I was 23. I was less than 2 hours from getting on a plane to get home to say my goodbyes. Ever since then, I have never left someone I love without saying, "I love you." I never want to lose another person without knowing that I told them how much they meant to me.
That hit oof
I hope you’re doing better now 🤍
Similar story here. My dad died by suicide when I was 11. My sibling and I started hugging people then, family, friends, cuddle puddles the lot. (this made for some misunderstandings on our visit to Japan whoops.) My Japanese mom felt rather awkward about it but now 18 years later at least over text she is warming up from her side.
you made men shed tears with this 🥲
Nice of you, but you know that your mom knew. People know. I know, who likes me without people telling me too. All the best from Berlin Germany. Never wrong to be or say something nice ;)
As a Mexican woman, this was a huge cultural shock for me! It made me feel sad but at the same time, I know my perspective is biased by my own experience.
My mom was Mexican and my dad is white. My mom was the person in the family that would always say I love you. I always said it back, but rarely said it first and I pretty much never said it to my dad after I became a teenager. Now that she’s gone my dad and I say we love each other a lot more often than we used to.❤
Huh Mexicans can be pretty shy too, I too am Mexican and last time I said it to my parents probably was back in new year's or something lol
Same
as a Brazilian, it was a shock for me too because here we are the complete opposite, it's so common to say that we love people, even strangers, we love to see the smile of those who listen and say that aaaah
@softsuny I'm a half Japanese in Brazil, and I never say te amo to my family either. It just feels too uncomfortable.
Minha mãe é a br, e nem ela tinha costume de falar, agora que fala de vez em quando, mas acho que meu pai nunca falou.. ou uma vez ou outra só
guy with the wife is a great sample. he delivers the word perfectly to his wife. you can tell the shock & happiness of the wife on the other line. the words of appreciation first right before he says I love you really hits her. who else won't smile from that. the first lady also did it very well.
Where was he?
@@HasufelyArod4:26
My parents would probably think I'm committing suicide if I suddenly said 'I love you'. 😂
99% of Japanese parents may think so.
Same, or that I murdered someone
This is weird, here in Brazil i say "Iove you" everytime to my parents
I say it often to my dad, but if I was to suddenly call him just to say it then yeah he’d probably get worried
or I'm going to commit terrorism.
I think in Japan, 8/10 parents would be concerned if their child all of a sudden called just to say “I love you.” it’s that uncommon.
You can tell when the first guy said it to his mom and she said please don't do any stupid things. Kinda scary tbh
As an American I guarantee if anyone randomly called their parents and said "I love you", their parent would ask something like "what do you want?" or "are you in trouble?".
my parents would think i'd be about to commit if i called them and said that out the blue
In the US, doing that so suddenly gives the impression you're about to die and you're giving your last words.
I think that is every parent.
The way some of them added in Why they loved them. Trying to convey their true feelings beyond just the words. And how giggly and happy their families were to hear it!
Specially the wife. Five years without saying it! Adorable.
Right?!? She sounded like the most adorably happy woman on the planet.
I feel like the husband and wife needed that I love you, I feel like their relationship was strengthened by this moment of appreciation and honesty.
Lmao that guy's friend was the only person who reciprocated with zero hesitation "love you too bro"
4:26 you can hear her smiling from ear to ear, that was adorable. I have a feeling this encounter brought them even closer after that
Thats why he thanked him for great timing meeting him
Guy was smooth too lol
“I’ll be home after lunch” we know what that means ;)
@@zanetusken don't make it werid
@@Hemlock_2X it's his fucking WIFE, how is that weird to assume he's definitely getting some tonight?
That dude's wife was so flustered by it haha 😄. Japanese couples are adorable.
The guy saying it to his wife was so beautiful, she got giggly, he literally put a smile on her face by saying that and she took her time to say it back. She deffo loved to receive a call from her husband to thank her for the support she gave and tell she is loved. It is amazing.
I can't decide what was more wholesome, the husband and wife or just the two friends lmao
The contrast between the first girl and first guy were so funny. She gave such warm words of thanks leading up to it but the dude went straight for it. haha
7:35 Proof that the boys are international
Just guys being dude.
I can understand the people in this video. I am Mexican and only recently started hugging my parents and saying I love you. I find that even when I do say these things I'll say it in English instead of Spanish and my voice becomes more playful. Maybe to ease the intensity of those words hehe.
