I finally reached my goal: full independence, first solo apartment, first real job. Currently enjoying this phase. I’d like to be in love but I’m not in a hurry. I want to enjoy this solo chapter of my life to the fullest as I’ve worked hard for it and as I’m blooming into the woman I’ve always wanted to become 😍 Enjoying my solos to appreciate my duo(s). When they’ll come, I’ll be ready 🔮
You enjoy yourself friend. Just remember to keep just enough friends around to make sure you exercise that social muscle memory. And also, have fun and take plenty of pictures (make a scrapbook out of it if you haven’t already)
So true even for me. And according to my calculations Psych2go have exactly one video on the subject of aromanticism. Also I see a lack of videos about asexuals...
Interesting that you still watched this though. Is it b/c you still feel other things like s**ual needs, but not romantic-related needs? Do you still get lonely, or just lonely for simple human companionship, fulfilled by seeing a friend vs desiring something more? I ask out of pure curiosity; i want to understand!
@@IdislikeTechnology Hmm... No actually I don't have s***al needs neither. I love Psych2go and watch all their videos. I am also a very curious person who loves to learn about everything.
8 things single people can relate to 1. feeling replaced by your friends' significant other 0:40 2. having to be the third wheel all the time 1:16 3. having to stomach a lot of PDA 1:41 4. always being asked why you're still single 2:24 5. being comforted because of your relationship status 2:56 6. being bombarded with personal questions 3:25 7. constantly being set up on blind dates 4:01 8. feeling pressure to find someone already 4:25 8 reasons to be single 1. save money 5:34 2. you can fortify your friendships and family relationships 6:11 3. you can explore new hobbies 6:42 4. you can go after your dream job more easily 7:08 5. you can be selfish without consequences 7:44 6. you deal with less drama 8:14 7. you master self sufficiency 8:41 8. you still experience the excitement of finding your soulmate 9:08 10 behaviours that keep you single 1. you have cynical views about love 10:06 2. you set unrealistic standards 10:34 3. you have set too many deal breakers 11:01 4. you have unresolved past trauma 11:35 5. you have low self esteem 12:07 6. you have a fear of happiness 12:43 7. you have trust issues 13:25 8. you think you will lose your independence by being in a relationship 13:50 9. you want someone you can't or shouldn't have 14:27 10. you don't learn from your mistakes 14:50 few benefits of being single 1. strengthening bonds 16:11 2. permission to be selfish 16:55 3. look within 17:55 4. mental health 19:00 hope this helps.
I just want to feel loved. Edit: I wasn't expecting for anyone to even see this comment. But I greatly appreciate all the words said, despite being strangers on the internet.
Timestamps 1). Feeling replaced by your friends' significant other 0:40 2). Having to be the third wheel all the time 1:15 3). Having to stomach a lot of PDA 1:41 4). Always being asked why you're still single 2:24 5). Being comforted because of your relationship status 2:56 6). Being bombarded with personal questions 3:25 7). Constantly being set up on blind dates 4:01 8). Feeling pressured to find someone already 4:25 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Happy Valentine's day to everyone who see this. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
As a single person, I can relate. Yes, I used to be in a relationship. Sadly , and time and time again, it didn't work out. So, yeah, I'm better off single than with someone else.
I felt a little down today, but after some thinking, I’m grateful that I’m single for the moment. Because I don’t have worry as much as I would with someone. I have my own freedom and can enjoy myself.
I see it as a time that might not last forever. There’s a lot of freedom in being able to live on your terms and not having to take others into consideration. Learning to love yourself is a truly rewarding experience. Does valentines annoy me? Not as much as I thought it would. I get to celebrate myself and my friends and family. Not all love has to be romantic.
I was in a relationship for over ten years, granted it wasn't a happy one due to abuse but I felt more lonely stuck with them than I do now. Being single isn't a bad thing if you refocus your mindset, I'm finding joy in my hobbies once more, I'm learning things they refused to let me try and turning my home into my own cosy abode. There's this beautiful post I once found that says when you are finally at peace with yourself, love doesn't compete with your past but your comfort and happiness; if they can't compete with your safe zone be wary. I'm happy in my own company and really not anchoring for love any time soon 💗
I relate to most from 11:37 to 13:53.... Which is why I'm going to learn the single path in life and learn to love myself before I could actually love someone else...
I've been single most of my life. I'm ACE and that can be difficult, for other people to understand. I tried relationships before, but I just feel nothing, no mater if I'm taken or not. To me, being single is the better route. Others won't feel, I don't like them, when I take a lot of "me" time. I'm an introvert and don't feel that romance is my thing. Give me time to listen to music and draw. I'm good. 👍 I've made compromises and will meet others in the middle, but I more of a lone wolf, doing my own thing. Single or not, all of you have a wonderful day, every day. 🎉
I related to most of what you said. I'm asexual, but also a wlw, and i admit that i have to work on many things about myself, like the fact that i never came out to anyone, because i know that it will disappoint my parents, i'm almost 30 and i'm still afraid of it, lol. However, i also never felt the urge to date, so never saw the need to come out, i never fell in love, but am sure that any other type of attraction is exclusively towards women. I'm also an introvert and spent a lot of alone time just listening to music or even doing nothing at all. Sometimes, i do feel like i'd really like to have a girlfriend, but i don't know if i'd be a good girlfriend. I kinda just accepted that i might be single for rest of my life and it doesn't scare me like it does to others.
@@menotme4602 Yes, I felt the same. As a woman, I get pressured and see how everyone wants to sugar coat things, on a surface level.. when it comes down to it, I enjoy my peace of mind. It's nice to know, others share the same feeling I do, about this.
