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as an autistic person, i genuinely don't mind if someone asks me, but what pisses me the fuck off is intention and tone. if they're asking simply because they're curious, that's completely fine.
but omfg that guy needs to go to therapy or something
NVM OMFG I WATCHED FURTHER AND HE NEEDS TO GO TO JAIL
Yuuuuuuuup same, nothings wrong with asking if it's a question not a JUST BEING RUDE SORTA ALMOST A QUESTION
lol i love the replies as another autistic person, but yeah... i cannot say what i wanted to say due to me being less than the age of 18
Idk, sometimes their "curiosity" can come off in a weird way. One time I was talking to a guy and he *interrupts* me to ask "are you autistic?" but in a sort of, like, "I can see what you are, praise me!" kind of way, as if he was somehow so much smarter just for asking. I found it really embarrassing. It was also really frustrating that he interrupted me just to ask that question in such a mighty way. I didn't talk to him again after that.
as an autistic person, i 100% agree
On the "are you autistic question" being offensive - it's about context. "Are you autistic because I want to understand you better and make sure you're comfortable" is very different to "are you autistic because I want to know what's wrong with you." Here it VERY much felt like the latter.
I 100% agree. Also i think it’s different if the person asking is neurodivergent themself.
THIS!!!
Yes. Absolutely. Context and tone are key factors into whether you could offend an autistic person with that question
Or if they ask it like an insult (“are you stupid?” Kinda way)
It didn't feel like that to me but I'm not super socially adept
Asking if someone's autistic isn't offensive in itself, but the guy implies that the reason she's so quiet and not into him MUST be because she's autistic
Exactly this
A boy in Junior High who should have been in high school was offended my 12 year old self who was just starting 6th grade was fawning over him so he told everyone I was gay and I got bullied for that. Thing is I'm actually autistic. Also, I was not at the level of maturity to be a part of the dating world yet.
Because Lord knows it couldn't be his attitude or personality, or even just that they simply aren't compatible. No, he's perfect - the perfect male specimen of which all women want. There must be something wrong with her. Obviously.
Edit: Upon further review, I feel like this dude ain't compatible with anyone on the planet... but what do I know? I'm just an Ace autistic woman, which clearly explains why I don't grasp how perfect he is.
The "while trying to follow a recipe on YT" was prolly just painting the extra level of annoyance from the message spam. She's trying to use her phone in the kitchen and constantly getting interrupted by Mr Look-at-me. I'd mention that context too, I think. Adds a layer of her frustration about the experience.
Same...plus it shows she's not just ignoring his messages, she was legitimately busy.
Exactly
Yep, and also, anything is more important and interesting than giving this clown attention.
she reminds me of me lmao, idk why he thinks she's weird, it's normal how she responds (mostly when he's defensive af)
Literally! Like it literally pauses the video every time you get a message, its annoying af.
As an autistic individual, if someone asks me if I am autistic I am usually not offended, but it depends on the context and the tone of the person and if they meant it as an insult or not. If someone uses autistic as an insult, then goodbye, I'm leaving, I'm gonna go talk to my other autistic friends who don't insult me for being on the spectrum
My autistic partner agrees with this sentiment.
Exactly, context matters, and the context here definitely makes it offensive
This
I know there are varieties of autism, but I learned that most autistic people are not good at getting tones or kinda signs like that, when talking to others. (Even though many "normal" people (who's normal for real, and sry for quoting it like this, because of my lacking knowledge of words) I would like if you or others could help to fill my lack of knowledge.
@@user-nd1ef8xj6d At least for me, and some people very close to me who are also autistic- it’s not that we don’t always not see or understand tones and signals. It’s more so that we see so deeply into it, more than the average neurotypical person. We see all the different subtle tones within one tone, and all the possible meanings behind a signal, it makes it overwhelming, and so we may respond very plainly, choosing to not respond in any way that shows we took it or understood it in one specific way. I need you to be direct; I don’t like to guess, even if I’m certain on your intentions.
Thinking a guy is cute is just an observation not her being into him idk
Definitely. I've met plenty of attractive men that I never even contemplated getting involved with.
Personality is a huge factor too. They can be attractive physically, but their personality can be a total turn off, or even just not what you're looking for. Just the act of getting hit on by a cute guy shouldn't be a deciding factor for if you're willing to date them. It only opens up the possibility.
yeah exactly
@@martibee8984 Right!! How is he missing the fact that even if OP *was* interested, that fact could change after the dude made things awkward by doing the whole "you don't like meeee" thing in front of their friends? I would get the ick so fast no matter what the person looked like lmaoo
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You are insane lmao I can find a guy is attractive and not want him
Finding someone cute doesn't mean you're interested in them. I've met some very attractive people in my life that I wouldn't touch if you paid me. I kind of love how chilly that girl is. He asked her what she thought about him and she said she doesn't think about him. SAVAGE. It feels like a perfect response. His questions are straight up rude because he's assuming if she doesn't engage with him, she must be neuro-spicy. Like he can't see that maybe she genuinely doesn't have anything to say to him. It doesn't read flirtatious to me, but even if you took it that way, she's not obligated to play nice with anyone. Especially not someone who clearly won't take the hint that she's disinterested.
You absolutely nailed it. My thoughts almost exactly.
