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My large family was emotionally unavailable and my husband of 30 years, who I've been long separated from, is emotionally unavailable. Anything that was big to talk about, life changing, I got silence. I am struggling to get him to talk about the importance of a trust, in our late 60s. Silence. I called a trust attorney myself yesterday. I don't know what will happen. Over the years I've had to pry a response about planning our future, having children. Nothing unless it was about having fun, which I did love, but couldn't talk about the big stuff.
Incredible video, THANK YOU! ❤ Wish I'd had access to this 20 yrs ago! It put together all of my concerns into a very succinct yet informative way. Now, to make some heavy decisions...
Awesome video!!! I'm emotionally available until we get to the conflict stage and then I just want to go get a frying pan to deal with the conflict. Partners don't seem to like that. Volatility in conflict, emotionally reactive is learned behavior takes a while to unlearn. Not too many people want to stick by your side when you have a frying pan in your hand. 🙈🤷♀️
I am personally a very confused person that I do behaves in two ways , I have my thinkers tendency yet when come to complicated relationship matters I become such a feelers that I am so afraid the experience of rejections happened as it has from my previous experience, when I began to open up. I just could not trust my own move and the other one. I really do not know how to be emotional available and how to behave as I do not seems to see myself knowing how to handle relationship when maybe the right person turn up. And how do I know if thats the right one if we have very different world view about life.
Unfortunately fortunately this is how I've learned to treat, heal the dysfunction I internalized growing up. I didn't know about this healthy ways growing up or until late 40s. But what's important is that I found a healthy way to BE and treat, heal and Mend the trauma
I am glad you found a healthy way to be, treat and mend your trauma and I appreciate you watching the video. Also, you can find videos on trauma at: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=trauma
Creating a safe space for someone who is emotionally unavailable can be challenging, especially when that person is not able to reciprocate in kind. Here are some steps you can take to navigate this situation: 1. Understand Emotional Unavailability: Recognize that emotional unavailability can stem from various causes, such as past traumas, fear of getting hurt, or differences in temperament. It's important to understand that the emotionally unavailable person may not be intentionally withholding; they might be dealing with their own issues that make it difficult for them to engage emotionally. 2. Communicate Your Needs: It's crucial to express your own needs for emotional safety and connection. This doesn't mean demanding immediate change, but rather explaining what makes you feel supported and understood. Be clear about what behaviors contribute to a sense of safety for you. 3. Set Boundaries: Establish what you are and are not willing to tolerate in the relationship. Boundaries are essential for your own emotional well-being and can prevent resentment from building up if you feel your needs are not being met. 4. Practice Self-Care: Ensure that you are taking care of your own emotional needs. This might involve seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist. It's important to have a support system outside of the relationship with the emotionally unavailable person. 5. Encourage Emotional Literacy: Help the emotionally unavailable person become more aware of their emotional language and expressions. This can involve recognizing and naming emotions, which is a skill that can be developed over time. 6. Model Healthy Emotional Behavior: Demonstrate what emotional availability looks like through your own actions. This can include showing empathy, listening actively, and validating feelings. 7. Be Patient: Change takes time, and it's important to be patient with the emotionally unavailable person as they work through their issues. However, also be mindful of your own limits and recognize when a situation may not be conducive to your well-being. * Remember, while you can create a supportive environment, you cannot force someone to become emotionally available. It's also important to prioritize your own emotional health and recognize when a relationship may not be meeting your needs. If you find that despite your efforts, the relationship is still not providing the emotional support you require, it may be necessary to reevaluate the relationship and consider seeking additional support for yourself. Learn more for FREE at allceus.com/AskDocSnipes
