I was genuinely worried about this because it seemed like it was overlooked but the possibility of children being present while this man did it was a horrifying thought! This sounds more like a mental disability than a humility kink in my experience with an ex partner who has a humility kink.
Good point. Plus, is this guy going around pissing in peoples homes? On the furniture? On living room carpet? He sounds like an absolute AH. Not only is that horribly rude, but he could be exposing others to his bio waste.
@@CCommans “For instance, the DSM-5 says that for a kink or fetish to qualify as a paraphilic disorder, the arousal pattern/behavior” “must create significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.
The kink story is full sexual assault, performing a kink in public where other people have to be a participant in the kink is just sexual assault. Its so creepy that the wife is ok with it, also who cleans up the pee after he pees everywhere???? Sure his pants catch some, but like it must get on the floor or upholstery. I wouldn't let him in my house without a diaper on, you have to make allowances and such for medical and disabilities, but you can't be expected to accommodate someone who would even wear a diaper to not piss on your stuff.
100%. He may not be able to help what turns him on, but if he can't go 1 day without engaging in his kink in public in front of an unconsenting audience, he needs professional help. Hard not to see him as a some sort of sex offender tbh.
Agreed, there's two sections of kinks and his falls more into the second group that aren't even referred to as kinks, they're philias (I.e. pedophilia) because they involve harming or putting other people in distress. He needs professional help because this is NOT just a kink, it's a problem
EXACTLY! Also, has he been doing this infront of children at family gatherins? This is happening to family, with out concent, possibly kids, and she is complicit in this.
The piss story is literally so ridiculous and the wife is an enabler. Plenty of people have kinks that they don’t have to push onto other people, people may have a public exposure kink but it still affects others and is illegal.
Update in the pee story: The post was actually written by the husband and whether or not the story is true, he allegedly got off from the humiliation on Reddit. I saw a few screenshots a while back but can't remember if he admitted it or if it was revealed in the comment thread.
Not kink shaming, but he sounds like a legit pervert to me. To involve random people in your kink with no boundary of consent is fucked. He needs help.
The last story is so touching. The way the dad talks about his son so normally. He doesn’t feel the need to explain his son beyond what’s relevant to the story and just hearing how they worded the story was awesome.
I totally agree if my sil couldn't be there it wouldn't be perfect to me because my brother and niece wouldn't be happy either why would he want to come if his husband can't
I agree and I think she needs to adjust her priorities. One "perfect" wedding day vs the rest of her life feeling like shit for excluding her brother's husband.
Especially since she made it sound like they were friends but didn't like the future in laws, why not give them a babysitter to make sure the in laws stay in line
I couldnt event imagine making my brother feel like he cant be himself or cant bring his partner to my wedding. the brother in law is part of the family and should be there. let the parents in law get their knickers in a twist then and kick them out if need be
First impression: Kinks and consent have to go hand in hand. You cannot “share” your kink with someone who isn’t consenting or even acknowledge that this is actually something s4xual for you. A good and supportive partner in my opinion absolutely SHOULD talk to their SO, not only they’re lying to their family, but they’re literally getting turned on about that. Do not put her family in a situation like that, some cities have kink or fetish clubs with theme nights and they probably have some piss fetish theme parties or something. So they should look up whatever they’re interested in and go with it. He should seek therapy and not sexually harass her unknowing family. BUT WE’RE NOT DONE: Ok so it looks like the story (real story or not) has been written and posted by the husband himself, posing as his wife. Now I’m wondering if his kink has really just to do with peeing or with being humiliated. Still, whatever his king might be, he should consider seeking therapy and I hope he can get a good support system. Too many lies and too small consent.
Exactly. Pretty much anyone would agree that for example exposing yourself to people without consent is wrong, these things are equal in my mind. While nobody is getting physically hurt from it, it absolutely is damaging involving unconsenting people in your sexual acts and it does not matter if the people know that you're doing it for sexual gratification or not.
Hearing that the husband wrote it just makes everything come full circle. Trying not to think about it, but it’s messed up that he probably did it knowing he would get humiliated in the first place… and now we’ve all been a part of his kink…
I’ve been binging THT episodes and in almost every episode the timestamps in the comments are incorrect. No hate but is this a joke/meme I’m not getting?
@@pheebo42I've seen this too, and it's really annoying. I keep having to rewind a lot, then fast forward a bit, then rewind a bit, and it's just back and forth till I actually find the correct story
for the cake story: the kid was EIGHT i don't even feel like he was peer pressuring especially since he wasn't shaming or embarassing him in any shape way or form you can tell how young he is by explaining to his friend its a "good cake because its my birthday cake" :(
Well he even said it’s a good cake because it was homemade and not store bought so it shows that his mother also has standards on what she’s feeding him
also with the cake story it’s likely that the friend wasn’t even peer pressuring him. he was probably hurt that his friend said that his moms cake had bad stuff in it and was just defending the cake to his friend. if anything the mom needs to talk to her own son about not making others feel bad when they eat foods that contain sugar
literally they are EIGHT YEARS OLD!! he was def like no what my mom is so good there can’t be bad stuff in it. kids don’t understand gmos and shit good lord
From the way the story went I thought the shawls were going to be delicately woven and femininely draped over their shoulders.... these shawls look quite masculine to me!
They are literally apart of my culture and men in our part of the continent wear them on a daily basis. So it was very weird that the girls were weird about it cause men from the country I’m from pride themselves on their masculinity so they don’t think it makes them less manly. Western culture i guess.
hey there- religious studies major here! your take in the first story about the origins of "homosexual" in the bible are correct! the word "homosexual" originated in germany in the late 1860s and was not added to the bible until the 1940s as a substitution language used in the greek translations that loosely means "pervert". Its important to note that the bible is a compilation of letters gathered from disciples that were deemed the most worthy and have been translated multiple times under multiple political and social lenses, often to benefit those in power. This means that letters exist that have not been deemed "worthy" and that the context and language has been manipulated over time. This is not to say the bible isn't valuable, but rather to add context to the way we view and utilize it.
This is truly fascinating, it deserves its own video! I have questions, and I’d love to ask my questions to someone who will answer in layman’s terms. Could you briefly discuss how the Bible… I guess how the Bible views/describes/sees homosexuality? If the Bible version matters, the one most used, either King James or NIV. I really appreciate your input, as well as your reply. Your subject study matter is so interesting! I could probably listen to you talk about it for hours and hours!💜
I love this, and I was just telling someone this EXACT thing almost verbatim the other day. Glad to see somebody else has done their research and still sees the Bible as a valuable tool, but one that still needs discernment, as it has been manipulated over thousands of years to benefit agendas.
Whether or not the wording was changed- this still remains fact: God created Adam and Eve and explained the marriage bond Genesis 2:18-25. Jesus (God as man) then came to the earth and re-stated this, affirming it to still be an applicable law (unlike the old ceremonial laws that He abolished.) Matthew 19:3-6 Jesus says that male and female were made to come together and not be separated. If Jesus approved of homosexuality, the One who knows all, wouldn’t He have used more *inclusive* language here… knowing that there would be a massive misunderstanding in this area one day? Jesus did not inclusive language. He specifically said what He said for a reason. It’s tough to accept. But if it helps, homosexuality is just as hated by God as ALL sexual immorality. That is- any sexual relations outside of the marriage bond between a man and woman. He hates peds, cheating, abusing pets, etc. And remember this: not understanding/liking how God works doesn’t make Him any less real.
@@Lavenderbaby Lol, why are you writing like someone was there writing transcripts of what Jesus says. The accounts were written decades later in some cases. No one knows if/what was said let alone the likelihood of accurate recalling decades later of random conversations LOL then again that kind of logic requires an acceptance of reality vs. fantasy.
Ugh, I'm binge watching your old videos. I can't get over how kind and sweet Justin is. I mean, don't get me wrong. I love Lauren, Alejandra, your dad, and all your guests, but there is something about hearing you and Justin talking together that is so reassuring and comforting. You guys stay validating people's experiences and fighting for justice. Your chemistry is magnetic ❤️
My one like he MIGHT be the AH for giving son the pearls is if this cousin aka niece actually had a relationship with the mom and then was hurt that she was forgotten and someone got the pearls that never knew the women. Again idk the full story so with what I have NTA but if it’s the case that this man got EVERYTHING and then was finally able to give something away and it wasn’t even to someone that had a relationship with his parents I would be hurt to. As someone that lost a parent
The eight year old story breaks my heart. As someone who has struggled with an eating disorder, what this mom is doing is going to create one for this kid. I speak from personal experience. He's going to learn how to be secretive and hide food in his room and things like that. Also, this is crazy because didn't OP say that the friend's mom made the cake? That means it would be even better than store bought cake and I get that there can still be preservatives in it but still a whole lot different than store brought. Also it's a birthday party like what does OP do for her son on his birthday. Does she make him eat a veggie platter or something? Like wtf. This mom is making life miserable for her kid. Also my thing is what does the dad think? I just hope this kid ends up okay.
