Relationship Coach Matthew Hussey: "There is no such thing as right person, wrong time!"
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 14 พ.ค. 2024
- Today, let’s welcome back love and dating coach Matthew Hussey. His approach combines practical advice, motivational coaching, and psychology to help individuals understand what they want from a relationship and how to get it.
Matthew's expertise provides a comprehensive guide on navigating the challenges of modern dating, building meaningful relationships, and cultivating self-awareness.
In this interview, we’ll discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:14 Where Does Your Idea of Love Come From?
07:54 Is Your Relationship Boring?
16:20 What Are Your Relationship Must-Haves?
29:06 Dating Tactics vs. Dating Standards
35:23 What Are "Healthy" Dating Standards?
47:15 You NEED To Have The Difficult Conversations
01:07:39 Is Your Partner the Right One for You?
01:12:25 Dealing with Heartbreak
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I love the part about leading the way towards affection and more communication styles. I've struggled with dating people who have a different lifestyle, people who aren't into self development. I can't imagine how people from different religious backgrounds get together
good points all around but I like how you pointed out the difference between standards and tactics and how the ego comes into play. One thing I would like to point out about being vegetarian or not is that both non vegans and vegetarians are partaking in the cruelty as the dairy industry is even more cruel than the meat one so vegetarians are either really misinformed or just posers. Speceicism is a great documentary I invite all of you to watch and maybe you could interview the director as it's astonishing whast someone that young pulled together, and unlike earthlings, it is not as hard to watch......but still hard. I don't eat with non vegans as to me it would be the same as eating with someone who abuses children, simply unacceptable.... so I meet the people after so they can enjoy their cruelty and I don't have to partake in their satanic ritual. Non veganism is not a personal choice as to be non vegan one has to take someone else's l ife and that is why I talk about it here. This is also why real vegans never use pharma, they test on animals and of course, real medicine has been around for thousand of years, unlike pharma. My body my choice.... it's sad seeing all these platforms trying to sell them as the only way we should all accept. Another discussion for another day~ Lastly, pointing out pain and suffering are not the same thing and they can't be used interchangeably. One can google the difference and it is quite well explaiend. I know links are usually blocked or I would share one. But it was great, the rest was priceless~ Thank you.
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Humility in relationships. Stop judging WHAT people think and really get to understand HOW they think.
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Loved this conversation man, thank you for having me! And thank you to everyone for watching and commenting. I really appreciate the kind words ❤🙏
Sir, you should have to do more podcasts like this 🎉♥️🙌🙏
Hey Mat, your wisdom in the book, Love Life comes from your higher self and therefore is so deeply valuable! Am too quite spiritual, read the whole book. What a masterpiece it is! I can't express my gratitude in words for you and your work all these years. More and more power to you! Lots of love. ❤❤❤
Thank YOU!
imagine how thrilling it may be if Matt and Sadia Khan will have this kind of conversation too, more people like me will benefit from it for sure 🤗
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“Matthew Hussey what a treasure!
I just totally love this guy..
his honesty and humour and brilliant insight. 💖”
When you slammed the popular notion that everyone has to heal before they find a relationship…THANK YOU!! I couldn’t agree more because I believe healing is a lifelong journey.
The raw honesty of Matthew’s experiences and struggles in his love life while being a coach on love life is nothing short of admirable and respected. Great episode!!
I do love these brilliant perspectives, no right person, no right time, and no right place. Hands need to be held into finding the co-happiness, not seeking a person meeting all your standards.
Jay you saved my life. I can’t thank you enough. I struggled for 20 years to find peace. I started my journey with your words. I now go to church and pray. But listening to you speak helped me get there. Thank you!
Amen !!!! thank you Jesus may we all reach our Father’s Kingdom 🙏🏽 God bless you 🙏🏽❤️
I relate to your message very deeply I have been struggling with anxiety and depression, mental health overall, this year has been very difficult but I have found my relationship with Jesus growing tremendously. I love listening to the podcast it’s such a great tool for searching yourself.