Yeah I'm aroace and all my friends who are lovey dovey in my aroace eyes will ask do you have a crush on someone do you think this person is hot does this dress look sexy and I'm like I guess idk I don't really care
"In a healthy relationship you should never have to sacrifice your personality, your independence or who you are..." After observing parents, I conclude that this line outright rules out starting a family unless you are a born parent.
Hey, at first I wanted to rush into a relationship because half of my classmates are dating, and I wanted to try it out. That was during highschool... looking at it now, I should've told myself to be content with being single, because atleast I now have the time to invest in things I have the time to do, as well as being okay with being alone! To all the other peeps who are single, don't forget to tell yourself that it's okay. It's okay to be single, and it's okay to not be ready for a relationship if you yourself know you can't do it right now. Don't worry and be happy!
I both am not ready to be in a relationship because I have to work on myself and I don’t get many chances to come in contact with guys. As weird as that sounds since they’re everywhere, what I mean is I go to an all girls college so the only few men I see are students’ significant others. I’m also bad at socializing in general but it’s worse with guys, so even when I was in constant contact with guys in prior school years, I never had the courage to talk to them without thinking they’re judging me constantly
As a single man who plays videogames in my freetime outside of work and also terrible at social interactions with strangers, take this very terrible advise with absolutely no guarantee or veryfied truth to it: _If you can sit next to a man and not have the urge to want to speak about random nonsense the whole time, If you don't take out your phone to check some arbitrary social media status every 5 minutes and if you manage to put a slight slime on your face (even if shyishly)_ .Then you'll most likely be alright somewhere down the line. Even if a man will judge you(r looks) in their mind, they will not treat your badly if you are not nagging or "overly present". At least this is what I would say... (don't use italic command keys...)
I can describe myself as a Sigma Female. I have learned to embrace my weirdness and uniqueness. Hard for me to find someone I can connect with. Plus I have been single over 11 years. My Valentine’s Day was awesome 🤩. Spoke to my family.
I am 16 years old and i have mental health problems it's because of my toxic family that treated me badly ,so i believe inside my thoughts that other people that i will meet in my life will do the same to me as my family have done to me , i have trust issues, have Gamophobia which is fear of marriage and philophobia which is fear of falling in love or fear of having deep connection with someone
I don’t think I know how to love somebody in that way. So being single fit me the most. I think that some people are just meant to be single for the rest of their life.
Technically recently single situation. Broke up an abusive and unfulfilling relationship last year (almost a year ago now!), and during the lead-up to and fallout-from the breakup, caught feelings for a member of my support circle. Still lived with my abuser for months after. Finally broke free of them a few months ago, and am now semi-independent living! I opened this compilation in a different headspace than when it originally was posted, and I'm so glad I did. It's been tough actually following through with the advice of needing to remain romantically detached while I work on actually healing and figuring myself out... but at the same time, having my person as a supportive friend through it all, and having the physical distance for a few months then coming back to the area... I've gained a profound appreciation for having them in my life, and for everything they are to me
Everytime i overthink something, one of your videos pop up and it helps lol. Like maybe i do just need to stay single. Even though i have never been in one before.
I feel fine being single, when valentines came this year i didn't felt lonely or sad, i spent time with my friends and just enjoyed the things that make me happy, i'm not insecure about my appearance, i know that i have things to work on to be a better person but i love affection just as everyone else, i'm just not desperate to get it fast (Remember the fast way it's not always the best way), i want things to flow naturally and i really want to feel that i'm really attracted to the person im supposed to be in love with and i want to make sure that person feels the same way with me. It's nice to have someone to share your life with and sometimes even a little necessary to have an special connection with somebody when things get rough, but being single is cool as well, you have a lot of time to spent on discovering yourself and grinding good habits and fixing problems to become a better human, at least that's my perspective, so to anyone who feels frustrated out there, this is my advice: Stop worrying about it and just enjoy life, persue your goals, don't depend just on love from other people to be happy. Love yourself first before wanting to love someone else :)
Thank you Psych2go! I'm single and I loved watching this on Valentine's day! I made raspberry white chocolate brownies for this special day raspberries to celebrate this red themed occasion:)
single for 7 years. after such a long time, i really dont have time to focus on that anymore. if it will happen, it will. if not, then not. what matters, is that i have my freedom and can dissapear for month or two and no one will disturb my peace during that time:)
Happy Valentines Day! A single guy here and i just wanted to remind all of you that some of the best love you can feel is your love and that you dont need anybody to assure you. Love you all and have a wonderful Valentine!
It is good to have a stable foundation ready for when you are in a relationship because you don't want to go into one because you are unstable and unhappy but don't let your goals keep you from ever having a relationship or neglecting one if you get one. That is if you want one in the first place which I'm going to assume you do.
I absolutely love my single freedom status. I am happy for my friends who are in relationships and decided to be glued to their partners. That means I can game while listening to music in peace, while I miss those friends....I'm also glad that they've ditched me for their partner and i hope they remain distant
I've tried dating for about 6 years, and honestly thinking I'm too emotional fragile for a relationship. One bit of criticism and I get embarrassed and withdrawn.
I want a relationship, but I'm not ready for it. I always thought that I was making bad choices, and I did cause I'm not ready. So, I decided to live my life while coming in terms with that notion and who knows, maybe I'll meet someone during my 20s or later. I know I'm not going to be left out - why I know that? Plenty of times I thought of giving up, but something in me refused to give up. Hope? Determination? Desperation? I'm not sure, I'll find out if I keep going. And I advise everyone to keep going or else they'd self-fulfill a fate unworthy of them.
I can say friends being coupled up isn't my business, so nothing to be jealous of. Im more grateful they're happy. Only problem is people moaning about their relationship. I don't moan about my inner peace and freedom, so hearing about mundane drama goes over my head. I've been single for nearly 10 years. I save money, no being made to feel guilt, no nagging. I do as i please, and cant complain tbh.
