Start speaking a new language in 3 weeks with Babbel 🎉 Get up to 60% OFF your subscription ➡ Here: bit.ly/ImAutisticNowWhatOct /j tone tag for the opening monologue 😂 But maybe we should shout 'Autism Speaks'? If you missed my latest video, I discuss certain celebrities who are frequently cited as autistic (Messi, Taylor Swift?)...but have actually never been open about a diagnosis. Some of them even appear on numerous listicles (particularly on ABA websites??!!) and the only evidence is 'they look a bit socially awkward'! I'd love to know your thoughts!: th-cam.com/video/HDK2miTzTTA/w-d-xo.html Really interested to know your thoughts on this too and whether it’s a thing in your country! Were you aware of the blue pumpkins or the teal pumpkin project? Did you know there was apparently a purple pumpkin too? 😅 You might also find this video interesting… The Ridiculous Reality of The Parents Trying to Cure Autism: th-cam.com/video/rJwSU8yolr8/w-d-xo.html And if you want something a bit lighter after this one, I reacted to some wholesome autism TikToks here (and this time the autism parents WERE okay!): th-cam.com/video/x5K6_sXMu1E/w-d-xo.html P.S. Are you a butternut squash? I’m not a huge fan, so I think I’d rather be a regular pumpkin (but without any puzzle pieces) 🎃🚫🧩
My comment disappeared (this has been happening a lot on TH-cam recently) so I’m reposting it. I looked up that Autism Daily dude out of curiosity, and yikes… As I suspected, he and his wife are self-described “autism parents”, and their social media accounts are full of harmful misinformation. One of their most recent posts is praising Jenny McCarthy’s ‘Louder Than Words’ book 😬😬😬
пре 0 секунди TH-camr Reallife Kaz Brekker has made video about problems that she has doing Halloween season (people try to hurt her) because of her cane(they think she is the witch and they try take it from her).Peple are really aggressive about Halloween th-cam.com/video/eeK0wQe9pkY/w-d-xo.htmlsi=Hap3oA4U-ITHBlvr
Not every autistic person here hates blue, some autistics are fine with it, while others don’t even associate the colour blue with that group, just because you hate it doesn’t mean every single autistic person does too. Only speak for yourself, because you cannot speak for Autistic people who you don’t know.
Came here to say this. My brother loved blue as a kid but he is not autistic (I am). I worry that people are going to assume that everyone who has a blue pumpkin is autistic and some people may... not be great about it (either because of bullying or because they are predatory and perceive autistic people as better targets, a problem which also stands if the kid is autistic and carrying a blue bucket). I am incredibly against telling people not to do things they love (like carry pumpkins) just because it may be a trigger for bullying; the bullies need to change. However, they may not, and the predatory adult comment still stands. The better solution is to just learn to take into account all needs regardless of what the pumpkin color is (not to mention some autistic people-especially kids- may get really upset if they have to carry a color they don't like). Also, autism is, well, a spectrum, and people have different needs, so how is a color alone supposed to tell people what they need? Changing their house/settings to be sensory friendly is a completely different protocol from remembering not to expect a "trick or treat". I guess they could ask but still. Edit: Looks like a lot of this was covered in the video!
Somebody comes to my door? They get candy. Look like a teen or adult? Someone trying to hold onto some part of their childhood deserves candy. Says nothing? Somebody shy, mute, or otherwise not comfortable speaking to a stranger deserves candy. And so on. Come to my door, you get candy.
Agree, 100%. Like, autistic or not, some kids are just shy and there’s nothing wrong with that. And everyone deserves to have fun on Halloween, no matter their age!
As a teenager who still trick or treats, thank you for being one of the ones who still gives us candy without judgement. Halloween’s my favorite holiday and it’s people like you that make it sm better!! 🫶
I remember I took my daughter, her friend, and friend's sister trick or treating on our own road. I was a young parent, so I was kind of self conscious I guess. But this woman started grilling the kids who were 6 and 4 about where they lived, where they were from, when they moved there etc.. I stepped up and said "we live 10 doors down from here, we've lived in the estate for 6 years now. And then she started grilling me. I was just like, "come on let's go" at that stage. Some people are just nasty. I think she thought we were travellers maybe (Irish version of gypsies), she came across as the bigoted type.
As an autistic person who was really into trick-or-treating as a kid and teenager, I have two pieces of advice. One, go in groups. Older kids are less likely to be judged if they're escorting younger kids around, and if five kids are all shouting "Trick or treat!" at the same time, it's harder to notice that the sixth kid didn't say it. Two, candy trading. My siblings and I would all end up with candy we didn't like but someone else did, so at the end of the night we would sort out our candy and trade with each other. If you're the parent of a single child, or all of your kids are allergic to the same thing, you could have your kid(s) turn in the candy they are allergic to or don't like in exchange for some other kind of reward. That way they don't have to make a big deal about it at the house, but they still get rewarded for whatever they get.
My mom mainly sorted the candy - that way she could both inspect it, make sure it's sorted fairly (anyone doesn't like a candy? They don't get any. Everyone likes it? Split evenly. No one likes it? Split evenly. Or part of the Mom Tax.
the trading works so well with my sister and i, shes lactose intolerant and im allergic to a lot of chewy sweets so we fill in the gaps of each others issues and it works so well
Candy trading was always the best part of halloween for me lol - I would always sort my candy and arrange them into a grid before going through and swapping with others
Last year when I was handing out candy with my dad one of the last kids that came up was dressed as a pirate and she has hand down my favorite kid of the night lol. We even gave her some extra because it was the end of the night
exaxtly, i saw a photo (on some scam page) of a missing kid (not actually missing) and he was wearing a bright orange vest that said "autism please be kind" if i was a school bully i would see that as an invitation to not be kind, like, you've essentially just said "this kid is gonna act even more spectacularly if you bully him instead of any other kid". and theyve also just invited every nonce to come make friends with this kid who may not understand stranger danger or alteria motives and be easy to take advantage of.
@@ThePurpleCheesecakeZebra it’s literally just a nonce attractor and that’s actually terrifying. I don’t understand why anyone would subject their kid to that risk
It looks like virtue signaling behaviour to me. "LOOK AT ME! I'M such a good person I'm rasing a special needs child snd I DIDN'T try to neglect them at all."
Not really. Teal and dark blue are not similar at all, even IN the "dark outside". Moreover, houses that are available to knock for trick or treating have a porch light on. Which means it's not dark at all when the house is there to give candy.
It's very upsetting to see so many people who are so flippant about allergies that may seriously harm children. But not surprising. I know I've had several teachers force me to go play in the sun with the other children even AFTER my mother wrote them a note about my sunlight sensitivity. And most of them didn't apologize to me later when I came to school covered in hives. Adults view children as animals with less value than their favorite dog.
It's all so simple. Blue pumpkin = I'm autistic Teal pumpkin = I have safe food options Indigo pumpkin = I want cold, hard currency. Not candy Turquoise pumpkin = I am forgetful and so may return by mistake Sky blue pumpkin = I have only healthy options. Not the good ones either. It's the options that taste like cardboard and phlegm Cyan pumpkin = I have unsafe food options. Mostly straight up poison Azure pumpkin = I have an embarrassing fungal condition I told my mum to not tell everyone about Cerulean pumpkin = I'm dead Denim blue pumpkin = We're drunk and may offer booze instead of candy regardless of age Navy pumpkin = I have a navy pumpkin Periwinkle pumpkin = I am single, looking to mingle Ocean blue pumpkin = I give bible quotes instead of candy Cobalt pumpkin = I am a quest giver with a quest for brave adventurers like you Turquoise pumpkin = I am forgetful and so may return by mistake Lapis pumpkin = My porch is rigged with various D&D style traps Green pumpkin = I am colourblind An actual pumpkin = I am a passing farmer A blue actual pumpkin = I am an autistic farmer How could anyone make a mistake.
@@HydraKittten Definitely Cobalt-59. Don't go near Cobalt-60 pumpkins! It helps to remember this little rhyme: Cobalt-59, Quest of mine. Cobalt-60, The gates of Hell have opened here and all must flee or despair...ixty.
"You're too old to be doing this" kinda boils my piss. Just because you're old and miserable and peaked in middle school and now you're too self conscious and unimaginative to pursue even a glimmer of happiness in your life, doesn't mean the rest of us have to be resigned to a joyless existence for the rest of our lives, Janet.
When I was 17 or 18, a bunch of people in my friend group decided to go trick-or-treating, one last hurrah before graduation or something. Most people were cool with it, but one person was like "don't you think you're too old for trick-or-treating?" and one of the other people in our group was like "Look at it this way, we're a bunch of teenagers and if we weren't doing this we might be out causing trouble." That kinda shut them down.
Wait, it doesn't completely rewire our brain to neurotypical??? **spits out glutenfree stuff and stuffs hands full of gluten rich stuff into his mouth** THERE
These houses “holding candy hostage” need to be reminded of the true meaning of trick-or-treating… which is kids threatening to do mean pranks to you unless you persuade them not to with candy. Withhold the candy because you think the kid didn’t perform their thinly veiled threat appropriately? Then you should expect eggs and TP on your house by morning.
In the old days tricks were often more ambitious. One widely disliked school principle found his car on the garage roof the morning after Halloween! Apparently highschool shop students had disassembled the car sufficiently to make getting the pieces hoisted possible, then reassembled it in it's unique parking spot!
This is why you need more teens and adults trick or treating. Somebody needs to teach the new kids how to follow through with the trick part of trick or treat.
Oh, the origins of trick or treating are wild. It started with a British private school who's students would essentially mug the towns folks unless they gave them a treat of some kind, in this case it was usually some form of alcohol. It is also connected to the origins of the suit as a garment.
I used to use a blue bucket before this even started. Turns out I am autistic. I’m fourteen and still trick or treat which means some very old school people refuse to give me candy. Now I use a black pumpkin because to warn people that I am emo.
@@TheBubbleEater lmao nice then my friend group would be three people with fluffy pumpkins, me with a black pumpkin, and one very scared person with a normal pumpkin.
How about carrying a little sign, like a ping pong paddle, that just says "trick or treat" instead of disclosing anyone's diagnosis on a sticker or with a blue bucket. Then the true assholes out there can just use their imagination as to why the trick or treater doesn't speak.
@@imautisticnowwhat So, youtube had the option to translate your comment to English, and it translated it as "Yesss!" I found that really funny. You were almost speaking English--just one more "s"!
ive never understood the attitude towards teenagers and adults trick or treating. in my mind, you're never too old for it, whether you're neurotypical or neurodivergent
My great-grandmother actually got tired of one of the neighbors hassling her to keep my grandfather in on Halloween. So, she wound up tipping the outhouse with that neighbor over and when the neighbor came by the next day to ask where my grandfather is, she just said that he was in all night. Which was true, the neighbor didn't even think to ask if my great-grandmother had any idea who had knocked it over. People need to remember that that's how Halloween used to be, handing out a bit of candy to kids that can't comply strictly with the normal practice is not that big of a deal and doesn't result in any damage.
@viktorija214 пре 0 секунди TH-camr Reallife Kaz Brekker has made video about problems that she has doing Halloween season (people try to hurt her because of her cane they think she is the witch and they try take her cane it from her because is to old to do costumes). th-cam.com/video/eeK0wQe9pkY/w-d-xo.htmlsi=Hap3oA4U-ITHBlvr
Reason #4 why someone might have a teal pumpkin on their porch - they just like the color. Target and Michaels especially are both full of multi colored skeletons and pumpkins and have been for years. Not everyone goes for traditional purple/black/orange decorations. At the end of the day, I agree with the sentiment that it is up to the parents to make sure their kids are safe and whatever treats they get are okay for them to eat.
Christ imagine being a grown adult whose ego’s hurt over a child not saying trick or treat. You gave everyone else candy meaning you had the intention of handing them out, give it to her dammit.
youtuber Reallife Kaz Brekker has made video abut she has problems (people try to hurt her) because of her cane(they think she is the witch and it to old for costimes so they try to steal her cane)Peple are really aggressive about Halloween
You aren't required to disclose your disability to an employer, so why should trick or treaters be encouraged to disclose their situation to someone handing out candy on Halloween?
I feel like some people believe that autism is more accepted than it is. I’m autistic and in high school and the kids in my classes don’t know so I hear them talk about autistic people and calling each other autistic and using the r slur and it’s really hurtful cause it means I can’t bond with so many classmates. It’s so isolating. So no, I don’t wanna go around on Halloween going “IM AUTISTIC! I NEED THIS SPECIAL ACCOMMODATION! IM DIFFERENT IN SOME WAY!” Because I see kids from my school every year. (This is a comment agreeing with you but it might come across as accidentally aggressive)
Because visibility and awareness are the key to growing acceptance. We all just want to be accepted, and plenty of us hide our autism so well that people have no idea. It helps normalize it for everybody else. nobody is required to though! If you don't feel comfortable disclosing it to others, please don't feel pressured to!
I never really cared when people used autism as an insult. The only thing that angered me was people screeching for no reason (it would be different if they were disabled) and people saying stuff about my mother. Everything else was just in and out of my ear at school. The autism thing as an insult seems to be largely on the internet. Just like when people call each other gay. Although gay is just another word for happy anyways. People keep changing words for some reason.
@@AliceIsInWonderland Im not sure if this is good or if this will help you, but maybe talk to a higher up(principal/grade supervisor[idk what they're called or if this exist in your school]) or then a teacher, or a teacher who isn't teaching you if that makes you more comfortable, or your parents, to be reported to the school, or both or all; about this calling autistics as an insult or slur. AND make sure to tell them to not state say it came FROM your class or you, OR have the principal/supervisor/teacher address this privately with the students if you know who said it, IF you are comfortable with that idea; or maybe suggest some talk about autism awareness so it could perhaps help students empathise/understands a little bit, partially of what autism is. But anyways if you are suffering from this right now, you can voice it out with the authorities in the school/your parents for help and emotional support.
I've always loved Halloween and getting to trick or treat but it was absolute hell for me sometimes because I was an insanely quiet kid. I don't think I had or have a speech problem but I'm very very bad at enunciating and every time I talked everyone went "HUH? HUH? WHAT WAS THAT?! SPEAK UP?? I CANT UNDERSTAND YOU??" and I would always say trick or treat but i was so quiet that some people genuinely couldn't hear and then they'd stare at me and id stare back because I thought they heard me but they didn't and they were waiting me to say it so now I have severe social anxiety the end also why are we forcing autistic kids to out themselves?? like what's the point?? "acceptance" isn't forcing someone out of their comfort zone unless they tell you about their private business, if anyone did that to a neurotypical kid they'd be in jail
Here in Sweden we don't have Halloween, at least when I was at that age, but we do have easter witches "Påskkärringar". I'm schizophrenic, and I cannot deal with kids knocking at my door as that that easily destroy my mind. So I put up a sign on the door that kindly ask no witches to knock on my door as "I'm scared of them". Maybe these rude boomers can do the same if they hate giving out candy?
It really is that simple! They could also just leave out a bowl of candy with or without a sign. If the bowl is empty nobody will bang on the door asking for more if the lights are out.
It's not a bit thing in Australia either, but we have a sort of rule around us that only houses with decorations are participating which makes sense, you're not going to walk up the drive of someone who doesn't celebrate the holiday
While I'm in the United States, I tend to follow the rule of "Lights on". If a house has their lights on, then I go up and do the "trick or treat" thing or take candy from a bowl if that's what is being done. If not, then I pass them by.
I was on the porch with my dogs, passing out candy a few Halloweens ago when a little girl in a pretty pink princess costume was carried up to me by her mom and aunt. Tiny Princess was vocalizing and squirming and as I calmed down the dogs, her mom explained that she was nonverbal/autistic and apologized for her fussing. I was able to smile and tell them “don’t worry, I am too.” The Princess didn’t like me holding out the candy bowl to her, so I set it on the ground in front of her and let her choose a piece at her own pace. Her mom and aunt were so grateful, and Princess left my porch more calm than she had been on the way up. I hope they’re doing well, wherever they are now
I think it's so interesting interacting with Autistic children when their parents aren't. It's interesting the small things you're able help with because we understand.