Jesus is with you❤
@@dilasmiracle Amen God bless you 🙏🏽❤️
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You can’t optimize people. I’ll carry this amazing line with me from this conversation. Love the idea of finding an appropriate builder, too! Thanks so much for this beautiful, inspiring, and spirit-reassuring conversation!! It really helps me to maintain the self-compassion that is vital in life.
I'm telling you guys, the one does exist. Never give up. Chances are you will find your person spontaneously. Strive to emulate the qualities you want in a partner!
First, people need to know what matters in a relationship: connection, actual intimacy (feeling safe to be vulnerable and let someone in while knowing you will be heard and not judged), trust, compatibility, willingness to work and grow together, empathy for yourself and the other, reliability, consistent loving behavior, etc.
A lot of people get into relationships looking for someone who looks good with them/to them and to have a source for sex. Some get into relationships to validate that they're wanted. Some are hiring applicants for the job of their partner, meaning they're looking for what employers are with education and accomplishments, which validates their own pursuit of those things.
These are all versions of getting another person so that _______. People might not be aware of their own motives so starting there might be a thing.
My experience has definitely taught me what a relationship isn't. I have had to create standards so I'm clear on what I will not tolerate. I also had to figure out why I kept entertaining similar people.
I'm figuring it out still but I definitely waste less time when I find out this isn't it.
Great point!
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who is believing this? TWO SCAMMERS discussing this BS, look up credit card scam hussey. Men didn't listen to his BS so he went to women instead
why are you deleting truthful comments shetty?
scammer hussey look it up and stop deleting comments, we all see it
As a mom of two adult children. I feel like you should start a dating platform for people who are into self discovery and are working on being emotionally mature in a relationship. Maybe would weed out the people that are not “builders”
You have to be vulnerable enough to scare the wrong guys away and having standards standards are who we are we teach people how to treat us by the Boundaries we have loving ourselves enough to know what we deserve we can be happy inside ourselves because happiness is a choice ❤🥰
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Well said! 👏
Jay the questions you make are like Spot On ! You were born for this , thank you so much , this podcast is public service in a global scale . ❤
Wow- I was crying the good tears 17 mins in… My 9 year “boring” relationship continues to grow stronger! Absolutely beautiful talk Matthew and Jay! You made my day! ❤❤❤
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I’m in a breakup phase questioning my existence and i have a newborn baby, alone and drenched in tears, i just take one day at a time . Time is a healer and thank you for this interview. Definitely buying this book 📕
You’re not alone. Would you like a new friend whose raised kids starting young. I just went through a heartbreak and I had to save my life and escape and I came to my best friend in South Carolina filled with a heartache and shame. She reminded me of her heartache 30 years ago when I was there for her and now I look at her life, I can’t imagine That it was as dark as it was. Time does heal and change things. I’m waiting for myself. It’s a lot easier when we do it together than alone
Sending you prayers and healing vibes you are never alone God is always with you ❤🙏🥰
I’m 30 now but at 23 I was in you’re position. In this moment of your life it’s temporary . I would say in this vulnerable time in your life mental health is so important it’s easy to fall into postpartum depression please know it’s okay to ask for help ! Don’t do it alone . 5 years you’ll look back in this time and say omg I wish I was more happy with my baby because they are very much blessings . Your heart will heal ❤
You are not alone - you have your baby! Wait a little until baby grows a little older, you are the whole world for him/ her now. You will find a lot of joy, I promiss❤❤❤
P.s. I needed anti depressants around month 2-5 of my baby - do not be afraid to ask your GP/doctor for medicines, if you find yourself in tears etc. This can be easily helped, these are hormonal temporary in some (not all) women. Lots of love! ❤
Thank you both for this. What struck a necessary chord with me was Matthew's comment on being on a growth journey and rejecting anyone who is perceived as not being on the same journey as yours. Just because their journey doesn't look like mine doesn't mean that they also aren't doing something wonderful and enhancing for themselves that can also benefit me and the world. Needed that.