LMAOO NEURO-SPICY 💀
Haha like fr! I kept thinking the same thing. Like, dude, I can say the same shyte about my brother, that most certainly doesn't mean I'm into him. It just means I am capable of recognizing that this person technically has conventionally attractive physical characteristics. Okay and? That don't mean I'm flirting with said individual. It's just context.
I thought it was obvious from the beginning that she didn't want anything to do with this guy.
I don’t think saying someone is cute is equivalent to being interested in pursuing something with them.
Imo op seems like the kind of girl who likes to keep a safe distance from guys they don’t trust and maintained a healthy disinterest in her communication to promote that distance. I think the note about her following a recipe on yt was to indicate that she is happily and peacefully going about her life/interests in contrast to the madness happening in the messages she’s not even paying attention to.
@@malisaurus2367 Agreed 100%. I did not find it weird to say that she was watching a thing on YT. Just explaining that she was in the middle of something and didn't check her phone but wasn't purposely ignoring crazy dude (she didn't know yet how crazy he was).
I'm autistic and I think I would be a little offended if someone flat out asked me 'are you autistic', since that means they're looking at me through the lens of a stereotype
Agreed. Especially when coming from a guy like this who clearly meant it as a neg/insult. I would immediately be guarded.
@@careleo wait he clearly meant it as an insult? im also autistic i thought he was just asking genuinely 😭 (ive only seen the first conversation tho)
EDIT: watched the second conversation. ew
Happened to me once in person. Don't know if he was too, and just wanted to ask me to see if we had something in common, but it wasn't fun because I didn't know this guy well and he wasn't nice to most people, so I just took it as him saying "I see you're acting weirdy and need to see if I'm right."
Well, are you autistic?
I think the only situation in which that wouldn't make me uncomfortable would be if it were just another neurodivergent person trying to make friends. It's just creepy and disrespectful in this story. 😮💨
Not Daniel confusing Stonehenge with the Easter Island heads 😂
😂 indeed it's better that he doesn't remove those moments ❤ but what does the head mean? 🤔
@@ZiggaMauit has a similar meaning to calling someone stone-faced. An expression can be described as ‘stony’ right? It’ll mean different things in different context, but its the equivalent to someone having a blank/unimpressed facial expression in response to something
@@AnEmu404 thank you ❤️ I've seen the heads popping up in posts recently and that's what I was thinking they were but sometimes I'm way off on things like that 😂
Thank you!
Daniel: Why does she keep using the Stonehenge emoji? She uses weird emojis.
Me: It's not Stonehenge, it's Easter Island!
"Are you autistic??"
And they say romance is dead
GOLD
my ovaries are dead after reading that conversation
"Hey girl, are you autistic because I'm the glasses kid from Polar Express and I want to talk about trains all day and night with you"
Narc guy went full stalker. I think in the end she got a restraining order against him. He tried to turn the friend group against her, but she showed them his texts, and solved the problem. He might be attractive physically, but he's lacking in every other department.
Also, stating that someone is cute doesn't mean you def want to date them. You could simply be making an observational statement. I've even said people I couldn't stand are good looking because it was the truth. She may have actually thought he was cute enough to give him a chance if he had acted differently.
right? I think people are cute all the tine, but if they're an absolute knobhead then they're still a knobhead. or, in this case, a fucking psycho.
Well, I'm glad she got a restraining order in the end, I was so concerned for her. I felt like I was reading something from a horror film.
@@Imreallyboredsick if I'm remembering correctly, he didn't give her a choice. He even started leaving gifts at her door. I was concerned for her too. I've been in those situations. They're scary.
ok i'm autistic and 1. i would be pissed if someone felt entitled to know my disability status without knowing them well but also 2. he kinda ate with the 'into some trains or shit'. like i hate this man but damn that did make me laugh
edit - i also think the way he asked if she was autistic is rude! i think a good rule of thumb is if an autistic person wants to tell you about their neurodivergence it's their choice - they don't owe you anything. but if you're going to ask someone if they're autistic you need a better reason than "my masculine charms do not work on this woman - alas, she must be autistic :(". and you also need more grace and tact when asking lmao
Honestly, I don't think he was trying to be funny. I think he was being dead serious in a derogatory way, so it's great that it turned out more ridiculous and funny than the insult he was going for.
I’ve autistic family and once someone asked me if they had “that vaccination disease” and astaghfirullah I had to laugh
Asking someone straight up “are you autistic?” Because they arent reacting to your jokes or flirts is kinda out of line, in my autistic opinion, i would be weirded out and yeah maybe a little offended because my disinterest in someone doesnt mean im autistic, it means im not interested.
He thinks there must be something “wrong” with her because of her not playing into his games
Honestly yeah I feel bad at laughing at the train bit, it was funny! But again his whole crazy rant just I couldn't take seriously in the first place what a clown
The train line was genuinely so funny it might become an in joke with me and my autistic friends
I feel like the point of OP specifying what she was doing while he was blowing up her phone, was to specify that she was BUSY (following yt recipes takes a lot of focus. sometimes they talk too fast!) so even if she did want to respond, it was literally not a good time for her to. it's the fact that he's losin' it after her not responding in.03 seconds, so he goes on a rant. guys a weirdo anyway byeeee
I personally really love the image of this guy going on a rant, with the little truncated message push notifs going off and her ignoring them as she watches the video. It really paints a picture. Also he couldn't wait like what--how long are most cooking videos, even longform? Half an hour? Tops?
