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This is a recent phenomenon of the last 25 years people were not this sociopathic 30 years ago.. a lot of the sociopathia narcissism has to do with the female cultural today
It’s like an electrical connection. It needs to arc between two points to come into existence. So when you don’t react, there is no connection. Don’t bring their insult into reality by reacting to it. My interpretation at least.
I spent years being abused by a narcissist and now I encounter them often in my work. Just yesterday I had one try to bully me over the phone. She threatened me once and I heard it (I see you, narcissist), she threatened me twice and I told her that she didn't need to do that (I know my truth and my truth is that I will not be your new supply). She then tried a different tactic to trigger me. All of this in just an 8 minute phone call, so I declined to work with her any further. Thanks Rebecca! I'm getting better at this all the time.
You literally have to be hella comfortable with yourself and remember your truth when ppl like this come at you. All they want to do is bait you into looking like the crazy one when it’s actually them.
@@janicerockwell8417 According tot he bible Jesus called Narcs a brood of vipers, which were the Pharisees who ultimately crucified Jesus. Bible also mentions have nothing to do with narcissists = 2 Timothy 3 👀
‘I see you’ as you project, lie, withhold, deny, betray, gaslight, provoke, deceive, cheat, minimalise, trivialise, discredit, slander, threaten, intimidate and silence. ‘WE’ see you!!! Our children are teenagers now, only a matter of time before they start to speak out!
3:07 " Know who you are ". You MUST Know your worth. Know that you are worth much more than those cheap scums who want to destroy you. Very good point Rebecca.
I am learning so much for you! I have a narcissist boss ( and soon ex husband) I've applied everything I've learned and they're evidently in shock over my transformation! Thank you !
Good analogy. Like getting arrested. And you always feel guilty that you've done something wrong when around them. You just don't know what the crime of the day is.
Listen like a lawyer, remain as emotionally detached as a therapist, and win the game by not playing it. Put what they find irresistible in their environment, and subtly let them know you put it there, letting them know that you can manipulate them, but they are no match for a narc-wounding bad-ass who is willing to burn down his own house to kill the rats. For work narcs I have relied upon short, cutting statements and total focus on the job, treating them as a minor detail that I dipense with quickly. They want to provoke, and by trying, they provide opportunity for me to provoke them, and IT IS SO EASY. If you are a people pleaser that believes that your coworkers are in fact, your friends, you will be hurt when the narc ends that charade. Outwork everyone else. Be punctual. Don't take any shit, but reply to it like a robot drill Sargent. This has worked well for me.
That's correct.. before I watch this video, my techniques are crucial to add today, that when the narc is in your physical proximity, NOT to pay them any kind of attention, whatsoever.. They lose it - and when they choose to throw these odd temper tantrums in an effort to discover the attention that is non-existent/not going their way.. LEAVE. No matter how/what they do things to get by, around you, do NOT pay them an ounce of attention, legitimately. This entails re-focusing on a cellular device, grooving to music, looking out the window.. I mean anything, simply do not allow for them to steal your efforts. Never. And once it begins to arise to toxicity, they become aggressive, terrifying etc Leave. Do NOT put up with that kind of attitude/behavior! That is their decision, and when they make the choice to begin raging or screaming, as best as you can attempt, 'escape' the situation as hastily as you shall desire to. This is my technique/method, it does continue to resemble the 'Greyrock' method, and whichever that is chosen to follow, they do function equally. The attention that is spared their way can and will endlessly fuel a blackhole.. they'll never receive enough attention/or admiration, again, whatever the circumstances are, my lovelies, the mission and goal for today, for the week even, is to stay humble, don't begin to drown in the horror. (Being humble does NOT ever mean letting yourself be silent when it's painful! Speak up when the events or situations become toxic and terrifying, again, whatever applies to the circumstances, friends.
This is so similar to a technique I have found has worked for me as well annnndd you can turn it up or down. Depending upon the narc or how you want the situation to go but wanna talk about narc injury and trigger then it's a good way and they are put on full display I love how you said leave as hastily as you wish and that was so profound it truly just depends on you and the situation and the narc but you have the control ...thanks for sharing because you conveyed this Perfectly sis
@@noracharles9366 sorry I have been too lately I'm praying for you to be comforted and assured and confident and strong and for all the fruits of the spirit to be blessed abundantly upon you and for you to learn whatever it is God is trying to you I have ti pray that for myself and remind myself there's a lesson in everything to kinda take a step back and access the situation or wreckage etc.....
Be the Observer : Be the ghost watching, ghost is not involved, only seeing & not kicking back. Meanwhile, you planning next move. Good Luck to us all !
I view narcissists the same way I view aggressive drivers on the road -- most of my energy is put toward keeping myself safe, under control, and non-reactive. It is easier when you see the problem arriving ahead of time instead of being surprised and shocked by something unexpected. Narcissists are more or less that driver who refuses to merge properly. Laugh at it an more on.
