I am a medical doctor. Thank you for posting this. I actually learn a lot from people when they are open about their medical issues on social media. It helps me to be more understanding and compassionate with my patients. It helps me to connect with them better and understand what they need. You are awesome.
@@I_Am_Your_Problem lol. It's true. And yes, doctors talk exactly like this. I told her I'm a medical doctor to show that her video makes a huge difference for healthcare workers who seek to understand patients who deal with these issues.
What the heck, why people need to he proud for being human beings? That is just awkward. Same with being proud of being either female, male or intersexual. You didn't achieve being born as you are. You just be you.
@@JPcommunicates I do see your point. However, I think it's that being brave enough to be who you are despite what society says and having enough courage to be open about something that isn't the norm to not only speak your truth but also to help others who are also intersex accept themselves more is definitely something to be proud of. If you don't agree that's fine though :)
Hello Sara, I am an older intersex woman, a medical doctor, and I teach about intersex at the med school of a large university. To correct you, it is not estrogen that made you grow tall, but not enough of it (I am 6' 3"). Estrogen fuses the growth plates of the long bones, and not having enough of it makes you grow to you possible genetical height. That is why boys are taller than their sisters. Otherwise you can live a productive life, and even have a family (I adopted my wonderful daughter). You just have to believe in yourself, and do the things you feel compassionate about. Lots of luck for you future life!
Dr I did not have my first period till I was 17, could that have contributed to my height of 6 foot. I actually stopped growing at age 22. I am now 71. My two sister got periods at 12 and are "normal" height
So you identify as a woman. By the photograph you provided: Developmentally I would say you grew up as a male and then had some type of psychotic break. Everyone has psychosis to a greater or lesser degree ++>
I've had all sorts of menstrual issues and honestly when I got my chromosomes checked I was thinking... What if it's something other than XX... Like how would I even react to the news.. and then when it came back as "just a typical female" I didn't really know what to feel. It's the weirdest thing. Always been a tomboy.
You had the exact opposite experience that I did. When I was 11, I started to grow breasts. I'd started puberty but it was female puberty. My natural testosterone level eventually stalled it but it confirmed what I'd always known: I was part boy & part girl. This was in the early 70's so they didn't have any kind of "treatment" for it. They didn't start giving me supplemental estrogen until a year and a half ago. I really wish we could have done it sooner but it is still so much better than it was. I had to keep this to myself for 40+ years, present totally male and it was okay but now that I can mix my female side into my everyday life, I am infinitely happier! Thank you for sharing this! Every time we share our story, it helps someone else with theirs!
Cool,,, thanks for sharing... akakjb. You are, who you feel you are. And that is great. Because you are you. And that is all that matters. I hope you can be as happy as you can be,,, have much humor in your life. We are all cousins,,, I mean, we are all related,,, and way back, even to mushrooms.... It doesn't matter what other people think, or what bodies they have,,,, we are this or that, we are in the middle, we have developmental things that went this way or that way,,, my nose 👃 is a bit big, I banged my head, even,,, things change,,,, or stay the same,,,, but we only have these very years 1 then 2, then 3, ... (etc) to be alive,,, Thank you for sharing,,, I've always been one who supports others, especially when someone gets 'picked-on',,,,, we are all products of our mothers and fathers,,,, 'all in the same boat ⛵'. And we all have our variations.... 'mother nature' is great to have, but is our made-up name for reproduction, creating new life. From two lives,,, cool,,, my message is sounding weird with a hard to locate point,,, but that's ok. This is a little message,,, hopefully to give you a smile 😁..... I hope you read this message and my message picks ⛏️-up your day,,, any of your days,,,, It is great that you are here,,, (and born in the early 70's, as I was) and I hope that you live as long as you want to,,,,, and experience lots of love,,, and lots of good feelings.
I found out that I had a male testicle instead of an overy when my husband and I were in a Dr's office while we were trying to get pregnant. My husband had a worse problem with it than I had. He left me that day and threatened to kill me. I had to call the police. He went to jail that day, and I moved to Alaska to get away from him. I've lived off grid in Trapper Creek Alaska ever since. It's been 40 years now, and I've never hidden this from anyone. I've been with the same man for 38 years now. He doesn't care that I once had a testicle. I never had children, only because I only had one ovary. I'm 62 now. You are a beautiful human being!!!✌🏻❤😊
That is terrifying and so upsetting. I have no words. I wish women didn't have to live like this. I'm so sorry you went through that. I'm glad he ended up in jail that day, I hope he stayed there til this day.
So happy you decided to talk about this! It's crazy how many intersex people don't even find out they're intersex until later in life. So sorry for how you were treated by some interviewers and tabloids.
@@HERO_DREAMER As I understand it, some people prefer intersex while others prefer DSD. I would go with what a person prefers. There were much worse terms used in the past.
DSD and Intersex are not the same thing. intersex is a genetic disorder, DSD is a hormonal disorder. DSD includes psychosexual disorders such as Homosexuality and Gender Dysphoria. i didnt hear her state her precise disorder, she just refers to it as "intersex", which is not a thing, "intersex" is a term that summarises a broad range of very different genetic conditions, not a specific condition that a person suffers from. "Intersex" refers to people who have a chromosome pattern other than the usual XY or XX. They may have one X chromosome (XO), or they may have an extra chromosome (XXY). people with DSD have usual chromosomes, (XX or XY) but have some physical aberration from normal sexual development for that gene type. from a superficial observation, it would seem her body is producing a female balance of hormones, regardless of her genetic makeup. however, that could be drug induced. most DSD are entirely preventable (but highly unlikely to achieve, given the disorders are usually caused by endemic environmental toxins, such as EDCs, which exist in high levels in almost every modern commercial product , from basics such as foods and clothes, to houses and vehicles. almost everything that comes out of a factory or farm.
I'm male but have a medical anomaly for a p*n*s. It's been a lifelong battle with shame I don't deserve, and kills my confidence and energy more than I want to admit. You are so awesome for living life and not letting your differences drag you down!
Have you tried dating in queer community spaces? Making friends there? Even if youre cis het having a diverse sex/gender/presentation/body type is very accepted in these spaces especially since everyones bodies in these spaces is different
@@thehomesteadnwI think this is way more about Internalizing their own personal “shame” or sense of shame , than anyone beeing mean to him… they would first need to Know about it in order to bully him about it, and I have a sneaky feeling he probably wasn’t out Bragging about it to everyone, and it also probably took him a while before he felt comfortable beeing intimate w someone too… ( I mean, I don’t know any of the personal details about his package… But It’s pretty clear that he’s had some internal struggles over it… and thaaaat…. Is actually, always Waaaay Waaaay worst than dealing w mean ignorant kids! Your own internal dialogue to yourself is often way harsher than what anyone else can ever say about you… and thaat is what is really sad about his story … However… in retrospect… Men who have insecurities around their packages usually tend to be Waaaay Waaaay better Lovers ( in the bedroom) so that’s always something to be confident about for sure ! 😊
Much love Sara. My brother has Klinefelter syndrome (xxy). His childhood and adolescence was troubled. His diagnosis at 29 explained so much. Back in the 60s these things were not discussed. When he confronted our parents the denied knowing. Medical findings proved procedures had been conducted. We also had a cousin that was talked about as having a hermaphroditism. You are helping others by sharing your truth. Thank you.
I truly can't fathom why people ostracize others for something that was innate- something a fellow human being had ZERO control over! Thank you for raising awareness around intersex experience Sara- you are a very brave, funny, and interesting woman!
@@SteveWithers Nope. Intersex is a medical condition, not a delusion nor a degeneracy. It's not the same as transgender. Transgenders have no genetic defects and fully developed sex organs. And yet they try to stand on the necks of intersex people and claim they're just like them. Intersex people aren't trying to have sex shows in front of children nor violent about it. They just want to live their lives.
Yeah, I`m a lady with sons. If one of my sons married you, I wouldn`t have any problem with your circumstances kiddo. The future remains ahead of you....please enjoy it. Absolutely the best of luck, and cheer up, you are fortunate to be so beautiful, you won`t be single for long.
In 1977 when I was about 6 years old I found out I was XXY. My mother told me I would develop differently and we never talked about it again. I understand the feeling of not belonging. Thank you for stepping up and making this video
XXY klinefelter’s syndrome is not an intersex condition. Trans activists like to claim it is, but it’s not. Klinefelter’s sexual development is male, and there is no discrepancy between internal gonads and external genitalia. Also, the SRY male gene which is responsible for male sexual development is present on the Y chromosome in XXY males.
@@mystic22g4who are you to gate keep their biological sex biology teaches that men are XY and women are XX anything deviating from that is different because they have both XX and XY combined they can display both the biological qualities.
@@mystic22g4 First, what it has to do with "trans activists"? Sounds like a typical dog whistle. You look only at Y and forget there is XX. Because of people like you, children with XXY are subjugated to unethical practices to "make 'em normal" and to high consumption of testosterone, which can fuck up your health or even kill you.
@@mystic22g4 I'm pretty sure in regards to sexual development there is a discrepancy. There's smaller genitals and less sperm or in some cases none at all. I'm not an expert or anything, I just looked it up.
There may be a young intersex person that feels scared and alone just like you did and they might find this video and feel a little less lonely. Thank you for sharing this.
Do you use any of the following (somewhat euphemistic) terms? • gay • homophobia/homophobe • transphobia/transphobe • trans-sexual • transgender • Intersex • cis gender • sex worker • African-American • capitalism/capitalist • any gender-specific pronoun other than he/she, him/her or his/her Then CONGRATULATIONS - you are (either knowingly or unwittingly) a silly shill for the loony left!
"and feel a little less lonely". hmm. Actually this video may save someone's life because this issue is quite painful to push person to commit su..omething irreversible
Do you use any of the following (somewhat euphemistic) terms? • gay • homophobia/homophobe • transphobia/transphobe • trans-sexual • transgender • Intersex • cis gender • sex worker • African-American • capitalism/capitalist • any gender-specific pronoun other than he/she, him/her or his/her Then CONGRATULATIONS - you are (either knowingly or unwittingly) a silly shill for the loony left!
You're a queen for posting this. I had no idea what I was getting into clicking on this video but I'm glad I did. I can't imagine how hard that was at 16 cuz I know as myself that was one of my toughest depressing periods of my life but at 21 I lost my left leg and had part of my heart replaced with a bovine valve due to very random incident with a birth defect in my heart that was never noticed. I nearly lost my life and I am now learning I am also infertile due to more health complications that are coming to haunt me from the past. I can't tell you how much it kills a man knowing you won't ever be able to carry on your legacy.. or gift a woman the chance at motherhood. I'm so sorry you get to share that pain. Thanks for sharing that. (Edit: I totally GET the feeling of being a blip cuz like the one thing we as humans are supposed to do, live, love, have children, and grow old and here my body's already tried to check out a couple times and half the shit I have left don't work 🤷)
I appear to have stumbled into the good corner of TH-cam, all the comments are kind!! This is what the platform should be! Thanks for sharing your painful and amazing story!
@@HemmyHighlander the world isnt kind. We were put here to survive. We each go through our own struggles day to day. Tearing people down for something beyond their control isnt necessary and i wish the ability to be an @ss was completely removed from us on a biological level. The world should be kind, because let’s face it, if youre mean, youre miserable, and it makes everyone else miserable
WOW....what personal strength! I'm a 78 year old guy........nothing special......The few times I've witnessed this kind of maturity, I've always appreciated it.......I envy your uniqueness ........you'll be OK......(you're here for a reason)
Swyer Syndrome only happens to females, so this video is complete click bait. She is an XY female and there are plenty of conditions where XY chromosomes actually are labelled female. Similar condition would be complete androgen insensitivity syndrome, those are also XY females. The reason is she was born with female parts on the outside.
@@stoek It's not click bait..It is still difficult to go through what she did, like being born without ovaries, taking hormones etc. And sex and gender is not the same, obviously she passes as a woman regardless of her sex.