I was just thinking of all the times I’m watching something and a group text starts popping off. You’re constantly having to close the notifications when they’re popping in front of your video. There’s a reason some of my bigger group messages have alerts turned off
I thought of it as more like "I have better things to do than listening to you on your crazy soapbox"
@@gambitgurlisis even if it's real complicated, or the person has a thick accent or something so you gotta watch each part 3 times, that's still only like an hour or so, perhaps 2. For all he knows she could be having a nap, and not even awake to see the messages 💀
'You've been single all this time, it's extremely suspicious' Ok, so, that's just fucking creepy that he kept tabs on that the entire time. I didn't end up in another relationship for 10 years after my previous one fell apart and in part it was likely because of who I am as a person (demisexuality is the short of it) so he'd likely consider that suspicious too. That guy sounds like a goddamn stalker, holy fuck...
EDIT: OH MY FUCKING GOD, IT GOT EVEN WORSE! HOW?!
I genuinely can't believe this guy is real, just for the sake of my own sanity. Please please be faked messages or something. Also hello fellow demi!
Literally this - I have been accused several times of being gay by a friend I've known for a year, just because they can't fathom that I've been too busy for a relationship and have standards. It's wild. Also, this guy is completely freaking nuts.
Demi reunion up in here 😄
He kind of insults her like 'wtf is wrong with you' and then he says I love you. I honestly don't know what he wants at this point
I'd seen the first two parts before. I had no idea what was coming
I hope that woman is safe. Men like that are the reason I would 100% choose to be lost in the woods with a random bear than a random human man... Best case scenario, he's narcissistic pseudo stalker. Worst case, he'll flat out assault a woman, possibly even kill her. Big yikes, I really hope he left OP alone and that she's safe.
She set very firm boundaries though, I really liked her response. Hopefully she went to the police as well.
Even I would choose a bear and I AM a Bear
Right out the gate with excessive text guy I was seeing red flags tbh. As someone who’s quiet and just trying to mind my ps and qs like this girl, I did not sense any flirting on her end at all, as if I were to say “I don’t think about you” that would be hint number one to fuck off. It’s not even subtle! Girl said “I’m not interested” and the guy thought it was a good time to bring up the idea of being a daddy like wtf. Leave her alone
THANK YOU. The absolute entitlement he has for her attention and the aggression leading up to that tantrum was wild. It does matter if she's autistic or not. If she's not showing interest in you LEAVE HER ALONE instead of begging her to like you? He's unhinged and needs therapy. He can't handle that someone he likes doesn't like him. It's so embarrassing.
Fr like take no for an answer jeez
What does "mind my ps and qs" mean?
@@catbatrat1760It's just a saying for minding your own business, not worrying about other people's problems.
Thaaaaaaaannnk yoooouuuuuuuu! That was such a clear, no thank you sir. 😢
She is not engaging he is trying to be friendly he's trying to be funny he's trying to have a conversation and she's just not interested. And there's something really weird about a guy who assumes that if she isn't engaging with him then there is something wrong with HER.
That man doesn't know how to read a room. He probably doesn't even know he's in a room 💀💀
It's typical narcissistic behaviour. The guy is dangerous af
I agree, I think he is ironically getting "neged" by the girl. Not intentionally but the result is the same. He is so sure he's hot shit that any chink in that ego armor is like a dam breaking. "Well, if this girl I find value in because I'm attracted to her doesn't love me that means I may not be perfect which is impossible."
Look, I was a broken little emotionally abused boy when I first started dating at the end of high school. I had no clue how to respond (this was the pre-internet era) when I was rejected. It hurts so your initial response is to be nasty back, depending on how you're rejected, obviously. I would often take girls literally when they would say, "No, sorry, I have to go to the store later." when I would ask them out and say, "Well, I can go with you!" and... not get it. They were trying to be nice and I was being a clingy idiot. I don't think I ever responded to anything as harshly or horribly as this dude did, save for a long-term relationship that ended with the girl cheating and ghosting me.
That was me having hurt, anger, frustration, and pain without a place to put it and just talking horribly to her. I apologized to her years later and she forgave me, thankfully. This dude, though, needs to learn real quick that disinterest is almost always an answer by itself. If it's ambiguous, or you're not certain and weren't given a hard, "No." I think it's reasonable to try again later or something but be mindful that anything but a "yes" is a "no".
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"Weird" is definitely the wrong word for the first story. That's super messed up, an abuse of power, completely inappropriate, almost illegal, and frankly that boyfriend sucks; I'd dump him for only saying "that sounds like him". Clearly there's a lack of respect there; that girl is genuinely in danger from that dad and I hope she gets out of that situation and that relationship ASAP.
The fact that the boyfriend _knows_ his dad is like that, and still gave him the OP's number is just... very yucky.
There are few red flags bigger than being passive when a family member behaves inappropriately towards your partner. That situation will only go downhill and she needs to cut and run. Just giving out your gf's number without her permission is bad, but giving it specifically to a family member you know is a creep? Abhorrent.
