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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 12 ม.ค. 2022
- Two Hot Takes host, Morgan, is joined by guest co-host Justin. We don't always get it right, but we think the comments on todays stories were right on the money and gave some solid advice. Make sure to follow on Instagram and subscribe on here :)) and tell us what you think of these ones!
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Dairy guy is 100% trying to take back control to soothe his ego since he sees his wife is the breadwinner at the moment and has what he perceives as the most power in the relationship. Making her take care of him makes him feel in control. He is an insecure little man trying to control his overworked wife just so he can feel better about himself, straight up.
100% my thought
THIS!
Yeah, it feels like a super manipulative self harming behaviour and he needs to see a therapist. If I were his wife it would be a straight up "I will not enable your self harm, my days off will be spent elsewhere, if you need an ambulance phone one."
10000% no doubt
Such a good take! Thank you for sharing. Think you’re on the money for sure especially since it picked up so much when she started working more
Justin felt so confident in this episode! Normally he’s such a peace keeper and tries to state his opinion lightly but this episode he was absolutely tearing into some of these people. It was LOVELY!
The commentsection givee me hope for humanity tho😄
Well, he must be confident knowing he could have had any worse of a take from the last episode
Lol this was the first comment under the video and the video started with an ad about peacekeeper with John Cena in it 😂
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i cant get over how anyone would think 5’6 and 135 pounds is anything but skinny like so disturbing
Agreed! This is right about my sister in laws size. She is slender and healthy and to me looks so tiny without looking like she’s too thin. But even if she weighed 235 (closer to my current size) she should not accept a marriage with a man who wouldn’t love her exactly as she is.
I agree with Morgan, the husband is most likely gay. I’m willingly to bet money that he is trying to use minor imperfections to justify not being attracted to OP, and no matter how much she changes her body, it just won’t work, because she can’t grow a 🍆
135 lbs is healthy for like a 5’4 person. At 5’6 she’s SKINNY what the hell????
I’m glad others are bringing this up because I didn’t feel they emphasized this enough. I get that different bodies show weight differently but I’m only 5’2” and weigh over 140lbs and am still seen as fairly skinny. At 5’6” she was definitely skinny
YES thank you. I’m 5’7” and was 135 all through high school and i looked like a straight stick. It wasn’t until i GAINED a little weight (145-155ish, heck even more) that i finally had curves and looked like I’d always thought i would if i lost. I thought i was fat because i didn’t have a thinner waist than chest and hips but i never realized i had such low body fat!
The husband trying to get his wife to loose weight does not have an issue with the weight, he is testing the water to see how much he can control her. It would have only be a matter of time before the abuse got more extreme to include financial abuse, isolation and maybe even physical. He love bombed her at the beginning to rope her into a marriage, I'm so happy that she got out of that situation.
Exactly this!
He also sounds closeted
This is exactly what I thought. She deserves better please speak up.
He sounds like a closeted gay man to me 🤷🏻♀️ His only excuse is to complain about her weight when she wasn’t big to begin with
@@heidicastro1381 no. I really don’t think so. Making her lose weight is a control method. There are so many non-abusive stuff closeted gay married men do to avoid sex.
2nd story: husband is not working meanwhile OP is working 2 jobs. He's ordering pizza when money is tight and not bringing income in?? While she's making dinner. On purpose.
This is abuse.
Absolutely
And his family is also gaslighting the girl
AND he’s 9 years older than her 🤦🏻♀️
It is for sure. Something is definitely not right at all...
I'm sad they didn't read one of the funniest comments (personally) I saw on the original widower coworker post. I feel like it really hit the nail on the head. It simply read "He's not going to fuck you." Comedy gold
Lol 😂
And 8 months after his wife's death?? That's still so raw. She clearly wanted him to be single
I saw that comment 😂😂😂
When Justin said, "this is not a 'communicate' one", I had just taken a big sip of tea. Do not recommend, I almost choked 🤣
LMFAO that was my reaction hahaha
🤣🤣
SAME
I almost choked while not even drinking. 😂
The Wedding Band Story: it’s actually traditional to wear your wedding band for a year after your spouse has passed away. It is to avoid any unwanted attention, and to also allow the widower to be able to grieve and part with objects at their own pace. Imagine having to take something off right after losing your loved one that has become a part of your identity. Even if this wasn’t tradition, she was WAY out of line. I can’t believe how insensitive they must be.
In Poland Widower and widow still wear wedding band but usually change hands. In Polish tradition after a wedding we wear wedding band on right hand and then widowers wear it on left hand.
Poor guy!
A) she's not been gone long only 8 months.
