30 Essential Ideas you should know about ADHD, 2ALL Persistence, Sustaining action to a Goal
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ADHD people have problems sustaining action towards a goal.
This is a problem of persistence and the inability create your own internal motivation
Difference between motor issues and sensory issues/perception issues
Inability to resist distractions
Poor Working Memory
ADHD is an executive function disorder, ADHD is EFDD
ADHD is a disorder of self regulation
We picked a stupid name for this disorder for the name does not explain the problem and there are many similar problems that use the word Attention
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I feel like I’m on trial and he is my lawyer, defending me before a jury.
🤣🤣Severely underrated comment
Spot on lol
OMG, Yes! 🖤
See I feel like I'm an android and I'm watching a computer engineer explain the bugs in my computer programming
And I feel like the dad in the crowd behind you, grateful for your lawyer.
Seeing I'm not the only person struggling with ADHD brings me to tears. I am not alone and you are not alone; much love to you all.
Welcome into the fold dear sibling.
Definitely not alone 🤣
This comment just brought me to tears.
@@jamisonlamkin5439 I just laughed and cried at the same time when he told the story about the dish in the kitchen! If this weren't from 2014, I'd think he had a miniature drone following me to a family gathering where everyone else is NOT amused! Oh wait, I almost forgot, I'm only a third of the way through the video! Hmm, dishes ... now I'm hungry ... [running to the kitchen to look for something to eat and remembering I forgot to feed the birds this morning, coming back and realizing I forgot to get something for myself to eat ... Comes back to hug all the "swans" here. Like do you ever feel like you're the Ugly Duckling who finally found its flock? That reminds me of the time in my ADHD support group that isn't around anymore because the organizers had ADHD too when ... Oh yeah, video, duh!] Oo, I have to pause and forward the link to this video to all my friends! Uh ... friend (singular). I hope.
You are not alone my brother .
This entire presentation, maybe even the existence of Dr. Barkley himself, hmm maybe even the idea of being able to freely access this talk on TH-cam right now, from my phone... it makes me want to cry. Everything he's saying... I just want this entire thing to be broadcast to the world.
I'm almost in tears watching this. I've only just discovered that ADHD is the reason behind everything that has ever been wrong or challenging in my life. I'm 46!!
@@lotusstrengthconsulting6311 i am partly agree with you, few days ago i used the same words, but ADHD is a gift too ! We are able to learn things so much faster when we are in high focus...
@@yineLeyla stop saying its a gift, its not. Hyperfocus is not a gift, its a circumstance, being obsessed with something so badly that you forget to eat or got to bed on time isnt beneficial at all when living in a civilized society. ADHD is an handicap, just like being blind, or being deaf or mute or being unable to walk, the only difference is that it is mental and psychological instead of physical. It does not mean that you should want to die or start crying about it, all it means is that you must accept that you have this handicap and you must make the most out of your life knowing this. Someone who knows they have this disorder will be way better equipped to succeed in their life than someone who doesnt know they have it. Because although it is impossible to cure ADHD, you can still treat it with special techniques and with medication and you can improve yourself but it has to be done in a ADHD specific kind of way. You cannot try to follow random self improvement advice because it wont work. What I love about Russel Barkley is that he knows everything about ADHD and he tells us what it is and what we can do to change things.
@@lotusstrengthconsulting6311 I have known since forever that I have ADHD but there have been times where I made the mistake of believing that it can be treated by just trying to be like everyone else but recently I discovered that what I was trying to achieve is as ridiculous as a blind person trying to be able to see again or for a deaf person to try to be able to hear again.
@@reverseflash6400, Rule number one; Don't ever try to be someone else, the others are not better than us, they just can acting better than us that's all. Hyperfocus is not an obession , our mind used thees moments to celebrate without disturbing of outsiders. The others can plan moments or take the time to do things to learn or to join, but most uf us can not do that, we can learn it to manege but for people like of us is it much much difficult, but it is possible.... sorry for my english.
8:54 It isn't necessarily that we don't stop and think about the delayed consequences that lie ahead. The problem is, at least for me, that we often do actually think about these consequences. That's what makes it so stressful, because even if you still think about these consequences you just can't seem to motivate your brain to do the thing that will benefit you in the long run.
yeah its defining feature that has made me not believe in free will and stuff. I predicted I was going to stay a year I did
This is so accurate.