Just because she said he was cute on reddit doesnt mean she is interested in him lol She very clearly has zero interest in him but he keeps pestering her. Her describing him to reddit as cute is not a green light for him to say any of the things he said to her. I feel like this is obvious
In the beginning it did sound as if she’s into him though especially her mentioning it. The rest after that was absolutely insane from him.
Real. In no way did I see her initial conversation flirty but blunt and disinterested. I would be put off too if he tried starting drama about her not liking him then texting later & accusing her of being autistic in a very rude way. The fact he kept pushing set off so many red flags but it’s ok since he’s such a “good guy” 🤢
@@SchgurmTewehrnah I don’t think there was any flirtation at all. She said he’s “cute and chill” as a way to let reddit know that the guy seemed OK at first, which is why she was even talking to him in the first place. Same way someone would start a conversation with, “Yeah, she was shy and nice.” without actually being close or caring about the person they were talking about. It’s just a little description.
Doesn’t mean she’s into him, just another way of saying she didn’t expect him to be such a dimwit since he seemed chill at first.
@@SmeltingSmoresright???? women be replying dudes' wall of texts with one single word, and somehow they still think there's flirting in the girl's part like??????? lol
There are two kinds of people who ask me “are you autistic” Neurodivergent people who have clocked me and are very blunt, as many of us are. Or people who are trying to make me feel insecure and insult me for being weird and then very awkwardly start sweating when I say “yes, I am actually” with a smile. The sounds like the second.
I'm neurodivergent and can definitely spot things I recognize in other people and I was reading this girl's messages and honestly agreeing with him, she does seem neurodivergent to me lol I wouldn't outright ask someone in case they're insecure about it but I would definitely be assuming it atp.
I was thinking similarly, that the only people who’d ask like that are those that can recognize autism symptoms as autism symptoms and doesn’t just blindly stigmatize it or someone who sees autism as an insult and is asking rhetorically as a way of saying “you’re a freaky weirdo and should stop acting the way you act.” Most allistic people can recognize when someone’s different, but instead of making the connection “oh, they might have a different neurotype” they instead just see the person as different and equate that as being wrong, this is why a lot of people who claim to be supportive of autistic people will still be extremely ableist and unaccepting to anyone who shows autistic traits, even if they know someone is autistic they will still have no tolerance for them displaying traits of it. My mother watched corny autism shows like Atypical and The Good Doctor because I’m diagnosed autistic and yet she would still be upset at me for displaying even the most basic of autism symptoms like the characters in those shows.
I have AuDHD & I actually don’t think she’s autistic based off of her texts and her behavior that the roach described.
I have a passionate dislike for arrogent men and I think that was her case. Like maybe she sensed that about him from the start and thus couldn’t bother to entertain him by laughing at his jokes (that probably weren’t even funny but people will laugh at someone’s bad jokes if that person is attractive enough) and being friendly with him.
I experienced a weird older colleague of mine (when I was 18 and he was 26 😀) making it desperately obvious that he was into me so I started avoiding him and having as minimal contact as possible. Because I was trying to avoid the awkward situation of him confessing to me and he creeped me out.
I imagine It’s not easy to limit contact with someone when he’s part of your friendgroup.
So I’m assuming here that she actually wasn’t that fond of him from the beginning and is leaving that out to make the first texts of the series seem more sensational. But yeah I’m kinda judging based off my own experiences so it’s just a crazy theory.
BTW at first I thought the texts were entirely fabricated since his creepy desperation was like a toxic character straight out of some cringy wattpad story 🤠 Like seriously who talks like that?
Lmao I once had a teacher assign the class something (it was a kinda new topic) and he came over to my desk to see what I had done so far and he said “whatever (my name) is taking, you all need to be taking it too” to the rest of the class. I straight up said “Adderall. I’m on adderall.” With a perfectly straight face. And he sputtered out “then I guess everyone else needs adderall”
17:35 As an Autistic ADHDer, yes. It was incredibly offensive for that guy to have asked in that moment. Asking the question itself is not the offensive part, it’s the fact that the question was completely unprompted.
Personally, I have asked people if they’re autistic, usually because I’m curious to know since I recognize the signs in that person due to my own experiences. But it’s not like I ask the question completely unprompted. I usually only end up asking when we’re talking about neurodivergence and other similar topics that can lead to the question.
Asking under the context that he did was incredibly rude and disrespectful.
i feel like its also different when it's a neurodivergent person asking if someone else is neurodivergent, because most of the time it's us looking for community and connection, and trying to make friends with other neurodivergent people
Really depends on why he asked in an insulting way yea im punching you as a joke I'm probably going to laugh
I'm autistic and woah that guy is ableist. I think he doesn't know what autism is outside of the context of schoolyard insults. I've been asked if I'm autistic both as an insult and as a genuine question, and he definitely meant that as an insult. I'm personally usually okay with it as a genuine question, but different autistic people have different preferences. I'm never okay with being asked it as an insult, for obvious reasons.
I don't think it had anything to do with his feelings towards autistic people tbh. It was only to do with the fact that she wasn't interested in him. (Not defending the guy, he's a cunt)
15:53 SHE JUST DODGED A BUUULEEEEETTTTTTT🎵🎵
You know it's bad when I did not question it at all when he said, "I'm just gonna scratch my butt real quick." These surprise microphones are getting scarily good.