I’m a 34yo man and I’ve just never had the internal drive for romantic attention. I thought I did, but it turns out I just liked flattery lol. Once things take a markedly romantic turn, it just feels unnatural to me, even when I’ve been friends with the person for a while before. Single’s just my natural state and once I realized that, I got a huge feeling of relief. But the annoying part about it is the complete lack of understanding from others. Saying you don’t ever have a significant other is like saying you don’t eat food to some folks. I talk about it and get the “don’t worry, you’ll find someone” and I’m like “I wasn’t describing a problem, dawg” lmao
I'm a pretty social person, but I like to keep my social circle small and manageable. I think I'm a "social introvert" where I crave interaction, but I do enjoy alone time. That said, a lot of my friends have gotten into relationships and moved on from me and it's becoming more and more lonely as the years go by and while being single is nice, I do want that kind of relationship in my life. I don't come across friends very easily, much less girl friends, so getting to know someone on such a level that I can see them as a girlfriend is next to impossible to me right now. Also, I wish people would set me up on blind-dates, at least I'd be trying people out. Oh well, I'm nothing if not patient.
Me: realizing I'd rather support my friends or even my crush in a relationship as if they're a ship than being in one myself. Tried twice and dislike how I was seen just as a means to satisfy the others' desire. I stood up for myself, said no and left. 😊
Thank you Psych2Go this was very eye opening 🌹💚 I have been misurable about being single for a while and dating is really hard. But this helps me embrace being single and the benefits of it! ☺️
I made the choice to be single like 17 years ago. I never had a problem with #1or#2 PDA doesn't bother me either. Most of my friends chose to be stay single as well. I used to be pressured. If I ever get lonely I just go to a couplea house who argue all the time and it reminds me of why I chose to be single and stay that way.
I am single by choice, 19 years old and I don't really mind it. Sure it would be nice to have a gf, but if I want one just to not feel lonely or something like that is not really good for you nor her. I had girls that wanted to be with me but they weren't really my type. Just focus on yourself, work and strive for power, and right girl will come to you at exact time you are ready to have one.
I have been single for the past 3 and a half years and overall im cool with it all my friends are in relationships and I don’t envy them personally I would lose myself life is just more simple now. Im taking my time may look into dating in a few more years.
I’ve always felt like I wasn’t made for relationships. Getting uncomfortable with public demonstrations of affection ( although I was happily raised by a loving & caring family ) , constantly struggling to maintain relationships mostly for getting not emotionally available partners or for feeling drained on the most “emotionally stable “ ones got me feeling a great part of my life that I was asexual because of the lack of interest, intimacy & the restraining ties that a proper couple means. The truth is I just simply enjoy myself more than being with someone. It’s not that I’m not made for love , but the way I love others is more effective & nourishing when I have time to focus on myself to than attend other people’s needs ❤. People say “ the right one will come someday “ But what if he doesn’t? Maybe I am the one for me , it’s just as simple as that. after all who can love me better than me ? Who can take care better , who can understand me better ? Answer: the one who has always been there ❤ ( this is not a selfish “ me ,me, me “ pep talk , it’s more like a reflection or reminder that life isn’t always the same path for everyone, you can still celebrate Valentine’s Day ,support your friends at the pride parade or enjoy weddings or things like that in this not so single world , everytime you give your best & put your heart and soul on things you’re already Loving ❤ Every time someone shows you grace , consideration,compassion ,kindness , support , loyalty, affirmation or simply admiration you’re being Loved ❤️
I decided to stay "Single", but I still have a kind of valentine or significant other.I decided to stay single to develope myself freely and being able to love home freely, without the need of searching for a replacement. He currently can not feel the same and that's actually fine, because somehow we are still very close and something is slowly developing. It simply needs more time than the casual dating. The funny thing is, I am so happy and satisfied with that^^
Hello, I am a socially ignorant Autistic. My interactions are all difficult. These videos collectively have given me the knowledge to proceed socially correctly, and without the wanted support of friends, who just stand by and laugh. Many thanks for the knowledge base, which now allows me to successfully navigate the female forest I walk daily.
As someone who’s single and who desperately wants a girlfriend thank you for making this video I’m currently 20 and living in a small town, it’s very depressing and I fear that once I’m done collage I may not get another opportunity to meet a girl that I like. I’m hoping once I’m done collage I will be able to move to a big city and will have a better chance to meet girls and for a romantic relationship with one.
Just a heads up: I'm nearly 40 and believe me, after college things may not necessarily change for the better, even in a big(ger) city. I am one such man who this has happened to, life just gets more crowded and smaller, ironically enough.
I've come the conclusion that dating makes anxious, stressed, weird and uncomfortable in general. And I realised being single is more natural for me. Also, I can like as many guys as I want (even tho some don't even know I exist or they don't exist 😅)
From my experience, the average person has a very very narrow understanding of life and how to live it. They act like this cause they are incapable of thinking or conceiving a life lived in a different way than they think it should be. Since so many people think having children is the meaning of life, sort of a natural thing to also put as much emphasis on romantic relationships as they do. Then again, allot of effort has been made to "encourage" people to breed. That doesn't really help others that don't care that much. 9:44 Single and not looking, I just don't want to have a partner when I feel like I have way too much "personal baggage" with me, can't say I want to dump that stuff onto someone else. Maybe if I could deal with that, maybe.
