This is a really great podcast. I really feel like the love in Titanic was much more dynamic than how it was shared. Titanic was about her falling in love with herself, discovering her authenticity, sexuality, and living life with what brings her joy. She was only given the window to see that through her brief relationship with Jack. Then, literally, My heart will go on. She moved forward and built a beautiful life. She wasn't pining over him for her whole life.
Funny, I watched that (only for the second time) last week, and I read this today. I was watching the movie with very experienced eyes, compared to the first time I was it, when i was very young and naive. I was thinking about just how their relationship might have played out had the Titanic not sunk, and it was fast and fierce, and I wondered if it would have lasted.
13:56-14:23 I was surprised to hear that some people choose partners based on how they make them look rather than true compatibility and feeling at home with someone. But then, I remembered my therapist telling me that more than 50% of marriages are unhappy-people don’t feel like they’re with their true partner. It hit close to home because I almost became part of that statistic. My first real relationship wasn’t in high school or college but as an adult. I was thrilled that a guy liked me back and even wanted to marry me. I thought I’d finally found "the one". But the relationship was emotionally abusive, and the stress made me physically ill. Despite all of this, I couldn’t bring myself to leave. I needed someone else to step in and help me because I believed that being with someone-anyone-meant I was finally good enough, that I was worth loving. It's heartbreaking to think how many of us have settled or are settling because we’ve been convinced that any love is better than being alone. But we are worthy more than just "good enough"' We are to feel safe, loved, and truly at home with someone.
I'm in a new relationship, I've known the guy over 20 years. The new dating scene is different, even though I've known this guy this long, I know him a small bit, he surprises me all the time. Ways we show love to each other, not crossing important boundaries, and everyday life. He doesn't know everything about me, and I don't know everything about him. I also thank and acknowledge the things he does that makes me feel special. Guys love those things.
i've definitely thought the great qualities of an ex was normal and later found out that those qualities really arent normal. that's why i think it's important for a long term relationship to have space within it in order to get back that appreciation for each other's intricacies
The very first point in the video spoke volumes. I take my husbands kindness and sweetness for granted. I am more romantic and live life with passion and I want him to be more like me. This was an important reminder that I have much to be grateful for. We have 25 years in marriage and I want it to be for life. Thank you.
The second half of this video was gold. I realised that I have been getting better at setting my boundaries with men and communicating it better now when in the past I used to ghost. I love hearing Matthew and all his great advice. It's helped me more than anything
My beautiful 50+ yo cousin met a woman hiking who introduced her to her single brother. They have been happily married for years and have an adopted son. ✨💖✨
The notion of a flawless marriage or relationship is a myth. There's no set formula for success; what works for one couple may not work for another. Yet, I've discovered that there's always a way forward, even in the most challenging times. Five years ago, my wife and I encountered significant hurdles in our marriage that nearly led to divorce. Despite the adversity, we managed to weather the storm and emerge from it with our bond renewed and revitalised.
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things.
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white
Nice video!." My five year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, but I really miss him,"
It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him.
I’m 51 and single I’ve been single for 12yrs too scared to get involved with anyone ever again… and I romanticise the idea of a relationship but I’ve never had a healthy one. So I avoid people all together and i know I’m missing out of a life a deserve but I know that finding someone is now slipping away because the longer I’m single and peaceful ❤ I choose my peace and my families peace, over the loneliness and the complex trauma, we are trying to recover from and I’m not throwing trauma into the conversation lightly we’ve been hideously mentally and physically abused by my longterm partner my children were removed from His care by the police when they were teenagers we’ve suffered a life that no one should ever have to I feel so sorry for my kids… people change and you can’t escape… so as much as I’d love to have a lovely loving supportive partner that accepts me and my children and wants to allow us, to just be ourselves and learn what actual traumatised people trying to heal looks like ❤
I am truly sorry that you had to endure so much abuse and trauma that you've been left to choose to be on your own. I'm four years into a similar situation. Once you've been through so much abuse and trauma, peace seems to be the most precious thing that you could have even if it is accompanied by loneliness. I hope and pray that you can heal enough that having a companion in your life becomes an enhancement to your life and not a need ❤
I wondered and feared WHY couples look bored, or dont talk to eachother or wonder why sooner or later itll get that way, but now i have a new perspective that its the individuals to always evolve and learn to keep yourself "fresh" and the relationship fresh. Im sure it wirks if both partners understand and want this. Thank you !
