"Dear heavenly father, I thank you for this wonderful man...please bring your loving protection upon him as I am about to absolutely tear him a new one and humiliate him. Amen." 🙏💕
It was so interesting to see her step mom have more sympathy for Cole. She seemed more comforting and worried about Cole... and when he explained that he didn't try to hurt Zenab, the step mom uttering "I know. I know" many times in a sympathetic way. I totally agree with you about her family members.
The step mom is controlled by Zanab in a toxic relationship. She subconsciously knows that if she doesn't enable her behavior towards others she will guilt trip her and use other toxic tactics to the point she will regret not agreeing with her.
Did Cole mess up quite badly a couple times? Yeah he did. Is he a bad person? Definitely not. I believe he's a genuinely good hearted man that has some learning to do in regards to functioning well in adult relationships. Did Zanab have the empathy or maturity to be able to see this? Definitely not. If she really loved him, she would have let him go with grace and respect for the relationship they did have, but instead she made it all about her and her own pain because at the end of the day, narcissists only care about themselves, their own image, and not the real people and real lives around them. Cole might not be ready for marriage yet, but that's the only thing he's guilty of. I can't believe Zanab did that to him.
In the After the Altar, it really struck me how she really is. When he tried to talk to her, and she asked- what was I supposed to do? Just get up there and say no? Isn't that what most ppl would have done? I'm so confused
I mean, everybody who says no then goes on to explain a little bit of why, but yeah she went the route of continuing to blame him for absolutely everything wrong, when most people just say they’re not ready or they can tell it’s just not a sustainable match, but always in the nicest way possible.
Cole has said in an interview that the night before they had decided they would not get married. That they weren’t compatible. Her accusations at the alter was also about punishment and preempting the public declaration that Cole was no longer interested in being her partner.
I jusst finished binge-watching Season 3 of Love is Blind. Zanab is a stunningly beautiful woman...on the outside. She is a horrible person on the inside. Cole is kind of a man child, but he didn't deserve any of this, especially in front of their wedding guests, and millions of viewers. He looked blindsided and heart broken, and I felt so bad for him. Zanab nit-picked Cole and treated him like shit. Cole dodged a big bullet with that woman, 1000%. Thanks for the analysis videos.
I don't even think he's that immature. I think he likes laughing and goofing around and playing with his partner. Childlike and childish are two different things. He actually shows himself to be a mature, empathetic partner throughout this entire debacle.
Thank you for breaking this down. One word I can use for any and every narcissistic relationship and behavior I have observed is : CONFUSION. You call them a Bundle of contradictions. Wow! That's why it is so confusing! Your break down helps me and others clearly see these contradictions in a light that clarifies the subconscious sources of narcissistic behavior.
Yes, exactly! That's why some victims don't know which way's up and which way's down by the time they get out of a relationship with a narcissist. The victim does the exact same thing two days in a row: one day they're complimented, the next day, they're yelled at. The victim is criticised for doing the same thing the narcissist did themselves just an hour ago. Etc. Etc.
This series has given me a lot of perspective about a former friendship. She smeared me and made herself look like the victim, all while bullying, degrading me and physically abusing me. Thank you for doing this series on zanab.
@@thenarcissistwatcher I can’t lie, watching the reunion part 8 and 9 was so triggering to me because our entire friend group believed whatever she said and turned on me. I guess I’m better off for it now, 4 years later. But it still really stings. I try not to wonder what lies she told them that made them believe my character was so insidious that I didn’t even deserve to be heard. It does help having some light shon on it!
@@EmpressEllie If it's any consolation, it's very, very hard to turn the tide once you've already been extensively smeared. The friends have had poison slowly dripped in their ears over time. The narcissist got in there first, and people are disposed to believe what they hear. Plus, the victim usually presents as frazzled and emotional, ranting and raving about all the things the narcissist did to them. The narcissist is calmer, and can just have an attitude of "I told you they would say that. They're a fantasist".