I've experienced in relationship but i broke up so early bcause i don't know what to do together. I was 14 back then (frontal lobe wasn't well developed yet lol). He is so kind, i hurt his feeling even he said he's okay. Now I'm 27 made me realised, my situation is like, right person wrong time. Now that guy already engaged with beautiful and talented girl. I definitely no match with her. He deserved girl like her after all. I'm so happy for them, he found his happiness. For me, i haven't think to get a partner yet. Got a lot of commitment, and so much thing to deal with. I guess i already comfortable being single. (i hope my mom won't see this 🤣)
I just to need to remember that I do not need to explain my no when rejecting romantic relationships that I do not want or need to be in. Just boundaries when people have problem with me being single, especially my narcissistic mother and sister.
For me I’ve been single for most of my life, twice I try to be in a relationship but both times the woman I was dating felt they would be better off going back to what they were used to, being disrespected, being belittled, going through physical & emotional abuse, treated like they have no value I always believed in treating a woman like a queen, but I guess in this day and age most women want to be with a thug I’m now 60 years old & I absolutely have no self esteem left I just have to accept that I’m going to die alone, no marriage, no kids I guess god wanted to be this way……
The PDA thing: when I was in relationships and hanging out with single friend(s), I never PDA’ed so I don’t make my friends feel awkward. When we hang out as friends, everyone is just friends in a friendly setting.
❤❤ The first part of animation is extremly cute! adorable❤❤❤ I want to hug. I am a chronic single. Some part is due to insecure attachment style, some is because of insecurities, some is derived from bad experiences... I hope to blossom more following year as a single person
I have the opposite problem. I WANTED to be in a relationship but everyone told me I don't NEED a relationship. I complained about never having a relationship at 25, and next month I'm turning 34. My only date since college was when I was 31 :(
im really only single because i dont really talk to many people and vise versa but yeah i feel most of the first few things in this comp and honestly i think its so stupid but it still hurts a lot and i honestly dont really know why cause im fine with being single and honestly i like being single cause that allows me to have my alone time which to me is insanely important
I'm a single Pringle this year and I'm making Valentines for my friends and having treats with my family! Valentine's Day doesn't have to be sad if you're alone romantically
100% agree with you! Loved your perspective. It doesn't have to be romantic with a partner. You can have valentine's by yourself, with family or even friends!
I am single for 1 year and have double feelings. If I see my friends having a relationship for years of even gonna get married. At the end of the day being alone missing someone to cuddle with love. I am thankful for my friends and mom get love. But missing the love love. I am thinking starting dating but scared of online platforms with as good and bad experiences. And with my mental illnesses and situation It is more difficult finding someone who accept me.
I’ve never been in a relationship and I’m a complete hopeless romantic. But at the same time I’m a little scared of being in a relationship. So I want one but I don’t want one. I’ve thought about all the points made in this video many times though. So I’ve just been waiting…and trying not to think about it 😅
@Psych2go Thanks to put up on these videos..these are very informative and awareness seeking things people should know.. Keep making such videos on Psychology and stuffs Lots of love 💖 from India
Every time i feel lonely i look at toxic relationships and failed marriages. (Divorce rate is 80%) and my solitude and freedom is what i should be proud for
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Never had a valentine days so happy being single 😂
HI
How are you?
You saved a lot of money! @@dreamydavejr.6834
Happy Valentine's day
I finally reached my goal: full independence, first solo apartment, first real job. Currently enjoying this phase. I’d like to be in love but I’m not in a hurry. I want to enjoy this solo chapter of my life to the fullest as I’ve worked hard for it and as I’m blooming into the woman I’ve always wanted to become 😍 Enjoying my solos to appreciate my duo(s). When they’ll come, I’ll be ready 🔮
Who will take care of you when you are old? Also how will you handle someone who sneak into your house?
You enjoy yourself friend. Just remember to keep just enough friends around to make sure you exercise that social muscle memory. And also, have fun and take plenty of pictures (make a scrapbook out of it if you haven’t already)
I'm a 29 year old man that has been single for 29 years. I still have no need to change that. That's aromanticism.
I'm 22 and I'm the same way
So true even for me. And according to my calculations Psych2go have exactly one video on the subject of aromanticism. Also I see a lack of videos about asexuals...
Interesting that you still watched this though.
Is it b/c you still feel other things like s**ual needs, but not romantic-related needs?
Do you still get lonely, or just lonely for simple human companionship, fulfilled by seeing a friend vs desiring something more?
I ask out of pure curiosity; i want to understand!
@@IdislikeTechnology Hmm... No actually I don't have s***al needs neither. I love Psych2go and watch all their videos. I am also a very curious person who loves to learn about everything.
Tbh the only love out there is the love of god thats the true valentines day for me
8 things single people can relate to
1. feeling replaced by your friends' significant other 0:40
2. having to be the third wheel all the time 1:16
3. having to stomach a lot of PDA 1:41
4. always being asked why you're still single 2:24
5. being comforted because of your relationship status 2:56
6. being bombarded with personal questions 3:25
7. constantly being set up on blind dates 4:01
8. feeling pressure to find someone already 4:25
8 reasons to be single
1. save money 5:34
2. you can fortify your friendships and family relationships 6:11
3. you can explore new hobbies 6:42
4. you can go after your dream job more easily 7:08
5. you can be selfish without consequences 7:44
6. you deal with less drama 8:14
7. you master self sufficiency 8:41
8. you still experience the excitement of finding your soulmate 9:08
10 behaviours that keep you single
1. you have cynical views about love 10:06
2. you set unrealistic standards 10:34
3. you have set too many deal breakers 11:01
4. you have unresolved past trauma 11:35
5. you have low self esteem 12:07
6. you have a fear of happiness 12:43
7. you have trust issues 13:25
8. you think you will lose your independence by being in a relationship 13:50
9. you want someone you can't or shouldn't have 14:27
10. you don't learn from your mistakes 14:50
few benefits of being single
1. strengthening bonds 16:11
2. permission to be selfish 16:55
3. look within 17:55
4. mental health 19:00
hope this helps.