Thank you! I have been non reactive. I remain confident in exactly who I am, not what my narcissistic ex lies to everyone in his efforts to get ppl to hate me while he plays the false victim.
For years I’ve always begged him to let’s BOTH see a marriage therapist and tell our side & let them tell us what the problem was . He refused. But now my BEST defense is SECURITY CAMERAS with sound . I can’t defend myself to something I didn’t do or did do without proof. He HATES it so he stays gone 90% of the time . Win/win
I have this 3R rule: React? No Respond? No Remain? Yes Remain silent. Remain non expressive. Remain a safe distance. I believe stating the facts may be the same as defending yourself; a victim. Please correct me if I am wrong.
I walked away from my sister four years ago, who beat me, for the last time when I was 65. I get texts saying she's been shot, nah. Today I got a text from her saying 'I know you hate me but would you do me one favour'? NO, NO, No but I haven't responded. Curiosity is driving me nuts but after researching your advice, been there, done that and got the tee shirt.
My bad, i always felt the urge to just fight them back. Wipe their cowardly smug faces and make them realize how wrong they were. especially woth the covert passive aggressive narcs.. but you're right, it never works out. it's no use arguing with crayzees.. nothing they do made sense, so it's impossible to knock some sense into them either. It only made me look worse.
Oh geez, thank you for this video…I was bleeding all over the place with my narc mother. Philippians 4:8-9 came to mind when you said reprogram your thoughts to high vibrations. Oh How quickly the emotions can blackmail you…thank you!
Thank you for that verse. I'm struggling against my malignant narcissistic mother and thoses verses really embody the difference between me and her. I hope you are in a better situation. Matthew 19:29-30.
Nice video thanks for this information am married for 13 yrs living with this narcissist is like living in hell want to get out but don't know where to go
I have a narcissists female living above me. She has harassed me for 4 years now, my anxiety hit the roof,until I stopped the supply! I get immensely angry how she manages to get away with everything she has done. She, has now run me down to all my neighbours, I am now trying to look after myself and get on with my life. I do try and make light of it, but sometimes it can be hard. I really feel for her husband that has been brainwashed poor man. Thank you so much for giving me the information that I so need.
This was informative. Thanks for all you do❤️ U are truly a gem to us super empaths! I’ve experienced my first narcissistic relationship and my last💪🏾💯💯💯
I meditate.I walk and run to focus .I appreciate who I am.I act and move in rhythm. Accept what you are and work on those things that make me feel good about myself.I appreciate the differences in other people.
These are really good. Sometimes it gets really messy though, life happens and you lose control but these are excellent tips. Know your truth, is it true, clean it up, if it's not, move on ... observe, i like the windshield analogy. and then monitor your thoughts. that's a tough one for me but great to strive for. sigh. it's so hard. i want to go no contact but i can't right now.
That's the hard part. Keeping the emotional end out of it. Especially when he is flat out mean to you. I will practice I see you. Let them know they got your attention. I've learned the hard way, that the more you talk to him the more it will escalate. So use fewer words. It's taken me a long time to learn this.
I have learned a few words that work for me. I am not discussing this with you. Because no matter what I say I will be wrong and there will be criticism of me. That will probably go through theNarcissist entire family. He makes dialogue up to go along with his point of you.
Being an avid 'Treckie Fan' I took a leaf out of Spock's book and looked at things from a 'logical' point if view and kept my emotions under control. I found it a whole lot easier to cope with things. Words and treatment from a Narcissist will hurt like hell, but, they WON'T kill us. Detaching myself and using the Grey Rock technique helped me so much. And I felt stronger as a person. 🍒
@Ada Perez It means to show no emotion, or to keep your emotions under control so the Narcissist loses interest in trying to manipulate you etc and treating you horribly.
I already did all this alone. I didnt know I was super empath, but it seems I did what you teach. A marriage of 40 years with what I now know was a covert narcissist, was exactly what you describe too. I was totally puzzled as to why he could change on a dime, and so many other things that were not logical at all, is no longer a puzzle. Thank you for giving me answers. I like things put in place so I don't have to wonder anymore.
“Sawubona”, Africans for “I see you”. It is a greeting like “bon jour”. Got that one from a fictional history by Wilber Smith. My life sucks. I can’t get away. They’re everywhere. Home, work, family. No one to talk to and the ones I thought I could trust-betrayal and smear campaigns. I’m tired and alone. Oh time to go to work and get some more “love”. Just venting and praying all the time.