I honestly HOPE Cole sees these videos. I knew something was off about Zanab but couldn't put my finger on it. Her being a vulnerability narcissist answers so many questions, the math is mathing - thanks for putting your time effort into these videos sir. Keep on keepin'on
Your analysis is on point. Yep, my narcissistic brother has painted himself as a victim. And he has many flying monkeys. I don't even try to defend myself at this point. People who know me, know my character. Everyone else can kick rocks! 😏😉
The way you describe how she compartmentalizes reminds me of my mom although I'm still not sure if she's actually a narcissist. I felt like I've challenged her a lot growing up because I didn't like that she did things just to "look good" in other people's eyes. Especially when she took credit when people say how good of a kid I was and how capable I was or how she "allowed me" to do things I do. It made me angry because I pretty much grew up by myself alone because she was emotionally absent from my life most of my childhood.
Great example, and something that often happens with narcissist parents: with the one hand, not nurturing their children properly while, with the other, taking credit for everything good their children do. My mother's father did the exact same. He had ZERO interest in her life apart from when she was competing at a diving competition, upon which point he was there doing the rounds of the stands, bragging to the spectators. Suddenly he was the architect of her success.
@@thenarcissistwatcher Thank you for this. You really help clear things up for me. I guess what made me hesitant to identify her as a narc is because she seems to try to be a better person. She tried to be more involved in my life now but I find that I feel like a better person if I don't interact with her as much. There is always something triggering to me when I interact with her. I remember reading a comment from you responding to someone else in a different video that you said something to the effect that a narc will try to improve but it's not really sustainable. Even though they tried to be more empathetic, their motives are for themselves and not for the sake of others. My Mom was the type that, to other people, she was captivating and well respected and she took pride in that. But she couldn't feed that off from me because I challenge her constantly. Her only way was to take credits...
@@k8chillx I obviously couldn't comment on your mom specifically without knowing a lot more details and background, but I can talk in generalities. Narcissists will respond to incentives, just like anyone else. It's why they sometimes seem to mellow and become nicer with age. For example, it might be that the only way to keep their remaining family members visiting them in their old age is not to be so overtly abrasive. Ultimately, it's still for their own interests. I recommend using HG Tudor's Narc Detector because it's important to determine if your mom actually is a narcissist (and if so, which type) before making any decisions. HG is the absolute authority on narcissists, and helped me years ago before I understood any of this stuff.
@@thenarcissistwatcher thank you for all your replies. I went to check out the channel but find it a bit hard to follow because of the audio. I tried to listen in the car but I feel the low pitch voice gets muffled with traffic sounds. But I found Dr ramani in the process who studies narcissists and I found her content helpful. Hypothetically if my mom were really a narcissist, and me being the child who challenged a narcissist constantly (I hate being controlled (but I was never a misbehaved child) and I call out when she does or say things that are not true to make herself look good), does it over time, kind of "tone down" a narcissist in a way? Is that even possible? Or maybe I'm just a brat with a mother with some toxic traits
Hopefully, you’re not referring to Meghan Markel. My radar always goes up when someone wants to bully an innocent person for no reason. HG is a narcissist and the only reason he started bullying Meghan was for clicks. Isn’t it interesting that he doesn’t report on the obvious narcissists(Trump, Piers Morgan, Putin, Erica Jane & Tom Girardi)..the list continues. Nope, he’s going after a woman, whom, a smear campaign was created to destroy. HG is a narcissist and cares ONLY about himself and if you’re a victim of narcissistic abuse, please, do better.😳
She wrote her anti-vows. She 100% knew what she was doing. She also knew that he wasn't going to put up with her bullshit, so she decided to ditch him before he could dump her. Then, she again had control, and she got an emotional rush from decimating him in front of everyone they knew. Having been through something similar, this girl's behavior makes me furious.