K. 1234 It’s as if you have a 6th sense for the consequences that’ll happen but you do it anyway
👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
yeah i only recently got diagnosed, because i was developing really bad stress and anxiety due to my inability to do the thing that needed to be done. started taking medication and now i can actually do things that i want to do even thou they take time
A failure in persistence is such a perfect way to describe how the ADHD lack of motivation feels ^_^
how do you feel about it now?
I'm still happy he's describing it accurately.
Does anyone else:
set a goal, start progressing towards it, then set a goal that is counter to the initial goal, progress towards it, realize what you’ve done and start working again towards the initial goal, perpetually, in a way the prevents any sort of progress in either direction?
ITS MADDENING
Datman you are right. I am not even finished with one thing and i start another. Leave me with a trail of unfinished things that i have to finish.
Let’s just put it this way. I invented a sport when I was 12 (I’m now 38). Because of this sport I have taken up the following: wood working, prop making, programming, art, hockey, golf, handball, baseball, soccer, animation, graphic design, film making, forging, welding, sewing, basketball, the list goes on and on. I can do all of those things quite well but I never got “great” at ANY of them.
Over the last 25 years I have tried to make this sport into, not only a real game, but also a board game and a video game. I work on it incessantly for a few weeks, make progress on SOMETHING, lose all interest, become depressed because I’ve wasted my life and have never found something tangible that I’m passionate about, am in a bad mood for a while until I get inspired to make some new aspect of this game, then go manic making things and spending money, rinse and repeat. I have changed/added/removed elements of this sport so many times over the years that I don’t really remember what it was to begin with, however I have probably 100 notebooks and sketch books full of art relating to it that I never go back and reference. Oh, also I was told a few months ago that I have ADHD and I’ve seen multiple therapists over the last 10 years that just told me I was bipolar or borderline personality and put me on medication that made it worse. I wish I had found this out in high school so I could learn to better direct my life towards the future. But here I am at 38 still working on this dream and never finishing it. I want to fix myself so badly but to me, realizing that I have to do things the same way for the rest of my life, let alone longer than a few months, just sounds terrifying to me. I just want my brain to shut up.
Recently I bought an expensive program to learn German so my wife and I could stop speaking pig Latin in front of the kids. Went really hardcore for about 3 weeks and learned a lot. I haven’t done it for about a month now because I decided to take up golf, art and trampoline again.
Sound about right?
i keep trying to remind myself that not making a decision is making a decision, very hard. this would be fine if i was going to live to be 1000 but if you keep doing 10% of everything you die of old age before you get anything done
@@jeffsienkiewicz7119 oh yeahhhh man! I was diagnosed add/adhd when I was 8. We have the ability to hyper focus on the things we love. Don’t forget that. Also, the amount of work you’ve put into this game cannot be over looked! Don’t negate all the effort and progress you’ve made just because it’s not finished yet. Rome wasn’t built in a day!
@@therabbithat big facts
For so many years I thought I just didn't want my goals in life bad enough. My therapists all thought the same thing. This talk explains so much.
It's almost painful, it's like having two people in your head one that is overly ambitious and plans ahead and the other that just can't be fucked doing anything and no matter what you do the part that can't be fucked has control of your motor functions.
I always thought I was just crappy at being adult and never, ever thought I'd want to tell my Dr about that.
It's like my brain has been given a voice
This is exactly how I feel too. It's like he's painting a picture of my life.
His every video describes perfectly to the finest detail, how hard my life is.
I have a very severe for of ADHD, I'm an adult, and cannot function at all without constant medication, and even with, I still strugle daily.
Give your brain a hug and learn to love your life and learn how to do better and it can be better. :)
Yes!!!😭😭
Yup.. After watching yourself go through cycles of poor impulsive emotional decisions and mistakes/failures, you start to get to the point where you just feel like you can't trust yourself anymore. It starts to feel easier to stop making goals and decisions. One big letdown for yourself instead of a series of letdowns for yourself and others.. I know it's not right, and I'm getting help now at 35 (after being diagnosed at 14 -when my brother who was 6 got diagnosed).
I just wish everyone could know and understand all of the things being described in these videos earlier on. The misunderstandings are so damaging.