That's interesting. I would have guessed that spanish speaking cultures would be more open to saying "I love you". I haven't met a spanish speaking person yet who wasn't warm and huggy. 😂
@@tessw9744 Yes exactly haha. I'm too cold for a Mexican and other family members think I'm being rude but I'm just not used to being affectionate jsjs.
@@tessw9744it takes a lot of effort saying something so sensitive without crying😂
Might just be me but hugs anytime 😎👌
@@asan4106 my brother's are the same way.. they just aren't used to it but doesn't mean they don't mean it or won't say I love you it's just uncommon... But specifically for me I don't mind all the hugs and what not but the words I love you don't feel special to me bc I hear it so much, so I can say it and not really mean it which is why I don't say it a lot
Same, Brazilian
This so cute and wholesome!! My family doesn't really say "I love you" either, everything is said through actions which is fine but one of my love languages is words of affirmation though so it would be nice to be heard sometimes lol
Leading up to saying “I love you” they have very endearing words of thankfulness. That is showing them why they are about to say the words “I love you” and that they truly mean it.
I'm from Latin America it's easy to me to say i love you, to give hugs and kisses to my relatives and friends its amazing how some cultures handle feelings
I’m Panamanian and I’ve literally never heard my family say I love you. Hugs and kisses to everyone, yes, but “I love you” was never said out loud. It’s interesting to know the differences even across Latin America
But it still depends on the situation. If you say it out of the blue they think you want to ask for money (*꒦ິ꒳꒦ີ)
Same as a New Zealander
I'm also from Latin America and it's not easy to me. Not because I feel I can't say it, I just don't think it's a word we say it so randomly.
Same, as an American and also just the way my family raised me, I feel very comfortable saying it even though they carry so much weight, but I only say it when I mean it!
I’m so surprised on how different the culture is there. I live in Canada and I say I love u to my parents every day. Especially before I go to sleep or before I leave for school in the morning. But ig it’s different for everyone. Or I even just say it casually to my close friends like “love u bye!” Yk?
@@ii4826 not all westerners. I realized some time ago that I didn’t truly love many people around me and said that I loved them whenever they said it to me due to social pressure and habit so I stopped and now respond with “I care about you and I’d love to truly love and appreciate you one day. But until I do, I don’t want to say something I don’t mean”
That's just you
I actually think it's more an American thing to use "love you" as a filler expression. Probably also because in English the verb to love is quite general and doesn't make distinction between romantic and affectionate love, so you use it for anything. However in Europe, like in Japan, we have different expressions when it comes to say "I love you" and the equivalent for the english "to love" is generally used only for romantic love . When talking to our parents we would most likely choose another expression.
I'm American and I only say I love you to my close family members because I 100% genuinely love them with all of my heart because they mean the world to me. I care so deeply for them that I would put my life on the line to protect them and make them happy. If that's not love then idk what is. I feel that when said it is a reminder to them, and to ourselves, of how deep we truly feel for each other.
@@arlance6703 "Filler expression"? Hm, what do you mean exactly?
This made me cry because as an Asian this is so heartfelt I don't hear this often
思うに英語で言うI love youのニュアンスの違いを日本語ではそれぞれ別の言葉で表してるってだけな気がする
My Japanese host mom thought it was really sweet when I told my parents I love them over skype and I could tell she wished her kids said it to her. Tell your folks you love them! (In a context that makes sense)
This was a really nice idea for a video, hopefully once everyone in it (and their parents) get over their collective embarrassment they'll appreciate that they were able to say it to their Parents, they won't' be there forever y'know? In fact, if you're reading this why not give them a call and let them know how much you do love them? Gonna do that myself now, thanks for bringing some wholesome positivity to the world dude!
I see a lot of gratitude. They show love by service and action. Expression of love in words is also important.
Its such a unique experience watching this with Scandinavian eyes. My family, friends, and everyone, say they love each other every day. For me its hard to even think of a day in my life, where I didn't say or was told, that I was loved, or loved someone
They’re so shy this video was so cute ❤ love this
I knew a lot of them would have that response. Your kid just randomly calling you and saying I love you would be scary even in America.
Especially in America 😐
Yep.
"I love you" loses meaning when you just say it without being genuine. You can hear it in the voice. Thats why ppl think your joking or your in trouble.