Okay I haven’t even gotten to this story yet but this already sounds like my mother growing up. Here’s all I need to say lol - my dad told me once I was an adult, he was considering leaving my mom for a while but the final straw was when I was 13, came downstairs to tell my mom that I needed new bathing suits, and she said “well if you would stop gaining so much weight you wouldn’t need new swimsuits” …my dad told me that any mother who would say that to their 13 year old daughter is not someone he wants to be with. He left and soon after I moved in with him lol
Okay listened now, and can confirm that was my mom! Fruits and veggies for snacks, we didn’t have any snack food or soda in the house. And it did exactly what Lauren said! When I went to friends houses I GORGED on their junk food. It’s just funny bc restricting childrens diets that extremely just has the opposite effect once the parent isn’t around
Me with a binging disorder and anorexia. I never learned to self regulate. I wish parents understood that projecting their bullshit doesn’t help anyone
shawl story: but also can we please stop trying to judge peoples sexuality based off their clothing preferences. its 2022. we should know by now that clothing preferences, gender expression and sexuality are all separate issues. this ignorance is dangerous.
@@alleyj826 period. And the stupidity of it all. He literally took his clothes off and literally fully had sex with her, then after the fact, she asks him if he's gay!?! After he was just having sex with her female vagina???? I can't.
For the cake story. I'm an ED recovery. I also have a 2yo and I have learned that restriction does more harm than good, and labeling things as good or bad, healthy and unhealthy is actually doing the opposite. Why? Because chocolate tastes good, but if you label it as a bad food, then they are going to start associating that bad stuff is awesome. In my particular case what has been working like a charm is to serve food with the dessert. All together. And yes, there are days when she only eats the dessert. But also we have days where she tastes a bit of the dessert and then proceeds to eat everything else on the plate. So to me it's not about restricting but rather helping her develop a healthy relationship with food. All kinds of food
The last story has an update: OP talked to the cousin, and it seems it was less homophobia and more that the cousin was bitter that the pearls were originally gifted to OP and not her (she was technically the next woman in line in the family, but OP's mother had a falling out with her brothers years before dying). The cousin also wanted to make sure the history of the pearls and what the family went through was passed down as well. Both OP and his cousin are still grieving, talked things out, and are now on better terms. The cousin said she won't bring up the pearls again. OP also mentioned in his update that he is slowly parting with more of his late parents' possessions and is giving them to his children. So altogether a positive update :)
this is nice to see. I saw the post when it was still new and many of us suggested that the cousin was upset because OP's son was not blood related to the family which was why she said it had "left the family". But this is much better to see! What a lovely outcome
I couldn’t imagine breaking up with my boyfriend because he came home with a shawl 🤣🤣🤣 sure it’s her right to not want to be with him but she clearly didn’t really Love him if that’s all it took
Ok so the poop jar one, the worst part isn’t even the fact of him keeping the jars of poop or him pooping in the jars, it’s the fact that he snapped and put his hands on his wife in order to try to protect them. It’s terrifying to have someone you thought you knew turn into that in the blink of an eye
Lauren's comments are always my favorite. She has a way of viewing all sides and providing a window into their POV without advocating for bad behavior. Her answers are always so nuanced and she's always ready to take other's opinions on board. WE NEED MORE LAUREN!!! :)
The jar story honestly reminds me of this murder case. Where this 13-year-old boy visited his dad's house and found photos of his dad eating his own feces, wearing diapers, and then eating from the diapers. The boy showed his dad like all confused, and his dad murdered him to cover it up. So when she said her husband was violent towards her, I wouldn't be surprised if this was such a dark secret that maybe he *was* going to do something violent in order to keep it from coming out.
About the kink story. Im not an active participant in the kink/bdsm (the partners kink falls under that category) but I've been working to become more kink informed. What op's partner is doing is very frowned apon because an important aspect of kind&bdsm is consent and negotiation; op's family is unaware they're participating in the partner's kink and therefore can't consent. That's fucked. The fact that op is even letting the partner involve their family in the kink is not just shitty but (imo) borderline incestuous. The partner not being aloud at the wedding is their own fault. If op really wants her partner to be aloud tell the fiancée that he's agreed to ware a diaper (even if they aren't) and don't allow the partner to pee themself. I'm baseing my opinion and education on a TH-camr called Evie Lupine she's a kink/bdsm educator who's been in the scene for 6 years. Her content is educational and not really graphic. Also his kink is one that can be controlled and if not its a paraphilia(i believe that the right word) and the partner need to seek professional help. Also I say op and partner a lot because I can't remember their pronouns.
After reading several other comments, apparently in this story, the story was actually written by the husband (the one with the piss kink) and not the wife (who we are supposed the believe is the op)
Agreed. It's not OK to involve unsuspecting people who are not consenting in on your sexual kink. Would it be OK if he was jacking off in front of family? Taping other people changing? Fuck no. It's a similar thing with this.. These people do not consent and do not want to be a part of his kink. It's just so unethical to assume that what someone doesn't know won't hurt them and therefore, it's OK. It's not OK.
As someone in the little community, not adult baby / diaper lover but adjacent, I think it's weird he's involving her family in his kink. There is a time and a place for that, and you shouldn't announce it to the class full of unconsenting people. If he was incontinent I'd understand but she clarified that it isn't medical. Man needs to start wearing diapers and not practice this in public.
I thought something similar. There is a difference in enjoying a kink you have vs using unconsenting people to satisfy your kink. Also, there are many people with a variety of kinks and most I would say could put kinks aside out of respect for a time and place for example a wedding. I feel if he is unable to to differentiate when the kink is appropriate to practice and when it would be more respectful not to then maybe he should see someone who specializes in those type of circumstances.
Yeah, there's nothing wrong with getting off to consenting people but doing it to unconsenting people AND doing so because you "can't help it" all the while doing it because it is for sexual reasons??? This isn't a kink, it's a fetish and one that isn't under control which makes it into a sexual disorder. His kink may be to humiliate himself but his fetish is to get off from unconsenting family members, that means he has incest as his fetish. He has incestuous ideas and his wife is normalized it. She may think that it's all innocent and shit but does she really know that he isn't doing more than just peeing himself infront of family when she isn't around??? Like all people with fetishized sexual disorders, if you give an inch people will take a mile. In a healthy kink the people involved are under total control of the situation and consenting. Since OPs husband has no control over his sexual acts, it's only a matter of time that he becomes a sexual predator. Definitions for people that aren't in the bdsm community: Kink: an act or scenario where the people involved are consenting to be involved for pleasure. The pleasure may be sexual in nature but not always the case. Fetish: a strictly sexual desire where gratification is linked to an abnormal degree towards a person, body part, idea or object. Sexual disorders: a range of disorders of which the person has uncontrollable symptoms related to sexual acts or ideas that affects the people involved in a significantly disruptive way.
This!!! Involving people in your kink (which is inherently sexual) without their consent is so gross and unnecessary. I’m sure with some research he could’ve found a crowd that would willingly participate
I completely relate to the candy thing!! My parents had buckets in the pantry that had my candy and my brother's and we would maybe grab something every once in a while but we never over did it because it was always there. Making something seem unattainable is so damaging because later you have to make choices for yourself you don't know how to balance and you go for all the things that were once unattainable and going from one extreme to another. Balance is HEALTHY this whole concept of one or the other with no middle ground has never made sense to me. Probably just how I was raised but too much of a good thing can be a bad thing and can have detrimental effects on you later in life.
for the cake story: I grew up in a food-restricting household as a kid, not as bad as OP but along the same lines. Now, as an adult, I really struggle with disordered eating which blew up for me in college when I moved out and it can all mostly definitely be traced back to my upbringing.
the part where morgan was talking about being on a coin subreddit in order to buy a coin for justin and he just whipped out the necklace with the coin ?? SO CUTE
justin was me listening to the pee story. i feel bad for the bride-to-be sister because op is basically gaslighting her into ruining her wedding because she allowed this bs to go on for so long. being a spouse means supporting eachother by making eachother better and staying strong during hard times. she's enabling him by not encouraging him to seek help and bringing a change of clothes for him when they go out or visit family?? how messed up do you have to be to subject your family to this.