I was that kid afraid to say "trick or treat" in the 70s, going door to door with my extremely extroverted sister. She had a little song she sang for treats, and kicked out her feet and everything. I stood behind her and whispered the best I could to get the words out, but there were some houses in our neighborhood that just didn't care. If I wasn't sufficiently loud enough, I didn't get a treat from them. I think they somehow thought they were "teaching me a lesson" by withholding candy for not being as loud (or as "friendly"??) as my older sister. The only lesson I learned at the time wasn't to say the magic words louder the following year, but instead to just not even try holding out my little sack expectantly, hopefully. The lesson I learned as an adult is "everyone gets a handful of treats!" I don't care how old you are, if you're wearing a costume or not. Show up at my door on Halloween and you're getting treats. A parent holding a baby in one hand and a bucket in the other. Treat. Twelve years old and wanting to go "one last time" even though all your friends say it's lame? You just got candy and they didn't. Twenty years old and non-verbal? Treat. Last year, I had one parent come back to my door to say "thank you for doing this." I don't know which child was theirs but I hope I helped in a small way to make it a fun night for them. I hope they come back this year. For me, being on the 'other side of the door' has made Halloween my favorite holiday of the year. 🎃
I’m so tired of colors having to mean something. What if you have a kid that just loves the color blue and wants to carry a blue pumpkin. All of a sudden they are labeled something. How about we just treat everyone nicely and not worry about how old they are, whether they speak, scream, are hiding behind their parent, or anything else.
This this this this this because I love blue and if something has a blue varient I will 1000% be getting that one so I had one of those dark blue pumpkin-shaped jack-o-lantern buckets shown all the way back in the 90s
The teal bucket can actually be quite nice to signify a food allergy. The issue is that most ppl just don't care enough to provide alternative candies in separate bowls or small toys for children that have common allergies.
The colored pumpkins are just so parents giving away candy can assess the worthiness of the children who ask for it. It's terribly pathetic. It's a holiday! Let people celebrate with some tasty candy for heaven's sake! And the parents who want to dictate what color pumpkin their kid is carrying are playing into this system of judgement which neurotypicals have created. It's awful. Why can't people just give away a dollar's worth of candy to a few people once a year?
EXACTLY! I am not autistic (I am just diagnosed with ADHD) and I was planning on getting a blue pumpkin cause blue is my favourite colour, but now that I know about the purpose of it now I don't want one
When I was a younger kid I had allergies to gluten, dairy, peanuts, and other various things. I would still go trick or treating so I could have the fun experience of it, and when I got home my parents would set up a “Halloween store” where I could trade pieces of candy for stuff like stickers, maybe a book, just various small items! I kept like 10 pieces of candy that were safe for me, and still got other cool stuff instead which I feel like is a really good way for parents to deal with kids with food allergies or just not wanting them to take candy from strangers!
That's so cute. Reminds me of the days when my siblings and I would trade and barter Halloween candy at the end of the night. If we couldn't eat something or didn't like it, we'd see what the other person had and start hashing deals lmao.
Forcing a child YOU DO NOT KNOW, to perform a task for a reward is CRAZY behavior. I love Halloween as an autistic person and I love trick or treating, but if I was nonverbal and didn’t want to say it, that would’ve made me feel so horrible. It’s a weird, silly holiday for the kids (and adults - I’m 24 and I’d love to keep going trick or treating), it should be fun not controlling and cruel.
No one is forcing you to go door to door demanding sugar payment. It's cringe no matter how you slice it. I'm under no obligation to give random people anything, and if I give things out, I can set the parameters. For me, it's making an effort on a costume. But if you're a teen who put on a towel and called yourself a super hero and grabbed a plastic garbage bag thinking I'm going to fill it for you....? Nah brah. Make an effort.
Love the sweet mom who thought of this originally, her post obviously came from a place of love and concern for her son. But hey, why don’t we just treat everyone with kindness instead of making them earn it by showcasing their diagnosis? Luckily I live in the UK and Halloween isn’t the big deal that it is in America. We get maybe 6 kids knocking over the course of the night and funnily enough, I don’t ask any of them to disclose their medical history before being kind to them.
exactly, at the end of the day those aware of this bucket will be doing nothing different to each of the kids at their door if they are decent people. are they really gonna be stood behind the door peeping through the hole like "hey karen this next kids autistic lets not be stuck up bitches to this one and insist that if they dont act the way we expect that theyre terrible children with horrible parents"? i'd like to hope not. and if they arent aware of the blue bucket theyre still gonna be absolute dicks to everyone
Ecactly this. I do understand the idea. Some people would be like 'Sing a song or you won't get sweets.' But then it would mean that the problem is with people being intolerant. Not someone who needs to show that they are Autistic.
I would get it if also, give a loot blue have a blue pumpkinng out of solidarity action, that its not that easy to single out and its awrareness fun. Then i would be behind it, why would you single them just out (why other kids having blue as solidarity could be fun, like its a dumb pumpkin , make it a solidarity punpkin too it was? cool
It might have been a good intention, but it's egoistic and just plain stupid. It's not on the people who give something (in this case candy) to inform themselves about the troubles a small minority of the receivers might have, be it diabetes, allergies or anything else. It's on the people who have the problem to deal with the problem. Yes, it isn't fair. But that's how society works in real life - outside of well-meaning, feelgood, all-inclusiding hugging groups on Social Media. Let's take the example of a kid with diabetes that goes halloweening with a blue bucket. (When I first heard about this idea it was about diabetic children.) Would any mom TRUST that everbody knows and cares about the blue bucket plus is aware which foods are ok and which aren't? Hell no, she's gonna have to look through everything anyway. The only thing the blue bucket does in this example is being an annoiance to the givers. To make it clear, if I knew about a diabetic kid in my neighborhood, I'd make sure to give him/her appropriate foods when they show up at my door. That too is how society works (among decent people). But waving some sort of colored bucket in expectation that everbody is up to date with the latest update out of any special needs group? Yeah, good luck with that. And yeah, what started as "help" for diabetic kids is now a mashup of all sorts of stuff. I mean, this kind of evokes the question "and what's wrong with you?" towards blue bucket kids. Don't think anybody would see that as a win.
My autistic son carried a blue bucket one year. But not for autism. He just likes blue and wanted blue. We live in a small town where autism is not accepted. So, nobody seemed to think the blue meant anything and I didn't want them to because I knew they would be rude about it. I think people generally just get weird about Halloween. Some people are kind and generous and others want kids to preform a certain way to get candy. It's a weird holiday. When my oldest child was 3, we went to a church Halloween event. It was going to be a trunk or treat in the parking lot but it was raining so they decided to do in the classrooms inside of the building. At the first door, my daughter very timidly said trick or treat. The cranky old woman at the door sprayed her in the face with water! They lady said my daughter said trick or treat but she didn't say it loud enough so she picked trick. It took everything in me not to go to jail that night.
Why there are always bitter Nunes or women like that in churches that hate kids. I heard a lot of them from people who were Catholic. Why do they hate kids so much. I guess because they aren't allowed to have any so they torment other people's kids.
Since when are we withholding candy from kids who don't/can't say "trick or treat" ? Standing there shaking with social anxiety was all I ever had to do to get candy back in the 90's. It feels like bully behavior to be so regimental about halloween candy of all things.
@viktorija214 пре 0 секунди I agree with you. This youtuber Reallife Kaz Brekker has made video about problems that she has doing Halloween season (people try to hurt her) because of her cane(they think she is the witch and they try take it from her).Peple are really aggressive about Halloween costumes th-cam.com/video/eeK0wQe9pkY/w-d-xo.htmlsi=Hap3oA4U-ITHBlvr
I agree with you even youtuber Reallife Kaz Brekker has made video abut she has problems (people try to hurt her) because of her cane(they think she is the witch and it to old for costimes so they tru to steal her cane)Peple are really aggressive about Halloween
As an autistic person I agree the blue pumpkins aren’t helpful. Plus I don’t want a pumpkin basket for Halloween, I want to carry a cute little bag of my choice! If I had to have a pumpkin basket, I’m definitely going to choose an orange one anyway because that’s what pumpkins look like.
I have often wondered “do I need a ‘mark’ for being autistic like a visually impaired person might have a cane?” It might enhance my safety if it can prevent misunderstanding. It might also reduce my safety if it singles me out as a vulnerable target. Most importantly, my autistic safety concern takes place everywhere in society. I don’t like the implication that trick-or-treating is the most consequential and attention-worthy adversity an autistic person experiences. The implication is dismissive, as if blue buckets solve autistiphobia.
a cane is not to signal ones blindess to others it is to get around. just like shoes are not to signal that you have weak soled feet its better just to raise awareness. at the end of the day a symbol that says "this person may be acting this way because of many reasons but we are mature adults who can be understanding and sympathetic towards them and as long as they are not in danger leave them alone" is only as effective as the message of the campaign. which could equally just say "people act certain ways because of many reasons and we should be emotionally mature adults about it". if you didnt know about either campaign you would not change how you behave around people if you where aware of the symbol campaign you would be a horrible mean person to everyone until you saw someone with this symbol meaning those who arent diagnosed or dont want to advertise their disability would also be treated horribly. or best case scenario just not helped because they didnt wear the puzzle piece head band. it also advertises it to people as a weakness if you are aware of the second campaign then people still have to guess which is the autistic if they want to use it to their advantage. but the nice emotionally mature person can just be nice to everyone and help people when they ask for it and be understanding if someone is overwhelmed. the middle ground is to have something that can explain to those around you (like a card in your pocket) which can out you at risk but usually if youre in oublic there will be nice enough people around who can read it and help you if you are nonverbal. generally if im having a sensory overload or panic attack i am able to say it. a card would also say it. wearing a big badge that says it will just make people know they can push my buttons and make a pretty decent tiktok video if they want.
I’m legally blind and should be using a rolling tip cane because it does actually give you legal protections for things like street crossings and such but oh my god did it single me out and at least two situations occurred where I started getting people following me that didn’t think I could see them. I stopped using it.
People do use simbolic sight canes. I am autistic and partially sighted and I have a sight cane that is meant for simbolic purposes to let people know of my sight issues I do however often feel reluctant to use it because as Tay pointed out I also feel like I don't want to be singled out as potentially vulnerable to people who may be dangerous.
I don't think it should up to those in vulnerable positions to have to go out of their way to demand accommodation. It should be everyone else that has to be mindful that not everyone is neurotypical, and shouldn't need a reminder to show basic human decency to others.
@@Mamaofchaos2 Yes, that's the Catch-22, isn't it? If a person is already prone to bully and victimize others, should a disabled person rely on signaling their disability to . . . de-escalate? Why is merely existing an escalation to begin with? Civil society must protect victims and stop victimizers. I hate to say it, but it's just as effective for me as an autistic person to wear a mask, sunglasses, fatigues, chain, and loose clothing that could easily conceal something-- so I instill fear by presenting as a more unstable/risky bullying target-- as it is for me to advertise disability begging the world to not be assholes. "Might be a powder-keg" can be a safer social signal than "Don't mind me, I'm autistic!"
I’m that neighbor who just puts a large bowl of candy out on my porch. Not just so they don’t have to interact with a random stranger, but so I don’t have to interact with a bunch of random strangers. 😅
@@Knifeeye it was always my favorite as a kid because I didn’t have to talk to anyone and could pick out my favorites without feeling rushed. Now I just like to avoid the knocks on my door (especially for my dog). And the kids seem to like it too when you hear them through the door yelling “ITS JUST A BUCKET TO PICK FROM!!!!”
@@VeronikaCerna-hm6rwThat's what happened to me when I tried this method. Not the first person, but some neighborhood cholo had the gall to make off with the majority of the candy. I never gave away candy after that.
@@VeronikaCerna-hm6rw I don’t. I just hope for some honesty. One year I’m pretty sure a kid or a small group early on in the night took everything. But every other year I usually actually wake up to candy still in my Jack o lantern. As kids we also always just assumed the older kids would take more, but at least in the neighborhood I grew up in, the older kids didn’t go out until a bit later than the younger kids so the younger kids had a chance before the bigger kids even went out. I guess it really just depends on your neighborhood/town and how well everyone knows and respects each other. 🤷🏼♀️
I was super tall as a kid and I have a very distinct memory of going trick or treating with my younger cousins when i was around 10-11 years old & this old lady yelled in my face and called me too old to trick or treat. Ruined Halloween for me.
Oh sweet JESUS!!!!! I am 29 and STILL Trick or Treat and have AuDHD. But ONE Halloween, I had a Halloween bucket that said 'This Pumpkin has Autism' WITH A PUZZLE PIECE PICTURE!!!!!! It was EMBARRASSING and do you know HOW MANY TIMES my mother used my autism as an EXCUSE to get what she wants???!!! It's HUMILIATING! I do NOT owe you MY AuDHD diagnosis for ANYTHING unless it's a medical emergency NOR does ANY autistic person REGARDLESS of child OR adult! I may be higher masking and there are lower masking people with autism but AGAIN, we are NOT in American Horror Story FREAK SHOW! We are DESERVING of LOVE and RESPECT! Autistic kids GROW into Autistic ADULTS! There's NO cure for it so 'autism moms' like mine and society just need to shut up and treat us as equals and human beings instead of babies or freaks like in AHS Freak Show! Sorry for my rant 😅
It’s so frustrating, because as a mum I’m the opposite. I don’t think anyone needs to know, but on the few occasions where I need to bring things up, I feel like I’m not going to be taken seriously, because so many other mothers use diagnoses as an excuse for everything.
As someone who carried a blue pumpkin basket every halloween for a DECADE from when I was 8 to (currently) 18, I just liked the color blue! I am ND, and I love halloween and trick or treating, even though i’m too old for it, but just going door to door and seeing all the decorations and costumes just bring me a sense of comfort. All of my friends, even though they don’t want to go trick or treating because we are older still are willing to go with me, even if they don’t participate themselves :)
We shouldn't have to disclose our disability just to be treated with basic human empathy, Halloween or not. And as that one creator pointed out, the people who are most likely to mistreat us are also the ones who are least likely to know or care what it means! The type of people who turn down an autistic or mute child for not saying "trick or treat" are also the same type of people who think autism is an excuse and that children with invisible disabilities are putting on an act to recieve special treatment. They think mistreating the child will teach them to "start acting normal." These aren't the type of people you want to disclose your child's autism diagnosis to.
Completely agree, the allergy buckets seem way better implemented. That is exsactly what they did label the "safe" house not the person. Like leaving a step for shorter people near a wall. Not evreone needs it but it's nice to have it. That being said I think people should not need to label that they are not jack*** to kids for any reason. Especially a disorder of some sort. I don't have to tell people I'm dyslexic, if they make fun of spelling they will do so anyway. Me saying I am should not change how they treat me. Regardless. People who can't spell well are not less intelligent we are word blind. Litteraly used to be the disorder name and I think it was a disservice to change it.
But no one is forcing you. You can obviously make that decision for yourself. But there are children that these buckets really help (both the child and parent), like it does my friends son who is non verbal but very vocal, and no interaction. Just because it's not for you, doesn't mean it's not for everyone. Like I said, no one is forcing you to do this. You can make a choice not to disclose your autism. Some kids can't make that choice, and to make their Halloween more enjoyable and understanding, the blue bucket helps. It's a non verbal indicator that" hey, my child may seem different, but we're just out here for fun" it's also gives people handing out treats a chance to look up some information and educate themselves on autism and the different spectrums and how to be when a child with severe autism comes to their door without making it uncomfortable. Not everyone has someone with autism in their life whom they've learned what to expect and what to say or not say, do or not do, etc. Don't shame people into not using it just because it's not useful to you, even though it wouldn't need to be used in your situation. I don't understand the problem. You'd think you'd want more people to learn about it, and the blue bucket can encourage people to do that. Wouldn't that be a good thing? No?
The "you're too old to trick or treat" thing happend to me and my (then)girlfriend, we were 15 and we ringed a house, nobody answered so we logically moved on but we had to go around the house to do that, and the owner, this old woman was in her backyard when we passed and she just yelled at us that we were way too old, and like wtf?? For context I'm autistic and so was my ex-girlfriend but that shouldn't change to fact that we're just having fun and not hurting anyone like why would there be an age limit to fucking sweets and traditions?, why are people so mean to others for no reason? And at the time we thought it was because Halloween isn't that popular in my country but it doesn't seem like it from the stories from online friends that I've heard. I guess humans are just dicks ;-;
My mother's coworkers bullied her into banning me from trick or treating because I was "too old" at 10 to be trick or treating. All those women that told my mom this were saying how it's somehow disrespectful to the younger children because halloween should be For Them and how they always hated seeing "older" children on halloween. Basically guilted her til she stopped me from trick or treating and they also told her she was personally ruining halloween for children by letting her own child trick or treat. It's such a baffling opinion, I've never been able to understand it.