B) that is not an appropriate conversation for a work colleague let alone a recent one.
C) it's literally no one else's business.
D) this is a private conversation type of conversation not lunch room chat
She should absolutely get disciplined by HR if not fired!
I know! It's even more ridiculous for her to comment on something she doesn't even know the actual traditions.
It's so selfish to look at someone's choice as them DENYING the world as if they owe the world a relationship status.
It's just like religious clothing, don't tell someone whether or not they should wear a turban or burka, they aren't your show ponies.
I'm glad you commented this. I was super disturbed even before Morgan got done reading.
The fact that she wrote it out as if she wasn't the asshole is so crazy.
Seems like she just wants to get with this new coworker and is being super insensitive. What a cold hearted person.
@@spaceinveda7408 that’s what I was thinking was she wanted to be with him because no one else seemed bothered with him wearing the ring till she brought it up.
As someone who has an eating disorder, that story about the woman who was abused and made to lose weight honestly got me tearing up especially when her mother got her a pizza and cookies ! Something about people showing love and care through food really hits home for me
Yeah me too. EDs are hard enough without someone pushing u.
And I once was in art school for 2 months just so I could get inspired to paint again. It was in another country so I only talked to my mom via phone and email. The first month went OK, I painted 3 paintings. I sent them home. But then my OCD and orthorexia got bad. I ate a spoonful of honey per day and cleaned every day for hours, cleaning the walls, floors etc. showered, cleaned the bathroom, hand washed my clothes. I could only eat organic food and no alcohol (which would have chilled me out) and I lost a lot of weight just in a month cleaning so much and eating so little. I had no time to paint or socialize. Everytime I left my room I cleaned and washed and showered.
When my mom got me from the airport she was shocked how thin I was. Normally I would have been psyched to be so thin but I was so worn out I said I want a beer and pringles! I only had half a pint and small pringles but it was me breaking the walls around me. When I got home I started to eat normal food. I still appreciate organic but I'm also afraid of that orthorexic mindset. I also have EDNOS and have been through different EDs.
As someone who already has mental issues this OP could have been pushed into anorexia or something. So great reddit helped her.
That guy from the dairy story is exhibiting serious sociopathic behavior. How could you not care about your WIFE like that, with everything she’s doing for the house?? And then going the extra step to tell his version of a story where SHE is abusing him??? At his big age???? Idk if she wants to stay with him, but if they don’t divorce, they need to seek therapy/counseling or something…
Dairy allergy story: I would’ve stayed in a hotel. Deadass. Gotten out of there and let him deal with the consequences of his actions. Good luck ✌🏼
YES!! he can call his own ambulance if he wants to be self destructive and selfish. Meanwhile I will be soaking in a hot tub 😋
Exactly what I was thinking. If he wants to act self-destructive, he can do it in privacy. I would be spending all my days off in a hotel from that day forward, IF I didn't divorce him.
That’s what I told my husband while watching this...lol
saaame
The OP said money was tight, otherwise I’m sure she would have. I wonder if money being tight is the reason she’s not divorcing him yet.
The first story had me thinking that the husband was gay and he needed a reason not to have sex with his wife🤷🏽♀️
I agree. I just wish he didn’t try to hide it by making her lose weight
The detail that he didn't enjoy the sex at all was really sus.
but would ask for oral from her so that part confuses me
@@glaciumm I have a feeling he closes his eyes and imagines someone else doing it
@@glaciumm maybe he was imagining a guy
"She said she was healthy and happy at her previous weight, and if that's the case than that's it!" Thank you for talking about weight stigma in a non fat phobic way, because this is just it! It does not matter what the persons weight is or was, if that person is feeling healthy and happy, than they are healthy and and happy :)
💯💯💯
My same weight I’m so happy you feel the same!
Two things about the cheese eater. Why was she cooking dinner when she's the one that's working two jobs outside the home? She should have gotten herself a hotel as soon as he ate the pizza.
Literally it drives me insane that men get away with this behaviour. If he is not working HE needs to do ALL of the house labour. How is it that women even when working are STILL doing the majority of house labour and child rearing.. let alone when the husband is unemployed?! Absolutely not.
it didn't sit right with me that at the end of the day he's most likely buying the pizza and other dairy stuff with money SHE earned, knowing he's doing it to purposely inconvenience her. the audacity honestly
@@alessaapathy I agree the double standard is absolutely insane. I hope he at least does something, other than endanger his own life...
I thought the same. U don't wanna be blamed for his self inflicted demise lol. But seriously get a hotel room and block him.