Woohoo!! I’ve been waiting for this one! Love this series! I know it’s a completely different show, but Big Ed & Liz next please! Only if you want to😅 That would probably be like 50 videos with how many seasons there are🤣
Do I detect some histrionic here, too, because that’s just needlessly cruel and way over dramatic, imho. A lot of her behavior shows narcissistic tendencies, but to stage this takedown, to publicly humiliate your fiancé whom you supposedly love with all your heart, and allow family to spend time & money to witness Zenab in 3 Acts, has got to be one of the most un-kind, un-Christianlike things I’ve ever witnessed, though she fancies herself both of those, and she’s the self-described “catch of the century“ 👀 (Which century is that, exactly?!) She’s since then reiterated what a “good man” Cole is, and how she still loves him, yet double-downed on this, not seeing the cavernous disconnect between her words and actions. **Please also talk about her creepily befriending his ex wife, to taunt him on social media, over a year after their brief engagement ended. She actually scares me.
He's certainly on my list, but I'm not sure whether he'll make it to the top. I'm pretty bored of Perfect Match after watching two episodes - is it worth continuing?
@@thenarcissistwatcher it was a show I loved to hate, some of the people are very entertaining and some I feel redeem themselves from their original shows. But when Bartise enters the villa he definitely felt so much more manipulative than he did on Love is Blind.
She shoots herself in the foot in postseason interviews saying her deciding factor was at the altar bc Cole looked terrified. If we’re expected to believe he attempted to cheat (but got a number) and told her about this the night before, you mean to tell me that didn’t seal it for you? This is her story bc she doesn’t want to admit she rehearsed a speech to inflict pain. Cole admitted in interviews he told her he was a no at dinner. If Cole had a bachelor party encounter, Zanab could be omitting this detail, and now it becomes a Ross & Rachel on-a-break thing. This cast attacked Bartise for immediately dating following his breakup with Nancy - Cole could have feared similar backlash or lied bc of contractual fears. But the way she pivots off this story, Raven bringing it up & not her, & there being no footage or mention of it in interviews, it makes it less believable. To top it off, she calls him a good guy. Feels like it’s all about painting a narrative that she is a victim that has risen above it all. But despite Cole’s bad edit, I think ppl were still divided bc she was still very mean, and the altar is when ppl turned on her. Then the cuties scene put it over the edge.
All the videos I've watched seem to have missed a telling interaction. Before she walks down the aisle she says that she won't decide if she's going to marry him until she sees his facial expression. I believe that one of two things happened. 1. He didn't react in the way she had pictured meaning he had disrespected her wants and needs. 2. He did react the way she wanted and she no longer needed anything from him.
Someone religiously manipulated me. And used religion to get me to think its ok for me to fall inlove and to think he is good. But after a year and a half he he did not accept my religion and did not know anything about god or have any morals.
it's crazy to say this was filmed around the same time as last season.. last seasons wedding stages were not this fancy. How did they get such a better set up so fast?
Just found you and i have being enjoyed your analysis but im struggling with one point: i think zay entitlement is completely fake and she is in fact very insecure, so she still a narcissistic? Its a love hate thing (which i can relate btw)
Yes, its a normal thing for narcissists that they seem entitled, but it roots in a deep insecurity. Thats why they are the way they are, a truly confident self loving person wouldnt be a narcissist bc they wouldnt need the attention and confirmation from other people
People mistake self respect for narcissistic behavior . She felt she was disrespected. She stood up for herself. She loved him as a person but she didn’t love the way she was treated. They weren’t meant to be. That’s my take .
No. lol you don’t tell someone you love them, that they are a good man, and then humiliate them in from of their loved ones in a wedding dress. You say I don’t. And then explain your reasoning one on one on the side. She did this for attention. Not to bring things to HIS attention. There’s a difference. And she knows that.
Having someone you cared about turn around and try to ruin your reputation is gutting honestly.. it's happened to me so many times. I am luckily aware I am attracted to abusive people now.. they still find me but atleast I don't stay as long anymore.. I have disorders myself because of childhood trauma, and I never want to become like my mother.. so I actively fight against the toxic behaviours I learned growing up.