@@majakittytoften6761 >sex and gender is not the same< the exception does not define the standard. a parrot who can speak english does not suddenly become a human. a female with xy chromosomes who passes as a female is simply an anomaly, nothing more
@@majakittytoften6761 if she does have Swyer Syndrome, then stoek is correct. she is not intersex. the video is clickbait, she is not what she claims to be. she is hijacking the intersex movement, or at very least, using the pop-culture fad of psycho-sexual disorder worship as a crutch for attention. Intersex is where you have non-normal chromosomes. with Swyer Syndrome she would have normal XY chromosomes. you could say she suffers from DSD which are Endocrine disorders, not genetic disorders like the various Intersex conditions are.
@stoek So, you’re claiming she’s misdefining her own sex and gender because you’ve defined them for her the correct, scientific way? I hate to break it to you, but both sex and gender are open to wide cultural and scientific interpretation. How about you sit down, shut up and just let someone speak about their lived experience without contributing your condescending “um, actually” observations that no one asked for?
This is exactly why children need to be properly educated about intersex people. So that when someone discovers this about themselves it isn't this scary thing that you'd never known about. People are aware that other people can't have children for a lot of reasons yet being intersex comes with so much more stigma and it doesn't need to, thank you for sharing this with everyone
What would these lessons involve? I would hate for a real genetic sex condition to be exploited for harmful ideologies surrounding gender. But it would be great to inform people of genetic conditions. It might be hard to fit in every condition that has a 0.1% rate of prevalence in to lessons. It is very difficult for everyone with genetic conditions and we need to show compassion and not exploit them for peoples politics. My daughter has JIA and I would hate for her to be used as someone's platform.
Meh not really nobody is actually bothered and there's no reason to find these things out unless you have some symptoms to investigate. There's very little stigma about it at all in society.
@@craigo2656there's no reason to teach people about rare conditions and it could actually be harmful ... if someone ends up with a problem and finds this out fine ..if someone finds out they have Huntington fine. Its not nessiary to teach everyone about every rate disease or condition known to man thats why we have doctors.
Educating them on an extreamly rare condition makes no sense. There are other far more common conditions that that should educate them on and they don't even do that.
Hey Sara. Thank you. My partner is intersex, I'm still learning so much about it so I can understand him better. He also told me how lonely he felt and how traumatic his experience was. Thank you. Thank you.
There are far more of us out there than is truly known. I'm an intersex male who kept quiet about that as I saw what cruelty can happen often to anyone who is physically or sexual different from what society morals says is the norm.
@bellaimages- Being born with male and female chromosomes or body types is not abnormal. God doesn’t create “abnormal”.. he creates works of art through his vision.
@@bellaimages I'm an intersex transgender woman so I know exactly what you mean about the cruelty. Some people can be very ignorant when it comes to matters of sex and gender that they have no experience with. It's such a shame that people can't just accept everyone for who they are.
@@JL-zn7me That's not God's decision but mutation. Mother Nature's fk up. And by that I mean that mutation is a fk up, not a human being that developes in abnormal way. After all if a mutation would result with some people being born, with third leg growing out from their foreheads you wouldn't call that normal, would you? A normal, or norm means kid is born with eye sight, not blind. Or has limbs, not only torso and head. XX = female. XY = male. There are biological errors and psychological ones. Each should be be look upon individually.
@@CiaraNíShúilleabháin1990hi I’m curious what it means to be both intersex and trans, does the transgender part mean that you were raised socially as one gender but are now living as the other?
Kiitos paljon, Saara (Sara). Sharing this ABSOLUTELY DOES help some intersex youth, and as a pediatrician who works with them I will be sure to mention it whenever I encounter one of my patients struggling with these feelings of being different. You are inspiring and it takes courage to share these parts of your life with the wider world. It means a lot. And if you ever feel like the deeper or more profound aspects of this experience have not been really discussed with you, or you haven't been able to find the kinds of support or answers you need for this point of your life, don't hesitate to reach out. You are not alone in this (you know that!), but you are actually even less alone than you know, and more loved and appreciated than you could imagine!
Never actually heard of this or anyone like you, but I am really grateful that you shared your story. You have educated me and I’m sure are giving a much needed voice to this, as well as helping others. Very courageous! ❤️❤️
this was the super rare genetic condition you said you have when you did your tattoo video! it’s wonderful to see intersex people coming out into the limelight! proud of you for finally having the courage to be upfront with who you are❤️❤️❤️❤️
Not super rare. A lot more people than you think are non-cisgendered, but so many cultures and religions are hateful and force them to suppress their true nature. The "land of the free" is actually one of the least free for so many people.
Contrary. Abnormalities account for like 1% population. Specific types are rarer by definition. Most ppl dont understand it anyway and will smack you on the spot.
I love you Sara, I have missed you so much and often think about you. I have always been in awe over your humor and creativity. Thank you for being so brave and transparent. You will forever be a rockstar in my eyes
At 62 I'm finally becoming a better human being thanks to listening to people such as yourself sharing and educating. All people deserve love and compassion. Thank you so much for sharing, you are such a beautiful person.
What an articulate,warm, funny person you are-definitely need to be somewhere in the entertainment industry-much luck for your future-I’m rooting for you
This is the very first time I've watched any of your videos. It just popped up on my feed. Thank you so much for posting this. IMHO a lot of prejudice and discrimination comes out of fear, and that fear is born out of ignorance. I believe that education is the key to progress. Thanks to your video, as of this writing, 1,281,568 people are now better informed about a very serious and important issue. Great job!
Jesus christ. I used to watch you like 7 years ago and checked your account again like two weeks ago! I wasn't expecting to get a notification at all. I'm glad that you feel comfortable enough to share this stuff with us. We still love and support you regardless.
Are you me? I randomly remembered the song California a couple weeks ago and struggled to remember her name or the channel. And suddenly I get this vid on my homepage.
I cant imagine how this diagnosis changed your whole life. If it wasnt horrible enough to accept this new info, but also those malicious people who wanted to out you for some sensational hungry purposes. Lady Gaga was asked the same question in an interview and she handled it perfectly:"Who cares what I have got between my legs. My fans are going to love me nevertheless."
@@ilubuuhehh2773yes, she was also blackmailed ☹️ So cruel. But I'm glad Sara & Nikkie are both thriving now tho ❤ I never would've guessed either of them were intersex or trans, btw. It blew my mind. I remember thinking Nikkie was coming out as lesbian lol, not trans. 😂 But yeah, glad they've taken their power back. It's helping other intersex & trans ppl in the world. They're normal! It's normal to be different like this. ☺ We shouldn't see it as a big deal. It's just a part of life. 🤷🏼♀️ (Hopefully I worded this properly! I have the flu currently & I feel like I'm dreaming 😂 so hopefully I made my thoughts clear & respectful. All love!! ❤)
Swyer Syndrome (which she stated on her ig) affects only females, so this video is complete click bait. She is not genetically male, she is genetically XY but still a female. There are plenty of conditions where XY chromosomes are labelled female. The reason is she was born with female parts on the outside. Those who got ambiguous parts are males, but she doesn't have that.
I suspect it often - certainly not always - comes more from the lack of knowledge and a curiosity to understand something previously unknown. Sadly, filters drop and inappropriate questions come out. It's almost like the urge to touch a pregnant woman's belly, entirely inappropriate; don't do it. And don't ask questions about people's medical conditions without gaining consent first. Curiosity does not excuse rudeness.
@@JaseekaRawr To be clear, Lady Gaga has never confirmed being intersex, she's just smart and decent enough to not dignify those stupid inappropriate questions with a response. Nobody's business and doesn't matter!
As a father of 2 children, it broke my heart to see even a slight glimpse of you revisiting the pain and suffering you must have went through growing up. You are amazing for stepping up and helping shed light on this topic.
Bless your heart. I’m sorry you were treated so badly and have felt so lonely, but it has helped make you the woman you are today, beautiful, strong, articulate, talented, empathetic (did I miss anything out?) and I’m sure if you want to be a mother, nothing will stand in your way. Much love from Scotland ❤
omg this hit home so much. Ive never related to a video so hard. This is the first video of you ive ever seen. I am male. Also 1994 born 29yr old. But had always felt different until i went to the doctors about a lump on one of my testis worried that it was cancer. He examined me & look puzzled as well as sending me for some blood tests & a scan. It wasn't cancer thankfully. Before ultimately at the age of 21 diagnosing me as intersex. I am 47XXY so genetically have both male and female chromosomes. I also tried to send my dna into a family testing thing and they came back saying there were problems. So much of my life suddenly made sense when i was diagnosed. Why id always have a higher voice. Why i seemed to have wider hips and more breast tissue than the average male. Why when boys being boys would hit each other in the downstairs area & theyd all writhe on the ground but i felt nothing. Why as i got into my late teens more and more people thought i was female when first meeting me especially if i wore hats which sucked as i used to wear hats a lot as part of my daily clothing. Why i never really grew any facial hair nor much body hair. Subsequently was told i couldnt have children which was very confusing as at the time i believed i had already had a baby boy. Due to me now knowing i was infertile it later came out that i wasnt the father of said boy but i loved him as my own. Being a father & having a family was all i could ever imagine myself doing when i was younger and being told that not only was that impossible but that the kid who you think is yours isnt was completely heartbreaking. I know there are other routes for having kids like adoption & it wouldn't be the first time in my family for there to be an adoptive line in the tree not in the slightest. But its still a punch in the gut. Not many people know i am intersex & those who do dont quite get what it means. There are some friends who tease me about me fathering a child so young unaware that actually i am incapable of having children & alexander isnt mine. I've been raised as male & always seen myself as a man so will continue to be he/him the rest of my life. The intersex awareness thing got me too. Every single year i think should i post something on facebook. I still havent but one day will have the guts too. I'm getting more and more brave and open to do so so maybe this year will be the one.
Opinion from a stranger, sharing it on Facebook would bring so many more negatives than positives. Not because it is shameful in any way, but your friends might react in ways that change things in interactions. And obviously it would need to happen after your son knows the truth, assuming you plan to tell him.
@@lilolmecj if his friends act differently towards him after finding out, they probably just need to work on themselves. OP would simply be revealing something about himself that's always been true, and that doesn't really change who he is in any way, and a good friend (or even just normal person) would understand that i think. it's also good for people to share things like this, not only for themselves, but for anyone else in similar circumstances. spreading awareness is just good in general, as the more awareness there is, the less likely there is to be people like you mentioned, who would react negatively to the news their friend is intersex. so i see where you're coming from but i still think OP sharing his situation on facebook when he's ready is brave and commendable and an overall net positive.
My 2 cents...If a friend of mine posted about intersex awareness, I wouldn't necessarily conclude they are intersex themselves. It's just talked about more among young ppl today, so I would figure they just support awareness. Anyways, you don't need to disclose anything to anyone unless you want to. It's not like you killed someone, so you have no reason to feel guilty about anything. If your acquaintances can't get over it, it says more about them.
Thank you for sharing your story🙏❤️ cant even imagine the pain it must have been to discover you were not the father of the child! 😭 im sorry to hear that and all that it ment with having been cheated on on top of that. Wow. Thats tough. But tou seem like a very kind person and hopefully you will find understanding people around you and can maybe help other people in the same situation. Wish you all good. And forgive me my ignorance, and if this is feeling too private to answer then please dont, but did it always look ’normal’ down there as a boy? So if someone would see the genitals it would just look like a guy? Or now when you know can you see differences to other males?
I don’t know how you popped up on my feed, but I am in awe. You pubicly sharing your story is so brave, so impressive, so meaningful. You are a gorgeous, witty, compassionate, intelligent woman and communicator. You now have a new follower- I hit that button so fast. Your spirit touched me.
Yeah, I feel like it's impossible to tell just from looking at them. I have been watching Sara for years and the thought that she's not like other women had never crossed my mind. Some people just don't feel comfortable with sharing that. And it's okay.