We need fewer daddies and more fathers.
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19:28 As a guy I'd rather be single for the rest of my life than message someone like that
As a woman, I'd rather be single for the rest of my life than be messaged like that
@@antine1279 🤝
8:08 This hit way too close to home. There's a dude (my best friend's ex boyfriend) who I used to be friends with until he started threatening my life, my friend's life, my friend's family's life, his own life, and schools. When we tried to cut him off, he kept finding ways to reach us. He would create new accounts, find us on other social platforms, and even manipulate people my friend and I were close to into asking us about him (we told those friends afterward who he was and they blocked him). Guys like this are creeps, but unfortunately there is no solid strategy to get rid of them. I've had to resort to abandoning all those old accounts and letting him think I died (my last messages to him were about the hospital before I blocked him). Like he's genuinely scary enough to warrent that 😭
I’m autistic (late diagnosed as it’s the case with most autistic women) and that really depends. But if someone asked me if I’m autistic because I don’t respond to them hitting on me, I think it’s really offensive because the question implies that there is something wrong with me for not being receptive to their flirting. If I’m with other autistic friends and someone asks me if I’m autistic as well, it’s ok. There is nothing wrong with being autistic and I’m not ashamed of it. It’s people’s perception of the disability that’s wrong, people like this guy in the story. As a general rule of thumb, don’t ask people if they are autistic when they don’t perform social rules the way you expect them to. There are tons of other explanations as to why people might act the way they do without putting it on autism.
I've actually experienced this! I was at a bookstore buying some stuff, and when I got to the front to purchase my things, the clerk at the front (maybe in her mid-20s) asked "Hey, weird question, but are you on the spectrum?"
I was so dumbfounded by the comment that I asked, "uh...the gay one?" Luckily there was no harm done and she explained she has a sort of sense for these things, but it was definitely a weird thing to ask someone who was just buying some DnD books.
😂 I couldn't come up with a funnier retort if I tried! The fact that it wasn't even meant to be funnier just cracks me up more.
DND = autism?
She's probs autistic. I do this and I'm autistic too. We do tend to have a sense for these things hahah
"I have a sense for these things" and going "DnD = autism", yeah it's funny how I know exactly what type of person she is lol
“are you autistic” can be alright at times, but that time isn’t in the context of: “WHAT THE HECK IS WRONG WITH YOU?!?!”
'i know a few of you are with autism' make me laugh so hard, I don't know why. But yes as an autistic person I'd probably get annoyed at this dude just straight up asking as a way to suss out why I won't flirt back
It cracked me up too. The typical phrase is 'with child', meaning pregnant, so that's where my mind was lol.
I’m autistic. Personally I’d be unhappy if someone just straight up asked if I was autistic. I’ll volunteer that info if I think it’s relevant but just to asked like that? No.
That makes sense
I saw a different video covering this story and that comment section said for the most part"the question itself out of the blue wouldn't bother me. In fact, it's appreciated!!"
I remember being really confused by that comment section
Same. I don't mind if people ask me. But it's only really if they pick up on my neurodivergent habits. If, however, someone were to ask me the question as we meet for the very first time, that's when I would be uncomfortable. It's obviously an outlandish scenario, but that's typically how I will compare the differences in approach
I think he’s seen too many movies where a woman is reserved and needs a guy to fix her and bring her fun, cool-girl personality out or something.
So annoying that these guys walk among us lmaooo. They could infiltrate Your friend group.
Thank god OP’s friends are on the level.
Also White with the capital W took me Out lmaooooo
"He's pathetic and so f***ing desparate for your approval"
...I wonder if he bothered to repeat that part back to himself.
The guy asking the girl if she’s autistic is acting like creepy dude. Even without that question, a response stating she doesn’t think about him is just honest and straightforward. Stating how awesome he thinks he is and how much better he is than other dudes is a big red creeper flag. Dude shoulda just dropped it. Some people just have trouble finding the words to engage in conversations and some people just don’t laugh a lot, at anything. Taking it so personally, so quickly says a lot about that guy.
I personally prefer to scream at my friends. who cares that they live across the earth? they'll know. They always know.
Lmaooo what? 😂
@@udontevenwannaknowbruv you heard me
You gotta scream in low-frequency vibrations, though.They don't die out over long distances. _So_ much cheaper than texting!
6:12 I love the editor's comentary on how bad and non-committal your air-diagram is. 😆
Someone at my friend’s work interrupted them while they were talking about one of their interests JUST to ask “are you autistic or something?” There is nothing okay about asking something like that. It’s like you’re trying to come up with a reason for why someone is the way they are by using autistic stereotypes.
Stereotypes? It’s literally a condition with certain traits.
@@SchgurmTewehr Autism is an enormous spectrum, they don't all share the same traits. There are definitely autistic stereotypes. Did you completely miss the quip about trains? It might've been funny, but it's still a stereotype. People can be obsessed with things. or be uncomfortable in social settings, without being autistic.