24:28 YES! It's YOUR dream. It's selfish to think your partner should support your dream when it's not theirs! I'm so glad he said this. At first I thought he was going to say, "You need to live your happy life" but not address this aspect. OWN the fact it's YOUR dream, not theirs, and that YOU need to weigh what is more important. You may love that person, but being so far away, I wonder just how genuine, real that love is. That's why marriage clarifies a lot of these things. Now, I'm not all pro-marriage. I'm single at heart and personally think in today's world marriage is antiquated. What I'm saying is that marriage is where you definitely have to think about breaking a legal contract and thus makes it more serious.
As I start researching more into the Narcissist problems for our mother-in-law, I realize that "the apple never falls far from the tree". Most of the challenges we experience with our mother-in-law can be found in my marriage as well. I couldn't share my interests, thoughts and/or dreams with my wife without feeling a sense of D.E.E.P sadly.
Such a great episode. Matthew is always helpful. Mel, thank you for keeping it real by asking, "How rhe hell do you do that?" I am 60, still trying to decide how to handle my 31+ year marriage to a very incompatible partner. It is so easy to get stuck. I hope all watching this will take Matthew's advice about not wasting your time. Love to all.
As someone who’s been with his lady for 14 years. And always was a provider I lost myself being a provider and forgot what it was to have a relationship to the point I pushed her away. Away to someone else. What hurts is the holidays and kids and me not even realizing I was so lost until it was over . But I will come out of this a better person not only for me but for my daughter. These videos give clarity which is hard to find starting over.
"Be happy enough that you can say 'No' to the wrong person." This advice is very helpful to me! And the idea that I'm doing okay if am just "happy enough" with my single status, and not constantly Blissfully Happy is also extremely helpful! It takes pressure off of myself. I can be "happy enough." Thanks for your balanced ideas, Matthew! 😀⭐⭐⭐
Such a good conversation… everytime between you and Matthew… so many takeaways and new realizations… thank you for sharing and for doing what u do both of you… making sense of what can be hard to make sense of in dating and relationships
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
A lot of people feel that yes their partner should be like them and that isn't always possible. People are different and have different values and are also in different places in their life. Their hobbies / interests are different. That's also what makes a person unique.
So true! Do not stop growing, because you have to be fresh for your partner. Engage in new activities! Shortly after we started dating my BF just started spending evenings on the sofa watching Netflix. 😔 not only gaining weight because he quit going to the gym, but also watching senseless shows, like cooking or barbecue. (Ps. He never cooked anything from that) 😢
I listen to this wondering if my ex and I were just incompatible or if she was a narcissist. The fact she had no remorse or was not hurt when she would hurt my feelings makes me believe she was a narcissist.
As I listen, something comes to mind. A saying I heard a couple of years ago, "we listen to reply not to understand." There are a few different ones like this but they all mean the same
Amazing guest. Such an intelligent and honest conversation. All so so true. ive been dealing with my lack of growth and have acted on it. I feel so much happier. “We are the home”… love that brilliant thank you both so much :).
It might be good to define what "letting oneself go" means. An ex told me one time that I'd let myself go, when the only change I'd made was to go on the pill, which caused weight gain. (Then I'd only one top that fitted when we went out & I couldn't afford more clothes at the time). Other than that, I was treating myself exactly the same. (Edit, I dumped him shortly after that )
I send this to you with a caring heart. You are kidding yourself. There are so many birth control methods out there and clothing, I love luxury, I shop high end stores but I’ve sometimes I can find basic items on Amazon, Home goods and even Walmart. You can do it, if you open your mind to new ways and ideas. Wishing you the best🌺
Good on you for letting that person go. Go you for boundaries! That person is likely addicted to p and objectifying. Love someone for who they are inside, not how you think they should look for you to feel better. Objectifying sucks
What Mathew is talking about around 5:50, I got it right away because that's the story of my life,the way people see me or not. And it doesn't just happen in relationships with men, but with family and friends. When people meet me, they tell me how great they think the x, y, z are about me, then they start taking me for granted, especially men. But overtime I started seeing it with family and friends too, just not to that extreme. They all think it's normal. I noticed the difference in how they treat me or in our relationship, but only two friends have actually noticed it and told me about it and that was only when they started being friends with a bunch of others people while I was in a different city. They saw that they don't have the same friendship.