So the best description i've heard so far for ADHD is: Working memory impairment. Motivational impairment, social impairment, emotional regulation impairment, impulsive. To me this sounds like everything my wife complains about on a daily basis.
Have you been diagnosed yet?
I got rediagnosed the following year and got treatment.
It is so hard to explain ADHD to others quickly because it is all-encompassing. It is remarkable.
U know u have ADHD when ur watching this and doing like 12 other things at once
Alternative: Watching this while there are other things going on at, making it difficult to concentrate since you cannot multitask
Perla, hence the common sense that those with normal executive functioning have. That includes myself, that tries to do 15 things at once.
Way to accurate
@@perlag5344 Or perhaps Barkley is boring you fucking stupid
And rewinding it like 15 times throughout 🤣
Thank God this is on youtube so that I can pause and skip backwards whenever I zone out. Fantastic lecture.
a failure of persistence???? yeah...... I wanted to get myself to watch these videos for such a long time because my doc told me to, but,,,,,,, I got distracted so easily and then forget this all the time....... this hit me in the heart and I really want to keep myself persistent but it really is hard, and I'm sure a lot of you feel the same too
This guy is ADHD god
I will be calling ADHD, SRD Self Regulatory Disorder from now on. Makes total sense.
About TIME THEY RESEARCH THESE PROBLEMS GREATER TO BETTER UNDERSTANDING OF MENTAL & EMOTIONAL
UNSTEADINESS. UNSTABLENESS
UNBALANCED REASONING ABILTIY. WE ARE VERY INTELLIGENT.
INTELLECTUAL even GENIUSES at certain TIMES/EVENTS or Topics. Just NOT ALL AROUND IN EVERYTHING. There is much HELPLESSNESS & shame attached.) Not EASILY SOLVED. SOME Behaviors NEED many different approaches to make better. To improve BALANCED THINKING & ACTIONS. PATIENCE. EMPATHY ETC. Correct??
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FOODS & BEVERAGES to drink CONSUME???) OUR WATER IS BEING CONTAMINATED daily. Has been for OVER A HALF CENTUARY. GET SUSPICIOUS. GET SUSPICIOUS. GET CURIOUS. CURIOUS. ASK QUESTIONS. DO NOT STOP. KEEP ASKING QUESTIONS. GET FACTS. DATA. GET PROOFS. GET SMARTER /WISER. INVESTIGATE ANSWERS. BE INQUISITIVE. IT IS 👌👌🔎🔎🔬🔬🔬💡🔬🔬💡☀👀👀👀👀
Am I the only one reading the comments, Rewinding the video and watching that part where I spaced out at least two times again and again, noticing how beautiful his diction is and what a good presence he has?
He also knows his field AF
You have explained this disorder to near perfection. At 35 I am just being diagnosed. And as you speak. Every detail you touch on is magnified in my brain. Thank you.
The story about reacting to the sound in the kitchen while other people thought the sound was irrelevant matches me. I was diagnosed with ADD years ago.
I'm not affected by ADHD but man, listening to him and all of a sudden the behaviours of people I know, that have a diagnosis, make so much more sense.
'Understanding' is one of the best gifts you can give to the ADHD-impaired. Kudos to you!
Setting goals seems so alien to me. Like, I can't even visualize a better future that I should be striving towards.
"I can't do anything- disorder" is what I call it, 'cause I can barely do anything.
I’m nearly 45 and have my first appointment with a specialist next week. Dr Barkley and Gabor Maté have done more for me in a few chunks of lectures and a book than all the countless hours I spent watching and listening to self improvement podcasts and talks in the hope that one would be to make me self motivate.
Please can you share what you've learnt in terms of helping yourself and achieving goals? I'm feeling so low just going in cycles and then searching stupid advice that all says the same thing which isn't helping. And then I find this video which he describes it perfectly but doesn't give a solution or answer 😔
Two good men there, it does help to read and watch what we can. 😉
Watch out for Gabor, see dr Barkleys recent video about why he is more than wtong
Gabor got me moving, the mental health field is always evolving and what he said at the time worked.
I have ADHD, and I allways thought the name was absolutely useless, but this makes sense. And I am struggling more with the innabillity to adjust myself, then the ability to sustain focus. I know what to do, how to do it, why I ought to do it, when to do it, and then I go do something else. I have litterally asked myself why? Out loud multiple times, aswell as pretending I didden't have that thought, to excuse doing something else.