There was an old lady in my friend's neighbourhood who was so glad to see my friend and I at her house, asking for candy. We were 14, which is bordering "too old" too. She was just so sad, because nobody had knocked on her door yet. She specially packed a range of sweets in zip lock bags, and gave us extra ones for my friend's little brothers who were too sick to go out that night. We talked with her for a bit, and it was lovely. Not many people participate in Halloween here. It's not really as much of a thing, so it does dip in popularity during religious scares as well as predator and food safety worries. Some also view it as too American. But honestly our politicians keep co-opting American culture war conservatism, so Halloween is at least fun and relatively non-problematic.
@@imautisticnowwhat😢My niece was tall for her age as a child. This resulted in a carnival worker making her pay the adult fare for a ticket to his ride, when she was barely 12!
It's terribly sad and pathetic that parents would make such a big fuss over maybe a dollar's worth of candy. It's halloween! Just give it away! Old, young, non-verbal, verbal, it doesn't matter. Why are parents assessing every trick or treater and trying to weed out anyone they deem unworthy? Give me a break. People are horrible these days.
Predators DO look for single parents with disabled kids, regardless of the holiday. Whether we have confirmed instances of predators looking for blue buckets or not, we shouldn’t be making it any easier for them.
a disabled child, like all children, is most vunerable to people that their parents has allowed into thier life. Parents, teachers, pastors, coaches, etc. no one is waiting to gobble up your child.
@@mikeymullins5305 you are factually incorrect. There are literal predators that seek out vulnerable people to fulfill their twisted fantasies. They may not snatch your kid off the street, but they might flirt with you, and become your kid’s new step-daddy, or babysitter, or Boy Scout leader.
@@mikeymullins5305 and how do these bad people find manipulatable parents to form a friendship with? Probably by keeping an eye out during events that bring families out into public like trick or treating
Here in Europe we have a sunflower lanyard that people of all ages with invisible disabilities can use in public like in the bus or whatever. It's useful who know who needs a little extra space. Idk what y'all's sensationalized hostility is about across the pond, but geez, I'm sorry y'all can't trust any strangers to generally be somewhat respectful
I grew up undiagnosed, I never said trick or treat and if I did it was very mumbled and no one actually heard me, and when I was 12/13, I was an early bloomer so I looked a bit older, I was told by a few neighbors that I was too old to go trick or treating, yet they’d give my friends candy. I feel like Halloween is definitely orchestrated for neurotypical kids.
Also if I wasn’t an adult and was a kid, I would not want a blue pumpkin, it is not even a Halloween color 😭 PURPLE or GREEN would’ve been a better choice
Lmaoo the orchestrated for NT kids part. I feel like Halloween is important for me because I wanna dress up goofy. I truly love fashion and that’s a hill I’ll gladly die on
I was mute for a few years as a kid so doing trick or treating was painful, so I'd follow a group and hope to get candy at the same time 'cause when I went alone, no one would answer their door or when I didn't say anything they'd close to door on me. ._. In my teens I'd get spookier/scarier costumes so sometimes they'd just give me candy so I'd go away LOL
Ahh, as a polish person I must say that it's been really nice to see your pronunciation improve in the Babbel ads, it really makes me happy to see someone having fun learning my language 'v'
About the teal vs blue pumpkins - certainly in the UK, where street lights often have a yellow/orange tinge, it'd be pretty much impossible to tell the difference between blue and teal at night..
Those are probably sodium vapor lights and in this part of the US they're mostly being phased out due to the energy efficiency and durability of LEDs just being so much better.
@@SmallSpoonBrigade It is technically possible to make amber LED lights. My second LED flashlight that I made as a teen was amber. (The first was red.)
@@SmallSpoonBrigade Which are unshaded and blinding as hell to those of us with light sensitivity, and still rather bright to people without. We should add shades to streetlights and LED car headlights should be illegal
As someone who was allergic to nuts, wheat, milk, and eggs twenty years ago in America I find this all ridiculous. I took whatever candy people gave me. When I got back to my house my parents or siblings took the allergens and gave me safe things from their own buckets. The point of Halloween should be good will and community sharing. It's not a stranger's duty to know my medical history, nor do I want them to. It's so sad to think people claiming to celebrate Halloween are putting conditions to who they give treats to and how. Let's just all share!
the blue pumpkin being “wrong” is honestly so relatable. im neurodivergent and especially as a kid i was always put off by any pumpkin that wasn’t orange because the orange just looks right. Why anyone would want a pumpkin that wasn’t orange was baffling to me, and i would have been really upset if my parents made me carry one around (fortunately i could carry whatever bag i liked
Last year I went to a door on Halloween and saw only snickers in (peanut allergy) so I said to them oh sorry save the candy for someone else. And my friends had but in and said oh dude your allergic aren't you. The couple overheard and called me back ran into her kitchen and got me a pack of mini cheddar's it was so sweet❤❤
Bro shoutout to ppl who offer fruit gummies or just fruit slices or just straight up fruit/produce or drinks for allergy options. One lady would literally give you an apple orange ir banana if you couldn’t eat the snickers bc she always had just snickers every year bc her favorite
In the Netherlands we celebrate Sint Maarten (St Martin) on the 11th of November and it's basically our Halloween, with a few differences. Kids go out to get candy, but instead of dressing up and yelling trick or treat, they carry (sometimes homemade, depending on local tradition) lanterns and sing songs. It was the bane of my existence. I was SO jealous of the American and English kids who were allowed to dress up and just say one sentence instead of singing a whole song. I could force my way through it for the sweets. Usually I went with a small group and I learned how to keep my voice quiet enough that I wouldn't stand out, but loud enough that I would be heard. Because full grown adults were So. Mean! I knew kids who didn't want to sing and they were very often singled out and made to repeat the song on their own "louder this time" until the (again: FULL GROWN) adult was satisfied. It was like a weird little power play. Point is, if autistic kids were made to carry blue lanterns in my youth, they'd just be more cruel I'm sure. They'd single us out even more.
I've seen those houses where kids were told that they were too old to participate and got nothing... or kids who didn't sing got nothing and the door closed shut. Freaking a$$holes, those people. I also had one neighbour that threw a 5 cents coin into your bag. Wow.
That sounds like how we do Christmas caroling where I'm from. A lot of kids feel like it's awkward and uncool, but people of any age can do it. People may give you sweets or even money (sometimes it's a church choir and they take donations for the church)
@@AquaPeet Our lanterns were usually made out of crepe paper or something equally fragile and unsuitable for Dutch November weather and one of the houses would get so MAD if you came there with a broken lantern. The kids can't help it, lady! Take it up with whoever makes it rain so much.
There's certainly a degree of objectification that comes with being a kid, and being expected to act/look cute in a performative way, for the amusement of adults.
Also, the recommendation for people to replace their porch light with a blue light to signify they should be visited by autistic kids seems like a predator's wet dream.
Idk if this is just me but I remember as a kid being so anxious about going up and saying “Trick of treat” because so many adults found it funny to say “Trick!” and stand there laughing while I was having a panic attack not knowing what to do. I would be so upset every time. What does that even mean? Why are you trying to upset a child for your own amusement? Eventually my silence and hyperventilating would make it awkward and they just give me something and close the door.
Blue pumpkins, teal pumpkins......if a bunch of kids knock on my door in multi-coloured costumes I'm not going to notice what colour their buckets are. How about the adults just stop putting the blame on actual children and just give out the candy, making sure they aren't giving anything that could cause an allergic reaction or choking hazard. There are also loads of allistic kids who are shy or have a quiet voice, let's not turn Halloween into an upsetting experience for quiet kids.
Maybe just playing audio on a phone that says trick or treat would be enough? Idk I'd never disclose my diagnosis for a piece of candy. Or maybe just a sign that says something along the lines of "I'm very shy"
as long as the trick-or-treaters don’t start the interaction with a “trick” (and aren’t lewd/legitimately rude like swearing or catcalling/clearly just some adult casing my house etc), then they’re getting a treat. that’s the base transaction. teens or adults, no costume, not talking, whatever. you still get candy.
@@ThePurpleCheesecakeZebraall the talk of adults telling kids to be nice to each other, and yet they treat kids like they’re above them. It sucks how some adults are actually worse than children
19:56 When I was 4, someone did jump out from behind their house with a chainsaw right when I grabbed candy from the bowl. My flight response made me throw the bowl and run back to my mom, still waiting at the end of their driveway. Then the guy had the nerve to say my mom shouldnt have taken me out to trick or treat cuz I "clearly didn't understand the Halloween spirit". Literally followed my mom and i down the road some screaming at us to pick up the bowl of candy. It is ridiculous, especially to do to a kid, but sadly there are people out there that think its a good idea.
When I was a kid, the warnings were to look for candy wrappers that had tiny holes in them, because some sicko had inserted straight pins into pieces of candy and given them out.
@@joycebrewer4150yeah my parents still have me hand my candy bag over to them before I can eat any, and I’m 16(still trick or treating though). Honestly I trust them to check better than if I checked any, and I have had to throw out stuff just because it looked slightly suspicious. I end up snagging a few from my house to eat before I go to other houses just because I feel like it’s safer lol
@@joycebrewer4150 someone had put razor blades into candy apples a few years back. I don’t go trick or treating anymore. I just buy a bag of candy and watch movies in my room now. Ruined me
@@joycebrewer4150Makes me wonder even more why trick or treating is a thing to begin with. Parents send their children out to ask strangers for candy - the thing they warn them of throughout the rest of the year - and then put on a surprised Pikachu face when the things they warned them of actually do happen.
Majority of people talking about autism aren't autistic they are just white liberal women. Actually autistic people don't tend to be as online as these people. And they are never trying to use it as a tool to grab power. These people are white female liberals who are overwhelmingly straight and desperate for attention
There's a new thing this year in Ontario Canada, with orange lawn signs signalling an accessible house. This means not only are they accommodating to autistic children, but also children with physical disabilities who may not be able to approach the front door if there are stairs. I like this a lot better, it's not some ambiguous symbol like a blue pumpkin, and it just generally communicates "the people at this house will do their best to make this holiday work for you/your kid".
I have autistic and neuro typical children. I can honestly say, it is NOTHING to do with the child. It's the homeowner. A "bad" stop is a bad stop for all the children. Some adults who think they're good Halloweeners just aren't. Some practically want a song or dance, some make a perfectly normal neurotypical child feel creeped out. The best answer is that we parents kind of have to do some research to know where not to go sadly. Also, some older kids distort particularly older people's view of kids who trick or treat. Also I have heard of the Teal Pumpkin for kids with allergies. I always provide other options anyway because not all kids like the same things. Later on in the evening, as my kids need sleep, I just leave the bowl in the porch for kids to help themselves. My autistic child LIKES halloween decorations, so not all autistic kids want the sensory bland approach!
These people withholding candy from actual 6 year olds are EVIL. Why'd they even pass out candy in the first place? Or are they hoping to keep it all so they can pig out on it? My kids were too shy to say it their first year and my son's speech was like a tongue twister for multiple years after that, so he couldn't say it "properly". Thank God no one snatched the candy back for it. I think I would have lost my cool!
Thank you! I was so confused at first. We keep a teal pumpkin for kids that can't have candy due to allergies (although, we don't really restrict it if another kid would prefer the little toys - or both!). Didn't even realize there are also blue pumpkins. 🤦♀️
I try to avoid having anything like that unless it's something obvious. Much of the time we just let the kids rifle through the bowl for something like like. Although, Perhaps this year I'll get a split bowl and put most of the peanut stuff on one side and the non peanut stuff on the other. Anybody so allergic that it being commingled is a problem, shouldn't be trick or treating, but it would probably make it easier to figure out which ones are going to be safe when opened.
@SmallSpoonBrigade please if you opt for an allergen safe alternative, get a bag of candy (although I personally prefer a non food alternative to avoid the problem altogether) that is all allergen friendly and not mixed with allergen fraught ones
0:19 "that is not a choking hazard" oh i absolutely felt that edted: also, "these precious people aren't "too old" to trick or treat" feels somewhat infantilising and condescending. no one is "too big" to trick or treat. i've seen loads of NTs having fun on Halloween over the years, it's not just us autistic people who _may_ want to celebrate it like that. "may" is the keyword here, because not even all of us enjoy Halloween, let alone celebrate it.
I loathe the choice between being seen as rude and hateful, but adult, or being seen as precious and harmless, but an infant. I’m a disabled adult. Twice-exceptional, so practically everything is either wildly easier or wildly harder for me compared to Median American “Jessica”. I was very interested to learn about “Jessica”, the 38 year old married mother of one kid and one dog who lives in a home she and her husband own in Texas (guess they managed to snag it in the 2008 housing market crash), drives her pickup truck a half-hour each way to her job as a school secretary in the area of a significant city, and lives about an hour from where her parents and younger sister do. She and her husband both work full-time, and she gets decent health insurance at work, but the family still lives paycheck to paycheck. I am very… not Jessica, but it was funny how many ladies were commenting that they were 80-90% Jessica! 😅
As someone who grew up painfully shy and very quiet around strangers, I always was pressured by adults to be more sociable and "speak up" louder so more people could hear me even if i was only talking to one person. Unfortunately being from a southern-hospitality area and loud family, they were doing what they thought was best for me because they believed i wouldn't make it in the world if i didnt overcome ny shyness. Their hearts were in the right place, but it definitely wasn't fun to be forced into those situations for a lot of reasons. I do believe the people "holding candy hostage" might be doing something similar where it's less of a power trip and more of a "practice social skills" thing but it can still be an incredibly stressful and sometimes harmful situation to be called out and targeted like that especially by someone you don't know. That makes the social anxiety much worse. (Also most of those well-intentioned adults would probably not send the kid away without candy and eventually relent so that lady in the story was probably on a different level).
A few years ago I started adding those little spider rings into the candy bowl, just bc of my own nostalgia, but they turned out to be a hot commodity. Next year buying the rings, I found these funny glow-in-the-dark witch finger things- thought they were funny and they ended up being a huge hit as well. Kids were asking if they had to choose between a candy and a toy, and I thought that was so sweet and honestly surprising that given the choice a lot of kids would rather have a funny little toy?! Not that I ever asked kiddos to choose, I just let them take one of each haha. This year we are making sure we have lots of little things along with candy, little spider rings, pencil top erasers, bubbles, and of course the witch fingers. And thanks to you, I learned about the Teal Pumpkin project and added our house to the map!
9:32 What they do is they notice when there is someone in the group who sticks out. I have never been non-verbal, my parents used to write reminders for me to be quiet on the backs of my hands because I would talk so much in class. But there is a Halloween where I didn't have a voice because of the strain I put on it the day before and several times I was singled out. A lot of people are genuinely just too self-centered to really realize what they are doing.
Even if I was officially autistic, I wouldn't use those blue pumpkins. Not only because of all the issues outlined in this video, but because they look so small and I'm a hardcore trick or treater
What it boils down to is BE NICE. Also if I am giving out candy then anyone who comes to my house and wants candy is getting candy. I don't care if they ask, if they have a costume on, if they have a blue or any other colour pumpkin, if they are tall or old, I don't care. You gettin candy.
19:57 This actually reminded me of how, several years back, a house in our neighborhood had one of the men of the household jump out from behind the house with a hockey mask, chainsaw, and loud music/screams and ran right at the kids. Based on how that house hasn't tried that again in recent years, I'd assume it's because they realized how Not Smart that was - or at the very least whoever thought it was moved away - but either way it was very upsetting. I think it was made especially upsetting because there was no warning. No signs and no signals from the other, more friendly-appearing adults on the porch. I had to be comforted by my parents, who also agreed that it was a dickheaded move. This is especially so, considering how our neighborhood is infamous for having a large community of young or disabled children.
Forget the blue pumpkin and forget the cards. We don't OWE anyone an explanation. Give the less verbal kids a sign that says TRICK OR TREAT and tell them to show it and that is enough. You can put "Thank you" on the back and tell them to flip it when they get candy. I was told I was too old to trick or treat at the fourth house I went to when I was eleven. I had already been ostracized by everyone and was being very brave to go out completely alone in the costume I spent weeks working on making. Sore issue for me.
Yeah my last time trick or treating was when I was 11 or 12, all my friends wouldn’t go because they said we were too old so I only went to a few houses. Sorry that happened to you, I can’t imagine a stranger telling me that, so rude.
Neurotypicals love to judge people for traits that aren't actually harmful, just somewhat "rude" or not fitting in with social norms. They love this so much that parents feel the need to give their children a blue bucket so that they don't get the full effect of that judgement.