You have to be sincere about it or it wont mean anything. That husband was a good example of doing it and meaning it. Said how she has been so supportive of him and that he loves her. So is the first lady.
This is the one of the best thing a person can do to randomly go to people and ask them to say "I love you" to some one who is special. It reminds them that how special they are. Keep spreading love. Bless you !!!
I'm a little shy
But now after learning an entire country feels the same, I feel more brave
the sister that just said bye bye 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
This was so heartwarming
My parents died at far too young ages ~ my mom at 30 & dad AT 43, SO I make sure MY PEOPLE hear I LOVE YOU often.
I find it so interesting how they even have manners when calling on the phone. They always ask the other person if they are busy and if they have time to not inconvenience them. I love that. Gonna start doing that too!
I find it so interesting to see that quite a few people in the comments pointed to this same thing. For me it is so odd, isn't it logical that the person you are calling to might be busy or it might be inconvenient for them to speak? Wouldn't you yourself appreciate being asked if you are available for a conversation?
I feel like aishiteru has a crazy-in-love nuance to it. Aishitemasu feels more natural to parents. But I’m not Japanese.
That’s actually a very good point. Never thought of it that way.
I’m Japanese and I’ve never said “aishiteru” to my parents. If I have to say “aishiteru” to them, I’m gonna say “aishiteruyo” or “aishitemasu”. So, I think you got really good point!
Oh fr I’m Indian and it’s just weird to say ily in the 2 Indian languages I know. To your partner too it’s just dramatic, if anything. I like you on the other hand is much easier and common!
The English version would probably be "Love you" and "I love you so". LIke you said about aishiteru, "I love you so" is more romantic and has a madly in love sound to it. But I'm not American xD
Saying, I love you, is entirely different in meaning to the 'luv ya!' you hear with people ending a call on their phones here. Yes, no doubt there is love, but the actual three words send another message, far more intimate and special. The guy calling his wife, first offering her thanks, was very touching. Robert, UK
1:43 😂😂 “you’re not with some weird dude right”
I’m Japanese. I love my parents very much, and I tell them “Daisuki ”(= I like you very much ) almost everyday. But I had never tell them ”Aishiteru”(= I love you)
I believe that it is not common for Japanese children to tell their parents “I love you ”. Parents do say it to their children, or to their partners. Maybe it is because there is a difference in the meaning of "I love you" and "Aishiteru”.
I think there seems to be a very different meaning. When English speakers say "I love you" there are several different levels of severity of that love which make it a vague concept we use most often to say "I appreciate you"
Some of the parents were awkward but I like to think they held that moment in their heart from that day on, as a nice memory
I'm glad I grew up telling both my parents that I loved them. Nowadays, my dad is 75, and just say "me too" in a silly voice and I wouldn't change it for anything. I tell them after every converation we have since I see them 3 times a year. So grateful for such wonderful people. Wish everyone could experience that.
I am so glad you brought up the subject! I’ve been living in the US for 30 years, so used to say I love you to my family here. (my fam is blackanese, BTW😊✊🏽) When I talk to my family in Japan, I feel awkward to say “daisuki” which is more commonly used to express affection among Japanese. However, I feel more natural to say I love you since I've been hear so long, but I know that is awkward for them. So I usually type I love you in katakana, “アイラブユー❣️” which has been working out😊❤
I'm Mexican and I honestly can't imagine not giving my family hugs when I see them (it's actually somewhat rude at times when you don't give relatives or friends hugs) or telling my Mom that I love her every once in a while. Yet I've learned that it depends on the person and culture that determines how people feel about showing their affection towards one another.
Pero no dices te amo, dices te quiero, por que te amo es muy diferente, yo jamas en la vida les he dicho a mis padres te amo, es demasiado fuerte la palabra, en cambio te quiero si lo he dicho
@@alexKB18886 opino lo mismo
Im mexican too but I barely hug or tell that to my parents, so it even depends on the region of our country. Mexico is a huge place after all!
@@alexKB18886exacto! Solo le digo “te amo” a mi novio.
Nunca se lo he dicho a mis papás 😅
Yo le digo a mi mamá te amo mucho 😅😅😅😅😅 a mis hermanos y a mi papá.
