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@@RebeccaZungEsq Hey hru!? Can you please let me know if I'm viewing things right. Do Narcissists come off retarded or in any form are they retarded? It's like sometimes it seems like they trick themselves. Idk if I asked this question right? Lol
I’m trying to understand why this guy I know ignores my messages so I stop texting and then I get messages from an unknown number and I’m pretty sure (due to the contest) it’s him. If he doesn’t wanna know about me, why does he do that. Any comments?
1) communicate facts 2) don’t beg 3) keep on going w/ routine 4) talk to people who care about you 5) do something that keeps your mind off of things 6) ignore them back
@@CaliWeHo You need to know your worth and nothing will devastate you. After being in a narcissistic relationship you are good to go on many levels. If you don’t know your worth it doesn’t matter….keep telling yourself I AM WORTH SOMETHING!!!! Your soul will soon respond with… YES YOU ARE!
I was married to a narcissist and have two children. I always said I’m a single mother of three and the oldest one was the baby. So true…a 2 year old in an adult body!!!
They are like toddlers but a million times more dangerous because they are jaded and have learned how to manipulate and hold resentment and grudges etc. not to mention the size of an adult.
I do the success thing quite well, I just focus on building my business and it’s working. Every second I find myself being a victim I make sure is matched with productivity.
@@genesiskravitz8621 thanks for the positive vibes!! I’m still going strong!! It’s been a bumpy ride but I’m coming to realization that long term isn’t going to work and this needs to end. Hope you are doing well and thanks for the support.
Thanks. Yes! My boyftiend ignored me 30 days today and I ignored him back. No contact at all. Since we are not living togeter need to recover from all manipulation, bullied and all these Narc characters.
I never comment on TH-cam, like ever, but damn that rings true. I have never felt like more of a bad ass in my life. He cured my social anxiety, I'll give him that. I'm not afraid of anything now.
Currently going through this 😢 he’s gone silent on me for criticising me. You’ve made me feel a bit better and I giggled when u mentioned their like 2yr olds So glad I found your channel.
Ignore them back and have peace and quiet is my strategy. The vulnerable narcissist i know does this every time I miss her call. I have learned to miss the call to get a day or so if peace before she starts up again. I'm her only source for supply as everyone else go sick of it, so I do my best to see her good side, but then she starts up again, saying I'm avoiding her to try in order to get my attention. I do not call her, I wait cause I know she can't hold in her negativity long. Not sure how much longer I can stay in contact at this point though.
I love this: "Victor mode." The problem, is the more victorious I am, the more malignant he is. Up side is, he totally screwed up and now the police are involved. Hence my celebratory tequila shots. (Not really about the tequila, but most definitely I am doing an Elaine dance.) I finally see the light at the end of the tunnel. Thanks, Rebecca!
Same thing is happening to me. I dated my ex-girlfriend for four years. Just for her to discard me and ghost me many times. Go from being nice to all of a sudden changing to be mean right away. And whenever I would be feeling down just for her not to care. My ex last texted me some time in June of this year. So, it's been about three months if you don't count June. And Andrew definitely helps out a lot. Especially with uploading videos every day. I spent about a year and seven months of trying to get my ex-girlfriend back. Because I always got those good memories coming back to haunt me. I'm finally starting to heal. Blocked my ex on everything even though she blocked me already on pretty much everything. I hope your healing journey goes well and wishing you the best. Even though we don't know each other. But dealing with what a narcissist does to us is so bad and hard to forget.
