@@kindauncoolhard to imagine that, I have some arthritis and cold intolerance issues that have become frustratingly inhibitive and I often have to remind people that I need certain specific conditions in order to function and I feel so bad about it. I don’t doubt what you’re saying I just genuinely can’t imagine being so hostile about a lack of accommodation that I was uninvited from an event
I saw this on my reddit feed before they made the update, im glad to know that OP didnt have to go through with something no one else was willing to compromise on
The cruise ship story makes me so crazy. I went on a cruise and the FIRST thing they tell you is “DO NOT BE LATE FOR EMBARKATION WE WILL LEAVE YOU.” Like literally. Every time we docked to go ashore, there was a literal hallway of staff reminding us what all-aboard time was, and to make sure we were wearing watches that synced up with the SHIP’S time because not all ports were on the same time zone. It’s so so so stupid to me that these people literally thought a whole ass cruise ship would WAIT for them. Like WHAT.
@@nicjoy4407a little stuck up!?!?? When you blame your 18 year old kid for NOT being able to control a cruise ship for YOUR convenience, that's MUCH more than "a little stuck up!" That's just...bad parenting! One of THE worst things a parent can do is blame a kid for their own mistakes!
@@yeshevishmanpart of me wonders if the parents are maybe just joking about it like, maybe they’ll say “don’t leave us again” in a joking kinda way if the daughter is leaving the room? But most of me knows that anyone who gives a gift with the caveat of that gift being a bunch of other things, some of which include your loyalty and consideration while using said gift, is a jerk. Plus they probably bend the rules all the time, most people with money do. Blaming the daughter takes away from the cognitive dissonance of the notion that you aren’t inherently entitled to special treatment and the world, including your kid who was given a loaded birthday/graduation “gift” you forced her to bring you along for, doesn’t revolve around you. A real graduation/birthday gift would have been a cruise for the daughter and one of her friends. I’m looking in my crystal ball and I’m seeing a future stressful wedding that’s gonna be a real shit show bc of these people paying for it. My advice is, take their money bc they’ll be this way whether or not they paid, their excuses will just be different. Still tho, great problems to have compared to many of the alternatives
I'm wondering if they thought the cruise would wait because a child's parents weren't with them. Obviously, the girl I'd old enough to survive without her parents, but it made me wonder: What if a four year old wandered back to the ship alone... would they wait for the parents?
@@welcome2myhappyworld I don't think staying is a option they physically can do without costing them a shit ton of money, I'm sure that they have some sort of protocol for scenarios like that.
"Hey, you know how your mobility scooters are able to go over grass?" "yeah" "Can I rent one?" "where are you gonna use it?" "Over some grass." "FUCK no"
One of the sweetest things I've seen online was a gravestone with a cupcake recipe on the back. The wife/mom/grandma died and before her death she asked for the recipe that everyone in the family loved to be engraved on the back of the gravestone so everyone knows how to make it themselves. It just felt so sweet and loving.
A little while ago I found an account online that would make recipes that people put on their gravestones. I don't remember the account name but I think it's such a sweet idea for people to pass on their secret recipes after they die. The way I see it, it's a great way to keep their legacy alive and share it with the world
I bet every time they asked grandma for the recipe, she'd say "Over my dead body" and had the gravestone paid off before her death 😆 And then on the funeral, where was the recipe? Over her dead body
My husband was in a wheelchair for almost a year before he had his surgery, and this person is definitely NTA. It was really tough to do even mild slopes and sidewalks with him in the wheelchair and he and the wheelchair was about 200lbs. Pushing a 600lb person plus wheelchair over grass... I would get about ten feet before giving up lol
It wouldn't be safe honestly. You hit one small rock and the chair could tip over, and then you'd have to call 911 to get her back up. If they really wanted this cousin to be there, someone could have helped them rent a U-Haul utility trailer to put the scooter into - for $35 you can rent a utility trailer with a ramp.
Even just pushing a wheelchair with a light person in it is very hard, on pavement sp I would say nta. I'm pretty strong but had a hard time pushing my 150lbs friend around on pavement. I can't imagine pushing around someone who is 600lbs that seems impossible ngl
10 feet? I'm pretty fit but damn I think it'd sink further down than I could get it forward. I'd just give up instantly. Sounds like your husband can walk now again? I'm happy for him!
8:12 Time blindness isn't an issue when someone is saying in your face, "Hey we need to go, we need to get to the ship." They were just being entitled. Time blindness would have only come in if they had turned around and said we'll go in a minute when the kid finally gave up and said they were leaving. Then they would be like, "Oh we hadn't realized so much time had passed." But instead they were, "Why didn't you make them wait for us." Putting thr blame on the adult child instead of on their own actions or inactions.
Yeah, this. And time blindness is often a symptom of ADHD. It's not a one-off thing, it's a condition and is distressing. The parents are deliberately ignoring the time warning
Exactly! I hate it when people use time blindness as an excuse for their behaviour. It’s a serious issue and people like this make it seem ridiculous and childish. Edit to clarify: I know this couple didn’t use time blindness as an excuse but I’m speaking generally.
i have adhd and experience time blindness. yea sometimes i'm late for stuff but for really important things i set multiple alarms so even if i get a lil distracted there will be another alarm like oh yea i gotta go yo . time is a freaking mystery to me, i always think things are gonna take less or more time than they actually take, but that is no excuse in this situation
"She was a loser in high school & it isn't fair that she has everything" Kelly is giving off "once a big fish in small pond to big fish drowning in the ocean" energy...
You haven’t ‘pique’ now either. I doubt you will ever ‘pique’. Just a joke, don’t many anything real by it (it’s peaked, not pique😅) Literally minutes ago I spelt “played” as “plaid”, no one is immune.😢
@@kmhkennedyjust to jump in on the fun, you couldn’t ever really “ _many_ anything real by it” anyway. Any way? 🫣Certainly 🏃🏼♀️💨 not 👀🫨 -ANYWAYS- 👀😩😭🧎🏼♀️ 🌊🌋🔥 🌎💥☄️🪂 lol, word nerds gonna word nerd 🫶🏻 Sincerely, A Fellow Pedant
Also, Kelly is a whole ass adult and needed to hear what mom said. Mom would be doing her daughter a disservice by sugar coating that truth. She used her daughter’s own words to deliver a wake up call.
The context is really important. Her mom disagrees with the hierarchy Kelly assumes the world has, but since she won't let go of that perception her mom used that phrasing to let her know she's not on top of the world (entitled) like she thinks she is
Mother sounds like an asshole, not shocked she raised kids who are jealous of each other. Note the framing “then she’s the loser now.” NOW. She just acknowledged that her other daughter was a loser in high school. She called both her kids losers, she used the same language as her daughter who learned it somewhere. You aren’t a loser cos you study and have a small group of friends, you aren’t a loser if don’t do well in school and are social. Mums a loser.
just quickly on the first one, as a disabled person (not obese, just a cripple), i would be SO embarrassed if someone was asked to go OUT OF STATE to essentially babysit me. and the whole "unacceptable venue" thing is really fucking simple. you, as a guest, do not matter nearly as much as the bride and groom. the one time id say otherwise is if you are INSANELY close to the people getting married, then its like ok, maybe they should have been a little more considerate. regardless, op's cousin is a massive AH for many reasons.
Yes I agree. If the attendee is in the immediate family of the Bride or the groom and they still pick a venues that's not accessible, I think that would be short-sighted.
They shouldn't be mad at the kid. They should be grateful that they didn't have to pay for a third plane ticket. That's what he should tell his parents.