This was really cute! To be honest, even as a second gen Asian-American with first gen parents, my family didn't really say "I love you" a lot growing up. But now that my family is all living apart at the moment, my siblings and I say "I love you" every time we call our parents. lol Right now being the youngest and living abroad, I have an almost nightly call with my parents and we always make sure to say "I love you" before we hang up!
no, i'm Chinese and I was told "I love you" fairly often from family growing up. Same with saying it.
友達とか他人になら余裕で言えるけど家族は絶対無理だな
「好き」とかならまだしも「愛してる」は重みが全然違うし恥ずかしすぎる…笑
やっぱり、愛してるとI love you はニュアンス違いすぎるから、直訳すべきじゃないよな
I love this showcase of the Japanese culture that others may not know of. Many people would judge this as cold behavior or harmful, but I feel like it isn't. It's just different. I feel like actions speak louder than words anyway. I don't know how many times I've heard or said "I love you" from and to non-family when it wasn't genuine. The husband saying it to his wife though. So heartwarming. It's ok not to do things the same as others. You can best believe the Japanese show their love for each other, even without saying it.
Actually not. In life they are also very cold and formal to each other. I have jp husband and big family. Their meeting together are like snow age, funeral in my country are warmer then their reunions.
I can agree i actually think saying i love you is most often used to emotionally coerce or guilt/shame children and spouses. Id way rather just be treated with respect and let that speak for itself.
while you have good points, let's not forget Japan has a high rate of suicides. coincidence? Japan's culture is admirable in many ways, but they're not perfect
@@andresv.8880 japan is actually low in suicides, they rank like 49th for that. suicide is and always has been one of the leading causes of human death across all cultures, but people like to censor and silence that fact because of dogmatic natalism. japan is more lax with letting creatives speak about it, that's all. their culture is less death negative, at least when it comes to media, which is a very good thing as it leads to suicidal people being able to express their pain
@@ANIMAL.LOVERS.DONT.EAT.ANIMALS I don't have any sources, I should say it was something I heard a while back. do you happen to have any sources?
This video was just so wholesome ❤
Also I really never said that to my mom either (I live in EU) but I usually thank her and express how appreciative I am of her as my mom. Sometimes it’s not really needed to say it cuz you can feel it through the attention and gestures that person gives to you, still it’s nice to say it some times tho.
I loved the husband and wife using keigo with each other 🥰🤌🏼 it was so cute how you could hear how touched okusama was 🥰🥺
No Brasil 🇧🇷 por sermos um povo que tem muita ligação com os pais, irmãos e quem escolhemos como família, o eu te amo é completamente normal e praticado naturalmente desde a infância, acredito que cada um tem sua individualidade de relacionamento com a família, mas no geral, demonstrar amor com palavras, gestos e toques é nossa marca registrada ❤️
Siim pensei a mesma coisa, aqui em casa dizer eu te amo é muito comum, no dia a dia devido a distância é pelo whats mas sempre que possível pessoalmente ❤
Eu sou brasileira, descendente de japonês e não falo NUNCA eu te amo para meus pais, muito bem representada pelo vídeo HAHAHA para os amigos sempre, família nunca!
Não sou descendente de japonês e falar eu te amo não é nada comum com minha família
Se eu ligar do nada falando isso vão pensar que fiz alguma merda ou estou querendo alguma coisa kkk
moça você está generalizando, talvez seja o mais usual, mas não dá pra dizer que o brasil todo é assim, aqui no sul os pais costumam dizer que quando os filhos dizem eu te amo estão pedindo algo.
4:40 My parents were like this. Keigo always to each other. It was their way of showing their love and respect. I admire it when couples do this in languages that have a 'formal' aspect. 😊
2:43 it is a bit saddening that the parents get anxious about their kid doing smth stupid bc they said " I love you"
It actually makes me happy because it shows that the parents actually care for their kids :)
More like they got stage 4 cancer and they are calling their parents for the last time.
'I love you' to Asian, carries alot of weight and value. It's different from I love animals, anime, this and that. It carries alot of emotions. And some dating couples, don't easily say I love you unless they are really really sure and serious about the relationship. Saying that is like a switch to going all out for the relationship, especially for serious and older people. Not just I love u here and there then next day breaks up. It carries honour and value.
Yeah but that is because in English they just have the word like and love
In other languages they have different worlds for different meanings. And the one in Japanese is a very deep love.
I'm American and it's definitely still common to reserve "I love you" for a serious relationship. It's usually a big step to say I love you for the first time in a new relationship. Maybe not as much for high school sweethearts because they don't really understand relationships/commitment yet. But for adults, it still carries weight.