Acually 1,1% of the world population is diagnosed as intersex. Way more than people with down syndrome (0,2%) and yet most people I know never heard about intersex. Good thing you tell people about your personal story! ❤
No actually more like 0.018% "Conditions in which chromosomal sex is inconsistent with phenotypic sex, or in which the phenotype is not classifiable as either male or female, occur in 0.018% of the population. The claim that 1.7% of the population is ‘intersex’ [2] includes conditions which most clinicians do not recognize as intersex [1], and is often wrongly used to back up the ideological assertion that ‘sex is a spectrum’, or that biological sex is not dimorphic. The philosopher Kathleen Stock points out that she would be considered as “intersex” under Fausto-Sterling’s “preposterously over-demanding conditions on sex category membership”, as she lost an ovary in early adulthood [3], which would count as “intersex” according to Fausto-Sterling. (StatsForGender.org)
Wow! 1.1% is a lot. That's about 3 million in the USA. 80 million in the world. She's emotionally female and physically female enough that the issue was never even identified until her teens. The inability to bear children is a terrible thing, but avoiding the monthly bloody mood swings is a nice silver lining. As far as relationships go, I wouldn't think this would be a serious disadvantage; not an insurmountable obstacle, in any case. I wouldn't think. She's an attractive and exceptional person. I'm curious about that, but I bet her dance card would be full either way. Only speculating though. I haven't lived her life, nor have i met anyone with her condition. I'm still a fan, for whatever that's worth.
Sara, I've honestly never seen any of your videos before when this one came up on my "recommended" tab. This is one of the most beautiful, honest, poignant, transparent videos I've ever seen! Good on you for being true to yourself and authentically you! You are AMAZING!!! And BRAVE!! I admire that in a person! You're a gorgeous soul you are! Thank you for teaching us. ❤️
Hi there Sara! This is the video that introduced me to your channel, and I am so glad it did. Your message helps normalize talking about being intersex, it helps intersex people feel connected and it helps to educate the people who have no idea being intersex is a thing! You are absolutely awesome
Oh sweet baby girl (in her early 20's ;) ). You are amazing and brave and such a light in this world. Thank you for sharing your incredible authentic self. You make this grandma proud.
Honestly I think it’s pretty unique and kinda cool in a way. Thank you for sharing this story and helping us better understand the struggles that intersex people go through.
I'm not intersex, nor do I have a child who is intersex but if I were or if I did, I would be so grateful for this video. Yes, the internet has its problems but I love how it can connect people dealing with issues that make them feel alone or different.
@@leegrant100 It is estimated that up to 1.7 percent of the population has an intersex trait and that approximately 0.5 percent of people have clinically identifiable sexual or reproductive variations. The average person has interacted with many intersex people without even knowing it.
Thanks for being so open and offering such personal information. Making intersex people more visible, normalizing this situation, helps combat stigma and misinformation, and you are being commendably forthcoming making yourself vulnerable like this. Thanks again.
Saara, i’m so sorry you had to experience such trauma and disrespect from such an early age. Due to no fault your own. And for something that has never been “wrong” like they tried to drill into you. There’s been so much societal discrimination against intersex people and straight up medical discrimination. Thank you for sharing, there are people who need to hear this. Here’s to breaking the stigma. As a fan for 6 years now i’m looking forward to more content and so happy to see you on youtube again!
Ihan helvetin hienoa, et teet tälläsen videon ja jaat oman kokemukses. En voi kuvitellakkaa kui moni lapsi tai nuori, toki aikuineki on täl hetkellä tollasessa tuskallisessa tilanteessa ilman tietoa siitä, mitä tehdä, mitä ajatella. Osa ilman diagnoosia. Ne tarvii tälläsiä videoita. Ja itelleki ja varmasti muille ei-intersex ihmisille tää oli todella silmiä avaavaa. Kiitos!
I was going to have my periods at 6 years old, my puberty started quite early compared to my peers. I had to stop my growth for a while, had to take hormone injections for almost 3 years to stop my growth. My chest was growing, I wore my first bra at age 8, and I felt like a weirdo for most of my childhood. these things mark your life. I'm super proud of you, I've really been following you for a long time. thank you for being the voice of so many people who can't find the courage to love who they are. I will always be by your side ♡
Oh my goodness.. you were only 6 years old. That must have been very difficult for you to go through. It’s not something most females know about until at least 10. I cannot imagine how they effected you. 💜 I know someone else out there needs to hear your story… a mother of a young girl, or the young girl herself. Thank you for sharing! 🙏🏻
@@JL-zn7me I was diagnosed with precocious puberty. I was developing ovaries and my follicles were going to break in a very short time if my mum wouldn't have noticed that my chest was bigger than normal at only 6 years old. I've always been overweight and my relatives always said it was normal to have nipples for a big child but thank god my mum didn't listen to them. So when I started my hormone injections it also prevent me to have my periods at such a young age and I had my first periods at 9. So it was very painful to be seen as the "abnormal", as a woman. My peers looked at me as an alien because i was 158 cm at only 7 years old but still very childlike. So yes, i had trauma and worked a lot on it. It really marks your life but you grow better knowing the power of your strength of facing pain and suffer as a kid.. you just deal with it💕
Hi I heard a theory about absent fathers and early puberty.......I had this hat to me as well, although not as early as you.....sorry if this is too personal but just for educational/comparison reasons, do you mind telling me if your father was present in your childhood? Or a father figure?
This was randomly suggested to me by YT, probably because I have watched your language video a GAZILLION times. It's so fucking awesome that you are being so vulnerable and sharing something so personal. Being intersex is as common as having red hair! I'm sure this means a lot to the many intersex people who will see it and even though I am not intersex, it means a lot to me because I think when people realize just how many people around them are intersex, they can also see how gender is just NOT black and white--it is in fact, really complex. So much love to you and gratitude and amazement for your bravery 🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤
Having red hair seems to be alot of people, but outside of North Amerca and UK it is very rare. Like the entire continents of asia and africa have very very nearly no headed people. Go to the Middle East, China, Caribbean, Korea and see how prevalent red heads are.
Truly brave to share your story with people. Helps with understanding some bits of what you feel, and how you experience the world. It does seems like it´s most coming to turns with what the creator ruined in your body, otherwise you seem like a very normal, beautiful, warm and intelligent young woman. And that probably makes you stronger as a human. I do wish you a really good life, and thank you again for chairing your life.
I just stumbled on this post. Never heard of you before. Im in Jamaica. Its a small population ao im not sure the statistics on intersex peraons...But I must say this: you are genetically HUMAN. Applaud you!
Another nice Jamaican?? 😯 I'm sure most intersex people here wouldn't even know or if they did they'd keep it secret not to be shamed considering how backwards our country is. But I hope those people at least have a good support system.
Unfortunately so many have been fooled into thinking it is "basic and simple" when it is extremely specialized and complex science, but then some people's ego's crave control of everything, believe all in life must conform to their narrow viewpoint, if it can be explained in extremely simplistic terms they will say it is nonsense, propaganda, or say only some invisible, supernatural being knows and is responsible for it.
I just stumbled upon this. I have never seen any of your content before. I just wanted to drop a line to say you are amazing and thank you for sharing your story. You will change lives with this video and with your openness. No one has rights to your story, but you sharing it is a gift. ♥️
"There were also underdeveloped testicles. FUN." Haha that's just tickled me. Great response and I'm so glad you have gotten to a point that you can be lighthearted about what must have been really scary at the time. Keep killing it girl, enjoy the rest of your 20s, its gonna be a great decade lol 😘
I have a cat like this he had a penis we took him to the vet to get nurtured they said he doesn’t have testicles they scanned him but he had ovaries. So we had to make an appointment to get his lady parts removed. Then when they were removing them they found testicles inside of him and removed them also. He is a beautiful cat and is definitely worthy of being loved equally to the other cats
@@potatoO0o his testicles were twisted up inside his stomach he had the sacks there that the testicles should have being in but no I don’t notice as I am not a vet and don’t pay close attention to animal genitalia as that would be weird
@@hadeseye2297 the vet recommended removing them the cat was being affected mentally the male part of him was smelling the female part causing him to spray all over the house and if the testicles wasn’t removed they would of turned to cancer. And yes it is part of the discussion I’m just pointing out how common this situation actually is considering there’s so many people who feel less than because they have it so there’s no need for you to get offended and try start with me
This just popped up on my feed out of the blue, so your story is certainly getting around, and I truly hope that it helps anybody in a similar situation feel less alone and stigmatised. Thank you for sharing. You are a brave young woman and I wish you every success in your life (hug)
I can honestly say that before this video I didn’t know who you were but I can also say that I am so freaking PROUD of you for being so very raw & honest ! You’re AWESOME!! ❤️🤗❤️🤗
You are more of a woman then you know 🦋 About 50yrs ago, we had a girl in junior high school so happen to be a good friend, she wasn't having her period either. She went to the doctors, then she abruptly left school, it took a about 6 months she contacted me with the results, doctors were puzzled at first, someone figured it out, same condition. She did marry and adopted to kids. So there are happy endings 🦋
Congrats for being opens about this. I have a family member who’s intersex (unfortunately he has passed) and I wish he had been able to see this video. So encouraging. Thank you!
I remember learning about XY individuals with Androgen Insensitivity Disorder in my college biology class where the person will develop into a woman at puberty. More recently, I have listened to many stories like yours, and my heart goes out to my intersex brothers and sisters, whose road is often very painful emotionally and even physically. I’m a very socially traditional minded person, but I accept that a fair number of people have been handed by nature genetically anomalous situations that means their development and gender identity may not strictly follow their chromosomes. Gosh! Puberty is hard enough without getting dealt this hand. I’m glad to see the efforts to educate and connect with those with similar struggles for support. We are all human at the end of the day, so nobody should have to feel alone or face rejection for biological factors out of their control. You are a beautiful woman and person. Stand tall!
I'm intersex.. in a pretty sctrict christian home.. they considered me male so brought me up as male but I never felt or saw myself as male so screwed me up big time.. attempted suicide at age 8 and have many other times.. also diagnosed with autism.. I'm 46 xxxy.. no one in my family accepts me as female.. but odd part is everyone outside family and all my relatives accept me.. Wish my parents brought me up as female then i'd prob feel a bit better about my life..But good on you :D
I can't relate to the religious part, but I'm also both intersex and transgender so I can definitely relate to that aspect of it. I was raised as a boy but transitioned when I was 19. I've been living as a woman for 13 years now and it's the best decision I ever made. Gender dysphoria really is an extremely horrible feeling. Even if your parents don't accept who you are, at least everyone else does. Being accepted for who you are makes your life feel so much more complete. I hope that one day your parents will realise how much better it is for you to be true to yourself and that they'll be able to accept that you for who you are.
@@CiaraNíShúilleabháin1990 But is the term "transgender" applicable to intersex people? Transgender is a person who is born as one sex and transition to another. But in your case you're born with both, you just choose one over the other, not go from one to the other. Since the parents do have to make a choice, sometimes they choose their child likes, and sometimes the child doesn't agree with their choice and chooses the other as soon as possible. It's not exactly passing from one sex to the other if you have both to begin with, no? And I think it must also be much easier to transition than other people who were born with only one. Okay, it's only a question of wording, but I hope you understand what I mean.
Not intersex but I am autistic and non-binary. My suicidal 7 year old self if giving your 8 year old suicidal self the biggest, tightest hug she’s ever had!! I hope you feel more at peace now ❤
I'm on the spectrum and have adhd. I've always felt like I was on the outside looking in on the world. It's difficult being different, but we see the world in a unique way a d feel things so strongly and deeply. Even those of us who are neurodivergent or intersex or any other sort of non typical thing--- we're here, we exist, and it's for the better. I hope you can learn to love yourself just as you ate without feeling you are wrong in how you are. If you can extend love to yourself and accept you as you are, thst is what will help you live your best life. It's not up to anyone else, but you're not alone, and people care! Embrace what you live about yourself. The more you shine from living yourself, the more fulfilled and happy you'll be. I wish you the best.
@@TheCastedone No she can’t because she doesn’t have uterus due to a medical condition not because of gender ideology. It’s not the same as being trans so can y’all not bully this poor woman?