I can’t help but picture Cole with his popcorn listening to this and feeling so justified.
Absolutely.👍
I hope so 🙏🏼
I hope so!
"Dear heavenly father, I thank you for this wonderful man...please bring your loving protection upon him as I am about to absolutely tear him a new one and humiliate him. Amen."
🙏💕
when cole was tellling her how good she looked and she just said thanks..... hello???? she knew what she was gonna do
It was so interesting to see her step mom have more sympathy for Cole. She seemed more comforting and worried about Cole... and when he explained that he didn't try to hurt Zenab, the step mom uttering "I know. I know" many times in a sympathetic way. I totally agree with you about her family members.
It was fake yo, Zenab didn’t become this way from out of no where
The step mom is controlled by Zanab in a toxic relationship. She subconsciously knows that if she doesn't enable her behavior towards others she will guilt trip her and use other toxic tactics to the point she will regret not agreeing with her.
I have been in Coles position before. So glad I made it out with my sanity!!
Watching the wedding again is so painful 😫
Did Cole mess up quite badly a couple times? Yeah he did. Is he a bad person? Definitely not. I believe he's a genuinely good hearted man that has some learning to do in regards to functioning well in adult relationships. Did Zanab have the empathy or maturity to be able to see this? Definitely not. If she really loved him, she would have let him go with grace and respect for the relationship they did have, but instead she made it all about her and her own pain because at the end of the day, narcissists only care about themselves, their own image, and not the real people and real lives around them. Cole might not be ready for marriage yet, but that's the only thing he's guilty of. I can't believe Zanab did that to him.
You are doing God's work
Truly
Amen!
Wow, so incredibly accurate! I really hope this series makes its way to Cole. 🙌
I hope it makes it way to Zaynab, though it will likely fall on deaf ears.
@@jakes3799 Most likely it would enrage her as well
@@doyoufeardeath666 And denialism, though it's hard to be in denial when something hits so close to home.
In the After the Altar, it really struck me how she really is. When he tried to talk to her, and she asked- what was I supposed to do? Just get up there and say no?
Isn't that what most ppl would have done? I'm so confused
I mean, everybody who says no then goes on to explain a little bit of why, but yeah she went the route of continuing to blame him for absolutely everything wrong, when most people just say they’re not ready or they can tell it’s just not a sustainable match, but always in the nicest way possible.
Cole has said in an interview that the night before they had decided they would not get married. That they weren’t compatible. Her accusations at the alter was also about punishment and preempting the public declaration that Cole was no longer interested in being her partner.
Interesting, thanks.
I jusst finished binge-watching Season 3 of Love is Blind. Zanab is a stunningly beautiful woman...on the outside. She is a horrible person on the inside. Cole is kind of a man child, but he didn't deserve any of this, especially in front of their wedding guests, and millions of viewers. He looked blindsided and heart broken, and I felt so bad for him. Zanab nit-picked Cole and treated him like shit. Cole dodged a big bullet with that woman, 1000%. Thanks for the analysis videos.
I don't even think he's that immature. I think he likes laughing and goofing around and playing with his partner. Childlike and childish are two different things. He actually shows himself to be a mature, empathetic partner throughout this entire debacle.
@@user-rc2fj9nx1l Absolutely. 👍
Thank you for breaking this down.
One word I can use for any and every narcissistic relationship and behavior I have observed is : CONFUSION. You call them a Bundle of contradictions. Wow! That's why it is so confusing!
Your break down helps me and others clearly see these contradictions in a light that clarifies the subconscious sources of narcissistic behavior.
Yes, exactly! That's why some victims don't know which way's up and which way's down by the time they get out of a relationship with a narcissist. The victim does the exact same thing two days in a row: one day they're complimented, the next day, they're yelled at. The victim is criticised for doing the same thing the narcissist did themselves just an hour ago. Etc. Etc.
Yes, it's very destabilizing to say the least.