this may seem counterintuitive but don't be consistent, don't let them think your favors and care are your responsibility, don't let them get used to it to the point that they won't even notice it. Do them sporadically and don't use sentences like "it was nothing" or anything that makes less of what you did when people thank you and if they don't even thank you bring it up lightheartedly. Some people will still take you for granted and you can choose to invest in those people as much as they invest in you after you see that but then there will be others who will learn to value your favors instead of taking them for granted. PS: all these must be very lighthearted and without resentment and as a matter of fact. "I'm not pissed or hurt that people don't value what I do, but I just won't do them if it's not valued because why would I do something that's pointless and takes time and energy" I hope this helps.
@@Nikki..... Thank you so much! It helps, I wish someone has told me that years ago. That ship has definitely sailed a while ago with my family and some friends. They do say thank you, on the mos part, but it's the things in between that I noticed which sometimes make me sad. I'll concentrate on being like that with men, who by the way, never thanked me for anything, it was completely one sided and quickly turned into "you're obliged to do..., and I'm still gonna say it's not enough".
Absolutely loved this! So glad I listened to this today...EXACTLY what I needed and so much more! My whole life thinking one way just changed in minutes. Please have more conversations like these! Thank you so much for this gift❤
It’s not hard to bee singel, you have to feel good and live you life, when or if you find love you do, if not do something for you because nobody and only youself are the amazing life here and now. So live you life and keep smile ❤️
Man, so much good insightful stuff here that just inspires me to be better and finally gives me the answers I need when I've had writer's block for so long.
Sorry to write on your timeline But I have to tell you the truth, you always share great posts🤭. Oh, when I saw your wonderful posts and your beautiful photos🌹, I was impressed. But if I send you a friend invitation without your consent, it would be impolite. If you become my friend, I will be very happy to add me or send me a friend request.. If you find this message embarrassing please pardon my manners. Thank you.
Yes I understand entrepreneurs and yes I also understand the partners point of view. We all don't share the same values or enjoy the same things "activities."
Thank you Meal for this amazing podcast ,it was helpful and genuine .the way that you speak about compromise rather than judgement it is the fondement of any relationship
What if just one partner is interested in personal growth? What if only one comes up with new ideas, passions. What if only one reads, develops new hobbies, loves to experience new things? And the other one loves all the way it is?
How in the world do woman sit in front of Matthew and hear a single word he says. I’m sorry to his wife 😅 but, he is extra good looking. I would be a complete mouth breather weirdo and couldn’t speak😂. All that aside Mel, I love watching all your content and Matthew’s as well. Two amazing people with such amazing insight.
I ve notice though that a lot of people who try to teach others deal with their own problems and or have had years of unsucessfull relationships,marriages..its like u gathered the knowledge but do u keep havin disfunctional relationships? I like to listen to both matthew and lewis and both have had similar love life and its great seein them now in healthy relationship❤ I d like to ask would u recommend to give a relationship u ve ended a second chance after u ve done some work on urself or should u keep those doors closed forever?
The best way make ur self busy then u going to feel lonely and improve ur self physically mentally because strong mind handle bad things easily neither weak mindset
I am dreaming of a relationship that will make me feel valuable no matter what. A person who will be my partner and we both sustain each others needs. I am losing hope. 😔😔😔
How do you deal with the heart break of thinking someone was falling for you because they say things like they hope it’s a thing because they want to love you and they miss you when you’re working but then they pull back and take it back how do you handle that because I’m confused
Wait, what happened at 21min? Suddenly from the fact that we need to change the way we tell ourselves love stories (now I wonder well, from what to what? And how?), to complements??
Being the youngest of older brothers at 68 and female. I never got it. I don’t get the romance any of it? I’m not worried about it anymore. I had male friends . Yesterday had an old dude ask me out. But he’s married. Yo dude you’re married don’t bother me!! I don’t get it!! I never will !