Thank you for watching the video. Creating a safe, welcoming, and coaching environment involves several key steps: Establish Safety The first step is to ensure physical and emotional safety. This includes creating a comfortable physical space and addressing sensory issues that could be overwhelming. It's also important to consider the emotional impact of the environment and make adjustments as needed. Encourage Open Communication Open communication is crucial. This can be facilitated by using the "FREEZE" mnemonic: Feedback, Responsibility, Empathizing, Encouraging forward movement, and showing unconditional positive regard. This encourages individuals to communicate their needs and feelings, and promotes a sense of responsibility and empowerment. Provide Support and Encouragement Support should be provided with unconditional positive regard, creating a safe and supportive environment where individuals feel loved and accepted, regardless of their successes or failures. Encouragement should be given to help individuals recognize their strength and courage, and to step out of their comfort zone. Promote Learning and Growth Scaffolding is a useful technique for promoting learning and growth. This involves breaking down tasks into smaller steps and providing support as needed, gradually reducing assistance as the individual becomes more proficient. Foster Emotional Intelligence and Distress Tolerance Promoting emotional intelligence and distress tolerance within the environment is also important. Staff members can learn and model these skills, which can have a positive impact on individuals in the environment. Respect Individuality Finally, respect for individual strengths and weaknesses is crucial. This includes asking instead of assuming what someone wants or needs, and taking responsibility for one's own actions. By implementing these strategies, a safe, welcoming, and coaching environment can be created. Here is the video on creating a safe environment: th-cam.com/video/8fOMk6cvvmc/w-d-xo.htmlsi=FlZa2xRDX14A5dkW
Sharing personal feelings, secrets, or past experiences is a significant part of building trust and intimacy in relationships. However, it's crucial to ensure that you're sharing this information with a safe and trustworthy person. If shared with the wrong person, your personal stories could indeed be weaponized against you, causing emotional harm. To prevent this, it's important to establish healthy boundaries. Boundaries are like a house, where only trusted individuals are given access, and not everyone is allowed in the front door. This means being selective about who you share your personal experiences with and ensuring that they respect your boundaries. Before sharing, evaluate the person's behavior and consider their past actions. Have they shown respect for your feelings and thoughts? Have they been supportive in the past? If the answer is yes, they might be a safe person to share with. If not, it might be best to withhold sharing until you feel more secure in the relationship. Remember, it's okay to take your time in sharing personal experiences. You don't have to share everything at once. Start with smaller things and see how the person responds. If they handle your smaller shares with respect and empathy, you might feel safer sharing more significant experiences. Lastly, it's important to remember that past experiences can impact present relationships. If you've been hurt in the past by someone weaponizing your personal stories, it's natural to be cautious. However, not everyone will do this. It's crucial to view people as individuals and not let past experiences color your current relationships. In conclusion, sharing personal experiences can be a powerful way to connect with others, but it's essential to do so with caution and respect for your own boundaries.
Understanding Emotional Unavailability Emotional unavailability can stem from various sources, such as past traumas, attachment issues, or learned behaviors from family of origin. It's important to explore these underlying causes to gain a better understanding of why emotional unavailability occurs. Communicating Emotional Needs One of the key steps to overcoming emotional unavailability is to openly communicate your emotional needs. This involves identifying what your needs are and expressing them to your partner or significant others. It's crucial to remember that others cannot read your mind, so effective communication is key. Exploring Past Relationship Patterns Examining past relationship patterns can provide valuable insights into current emotional unavailability. This can involve identifying who in your past has been emotionally available or unavailable to you, and how these relationships have influenced your current emotional state. Developing Emotional Consistency and Secure Attachments Working towards developing emotional consistency and secure attachments is another important step. This involves learning to communicate your needs, providing and receiving unconditional positive regard, and fostering a sense of safety and trust in relationships. Seeking Professional Help If emotional unavailability continues to be a challenge, it may be beneficial to seek professional help. A therapist or counselor can provide support and guidance in exploring underlying issues, improving communication skills, and developing healthier emotional habits. In conclusion, overcoming emotional unavailability involves understanding its root causes, communicating emotional needs, exploring past relationship patterns, developing emotional consistency and secure attachments, and seeking professional help if needed.
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When she said feeling's ain't facts
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My large family was emotionally unavailable and my husband of 30 years, who I've been long separated from, is emotionally unavailable.
Anything that was big to talk about, life changing, I got silence. I am struggling to get him to talk about the importance of a trust, in our late 60s. Silence. I called a trust attorney myself yesterday. I don't know what will happen.
Over the years I've had to pry a response about planning our future, having children. Nothing unless it was about having fun, which I did love, but couldn't talk about the big stuff.