This series has given me a lot of perspective about a former friendship. She smeared me and made herself look like the victim, all while bullying, degrading me and physically abusing me.
Thank you for doing this series on zanab.
I'm glad to hear it has helped - that sounds like a pretty horrendous thing to go through.
@@thenarcissistwatcher I can’t lie, watching the reunion part 8 and 9 was so triggering to me because our entire friend group believed whatever she said and turned on me. I guess I’m better off for it now, 4 years later. But it still really stings. I try not to wonder what lies she told them that made them believe my character was so insidious that I didn’t even deserve to be heard. It does help having some light shon on it!
@@EmpressEllie If it's any consolation, it's very, very hard to turn the tide once you've already been extensively smeared.
The friends have had poison slowly dripped in their ears over time. The narcissist got in there first, and people are disposed to believe what they hear.
Plus, the victim usually presents as frazzled and emotional, ranting and raving about all the things the narcissist did to them. The narcissist is calmer, and can just have an attitude of "I told you they would say that. They're a fantasist".
@@thenarcissistwatcher this is very very true. Thanks so much for taking the time to reply
The accountability lacking was there too, because she blamed all of the issues with the relationship on him.
this series deserves a lot more views 👍
Hashtag, Justice for Cole 😁
Yes!!! Been waiting for part 7
I honestly HOPE Cole sees these videos. I knew something was off about Zanab but couldn't put my finger on it. Her being a vulnerability narcissist answers so many questions, the math is mathing - thanks for putting your time effort into these videos sir. Keep on keepin'on
what took him so long to drop her hands,, soon as she started with it- he should have dropped her!
Me too. I would drop her hands and then fold my defensively. I also wouldn't just stand there quietly while she yammered i6n. I would shut her up!
Loving these series! Thank you so much!!!
I’m triggered by her saying the prayer. I grew up in a very religious family that is not very nice. It’s the worst abuse 😭😭😭
Her step mom was trying to hug her and she basically shrugged her off and cut it short
Your analysis is on point. Yep, my narcissistic brother has painted himself as a victim. And he has many flying monkeys. I don't even try to defend myself at this point. People who know me, know my character. Everyone else can kick rocks! 😏😉
That's exactly the right attitude to take. You'll never win the flying monkeys over to your side and you'll only frustrate yourself by trying.
Was this her plan all along??? 😅
The way you describe how she compartmentalizes reminds me of my mom although I'm still not sure if she's actually a narcissist. I felt like I've challenged her a lot growing up because I didn't like that she did things just to "look good" in other people's eyes. Especially when she took credit when people say how good of a kid I was and how capable I was or how she "allowed me" to do things I do. It made me angry because I pretty much grew up by myself alone because she was emotionally absent from my life most of my childhood.
Great example, and something that often happens with narcissist parents: with the one hand, not nurturing their children properly while, with the other, taking credit for everything good their children do.
My mother's father did the exact same. He had ZERO interest in her life apart from when she was competing at a diving competition, upon which point he was there doing the rounds of the stands, bragging to the spectators. Suddenly he was the architect of her success.
@@thenarcissistwatcher Thank you for this. You really help clear things up for me. I guess what made me hesitant to identify her as a narc is because she seems to try to be a better person. She tried to be more involved in my life now but I find that I feel like a better person if I don't interact with her as much. There is always something triggering to me when I interact with her.
I remember reading a comment from you responding to someone else in a different video that you said something to the effect that a narc will try to improve but it's not really sustainable. Even though they tried to be more empathetic, their motives are for themselves and not for the sake of others. My Mom was the type that, to other people, she was captivating and well respected and she took pride in that. But she couldn't feed that off from me because I challenge her constantly. Her only way was to take credits...
@@k8chillx I obviously couldn't comment on your mom specifically without knowing a lot more details and background, but I can talk in generalities.