@@ChristmasTime. thanks for your words, i really feal for you and your story sounds like my own. I really gave her everything and allways helped her with a lot of problems, supporting her like a best friend and with thru love as a partner but allways the mind games and desinformation man playing behind my back. People/friends don't really understand this because the don't know how it was and how this do to you as a person, she went behind my back with guys when I was in surgery too intstead of being by my side 💔totally gutted and in a very dark place now... I feal thesame I don't know you but can understand your pain my friend. Yes this channel gives a lot of information to try to grasp it while Andrew gives you healing so keep listening to him too it really really helps even if it's just for a moment but im there everyday and his words are really really needed. Keep thinking about all the things she did to you and not the few good memories, its important that you are true to yourself what really happend, but i know its really really hard when they do what they do and discard your soul. Keep your head high and talk in the communitys to find comfort❤️
@@ChristmasTime. I'm currently being ignored it's been like 4 days, I got blocked for 2 of those and unblocked last night n still didn't reply to me, it's really hurting me bad bc I spent everyday for 2 years with her, will they eventually talk to u again? Im so confused why someone would unblock me n still not talk to me, I'm not doin well at all, barely ate in 3 days n can't sleep
@@bullypit2913 Narcissists block us to make us feel unstable and crazy. They also like to know that they have power. Since they know how we feel about them. They might talk to you again. But sadly my ex narcissist would discard me about 7 or 8 times. She would barely text, take days to text, and never really care about what I was saying. Narcissistic people only care about the attention that we give them. But if the narcissist ever finds a new source they will start to discard you. The best thing to do is try to not think about that person, don't look them up on social media, and don't text that person if they aren't texting you. Also another good thing to remember is to remember how much time and energy you're spending on that person. While that person doesn't really care and isn't trying as much as you are. And one more thing I would recommend is to watch more videos about narcissist to learn about how they act. And I hope that you'll be able to start healing soon.
@@bullypit2913 Also if you're still together that's good. But definitely watch more videos on narcissist and how they act. So when something happens you will understand what that person is doing to you. Just wait for that person to text you back. I've been blocked and it definitely hurts. Not knowing why you're blocked and not being able to reach out to that person. I dated my ex for four years. Sadly spent about 7 months of hoping to get back with my ex while we were still talking. And then all of sudden my ex stopped messaging after we had a normal conversation. I would say it's been about a year. My ex had last texted me sometime in July of last year and then all of sudden just stopped texting me without saying anything.
Been on this chnnel for months now. And Rebecca has been a god send. Learning all these tricks my narc was doing was an eye opening experience. I'm deep in the discard phase right now. From wat I can tell she's moved on to another target again for the time being. I've been planning my success by immersing myself in my new hobby/career. She's only taken notice recently after ignoring me for weeks and she's been trying to get me bak under her thumb and in her pocket. Nah.....I'm good. Rebecca gave me scoop and I'm on my own path now. Cheers.
Have any of y’all ever dealt with a narcissistic son? In the last year my 22-year-old son has exhibited so many of these traights that I had to cut ties with him. It was so toxic. But I’ve never heard of anybody having a narcissistic son.
I have a narcissistic son who has gotten worse after taking drugs. He's 34 and it's all about him. Drives me bananas. I am bringing up his two boy's 4 and 6 and when I visit him he is condescending to myself and his girlfriend. I don't want to let the kids see this so I usually leave. Then it's my fault. Can't wait to shift further away from him. He used to have such a kind heart but he can't see what he does.😪
Pamela Dawn Bar Fun fact: Years ago I went to my doctor. I told him I was having difficulty keeping a relationship. I told him I believed I was bipolar/manic-depressive and wanted medicine for this. When he asked me why I thought this I replied well doc whenever 35 different women who have never met one another all say the same thing about you IT'S YOU! Before a problem can be fixed first you have to admit you have a problem which we know the narcissist will never do. I know this sounds cruel but sooner or later your kid will go to jail. Narcissistic behavior is NOT well received in lockdown. Stay strong, protect the children and ignore the blame fixing.
@@pameladawnbarnes136 Yes I feel the same way about my son. I thought I didn’t raise him this way I thought he was so loving and sweet but it turns out he was just being manipulative. It’s a hard pill to swallow because you wonder what you did for him to why not this way. I have a narcissistic father but he wasn’t in my children’s life very much so I’m trying to figure out how this dysfunction happened in my family what we can do to make it better. Can you make it better? I’ve prayed and prayed for my family
Awesome delivery! Oh Lord, this is exactly what I needed. I know I was randomly guided to this video and right on time 👍👍 Someone new I started dating only 3-4 weeks ago. Super manipulative. Emotional manipulation. The love bombing, then disappear. Some gaslighting and also blaming me for things that are really them. Ignoring me, big time! Disappear all day ..waiting for me to chase them. Wanting me to beg to hangout. By beg I mean It can be suddle... like asking 3 times in a conversation, or agreeing to hang out then they go ghost and I never end up seeing them that day. They want to piss me off, THEY WANT AN EMOTIONAL REACTION SO BAD. I REALLY JUST WANNA PUNCH EM IN THE FACE! Also Withholding sexual activities? Probably wanting me to beg. THEY REALLY ARE DESPERATE TO FEEL NEEDED, MAKES THEM FEEL ALIVE. I have been ignoring back. And now that I'm really on to them I'm already detaching and I honestly lost interest. Had me fooled for a little bit. I have no problem moving on. I already cut them off last week only for them to come creeping back in to apologize, lie, love bomb then start the cycle and ignore again! Lol You even ruined the second chance that you didn't deserve. It's unreal. It really is. It'll make you lose your mind! It'll make you extremely frustrated and that's what they want sadly. I just want them out of my energy for good at this point.