For the first story, if this couple has kids someday, and one of their kids comes out as LGBTQ+ - are they just gonna hide them from all family functions?
For the story about the cake: I went to high school with a kid who’s mom was the exact same way with what she ate. She was SO strict. I’ve never seen a kid hoard and binge junk food the way she did. You aren’t doing your kid any favors.
For the cake story: I’ve been that kid. My siblings are currently those kids and I went crazyyyy once I got to college. I ate terribly and drank all the time, tried ALL the things if you know what I mean. I wasn’t allowed to eat popcorn so I hid it in my locker at school and ate it for lunch every day. Restrictions did nothing but make me go crazy when I finally got my freedom. I’d sneak my restricted food any time I could. Mainly at school or friends house. Being strict does nothing but make kids sneaky. I’m living proof.
Omg, finally it's being talked about! People can use a pole for exercise, I am 14 and me and my family have one. We use it for exercise and it's so much fun and I'm so happy that people actually understand it's other meaning !!!
I love the story about the pole in the house. THAT story right there is why you should always just be yourself!! Sure, maybe they would have freaked out and been terrible about it. But sometimes, people can surprise you, and it may turn into a great experience like that one. Love it!
On the birthday cake story: OP is hurting her kid more than she's helping. My best friend had these things drilled into her head growing up and she almost died from an eating disorder (she's healthy now. Don't worry). It has been well researched that you shouldn't demonize sweets. If you normalize it, they will eat more variety. My son turns one in a few weeks and I plan on getting him a smash cake. I've had some pushback from family about it and I keep telling them "it is one single day and its a special occasion." We all know broccoli is more nutritious than chocolate cake but that doesn't mean you can't enjoy the chocolate cake. I fully respect having rules in your own house (within reason) but it's a fucking birthday party. Let loose, grab a margarita, and let the kid have fun. It is really not that deep.
@@abigailsandoval2632 we didn’t do a photo shoot (I can’t afford that stuff and it’s cute but I don’t really see a point. I used to be a photographer and got these clients all the time). but we did take lots of pics at the party. It was really fun.
Came here to say: the cake story bothered me so much. My parents did this, restricted EVERYTHING I ate and had me on “healthy/low calorie diets” from a young young age. They were obsessed with dieting and disguised it as trying to be “healthier”. This absolutely leads to eating disorders. I had anorexia for a while which I’ve barely recovered from. If it weren’t for my bf reminding me to eat I wouldn’t. Don’t do this to your kids that’s just trash.
I relate to Lauren so much because that high 5 at the end is 100% my level of social awkwardness and I feel that embarrassment she just felt to my core ♥️ awesome show you guys. I ran out of new episodes a long time ago and get so excited when I see new ones go up!
Cant help but notice your plate in hello fresh photo. I treasure mine. My mom loved her grandmother's plates and I think started her own set at her wedding. She gifted the set to me after downsizing, I adore them but don't often randomly see them.
When you mentioned the Starbursts Jellybeans, I instantly went nuts! My whole family LOVES those jellybeans, especially the ones that come out for Easter. We always keep a big stash of the tropical flavored ones in a cabinet.
Yea after listening to this episode I randomly remembered the one where the husband(?) was feeding his wife slugs and I really don't hope it's what I think it is...
in relation to the cake story and the food scarcity making ppl more attached to a specific kind of food: my mother grew up in the far north and any veggies they had were canned except for specific herbs and roots for a couple months of the year. when she was growing up, anything canned was salted to shit and super mushy so she hated canned veggies. when she was a teenager, she moved down south and had fresh veggies for the first time and she fell in love with how refreshing they were. even today, with all her kids grown up and moved out, she still makes sure there is at least one vegetable dish on the table at meal times.
I honestly love how many ads you do, most influencers/TH-camrs are so wary of doing too many at the same time but like you’ve just really normalised like for a lot of people nowadays this is an income and there’s no shame in that!
For the one about the kid's birthday cake, I related to first hand. My mom was that parent that wouldn't allow gluten, dairy, proccessed sugar, or anything "unnatural" in the kitchen. This left my sister and I to seek out whatever food we could beucase there were so few options in our house. At school when it was lunchtime, all we had in our bags were clemontines and celeary sticks. We were not allowed to eat school lunch so we would sometimes have to ask for whatever our friends didn't eat. I was terrible and would steal other people's lunch numbers so that I could eat a meal. I still feel guilty about that to this day. I am 21 now and got out of ED treatment last year and my sister is working with her therapist to seek similar treatment. If you are a parent and are restiricting your kid's diets past what they are allergic to, you are creating unhealhty habits and boundaries with food. Your kids will find a way around it and become sneaky. It is not worth the resentment and future therapry bills.
I am sooo glad that I watched this episode instead only listening to it while doing saturday shopping like I usually do, because Justin's faces were priceless! 😅😂Great episode!
About the kink; From my understanding, when you're not in control and it becomes obsessive-compulsive, it goes from a kink to a paraphilia that needs treatment. It seems to be adjacent to OCD, with intrusive thoughts and being obsessive-compulsive. I get what the wife is saying, about having vowed loyalty. However, I think this black/white understanding of loyalty as "stand by his side and support what he does" is really harmful. Rather than helping him address how much his paraphilia is obstructing his life and seeking treatment and therapy, she is enabling behaviour that is hurting her, her family and him. It sounds like he's struggling and ashamed, and that it's putting a strain on his relationships. My advice would be to go to the wedding - for sure. Celebrate with husband at a less sensitive time. For him to go into therapy and seek treatment. And honestly, for the wife to seek treatment as well, cause her normal meter is off right now, and she doesn't have to tools to deal with these complex situations in a healthy manner. The husband definitely shouldn't go to the wedding. Right now he's not in a place where he can make a promise to not announce publicly that he's peed his pants. That does not make him ashamed. It's just not compatible with a big, important event. It sounds like this solution causes him to feel deep pain and shame. That the negative consequences of his paraphilia is something he use to psychologically torment himself. That is something that'd be really good to talk through with a therapist. That isn't easy. However, the fact that facing the consequences of your actions is painful, is not a bargaining chip to avoid them. In the end, this wedding isn't about him, his worth as a human. It's about the couple. Biggest thing is, he needs to take ownership over his actions and affliction and seek help to figure out ways to tackle these, so they won't put such a strain on him and his surroundings. And the wife needs to realize, recognize and acknowledge the same thing. Standing by someone's side doesn't mean supporting them when they cause harm. Thank your for your thoughts
Great points... regarding the black and white loyalty; another commenter stated that it was outed that the husband was the one who wrote this post... apparantly posting about it from his wife's perspective furthered his embarrassment kink! So who knows how the wife actually feels about it
I was in a sports team with a kid who had never eaten junk food in his 19 years of life. We went to Burger King. He realised burgers are good and what he’s been missing 😁 his reaction was so funny !!!!
13:30 History major here! I see the world so differently then I did my first year, five years ago. Along with understanding it so much better. P..S. Can we have an episode were Justin picks the stories!
Okay I think the guy with the jars could be a murderer. Some Serial killers keep trophies and I couldn’t help but to think maybe it’s some twisted trophy
In Germany (I don't know for other countries) you don't get slowly integrated drinking a Glas of wine with your parents at 16. Most of the time you end up at 13/14 getting shit faced in some hidden place (forest, on a farm, at the lake).
So I love this podcast so much but, the mistranslation started with the Catholic Church purposefully “mistranslating” Hebrew and Greek. American churches definitely capitalized on this however, it started with the Vatican and was emphasized by Henry the 8th. It also has to do with the banning of the printing press. Weird history and absolute history have great videos on it!
I usually only listen to the audio version of the podcast so it’s so fun getting to see what everyone actually looks like versus what I picture in my head and I don’t know why but it really shocked me Justin doesn’t wear glasses 😂😂
The mother is essentially teasing her son by bringing him to the birthday party. It's not right to expect him to not want cake when everyone around him is eating it, if that's how the mother feels then she shouldn't bring him to birthday parties where sweets are served. She's an AH and her child might binge eat when he gets older, I had a friend that did this and she got sick everytime.