Sorry to write on your timeline But I have to tell you the truth, you always share great posts🤭. Oh, when I saw your wonderful posts and your beautiful photos🌹, I was impressed. But if I send you a friend invitation without your consent, it would be impolite. If you become my friend, I will be very happy to add me or send me a friend request.. If you find this message embarrassing please pardon my manners. Thank you.
I love you - but if I was your best friend I would tell you that shade of lipstick is not the best for you. You have such a natural beauty, I'd tone it down a bit. Don't be mad at me. And, thanks for this video - I've been married for 37 years and the biggest mistake is just giving things away. AKA - if your partner is better at doing the budget then don't just give it away to them. Take responsibility and learn how to do it. It's ok if they do it mostly, just don't put it all on their shoulders. This is the same for raising the kids, doing the housework, etc etc. The other piece, and obviously the truth = NEVER lie, right from the start. If you don't like something they are doing, tell them. If you prefer "things" this way or that way....tell them! so many other things but not enough time to say it all. xx Mel
Sorry to write on your timeline But I have to tell you the truth, you always share great posts🤭. Oh, when I saw your wonderful posts and your beautiful photos🌹, I was impressed. But if I send you a friend invitation without your consent, it would be impolite. If you become my friend, I will be very happy to add me or send me a friend request.. If you find this message embarrassing please pardon my manners. Thank you.
Speaking of people kind of being addicted to only looking at online dating well I think we can think COVID for that because we were locked down and not allowed to go out to meet people for years Let's talk about how we should never ever allow that to happen again because it was incredibly bad for everybody socially including children of course
I’ve listen to Matthew when I was single and now I’ve been with my partner for 4 years and married for 2 and I’m still amazingly happy.
That is so wonderful! I’m very happy you have that.
Soooo happy for you ❤
Love this ❤
happy for you
Happy to hear this, gives hope
This is a really great podcast. I really feel like the love in Titanic was much more dynamic than how it was shared. Titanic was about her falling in love with herself, discovering her authenticity, sexuality, and living life with what brings her joy. She was only given the window to see that through her brief relationship with Jack. Then, literally, My heart will go on. She moved forward and built a beautiful life. She wasn't pining over him for her whole life.
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Funny, I watched that (only for the second time) last week, and I read this today. I was watching the movie with very experienced eyes, compared to the first time I was it, when i was very young and naive. I was thinking about just how their relationship might have played out had the Titanic not sunk, and it was fast and fierce, and I wondered if it would have lasted.
13:56-14:23 I was surprised to hear that some people choose partners based on how they make them look rather than true compatibility and feeling at home with someone. But then, I remembered my therapist telling me that more than 50% of marriages are unhappy-people don’t feel like they’re with their true partner.
It hit close to home because I almost became part of that statistic. My first real relationship wasn’t in high school or college but as an adult. I was thrilled that a guy liked me back and even wanted to marry me. I thought I’d finally found "the one". But the relationship was emotionally abusive, and the stress made me physically ill. Despite all of this, I couldn’t bring myself to leave. I needed someone else to step in and help me because I believed that being with someone-anyone-meant I was finally good enough, that I was worth loving.
It's heartbreaking to think how many of us have settled or are settling because we’ve been convinced that any love is better than being alone. But we are worthy more than just "good enough"' We are to feel safe, loved, and truly at home with someone.
I'm in a new relationship, I've known the guy over 20 years. The new dating scene is different, even though I've known this guy this long, I know him a small bit, he surprises me all the time. Ways we show love to each other, not crossing important boundaries, and everyday life. He doesn't know everything about me, and I don't know everything about him. I also thank and acknowledge the things he does that makes me feel special. Guys love those things.
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"Make life fresh for you..." Yes! Once we can learn new things we keep things fresh and engaging! Thank you, Mel for this!
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My cousin who is married for 27 years always tells me how important this is
i've definitely thought the great qualities of an ex was normal and later found out that those qualities really arent normal. that's why i think it's important for a long term relationship to have space within it in order to get back that appreciation for each other's intricacies
Matthew has so much compassion for people. I love listening to him and the way he thinks about relationships. He's absolutely rare.