I dunno what they call it but if u neglect to help a person in need and are on the premises then u can get charged. So gtfo.
Or just call the men in white coats, explain ur partner is engaging in SH and possible sewerslide and u are worried. He might get some shrink time.
I would have rotated my days off and never tell him I’m off.
Timestamps
First story 4:55
Second story 18:10
Third story 32:00
Fourth story 46:14
Fifth story 56:34
Sixth story 1:02:54
Seventh story 1:15:52
Lifesaver Thankyou!!!!!
You're my hero! Thanks so much!
Bless you
The wine was making the gnat stick around
Absolute legend! Thank youuuu!
update on the adoption story!: he did meet his dad! after a few weeks because they were having some health issues/conflicting schedules, but they met. the dad was crying the entire way there, and crying/hugging after they finally met. OP and bio mom met bio dad together so OP could feel comfortable, and they found out bio dad and op had a lot in common. bio dad brought him gifts: a teddy bear with a frame that had a photo of newborn OP and 15 year old dad when he was born, and a journal that he wrote for him to give him one day. the journal helped him cope in therapy. bio mom left after awhile so they could connect more privately, and it went well. they have TONS of similarities. OP reassured them both to not feel guilty and that they made the right decision in putting him up for adoption. bio dad wants to meet parents to thank them, and the parents are really supportive of all this, but understandably its taken a little time. but they're hoping to meet soon.
crying through this whole story and the updates. oh my god.
Thanks for the update!
Listening to these stories every week may me feel like I’m the only sane person in this world. The amount of times I’ve said WTF in this episode is astounding 😂
Same😂
no literally! like it’s to the point i gotta believe they’re made up😭
That first story right out of the gate. As soon as I heard the title I was like "girl! You can drop a ton of weight instantly! By getting rid of that piece of shit" and my blood and boiled even further the longer it went on. Im so glad she got the hell out of there and hopefully she doesn't go back. Drop that sorry excuse for a "man" and go enjoy all that delicious food you've been depriving yourself of.
Omg the story about adoption has me bawling. In currently 6 months pregnant and in the middle of thr adoption process because I can't afford a child rn. And this gives me hope that I'm doing the right thing. 😭
Adoption is an awesome thing. Your sacrifices as a bio mom do not go unnoticed and you are a very strong woman to be able to make this choice. Your actions are going to complete a family; you are amazing
❤❤❤❤ I'm rooting for you and your baby! This must have been such a hard decision for you to make. Hugs hugs hugs!
As someone who has struggled to have children in the past- thank you for doing this selfless thing. For your child and for the parents whose dream you are going to make come true. Sending so much love your way. 🤎🤎🤎
As someone who’s adopted and currently pregnant:
Make sure it’s a closed adoption, or you’re selfish.
@@honeyyve3191 it's going to be an open adoption per the adoptive parent request actually. They are an amazing gay couple who requested it be an open adoption because they feel it's important to have a mother figure in their little ones life.
I love Alejandra and Lauren and jerry etc, but Justin is my favorite cohost. And Morgan, ur an amazing individual and j love this podcast. It’s honestly saved me.
Edit: wasn’t expecting the likes, and I agree with everyone! Gotta love Justin and the respect he has for Morgan!
I looove Justin’s empathy in these. Lauren is really funny but Justin gets caught up in the emotions lol
Justin is amazing ofc but also I think what sets his co host video aside is the dynamic between Morgan and him, there energy is beautiful, definitely can see the friendship inside of there relationship
Justin is the BEST I agree 100%. I love jerry almost as much but Justin has such a mature and understanding viewpoint so I feel like I become a better person when he’s in the podcast 😭
Honestly my favourite couple, they complement each other so well!
For the guy who proposed with the heirloom diamond, not only was he the asshole but the reason he gave for proposing!? It was “We live together and have a dog together and it just felt like the next step” it wasn’t, I love her and she makes me a better person and I can only imagine spending the rest of my life with her. The bar is so low
SOOOO LOW!!😂😂I thought I was the only one who noticed that.. That relationship is going down hill before they even say "I do".. "it felt like the next step" not She makes me happy, I wanna spend the rest of my life with her, I want to build a home with.. Non of that💀yeah no
if i was dating someone and they decided to propose not because they want to spend their life with me, but because they're following social norms, AND THEN destroyed my heirloom to do it 😭😭😭 I'm suing god
The adoption story really hit hard, and was the final push for me to finally try to reconnect with my birthmom. While I know it may not end as well as the feel-good stories you hear, but I have faith. From the sounds of it, she really did care about me. I'm writing a letter to her right now.