Narcissists will respond to incentives, just like anyone else. It's why they sometimes seem to mellow and become nicer with age. For example, it might be that the only way to keep their remaining family members visiting them in their old age is not to be so overtly abrasive. Ultimately, it's still for their own interests.
I recommend using HG Tudor's Narc Detector because it's important to determine if your mom actually is a narcissist (and if so, which type) before making any decisions. HG is the absolute authority on narcissists, and helped me years ago before I understood any of this stuff.
Whoah we had the same mom
@@thenarcissistwatcher thank you for all your replies. I went to check out the channel but find it a bit hard to follow because of the audio. I tried to listen in the car but I feel the low pitch voice gets muffled with traffic sounds. But I found Dr ramani in the process who studies narcissists and I found her content helpful.
Hypothetically if my mom were really a narcissist, and me being the child who challenged a narcissist constantly (I hate being controlled (but I was never a misbehaved child) and I call out when she does or say things that are not true to make herself look good), does it over time, kind of "tone down" a narcissist in a way? Is that even possible?
Or maybe I'm just a brat with a mother with some toxic traits
Can't wait for part 8 with the cuties scene! BTW I tried HG tudor...your content is far better. You should really consider doing Megan. ;)
Hopefully, you’re not referring to Meghan Markel. My radar always goes up when someone wants to bully an innocent person for no reason. HG is a narcissist and the only reason he started bullying Meghan was for clicks. Isn’t it interesting that he doesn’t report on the obvious narcissists(Trump, Piers Morgan, Putin, Erica Jane & Tom Girardi)..the list continues. Nope, he’s going after a woman, whom, a smear campaign was created to destroy. HG is a narcissist and cares ONLY about himself and if you’re a victim of narcissistic abuse, please, do better.😳
She wrote her anti-vows. She 100% knew what she was doing. She also knew that he wasn't going to put up with her bullshit, so she decided to ditch him before he could dump her. Then, she again had control, and she got an emotional rush from decimating him in front of everyone they knew. Having been through something similar, this girl's behavior makes me furious.
I REALLY hope Cole watches this!!!!!
I have learned so much from this channel! thank you xo
Excellent series! Thank you for your work!
Really enjoying listening to your work!
Please do Harrison Boon from Married at first sight Australia... He was the biggest narcissistic gaslighter ever
Woohoo!! I’ve been waiting for this one! Love this series! I know it’s a completely different show, but Big Ed & Liz next please! Only if you want to😅 That would probably be like 50 videos with how many seasons there are🤣
channel SixteenLeo does some funny in depth reviews of them, not from a therapist or psychology standpoint tho, just a regular smegular dude
@@theweirdones7544 oh I’m already subbed to sixteenleo 😂 His videos are hilarious
@@chrys8003 so cool that we like the same videos lol
excellent.
Such a great series! Can you do Chris from married at first sight? Thanks!
Do I detect some histrionic here, too, because that’s just needlessly cruel and way over dramatic, imho. A lot of her behavior shows narcissistic tendencies, but to stage this takedown, to publicly humiliate your fiancé whom you supposedly love with all your heart, and allow family to spend time & money to witness Zenab in 3 Acts, has got to be one of the most un-kind, un-Christianlike things I’ve ever witnessed, though she fancies herself both of those, and she’s the self-described “catch of the century“ 👀
(Which century is that, exactly?!)
She’s since then reiterated what a “good man” Cole is, and how she still loves him, yet double-downed on this, not seeing the cavernous disconnect between her words and actions. **Please also talk about her creepily befriending his ex wife, to taunt him on social media, over a year after their brief engagement ended. She actually scares me.
My goodness, I hadn't heard about her befriending his ex-wife. Thanks!
I soooo wish you would do a series on Katie Maloney from Vanderpump Rules. The most recent episode after she has divorced her ex has me wild!!
