Answering YOUR Questions About Dating! (feat. My Boyfriend!)
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Today's video is all about YOUR dating questions! We had so many we couldn't get to them all, but if you want to see a part two let us know!
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Why ‘the religious hippie?’
It was a nickname my friends gave me when I was in highschool because I dressed like a hippie and was a ‘wild child’, when I came back into my faith they thought ‘the religious hippie’ was now a more appropriate nickname and it stuck!
How old are you? Currently 24, my birthday is April 8th.
Who is your favorite saint? Saint Francis of Assisi
Where do you live? Chicago
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0:00 Intro
0:43 Max Introduces Himself
1:02 Is It A Sin to Date a Protestant?
6:00 Red Flags in Women?
8:16 Max Bullies Amber's Followers
8:21 What to Assess While Dating?
9:14 Be Friends First?
10:23 What to Go Over on First Date?
12:45 Is Attraction Necessary?
13:08 Posting Photos?
14:08 "Talking" vs. Dating?
15:08 Unrealistic Standards?
16:58 Dating Time Before Marriage?
17:44 Prioritize God or S/O?
18:16 How Far Can You Go Before Marriage?
19:46 Conclusion - บันเทิง
I (Protestant) started dating my Catholic boyfriend last year. I was always pro life and against contraception and we had a lot of similar world views. God ended up speaking to me through this and now I’m on the journey to join the church! My parents are not on board but it’s been such a peaceful experience and I can’t wait to be Catholic!
So so amazing! Congratulations 🥹
Welcome home! May God bless you both dearly and family to come!
wooow, welcome to the family !!
Welcome to the one true Church and may God bless you and your boyfriend and future husband if God wills, and have a blessed day!
Max should definitely be in more videos, it’s really refreshing to listen to more young men in the faith. Especially how bad culture is.
I agree! Awesome content from both of them
I love seeing healthy, Catholic, traditional relationships like this! You set a very good example for us young people!
They are such a fantastic couple! I hope Max appears in future videos!!!
My Fiancé became Catholic in Easter and we plan to get Married next October. We talked many times about the Faith, now she is a practicing Catholic ❤️
Love this kind of content as a single Catholic woman. Keep it coming! Happy for you both :)
The day definitely goes before the month 😂😂😂😂. Great advice all around and CONGRATULATIONS on your engagement 💍! May God bless both of you on your journey to and through marriage...🎉
What does the expression “the day goes before the month” mean?
when stating a date you can say day, month, year, like 25/09/2023, 25th September 2023, or month, day year, like 09/25/2023, 25th September 2023. Basically its two ways of expressing a date. In the US they use the second usually, while the rest of the world commonly uses the first way.
Lovely to see young, healthy Catholic couples. Fills me with much hope about the future :)
Amber, I think we both ended our romantic mixed faith relationships around the same time & are now in healthy Catholic relationships. Everything you said is spot on!
The day goes before the month for sure!! You and max are so sweet together and your personalities seem to match up so well. It’s refreshing hearing his opinions. Congrats on your engagement ♥️
Yesterday my family and I celebrated my sister getting engaged! She was proposed to at a newly-built church in Omaha that's getting consecrated next week and they are hoping to get married in that same church next year. They met through their Newman center at college, so their relationship was faith-based from the beginning. Such a beautiful moment, that proposal. This vid was so great, always love seeing Max. Also- love the mugs and rosaries, but really wishing you had a merch hoodie!! I'd 100% buy a religious hippie hoodie right now. Best Catholic channel ever!
Great advice that I don’t think enough people think about when going into a relationship. Also I think Max’s warning about the “checklist” is not to be overlooked. Two married Catholics will have a lifetime to get thru, early in my marriage child loss caused me to fall away from the church for a while and I technically no longer checked those precious boxes off any more. My husband’s true love was there for me the whole time. I wish someone would have given me the length of dating advice you did, that is spot on. ❤
Lovely video from young faithful Catholics. I will definitely share with young people who are starting to date. ☺️. Thanks for sharing your faith so boldly.
Max should be in future videos!
Absolutely, the day goes before the month. First time I've seen your channel.
I am 47 and struggling with dating. I have a stable job, a nice truck, and am mildly attractive. But, when I made the decision to look for a woman of faith. That's where the struggle comes in. It's like being a faithful, loving Christian is just not cool to most people. I will never again allow my faith to be 2nd in my life. Relationships between people can come and go. However, Christ is always with us.
I’ve followed you on instagram for awhile but I recently discovered your TH-cam account, let me just say you have taught me so many new things about the Catholic faith! I’m a Catholic myself and there were so many things I did not know before watching your videos! Keep up the work, i really enjoy watching your videos!