Am autistic. Personally I think the worse part of it is that they barely talk and he just flat out asks her, implying that she has to be autistic for not being interested in him? Which is gross, and he continues to be weird and gross toward her for just...not being interested in him? Mans needs an ego check
As someone who is visibly autistic, it would definitely not offend me if it was just "are you autistic". If I do ask someone else if they're autistic, I do not just unprompted say "are you autistic?" though. Usually, I'll say "I've noticed you do x and x and x, and that x and x and x seem to bother you a lot." Then, "Are you neurodivergent, by any chance?" and then "Do you think you might be autistic?"
I hope you don't mind me asking but what does visibly autistic mean?
I think they mean high functioning which is alot more obvious I guess! But that's just me, usually signs that are obvious are like [unable to control the volume of your voice, obsessively talking about one thing, shy or reserved at first and bad at conversations with others, mannerisms like touching or picking at yourself] but everyone's experience is different!^^@@catlover.triangleheadprod4887
@@catlover.triangleheadprod4887im also confused by that 😭
@@madness_maniai feel like low needs autistic people are harder to clock than high needs autistic people tho, at least that's the general concensus of society and why many low needs autistic ppl go undiagnosed for so long. low needs autistic people are usually high masking
@madness_mania Isn't that "Low functioning"? I thought the term came from the concept that if you're unable to hide it, you're not good at functioning in society.
As an Autistic woman the "What's your deal?" had me laughing so hard because I get that all the time. In this context, the autism question wasn't being asked because he cared but because he wanted a reason to write off her disinterest in him it seems. It's not offensive to me if someone is just trying to understand more about me, but no one who cares has ever just dropped that question mid conversation either. Unfortunately I know a lot of guys who are being led this direction by the incel culture garbage being posted everywhere
I HATE THIS MAN. u know which man i’m talking about. daniel, i think you’re right in saying it’s his weird insecure way of hitting on this girl, im so glad she’s standing her ground the whole time
update after i finished the video: agreed he might kill her yikes, im wondering if this will turn up as evidence in a future case
She mentioned that she was following a recipe online to imply how unbothered she was. He was obsessing over her responses for multiple days and decided to send a long unhinged message to her meanwhile she was doing something innocuous. There was nothing odd about anything she said. She simply isn’t interested in him and she’s basically calling him insecure without explicitly saying it. She also can observe that he is physically attractive without being interested in dating him at all.
17:01 ayyyyyyy
Also saying someone looks like they’re into trains is crazy 💀
I'm autistic. A month or two together, my boyfriend straight asked me if I autistic. I laughed and said I wanted to ask him to same thing but felt it was rude (he has since found out that he is.)
We still joke about it, and I didn't feel it was rude. I felt seen.
Daniel, the stone head is commonly used as a way to show shock/disbelief 🗿
I hope that 10 years from now he has chronic insomnia because this conversation keeps him up at night.
Am autistic, I think the girl may either be on the spectrum or she might just be an odd duck (Not a bad thing at all). I don't personally find it offensive for people to ask about it, but some people get upset when I notice signs and mention that someone else might be. I don't mean it in any offensive way but getting early help with it can make your life so much better.
I mean I am the same way, if someone asked me so blunty I would Definitely say yes or no, but again with context here I would be upset in most cases people just want to be respectful and understanding! People try really hard not to be rude when it comes out it's just hard to dance around a subject like that^^; from my own personal experience as a disabilities worker and having autistic family members an myself
i dont think she was odd at all, he was the odd one.
I don't think she's odd at all, just not interested in the guy
Depends on context. Asking out of curiosity? perfectly fine imo, but this has such a derogatory tone to it, such as to imply that there's something wrong with her which is rude asf
@@erythrosnoia2919 100% what I meant, thank you. A lot of people misunderstood me, but thats pretty common for me LOL
It seemed like she mentioned him being “kinda cute” and their friend group being evenly split between genders because her friends (and him) are expecting her to be interested and start dating him. Her noting him being “kinda cute” and listing all of the personality traits she doesn’t like is probably a repeat of something she told her friends when they asked why she wasn’t interested and she wanted to say something nice about him before rejecting the idea.
I love how Daniel just randomly breaks out into song like a Disney princess.
I'm autistic, and nobody has ever asked whether I am except my therapist, BUT if someone were to ask me, whether I'd be offended would depend entirely on the context. If they're genuinely curious, I wouldn't be. But if they ask as a reason to put me down about something, then I'll consider it rude. In this context, it wasn't rude at first-but when he kept pushing, it became "othering" and therefore offensive.
This
I have ADHD with some autistic tendencies but it really depends on HOW they're asking. If theyre like asking genuinely in a way to better accommodate you then thats different than just "Lol youre weird, are you autistic?"
Feel free to laugh at the autistic joke, as someone diagnosed I found it hilarious. And no, being asked isn’t usually offensive unless it is asked in an offensive context
As an autistic who is very very into trains, I was like "he's right, this is in fact the devil, but the devil's funny though" lol
@@space0case24the devil is (ironically) funny as hell
With the friend group, he cant stand not having the validation of everyone around him, and having someone in his orbit that is not fawning over him makes him insecure. She's giving him short, closed answers over text because he's being creepy and annoying, and she's trying not to tell him to F off for the sake of the friend group.