I live in Santiago de Chile so we just adopted this holiday for the fun, kids have a blast every year in spring 🌼. The thing goes like this: first you form a group or you go with a parent at least, nobody's gonna be alone. Then at the door everyone says "dulce o truco", it has to be a house with lights on AND decoration, or people in costumes in front of the door with candies, they're clearly participating. Most people that don't have children don't participate and will get offended if you knock at the door specting candy in return. People with candy will give candy to everyone that's dressed up, even young adults in their 20s and sometimes there's treats for the parents as well. Shy kids who don't yell dulce o truco will get candy, but some people would ask to see the costume. In the 2000 I only got permission to go with friends at 11 years old. Some neighbors who knew us well forgot about Halloween and just had big packages of Cookies, fruit or powder juice. But with everything we were happy and split everything evenly. At the time, it was a new thing Halloween. Playing tricks on neighbors who were mean to kids was all the rage. We put toothpaste on ring bells, toilet paper on the trees and bushes and yarn on the fence outside. Because they had promised candy on Halloween but turn off the lights and pretended not to be in the house for Halloween. With more years passing, tricks fell out of use. And more people embrace the american holiday for the kids, even if they're catholic or protestant.
Hola, yo igual soy de chile pero de región, al extremo sur, y allá no funciona :( como desde los 2010 en adelante, se ven niños con disfraces pero casi ninguna casa da caramelos, pide salir escoltando a mi hermanito como desde 2016-2018 y algunos amigos disfrazados y andábamos horas y solo le daban a los pequeños como en 2 o 3 casas de las muchísimas que recorrimos. Al final terminamos comprándole caramelos a mi hermanito. En general la gente es cerrada por allá, el clima es malo aún en esta fecha, y en general la gente mayor rechaza todo lo “afuerino” :C a mi me gusta mucho disfrazarme y aunque yo no pude vivir eso, me apena que mi hermanito tampoco mucho
Man, your videos make me mourn my autistic childhood so much. As an eldest child to strict parents i had to mask since before i can even remember. Every year my mom would practice the halloween routine. "You go and you knock, and you say 'Trick or treat!' and they say 'oh youre so cute!' and then you say 'thank you!'" and i KNOW i used to mumble it. Always always i would go with a group and i never wanted to be the one to knock or ring. It still feels rude to knock or ring, i usually text people when i pull up. But i straight up would skip houses sometimes if the Vibes Were Off and id just lie to my parents and say no one answered. Worse is once i got into high school because in youth group, in NOVEMBER, we would go trick or treating for food donations to give to people in need. That shit made me sick. Halloween is one thing but a random day in november? Knocking on doors to see if anybody has an extra goddamn tuekey lying around, or money for one. Awful. Awful.
My school had a “jog a thon” when I was a kid, and they wanted us to go to random strangers doors and ask them to sponsor us with a certain amount of money for each lap we ran. Lol nope, the only people that sponsored my laps were my parents and aunt.
~On another note to anyone who’s not currently a teenager~ I am 17 and all of my friends will probably be trick-or-treating this year! We are part of the age group that feels as though we lost several years due to Covid and so it’s become much more normalize for teens to trick-or-treat, especially because their parents would much rather than do that then be at parties
Instead of a stranger, it was my mom who drilled into me that I was too old for trick-or-treating at a certain age. Halloween was and still is my absolute favorite season/holiday.
I think that's usually how it goes, either that or your friend circle stops doing it. I think the last time I went was like 7th grade. But, by then, I got to stay home and eat the bulk of the candy that was left after handing it out, so it wasn't really that big of a deal.
Same! When I turned 13, my mom said I was officially too old to go trick or treating and kept me in the house to ensure I would "act my age." I had to hand out Halloween candy to my classmates who were baffled that I wasn't trick or treating! Now, I can't do it anymore because almost no houses in my area participate anymore.
I have always loved Halloween. I always encouraged my kids to go out trick-or-treating, and they did when they felt like it. I know they did on and off in high school, and maybe also in college. My only thing was that I asked them to make an effort with a costume. Even a simple costume is fine, but at least make some kind of effort. 🤷♀️
Same here, her selected age was 12. I think she just wanted to sit on her ass really. Now that I have kids 12 is way to young to stop, maybe 16 but I figured my kids would just not want to around that 16 age mark. It's really up to them
That handing out your kid's diagnosis is a really good point. Saw a white van in front of me with puzzle pieces in pastel colors, with "Autism speaks" and "I have a child with autism" all over it. After careful inspection, saw was a plumbing company (in small letters on one side). Imagine dad picking you up from school in that... I did wonder if he saw his kid as a good investment.
I actually didn't know about the teal pumpkins! I didn't even consider food allergies since i don't have any. I'll have to start getting stickers and small toys to give out. They did that at the church i went to last year for halloween. I definitely am not on board with the blue pumpkin, a sunflower lanyard sounds like a much better idea and I've been considering getting one for myself. House decorations to signal you have non-food items or anything else you may need to signal is really awesome. confining autistic children to a wrongly colored pumpkin to disclose their specific private information is not. as a highschooler, people get really mean when they know someone is ND. I remember a bunch of students picking on another girl who is autistic like me because they found it easy to convince her she was hearing things because of her medication, when in reality they were whispering her name to tease her. I made sure to tell her that they were actually whispering and she wasn't imagining it but oh man... people get real mean
You could also dress as a character that doesn't speak and pretend you aren't talking because you're in character (I'm going as the knight from Hollow Knight)
I always got so mad when I had to trick-or-treat with anything BUT an *orange* pumpkin- I hated the bags, I hated the other colors of pumpkins, it had to be an orange pumpkin- I think this would’ve pissed me off so bad as a kid just based on the color alone
One year I asked mom to make my whole Halloween costume a Jack-o'-lantern! She made two big ovals with orange fabric, and a pumpkin face of black fabric. I wore a green hat. I was mad she didn't want to put clothes hanger wire in the shoulders, to make the pumpkin less flabby! I used my arms instead.
🤔 I would never want such a beacon on my head as a child. Knocking on the door of strangers was not enjoyable either. *That part about the non-verdal little dude is just awful. You cannot have candy until you say the magic words. I hate that phrase anyway. I don't want to be tricked just give me the treat.
Fr like just treat everyone with the basic respect an autistic person needs it's not hard. Give kids candy, don't make them do pointless shit for no reason to get it if they don't like doing it
For real though, I keep encountering this re-occurring in things. Having things to assist fine. Having things that you have to label people to assist bad. The allergy pumpkin did it correctly. Label the house as "safe" not the kids.
@@rheiagreenland4714 It's not JUST the candy; And that's why videos like this one are the actual dangerous and stupid things. It also helps prevent jump-scares, and other things that are done on Halloween that you can't just NOT do. It's not respect, it's not candy, it's the literal purpose of the holiday in general and the candy is but a small part.
Re: non-food treats, we've had great luck giving out glow bracelets. The kids can't get enough of them. We give candy too but we have options. We've also had little pots of sensory slime, bouncy balls, bubbles. It goes over great
I always love the houses that have the cool little trinkets and items it always makes me really happy because sometimes there’s really cool stuff that isn’t candy
I never really stopped trick or treating even though I’m 30 because where I live it’s a huge thing. You don’t go more than 3 houses in a row without an insane amount of decorations. My youngest sibling was over a decade younger than me so even once I got to adulthood I’d go with her and people would insist on giving me candy even when I didn’t ask. Although I think it was mostly because my sister used to brag that I made her costumes or that I painted her face and people just really appreciate the effort put into the day. I probably had one or two people insist I spoke when I was shy as a kid but most didn’t care. They wouldn’t give you any candy if you had no costume or a low effort costume, that was the big thing for them. Extra cool costumes would get extra candy. My favorite house used to give out 5 dollar bills to kids with cool costumes. I got given a 20 once because I made the old man that lived there laugh when I tripped up his stairs and responded in character. I was a vampire. 🧛 😂 Oh, and yes, where I live people will pop out with fake chainsaws that make noise and scare people. There’s also people that pop out of bushes when you get near the door. I used to be terrified as a kid but I still loved it. I kind of got used to it after a while and it stopped bothering me. It happens a bit less now than it used to.
This is my third time attempting to post this comment so fingers crossed it won’t disappear this time! I looked up that Daily Autism Podcast dude out of curiosity, and yikes… As I suspected, he and his wife are self-described “autism parents”, and their social media accounts are full of harmful misinformation. One of their most recent posts is praising Jenny McCarthy’s Louder than Words book. They also post a lot of photos and videos of their young autistic son that feel intrusive.
The people making TikToks about inclusivity through colourful pumpkins using multiple clashing sounds in their videos are not thinking about the people affected by that kind of sensory attack. They don’t even understand what they’re trying to talk about.
One of my best halloweeens was when I was 16. Dressed as mono from Little Nightmares 2 and so I basically had a massive box on my head. No one could see me, no one expected me to talk, and people couldn’t even tell my gender which I liked, plus it hid most of my tics. A year after that I dressed as a special interest of mine! When I was younger I just wore the same cat onesie every year for at least 5 years which was also neat. One time I remember getting scared and running off from a house before I got any sweets and a random lady let me take a sweet from her bag - so yeah, people can be nice through just common sense but honestly I do find Halloween scary without someone older to stick with which is why Im no longer going
The fact that some people need to know why a person is different to not judge this person and that this behavior is encouraged in any way is very sad...
In my clinic I have candy, sugar-free candy, oat bars, and "spooky" reflectors that can hang on jackets and are cute ghosts. Oh, and my pumpkin with these treats for patients is orange. :P
Even beyond what malicious adults could do to a kid holding essentially a neon sign saying "I'm autistic"; - Kids are assholes. Having a sign won't stop other kids from othering and otherwise bullying a kid with a Blue Autism Bucket - Kids not wanting to have a sign saying they're autistic should be respected too. Kids shouldn't owe announcing to every stranger they want candy from that they're different
When I was a kid, I had a few neighbors who would try to make kids do "a trick for a treat" i.e. we had to do a little dance or something for our candy. It used to make me SO uncomfortable.
Man even as I kid I would’ve just straight up walked away. I’m not a trained monkey and I’m not performing for my candy. Why even have candy to give out if you’re just going to be an ass?
This happened to me when I was a kid and I was dressed as a Klingon. I pointed my phaser, which lit up and made a loud noise, at her, and fired. She freaked out and it was hilarious.
I, SO SADLY, don't get trick-or-treaters (I hate that as Halloween is my FAVORITE holiday, but my house isn't convenient -- but I still buy a ton of candy just in case. And a full sized snickers for my first ever trick-or-treater if they do ever come -- my husband is home if anyone does). So I go to a friends house who does. And you raise a great point about -- do they make these kids line up? Cause they usually come up in groups of around 5 and you just get a loud jumbled crowd "trick-or-treat" and a ton of bags reaching out -- how do you know which kid said it and which didn't? I just throw candy in bags. I've never heard of this blue bucket thing so I would have no idea what that meant. I have heard of displaying a teal pumpkin on your own porch to advertise that you have some toys available for kids that can't have sweets. I didn't even know they made blue pumpkin buckets. How has then been around so long without me knowing? And why would you pick blue when teal already has a meaning? It seems like a good idea for the individual parents who feel that their kids need it to have some option. Like the original post by the mom for her 21 year old son. I'd have felt really weird about a 21 year old trick or treating if I hadn't been warned. But I don't think a blue bucket is a good way to do that because people like me wouldn't know. I think the badge or a sign is better -- but only if the individual is ok with it and there is some reason their parent thinks they might be received poorly. I'd not make a kid say trick or treat because young kids are shy. But I've seen pumpkins of all kinda of colors -- I know I've seen lime green and pink. So if I had seen blue (before this), I'd just have thought that kids liked blue. But, dude, if you dressed up your bear AND YOUR DOG and came to my door -- take all my candy. Can I pet the dog? That's effort. I don't care how old you are. (Edit, I would NOT have refused to give the adult candy. But I'd have hesitated to open the door to an adult male. But if I open the door to you on Halloween, you get candy.)
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/j tone tag for the opening monologue 😂 But maybe we should shout 'Autism Speaks'?
If you missed my latest video, I discuss certain celebrities who are frequently cited as autistic (Messi, Taylor Swift?)...but have actually never been open about a diagnosis. Some of them even appear on numerous listicles (particularly on ABA websites??!!) and the only evidence is 'they look a bit socially awkward'! I'd love to know your thoughts!: th-cam.com/video/HDK2miTzTTA/w-d-xo.html
Really interested to know your thoughts on this too and whether it’s a thing in your country!
Were you aware of the blue pumpkins or the teal pumpkin project? Did you know there was apparently a purple pumpkin too? 😅
You might also find this video interesting…
The Ridiculous Reality of The Parents Trying to Cure Autism: th-cam.com/video/rJwSU8yolr8/w-d-xo.html
And if you want something a bit lighter after this one, I reacted to some wholesome autism TikToks here (and this time the autism parents WERE okay!): th-cam.com/video/x5K6_sXMu1E/w-d-xo.html
P.S. Are you a butternut squash? I’m not a huge fan, so I think I’d rather be a regular pumpkin (but without any puzzle pieces) 🎃🚫🧩
🤟 🫶 I love you 🤟 🫶
My comment disappeared (this has been happening a lot on TH-cam recently) so I’m reposting it.
I looked up that Autism Daily dude out of curiosity, and yikes… As I suspected, he and his wife are self-described “autism parents”, and their social media accounts are full of harmful misinformation. One of their most recent posts is praising Jenny McCarthy’s ‘Louder Than Words’ book 😬😬😬
I always used the purple pumpkin :D (until the color irritated me and I switched to a regular bag)
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TH-camr Reallife Kaz Brekker has made video about problems that she has doing Halloween season (people try to hurt her) because of her cane(they think she is the witch and they try take it from her).Peple are really aggressive about Halloween
th-cam.com/video/eeK0wQe9pkY/w-d-xo.htmlsi=Hap3oA4U-ITHBlvr
Not every autistic person here hates blue, some autistics are fine with it, while others don’t even associate the colour blue with that group, just because you hate it doesn’t mean every single autistic person does too.
Only speak for yourself, because you cannot speak for Autistic people who you don’t know.
If a child came to my door with a blue pumpkin I would just assume they liked the color blue
Yeah or what if they sold out of the other colors?
Exactly, that's why there are different colored pumpkins in the first place
Exactly. I'm autistic and it's my favorite color.
Same
Came here to say this. My brother loved blue as a kid but he is not autistic (I am). I worry that people are going to assume that everyone who has a blue pumpkin is autistic and some people may... not be great about it (either because of bullying or because they are predatory and perceive autistic people as better targets, a problem which also stands if the kid is autistic and carrying a blue bucket). I am incredibly against telling people not to do things they love (like carry pumpkins) just because it may be a trigger for bullying; the bullies need to change. However, they may not, and the predatory adult comment still stands. The better solution is to just learn to take into account all needs regardless of what the pumpkin color is (not to mention some autistic people-especially kids- may get really upset if they have to carry a color they don't like).
Also, autism is, well, a spectrum, and people have different needs, so how is a color alone supposed to tell people what they need? Changing their house/settings to be sensory friendly is a completely different protocol from remembering not to expect a "trick or treat". I guess they could ask but still.
Edit: Looks like a lot of this was covered in the video!
Somebody comes to my door? They get candy.
Look like a teen or adult? Someone trying to hold onto some part of their childhood deserves candy.
Says nothing? Somebody shy, mute, or otherwise not comfortable speaking to a stranger deserves candy.
And so on.
Come to my door, you get candy.
Agree, 100%. Like, autistic or not, some kids are just shy and there’s nothing wrong with that. And everyone deserves to have fun on Halloween, no matter their age!
As a teenager who still trick or treats, thank you for being one of the ones who still gives us candy without judgement. Halloween’s my favorite holiday and it’s people like you that make it sm better!! 🫶
I would like this, but it's at 111 lilkes. and I don't want to ruin that.
I remember I took my daughter, her friend, and friend's sister trick or treating on our own road. I was a young parent, so I was kind of self conscious I guess. But this woman started grilling the kids who were 6 and 4 about where they lived, where they were from, when they moved there etc.. I stepped up and said "we live 10 doors down from here, we've lived in the estate for 6 years now. And then she started grilling me. I was just like, "come on let's go" at that stage. Some people are just nasty. I think she thought we were travellers maybe (Irish version of gypsies), she came across as the bigoted type.
@@karowolkenschaufler7659 Someone else ruined it you're free to like it now
As an autistic person who was really into trick-or-treating as a kid and teenager, I have two pieces of advice. One, go in groups. Older kids are less likely to be judged if they're escorting younger kids around, and if five kids are all shouting "Trick or treat!" at the same time, it's harder to notice that the sixth kid didn't say it.
Two, candy trading. My siblings and I would all end up with candy we didn't like but someone else did, so at the end of the night we would sort out our candy and trade with each other. If you're the parent of a single child, or all of your kids are allergic to the same thing, you could have your kid(s) turn in the candy they are allergic to or don't like in exchange for some other kind of reward. That way they don't have to make a big deal about it at the house, but they still get rewarded for whatever they get.