Thanks so much for these videos Rebecca 🙏🏻they are helping me keep my sanity since I left my narc just over 6 weeks ago. Your videos have given me the strength and tools I needed to accomplish this 💕 I am so grateful
I'm still new to learning about this. My boyfriend love bombed me to death then when I fell hard back for him,she pulls back all the romance and planning our future. He's crazy! I don't get this type of mindset. Why would anybody want to behave like this and create drama and heartache? How on earth can you encourage them to stop this immature and insane behavior? He's a handsome older Puerto Rican man but is acting like a child. My gosh, I'm so angry. Help me. Thanks.
Subscribed!! In the midst of self care. Ignored by my narc. I confided in a trusted friend, gym, groceries, and volunteering. They definitely are 2 year olds!! Way to put it!
going through this with my sister. she doesn't like it when I say no to her demands and so and put on ignore. I'm just going to go on with my life. I'm so tired of her antics as she does it all the time.
I am a composer, and I am an artist, a very serious, composer, and men don’t think that women are composers, and they like to ignore women who are not just there for their looks. There are some narcissistic men who just ignore women that they feel intimidated by.
I feel hurt when people who I thought I had connections with won't ask how I m doing unless I make first move ... Am I narcissist if I m craving someone's attention or validation that I m worth someone's attention ? Like I m obsessed with thoughts " what's wrong with me ?" I feel like it's happening so often that it feels like a pattern in my life....
Still hard to understand who is a narcissist or not. I feel we all have some of these charactistic. Wish in undergrads there was a class on this in Psychology. Would of been quite interesting.
They don’t ignore you until! Think about this; your health portal, bank accounts, haircuts, m&p, fuel for your vehicle, mailbox, a person’s phone letting them listen in on your conversations. Text messages, your siblings, nieces, nephews, children, grandchildren, your life. Stalking until you can’t breathe, sleep, you lose yourself. Take your life back no matter the cost❤
Thank you so much Mrs. Rebecca Zung. You have truly have helped me see a lot about people in my life. Seriously thank you. Now the healing can begin… for it is a slow process. Blessings to you and your family. Shabbat shalom sister.
My husband is on a quiet pity me mode. Your right.. He is trying a new game. I am enjoying the peace. I'm so far past numb. The abuse I've endured is unreal!!
It's hard for me not to text my narcissistic ex-girlfriend. Only message my family and her. Lost so many of my friends after high school. Dated my ex for four years. Thate the longest I've been with someone. I text quick, respond to everything, and never take days to answer. While my ex does the opposite. And when my ex would get mad she would cuss, call me names, and then block before I could even reply. And then would unblock me days later. But now she just will pretend to be nice, tell so many lies, barely give any attention, and is so selfish. And I dont kmow what is worse. Being texted a lot of things and then being blocked. Or someone pretending to be nice to you and then they dissapear for days without say anything. Trying more and more not to text at all or feel bothered. But it gets hard at times.
I agree because the narc is afraid to talk to me . I need my stuff and he is sending it but he is using my father as the go between… what’s that about? So I am pretty sure that he is maybe afraid of being held accountable…? Help Rebecca… I am disabled & voluntarily went to a psychiatric hospital because I have chronic health issues & diagnosis was Major Depressive Disorder & PTSD. My father is getting tired of being the go between. But I have the Narc holding getting things sent to me over my head. What do I do?
In-law ignores me and ghosted me for no reason… she’s definitely a narcissistic individual. I don’t understand it , it makes me think over and over again why I did wrong?.
When I bring up a concern the ignoring and refusing to discuss an issue I’m concerned with. I decide to detach by expressing in need a break and don’t communicate.
This is the best advice! Thanks Rebecca! I appreciate you so much..with it being summer I have plans and getting away with be great! Ignore them..I have tried but I like how you put it and I'm going to do exactly what you said in this video.