I love love love the summary in the Info section.
Because this guy is an excellent speaker, and I want to hear everything he has to say,
But I don't think I can sit through all 27 parts...
I'm on video 3 and already prepared to switch to 3 different activities.
Literally made it to this video after 5 sittings. First one took me two sittings.
Although I agree with many aspects of what Dr Barkley says on this subject, I can't help but feel he has missed a trick with this. I am unable to regulate my thoughts, but my thoughts are almost always directed towards myself and changing my behaviour. Unfortunately, I get so bogged down and so often misdirected by my thoughts that I am not amazingly effective at this. I would say that because I focus all of my thinking inwardly rather than externally, I am better regulated in society than many others who have adhd. I have to say, it helps me hide the disorder well, but it does not help me develop my passions. I am too busy monitoring my behaviour to cultivate much of my creative talent or passion.
This is the part that is disabling for me. I'm 25, and I am realising that I cannot carry on using all of my energy to 'fit in'. It is time to pour it into the things I love and care less about how others perceive me. This is with the caveat that I will never do anything to harm others, at least when I am aware or capable of preventing this.
I know the strugle... Same age, same problems.
I know this was two years ago but this is exactly what I experience- any tips?
31 and I can do one or the other, it’s either shut the world off and focus on what I want to do or spend all my time on a handful of people being social and developing friendships. My high iq helps a lot but it also makes me hyperfocus on either so much I forget to sleep or eat.... fml
im 25 and have the same as you bro. we need to smash life and do well and we can!
I completely understand this I made the decision to put my energy completely on myself. I got tired of explaining myself to people.
Honestly I have to say after living with ADHD all my life and as of the age of 31, I can say with 100% certainty that Dr Russel has to be the foremost expert world over on ADHD. listening to him explain it made me laugh due to it being so bang on the mark. I've shown his videos to a friend who has also been diagnosed and his reaction was 'holy F'. I would love to meet you as I do something which is definitely a part of my disorder that I haven't seen or witnessed any other do. I would like to show you with pictures as it's very private and makes me very self conscious.
Can we appreciate the fact he's the only person who , in the online world who cut straight to the point, and explain the root cause of the issue and truly wants to help ADHD community in understanding themselves better. ADHD is no superpower like the rest of others are painting it as.Viewing it as a Executive Function deficit disorder personally gave me a better understanding to learn and grow. I'm absolutely sure that anyone with ADHD who listens to his lecture will definitely understand themselves better and try to change their old behaviours which wasn't leading them anywhere.
Very much appreciate how well and clear he explains things I don’t even understand properly about myself. More I age, more I feel frustrated at myself that I can’t command myself to do what I want myself to do, or not to do. Always have a sense of out of control-ness within me.
I feel the same way all the time
I cried watching this series.
How does he know my son so well-even though he’s never met him??
I think I have ADHD, I’m 34 years old. I’ll try to get the diagnosis soon. My parents don’t speak English, I’ll translate these videos for them to make them understand.
This is fucking brutal to me as someone that has ADHD. I'd never known my problems ran so deep, I thought I just sucked lol.
But good to know right “this changes everything”
Jesus…. This makes so much sense …. Holy crap! at age of 34, recently diagnosed with adult adhd (struggled my whole life)…. I’m simply stupefied as how well and thorough this man explained this illness… And why I struggled so much compare to everyone else around me even though i am very smart and talented.
I’m 34 and I feel I have ADHD. I’m smart and talented too, but I couldn’t get yet everything I deserve. I’ll try to get the diagnosis soon.
I would have struggled to watch it too but Adderall has been the reason why I’m able to absorb much of what I read and listen to. I wish my parents knew about this a long time ago (I struggled with keeping my school grades up) but I’m sure they struggled with it too without them knowing what ADHD was.
Once I was able to put a name on it, it all became clear and I got help. I’m so grateful for Adderall. I feel like I’m catching up on so much information and knowledge that I missed when I was younger.
Hey man, I got diagnosed at 5yo. It is def not all raionbow and sunshine to get it when you are younger. It fucks up your brain on a chemical level if you take it as a kid and I have to carry that scar for the rest of my life..