I really hope you get that good ending with her. 💛
@@sarvolkskaya thank you so much, I'm for sure going to remain hopeful ❤️
Good luck! Sending the best of wishes💛
I really hope things go well. That story really hit me hard and I hope everything works out just as well as with it did with OP
Sending so much love your way and manifesting that it goes well ❤️❤️❤️ keep me posted!
For the first story: if you want to get merried without seeing what the other person have under the clothes, you should ask yourself: “would I merry this person whatever this persona has under the clothes?” If the answer is no than (guess what) do not marry that person!! You can do this choice only if you love that person so much that you don’t care how that person looks naked!
yes! and this is very important especially in other countries with other religions (like my self), sex before marriage or even any physical contact, clothing choices would make you unaware of what you future partner's body really looks like. its important that if u marry someone its for who they are not what their body looks like.
For the ring story: I want the diamond in my grandmas wedding ring in her second marriage for my engagement ring for sentimental value (ring isn’t an heirloom really), but I dislike the setting and it doesn’t fit me. I never wear it as it is now. I’ve literally told my boyfriend “hey if we get married, use my grandmas diamond just make a setting I’d like”. Unless something like this is obviously stated, it’s a bad idea. I have another family ring I’d be distraught if it any part of it was altered. I’m not sure how he thought it was a good idea because unless she said something OBVIOUS like me, it’s a bad idea.
Exactly! My fiancé proposed with the diamond from my moms ring in a new setting. I told him long before he proposed that if he ever did so that’s what I would want. If OP wanted that, she would’ve likely dropped a hint.
The grieving man wearing his wedding ring one is INSANE to me. I read it when it was first posted, I had to read it aloud to my family because it was so ridiculous.
Who tf would say something like that to a grieving spouse? Less than a year after the loss! I agree, straight to HR. I bet the people that agreed with her just said they agree to shut her up and keep the peace at work bc they don’t want to deal with her. If she’d say something like that to a widower what other awful things has she said/done to others?
Heirloom ring - She put it away because she was worried about losing or ruining it. Why would he think she would want to wear it in another ring every day. Logic. Plus, he says no other ring looked right. As if there are that many options for rings that it was impossible to make one similar.
100%!! He also totally could've taken a photo to find a ring that would compliment the heirloom ring, or even something inspired by it.
and if he just HAD to do something involving her heirloom ring, how about getting a nice chain that would compliment the ring, so she could wear it as a necklace for her wedding.
For the widower- how do you see people get physically uncomfortable and double down about someone's dead partner? Like wtf?
15:30 you REALLY need to read ALL the comments on the posts. He's not a virgin.. he only waited til marriage with her, he's slept with girls before her, and then found his faith shortly before meeting her.
thats insane and huge ! hes even more gross of a "man" than to begin with
I still think he’s just gay. Idk
Wow, that’s even worse. So he has experience, knows what women’s bodies are like and uses his new found faith to belittle and humiliate her? What an awful human
@@summersevening He’s definitely just gay and in the closet
8 months is nothing when losing a spouse. It honestly still feels like yesterday at that point. What a cruel, horrible thing to say to someone.
Ive seen way too many soap operas and tv shows that with the letter story I was expecting the other woman to say she'd had a baby back then and it was his.
no same😂😂😂 i immediately was like oh no she’s pregnant
Same!! 😂
Me too! I was like “why wouldn’t he and the wife at least need to read it to know there’s no kid
Literally first thing i thought
I love how Morgan drops hints for Justin on proposals, engagement rings and weddings. Justin better be taking notes 😊 Keep up the good work
Hahaha I’ve extensively talked about what ring is like. We shall have no mishaps :))
I don't know how if anyone will see this as I'm 2 years late to this post. But I was pissed when my fiancé proposed to me. I had told him what kind of rings I like, I have a whole pinterest board on rings I'd love. He got me this cheap gold looking ring that looked like from the 70's and looked like costume jewelry. It looked like a flower. So a dark blue gem in the middle and little diamonds around the middle one. It was NOTHING I would have ever worn. And when I had asked to go look for rings together, he said that was stupid and it's the man's job to surprise the woman.
My face said it all because he took it back and got me a ring that I actually wanted. So I guess there's that.
The guy that cheated on his wife. I was so scared the letter was going to say that the other woman was pregnant. Thankfully not.
Oh my god, the first story... It really got me in tears. Poor girl, the manipulative and toxic behaviour from the man is unreal!
Run girl, I'm so glad your family has your back in this. I wish you the best
The widower one was really upsetting. My dad wore his wedding band for years, basically until he was ready to date. And then even after that he wore it as a necklace.