This is great advice. Thank you.
My mom mainly sorted the candy - that way she could both inspect it, make sure it's sorted fairly (anyone doesn't like a candy? They don't get any. Everyone likes it? Split evenly. No one likes it? Split evenly. Or part of the Mom Tax.
the trading works so well with my sister and i, shes lactose intolerant and im allergic to a lot of chewy sweets so we fill in the gaps of each others issues and it works so well
Teens do technically count as kids though
Candy trading was always the best part of halloween for me lol - I would always sort my candy and arrange them into a grid before going through and swapping with others
Last year one kid came to the door dressed as a dinosaur and said, "RAWR, gimme some candy!"
He got extra, LOL
That's so adorable 🥰
Last year when I was handing out candy with my dad one of the last kids that came up was dressed as a pirate and she has hand down my favorite kid of the night lol. We even gave her some extra because it was the end of the night
I would go around and tell jokes when trick or treating when I was younger. Sometimes I'd get extra candy for that😊 that was fun
@@kayliedawn4596 Sounds like what my great nephew would have done just a few years ago. 😆 His favorites were Godzilla, and T-Rex !
Im not gonna argue with a ferocious dinosaur!
I’ve never understood why people thought it was a good idea to label their vulnerable kid as vulnerable. Like… what????
exaxtly, i saw a photo (on some scam page) of a missing kid (not actually missing) and he was wearing a bright orange vest that said "autism please be kind" if i was a school bully i would see that as an invitation to not be kind, like, you've essentially just said "this kid is gonna act even more spectacularly if you bully him instead of any other kid". and theyve also just invited every nonce to come make friends with this kid who may not understand stranger danger or alteria motives and be easy to take advantage of.
@@ThePurpleCheesecakeZebra it’s literally just a nonce attractor and that’s actually terrifying. I don’t understand why anyone would subject their kid to that risk
They naively assume everybody else has the same moral standard when it comes to disability.
It looks like virtue signaling behaviour to me.
"LOOK AT ME! I'M such a good person I'm rasing a special needs child snd I DIDN'T try to neglect them at all."
What's the big deal? Being autistic isn't a bad thing. We need to stop hiding and start normalizing autism.
It’s also really confusing to pick a color so similar to the teal ones for allergies - like esp when it’s dark outside
Assigning meanings to plastic pumpkins is stupid in general. Just use whatever color is your favorite and have a pin or card or something.
Not really. Teal and dark blue are not similar at all, even IN the "dark outside". Moreover, houses that are available to knock for trick or treating have a porch light on. Which means it's not dark at all when the house is there to give candy.
It's very upsetting to see so many people who are so flippant about allergies that may seriously harm children.
But not surprising. I know I've had several teachers force me to go play in the sun with the other children even AFTER my mother wrote them a note about my sunlight sensitivity. And most of them didn't apologize to me later when I came to school covered in hives. Adults view children as animals with less value than their favorite dog.
It's all so simple.
Blue pumpkin = I'm autistic
Teal pumpkin = I have safe food options
Indigo pumpkin = I want cold, hard currency. Not candy
Turquoise pumpkin = I am forgetful and so may return by mistake
Sky blue pumpkin = I have only healthy options. Not the good ones either. It's the options that taste like cardboard and phlegm
Cyan pumpkin = I have unsafe food options. Mostly straight up poison
Azure pumpkin = I have an embarrassing fungal condition I told my mum to not tell everyone about
Cerulean pumpkin = I'm dead
Denim blue pumpkin = We're drunk and may offer booze instead of candy regardless of age
Navy pumpkin = I have a navy pumpkin
Periwinkle pumpkin = I am single, looking to mingle
Ocean blue pumpkin = I give bible quotes instead of candy
Cobalt pumpkin = I am a quest giver with a quest for brave adventurers like you
Turquoise pumpkin = I am forgetful and so may return by mistake
Lapis pumpkin = My porch is rigged with various D&D style traps
Green pumpkin = I am colourblind
An actual pumpkin = I am a passing farmer
A blue actual pumpkin = I am an autistic farmer
How could anyone make a mistake.
Highly specialized pumpkin flagging!
Is the cobalt pumpkin Cobalt-59 or Cobalt-60
Rainbow pumpkin- I have no gender. Or,maybe 99 genders😅😅😅😅😅😅😅
@@HydraKittten Definitely Cobalt-59. Don't go near Cobalt-60 pumpkins! It helps to remember this little rhyme: Cobalt-59, Quest of mine. Cobalt-60, The gates of Hell have opened here and all must flee or despair...ixty.
@@kelpiekit4002 I just remember the words "Drop and Run"
"You're too old to be doing this" kinda boils my piss. Just because you're old and miserable and peaked in middle school and now you're too self conscious and unimaginative to pursue even a glimmer of happiness in your life, doesn't mean the rest of us have to be resigned to a joyless existence for the rest of our lives, Janet.
True!
Preach!
I last trick or treated in junior year of high school. With others in my class.
It was wonderful
"Boils my piss" is such an amazingly visceral description and I'm amazed I haven't seen it before 🤣
@@StevensSounds I was about to say the same thing lol (> v
When I was 17 or 18, a bunch of people in my friend group decided to go trick-or-treating, one last hurrah before graduation or something. Most people were cool with it, but one person was like "don't you think you're too old for trick-or-treating?" and one of the other people in our group was like "Look at it this way, we're a bunch of teenagers and if we weren't doing this we might be out causing trouble." That kinda shut them down.
As a gluten free autistic person I can confirm it does not it does not stop my autism from autisming.
No, no, you see -- the autistic people are SNEAKING gluten into your food! /j /silly
Wait, it doesn't completely rewire our brain to neurotypical??? **spits out glutenfree stuff and stuffs hands full of gluten rich stuff into his mouth** THERE
I’m stealing “autisming”
Same
@@alpacafish1269 same
These houses “holding candy hostage” need to be reminded of the true meaning of trick-or-treating… which is kids threatening to do mean pranks to you unless you persuade them not to with candy. Withhold the candy because you think the kid didn’t perform their thinly veiled threat appropriately? Then you should expect eggs and TP on your house by morning.
This!! XD
Hey, you reap what you sow!
In the old days tricks were often more ambitious. One widely disliked school principle found his car on the garage roof the morning after Halloween! Apparently highschool shop students had disassembled the car sufficiently to make getting the pieces hoisted possible, then reassembled it in it's unique parking spot!
This is why you need more teens and adults trick or treating. Somebody needs to teach the new kids how to follow through with the trick part of trick or treat.
@@joycebrewer4150that's an insane level of effort put into a little prank i love it lmao
Oh, the origins of trick or treating are wild.
It started with a British private school who's students would essentially mug the towns folks unless they gave them a treat of some kind, in this case it was usually some form of alcohol. It is also connected to the origins of the suit as a garment.
I used to use a blue bucket before this even started.
Turns out I am autistic.
I’m fourteen and still trick or treat which means some very old school people refuse to give me candy.
Now I use a black pumpkin because to warn people that I am emo.
🐈⬛️🖤
lol love that
i'd need a fluffy pumpkin to warn people that I'm a furry then -(even though we don't do trick or treating in Romania)-
@@TheBubbleEater lmao nice then my friend group would be three people with fluffy pumpkins, me with a black pumpkin, and one very scared person with a normal pumpkin.
You go and continue to enjoy! Adulthood comes too quickly, I last trick or treated at 18. I'm 46 now and keep the Halloween spirit alive. 🎃
How about carrying a little sign, like a ping pong paddle, that just says "trick or treat" instead of disclosing anyone's diagnosis on a sticker or with a blue bucket. Then the true assholes out there can just use their imagination as to why the trick or treater doesn't speak.
Yess!
@@imautisticnowwhat So, youtube had the option to translate your comment to English, and it translated it as "Yesss!" I found that really funny. You were almost speaking English--just one more "s"!
@ChantalM3 I'm sat here pressing translate back and forth having a good giggle over it. 😂
Because god forbid any autistic support not be built around apologizing for existing to adults.
Ooh, maybe have one of those little buttons that when you press it, it says something, and get one that says “trick or treat”?
ive never understood the attitude towards teenagers and adults trick or treating. in my mind, you're never too old for it, whether you're neurotypical or neurodivergent
If you’re no longer a dependent, you’re too old for it. 🤷🏼♀️
@@Username0467 nah let people have fun!
My great-grandmother actually got tired of one of the neighbors hassling her to keep my grandfather in on Halloween. So, she wound up tipping the outhouse with that neighbor over and when the neighbor came by the next day to ask where my grandfather is, she just said that he was in all night. Which was true, the neighbor didn't even think to ask if my great-grandmother had any idea who had knocked it over.
People need to remember that that's how Halloween used to be, handing out a bit of candy to kids that can't comply strictly with the normal practice is not that big of a deal and doesn't result in any damage.
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TH-camr Reallife Kaz Brekker has made video about problems that she has doing Halloween season (people try to hurt her because of her cane they think she is the witch and they try take her cane it from her because is to old to do costumes).
th-cam.com/video/eeK0wQe9pkY/w-d-xo.htmlsi=Hap3oA4U-ITHBlvr
@@Username0467You get free candy, and are able to cosplay without being bullied. That’s enough for me.
Reason #4 why someone might have a teal pumpkin on their porch - they just like the color. Target and Michaels especially are both full of multi colored skeletons and pumpkins and have been for years. Not everyone goes for traditional purple/black/orange decorations.
At the end of the day, I agree with the sentiment that it is up to the parents to make sure their kids are safe and whatever treats they get are okay for them to eat.
Christ imagine being a grown adult whose ego’s hurt over a child not saying trick or treat. You gave everyone else candy meaning you had the intention of handing them out, give it to her dammit.
Exactly. It's Halloween, of course they want candy!
I mean yea, but also wtf just say trick or treat Jesus Christ
youtuber Reallife Kaz Brekker has made video abut she has problems (people try to hurt her) because of her cane(they think she is the witch and it to old for costimes so they try to steal her cane)Peple are really aggressive about Halloween
@@bartholomewesperanza3442 Not everybody can. Some people physically can't make themselves talk
@bartholomewesperanza3442 You don't know why a child wont say trick or treat. They might be mute. Or deaf. Or autistic. Or just AFRAID.
You aren't required to disclose your disability to an employer, so why should trick or treaters be encouraged to disclose their situation to someone handing out candy on Halloween?
I feel like some people believe that autism is more accepted than it is. I’m autistic and in high school and the kids in my classes don’t know so I hear them talk about autistic people and calling each other autistic and using the r slur and it’s really hurtful cause it means I can’t bond with so many classmates. It’s so isolating. So no, I don’t wanna go around on Halloween going “IM AUTISTIC! I NEED THIS SPECIAL ACCOMMODATION! IM DIFFERENT IN SOME WAY!” Because I see kids from my school every year. (This is a comment agreeing with you but it might come across as accidentally aggressive)
Because visibility and awareness are the key to growing acceptance. We all just want to be accepted, and plenty of us hide our autism so well that people have no idea. It helps normalize it for everybody else. nobody is required to though! If you don't feel comfortable disclosing it to others, please don't feel pressured to!
I never really cared when people used autism as an insult. The only thing that angered me was people screeching for no reason (it would be different if they were disabled) and people saying stuff about my mother. Everything else was just in and out of my ear at school. The autism thing as an insult seems to be largely on the internet. Just like when people call each other gay. Although gay is just another word for happy anyways. People keep changing words for some reason.
@@AliceIsInWonderland Im not sure if this is good or if this will help you, but maybe talk to a higher up(principal/grade supervisor[idk what they're called or if this exist in your school]) or then a teacher, or a teacher who isn't teaching you if that makes you more comfortable, or your parents, to be reported to the school, or both or all; about this calling autistics as an insult or slur. AND make sure to tell them to not state say it came FROM your class or you, OR have the principal/supervisor/teacher address this privately with the students if you know who said it, IF you are comfortable with that idea; or maybe suggest some talk about autism awareness so it could perhaps help students empathise/understands a little bit, partially of what autism is. But anyways if you are suffering from this right now, you can voice it out with the authorities in the school/your parents for help and emotional support.
I can't help to think this is something that started from social media obsessed parents wanting to post about their autistic kids.
I've always loved Halloween and getting to trick or treat but it was absolute hell for me sometimes because I was an insanely quiet kid. I don't think I had or have a speech problem but I'm very very bad at enunciating and every time I talked everyone went "HUH? HUH? WHAT WAS THAT?! SPEAK UP?? I CANT UNDERSTAND YOU??" and I would always say trick or treat but i was so quiet that some people genuinely couldn't hear and then they'd stare at me and id stare back because I thought they heard me but they didn't and they were waiting me to say it so now I have severe social anxiety the end
also why are we forcing autistic kids to out themselves?? like what's the point?? "acceptance" isn't forcing someone out of their comfort zone unless they tell you about their private business, if anyone did that to a neurotypical kid they'd be in jail
Here in Sweden we don't have Halloween, at least when I was at that age, but we do have easter witches "Påskkärringar". I'm schizophrenic, and I cannot deal with kids knocking at my door as that that easily destroy my mind. So I put up a sign on the door that kindly ask no witches to knock on my door as "I'm scared of them". Maybe these rude boomers can do the same if they hate giving out candy?
It really is that simple! They could also just leave out a bowl of candy with or without a sign. If the bowl is empty nobody will bang on the door asking for more if the lights are out.
I don't know about other neighborhoods, but in our area, you only visit houses that have their outside lights on.
@@StirsTooMuch - Yeah, or people in a neighborhood could agree to only knock, where people have decorated for Halloween 🎃🎃👻👻
It's not a bit thing in Australia either, but we have a sort of rule around us that only houses with decorations are participating which makes sense, you're not going to walk up the drive of someone who doesn't celebrate the holiday
While I'm in the United States, I tend to follow the rule of "Lights on". If a house has their lights on, then I go up and do the "trick or treat" thing or take candy from a bowl if that's what is being done. If not, then I pass them by.
I was on the porch with my dogs, passing out candy a few Halloweens ago when a little girl in a pretty pink princess costume was carried up to me by her mom and aunt. Tiny Princess was vocalizing and squirming and as I calmed down the dogs, her mom explained that she was nonverbal/autistic and apologized for her fussing.
I was able to smile and tell them “don’t worry, I am too.”
The Princess didn’t like me holding out the candy bowl to her, so I set it on the ground in front of her and let her choose a piece at her own pace. Her mom and aunt were so grateful, and Princess left my porch more calm than she had been on the way up. I hope they’re doing well, wherever they are now
That is heartwarming thank you for this!
I think it's so interesting interacting with Autistic children when their parents aren't. It's interesting the small things you're able help with because we understand.
I was that kid afraid to say "trick or treat" in the 70s, going door to door with my extremely extroverted sister. She had a little song she sang for treats, and kicked out her feet and everything. I stood behind her and whispered the best I could to get the words out, but there were some houses in our neighborhood that just didn't care. If I wasn't sufficiently loud enough, I didn't get a treat from them. I think they somehow thought they were "teaching me a lesson" by withholding candy for not being as loud (or as "friendly"??) as my older sister. The only lesson I learned at the time wasn't to say the magic words louder the following year, but instead to just not even try holding out my little sack expectantly, hopefully.
The lesson I learned as an adult is "everyone gets a handful of treats!" I don't care how old you are, if you're wearing a costume or not. Show up at my door on Halloween and you're getting treats. A parent holding a baby in one hand and a bucket in the other. Treat. Twelve years old and wanting to go "one last time" even though all your friends say it's lame? You just got candy and they didn't. Twenty years old and non-verbal? Treat. Last year, I had one parent come back to my door to say "thank you for doing this." I don't know which child was theirs but I hope I helped in a small way to make it a fun night for them. I hope they come back this year. For me, being on the 'other side of the door' has made Halloween my favorite holiday of the year. 🎃
I’m so tired of colors having to mean something. What if you have a kid that just loves the color blue and wants to carry a blue pumpkin. All of a sudden they are labeled something. How about we just treat everyone nicely and not worry about how old they are, whether they speak, scream, are hiding behind their parent, or anything else.