I lived for a while in Japan, when I learnt that they rarely say 愛してる even to their own families and spouses, I felt kinda sad for them, they are always embarrassed or shy to say it and a lot of times when they say it the other person instantly think that they are going to do something bad, I've heard it from my friend's mother, I dared him to tell her, and he did it in person, right in front of me, and the first thing she said "I know you're going through tough times but taking your own life is not the answer", it was especially shocking to me since I grew up in a country where expressing your love to others especially family members was normal, it wasn't too common for the word to lose its meaning but it wasn't rare for it to give an entirely different meaning
yeah... but hey at least they were concerned enough to immediatly try to stop them from hurting themselves. There actions speak louder then their words.
Most of the Asian culture are that way. I’m Vietnamese and growing up I’ve never heard my parents saying I love you to us kids. It’s the same way with my other Asian friends. In the Asian culture they don’t really show much affections to the kids. In a way, they think that it’s spoiling them rotten to show to much affections. But I don’t think that’s true at all, that is the bad aspect of the Asian culture that I would not emulate to my own child. Now that I have a kid I say I love you to her all the time and it seems natural, but I hardly say I love you to my parents because it doesn’t feel natural because we never heard them say it.
悲しいよね。。。日本のために祈ります！
I say I love you to my mom and my SO multiple times a day, sometimes 5x in a single goodbye which is reciprocated every time.
まあ子供には言っても親に言う言葉ではないかな...。日本では
I say i love you to my family allllll the time. At the end of very phone call, or every time we leave each other,we make sure to say it. I know some people believe it goes without saying, but I think it's awesome to be able to express how much you care for someone in this way. I couldn’t imagine anything happening to someone I love, and me regretting that I didn't say it more 💔
you can tell after 5 years hearing the husbands saying " I love you" really just made his wife so happy and he could tell~ He sounds like he'll definitely say it more to her because he clearly does love her and hearing her reaction made him so happy as well.
I grew up in a loveless household, now I make sure to say I love you as much as I can.
I see a lot of people saying “it’s less valuable if you say it a lot” and I could not agree LESS.
I respect that other cultures are different, sure, but that’s not even what the people in this video are saying.
“No one says it to me, so I don’t say it”
“It’s embarrassing”
Not one person said “I don’t say it so it will be special when I finally do”
Actions speak louder than words, but we still use our words to communicate. You can say something a million times, and that has no bearing on its value. It can only lose value if you don’t *mean it* every time you say it.
I tell my grandmother I love her about 8 times a day. Not to hit some arbitrary number or because I feel obligated, but because I DO love her and I want her to KNOW I love her and know that I’m not afraid to TELL her I love her.
The fact that I say it so much tells her (who also grew up in an abusive and neglectful household) that I think about her often and it’s always with love. People need to hear it.
This is true for other affirmations too. We need to hear “good job” and “I’m proud of you” and “you’re my friend” and yes, even “I love you”.
You don’t have to say it 10 times a day. You don’t need to say it every day. Or every week.
But you have to say it. Because if you keep waiting for perfect moment, you might lose your chance all together.
I loved this video, the married couple was so cute... the wife was so happy :)
i’m not japanese, but i say i love you to everyone so much people probably get annoyed. all my friends, family, literally anyone that i love. i’ve lost so many loved ones & now i just want to pass on love & let everyone know that i love them, even if i don’t think they will say it back. it’s cute watching them say they love their family.
ps. the guy in the red & blue sweater, i would tell you i love you any chance i get 😂 he is so handsome!
That girls sister hanging up was so unphased but I felt so bad for her kinda reminds me of my bro too tbf 😭
I can't stop smiling while watching. This is such a really wholesome video
I find this so interesting, the differences in cultures, Japanese people are so polite asking if people are busy before continuing conversations etc, I’d just be like “yo” then start talking lol
The first girl had to make a hell of an introduction and context before dropping the "I love you", that got me laughing so hard
4:37 he got a present that night for sure
It's always so interesting to learn about how different cultures communicate. In my family, you end every. EVERY. Phone call with I love you because you never know when it'll be your last time talking to that person and you don't want to remember forgetting to say it. My grandfather needed to talk to my dad but my dad was in a rush, as he was late for a meeting. My dad told him he'd call later and hung up-- my grandfather suffered a massive heart attack and passed away and not saying "I love you" when that had been the family way just completely destroyed him inside. Now, if he forgets to say it, he will call back almost immediately just to say it. I can't imagine not saying it to them. Same with my husband, I tell him at least once a day that I love him and vice versa-- married 3yrs.