Even if you don’t consider yourself married anymore, it’s an easy way to keep people away. They see it and it avoids any type of “how long have you been single?” questions that ultimately lead into you explaining you’re a widower, reigniting the pain and being awkward for the other person.
Besides, I know tons of other widows and widowers who are still emotionally and spiritually married. They will always be married. They never remove their ring and have no desire to date or remarry. My grandma wore her wedding ring until she died. I even know younger people in their 40’s who have been wearing their ring for a decade.
It’s none of her business. Screw her.
The widower story got both my boyfriend and I wound up!! Love the comment about how heartless she was being - agree 100% this woman would never understand such loss.
the adoption story had me in TEARS. I gave my son up for adoption when I was 16 I am now 29 and those things do eat me up every day hoping and wondering if Hes doing ok and happy. that story gave me so much hope, what a beautiful story.
When Justin says “no communication one”, you know it’s messed up like this man’s answer: always communicate. But no communication? Woah 😳
can’t say how much i love this podcast. hearing all of the hosts perspectives on these often crazy stories has helped me understand how to be assertive with my boundaries and recognize my own self worth. thank you, morgan send the rest of the hosts!! much love
The guy with lactose intolerance... is he a kid? Wife doesn't have to take care of someone how gives a *%$# his health. His mom can supervise him if she is so worried
For the first story. I'm 5'5 and 135. She's definitely already skinny enough. I remember being 125 lbs and looked so malnourished because I wasn't eating enough food. That girl needs to RUN. I'm so happy her mom had her back. 😭 I would've cried because she's finally feeling relief for herself.
If my husband tried this crap on me, I'd immediately shut it down. Not even entertain it. He has learned to inspire me to be healthier in a healthy manner. That marriage is toxic af.
I don’t feel like enough emphasis was put on this. I’m 5’2” and 140 lbs and am still seen as fairly skinny so I’m sure she was already quite lean
i just can’t help but think that he wants a little girl…like a literal CHILD and the fact she isn’t one disappoints him
Omg! I had the same reaction because I'm also 5'5' 135. I was SHOCKED! Definitely a healthy weight and if she was already feeling confident and healthy at that point, I was so happy for her because not everyone does. Body dysmorphia is all too common and the husband's demands could have set her down a terrible path!
2nd one with the dairy. So NTA. She basically said "fuck around and find out" and he fucked around.
I also want to say that I love Sarah as a co host. She matches your energy so well and I love when she gets violent. It’s how most of these stories make me feel 😂
Same she’s truly the funniest guest I always cackle at her reactions
UGH I’m adopted and I’m BAWLING at how sweet this is I feel so bad for that poor 14 year old girl giving up her baby. I couldn’t imagine that pain. I’m so happy he found her ❤️
the first story, I feel for her.. my ex was like this, he abused me sexually, physically and emotionally.. for some reason when he insisted on me loosing 20 pounds to "become sexy" (his words) then I said "this is enough".. at the time I was 5'2" and 124 pounds.. I am curvy (so my boobs are big, hips are big).. well.. now.. 3 weeks after breaking up with that A-hole I started dating my current fiancé (we were friends, and coworkers), we have been together for almost 13 years now and even though I am slightly overweight, he thinks I am the sexiest thing on this planet.. and shows it :)
My ex tried telling me constantly, 'if I would like to lose some weight, he'd show me how' he also used to tell me to cover my stretch marks and upper arms. And then he'd have to cook, and we ate when he said we did. It was hell. Then I left him, and was immediately overcome with confidence and peace surrounding my body.
I'm in a happy relationship now, and not once in 5 years has he every said anything negative about my body, he cuddles my stomach, strokes my arms, squeezes my thighs any chance he gets xxxxx
@@cheekofeather6310 same here, my man loves to cuddle me, hug, kiss .. and NEVER says anything negative about my body
Just imagine she did like the ring, the sentiment about losing it had DOUBLED. She purposefully didn’t wear the ring out of fear for losing it. Now it’s her engagement ring too, something she’d wear everyday. If she loses it now she’s losing both her grandmothers diamond, and the diamond from her engagement ring. You really didn’t think this one through buddy.