This this this this this because I love blue and if something has a blue varient I will 1000% be getting that one so I had one of those dark blue pumpkin-shaped jack-o-lantern buckets shown all the way back in the 90s
The teal bucket can actually be quite nice to signify a food allergy. The issue is that most ppl just don't care enough to provide alternative candies in separate bowls or small toys for children that have common allergies.
this!!! i was going to have a blue bucket to match my inoko costume (demon slayer) but i miiiight have to rethink it
The colored pumpkins are just so parents giving away candy can assess the worthiness of the children who ask for it. It's terribly pathetic. It's a holiday! Let people celebrate with some tasty candy for heaven's sake! And the parents who want to dictate what color pumpkin their kid is carrying are playing into this system of judgement which neurotypicals have created. It's awful. Why can't people just give away a dollar's worth of candy to a few people once a year?
EXACTLY! I am not autistic (I am just diagnosed with ADHD) and I was planning on getting a blue pumpkin cause blue is my favourite colour, but now that I know about the purpose of it now I don't want one
When I was a younger kid I had allergies to gluten, dairy, peanuts, and other various things. I would still go trick or treating so I could have the fun experience of it, and when I got home my parents would set up a “Halloween store” where I could trade pieces of candy for stuff like stickers, maybe a book, just various small items! I kept like 10 pieces of candy that were safe for me, and still got other cool stuff instead which I feel like is a really good way for parents to deal with kids with food allergies or just not wanting them to take candy from strangers!
That's very sweet and creative of your parents
This is a genius! So creative and cute. ❤
That's so cute. Reminds me of the days when my siblings and I would trade and barter Halloween candy at the end of the night. If we couldn't eat something or didn't like it, we'd see what the other person had and start hashing deals lmao.
I’m vegan and I do/did a very similar thing!!
That’s adorable. 10/10 parenting strategy
Who is even gatekeeping their candy on Halloween? If a grown-ass man shows up at my door in a costume, hell yeah he can have some candy.
Forcing a child YOU DO NOT KNOW, to perform a task for a reward is CRAZY behavior.
I love Halloween as an autistic person and I love trick or treating, but if I was nonverbal and didn’t want to say it, that would’ve made me feel so horrible. It’s a weird, silly holiday for the kids (and adults - I’m 24 and I’d love to keep going trick or treating), it should be fun not controlling and cruel.
you can trick or treat at most theme parks & zoos no matter your age
It's like neighbors doing ABA...
No one is forcing you to go door to door demanding sugar payment. It's cringe no matter how you slice it. I'm under no obligation to give random people anything, and if I give things out, I can set the parameters. For me, it's making an effort on a costume. But if you're a teen who put on a towel and called yourself a super hero and grabbed a plastic garbage bag thinking I'm going to fill it for you....? Nah brah. Make an effort.
@@karolinaska6836 and you are an asshole
Neighbor ABA is crazy
Love the sweet mom who thought of this originally, her post obviously came from a place of love and concern for her son. But hey, why don’t we just treat everyone with kindness instead of making them earn it by showcasing their diagnosis? Luckily I live in the UK and Halloween isn’t the big deal that it is in America. We get maybe 6 kids knocking over the course of the night and funnily enough, I don’t ask any of them to disclose their medical history before being kind to them.
exactly, at the end of the day those aware of this bucket will be doing nothing different to each of the kids at their door if they are decent people. are they really gonna be stood behind the door peeping through the hole like "hey karen this next kids autistic lets not be stuck up bitches to this one and insist that if they dont act the way we expect that theyre terrible children with horrible parents"? i'd like to hope not. and if they arent aware of the blue bucket theyre still gonna be absolute dicks to everyone
Ecactly this. I do understand the idea. Some people would be like 'Sing a song or you won't get sweets.' But then it would mean that the problem is with people being intolerant. Not someone who needs to show that they are Autistic.
@@Fuzz82ding ding ding! Kids aren’t there to perform for you, isn’t trick or treat supposed to be about the kids, not the enjoyment of the audience?
I would get it if also, give a loot blue have a blue pumpkinng out of solidarity action, that its not that easy to single out and its awrareness fun. Then i would be behind it, why would you single them just out (why other kids having blue as solidarity could be fun, like its a dumb pumpkin , make it a solidarity punpkin too
it was? cool
It might have been a good intention, but it's egoistic and just plain stupid. It's not on the people who give something (in this case candy) to inform themselves about the troubles a small minority of the receivers might have, be it diabetes, allergies or anything else. It's on the people who have the problem to deal with the problem. Yes, it isn't fair. But that's how society works in real life - outside of well-meaning, feelgood, all-inclusiding hugging groups on Social Media.
Let's take the example of a kid with diabetes that goes halloweening with a blue bucket. (When I first heard about this idea it was about diabetic children.) Would any mom TRUST that everbody knows and cares about the blue bucket plus is aware which foods are ok and which aren't? Hell no, she's gonna have to look through everything anyway. The only thing the blue bucket does in this example is being an annoiance to the givers.
To make it clear, if I knew about a diabetic kid in my neighborhood, I'd make sure to give him/her appropriate foods when they show up at my door. That too is how society works (among decent people).
But waving some sort of colored bucket in expectation that everbody is up to date with the latest update out of any special needs group? Yeah, good luck with that.
And yeah, what started as "help" for diabetic kids is now a mashup of all sorts of stuff. I mean, this kind of evokes the question "and what's wrong with you?" towards blue bucket kids. Don't think anybody would see that as a win.
My autistic son carried a blue bucket one year. But not for autism. He just likes blue and wanted blue. We live in a small town where autism is not accepted. So, nobody seemed to think the blue meant anything and I didn't want them to because I knew they would be rude about it.
I think people generally just get weird about Halloween. Some people are kind and generous and others want kids to preform a certain way to get candy. It's a weird holiday.
When my oldest child was 3, we went to a church Halloween event. It was going to be a trunk or treat in the parking lot but it was raining so they decided to do in the classrooms inside of the building. At the first door, my daughter very timidly said trick or treat. The cranky old woman at the door sprayed her in the face with water! They lady said my daughter said trick or treat but she didn't say it loud enough so she picked trick. It took everything in me not to go to jail that night.
Why there are always bitter Nunes or women like that in churches that hate kids. I heard a lot of them from people who were Catholic. Why do they hate kids so much. I guess because they aren't allowed to have any so they torment other people's kids.
Since when are we withholding candy from kids who don't/can't say "trick or treat" ? Standing there shaking with social anxiety was all I ever had to do to get candy back in the 90's. It feels like bully behavior to be so regimental about halloween candy of all things.
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I agree with you. This youtuber Reallife Kaz Brekker has made video about problems that she has doing Halloween season (people try to hurt her) because of her cane(they think she is the witch and they try take it from her).Peple are really aggressive about Halloween costumes
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Aww😢
I agree with you even youtuber Reallife Kaz Brekker has made video abut she has problems (people try to hurt her) because of her cane(they think she is the witch and it to old for costimes so they tru to steal her cane)Peple are really aggressive about Halloween
@@viktorija214 Jeez! That's awful!
For sure! If you buy candy the day of, it's usually half off, too.
As an autistic person I agree the blue pumpkins aren’t helpful. Plus I don’t want a pumpkin basket for Halloween, I want to carry a cute little bag of my choice! If I had to have a pumpkin basket, I’m definitely going to choose an orange one anyway because that’s what pumpkins look like.
When I was a kid, we mostly used bags. IIRC, my mother had made a bag with a cute halloween pattern for the cloth.
I use my pillowcase personally!
@@Sinc3r3ly 80s kid, here! We always used pillowcases!
Those pumpkin things are too small anyways imo
Right? We had a multi-pocket leather duffel bag for our family one year as it matched the costumes better.
Oh yeah, great idea to signal to a stranger who you DON'T KNOW that this kid knocking on their door is a little more vulnerable than the other kids 😭
I have often wondered “do I need a ‘mark’ for being autistic like a visually impaired person might have a cane?”
It might enhance my safety if it can prevent misunderstanding. It might also reduce my safety if it singles me out as a vulnerable target.
Most importantly, my autistic safety concern takes place everywhere in society. I don’t like the implication that trick-or-treating is the most consequential and attention-worthy adversity an autistic person experiences. The implication is dismissive, as if blue buckets solve autistiphobia.
a cane is not to signal ones blindess to others it is to get around. just like shoes are not to signal that you have weak soled feet
its better just to raise awareness. at the end of the day a symbol that says "this person may be acting this way because of many reasons but we are mature adults who can be understanding and sympathetic towards them and as long as they are not in danger leave them alone" is only as effective as the message of the campaign. which could equally just say "people act certain ways because of many reasons and we should be emotionally mature adults about it".
if you didnt know about either campaign you would not change how you behave around people
if you where aware of the symbol campaign you would be a horrible mean person to everyone until you saw someone with this symbol meaning those who arent diagnosed or dont want to advertise their disability would also be treated horribly. or best case scenario just not helped because they didnt wear the puzzle piece head band. it also advertises it to people as a weakness
if you are aware of the second campaign then people still have to guess which is the autistic if they want to use it to their advantage. but the nice emotionally mature person can just be nice to everyone and help people when they ask for it and be understanding if someone is overwhelmed.
the middle ground is to have something that can explain to those around you (like a card in your pocket) which can out you at risk but usually if youre in oublic there will be nice enough people around who can read it and help you if you are nonverbal.
generally if im having a sensory overload or panic attack i am able to say it. a card would also say it. wearing a big badge that says it will just make people know they can push my buttons and make a pretty decent tiktok video if they want.
I’m legally blind and should be using a rolling tip cane because it does actually give you legal protections for things like street crossings and such but oh my god did it single me out and at least two situations occurred where I started getting people following me that didn’t think I could see them. I stopped using it.
People do use simbolic sight canes. I am autistic and partially sighted and I have a sight cane that is meant for simbolic purposes to let people know of my sight issues I do however often feel reluctant to use it because as Tay pointed out I also feel like I don't want to be singled out as potentially vulnerable to people who may be dangerous.
I don't think it should up to those in vulnerable positions to have to go out of their way to demand accommodation. It should be everyone else that has to be mindful that not everyone is neurotypical, and shouldn't need a reminder to show basic human decency to others.
@@Mamaofchaos2 Yes, that's the Catch-22, isn't it? If a person is already prone to bully and victimize others, should a disabled person rely on signaling their disability to . . . de-escalate? Why is merely existing an escalation to begin with? Civil society must protect victims and stop victimizers.
I hate to say it, but it's just as effective for me as an autistic person to wear a mask, sunglasses, fatigues, chain, and loose clothing that could easily conceal something-- so I instill fear by presenting as a more unstable/risky bullying target-- as it is for me to advertise disability begging the world to not be assholes. "Might be a powder-keg" can be a safer social signal than "Don't mind me, I'm autistic!"
I’m that neighbor who just puts a large bowl of candy out on my porch. Not just so they don’t have to interact with a random stranger, but so I don’t have to interact with a bunch of random strangers. 😅
I love the candy bucket and my family does that too!
@@Knifeeye it was always my favorite as a kid because I didn’t have to talk to anyone and could pick out my favorites without feeling rushed. Now I just like to avoid the knocks on my door (especially for my dog). And the kids seem to like it too when you hear them through the door yelling “ITS JUST A BUCKET TO PICK FROM!!!!”
How do you make sure the first party doesn't take everything?
@@VeronikaCerna-hm6rwThat's what happened to me when I tried this method. Not the first person, but some neighborhood cholo had the gall to make off with the majority of the candy. I never gave away candy after that.
@@VeronikaCerna-hm6rw I don’t. I just hope for some honesty.
One year I’m pretty sure a kid or a small group early on in the night took everything. But every other year I usually actually wake up to candy still in my Jack o lantern.
As kids we also always just assumed the older kids would take more, but at least in the neighborhood I grew up in, the older kids didn’t go out until a bit later than the younger kids so the younger kids had a chance before the bigger kids even went out.
I guess it really just depends on your neighborhood/town and how well everyone knows and respects each other. 🤷🏼♀️
I was super tall as a kid and I have a very distinct memory of going trick or treating with my younger cousins when i was around 10-11 years old & this old lady yelled in my face and called me too old to trick or treat. Ruined Halloween for me.
I went to a high sensory experience with my neurotypical husband.
I loved it, and he felt overwhelmed.
Autism is a very wide range of experiences.
Oh sweet JESUS!!!!! I am 29 and STILL Trick or Treat and have AuDHD. But ONE Halloween, I had a Halloween bucket that said 'This Pumpkin has Autism' WITH A PUZZLE PIECE PICTURE!!!!!! It was EMBARRASSING and do you know HOW MANY TIMES my mother used my autism as an EXCUSE to get what she wants???!!! It's HUMILIATING! I do NOT owe you MY AuDHD diagnosis for ANYTHING unless it's a medical emergency NOR does ANY autistic person REGARDLESS of child OR adult! I may be higher masking and there are lower masking people with autism but AGAIN, we are NOT in American Horror Story FREAK SHOW! We are DESERVING of LOVE and RESPECT! Autistic kids GROW into Autistic ADULTS! There's NO cure for it so 'autism moms' like mine and society just need to shut up and treat us as equals and human beings instead of babies or freaks like in AHS Freak Show!
Sorry for my rant 😅
It's alright, just keep some distance to your mother whenever you can.
If she can't understand by words, actions may be louder.
I'm really sorry your mom used you like that. That sucks. My stepkids' mom was always doing that - it's so gross. 😬
Preach ❤
It’s so frustrating, because as a mum I’m the opposite. I don’t think anyone needs to know, but on the few occasions where I need to bring things up, I feel like I’m not going to be taken seriously, because so many other mothers use diagnoses as an excuse for everything.
I LOOVE THAT RANT!! NEEDED TO READ THAT! Thank you🙏❤️ I feel you ... absolutely ...
As someone who carried a blue pumpkin basket every halloween for a DECADE from when I was 8 to (currently) 18, I just liked the color blue!
I am ND, and I love halloween and trick or treating, even though i’m too old for it, but just going door to door and seeing all the decorations and costumes just bring me a sense of comfort. All of my friends, even though they don’t want to go trick or treating because we are older still are willing to go with me, even if they don’t participate themselves :)
We shouldn't have to disclose our disability just to be treated with basic human empathy, Halloween or not.
And as that one creator pointed out, the people who are most likely to mistreat us are also the ones who are least likely to know or care what it means! The type of people who turn down an autistic or mute child for not saying "trick or treat" are also the same type of people who think autism is an excuse and that children with invisible disabilities are putting on an act to recieve special treatment. They think mistreating the child will teach them to "start acting normal." These aren't the type of people you want to disclose your child's autism diagnosis to.
Completely agree, the allergy buckets seem way better implemented. That is exsactly what they did label the "safe" house not the person. Like leaving a step for shorter people near a wall. Not evreone needs it but it's nice to have it. That being said I think people should not need to label that they are not jack*** to kids for any reason. Especially a disorder of some sort.
I don't have to tell people I'm dyslexic, if they make fun of spelling they will do so anyway. Me saying I am should not change how they treat me. Regardless. People who can't spell well are not less intelligent we are word blind. Litteraly used to be the disorder name and I think it was a disservice to change it.
But no one is forcing you. You can obviously make that decision for yourself. But there are children that these buckets really help (both the child and parent), like it does my friends son who is non verbal but very vocal, and no interaction. Just because it's not for you, doesn't mean it's not for everyone. Like I said, no one is forcing you to do this. You can make a choice not to disclose your autism. Some kids can't make that choice, and to make their Halloween more enjoyable and understanding, the blue bucket helps. It's a non verbal indicator that" hey, my child may seem different, but we're just out here for fun" it's also gives people handing out treats a chance to look up some information and educate themselves on autism and the different spectrums and how to be when a child with severe autism comes to their door without making it uncomfortable. Not everyone has someone with autism in their life whom they've learned what to expect and what to say or not say, do or not do, etc. Don't shame people into not using it just because it's not useful to you, even though it wouldn't need to be used in your situation. I don't understand the problem. You'd think you'd want more people to learn about it, and the blue bucket can encourage people to do that. Wouldn't that be a good thing? No?
The "you're too old to trick or treat" thing happend to me and my (then)girlfriend, we were 15 and we ringed a house, nobody answered so we logically moved on but we had to go around the house to do that, and the owner, this old woman was in her backyard when we passed and she just yelled at us that we were way too old, and like wtf?? For context I'm autistic and so was my ex-girlfriend but that shouldn't change to fact that we're just having fun and not hurting anyone like why would there be an age limit to fucking sweets and traditions?, why are people so mean to others for no reason? And at the time we thought it was because Halloween isn't that popular in my country but it doesn't seem like it from the stories from online friends that I've heard. I guess humans are just dicks ;-;
I know!! And why would you assume you know how old someone is anyway? Some people look older than they are. Maybe some people just don't like fun!