I feel like I’m getting better at this every day. Some days more than others but I have a mantra- “it’s not worth it, it’s not about me it’s about him”
“I see you!!!” Omg!!! This is amazing!!! Thank you so much, my dearest Rebecca!!! You were sent from heaven!!! I really need your advice and experience to deal with a narcissist husband I want to get divorce from but he doesn’t want to and he makes my life difficult!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
It’s really tough! I’m a work in progress Not reacting is soooo hard when you’ve been beaten down and treated like shit You sooo badly want to stand up for yourself The worst is when them and your own subconscious thoughts attack you at the same time It can be known to cause a supernova for real
Shes so right. Starting with my parents. Then wordt of all my first wife. If young people are not taught , but their models are their parents, you are probably already in a hole. Then a life time of re learning.
Hia Rebecca 💕yes i look at them and say to myself i see you. I keep my thoughts properly happy 😊 and enjoy listening to you and not listening to toxic people. 🙏❤️❤️❤️
I've been as optimistic as humanly possible for the past 14 years and my anxiety only got more intense and HE RUINED MY HEALTH!! LITERALLY!! That's what I got for staying optimistic while actively looking into every avenue to get help, and there HAS BEEN NONE... Now I can't WALK! I was an active and fit person, and I can't WALK. I'm someone with NO FAMILY AT ALL and NO SUPPORT SYSTEM AT ALL. To say I'm terrified is an understatement.
Thank you! When he had a temper tantrum I just said very calmly I can’t believe you just said that! Then after discard I sent him a copy of all the love bombing statements 🤣 I stated you never gave me a chance to respond.. I said that he needs to seek help regarding anger outbursts! I said no one deserves to be treated with disrespect And I said give me a call sometime to emphasize that I was not disturbed 😦 in the least! I said the reason I was hesitant is a feeling I had and now it was for good reason! I stated only the facts! Guess I am a real experienced non reactor!!! Thanks for making me feel better that I did the right thing!
thank you so, so much. Watching your highly informative and educational ( personally speaking) videos has been literally mind-blowing for me. I must learn to protect myself from my H whose behaviour is identical to the covert narcissist's one. Yet another video with golden nuggets of wisdom!
If it's not in an actual court environment then u certainly DON'T NEED to say a thing! If ur well whithin ur rights then no need to complain explain defend etc! Say nothing and avoid the narc if possible and stand tall n firm in ur self righteous glory! Let ur light shine on their darkness! The sun speaks for itself!
What your meditation teacher told you is basically the same thing I tell people. If someone says something about you that bothers your or hurts your feelings, if it's not true, don't let it bother you. If it is true and it needs to be changed them change it.
This is excellent. One thing I do now, which I find helpful……in m6 diary I write down 3 nice or positive o4 pleasant things I have achieved at the end of the day. This helps me stay focused. When I look back a few weeks it s good. Rather than thinking about the bad things happening. Eg . Made a great cake today. Went for a lovely walk with my dog. Started reading my new book. My friend phoned me. I bought some fab socks. Did some of my garden. Hope that helps someone!
I See You! Great video and thank you for the free resources that you give. You are an amazing woman and I wished I had found you 3 years ago when my ex never acknowledged that he almost took out my left eye. I found you because I listen to podcasts to do what you said: anything to stay positive. Ed Mylett interviewed you. I listened to that podcast 10 times.
You never explain, justify and overshare. I read the Four Agreements book many years ago and it is easy to forget sometimes when you deal with the narcissist that people never do anything because of you. People do things to others because of their internal issues not because of your problems. That being said the abusive narcissist in my life tried suggesting the book to me, trying to made me understand my own life…how ironic is that ?
i LOVE THE OBSERVE RATHER THAN ABSORB NATURE OF THIS VIDEO. LIKE WATCHING A TENNIS MATCH IS PERFECT. I DO TRY TO AVOID NARCS NIT PICKING ME FOR A REACTION BUT IT HAS BECOME AN EPIDEMIC.
Been watching you for the last couple years you've been very insightful this is the best video for my situation I've seen yet however you've helped me in many ways that I cannot explain thank you
I SEE!!! Thank you so much Rebecca. I really appreciate your videos but I must say I definitely needed to hear this one. I needed this wise wisdom you’ve shared to help me cope. Thank you so much, I appreciate you. I can’t say that enough. Such a valuable tool of professionalism you are indeed. Learning to be triggered NO MORE I am is a lesson I’m wanting and needing to learning. I’ll be practicing this valuable lesson for sure. Thank you for the wise wisdom you are teaching those who are in need, such as myself, to learning better and healthier coping skills. Indeed I SEE and thank you again!
I wrote a letter within 48 hrs of closing requesting a change in wording. It was delivered to my lawyer and the mediator. My lawyer said under no circumstances a change was possible. I don’t think that is true. Is he brushing me off to get rid of me. A very wealthy client gave my lawyer to me as a gift. I think the lawyer was threatened by my husband and/or took a bribe.