As a certified fat man, op is NTA, the reality is, there are things us fats just can't do, unless we put in the work to lose the weight. It's hard, and may feel impossible, but it's not.
Entirely agree that OP was NTA, but it is a shame that other accommodations couldn't have been made. But the cousin was definitely in the wrong. You not only have to account for their weight, the weight of the chair, but ALSO the pushers weight, and the contact surface with the ground. That's probably close to 750-800lbs being moved through the grass on thin asf wheels and two feet. The grass will give with extreme ease. I've had to push my mom and her electric wheelchair through the grass more than once, it is no easy feat, and that was much less than 600lbs.
Right?! I can't believe people don't understand that. And I get it, some people are overweight naturally and can't lose that extra weight because of their body limits and such. But 600 FREAKING POUNDS!?!??! That is entirely your fault and it's selfish to make other people carry you around instead of going through the hard labour of losing it
as a wheelchair user NTA, i can barely push myself in my chair on uneven surfaces and i am much lighter than the cousin, wheelchairs take a LOT of physical strength to move.
For those wondering, he did share the recipe to the cake in the comments of the reddit post!! I'm definitely gonna try making it this next week, and leave a comment thanking him for sharing it.
I'm useless at baking, I really struggle with following directions and baking doesn't forgive skipping steps and coming back to them after. I still hunted down that recipe and I'm going to attempt it when I feel brave
Looking at the cake story annoys me because that’s honestly so cool that there moms cake gets to be eaten by tons of more people. Everyone in my family loves my grandmas yelllow cake with special chocolate frosting. If she passed and we got that in a cake store it would be the coolest thing.
I am so glad the bride invited that girl because she didn’t deserve that level of disrespect. She should feel like at least someone cares about her and wants her there. That man is messing everything up and he’s going to die alone and it’s going to be no one‘s fault but his own.
As someone with adhd and pretty bad time blindness if someone tells me “hey we need to leave right now” and I’m not in the middle of doing something (paying for something, finishing getting dresses, putting on shoes, etc.) I go, I don’t just wait and loose track of time (cus I know I will) I just go wherever I need to go when the other person says it’s time to go, I’ve also been on a few cruises and they literally cannot wait for you, cruises and such stick to a super strict schedule that they arent gonna bend for a couple of irresponsible adults
"this isn't really something i can speak on, but what i *can* do is read it," i feel like i (and majority of people) should probably adopt this way of thinking 😭
As someone who's typically bound to a wheelchair when out of the house (spinabifida,) i appreciate the op of the first story and adore Daniel's song about wheelchairs
I feel for the disabled cousin, but another factor is the embarrassment she would have felt had a traditional non-motorized wheelchair gotten stuck in the grass while OP valiantly tried to push her out. Sadly there’s really no way she could have won here. 😢
@@dyastro7479although English can be annoying, after you think it through, it makes some sense. I’ve thought about it and I get how people would find it tough. Now read back the reply and tell me why ough made 4 different sounds. I can’t!
Yeah, if they care about the car so much as not to leave it in the hands of a risky driver, why don't they just be the ones to drive the cousin over. I wouldnt trust a potentially bad driver with a disabled person, let alone one who can't walk if something happens. It makes me think there's something more to that, but obviously that's just speculation and I haven't finished the video lol
It's important to know your limitations. My mother has rheumatoid arthritis, and had two total knee replacements when I was 15. She needed a wheelchair during her recovery period, and I spent a lot of time helping her with it. Using a wheelchair on an uneven surface is no joke. I had a tough time pushing my mother across grassy terrain, and she is a fairly small human. At 15, I was a couple inches taller than her, and my weight was probably within 20lbs of her weight. It is not realistic to expect OP to be able to push his cousin's wheelchair in a park. I can't imagine the cousin wouldn't have been embarrassed by showing up and having everyone witnessing OP trying and failing to push her across the park. NTA.
Thank you! I was looking for a comment saying so. Why is no one saying how entitled and selfish the kids are? They sound like spoiled brats and they're grown adults. Their father tried making the cake himself multiple times and couldn't figure it out. He asks for his kids' help and not a single one of them wanted to. It'll be one thing if they were busy, but the father said they refused to help. Refused is a strong word. I'm sure if they were just busy, the father would have mentioned it. The father, missing his wife's cake, asks what's essentially a professional to help, and only now do they suddenly care about the legacy of their mother's cake? What did they expect?!
There are times when I sit in front of a piano trying to write a banger. And then I watch a non-music specific video by this gentleman, and he just pulls one out of thin air. Such a great feeling lol
as somebody time-blind I would rather 127 hours my arm than be late to a cruise in another country. I set 400 alarms for everything and would be living in pure anxiety until I boarded again
"I've never been married, but I've seen a lot of rom-coms." I am this way! The WAY I feel like I have the right to give advice/my opinion with NO past experience is ridiculous.😂😂
Me: **eagerly waits to see what kind of casual banger Daniel will come up with this time** Daniel Thrasher: Rabies! Rabies. I'm a shark with rabies. I guess they can't all be "You're Not Invited."
I have time blindness but I don't show up late to things when I'm expected to be there, and I especially don't get mad at people for not waiting for me??? their behaviour has nothing to do with time blindness at all
same here. I've been late to plenty of things thanks to it. But that is entirely my own problem and my own fault to deal with. You know when you have time blindness. Its always going to get you, and you just have to be responsible for staying on top of it in any way you can manage when its especially important. And if you fall victim to it that sucks, but you just have to deal with the consequences. The only people they should have been upset with is their selves for not listening. The kid warned them again and again and gave them a final 'we need to go now'. I could only dream of having someone who would do that for me lol. time management would be so much less stressful! I've been on a cruise ship and they are VERY clear that embarkation will happen no matter if you are on the boat or not. we were all told by the security guy as they let us off, to be back on the boat at least 30 minutes before the boat leaves port.
I don't know what caused OP's cousin to get to that weight as it could be genetics, medication, mental health, a medical condition, and a variety of other things. A physically and mentally healthy individual generally does not get to that weight. But as someone who does have mobility issues, none of us can really rely on anyone to fully accommodate us unless they're a carer. I find it incredibly strange that the aunt and uncle aren't available because it sounds like they're her carers and basically abandoned her. It's just an all round bad situation. It's not fair for the cousin to take it out on other people but I can guarantee the cousin probably has a lot of pent up issues surrounding it and I hope they get the help they need.
Oh I always love it when the video reaches the part where Daniel makes these little, micro songs. I'm always waiting for them. Plus his goofy as well as constructive analyses and opinions. I've recently started watching from his second channel and I'm a regular now.
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but there are companies that will put tank treads on mobilized scooters specifically for going off-road. One of my friends does a lot of volunteer work taking disabled veterans out hunting and they apparently work great. I haven’t seen one in action yet, mind you, but her vets don’t seem to have any issues with getting around, according to her! (Worth noting, we live in the Midwest, so we don’t really have mountains here, results may vary)
Also, I actually know someone similar to the last one! (Both David and Amanda, too) One of my good friends when I was in high school, we’ll call him F, dated this girl, we’ll call her M (no, her name doesn’t start with M actually). F and M broke it off, but kept in touch, and F joined the military. M would always be around whenever F was in town, and she’d be all over him, flirting, teasing, or just generally finding an excuse to touch him. Basically, they’d act like a couple would. Only in the years since F was away for basic training and school, M had gotten MARRIED. Everyone else could see that M was stringing F along, she had him wrapped around her finger. I had dated F briefly, but I broke it off because whenever M was around, I was second fiddle to her. I don’t know if he just didn’t realize what she was doing to him, or he didn’t realize how he acted around her, but I stopped talking to both of them after we broke up. Hope they’re both happy.