I'm also intersex with a similar condition as you. You're very brave to speak up about this because I was always told that I was alone in the world and that there was nobody else like me, so it made me extremely wary of people finding out I was different. So thank you for sharing your story
Thank you so much for sharing this. I'm nearly 69 now and only found out that I had Mild Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome in my mid 50s. It kind of explained why I felt like a transgender woman from the age of 13. I was so ashamed and embarrassed I just wanted to hide myself away. People shouldn't feel like that over something that they can't help. Thank you for helping us. XXX 11:23
@@graceg3250 Hi Grace, it was. My 1st "puberty dream " was of myself as a woman seducing all the boys with the clothes I wore.. if any one had heard the scream that went off in my head then blood would have poured from their every orifice. If they were pregnant they would have miscarried and if they were kids who were going to be Trans they'd have died of fright. Mixed with ecstasy.
Intersex is also part of “normal” and more common than most people realize. Humanity is diverse and interesting. That is the god given “you” physically…so you do you Sara. Thank you for sharing. Regards from Saudi Arabia.
@@RawChristianSuperman Unfortunate or fortunate is not synonymous with so called normalacy. My heart goes out to Sara…but she is a beautiful queen who is slaying what ever life has thrown her way! Bless her.
We learn about this in medical school and I just wanted to say this information was extremely educational in all aspects :) I loved hearing and learning from your story. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing this with us. Your story will help so many people! I love that I can share this video with patients who may be going through something similar. Sending you so much love
You are a beautiful woman! Know that MOST ppl out here would support and accept you. And beyond anything- you are a person. Because of just that you deserve respect and love. First vid I saw of yours and you touched my heart.
First time I stumble upon you, and you are very obviously a wonderful person. Beautiful, kind, empathetic, intelligent... and brave. I wish you all the best and happiness in the world.
Thank you. I watched this with my 14 yo and 11 yo sons. If they ever meet an intersex peer know that your story has helped me teach them compassion. The world is a bit better now because you're in it.
BIOLOGY LOVES DIVERSITY. SOCIETY DOES NOT. These videos are educational and it’s so important that we as a society and individuals be able to love and accept ourselves. Just by virtue of the fact that a baby is brought into this world, it deserves to be happy
I am a 76yr. Old woman, XX chromosomes. My story is that of a girl who was messed up by endometriosis. I didn’t have my first period until I was 14 and it was very painful. I would go months without a period and the doctors would give me shots to start on . I never knew when I would have a period, therefore could not plan for it to start. My periods were very painful and lasted a week( the pain,too!) I was only able to have one child and the doctors said I was lucky to have him. I had a total hysterectomy when I was 30. The endometriosis hah gone into the walls of my uterus. When I was in my 20’s the endometriosis got out into my abdomen, causing perintitis, I had to have surgery to remove adhesions. All in all I was never so glad to get rid of all pain! People who have no difficulties in their lives have no idea what others go through, they are unable to understand what we go through. One should never judge someone else for their life choices, everyone has the right to live the life they are most comfortable with and not be torn down for what life has handed them!
Please do not call yourself old. I am 66, my husband is 72. There is nothing wrong with “old”, but it is a mindset. My mother started calling herself “old” when she was in her 60’s. She became old b4 her time. She has dementia…..she is a beautiful woman. But she definitely became old when she started calling herself old. Oh well. Call yourself old if it makes you feel the way you want to feel.
Thank you so much for sharing your story and opening up about being intersex, Sara 💓💓💓 as a MRKH girl - diagnosed at 15 without a vaginal canal and no uterus - I can relate to some aspects of your story. So sorry to hear about the tabloid harassing you and the interview - some people can be cruel. You are definitely not alone, you are so incredibly brave & I am sending you loads of love 🥰 xx
No. I found you when this video showed up on my feed. Thank you so much for your raw honesty! Thank you for your courage, to be who you are.🙏🏽 You are helping so many by sharing your truth. How beautiful!💜💕 I will continue to follow you. ~Thank you! 💕
I have no idea why this just showed up on my recommended list but I am so glad it did. I went through a complete rollercoaster of emotions while watching this. You are amazing. To come through so much and still be so strong is incredible. I am sure that you have days where you wonder if you are as strong as you appear but this video is amazing and powerful and moving and emotional. I went from wanting to fist bump you to wanting to hug you. You are a powerful and amazing young woman and I am so proud of you for being prepared to put yourself out there and tell your story like this. I genuinely take my hat off to you. This video touched me in a way that I find hard to put into words. Thank you. ❤
Sara, I am sorry you had to go through such hell. You love babies so with a partner you can adopt. That child will love you forever. What I love about you, is your sense of humor. You are special and will have a great career and life. Be kind to all.
@@Diogenes77did you not see what the video is about? She is not even trans, she is intersex: she didn't get surgery to achieve a feminine looking body, she was born with it despite her genetic code.
Sara ! I’m so proud of you for doing this video. Thank you for being authentically yourself, it’s always so beneficial to the collective 🫶🏻 I’m glad to see you back, your presence is always appreciated !
It is crazy all that can go on inside the womb. Thank you for sharing your story. I feel your story has helped a lot of people who are in your similar situation.
I think you are awesome. And brave. And I hope that your life now is everything that you want it to be. Feeling alone as a teen is a hard road, I’ve travelled it. I am so glad to see that you not only endured, but overcame. You are beautiful and charismatic, and people in the world need to hear this story of yours.
Ok...girl...You have no idea how honored I am feeling right now to be in this space, right in this moment. I've learned about intersex folks only through the books, and to know that one of my favorite humans is one of them is just.... I don't know. This has expanded my worldview by another mile, at the least. Thanks for sharing. And welcome back! We miss your music so much.
Giiiirl, if archeologists ever find your skull all they gonna think is "damn, this person had one flawless bone structure and was beautiful as heck". No but seriously, to me you're one of the most beautiful women on youtube, like I adore you. And it's totally fine that you weren't ready to talk about it. Ultimately, it's no one's business. But I love hearing about it because it makes me adore you even more. The way you are so reflected and almost chill about it is hella inspiring ❤
Its great you can speak so openly about all that I cannot begin to imagine being in your shoes, really shows your strength of character. I hope you find your hot step-dad with some good kids that need a good mother figure, sharing the wisdom of her life.
Sara, I'm so impressed with your courage and honesty! You are a beautiful woman inside and out. I'm sorry you feel so alone and lonely with your situation. God bless you and I hope you find the love you deserve. You are precious and wonderful!
My precious youngest sister was born with a random chromosomal abnormality that caused her to be extraordinarily small, have brain damaging seizures her entire life that left her her unable to speak, walk, dress, toilet or feed herself or swallow food that bc wasn’t puréed. She suffered a lot. And loved a lot. And was loved a lot. She lived at home until she passed away at 57. She was unique - a treasure and a gift. Each of us is.
It takes a lot of strength to share everything you've shared with us. I know it probably doesn't mean much coming from some random guy on the internet, but for what it is worth, you are really cute.
I am a medical doctor. Thank you for posting this. I actually learn a lot from people when they are open about their medical issues on social media. It helps me to be more understanding and compassionate with my patients. It helps me to connect with them better and understand what they need. You are awesome.
I am a psychologist and I second this.
@@sonjaschafer4334 🙌
As a woman and nurse it gives me great compassion for these woman!!❤❤
As a chronically ill person, it makes me happy to see doctors like you who care deeply about your patients experience
@@I_Am_Your_Problem lol. It's true. And yes, doctors talk exactly like this. I told her I'm a medical doctor to show that her video makes a huge difference for healthcare workers who seek to understand patients who deal with these issues.
You’re no freak of nature, you’re a normal part of the human race that contains variations. You’re very beautiful and charismatic, so be proud.
She is SO beautiful. 😊
very well said and very true!! :)
What the heck, why people need to he proud for being human beings? That is just awkward. Same with being proud of being either female, male or intersexual. You didn't achieve being born as you are. You just be you.
@@JPcommunicates I do see your point. However, I think it's that being brave enough to be who you are despite what society says and having enough courage to be open about something that isn't the norm to not only speak your truth but also to help others who are also intersex accept themselves more is definitely something to be proud of. If you don't agree that's fine though :)
@JPcommunicates woww here comes the fucking happiness police
Hello Sara, I am an older intersex woman, a medical doctor, and I teach about intersex at the med school of a large university.
To correct you, it is not estrogen that made you grow tall, but not enough of it (I am 6' 3"). Estrogen fuses the growth plates of the long bones, and not having enough of it makes you grow to you possible genetical height. That is why boys are taller than their sisters.
Otherwise you can live a productive life, and even have a family (I adopted my wonderful daughter).
You just have to believe in yourself, and do the things you feel compassionate about.
Lots of luck for you future life!
Great advice. Thank you!
Dr I did not have my first period till I was 17, could that have contributed to my height of 6 foot. I actually stopped growing at age 22. I am now 71. My two sister got periods at 12 and are "normal" height
@@kerriefearby9542 makes sense to me
So you identify as a woman. By the photograph you provided: Developmentally I would say you grew up as a male and then had some type of psychotic break. Everyone has psychosis to a greater or lesser degree ++>
I've had all sorts of menstrual issues and honestly when I got my chromosomes checked I was thinking... What if it's something other than XX... Like how would I even react to the news.. and then when it came back as "just a typical female" I didn't really know what to feel. It's the weirdest thing. Always been a tomboy.
You had the exact opposite experience that I did. When I was 11, I started to grow breasts. I'd started puberty but it was female puberty. My natural testosterone level eventually stalled it but it confirmed what I'd always known: I was part boy & part girl. This was in the early 70's so they didn't have any kind of "treatment" for it. They didn't start giving me supplemental estrogen until a year and a half ago. I really wish we could have done it sooner but it is still so much better than it was. I had to keep this to myself for 40+ years, present totally male and it was okay but now that I can mix my female side into my everyday life, I am infinitely happier!
Thank you for sharing this! Every time we share our story, it helps someone else with theirs!
Cool,,, thanks for sharing... akakjb. You are, who you feel you are. And that is great. Because you are you. And that is all that matters. I hope you can be as happy as you can be,,, have much humor in your life. We are all cousins,,, I mean, we are all related,,, and way back, even to mushrooms....
It doesn't matter what other people think, or what bodies they have,,,, we are this or that, we are in the middle, we have developmental things that went this way or that way,,, my nose 👃 is a bit big, I banged my head, even,,, things change,,,, or stay the same,,,, but we only have these very years 1 then 2, then 3, ... (etc) to be alive,,,
Thank you for sharing,,, I've always been one who supports others, especially when someone gets 'picked-on',,,,, we are all products of our mothers and fathers,,,, 'all in the same boat ⛵'. And we all have our variations.... 'mother nature' is great to have, but is our made-up name for reproduction, creating new life. From two lives,,, cool,,, my message is sounding weird with a hard to locate point,,, but that's ok. This is a little message,,, hopefully to give you a smile 😁.....
I hope you read this message and my message picks ⛏️-up your day,,, any of your days,,,, It is great that you are here,,, (and born in the early 70's, as I was) and I hope that you live as long as you want to,,,,, and experience lots of love,,, and lots of good feelings.
I found out that I had a male testicle instead of an overy when my husband and I were in a Dr's office while we were trying to get pregnant. My husband had a worse problem with it than I had. He left me that day and threatened to kill me. I had to call the police. He went to jail that day, and I moved to Alaska to get away from him. I've lived off grid in Trapper Creek Alaska ever since. It's been 40 years now, and I've never hidden this from anyone. I've been with the same man for 38 years now. He doesn't care that I once had a testicle. I never had children, only because I only had one ovary. I'm 62 now. You are a beautiful human being!!!✌🏻❤😊
That is one gripping and emotional story. I would say tragic but you flipped the script and made it beautiful. I stand in awe.
That is terrifying and so upsetting. I have no words. I wish women didn't have to live like this. I'm so sorry you went through that. I'm glad he ended up in jail that day, I hope he stayed there til this day.
@@TheDionysianFields Christ guides me. I thank him, daily.🙏🏻 Our Creator has taught us to Love all. Even our enemy. ☝️ Blessings to all.
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Glad you got rid of that psycho! Shocking , how someone we thought actually loved us can suddenly reveal the beast in himself.