❤ Thank you for your time less wisdom and advice to help survivors never to give up. It is truly amazing watching them think they're batman and unseen. Creating smear campaigns but when caught red handed they threaten you with court. ❤️ ⚖️ 🪶
It is hard to do when it is your Adult child. It comes to the point where they say, I don't think you should come to my house anymore or talk to you, because you don't agree with them. So, now I haven't seen one of them since before Covid. then after a year, they say my grandchild misses me and they themselves want me in their lives, but I refuse unless he changes what he does to me.
Wow! Rebecca Zung nailed it with this one. It's difficult to find the right words to thank her because she's such a great teacher and influencer. Let me begin by expressing my gratitude. The subject is critical, and the presentation is outstanding. This has to be one of her most impressive videos. Just when you thought she couldn't get any better, she drops this video, which elevates her content quality and speaking style to new heights.
They think they do not have to abide by Hippa laws. I think everyone should abide by them more (and not just drs and therapists (joke).) because it can do harm and outright harm to those they do it to. I always kept my patients confidences. Always. I was the patient advocate, not the hospital advocate.
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Phillipians 4:8 Thank you for reiterating this Bible verse. You go girl!!!
I see you! This is what I write to those who unashamedly commit the #indigenous #genocide and brag about it...I call them out on it and use that phrase "We see you!" When it is this whole half of the world there is zero excuse to pretend not to see it! You channel is informative!
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I'm excited to see you all there!
I see you.
I see you
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I am the expert "non-reactor" to narcissist games because of the narcs in my family and work. These people are EVERYWHERE.
Truth
Truth trumps lies.
I see you !
Not everywhere. They are almost all around.. Not empat are inaff..
This is a recent phenomenon of the last 25 years people were not this sociopathic 30 years ago.. a lot of the sociopathia narcissism has to do with the female cultural today
If you refuse an insult then to whom does it belong. Never leave your thoughts unsupervised. This is gold.
It’s like an electrical connection. It needs to arc between two points to come into existence. So when you don’t react, there is no connection. Don’t bring their insult into reality by reacting to it. My interpretation at least.
That's how thank you for your honesty.
@@PSBore we do it ourselves because of our heritages and whatever they decided to write up about you unless you write it then that's your own too.
When someone throws an insult at u,throw it back!!Tell them it is not yours!! Tell them to keep it!
The best reaction is not to react at all. Just walk away! That works for me everytime!
How u do Dat
What do you do if a guy is mocking you and she laughs?
I spent years being abused by a narcissist and now I encounter them often in my work. Just yesterday I had one try to bully me over the phone. She threatened me once and I heard it (I see you, narcissist), she threatened me twice and I told her that she didn't need to do that (I know my truth and my truth is that I will not be your new supply). She then tried a different tactic to trigger me. All of this in just an 8 minute phone call, so I declined to work with her any further. Thanks Rebecca! I'm getting better at this all the time.
find another job and make sure you do not find more of the same there too. Peace out
You literally have to be hella comfortable with yourself and remember your truth when ppl like this come at you. All they want to do is bait you into looking like the crazy one when it’s actually them.
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02:56 1. Know your truth
04:59 2. Look at things as an observer
06:50 3. Never leave my thoughts unsupervised
Thank you, Yukio.
thank you for Wisdom; I wonder how many nice opportunities I missed ( when Mom or Father or Relative made Scenes)) I must Gain WISDOM,
Sounds biblical !
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According tot he bible Jesus called Narcs a brood of vipers, which were the Pharisees who ultimately crucified Jesus.
Bible also mentions have nothing to do with narcissists = 2 Timothy 3 👀
‘I see you’ as you project, lie, withhold, deny, betray, gaslight, provoke, deceive, cheat, minimalise, trivialise, discredit, slander, threaten, intimidate and silence.
‘WE’ see you!!! Our children are teenagers now, only a matter of time before they start to speak out!
3:07 " Know who you are ". You MUST Know your worth. Know that you are worth much more than those cheap scums who want to destroy you. Very good point Rebecca.
I see you! I’m finding it imperative to ignore their tactics...don’t give them any fuel!!!
Me too. Be strong. Stay the course.
...we can do this! ⚜💔
I see you.
Stay strong. If you mess it up, let it go... Stay fresh with a new start!
What do you do if a guy is mocking you and she laughs?
I am learning so much for you!
I have a narcissist boss ( and soon ex husband)
I've applied everything I've learned and they're evidently in shock over my transformation!
Thank you !
Wow.you really were amazing to have endured such a challenging situation.All the best after all of that
Good analogy. Like getting arrested. And you always feel guilty that you've done something wrong when around them. You just don't know what the crime of the day is.