The very first point in the video spoke volumes. I take my husbands kindness and sweetness for granted. I am more romantic and live life with passion and I want him to be more like me. This was an important reminder that I have much to be grateful for. We have 25 years in marriage and I want it to be for life. Thank you.
The second half of this video was gold. I realised that I have been getting better at setting my boundaries with men and communicating it better now when in the past I used to ghost. I love hearing Matthew and all his great advice. It's helped me more than anything
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Good conversation and not blaming everything on narcissism for a change.
My beautiful 50+ yo cousin met a woman hiking who introduced her to her single brother. They have been happily married for years and have an adopted son. ✨💖✨
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The notion of a flawless marriage or relationship is a myth. There's no set formula for success; what works for one couple may not work for another. Yet, I've discovered that there's always a way forward, even in the most challenging times. Five years ago, my wife and I encountered significant hurdles in our marriage that nearly led to divorce. Despite the adversity, we managed to weather the storm and emerge from it with our bond renewed and revitalised.
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things.
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks..
You wont regret it.
Nice video!." My five year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, but I really miss him,"
It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him.
That's incredible! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I contact one?
His name is Owen Abiola, and he’s an amazing spiritual counselor who specializes in bringing back lost loves.
Owen Abiola has incredible powers, and he can assist you.
Thank you for sharing this valuable information! I just looked him up online, and I'm impressed.
I’m 51 and single I’ve been single for 12yrs too scared to get involved with anyone ever again… and I romanticise the idea of a relationship but I’ve never had a healthy one. So I avoid people all together and i know I’m missing out of a life a deserve but I know that finding someone is now slipping away because the longer I’m single and peaceful ❤ I choose my peace and my families peace, over the loneliness and the complex trauma, we are trying to recover from and I’m not throwing trauma into the conversation lightly we’ve been hideously mentally and physically abused by my longterm partner my children were removed from
His care by the police when they were teenagers we’ve suffered a life that no one should ever have to I feel so sorry for my kids… people change and you can’t escape… so as much as I’d love to have a lovely loving supportive partner that accepts me and my children and wants to allow us, to just be ourselves and learn what actual traumatised people trying to heal looks like ❤
I am truly sorry that you had to endure so much abuse and trauma that you've been left to choose to be on your own. I'm four years into a similar situation. Once you've been through so much abuse and trauma, peace seems to be the most precious thing that you could have even if it is accompanied by loneliness. I hope and pray that you can heal enough that having a companion in your life becomes an enhancement to your life and not a need ❤
I wondered and feared WHY couples look bored, or dont talk to eachother or wonder why sooner or later itll get that way, but now i have a new perspective that its the individuals to always evolve and learn to keep yourself "fresh" and the relationship fresh.
Im sure it wirks if both partners understand and want this. Thank you !
Matthew & Mel - the dynamic duo I def need in my life - thank you for this collab ❤
24:28 YES! It's YOUR dream. It's selfish to think your partner should support your dream when it's not theirs! I'm so glad he said this. At first I thought he was going to say, "You need to live your happy life" but not address this aspect. OWN the fact it's YOUR dream, not theirs, and that YOU need to weigh what is more important. You may love that person, but being so far away, I wonder just how genuine, real that love is. That's why marriage clarifies a lot of these things. Now, I'm not all pro-marriage. I'm single at heart and personally think in today's world marriage is antiquated. What I'm saying is that marriage is where you definitely have to think about breaking a legal contract and thus makes it more serious.
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As I start researching more into the Narcissist problems for our mother-in-law, I realize that "the apple never falls far from the tree". Most of the challenges we experience with our mother-in-law can be found in my marriage as well. I couldn't share my interests, thoughts and/or dreams with my wife without feeling a sense of D.E.E.P sadly.
Such a great episode. Matthew is always helpful. Mel, thank you for keeping it real by asking, "How rhe hell do you do that?" I am 60, still trying to decide how to handle my 31+ year marriage to a very incompatible partner. It is so easy to get stuck. I hope all watching this will take Matthew's advice about not wasting your time. Love to all.