I know this is two years ago, that’s great I’m so glad the drug has helped you. I hope your doing well today. We all regret not knowing earlier, we feel we missed out, and we have. However there’s so much knowledge out there now with so much research going on, as more and more people are being diagnosed. You have to wonder why ?
For once I finally feel understood. Thanks for finding the words for something I've struggled with all my life.
The clearest speech that can probably engage the attention of even most ADHD individuals.. i can hear every detail even when i am typing this comment..☺
I so want to cry.
I'd love to sit and listen to this video, but I cannot even listen to this video and not think about other things. I played this vodeo 3 times. Everytime, halfway through it, I realized I wasn't listening to him anymore. Please please please, someone tell me how to improve my concentration?! I'm so bad in staying focused on something. 😢
Watch it again with a pen and paper and write down the key points as you watch it. Miss something? Go back 10 seconds and capture it. Then you will have everything on paper for recollection and hopefully in your memory. :)
shibaak drink some green tea & set a timer to watch video for 3-5 min & a timer to rest 2-3 min from watching the video. During rest period eat small amount of sugar from fruit such as berries or raisins & some light exercise such as jogging in place, arm circles, push ups & squats. Just keep the intensity of exercise at a level that energizes you & not exhaust you.
lol I've just watched this and if someone asked me what specifics he got into, I wouldn't know where to start.
To improve your concentration in the long term, try meditating for a couple minutes each day. Start with about 3 minutes and build up slowly to 5-10 minutes, see if it works for you :) This will probably help you get a feel for how long it takes for 5 minutes to pass and to get used to controlling your impulses. Something else that works for some people is reading, setting a timer to read for 20mins every day or maybe even less. It helps strengthen your concentration muscle for practical situations like watching this video. I hope you'll find something that works for you! Good luck
shibaak I listen while on hike or housecleaning. 👌🏽
Very informed doctor.
I found self awareness is the key . Check your intention while you are doing things, and you will come to self awareness.
I'm 33 now. Since I was 18 I dropped out of school and worked in construction. Went back to school and graduated and decided to work on cars as an apprentice, got fired for silly little mistakes. Worked graveyard shift working at logistics company, after a year I said screw it and went to college for computer programming. A semester in, I decided it was too difficult and moved towards computer networking and systems administration. I graduated in 2015. Since then, I've been working as a software tech support person. It's so boring and mundane.
I've told myself over and over again, I wanna take Amazon web services course so I can get a better job. I wanna take Microsoft azure fundamentals training to get a better job. I wanna move towards database stuff. I wanna be a team leader..
Funny thing is, I never move towards anything. I'm stuck. And I always give myself the excuse that I'm too tired and too busy cause I have 2 little kids at home.
So frustrating and cruel since we have such great ideas that we realise we’ll never get to without help and strategies, baby steps!
this makes so much sense. I am sad my mom who is now 65 was never properly diagnosed....😔
Thank you very much for sharing this series of videos. So very helpful to understanding and building a behavioral plan for my kid!
This is very important information. Thank you!
Dr., can you please rename it? If anyone has that authority, it's you. Your videos are really helping me. I was diagnosed last year, as an adult. So many things are making sense yet it also feels like I'm broken in a million ways. Doing everything I can to help myself, including watching your videos and probably reading your books in the future. Thank you, I feel validated.
"To persist toward a goal, you must be able to ignore distractions"
Not me, who's watching this instead of being productive
I appreciate that these are in short videos. I also love and hate that he is explaining me to myself.
Amazing video content! I will be using all of your suggestions for myself and my children. Thank you
How do I know I have ADHD? I struggled to make it through this video EVEN THOUGH I really want to watch it.
spot on
get a diagnosis done :)
This hits home
I just learned so much about myself. I am bawling.
I have never identified more with anything than the part about getting distracted by noises. If there's a noise, I'm automatically compelled to wonder what caused it, what's going on. I have to check it out. No one else ever seems to care!
when I worked in an office of cubes, it was horrendous, I simply could not concentrate, noises, conversations....motion....FFS
Music.. any song, sound or sonic frequency in the fore or background immediately become substantial part of the momentum and tapestry the instant they hit my ears.. welcome or not, there’s no blanking out option for my sensory processing.
