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@@BrianCooke-bl3hf It is going absolutely amazing. I’ve never met someone who communicates this well. We have talked about so many hard things right off the bat.
@@cynthiaziegler6558 That's some great news. I ain't active here maybe you wanna send me some good messages somewhere else, right?? Good luck though lol😀
Mindfulness! Noticing how we feel and what triggers us to feel that way. Learning to expand our personal energy is an excellent way of stabilizing the fear we may feel.
I don’t usually comment on videos but I have never felt so seen by a video in my entire life! I struggle so much with self sabotaging. Any relationships I’ve attempted in the past 5 years have gone completely wrong because I couldn’t shake those off feelings even if I was sure I liked the person. Fast forward to now I’m heading towards a healthy and happy relationship (one of the healthiest I’ve ever had) and those familiar feelings have been arising again. Your ability to put real life examples and break down/explain those feelings with analogies and understanding really healed something within me and helped me really understand what I’m feeling and where it’s coming from! Thank you Mat truly! This really helped me love myself and my partner even more :)
I’ve always loved your content but you are so on point at the moment! I did blow up but we talked it through honestly and I like him all the more for it. I’m open to whatever happens next now
Man, I wish I had this from 2021. but, I'm glad to be able to understand and help myself and allow myself to be in a better space for my next love. Thank you
Perfect timing. I was just talking about this and now i understand what's happening inside me to keep me at homeostasis which would be ok if i was ecstatic in my normal...i need to nudge my upper limit higher to accept all the love coming my way!
Dear Mat! The information in this video was life changing for me. Literally. I spent the past few months trying to figure out why am I sabotaging myself and my happiness and my relationship with imagining horrible events that never happened but causing me real emotional pain and grudge towards the man I am dating with, when actually I am supposed to be happy with him, because I have no evidence that he is doing the things I imagined but on the contrary. Why am I doing this to myself, why does my mind send me these pictures? I figured that my mind "thinks" that I am in danger and just tries to protect me and drive me away from the dangerous situation. But I wasn't in danger. The danger was only in my imagination. So why? This I couldn't figure. And here came the answer. Like the most important but lost piece of a puzzle. And not just the information but the solution too. Now I am in progress of resetting my Love-stat and it is working. THANK YOU!
Wow the best explanation on yourube. Not going to deep to the point. When people go too deep it feels overwhelming to be able to heal and move past it because we make it bigger than it is. Thank you for this.
The thermostat theory makes so much sense. I’ve always said that if ever me and my partner broke up at two months, that I wouldn’t have cared, but now that we’re two years together just the mere idea of leaving makes me want to throw up. I grew up with not much love in and around my life and maybe that’s why I felt so safe in not being so attached. Thank you for this video!
Just gone through self sabotage behaved poorly so thanks for this I created the argument because of my own stuff comes from fear and insecure / anxious attachment pattern
Almost did this yesterday. Guy I’ve been dating has talked about marriage last night he was making insinuations it will be awhile. Then he corrected it won’t be years and years.
Nice Video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love him so much I can't stop thinking about him, l've tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I'm frustrated, I don't see my life as anyone else. I've done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can't, I don't know why I'm saying this here, I really miss him and just can't stop thinking about him.
All good tips. It's a shame that I need them now when love, patience, and joy used to be my default setting...not just with my man but with people in general. IDK if that part of me will return back because I am now full of fear but anger, resentment, and hate. Only time will tell. Maybe after I get revenge it will. He poisoned our relationship....not I. They wanted me to change. Congratulations....they've got their wish.
As far as fear is concerned, I view it as a wasted emotion because people are going to do what the hell they want, whether I am afraid or not....be it the man in my life, society, or our crooked ass government so why bother and torture myself.
i needed to hear this for my 6 month relationship. i’m confused. my feelings aren’t as strong as i think they’re supposed to be. i can’t even bring myself to say that i love him. and i’m not sure if i do. am i in the wrong relationship or can love grow?
Women leave mentally before they leave physically. A man can even think he has her on lock while lying next to her every night but her mind is elsewhere. Be careful how you treat her bc once you lose her MIND, the body soon follows!
I learned that it's important to see the relationship as separate from myself and my partner, to observe the complexities of it and let it grow or fade, without trying to control it. We often project our fears, expectations, and anxieties onto the other person, which is very unfair. Keeping autonomy in a relationship is so essential. Mindfulness does help a lot, I like the little book 30 Days to Overcome a Toxic Relationship by Harper Daniels for mindfulness exercises. Letting go of control and being vulnerable to allow the difficulties to arise and do their thing is so important for the growth of the relationship.