She wanted this moment to tear him down. I think she wanted to get back at him for all the times he made her feel weak...such a horrible woman.
sounds like my mama 😞
He didn't make her feel weak that's not on him that's on her
Please do bartise from the same series. He behaviour in love is blind and also Perfect Match screams narcissist
He's certainly on my list, but I'm not sure whether he'll make it to the top. I'm pretty bored of Perfect Match after watching two episodes - is it worth continuing?
@@thenarcissistwatcher it was a show I loved to hate, some of the people are very entertaining and some I feel redeem themselves from their original shows.
But when Bartise enters the villa he definitely felt so much more manipulative than he did on Love is Blind.
Yes! Please finish PM and do Bartise. He is SO unbearable and I want to hear an educated opinion on his behaviour.
@@thenarcissistwatcher No. Especially with LIB 4
Interestingly, If you watch the reveal you'll see he is actually the only one somewhat trying to defend him and call Zanab out
She shoots herself in the foot in postseason interviews saying her deciding factor was at the altar bc Cole looked terrified. If we’re expected to believe he attempted to cheat (but got a number) and told her about this the night before, you mean to tell me that didn’t seal it for you? This is her story bc she doesn’t want to admit she rehearsed a speech to inflict pain.
Cole admitted in interviews he told her he was a no at dinner. If Cole had a bachelor party encounter, Zanab could be omitting this detail, and now it becomes a Ross & Rachel on-a-break thing. This cast attacked Bartise for immediately dating following his breakup with Nancy - Cole could have feared similar backlash or lied bc of contractual fears. But the way she pivots off this story, Raven bringing it up & not her, & there being no footage or mention of it in interviews, it makes it less believable. To top it off, she calls him a good guy. Feels like it’s all about painting a narrative that she is a victim that has risen above it all. But despite Cole’s bad edit, I think ppl were still divided bc she was still very mean, and the altar is when ppl turned on her. Then the cuties scene put it over the edge.
All the videos I've watched seem to have missed a telling interaction. Before she walks down the aisle she says that she won't decide if she's going to marry him until she sees his facial expression. I believe that one of two things happened. 1. He didn't react in the way she had pictured meaning he had disrespected her wants and needs. 2. He did react the way she wanted and she no longer needed anything from him.
Someone religiously manipulated me. And used religion to get me to think its ok for me to fall inlove and to think he is good. But after a year and a half he he did not accept my religion and did not know anything about god or have any morals.
You really need to make Shayne from Love is Blind, the first thing i thought was "narcissist" xD
Yes, you're right. I'm considering doing a short video on him actually - specifically his behavior at the end of episode 10 of Perfect Match.
it's crazy to say this was filmed around the same time as last season.. last seasons wedding stages were not this fancy. How did they get such a better set up so fast?
Just found you and i have being enjoyed your analysis but im struggling with one point: i think zay entitlement is completely fake and she is in fact very insecure, so she still a narcissistic? Its a love hate thing (which i can relate btw)
Yes, its a normal thing for narcissists that they seem entitled, but it roots in a deep insecurity. Thats why they are the way they are, a truly confident self loving person wouldnt be a narcissist bc they wouldnt need the attention and confirmation from other people
People mistake self respect for narcissistic behavior . She felt she was disrespected. She stood up for herself. She loved him as a person but she didn’t love the way she was treated. They weren’t meant to be. That’s my take .
Your take is false but okay
Idk how my take could be false if it’s my opinion but ok
@@sirdustin16
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In my opinion, she wasn't standing up for herself. She was actually tearing someone else down.
No. lol you don’t tell someone you love them, that they are a good man, and then humiliate them in from of their loved ones in a wedding dress. You say I don’t. And then explain your reasoning one on one on the side. She did this for attention. Not to bring things to HIS attention. There’s a difference. And she knows that.
Having someone you cared about turn around and try to ruin your reputation is gutting honestly.. it's happened to me so many times.
I am luckily aware I am attracted to abusive people now.. they still find me but atleast I don't stay as long anymore..
I have disorders myself because of childhood trauma, and I never want to become like my mother.. so I actively fight against the toxic behaviours I learned growing up.