You should do a ‘Well if it isn’t the consequences of my own actions’ theme
For the first story (about the pizza one), I started thinking, why is his mom so upset with the wife, about her not taking care of him and that's something could have happened to him, INSTEAD of actually being mad at her own son for his own doing of eating the pizza purposely knowing what would have happened 😑
I was thinking this too like he ate it all on his own accord
Started watching this as a distraction after my bf of three years broke up with me. It is the only thing that takes my mind off the heartbreak and trauma. Your interaction between Alehandra, Lauren, Jerry, Taylor are so fun to watch and make me wish I had friends and family like them. Matt and Justin are hilarious and watching Justin and you give me future hope and the strength to move on. Thank you so much ❤️
Your boyfriend seems like such a wonderful guy. I love listening to all of your friends and family chattering, but your relationship is so wholesome and he seems so kind. Thank you for Two Hot Takes, and be happy forever~~~
About the ring story - my grandma loves repurposing family jewelry and we have talked about how she wants to give me the diamonds from her ring to make into something else when I get engaged. I would love this and it would mean a lot to me, but I think I would get really upset if my boyfriend stole the ring without asking me
My first thought about the husband that withholds affection is that he may not be straight. His ultra-religious background would probably prevent him from exploring it so he married a woman bc it’s what’s expected of him. It happens all the time.
I'm crying right now at the adopted son finding his mom. I cant handle how sweet it is
The adoption story has me crying my eyes out that was one of the most touching stories ever 💕
I don’t care about the ads, I’m happy you have them. I’ve never understood why viewers get mad about ads (as long as the creator does it similarly to you, such as it being close to what the audience wants, a good company, etc) I’m so happy to have found your podcast this year, and I’m glad to see you grow. We love you Morgan + Justin and dad! You’re all the best
I think in the first story it could definitely be a sexuality issue. The pressure to lose weight could be him trying to make her look more flat/eliminating feminine body features. If he is in denial because of religious reasons he could have really convinced himself that she is the problem because it’s an easier alternative than reality.
Second one could def be a presentation of munchausens
Agree. I felt he angry because he is not attractive to her and blaming her for it. He such a bad person
Right before I turned 18 and began dating my now, ex husband. I read a Cosmo article about the pros and cons of waiting or not to have sex. Of the pro women that didn't wait, they all said it helped them become more comfortable with intimacy and learning to navigate needs and desires in 1 another. They also said the honeymoon was more fun. Of the cons to not wait, the worst was they wish it was something special they shared on their wedding day. The pros that waited said everything was fine and they were glad they waited. The cons that waited were some of the worst stories I have ever read. They weren't just negative, there was abuse and severe mental health conditions involved. All the cons that waited became suicidal, were placed in care facilities, put on meds and generally not well. The reasons?? Some of the men had micro penises or a sexual disfunction that they didn't work at all. Others were homosexual and blamed the wife. In all I believe religion was used as the "reason" for waiting. In all, the women were blamed for all of it. Of the women that ended up divorcing, they were shunned by their family. It told me all I need to know. I was a virgin when I read it and decided that any relationship I'm in, there needs to be a discussion on intimacy. Does he have the required equipment? Does it work? What is his past sex history like? What is mine? Does he have any concerns, do I? The women that waited and had a negative outcome also had their lives forever changed for the worse. I never wanted to go through that.
That second story, it sounds to me like he has Munchausen.. Loves the pity and the attention and being taken care of, and when he don’t get it from his wife, he can get it from his friends and family instead. He is sick.
I love Justin as a co-host so can’t wait for this to premiere!
The fact that I never watched podcasts and now I can’t miss a single episode of this one. Best podcast ever, you guys have the best takes 💗
I think that dairy guy isn’t just doing it because he likes cheese or whatever, he’s definitely doing it to manipulate and control her. How oblivious can someone be to their partner being exhausted from working so much. He has some issue with the fact that she works and he doesn’t and he might be trying to stroke his ego is some insane way but definitely I hope she leaves him
i custom designed my own ring to avoid dissapointment but still had the surprise proposal as i didnt know when or how it would happen. You can have both, its not hard.
I don’t know a single one of my friends that didn’t talk about their engagement ring to their partner prior to propose including my fiancé and I. We went ring shopping together and I gave him a couple of ideas of what I like. He ended up buying our ring somewhere else but look exactly like what I picked out! And it was still just as much of a surprised to me
With the ring story. My mom picked out with her ring but my dad still surprised her with the actual proposal. They've been married for 27 years and still go on dates and vacations. The wear matching Halloween costumes and my dad calls my mom "pretty lady" basically every day
Am I the only one that SOBBED during the adoption story??? Absolutely lost it. beautiful.
Y’all make my college home work a lot more tolerable. I love listening to this podcast while I write papers.