You inspire me to get a law degree and then work in psychology ha ha Impressive background counselor!!! Thank you for being about your career and using it to help people!!!!!!
Don’t obsess plan your success!!!!!!!!! Yesssss!!!!!!!Told him I was under the weather on Saturday … radio silence every since. Obviously the two year old doesn’t know the difference between physical sickness and psychological sickness. LMAO! My mind is well! Boy Bye!!!!!!!!
1. Write to them and try to reason with them. When they dismiss it as a "paranoid rant" go to step 2. 2. Go to their door to try to reason with them face to face. When you anticipate that they're going to close the door on you don't put your foot in the door because they will call the police. Go instead to step 3. 3. Beg and offer to move garden furniture they find offensive and apologize for whatever it was you did to offend them. If they still ignore you go to step 4. 4. Make their life uncomfortable. If that doesn't work because they love it that you have reduced yourself to their level go to step 5. 5. Get all your evidence together and get a good litigation solicitor. Take them to court and sue the pants off them.
Ignorance is used as a strategy, you need to shed that narcissist in your life, ghosting is used because it's manipulation, if they don't get your attention they'll drive you insane,communication is needed to preserve the relationship,don't play the blame game,if you don't keep your composure they'll get the impression that there annoying you, the plan is all about revenge💲✅
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@@RebeccaZungEsq Hey hru!? Can you please let me know if I'm viewing things right. Do Narcissists come off retarded or in any form are they retarded? It's like sometimes it seems like they trick themselves. Idk if I asked this question right? Lol
@@RebeccaZungEsq Do you think another reason they ignore you is because that hate you and are jealous of you?
I’m trying to understand why this guy I know ignores my messages so I stop texting and then I get messages from an unknown number and I’m pretty sure (due to the contest) it’s him. If he doesn’t wanna know about me, why does he do that. Any comments?
Never ever beg a disordered person for attention. It can ruin you.
Never beg for someone's attention. Stop texting them! They know exactly what they're doing!
Yes, I learned the hard way.
Me too
I was made the crazy one
1) communicate facts
2) don’t beg
3) keep on going w/ routine
4) talk to people who care about you
5) do something that keeps your mind off of things
6) ignore them back
In👏that👏order👏
Thanks dear
When they ignore you, that means something went wrong or you did a no-no . Chalk it up as a win for the Gipper !
Don’t obsess , plan your success.
When the narcissist ignores you …. Praise God!!!
Amen, Cathy! I do!🙌🙏
I like that.😁
But in front of other people it would devastate me. 😑
👆😆😆👆
@@CaliWeHo You need to know your worth and nothing will devastate you. After being in a narcissistic relationship you are good to go on many levels. If you don’t know your worth it doesn’t matter….keep telling yourself I AM WORTH SOMETHING!!!! Your soul will soon respond with… YES YOU ARE!
When someone ignores you, do not disturb them EVERY AGAIN!
Amen!
Pin this comment.
I was married to a narcissist and have two children. I always said I’m a single mother of three and the oldest one was the baby. So true…a 2 year old in an adult body!!!
That is epic. Funny and 100% truth.
I was raised on the silent treatment. Now I’m very grateful to be positioned where people ignore me only once.
Love this comment!
Ditto
Run, you are free!!
Yay!!! I will think of that every single time!
"Don't obsess, plan your success!" I love it! Thank you!
Don’t obsess.
Plan your success!
Or you will
Wind up a mess!
Its just their game. The game is all they are, nothing eles is there.
Success is the best revenge.
You got that right!!
Success is the best revenge
Enjoy and take advantage of the peace and quiet!!!
They are like toddlers but a million times more dangerous because they are jaded and have learned how to manipulate and hold resentment and grudges etc. not to mention the size of an adult.
I do the success thing quite well, I just focus on building my business and it’s working. Every second I find myself being a victim I make sure is matched with productivity.
Don't obsess,
Plan your success!!!!!
Rawr!!! This should be our mindset
Amen!! I’m in the zone where I feel the strongest I’ve ever been.
Hope you’re still going strong! And if you’re not (God forbid), i hope you gain even more strength once again.
@@genesiskravitz8621 thanks for the positive vibes!! I’m still going strong!! It’s been a bumpy ride but I’m coming to realization that long term isn’t going to work and this needs to end. Hope you are doing well and thanks for the support.