So happy you decided to talk about this! It's crazy how many intersex people don't even find out they're intersex until later in life. So sorry for how you were treated by some interviewers and tabloids.
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@fernthegreenfairy From what I've read, isn't DSD considered outdated?
@@HERO_DREAMER As I understand it, some people prefer intersex while others prefer DSD. I would go with what a person prefers. There were much worse terms used in the past.
DSD and Intersex are not the same thing.
intersex is a genetic disorder, DSD is a hormonal disorder. DSD includes psychosexual disorders such as Homosexuality and Gender Dysphoria.
i didnt hear her state her precise disorder, she just refers to it as "intersex", which is not a thing, "intersex" is a term that summarises a broad range of very different genetic conditions, not a specific condition that a person suffers from.
"Intersex" refers to people who have a chromosome pattern other than the usual XY or XX. They may have one X chromosome (XO), or they may have an extra chromosome (XXY).
people with DSD have usual chromosomes, (XX or XY) but have some physical aberration from normal sexual development for that gene type.
from a superficial observation, it would seem her body is producing a female balance of hormones, regardless of her genetic makeup. however, that could be drug induced.
most DSD are entirely preventable (but highly unlikely to achieve, given the disorders are usually caused by endemic environmental toxins, such as EDCs, which exist in high levels in almost every modern commercial product , from basics such as foods and clothes, to houses and vehicles. almost everything that comes out of a factory or farm.
I love a woman with intersex
I'm male but have a medical anomaly for a p*n*s. It's been a lifelong battle with shame I don't deserve, and kills my confidence and energy more than I want to admit. You are so awesome for living life and not letting your differences drag you down!
Sending love ❤❤
Shame on anyone who has ever been mean to you for something that you literally can't change. 😢❤
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Have you tried dating in queer community spaces? Making friends there? Even if youre cis het having a diverse sex/gender/presentation/body type is very accepted in these spaces especially since everyones bodies in these spaces is different
@@thehomesteadnwI think this is way more about Internalizing their own personal “shame” or sense of shame , than anyone beeing mean to him… they would first need to Know about it in order to bully him about it, and I have a sneaky feeling he probably wasn’t out Bragging about it to everyone, and it also probably took him a while before he felt comfortable beeing intimate w someone too… ( I mean, I don’t know any of the personal details about his package… But It’s pretty clear that he’s had some internal struggles over it… and thaaaat…. Is actually, always Waaaay Waaaay worst than dealing w mean ignorant kids! Your own internal dialogue to yourself is often way harsher than what anyone else can ever say about you… and thaat is what is really sad about his story … However… in retrospect… Men who have insecurities around their packages usually tend to be Waaaay Waaaay better Lovers ( in the bedroom) so that’s always something to be confident about for sure ! 😊
Much love Sara. My brother has Klinefelter syndrome (xxy). His childhood and adolescence was troubled. His diagnosis at 29 explained so much. Back in the 60s these things were not discussed. When he confronted our parents the denied knowing. Medical findings proved procedures had been conducted. We also had a cousin that was talked about as having a hermaphroditism. You are helping others by sharing your truth. Thank you.
I truly can't fathom why people ostracize others for something that was innate- something a fellow human being had ZERO control over! Thank you for raising awareness around intersex experience Sara- you are a very brave, funny, and interesting woman!
Religion is at the bottom of it. Especially among conservatives.
@@SteveWithers Nope. Intersex is a medical condition, not a delusion nor a degeneracy. It's not the same as transgender. Transgenders have no genetic defects and fully developed sex organs. And yet they try to stand on the necks of intersex people and claim they're just like them. Intersex people aren't trying to have sex shows in front of children nor violent about it. They just want to live their lives.
who ostracized her ?
Yeah, I`m a lady with sons. If one of my sons married you, I wouldn`t have any problem with your circumstances kiddo. The future remains ahead of you....please enjoy it. Absolutely the best of luck, and cheer up, you are fortunate to be so beautiful, you won`t be single for long.
And beautiful too xx
In 1977 when I was about 6 years old I found out I was XXY. My mother told me I would develop differently and we never talked about it again. I understand the feeling of not belonging. Thank you for stepping up and making this video
XXY klinefelter’s syndrome is not an intersex condition. Trans activists like to claim it is, but it’s not. Klinefelter’s sexual development is male, and there is no discrepancy between internal gonads and external genitalia. Also, the SRY male gene which is responsible for male sexual development is present on the Y chromosome in XXY males.
@@mystic22g4who are you to gate keep their biological sex biology teaches that men are XY and women are XX anything deviating from that is different because they have both XX and XY combined they can display both the biological qualities.
@@mystic22g4 you are an idiot
@@mystic22g4 First, what it has to do with "trans activists"? Sounds like a typical dog whistle.
You look only at Y and forget there is XX. Because of people like you, children with XXY are subjugated to unethical practices to "make 'em normal" and to high consumption of testosterone, which can fuck up your health or even kill you.
@@mystic22g4 I'm pretty sure in regards to sexual development there is a discrepancy. There's smaller genitals and less sperm or in some cases none at all. I'm not an expert or anything, I just looked it up.
There may be a young intersex person that feels scared and alone just like you did and they might find this video and feel a little less lonely. Thank you for sharing this.
Do you use any of the following (somewhat euphemistic) terms?
• gay
• homophobia/homophobe
• transphobia/transphobe
• trans-sexual
• transgender
• Intersex
• cis gender
• sex worker
• African-American
• capitalism/capitalist
• any gender-specific pronoun other than he/she, him/her or his/her
Then CONGRATULATIONS - you are (either knowingly or unwittingly) a silly shill for the loony left!
@@ReverendDr.Thomas and you must be a silly shill for the radical right!
"and feel a little less lonely". hmm. Actually this video may save someone's life because this issue is quite painful to push person to commit su..omething irreversible
Do you use any of the following (somewhat euphemistic) terms?
• gay
• homophobia/homophobe
• transphobia/transphobe
• trans-sexual
• transgender
• Intersex
• cis gender
• sex worker
• African-American
• capitalism/capitalist
• any gender-specific pronoun other than he/she, him/her or his/her
Then CONGRATULATIONS - you are (either knowingly or unwittingly) a silly shill for the loony left!
@@Chastor97what are you talking about
You're a queen for posting this. I had no idea what I was getting into clicking on this video but I'm glad I did. I can't imagine how hard that was at 16 cuz I know as myself that was one of my toughest depressing periods of my life but at 21 I lost my left leg and had part of my heart replaced with a bovine valve due to very random incident with a birth defect in my heart that was never noticed. I nearly lost my life and I am now learning I am also infertile due to more health complications that are coming to haunt me from the past.
I can't tell you how much it kills a man knowing you won't ever be able to carry on your legacy.. or gift a woman the chance at motherhood. I'm so sorry you get to share that pain. Thanks for sharing that.
(Edit: I totally GET the feeling of being a blip cuz like the one thing we as humans are supposed to do, live, love, have children, and grow old and here my body's already tried to check out a couple times and half the shit I have left don't work 🤷)
Your strength shines through your words! Thank you for sharing your story!
I appear to have stumbled into the good corner of TH-cam, all the comments are kind!! This is what the platform should be! Thanks for sharing your painful and amazing story!
You’re right! Everyone has been great…
The world isn't kind all the time. It's not wise to expect kindness everywhere and all the time.
They're also moderated.
Yeah, a lot of the less kind ones get automatically deleted or hidden by the algorithm
@@HemmyHighlander the world isnt kind. We were put here to survive. We each go through our own struggles day to day. Tearing people down for something beyond their control isnt necessary and i wish the ability to be an @ss was completely removed from us on a biological level. The world should be kind, because let’s face it, if youre mean, youre miserable, and it makes everyone else miserable
WOW....what personal strength! I'm a 78 year old guy........nothing special......The few times I've witnessed this kind of maturity, I've always appreciated it.......I envy your uniqueness ........you'll be OK......(you're here for a reason)
@@Melinanour why are you spamming this man’s comment?
@@AlphaGeekgirl spamming? What do you mean?
You are an incredible person. Thank you for strength and for this video that will help so many other incredible people. Keep rock'n :)
That's a lot of dots, but yeah
God bless you !!!
Sara, thank you for educating us about being intersex. We love you, welcome back!! ❤
Swyer Syndrome only happens to females, so this video is complete click bait. She is an XY female and there are plenty of conditions where XY chromosomes actually are labelled female. Similar condition would be complete androgen insensitivity syndrome, those are also XY females. The reason is she was born with female parts on the outside.
@@stoek It's not click bait..It is still difficult to go through what she did, like being born without ovaries, taking hormones etc. And sex and gender is not the same, obviously she passes as a woman regardless of her sex.
@@majakittytoften6761 >sex and gender is not the same<
the exception does not define the standard. a parrot who can speak english does not suddenly become a human. a female with xy chromosomes who passes as a female is simply an anomaly, nothing more
@@majakittytoften6761 if she does have Swyer Syndrome, then stoek is correct. she is not intersex. the video is clickbait, she is not what she claims to be. she is hijacking the intersex movement, or at very least, using the pop-culture fad of psycho-sexual disorder worship as a crutch for attention.
Intersex is where you have non-normal chromosomes. with Swyer Syndrome she would have normal XY chromosomes. you could say she suffers from DSD which are Endocrine disorders, not genetic disorders like the various Intersex conditions are.
@stoek So, you’re claiming she’s misdefining her own sex and gender because you’ve defined them for her the correct, scientific way? I hate to break it to you, but both sex and gender are open to wide cultural and scientific interpretation. How about you sit down, shut up and just let someone speak about their lived experience without contributing your condescending “um, actually” observations that no one asked for?
Yo, this video could save someone's life, seriously.
This is exactly why children need to be properly educated about intersex people. So that when someone discovers this about themselves it isn't this scary thing that you'd never known about. People are aware that other people can't have children for a lot of reasons yet being intersex comes with so much more stigma and it doesn't need to, thank you for sharing this with everyone
What would these lessons involve? I would hate for a real genetic sex condition to be exploited for harmful ideologies surrounding gender. But it would be great to inform people of genetic conditions. It might be hard to fit in every condition that has a 0.1% rate of prevalence in to lessons. It is very difficult for everyone with genetic conditions and we need to show compassion and not exploit them for peoples politics. My daughter has JIA and I would hate for her to be used as someone's platform.
Meh not really nobody is actually bothered and there's no reason to find these things out unless you have some symptoms to investigate. There's very little stigma about it at all in society.
@@craigo2656there's no reason to teach people about rare conditions and it could actually be harmful ... if someone ends up with a problem and finds this out fine ..if someone finds out they have Huntington fine. Its not nessiary to teach everyone about every rate disease or condition known to man thats why we have doctors.
Educating them on an extreamly rare condition makes no sense. There are other far more common conditions that that should educate them on and they don't even do that.
@@serendipidus8482not true
Hey Sara. Thank you. My partner is intersex, I'm still learning so much about it so I can understand him better. He also told me how lonely he felt and how traumatic his experience was. Thank you. Thank you.
There are far more of us out there than is truly known. I'm an intersex male who kept quiet about that as I saw what cruelty can happen often to anyone who is physically or sexual different from what society morals says is the norm.
@bellaimages- Being born with male and female chromosomes or body types is not abnormal. God doesn’t create “abnormal”.. he creates works of art through his vision.
@@bellaimages I'm an intersex transgender woman so I know exactly what you mean about the cruelty. Some people can be very ignorant when it comes to matters of sex and gender that they have no experience with. It's such a shame that people can't just accept everyone for who they are.
@@JL-zn7me That's not God's decision but mutation. Mother Nature's fk up. And by that I mean that mutation is a fk up, not a human being that developes in abnormal way. After all if a mutation would result with some people being born, with third leg growing out from their foreheads you wouldn't call that normal, would you? A normal, or norm means kid is born with eye sight, not blind. Or has limbs, not only torso and head. XX = female. XY = male. There are biological errors and psychological ones. Each should be be look upon individually.