As someone who’s been with his lady for 14 years. And always was a provider I lost myself being a provider and forgot what it was to have a relationship to the point I pushed her away. Away to someone else. What hurts is the holidays and kids and me not even realizing I was so lost until it was over . But I will come out of this a better person not only for me but for my daughter. These videos give clarity which is hard to find starting over.
49:00 literally you can control everything but finding the person who is meant for you is truly like an lotto game.
"Be happy enough that you can say 'No' to the wrong person." This advice is very helpful to me! And the idea that I'm doing okay if am just "happy enough" with my single status, and not constantly Blissfully Happy is also extremely helpful! It takes pressure off of myself. I can be "happy enough." Thanks for your balanced ideas, Matthew! 😀⭐⭐⭐
Such a good conversation… everytime between you and Matthew… so many takeaways and new realizations… thank you for sharing and for doing what u do both of you… making sense of what can be hard to make sense of in dating and relationships
Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.
It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.
Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
I didn’t want this episode to end. It was fascinating and validated a some thought processes for me. Thanks for sharing.
A lot of people feel that yes their partner should be like them and that isn't always possible. People are different and have different values and are also in different places in their life. Their hobbies / interests are different. That's also what makes a person unique.
Just discovered your podcast yesterday, and I love your originality and carefully selected helpful topics. I love you!
So true! Do not stop growing, because you have to be fresh for your partner. Engage in new activities! Shortly after we started dating my BF just started spending evenings on the sofa watching Netflix. 😔 not only gaining weight because he quit going to the gym, but also watching senseless shows, like cooking or barbecue. (Ps. He never cooked anything from that) 😢
I listen to this wondering if my ex and I were just incompatible or if she was a narcissist. The fact she had no remorse or was not hurt when she would hurt my feelings makes me believe she was a narcissist.
"There's not the right person" There are two different people trying to make things work.😊
事实是，没有新鲜事在关系里，即使彼此努力更新自己，没人是完美的…靠近彼此只是能量吸收，无论任何关系；然而特别是亲密关系，同频共振长时间使关系长久，反之亦然，关系长短的意义在于各人的人生观评。对我来说，都是人生经历而己哈哈，所以打造自己的能量处于高频或平衡状态，你就可以使自己幸福快乐！无需任何人长久陪伴哈哈😁
你也是台灣人嗎？ 我很少用 social media. 妳的觀念很相近，不管你是男的或女的，或許我們可以成為筆友。我的電郵是tiffanysu886@gmail.com 如果有興趣成筆友。
As I listen, something comes to mind.
A saying I heard a couple of years ago, "we listen to reply not to understand." There are a few different ones like this but they all mean the same
Amazing guest. Such an intelligent and honest conversation. All so so true. ive been dealing with my lack of growth and have acted on it. I feel so much happier.
“We are the home”… love that brilliant thank you both so much :).
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It might be good to define what "letting oneself go" means. An ex told me one time that I'd let myself go, when the only change I'd made was to go on the pill, which caused weight gain. (Then I'd only one top that fitted when we went out & I couldn't afford more clothes at the time). Other than that, I was treating myself exactly the same. (Edit, I dumped him shortly after that )
I send this to you with a caring heart. You are kidding yourself. There are so many birth control methods out there and clothing, I love luxury, I shop high end stores but I’ve sometimes I can find basic items on Amazon, Home goods and even Walmart. You can do it, if you open your mind to new ways and ideas. Wishing you the best🌺
@@janetcorey5102Above commenter doesn't understand past tense in English.
Glad you let him go. He would have never been happy. appearances will change no matter how hard we try.
@@seagirl1100 Thanks 😊. Yeah, he was an idiot. Plenty of them around, I just don't bother with them anymore!
Good on you for letting that person go. Go you for boundaries! That person is likely addicted to p and objectifying. Love someone for who they are inside, not how you think they should look for you to feel better. Objectifying sucks
What Mathew is talking about around 5:50, I got it right away because that's the story of my life,the way people see me or not. And it doesn't just happen in relationships with men, but with family and friends.