Thanks. Yes! My boyftiend ignored me 30 days today and I ignored him back. No contact at all. Since we are not living togeter need to recover from all manipulation, bullied and all these Narc characters.
Cute, Smart, knowledgeable about how to deal and rebuild our broken spirits and self worth.
As a victim Thanksgiving to you!!!
Just keep blocking them! Never let them near you again!
That's some of the best advice I've heard so far, as a man who's dealing with a wife whose only recently exposed herself as a narcissist.
Mine was a good actor till we got married. No one saw him coming. Doesn’t take long for their colours to show.
I never comment on TH-cam, like ever, but damn that rings true. I have never felt like more of a bad ass in my life. He cured my social anxiety, I'll give him that. I'm not afraid of anything now.
You give me so much strength! I’m killing it with my narc! His bad energy is no match for my powerful clarity now. Thank you!!
Currently going through this 😢 he’s gone silent on me for criticising me.
You’ve made me feel a bit better and I giggled when u mentioned their like 2yr olds
So glad I found your channel.
Don't obsess play on your own success!!!
Ignore them back and have peace and quiet is my strategy. The vulnerable narcissist i know does this every time I miss her call. I have learned to miss the call to get a day or so if peace before she starts up again. I'm her only source for supply as everyone else go sick of it, so I do my best to see her good side, but then she starts up again, saying I'm avoiding her to try in order to get my attention. I do not call her, I wait cause I know she can't hold in her negativity long. Not sure how much longer I can stay in contact at this point though.
I’ve been surrounded by so many covert narcissists much of my adult life that my eyes were opened as my heart was broken.
Don't obsess, instead, plan for your >>own
Strategy, Leverage, Anticipate, and Focus on You.
Don’t obsess, plan our success!🌸
Forgot to mention when they ignore you to avoid a responsibility and accountability
I love this: "Victor mode." The problem, is the more victorious I am, the more malignant he is. Up side is, he totally screwed up and now the police are involved. Hence my celebratory tequila shots. (Not really about the tequila, but most definitely I am doing an Elaine dance.) I finally see the light at the end of the tunnel. Thanks, Rebecca!
you sound like a psychopath ... Charly Sheen winning mode xD
Congratulations.
Great info, thank you for telling us the ways to survive and live a new healthy and happy life with no drama or rage.
I've started caling Narcissists NPCs
Narcissistic
Personality
Character
Helps me remember that in the long run, they have no real power over my story
Going through all of this right now after giving her 4 years of love and life, really need to hear this. Your channel and Andrew's is a lifesaver ❤️
Same thing is happening to me. I dated my ex-girlfriend for four years. Just for her to discard me and ghost me many times. Go from being nice to all of a sudden changing to be mean right away. And whenever I would be feeling down just for her not to care. My ex last texted me some time in June of this year. So, it's been about three months if you don't count June. And Andrew definitely helps out a lot. Especially with uploading videos every day. I spent about a year and seven months of trying to get my ex-girlfriend back. Because I always got those good memories coming back to haunt me. I'm finally starting to heal. Blocked my ex on everything even though she blocked me already on pretty much everything. I hope your healing journey goes well and wishing you the best. Even though we don't know each other. But dealing with what a narcissist does to us is so bad and hard to forget.
@@ChristmasTime. thanks for your words, i really feal for you and your story sounds like my own. I really gave her everything and allways helped her with a lot of problems, supporting her like a best friend and with thru love as a partner but allways the mind games and desinformation man playing behind my back. People/friends don't really understand this because the don't know how it was and how this do to you as a person, she went behind my back with guys when I was in surgery too intstead of being by my side 💔totally gutted and in a very dark place now...