@@CiaraNíShúilleabháin1990hi I’m curious what it means to be both intersex and trans, does the transgender part mean that you were raised socially as one gender but are now living as the other?
Kiitos paljon, Saara (Sara). Sharing this ABSOLUTELY DOES help some intersex youth, and as a pediatrician who works with them I will be sure to mention it whenever I encounter one of my patients struggling with these feelings of being different. You are inspiring and it takes courage to share these parts of your life with the wider world. It means a lot. And if you ever feel like the deeper or more profound aspects of this experience have not been really discussed with you, or you haven't been able to find the kinds of support or answers you need for this point of your life, don't hesitate to reach out. You are not alone in this (you know that!), but you are actually even less alone than you know, and more loved and appreciated than you could imagine!
Never actually heard of this or anyone like you, but I am really grateful that you shared your story. You have educated me and I’m sure are giving a much needed voice to this, as well as helping others. Very courageous! ❤️❤️
Its more common to be born intersex than to have naturally red hair. A lot of people never even find out they are
this was the super rare genetic condition you said you have when you did your tattoo video! it’s wonderful to see intersex people coming out into the limelight! proud of you for finally having the courage to be upfront with who you are❤️❤️❤️❤️
There’s a tattoo video? During this video I was looking at her tats! I have to find it!!!
Is she XXY?
Not super rare. A lot more people than you think are non-cisgendered, but so many cultures and religions are hateful and force them to suppress their true nature. The "land of the free" is actually one of the least free for so many people.
Contrary. Abnormalities account for like 1% population. Specific types are rarer by definition.
Most ppl dont understand it anyway and will smack you on the spot.
I love you Sara, I have missed you so much and often think about you. I have always been in awe over your humor and creativity. Thank you for being so brave and transparent. You will forever be a rockstar in my eyes
Sameee! !😍
Saaame ❤
Yess, her wit and creativity has always had me amazed.
Omg I completely forgot about your channel till now. Used to watch you all the time when I was like 15, you were a big inspiration to me
SARA OMG IVE MISSED YOUUU I’ve thought of you regularily. You have no idea how happy it makes me to see you here. Thank you so much for the love ❤️🥹
At 62 I'm finally becoming a better human being thanks to listening to people such as yourself sharing and educating. All people deserve love and compassion. Thank you so much for sharing, you are such a beautiful person.
Hi Grandpa Joe, your comment made me feel hopeful about our future :)
omg grandpa joe you’re doin the dang thing i love this 😭
If you’re 62 and ready and willing to change your mind about things you used to believe then I have news for you - you were always a good human❤
bullshit.. this is a woman who is....a full blown narcissist
What an articulate,warm, funny person you are-definitely need to be somewhere in the entertainment industry-much luck for your future-I’m rooting for you
im an intersex guy but was raised as a girl, thank you so much for this video
@@geoffreypalmer2661its a genuine medical thing..
"undercover cowboy" is a hilariously fitting username for your exact circumstances
@@domical245 thank u lol
@@undercover-cowboythat guy’s right. Best username ever
@@domical245 genuinely
This is the very first time I've watched any of your videos. It just popped up on my feed. Thank you so much for posting this. IMHO a lot of prejudice and discrimination comes out of fear, and that fear is born out of ignorance. I believe that education is the key to progress. Thanks to your video, as of this writing,
1,281,568 people are now better informed about a very serious and important issue. Great job!
Jesus christ. I used to watch you like 7 years ago and checked your account again like two weeks ago! I wasn't expecting to get a notification at all. I'm glad that you feel comfortable enough to share this stuff with us. We still love and support you regardless.
Are you me? I randomly remembered the song California a couple weeks ago and struggled to remember her name or the channel. And suddenly I get this vid on my homepage.
Saaaaame !!
yeah me too!
Thou shalt not take the name of the LORD thy God in vain: for the LORD will not hold him guiltless that taketh his name in vain. Deuteronomy 5:11
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Just be the best person you can be...no matter what. You took stumbling blocks...and turned them into stepping stones....God bless you kiddo
I cant imagine how this diagnosis changed your whole life. If it wasnt horrible enough to accept this new info, but also those malicious people who wanted to out you for some sensational hungry purposes. Lady Gaga was asked the same question in an interview and she handled it perfectly:"Who cares what I have got between my legs. My fans are going to love me nevertheless."
reminded me about nikkitutorials as well. sickening..
@@ilubuuhehh2773yes, she was also blackmailed ☹️ So cruel. But I'm glad Sara & Nikkie are both thriving now tho ❤ I never would've guessed either of them were intersex or trans, btw. It blew my mind. I remember thinking Nikkie was coming out as lesbian lol, not trans. 😂
But yeah, glad they've taken their power back. It's helping other intersex & trans ppl in the world. They're normal! It's normal to be different like this. ☺ We shouldn't see it as a big deal. It's just a part of life. 🤷🏼♀️
(Hopefully I worded this properly! I have the flu currently & I feel like I'm dreaming 😂 so hopefully I made my thoughts clear & respectful. All love!! ❤)
Swyer Syndrome (which she stated on her ig) affects only females, so this video is complete click bait. She is not genetically male, she is genetically XY but still a female. There are plenty of conditions where XY chromosomes are labelled female. The reason is she was born with female parts on the outside. Those who got ambiguous parts are males, but she doesn't have that.
I suspect it often - certainly not always - comes more from the lack of knowledge and a curiosity to understand something previously unknown. Sadly, filters drop and inappropriate questions come out. It's almost like the urge to touch a pregnant woman's belly, entirely inappropriate; don't do it.
And don't ask questions about people's medical conditions without gaining consent first. Curiosity does not excuse rudeness.
@@JaseekaRawr To be clear, Lady Gaga has never confirmed being intersex, she's just smart and decent enough to not dignify those stupid inappropriate questions with a response. Nobody's business and doesn't matter!
As a father of 2 children, it broke my heart to see even a slight glimpse of you revisiting the pain and suffering you must have went through growing up.
You are amazing for stepping up and helping shed light on this topic.
That’s so sweet!
Omg "I am 29, still very much in my early 20s" slayed me. Thank you queen bestie, for that relatable moment.
"Thank you queen bestie, for that relatable moment" you're such an annoying douche lol
I'm 32 and I feel like I'm in my early 20's for sure, lmao.
Cringe
It's all fun and games until said 29 yo dates a teenager because they 'felt' like they were 20.
@@syrjanen3397What's cringy about it?
Bless your heart. I’m sorry you were treated so badly and have felt so lonely, but it has helped make you the woman you are today, beautiful, strong, articulate, talented, empathetic (did I miss anything out?) and I’m sure if you want to be a mother, nothing will stand in your way. Much love from Scotland ❤
omg this hit home so much. Ive never related to a video so hard. This is the first video of you ive ever seen. I am male. Also 1994 born 29yr old. But had always felt different until i went to the doctors about a lump on one of my testis worried that it was cancer. He examined me & look puzzled as well as sending me for some blood tests & a scan. It wasn't cancer thankfully. Before ultimately at the age of 21 diagnosing me as intersex. I am 47XXY so genetically have both male and female chromosomes. I also tried to send my dna into a family testing thing and they came back saying there were problems. So much of my life suddenly made sense when i was diagnosed. Why id always have a higher voice. Why i seemed to have wider hips and more breast tissue than the average male. Why when boys being boys would hit each other in the downstairs area & theyd all writhe on the ground but i felt nothing. Why as i got into my late teens more and more people thought i was female when first meeting me especially if i wore hats which sucked as i used to wear hats a lot as part of my daily clothing. Why i never really grew any facial hair nor much body hair. Subsequently was told i couldnt have children which was very confusing as at the time i believed i had already had a baby boy. Due to me now knowing i was infertile it later came out that i wasnt the father of said boy but i loved him as my own. Being a father & having a family was all i could ever imagine myself doing when i was younger and being told that not only was that impossible but that the kid who you think is yours isnt was completely heartbreaking. I know there are other routes for having kids like adoption & it wouldn't be the first time in my family for there to be an adoptive line in the tree not in the slightest. But its still a punch in the gut. Not many people know i am intersex & those who do dont quite get what it means. There are some friends who tease me about me fathering a child so young unaware that actually i am incapable of having children & alexander isnt mine. I've been raised as male & always seen myself as a man so will continue to be he/him the rest of my life. The intersex awareness thing got me too. Every single year i think should i post something on facebook. I still havent but one day will have the guts too. I'm getting more and more brave and open to do so so maybe this year will be the one.
Opinion from a stranger, sharing it on Facebook would bring so many more negatives than positives. Not because it is shameful in any way, but your friends might react in ways that change things in interactions. And obviously it would need to happen after your son knows the truth, assuming you plan to tell him.
@@lilolmecj if his friends act differently towards him after finding out, they probably just need to work on themselves. OP would simply be revealing something about himself that's always been true, and that doesn't really change who he is in any way, and a good friend (or even just normal person) would understand that i think.
it's also good for people to share things like this, not only for themselves, but for anyone else in similar circumstances. spreading awareness is just good in general, as the more awareness there is, the less likely there is to be people like you mentioned, who would react negatively to the news their friend is intersex.
so i see where you're coming from but i still think OP sharing his situation on facebook when he's ready is brave and commendable and an overall net positive.
My 2 cents...If a friend of mine posted about intersex awareness, I wouldn't necessarily conclude they are intersex themselves. It's just talked about more among young ppl today, so I would figure they just support awareness.
Anyways, you don't need to disclose anything to anyone unless you want to. It's not like you killed someone, so you have no reason to feel guilty about anything. If your acquaintances can't get over it, it says more about them.
thankyou for sharing you story!
Thank you for sharing your story🙏❤️ cant even imagine the pain it must have been to discover you were not the father of the child! 😭 im sorry to hear that and all that it ment with having been cheated on on top of that. Wow. Thats tough. But tou seem like a very kind person and hopefully you will find understanding people around you and can maybe help other people in the same situation. Wish you all good.
And forgive me my ignorance, and if this is feeling too private to answer then please dont, but did it always look ’normal’ down there as a boy? So if someone would see the genitals it would just look like a guy? Or now when you know can you see differences to other males?
I don’t know how you popped up on my feed, but I am in awe. You pubicly sharing your story is so brave, so impressive, so meaningful. You are a gorgeous, witty, compassionate, intelligent woman and communicator. You now have a new follower- I hit that button so fast. Your spirit touched me.
Same
More people are intersex than you'd know. Thanks for sharing
250 million globally.
Yeah, I feel like it's impossible to tell just from looking at them. I have been watching Sara for years and the thought that she's not like other women had never crossed my mind. Some people just don't feel comfortable with sharing that. And it's okay.
About 1-2 in 100 people are intersex
Im surprised more people aren’t considering it’s wild how we get formed in the womb, so many processes go on.
@@Litti100 Nope. More like 0.018%
What a BEAUTIFUL and strong woman. You are awesome. Thank you for sharing your history.
Acually 1,1% of the world population is diagnosed as intersex. Way more than people with down syndrome (0,2%) and yet most people I know never heard about intersex. Good thing you tell people about your personal story! ❤
Plus, it's probably many more since the vast majority of people never test their chromosomes, so we never truly know :)
No actually more like 0.018%
"Conditions in which chromosomal sex is inconsistent with phenotypic sex, or in which the phenotype is not classifiable as either male or female, occur in 0.018% of the population.
The claim that 1.7% of the population is ‘intersex’ [2] includes conditions which most clinicians do not recognize as intersex [1], and is often wrongly used to back up the ideological assertion that ‘sex is a spectrum’, or that biological sex is not dimorphic.
The philosopher Kathleen Stock points out that she would be considered as “intersex” under Fausto-Sterling’s “preposterously over-demanding conditions on sex category membership”, as she lost an ovary in early adulthood [3], which would count as “intersex” according to Fausto-Sterling.