When people meet me, they tell me how great they think the x, y, z are about me, then they start taking me for granted, especially men. But overtime I started seeing it with family and friends too, just not to that extreme. They all think it's normal. I noticed the difference in how they treat me or in our relationship, but only two friends have actually noticed it and told me about it and that was only when they started being friends with a bunch of others people while I was in a different city. They saw that they don't have the same friendship.
this may seem counterintuitive but don't be consistent, don't let them think your favors and care are your responsibility, don't let them get used to it to the point that they won't even notice it. Do them sporadically and don't use sentences like "it was nothing" or anything that makes less of what you did when people thank you and if they don't even thank you bring it up lightheartedly. Some people will still take you for granted and you can choose to invest in those people as much as they invest in you after you see that but then there will be others who will learn to value your favors instead of taking them for granted.
PS: all these must be very lighthearted and without resentment and as a matter of fact. "I'm not pissed or hurt that people don't value what I do, but I just won't do them if it's not valued because why would I do something that's pointless and takes time and energy"
I hope this helps.
@@Nikki..... Thank you so much! It helps, I wish someone has told me that years ago. That ship has definitely sailed a while ago with my family and some friends. They do say thank you, on the mos part, but it's the things in between that I noticed which sometimes make me sad.
I'll concentrate on being like that with men, who by the way, never thanked me for anything, it was completely one sided and quickly turned into "you're obliged to do..., and I'm still gonna say it's not enough".
Absolutely loved this! So glad I listened to this today...EXACTLY what I needed and so much more! My whole life thinking one way just changed in minutes. Please have more conversations like these! Thank you so much for this gift❤
This is so profound, thank you both!
I really gained much from this beneficial podcast! THIS IS A REALLY GOOD 1 MEL, I enjoy listening to Mathew. He’s so good like you Mel Robbins 💯❤
It’s not hard to bee singel, you have to feel good and live you life, when or if you find love you do, if not do something for you because nobody and only youself are the amazing life here and now. So live you life and keep smile ❤️
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Man, so much good insightful stuff here that just inspires me to be better and finally gives me the answers I need when I've had writer's block for so long.
I do really love seeing you both together!
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But I have to tell you the truth, you always share great posts🤭. Oh, when I saw your wonderful posts and your beautiful photos🌹, I was impressed. But if I send you a friend invitation without your consent, it would be impolite. If you become my friend, I will be very happy to add me or send me a friend request.. If you find this message embarrassing please pardon my manners. Thank you.
Matthew's content is 🔥 and Mel love your questions and the points you bring up. Will have to listen to this one again and literally take notes 📝
It's so hard to build a trusted relationship. I don't even know where to find a partner.
it can't be an overnight process, trust God and pray that he helps you start because thats when you will built one.... all the best
Agreed
😂😂😅😅 “100 years old lady reminiscing on a fling “ 😅 love this!!
This is so amazing podcast as I'm focused on career n never had any relationship.... Thank you for giving new ideas for relationships
Great video, you need to keep inviting Mathew not only for his great advice but because he is so handsome😂❤
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I’m so thankful I came across your videos 😊
Such a wonderful video & enjoy following U both(Mathew & yourself) SHARED MANY TIMES
Yes I understand entrepreneurs and yes I also understand the partners point of view. We all don't share the same values or enjoy the same things "activities."
Please Keep Providing Us With Such Learning Videos. Thank You So Much Ma'am! 🙏
whoever is reading this and wanting a change in their life, just go read forbidden manifestation by zara blackthorn
Thank you Meal for this amazing podcast ,it was helpful and genuine .the way that you speak about compromise rather than judgement it is the fondement of any relationship
Absolutely loved this discussion such an eye opener
Thank you so much for this podcast!! Very informative!! ❤
Excellente conversation ❤
He is so right! Thank you for this!
To the point and very refreshing conversation ❤❤❤..
this was mega thank you :)
Great Info. Helped ME!
Lovely conversation...
Loved everything ❤️❤️❤️
I love both of you 🥰
Stay blessed 🙏🙌
This was so good! I heard everything I tell myself and that feels great.
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Excellent video. Thank you so much!
Thank you Mel & Matthew for this great video full of valuable information ❤🤗
Thanks Mel, I appreciate this. 💚
What if just one partner is interested in personal growth? What if only one comes up with new ideas, passions. What if only one reads, develops new hobbies, loves to experience new things? And the other one loves all the way it is?