I just want to feel loved.
Edit: I wasn't expecting for anyone to even see this comment. But I greatly appreciate all the words said, despite being strangers on the internet.
❤ don’t worry you’re loved 👍
We're here for you! Everyone send hearts!
❤
As I see all the couples exchange sweet nothings, I'm left with the bitter taste of my own solitude on this cursed day.
These people in the comments don't understand the love you want and therefore aren't helping.
Timestamps
1). Feeling replaced by your friends' significant other 0:40
2). Having to be the third wheel all the time 1:15
3). Having to stomach a lot of PDA 1:41
4). Always being asked why you're still single 2:24
5). Being comforted because of your relationship status 2:56
6). Being bombarded with personal questions 3:25
7). Constantly being set up on blind dates 4:01
8). Feeling pressured to find someone already 4:25
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Happy Valentine's day to everyone who see this. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
We need the timestamps LOL Thanks A55. You get a cookie while you're figuring it out 🍪
@@Psych2gothank you. " Breaks cookie in half" here take the other half Psych2Go
As a single person, I can relate. Yes, I used to be in a relationship. Sadly , and time and time again, it didn't work out. So, yeah, I'm better off single than with someone else.
someone deserve no respect.
I stay single because I have no idea how to be intimate with someone else even though I want to be
Same here
same
Same
Real
What would you call this and what type of intimate ?
Is it supposed to console those of us who are single and lonely on that curse day 😂😂
Yes. Do not allow circumstances largely beyond your control to dictate your mental wellbeing. Get into Stoicism. Godspeed.
The day where all the couples around me are in celebration of eternal bliss, while I navigate the abyss.
Yes it is
lmao that’s what i said when i saw the title. good info but still 😂😂
Don’t worry about that. We single have our own day, that is every 11th November
This was dropped on Valentine’s Day 💘…. I see what you guys did there! ❤
Hope you enjoyed it! Thanks for being here early with us! You also get a virtual 🍪 and 🌹
on wednesday* there, i corrected your comment.
@@anderstermansen130 do you think it's this much important?
Times are changing.
Gaming consoles used to come with 2 controllers.
Now you only get 1. :(
Ohhhhh...... didn't know that. :'(
atleast we still got the switch
I have never been in the situation where I needed more than one.
Pc masterrace bro.
I realized this too..
I felt a little down today, but after some thinking, I’m grateful that I’m single for the moment. Because I don’t have worry as much as I would with someone. I have my own freedom and can enjoy myself.
I see it as a time that might not last forever. There’s a lot of freedom in being able to live on your terms and not having to take others into consideration. Learning to love yourself is a truly rewarding experience. Does valentines annoy me? Not as much as I thought it would. I get to celebrate myself and my friends and family. Not all love has to be romantic.
I was in a relationship for over ten years, granted it wasn't a happy one due to abuse but I felt more lonely stuck with them than I do now. Being single isn't a bad thing if you refocus your mindset, I'm finding joy in my hobbies once more, I'm learning things they refused to let me try and turning my home into my own cosy abode. There's this beautiful post I once found that says when you are finally at peace with yourself, love doesn't compete with your past but your comfort and happiness; if they can't compete with your safe zone be wary. I'm happy in my own company and really not anchoring for love any time soon 💗
I kinda relate to this to the people out there whether your single or in a relationship happy Valentine’s Day ❤👍
Thanks
I relate to most from 11:37 to 13:53....
Which is why I'm going to learn the single path in life and learn to love myself before I could actually love someone else...
I've been single most of my life. I'm ACE and that can be difficult, for other people to understand.
I tried relationships before, but I just feel nothing, no mater if I'm taken or not. To me, being single is the better route.
Others won't feel, I don't like them, when I take a lot of "me" time. I'm an introvert and don't feel that romance is my thing. Give me time to listen to music and draw. I'm good. 👍
I've made compromises and will meet others in the middle, but I more of a lone wolf, doing my own thing.
Single or not, all of you have a wonderful day, every day. 🎉
I related to most of what you said. I'm asexual, but also a wlw, and i admit that i have to work on many things about myself, like the fact that i never came out to anyone, because i know that it will disappoint my parents, i'm almost 30 and i'm still afraid of it, lol.
However, i also never felt the urge to date, so never saw the need to come out, i never fell in love, but am sure that any other type of attraction is exclusively towards women. I'm also an introvert and spent a lot of alone time just listening to music or even doing nothing at all. Sometimes, i do feel like i'd really like to have a girlfriend, but i don't know if i'd be a good girlfriend.
I kinda just accepted that i might be single for rest of my life and it doesn't scare me like it does to others.
@@menotme4602 Yes, I felt the same. As a woman, I get pressured and see how everyone wants to sugar coat things, on a surface level.. when it comes down to it, I enjoy my peace of mind. It's nice to know, others share the same feeling I do, about this.
Yeah I'm aroace and all my friends who are lovey dovey in my aroace eyes will ask do you have a crush on someone do you think this person is hot does this dress look sexy and I'm like I guess idk I don't really care
"In a healthy relationship you should never have to sacrifice your personality, your independence or who you are..."
After observing parents, I conclude that this line outright rules out starting a family unless you are a born parent.
Hey, at first I wanted to rush into a relationship because half of my classmates are dating, and I wanted to try it out. That was during highschool... looking at it now, I should've told myself to be content with being single, because atleast I now have the time to invest in things I have the time to do, as well as being okay with being alone! To all the other peeps who are single, don't forget to tell yourself that it's okay. It's okay to be single, and it's okay to not be ready for a relationship if you yourself know you can't do it right now. Don't worry and be happy!