This is really good to know! I don't personally need it or know anyone with the need currently, but that's really cool and I'll keep it in mind. Also, helping disabled veterans with activities like hunting sounds really cool! It's always good to see people who need extra help get what they need.
"Make a cruiseship wait for us!" How would they do that? they couldn't get two people to listen to them, how are they meant to go and convince a whole crew with an itinerary?
“Im alone” Haha, same. My dad’s family are all across the world, in a country I can’t go to for safety reasons. My moms side of the family are severely unstable so I don’t know them either. People who know their whole extended family shock me, cause I only know my parents and siblings.
On the cruise ship story- this is a great scenario to say “I’m sorry that that situation was inconvenient for you, let’s all get on the same page next time so this doesn’t happen again” especially if they insist on blaming you. Maybe add “what do we need to do so that we are all able to enjoy the rest of our time here”. Sometimes if you can’t accept blame you can still help people move on
Pffffftttttttt..... You've never had toxic parents before, have you? Let me put it this way, what emotionally mature and healthy adult would blame their child for a cruise ship leaving without them?
@rkj5258 You don't. If they truly are toxic parents (and the story does suggest so), then nothing less than fully accepting the blame and groveling for apology will be acceptable to them. And even then, they will continue to bring it up for years. Any discussion of cruise ships, OP's graduation or 18th birthday, whatever location they were doing the cruise in (up to and including the continent), even possibly other things like other people's kids graduating and turning eighteen, etc. will trigger anything from a poke to a rant about that time you let a cruise ship they didn't even want to go on abandon them in a foreign country and it cost SO MUCH MONEY to catch up so that they could try to continue the vacation they were doing solely for you in the first place.
@rkj5258 Good, I'm glad! 😀 Hope this helps you understand why some people like the original poster can't just have that perfectly reasonable conversation. Maybe thank your parents for being decent?
@7:31 "waving off" picture someone giving a huff and continuing the conversation they're having while giving a quick, wrist flicking, hand motion away from them toward the person attempting to interject.
To answer your question Daniel as a person in a wheelchair who has attended weddings that haven’t been the most accessible, it really depends on where it is. Most people who use wheelchairs can get across some level of grass and be perfectly fine. Obviously mud can be an issue and sand is a major issue for moving around. Most weddings I’ve seen have had some type of temporary boardwalk to get across rougher terrain, but if it’s not possible to have that then you just have to push through it and deal with it (not easy and some will have harder times and need a hand, but it is not physically impossible in most cases) honestly it’s just something we have to deal with, but it’s not anything new. Every day is a challenge to get through life finding the accessible way so it honestly gets tiring to complain about things and I find it better to just deal with it and treat it all like it’s not a big deal. Yes, it’s an inconvenience, but it’s not my place to get angry with someone because the world wasn’t designed around my disability. If I have to get out of my chair and crawl up a few flights of stairs then so be it. Great to see you asking the question though and sorry that’s a good bit of info, but thought I’d share the perspective :)
22:15 "... maybe she just sucks." can I get this in a gif or soundbite or whatever to send to people when they're telling me criticizing the unethical or immoral behaviour of their female fav is somehow "misogyny"?
As someone who cooks as a hobby and has a ton of personal recipes, the exact person who that would happen with, the cake one is really interesting to me. My recipes are just ingredient ratios if it uses standard cooking techniques, assuming that the person reading them (only me right now) are experienced with cooking and can figure the recipe out just from the ratios and a one sentence description. If I died, nobody I know would be able to use most of them. If a loved one of mine sold my recipes off to a bakery/restaurant after I died, I would be honored.
As someone who likes to bake, i would be over the moon if I'd made a recipe and a bakery thought it was good enough they wanted to have permission to regular sell it, like that is so cool!
I'll put it this way, if you are a key figure in the wedding/party/event and are mobility disabled, the ppl holding said event will consult you on accommodations. But if you are just a regular guest, you can just say "I truly wish you the best and hope you have an amazing time, but I will be unable to make the event." If they ask why, you can then explain that the venue is not accessible to you and your particular disabilities and that's not on the hosts, it's just how it is. So you'll be there in spirit and supporting them from afar. I've had to bow out of events because my asthma said a big fat no to the weather or my back and lungs couldn't handle hills. Ive had to let my friends know that if I bow out of an event, I'm not doing ut cuz I didn"t want to come, it's cuz Im just not able to attend with my health intact. Took me going to the ER after some outdoor birthday parties to learn I couldn't just grin and bear it anymore. Does it suck? Yeah. But that's just life. Everyone has limitations, some of us just have more than others. Good friends and family understand and don't hold it against you.
I’m disabled as well as overweight, if my best friend had a dream wedding that wasn’t accessible I would either go to the reception if it was accessible or not go. She deserves her dream wedding. We can celebrate separately. I feel guilty going on days out, because if I take the electric chair, it’s heavy & has to be disassembled/assembled, if I take the manual then someone has to push me over bad terrain. So if someone would prefer not to take me due to these issues, I completely understand & will find other ways to spend time together. Also, the reason that rental places won’t rent for off road is because of how much wear & tear different terrains put on the wheels, the breaks, the suspension, battery etc, especially if the person is heavier, which will just add to the speed of deterioration for the vehicle. I once asked if the NHS would be able to provide me with a chair (I would be willing to pay for it but I just wanted a private reliable company to service the chair, as an independent company screwed me over & endangered me) they would only be able to provide a manual, the motorised ones could only be used inside, for similar reasons. So for multiple reasons the first person is not the A.
As to the 'abielest' comment (since the rest is obvious): i think it comes down to 'not your wedding'. If you cant go because of a wheelchair then you cant go, just as with any other situation. If you arent close enough to make special arrangements with them then its not that big of a deal to ruin the day for them.
12:09-12:36 I admit, I struggle with jealousy pretty regularly (with women who look how I want to look, have the body that I want to have, are dating or in a relationship, or are achieving their dreams). (I'm even Kelly's age now. 25.) My jealousy is a terrible vice, and one I'm working on, but that advice you gave honestly put things into perspective for me. If there are things I want, I can have them. I just have to "notice what they have done in their behavior to be successful, and notice what you are doing in your behavior that's making you jealous of them." It may have meant nothing to you saying that, but it meant something to me, so thank you!!
The cruise ship story where the parents are mad she left them behind blows my mind. Dont they realize it wouldve just been more expensive if she had stayed and missed the ship with them? Then they would've had to pay for 3 plane tickets to the next destination versus the 2 they had to pay for. The daughter saved them money
Thank you for the advice! I thought about what successful people have that I don't. Turns out, the answer is functional kidneys. So, once I steal someone's kidneys, I'll be set!
I am not obese but I do have struggles that sometimes require a wheelchair as does my mother. If there was a wedding we were attending and someone went through so much trouble to try and find a way to make it work and couldn’t find one we’d both accept it. It might be sad but we certainly wouldn’t get angry about it. It’s incredibly entitled to expect the world to bend to your will so you can be included in absolutely everything. Part of being disabled is knowing that you’re not capable of doing things others can, people including you anyways WHEN ITS POSSIBLE is a COURTESY NOT A RIGHT. Yes it’s nice to have accessibility and wheelchair aids are wonderful, but at a wedding especially ITS NOT ABOUT YOU
I've definitely had an old acquantaince who was in a mutual close friend group, he always brings down the energy and makes misogynistic remarks any chance he gets. No way an I inviting that person to my wedding. He definitely was upset after he found out we had the wedding and he was the only one of the group not invited.
the cake story is so cuteeee😭the husband just wanting to have a moment from the past to mourn his wife with her special cake recipe is absolutely beautifullll!!!😭
Daniel, if you massage the kale it becomes a flavour bomb of goodness. I spent 6 years chewing boney spinach before I found a recipe that said you have to massage those bad boys til they darken and release nice aromas. It's the GOAT I'm telling you
I know Daniel knows people at Smosh because he's done TNTL. I think he would be great to have as a guest for Reddit Stories and add a little song or two!