So true 😩😩. Very draining …
Bro 😂 crazy analogy but spot on "walking on eggshells"
Listen like a lawyer, remain as emotionally detached as a therapist, and win the game by not playing it. Put what they find irresistible in their environment, and subtly let them know you put it there, letting them know that you can manipulate them, but they are no match for a narc-wounding bad-ass who is willing to burn down his own house to kill the rats. For work narcs I have relied upon short, cutting statements and total focus on the job, treating them as a minor detail that I dipense with quickly. They want to provoke, and by trying, they provide opportunity for me to provoke them, and IT IS SO EASY. If you are a people pleaser that believes that your coworkers are in fact, your friends, you will be hurt when the narc ends that charade. Outwork everyone else. Be punctual. Don't take any shit, but reply to it like a robot drill Sargent. This has worked well for me.
Oh my God! you are such a genius.I have learned from your write up.
That's correct.. before I watch this video, my techniques are crucial to add today, that when the narc is in your physical proximity, NOT to pay them any kind of attention, whatsoever.. They lose it - and when they choose to throw these odd temper tantrums in an effort to discover the attention that is non-existent/not going their way.. LEAVE. No matter how/what they do things to get by, around you, do NOT pay them an ounce of attention, legitimately. This entails re-focusing on a cellular device, grooving to music, looking out the window.. I mean anything, simply do not allow for them to steal your efforts. Never. And once it begins to arise to toxicity, they become aggressive, terrifying etc Leave. Do NOT put up with that kind of attitude/behavior! That is their decision, and when they make the choice to begin raging or screaming, as best as you can attempt, 'escape' the situation as hastily as you shall desire to. This is my technique/method, it does continue to resemble the 'Greyrock' method, and whichever that is chosen to follow, they do function equally. The attention that is spared their way can and will endlessly fuel a blackhole.. they'll never receive enough attention/or admiration, again, whatever the circumstances are, my lovelies, the mission and goal for today, for the week even, is to stay humble, don't begin to drown in the horror. (Being humble does NOT ever mean letting yourself be silent when it's painful! Speak up when the events or situations become toxic and terrifying, again, whatever applies to the circumstances, friends.
This is so similar to a technique I have found has worked for me as well annnndd you can turn it up or down. Depending upon the narc or how you want the situation to go but wanna talk about narc injury and trigger then it's a good way and they are put on full display I love how you said leave as hastily as you wish and that was so profound it truly just depends on you and the situation and the narc but you have the control ...thanks for sharing because you conveyed this Perfectly sis
Thank you for wise and concrete advices🙏🏼❤️
Screenshot on this one.
@@Tösa-f3x right I screenshot that shit too
Going through it REALLY bad today. Your words are 100% accurate ⚜🎯
@@noracharles9366 sorry I have been too lately I'm praying for you to be comforted and assured and confident and strong and for all the fruits of the spirit to be blessed abundantly upon you and for you to learn whatever it is God is trying to you I have ti pray that for myself and remind myself there's a lesson in everything to kinda take a step back and access the situation or wreckage etc.....
Be the Observer :
Be the ghost watching, ghost is not involved,
only seeing & not kicking back.
Meanwhile, you planning next move.
Good Luck to us all !
"I see you" never leave your thoughts unsupervised and keep your thoughts high!!!🙂 thank you for your strategies on narc interactions.
I SEE YOU. I meditate sometimes up to twice a day to just observe my thoughts and emotions and I promise you, it's easier in your day to not react
I listen to Rebecca Zung to keep me positive.
I view narcissists the same way I view aggressive drivers on the road -- most of my energy is put toward keeping myself safe, under control, and non-reactive. It is easier when you see the problem arriving ahead of time instead of being surprised and shocked by something unexpected. Narcissists are more or less that driver who refuses to merge properly. Laugh at it an more on.
I’m gonna listen to this every day! I wish I had a specialist attorney who knew how to deal with this in court best! Could have saved me 50k
same here
Thank you! I have been non reactive. I remain confident in exactly who I am, not what my narcissistic ex lies to everyone in his efforts to get ppl to hate me while he plays the false victim.
Doubt is a self fulfilling prophecy 😣 need to reject any doubt in your thought processes ; it takes a lot of time to reprogram your thoughts
For years I’ve always begged him to let’s BOTH see a marriage therapist and tell our side & let them tell us what the problem was . He refused. But now my BEST defense is SECURITY CAMERAS with sound . I can’t defend myself to something I didn’t do or did do without proof. He HATES it so he stays gone 90% of the time . Win/win
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Smart ! I wish you all the best!
🙏"I see you" not trggered, not reactive. 🙏🌹💝Thankyou, for this message.
“i see you!” Keep vibrations HIGH; Observe as a 3rd party👍🏼💯LOVE these! Keep thoughts in check, especially when speaking w a Narc👍🏼💯💯🌸💗🌸😁
I have this 3R rule:
React? No
Respond? No
Remain? Yes
Remain silent. Remain non expressive. Remain a safe distance.