Thank you Mel and Matthew. What do I do if men see me and think only sex,without even talking to me or knowing me?
Episode structure is not clear enough for me. Is this a part? If so, which part? And how can I access the whole episode?? Thanks!
How in the world do woman sit in front of Matthew and hear a single word he says. I’m sorry to his wife 😅 but, he is extra good looking. I would be a complete mouth breather weirdo and couldn’t speak😂. All that aside Mel, I love watching all your content and Matthew’s as well. Two amazing people with such amazing insight.
I ve notice though that a lot of people who try to teach others deal with their own problems and or have had years of unsucessfull relationships,marriages..its like u gathered the knowledge but do u keep havin disfunctional relationships? I like to listen to both matthew and lewis and both have had similar love life and its great seein them now in healthy relationship❤
I d like to ask would u recommend to give a relationship u ve ended a second chance after u ve done some work on urself or should u keep those doors closed forever?
Matthew 🙌🏾
LOVE UR PODCAST!!!!
Perfect one❤
this is so great!!
Well Advice ever!! ✨
The best way make ur self busy then u going to feel lonely and improve ur self physically mentally because strong mind handle bad things easily neither weak mindset
Thank-you ❤
I am dreaming of a relationship that will make me feel valuable no matter what. A person who will be my partner and we both sustain each others needs. I am losing hope. 😔😔😔
Loved Loved Loved 🥰
love this show.
I love this!!!!
Gong on this 9ne!
Great video ,
This is true
Need things to talk about
But if I try to do anything for myself gym,yoga , group with people doing anything he gets. All bent !!
Jealous
Run!
How do you deal with the heart break of thinking someone was falling for you because they say things like they hope it’s a thing because they want to love you and they miss you when you’re working but then they pull back and take it back how do you handle that because I’m confused
Well said ❤❤❤❤❤
Sadly love don’t exist anymore
It’s just hooking up
Sending videos pics before u meet ppl
Everyone wants validation
Sucks
@talksick508… OMG the unsolicited pictures/videos such a turn off.
Motivation
I lost count on the # of times I shared this beneficial video I know for certain it’s over 10 times…
How do I cope with someone saying continuously about me dumping telling him f off etc. Its making me sad
Wait, what happened at 21min? Suddenly from the fact that we need to change the way we tell ourselves love stories (now I wonder well, from what to what? And how?), to complements??
27:00❤
Totally liked your guest . So clever., well you are too. Just saying. .
Being the youngest of older brothers at 68 and female. I never got it. I don’t get the romance any of it? I’m not worried about it anymore. I had male friends . Yesterday had an old dude ask me out. But he’s married. Yo dude you’re married don’t bother me!! I don’t get it!! I never will !
Tell what a true love story looks and feels like..cuz mine is always augmented x5 inside my head.
People attach their values to their careers..
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I love you - but if I was your best friend I would tell you that shade of lipstick is not the best for you. You have such a natural beauty, I'd tone it down a bit. Don't be mad at me. And, thanks for this video - I've been married for 37 years and the biggest mistake is just giving things away. AKA - if your partner is better at doing the budget then don't just give it away to them. Take responsibility and learn how to do it. It's ok if they do it mostly, just don't put it all on their shoulders. This is the same for raising the kids, doing the housework, etc etc. The other piece, and obviously the truth = NEVER lie, right from the start. If you don't like something they are doing, tell them. If you prefer "things" this way or that way....tell them! so many other things but not enough time to say it all. xx Mel
Sorry to write on your timeline
But I have to tell you the truth, you always share great posts🤭. Oh, when I saw your wonderful posts and your beautiful photos🌹, I was impressed. But if I send you a friend invitation without your consent, it would be impolite. If you become my friend, I will be very happy to add me or send me a friend request.. If you find this message embarrassing please pardon my manners. Thank you.
Speaking of people kind of being addicted to only looking at online dating well I think we can think COVID for that because we were locked down and not allowed to go out to meet people for years
Let's talk about how we should never ever allow that to happen again because it was incredibly bad for everybody socially including children of course
I keep telling people that
Heirylooms advices
Boom boom betty ❤ haha