2:24 This video is just pure Gold
I get exhausted trying to fight my impulsive thoughts and actions which brings me to depression and anxiety and ultimately exhaustion.
I really like the way he speaks
That dishwasher sound distraction comment is one I'll be using with my doctor when we talk about it next week, I need this diagnosis
Omg I just found you Russ..... it all makes sense now..my son 13 dcd/ asd and recently adhd.... and of course odd...... I am going to tell his teachers to listen to you.. my son is struggling so badly in school.
1:42 sums up my life. It covers every aspect of my life so far. It’s paralyses me.
My diagnosis appointment is in two days. I've done a lot of research myself and stumbled across these videos, it feels like I am continuously being punched in the gut
Watching as an 52-year old woman, only recently diagnosed.... half want to cry from being understoof and half want to cry and/or throw up from having lost so many years of my life to being just... inexcusably broken.
Mr. Barkley is wonderful speaker, I do hope he could come to Ireland someday.
Our mental care is getting better, but it's still not as good as it should be
I am watching a movie, sudoku and listening of this LOL. If I am not doing all these things, I can’t absorb what he is saying, i forget to listen.
Me too - and I thought it was a bad habit until I read that doing a couple of things has been proven to help focus for ADHDers, mind blowing!
For the sake of millions of people and their families, the name of this disorder has to change. He’s absolutely right.
This man is my new God.
After reading Daniel Amens "Healing Add" I've had suspicions regarding the information in the last three videos. I KNEW this had way more to do with just attention. Also why getting myself to do beneficial routine tasks for more than like one day was near impossible. Also have a suspicion that this is one of the reasons Im a binge snacker. Not only are tortilla chips soothing (my drug of choice), they also break down into glucose which is used by the brain to do tasks that require willpower (demonstrated in a separate video), and will power burns out quicker than average in people with Executive function deceit disorder. This has always had a restorative effect on me and when I find that im not allowing myself to snack, I see an increase in issues. I am dealing with GAD right now and something tells me that some of it has its roots in my knowledge that I will not be able to continually carry out the responsibilities required of me to make a future for myself. With that being said if you are struggling, keep going, I know I will. The answers are out there.
Christopher Frka I’m bipolar, adhd, ptsd, also I’m gad!!!! I swear it’s like banging my head against the wall, and the suicide rates from people with my list is in the mid 90% range... I bust my ass everyday and never achieve or finish anything. I have at least 10 projects going at once and I’m studying maybe 6 things at least, but I know I’ll never complete any of them. I have friends that are forcing me by coming over and working on my tasks for me, and that motivates me because I’m anal and want everything done just a certain way
Spot.on 🙏🏽
Sincerely GRATEFUL for these videos, my question is what do we do now? Schools do not take the time, strategies etc to assist the children or parents and that is a child's entire life basically wasted on what cannot help or pertain to them. here are no organized teaching groups available for both child and parent to help / teach/ practice recognizing symptoms and APPROPRIATE actions to be taking... how do I respond to an ADHD person appropriately for each of their symptoms they struggle with...etc etc. There us sooo sooo much to address here ...but I thank you for this 1st step!
this is actually making me feel that i DON'T have it when at times i thought i did
I feel like even calling it self- regulation disorder will make people think we are just immature kids who should should "regulate yourself!" Like, "why cant you just grow up?"😢
With the noise I’ve never related more to an example
The reason I love working with animals. My frontal lobe is so accuratley described by Dr Barkley.
I have secreted myself to staying at home away from those that would recognize these issues
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I would argue that ADHD isn't always a failure of self regulation but sometimes it's a survival mechanism. I've seen perfectly fine people achieving goals then their situation changes and they're wired. If you're in a life or death situation you're gonna be hyper aware to every little thing like a soldier listening for someone in the bushes. If it's just a racoon it's gonna get the same attention. Which is why there's an executive command structure. Long term goal setting can be an issue not because they don't have goals but because they literally can't see themselves in that future because something more immediate is at hand. It's hard to focus on Trigonometry when you've got an abusive parent at home or if you're underweight wondering where your next meal is. Same person in college with all those needs met can excel at Calculus.
Watched 3 in a row!!
now this one hit close to home.
I was reading up on ADHD with a backthought of "you are just seeking for something to explain away your failure to succeed, while you are just not that good".