Watching this podcast and reassuring myself that being single is The most great place to be in , I think now if someone will tell me why I am single , I will be tagging them this episode 😂
5:26 vulnerability. Sometimes ppl think they are practicing vulnerability when if someone asked them if they’d be open to feedback about themselves they would shutter at that. Because they don’t want to feel vulnerable or aware of themselves.
7:14 instead of being aware of raising a real relationship is so much more interesting and fulfilling.
8:14 people who aren’t emotionally mature think peaceful is boring. When ppl perceive passion and ups and downs, always exciting and unpredictable as a good relationship, but this is lack of maturity in relationships.
10:41 A peace that isn’t by any means boring because you feel at home. You feel This person gets me. And how they deal with that conversation and how they deal with it.
32:42 if you ignore your real needs you won’t feel safe you don’t feel acknowledged your needs aren’t being met they don’t provide empathy, you don’t feel settled.
38:00 egoic unhealthy standards because a lack of personal compassion
49:09 it’s more important how someone thinks then what they think. Now i crave it in look forward to it not being able to have healthy conversations is a turn off to me not when it just stays surface and there’s no working through anything. I now know how someone deals with challenging conversations. Or if they can’t have them at all. You see how they deal with the conversation itself, bc you should need that. Someone who can acknowledge things can’t grow, they can’t aviniéndote how you feel or how their behaviors affected you, that’s a key component of narcissism. Not being able to acknowledge or take ownership of their behavior not taking steps to correcting their before you’ve brought forward. Not being able to empathize with what you bring up.
Another area people think they are simplifying life, avoidance when they avoid conversations. But they really make their life more complicated.
47:35 Having a conversation about why a person does something is more important than what they do
56:46 create your own culture because most people have gotten into a passive state with relationships. Just like in business, what’s the culture I want to create, instead of passively letting things happen.
1:16:18 The rat experiment 🐀 of choosing pain, choosing to go through it, vs begrudgingly being forced to do it. Choosing it shows positive markers of learning and growing, not choosing it shows all the negative markers of stress. We have choice and it has its benefits. Anyone who don’t choose you cannot be for you, because they don’t see you. They shouldn’t be desirable for you if they aren’t choosing you.
Great video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her
wow, please how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
She wasn't for you. God have something better for you. Just wait.
Your absence is felt. Believe me. It’s going to be so hard, but for now just know it’s ok. You will come through on the other side even if you don’t believe so right now. Stay strong. You are not alone in this.
❤ I've been where you are. You deserve to have someone love you as much as you love her. Just give it time. Try to be open so that when the right person finds you, you can embrace it.
Break up/heartbreak section was so real. 1:14:15 it is a horrible place to be. Compassion for ourselves is crucial. He’s so right we choose pain, and the pains we didn’t choose can provide real benefits
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So much growth Matthew!! I started listening to Matthew's content many years ago when I was going through a big heart break and when you mentioned about being at peace in a relationship came later and should have come earlier...ouhh lala!! It got to me now that I am in peaceful relationship and do not want to go back in the drama past. It feels like suddenly getting out the ''Matrix'' and you see everything.
Lessons from pain I didn’t choose,wow that really spoke to me. After cancer I wrote a note to myself called Cancer bliss containing all the beautiful and valuable things that it brought to me and I listen to that note daily as my affirmations routine.
Matthew Hussey is really sharing wisdom about life and not just romantic relationships. There are so much you can learn from this video
I'm with the same guy since I was 15 and he was 18. 33 years, going strong. I totally feel he is the one. We got lucky meeting at a young age. If anybody should be giving love advice, it's us LMAO ❤❤❤
you guys really won in life !
So rare !!😮😮for that long !
would you please share w us some love advice?
Yes please share! My fiancee and I are going through a very rough time. She wants to leave and I am frantically trying to keep us together. We have 4 children, one together. He is 8. I proposed last summer. I am willing to whatever it takes..
33 years is amazing, something to be proud of. Tell those of us struggling the secrets.