Im so glad they've helped!! Thank you for the support :)) God bless you
Awesome to see these for young people. Im showing these to my kids when they get into dating
Thank you so much for this video! God bless y'all !
Love you guys!! This gave me lots of things to think about
Excellent video Max and Amber, I definitely see a future with the both of you together. God bless you both.
I look forward to the day when you’re planning your wedding! I wanted my wedding to be as traditional as possible, and as far as I knew it was. But that was before I knew anything about the TLM. I wonder what my wedding would have been like if we had a TLM wedding.
Hey congratulations guys. I'll keep you in my prayers 🙏
love your bond together and thank you for your advice
Y'all are a great couple. I love that you did this video for those out there who are in the dating world. I've been happily married 16 years. I strongly agree with your thoughts on timeline. We got engaged after 9 months. You should know by a year if you want to marry the person you're with. If you don't know, it's time to go!
This was so helpful, would love to see more! ❤
Aww happy for you!🥰❤ Would love part 2 ^_^
This was really helpful! I would love more videos of you two . God bless!
Cute couple with burgeoning senses of Faith. But as a married man of 24 years I have to say their advice lacks substance beyond a rote reading of the catechism. The takeaway message is, check your pride and refrain from giving advice on matters (marriage) you haven't experienced.
Great advice! I'm glad you found a traditional partner, God bless.
You 2 are so cute together. I m praying for you both ❤️❤️
God bless you both , i wish you the best in this God given life 🙏🏻✝
Worth sharing for young couples 👍🙏❤️
Sup Amber, have a blessed Easter Week.❤️🐇
Great to see you two together, love seeing young healthy catholic couples, it's not that common
I would love if you could recommended a few books. I’m a Catholic but I’m feeling drawn to learn more about different saints or maybe how to be the best catholic we can etc and just learn more. Appreciate your videos and you sharing your story so much!! ❤️
I would love to recommend St. THERESE and St. FAUSTINA's diaries 🥺🤍
Max is awesome, I agree with some of the other commenters, having a guy’s perspective is awesome. Would be interested to see more of him and a part 2! Either way, great video 🥳
Regarding if men should just ask girls out or be friends first, I think it’s important to say that not being clear with your intentions can unnecessarily complicate things. Obviously it all depends on how people communicate with each other, but most people don’t do it perfectly, so if a guy is interested in a woman, but just asks if they get together just as friends, it seems to communicate that friendship is the only thing on the table. Ideally, you can get to know someone better in a group setting, then make the move for a solo date (not in front of everyone, of course lol). Overall, it’s kind of circumstantial (I say that both as an opinion as well as personal experience)
Seed oils! Lol sounds like you are red pilled bro! Love it!
I hope you two stick it out, you are awesome together.
Great channel thanks guys.
needed this video!
What about a Protestant couple married for 30 years and one converts to Catholicism?? And resources that you could recommend? Thanks for the Great video!!!
An honor and joy it is to meet Max!! :D
Never been interested in romance or relationships, neither of which I personally see in a good light, but for the bonds and marriages that are truly everlasting, where couples stay true to their marriage vows and never betraying one another, God bless y'all! That definitely includes you and Max, Amber! ^^
Yes! The day does go before the month 😄🎉👍!
God Bless you both!
Great couple. I wish I could get my son to watch this
Interesting. I agree with you on almost everything. But in reality my life has been different. My wife is Lutheran and I am Catholic. We have been married for 45 years. Not really disagreeing with you guys, just saying every relationship is unique.
Please have him in more videos!
God bless you Max and Amber 🙏
Please consider chatting with Emily Wilson Hussem about marriage prep?
Thanks for sharing these nuggets of gold!! What are thoughts in terms of Catholic speed dating events? I've been on the fence as it's going on a date with multiple men all in one night, not to knock people that have found the one this way!
Do a part 2 please
Hi, Amber! Thanks for sharing this video! I watched the whole thing and it’s very blessed. I have a question though as a young Catholic girl and I don’t really have any “Catholic” mentors, but my question is do you read the Bible? Yep that’s all really. Thank you! 🧡 May God bless your relationship!
Agree with what you said as a general rule/in principle for when different denominations are dating (as long as Christian). My fiance is a fundamentalist Evangelical (not from a mega church or anything, we're Europeans & nationalists, not American) and we've never had any problems, he's a confessor and the best Christian I've met who follows God. We pray together, read the Bible together, have been through a lot. I used to think the Bible's were different (as that's what I had heard/been told), until we read together, and there were almost no issues. We learn so much and love God.
