Feeling Your Partner's Feelings - Emotional Merging

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  • @AlanRobargeHealingTrauma
    @AlanRobargeHealingTrauma  3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hello Subscribers:
    Thank you for checking out my videos and posting such thoughtful comments. It's inspiring to read your self-reflections and insights. I love how we grow from each other's sharing.
    One thing I have learned after years of reading comments is that we are not alone. Many of us have the same experiences when it comes to relationships. We are all trying to make sense of attachment trauma and learn better skills of relating.
    Great job everyone - keep going and keep learning!
    As I'm sure you can understand, I'm not able to respond to all the comments and questions here on TH-cam. I know this can be disappointing sometimes. Please forgive me. It is challenging to find the time for the careful consideration that is needed in order to respond to your heartfelt reflections. Even so, your vulnerability shines through.
    I know behind each comment is a real person with real feelings who's hurting or who’s reporting a triumph. I know you are doing the best you can while trying to make sense of life’s suffering. We are all grappling with what it means to be human. I’m sorry that I’m not always able to respond to your comments directly.
    That being said, I'm sharing this post to offer you a few resources in an attempt for us to stay connected. Keep in mind that I do read most comments here on TH-cam. Your words are received. I review comments daily, which serves as a way to organize content for future videos.
    If you have a question or an idea for a video that you think is important to explore when it comes to learning about relationships and healing attachment trauma, then I want to hear about it. Please submit your questions and ideas here: www.alanrobarge.com/questions
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    Many of us want to know how to heal, how to change, how to be more secure in our relationships. This is why I created the course The Four Attachment Distress Responses.
    Many of our behaviors in relationships are habitual - meaning we act out of autopilot. Our autopilot Response comes from past conditioning of negative experiences. When attachment injuries go unaddressed, we become insecure in our relationships.
    The Four Attachment Distress Responses Course describes each specific type of guardedness, which is how we try to protect ourselves from getting hurt again, while also attempting to get our attachment needs met.
    While we cannot change the past, we can change how we respond in the moment and in the future. This course offers you insights and tools as new ways to respond in your relationships. The Four Responses are Poking, Running, Hiding, and Submitting. You’re invited to take the quiz to learn more about your Response.
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    I created an 8-week program and membership community based on the guiding principle of Self-Directed Healing Work #selfhealers that I want to share with you. The community is called Improve Your Relationships. The focus is about healing attachment injuries in the context of relationship repair in all areas of our lives.
    When we look at the big picture of how attachment injuries and attachment trauma occurred in our lives, we are able to begin seeing our relationship choices from a whole new perspective. We gain access to inner resources that shift how we relate and respond to old hurts. It's a process. It's layered. It requires commitment. This is what the community is all about - committing to your healing work.
    You are invited to join us. The community members are kind and supportive. We are an established group. The feedback and testimonials have been overwhelmingly positive.
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    Thank you for being a channel subscriber and watching my videos.
    And remember, we invest in our healing work because “Emotional Connections Matter!”
    Best regards,
    Alan Robarge
    Attachment-Focused Psychotherapist
    www.alanrobarge.com/

  • @WordsOptional
    @WordsOptional ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Again, Alan blows my mind by understanding my experience so closely!

    • @AlanRobargeHealingTrauma
      @AlanRobargeHealingTrauma  ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Glad the videos speak to you. Thank you for valuing my effort.
      If you resonate with the videos then you may also like joining us in our conversations in the Community Program, Improve Your Relationships. www.alanrobarge.com/community

  • @matthewneillmusic
    @matthewneillmusic 8 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    well done once again Alan. :)

  • @peggys7056
    @peggys7056 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    ty again for more insight very helpful

  • @dougferguson3074
    @dougferguson3074 8 ปีที่แล้ว

    Awesome!

  • @fishstock2007
    @fishstock2007 8 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Ouch! Yeah.

    • @lamaelcharif1523
      @lamaelcharif1523 8 ปีที่แล้ว

      I don't want to come off creepy. Just wanted to point out the importance of the
      "The inner child healing" video. Best Wishes!

  • @LW-kl5iu
    @LW-kl5iu 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    Ah Ha! I have asked this question many times and no professional I have asked has been able to explain it. Where did you train or learn about this? How does one stop it from happening?

    • @AlanRobargeHealingTrauma
      @AlanRobargeHealingTrauma  3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks for valuing the effort I put into offering explanation. Glad this was illuminating for you. Thanks for your questions.
      Strengthening internal boundaries can be explored through the Self-Directed Healing approach in the Community Program, Improve Your Relationships www.alanrobarge.com/community
      Answering the "how" is complex and rooted in many things we do on a daily basis. I welcome you joining us and becoming a member.

    • @brienohazo6393
      @brienohazo6393 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@AlanRobargeHealingTraumaAlan,
      Alan, Your explanation allows the listener to refocus and move away from rabbit hole activity and get grounded in the business at hand and move away from a delusional past attention…and appropriately address current reality. Thanks Alan. I’ll look for your follow-up.

    • @brienohazo6393
      @brienohazo6393 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@AlanRobargeHealingTrauma😂

  • @skoopiecheckecheaks
    @skoopiecheckecheaks 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This one hurts lol

  • @georginal5322
    @georginal5322 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    But Do you believe in psychic abilitys?

    • @AlanRobargeHealingTrauma
      @AlanRobargeHealingTrauma  3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Hi. My focus is on the cessation of suffering and being able to discern when our attachment trauma has activated and is clouding our judgment. When we try to channel our understanding of relating through psychic intuition we simultaneously invite our ability to spin fantasy relating. Therefore, I value strong boundaries around staying grounded in data and evidence-based relating. Otherwise, attachment trauma has the ability to distort reality in such a way that we will label it "psychic" when it fact it is trauma-mind. I would reserve psychic abilities for other areas of our lives not intermingled with our unhealed attachment wounds. I hope this helps.

    • @georginal5322
      @georginal5322 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yes Thats why i listen to you Because i know i have problems 😉 But i also have some psychic abilitys. But its s goid thing to think about 🙂