The heartbreak portion was great. Found myself yesterday missing my ex that I ended things with 3 years ago. We talked briefly after and I tried to repair but she decided to move on and I’ve blamed myself for a long time. I find it helpful the part about them being here and choosing not to be with me. Also neither of us are who we were 3 years ago so the person I miss doesn’t exist. I haven’t struggled for close to a year, but yesterday couldn’t get her off of my mind and this helped. Thanks for posting!
So precious conversation between you two, I really needed to hear the part about breakups as I'm going through them myself.
Thank you for this amazing podcast that makes me reflect, ask uncomfortable questions to myself, cry, and return to hope. I'm so grateful this podcast exists. I don't know who I would be without it❤
You guys truly hit all the points, amazing insight, everything I needed to hear right now❤. Thank you.
This is the best podcast I've watched on relationships!
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I think in conclusion it’s all about being honest with yourself and telling what you think and want
I loved this conversation, I love most of them, actually. What really made me smile was: right person, right place, WRONG time? That's science fiction ... no it's not, it's BRILLIANT!!!! Thank you both, you magnificent young men!
Wow Wow Wow, talk about hearing the right words at the right time. As a 60 yr old woman who had , until now, hung up the look for a relationship coat, you have restored my belief in the potential for the future. Thanks so much
Kids go to your rooms and to sleep right now, my boy Jay just posted
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Two of my favorite people in one place together- powerful as always Matthew and Jay
Thank you for watching!
Matthew Hussey what a treasure!
I just totally love this guy..
his honesty and humour and brilliant insight. 💖
Agreed!
Coach Matthew, that makes me sad you had to be LATE on purpose but happy you explained it all to us...
Matthew Hussey ❤
Thank you Jay 🙏🏻
"Contempt for the person you were 2 years ago." .... That's powerful...... 😮
This podcast was sooooo good, needed to hear every bit!
This is such a masterpiece Linda. You're so talented ❤
What a fantastic podcast really spoke to me. In a new relationship needed to hear this ❤
I’ve never been in love before. I love my family and friends. I appreciate Matthew’s insights.
I LOVE THESE TWO TOGETHER! 💕 Both have changed my life ☀️
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Love how he is taking us to his own relationship evolution so coherent and ❤. His truth is very beautiful
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Loved Jay’s questions!!!! Great podcast
Just WOW. ...So Insightful. Loved this!
Absolutely amazing episode! Thank you so much for what you’re doing. I learned a lot from this conversation
Wow, literally put all my thoughts this year into a perfectly spoken, real conversation that cleared my mind - thank you both🙌💯
Thank you for watching!!!
Absolutely great conversation about relationships - especially having a standard 👏🏾
This was great. It's quite evident that Matthew is becoming rehearsed with his ability to speak words that are now from his experiences rather than a theory of a young man.
I absolutely loved this episode. As Jay said Matthew explained everything so clearly and the reality of it really hit so hard! Thank you Jay and Matthew
Thanks for watching!
Most people don't know how to have Confrontation I used to think it was yelling and screaming because that's how I grew up its just a simple conversation its being vulnerable its telling your partner what you need and giving them the road map on how to meet your needs without blaming or shaming them its own your emotions and if you make a mistake its ok to talk about it by being vulnerable and just saying I'm sorry that wasn't my intention in a healthy relationship Confrontation can help the relationship to become stronger also Reassurant Appreciation being patient with each other being present in the moment of what you're doing together and listening to each other listening to understand not Reply being excited to see each others always go on dates always make time for each other ❤🥰
One on the best enterview I've seen.
Great refreshing episode of the podcast to end this month going into a new month! Looking forward to the next episode soon
Thank you so much!
great episode so practical and grounded. thank you!