I have never had someone to celebrate Valentine’s Day in my entire life
Admit it. Valentine’s Day is just an excuse to make you buy chocolate, flowers, expensive restaurants to keep economy afloat
I both am not ready to be in a relationship because I have to work on myself and I don’t get many chances to come in contact with guys. As weird as that sounds since they’re everywhere, what I mean is I go to an all girls college so the only few men I see are students’ significant others. I’m also bad at socializing in general but it’s worse with guys, so even when I was in constant contact with guys in prior school years, I never had the courage to talk to them without thinking they’re judging me constantly
As a single man who plays videogames in my freetime outside of work and also terrible at social interactions with strangers, take this very terrible advise with absolutely no guarantee or veryfied truth to it: _If you can sit next to a man and not have the urge to want to speak about random nonsense the whole time, If you don't take out your phone to check some arbitrary social media status every 5 minutes and if you manage to put a slight slime on your face (even if shyishly)_ .Then you'll most likely be alright somewhere down the line.
Even if a man will judge you(r looks) in their mind, they will not treat your badly if you are not nagging or "overly present".
At least this is what I would say...
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I can describe myself as a Sigma Female. I have learned to embrace my weirdness and uniqueness. Hard for me to find someone I can connect with. Plus I have been single over 11 years. My Valentine’s Day was awesome 🤩. Spoke to my family.
As a sociopath materialist, I approve this 🗿
I am 16 years old and i have mental health problems it's because of my toxic family that treated me badly ,so i believe inside my thoughts that other people that i will meet in my life will do the same to me as my family have done to me , i have trust issues, have Gamophobia which is fear of marriage and philophobia which is fear of falling in love or fear of having deep connection with someone
I don’t think I know how to love somebody in that way. So being single fit me the most. I think that some people are just meant to be single for the rest of their life.
Technically recently single situation. Broke up an abusive and unfulfilling relationship last year (almost a year ago now!), and during the lead-up to and fallout-from the breakup, caught feelings for a member of my support circle. Still lived with my abuser for months after. Finally broke free of them a few months ago, and am now semi-independent living! I opened this compilation in a different headspace than when it originally was posted, and I'm so glad I did.
It's been tough actually following through with the advice of needing to remain romantically detached while I work on actually healing and figuring myself out... but at the same time, having my person as a supportive friend through it all, and having the physical distance for a few months then coming back to the area... I've gained a profound appreciation for having them in my life, and for everything they are to me
Everytime i overthink something, one of your videos pop up and it helps lol. Like maybe i do just need to stay single. Even though i have never been in one before.
I feel fine being single, when valentines came this year i didn't felt lonely or sad, i spent time with my friends and just enjoyed the things that make me happy, i'm not insecure about my appearance, i know that i have things to work on to be a better person but i love affection just as everyone else, i'm just not desperate to get it fast (Remember the fast way it's not always the best way), i want things to flow naturally and i really want to feel that i'm really attracted to the person im supposed to be in love with and i want to make sure that person feels the same way with me.
It's nice to have someone to share your life with and sometimes even a little necessary to have an special connection with somebody when things get rough, but being single is cool as well, you have a lot of time to spent on discovering yourself and grinding good habits and fixing problems to become a better human, at least that's my perspective, so to anyone who feels frustrated out there, this is my advice: Stop worrying about it and just enjoy life, persue your goals, don't depend just on love from other people to be happy.
Love yourself first before wanting to love someone else :)
Thank you Psych2go! I'm single and I loved watching this on Valentine's day! I made raspberry white chocolate brownies for this special day raspberries to celebrate this red themed occasion:)
This was very helpful, thank you
single for 7 years. after such a long time, i really dont have time to focus on that anymore. if it will happen, it will. if not, then not. what matters, is that i have my freedom and can dissapear for month or two and no one will disturb my peace during that time:)
46 yr old female, happily single
Damn you were waiting to drop this vid huh lmao
But in all seriousness. We gotta love ourselves, TAKE CARE of ourselves, stay fit, and stay healthy
My singleness is slowly killing me. I’m surprised I’m even still here with how my life is spiraling downhill
Sending you love ❤️
I feel your pain lol
Same
Thank you, Psych2go! ☺️ This is extremely helpful, relatable, and inspiring. 😄🐢
Thank you for joining early! Hope this video helps you!
It's great! Thank you. 😄
I wish I saw this when it first came out. I needed this. It makes me feel better. Thank you
Happy Valentines Day! A single guy here and i just wanted to remind all of you that some of the best love you can feel is your love and that you dont need anybody to assure you. Love you all and have a wonderful Valentine!
Lovely comment ❤
Is it a bad thing that my life goals and dreams are currently overriding my will to start a relationship?
It is good to have a stable foundation ready for when you are in a relationship because you don't want to go into one because you are unstable and unhappy but don't let your goals keep you from ever having a relationship or neglecting one if you get one. That is if you want one in the first place which I'm going to assume you do.
Psych2go viewers trying to cope after watching this video : challenge level IMPOSSIBLE😂
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I'm contemplating if i even want a partner, i dont want to lose my peace and freedom ❤
I loved the sly little Steven Universe reference. I just finished rewatching 😆
this is the right length of vid and its prospectives are from multible sides , i like !
I absolutely love my single freedom status. I am happy for my friends who are in relationships and decided to be glued to their partners. That means I can game while listening to music in peace, while I miss those friends....I'm also glad that they've ditched me for their partner and i hope they remain distant
I've tried dating for about 6 years, and honestly thinking I'm too emotional fragile for a relationship. One bit of criticism and I get embarrassed and withdrawn.
A very considerate video 👏
I want a relationship, but I'm not ready for it.