What bothers me about the first story is that he made sure to consummate the marriage so that she couldn’t get an annulment based off of sexual incompatibility
I feel like you guys definitely found your rhythm, this episode was really good
Oh my gosh! I’m literally sobbing at the birth mom story! So beautiful and so special. I think it was smart of him to wait until her shift was over since she ended up being so emotional. It also gave them the time they needed to catch up. I just love everything about it! 🥺♥️
Holding my second son, 6 months old, while bawling at the adoption story. The instant connection & love they had when they both knew…a parents love is that unconditional. Such a beautiful story.❤️
For the dairy guy here's what it is: He doesn't want to do anything, this is her one day off so she would want to have fun and rest during it so it would be fair to assume that she would expect him to do the dishes or cook or clean the house or grocery shop that one day since he is out of work and doesn't really have anything else to do that is his responsibility. If he is sick that day then once again all of the caretaker role and all of the responsibilities fall onto his wife. He can continue to chill and watch tv or something while she takes care of the house and of him like she probably does every other day and he can continue to not contribute at all.
The dairy guy, I would have called the ambulance for him every time and made sure the medical bills were in his name and leave him…
With the wedding band story…I had a boyfriend that passed away. I got rings for the both of us. Mine is his birthstone and his in mine. I wear it on my ring finger, and if someone confronted me and said “you weren’t married you shouldn’t wear that” …I’d be infuriated too. I don’t plan on taking it off. I also wear my grandmother’s ring and his grandmother’s that he gave me as a promise ring on my middle finger because it’s IMPORTANT TO ME. it means something to me. I have no plans to take them off. When it comes down to getting married someday, that’s all fine and dandy. I’ll wear my engagement Ring and the one I got for me and my boyfriend who passed. I won’t ever take those off, they mean too much to me and my heart. It doesn’t mean I’m taken, and I’ve gotten involved with someone else. It’s never an issue with my partner. He knew my boyfriend as well, and we both find ways to honor him every time we see a chance. He didn’t overstep, and I’ll never say it’s okay to insinuate someone should take off their wedding ring or promise ring after a loss. I can’t imagine.
omg I read the widower wedding ring story the other day on the subreddit and was like "man, I really want Morgan to cover this" incredible
Me too! I love when Morgan shares posts I've already read
I wouldn’t want my heirlooms altered. My first engagement ring was small and thoughtful. It’s what he could afford and I didn’t mind one bit. We went ring shopping one day and had me try on rings and what designs I liked. He had me try on a two carat but fell in love with the half carat ring. A month later, he proposed for our 10 year anniversary.
Ugh, that last one really got to me. My birth mother left when I was two and came back once or twice for a little but more or less abandoned me. I’ve tried to reach out to her but it never ends up going well. She has my number. She knows where I am and that I am now a mom myself. It just really hurts to know that she is within reach but just chooses not to know me. And then here, you have this story of a mom who did the best thing for her child, but she is still full of so much love and happiness for her child. I am happy for the OP and his mom in that story though. Definitely crying right now.
I'm so sorry your bio mom is so crappy. I'm not adopted, but I have an estranged parent. My dad was at least somewhat in my life until I was 20. Now he is strictly a Facebook friend I literally just send a happy birthday to once a year if I remember. He was homeless for a while and lived with my sister for 6 months which is the only reason he met my kids the only time he did. She eventually had to kick him out because he's just such an unacceptable person to put it mildly. I bet you are better off without that woman just like I know we are without that man. I'm still sorry you don't have a better bio mom. I hope you are able to surround yourself with a loving support system and are able to move past the desire to have her in your life. ❤️
The birth mom/server story has me SOBBING, I'm talking ugly crying 😭
Whew.
Just wanna say I love these podcasts and look forward to them every week and I can’t wait till you get a ton more subscribers so I can say I was one of the OG’s
Same ❤️
I love this podcast so much, it helped me a lot with how I see myself and also to learn a lot of English.
With the bio mom story I'M CRYING RIGHT NOW, it's so beautiful and at the same time I hope the encounter with the bio dad goes well.
I love how in the start Morgan is like, "ARE YOU READYYY??" and Justin is just calmly putting on his hat and headset
They just have SUCH good chemistry when having conversations about the stories. I LOVE IT
I know I’m a very strong personality in my comments but I genuinely LOVE your show. It’s amazing and keeps me entertained every step of the way! I’m not a hate watcher I just like to give a different point of view or point out things no one else mentions. I’m a true supporter Morgan and I’m so proud to see your growth just in the last few months! You’re doing great babe
I'm a jeweler and we make A LOT of repurposed heirloom rings. While I super agree with Justin on the situation about asking questions and maybe getting a friend to ask around, to call the guy a cheap ass without knowing if he just bought a mounting or got it redesigned and remade is an unfair jump. Because getting a custom ring made like that, even already having a diamond it SUPER expensive.