The last story sounds like a sister post to a reddit story called "My (28F) boyfriend (29M) and his best friend (29F) are going on a week-long vacation. They uninvited me" which was likely posted by the brother's ex girlfriend, as the entire situation was very similar to what was described here. The original reddit post has been deleted, but I know Smosh read it a few weeks back in the episode "nightmare vacation stories" if anyone is interested in finding out about that whole situation
PEOPLE DO NOT NEED TO CATER A WEDDING TO ANYONE. I've seen people with ADHD try to do this the other day. These issues are very real things, but the world doesn't revolve around them. The wedding day is for the couple. They can do what they want and let them figure out solutions. I know that sounds selfish, and of course this is within reason, but sometimes you just have to deal with the fact that life is about you.
The cousin is delulu. I'm 300lbs (a lot related to medical issues. I have lost 20lbs recently and am on the right track so hopefully it sticks). You can't be that fat, or even as fat as me, and expect he world to cater to you. Even with medical issues, to some extent it is also bad life choices, and the world not being made for you is a consequence of that.
The wedding story at the end mentioned a guy leaving his gf at home and instead going with his friend, which sounds similar to a part of a story in a smosh video. They could be connected
For those who don’t know, many beaches have all-terrain wheelchairs to make them accessible, but that isn’t a cure-all (not all beaches have them, they may not be big enough to fit someone 600lb, this wedding may not have been on a beach, etc). I will say though that my bridesmaid was in a wheelchair, and it was my pleasure to make sure she could attend every aspect of my wedding without worrying about any accessibility issues. Because I love her, and I love all those I invited to my wedding. As a host of a party, it is on you to make sure that you’re considering all your guests. I’m not saying you can make everyone happy, but you can do the bare minimum to make sure you’re not offending someone by making the event inaccessible to them (that goes for considering the price to attend, physical ability, keeping themes inoffensive, serving food and alcohol your guests aren’t allergic to).
Hey, there’s always broadcasting the wedding over zoom. I mean, I know it’s not the same as going in person. But if the person is that important, they can always watch the broadcast, talk a little bit to the Zoom attendees after, and then invite them to the reception. Again, I know the wedding is the main event… but it’s better than not being able to go at all. My husband and I got married over Zoom during the pandemic with VERY few people in attendance (about 10, I think?) and we did the rest over Zoom. It was hella awkward being filmed since we’re both socially anxious. But it was nice being able to visit the breakout rooms afterwards so we could talk to pretty much everyone, and then easily leave when we got tired without so much as a fuss; I don’t know what we would have done if we were obligated to have an in-person affair… as an HSP… I would have been dead. Lol We got married literally outside of our apartment building on his parent’s lawn (they lived on the first floor), so we just went home like right after so we could rest. It was bliss.😅
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“Sadly, my cousin was hostile towards the bride’s mother…so her invitation was retracted.” 😂
I heard this story before the update on another channel but that was pre-update so it was nice to see the resolution
She was entitled for sure....
+@@JakeAdkinsOfficial tbh it was probably embarrassment manifesting as hostility. Many such cases in the 600+ lb.
@@kindauncoolhard to imagine that, I have some arthritis and cold intolerance issues that have become frustratingly inhibitive and I often have to remind people that I need certain specific conditions in order to function and I feel so bad about it. I don’t doubt what you’re saying I just genuinely can’t imagine being so hostile about a lack of accommodation that I was uninvited from an event
I saw this on my reddit feed before they made the update, im glad to know that OP didnt have to go through with something no one else was willing to compromise on
"Rabies, rabies. I will eat your babies"
- daniel, 2024
10:56 Thank you for saving me the effort of typing that quote myself!
“I wanna eat your wife’s cake too.”
-D. Thrasher, 2024
Hahahahaha was literally typing this out until I saw your comment last second 🤣
truly a bop
yes but also....WHY IS NO ONE TALKING ABOUT DANIEL FAILING MISERABLY AT SHOWING US 40 YARDS AND THE EDITOR EMPHASIZING IT 🤣
The cruise ship story makes me so crazy. I went on a cruise and the FIRST thing they tell you is “DO NOT BE LATE FOR EMBARKATION WE WILL LEAVE YOU.”
Like literally. Every time we docked to go ashore, there was a literal hallway of staff reminding us what all-aboard time was, and to make sure we were wearing watches that synced up with the SHIP’S time because not all ports were on the same time zone.
It’s so so so stupid to me that these people literally thought a whole ass cruise ship would WAIT for them. Like WHAT.
I don't want to judge them too much, but they sounded a little stuck up to me.
@@nicjoy4407a little stuck up!?!?? When you blame your 18 year old kid for NOT being able to control a cruise ship for YOUR convenience, that's MUCH more than "a little stuck up!" That's just...bad parenting! One of THE worst things a parent can do is blame a kid for their own mistakes!
@@yeshevishmanpart of me wonders if the parents are maybe just joking about it like, maybe they’ll say “don’t leave us again” in a joking kinda way if the daughter is leaving the room? But most of me knows that anyone who gives a gift with the caveat of that gift being a bunch of other things, some of which include your loyalty and consideration while using said gift, is a jerk. Plus they probably bend the rules all the time, most people with money do. Blaming the daughter takes away from the cognitive dissonance of the notion that you aren’t inherently entitled to special treatment and the world, including your kid who was given a loaded birthday/graduation “gift” you forced her to bring you along for, doesn’t revolve around you. A real graduation/birthday gift would have been a cruise for the daughter and one of her friends.
I’m looking in my crystal ball and I’m seeing a future stressful wedding that’s gonna be a real shit show bc of these people paying for it. My advice is, take their money bc they’ll be this way whether or not they paid, their excuses will just be different.
Still tho, great problems to have compared to many of the alternatives
I'm wondering if they thought the cruise would wait because a child's parents weren't with them. Obviously, the girl I'd old enough to survive without her parents, but it made me wonder: What if a four year old wandered back to the ship alone... would they wait for the parents?
@@welcome2myhappyworld I don't think staying is a option they physically can do without costing them a shit ton of money, I'm sure that they have some sort of protocol for scenarios like that.
"Hey, you know how your mobility scooters are able to go over grass?"
"yeah"
"Can I rent one?"
"where are you gonna use it?"
"Over some grass."
"FUCK no"
One of the sweetest things I've seen online was a gravestone with a cupcake recipe on the back. The wife/mom/grandma died and before her death she asked for the recipe that everyone in the family loved to be engraved on the back of the gravestone so everyone knows how to make it themselves. It just felt so sweet and loving.
A little while ago I found an account online that would make recipes that people put on their gravestones. I don't remember the account name but I think it's such a sweet idea for people to pass on their secret recipes after they die. The way I see it, it's a great way to keep their legacy alive and share it with the world
@@kiwid3628 Gotta go hunt for this, I've been baking so much I'm running out of new things to bake
That is the sweetest thing I have read in a long long time. Thank you for this, it made me smile.