That couple was absolutely adorable. You could clearly see that his wife was so happy by him saying I love you. I'm sure it made her say! 100%
That's crazy to me. Being Filipino, I say that to my family every time I see em. I say it to my wife MULTIPLE times a day, and especially to my two children. I see a mix here in America, where some of my friends are more respectful than loving, and some who are best friends with their parents. Japan is weird that their art (novels, history, anime) is chock full of the feels, but they don't personally practice it themselves.
We do the same here in Argentina, and i'm sure that everybody do it in all the countries of the continent
We're just living in such times, that when you say "i love you", people will think you're going to suicide, honestly.
It's wonderful to say and hear the words "I love you" but I think the cultures that find that more difficult, focus more on showing love with deeds and actions. And that's not bad either. Love you all 😙
What i wouldn't give just to have a chance to say to my mom that i love her. 😢💔 like many of them, i too was embarrassed to say it and never had the courage to say out loud how much i am thankful to her. So everyone, pls don't take the time they have left for granted, you never know when they'll be gone. Cherish what you have right now, before it is too late.
the first one's dad was really chill and funny 😂 and the guy and his wife were really polite ✨✨
This whole video is so cute and wholesome. And probably your mom said "Thank you...???" lol
Wow this was amazing. It was so nice to hear the reactions and see some heartfelt moments
I am an Indian and that's Asian culture collectively. We dont "say" I love you all the time(never most of the time) but that doesn't mean we don't. We just have different way to show love.❤
i started saying it to my family and they were uncomfortable at first but i'm glad i did it; we all say it more now
Its interesting to see how different cultures handle things like this, but for me personally our family is very very close and always has been so its not uncommon to hear i love you multiple times a day
That was such a beautiful video. I legit teared up a little 😅❤ It made me realize I should tell my parents and friends more often how much I appreciate them and how much I love them. Thank you!
I actually like the Japanese way of not expressing every single emotion and keeping to themselves. I don't like throwing "I love you" randomly, my friends and family know I do, and the other way around. We show eachother, no need to spell it out
That's completely understandable, but some people's love language is words of affirmation, so they tend to want to hear it rather than be shown love. I think both ways are fine, I always tell my wife I love her, but never to my own parents lol
I'm the same way, it doesn't really mean anything to me when someone tells me they love me. I feel love from people in the things they do and the way we talk to each other.
im the same
I loved my time in Japan. They are so warm and welcoming. It's cute to hear them say it. It's also sad that they can't be so open to each other. I tell my kids that I love them almost daily. ❤️
So, people might say this video is not much of a deal. But this indeed clears up the Japanese way of thinking a bit. People generally don't use "aishteiru" and well "suki" is a different thing. Very heartwarming to see this. But I wonder if I can do it myself that often haha..
Loved it. The Father of the first girl is so funny 😆
"love you too bro" true friendship
Aww that husband and wife needed that "i love you"
Here in the U.S. the phrase "I love you" has become so badly degraded that it's sad. Luckily, in my family, we still say it AND mean it. It was very heartwarming to hear him say I love you at 3:57 and how she reacted to it. They sound like a good couple, and I wish them the best.
I mean, not saying it to your partner/parents for years is a little much lol.
I don't share the sentiment.
No it hasn't lol
i didn’t start saying i love you to people until i was 20, bc growing up my parents maybe said it once or twice (black American from the deep south btw). friends would force that word on to me i had to get comfortable saying it back. now i say it to my parents all the time, my dad rarely says it back lmao but i don’t blame him his parents didn’t say it either.
This is wild to me because I say I love you every time I finish talking to a loved one on the phone or after hanging out with them like “ok, I love you message me when you get home bye-bye.”
I guess it’s because I never know when/if I’ll see them again and I want them to know I love and appreciate them.
OMG
I can't believe how hard to say I Love you in Japan community
as Arab, I say حبيبي or حياتي or قلبي or روحي or نور عيني a zillion times every day to my parents and my wife and kids
6:23 i feel so bad for her..
Yeahh
That was such a sibling response 😂