I believe stating the facts may be the same as defending yourself; a victim. Please correct me if I am wrong.
I think that’s great, the only problem i find is the keeping silent part…….As it makes me more frustrated…..keeping it in all the time…..
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Don't engage if you don't have to!
I walked away from my sister four years ago, who beat me, for the last time when I was 65. I get texts saying she's been shot, nah. Today I got a text from her saying 'I know you hate me but would you do me one favour'? NO, NO, No but I haven't responded. Curiosity is driving me nuts but after researching your advice, been there, done that and got the tee shirt.
“I see you.” Thanks for making such great analogies to better function when engaging with narcissists.
My bad, i always felt the urge to just fight them back. Wipe their cowardly smug faces and make them realize how wrong they were. especially woth the covert passive aggressive narcs.. but you're right, it never works out. it's no use arguing with crayzees.. nothing they do made sense, so it's impossible to knock some sense into them either. It only made me look worse.
I see you my bullying narcissist brother. Going through tough times but watching these videos is helping and giving me tools to fight back. 🙏
"I see you", very cool. Getting blindsided is hard not to react too.
Oh geez, thank you for this video…I was bleeding all over the place with my narc mother. Philippians 4:8-9 came to mind when you said reprogram your thoughts to high vibrations. Oh How quickly the emotions can blackmail you…thank you!
Thank you for that verse. I'm struggling against my malignant narcissistic mother and thoses verses really embody the difference between me and her. I hope you are in a better situation. Matthew 19:29-30.
I put on my headphones and go to my tutoring… and manifesting is declaration!!!
Everyone should take this advice. Thankyou.
I can do this!!!! Slow down and remember… I know what’s going on … I listen to Rebecca Zung!!!!!
Nice video thanks for this information am married for 13 yrs living with this narcissist is like living in hell want to get out but don't know where to go
I have a narcissists female living above me. She has harassed me for 4 years now, my anxiety hit the roof,until I stopped the supply!
I get immensely angry how she manages to get away with everything she has done. She, has now run me down to all my neighbours, I am now trying to look after myself and get on with my life. I do try and make light of it, but sometimes it can be hard. I really feel for her husband that has been brainwashed poor man. Thank you so much for giving me the information that I so need.
This was informative. Thanks for all you do❤️ U are truly a gem to us super empaths! I’ve experienced my first narcissistic relationship and my last💪🏾💯💯💯
Narcissist end up being a training ground to make us stronger.
But they are meant to break us. Like Japanese pottery, God puts us back together.
Infact I feel that most of the time, empaths are their most suitable targets/victims.
I meditate.I walk and run to focus .I appreciate who I am.I act and move in rhythm. Accept what you are and work on those things that make me feel good about myself.I appreciate the differences in other people.
These are really good. Sometimes it gets really messy though, life happens and you lose control but these are excellent tips. Know your truth, is it true, clean it up, if it's not, move on ... observe, i like the windshield analogy. and then monitor your thoughts. that's a tough one for me but great to strive for. sigh. it's so hard. i want to go no contact but i can't right now.
That's the hard part. Keeping the emotional end out of it. Especially when he is flat out mean to you. I will practice I see you. Let them know they got your attention. I've learned the hard way, that the more you talk to him the more it will escalate. So use fewer words. It's taken me a long time to learn this.
I have learned a few words that work for me. I am not discussing this with you. Because no matter what I say I will be wrong and there will be criticism of me. That will probably go through theNarcissist entire family. He makes dialogue up to go along with his point of you.
Leave him, IMMEDIATELY
I like:. "Oh I can see you're upset"! That would send most narcissists into the stratosphere and scream: " Who me? I'm not upset"!
Being an avid 'Treckie Fan' I took a leaf out of Spock's book and looked at things from a 'logical' point if view and kept my emotions under control. I found it a whole lot easier to cope with things. Words and treatment from a Narcissist will hurt like hell, but, they WON'T kill us. Detaching myself and using the Grey Rock technique helped me so much. And I felt stronger as a person. 🍒
Spock is certainly a great role model !
What’s the grey rock technique?
@Ada Perez It means to show no emotion, or to keep your emotions under control so the Narcissist loses interest in trying to manipulate you etc and treating you horribly.
I already did all this alone. I didnt know I was super empath, but it seems I did what you teach. A marriage of 40 years with what I now know was a covert narcissist, was exactly what you describe too. I was totally puzzled as to why he could change on a dime, and so many other things that were not logical at all, is no longer a puzzle. Thank you for giving me answers. I like things put in place so I don't have to wonder anymore.
Thank You Rebecca, I will train myself to never leave my thoughts unsupervised. That the most important quote I've heard in a long time.