I joined a Catholic dating site when I was trying "dating" as I thought if I was going to search then it should be a close as possible for the same reasons you stated, in my specific case God blessed me in a way I didn't expect/plan, we're created for each other and true love exists, we will go to church together and have discussed everything. He's defending all Christianity, including Catholicism (better than I've seen from some Catholics), so you're correct that he doesn't "tolerate" it, he supports it, as I do him, before we met he had read the catechism to learn more and mentioned it early on and his comments were "it was well written and Biblical".
In general of course it's best to stick as close as possible, our situation is unique, we're perfect for each other and it is in line with God's will [because of that we agree on everything important, have the same worldview, and talk about everything, so there are zero issues and will be no issues, not from us/within, we care about renewing Christendom]... for most people where true love isn't present, which is the vast majority of the population, where a nice love can grow overtime and you can still live happily, and it's more about finding "a" person rather than "the" person, then of course go for the closest thing possible in everything (we're on the same page on almost everything, but like I said our situation is unique, everyone is different, so better to reduce potential conflicts). I agree with what you said, the man has to be knowledgeable and the leader. In our case, he is the head and spiritual leader, and has answers to my questions, and I talk to him about good sermons I've heard that I know we'd both like, interesting things from my missal (I attend TLM), and he is happy, in the same way he introduces interesting Christian things for me to listen to, has answers to my questions about so many topics and the defence of Christianity (his IQ is >170 (mine is 140), he's very intelligent, decisive, masculine and faithful, I can relax/trust) including the Church. Like I said we talk about everything. For me, I'm happy true love exists and God has blessed me with it in this life on earth. I agree about prayer/discernment, God will make it clear, He did for us.
Good luck to you both, blessings :)
Edit: agreed relationship comes before others, e.g. I also learned that in general men and women can't be "just friends", I thought I had friends, but they were hoping for something more, which eventually became clear due to trying to sabotage and make romantic attempts (btw, I've always been devout catholic, am a virgin, so when I say romantic attempts, I mean in a courting manner). My fiance had the same thing in the principle of women around him wanted something more (in his cases they weren't honourable to put it mildly). So in our case, we just don't have friends of the opposite sex. Honestly before boomers this was normal, if you had friends of opposite sex they were mutual ones from your spouse, that's how it was in our grandparents time.
Also perhaps I haven't had enough experiences, but I don't have any issues with rad trads... I don't think anyone needs to run from anything, it's good if they're taking their faith seriously (I don't think they think women aren't people are that's not Christian, so perhaps it's just some online troll accounts you guys might be thinking about).
Max is right, the day does go before the month.
What definition of hippie are we using here?
8:09 hahaha that's so true, definitely a red flag🤣, great video guys!
You guys make a nice couple
Hi Amber and Max! I have a question for you. I am a highschool sophomore. I am homeschooled and have really liked this guy in my homeschool group for more than a year. Idk how he feels about me but we have a lot in common and I get along with him. How do I cultivate a friendship with him so that (if we are compatible) we could date later in life? I don't want to seem like I'm initiating a romantic relationship (I think that's the guy's responsibility) I just want to make friends with him. Also he's confident but pretty introverted and idk if I'm talking too much or too little when we have conversations.
Hiiii olivia maybe I’m not answering your question but Here is a poem, and I hope it strikes you as much as it did me~
"Be Satisfied with Me" by St. Anthony of Padua:
"Everyone longs to give themselves completely to someone,
To have a deep soul relationship with another, To be loved thoroughly and exclusively.
But to a Christian, God says, "No, not until you are satisfied,
Fulfilled and content with being loved by Me alone, With giving yourself totally and unreservedly to Me, With having an intensely personal and unique relationship with Me alone.
Discovering that only in Me is your satisfaction to be found,
Will you be capable of the perfect human relationship
That I have planned for you.
You will never be united to another
Until you are united with Me.
Exclusive of anyone or anything else.
Exclusive of any other desires or longings.
I want you to stop planning, to stop wishing, and allow Me to give you
The most thrilling plan existing . .. one you cannot imagine.
Blessings for your and your family May Christ love surrounds you
Speaking as a guy, if he’s taking the time to continually talk with you then he’s probably interested. Me personally, I only have lengthy conversations with women whom I find attractive.