Your videos help me sooo much to build and to drive the relationship I just started a couple of months ago in a such a healthy way. I'm learning so much with you and I already have noticed few situations, that I would manage in a bad way, if I wouldn't watch your videos before. Thank you🙏🏼🤍
The thermostat theory makes so much sense. I’ve always said that if ever me and my partner broke up at two months, that I wouldn’t have cared, but now that we’re two years together just the mere idea of leaving makes me want to throw up. I grew up with not much love in and around my life and maybe that’s why I felt so safe in not being so attached. Thank you for this video!
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It's amazing how the body reacts first, before the mind can consciously know what's going on. Must be primal!
Yeah! It’s funny to me sometimes
@@CanelasinAlvarez I’m doing good and you ?
I just wish to find someone with great conversational skills,caring and kind
Same
I've found this and am afraid I'll push him away 😢
I have met a man that has such great conversation skills. It is so amazing
Wow🎉 Is it going well??
@@BrianCooke-bl3hf It is going absolutely amazing. I’ve never met someone who communicates this well. We have talked about so many hard things right off the bat.
@@cynthiaziegler6558 That's some great news. I ain't active here maybe you wanna send me some good messages somewhere else, right?? Good luck though lol😀
@@cynthiaziegler6558 That’s incredible-open communication early on really sets the foundation for something strong and genuine.
Mindfulness! Noticing how we feel and what triggers us to feel that way. Learning to expand our personal energy is an excellent way of stabilizing the fear we may feel.
I don’t usually comment on videos but I have never felt so seen by a video in my entire life! I struggle so much with self sabotaging. Any relationships I’ve attempted in the past 5 years have gone completely wrong because I couldn’t shake those off feelings even if I was sure I liked the person. Fast forward to now I’m heading towards a healthy and happy relationship (one of the healthiest I’ve ever had) and those familiar feelings have been arising again. Your ability to put real life examples and break down/explain those feelings with analogies and understanding really healed something within me and helped me really understand what I’m feeling and where it’s coming from! Thank you Mat truly! This really helped me love myself and my partner even more :)
Thank you, Matt! I needed this. My emotions were all over the place. Having fear and doubts..
Sometimes a healthy relationship it's about patience I think. Are you good now?
Matt did well I learnt an add up
Wow- so helpful + useful!! Mat, thank you for this beautiful gift/tool!
This is great advice. Not only for women, but for men too.
Thank you, that advice came at the right time. 😊
It's always joy to feel good in a relationship. Hope you good now??😅
Totally needed this today. Thanks Matt! 💜
This means really a lot, I’ve pictured a lot from it as you narrates all it’s all about. Thank you
Thank you Matt. Valuable information and tools I will use in my life today and moving forward. ❤
I’ve always loved your content but you are so on point at the moment! I did blow up but we talked it through honestly and I like him all the more for it. I’m open to whatever happens next now
Man, I wish I had this from 2021. but, I'm glad to be able to understand and help myself and allow myself to be in a better space for my next love. Thank you
Hi
It's about patience to be in an healthy relationship. My ma'am in the grave always said to me. Hope it's getting better??
Ahhhhmazzzzing! So helpful, thank you!, Mat!!This is me to a T! I recognized it, but I didn’t know how to work through it quite like this. 🤗❣️
Perfect timing. I was just talking about this and now i understand what's happening inside me to keep me at homeostasis which would be ok if i was ecstatic in my normal...i need to nudge my upper limit higher to accept all the love coming my way!
Dear Mat! The information in this video was life changing for me. Literally. I spent the past few months trying to figure out why am I sabotaging myself and my happiness and my relationship with imagining horrible events that never happened but causing me real emotional pain and grudge towards the man I am dating with, when actually I am supposed to be happy with him, because I have no evidence that he is doing the things I imagined but on the contrary. Why am I doing this to myself, why does my mind send me these pictures? I figured that my mind "thinks" that I am in danger and just tries to protect me and drive me away from the dangerous situation. But I wasn't in danger. The danger was only in my imagination. So why? This I couldn't figure. And here came the answer. Like the most important but lost piece of a puzzle. And not just the information but the solution too. Now I am in progress of resetting my Love-stat and it is working. THANK YOU!
Oh man I needed this video at this very moment in my 3-month relationship..
The video I’ve been looking for! Thank you!!