I get age shamed all the time for loving rainbow colors and overalls
My mother's coworkers bullied her into banning me from trick or treating because I was "too old" at 10 to be trick or treating. All those women that told my mom this were saying how it's somehow disrespectful to the younger children because halloween should be For Them and how they always hated seeing "older" children on halloween. Basically guilted her til she stopped me from trick or treating and they also told her she was personally ruining halloween for children by letting her own child trick or treat.
It's such a baffling opinion, I've never been able to understand it.
There was an old lady in my friend's neighbourhood who was so glad to see my friend and I at her house, asking for candy. We were 14, which is bordering "too old" too. She was just so sad, because nobody had knocked on her door yet. She specially packed a range of sweets in zip lock bags, and gave us extra ones for my friend's little brothers who were too sick to go out that night. We talked with her for a bit, and it was lovely. Not many people participate in Halloween here. It's not really as much of a thing, so it does dip in popularity during religious scares as well as predator and food safety worries. Some also view it as too American. But honestly our politicians keep co-opting American culture war conservatism, so Halloween is at least fun and relatively non-problematic.
@@imautisticnowwhat😢My niece was tall for her age as a child. This resulted in a carnival worker making her pay the adult fare for a ticket to his ride, when she was barely 12!
It's terribly sad and pathetic that parents would make such a big fuss over maybe a dollar's worth of candy. It's halloween! Just give it away! Old, young, non-verbal, verbal, it doesn't matter. Why are parents assessing every trick or treater and trying to weed out anyone they deem unworthy? Give me a break. People are horrible these days.
Predators DO look for single parents with disabled kids, regardless of the holiday. Whether we have confirmed instances of predators looking for blue buckets or not, we shouldn’t be making it any easier for them.
a disabled child, like all children, is most vunerable to people that their parents has allowed into thier life. Parents, teachers, pastors, coaches, etc. no one is waiting to gobble up your child.
@@mikeymullins5305 you are factually incorrect. There are literal predators that seek out vulnerable people to fulfill their twisted fantasies. They may not snatch your kid off the street, but they might flirt with you, and become your kid’s new step-daddy, or babysitter, or Boy Scout leader.
@@mikeymullins5305 and how do these bad people find manipulatable parents to form a friendship with? Probably by keeping an eye out during events that bring families out into public like trick or treating
Ugh, saying it's their job makes it feel even grosser, like these people are normal or something and not monsters in human skin.
Here in Europe we have a sunflower lanyard that people of all ages with invisible disabilities can use in public like in the bus or whatever. It's useful who know who needs a little extra space. Idk what y'all's sensationalized hostility is about across the pond, but geez, I'm sorry y'all can't trust any strangers to generally be somewhat respectful
I grew up undiagnosed, I never said trick or treat and if I did it was very mumbled and no one actually heard me, and when I was 12/13, I was an early bloomer so I looked a bit older, I was told by a few neighbors that I was too old to go trick or treating, yet they’d give my friends candy. I feel like Halloween is definitely orchestrated for neurotypical kids.
Also if I wasn’t an adult and was a kid, I would not want a blue pumpkin, it is not even a Halloween color 😭 PURPLE or GREEN would’ve been a better choice
Lmaoo the orchestrated for NT kids part. I feel like Halloween is important for me because I wanna dress up goofy. I truly love fashion and that’s a hill I’ll gladly die on
I was mute for a few years as a kid so doing trick or treating was painful, so I'd follow a group and hope to get candy at the same time 'cause when I went alone, no one would answer their door or when I didn't say anything they'd close to door on me. ._. In my teens I'd get spookier/scarier costumes so sometimes they'd just give me candy so I'd go away LOL
Ahh, as a polish person I must say that it's been really nice to see your pronunciation improve in the Babbel ads, it really makes me happy to see someone having fun learning my language 'v'
About the teal vs blue pumpkins - certainly in the UK, where street lights often have a yellow/orange tinge, it'd be pretty much impossible to tell the difference between blue and teal at night..
Those are probably sodium vapor lights and in this part of the US they're mostly being phased out due to the energy efficiency and durability of LEDs just being so much better.
@@SmallSpoonBrigadethey should make dimmer LEDs just for car headlights
@@SmallSpoonBrigade It is technically possible to make amber LED lights.
My second LED flashlight that I made as a teen was amber. (The first was red.)
@@SmallSpoonBrigade Which are unshaded and blinding as hell to those of us with light sensitivity, and still rather bright to people without. We should add shades to streetlights and LED car headlights should be illegal
@@meuanglao7why? This is such a shit take.
As someone who was allergic to nuts, wheat, milk, and eggs twenty years ago in America I find this all ridiculous. I took whatever candy people gave me. When I got back to my house my parents or siblings took the allergens and gave me safe things from their own buckets. The point of Halloween should be good will and community sharing. It's not a stranger's duty to know my medical history, nor do I want them to. It's so sad to think people claiming to celebrate Halloween are putting conditions to who they give treats to and how. Let's just all share!
*leaves you with tasty treats and scampers away like a cat with the zoomies* Happy Halloween!
the blue pumpkin being “wrong” is honestly so relatable. im neurodivergent and especially as a kid i was always put off by any pumpkin that wasn’t orange because the orange just looks right. Why anyone would want a pumpkin that wasn’t orange was baffling to me, and i would have been really upset if my parents made me carry one around (fortunately i could carry whatever bag i liked
Last year I went to a door on Halloween and saw only snickers in (peanut allergy) so I said to them oh sorry save the candy for someone else. And my friends had but in and said oh dude your allergic aren't you. The couple overheard and called me back ran into her kitchen and got me a pack of mini cheddar's it was so sweet❤❤
Awwww
Bro shoutout to ppl who offer fruit gummies or just fruit slices or just straight up fruit/produce or drinks for allergy options. One lady would literally give you an apple orange ir banana if you couldn’t eat the snickers bc she always had just snickers every year bc her favorite
@@kawaiicake8038 lit like bro I love how some people make the effort it’s so cute❤️
In the Netherlands we celebrate Sint Maarten (St Martin) on the 11th of November and it's basically our Halloween, with a few differences. Kids go out to get candy, but instead of dressing up and yelling trick or treat, they carry (sometimes homemade, depending on local tradition) lanterns and sing songs. It was the bane of my existence. I was SO jealous of the American and English kids who were allowed to dress up and just say one sentence instead of singing a whole song. I could force my way through it for the sweets. Usually I went with a small group and I learned how to keep my voice quiet enough that I wouldn't stand out, but loud enough that I would be heard. Because full grown adults were So. Mean! I knew kids who didn't want to sing and they were very often singled out and made to repeat the song on their own "louder this time" until the (again: FULL GROWN) adult was satisfied. It was like a weird little power play. Point is, if autistic kids were made to carry blue lanterns in my youth, they'd just be more cruel I'm sure. They'd single us out even more.
I've seen those houses where kids were told that they were too old to participate and got nothing... or kids who didn't sing got nothing and the door closed shut. Freaking a$$holes, those people.
I also had one neighbour that threw a 5 cents coin into your bag. Wow.
Oh st martin, didnt remember that thou, just some latern and singing and a fire maybe?
That sounds like how we do Christmas caroling where I'm from. A lot of kids feel like it's awkward and uncool, but people of any age can do it.
People may give you sweets or even money (sometimes it's a church choir and they take donations for the church)
@@AquaPeet Our lanterns were usually made out of crepe paper or something equally fragile and unsuitable for Dutch November weather and one of the houses would get so MAD if you came there with a broken lantern. The kids can't help it, lady! Take it up with whoever makes it rain so much.
There's certainly a degree of objectification that comes with being a kid, and being expected to act/look cute in a performative way, for the amusement of adults.
I feel the same way when neighborhoods put up signs that there is an autistic/blind/deaf child in the area. Why?? Do you want to attract predators??
Also, the recommendation for people to replace their porch light with a blue light to signify they should be visited by autistic kids seems like a predator's wet dream.
Also aren’t blue porch lights meant to be for signaling you support the police (at least in the US)? It’s all so confusing and mixed up
@@Cocoanutty0 idk. I know turquoise is for allergies
Loved your "Happy Halloween. Beware, there is autism about in the neighborhood tonight". Best laugh I've had in a long time 😂
Idk if this is just me but I remember as a kid being so anxious about going up and saying “Trick of treat” because so many adults found it funny to say “Trick!” and stand there laughing while I was having a panic attack not knowing what to do. I would be so upset every time.
What does that even mean? Why are you trying to upset a child for your own amusement? Eventually my silence and hyperventilating would make it awkward and they just give me something and close the door.
"What does that even mean?"
It should mean they would like to get their walls plastered with eggs...
Blue pumpkins, teal pumpkins......if a bunch of kids knock on my door in multi-coloured costumes I'm not going to notice what colour their buckets are. How about the adults just stop putting the blame on actual children and just give out the candy, making sure they aren't giving anything that could cause an allergic reaction or choking hazard. There are also loads of allistic kids who are shy or have a quiet voice, let's not turn Halloween into an upsetting experience for quiet kids.
Maybe just playing audio on a phone that says trick or treat would be enough? Idk I'd never disclose my diagnosis for a piece of candy. Or maybe just a sign that says something along the lines of "I'm very shy"
or maybe adults could act their age and show some emotional maturity towards children.
as long as the trick-or-treaters don’t start the interaction with a “trick” (and aren’t lewd/legitimately rude like swearing or catcalling/clearly just some adult casing my house etc), then they’re getting a treat. that’s the base transaction. teens or adults, no costume, not talking, whatever. you still get candy.
@@ThePurpleCheesecakeZebra I agree but people are hard if not impossible to change
@@samm4158 I'm happy that there are people like you that understand 💜
@@ThePurpleCheesecakeZebraall the talk of adults telling kids to be nice to each other, and yet they treat kids like they’re above them. It sucks how some adults are actually worse than children
I was barely 13 when i was told i was too old to be trick or treating. It hurt. I wasn't diagnosed until i was 36.
19:56 When I was 4, someone did jump out from behind their house with a chainsaw right when I grabbed candy from the bowl. My flight response made me throw the bowl and run back to my mom, still waiting at the end of their driveway. Then the guy had the nerve to say my mom shouldnt have taken me out to trick or treat cuz I "clearly didn't understand the Halloween spirit". Literally followed my mom and i down the road some screaming at us to pick up the bowl of candy. It is ridiculous, especially to do to a kid, but sadly there are people out there that think its a good idea.
When I was a kid, the warnings were to look for candy wrappers that had tiny holes in them, because some sicko had inserted straight pins into pieces of candy and given them out.
What the FUCK
@@joycebrewer4150yeah my parents still have me hand my candy bag over to them before I can eat any, and I’m 16(still trick or treating though). Honestly I trust them to check better than if I checked any, and I have had to throw out stuff just because it looked slightly suspicious. I end up snagging a few from my house to eat before I go to other houses just because I feel like it’s safer lol
@@joycebrewer4150 someone had put razor blades into candy apples a few years back. I don’t go trick or treating anymore. I just buy a bag of candy and watch movies in my room now. Ruined me
@@joycebrewer4150Makes me wonder even more why trick or treating is a thing to begin with. Parents send their children out to ask strangers for candy - the thing they warn them of throughout the rest of the year - and then put on a surprised Pikachu face when the things they warned them of actually do happen.
I've never heard of these blue pumpkins. Most people I know have a hard time accepting that ADHD and autism exist
And I thought everyone would at least know what ADHD is.
@@ErikWagner-qq5vl They know of it, they refuse to believe it 🤷♀️
AdHd doesn't exist. It's a way to serve normal people medication. Every human being has "ADHD" symptoms. It's a part of the human experience.
Majority of people talking about autism aren't autistic they are just white liberal women. Actually autistic people don't tend to be as online as these people. And they are never trying to use it as a tool to grab power. These people are white female liberals who are overwhelmingly straight and desperate for attention
Had a guy tell me adhd was “invented by the pharmaceutical industry to sell drugs to children” and he was completely serious too
15:02 I wouldn't use "controversial charity". I'd use "hate group".
There's a new thing this year in Ontario Canada, with orange lawn signs signalling an accessible house. This means not only are they accommodating to autistic children, but also children with physical disabilities who may not be able to approach the front door if there are stairs. I like this a lot better, it's not some ambiguous symbol like a blue pumpkin, and it just generally communicates "the people at this house will do their best to make this holiday work for you/your kid".
Where do you get these orange signs? i live in Ontario too but i’ve never heard of them
I have autistic and neuro typical children. I can honestly say, it is NOTHING to do with the child. It's the homeowner. A "bad" stop is a bad stop for all the children. Some adults who think they're good Halloweeners just aren't. Some practically want a song or dance, some make a perfectly normal neurotypical child feel creeped out. The best answer is that we parents kind of have to do some research to know where not to go sadly. Also, some older kids distort particularly older people's view of kids who trick or treat.
Also I have heard of the Teal Pumpkin for kids with allergies. I always provide other options anyway because not all kids like the same things. Later on in the evening, as my kids need sleep, I just leave the bowl in the porch for kids to help themselves. My autistic child LIKES halloween decorations, so not all autistic kids want the sensory bland approach!
These people withholding candy from actual 6 year olds are EVIL. Why'd they even pass out candy in the first place? Or are they hoping to keep it all so they can pig out on it?
My kids were too shy to say it their first year and my son's speech was like a tongue twister for multiple years after that, so he couldn't say it "properly". Thank God no one snatched the candy back for it. I think I would have lost my cool!
This gonna mess up the teal pumpkin kids. Peanuts kill
Thank you! I was so confused at first. We keep a teal pumpkin for kids that can't have candy due to allergies (although, we don't really restrict it if another kid would prefer the little toys - or both!). Didn't even realize there are also blue pumpkins. 🤦♀️
I try to avoid having anything like that unless it's something obvious. Much of the time we just let the kids rifle through the bowl for something like like. Although, Perhaps this year I'll get a split bowl and put most of the peanut stuff on one side and the non peanut stuff on the other. Anybody so allergic that it being commingled is a problem, shouldn't be trick or treating, but it would probably make it easier to figure out which ones are going to be safe when opened.
Same
@SmallSpoonBrigade please if you opt for an allergen safe alternative, get a bag of candy (although I personally prefer a non food alternative to avoid the problem altogether) that is all allergen friendly and not mixed with allergen fraught ones
Right. That freaks me out. Pick a day glo green pumpkin with sparkles for anything else but don't risk kids who have peanut allergies
0:19 "that is not a choking hazard" oh i absolutely felt that
edted: also, "these precious people aren't "too old" to trick or treat" feels somewhat infantilising and condescending. no one is "too big" to trick or treat. i've seen loads of NTs having fun on Halloween over the years, it's not just us autistic people who _may_ want to celebrate it like that. "may" is the keyword here, because not even all of us enjoy Halloween, let alone celebrate it.
I loathe the choice between being seen as rude and hateful, but adult, or being seen as precious and harmless, but an infant. I’m a disabled adult. Twice-exceptional, so practically everything is either wildly easier or wildly harder for me compared to Median American “Jessica”. I was very interested to learn about “Jessica”, the 38 year old married mother of one kid and one dog who lives in a home she and her husband own in Texas (guess they managed to snag it in the 2008 housing market crash), drives her pickup truck a half-hour each way to her job as a school secretary in the area of a significant city, and lives about an hour from where her parents and younger sister do. She and her husband both work full-time, and she gets decent health insurance at work, but the family still lives paycheck to paycheck. I am very… not Jessica, but it was funny how many ladies were commenting that they were 80-90% Jessica! 😅
As someone who grew up painfully shy and very quiet around strangers, I always was pressured by adults to be more sociable and "speak up" louder so more people could hear me even if i was only talking to one person. Unfortunately being from a southern-hospitality area and loud family, they were doing what they thought was best for me because they believed i wouldn't make it in the world if i didnt overcome ny shyness. Their hearts were in the right place, but it definitely wasn't fun to be forced into those situations for a lot of reasons. I do believe the people "holding candy hostage" might be doing something similar where it's less of a power trip and more of a "practice social skills" thing but it can still be an incredibly stressful and sometimes harmful situation to be called out and targeted like that especially by someone you don't know. That makes the social anxiety much worse. (Also most of those well-intentioned adults would probably not send the kid away without candy and eventually relent so that lady in the story was probably on a different level).
A few years ago I started adding those little spider rings into the candy bowl, just bc of my own nostalgia, but they turned out to be a hot commodity. Next year buying the rings, I found these funny glow-in-the-dark witch finger things- thought they were funny and they ended up being a huge hit as well. Kids were asking if they had to choose between a candy and a toy, and I thought that was so sweet and honestly surprising that given the choice a lot of kids would rather have a funny little toy?! Not that I ever asked kiddos to choose, I just let them take one of each haha. This year we are making sure we have lots of little things along with candy, little spider rings, pencil top erasers, bubbles, and of course the witch fingers. And thanks to you, I learned about the Teal Pumpkin project and added our house to the map!