I bet every time they asked grandma for the recipe, she'd say "Over my dead body" and had the gravestone paid off before her death 😆 And then on the funeral, where was the recipe? Over her dead body
Lovely story, but my first
Reaction is DAMN that would he expensive
My husband was in a wheelchair for almost a year before he had his surgery, and this person is definitely NTA. It was really tough to do even mild slopes and sidewalks with him in the wheelchair and he and the wheelchair was about 200lbs. Pushing a 600lb person plus wheelchair over grass... I would get about ten feet before giving up lol
It wouldn't be safe honestly. You hit one small rock and the chair could tip over, and then you'd have to call 911 to get her back up. If they really wanted this cousin to be there, someone could have helped them rent a U-Haul utility trailer to put the scooter into - for $35 you can rent a utility trailer with a ramp.
Ten feet would be a miracle for me to push, I’d be lucky to be able to push them 10 inches.
600 pounds, even on wheels I don’t think I’d be able to make that budge
Even just pushing a wheelchair with a light person in it is very hard, on pavement sp I would say nta. I'm pretty strong but had a hard time pushing my 150lbs friend around on pavement.
I can't imagine pushing around someone who is 600lbs that seems impossible ngl
10 feet? I'm pretty fit but damn I think it'd sink further down than I could get it forward. I'd just give up instantly. Sounds like your husband can walk now again? I'm happy for him!
8:12 Time blindness isn't an issue when someone is saying in your face, "Hey we need to go, we need to get to the ship." They were just being entitled. Time blindness would have only come in if they had turned around and said we'll go in a minute when the kid finally gave up and said they were leaving. Then they would be like, "Oh we hadn't realized so much time had passed." But instead they were, "Why didn't you make them wait for us." Putting thr blame on the adult child instead of on their own actions or inactions.
Yeah, this. And time blindness is often a symptom of ADHD. It's not a one-off thing, it's a condition and is distressing. The parents are deliberately ignoring the time warning
Exactly! I hate it when people use time blindness as an excuse for their behaviour. It’s a serious issue and people like this make it seem ridiculous and childish.
Edit to clarify: I know this couple didn’t use time blindness as an excuse but I’m speaking generally.
@@LycanKai14 exactly. My time blindness is fairly severe and causes me so much anxiety. I swear I am either always nearly late or 30 mins early
i have adhd and experience time blindness. yea sometimes i'm late for stuff but for really important things i set multiple alarms so even if i get a lil distracted there will be another alarm like oh yea i gotta go yo . time is a freaking mystery to me, i always think things are gonna take less or more time than they actually take, but that is no excuse in this situation
time blindness isn't a real thing. people are just lazy. plus clocks and alarms are literally in our pockets 24/7
I prepared myself to not be surprised by the surprise microphone, but then there was no surprise microphone, so now I am surprised XD
He pulled out a surprise microphone! :O
Now I'm twice as surprised!!
I thought the shirt unbuttoning would be one 😂
He pulled out a subtle surprise microphone tho. AND a return of the microphone
same
Watching Daniel judge random people on the internet makes my day
"She was a loser in high school & it isn't fair that she has everything"
Kelly is giving off "once a big fish in small pond to big fish drowning in the ocean" energy...
Totally. I'm glad I didn't pique in high school😂
@@abbyz9790peak
You haven’t ‘pique’ now either. I doubt you will ever ‘pique’.
Just a joke, don’t many anything real by it (it’s peaked, not pique😅)
Literally minutes ago I spelt “played” as “plaid”, no one is immune.😢
@@kmhkennedyjust to jump in on the fun, you couldn’t ever really “ _many_ anything real by it” anyway. Any way? 🫣Certainly 🏃🏼♀️💨 not 👀🫨 -ANYWAYS- 👀😩😭🧎🏼♀️ 🌊🌋🔥 🌎💥☄️🪂
lol, word nerds gonna word nerd 🫶🏻
Sincerely,
A Fellow Pedant
@@rainbomg oh lol. 🫠
I’ll leave it as is, unedited, as testimony to idiocy 🥳
Also, Kelly is a whole ass adult and needed to hear what mom said. Mom would be doing her daughter a disservice by sugar coating that truth. She used her daughter’s own words to deliver a wake up call.
Exactly you shouldn't call your kid a loser but news flash she's not a kid she's ready for the cold hard truth 😅
The context is really important. Her mom disagrees with the hierarchy Kelly assumes the world has, but since she won't let go of that perception her mom used that phrasing to let her know she's not on top of the world (entitled) like she thinks she is
Yep, using the same wording is the key here. She is hitting her with her own framing.
Mother sounds like an asshole, not shocked she raised kids who are jealous of each other. Note the framing “then she’s the loser now.” NOW. She just acknowledged that her other daughter was a loser in high school. She called both her kids losers, she used the same language as her daughter who learned it somewhere. You aren’t a loser cos you study and have a small group of friends, you aren’t a loser if don’t do well in school and are social.
Mums a loser.
Kelly been having too much sugar coated for sure
just quickly on the first one, as a disabled person (not obese, just a cripple), i would be SO embarrassed if someone was asked to go OUT OF STATE to essentially babysit me. and the whole "unacceptable venue" thing is really fucking simple. you, as a guest, do not matter nearly as much as the bride and groom. the one time id say otherwise is if you are INSANELY close to the people getting married, then its like ok, maybe they should have been a little more considerate. regardless, op's cousin is a massive AH for many reasons.
Yes I agree. If the attendee is in the immediate family of the Bride or the groom and they still pick a venues that's not accessible, I think that would be short-sighted.
Sometimes it's not about the asshole, sometimes it's about the songs made along the way.
i absolutely love your profile picture
nah, its about the song inside the asshole
@@fiftyzanes thank you
They shouldn't be mad at the kid. They should be grateful that they didn't have to pay for a third plane ticket. That's what he should tell his parents.
As a certified fat man, op is NTA, the reality is, there are things us fats just can't do, unless we put in the work to lose the weight. It's hard, and may feel impossible, but it's not.
and defs not ableism!!!
I love that you acknowledge this, kudos to you.
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Entirely agree that OP was NTA, but it is a shame that other accommodations couldn't have been made. But the cousin was definitely in the wrong. You not only have to account for their weight, the weight of the chair, but ALSO the pushers weight, and the contact surface with the ground. That's probably close to 750-800lbs being moved through the grass on thin asf wheels and two feet. The grass will give with extreme ease. I've had to push my mom and her electric wheelchair through the grass more than once, it is no easy feat, and that was much less than 600lbs.
Right?! I can't believe people don't understand that. And I get it, some people are overweight naturally and can't lose that extra weight because of their body limits and such. But 600 FREAKING POUNDS!?!??! That is entirely your fault and it's selfish to make other people carry you around instead of going through the hard labour of losing it
That first one is pretty wild. They don't trust OP enough to drive the truck with the scooter but they do trust them enough to drive the cousin 🤔
😂😂 omg you're so right!
The cousin has a build in all-around bumper though 🙈
People who own trucks usually don't have trucks for a logical reason though. I imagine that stretches to other areas.
as a wheelchair user NTA, i can barely push myself in my chair on uneven surfaces and i am much lighter than the cousin, wheelchairs take a LOT of physical strength to move.
"I've never been married but I've seen a lot of rom-coms" is a wild thing to say 😂
For those wondering, he did share the recipe to the cake in the comments of the reddit post!!
I'm definitely gonna try making it this next week, and leave a comment thanking him for sharing it.
/me squeals and runs to reddit
YES! I’m glad he shared the recipe so the cake’s legacy can continue! Dark chocolate cherry cake must carry on!
I now have plans for the weekend! This should be the top comment BTW. Thanks for the update.