45:50 100% as someone with a mother like that (not as extreme but very much organic no gmo anti vax psychopath) i still binge whenever i get junk food and finish it even if i’m so full i’m gonna throw up. because deep down inside my inner child thinks that i’m back under her control and that i’m gonna get caught. it’s a self defense soothing behavior and i’m afraid he’s already too damaged.
For the one where the kid eats the piece of cake when he wasn’t supposed to it kind of reminded me of my family, except my my brother has severe allergies and so when Morgan said just bring a cake so you can feel included I really thought about this. My brother always brings cake or pizza or whatever that he could eat so he never feels bad because people used to pressure him like this but he actually had a reason and a serious reason not to eat the cake. Love you guys so much and I love listening to a podcast!
For the pee story, I feel like this is more of a compulsion than a kink. It’s something he needs to go to therapy for and really work on. You can’t expect people to be that understanding lmao
I can relate to the comment Lauren made about not drinking till 21 years old! I didn’t start drinking till I turned 21 and I moved out of my parents house because my parents looked down upon anyone who drinks because of my family being addicts to alcohol and drugs. I went into a drinking binge and almost turned into an alcoholic last year due to me not handling my mental health that I and my parents have ignored. Now I hardly ever drink alcohol not because of fear but because I don’t see the enjoyment anymore in being drunk for myself but I do enjoy a glass of wine once in a great while.
I’m a very strong Christian and my grandmother has always told me, “We hate the sin, not the sinner.” I love this way of thinking so much more. As a Christian I’ve gotten stereotyped as a homophobe, but I’m not, it’s your life your choices. I do wish that maybe one day a per say gay person will maybe one day seek God, but I will NEVER and I mean *NEVER* force or shame anyone for being lgbtq+, even if I don’t agree with the sinner, I will never shun them. For I do not hate the sinner, I hate the sin. I will forever be grateful for my grandmother and the wonderful quotes she has given me, and the rest of my family.❤
Oh my god literally last week I had a full blown breakdown because I never realized the importance of birthday cards. I was just thinking how I wanted to see my Nanas handwriting and even get it tattooed but I could not find any of my old bday cards. I wish I kept them :(
typed this once, but then forfeited. i rlly can't help it tho; i took a break from the podcast bc i had so much school shit and was just a hermit. so this is my first episode in about a month or two, but i've watched every single episode prior to. idk ive commented several times about my perspective as a gay person, in a constructive way. in no way am i crediting this to me, but i genuinely feel so in line with the way she goes about these questions and the way that she has evolved in answering them. I swear there has been some kind of change, and I AM LIVING. i love u morgan ur awesome. also don't mind me getting not one, but two, essay ideas from the pod/also as a psych major. luv u all this was a lovely episode to get back to
with the wedding peeing at the wedding story, I don't think its the fact he can't control himself for the one day, it's the fact the family just does not want him there full stop. so even if he agreed to control himself for the day the family just isn't giving him the option to be there since they believe its uncontrollable and if they were to bring up that it is controllable it would break the lie, nor does it seem like the family is giving them the option to wear a diaper which would allow them to keep the lie. the question is rather whether the wife herself should go to the wedding without her husband since the family wont budge.
They said the family asked why he doesn't wear a diaper and the wife said it's too embarrassing for him. So the family has actually tried to compromise here but if he's not willing to diaper up, can't blame them for not wanting a mess at the wedding.
@@briannam916 that's true and i get that's why they're not compromising, i more meant that tht's discussion focused on agreeing to wear a diaper as a solution when really that wasn't op's issue, so i agree with you.
@@abigailrizk3359 if it’s the one I’m thinking of...it involves incest and is all around a rough thread to get through. I think I had to stop after first reading the original few comments.
I remember smosh reading the kink story and joking like what if he wrote the story and was getting his humiliation fix from the comments... wild it turned out to be true
The story with the kid who was withheld from eating sweets….. my step mom was that way and boy oh boy I definitely developed an eating disorder. I would binge eat every time I went back to my moms, considering my step mom withheld food from me in general saying I “wasn’t hungry I was just bored” 😅
Biggest rule in kink community? Don’t do it / show it to people who haven’t consent, kids etc, don’t force your kinks onto people
That is such a good point!
I was genuinely worried about this because it seemed like it was overlooked but the possibility of children being present while this man did it was a horrifying thought! This sounds more like a mental disability than a humility kink in my experience with an ex partner who has a humility kink.
Shawl boy needs to find a good lgbt partner who will understand masculinity is a spectrum
Good point. Plus, is this guy going around pissing in peoples homes? On the furniture? On living room carpet? He sounds like an absolute AH. Not only is that horribly rude, but he could be exposing others to his bio waste.
@@CCommans “For instance, the DSM-5 says that for a kink or fetish to qualify as a paraphilic disorder, the arousal pattern/behavior” “must create significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.
The pole dancing story is by far my favorite one that’s ever been on the show… *father-in-law* “I can do that” *kills it* LMAOOO
same i love it
The kink story is full sexual assault, performing a kink in public where other people have to be a participant in the kink is just sexual assault. Its so creepy that the wife is ok with it, also who cleans up the pee after he pees everywhere???? Sure his pants catch some, but like it must get on the floor or upholstery. I wouldn't let him in my house without a diaper on, you have to make allowances and such for medical and disabilities, but you can't be expected to accommodate someone who would even wear a diaper to not piss on your stuff.
Totally agree. The wife is enabling his behavior. He needs therapy if he's really unable to resist the urge.
100%. He may not be able to help what turns him on, but if he can't go 1 day without engaging in his kink in public in front of an unconsenting audience, he needs professional help. Hard not to see him as a some sort of sex offender tbh.
Agreed, there's two sections of kinks and his falls more into the second group that aren't even referred to as kinks, they're philias (I.e. pedophilia) because they involve harming or putting other people in distress. He needs professional help because this is NOT just a kink, it's a problem
EXACTLY! Also, has he been doing this infront of children at family gatherins? This is happening to family, with out concent, possibly kids, and she is complicit in this.
100% agree
The piss story is literally so ridiculous and the wife is an enabler. Plenty of people have kinks that they don’t have to push onto other people, people may have a public exposure kink but it still affects others and is illegal.
Turns out the husband wrote it and posed as the wife… Makes you wonder why he REALLY made the post…
@@abigailrizk3359 he said that he got off on the comments degrading him so he def made the post for that reason
Update in the pee story: The post was actually written by the husband and whether or not the story is true, he allegedly got off from the humiliation on Reddit. I saw a few screenshots a while back but can't remember if he admitted it or if it was revealed in the comment thread.
So this man definitely needs some therapyyy (insert song here)
Lol! That's some Pee D chess
Oh my goooood. He’s got issues for SURE
I LITERALLY THOUGHT THIS WHEN SHE WAS READING IT. this sick fuck wants to get even more humiliated loollll. I'm forever gonna trust my instincts
Not kink shaming, but he sounds like a legit pervert to me. To involve random people in your kink with no boundary of consent is fucked. He needs help.
The last story is so touching. The way the dad talks about his son so normally. He doesn’t feel the need to explain his son beyond what’s relevant to the story and just hearing how they worded the story was awesome.
For the first one: she says she wants the perfect wedding, but in my opinion it wouldn’t be a perfect wedding without my sibling’s partner 🤷🏼♀️
I totally agree if my sil couldn't be there it wouldn't be perfect to me because my brother and niece wouldn't be happy either why would he want to come if his husband can't
I agree and I think she needs to adjust her priorities. One "perfect" wedding day vs the rest of her life feeling like shit for excluding her brother's husband.
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Especially since she made it sound like they were friends but didn't like the future in laws, why not give them a babysitter to make sure the in laws stay in line
I couldnt event imagine making my brother feel like he cant be himself or cant bring his partner to my wedding. the brother in law is part of the family and should be there. let the parents in law get their knickers in a twist then and kick them out if need be
First impression:
Kinks and consent have to go hand in hand. You cannot “share” your kink with someone who isn’t consenting or even acknowledge that this is actually something s4xual for you.
A good and supportive partner in my opinion absolutely SHOULD talk to their SO, not only they’re lying to their family, but they’re literally getting turned on about that.