Honestly my thought was he should have gotten a virtual design done that WOULD use the diamond and present that to her and go from there
I've watched most of these so i've started re-watching episodes so i'm hype for this one!
i love this podcast with my whole heart. truly the only podcast i can listen to without getting bored. i feel like you guys are my best friends.
I love this pod, also when i have trouble sleeping i replay them because you have the most soothing voice ever and i fall right asleep ahaha
Me too, so relaxing
Same lol
Since I started listening to your channel… I’ve subscribed to Reddit and am thoroughly enjoying it!! Thanks! ♥️
What strikes me with the engagement ring story, is the language is still all about what he wants and how he feels, nothing about what she wanted. Even when he was trying to think of a surprise she may like, he still focused on what he thought was a good idea and not what she would actually want, even with the mother spelling it out.
This podcast helped me so much with my breakup! Love tuning in every week, especially when you have Justin on and I can see what a healthy loving relationship is like! Can't wait to have something like that for myself one day :)
That second to last story with the adopted son had me CRYING 😭 it was so good to end the episode on such a heartwarming story
My son is in a open adoption and the adoption story got me crying so heart touching. I'm very grateful I made the decision I made it is hard but he has everything I couldn't provide as teen mom
The first one brought me to tears. Maybe im just emotional but I cannot imagine how small she felt. Not in a literal sense. I struggled with my weight since a very young age. So it’s truly heartbreaking to hear that he was pushing her to an ED. Whether she’s doing it healthily or not. Over exercising and an extreme calorie deficiency is just as much of an ED as simply not eating for days or binging and purging. And her husband made her feel that way.
Funny cause my bullies in school made me feel that way. He doesn’t love her. He loves the idea of what she could be. And I can guarantee he wouldnt be happy once she got too skinny either. Even if he did, your stuck with that feeling. You’re gunna be counting your calories until you’re either dead or divorced. I’m extremely glad she got out before it could become a habit.
Can we also like, not place the medical stereotype of BMI+height+weight= healthy/unhealthy? Maybe I’m “medically overweight” by 30 pounds for my height but medically I’m still healthy lmao. I wasn’t when I was 90 pounds and starving everyday.
Ooooooof sorry for the novel 😭😭😭
@@RestingCuntFace it’s all good girl. I completely agree with you.
That story was definitely triggering for anyone who has struggled with disordered eating. I'm 5'2 and 135 is my average weight, (which I've been way over since lockdown) so it definitely brought up memories of how I felt when I was starving myself and exercising hours every day.
I started listening to your podcast literally a few days ago and I’m so happy I came across it. Also, thanks for shouting out New Mexico! I’m from Albuquerque and I got a little too excited to hear that you had passed through!
Aw! The beginning of this is so touching. I love you Morgan💕
i can’t believe i made it in time for something.. this is crazy.. luv the duo can’t wait
I listened to this on spotify theis morning and i want to comment on one of the stories already but i dont want to give away any of the stories. I will make a new one as soon as it premieres
Thank you for your weekly podcast Morgan! It helps me through some days and I'm so thankful for that
Your show pretty much got me through having covid at the start of the pandemic. Covid is horrific and you entertained me made me laugh and cry and forget the fact that I was so ill! Fully recovered fit 30 year old but now u have a loyal listener! And u guys r so funny too🤣
My boyfriend literally just proposed December 26th ( I said yes of course lol)
A month prior he had me set down with him for an hour and “help his brother” pick out a ring for his girlfriend. The ring I said was the best was the one he got for me, it’s perfect it’s slightly different and more fitting for me which is amazing. He did such a good job and I had NO idea lol
That adoption one had me in tears 😢, happy ones but tears. I love how reddit connects people and let's us share stories like this one.
The last story killed me!!😭 I almost started balling, It was so hard to contain myself. When you first started reading the story I was immediately thinking “she already knows, and if she doesn’t know then she most definitely has a feeling.” A momma ALWAYS knows. I can’t imagine how hard it is to give up a child at such a young age and the specific reason being that you want a better life for your little one. Knowing that you love your little one and want to be with them but it would be selfish too because of where you’re at in life is such a hard thing to come to terms with. It’s so heartbreaking and selfless to do what she did. The fact that she held out hope that she’d meet him again and even stayed in the same city solely for the reason of making it easier for him to find her. What a beautiful story. Totally made my day❤️
I have a siezure disorder that gets triggered when I'm sick. Thank you for your show. It's helping me stay calm and ride out covid and my disorder. Hopefully I get better in a few days :)