On the other hand, if he’s introverted, then him talking to you might be a sign that he’s not interested in you. As an introvert myself, I find myself not often approaching women who I find attractive. I usually wait for them to initiate conversation with me, and once they do, it’s super easy for me to talk to them. (This route has left me single for quite some time though) There were times when I did approach but, it took me having to work up some serious courage. But, as an introvert, I have no issue at all conversing with women who I don’t find attractive, so maybe he doesn’t find you attractive if it’s easy for him to talk with you.
My advice is to try and initiate a bit of romance, test the waters (cause if he’s introverted he probably won’t test them). I know you said you feel like it’s the guy’s job to do that but, if you want him to initiate something, then you have to give him some material. Think of it this way. You have to make yourself as much of a pile of dead leaves, sticks, and moss as possible but, still leave it up to him to start the actual friction to cause the fire.
Beautiful couple! Thanks for dishing out the great advise!
17:22 I respectfully disagree with that time frame. I think you know if you want to marry someone by the 6 month mark. If you don’t know by then it’s most likely a no and you are just wasting each others time.
This isn’t to say you should be engaged by then but engagement should be in the horizon.
When did you announce your engagement?? Did I miss it??
I converted to Catholicism recently and was accepted into the Church on Easter Vigil! God chastised me before I converted. I was saved by the Grace of God and I kept my virginity in tact 😊. I'm 23 currently, I'm asking others' opinions. What are the chances I could find a virgin near my age, in this modernistic culture/age?
Late to the party, but here we are! ☺️ You can find someone. I met my husband at 23, married him at 26, and gave him my virginity on our honeymoon. He wasn’t a virgin, but I was willing to accept his past. I don’t blame him for the person he was before he met me and came to know God (he wasn’t raised with religion). He’s in RCIA now (we’ve been trying to get him in a program for years, but things were complicated by COVID), and he wants to be a deacon when he’s old enough. He’s truly the man of faith I had asked God to send me. I say all this to dispel the notion that a repentant non-virgin and a virgin are always unequally yoked. Some of our greatest saints had very sinful pasts before being utterly transformed by God’s grace. St. Augustine comes to mind, as does Servant of God Dorothy Day.
If you want to find a faithful Catholic wife, you need to become a faithful Catholic man. Frequent the sacraments, pray fervently and frequently, become involved in your parish, and maybe join a Catholic dating site.
Best of luck to you and God bless!
I have a family member that got into a relationship with a guy that is non believing not sure about the specifics never asked She is catholic(roman) and they are married and it's going great it's already been 6 years and they have a kid. I do not discourage such relationships although I know that it really depend on a couple and an individual as to what works.
Your boyfriend has a great name.
Chad
I wish I heard the advice on dating inside our Faith younger.
I cannot agree more with this advice. I lost 10 years of my life because I was trying to conform to the world and had a false idea of what love is.
I cannot warn you enough, start with God (Catholic) everything else comes next. Cheers
Amen👏 God has a plan for you, but absolutely date within the fairh and make it easier
i had a girlfriend for 5 and 1/2 she was apostolic pentecosal
Have you ever attended a Divine Liturgy? Loveeee the vids girl ! peace from a Serb in Canada,, god bless
Orthodox liturgy *
❤
This is so cool. I always see Prots do this but never Catholics
Max reminds me of a very young Bono of the band U2 from 1981. Is Max Irish? Also, good video thank you.
Dear Religious Hippie and Boyfriend, How common are toxic trads in the Catholic trad world would you estimate?
you both need to make video together.
Do you read any special literature for marriage preparation?
I think about Theology of the Body by St. John Paul II.
Three to Get Married by Ven. Archbishop Fulton Sheen
Max is a certified chad, great advice!
Hates seed oils. Certified indeed
Max got himself a 💎
It’s not a man’s “role” to lead you spiritually. Women are perfectly capable of leading their own spiritual lives.
Approved
My God he's so charming
in a lasting relationship
pride and vanity must be put aside
then of course values such as loyalty respect is a stable job (husband and wife have to work)
many components create a strong and stable relationship! ❤❤❤❤
My personal belief is posting on social media is a privacy concern. Additionally, it can impact future or present job opportunities if your partner (let us say, at a bar) takes your picture at a bar when you have not had a drink. Moreover, it's potentially dangerous as people can track your location based on social media posts. Some people enjoy their privacy to a greater degree than others. :)
Wow your boyfriend looks like Hyunjin from Stray Kids!
08:10 Why would there be a problem if your partner were vegan?
19:58 funfact: in Europe (except English speaking countries) the day always comes before the month. I was so confused when I learned that in English it's the other way around 😂
Oh that’s what that’s referring to😂
@@zach415 Hahahah I'm not sure either. Just made a confident guess 😂
Hey, speaking as an Irish person (Ireland is an English-speaking country) who consumes a lot of British media, all of Europe puts the day before the month..I’m not sure where you heard that the English-speaking countries were the exception..it’s unusual to hear anyone say it the American way here 😅 Anyway, God bless!