Do not put her family in a situation like that, some cities have kink or fetish clubs with theme nights and they probably have some piss fetish theme parties or something. So they should look up whatever they’re interested in and go with it.
He should seek therapy and not sexually harass her unknowing family.
BUT WE’RE NOT DONE:
Ok so it looks like the story (real story or not) has been written and posted by the husband himself, posing as his wife.
Now I’m wondering if his kink has really just to do with peeing or with being humiliated. Still, whatever his king might be, he should consider seeking therapy and I hope he can get a good support system.
Too many lies and too small consent.
Exactly. Pretty much anyone would agree that for example exposing yourself to people without consent is wrong, these things are equal in my mind. While nobody is getting physically hurt from it, it absolutely is damaging involving unconsenting people in your sexual acts and it does not matter if the people know that you're doing it for sexual gratification or not.
Hearing that the husband wrote it just makes everything come full circle. Trying not to think about it, but it’s messed up that he probably did it knowing he would get humiliated in the first place… and now we’ve all been a part of his kink…
@@abigailrizk3359 he probably HOPED to get humiliated I guess
@@abigailrizk3359 and yeah, it’s really awful to think about it but he also received exactly what he looked for, also from us..
@@abigailrizk3359 OMG. WE’RE ALL PART OF HIS KINK NOW. Ew. I do not consent.
Story 1: 1:38
Story 2: 16:42
Story 3: 26:13
Story 4: 40:19
Story 5: 53:08
Story 6: 1:08:50
Story 7: 1:17:12
I think that’s everything!
Story 3 is actually 24:53
Story 4 is 37:45
Story 5 is 49:48
Story 6 is 1:05:09
Story 7 is 1:12:15
I’ve been binging THT episodes and in almost every episode the timestamps in the comments are incorrect. No hate but is this a joke/meme I’m not getting?
@@pheebo42I've seen this too, and it's really annoying. I keep having to rewind a lot, then fast forward a bit, then rewind a bit, and it's just back and forth till I actually find the correct story
for the cake story: the kid was EIGHT i don't even feel like he was peer pressuring especially since he wasn't shaming or embarassing him in any shape way or form you can tell how young he is by explaining to his friend its a "good cake because its my birthday cake" :(
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Well he even said it’s a good cake because it was homemade and not store bought so it shows that his mother also has standards on what she’s feeding him
i feel like people make excuses for people who “can’t control their kinks”, that’s bs.
@Natalie exactly!
people who "cant control" it are not being "kinky" they need mental help.
@@sunnevacarat literally, it’s an obsession at that point
@@jasleehand6011 not an obsession, a paraphillic disorder.
@@jasleehand6011 right and if it gets to the point where you’re involving unknowing people into your sexual enjoyments then you REALLY need therapy
also with the cake story it’s likely that the friend wasn’t even peer pressuring him. he was probably hurt that his friend said that his moms cake had bad stuff in it and was just defending the cake to his friend. if anything the mom needs to talk to her own son about not making others feel bad when they eat foods that contain sugar
That’s what it sounded like to me like the kid probably was offended by what he said about the cake his mom made and just wanted to stick up for it
literally they are EIGHT YEARS OLD!!
he was def like no what my mom is so good there can’t be bad stuff in it. kids don’t understand gmos and shit good lord
Shawl dudes are adorable. Love that they’re being themselves unapologetically. That’s the shit I like to see. Fuck gender stereotypes
From the way the story went I thought the shawls were going to be delicately woven and femininely draped over their shoulders.... these shawls look quite masculine to me!
They are literally apart of my culture and men in our part of the continent wear them on a daily basis. So it was very weird that the girls were weird about it cause men from the country I’m from pride themselves on their masculinity so they don’t think it makes them less manly. Western culture i guess.
Yeah WTF is wrong with those girls??!? Even if the shawls were pink that’s just dumb
hey there- religious studies major here! your take in the first story about the origins of "homosexual" in the bible are correct! the word "homosexual" originated in germany in the late 1860s and was not added to the bible until the 1940s as a substitution language used in the greek translations that loosely means "pervert". Its important to note that the bible is a compilation of letters gathered from disciples that were deemed the most worthy and have been translated multiple times under multiple political and social lenses, often to benefit those in power. This means that letters exist that have not been deemed "worthy" and that the context and language has been manipulated over time. This is not to say the bible isn't valuable, but rather to add context to the way we view and utilize it.
This is truly fascinating, it deserves its own video! I have questions, and I’d love to ask my questions to someone who will answer in layman’s terms. Could you briefly discuss how the Bible… I guess how the Bible views/describes/sees homosexuality? If the Bible version matters, the one most used, either King James or NIV. I really appreciate your input, as well as your reply. Your subject study matter is so interesting! I could probably listen to you talk about it for hours and hours!💜
I love this, and I was just telling someone this EXACT thing almost verbatim the other day. Glad to see somebody else has done their research and still sees the Bible as a valuable tool, but one that still needs discernment, as it has been manipulated over thousands of years to benefit agendas.
Whether or not the wording was changed- this still remains fact:
God created Adam and Eve and explained the marriage bond Genesis 2:18-25. Jesus (God as man) then came to the earth and re-stated this, affirming it to still be an applicable law (unlike the old ceremonial laws that He abolished.) Matthew 19:3-6 Jesus says that male and female were made to come together and not be separated.
If Jesus approved of homosexuality, the One who knows all, wouldn’t He have used more *inclusive* language here… knowing that there would be a massive misunderstanding in this area one day?
Jesus did not inclusive language. He specifically said what He said for a reason.
It’s tough to accept.
But if it helps, homosexuality is just as hated by God as ALL sexual immorality. That is- any sexual relations outside of the marriage bond between a man and woman. He hates peds, cheating, abusing pets, etc.
And remember this: not understanding/liking how God works doesn’t make Him any less real.
Omgg i didn't know that!!
@@Lavenderbaby Lol, why are you writing like someone was there writing transcripts of what Jesus says. The accounts were written decades later in some cases. No one knows if/what was said let alone the likelihood of accurate recalling decades later of random conversations LOL then again that kind of logic requires an acceptance of reality vs. fantasy.
Ugh, I'm binge watching your old videos. I can't get over how kind and sweet Justin is. I mean, don't get me wrong. I love Lauren, Alejandra, your dad, and all your guests, but there is something about hearing you and Justin talking together that is so reassuring and comforting. You guys stay validating people's experiences and fighting for justice. Your chemistry is magnetic ❤️
For the first story: imagine their wedding invitation “you have a plus one, but no LGBTQ+ .. we’re not homophobic tho” 😂 like howwwwwwww i can’t
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Righttttttt if you have to keep reassuring you’re not homophobic … you are !
"No homo, bro. And we mean that literally"
Justin's "How are you guys so chill about this?!!" at 30:02 about the humiliation kink had me laughing at loud!
The last story with the pearls was so sweet, I know there are so many kids who would love a relationship like the one they have
My one like he MIGHT be the AH for giving son the pearls is if this cousin aka niece actually had a relationship with the mom and then was hurt that she was forgotten and someone got the pearls that never knew the women. Again idk the full story so with what I have NTA but if it’s the case that this man got EVERYTHING and then was finally able to give something away and it wasn’t even to someone that had a relationship with his parents I would be hurt to. As someone that lost a parent
The eight year old story breaks my heart. As someone who has struggled with an eating disorder, what this mom is doing is going to create one for this kid. I speak from personal experience. He's going to learn how to be secretive and hide food in his room and things like that. Also, this is crazy because didn't OP say that the friend's mom made the cake? That means it would be even better than store bought cake and I get that there can still be preservatives in it but still a whole lot different than store brought. Also it's a birthday party like what does OP do for her son on his birthday. Does she make him eat a veggie platter or something? Like wtf. This mom is making life miserable for her kid. Also my thing is what does the dad think? I just hope this kid ends up okay.
same, had a lock on the cupboard when it wasn’t meal time 🤷🏻♀️ me and my sister both developed EDS
also speaking from personal experience, that kid is going to struggle very badly with his relationship with food. i feel terribly for him.