I'm useless at baking, I really struggle with following directions and baking doesn't forgive skipping steps and coming back to them after. I still hunted down that recipe and I'm going to attempt it when I feel brave
@roor6846 good luck! 👍
Looking at the cake story annoys me because that’s honestly so cool that there moms cake gets to be eaten by tons of more people.
Everyone in my family loves my grandmas yelllow cake with special chocolate frosting. If she passed and we got that in a cake store it would be the coolest thing.
I am so glad the bride invited that girl because she didn’t deserve that level of disrespect. She should feel like at least someone cares about her and wants her there. That man is messing everything up and he’s going to die alone and it’s going to be no one‘s fault but his own.
Something tells me they are not going to be together by the end of that wedding
@@Hulk_Lover I'm putting my money on them ending even before the wedding
@@Hulk_Lover oh 100%, not a doubt in my mind.
@@Hulk_Lover I dohope that she stays in the friend group, though
There was an update afterwards where they do breakup but she decides not to go to the wedding either
As someone with adhd and pretty bad time blindness if someone tells me “hey we need to leave right now” and I’m not in the middle of doing something (paying for something, finishing getting dresses, putting on shoes, etc.) I go, I don’t just wait and loose track of time (cus I know I will) I just go wherever I need to go when the other person says it’s time to go, I’ve also been on a few cruises and they literally cannot wait for you, cruises and such stick to a super strict schedule that they arent gonna bend for a couple of irresponsible adults
Same
Right! I know I have time blindness issues and I have alarms, calendars and notes everywhere lol , once you get into the habit it helps tremendously
Was about ready for him to bust out "You're Not Invited" for the last story, lol.
How did he miss that?!
I was scrolling through the comments for someone to say this!!
@@LeanAndMean44 I doubt he still has it saved on his soundboard
@@SnowLily06 he should
YOOOOOOUUUUURE NOT INVIIIIIIIIIITEEEEEEEEEEDDDDDD
"this isn't really something i can speak on, but what i *can* do is read it," i feel like i (and majority of people) should probably adopt this way of thinking 😭
As someone who's typically bound to a wheelchair when out of the house (spinabifida,) i appreciate the op of the first story and adore Daniel's song about wheelchairs
I don't even use a wheelchair and still think that song is a bop
I feel for the disabled cousin, but another factor is the embarrassment she would have felt had a traditional non-motorized wheelchair gotten stuck in the grass while OP valiantly tried to push her out. Sadly there’s really no way she could have won here. 😢
You have a moral responsibility to search those comments for the cake recipe and share with us
jealously didn’t get a red underline because it is a word. An adverb conjugation of the adjective jealous.
God i hate English sometimes......
@@dyastro7479although English can be annoying, after you think it through, it makes some sense. I’ve thought about it and I get how people would find it tough. Now read back the reply and tell me why ough made 4 different sounds. I can’t!
A blah blah blah conju-blah blah of the adjablahblah English is a dumb language 💀
It still should have still underlined it for the grammatical error. Red for mispelling, blue for grammar inaccuracy.
Exactly - 'he looked jealousy at the painting' is perfectly reasonable.
Guys I think Daniel wants the cake
“I want to eat your wifes cake too” is wild out of context
“I’m alone!”
😐
“Let’s move on”
Regarding the first story... that won't loan the car just yells: "I don't trust you with my car, but I trust you with my daughter's life."
Yeah, if they care about the car so much as not to leave it in the hands of a risky driver, why don't they just be the ones to drive the cousin over. I wouldnt trust a potentially bad driver with a disabled person, let alone one who can't walk if something happens. It makes me think there's something more to that, but obviously that's just speculation and I haven't finished the video lol
It's important to know your limitations.
My mother has rheumatoid arthritis, and had two total knee replacements when I was 15. She needed a wheelchair during her recovery period, and I spent a lot of time helping her with it. Using a wheelchair on an uneven surface is no joke. I had a tough time pushing my mother across grassy terrain, and she is a fairly small human. At 15, I was a couple inches taller than her, and my weight was probably within 20lbs of her weight. It is not realistic to expect OP to be able to push his cousin's wheelchair in a park. I can't imagine the cousin wouldn't have been embarrassed by showing up and having everyone witnessing OP trying and failing to push her across the park. NTA.
Cake Story - "I'm not saying the kids are jerks".........I am. The kids are jerks. Screw 'em.
Thank you! I was looking for a comment saying so. Why is no one saying how entitled and selfish the kids are? They sound like spoiled brats and they're grown adults. Their father tried making the cake himself multiple times and couldn't figure it out. He asks for his kids' help and not a single one of them wanted to. It'll be one thing if they were busy, but the father said they refused to help. Refused is a strong word. I'm sure if they were just busy, the father would have mentioned it. The father, missing his wife's cake, asks what's essentially a professional to help, and only now do they suddenly care about the legacy of their mother's cake? What did they expect?!
There are times when I sit in front of a piano trying to write a banger. And then I watch a non-music specific video by this gentleman, and he just pulls one out of thin air. Such a great feeling lol
"I want to eat your wife's cake too"
My EYEBROWS! I lost them into my hairline!
The way he paused before he said cake...
as somebody time-blind I would rather 127 hours my arm than be late to a cruise in another country. I set 400 alarms for everything and would be living in pure anxiety until I boarded again
"I've never been married, but I've seen a lot of rom-coms." I am this way! The WAY I feel like I have the right to give advice/my opinion with NO past experience is ridiculous.😂😂
Congratulations, you're human :D
Me: **eagerly waits to see what kind of casual banger Daniel will come up with this time**
Daniel Thrasher: Rabies! Rabies. I'm a shark with rabies.
I guess they can't all be "You're Not Invited."
I have time blindness but I don't show up late to things when I'm expected to be there, and I especially don't get mad at people for not waiting for me??? their behaviour has nothing to do with time blindness at all
same here. I've been late to plenty of things thanks to it. But that is entirely my own problem and my own fault to deal with. You know when you have time blindness. Its always going to get you, and you just have to be responsible for staying on top of it in any way you can manage when its especially important. And if you fall victim to it that sucks, but you just have to deal with the consequences. The only people they should have been upset with is their selves for not listening. The kid warned them again and again and gave them a final 'we need to go now'. I could only dream of having someone who would do that for me lol. time management would be so much less stressful!
I've been on a cruise ship and they are VERY clear that embarkation will happen no matter if you are on the boat or not. we were all told by the security guy as they let us off, to be back on the boat at least 30 minutes before the boat leaves port.
Yeah, that segment was pretty cringe and (almost certainly unintentionally) ablest.
@@GogiRegion yeah a little.
Where is the “you’re not invited “ song that has become stuck in my head for months? Missed opportunity for Amanda here.
That one plus the "block em out your life" song are chronically in my brain
The last story has updates on her Reddit account and the story gets even crazier
Are you able to post a link? I'm very curious now
Me too..reddit link?
You getting side tracked by your need for cake is so relatable.... I also want the CAKE 😂❤
“You’ve gotta account for the weight of the wheelchair!” Got me dancing and is a straight up bop.
you're joking. out of all the songs i've heard you come up with "you gotta account for the weight of the wheelchair" is STUCK IN MY HEAD
I don't know what caused OP's cousin to get to that weight as it could be genetics, medication, mental health, a medical condition, and a variety of other things. A physically and mentally healthy individual generally does not get to that weight.
But as someone who does have mobility issues, none of us can really rely on anyone to fully accommodate us unless they're a carer. I find it incredibly strange that the aunt and uncle aren't available because it sounds like they're her carers and basically abandoned her.