“Sawubona”, Africans for “I see you”. It is a greeting like “bon jour”. Got that one from a fictional history by Wilber Smith. My life sucks. I can’t get away. They’re everywhere. Home, work, family. No one to talk to and the ones I thought I could trust-betrayal and smear campaigns. I’m tired and alone. Oh time to go to work and get some more “love”. Just venting and praying all the time.
Don’t get in the trenches - brilliant advice. Thankyou so much for your very helpful videos!!
I feel like I’m getting better at this every day. Some days more than others but I have a mantra- “it’s not worth it, it’s not about me it’s about him”
“I see you!!!”
Omg!!! This is amazing!!! Thank you so much, my dearest Rebecca!!! You were sent from heaven!!! I really need your advice and experience to deal with a narcissist husband I want to get divorce from but he doesn’t want to and he makes my life difficult!!! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
It’s really tough! I’m a work in progress
Not reacting is soooo hard when you’ve been beaten down and treated like shit
You sooo badly want to stand up for yourself
The worst is when them and your own subconscious thoughts attack you at the same time
It can be known to cause a supernova for real
EXACTLY what I've been looking for in the last few days! Wow! Thank you so much!!!
I see you. They are everywhere I can see them now and not unsee them.
Very precious.Everyone who see this video please repeat it frequently to yourself. . Share it..
Do thank you Ms. Rebecca. .
God Bless you..
Shes so right. Starting with my parents. Then wordt of all my first wife. If young people are not taught , but their models are their parents, you are probably already in a hole. Then a life time of re learning.
I see you. Thanks Rebecca!
do the work, learn how to not react. it takes practice.
Hia Rebecca 💕yes i look at them and say to myself i see you. I keep my thoughts properly happy 😊 and enjoy listening to you and not listening to toxic people. 🙏❤️❤️❤️
Never leave your thoughts unsupervised! Thank you 💜💫
Wat u mean by that 🤔
I've been as optimistic as humanly possible for the past 14 years and my anxiety only got more intense and HE RUINED MY HEALTH!! LITERALLY!! That's what I got for staying optimistic while actively looking into every avenue to get help, and there HAS BEEN NONE... Now I can't WALK! I was an active and fit person, and I can't WALK. I'm someone with NO FAMILY AT ALL and NO SUPPORT SYSTEM AT ALL. To say I'm terrified is an understatement.
@Rebєçcα zung are you Rebecca or the imposter?? Bc, you do have an imposter offering to give consultations via Whassapp
Oh, I see you.
"I see you." Great video by the way, very insightful!
Thank you Rebecca! "I see you" and I understand more and feel better as I watch you and listen to you, Rebecca!❤️🙏⚖️
Health care workers are THE WORST at keeping confifences !!!!
My worst nivhtmare sister was the worst. i know how to spell so sorry for the typos.
@@robynrosner2259 sorry, but I don't understand what "keeping confidences" means! Just being honest! 🤔
Ditto !
Thank you! When he had a temper tantrum I just said very calmly I can’t believe you just said that!
Then after discard I sent him a copy of all the love bombing statements 🤣
I stated you never gave me a chance to respond..
I said that he needs to seek help regarding anger outbursts!
I said no one deserves to be treated with disrespect
And I said give me a call sometime to emphasize that I was not disturbed 😦 in the least!
I said the reason I was hesitant is a feeling I had and now it was for good reason!
I stated only the facts!
Guess I am a real experienced non reactor!!!
Thanks for making me feel better that I did the right thing!
I see you! Excellent. Thank you for the advice, especially appreciate No. 3 about keeping thoughts under control
Contemplating by using Right View.
thank you so, so much. Watching your highly informative and educational ( personally speaking) videos has been literally mind-blowing for me. I must learn to protect myself from my H whose behaviour is identical to the covert narcissist's one. Yet another video with golden nuggets of wisdom!
If it's not in an actual court environment then u certainly DON'T NEED to say a thing! If ur well whithin ur rights then no need to complain explain defend etc! Say nothing and avoid the narc if possible and stand tall n firm in ur self righteous glory! Let ur light shine on their darkness! The sun speaks for itself!
You have absolutely gave me the tools to reclaim my self!!!
Kathy Lethem,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🌷,hope you are not with a narc 😈!
You can contact me here on whatsapp for consultation
I always listen to Jack Jones on my way to work. Puts me in a good place.
Thank you so much for your wisdom. You are helping me a lot. ❤️
What your meditation teacher told you is basically the same thing I tell people.
If someone says something about you that bothers your or hurts your feelings, if it's not true, don't let it bother you.
If it is true and it needs to be changed them change it.
Thank you for great advice on how not to react. Super valuable.
I SEE YOU I SEE YOU
I SEE YOU.