@@Claire905 As a non-European who also comes from an English speaking country the day also comes first for us. I think it's an American thing but I could be wrong.
And except Hungary: today is 2023.04.15., so first year, month, and then day.
1:20 and then there's me, a confused prottie, I have been considering either Catholicism or Orthodoxy but can't come to a conclusion yet, I'm okay with most of Catholic theology except Papal supremacy.
Believe me, it doesn't matter how physically attractive a girl is, after a few years looks fade and normalcy sets in. A good marriage can never be based on looks. I really feel this is why so many marriage fail; people think getting used to someone's looks means you've fallen out of love. In reality, a good marriage is like a garden, you have to work on it daily but it's so worthwhile and much deeper in meaning over the years. If high school dating taught me anything it's that a bad attitude can make the prettiest girl your dating unattractive. I put a lot of value in how a woman cares for herself, grooms, personal hygiene etc. but just being a pretty girl means very little to me as a 23 year old guy now, especially as someone who's become devout in my Catholicism and not looking flings
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO
I think he could talk more.......just saying don't hate me
The two of you are delightful together. This tandem video format is definitely something you should pursue. Just be careful with the “man leading” concept, in that an important part of a successful “two become one” experience is understanding when you do not have the skillset for a given aspect of family life. For instance, if financial matters were left solely up to me as the biblically de facto leader? Hooooooo, boy! My wife has an accounting degree and worked as an auditor. I took “Math for Liberal Arts Majors” as a Communications undergrad and live my professional life in the world of words. I do NOT play with the money. If the man-of-the-house in our house were to sit down and do the monthly books (like the guys in old black-and-white sitcoms), we’d be in sorry shape. 🙂
Absolutely agree! Thank you for sharing this!
Seed oils are bad, and DD-MM-YYYY (and YYYY-MM-DD) is better than MM-DD-YYYY. Max gets it.
Please interview Dr. Ed Mazza. He’s awesome, he’s full of Catholic awesome, Christian awesome. :) Loves Jesus awesome. Sits with Jesus ✨⚪️ awesome. Prays the rosary awesome. I better stop now in case TH-cam starts charging me for every time I mention awesome 👀 lol
You guys are like a little pair of angel twins turtle dove love pigeons...
Has anyone told you that you kind of look like Lily-Rose and also that you both have Rose in your names? lol
Hey, Amber, do you recommend to not have a relationship before being ready to Marry to not commit fornication?
Yes, that is generally recommended
@@BiblicalBookworm what about if you are not ready to have a relationship when you'll be older because you didn't have any before? Like you are not prepared or something
@@Marioxs-bk7nc you don’t need to practice dating. I am my fiancés first relationship and he didn’t have any “practice”. I love that he wasn’t tainted by any previous relationship damage. It’s fun learning and growing together.
Matt is based for saying this 11:16
Max*
@@renee187 I’m so sorry 🤣
@@catholicgabe2876 haha 😆
@@renee187 Wait...is this him!? like the man himself??
Thanks to god. Jesus don't want to me marry someone. No girl loved me yet
”If They are vegan” 😂❤❤❤
What Type of Catholics are you guys Amber? SSPX, TLM, Sedavacantist, ect
How do you know? Did she make a vid on it or something?
@Nicholas Hernandez SSPX is a schismatic group. I think they should be brought back into the one true holy catholic church, and be able to celebrate the TLM in communion with the one true church, but currently they are schismatics, why not just go to a real catholic TLM instead of an off brand schismatic one?
How we call people who ain't follow pope, bishops, priest catholic?
I take it she's not FSSP either then aye?
@@michaelryan3960 Why would the Pope give a schismatic Priest facilities to hear confession and celebrate marriages, which they do within the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass, which he has not revoked as of yet. The SSPX are not in schism!
Amazing video guys love the chemistry you have and the shared faith of the Lord, but there was a part of the video that you said that you could go to confession together, it is actually not allowed by the Church to go with another person to confession it should be you and the priest ONLY and going with someone else violates that. This is no hate just to give you two a bit of guidance in this area. Love you both❤️
I think you misunderstood what we meant. It is only one of us and a priest, but we drive together, support each other, and stand in line together.
If a woman is not willing to be a stay at home mom, that can (and I think should) absolutely be a dealbreaker.
Yes. Which is why those discussions have to be talked about early.