But when he speaks of ADHD as executive function disorder, it just... it puts the pieces together. Makes sense of the world.
Argh... Do i have to seek a doctor who takes me seriously now. Argh. Jesus. What do I do now.
Go to psychiatrist and get a proper diagnosis and medication
@@susancolman7911 unfortunately, where I live there is no specialist for adult ADHD. And I want to be tested and diagnosed, not just get a prescription.
…. I’m watching these videos (with rewinding sometimes bc…. Well. You know).
And like “yes. Yes. Yes. “
The kitchen thing!!! How often do I react to a noise and am distracted by it. And most others won’t even notice it’s there
I See myself Showing Emotions by only Talking about facts.
This man explains my life, thought process, and issues 100% on point. Please listen to this man if you want to understand what we deal with every day.
The most interesting question of all is WHY are people with adhd not good at self regulating skills? Is it because of a psychological aversion to self control or is it some kind of physical fault in the brains development
Oh my god, I feel so seen!!
How do I get a session with this great person?
i cried really hard.
I do a lot of remodling on my home. Every room in my house is 90% done. It's a shrine to my adhd and that causes me anxiety😅
How is this possibile that He understend this dissorder so well
Is there a siren going in the background? Kept messing up where I was up to..
As I hear him talk. The things he's saying apply to doing what you are told. To listening in school and doing things you do not want to do. My son had add in school. I took him out and he taught himself. He now knows how to code in every computer language, everything g about world history, linguistics, mapping, an actual super genius imo. Sharp, aware, conscious. These problems are mostly problems in controlling the child. Not in his ability to control himself to do what he sees fit.
My goal 3 years ago was to get a job. I have tried and almost got one, but just could not motivate myself to go.
I’m sure my wife would love to hear this lol.
In general, Adhd is an entire greater level of challenge for men.
Stopping myself focused at work so i dont wonder off task. By distracting myself with lectures about distractions!
Can you attain action toward a goal adequately to attain it?
No. I can not. 4 years of college took me 7 years. Also, I love writing. Have such a hard time sticking to my stories. Doesn't matter how badly I want it.
Timestamps important for me:
Biggest one: 1:45 - 2:12
Also 3:15 - 5:00 (ish)
idfk if I have ADHD, but damn if this guy doesn't have the fucking passionate about the topic to get me through another ... 15 x 85 minutes of this.
I see my future I see my past and because of my illness which wasn’t diagnosed until the age of 52 it’s in ruins I’m hoping to finally pay of the mortgage which technically was paid 16 years ago but I went abroad on a distraction as small as I think that would be great and give the house to my wife I can’t even write this properly well there you go I feel better already
We ADHD, sufferers are one of the most badly treated mental conditions there is.
Every other condition has either a cool name, is well taught about, or has strong organizations that help, support, and spread awareness about the condition. But, to the mainstream media and the majority of people, ADHD = lazy badly braught-uo people.
It's very saddening how we are left in our mental strugles.
Even the name ADHD is innaccurate, as if, noboby ever cared except some rare souls like Dr Barkley.
What makes people not take ADHD seriously is the magnitude of its use as a generic label for any child who doesn't fit into the extreme structure of the US school system. In your office it might be a condition of executive dysfunction- in the field it's when a kid gets bored in class, fidgets, or displays the psychological and emotional needs of a child outside of their allotted time slot. The first couple generations who watched that unfolding are adults now and that's what they think it is- not a label for inattention, but just *misbehavior.*
The problem is telling a recruiter that you will need acommodations for "Executive Disorder".
One of the biggest mistakes people make is the willingness to oversimplfy things.
"ADHD"? just practice focus homie.
Me seriously wondering why the ADHD response to "the noise in the kitchen" at 2:46 is so abnormal they are all laghing so hard... 😂😢
i have autism and adhd
My life is totally fucked up
He describes the feelings of having ADHD. My question is, what do I do if this stuff is a permanent physical defect in my brain?
the moment you zone out 5 minutes of the video
What causes this, SRDD ? Would concussions cause (TBI) or are people born this way ?
Most of the time, we are born this way.
who is watching two or more videos at the same time
Me at 2:50: Hey. We know, but heeey.
I didn't know my propensity to telling stories out of the blue was a symptom. I literally have to go consider my life now
Same. I always feel so bad for oversharing stories.