I feal thesame I don't know you but can understand your pain my friend. Yes this channel gives a lot of information to try to grasp it while Andrew gives you healing so keep listening to him too it really really helps even if it's just for a moment but im there everyday and his words are really really needed. Keep thinking about all the things she did to you and not the few good memories, its important that you are true to yourself what really happend, but i know its really really hard when they do what they do and discard your soul. Keep your head high and talk in the communitys to find comfort❤️
@@ChristmasTime. I'm currently being ignored it's been like 4 days, I got blocked for 2 of those and unblocked last night n still didn't reply to me, it's really hurting me bad bc I spent everyday for 2 years with her, will they eventually talk to u again? Im so confused why someone would unblock me n still not talk to me, I'm not doin well at all, barely ate in 3 days n can't sleep
@@bullypit2913 Narcissists block us to make us feel unstable and crazy. They also like to know that they have power. Since they know how we feel about them. They might talk to you again. But sadly my ex narcissist would discard me about 7 or 8 times. She would barely text, take days to text, and never really care about what I was saying. Narcissistic people only care about the attention that we give them. But if the narcissist ever finds a new source they will start to discard you. The best thing to do is try to not think about that person, don't look them up on social media, and don't text that person if they aren't texting you. Also another good thing to remember is to remember how much time and energy you're spending on that person. While that person doesn't really care and isn't trying as much as you are. And one more thing I would recommend is to watch more videos about narcissist to learn about how they act. And I hope that you'll be able to start healing soon.
@@bullypit2913 Also if you're still together that's good. But definitely watch more videos on narcissist and how they act. So when something happens you will understand what that person is doing to you. Just wait for that person to text you back. I've been blocked and it definitely hurts. Not knowing why you're blocked and not being able to reach out to that person. I dated my ex for four years. Sadly spent about 7 months of hoping to get back with my ex while we were still talking. And then all of sudden my ex stopped messaging after we had a normal conversation. I would say it's been about a year. My ex had last texted me sometime in July of last year and then all of sudden just stopped texting me without saying anything.
When the business took a hit, they all Ghosted me except Jesus and the dog.
Sounds like a country song. Be strong; you'll get through it.
"You know what.. that's all you need Jeff😇
@@hggtg You are 100 percent correct, thanks.
@@lesterstone8595 Right next too "I married a Walmart Queen". Thanks
Jeffrey Baier your in good hands.
Ignored him first! Was tired of being called names.
Been on this chnnel for months now. And Rebecca has been a god send. Learning all these tricks my narc was doing was an eye opening experience. I'm deep in the discard phase right now. From wat I can tell she's moved on to another target again for the time being. I've been planning my success by immersing myself in my new hobby/career. She's only taken notice recently after ignoring me for weeks and she's been trying to get me bak under her thumb and in her pocket. Nah.....I'm good. Rebecca gave me scoop and I'm on my own path now. Cheers.
some don’t actually ignore, they try keep you at arms length and give you short responses. It’s grosssssss!
Have any of y’all ever dealt with a narcissistic son? In the last year my 22-year-old son has exhibited so many of these traights that I had to cut ties with him. It was so toxic. But I’ve never heard of anybody having a narcissistic son.
Oh I have a VERY narcissistic son. I had to cut ties with him or I was going to k_ll him.
I have a narcissistic son who has gotten worse after taking drugs. He's 34 and it's all about him. Drives me bananas. I am bringing up his two boy's 4 and 6 and when I visit him he is condescending to myself and his girlfriend. I don't want to let the kids see this so I usually leave. Then it's my fault. Can't wait to shift further away from him. He used to have such a kind heart but he can't see what he does.😪
Pamela Dawn Bar
Fun fact: Years ago I went to my doctor. I told him I was having difficulty keeping a relationship. I told him I believed I was bipolar/manic-depressive and wanted medicine for this. When he asked me why I thought this I replied well doc whenever 35 different women who have never met one another all say the same thing about you IT'S YOU! Before a problem can be fixed first you have to admit you have a problem which we know the narcissist will never do. I know this sounds cruel but sooner or later your kid will go to jail. Narcissistic behavior is NOT well received in lockdown. Stay strong, protect the children and ignore the blame fixing.
He is 22 and your son...beat his ASS
@@pameladawnbarnes136 Yes I feel the same way about my son. I thought I didn’t raise him this way I thought he was so loving and sweet but it turns out he was just being manipulative. It’s a hard pill to swallow because you wonder what you did for him to why not this way. I have a narcissistic father but he wasn’t in my children’s life very much so I’m trying to figure out how this dysfunction happened in my family what we can do to make it better. Can you make it better? I’ve prayed and prayed for my family
I think ignoring them back is not smart because then they know that you were offended by their action.
Awesome delivery!
Oh Lord, this is exactly what I needed.
I know I was randomly guided to this video and right on time 👍👍
Someone new I started dating only 3-4 weeks ago. Super manipulative. Emotional manipulation.