(StatsForGender.org)
Wow! 1.1% is a lot. That's about 3 million in the USA. 80 million in the world. She's emotionally female and physically female enough that the issue was never even identified until her teens. The inability to bear children is a terrible thing, but avoiding the monthly bloody mood swings is a nice silver lining. As far as relationships go, I wouldn't think this would be a serious disadvantage; not an insurmountable obstacle, in any case. I wouldn't think. She's an attractive and exceptional person. I'm curious about that, but I bet her dance card would be full either way. Only speculating though. I haven't lived her life, nor have i met anyone with her condition. I'm still a fan, for whatever that's worth.
Plenty of people heard of hermaphrodites, I've know about them since I was a child and so does everyone I know
You know what's crazier?! There's also the stipulation that it might be 2% taking into consideration all the people who might be undiagnosed. 😮
Sara, I've honestly never seen any of your videos before when this one came up on my "recommended" tab. This is one of the most beautiful, honest, poignant, transparent videos I've ever seen! Good on you for being true to yourself and authentically you! You are AMAZING!!! And BRAVE!! I admire that in a person!
You're a gorgeous soul you are! Thank you for teaching us. ❤️
This is what my post was meant to say but I could only think of one word, sorry. You're amazing Sara xxx
Honestly, for me this changes nothing. You are Sara. I don’t see people as organ collection. I see people as souls. Stay strong. 🤍 Good luck!🦄
Hi there Sara! This is the video that introduced me to your channel, and I am so glad it did. Your message helps normalize talking about being intersex, it helps intersex people feel connected and it helps to educate the people who have no idea being intersex is a thing! You are absolutely awesome
Never seen you until this video but I just know you probably saved multiple peoples lives by making this brave video. You go girl
I feel the exact same way!!! 💜💜💜🙏🏻
Man* not girl
@@leah.ludovicido you know what intersex is..?
I came here to say the same! Sending so much love your way! By you opening up you're letting people know how they're loved too.
@@lilosnow1759 nah I’m good thanks
So sorry for your trauma and that media harassed you. Thank you for sharing this, on your terms! Proud of you! Much love!
Oh sweet baby girl (in her early 20's ;) ). You are amazing and brave and such a light in this world. Thank you for sharing your incredible authentic self. You make this grandma proud.
Not a girl?
Well. Yeah? Why not?
She is thirty actually, she was born in 1994 :)
@@gyraniball7494 She states shes 29, so I think her birthday just hasn't passed.
@@lexie639 This video was posted 8 months ago, it's definitely passed by now.
Honestly I think it’s pretty unique and kinda cool in a way. Thank you for sharing this story and helping us better understand the struggles that intersex people go through.
I'm not intersex, nor do I have a child who is intersex but if I were or if I did, I would be so grateful for this video. Yes, the internet has its problems but I love how it can connect people dealing with issues that make them feel alone or different.
I was genuinely ignorant on intersex. What a powerful and articulate video. Huge kudos for explaining and good on you, truly enlightening 🙏
There's a documentary called "Every Body" that's well worth a watch.
and why would the average person need to know... enlightening? good god
lol interesex made up nonsense
@@leegrant100why would the average person want to be ignorant of anything at all?
@@leegrant100 It is estimated that up to 1.7 percent of the population has an intersex trait and that approximately 0.5 percent of people have clinically identifiable sexual or reproductive variations. The average person has interacted with many intersex people without even knowing it.
Thanks for being so open and offering such personal information. Making intersex people more visible, normalizing this situation, helps combat stigma and misinformation, and you are being commendably forthcoming making yourself vulnerable like this. Thanks again.
You are an absolute beauty! Being born different means you were born with a unique and specific medicine for this world. 💛
GIRL! You are so supported. This doesn’t make me or probably the majority of people think ANYTHING different of you. So much support ❤
Saara, i’m so sorry you had to experience such trauma and disrespect from such an early age. Due to no fault your own. And for something that has never been “wrong” like they tried to drill into you. There’s been so much societal discrimination against intersex people and straight up medical discrimination. Thank you for sharing, there are people who need to hear this. Here’s to breaking the stigma. As a fan for 6 years now i’m looking forward to more content and so happy to see you on youtube again!
many of us get bullied she doesnt want your pity. she knows all that now she is lovely all around
Girl, tall and drop dead gorgeous... Fr super model is all I see ❤
Pretty much XD
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1,000%
But does she talks about what's down there?
@@bushwacka5187That's really none of our business tbh
I'm sorry for your pain and praise your strength. Against facts there are no arguments!
Ihan helvetin hienoa, et teet tälläsen videon ja jaat oman kokemukses. En voi kuvitellakkaa kui moni lapsi tai nuori, toki aikuineki on täl hetkellä tollasessa tuskallisessa tilanteessa ilman tietoa siitä, mitä tehdä, mitä ajatella. Osa ilman diagnoosia. Ne tarvii tälläsiä videoita. Ja itelleki ja varmasti muille ei-intersex ihmisille tää oli todella silmiä avaavaa. Kiitos!
No idea how this came up, but I have nothing but respect for you. I’m glad you’re proud in who you are, you should be! Wishing you the best :)
You can tell she's a beautiful person inside and out
Yes…she is Gorgeous and SMART!! She is helping a lot of people too. Love her!!❤
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How? How can you tell, please?
@@edie4321 You can't tell but I think she likes a lot of drama.
Bruh why are people so judgy now that they find this information out? Piss off, you had nothing against her before
Dear Sara. I want to thank you for your bravery. It was very informative and really painful. I appreciate your candor. Very powerful. Thanks. Tom
What a very brave and totally authentic young soul. Hats off to you young lady, talking so openly about something so very personal can’t be easy.!
I was going to have my periods at 6 years old, my puberty started quite early compared to my peers. I had to stop my growth for a while, had to take hormone injections for almost 3 years to stop my growth. My chest was growing, I wore my first bra at age 8, and I felt like a weirdo for most of my childhood. these things mark your life. I'm super proud of you, I've really been following you for a long time. thank you for being the voice of so many people who can't find the courage to love who they are. I will always be by your side ♡
Oh my goodness.. you were only 6 years old. That must have been very difficult for you to go through. It’s not something most females know about until at least 10. I cannot imagine how they effected you. 💜 I know someone else out there needs to hear your story… a mother of a young girl, or the young girl herself. Thank you for sharing! 🙏🏻
@@JL-zn7me I was diagnosed with precocious puberty. I was developing ovaries and my follicles were going to break in a very short time if my mum wouldn't have noticed that my chest was bigger than normal at only 6 years old. I've always been overweight and my relatives always said it was normal to have nipples for a big child but thank god my mum didn't listen to them. So when I started my hormone injections it also prevent me to have my periods at such a young age and I had my first periods at 9. So it was very painful to be seen as the "abnormal", as a woman. My peers looked at me as an alien because i was 158 cm at only 7 years old but still very childlike. So yes, i had trauma and worked a lot on it. It really marks your life but you grow better knowing the power of your strength of facing pain and suffer as a kid.. you just deal with it💕
Hi I heard a theory about absent fathers and early puberty.......I had this hat to me as well, although not as early as you.....sorry if this is too personal but just for educational/comparison reasons, do you mind telling me if your father was present in your childhood? Or a father figure?
Precocious puberty?
This was randomly suggested to me by YT, probably because I have watched your language video a GAZILLION times. It's so fucking awesome that you are being so vulnerable and sharing something so personal. Being intersex is as common as having red hair! I'm sure this means a lot to the many intersex people who will see it and even though I am not intersex, it means a lot to me because I think when people realize just how many people around them are intersex, they can also see how gender is just NOT black and white--it is in fact, really complex. So much love to you and gratitude and amazement for your bravery 🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤
Having red hair seems to be alot of people, but outside of North Amerca and UK it is very rare. Like the entire continents of asia and africa have very very nearly no headed people. Go to the Middle East, China, Caribbean, Korea and see how prevalent red heads are.
@@doeeyes2 red heads arent rare in north africa and middle east
Intersex is very rare. It's less than .018% of the population. Most people have never met an intersex person.
Truly brave to share your story with people. Helps with understanding some bits of what you feel, and how you experience the world. It does seems like it´s most coming to turns with what the creator ruined in your body, otherwise you seem like a very normal, beautiful, warm and intelligent young woman. And that probably makes you stronger as a human. I do wish you a really good life, and thank you again for chairing your life.
I just stumbled on this post. Never heard of you before. Im in Jamaica. Its a small population ao im not sure the statistics on intersex peraons...But I must say this: you are genetically HUMAN. Applaud you!
Another nice Jamaican?? 😯
I'm sure most intersex people here wouldn't even know or if they did they'd keep it secret not to be shamed considering how backwards our country is. But I hope those people at least have a good support system.
It's like 2% I think.. surprisingly high
oh really?,,,,,,........never thought she could be HUMAN
Lady Colin Campbell was raised a boy in Jamaica when she was genetically female
@@elizabethross5930 yea...but Lady Colin Campbell is not sleazy
I’m really glad you posted this. It should be more normalized! Biology is wild, and there’s so much variety.
Yeah and 1 + 2 = 4 according to your logic
@@samt.1369 ???
@@samt.1369 you obviously dont understand genetics or biology, its embarrassing
Unfortunately so many have been fooled into thinking it is "basic and simple" when it is extremely specialized and complex science, but then some people's ego's crave control of everything, believe all in life must conform to their narrow viewpoint, if it can be explained in extremely simplistic terms they will say it is nonsense, propaganda, or say only some invisible, supernatural being knows and is responsible for it.
There's not "so much variety". Theres normal anatomy and theres mutations
I just stumbled upon this. I have never seen any of your content before. I just wanted to drop a line to say you are amazing and thank you for sharing your story. You will change lives with this video and with your openness. No one has rights to your story, but you sharing it is a gift. ♥️
Perfect people never have an easy life. We will be by your side the way you feel good. I'm glad you're sharing your stories. we are proud of you.
"There were also underdeveloped testicles. FUN."
Haha that's just tickled me. Great response and I'm so glad you have gotten to a point that you can be lighthearted about what must have been really scary at the time.
Keep killing it girl, enjoy the rest of your 20s, its gonna be a great decade lol 😘
Underdeveloped is the descripter....how in f could that be FUN? jesus the dumbest comments are here on this narcissit's channel.
I have a cat like this he had a penis we took him to the vet to get nurtured they said he doesn’t have testicles they scanned him but he had ovaries. So we had to make an appointment to get his lady parts removed. Then when they were removing them they found testicles inside of him and removed them also. He is a beautiful cat and is definitely worthy of being loved equally to the other cats
How do you see a cats penis but don't see it doesn't have testicles? What?
Why you made a decision to remove anything? Plus. Was cat also a part of that discussion?
@@potatoO0o his testicles were twisted up inside his stomach he had the sacks there that the testicles should have being in but no I don’t notice as I am not a vet and don’t pay close attention to animal genitalia as that would be weird
@@hadeseye2297 the vet recommended removing them the cat was being affected mentally the male part of him was smelling the female part causing him to spray all over the house and if the testicles wasn’t removed they would of turned to cancer. And yes it is part of the discussion I’m just pointing out how common this situation actually is considering there’s so many people who feel less than because they have it so there’s no need for you to get offended and try start with me
To be fair, the whole kit and kaboodle is pretty tiny... @@potatoO0o
You are incredible- beautiful, courageous, so intelligent and in touch. I admire you, Sara.
This just popped up on my feed out of the blue, so your story is certainly getting around, and I truly hope that it helps anybody in a similar situation feel less alone and stigmatised. Thank you for sharing. You are a brave young woman and I wish you every success in your life (hug)
I can honestly say that before this video I didn’t know who you were but I can also say that I am so freaking PROUD of you for being so very raw & honest ! You’re AWESOME!! ❤️🤗❤️🤗
You are more of a woman then you know 🦋 About 50yrs ago, we had a girl in junior high school so happen to be a good friend, she wasn't having her period either. She went to the doctors, then she abruptly left school, it took a about 6 months she contacted me with the results, doctors were puzzled at first, someone figured it out, same condition. She did marry and adopted to kids. So there are happy endings 🦋
You are more of a woman THAN (not THEN) you know.
THEN and THAN are two different words, with different meanings.😊
Thank you for that last part about your friend❤️ -someone with the same diagnosis
@@Switzer1234was that necessary?