It's just an all round bad situation. It's not fair for the cousin to take it out on other people but I can guarantee the cousin probably has a lot of pent up issues surrounding it and I hope they get the help they need.
Oh I always love it when the video reaches the part where Daniel makes these little, micro songs. I'm always waiting for them. Plus his goofy as well as constructive analyses and opinions. I've recently started watching from his second channel and I'm a regular now.
Secret Microphone! Ahhhhhhhhh! One day those microphones will blow the world’s mind. Ahhhhhhhhh!
I don’t know who needs to hear this, but there are companies that will put tank treads on mobilized scooters specifically for going off-road. One of my friends does a lot of volunteer work taking disabled veterans out hunting and they apparently work great. I haven’t seen one in action yet, mind you, but her vets don’t seem to have any issues with getting around, according to her! (Worth noting, we live in the Midwest, so we don’t really have mountains here, results may vary)
Also, I actually know someone similar to the last one! (Both David and Amanda, too)
One of my good friends when I was in high school, we’ll call him F, dated this girl, we’ll call her M (no, her name doesn’t start with M actually). F and M broke it off, but kept in touch, and F joined the military. M would always be around whenever F was in town, and she’d be all over him, flirting, teasing, or just generally finding an excuse to touch him. Basically, they’d act like a couple would. Only in the years since F was away for basic training and school, M had gotten MARRIED. Everyone else could see that M was stringing F along, she had him wrapped around her finger. I had dated F briefly, but I broke it off because whenever M was around, I was second fiddle to her.
I don’t know if he just didn’t realize what she was doing to him, or he didn’t realize how he acted around her, but I stopped talking to both of them after we broke up. Hope they’re both happy.
This is really good to know! I don't personally need it or know anyone with the need currently, but that's really cool and I'll keep it in mind. Also, helping disabled veterans with activities like hunting sounds really cool! It's always good to see people who need extra help get what they need.
SUPRISE COMMENT
"Make a cruiseship wait for us!" How would they do that? they couldn't get two people to listen to them, how are they meant to go and convince a whole crew with an itinerary?
Unbutton the shirt Daniel (I’m gay)
Daniel: I also choose this man's dead wife's cake
“Im alone”
Haha, same. My dad’s family are all across the world, in a country I can’t go to for safety reasons. My moms side of the family are severely unstable so I don’t know them either. People who know their whole extended family shock me, cause I only know my parents and siblings.
The mini-rant about kale was so accurate.
(Sings)”What’s the deal with kale? It’s lettuce with a spine. Shouldn’t be eating that. I don’t wanna eeaat that”
I had a friend in highschool like Amanda. I hate it took me too long to see what a douche he was
On the cruise ship story- this is a great scenario to say “I’m sorry that that situation was inconvenient for you, let’s all get on the same page next time so this doesn’t happen again” especially if they insist on blaming you. Maybe add “what do we need to do so that we are all able to enjoy the rest of our time here”. Sometimes if you can’t accept blame you can still help people move on
Pffffftttttttt..... You've never had toxic parents before, have you? Let me put it this way, what emotionally mature and healthy adult would blame their child for a cruise ship leaving without them?
@@fanime1 how else do you shift the blame while not pissing them off?
@rkj5258 You don't. If they truly are toxic parents (and the story does suggest so), then nothing less than fully accepting the blame and groveling for apology will be acceptable to them. And even then, they will continue to bring it up for years. Any discussion of cruise ships, OP's graduation or 18th birthday, whatever location they were doing the cruise in (up to and including the continent), even possibly other things like other people's kids graduating and turning eighteen, etc. will trigger anything from a poke to a rant about that time you let a cruise ship they didn't even want to go on abandon them in a foreign country and it cost SO MUCH MONEY to catch up so that they could try to continue the vacation they were doing solely for you in the first place.
@@fibanocci314 speaking from experience I assume? Sounds rough. I guess I’m used to parents that are reasonable enough to self reflect
@rkj5258 Good, I'm glad! 😀 Hope this helps you understand why some people like the original poster can't just have that perfectly reasonable conversation. Maybe thank your parents for being decent?
@7:31 "waving off"
picture someone giving a huff and continuing the conversation they're having while giving a quick, wrist flicking, hand motion away from them toward the person attempting to interject.
"🎶 You gotta account, for the weeeight of the wheelchair 🎶" 🔥
The thumbnail just: “AITA for calling my daughter a loser?” I only thought: no that’s normal my mom does that to me all the time 😃
When the daughter called the mom a bitch, I blinked in surprise. That shit would not fly with my mom
@@yogurttot7072 i'd be dead in 2.5 seconds 💀💀💀💀
To answer your question Daniel as a person in a wheelchair who has attended weddings that haven’t been the most accessible, it really depends on where it is. Most people who use wheelchairs can get across some level of grass and be perfectly fine. Obviously mud can be an issue and sand is a major issue for moving around. Most weddings I’ve seen have had some type of temporary boardwalk to get across rougher terrain, but if it’s not possible to have that then you just have to push through it and deal with it (not easy and some will have harder times and need a hand, but it is not physically impossible in most cases) honestly it’s just something we have to deal with, but it’s not anything new. Every day is a challenge to get through life finding the accessible way so it honestly gets tiring to complain about things and I find it better to just deal with it and treat it all like it’s not a big deal. Yes, it’s an inconvenience, but it’s not my place to get angry with someone because the world wasn’t designed around my disability. If I have to get out of my chair and crawl up a few flights of stairs then so be it. Great to see you asking the question though and sorry that’s a good bit of info, but thought I’d share the perspective :)
Daniel’s commentary on jealousy is spot on. Dude could be a motivational speaker with those facts!
22:15 "... maybe she just sucks."
can I get this in a gif or soundbite or whatever to send to people when they're telling me criticizing the unethical or immoral behaviour of their female fav is somehow "misogyny"?
It's SssniperWolf's fans isn't it?
@@fanime1 Swifties, actually lol
17:25 “I just wanted to eat her cake again” 😭😭😭
I think the bakery should name the cake somehow after the woman who made it.. even if the husband doesn't require it.
How did I forget that today was Judgement Day??? JUDGE MEEEEEEEE
As someone who cooks as a hobby and has a ton of personal recipes, the exact person who that would happen with, the cake one is really interesting to me. My recipes are just ingredient ratios if it uses standard cooking techniques, assuming that the person reading them (only me right now) are experienced with cooking and can figure the recipe out just from the ratios and a one sentence description. If I died, nobody I know would be able to use most of them. If a loved one of mine sold my recipes off to a bakery/restaurant after I died, I would be honored.
He shares the cherry cake recipe in the comments.
5:56 as some who uses a wheelchair Imma be using this song any time I have to ask someone to push me around!!!
As someone who likes to bake, i would be over the moon if I'd made a recipe and a bakery thought it was good enough they wanted to have permission to regular sell it, like that is so cool!
i brace myself for the surprise mic and still never expect it
I need the full version of “Account for the Weight of the Wheelchair” to drop on Spotify soon
I'll put it this way, if you are a key figure in the wedding/party/event and are mobility disabled, the ppl holding said event will consult you on accommodations. But if you are just a regular guest, you can just say "I truly wish you the best and hope you have an amazing time, but I will be unable to make the event." If they ask why, you can then explain that the venue is not accessible to you and your particular disabilities and that's not on the hosts, it's just how it is. So you'll be there in spirit and supporting them from afar. I've had to bow out of events because my asthma said a big fat no to the weather or my back and lungs couldn't handle hills. Ive had to let my friends know that if I bow out of an event, I'm not doing ut cuz I didn"t want to come, it's cuz Im just not able to attend with my health intact. Took me going to the ER after some outdoor birthday parties to learn I couldn't just grin and bear it anymore. Does it suck? Yeah. But that's just life. Everyone has limitations, some of us just have more than others. Good friends and family understand and don't hold it against you.