The love bombing, then disappear.
Some gaslighting and also blaming me for things that are really them.
Ignoring me, big time!
Disappear all day ..waiting for me to chase them.
Wanting me to beg to hangout. By beg I mean It can be suddle... like asking 3 times in a conversation, or agreeing to hang out then they go ghost and I never end up seeing them that day.
They want to piss me off, THEY WANT AN EMOTIONAL REACTION SO BAD.
I REALLY JUST WANNA PUNCH EM IN THE FACE!
Also Withholding sexual activities? Probably wanting me to beg.
THEY REALLY ARE DESPERATE TO FEEL NEEDED, MAKES THEM FEEL ALIVE.
I have been ignoring back. And now that I'm really on to them I'm already detaching and I honestly lost interest.
Had me fooled for a little bit. I have no problem moving on.
I already cut them off last week only for them to come creeping back in to apologize, lie, love bomb then start the cycle and ignore again! Lol
You even ruined the second chance that you didn't deserve.
It's unreal. It really is. It'll make you lose your mind! It'll make you extremely frustrated and that's what they want sadly.
I just want them out of my energy for good at this point.
Thanks so much for these videos Rebecca 🙏🏻they are helping me keep my sanity since I left my narc just over 6 weeks ago. Your videos have given me the strength and tools I needed to accomplish this 💕 I am so grateful
I'm still new to learning about this. My boyfriend love bombed me to death then when I fell hard back for him,she pulls back all the romance and planning our future. He's crazy! I don't get this type of mindset. Why would anybody want to behave like this and create drama and heartache? How on earth can you encourage them to stop this immature and insane behavior? He's a handsome older Puerto Rican man but is acting like a child. My gosh, I'm so angry. Help me. Thanks.
So proud of u
Don't obsess plan your success... Great line.
Subscribed!! In the midst of self care. Ignored by my narc. I confided in a trusted friend, gym, groceries, and volunteering. They definitely are 2 year olds!! Way to put it!
But don't you want to disengage from the narcissist completely because they are so toxic?
I know I must or I can't live this way..
Don't obsess, plan your success
going through this with my sister. she doesn't like it when I say no to her demands and so and put on ignore. I'm just going to go on with my life. I'm so tired of her antics as she does it all the time.
I am a composer, and I am an artist, a very serious, composer, and men don’t think that women are composers, and they like to ignore women who are not just there for their looks. There are some narcissistic men who just ignore women that they feel intimidated by.
I feel hurt when people who I thought I had connections with won't ask how I m doing unless I make first move ...
Am I narcissist if I m craving someone's attention or validation that I m worth someone's attention ? Like I m obsessed with thoughts " what's wrong with me ?"
I feel like it's happening so often that it feels like a pattern in my life....
Don’t obsess plan yourself success
I won't obsess, but I'll plan my success.
Don't be obsess , plan your success❤️😢 i will recite this everyday💕 thank you
They leave🪳👀🗣 and ignore to go feed their addictions its very sad exsistance!! Arrested Development!!🧠
Still hard to understand who is a narcissist or not. I feel we all have some of these charactistic. Wish in undergrads there was a class on this in Psychology. Would of been quite interesting.
I used to think that. No doubt now.
They don’t ignore you until! Think about this; your health portal, bank accounts, haircuts, m&p, fuel for your vehicle, mailbox, a person’s phone letting them listen in on your conversations. Text messages, your siblings, nieces, nephews, children, grandchildren, your life. Stalking until you can’t breathe, sleep, you lose yourself. Take your life back no matter the cost❤
“Don’t obsess plan my success!”
I adore all your advice and negotiation tactics
You are so amazing Rebecca. I wish I could be as calm as you
Thank you so much Mrs. Rebecca Zung. You have truly have helped me see a lot about people in my life. Seriously thank you. Now the healing can begin… for it is a slow process. Blessings to you and your family. Shabbat shalom sister.
My husband is on a quiet pity me mode. Your right.. He is trying a new game. I am enjoying the peace. I'm so far past numb. The abuse I've endured is unreal!!
🙏🙏🙏🙏
Same here.
I love when I'm ignored. I'll have health problems, been disabled since 2007. I'm literally on verge of a stroke!
I feel you 😪 me too I'm 41 and just now upstanding this
1:32 For the turning away of the simple shall slay them, and the prosperity of fools shall destroy them. Proverbs
I appreciate this so much!