That's my take, anyway
Ok, Daniel. You can think someone is cute without wanting to pursue them. This guy is in her friend group. He's not HER friend. She doesn't really know him, and while she doesn't (or didn't) dislike him, she didn't have any particular interest in getting to know him either. He made a joke at her expense in front of her friends earlier that day, so obviously she's not gonna be wanting to have a casual chat with him. He came in with accusatory language, like she needs an excuse to not be interested. Her language was dismissive because she was trying to dismiss him. Then he crossed the line.
Ugh…the number of times someone has gotten offended because I’m quiet….usually this comes from people who display a lot of extroversion, but are also in need of validation. They can’t sit with the idea that not everyone can or wants to feed their ego or reassure them. Often by having a problem with it instead of enjoying the person for who they are only makes the situation worse because you’re wasting energy trying to change someone AND communicating that you think they’re defective as a person.
The best and closest people to me have never gotten on my case for not saying as much and eventually I felt comfortable enough to open up. I am certainly for quiet people trying harder to reach out and make conversation, and it’s fair for others to wish they could get closer and understand a quiet person, but I think people like this guy are walking red flags because that desire turns into rude behavior. It’s about him and winning someone over rather than enjoying who they are in that moment and letting them decide when they’re ready.
I don’t have autism, but I have experienced this kind of crap. The person pushing me NEVER gets into my circle. Whether OP has autism or not, this nonsense happens to others with quiet personalities as well.
Saw the whole thing… outgoing folks, value and look out for your quieter friends…their mere presence may very well expose the creeps in your midst!
Yeah, I absolutely get where you're coming from. I was thinking along the same lines, although I'm the outgoing one. However, I married the quiet one, and getting closer to him and seeing him open up was a treasure!
I have Autism and for me, there has to be some sort of lead in for it not to feel awkward. The extra facts about what she's doing can be an autistic trait but it can also come from childhood trauma leading to her feeling like she needs to over explain herself to justify her actions. Many autistic people have this childhood trauma from not being takes seriously, me included.
I was absolutely thinking about the mild over-explaining as a trauma trait, but could also see it as just painting the picture. Then again, I also over-explain, so to me that _would_ seem like "just painting the pic".
I thought it was so weird that Daniel thought it was weird. To say you were trying to watch a recipe on youtube while being harassed by a guy just gives context and is dryly funny.
Imma be real... When the quiet one sends a threat, they have planned this moment since before they met you and no matter how uncocky the cocky, obbsessive stalker pretends to be to help him feel better, no amount of money or being 'facually attractive' is gonna be able to save him.
Also don't bring the friends into it because the quiet one is usuallt more reactive when they are involved.
I love Daniel's little musical not-intermissions in these
Came for the title stayed for the wild psychopath. What a ride
As an autistic person it really depends on how you ask me if I'm autistic. If it is as a general question like you were talking about them no. But if the person who asks notices something about me, like that I like legos or trains or something, then I'll get offended but I generally won't say anything unless they are straight up making fun of my autism. I also get offended when people will use my autism to get their way. You'd be surprised how often that happens.
Hope this answers the question Daniel. Love ur vids 😊
I can't believe that girl was texting Dennis Reynolds
Hes a golden god!
Im also autistic and if someone asked out of curiosity id be fine with it. But the guy in the text isn't doing that. He's weilding as a weapon. Using it to neg her and look down on her for being "damaged". To him, its why she isn't tripping over herself to be with him, instead of realizing HE is the problem. Its gross behavior.
I dont understand what Daniel thought was so strange/mysterious about the way that lady spoke. Is it that weird to clarify that the reason she didn't respond to that dude's text was because she was busy Cooking ? Because I feel like its a preemptive response to a common question to that situation she was in. I don't know, to me the way she spoke seemed pretty reasonable.
Then when she said he was cute.
People can call other people cute without feeling an ounce of emotion or attraction. It's almost like she was just making an off-hand comment.
@@Kinyarii98 yeah, you can recognize that someone is attractive or cute without any feelings. Just because she mentioned that the guy was cute doesn't mean she had feelings for him, it's just that from her perspective his physical appearance matched what "cute" is to her.
She seemed very neurodivergent to me too. Adding unnecessary detail no one asked for or needs is a common ADHD and autism trait. The odd emojis and totally flat speech seemingly without much emotion added to it for me.
I think he was confused by the Stonehenge emoji
@@jijitters the detail isn't odd tho? she just wanted to emphasize she was busy. and the emojis are so fcking normal too lol like, this is literally how half gen z speak on the internet. and the flat speech is simply a woman who's trying to make it clear to a dude she's not interested in him
I feel like this guy's watched too many animes, or even Nicholas Sparks movies, where the "normal" guy is intrigued by a girl who's "different in a way I just can't put my finger on," so he decides to spend time with her, hits a few confrontational snags as he tries to "figure her out," and then suddenly the whole thing blossoms into magical true love. And now, he's angry that his life isn't working out the way it does in those shows/movies. And he definitely needs to chill.
Oof. 😛
so true, like he sees her as his manic pixie dream girl when she's actually just her own person
Saying he's cute doesn't give him permission to rail her! 😒
the savior complex is WILD on this dude
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The surprise microphone will never get old 😂
I had a friend who sent an unsolicited picture once, except it was a bit of a different situation, he sent it to his mom instead of his girlfriend on accident.