Congrats for being opens about this. I have a family member who’s intersex (unfortunately he has passed) and I wish he had been able to see this video. So encouraging. Thank you!
howd he die
So sorry for your loss ❤
@@willow1698bruh you can’t just ask somebody that cmon now
I remember learning about XY individuals with Androgen Insensitivity Disorder in my college biology class where the person will develop into a woman at puberty. More recently, I have listened to many stories like yours, and my heart goes out to my intersex brothers and sisters, whose road is often very painful emotionally and even physically.
I’m a very socially traditional minded person, but I accept that a fair number of people have been handed by nature genetically anomalous situations that means their development and gender identity may not strictly follow their chromosomes. Gosh! Puberty is hard enough without getting dealt this hand. I’m glad to see the efforts to educate and connect with those with similar struggles for support. We are all human at the end of the day, so nobody should have to feel alone or face rejection for biological factors out of their control. You are a beautiful woman and person. Stand tall!
I'm intersex.. in a pretty sctrict christian home.. they considered me male so brought me up as male but I never felt or saw myself as male so screwed me up big time.. attempted suicide at age 8 and have many other times.. also diagnosed with autism.. I'm 46 xxxy.. no one in my family accepts me as female.. but odd part is everyone outside family and all my relatives accept me.. Wish my parents brought me up as female then i'd prob feel a bit better about my life..But good on you :D
I can't relate to the religious part, but I'm also both intersex and transgender so I can definitely relate to that aspect of it. I was raised as a boy but transitioned when I was 19. I've been living as a woman for 13 years now and it's the best decision I ever made. Gender dysphoria really is an extremely horrible feeling. Even if your parents don't accept who you are, at least everyone else does. Being accepted for who you are makes your life feel so much more complete. I hope that one day your parents will realise how much better it is for you to be true to yourself and that they'll be able to accept that you for who you are.
Could you move and relocate to a place and start over? Big hug 🫂
@@CiaraNíShúilleabháin1990 But is the term "transgender" applicable to intersex people? Transgender is a person who is born as one sex and transition to another. But in your case you're born with both, you just choose one over the other, not go from one to the other. Since the parents do have to make a choice, sometimes they choose their child likes, and sometimes the child doesn't agree with their choice and chooses the other as soon as possible. It's not exactly passing from one sex to the other if you have both to begin with, no? And I think it must also be much easier to transition than other people who were born with only one.
Okay, it's only a question of wording, but I hope you understand what I mean.
Not intersex but I am autistic and non-binary. My suicidal 7 year old self if giving your 8 year old suicidal self the biggest, tightest hug she’s ever had!! I hope you feel more at peace now ❤
I'm on the spectrum and have adhd. I've always felt like I was on the outside looking in on the world. It's difficult being different, but we see the world in a unique way a d feel things so strongly and deeply. Even those of us who are neurodivergent or intersex or any other sort of non typical thing--- we're here, we exist, and it's for the better. I hope you can learn to love yourself just as you ate without feeling you are wrong in how you are. If you can extend love to yourself and accept you as you are, thst is what will help you live your best life. It's not up to anyone else, but you're not alone, and people care! Embrace what you live about yourself. The more you shine from living yourself, the more fulfilled and happy you'll be. I wish you the best.
We’re not thinking of you differently, you’re still a woman and we still love you no matter what 🧡
Not a woman.
@@vetiverose128 then what is she?? Enlighten us.
@@vetiverose128you're irritating as fuck. Go away
Im confused. Can she not get pregnant?
@@TheCastedone No she can’t because she doesn’t have uterus due to a medical condition not because of gender ideology. It’s not the same as being trans so can y’all not bully this poor woman?
I'm also intersex with a similar condition as you. You're very brave to speak up about this because I was always told that I was alone in the world and that there was nobody else like me, so it made me extremely wary of people finding out I was different. So thank you for sharing your story
Thank you so much for sharing this. I'm nearly 69 now and only found out that I had Mild Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome in my mid 50s. It kind of explained why I felt like a transgender woman from the age of 13. I was so ashamed and embarrassed I just wanted to hide myself away. People shouldn't feel like that over something that they can't help. Thank you for helping us. XXX 11:23
Wow. That must have been completely overwhelming. It's lovely to grow up and challenge the mindsets about ourselves we once had.
@@graceg3250 Hi Grace, it was. My 1st "puberty dream " was of myself as a woman seducing all the boys with the clothes I wore.. if any one had heard the scream that went off in my head then blood would have poured from their every orifice. If they were pregnant they would have miscarried and if they were kids who were going to be Trans they'd have died of fright.
Mixed with ecstasy.
i have seen already a video about a XY woman. Another nice looking woman.
But it is very rare.
Me too~
Thank you so much for letting us in on such a personal aspect of your life and giving me the gift of knowledge ❤
Intersex is also part of “normal” and more common than most people realize. Humanity is diverse and interesting. That is the god given “you” physically…so you do you Sara.
Thank you for sharing. Regards from Saudi Arabia.
0.5 - 1.7 percent of population so not so common
No, its not normal. Its very unfortunate.
@@RawChristianSuperman That is why I put the word normal in quotation marks.
@@annavaljakka Yes. Thus I wrote “it is more common than most people realize”. Not that it was common overall.
@@RawChristianSuperman Unfortunate or fortunate is not synonymous with so called normalacy. My heart goes out to Sara…but she is a beautiful queen who is slaying what ever life has thrown her way! Bless her.
We learn about this in medical school and I just wanted to say this information was extremely educational in all aspects :) I loved hearing and learning from your story. Thank you for being so vulnerable and sharing this with us. Your story will help so many people! I love that I can share this video with patients who may be going through something similar. Sending you so much love
You are a beautiful woman! Know that MOST ppl out here would support and accept you. And beyond anything- you are a person. Because of just that you deserve respect and love. First vid I saw of yours and you touched my heart.
hes a man. Genetically male.
First time I stumble upon you, and you are very obviously a wonderful person. Beautiful, kind, empathetic, intelligent... and brave. I wish you all the best and happiness in the world.
Thank you. I watched this with my 14 yo and 11 yo sons. If they ever meet an intersex peer know that your story has helped me teach them compassion. The world is a bit better now because you're in it.
That's beautiful❤
BIOLOGY LOVES DIVERSITY. SOCIETY DOES NOT. These videos are educational and it’s so important that we as a society and individuals be able to love and accept ourselves. Just by virtue of the fact that a baby is brought into this world, it deserves to be happy
….not sure they’d really know…
I am a 76yr. Old woman, XX chromosomes. My story is that of a girl who was messed up by endometriosis. I didn’t have my first period until I was 14 and it was very painful. I would go months without a period and the doctors would give me shots to start on . I never knew when I would have a period, therefore could not plan for it to start. My periods were very painful and lasted a week( the pain,too!) I was only able to have one child and the doctors said I was lucky to have him. I had a total hysterectomy when I was 30. The endometriosis hah gone into the walls of my uterus. When I was in my 20’s the endometriosis got out into my abdomen, causing perintitis, I had to have surgery to remove adhesions. All in all I was never so glad to get rid of all pain! People who have no difficulties in their lives have no idea what others go through, they are unable to understand what we go through. One should never judge someone else for their life choices, everyone has the right to live the life they are most comfortable with and not be torn down for what life has handed them!
Please do not call yourself old. I am 66, my husband is 72. There is nothing wrong with “old”, but it is a mindset. My mother started calling herself “old” when she was in her 60’s. She became old b4 her time. She has dementia…..she is a beautiful woman. But she definitely became old when she started calling herself old.
Oh well. Call yourself old if it makes you feel the way you want to feel.
Thank you so much for sharing your story and opening up about being intersex, Sara 💓💓💓 as a MRKH girl - diagnosed at 15 without a vaginal canal and no uterus - I can relate to some aspects of your story. So sorry to hear about the tabloid harassing you and the interview - some people can be cruel. You are definitely not alone, you are so incredibly brave & I am sending you loads of love 🥰 xx
Your authenticity and vulnerability is so refreshing. Thank you for being so open!
No. I found you when this video showed up on my feed. Thank you so much for your raw honesty! Thank you for your courage, to be who you are.🙏🏽 You are helping so many by sharing your truth. How beautiful!💜💕 I will continue to follow you. ~Thank you! 💕
I have no idea why this just showed up on my recommended list but I am so glad it did. I went through a complete rollercoaster of emotions while watching this. You are amazing. To come through so much and still be so strong is incredible. I am sure that you have days where you wonder if you are as strong as you appear but this video is amazing and powerful and moving and emotional. I went from wanting to fist bump you to wanting to hug you. You are a powerful and amazing young woman and I am so proud of you for being prepared to put yourself out there and tell your story like this. I genuinely take my hat off to you. This video touched me in a way that I find hard to put into words. Thank you. ❤
you are basically the only one in my sub list that can be gone for 10 years and the moment you come back, I am there watching your videos.
Sara, I am sorry you had to go through such hell. You love babies so with a partner you can adopt. That child will love you forever. What I love about you, is your sense of humor. You are special and will have a great career and life. Be kind to all.
no one thinks you're weird. you are completely accepted and loved as you are
She is weird and stupid.
No. He needs to get help.
@@Diogenes77did you not see what the video is about? She is not even trans, she is intersex: she didn't get surgery to achieve a feminine looking body, she was born with it despite her genetic code.
@@Diogenes77ok, you need to mind your own business
Wait so it's a he or a she?
Sara ! I’m so proud of you for doing this video. Thank you for being authentically yourself, it’s always so beneficial to the collective 🫶🏻 I’m glad to see you back, your presence is always appreciated !
It is crazy all that can go on inside the womb. Thank you for sharing your story. I feel your story has helped a lot of people who are in your similar situation.
I think you are awesome. And brave. And I hope that your life now is everything that you want it to be. Feeling alone as a teen is a hard road, I’ve travelled it. I am so glad to see that you not only endured, but overcame. You are beautiful and charismatic, and people in the world need to hear this story of yours.
Ok...girl...You have no idea how honored I am feeling right now to be in this space, right in this moment. I've learned about intersex folks only through the books, and to know that one of my favorite humans is one of them is just.... I don't know. This has expanded my worldview by another mile, at the least. Thanks for sharing. And welcome back! We miss your music so much.
This story is actually so wild and I really respect you for talking about this. I honestly didn’t even know this happened like this
I suspect there are thousands in the same situation as you are.
You should have paid more attention at school...
Giiiirl, if archeologists ever find your skull all they gonna think is "damn, this person had one flawless bone structure and was beautiful as heck". No but seriously, to me you're one of the most beautiful women on youtube, like I adore you. And it's totally fine that you weren't ready to talk about it. Ultimately, it's no one's business. But I love hearing about it because it makes me adore you even more. The way you are so reflected and almost chill about it is hella inspiring ❤
Agree!!!❤
what a weird comment, i agree tho lmao
@@jessica1234661 Sara is my favorite weirdo so it needed a weird comment 🩷☺️
I totally agree!!!❤
Because the most important thing about a woman is how beautiful she is, am I right?
Its great you can speak so openly about all that I cannot begin to imagine being in your shoes, really shows your strength of character. I hope you find your hot step-dad with some good kids that need a good mother figure, sharing the wisdom of her life.
Sara, I'm so impressed with your courage and honesty! You are a beautiful woman inside and out. I'm sorry you feel so alone and lonely with your situation. God bless you and I hope you find the love you deserve. You are precious and wonderful!
My precious youngest sister was born with a random chromosomal abnormality that caused her to be extraordinarily small, have brain damaging seizures her entire life that left her her unable to speak, walk, dress, toilet or feed herself or swallow food that bc wasn’t puréed. She suffered a lot. And loved a lot. And was loved a lot. She lived at home until she passed away at 57. She was unique - a treasure and a gift. Each of us is.
Thank you for sharing.
It's a shame that I can only like a video once. This message will resonate with others who are struggling with their identity.
It takes a lot of strength to share everything you've shared with us. I know it probably doesn't mean much coming from some random guy on the internet, but for what it is worth, you are really cute.