why you self sabotage & how to stop
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 31 ก.ค. 2021
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When things are going well, we tend to look for ways to mess them up. From your career, to your health goals and relationships. I'm currently on a journey of learning how to stop self sabotaging and buying into fear. Let's talk about what is self sabotage, why we do it, and how to stop self sabotage.
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1:09 why we self sabotage
3:40 how to stop: meditation
5:05 today's sponsor!
6:32 doing the (emotional) work
9:04 building confidence with small promises
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Very good topic 💛 You made a lot of great points that really made me look at my relationship with my own emotions or views about myself thanks awesome channel 💛 cool a new app to try also 💛
Just enjoyed my first energy cleanse Aura meditation. Thank you Lynette, this was a big motivation for me.
Damn nice to know I’m not the only one who feels this way. I’m tired of feeling bad about myself
Yesss we all have work to do!
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Literally!!!
honestly 😩
Same😭
Yo she’s almost at 100k
So close!😭
Wohoooo 🥳🥳🥳
I’ve been reading the book The Mountain Is You and it’s all about self sabotaging behaviors and it’s a really great insightful read so far
Oooh adding this to my list
Damn I justtt saw that book last night and saved it to my wishlist last night. That’s a sign! Def gonna read
I've just finished The Mountain is You and 11/10 would recommend for anyone struggling with self sabotage! x
I will definitely be getting that book!
It’s always sold out but also have it on my wishlist!
It's like my therapist paid you to make this video LMAO. She's been talking about how meditation could really help me out and I have gone through periods of it but of course I self sabotage THAT. Did some last night tho, thanks so much for your videos and I hope that you are able to find some peace too!!
Wow I’m so glad this came at the right time, wishing you all the best as well❤️
It is so awesome we are aware this is happening though. There was a time when we were not aware at all 🤷🏻♀️ There is hope ☀️
12:19 sometimes the self-sabotage is because you are scared that something may be too good to be true like you said, but it could also be that you don't really want what you are working towards anymore. Either because it's not big enough (i.e. it actually doesn't scare you enough) or you are just a new person. New level, new devils applies to dreams/goals too.
Journaling has helped me make sense of so many of my intrusive thoughts. Whenever one comes in I remind myself that thoughts are just thoughts, I have the power to validate or invalidate them. It’s my choice what to believe and how to act. Limiting beliefs are meant to keep us stagnant, which is why I think it’s also important to keep your bigger picture goal in mind. Reassess - will giving in to this thought get me to where I want to be? Would I say this to anyone else? And then I usually feel better because it serves as a reminder that I’m the one in control.
That is so awesome! Have you heard of the work of byron katie. I think you will enjoy it a lot. Its free and life changing when it comes to observing/challenging the thoughts
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@@intentionalliving7326 that sounds interesting! I will definitely check it out! Thank you!
omg i'm so happy for this comment bc at work, i notice that's when my intrusive thoughts are constant & at an all time high & i end up spiraling. programming ur brain that thoughts are just thoughts & not ur actual reality is so necessary. thank u for this comment so much!
@@anngelllll exactly! that's why there's so much power in living in the present moment, practicing the art of mindfulness-- because it centers us and reminds us of how much power we have! So happy I could help!
Yes, morning stretching and journaling helps me so much more than just getting up and starting a day!
It’s crazy how this happens. When things are going amazing, sometimes I find I’m forcing myself to not be happy, waiting for the shoe to drop because things are too good to be true.
But for me it’s about letting go of control and to allow myself to be uncomfortable to get where I want to be. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
Yesss letting go of control can be so hard but it always takes surrendering to let the universe guide you and actually enjoy when things are going well!
I needed this message today! I’m in the process of getting out of my head, staying consistent with my routine, re-program of subconscious mind for a stronger, self motivating mindset and overall stop distracting myself :)
Side-note: don’t call yourself ‘dumb’ even with a sarcastic tone. You’re very wise!
Go you! All of those things aren’t easy but necessary for growth. And you’re right, thank you❤️
@@LynetteAdkins You’re welcome beautiful!
Super extra, but… I got fired from my job a couple hours ago & as soon as I got home I kept feeling like I needed someone to get encouraging words from & to see your uploads. This video being posted mere minutes ago wasn’t a coincidence… and like you said, the universe is on our sides. This is the second time I’ve been fired right before my birthday and it feels like spirit calling me to stop selling myself short… so I’m gonna finally listen. Thank you for your words & all the great content you make 💕
I’m so sorry that happened but yes 100%, the universe is always guiding you down the right path. This means another door of opportunity is opening up for you and your spirit is guiding you in the right direction. You got this, sending you my love and happy early birthday!❤️
@@LynetteAdkins thank you love ☺️
So much love your way sistah 🤗☀️ It is amazing that you are so aware this second time around. Don’t let this mess up celebrating your birthday and how far you have come. Celebrate you, your wins and lessons so far and the awesomeness coming up ☀️
Happy Birthday! I’m at a good paying job that I’m completely miserable at and I’ve been trying to figure out a plan on how to leave because I can’t afford to not have a job. I liked how you said that you feel a spirit is calling you and honestly I’ve been feeling that way for some time now and it has somewhat given me a sense of peace that I will eventually find something better. Even if I end up losing my job I have to also remind myself that everything happens for a reason.