I looked up this crazy case on Reddit, apparently the guy stalked her, came to her house multiple times, left her a gift with a creepy message, showed up at her spin class, plus some more insane texts. She contacted the police, who said they can't do anything until he breaks the law (surprise surprise), so basically she's on her own. Some large TH-camrs reviewed the posts like Daniel did now which gave her even more headaches and attention. So basically this girl is on her own while the insane man is stalking her and no-one is doing anything about it. She's in massive danger
oh good god
engaging in possible tresspassing charges but definitely stalking.
14:28 I don't think it's weird, I would get annoyed if the recipe video I'm watching keeps getting interrupted by multiple unhinged text notifications
16:51 as an autistic person, the phrase "you may not be autistic but you sure act like you're into trains or some shit" is funny as fuck
🤣 dead af
Saying someone is “cute” is an observation, it doesn’t mean she has a crush 😐
Thanks Daniel now we're all in danger because of you 😂
17:28 it wouldn't offend me. But it also depends on why they ask and in what way. When they just notice my symptoms and ask to make sure and to understand me better, I actually appreciate it. When it's in a derogatory or infantalising way, I don't like it at all.
I'm autistic and I only get offended if neurotypical people ask me that, because for me 100% of the time a neurotypical person asks if I'm on the spectrum they have meant it in a really mean way
low blow with the trains😭 leave me and my amtrak alone
I’m a late diagnosed autistic person and when people ask me or have asked me if I’m autistic they usually treat me differently like they can’t say certain things around me or I always need special treatment when that’s not the case I am a normal person just my brain works in different ways so that guy was totally in the wrong in so many ways assuming that someone is autistic just because they don’t want to talk to you is borderline psycho
"SURPRISE MICROPHONE!!!"
*Ozzie Osborn scream*
Bro went 100% 😂😂😂
It definitely definitely hurts me when someone I do not have a huge level of trust with goes and asks me if I’m autistic. Because when I’m asked that, it usually means I’ve done something unusual and they are either deciding to scrutinize me or give me a pass.
Although also because I’m autistic, I would read that guy as trying to INSULT ME and not GET WITH ME
i'm autistic and don't necessarily mind someone knowing that, or talking to me about it, or asking me if i am - but the general idea of "hey, you're acting weird, are you autistic?" is uncomfy, and then the guy seems to start using autism as some kind of insult, and calling her autistic when she said she's not. just treat us like normal human beings because that's what we are
The fact that Daniel described private internet as ‘virtual pants’ is on another level
That first guy should be…idk dude something needs to be done about that unholy behavior. Disgusting.
Yeah but how did the 2nd get even creepier
@@SchgurmTewehr SERIOUSLY DUDE I WAS HORRIFIED WITH EACH MESSAGE HE KEPT SENDING. I GAGGED WHEN I HEARD THAT PART AT THE END.
As an autistic guy, autism jokes aren’t always my favorite, but OMG I cracked up at the “ you probably like trains” part😅
As much as I love Danny's typical skit/musical content, these videos are also an absolute delight. :) I hope he keeps making them.
You can still think someone is cute but, not want to date them. That guy just made me want to puke. I can’t stand arrogant people who don’t get why they’re not attracting everyone. God, I’m so enraged by that. Some people are just stand offish and she had good reason to be. Maybe she heard stories from her friends about him and that’s why she wasn’t feeding into his arrogance. I don’t know. But she did do a great job setting boundaries.
Btw. The emoji was an Easter Island head not Stonehenge.
That's not Stonehenge, that's an easter island head lol
Daniel: sees 🗿
Also Daniel: Stonehenge!
It just means stoic or indifferent expression man.
I had a guy who wouldn't take no for answer. the more I pushed him away the more he pursued me. it was awful.
Friend groups that size often adopt emojis to have their own meaning. Easter island head was resignation for us
I was in the middle of thinking and answering the first question in my head when BOOM out came the surprise microphone, I haven't had enough coffee to process this level of mental stimulation D:
Ah, starting on a D note when wondering what kind of picture we’re talking about… absolutely brilliant
Daniel calling the Easter Island head Stonehenge is far funnier than it should be
the "but first, ima scratch my but" got me DYING!!
I'm not autistic BUT I FUCKING LOVE TRAINS
How cold you not? Trains are great!😂
As someone with autism I want to say that this guy is very weird in the second part I would slightly under the first text if it was the first time texting them but it wasn’t he didn’t just ask to understand first he tried to blame her for not wanting to be with him
Also it’s ok u laughed at the text but just knowing that it’s bad makes it ok
Also I’m not straight or a woman so take what I say with a grain of salt
Also I would not be offended if someone genuinely asked if I was autistic if I talked to them often but if they said it it a snarky tone (which is hard to tell cause of ya know autism) then I would be offended
Also I don’t like to use punctuation
Is there a reason? Not trying to be rude, I’m just genuinely curious as to why someone wouldn’t like punctuation. Also, sorry if this message sent twice, I’ve been having technical difficulties all day lol
@@prefertoremainanonymous-vp2gp I think it’s a joke but tbh I’m not sure bc I’m also autistic
Only Daniel can literally mash a bunch of keys on the board and a melodic masterpiece comes out.