Okay I haven’t even gotten to this story yet but this already sounds like my mother growing up. Here’s all I need to say lol - my dad told me once I was an adult, he was considering leaving my mom for a while but the final straw was when I was 13, came downstairs to tell my mom that I needed new bathing suits, and she said “well if you would stop gaining so much weight you wouldn’t need new swimsuits” …my dad told me that any mother who would say that to their 13 year old daughter is not someone he wants to be with. He left and soon after I moved in with him lol
Okay listened now, and can confirm that was my mom! Fruits and veggies for snacks, we didn’t have any snack food or soda in the house. And it did exactly what Lauren said! When I went to friends houses I GORGED on their junk food. It’s just funny bc restricting childrens diets that extremely just has the opposite effect once the parent isn’t around
Me with a binging disorder and anorexia. I never learned to self regulate. I wish parents understood that projecting their bullshit doesn’t help anyone
shawl story: but also can we please stop trying to judge peoples sexuality based off their clothing preferences. its 2022. we should know by now that clothing preferences, gender expression and sexuality are all separate issues. this ignorance is dangerous.
That part! It’s mind-boggling to me that people think fashion sense and who like to fuck go hand in hand…like wtf!? LOL
@@alleyj826 period. And the stupidity of it all. He literally took his clothes off and literally fully had sex with her, then after the fact, she asks him if he's gay!?! After he was just having sex with her female vagina???? I can't.
For the cake story. I'm an ED recovery. I also have a 2yo and I have learned that restriction does more harm than good, and labeling things as good or bad, healthy and unhealthy is actually doing the opposite. Why? Because chocolate tastes good, but if you label it as a bad food, then they are going to start associating that bad stuff is awesome. In my particular case what has been working like a charm is to serve food with the dessert. All together. And yes, there are days when she only eats the dessert. But also we have days where she tastes a bit of the dessert and then proceeds to eat everything else on the plate. So to me it's not about restricting but rather helping her develop a healthy relationship with food. All kinds of food
The last story has an update: OP talked to the cousin, and it seems it was less homophobia and more that the cousin was bitter that the pearls were originally gifted to OP and not her (she was technically the next woman in line in the family, but OP's mother had a falling out with her brothers years before dying). The cousin also wanted to make sure the history of the pearls and what the family went through was passed down as well. Both OP and his cousin are still grieving, talked things out, and are now on better terms. The cousin said she won't bring up the pearls again.
OP also mentioned in his update that he is slowly parting with more of his late parents' possessions and is giving them to his children. So altogether a positive update :)
this is nice to see. I saw the post when it was still new and many of us suggested that the cousin was upset because OP's son was not blood related to the family which was why she said it had "left the family". But this is much better to see! What a lovely outcome
When Justin says “oh good” it’s always so funny the way he says it
Omg I couldn’t stop laughing with this one, 🤣😂😂
I couldn’t imagine breaking up with my boyfriend because he came home with a shawl 🤣🤣🤣 sure it’s her right to not want to be with him but she clearly didn’t really
Love him if that’s all it took
I love how Morgan always Googles definitions and stats. I fully resonate with it.
Ok so the poop jar one, the worst part isn’t even the fact of him keeping the jars of poop or him pooping in the jars, it’s the fact that he snapped and put his hands on his wife in order to try to protect them. It’s terrifying to have someone you thought you knew turn into that in the blink of an eye
Lauren's comments are always my favorite. She has a way of viewing all sides and providing a window into their POV without advocating for bad behavior. Her answers are always so nuanced and she's always ready to take other's opinions on board. WE NEED MORE LAUREN!!! :)
The jar story honestly reminds me of this murder case. Where this 13-year-old boy visited his dad's house and found photos of his dad eating his own feces, wearing diapers, and then eating from the diapers. The boy showed his dad like all confused, and his dad murdered him to cover it up. So when she said her husband was violent towards her, I wouldn't be surprised if this was such a dark secret that maybe he *was* going to do something violent in order to keep it from coming out.
That is freakin scary wtf
I completely forgot about that case but I agree. They are so embarrassed about there secret they would rather kill then have people find out.
Anyone who wants to know it's the dylan redwine case
oh….my…gosh. just when u thought the pooo couldn’t get worse
This is the exact case I thought of when I heard that story!! Guess we get around the same dark parts of TH-cam. I definitely agree with your comments
About the kink story. Im not an active participant in the kink/bdsm (the partners kink falls under that category) but I've been working to become more kink informed. What op's partner is doing is very frowned apon because an important aspect of kind&bdsm is consent and negotiation; op's family is unaware they're participating in the partner's kink and therefore can't consent. That's fucked. The fact that op is even letting the partner involve their family in the kink is not just shitty but (imo) borderline incestuous. The partner not being aloud at the wedding is their own fault. If op really wants her partner to be aloud tell the fiancée that he's agreed to ware a diaper (even if they aren't) and don't allow the partner to pee themself.
I'm baseing my opinion and education on a TH-camr called Evie Lupine she's a kink/bdsm educator who's been in the scene for 6 years. Her content is educational and not really graphic.
Also his kink is one that can be controlled and if not its a paraphilia(i believe that the right word) and the partner need to seek professional help.
Also I say op and partner a lot because I can't remember their pronouns.
After reading several other comments, apparently in this story, the story was actually written by the husband (the one with the piss kink) and not the wife (who we are supposed the believe is the op)
@@dianamnajarro5119 yikes 😬
Agreed. It's not OK to involve unsuspecting people who are not consenting in on your sexual kink. Would it be OK if he was jacking off in front of family? Taping other people changing? Fuck no. It's a similar thing with this.. These people do not consent and do not want to be a part of his kink. It's just so unethical to assume that what someone doesn't know won't hurt them and therefore, it's OK. It's not OK.
As someone in the little community, not adult baby / diaper lover but adjacent, I think it's weird he's involving her family in his kink. There is a time and a place for that, and you shouldn't announce it to the class full of unconsenting people. If he was incontinent I'd understand but she clarified that it isn't medical. Man needs to start wearing diapers and not practice this in public.
I thought something similar. There is a difference in enjoying a kink you have vs using unconsenting people to satisfy your kink. Also, there are many people with a variety of kinks and most I would say could put kinks aside out of respect for a time and place for example a wedding. I feel if he is unable to to differentiate when the kink is appropriate to practice and when it would be more respectful not to then maybe he should see someone who specializes in those type of circumstances.
Yeah, there's nothing wrong with getting off to consenting people but doing it to unconsenting people AND doing so because you "can't help it" all the while doing it because it is for sexual reasons??? This isn't a kink, it's a fetish and one that isn't under control which makes it into a sexual disorder. His kink may be to humiliate himself but his fetish is to get off from unconsenting family members, that means he has incest as his fetish. He has incestuous ideas and his wife is normalized it. She may think that it's all innocent and shit but does she really know that he isn't doing more than just peeing himself infront of family when she isn't around??? Like all people with fetishized sexual disorders, if you give an inch people will take a mile. In a healthy kink the people involved are under total control of the situation and consenting. Since OPs husband has no control over his sexual acts, it's only a matter of time that he becomes a sexual predator.
Definitions for people that aren't in the bdsm community:
Kink: an act or scenario where the people involved are consenting to be involved for pleasure. The pleasure may be sexual in nature but not always the case.
Fetish: a strictly sexual desire where gratification is linked to an abnormal degree towards a person, body part, idea or object.
Sexual disorders: a range of disorders of which the person has uncontrollable symptoms related to sexual acts or ideas that affects the people involved in a significantly disruptive way.
This!!! Involving people in your kink (which is inherently sexual) without their consent is so gross and unnecessary. I’m sure with some research he could’ve found a crowd that would willingly participate
Yeah I hate it when people use kink as an excuse to wild out in public. Everyone involved needs to consent, even if they're just watching
Yeah this made me sick this is so disgusting you can’t involve unwilling people in your sexual gratification
As someone who’s had IBD for 10 years, your doctor will never ask you to store poop in jars 😂
THANK U FOR SAYING THIS!! THIS IS NOT NORMAL AT ALL!
Hey ibd buddy!
@@Mssalexis -cute- 🥰
Sounds to me that the guy some kinda of OCD over his poop, i heard case of OCD like storing nails, dead skin, but firts time hearing about poop
I completely relate to the candy thing!! My parents had buckets in the pantry that had my candy and my brother's and we would maybe grab something every once in a while but we never over did it because it was always there. Making something seem unattainable is so damaging because later you have to make choices for yourself you don't know how to balance and you go for all the things that were once unattainable and going from one extreme to another. Balance is HEALTHY this whole concept of one or the other with no middle ground has never made sense to me. Probably just how I was raised but too much of a good thing can be a bad thing and can have detrimental effects on you later in life.