So happy to see u again🥰 and thank you for sharing this💫❤️
Wow the best explanation on yourube. Not going to deep to the point. When people go too deep it feels overwhelming to be able to heal and move past it because we make it bigger than it is. Thank you for this.
Very important information here!! Thanks!
Exactly. How's is it going with you now?
The thermostat theory makes so much sense. I’ve always said that if ever me and my partner broke up at two months, that I wouldn’t have cared, but now that we’re two years together just the mere idea of leaving makes me want to throw up. I grew up with not much love in and around my life and maybe that’s why I felt so safe in not being so attached. Thank you for this video!
Really great advice, I just wish you were around 35+ years ago when I needed it the most! From Perth WA
Your videos are always helpful! Thank you!
Enjoy your relationship😊 Getting better, alright??
I just showed this video to some few friends and family and they really glad to have a feel of it. Hello Matt We all appreciate❤
❤ SOOOO good, thank you! So timely
Just gone through self sabotage behaved poorly so thanks for this
I created the argument because of my own stuff comes from fear and insecure / anxious attachment pattern
Thank u Mat i needed this
It's well. Are you still facing those problems? 😢 What's wrong?
Thank you I am in relationship and starting to sabotage it
This was a surprise and incredibly valuable, thank you ❤
Almost did this yesterday. Guy I’ve been dating has talked about marriage last night he was making insinuations it will be awhile. Then he corrected it won’t be years and years.
Thanks for this information, I really needed it
Such a fantastic advice! Love it ❤
Insecurities/ jealousies are self sabotaging triggers
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totally relate. thank you!!
I appreciate your insight! I'm uncertain whether becoming intolerant of recurring shortcomings is considered self-sabotage
Nice Video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love him so much I can't stop thinking about him, l've tried my very best to get him back in my life, but to no avail, I'm frustrated, I don't see my life as anyone else. I've done my best to get rid of the thoughts of him, but I can't, I don't know why I'm saying this here, I really miss him and just can't stop thinking about him.
Thank you for this valuable information, I just looked him up online. impressive.
All good tips. It's a shame that I need them now when love, patience, and joy used to be my default setting...not just with my man but with people in general. IDK if that part of me will return back because I am now full of fear but anger, resentment, and hate. Only time will tell. Maybe after I get revenge it will. He poisoned our relationship....not I.
They wanted me to change. Congratulations....they've got their wish.
As far as fear is concerned, I view it as a wasted emotion because people are going to do what the hell they want, whether I am afraid or not....be it the man in my life, society, or our crooked ass government so why bother and torture myself.
TYPO to my original post....IDK if that part of me will return because I am NOT full of fear but anger, resentment, and hate....
You are my favorite
i needed to hear this for my 6 month relationship. i’m confused. my feelings aren’t as strong as i think they’re supposed to be. i can’t even bring myself to say that i love him. and i’m not sure if i do. am i in the wrong relationship or can love grow?
Yes, but Women have intuition and normally we are correct with how we feeling even we can't know. We actually do know.
Believe me, men have that intuition too. Maybe, not as many and most wouldn't recognise it, but it's there❤
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Oh shit you just described the same scenarios
Women leave mentally before they leave physically. A man can even think he has her on lock while lying next to her every night but her mind is elsewhere. Be careful how you treat her bc once you lose her MIND, the body soon follows!
You should also take some examples with man not only woman are sabotaging relationships
I learned that it's important to see the relationship as separate from myself and my partner, to observe the complexities of it and let it grow or fade, without trying to control it. We often project our fears, expectations, and anxieties onto the other person, which is very unfair. Keeping autonomy in a relationship is so essential. Mindfulness does help a lot, I like the little book 30 Days to Overcome a Toxic Relationship by Harper Daniels for mindfulness exercises. Letting go of control and being vulnerable to allow the difficulties to arise and do their thing is so important for the growth of the relationship.
Your videos help me sooo much to build and to drive the relationship I just started a couple of months ago in a such a healthy way. I'm learning so much with you and I already have noticed few situations, that I would manage in a bad way, if I wouldn't watch your videos before. Thank you🙏🏼🤍
Thank You sir. 🙏🏾🧖🏾♂️
The thermostat theory makes so much sense. I’ve always said that if ever me and my partner broke up at two months, that I wouldn’t have cared, but now that we’re two years together just the mere idea of leaving makes me want to throw up. I grew up with not much love in and around my life and maybe that’s why I felt so safe in not being so attached. Thank you for this video!
Thank you Matt! This is relevant for me right now 😊
This was fantastic - thank you!