No matter what has happened in my past relationships I will not project that on to my new Relationship by Separating myself from my past and present because what I experience I can learn from and grow I can choose to forgive and heal because everything is an experience and I have a choice my first step was to fall in love with myself every day that allows me to heal we all have love inside of us love is everywhere Love is magic Love is beautiful love is patient love is kind love is respect my Second step was Reprogramming my brain to know what love is because i know what love is not I starting with my childhood Wounding I also worked on abandonment issues and I heal my Relationship with my parents because I'm not a little kid anymore I get to choose and create that life I want i know my parents did the best they could with what they knew i love them both I'm grateful for what i went through as a child so I could become a better Parent to my kids ❤🙏🥰
I learned a lot from this video Matthew sir ❤thank you both for this beautiful conversation ❤
Sure, I'd be happy to tell you more about being a relationship coach! As a relationship coach, you provide guidance and support to individuals or couples who are seeking to improve their relationships. You help them navigate challenges, communicate effectively, and strengthen their connection.
One of the best podcast so far ! Amazing thank you 🙏🏽
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Hi Jay, Thank so much for that wonderful interview. Matthew is so amazing as well as you.
Thank you so much!
Awesome conversation. So raw, so natural. Easy to ear. Loved it.
Amazing episode as usual ❤ thank you Matthew for the timely reminder!
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My two favorites in one podcast
Thank u for making such good content in youtube your work is incredible helping so many people around the world,
We gonna get Jay to 10 mil subs
After Voidzila made that video i highly doubt it
Thats the mission.... He deserves a billion... Making life beautiful through service is an incredible place to be... Love jay in a million box😂😂
This helped my current situation so much ❤ thank you!!
only 15 minutes and it already feels personal 😂
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Aaaahh - the seeking peace. This is a standard in all places of my life.
Another Insightful Episode 🕊️💯
Game changing on purpose. Thank you both!
I learned so much in this video I love love and everything about it. This was a great video.
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such a beautiful episode i really enjoyed it 😍😍
Thank you for watching!
Love learning from you both!
I think we should interview Audrey because she sounds like a very mature thinking smart woman !
Are there people watching these shows live?, just heard someone agreeing with Matthew when he said finding love is difficult ....just wanna be part of the audience someday
Great interview!!! Thank you both for sharing your thoughts and insights
Thanks for watching!
I love how all these men go hurting so many before they “ realize” then they meet a woman when they are better and marry them.
But they have a list of so many women that didn’t deserve their poor and neglectful treatment. This includes Hussey and Lewis Howels who dated one of my friends…
The pain he brought to my friend was unbearable .
That part!!!
Thank you Jay,I simply enjoyed this relationship conversation.My take away is lead and model the culture you want . Many thanks.
Would love to hear on Marriage &the work involved in it!
Gratitude 🤲 Your Way.
This conversation really great
Really great topic and concepts. Definitely has helped me view things differently. Thank you
You're so welcome, thanks for watching!
GOSH THIS IS SOOOOOO GOOD!
THANK YOUUUUU!
OMG my 2 favourite together, priceless.
I bought that book so damn fast it's not even funny LOL 🤣 "In what parallel universe" I needed to hear that!
Yes, it is hard finding "true" love.
Love this and cant wait to buy the book!
Bought the book yesterday!!
Beautiful conversation
1:14:48 It was a heroic act to get out of bed
Been there recently. Thank you for acknowledging that.
Seek peace in a relationship
🔥 episode
Thank you 👍
Loved hearing this
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Never been SO early !!😲👏🏼👏🏼
"The One" implies a lack of choice. Predestination. And if we decide it isn't a CHOICE to love someone EVERY DAY, then we set ourselves up for failure. We wonder why this ONE person is failing us. It's too much on them and on us. Love is a choice. Relationships take work.
He who trully loves you will give you confidence in yourself .
Absolutely not the one that takes
away your self - confidence and nake you feeling small and wothless.
I know that from my personal experiences .
Great one ❤❤🎉🎉
I love this. How about "settling with"? As in joining. I'd love to settle (down) with someone wonderful and with whom I feel peace.
this one came at an interesting time for me. thank you..
You're so welcome!
Good advice Thank you
I love Jay and his guest. All of the builder always turn it inward. There is almost zero "it's their fault so they deserve ". Real truth real knowledge!
great episode
Thanks!
I'm intrigued with "the guy with the list" that Jay mentioned 😂