Don't obsess...plan your success!!!! 💯😉
It's hard for me not to text my narcissistic ex-girlfriend. Only message my family and her. Lost so many of my friends after high school. Dated my ex for four years. Thate the longest I've been with someone. I text quick, respond to everything, and never take days to answer. While my ex does the opposite. And when my ex would get mad she would cuss, call me names, and then block before I could even reply. And then would unblock me days later. But now she just will pretend to be nice, tell so many lies, barely give any attention, and is so selfish. And I dont kmow what is worse. Being texted a lot of things and then being blocked. Or someone pretending to be nice to you and then they dissapear for days without say anything. Trying more and more not to text at all or feel bothered. But it gets hard at times.
Its happening to me right now… so hard to cope
I agree because the narc is afraid to talk to me . I need my stuff and he is sending it but he is using my father as the go between… what’s that about?
So I am pretty sure that he is maybe afraid of being held accountable…?
Help Rebecca… I am disabled & voluntarily went to a psychiatric hospital because I have chronic health issues & diagnosis was Major Depressive Disorder & PTSD. My father is getting tired of being the go between. But I have the Narc holding getting things sent to me over my head. What do I do?
@Cynthia Nadine same here. 😢
Thank you Rebecca! You have help me more than you can imagine. May God bless you Abundantly!!❤😊
Don’t obsess plan your success. Great mantra👏
In-law ignores me and ghosted me for no reason… she’s definitely a narcissistic individual. I don’t understand it , it makes me think over and over again why I did wrong?.
When I bring up a concern the ignoring and refusing to discuss an issue I’m concerned with. I decide to detach by expressing in need a break and don’t communicate.
Thank you Rebecca! 🙏⚖️
This is the best advice! Thanks Rebecca! I appreciate you so much..with it being summer I have plans and getting away with be great! Ignore them..I have tried but I like how you put it and I'm going to do exactly what you said in this video.
You inspire me to get a law degree and then work in psychology ha ha
Impressive background counselor!!! Thank you for being about your career and using it to help people!!!!!!
Don’t obsess plan your success!!!!!!!!! Yesssss!!!!!!!Told him I was under the weather on Saturday … radio silence every since. Obviously the two year old doesn’t know the difference between physical sickness and psychological sickness. LMAO! My mind is well! Boy Bye!!!!!!!!
Don't obsess, plan your sucess!!
1. Write to them and try to reason with them. When they dismiss it as a "paranoid rant" go to step 2.
2. Go to their door to try to reason with them face to face. When you anticipate that they're going to close the door on you don't put your foot in the door because they will call the police. Go instead to step 3.
3. Beg and offer to move garden furniture they find offensive and apologize for whatever it was you did to offend them. If they still ignore you go to step 4.
4. Make their life uncomfortable. If that doesn't work because they love it that you have reduced yourself to their level go to step 5.
5. Get all your evidence together and get a good litigation solicitor. Take them to court and sue the pants off them.
I love your attempts to make sense of the senseless ......it drives me crazy ,but you can handle it ✨✨✌️
Thank u. Im listening.
Ignore block and forget All you need to do
don't obsess, plan your success. I like that.
He’s got me really unhinged. 🙏
EILEEN plan now safely to stay SAFE.
Great!!! Peace & Quiet.....YES.
ENJOY.
Absolutely brilliant
Yes I blew it last night. I text her to wish her Happy New Year. She been NC since Thanksgiving. I'm suffering from Trauma Bond.
Don’t obsess plan on your success!
Don't obsessed, plan your success!!!
They give you the silent treatment before they kick you out of their life.
These are so amazing. Thank you!
I talk to their two year old as a third party and it has astonishing results.
Yes God is good
I owe you one , thanks a million times for your help ❤️
Thank you these Words of clarity!!!
Why did I don t know this lawyer in 86? I lost 2 houses through divorce and the sicilian mother in law paid my lawyers off!
Don't obsess, plan for success
Creation mode !!! Good tip 👌
Ignorance is used as a strategy, you need to shed that narcissist in your life, ghosting is used because it's manipulation, if they don't get your attention they'll drive you insane,communication is needed to preserve the relationship,don't play the blame game,if you don't keep your composure they'll get the impression that there annoying you, the plan is all about revenge💲✅