I’m disabled as well as overweight, if my best friend had a dream wedding that wasn’t accessible I would either go to the reception if it was accessible or not go. She deserves her dream wedding. We can celebrate separately.
I feel guilty going on days out, because if I take the electric chair, it’s heavy & has to be disassembled/assembled, if I take the manual then someone has to push me over bad terrain. So if someone would prefer not to take me due to these issues, I completely understand & will find other ways to spend time together.
Also, the reason that rental places won’t rent for off road is because of how much wear & tear different terrains put on the wheels, the breaks, the suspension, battery etc, especially if the person is heavier, which will just add to the speed of deterioration for the vehicle.
I once asked if the NHS would be able to provide me with a chair (I would be willing to pay for it but I just wanted a private reliable company to service the chair, as an independent company screwed me over & endangered me) they would only be able to provide a manual, the motorised ones could only be used inside, for similar reasons.
So for multiple reasons the first person is not the A.
As to the 'abielest' comment (since the rest is obvious): i think it comes down to 'not your wedding'. If you cant go because of a wheelchair then you cant go, just as with any other situation. If you arent close enough to make special arrangements with them then its not that big of a deal to ruin the day for them.
12:09-12:36 I admit, I struggle with jealousy pretty regularly (with women who look how I want to look, have the body that I want to have, are dating or in a relationship, or are achieving their dreams). (I'm even Kelly's age now. 25.)
My jealousy is a terrible vice, and one I'm working on, but that advice you gave honestly put things into perspective for me.
If there are things I want, I can have them. I just have to "notice what they have done in their behavior to be successful, and notice what you are doing in your behavior that's making you jealous of them."
It may have meant nothing to you saying that, but it meant something to me, so thank you!!
The cruise ship story where the parents are mad she left them behind blows my mind. Dont they realize it wouldve just been more expensive if she had stayed and missed the ship with them? Then they would've had to pay for 3 plane tickets to the next destination versus the 2 they had to pay for. The daughter saved them money
2 SONGS IN ONE VIDEO?!? We’ve been blessed today lol
I’m also alone… 🧍🏼♀️💀
Yes, I did watch and like this entire 20 minute video in only 7 minutes because I watch at 1.8x speed.
Your math ain't mathin.
@@elaexplorer DO I LOOK LIKE A CALCULAHAVATOR TO YOU? Do I look like I can math?!?
@@lukjad007You definitely look like a CALUHAVATAR, that's for sure. Now, math? Not your strength, I'd say.
I love watching daniel judge people he makes me feel better about my self
wheelchair user 4 life.... wheelchair song SLAPS
Thank you for the advice! I thought about what successful people have that I don't. Turns out, the answer is functional kidneys. So, once I steal someone's kidneys, I'll be set!
I am not obese but I do have struggles that sometimes require a wheelchair as does my mother. If there was a wedding we were attending and someone went through so much trouble to try and find a way to make it work and couldn’t find one we’d both accept it. It might be sad but we certainly wouldn’t get angry about it. It’s incredibly entitled to expect the world to bend to your will so you can be included in absolutely everything. Part of being disabled is knowing that you’re not capable of doing things others can, people including you anyways WHEN ITS POSSIBLE is a COURTESY NOT A RIGHT. Yes it’s nice to have accessibility and wheelchair aids are wonderful, but at a wedding especially ITS NOT ABOUT YOU
I've definitely had an old acquantaince who was in a mutual close friend group, he always brings down the energy and makes misogynistic remarks any chance he gets. No way an I inviting that person to my wedding. He definitely was upset after he found out we had the wedding and he was the only one of the group not invited.
the cake story is so cuteeee😭the husband just wanting to have a moment from the past to mourn his wife with her special cake recipe is absolutely beautifullll!!!😭
Daniel, if you massage the kale it becomes a flavour bomb of goodness. I spent 6 years chewing boney spinach before I found a recipe that said you have to massage those bad boys til they darken and release nice aromas. It's the GOAT I'm telling you
I know Daniel knows people at Smosh because he's done TNTL. I think he would be great to have as a guest for Reddit Stories and add a little song or two!
The last story sounds like a sister post to a reddit story called "My (28F) boyfriend (29M) and his best friend (29F) are going on a week-long vacation. They uninvited me" which was likely posted by the brother's ex girlfriend, as the entire situation was very similar to what was described here. The original reddit post has been deleted, but I know Smosh read it a few weeks back in the episode "nightmare vacation stories" if anyone is interested in finding out about that whole situation
10:52 I actually almost fell out of my bed from laughter. 😂
We love your shirt daniel 😂
You aren’t alone Daniel. You’ve got us.
Well here’s a new take on these readings… Random song breaks! The wheelchair bit was so random it made me laugh out loud 😂😂😂
PEOPLE DO NOT NEED TO CATER A WEDDING TO ANYONE. I've seen people with ADHD try to do this the other day. These issues are very real things, but the world doesn't revolve around them. The wedding day is for the couple. They can do what they want and let them figure out solutions. I know that sounds selfish, and of course this is within reason, but sometimes you just have to deal with the fact that life is about you.
Daniel, I just wanna say you look resplendent in that shirt
The cousin is delulu. I'm 300lbs (a lot related to medical issues. I have lost 20lbs recently and am on the right track so hopefully it sticks). You can't be that fat, or even as fat as me, and expect he world to cater to you. Even with medical issues, to some extent it is also bad life choices, and the world not being made for you is a consequence of that.
The wedding story at the end mentioned a guy leaving his gf at home and instead going with his friend, which sounds similar to a part of a story in a smosh video. They could be connected
The cake recipe - I see that as an absolute WIN.
Aita for watching this video in time while my grandparents are downstairs waiting for me?
For those who don’t know, many beaches have all-terrain wheelchairs to make them accessible, but that isn’t a cure-all (not all beaches have them, they may not be big enough to fit someone 600lb, this wedding may not have been on a beach, etc). I will say though that my bridesmaid was in a wheelchair, and it was my pleasure to make sure she could attend every aspect of my wedding without worrying about any accessibility issues. Because I love her, and I love all those I invited to my wedding. As a host of a party, it is on you to make sure that you’re considering all your guests. I’m not saying you can make everyone happy, but you can do the bare minimum to make sure you’re not offending someone by making the event inaccessible to them (that goes for considering the price to attend, physical ability, keeping themes inoffensive, serving food and alcohol your guests aren’t allergic to).
Hey, there’s always broadcasting the wedding over zoom. I mean, I know it’s not the same as going in person. But if the person is that important, they can always watch the broadcast, talk a little bit to the Zoom attendees after, and then invite them to the reception. Again, I know the wedding is the main event… but it’s better than not being able to go at all.
My husband and I got married over Zoom during the pandemic with VERY few people in attendance (about 10, I think?) and we did the rest over Zoom. It was hella awkward being filmed since we’re both socially anxious. But it was nice being able to visit the breakout rooms afterwards so we could talk to pretty much everyone, and then easily leave when we got tired without so much as a fuss; I don’t know what we would have done if we were obligated to have an in-person affair… as an HSP… I would have been dead. Lol
We got married literally outside of our apartment building on his parent’s lawn (they lived on the first floor), so we just went home like right after so we could rest. It was bliss.😅