I am sorry about that and I appreciate you watching the video
The work you do is so valuable. These are the kinds of conversational details that the world needs to have more of.
Thank you! I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video.
Incredible video, THANK YOU! ❤ Wish I'd had access to this 20 yrs ago! It put together all of my concerns into a very succinct yet informative way. Now, to make some heavy decisions...
You’re so welcome . Thanks for walking the video
Awesome video!!! I'm emotionally available until we get to the conflict stage and then I just want to go get a frying pan to deal with the conflict. Partners don't seem to like that. Volatility in conflict, emotionally reactive is learned behavior takes a while to unlearn. Not too many people want to stick by your side when you have a frying pan in your hand. 🙈🤷♀️
I am personally a very confused person that I do behaves in two ways , I have my thinkers tendency yet when come to complicated relationship matters I become such a feelers that I am so afraid the experience of rejections happened as it has from my previous experience, when I began to open up. I just could not trust my own move and the other one. I really do not know how to be emotional available and how to behave as I do not seems to see myself knowing how to handle relationship when maybe the right person turn up. And how do I know if thats the right one if we have very different world view about life.
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Ya think? You sound like a gem.
Excellent video Doc snipes!!
Thank you! I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video.
Unfortunately fortunately this is how I've learned to treat, heal the dysfunction I internalized growing up. I didn't know about this healthy ways growing up or until late 40s. But what's important is that I found a healthy way to BE and treat, heal and Mend the trauma
I am glad you found a healthy way to be, treat and mend your trauma and I appreciate you watching the video. Also, you can find videos on trauma at: th-cam.com/users/DocSnipessearch?query=trauma
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How do i navigate making a safe space for someone who is emotionally unavailable when they arent able to provide a safe space for me
Creating a safe space for someone who is emotionally unavailable can be challenging, especially when that person is not able to reciprocate in kind. Here are some steps you can take to navigate this situation:
1. Understand Emotional Unavailability: Recognize that emotional unavailability can stem from various causes, such as past traumas, fear of getting hurt, or differences in temperament. It's important to understand that the emotionally unavailable person may not be intentionally withholding; they might be dealing with their own issues that make it difficult for them to engage emotionally.
2. Communicate Your Needs: It's crucial to express your own needs for emotional safety and connection. This doesn't mean demanding immediate change, but rather explaining what makes you feel supported and understood. Be clear about what behaviors contribute to a sense of safety for you.
3. Set Boundaries: Establish what you are and are not willing to tolerate in the relationship. Boundaries are essential for your own emotional well-being and can prevent resentment from building up if you feel your needs are not being met.
4. Practice Self-Care: Ensure that you are taking care of your own emotional needs. This might involve seeking support from friends, family, or a therapist. It's important to have a support system outside of the relationship with the emotionally unavailable person.
5. Encourage Emotional Literacy: Help the emotionally unavailable person become more aware of their emotional language and expressions. This can involve recognizing and naming emotions, which is a skill that can be developed over time.
6. Model Healthy Emotional Behavior: Demonstrate what emotional availability looks like through your own actions. This can include showing empathy, listening actively, and validating feelings.
7. Be Patient: Change takes time, and it's important to be patient with the emotionally unavailable person as they work through their issues. However, also be mindful of your own limits and recognize when a situation may not be conducive to your well-being.
* Remember, while you can create a supportive environment, you cannot force someone to become emotionally available. It's also important to prioritize your own emotional health and recognize when a relationship may not be meeting your needs. If you find that despite your efforts, the relationship is still not providing the emotional support you require, it may be necessary to reevaluate the relationship and consider seeking additional support for yourself.
Learn more for FREE at allceus.com/AskDocSnipes
How do you create a Safe welcoming and coaching environment?
Thank you for watching the video.
Creating a safe, welcoming, and coaching environment involves several key steps:
Establish Safety
The first step is to ensure physical and emotional safety. This includes creating a comfortable physical space and addressing sensory issues that could be overwhelming. It's also important to consider the emotional impact of the environment and make adjustments as needed.
Encourage Open Communication
Open communication is crucial.