I love that the dad didn't question giving his son the necklace. Very much in the spirit of passing it down and very much appreciated.
for the cake story:
I grew up in a food-restricting household as a kid, not as bad as OP but along the same lines. Now, as an adult, I really struggle with disordered eating which blew up for me in college when I moved out and it can all mostly definitely be traced back to my upbringing.
the part where morgan was talking about being on a coin subreddit in order to buy a coin for justin and he just whipped out the necklace with the coin ?? SO CUTE
justin was me listening to the pee story. i feel bad for the bride-to-be sister because op is basically gaslighting her into ruining her wedding because she allowed this bs to go on for so long. being a spouse means supporting eachother by making eachother better and staying strong during hard times. she's enabling him by not encouraging him to seek help and bringing a change of clothes for him when they go out or visit family?? how messed up do you have to be to subject your family to this.
For the first story, if this couple has kids someday, and one of their kids comes out as LGBTQ+ - are they just gonna hide them from all family functions?
justins face when he shows off the coin necklace is so sweet
Best gift I’ve ever given 🥺❤️
For the story about the cake: I went to high school with a kid who’s mom was the exact same way with what she ate. She was SO strict. I’ve never seen a kid hoard and binge junk food the way she did. You aren’t doing your kid any favors.
For the cake story: I’ve been that kid. My siblings are currently those kids and I went crazyyyy once I got to college. I ate terribly and drank all the time, tried ALL the things if you know what I mean. I wasn’t allowed to eat popcorn so I hid it in my locker at school and ate it for lunch every day. Restrictions did nothing but make me go crazy when I finally got my freedom. I’d sneak my restricted food any time I could. Mainly at school or friends house. Being strict does nothing but make kids sneaky. I’m living proof.
The moment when the pole becomes a bonding experience for the whole family XD
Omg, finally it's being talked about! People can use a pole for exercise, I am 14 and me and my family have one. We use it for exercise and it's so much fun and I'm so happy that people actually understand it's other meaning !!!
I love the story about the pole in the house. THAT story right there is why you should always just be yourself!! Sure, maybe they would have freaked out and been terrible about it. But sometimes, people can surprise you, and it may turn into a great experience like that one. Love it!
The shawl dudes are just following in the footsteps of ultra-fashionable Luke Skywalker! As a Star Wars fan, I would love a man who wears shawls lol
And Cal Kestis too, he is the KING of shawls!!
On the birthday cake story:
OP is hurting her kid more than she's helping.
My best friend had these things drilled into her head growing up and she almost died from an eating disorder (she's healthy now. Don't worry).
It has been well researched that you shouldn't demonize sweets. If you normalize it, they will eat more variety.
My son turns one in a few weeks and I plan on getting him a smash cake. I've had some pushback from family about it and I keep telling them "it is one single day and its a special occasion."
We all know broccoli is more nutritious than chocolate cake but that doesn't mean you can't enjoy the chocolate cake.
I fully respect having rules in your own house (within reason) but it's a fucking birthday party. Let loose, grab a margarita, and let the kid have fun. It is really not that deep.
Omg i hope you did the smash cake photo shoot, those are so adorable 🥺
@@abigailsandoval2632 we didn’t do a photo shoot (I can’t afford that stuff and it’s cute but I don’t really see a point. I used to be a photographer and got these clients all the time). but we did take lots of pics at the party. It was really fun.
@@7BearSarah yesss , babies + cake are the cutest. Im glad you did it anyways despite the negative comments.
The 2nd shawl guy is giving “we don’t talk about Bruno” and I love it
Okay so I heard the podcast last night I had to come see Justin’s expressions for the Kink HAHAHAHA
Came here to say: the cake story bothered me so much. My parents did this, restricted EVERYTHING I ate and had me on “healthy/low calorie diets” from a young young age. They were obsessed with dieting and disguised it as trying to be “healthier”. This absolutely leads to eating disorders. I had anorexia for a while which I’ve barely recovered from. If it weren’t for my bf reminding me to eat I wouldn’t.
Don’t do this to your kids that’s just trash.
I relate to Lauren so much because that high 5 at the end is 100% my level of social awkwardness and I feel that embarrassment she just felt to my core ♥️ awesome show you guys. I ran out of new episodes a long time ago and get so excited when I see new ones go up!
Can't find the Shaw story on Reddit!!!! Gaaaah I need to see it and the good looking guys!
i’m here for it too
google masculine shawls! OPs post is near the top!
Cant help but notice your plate in hello fresh photo. I treasure mine. My mom loved her grandmother's plates and I think started her own set at her wedding. She gifted the set to me after downsizing, I adore them but don't often randomly see them.
You have the same ones?! That's amazing
About the peeing guy…he could get arrested and have to register as a sex offender. For peeing in public. Yes
The stripper pole story was so wholesome! What a fun turn!
hehe turn, literally🤓
Just started but so happy to see Lauren!
When you mentioned the Starbursts Jellybeans, I instantly went nuts! My whole family LOVES those jellybeans, especially the ones that come out for Easter. We always keep a big stash of the tropical flavored ones in a cabinet.
After reading a lot of reddit stories. The poop jars ....In the kitchen? He was feeding her poop !
What the actual fuck I never thought about it but I hope you’re wrong…
I hate how much sense that makes... Yikes
Yea after listening to this episode I randomly remembered the one where the husband(?) was feeding his wife slugs and I really don't hope it's what I think it is...
@@Katia.t.t omg yeah the bf was feeding the gf slugs and it made her sick... That story was so disturbing
Whats in the box?? Whats in the tampon box?? Why did he jar his poop?? Questions we'll never have answered
in relation to the cake story and the food scarcity making ppl more attached to a specific kind of food: my mother grew up in the far north and any veggies they had were canned except for specific herbs and roots for a couple months of the year. when she was growing up, anything canned was salted to shit and super mushy so she hated canned veggies. when she was a teenager, she moved down south and had fresh veggies for the first time and she fell in love with how refreshing they were. even today, with all her kids grown up and moved out, she still makes sure there is at least one vegetable dish on the table at meal times.
I honestly love how many ads you do, most influencers/TH-camrs are so wary of doing too many at the same time but like you’ve just really normalised like for a lot of people nowadays this is an income and there’s no shame in that!
I kept banging my hand on the table like a seal during the entire pole story, yelling "I. FRICKIN. LOVE. THISSSSS"
For the one about the kid's birthday cake, I related to first hand. My mom was that parent that wouldn't allow gluten, dairy, proccessed sugar, or anything "unnatural" in the kitchen. This left my sister and I to seek out whatever food we could beucase there were so few options in our house. At school when it was lunchtime, all we had in our bags were clemontines and celeary sticks. We were not allowed to eat school lunch so we would sometimes have to ask for whatever our friends didn't eat. I was terrible and would steal other people's lunch numbers so that I could eat a meal. I still feel guilty about that to this day. I am 21 now and got out of ED treatment last year and my sister is working with her therapist to seek similar treatment. If you are a parent and are restiricting your kid's diets past what they are allergic to, you are creating unhealhty habits and boundaries with food. Your kids will find a way around it and become sneaky. It is not worth the resentment and future therapry bills.
I am sooo glad that I watched this episode instead only listening to it while doing saturday shopping like I usually do, because Justin's faces were priceless! 😅😂Great episode!
About the kink; From my understanding, when you're not in control and it becomes obsessive-compulsive, it goes from a kink to a paraphilia that needs treatment. It seems to be adjacent to OCD, with intrusive thoughts and being obsessive-compulsive.
I get what the wife is saying, about having vowed loyalty. However, I think this black/white understanding of loyalty as "stand by his side and support what he does" is really harmful. Rather than helping him address how much his paraphilia is obstructing his life and seeking treatment and therapy, she is enabling behaviour that is hurting her, her family and him. It sounds like he's struggling and ashamed, and that it's putting a strain on his relationships.
My advice would be to go to the wedding - for sure. Celebrate with husband at a less sensitive time. For him to go into therapy and seek treatment. And honestly, for the wife to seek treatment as well, cause her normal meter is off right now, and she doesn't have to tools to deal with these complex situations in a healthy manner.
The husband definitely shouldn't go to the wedding. Right now he's not in a place where he can make a promise to not announce publicly that he's peed his pants. That does not make him ashamed. It's just not compatible with a big, important event.