9:32 What they do is they notice when there is someone in the group who sticks out. I have never been non-verbal, my parents used to write reminders for me to be quiet on the backs of my hands because I would talk so much in class. But there is a Halloween where I didn't have a voice because of the strain I put on it the day before and several times I was singled out. A lot of people are genuinely just too self-centered to really realize what they are doing.
Your Polish pronuncation is genuinely so good! 🤌
The irony of all this confusing messaging is it’s primarily coming from non autistic people. But we’re the ones with communication struggles lol
😂😂❤
They think we can't speak for ourselves, so they try to speak for us. It's low key ableism.
My thoughts exactly
I’ll just not give out candy, less confusing.
I think that fact I will be going as a sheet ghost is a big enough sign
Ok that is actually cool tho
Sheet ghost costumes are epic lol my brother and my mom went as sheet ghosts last year
Even if I was officially autistic, I wouldn't use those blue pumpkins. Not only because of all the issues outlined in this video, but because they look so small and I'm a hardcore trick or treater
blue vs teal just makes me think of the "is your blue my blue" quiz that was going around recently lol
What it boils down to is BE NICE. Also if I am giving out candy then anyone who comes to my house and wants candy is getting candy. I don't care if they ask, if they have a costume on, if they have a blue or any other colour pumpkin, if they are tall or old, I don't care. You gettin candy.
19:57 This actually reminded me of how, several years back, a house in our neighborhood had one of the men of the household jump out from behind the house with a hockey mask, chainsaw, and loud music/screams and ran right at the kids. Based on how that house hasn't tried that again in recent years, I'd assume it's because they realized how Not Smart that was - or at the very least whoever thought it was moved away - but either way it was very upsetting.
I think it was made especially upsetting because there was no warning. No signs and no signals from the other, more friendly-appearing adults on the porch. I had to be comforted by my parents, who also agreed that it was a dickheaded move. This is especially so, considering how our neighborhood is infamous for having a large community of young or disabled children.
Forget the blue pumpkin and forget the cards. We don't OWE anyone an explanation. Give the less verbal kids a sign that says TRICK OR TREAT and tell them to show it and that is enough. You can put "Thank you" on the back and tell them to flip it when they get candy.
I was told I was too old to trick or treat at the fourth house I went to when I was eleven. I had already been ostracized by everyone and was being very brave to go out completely alone in the costume I spent weeks working on making. Sore issue for me.
People can be such assholes. Handmade costumes stand out, and they are my favorite. No matter what age. 💖
@@creatuitiveguru I didn't even get a photo... I went home and dismantled it and put away the parts.
@@EmilyGOODEN0UGH😢
Yeah my last time trick or treating was when I was 11 or 12, all my friends wouldn’t go because they said we were too old so I only went to a few houses. Sorry that happened to you, I can’t imagine a stranger telling me that, so rude.
Neurotypicals love to judge people for traits that aren't actually harmful, just somewhat "rude" or not fitting in with social norms. They love this so much that parents feel the need to give their children a blue bucket so that they don't get the full effect of that judgement.
I live in Santiago de Chile so we just adopted this holiday for the fun, kids have a blast every year in spring 🌼. The thing goes like this: first you form a group or you go with a parent at least, nobody's gonna be alone. Then at the door everyone says "dulce o truco", it has to be a house with lights on AND decoration, or people in costumes in front of the door with candies, they're clearly participating. Most people that don't have children don't participate and will get offended if you knock at the door specting candy in return.
People with candy will give candy to everyone that's dressed up, even young adults in their 20s and sometimes there's treats for the parents as well. Shy kids who don't yell dulce o truco will get candy, but some people would ask to see the costume.
In the 2000 I only got permission to go with friends at 11 years old. Some neighbors who knew us well forgot about Halloween and just had big packages of Cookies, fruit or powder juice. But with everything we were happy and split everything evenly. At the time, it was a new thing Halloween. Playing tricks on neighbors who were mean to kids was all the rage. We put toothpaste on ring bells, toilet paper on the trees and bushes and yarn on the fence outside. Because they had promised candy on Halloween but turn off the lights and pretended not to be in the house for Halloween.
With more years passing, tricks fell out of use. And more people embrace the american holiday for the kids, even if they're catholic or protestant.
Hola, yo igual soy de chile pero de región, al extremo sur, y allá no funciona :( como desde los 2010 en adelante, se ven niños con disfraces pero casi ninguna casa da caramelos, pide salir escoltando a mi hermanito como desde 2016-2018 y algunos amigos disfrazados y andábamos horas y solo le daban a los pequeños como en 2 o 3 casas de las muchísimas que recorrimos. Al final terminamos comprándole caramelos a mi hermanito.
En general la gente es cerrada por allá, el clima es malo aún en esta fecha, y en general la gente mayor rechaza todo lo “afuerino” :C a mi me gusta mucho disfrazarme y aunque yo no pude vivir eso, me apena que mi hermanito tampoco mucho
Man, your videos make me mourn my autistic childhood so much. As an eldest child to strict parents i had to mask since before i can even remember. Every year my mom would practice the halloween routine. "You go and you knock, and you say 'Trick or treat!' and they say 'oh youre so cute!' and then you say 'thank you!'" and i KNOW i used to mumble it. Always always i would go with a group and i never wanted to be the one to knock or ring. It still feels rude to knock or ring, i usually text people when i pull up. But i straight up would skip houses sometimes if the Vibes Were Off and id just lie to my parents and say no one answered.
Worse is once i got into high school because in youth group, in NOVEMBER, we would go trick or treating for food donations to give to people in need. That shit made me sick. Halloween is one thing but a random day in november? Knocking on doors to see if anybody has an extra goddamn tuekey lying around, or money for one. Awful. Awful.
My school had a “jog a thon” when I was a kid, and they wanted us to go to random strangers doors and ask them to sponsor us with a certain amount of money for each lap we ran. Lol nope, the only people that sponsored my laps were my parents and aunt.
Sorry you went through that ❤
@@athenarocks7657I once had a neighbor's kid drop by for fundraising based on laps run too. I sponsored him.
I have always answered my door with "Happy Halloween". If you have a bag, you get a sweet. No performance necessary and I don't check identification.
~On another note to anyone who’s not currently a teenager~ I am 17 and all of my friends will probably be trick-or-treating this year! We are part of the age group that feels as though we lost several years due to Covid and so it’s become much more normalize for teens to trick-or-treat, especially because their parents would much rather than do that then be at parties
Instead of a stranger, it was my mom who drilled into me that I was too old for trick-or-treating at a certain age. Halloween was and still is my absolute favorite season/holiday.
I think that's usually how it goes, either that or your friend circle stops doing it. I think the last time I went was like 7th grade. But, by then, I got to stay home and eat the bulk of the candy that was left after handing it out, so it wasn't really that big of a deal.
Same! When I turned 13, my mom said I was officially too old to go trick or treating and kept me in the house to ensure I would "act my age." I had to hand out Halloween candy to my classmates who were baffled that I wasn't trick or treating!
Now, I can't do it anymore because almost no houses in my area participate anymore.
I have always loved Halloween. I always encouraged my kids to go out trick-or-treating, and they did when they felt like it. I know they did on and off in high school, and maybe also in college. My only thing was that I asked them to make an effort with a costume. Even a simple costume is fine, but at least make some kind of effort. 🤷♀️
Same here, her selected age was 12. I think she just wanted to sit on her ass really. Now that I have kids 12 is way to young to stop, maybe 16 but I figured my kids would just not want to around that 16 age mark. It's really up to them
That handing out your kid's diagnosis is a really good point. Saw a white van in front of me with puzzle pieces in pastel colors, with "Autism speaks" and "I have a child with autism" all over it. After careful inspection, saw was a plumbing company (in small letters on one side). Imagine dad picking you up from school in that... I did wonder if he saw his kid as a good investment.
I actually didn't know about the teal pumpkins! I didn't even consider food allergies since i don't have any. I'll have to start getting stickers and small toys to give out. They did that at the church i went to last year for halloween. I definitely am not on board with the blue pumpkin, a sunflower lanyard sounds like a much better idea and I've been considering getting one for myself. House decorations to signal you have non-food items or anything else you may need to signal is really awesome. confining autistic children to a wrongly colored pumpkin to disclose their specific private information is not. as a highschooler, people get really mean when they know someone is ND. I remember a bunch of students picking on another girl who is autistic like me because they found it easy to convince her she was hearing things because of her medication, when in reality they were whispering her name to tease her. I made sure to tell her that they were actually whispering and she wasn't imagining it but oh man... people get real mean
Boutta go on a gluten free diet so people start saying what they actually mean and stop expecting me to make small talk
Yo it's lexi
What's up Lexi, it's sexy. When are the new vids dropping?
You could also dress as a character that doesn't speak and pretend you aren't talking because you're in character (I'm going as the knight from Hollow Knight)
YOO HI
Lexi!!!!!
I always got so mad when I had to trick-or-treat with anything BUT an *orange* pumpkin- I hated the bags, I hated the other colors of pumpkins, it had to be an orange pumpkin- I think this would’ve pissed me off so bad as a kid just based on the color alone
One year I asked mom to make my whole Halloween costume a Jack-o'-lantern! She made two big ovals with orange fabric, and a pumpkin face of black fabric. I wore a green hat. I was mad she didn't want to put clothes hanger wire in the shoulders, to make the pumpkin less flabby! I used my arms instead.
That poor sweet first mother who just wanted her friends and neighbors to know and be nice to her son blue was probably just his favorite color lol :/
🤔 I would never want such a beacon on my head as a child. Knocking on the door of strangers was not enjoyable either.
*That part about the non-verdal little dude is just awful.
You cannot have candy until you say the magic words.
I hate that phrase anyway.
I don't want to be tricked just give me the treat.
Valid!
Same I grew up loving trick or treating but was very shy as a kid and hated knocking on doors
@dreamynightore
It was so much better when people would leave the bowl on the porch. No need for interaction. 🤗
You're supposed to trick them if they don't give you a treat, so they're fair game 😂
🤔 I did not think of that. 🙄🤣
I am not even good at thinking of tricks.
Flagging autistic kids carries "separate but equal" vibes...
Fr like just treat everyone with the basic respect an autistic person needs it's not hard. Give kids candy, don't make them do pointless shit for no reason to get it if they don't like doing it
For real though, I keep encountering this re-occurring in things. Having things to assist fine. Having things that you have to label people to assist bad. The allergy pumpkin did it correctly. Label the house as "safe" not the kids.
@@rheiagreenland4714 It's not JUST the candy; And that's why videos like this one are the actual dangerous and stupid things. It also helps prevent jump-scares, and other things that are done on Halloween that you can't just NOT do. It's not respect, it's not candy, it's the literal purpose of the holiday in general and the candy is but a small part.
Blue bucket: be nice to autistic kids!
Me, giving away £50 worth of sweets to other people's children: I thought that's what i was doing?
Re: non-food treats, we've had great luck giving out glow bracelets. The kids can't get enough of them. We give candy too but we have options. We've also had little pots of sensory slime, bouncy balls, bubbles. It goes over great
I always love the houses that have the cool little trinkets and items it always makes me really happy because sometimes there’s really cool stuff that isn’t candy
I’m at the beginning of the video The blue pumpkin just sounds like a way for autistic children to get preyed upon by creeps due to their disability
I never really stopped trick or treating even though I’m 30 because where I live it’s a huge thing. You don’t go more than 3 houses in a row without an insane amount of decorations. My youngest sibling was over a decade younger than me so even once I got to adulthood I’d go with her and people would insist on giving me candy even when I didn’t ask. Although I think it was mostly because my sister used to brag that I made her costumes or that I painted her face and people just really appreciate the effort put into the day.
I probably had one or two people insist I spoke when I was shy as a kid but most didn’t care. They wouldn’t give you any candy if you had no costume or a low effort costume, that was the big thing for them. Extra cool costumes would get extra candy. My favorite house used to give out 5 dollar bills to kids with cool costumes. I got given a 20 once because I made the old man that lived there laugh when I tripped up his stairs and responded in character. I was a vampire. 🧛 😂
Oh, and yes, where I live people will pop out with fake chainsaws that make noise and scare people. There’s also people that pop out of bushes when you get near the door. I used to be terrified as a kid but I still loved it. I kind of got used to it after a while and it stopped bothering me. It happens a bit less now than it used to.
This is my third time attempting to post this comment so fingers crossed it won’t disappear this time!
I looked up that Daily Autism Podcast dude out of curiosity, and yikes… As I suspected, he and his wife are self-described “autism parents”, and their social media accounts are full of harmful misinformation. One of their most recent posts is praising Jenny McCarthy’s Louder than Words book. They also post a lot of photos and videos of their young autistic son that feel intrusive.
yikes! 😬
The people making TikToks about inclusivity through colourful pumpkins using multiple clashing sounds in their videos are not thinking about the people affected by that kind of sensory attack. They don’t even understand what they’re trying to talk about.
One of my best halloweeens was when I was 16. Dressed as mono from Little Nightmares 2 and so I basically had a massive box on my head. No one could see me, no one expected me to talk, and people couldn’t even tell my gender which I liked, plus it hid most of my tics. A year after that I dressed as a special interest of mine! When I was younger I just wore the same cat onesie every year for at least 5 years which was also neat. One time I remember getting scared and running off from a house before I got any sweets and a random lady let me take a sweet from her bag - so yeah, people can be nice through just common sense but honestly I do find Halloween scary without someone older to stick with which is why Im no longer going
The fact that some people need to know why a person is different to not judge this person and that this behavior is encouraged in any way is very sad...
In my clinic I have candy, sugar-free candy, oat bars, and "spooky" reflectors that can hang on jackets and are cute ghosts. Oh, and my pumpkin with these treats for patients is orange. :P
Even beyond what malicious adults could do to a kid holding essentially a neon sign saying "I'm autistic";
- Kids are assholes. Having a sign won't stop other kids from othering and otherwise bullying a kid with a Blue Autism Bucket
- Kids not wanting to have a sign saying they're autistic should be respected too. Kids shouldn't owe announcing to every stranger they want candy from that they're different
When I was a kid, I had a few neighbors who would try to make kids do "a trick for a treat" i.e. we had to do a little dance or something for our candy. It used to make me SO uncomfortable.
Man even as I kid I would’ve just straight up walked away. I’m not a trained monkey and I’m not performing for my candy. Why even have candy to give out if you’re just going to be an ass?
Glad adults in my childhood didn't act like that!
At that point it’d be better to just go to the supermarket and buy a bag of candy
This happened to me when I was a kid and I was dressed as a Klingon. I pointed my phaser, which lit up and made a loud noise, at her, and fired. She freaked out and it was hilarious.
I have never seen or heard of the blue pumpkin until right now 1:42
I, SO SADLY, don't get trick-or-treaters (I hate that as Halloween is my FAVORITE holiday, but my house isn't convenient -- but I still buy a ton of candy just in case. And a full sized snickers for my first ever trick-or-treater if they do ever come -- my husband is home if anyone does). So I go to a friends house who does. And you raise a great point about -- do they make these kids line up? Cause they usually come up in groups of around 5 and you just get a loud jumbled crowd "trick-or-treat" and a ton of bags reaching out -- how do you know which kid said it and which didn't? I just throw candy in bags.
I've never heard of this blue bucket thing so I would have no idea what that meant. I have heard of displaying a teal pumpkin on your own porch to advertise that you have some toys available for kids that can't have sweets. I didn't even know they made blue pumpkin buckets. How has then been around so long without me knowing? And why would you pick blue when teal already has a meaning?
It seems like a good idea for the individual parents who feel that their kids need it to have some option. Like the original post by the mom for her 21 year old son. I'd have felt really weird about a 21 year old trick or treating if I hadn't been warned. But I don't think a blue bucket is a good way to do that because people like me wouldn't know. I think the badge or a sign is better -- but only if the individual is ok with it and there is some reason their parent thinks they might be received poorly. I'd not make a kid say trick or treat because young kids are shy.
But I've seen pumpkins of all kinda of colors -- I know I've seen lime green and pink. So if I had seen blue (before this), I'd just have thought that kids liked blue.
But, dude, if you dressed up your bear AND YOUR DOG and came to my door -- take all my candy. Can I pet the dog? That's effort. I don't care how old you are.
(Edit, I would NOT have refused to give the adult candy. But I'd have hesitated to open the door to an adult male. But if I open the door to you on Halloween, you get candy.)