This can be facilitated by using the "FREEZE" mnemonic: Feedback, Responsibility, Empathizing, Encouraging forward movement, and showing unconditional positive regard. This encourages individuals to communicate their needs and feelings, and promotes a sense of responsibility and empowerment.
Provide Support and Encouragement
Support should be provided with unconditional positive regard, creating a safe and supportive environment where individuals feel loved and accepted, regardless of their successes or failures. Encouragement should be given to help individuals recognize their strength and courage, and to step out of their comfort zone.
Promote Learning and Growth
Scaffolding is a useful technique for promoting learning and growth. This involves breaking down tasks into smaller steps and providing support as needed, gradually reducing assistance as the individual becomes more proficient.
Foster Emotional Intelligence and Distress Tolerance
Promoting emotional intelligence and distress tolerance within the environment is also important. Staff members can learn and model these skills, which can have a positive impact on individuals in the environment.
Respect Individuality
Finally, respect for individual strengths and weaknesses is crucial. This includes asking instead of assuming what someone wants or needs, and taking responsibility for one's own actions.
By implementing these strategies, a safe, welcoming, and coaching environment can be created.
Here is the video on creating a safe environment: th-cam.com/video/8fOMk6cvvmc/w-d-xo.htmlsi=FlZa2xRDX14A5dkW
thank you you helped me a lot
I am glad to read that. I am grateful to be of help and I appreciate you watching the video.
But when you share your feelings, secrets or past experiences, the wrong person will weaponize your stories against you..What do you say about that?
Sharing personal feelings, secrets, or past experiences is a significant part of building trust and intimacy in relationships. However, it's crucial to ensure that you're sharing this information with a safe and trustworthy person. If shared with the wrong person, your personal stories could indeed be weaponized against you, causing emotional harm.
To prevent this, it's important to establish healthy boundaries. Boundaries are like a house, where only trusted individuals are given access, and not everyone is allowed in the front door. This means being selective about who you share your personal experiences with and ensuring that they respect your boundaries.
Before sharing, evaluate the person's behavior and consider their past actions. Have they shown respect for your feelings and thoughts? Have they been supportive in the past? If the answer is yes, they might be a safe person to share with. If not, it might be best to withhold sharing until you feel more secure in the relationship.
Remember, it's okay to take your time in sharing personal experiences. You don't have to share everything at once. Start with smaller things and see how the person responds. If they handle your smaller shares with respect and empathy, you might feel safer sharing more significant experiences.
Lastly, it's important to remember that past experiences can impact present relationships. If you've been hurt in the past by someone weaponizing your personal stories, it's natural to be cautious. However, not everyone will do this. It's crucial to view people as individuals and not let past experiences color your current relationships.
In conclusion, sharing personal experiences can be a powerful way to connect with others, but it's essential to do so with caution and respect for your own boundaries.
How to overcome the emotional unavailable
Understanding Emotional Unavailability
Emotional unavailability can stem from various sources, such as past traumas, attachment issues, or learned behaviors from family of origin. It's important to explore these underlying causes to gain a better understanding of why emotional unavailability occurs.
Communicating Emotional Needs
One of the key steps to overcoming emotional unavailability is to openly communicate your emotional needs. This involves identifying what your needs are and expressing them to your partner or significant others. It's crucial to remember that others cannot read your mind, so effective communication is key.
Exploring Past Relationship Patterns
Examining past relationship patterns can provide valuable insights into current emotional unavailability. This can involve identifying who in your past has been emotionally available or unavailable to you, and how these relationships have influenced your current emotional state.
Developing Emotional Consistency and Secure Attachments
Working towards developing emotional consistency and secure attachments is another important step. This involves learning to communicate your needs, providing and receiving unconditional positive regard, and fostering a sense of safety and trust in relationships.
Seeking Professional Help
If emotional unavailability continues to be a challenge, it may be beneficial to seek professional help. A therapist or counselor can provide support and guidance in exploring underlying issues, improving communication skills, and developing healthier emotional habits.
In conclusion, overcoming emotional unavailability involves understanding its root causes, communicating emotional needs, exploring past relationship patterns, developing emotional consistency and secure attachments, and seeking professional help if needed.
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There are too many men unavailable this way in America …..European countries are much ,much better ….
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