It sounds like this solution causes him to feel deep pain and shame. That the negative consequences of his paraphilia is something he use to psychologically torment himself. That is something that'd be really good to talk through with a therapist. That isn't easy.
However, the fact that facing the consequences of your actions is painful, is not a bargaining chip to avoid them. In the end, this wedding isn't about him, his worth as a human. It's about the couple.
Biggest thing is, he needs to take ownership over his actions and affliction and seek help to figure out ways to tackle these, so they won't put such a strain on him and his surroundings. And the wife needs to realize, recognize and acknowledge the same thing. Standing by someone's side doesn't mean supporting them when they cause harm.
Thank your for your thoughts
This
perfectly said!!
Great points... regarding the black and white loyalty; another commenter stated that it was outed that the husband was the one who wrote this post... apparantly posting about it from his wife's perspective furthered his embarrassment kink! So who knows how the wife actually feels about it
Justin at 30:04 is killing me 😂😂😂 he’s like am I the only one who thinks this is crazy!?!
I was in a sports team with a kid who had never eaten junk food in his 19 years of life. We went to Burger King. He realised burgers are good and what he’s been missing 😁 his reaction was so funny !!!!
13:30 History major here! I see the world so differently then I did my first year, five years ago. Along with understanding it so much better.
P..S. Can we have an episode were Justin picks the stories!
Okay I think the guy with the jars could be a murderer. Some Serial killers keep trophies and I couldn’t help but to think maybe it’s some twisted trophy
But then how tf is he collecting people's literal shit? This whole story is blowing my mind man....
I am 100% with Lauren on the communication classes! Lol Communication Theory major here, and my favorite class was Gender Role communication!
In Germany (I don't know for other countries) you don't get slowly integrated drinking a Glas of wine with your parents at 16. Most of the time you end up at 13/14 getting shit faced in some hidden place (forest, on a farm, at the lake).
I had so much fun at the live show! I felt so good afterwards and it helped my crazy week!
So I love this podcast so much but, the mistranslation started with the Catholic Church purposefully “mistranslating” Hebrew and Greek. American churches definitely capitalized on this however, it started with the Vatican and was emphasized by Henry the 8th. It also has to do with the banning of the printing press. Weird history and absolute history have great videos on it!
Thanks 😀
I usually only listen to the audio version of the podcast so it’s so fun getting to see what everyone actually looks like versus what I picture in my head and I don’t know why but it really shocked me Justin doesn’t wear glasses 😂😂
For the poop jars, fermented poop produces fumes that gets people high, so that's my first guess.
Adding that my "list of things I wish I didn't know"
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I loved the episode, Morgan, Justin and Lauren! ☺️ Really, really made my day.
The mother is essentially teasing her son by bringing him to the birthday party. It's not right to expect him to not want cake when everyone around him is eating it, if that's how the mother feels then she shouldn't bring him to birthday parties where sweets are served. She's an AH and her child might binge eat when he gets older, I had a friend that did this and she got sick everytime.
45:50 100% as someone with a mother like that (not as extreme but very much organic no gmo anti vax psychopath) i still binge whenever i get junk food and finish it even if i’m so full i’m gonna throw up. because deep down inside my inner child thinks that i’m back under her control and that i’m gonna get caught. it’s a self defense soothing behavior and i’m afraid he’s already too damaged.
For the one where the kid eats the piece of cake when he wasn’t supposed to it kind of reminded me of my family, except my my brother has severe allergies and so when Morgan said just bring a cake so you can feel included I really thought about this. My brother always brings cake or pizza or whatever that he could eat so he never feels bad because people used to pressure him like this but he actually had a reason and a serious reason not to eat the cake. Love you guys so much and I love listening to a podcast!
The last story made me cry. Thanks for saving it till the end:,)
I loved the story about that man giving his son the family necklace. I teared up, it was so beautiful.
I yelled outloud when you read the title to the diarrhea one. 😂😂
For the pee story, I feel like this is more of a compulsion than a kink. It’s something he needs to go to therapy for and really work on. You can’t expect people to be that understanding lmao
The last one was so wholesome. I'm sure his son will cherish that necklace 🙂
So great to see Lauren again
I can relate to the comment Lauren made about not drinking till 21 years old! I didn’t start drinking till I turned 21 and I moved out of my parents house because my parents looked down upon anyone who drinks because of my family being addicts to alcohol and drugs. I went into a drinking binge and almost turned into an alcoholic last year due to me not handling my mental health that I and my parents have ignored. Now I hardly ever drink alcohol not because of fear but because I don’t see the enjoyment anymore in being drunk for myself but I do enjoy a glass of wine once in a great while.
That kink thing is not okay. He's getting off and announcing it so often that her family has to deal with it? Gross
Having a humiliation or urine kink is fine. Just don't involve others against their will
As someone from Europe (the Netherlands) I ALWAYS wonder what ranch tastes like?? I don’t understand the concept of ranch lmao
Imagine cream being salty instead of sweet. That’s ranch.
@@Cosplayandcoffee that sounds.. interesting
I’m a very strong Christian and my grandmother has always told me, “We hate the sin, not the sinner.” I love this way of thinking so much more. As a Christian I’ve gotten stereotyped as a homophobe, but I’m not, it’s your life your choices. I do wish that maybe one day a per say gay person will maybe one day seek God, but I will NEVER and I mean *NEVER* force or shame anyone for being lgbtq+, even if I don’t agree with the sinner, I will never shun them. For I do not hate the sinner, I hate the sin. I will forever be grateful for my grandmother and the wonderful quotes she has given me, and the rest of my family.❤
Oh my god literally last week I had a full blown breakdown because I never realized the importance of birthday cards. I was just thinking how I wanted to see my Nanas handwriting and even get it tattooed but I could not find any of my old bday cards. I wish I kept them :(
typed this once, but then forfeited. i rlly can't help it tho; i took a break from the podcast bc i had so much school shit and was just a hermit. so this is my first episode in about a month or two, but i've watched every single episode prior to. idk ive commented several times about my perspective as a gay person, in a constructive way. in no way am i crediting this to me, but i genuinely feel so in line with the way she goes about these questions and the way that she has evolved in answering them. I swear there has been some kind of change, and I AM LIVING. i love u morgan ur awesome.
also don't mind me getting not one, but two, essay ideas from the pod/also as a psych major. luv u all this was a lovely episode to get back to
with the wedding peeing at the wedding story, I don't think its the fact he can't control himself for the one day, it's the fact the family just does not want him there full stop. so even if he agreed to control himself for the day the family just isn't giving him the option to be there since they believe its uncontrollable and if they were to bring up that it is controllable it would break the lie, nor does it seem like the family is giving them the option to wear a diaper which would allow them to keep the lie. the question is rather whether the wife herself should go to the wedding without her husband since the family wont budge.
They said the family asked why he doesn't wear a diaper and the wife said it's too embarrassing for him. So the family has actually tried to compromise here but if he's not willing to diaper up, can't blame them for not wanting a mess at the wedding.
@@briannam916 that's true and i get that's why they're not compromising, i more meant that tht's discussion focused on agreeing to wear a diaper as a solution when really that wasn't op's issue, so i agree with you.
My favorite episodes are when it includes the three of y’all 😁
Do you ever plan on doing the "mom I broke both my arms" saga? That one's intense and could be a whole episode
What is this about? Would love to read it
@@abigailrizk3359 if it’s the one I’m thinking of...it involves incest and is all around a rough thread to get through. I think I had to stop after first reading the original few comments.
“Depression looks good on you” 🤣🤣 same
Shawl-bro, those are PONCHOS. Very cowboy. My husband has a heavy duty wool one and it's very cool.
I remember smosh reading the kink story and joking like what if he wrote the story and was getting his humiliation fix from the comments... wild it turned out to be true
The story with the kid who was withheld from eating sweets….. my step mom was that way and boy oh boy I definitely developed an eating disorder. I would binge eat every time I went back to my moms, considering my step mom withheld food from me in general saying I “wasn’t hungry I was just bored” 😅
The pole one was hilarious 😂😂😂
y’alls voices are so calming to me
For the first story I think the bride should have made her brother some sort of “maid of honor” in her bridal party to really show her in laws 😂
I was eating oatmeal when the diarrhea story came 😭
Peanut butter sandwich…..😂