I always thought that I was making bad choices, and I did cause I'm not ready. So, I decided to live my life while coming in terms with that notion and who knows, maybe I'll meet someone during my 20s or later. I know I'm not going to be left out - why I know that? Plenty of times I thought of giving up, but something in me refused to give up. Hope? Determination? Desperation? I'm not sure, I'll find out if I keep going. And I advise everyone to keep going or else they'd self-fulfill a fate unworthy of them.
Thank you Psych2Go.. I am learning being "single" does not mean you are "lonely".
You are 100%! Being single doesn't mean you're lonely.
I love this video very special & important.
I can say friends being coupled up isn't my business, so nothing to be jealous of. Im more grateful they're happy. Only problem is people moaning about their relationship. I don't moan about my inner peace and freedom, so hearing about mundane drama goes over my head. I've been single for nearly 10 years. I save money, no being made to feel guilt, no nagging. I do as i please, and cant complain tbh.
I'm so painfully forever single, I don't even get the "So when are you getting married?" Everyone knows it ain't happening. Even people I don't know.
I’m a 34yo man and I’ve just never had the internal drive for romantic attention. I thought I did, but it turns out I just liked flattery lol. Once things take a markedly romantic turn, it just feels unnatural to me, even when I’ve been friends with the person for a while before. Single’s just my natural state and once I realized that, I got a huge feeling of relief.
But the annoying part about it is the complete lack of understanding from others. Saying you don’t ever have a significant other is like saying you don’t eat food to some folks. I talk about it and get the “don’t worry, you’ll find someone” and I’m like “I wasn’t describing a problem, dawg” lmao
31 years of this but luckily don't have many friends
this channel has become cosmo mixed with lifetime
0:48 at least cat is loyal no matter what
I'm a pretty social person, but I like to keep my social circle small and manageable. I think I'm a "social introvert" where I crave interaction, but I do enjoy alone time. That said, a lot of my friends have gotten into relationships and moved on from me and it's becoming more and more lonely as the years go by and while being single is nice, I do want that kind of relationship in my life. I don't come across friends very easily, much less girl friends, so getting to know someone on such a level that I can see them as a girlfriend is next to impossible to me right now. Also, I wish people would set me up on blind-dates, at least I'd be trying people out. Oh well, I'm nothing if not patient.
Me: realizing I'd rather support my friends or even my crush in a relationship as if they're a ship than being in one myself. Tried twice and dislike how I was seen just as a means to satisfy the others' desire. I stood up for myself, said no and left. 😊
Ive never been set up on a blind date and been told i will never get a girlfriend/be married
I've never experienced anything but being single. Loner for life I suppose
Don’t actually have any choice in the matter, it is what it is
Thank you Psych2Go this was very eye opening 🌹💚 I have been misurable about being single for a while and dating is really hard. But this helps me embrace being single and the benefits of it! ☺️
I made the choice to be single like 17 years ago. I never had a problem with #1or#2 PDA doesn't bother me either. Most of my friends chose to be stay single as well. I used to be pressured. If I ever get lonely I just go to a couplea house who argue all the time and it reminds me of why I chose to be single and stay that way.
I am single by choice, 19 years old and I don't really mind it. Sure it would be nice to have a gf, but if I want one just to not feel lonely or something like that is not really good for you nor her. I had girls that wanted to be with me but they weren't really my type. Just focus on yourself, work and strive for power, and right girl will come to you at exact time you are ready to have one.
I have been single for the past 3 and a half years and overall im cool with it all my friends are in relationships and I don’t envy them personally I would lose myself life is just more simple now. Im taking my time may look into dating in a few more years.
I’ve always felt like I wasn’t made for relationships.
Getting uncomfortable with public demonstrations of affection ( although I was happily raised by a loving & caring family ) , constantly struggling to maintain relationships mostly for getting not emotionally available partners or for feeling drained on the most “emotionally stable “ ones got me feeling a great part of my life that I was asexual because of the lack of interest, intimacy & the restraining ties that a proper couple means.
The truth is I just simply enjoy myself more than being with someone. It’s not that I’m not made for love , but the way I love others is more effective & nourishing when I have time to focus on myself to than attend other people’s needs ❤. People say “ the right one will come someday “
But what if he doesn’t? Maybe I am the one for me , it’s just as simple as that. after all who can love me better than me ? Who can take care better , who can understand me better ?
Answer: the one who has always been there ❤
( this is not a selfish “ me ,me, me “ pep talk , it’s more like a reflection or reminder that life isn’t always the same path for everyone, you can still celebrate Valentine’s Day ,support your friends at the pride parade or enjoy weddings or things like that in this not so single world , everytime you give your best & put your heart and soul on things you’re already Loving ❤
Every time someone shows you grace , consideration,compassion ,kindness , support , loyalty, affirmation or simply admiration you’re being Loved ❤️
I decided to stay "Single", but I still have a kind of valentine or significant other.I decided to stay single to develope myself freely and being able to love home freely, without the need of searching for a replacement. He currently can not feel the same and that's actually fine, because somehow we are still very close and something is slowly developing. It simply needs more time than the casual dating. The funny thing is, I am so happy and satisfied with that^^
Everybody in love and i'm falling behind. I don't even think that single is a good thing for me, anyways Happy Valentine!!🎉🎉💘💘
Hello, I am a socially ignorant Autistic. My interactions are all difficult. These videos collectively have given me the knowledge to proceed socially correctly, and without the wanted support of friends, who just stand by and laugh. Many thanks for the knowledge base, which now allows me to successfully navigate the female forest I walk daily.
Yeah I relate to some of them that’s okay I’m happily single that’s wonderful thing.
