My mother used to overdo any sounds I complained about around the house and tell me how annoying I was with all my complaints. It’s hard for me to not take it personally and think people know they’re being loud or annoying and they keep doing it to irritate me. But I know they’re just being themselves and living their life.
@@NatASMR_au That is what so infuriates me here in England, how all those spoilt, pampered born free easy-lifers just won't be told such a condition like misophonia even exists and won't take it remotely seriously or recognise it as a disability, especially all those closed-minded idiots in authority, who just carry on piling wall after wall in your way and making all manner of essential services like shops and supermarkets, and health centres and public transport etc. so thoroughly INaccessible and then keep insisting that they're "fully inclusive" and so on which is such absolute BULL! Misophonia IS a disability as it utterly RUINS entire lives, especially as so many idiots just see the victims as easy targets for appalling abuse, but they wouldn't dare pick on someone with a wheelchair, oh no, in case it ruins their reputation
I am crying out for happiness to be seen and to know I'm not alone or angry all the time. My Psychologist told me that's what I have today, and I just turned 36 finally; I get this part of me, and I feel so seen by all of you. Looking forward to healing with more of a different lens and being kinder to myself!!! So much love for all.
This really is such a great video. I really try to explain this to people, but we all know how hard that is. This video will be a great help. I always try to tell people, “It’s not YOU that bothers me, it’s the sound.” My now ex-husband used to intentionally do things that triggered me, & then mock my response, or use my guilt & shame of my response to manipulate me. It’s just so hard to live with already, & his behavior really caused me a lot of emotional damage that set me back in my coping with this disorder. Terrified of dealing with this in future relationships, but I hope this video helps.
I always have Misophonia and found out it was a thing on social media about 2 years ago… im 49 and i hate to have to explain this to ppl. Is just keeping me from socializing and away from crowds .. im glad im not alone in this .😢
I see myself trying to read people’s minds about what noises I make might annoy them, so I won’t do to them what I don’t like they do to me. If I’m cleaning the house and someone is watching tv, I try my best to not make any noise so they won’t turn up the volume. Watching this video makes me feel less weird.
me tooo !!!!! i eat without making any noises at all bc i'm terrified of annoying ppl w my chewing noises as much as they annoy me, i remember even as a child getting complimented by other kids bc i ate without making a mess or making any weird chewing sounds
Thank you for acknowledging the abuse you put your partners through! The guilt is justified, you're emotionally abusing your partner a lot with this issue.
My only concern with a lot of this video in ERP / OCD terms a lot of it sounds like avoidance, compulsion and reassurance which could actually fuel the problem?
As an aspie the noises that I hate : crisp packet rustling, sniffing, whistling, cultery tapping against plates while people eat, banging, tapping, certain peoples voice tones, and many others, it really stresses me out and causes me anxiety. I have extremely high auditory over sensory overload, its horrible. It causes upset just thinking about being exposed to those sounds. I also hate things like people flicking the feet, typing fingers, waving arms etc. I feel embarashed when I get angry by those things but just simply can't help it.
I have a brother with mesophonia and here are the things I cand do with out him throwing a tantrum Eat Sing Dance Wistle Hum Listen to music Sniffle Sneez Dance Couph Blow my nose Snap Clap Use my keyboard Use volume And more
The lady in the stripped shirt in the relationship for 17 years really hit the nail on the head when she said ‘ it’s like auditory abuse’
My mother used to overdo any sounds I complained about around the house and tell me how annoying I was with all my complaints. It’s hard for me to not take it personally and think people know they’re being loud or annoying and they keep doing it to irritate me. But I know they’re just being themselves and living their life.
@@NatASMR_au That is what so infuriates me here in England, how all those spoilt, pampered born free easy-lifers just won't be told such a condition like misophonia even exists and won't take it remotely seriously or recognise it as a disability, especially all those closed-minded idiots in authority, who just carry on piling wall after wall in your way and making all manner of essential services like shops and supermarkets, and health centres and public transport etc. so thoroughly INaccessible and then keep insisting that they're "fully inclusive" and so on which is such absolute BULL! Misophonia IS a disability as it utterly RUINS entire lives, especially as so many idiots just see the victims as easy targets for appalling abuse, but they wouldn't dare pick on someone with a wheelchair, oh no, in case it ruins their reputation
You start thinking people are doing it on purpose… just to annoy you… and it’s a horrible feeling.
Or are just too selfish to care.
I am crying out for happiness to be seen and to know I'm not alone or angry all the time. My Psychologist told me that's what I have today, and I just turned 36 finally; I get this part of me, and I feel so seen by all of you. Looking forward to healing with more of a different lens and being kinder to myself!!! So much love for all.
This really is such a great video. I really try to explain this to people, but we all know how hard that is. This video will be a great help. I always try to tell people, “It’s not YOU that bothers me, it’s the sound.” My now ex-husband used to intentionally do things that triggered me, & then mock my response, or use my guilt & shame of my response to manipulate me. It’s just so hard to live with already, & his behavior really caused me a lot of emotional damage that set me back in my coping with this disorder. Terrified of dealing with this in future relationships, but I hope this video helps.
I always have Misophonia and found out it was a thing on social media about 2 years ago… im 49 and i hate to have to explain this to ppl.
Is just keeping me from socializing and away from crowds .. im glad im not alone in this .😢
I've always had this strange fear that if people knew I had it they would make these noises intentionally.
Yes completely understand but you will find that most people will be compassionate.
For me people DO make noises intentionally just to annoy me
I see myself trying to read people’s minds about what noises I make might annoy them, so I won’t do to them what I don’t like they do to me. If I’m cleaning the house and someone is watching tv, I try my best to not make any noise so they won’t turn up the volume. Watching this video makes me feel less weird.
me tooo !!!!! i eat without making any noises at all bc i'm terrified of annoying ppl w my chewing noises as much as they annoy me, i remember even as a child getting complimented by other kids bc i ate without making a mess or making any weird chewing sounds
Same!!!!!!
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This is so spot on. Thank you for producing it. A great tool to share with your partner or friends.
pamela van note Thank you so much for the kind words we appreciate it.
Awesome to hear from other sufferers.
This video is so helpful. Thank you.
Kayleen Medina thanks for the comment!
Thank you for acknowledging the abuse you put your partners through! The guilt is justified, you're emotionally abusing your partner a lot with this issue.
My only concern with a lot of this video in ERP / OCD terms a lot of it sounds like avoidance, compulsion and reassurance which could actually fuel the problem?
As an aspie the noises that I hate : crisp packet rustling, sniffing, whistling, cultery tapping against plates while people eat, banging, tapping, certain peoples voice tones, and many others, it really stresses me out and causes me anxiety. I have extremely high auditory over sensory overload, its horrible. It causes upset just thinking about being exposed to those sounds. I also hate things like people flicking the feet, typing fingers, waving arms etc. I feel embarashed when I get angry by those things but just simply can't help it.
I have a brother with mesophonia and here are the things I cand do with out him throwing a tantrum
Eat
Sing
Dance
Wistle
Hum
Listen to music
Sniffle
Sneez
Dance
Couph
Blow my nose
Snap
Clap
Use my keyboard
Use volume
And more
thanks but the sounds I could not get through... strange you had so many instrumental to introduce the concept and disorder
The woman with vocal fry was intolerable.