@@intentionalliving7326 🥺💕 thank you for the message, & I definitely won’t. Me and the beach got some bonding time to make up for 😂
This really spoke to me on a deep deep level. I try to understand who and what I am everyday and that leads to negative. I need to slow down the pace of this life and stop letting my mind speed it up. Thank you Lynette
It’s really a day by day thing I’m realizing, but being aware of what makes us the way we are makes a world of a difference. Wishing you the best on your journey❤️
It is so easy to be a victim of self-sabotaging thoughts. It can be difficult to believe in your worth when you are putting yourself down, feel like an imposter, don't set boundaries, and make sacrifices only for others and never for yourself. When we let go of what is holding us back from living authentically and take back our thoughts, then we can be free and live #fearless. Thanks for this video!
I was literally just watching a TikTok video of Brianna Wiest, the author of “The Mountain Is You”, explaining self-sabotage and then suddenly your video pops up on my phone totally out of the blue. I feel like the universe is giving me some signs here and I couldn’t be more grateful for that! Also your video was so helpful, thank youu beautiful soul 🙏🏻♥️
this felt like a big sister giving advice 🧚♀️ as a big sister myself, thanks for being mine today
OMG! Are you in my head? This is so on point. Thank you for pushing past the self-sabotaging thoughts and making this video. Keep going!
Amen 🤗
It happens to me whenever i start to dress more elegant, i noticed that a part of my brain literally says to me: Who do you think you are to improve? And i feel voices in my head of people that when i was younger bullied me or tried to let me down whenever something good happened to me related to my external appearence. I observe this and try to journal to understand what's going on.
this happens to me as well when i dress better / put in effort of self care (nails, eyelashes, facials, waxes)
The clothes, exactly! I've changed my clothes to something more casual a million times because my mind started "you really think you're better than everyone" or the fear of giving the impression that I am more than who I actually am.
I always hit the like button 5 seconds in because you always deliver so much wisdom. Thank you for sharing your story with us Lynette.
Thank you so much💗
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bruhhh I feel the same way... I was passing my 8 week (we had to set up our online equipment) so really 6 week C# summer class and I would legit let myself goof off and hang out with my friends and family and would feel guilty about not submitting my assignments and got behind. I luckily passed but my professor taught me a lesson "you are smarter than you give your self credit for " her words 🥺
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I needed to hear this! Awesome video.
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Great video as usual Lynette! The editing was really dope as well 🥰🥰🥰
Oh I SO needed to hear this today. Keep up the good work Lynette
Yooooo you just spoke my situation and it hit deep !!!
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This was so good! Thanks for sharing your truth with us! 🖤
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This was right in time
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This video is right on time for me, thank you ❤
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Literally me, OMG!!
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Another great video Lynette !! Learning I need to dig deeper within my self and correct the little things.
😵 I literally experienced your exact example this morning… I sat down to journal and meditate and as soon as it came time to meditate my brain started saying, “well that’s an extra 15-20 minutes of productivity that you’re losing out on. You could just jump into work and get started right away”. I ended up being able to push through it and had the best meditation in a while! So crazy though that our mind does this!! Tries to convince us not to do what I actually really wanted to do this morning and looked forward to doing but my brain had other motives 😂 love this video topic!! ♥️
Your videos are becoming better and better with each upload! 😃
This help me soooo much 🥺 ty
I love this great advice thank you 🙏
Loved this and resonated so much, thank you
Your self help and spirituality videos are my absolute fav ❤
I feel like your videos come at the right time all the time. Thank you! 🏹
your timing was impeccable, ly x
Thank you for this video. I really needed this perspective.
Super thankful for this video....
You're amazing, thank you for the motivation. Love C
thank you for this video, this was exactly what i needed and what im feeling rn !!
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So very helpful love your relaxing style.
This was really healing thank you
THANK YOU!❤️ u are doing amazing.
This is really great. Really need it today
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Thank You!! You are such an inspiration ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I love your videos!
Such a great video!
Such a good video. Needed this. I’ve been stuck in this mode / rut for months
Love that you have a Hilma Af Klint piece!
Omgoodness! I needed this so much right now. 🤦🏽♀️ I just did this today. Thank you.
Wow literally was telling my friend about this. Alignment… this vid was needed thank you!!
Also, loving your style
I needed this
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Thank you for this video!! I’ve struggled with these thoughts and emotions for what feels like forever- thank you for helping me realize im not alone 💕
Loved this and needed this. I feel like not taking care of your mental health really gets you in your own way. And the part about feeling guilty for not being as productive and I'd like to be hit it right on the nail. Loved this. Therapy really is the key but I'm definitely going to try out that app! ❤️
Such a powerful topic. This is something that we all go through yet it creates this feeling like we are the only one experiencing it and in that forms pride and shame and the cycle just continues. Your delivery of the topic had a lot of substance without the fluff. Thank you so so much! Just starting out with my channel and I can totally relate. I needed to hear this!
Hey Lynette, I just wanted to thank you for your videos! They are very helpful to me. Greetings from Austria :)
Woow this is soo accurate! I tend to self sabotage a lot, what helps me to come back to the present moment is meditation and yoga. Thanks for sharing Lynette ❤️
This is exactly what i was feeling and i really needed someone to tell me this. Thank you soo much i just landed on your channel today idk howw. Maybe universe is seriously on my side and want to me better. Thank you soo muchh
Thanks for this video. I go through this daily.
Great vid!
This whole video is me and I feel called out! But thanks for letting me know I'm not alone 😭🖤
omg I've been doing this RECENTLY this video came at the PERFECT TIME