As someone who’s single and who desperately wants a girlfriend thank you for making this video
I’m currently 20 and living in a small town, it’s very depressing and I fear that once I’m done collage I may not get another opportunity to meet a girl that I like. I’m hoping once I’m done collage I will be able to move to a big city and will have a better chance to meet girls and for a romantic relationship with one.
Just a heads up: I'm nearly 40 and believe me, after college things may not necessarily change for the better, even in a big(ger) city.
I am one such man who this has happened to, life just gets more crowded and smaller, ironically enough.
I love being single ❤️✨💅 The positive sides I can all relate to very well. It's life on easy mode and life is hard enough as it is already.
I've never wanted to be single. Me being single is just second-nature to me.
Thanks for meaningful and valuable video as always ❤❤❤
I’m single not by choice, but in my world we get married. No one came and asked I have come to terms with it. Being single can be fun.
It’s nice but can be lonely when you’re involuntarily single.
being single "CAN BE" a good thing? it truly "IS".
I've come the conclusion that dating makes anxious, stressed, weird and uncomfortable in general. And I realised being single is more natural for me. Also, I can like as many guys as I want (even tho some don't even know I exist or they don't exist 😅)
I was upset knowing I was single, but it helped me. Thanks a lot! ❤
You're welcome 😊 Thanks for watching and supporting our work!
@sofivieira740 Cope lol
From my experience, the average person has a very very narrow understanding of life and how to live it. They act like this cause they are incapable of thinking or conceiving a life lived in a different way than they think it should be. Since so many people think having children is the meaning of life, sort of a natural thing to also put as much emphasis on romantic relationships as they do. Then again, allot of effort has been made to "encourage" people to breed. That doesn't really help others that don't care that much.
9:44 Single and not looking, I just don't want to have a partner when I feel like I have way too much "personal baggage" with me, can't say I want to dump that stuff onto someone else. Maybe if I could deal with that, maybe.
I've experienced in relationship but i broke up so early bcause i don't know what to do together. I was 14 back then (frontal lobe wasn't well developed yet lol). He is so kind, i hurt his feeling even he said he's okay. Now I'm 27 made me realised, my situation is like, right person wrong time. Now that guy already engaged with beautiful and talented girl. I definitely no match with her. He deserved girl like her after all. I'm so happy for them, he found his happiness.
For me, i haven't think to get a partner yet. Got a lot of commitment, and so much thing to deal with. I guess i already comfortable being single. (i hope my mom won't see this 🤣)
I just to need to remember that I do not need to explain my no when rejecting romantic relationships that I do not want or need to be in. Just boundaries when people have problem with me being single, especially my narcissistic mother and sister.
For me I’ve been single for most of my life, twice I try to be in a relationship but both times the woman I was dating felt they would be better off going back to what they were used to, being disrespected, being belittled, going through physical & emotional abuse, treated like they have no value
I always believed in treating a woman like a queen, but I guess in this day and age most women want to be with a thug
I’m now 60 years old & I absolutely have no self esteem left
I just have to accept that I’m going to die alone, no marriage, no kids
I guess god wanted to be this way……
The PDA thing: when I was in relationships and hanging out with single friend(s), I never PDA’ed so I don’t make my friends feel awkward. When we hang out as friends, everyone is just friends in a friendly setting.
Hello fellow introverts 👋 😅
❤❤ The first part of animation is extremly cute! adorable❤❤❤ I want to hug. I am a chronic single. Some part is due to insecure attachment style, some is because of insecurities, some is derived from bad experiences... I hope to blossom more following year as a single person
I have the opposite problem. I WANTED to be in a relationship but everyone told me I don't NEED a relationship. I complained about never having a relationship at 25, and next month I'm turning 34. My only date since college was when I was 31 :(
im really only single because i dont really talk to many people and vise versa but yeah i feel most of the first few things in this comp and honestly i think its so stupid but it still hurts a lot and i honestly dont really know why cause im fine with being single and honestly i like being single cause that allows me to have my alone time which to me is insanely important
Interesting, and a great vid. On top, you released this 10 minutes after Aperture uploaded the same themed vid
I'm a single Pringle this year and I'm making Valentines for my friends and having treats with my family! Valentine's Day doesn't have to be sad if you're alone romantically
100% agree with you! Loved your perspective. It doesn't have to be romantic with a partner. You can have valentine's by yourself, with family or even friends!
Single life: Where the only committed relationship you have is one with your own solitude.
I relate to many of these points.
I am single for 1 year and have double feelings. If I see my friends having a relationship for years of even gonna get married. At the end of the day being alone missing someone to cuddle with love. I am thankful for my friends and mom get love. But missing the love love.
I am thinking starting dating but scared of online platforms with as good and bad experiences. And with my mental illnesses and situation It is more difficult finding someone who accept me.
I’ve never been in a relationship and I’m a complete hopeless romantic. But at the same time I’m a little scared of being in a relationship. So I want one but I don’t want one. I’ve thought about all the points made in this video many times though. So I’ve just been waiting…and trying not to think about it 😅
@Psych2go Thanks to put up on these videos..these are very informative and awareness seeking things people should know..
Keep making such videos on Psychology and stuffs
Lots of love 💖 from India
Thank you for your kind words and support!
Yep sometimes it's hard in relationship not much freedom not can't save money for yourself loses friends can't do much with friends
5:00 so if I should wait and I've never been anyone, how will it know?
Quit trying to guilt-trip me. I'm tired of being single.
exactly, this video is just a one sided agenda to make single people feel complacent.
single = peace
YOUR VOICE IS SO COMFORTING
Every time i feel lonely i look at toxic relationships and failed marriages. (Divorce rate is 80%) and my solitude and freedom is what i should be proud for
All humans crave a real connection.
That's our natural role.
Being an aromantic, the title is reassuring