Clementine Rounds,You got a lovely smile 😊 dear
This is excellent. One thing I do now, which I find helpful……in m6 diary I write down 3 nice or positive o4 pleasant things I have achieved at the end of the day. This helps me stay focused. When I look back a few weeks it s good. Rather than thinking about the bad things happening. Eg . Made a great cake today. Went for a lovely walk with my dog. Started reading my new book. My friend phoned me. I bought some fab socks. Did some of my garden. Hope that helps someone!
I See You!
Great video and thank you for the free resources that you give. You are an amazing woman and I wished I had found you 3 years ago when my ex never acknowledged that he almost took out my left eye.
I found you because I listen to podcasts to do what you said: anything to stay positive.
Ed Mylett interviewed you. I listened to that podcast 10 times.
You never explain, justify and overshare.
I read the Four Agreements book many years ago and it is easy to forget sometimes when you deal with the narcissist that people never do anything because of you. People do things to others because of their internal issues not because of your problems. That being said the abusive narcissist in my life tried suggesting the book to me, trying to made me understand my own life…how ironic is that ?
I see you. I love being an observer!
"I see you" that's perfect. Thank You!
Excellent advice Rebecca. Thanks very much
You got that right anything you say or do will be held against you
I SEE YOU…!! Thank you..!! I get it..!!
i LOVE THE OBSERVE RATHER THAN ABSORB NATURE OF THIS VIDEO. LIKE WATCHING A TENNIS MATCH IS PERFECT. I DO TRY TO AVOID NARCS NIT PICKING ME FOR A REACTION BUT IT HAS BECOME AN EPIDEMIC.
Been watching you for the last couple years you've been very insightful this is the best video for my situation I've seen yet however you've helped me in many ways that I cannot explain thank you
thank you so much, I became an observer and became non-reactive.
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I SEE!!! Thank you so much Rebecca. I really appreciate your videos but I must say I definitely needed to hear this one. I needed this wise wisdom you’ve shared to help me cope. Thank you so much, I appreciate you. I can’t say that enough. Such a valuable tool of professionalism you are indeed. Learning to be triggered NO MORE I am is a lesson I’m wanting and needing to learning. I’ll be practicing this valuable lesson for sure. Thank you for the wise wisdom you are teaching those who are in need, such as myself, to learning better and healthier coping skills. Indeed I SEE and thank you again!
My favorite book!!!!! That book changed my life. The four agreements!
I wish my shingles didn’t come out from his stress. Yuk. I got physically sick during divorce. The fire - way he burned me became very physical.
I wrote a letter within 48 hrs of closing requesting a change in wording. It was delivered to my lawyer and the mediator. My lawyer said under no circumstances a change was possible. I don’t think that is true. Is he brushing me off to get rid of me. A very wealthy client gave my lawyer to me as a gift. I think the lawyer was threatened by my husband and/or took a bribe.
Help. I go in front of the judge beginning of November. My SS check is garnished cuz of the narcs identity theft of me.
❤ Thank you for your time less wisdom and advice to help survivors never to give up.
It is truly amazing watching them think they're batman and unseen. Creating smear campaigns but when caught red handed they threaten you with court. ❤️ ⚖️ 🪶
One of your best videos
It is hard to do when it is your Adult child. It comes to the point where they say, I don't think you should come to my house anymore or talk to you, because you don't agree with them. So, now I haven't seen one of them since before Covid. then after a year, they say my grandchild misses me and they themselves want me in their lives, but I refuse unless he changes what he does to me.
Thank you so much Rebecca! You are awesome & help me so much❤️
Wow! Rebecca Zung nailed it with this one. It's difficult to find the right words to thank her because she's such a great teacher and influencer. Let me begin by expressing my gratitude. The subject is critical, and the presentation is outstanding. This has to be one of her most impressive videos. Just when you thought she couldn't get any better, she drops this video, which elevates her content quality and speaking style to new heights.
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Love this video, it's very informative. Thank you! 🙏❤💯
Monica,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🌷,hope you are not with a narc 😈!
Perfection 🌈⚡️🐂⚡️🌈 when you say rewire them 🦄🧬🦄 and your video “rewires” 🌈💎🌪💎🌈8:44
They think they do not have to abide by Hippa laws. I think everyone should abide by them more (and not just drs and therapists (joke).) because it can do harm and outright harm to those they do it to. I always kept my patients confidences. Always. I was the patient advocate, not the hospital advocate.
Rebecca made a thought provoking video which hit home in slow motion
I see you!
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Phillipians 4:8 Thank you for reiterating this Bible verse. You go girl!!!
I see you! This is what I write to those who unashamedly commit the #indigenous #genocide and brag about it...I call them out on it and use that phrase "We see you!" When it is this whole half of the world there is zero excuse to pretend not to see it!
You channel is informative!